Speaker 1: To teas in a pod which Teddy Mellencamp and Camrad Judge.
Speaker 2: Hi, guys, welcome to another episode of the twat Seat.
Speaker 3: Today we have Hilario Baldwin.
Speaker 4: Hi, Tam, Hey, how are you good.
Speaker 2: I'm going to give a little info on her for
Speaker 2: those of you because we're not talking housewives here today.
Speaker 3: We're talking Hilario Baldwin.
Speaker 5: Although she's a housewife of the housewife with seven kids.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 2: She has a new book out now called Manual not included.
Speaker 2: There's no set of instructions when it comes to navigating
Speaker 2: the challenges life throws at us. However, by sharing our
Speaker 2: narratives and finding our commonality, we can better deal with
Speaker 2: what comes our way. She's married to Alec Baldwin. Was
Speaker 2: a lot of children and a lot of animals, a
Speaker 2: lot of animals, and I know she loves horses. I've
Speaker 2: actually met with her once before. But let's bring her
Speaker 2: in and ask her all the questions that you guys have.
Speaker 1: Hell you friend, Hello, how are you good?
Speaker 4: How are you doing?
Speaker 1: I'm doing well. My book comes out today, so I'm
Speaker 1: like all the emotions.
Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, let's see the cover. Look at that
Speaker 2: amazing cover. That was a beautiful cover.
Speaker 1: Well the cover is it's it's like a box, and
Speaker 1: like the one thing that I really wanted was like
Speaker 1: a really messed up, ripped up box, because sometimes don't
Speaker 1: you feel that, like at this point in our life,
Speaker 1: sometimes if we like a box with our life, it
Speaker 1: would look like this.
Speaker 3: Mine would look worse than that. I think mine would
Speaker 3: look worse.
Speaker 1: Kids, I mean, I mean it was just I even
Speaker 1: thought to, like, you know, put return to send her
Speaker 1: on it, but we did not do that. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it was funny and I'm definitely you know, trying to
Speaker 1: get all of the children in the photo at the
Speaker 1: same time was a challenge.
Speaker 2: So did that actually happen or did you have to
Speaker 2: photoshop some in because there's no I can't even get
Speaker 2: my four kids to look in the same direction.
Speaker 1: I think it was probably a combination. They were definitely
Speaker 1: all there, I mean, that's.
Speaker 4: What they weren't all looking in the same direction.
Speaker 1: I to be honest, I didn't. I can't. I can't
Speaker 1: say that it's not necessarily true. I would find it
Speaker 1: hard to believe this would be like some huge miracle,
Speaker 1: But yes, no, it was. It was a wild, wild
Speaker 1: wild day that we did, and we put Alec in a.
Speaker 5: Box you know what, Alan, Nobody nobody put to Alec
Speaker 5: in a box but you.
Speaker 1: It was actually more of my kids. And then it
Speaker 1: was married Lou the one who has the tape here,
Speaker 1: who decided to tape his mouth and we just thought
Speaker 1: that was funny.
Speaker 4: Just like no, Teddy.
Speaker 5: Teddy said that you guys have met before we met, Yes,
Speaker 5: we met before.
Speaker 4: I want to hear all about it.
Speaker 3: Let's let's remember your take on. Do you remember us
Speaker 3: meeting Mombring?
Speaker 1: Were you on Mombring? Because this is my memory of it.
Speaker 3: No, No, we had. We both did an audition together,
Speaker 3: that's why.
Speaker 1: But it was like a zoom.
Speaker 4: It was during COVID.
Speaker 1: I remember with Terrence.
Speaker 4: Yes, I do yes And what was that? What was
Speaker 4: that audition for?
Speaker 3: We had a meeting and then soon after we both
Speaker 3: we both got a fair amount of hate. How did
Speaker 3: you recover from that?
Speaker 1: I feel like that was like it's time. So I
Speaker 1: write in my book that there's going to be like
Speaker 1: in our history books, there's going to be a time
Speaker 1: when women were just because I was like, you know,
Speaker 1: the Witches of twenty twenty.
Speaker 4: You know, well, I think there's three witches right here.
Speaker 1: You know what, I were a good company. Yeah, No,
Speaker 1: I mean I think it was when I look back
Speaker 1: to that, I always try to have empathy for how
Speaker 1: much the world was hurting. And if you look at history,
Speaker 1: and I studied history in school, when there's a pandemic,
Speaker 1: people go after each other, yea. And you know, I
Speaker 1: think it was also, you know, our business, this business
Speaker 1: was trying to figure out how to continue to create
Speaker 1: content during a time when we couldn't all be together.
Speaker 1: So then we decided to be mean and go after
Speaker 1: each other for like the cost crazy, insantan things in
Speaker 1: the world. And hopefully we're not going to do that again.
Speaker 1: I am such a literal person, and so I really
Speaker 1: struggle when things don't make sense, Like I've really obsessed
Speaker 1: about it over and over and again. So I used
Speaker 1: to like reach out to people who were like getting canceled,
Speaker 1: and I would say, let's go, let's go have a drink,
Speaker 1: let's grab a coffee, and we'd like sit there and
Speaker 1: I'd be like, what are you win for? I was
Speaker 1: like the best therapy ever because it was so dumb.
Speaker 1: But I think that we come with like just the
Speaker 1: amount of people, and you can sell anything, you can
Speaker 1: make an amount of misinformation. But like I do think
Speaker 1: at this point I've grown up a lot. I'm not
Speaker 1: into like being like the I don't want people please do.
Speaker 1: I want people to please with me absolutely. I want
Speaker 1: to have a good time. I want if people like me.
Speaker 1: I want to be a likable person, right, But like I.
Speaker 4: Also like I.
Speaker 3: It doesn't work for me.
Speaker 1: No, I just think that there's a point of like,
Speaker 1: of course we like when other people like us. That's
Speaker 1: that's like a nice feeling. However, I think that there's
Speaker 1: times where you just got to be like, I care
Speaker 1: more about my mental health and paying attention to, you know,
Speaker 1: focusing on positivity and nice people than like trying to
Speaker 1: dance for these people over there that weren't going to
Speaker 1: like you anyway. First of all, I saw to tease
Speaker 1: and then and so my got I'm here. It's that
Speaker 1: I didn't realize it was called twats. I love this, Yes,
Speaker 1: twats with the you know, I mean, if you want
Speaker 1: to have like a convert, do either of you guys
Speaker 1: speak another language?
Speaker 4: No, we barely speak English.
Speaker 1: Okay, So actually, like if you read in my book
Speaker 1: this is again one of the things that bothered me
Speaker 1: so much is like there's so many bilingual people out there,
Speaker 1: and like, I've been bilingual my whole life, and so
Speaker 1: it's like, what are what if they were like to
Speaker 1: start at home? Like what can we try to like
Speaker 1: tear her apart for? And I guess it's because I
Speaker 1: speak two languages. But then you like you think as well, which,
Speaker 1: by the way, when you change the accent in the way,
Speaker 1: it's actually talk about brain function this as well. When
Speaker 1: you change your accent, actually you're using different parts of
Speaker 1: your brain. So it's a really interesting thing. And I
Speaker 1: hope people eventually will go to be like, wow, that's
Speaker 1: so cool, Like people speak two languages and maybe they're
Speaker 1: going to sound a little bit different. But asking them
Speaker 1: not to do that is like telling them to do
Speaker 1: yoga and then don't be flexible.
Speaker 4: Well that's like dorit. Do you watch Beverly Hills Housewives?
Speaker 5: No, she gets she gets a little ship because every
Speaker 5: once in a while she is very well traveled.
Speaker 4: Her husband is British, I believe.
Speaker 5: And so everyone saw she has like this British accent
Speaker 5: and everyone's like, where did that come from?
Speaker 4: Well, you know, you were raised in Connecticut. How are she?
Speaker 1: But you know that that's normal. So there's this really
Speaker 1: cool article I write about in my book. There's a
Speaker 1: really cool article in Athletic, which is a part of
Speaker 1: the New York Times, and it's about soccer players footballers
Speaker 1: in Europe and how they move around to different teams.
Speaker 1: And we're talking about male athletes, right, and they talk
Speaker 1: all about code switching and how it's normal that these
Speaker 1: men to go and change as adults to different teams
Speaker 1: and they take on mannerisms of the other culture. Language,
Speaker 1: the way that they speak is going to change, and
Speaker 1: that this is celebrated. It's the most beautifully written article
Speaker 1: in the world. And I both loved it because I'm like, yes,
Speaker 1: this is what it is, and like, oh my god,
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that people are getting it. And it's
Speaker 1: about men. So we look at when it. I mean,
Speaker 1: it happened to me, happened to Madonna.
Speaker 4: You know, I was gonna say, I want to compare.
Speaker 3: What I need to be well traveled enough to have
Speaker 3: an accent? That's my next goal, what is it?
Speaker 1: But that's what kisses me off of. It's like, you like,
Speaker 1: so you have men, and it's like Oh, it's so great,
Speaker 1: this is so fantastic. And then you're like all these
Speaker 1: women when we're doing exactly the same things. We have
Speaker 1: the same brain, we're the same cords and the way
Speaker 1: that our mouth works and all this kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: and but we're like the bad ones. But it ultimately,
Speaker 1: for me, it was never there anything to do with
Speaker 1: my language and anything anyway. It had to do with
Speaker 1: that I'm a woman, I'm married to Alex and it
Speaker 1: was fun. You know, it's fun to beat up people
Speaker 1: like us. Sometimes that's what we Unfortunately, that's ultimately what
Speaker 1: it's about, you know. I also talk about in my
Speaker 1: book that I had ADHD and dyslexia, and I love
Speaker 1: that I can talk about that now because like growing
Speaker 1: up and having learning differences, it was just like extraordinarily shameful.
Speaker 1: And I love especially since one of my kids has
Speaker 1: ADHD as well. I love that now we can look
Speaker 1: at it as like their superpowers to it, and we
Speaker 1: can creative and anyways. I think that if you really
Speaker 1: want to have a conversation about the way that my
Speaker 1: brain works and how I struggle with you know, memory
Speaker 1: and the way things sometimes I'm pronouncing things and I
Speaker 1: get stuck and I get distracted. I mean, it's a
Speaker 1: whole chaotic thing up there, and so it was actually
Speaker 1: like a much deeper, darker thing than simply you know what,
Speaker 1: code switching. But it was a combination of a lot
Speaker 1: of things. But nobody cares in that moment when any
Speaker 1: that's a felt No one cares about what's true. They
Speaker 1: don't care about the amount of misinformation. What they care
Speaker 1: about is ei their story and getting clicks and making
Speaker 1: advertising money and brewing up hate to throw at the witches.
Speaker 2: And I mean even as humans, we you know, we
Speaker 2: search for answers and we don't know them. Like I
Speaker 2: remember when I even had like my tumor stuff, and
Speaker 2: I mean I still do, but I was my words
Speaker 2: would be very slow, and they still are because I'm
Speaker 2: trying to like come for the next word. And everyone
Speaker 2: was like she's slurring, maybe she's drinking, Like I remember
Speaker 2: seeing comments on the.
Speaker 3: Pod like is she drunk?
Speaker 2: And I'm like, I have so many I didn't know
Speaker 2: this at the time, and I didn't even know it
Speaker 2: what was going on with me. So I do see
Speaker 2: a different side than I probably would have saw three
Speaker 2: years ago. If we had this conversation because I remember
Speaker 2: fighting it and being like so annoyed when I would
Speaker 2: see comments and I'd be like, I can't help that
Speaker 2: I'm talking slow, or that I'm getting lost or slurring
Speaker 2: or slurring or whatever it may be.
Speaker 1: It's I mean, I'm so sorry that you've I mean,
Speaker 1: am I My heart aches for all of you, know,
Speaker 1: the painful journey that you had, and I'm in absolutely
Speaker 1: awe and inspiration by like how much you're fighting. And
Speaker 1: I love as well that you tell people your boundaries.
Speaker 1: You know, you're like, I don't like hearing this and
Speaker 1: this and that for me is what I find to
Speaker 1: be inspiring for myself because sometimes people think that they
Speaker 1: can be supportive, but their support is actually feeling negative.
Speaker 1: And so you know, you being able to draw that
Speaker 1: boundary and being able to focus towards where your mind
Speaker 1: needs to be because you are gonna you are going
Speaker 1: to beat this. I know that, I that I look
Speaker 1: at you at every single post, I'm looking at you
Speaker 1: and I watch every single moment of them, and I
Speaker 1: know you want to know why. I know because you're tough,
Speaker 1: because you've been through a lot of shit. You have
Speaker 1: all the tools, and you're so strong, and also because
Speaker 1: I know other people have beat it too, this is
Speaker 1: not you would be the first, but there you have
Speaker 1: such a bright life ahead of you, and so no,
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm so inspired by that fire that you
Speaker 1: have inside of you because I just I know that
Speaker 1: you're you're gonna, You're.
Speaker 3: Gonna do it.
Speaker 1: Thank you.
Speaker 2: And I think we all share that same fire, which
Speaker 2: is why we can get ourselves into some trouble, but
Speaker 2: also why we can really fight for the pot. You know,
Speaker 2: we can fight for ourselves, and I think that's that's
Speaker 2: pretty great. You recently had a viral moment with Alec
Speaker 2: on the right.
Speaker 4: I was just gonna bring that up because you have
Speaker 4: boundaries too.
Speaker 1: Well, that's like another one like this is all about
Speaker 1: women and their voice, your voice, my voice, how it sounds,
Speaker 1: and then interrupts the voice, right. So I actually didn't Alec,
Speaker 1: and I didn't remember that that even happens because we
Speaker 1: just banned for all the time. And by the way,
Speaker 1: everybody who wrote that whole thing knows how we'd answer
Speaker 1: because we've had a whole show and we've been like
Speaker 1: you know, doing a million video. So that was like
Speaker 1: a not nice trick that you guys all did want you,
Speaker 1: but I'm calling you all out right now then you guys.
Speaker 1: So I actually was on spring break visiting my family
Speaker 1: in Spain where they where they live, and we uh likes,
Speaker 1: the whole world's mad at you right now, and I
Speaker 1: was like, what did I do now?
Speaker 4: What's next?
Speaker 1: What did I do now? And he thinks it's the
Speaker 1: funniest thing in the world because everybody always that calls
Speaker 1: him like the mean one. He's like, yes, now I'm offended.
Speaker 1: I didn't remember this, but yes, I'm off right now.
Speaker 1: But I mean, you know, you can look at it
Speaker 1: on like a silly level. It actually it made me
Speaker 1: laugh more than anything. And I don't think I realized
Speaker 1: how like viral it was because I just didn't pay
Speaker 1: attention to it because I was, you know, with my family.
Speaker 1: But but then't even have like a darker thing of
Speaker 1: being like he interrupted me, and by the way, this
Speaker 1: is a clip. He had interrupted me multiple times, like
Speaker 1: multiple times over this, and I was like, and he
Speaker 1: knows that I have ADHD. He knows I get stuck
Speaker 1: in forgetful and all this kind of stuff, and so
Speaker 1: he's kind of like messing with me a little bit
Speaker 1: as well, and I'm just like, you know what, when
Speaker 1: I'm talking, you're not talking. But we also do that
Speaker 1: in our house as well. We say like, when I'm
Speaker 1: walking here, you're not walking. And when I'm doing this,
Speaker 1: you're not doing When I'm thinking, you are not.
Speaker 3: You're not allowed to think. It's like and also chewing,
Speaker 3: no chewing.
Speaker 1: Well I am thinking right now. And I feel like
Speaker 1: anybody who has ADHD probably like really relates to this moment,
Speaker 1: to this kind of thing, just like I'm trying so
Speaker 1: hard to do one particular thing and you're like.
Speaker 4: So he has O c D and you have ADHD
Speaker 4: and the two of you together are just a hot mess.
Speaker 1: Yes we're a hot mess, but I feel like that's
Speaker 1: what keeps it exciting, right.
Speaker 3: Yeah. Who do you think wears the pants in the relationship?
Speaker 1: Me?
Speaker 3: Yeah, that I thought so true.
Speaker 1: I tried for a I can like he could have
Speaker 1: one leg and I could have one leg. That it's
Speaker 1: totally and he would say that to you, by the way,
Speaker 1: But and that was you know, that was like the
Speaker 1: other thing as well, is I think when people were
Speaker 1: introduced to me, I mean, we're seeing it happen right
Speaker 1: now with a particularly young woman dating a particularly older guy,
Speaker 1: and people are just tearing apart their age difference, you know.
Speaker 1: And I think that people just assume that we're going
Speaker 1: to be these young bimbos who don't know what we want.
Speaker 1: And by the way, I was young and I didn't
Speaker 1: really know what I want, so that was like totally fair.
Speaker 1: But I grew and I'm still here. You know, We've
Speaker 1: had a lot of kids together, We've made an entire life,
Speaker 1: and so I feel like, you know, people just assumed
Speaker 1: that he was going to be taking me and I
Speaker 1: was going to be like, Okay, whatever you want, whatever
Speaker 1: you want, and you know, it took me a minute,
Speaker 1: but I found my ground and and we've had to
Speaker 1: deal with some tough experiences that involved some big growing
Speaker 1: up on both of our parts.
Speaker 5: Yeah, speaking of tough experiences, Alex, movies coming out, how
Speaker 5: has that affected you?
Speaker 4: I know that you talk a lot about it in
Speaker 4: your your show.
Speaker 5: I mean you had talked about the struggles I've seen
Speaker 5: you guys gotten to therapy together.
Speaker 4: And how are you guys feeling today about the.
Speaker 1: Movie coming out? Yeah? I mean I think people went back,
Speaker 1: Alec went back. I should I can only speak from
Speaker 1: my experience with my my family. Alec went back to
Speaker 1: make this movie to finish Selena's work. Yeah, and it
Speaker 1: was a really hard thing that he went back and did.
Speaker 1: And I talk about it in my book that he
Speaker 1: almost died right before that, and I kept that quiet.
Speaker 3: He got cot.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so he was, you know, with the with the
Speaker 1: pressure and the stress and everything that was happening on
Speaker 1: top of how just awful this tragedy was, and is
Speaker 1: he just started turning off, stopped eating, the stress, the
Speaker 1: he just he I brought him to the hospital multiple
Speaker 1: times and then he started really declining. I brought him
Speaker 1: to the hospital and he passed out on me on
Speaker 1: Fifth Avenue, one hundredth Street, one hundred and first Street,
Speaker 1: writing right in front of Mount Sign and I were
Speaker 1: in front of the hospital and he was in the
Speaker 1: hospital for I don't know, I think like a week.
Speaker 1: It was during my kids' spring break that time, and
Speaker 1: I would I was nursing our baby who wasn't one yet,
Speaker 1: and I would be going up and down from the
Speaker 1: hospital taking care of him, and going down taking care
Speaker 1: of the kids and pumping and bringing my pump everywhere
Speaker 1: with me. And when I brought him out of a hospital.
Speaker 1: I actually put a he was walking with a walker
Speaker 1: because he couldn't he couldn't walk, and I put a
Speaker 1: boot on his leg and to pretend that he had
Speaker 1: hurt his leg because I didn't want people to say
Speaker 1: that he was he was. That was one thing I
Speaker 1: couldn't do, Like the whole fake thing. It's just so stupid,
Speaker 1: you know. I just I can't handle when people question
Speaker 1: what's real, because that's just lighting, you know, And so
Speaker 1: I we just pretended that it was something else. You know.
Speaker 1: Alec is somebody who cares tremendously, and one of the
Speaker 1: hard things for people who care a lot is they
Speaker 1: feel everything.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well he had you.
Speaker 5: I think you guys talked about it on your show
Speaker 5: that he even considered just getting out of the industry completely.
Speaker 1: Yeah. I think he always is considering that because there's
Speaker 1: so much. Again, it goes back to the negativity can
Speaker 1: be so loud mm hmmm, and if you let that
Speaker 1: cloud the fact that there's so much right positivity, then
Speaker 1: it it can make it can feel all consuming. Yeah,
Speaker 1: And so my hope with him, regardless of what he
Speaker 1: decides to do, you know, he loves to act and
Speaker 1: be doing the only thing he really knows how to
Speaker 1: do because he's done this his whole life, and it's
Speaker 1: he's so good at it, you know, he knows he
Speaker 1: loves it so much. But I think that you know,
Speaker 1: when his when he's hurting, he just doesn't know what
Speaker 1: to do.
Speaker 3: What's your favorite movie that he's done? And like, did
Speaker 3: you do you watch them all? Or are you like
Speaker 3: I can't do it, so.
Speaker 1: I don't really watch anything, which is like not a
Speaker 1: povolar thing to say that's true. I was raised by
Speaker 1: hippies and we did not watch TV, and I've gotten
Speaker 1: into like like I'll watch it a little bit, like
Speaker 1: you know, Definitely, my first trimester of being pregnant, I
Speaker 1: had like tremendous focus of being able to watch things.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening. But most of the time
Speaker 1: I'm either like so tired because I have seven children
Speaker 1: and I'm so tired. But I have seen Boss. Maybe
Speaker 1: that's whold I saw. It's complicated. He didn't want me
Speaker 1: to see it when we first started dating and I
Speaker 1: went to go visit my parents in Spain and I
Speaker 1: sent him a picture of that I was going to
Speaker 1: watch it there, and I was like other Country Rule.
Speaker 1: So I did watch that, and I love Meryl, but
Speaker 1: I saw a Hunt for Red October a great one,
Speaker 1: some thirty rock.
Speaker 4: But now he's so talented, very talented.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I just love that he's he's just so
Speaker 1: good at like he's just he lights up and he
Speaker 1: gets excited about like learning to be something completely different,
Speaker 1: and I just I just love watching that.
Speaker 2: And you guys, how did you decide, especially because he's
Speaker 2: such a big actor, how did you decide to finally
Speaker 2: do reality television? And then how did you decide what
Speaker 2: you were going to show and what you were going
Speaker 2: to keep private and you know, especially when there's criticism
Speaker 2: to come.
Speaker 1: We decided to do the reality show. I've said this
Speaker 1: before in different places, but I didn't really think it through.
Speaker 1: And I think he thought it through very well, which
Speaker 1: I'm really grateful for because I think if I thought
Speaker 1: about it, I would have decided it was a really
Speaker 1: really bad idea to start filming a show two weeks
Speaker 1: before Alec was going to try it. I potentially go
Speaker 1: away from it.
Speaker 4: Was I didn't realize it was that, Yes, people.
Speaker 1: Think that we're like so calculated and stuff like that,
Speaker 1: who like live in this world, but like either's like
Speaker 1: I don't have the energy to be able to do that.
Speaker 1: So yeah, I didn't even really think about it until
Speaker 1: it started approaching that we were going to like break
Speaker 1: for about three weeks was the plan. But the trial
Speaker 1: actually you know, was over and one and and I
Speaker 1: was like, what are we going to, like do we
Speaker 1: see the crew again, do we finish doing this or
Speaker 1: is it just going to be done? And Everybody's like,
Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know. So it was I'm really
Speaker 1: glad that we did it because it was so cathartic
Speaker 1: to be able to speak and show when we were
Speaker 1: not supposed to speak and show. And it felt a
Speaker 1: little bit of a diary in terms of what we
Speaker 1: what was on limits and off limits. I mean, I
Speaker 1: feel like the purpose of doing this was just show
Speaker 1: everything and be really authentic. Now that's not like you're
Speaker 1: you know, seeing us wake up in the morning up
Speaker 1: like that. You know. It wasn't like a whatever those
Speaker 1: shows word where there's a con camera on you. But
Speaker 1: you know, we wanted to hit all of the things
Speaker 1: that felt important for us to to talk about. And
Speaker 1: but the the producer, the producers and the show runner
Speaker 1: Sarah ready. She sat with me the first day and
Speaker 1: she said, the most important word for this is consent.
Speaker 1: This is not the word that I would have expected
Speaker 1: anyone in this business to say. Okay, And she said,
Speaker 1: I'm going to ask the kids every single time if
Speaker 1: I can film or not, and if they say no,
Speaker 1: we don't film, or even if you feel if I
Speaker 1: feel like it's a no and they don't know how
Speaker 1: to verbalize that, if I feel like their energy isn't
Speaker 1: accepting and wanting to do this. And I really appreciated
Speaker 1: that because her concept that she taught me is when
Speaker 1: you go you try to take things from people, you
Speaker 1: put them into fight or flight, and you're not getting
Speaker 1: the real thing. And when you put people at ease
Speaker 1: where they want to share and they give, and we're givers,
Speaker 1: be signed up for this, we wanted to give and
Speaker 1: show our life, then you actually get the real truths,
Speaker 1: the authenticity.
Speaker 2: Well, I have a question, then if Real Housewives of
Speaker 2: New York came calling, would you do it?
Speaker 3: Because then you don't have the control.
Speaker 4: Then the controls, Oh, you have zero control, zero control.
Speaker 1: That's that's what I've heard. I think I've had enough
Speaker 1: fair share of people misinterpreting me and using me as
Speaker 1: like alf a house I've had enough of that for
Speaker 1: a lifetime. And so as much as I absolutely adore
Speaker 1: every single real housewife that I've met, and we've had
Speaker 1: some wild nights at some like really fun bars and
Speaker 1: stuff like that, so I like love them, I just
Speaker 1: think that I've had my fill for that kind of
Speaker 1: you know, pure pure for entertainment. I mean that stuff
Speaker 1: again that's been out about me. It's been for a
Speaker 1: lot of people's entertainment, which is kind of sick. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, and so I just think, you know, and
Speaker 1: that's that's what I wanted to do in the show.
Speaker 1: And you know what I've done in this book is
Speaker 1: I was a kid. I met Alex I just turned
Speaker 1: twenty seven years old. Wow, And I had no experience
Speaker 1: whatsoever with this kind of world. And I was teaching
Speaker 1: yoga all the time, and I was like, Eh, pretty
Speaker 1: is friendly and let's like breathe and like say no,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, like this is going to be great.
Speaker 1: And I just assumed that the world was like that,
Speaker 1: and it wasn't. Some of the world is some of
Speaker 1: the world is not. And so I have been you know,
Speaker 1: people have been talking about me and for me for
Speaker 1: the past fourteen years, and this is an opportunity right now.
Speaker 1: I'm in my forties now, I have seven children. You know,
Speaker 1: I've been through the experiences that I've been through, and
Speaker 1: you know, are people going to stop talking? No, they're
Speaker 1: doing a right now about the book, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. But at the same time, I have an
Speaker 1: opportunity to put my words out there. And I always
Speaker 1: believe that you should listen to the person. When I
Speaker 1: started dating out, like people would send me articles and
Speaker 1: stuff like that, I was like, I don't want to
Speaker 1: read anything. I want you to know who he is
Speaker 1: from him. And I don't even know where I came
Speaker 1: up with that idea, but it was one of the
Speaker 1: best ideas I've ever had because I got to know
Speaker 1: him from him and so, you know, I mean that's that.
Speaker 1: You know, I have a tremendous amount of respect for
Speaker 1: that show. I just feel like, not for you.
Speaker 4: And would you do another season? Would you do another
Speaker 4: season of your reality show?
Speaker 1: We might do another season. We're sort of we're thinking
Speaker 1: it through. We might do another season. I'm very proud
Speaker 1: of the season that we've done and I really I
Speaker 1: can't think of a better better partners to do it with.
Speaker 4: How did your How did your kids like it?
Speaker 1: They liked it. They call it their movie. It's really funny.
Speaker 1: I'm like, we're like, yeah, did people see our movie?
Speaker 1: I am You know Rafayel, who's my oldest son, so
Speaker 1: he's my second child. He was one of them where
Speaker 1: he never said he didn't want to be in the
Speaker 1: filming of it, but you could tell from his energy
Speaker 1: that he was kind of retreating during generary of filming,
Speaker 1: and so everybody was very respectful of that, as as
Speaker 1: was the you know, intention of his project. And he said,
Speaker 1: now he watched them and he's like, where am I
Speaker 1: in all of this? Why is.
Speaker 3: Next season?
Speaker 4: He's you're not going to get the star. I was like,
Speaker 4: he'll be in front of the camera like here I am, exactly.
Speaker 1: But that's where he was at the time, and that's okay.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but some kids, like my kids, some of them really,
Speaker 5: you know, my daughter really likes it, but my other
Speaker 5: kids are like, yeah, not for me.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, cool, you don't have to be in it.
Speaker 2: It's not for everybody, and it's not Yeah, it's not
Speaker 2: for everybody. He sends him like Prime or something like.
Speaker 2: He doesn't ever want to be on camera about anything,
Speaker 2: but if somebody sends Prime to the house, which I
Speaker 2: normally wouldn't purchase on my own.
Speaker 3: He's so obsessed with those brothers. He's like, Mom, film
Speaker 3: me opening the box. I need to do an unboxed influencer.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I don't even really known energy.
Speaker 2: Well there's a version that's not energy, it's a hydration.
Speaker 2: So that's the one they always send us. So he
Speaker 2: has he's justifications on why he needs to have it.
Speaker 2: He's like, Mom, you know the new pubsicle Prime is great.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: But so before we get into just final stuff about
Speaker 2: your book, we have one silly question that the fans
Speaker 2: wanted to know.
Speaker 3: You're not gonna hate us. It's it's light.
Speaker 2: If you didn't know Alec and you had to pick
Speaker 2: between the brothers or to be Billy, Stephen or Daniel
Speaker 2: h we do normally we do what we do, a
Speaker 2: pick every time, and the people Tam was picked.
Speaker 4: Sometimes, Hey, now.
Speaker 1: Can we do like different brothers? Like there's another brother
Speaker 1: like what are like brothers? Like the hemsworks right.
Speaker 4: Right them where they both win?
Speaker 3: I know, right, Okay, fine. The Jonas brothers, well, we'll
Speaker 3: do that.
Speaker 1: The Jonas brothers, they're all really nice. I don't really remember.
Speaker 3: She was like, I don't know their names.
Speaker 4: She's like, I don't even know the names. Literally, all
Speaker 4: I know is Joe, Right, there's a Jo.
Speaker 3: Yes, there's a nick Jonas. Yeah, Kevin, guys Kevin.
Speaker 4: Why does Kevin always get forgotten?
Speaker 1: Forgot?
Speaker 4: I don't even know who Kevin is.
Speaker 3: Oh, Ken, I have the best bald You have the best.
Speaker 4: That's a good answer.
Speaker 1: I have the best Baldwin. And I feel like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I just I love my brothers in law and I
Speaker 1: really just loves in law with their spouses.
Speaker 4: Correct.
Speaker 3: We were considering there was like it was what do
Speaker 3: you call Alec? Does see you have a nickname.
Speaker 1: Alex?
Speaker 4: You know, what do you call him when you're mad
Speaker 4: at him?
Speaker 1: When you know when I'm mad? That was it? Anything
Speaker 1: about the hold on not talking and talking if I'm
Speaker 1: actually mad at him, I don't talk with him.
Speaker 4: Oh, you're like, damn, Ron, that's me. I'm like that too, like,
Speaker 4: don't talk to him.
Speaker 1: I'm like, it's better, I'm not going to talk with you.
Speaker 1: And when I'm going to use my kind words, I'll
Speaker 1: speak again.
Speaker 4: I just don't trust what's going to come out of
Speaker 4: my mouth. So it just like I'm not saying the feelings.
Speaker 3: When you guys. Don't like when people don't talk to me.
Speaker 4: I want to clear enough, don't kiss us off.
Speaker 1: When's your birthday?
Speaker 4: Mine? September? Second?
Speaker 1: Yeah, September and your July. I knew you. You're you're
Speaker 1: a cancer, aren't you? Yes?
Speaker 3: How do you know?
Speaker 1: Because I can tell I'm a Capricorn. Caps and cancers
Speaker 1: we are. Yeah, Capracorn just get like quietly done and
Speaker 1: cancers are that like, just want to make it right again?
Speaker 1: Let me make it right.
Speaker 2: Yes, I can deal with about five minutes of silence,
Speaker 2: but like when then it gives me the cold shoulder,
Speaker 2: I'm like, uhh no, no, well now I know what.
Speaker 4: Drives you crazy, so I don't do it anymore.
Speaker 3: One day, she deleted herself from a group chat, and
Speaker 3: I was like, no, I can't get them out.
Speaker 1: But that is just us taking care of everybody, right,
Speaker 1: We're just like taking care of And you're a virgo rising, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's like a love. I have four children that are virgos.
Speaker 3: What you believe?
Speaker 4: Oh yay, I love that you're in for it. Did
Speaker 4: you ever think you're going to have seven children?
Speaker 1: Oh? I didn't even know if I wanted one. I
Speaker 1: really wanted to have kids right away. That was one
Speaker 1: thing when we like met, He really wanted to have kids.
Speaker 1: And it wasn't even something I was like in New
Speaker 1: York and on twelenty seven and like that's like not
Speaker 1: very young other places, but in New York it's very
Speaker 1: very and I wasn't even like it wasn't even on
Speaker 1: my radar. And he very much wanted to start a
Speaker 1: family right away. And I actually after we got married,
Speaker 1: I got a little bit of could feet and I
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, maybe we should wait a little bit.
Speaker 1: Then I found out I was pregnant, So yeah, that's
Speaker 1: that happened. And then I found out I was pregnant
Speaker 1: again and again and again and again. Then the whole
Speaker 1: like breastfeeding getting pregnant thing totally can happen. It's not
Speaker 1: true that that can't happen.
Speaker 3: I meant, do you want more?
Speaker 1: Alex would have more? If I said I wanted more?
Speaker 3: Alex, girl, are you saying now?
Speaker 5: You snapped back better faster than anybody I've ever seen
Speaker 5: in my life.
Speaker 4: Your body is rocking, and I know that you're you know,
Speaker 4: yoga is.
Speaker 3: A big part of it.
Speaker 4: But any tips or advice should give women like you
Speaker 4: just right back.
Speaker 1: I mean, I think I stayed active while I was pregnant,
Speaker 1: and I think a lot of that is driven by that.
Speaker 1: I have a lot of energy because of my ADHD
Speaker 1: and so I've always been just a very moving, moving,
Speaker 1: moving person. If I don't move every day, my brain
Speaker 1: is a little foggy, and I forget and I forget
Speaker 1: more things. So were you okay? So there you go.
Speaker 5: You did you gain much weight when you're pregnant? Are
Speaker 5: you like, oh, eighteen pounds? Twenty pounds?
Speaker 1: I didn't know I gained more than eighteen pounds. I was,
Speaker 1: you know, it's within the normal range range that I
Speaker 1: that I gained.
Speaker 3: And I think.
Speaker 1: Breastfeeding helped me to shed the the baby weight a lot,
Speaker 1: but it's you know, I think that it was just
Speaker 1: staying active and you know, and I think just I've
Speaker 1: been acting my whole life, so my bodies used to
Speaker 1: a certain place lives.
Speaker 3: Does your favorite child rotate by day?
Speaker 1: You know? I always would wonder like, if you have
Speaker 1: a big family, do you have a favorite kid. I
Speaker 1: don't have a favorite kid.
Speaker 4: I think that I'm not.
Speaker 1: Sure, but I feel like the Baldwins may have grown
Speaker 1: up with like there's like favoritism and timing and sort
Speaker 1: of like and I think that there may have been that,
Speaker 1: mostly because they each claim to be the favorite child.
Speaker 2: Well, my kids claim they they think they all know
Speaker 2: who the favorite is and they all say it's the one.
Speaker 2: But I'm like, I don't have a favorite and they're like, yes,
Speaker 2: that you do it, and it's blah, and I'm like, shoot,
Speaker 2: and then I think about it, right, I mean.
Speaker 1: I don't know. One of the things I loved about
Speaker 1: having and I love about having had so many kids
Speaker 1: is that they're all different, right because you have you
Speaker 1: have four kids.
Speaker 3: Have four kids and Tam, how many jillions we do?
Speaker 3: Fo or we have four and four, four.
Speaker 1: And four and that's a lot of kids. Yes, I
Speaker 1: feel like each one comes out totally different, absolutely, and
Speaker 1: that's been an amazing thing. And the way that I
Speaker 1: liked his parent is I like them to stand back
Speaker 1: a little bit and let them figure it themselves out
Speaker 1: and let them become who they really are, like just
Speaker 1: let that come out of them and of course you
Speaker 1: got to go to bed your vegetables. There's rules, But
Speaker 1: I really do think that that's been one of the
Speaker 1: real joys. And so it's kind when thinking about like
Speaker 1: a favorite, I'm like, how can they're all just different
Speaker 1: apples and oranges and bears and bananas, like it's everything
Speaker 1: you know?
Speaker 2: Yeah, And before we close out, is there anything else
Speaker 2: you want to tell us about your book?
Speaker 3: How people can get it? Any key details?
Speaker 1: The book is out today and we are it's so funny.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't if you guys have written books,
Speaker 1: you've written.
Speaker 3: A book, right, I have not written a book. How
Speaker 3: long did it take you?
Speaker 1: You should write a book? Tim or have you written
Speaker 1: a book? No?
Speaker 4: Ask many times, but just has It's hard. This is
Speaker 4: my time.
Speaker 1: It's time consuming. This is my second book, and the
Speaker 1: other one came together quite quickly, living clearly method that
Speaker 1: I wrote many years ago. This I signed my book
Speaker 1: deal during that very dark period of our lives, and
Speaker 1: I again didn't really think it through. I was just
Speaker 1: sort of on autopilot saying yes. And there were times
Speaker 1: when I really regretted that I signed up to write
Speaker 1: this book, because sometimes you just don't have the works,
Speaker 1: and I I got I was not pregnant when I
Speaker 1: started the book. I got pregnant. I had a baby.
Speaker 1: This is a three year process of right, Yeah, it
Speaker 1: took much longer. The other one was done in like
Speaker 1: six months. This one was was along a long process.
Speaker 1: And but as soon as the trial was over in July,
Speaker 1: I went back home and I wrote it during filming
Speaker 1: the rest of the show, and I would just write
Speaker 1: like it all of a sudden it started flowing, and
Speaker 1: I would take all the different bits and pieces and
Speaker 1: and hundreds of peages that I had written that just
Speaker 1: didn't feel right, and I would, you know, all of
Speaker 1: a sudden it just like got hold in and.
Speaker 3: I just I just typed, so, well, congratulations, that is amazing.
Speaker 4: And can you give us the name?
Speaker 1: It's called Manuel, not included because there's no Manuel.
Speaker 4: Are you doing a book tour where you're signing books?
Speaker 1: I am signing. I'm doing I'm doing some of it.
Speaker 1: I'm doing a book signing this Thursday in New Jersey
Speaker 1: and rich Wood. Yeah.
Speaker 4: So I'm going to be you guys, go go see her,
Speaker 4: get a book.
Speaker 1: Go see there, and we're bringing wine because you.
Speaker 4: Know what, I might be there how do I get to.
Speaker 2: Well, we really appreciate you guys coming on. Make sure
Speaker 2: that you get Manuel not included, and you watched the show.
Speaker 2: We loved having you.
Speaker 3: Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Thank you guys for having me on. Thank you and
Speaker 1: be good and feel good.
Speaker 3: Okay, thanks, just got this.
Speaker 1: Bye bye to