1 00:00:02,520 --> 00:00:06,520 Speaker 1: To teas in a pod which Teddy Mellencamp and Camrad Judge. 2 00:00:17,880 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 2: Hi, guys, welcome to another episode of the twat Seat. 3 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 3: Today we have Hilario Baldwin. 4 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,200 Speaker 4: Hi, Tam, Hey, how are you good. 5 00:00:28,320 --> 00:00:31,000 Speaker 2: I'm going to give a little info on her for 6 00:00:31,080 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 2: those of you because we're not talking housewives here today. 7 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:36,760 Speaker 3: We're talking Hilario Baldwin. 8 00:00:37,080 --> 00:00:40,240 Speaker 5: Although she's a housewife of the housewife with seven kids. 9 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:41,519 Speaker 3: Oh my gosh. 10 00:00:41,720 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 2: She has a new book out now called Manual not included. 11 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 2: There's no set of instructions when it comes to navigating 12 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:51,199 Speaker 2: the challenges life throws at us. However, by sharing our 13 00:00:51,280 --> 00:00:55,520 Speaker 2: narratives and finding our commonality, we can better deal with 14 00:00:55,560 --> 00:01:00,160 Speaker 2: what comes our way. She's married to Alec Baldwin. Was 15 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:05,000 Speaker 2: a lot of children and a lot of animals, a 16 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,880 Speaker 2: lot of animals, and I know she loves horses. I've 17 00:01:07,920 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 2: actually met with her once before. But let's bring her 18 00:01:10,200 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 2: in and ask her all the questions that you guys have. 19 00:01:13,200 --> 00:01:20,679 Speaker 1: Hell you friend, Hello, how are you good? 20 00:01:20,720 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 4: How are you doing? 21 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:26,319 Speaker 1: I'm doing well. My book comes out today, so I'm 22 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:28,759 Speaker 1: like all the emotions. 23 00:01:29,160 --> 00:01:31,080 Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, let's see the cover. Look at that 24 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:33,920 Speaker 2: amazing cover. That was a beautiful cover. 25 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: Well the cover is it's it's like a box, and 26 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:40,039 Speaker 1: like the one thing that I really wanted was like 27 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: a really messed up, ripped up box, because sometimes don't 28 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:44,440 Speaker 1: you feel that, like at this point in our life, 29 00:01:44,560 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: sometimes if we like a box with our life, it 30 00:01:47,319 --> 00:01:48,080 Speaker 1: would look like this. 31 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 3: Mine would look worse than that. I think mine would 32 00:01:52,280 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 3: look worse. 33 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:56,880 Speaker 1: Kids, I mean, I mean it was just I even 34 00:01:57,040 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: thought to, like, you know, put return to send her 35 00:01:59,560 --> 00:02:02,240 Speaker 1: on it, but we did not do that. But yeah, 36 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:04,880 Speaker 1: it was funny and I'm definitely you know, trying to 37 00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:07,320 Speaker 1: get all of the children in the photo at the 38 00:02:07,320 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: same time was a challenge. 39 00:02:10,080 --> 00:02:12,360 Speaker 2: So did that actually happen or did you have to 40 00:02:12,400 --> 00:02:15,000 Speaker 2: photoshop some in because there's no I can't even get 41 00:02:15,120 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 2: my four kids to look in the same direction. 42 00:02:18,160 --> 00:02:20,880 Speaker 1: I think it was probably a combination. They were definitely 43 00:02:20,880 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: all there, I mean, that's. 44 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:26,320 Speaker 4: What they weren't all looking in the same direction. 45 00:02:26,560 --> 00:02:30,639 Speaker 1: I to be honest, I didn't. I can't. I can't 46 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:32,920 Speaker 1: say that it's not necessarily true. I would find it 47 00:02:32,960 --> 00:02:37,200 Speaker 1: hard to believe this would be like some huge miracle, 48 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,800 Speaker 1: But yes, no, it was. It was a wild, wild 49 00:02:41,919 --> 00:02:44,520 Speaker 1: wild day that we did, and we put Alec in a. 50 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 5: Box you know what, Alan, Nobody nobody put to Alec 51 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:48,520 Speaker 5: in a box but you. 52 00:02:50,120 --> 00:02:51,639 Speaker 1: It was actually more of my kids. And then it 53 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,200 Speaker 1: was married Lou the one who has the tape here, 54 00:02:54,280 --> 00:02:56,320 Speaker 1: who decided to tape his mouth and we just thought 55 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: that was funny. 56 00:02:57,200 --> 00:02:58,760 Speaker 4: Just like no, Teddy. 57 00:02:58,840 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 5: Teddy said that you guys have met before we met, Yes, 58 00:03:02,280 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 5: we met before. 59 00:03:03,080 --> 00:03:04,200 Speaker 4: I want to hear all about it. 60 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 3: Let's let's remember your take on. Do you remember us 61 00:03:08,520 --> 00:03:10,119 Speaker 3: meeting Mombring? 62 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,240 Speaker 1: Were you on Mombring? Because this is my memory of it. 63 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:18,320 Speaker 3: No, No, we had. We both did an audition together, 64 00:03:19,400 --> 00:03:19,800 Speaker 3: that's why. 65 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 1: But it was like a zoom. 66 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,840 Speaker 4: It was during COVID. 67 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:25,680 Speaker 1: I remember with Terrence. 68 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:29,640 Speaker 4: Yes, I do yes And what was that? What was 69 00:03:29,639 --> 00:03:30,280 Speaker 4: that audition for? 70 00:03:31,280 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 3: We had a meeting and then soon after we both 71 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:36,960 Speaker 3: we both got a fair amount of hate. How did 72 00:03:36,960 --> 00:03:38,040 Speaker 3: you recover from that? 73 00:03:38,320 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: I feel like that was like it's time. So I 74 00:03:40,600 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: write in my book that there's going to be like 75 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 1: in our history books, there's going to be a time 76 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:47,120 Speaker 1: when women were just because I was like, you know, 77 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: the Witches of twenty twenty. 78 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:51,960 Speaker 4: You know, well, I think there's three witches right here. 79 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: You know what, I were a good company. Yeah, No, 80 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: I mean I think it was when I look back 81 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:04,480 Speaker 1: to that, I always try to have empathy for how 82 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 1: much the world was hurting. And if you look at history, 83 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 1: and I studied history in school, when there's a pandemic, 84 00:04:15,640 --> 00:04:19,080 Speaker 1: people go after each other, yea. And you know, I 85 00:04:19,080 --> 00:04:22,039 Speaker 1: think it was also, you know, our business, this business 86 00:04:22,120 --> 00:04:24,080 Speaker 1: was trying to figure out how to continue to create 87 00:04:24,120 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: content during a time when we couldn't all be together. 88 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:30,360 Speaker 1: So then we decided to be mean and go after 89 00:04:30,400 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: each other for like the cost crazy, insantan things in 90 00:04:32,680 --> 00:04:37,240 Speaker 1: the world. And hopefully we're not going to do that again. 91 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: I am such a literal person, and so I really 92 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: struggle when things don't make sense, Like I've really obsessed 93 00:04:46,000 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 1: about it over and over and again. So I used 94 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: to like reach out to people who were like getting canceled, 95 00:04:51,600 --> 00:04:54,599 Speaker 1: and I would say, let's go, let's go have a drink, 96 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:57,359 Speaker 1: let's grab a coffee, and we'd like sit there and 97 00:04:57,400 --> 00:05:02,159 Speaker 1: I'd be like, what are you win for? I was 98 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:07,000 Speaker 1: like the best therapy ever because it was so dumb. 99 00:05:07,320 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: But I think that we come with like just the 100 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 1: amount of people, and you can sell anything, you can 101 00:05:12,680 --> 00:05:16,440 Speaker 1: make an amount of misinformation. But like I do think 102 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:19,279 Speaker 1: at this point I've grown up a lot. I'm not 103 00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 1: into like being like the I don't want people please do. 104 00:05:21,839 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 1: I want people to please with me absolutely. I want 105 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:25,760 Speaker 1: to have a good time. I want if people like me. 106 00:05:25,839 --> 00:05:29,800 Speaker 1: I want to be a likable person, right, But like I. 107 00:05:29,880 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 4: Also like I. 108 00:05:33,600 --> 00:05:34,480 Speaker 3: It doesn't work for me. 109 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:37,120 Speaker 1: No, I just think that there's a point of like, 110 00:05:37,160 --> 00:05:39,719 Speaker 1: of course we like when other people like us. That's 111 00:05:39,720 --> 00:05:43,520 Speaker 1: that's like a nice feeling. However, I think that there's 112 00:05:44,880 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 1: times where you just got to be like, I care 113 00:05:46,520 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: more about my mental health and paying attention to, you know, 114 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 1: focusing on positivity and nice people than like trying to 115 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:56,240 Speaker 1: dance for these people over there that weren't going to 116 00:05:56,360 --> 00:05:59,520 Speaker 1: like you anyway. First of all, I saw to tease 117 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:04,159 Speaker 1: and then and so my got I'm here. It's that 118 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:07,640 Speaker 1: I didn't realize it was called twats. I love this, Yes, 119 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 1: twats with the you know, I mean, if you want 120 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:12,120 Speaker 1: to have like a convert, do either of you guys 121 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:13,240 Speaker 1: speak another language? 122 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:16,440 Speaker 4: No, we barely speak English. 123 00:06:16,520 --> 00:06:19,480 Speaker 1: Okay, So actually, like if you read in my book 124 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: this is again one of the things that bothered me 125 00:06:21,279 --> 00:06:24,159 Speaker 1: so much is like there's so many bilingual people out there, 126 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:27,479 Speaker 1: and like, I've been bilingual my whole life, and so 127 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: it's like, what are what if they were like to 128 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 1: start at home? Like what can we try to like 129 00:06:32,240 --> 00:06:34,880 Speaker 1: tear her apart for? And I guess it's because I 130 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:39,080 Speaker 1: speak two languages. But then you like you think as well, which, 131 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:41,480 Speaker 1: by the way, when you change the accent in the way, 132 00:06:41,560 --> 00:06:44,480 Speaker 1: it's actually talk about brain function this as well. When 133 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: you change your accent, actually you're using different parts of 134 00:06:47,360 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: your brain. So it's a really interesting thing. And I 135 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:51,880 Speaker 1: hope people eventually will go to be like, wow, that's 136 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:54,039 Speaker 1: so cool, Like people speak two languages and maybe they're 137 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: going to sound a little bit different. But asking them 138 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: not to do that is like telling them to do 139 00:06:58,240 --> 00:06:59,720 Speaker 1: yoga and then don't be flexible. 140 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:03,400 Speaker 4: Well that's like dorit. Do you watch Beverly Hills Housewives? 141 00:07:04,440 --> 00:07:07,520 Speaker 5: No, she gets she gets a little ship because every 142 00:07:07,560 --> 00:07:10,000 Speaker 5: once in a while she is very well traveled. 143 00:07:10,400 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 4: Her husband is British, I believe. 144 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 5: And so everyone saw she has like this British accent 145 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 5: and everyone's like, where did that come from? 146 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 4: Well, you know, you were raised in Connecticut. How are she? 147 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:22,800 Speaker 1: But you know that that's normal. So there's this really 148 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,480 Speaker 1: cool article I write about in my book. There's a 149 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:27,280 Speaker 1: really cool article in Athletic, which is a part of 150 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:32,080 Speaker 1: the New York Times, and it's about soccer players footballers 151 00:07:32,120 --> 00:07:34,840 Speaker 1: in Europe and how they move around to different teams. 152 00:07:34,880 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: And we're talking about male athletes, right, and they talk 153 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:42,080 Speaker 1: all about code switching and how it's normal that these 154 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:46,840 Speaker 1: men to go and change as adults to different teams 155 00:07:46,920 --> 00:07:50,480 Speaker 1: and they take on mannerisms of the other culture. Language, 156 00:07:50,680 --> 00:07:52,560 Speaker 1: the way that they speak is going to change, and 157 00:07:52,720 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 1: that this is celebrated. It's the most beautifully written article 158 00:07:55,760 --> 00:07:58,320 Speaker 1: in the world. And I both loved it because I'm like, yes, 159 00:07:58,760 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: this is what it is, and like, oh my god, 160 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:02,280 Speaker 1: I'm so glad that people are getting it. And it's 161 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:05,240 Speaker 1: about men. So we look at when it. I mean, 162 00:08:05,280 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 1: it happened to me, happened to Madonna. 163 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 4: You know, I was gonna say, I want to compare. 164 00:08:11,240 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 3: What I need to be well traveled enough to have 165 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 3: an accent? That's my next goal, what is it? 166 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 1: But that's what kisses me off of. It's like, you like, 167 00:08:19,920 --> 00:08:22,560 Speaker 1: so you have men, and it's like Oh, it's so great, 168 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 1: this is so fantastic. And then you're like all these 169 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 1: women when we're doing exactly the same things. We have 170 00:08:26,400 --> 00:08:29,360 Speaker 1: the same brain, we're the same cords and the way 171 00:08:29,400 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 1: that our mouth works and all this kind of stuff, 172 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:33,760 Speaker 1: and but we're like the bad ones. But it ultimately, 173 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 1: for me, it was never there anything to do with 174 00:08:36,360 --> 00:08:38,599 Speaker 1: my language and anything anyway. It had to do with 175 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:42,480 Speaker 1: that I'm a woman, I'm married to Alex and it 176 00:08:42,679 --> 00:08:44,840 Speaker 1: was fun. You know, it's fun to beat up people 177 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:48,640 Speaker 1: like us. Sometimes that's what we Unfortunately, that's ultimately what 178 00:08:48,760 --> 00:08:51,439 Speaker 1: it's about, you know. I also talk about in my 179 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:56,079 Speaker 1: book that I had ADHD and dyslexia, and I love 180 00:08:56,160 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: that I can talk about that now because like growing 181 00:08:58,160 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: up and having learning differences, it was just like extraordinarily shameful. 182 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:04,000 Speaker 1: And I love especially since one of my kids has 183 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:07,079 Speaker 1: ADHD as well. I love that now we can look 184 00:09:07,080 --> 00:09:08,760 Speaker 1: at it as like their superpowers to it, and we 185 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:14,679 Speaker 1: can creative and anyways. I think that if you really 186 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:17,000 Speaker 1: want to have a conversation about the way that my 187 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 1: brain works and how I struggle with you know, memory 188 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,439 Speaker 1: and the way things sometimes I'm pronouncing things and I 189 00:09:24,480 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: get stuck and I get distracted. I mean, it's a 190 00:09:26,960 --> 00:09:30,960 Speaker 1: whole chaotic thing up there, and so it was actually 191 00:09:31,040 --> 00:09:35,280 Speaker 1: like a much deeper, darker thing than simply you know what, 192 00:09:35,480 --> 00:09:37,559 Speaker 1: code switching. But it was a combination of a lot 193 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,040 Speaker 1: of things. But nobody cares in that moment when any 194 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:43,360 Speaker 1: that's a felt No one cares about what's true. They 195 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 1: don't care about the amount of misinformation. What they care 196 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:50,920 Speaker 1: about is ei their story and getting clicks and making 197 00:09:51,000 --> 00:09:55,439 Speaker 1: advertising money and brewing up hate to throw at the witches. 198 00:09:55,920 --> 00:09:59,800 Speaker 2: And I mean even as humans, we you know, we 199 00:10:00,160 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 2: search for answers and we don't know them. Like I 200 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:05,640 Speaker 2: remember when I even had like my tumor stuff, and 201 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:09,600 Speaker 2: I mean I still do, but I was my words 202 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 2: would be very slow, and they still are because I'm 203 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:14,440 Speaker 2: trying to like come for the next word. And everyone 204 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:17,480 Speaker 2: was like she's slurring, maybe she's drinking, Like I remember 205 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:18,600 Speaker 2: seeing comments on the. 206 00:10:18,640 --> 00:10:20,200 Speaker 3: Pod like is she drunk? 207 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:23,480 Speaker 2: And I'm like, I have so many I didn't know 208 00:10:23,600 --> 00:10:25,559 Speaker 2: this at the time, and I didn't even know it 209 00:10:25,679 --> 00:10:28,800 Speaker 2: what was going on with me. So I do see 210 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,240 Speaker 2: a different side than I probably would have saw three 211 00:10:31,320 --> 00:10:34,960 Speaker 2: years ago. If we had this conversation because I remember 212 00:10:35,200 --> 00:10:37,600 Speaker 2: fighting it and being like so annoyed when I would 213 00:10:37,640 --> 00:10:39,400 Speaker 2: see comments and I'd be like, I can't help that 214 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 2: I'm talking slow, or that I'm getting lost or slurring 215 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:45,240 Speaker 2: or slurring or whatever it may be. 216 00:10:45,920 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 1: It's I mean, I'm so sorry that you've I mean, 217 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 1: am I My heart aches for all of you, know, 218 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:56,079 Speaker 1: the painful journey that you had, and I'm in absolutely 219 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:00,120 Speaker 1: awe and inspiration by like how much you're fighting. And 220 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 1: I love as well that you tell people your boundaries. 221 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:07,760 Speaker 1: You know, you're like, I don't like hearing this and 222 00:11:08,360 --> 00:11:11,160 Speaker 1: this and that for me is what I find to 223 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: be inspiring for myself because sometimes people think that they 224 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:18,680 Speaker 1: can be supportive, but their support is actually feeling negative. 225 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:21,319 Speaker 1: And so you know, you being able to draw that 226 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:25,800 Speaker 1: boundary and being able to focus towards where your mind 227 00:11:25,840 --> 00:11:28,719 Speaker 1: needs to be because you are gonna you are going 228 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:31,520 Speaker 1: to beat this. I know that, I that I look 229 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 1: at you at every single post, I'm looking at you 230 00:11:34,800 --> 00:11:38,040 Speaker 1: and I watch every single moment of them, and I 231 00:11:38,240 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 1: know you want to know why. I know because you're tough, 232 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: because you've been through a lot of shit. You have 233 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:47,680 Speaker 1: all the tools, and you're so strong, and also because 234 00:11:47,760 --> 00:11:50,439 Speaker 1: I know other people have beat it too, this is 235 00:11:50,559 --> 00:11:52,240 Speaker 1: not you would be the first, but there you have 236 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: such a bright life ahead of you, and so no, 237 00:11:55,320 --> 00:11:59,000 Speaker 1: I mean, I'm so inspired by that fire that you 238 00:11:59,160 --> 00:12:01,880 Speaker 1: have inside of you because I just I know that 239 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:03,320 Speaker 1: you're you're gonna, You're. 240 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:03,679 Speaker 3: Gonna do it. 241 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:04,480 Speaker 1: Thank you. 242 00:12:04,640 --> 00:12:06,880 Speaker 2: And I think we all share that same fire, which 243 00:12:06,920 --> 00:12:08,959 Speaker 2: is why we can get ourselves into some trouble, but 244 00:12:09,080 --> 00:12:12,319 Speaker 2: also why we can really fight for the pot. You know, 245 00:12:12,400 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 2: we can fight for ourselves, and I think that's that's 246 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 2: pretty great. You recently had a viral moment with Alec 247 00:12:30,920 --> 00:12:31,360 Speaker 2: on the right. 248 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:33,760 Speaker 4: I was just gonna bring that up because you have 249 00:12:33,920 --> 00:12:34,719 Speaker 4: boundaries too. 250 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 1: Well, that's like another one like this is all about 251 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,640 Speaker 1: women and their voice, your voice, my voice, how it sounds, 252 00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: and then interrupts the voice, right. So I actually didn't Alec, 253 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:48,640 Speaker 1: and I didn't remember that that even happens because we 254 00:12:48,840 --> 00:12:50,400 Speaker 1: just banned for all the time. And by the way, 255 00:12:50,440 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: everybody who wrote that whole thing knows how we'd answer 256 00:12:53,800 --> 00:12:55,959 Speaker 1: because we've had a whole show and we've been like 257 00:12:56,120 --> 00:12:58,040 Speaker 1: you know, doing a million video. So that was like 258 00:12:58,160 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 1: a not nice trick that you guys all did want you, 259 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: but I'm calling you all out right now then you guys. 260 00:13:05,480 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: So I actually was on spring break visiting my family 261 00:13:08,880 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: in Spain where they where they live, and we uh likes, 262 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 1: the whole world's mad at you right now, and I 263 00:13:17,240 --> 00:13:18,600 Speaker 1: was like, what did I do now? 264 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:20,679 Speaker 4: What's next? 265 00:13:20,880 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 1: What did I do now? And he thinks it's the 266 00:13:23,160 --> 00:13:26,440 Speaker 1: funniest thing in the world because everybody always that calls 267 00:13:26,520 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 1: him like the mean one. He's like, yes, now I'm offended. 268 00:13:31,520 --> 00:13:33,960 Speaker 1: I didn't remember this, but yes, I'm off right now. 269 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:37,400 Speaker 1: But I mean, you know, you can look at it 270 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 1: on like a silly level. It actually it made me 271 00:13:39,360 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: laugh more than anything. And I don't think I realized 272 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 1: how like viral it was because I just didn't pay 273 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:48,439 Speaker 1: attention to it because I was, you know, with my family. 274 00:13:48,920 --> 00:13:51,599 Speaker 1: But but then't even have like a darker thing of 275 00:13:51,679 --> 00:13:54,959 Speaker 1: being like he interrupted me, and by the way, this 276 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:58,920 Speaker 1: is a clip. He had interrupted me multiple times, like 277 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:02,559 Speaker 1: multiple times over this, and I was like, and he 278 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:06,280 Speaker 1: knows that I have ADHD. He knows I get stuck 279 00:14:06,360 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: in forgetful and all this kind of stuff, and so 280 00:14:08,600 --> 00:14:10,240 Speaker 1: he's kind of like messing with me a little bit 281 00:14:10,280 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 1: as well, and I'm just like, you know what, when 282 00:14:12,240 --> 00:14:14,160 Speaker 1: I'm talking, you're not talking. But we also do that 283 00:14:14,200 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: in our house as well. We say like, when I'm 284 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:18,679 Speaker 1: walking here, you're not walking. And when I'm doing this, 285 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:21,080 Speaker 1: you're not doing When I'm thinking, you are not. 286 00:14:21,200 --> 00:14:25,200 Speaker 3: You're not allowed to think. It's like and also chewing, 287 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:26,400 Speaker 3: no chewing. 288 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:29,640 Speaker 1: Well I am thinking right now. And I feel like 289 00:14:29,720 --> 00:14:33,320 Speaker 1: anybody who has ADHD probably like really relates to this moment, 290 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 1: to this kind of thing, just like I'm trying so 291 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:38,680 Speaker 1: hard to do one particular thing and you're like. 292 00:14:39,880 --> 00:14:42,600 Speaker 4: So he has O c D and you have ADHD 293 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:46,320 Speaker 4: and the two of you together are just a hot mess. 294 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:49,080 Speaker 1: Yes we're a hot mess, but I feel like that's 295 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:50,440 Speaker 1: what keeps it exciting, right. 296 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:54,400 Speaker 3: Yeah. Who do you think wears the pants in the relationship? 297 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:56,240 Speaker 1: Me? 298 00:14:57,160 --> 00:14:58,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, that I thought so true. 299 00:14:59,120 --> 00:15:01,040 Speaker 1: I tried for a I can like he could have 300 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: one leg and I could have one leg. That it's 301 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:04,560 Speaker 1: totally and he would say that to you, by the way, 302 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 1: But and that was you know, that was like the 303 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,480 Speaker 1: other thing as well, is I think when people were 304 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:14,640 Speaker 1: introduced to me, I mean, we're seeing it happen right 305 00:15:14,720 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: now with a particularly young woman dating a particularly older guy, 306 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:21,680 Speaker 1: and people are just tearing apart their age difference, you know. 307 00:15:22,360 --> 00:15:24,560 Speaker 1: And I think that people just assume that we're going 308 00:15:24,640 --> 00:15:28,120 Speaker 1: to be these young bimbos who don't know what we want. 309 00:15:28,160 --> 00:15:29,560 Speaker 1: And by the way, I was young and I didn't 310 00:15:29,560 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 1: really know what I want, so that was like totally fair. 311 00:15:31,920 --> 00:15:34,320 Speaker 1: But I grew and I'm still here. You know, We've 312 00:15:34,360 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 1: had a lot of kids together, We've made an entire life, 313 00:15:36,480 --> 00:15:40,040 Speaker 1: and so I feel like, you know, people just assumed 314 00:15:40,040 --> 00:15:43,480 Speaker 1: that he was going to be taking me and I 315 00:15:43,640 --> 00:15:45,320 Speaker 1: was going to be like, Okay, whatever you want, whatever 316 00:15:45,360 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: you want, and you know, it took me a minute, 317 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:49,840 Speaker 1: but I found my ground and and we've had to 318 00:15:49,880 --> 00:15:54,280 Speaker 1: deal with some tough experiences that involved some big growing 319 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:55,560 Speaker 1: up on both of our parts. 320 00:15:55,680 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 5: Yeah, speaking of tough experiences, Alex, movies coming out, how 321 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:01,760 Speaker 5: has that affected you? 322 00:16:01,840 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 4: I know that you talk a lot about it in 323 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,120 Speaker 4: your your show. 324 00:16:07,040 --> 00:16:09,720 Speaker 5: I mean you had talked about the struggles I've seen 325 00:16:09,760 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 5: you guys gotten to therapy together. 326 00:16:11,400 --> 00:16:15,560 Speaker 4: And how are you guys feeling today about the. 327 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: Movie coming out? Yeah? I mean I think people went back, 328 00:16:22,960 --> 00:16:24,920 Speaker 1: Alec went back. I should I can only speak from 329 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:30,160 Speaker 1: my experience with my my family. Alec went back to 330 00:16:30,880 --> 00:16:36,800 Speaker 1: make this movie to finish Selena's work. Yeah, and it 331 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: was a really hard thing that he went back and did. 332 00:16:40,560 --> 00:16:43,000 Speaker 1: And I talk about it in my book that he 333 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,480 Speaker 1: almost died right before that, and I kept that quiet. 334 00:16:47,960 --> 00:16:48,680 Speaker 3: He got cot. 335 00:16:49,400 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, so he was, you know, with the with the 336 00:16:54,520 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 1: pressure and the stress and everything that was happening on 337 00:17:02,200 --> 00:17:08,119 Speaker 1: top of how just awful this tragedy was, and is 338 00:17:10,560 --> 00:17:14,760 Speaker 1: he just started turning off, stopped eating, the stress, the 339 00:17:15,880 --> 00:17:18,879 Speaker 1: he just he I brought him to the hospital multiple 340 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:23,960 Speaker 1: times and then he started really declining. I brought him 341 00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:27,680 Speaker 1: to the hospital and he passed out on me on 342 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:30,680 Speaker 1: Fifth Avenue, one hundredth Street, one hundred and first Street, 343 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:32,080 Speaker 1: writing right in front of Mount Sign and I were 344 00:17:32,119 --> 00:17:36,119 Speaker 1: in front of the hospital and he was in the 345 00:17:36,160 --> 00:17:39,320 Speaker 1: hospital for I don't know, I think like a week. 346 00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 1: It was during my kids' spring break that time, and 347 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 1: I would I was nursing our baby who wasn't one yet, 348 00:17:48,960 --> 00:17:51,480 Speaker 1: and I would be going up and down from the 349 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:53,880 Speaker 1: hospital taking care of him, and going down taking care 350 00:17:53,880 --> 00:17:58,160 Speaker 1: of the kids and pumping and bringing my pump everywhere 351 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:01,080 Speaker 1: with me. And when I brought him out of a hospital. 352 00:18:01,080 --> 00:18:03,399 Speaker 1: I actually put a he was walking with a walker 353 00:18:03,440 --> 00:18:07,159 Speaker 1: because he couldn't he couldn't walk, and I put a 354 00:18:07,280 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: boot on his leg and to pretend that he had 355 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:15,080 Speaker 1: hurt his leg because I didn't want people to say 356 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:18,560 Speaker 1: that he was he was. That was one thing I 357 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,240 Speaker 1: couldn't do, Like the whole fake thing. It's just so stupid, 358 00:18:21,560 --> 00:18:24,440 Speaker 1: you know. I just I can't handle when people question 359 00:18:26,000 --> 00:18:30,159 Speaker 1: what's real, because that's just lighting, you know, And so 360 00:18:30,560 --> 00:18:34,359 Speaker 1: I we just pretended that it was something else. You know. 361 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:38,200 Speaker 1: Alec is somebody who cares tremendously, and one of the 362 00:18:38,240 --> 00:18:41,639 Speaker 1: hard things for people who care a lot is they 363 00:18:41,720 --> 00:18:42,400 Speaker 1: feel everything. 364 00:18:43,160 --> 00:18:44,680 Speaker 3: Yeah, well he had you. 365 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:47,000 Speaker 5: I think you guys talked about it on your show 366 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:50,400 Speaker 5: that he even considered just getting out of the industry completely. 367 00:18:52,520 --> 00:18:58,560 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think he always is considering that because there's 368 00:18:58,600 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 1: so much. Again, it goes back to the negativity can 369 00:19:03,840 --> 00:19:07,159 Speaker 1: be so loud mm hmmm, and if you let that 370 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:14,320 Speaker 1: cloud the fact that there's so much right positivity, then 371 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:18,520 Speaker 1: it it can make it can feel all consuming. Yeah, 372 00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:22,080 Speaker 1: And so my hope with him, regardless of what he 373 00:19:22,160 --> 00:19:25,359 Speaker 1: decides to do, you know, he loves to act and 374 00:19:26,600 --> 00:19:29,720 Speaker 1: be doing the only thing he really knows how to 375 00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:31,920 Speaker 1: do because he's done this his whole life, and it's 376 00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:34,560 Speaker 1: he's so good at it, you know, he knows he 377 00:19:34,760 --> 00:19:37,359 Speaker 1: loves it so much. But I think that you know, 378 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 1: when his when he's hurting, he just doesn't know what 379 00:19:41,920 --> 00:19:42,119 Speaker 1: to do. 380 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:57,760 Speaker 3: What's your favorite movie that he's done? And like, did 381 00:19:57,800 --> 00:19:59,440 Speaker 3: you do you watch them all? Or are you like 382 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:01,159 Speaker 3: I can't do it, so. 383 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:05,080 Speaker 1: I don't really watch anything, which is like not a 384 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:10,280 Speaker 1: povolar thing to say that's true. I was raised by 385 00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:14,760 Speaker 1: hippies and we did not watch TV, and I've gotten 386 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,159 Speaker 1: into like like I'll watch it a little bit, like 387 00:20:17,520 --> 00:20:20,080 Speaker 1: you know, Definitely, my first trimester of being pregnant, I 388 00:20:20,160 --> 00:20:22,520 Speaker 1: had like tremendous focus of being able to watch things. 389 00:20:22,560 --> 00:20:24,720 Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening. But most of the time 390 00:20:24,760 --> 00:20:27,040 Speaker 1: I'm either like so tired because I have seven children 391 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:35,200 Speaker 1: and I'm so tired. But I have seen Boss. Maybe 392 00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:43,480 Speaker 1: that's whold I saw. It's complicated. He didn't want me 393 00:20:43,600 --> 00:20:46,000 Speaker 1: to see it when we first started dating and I 394 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:49,520 Speaker 1: went to go visit my parents in Spain and I 395 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:51,800 Speaker 1: sent him a picture of that I was going to 396 00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:53,560 Speaker 1: watch it there, and I was like other Country Rule. 397 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: So I did watch that, and I love Meryl, but 398 00:20:57,359 --> 00:20:59,640 Speaker 1: I saw a Hunt for Red October a great one, 399 00:21:00,680 --> 00:21:01,440 Speaker 1: some thirty rock. 400 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 4: But now he's so talented, very talented. 401 00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:08,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, And I just love that he's he's just so 402 00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:11,879 Speaker 1: good at like he's just he lights up and he 403 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:16,080 Speaker 1: gets excited about like learning to be something completely different, 404 00:21:16,680 --> 00:21:18,720 Speaker 1: and I just I just love watching that. 405 00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 2: And you guys, how did you decide, especially because he's 406 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:25,719 Speaker 2: such a big actor, how did you decide to finally 407 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:28,760 Speaker 2: do reality television? And then how did you decide what 408 00:21:28,880 --> 00:21:30,639 Speaker 2: you were going to show and what you were going 409 00:21:30,720 --> 00:21:34,240 Speaker 2: to keep private and you know, especially when there's criticism 410 00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 2: to come. 411 00:21:34,720 --> 00:21:39,440 Speaker 1: We decided to do the reality show. I've said this 412 00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:42,320 Speaker 1: before in different places, but I didn't really think it through. 413 00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:45,640 Speaker 1: And I think he thought it through very well, which 414 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:47,960 Speaker 1: I'm really grateful for because I think if I thought 415 00:21:47,960 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 1: about it, I would have decided it was a really 416 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:54,520 Speaker 1: really bad idea to start filming a show two weeks 417 00:21:54,560 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 1: before Alec was going to try it. I potentially go 418 00:21:57,760 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: away from it. 419 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:02,359 Speaker 4: Was I didn't realize it was that, Yes, people. 420 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:04,040 Speaker 1: Think that we're like so calculated and stuff like that, 421 00:22:04,200 --> 00:22:07,600 Speaker 1: who like live in this world, but like either's like 422 00:22:07,720 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: I don't have the energy to be able to do that. 423 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: So yeah, I didn't even really think about it until 424 00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:16,720 Speaker 1: it started approaching that we were going to like break 425 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 1: for about three weeks was the plan. But the trial 426 00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:23,359 Speaker 1: actually you know, was over and one and and I 427 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,040 Speaker 1: was like, what are we going to, like do we 428 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,119 Speaker 1: see the crew again, do we finish doing this or 429 00:22:28,359 --> 00:22:29,800 Speaker 1: is it just going to be done? And Everybody's like, 430 00:22:30,080 --> 00:22:34,080 Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know. So it was I'm really 431 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,840 Speaker 1: glad that we did it because it was so cathartic 432 00:22:37,160 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 1: to be able to speak and show when we were 433 00:22:40,880 --> 00:22:44,800 Speaker 1: not supposed to speak and show. And it felt a 434 00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,560 Speaker 1: little bit of a diary in terms of what we 435 00:22:48,800 --> 00:22:52,480 Speaker 1: what was on limits and off limits. I mean, I 436 00:22:52,600 --> 00:22:55,720 Speaker 1: feel like the purpose of doing this was just show 437 00:22:55,800 --> 00:22:58,200 Speaker 1: everything and be really authentic. Now that's not like you're 438 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:00,199 Speaker 1: you know, seeing us wake up in the morning up 439 00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:02,640 Speaker 1: like that. You know. It wasn't like a whatever those 440 00:23:02,640 --> 00:23:05,359 Speaker 1: shows word where there's a con camera on you. But 441 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,639 Speaker 1: you know, we wanted to hit all of the things 442 00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:13,879 Speaker 1: that felt important for us to to talk about. And 443 00:23:15,720 --> 00:23:20,639 Speaker 1: but the the producer, the producers and the show runner 444 00:23:20,800 --> 00:23:23,720 Speaker 1: Sarah ready. She sat with me the first day and 445 00:23:23,800 --> 00:23:26,000 Speaker 1: she said, the most important word for this is consent. 446 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:29,080 Speaker 1: This is not the word that I would have expected 447 00:23:29,119 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 1: anyone in this business to say. Okay, And she said, 448 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:37,360 Speaker 1: I'm going to ask the kids every single time if 449 00:23:37,400 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: I can film or not, and if they say no, 450 00:23:40,560 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 1: we don't film, or even if you feel if I 451 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:45,000 Speaker 1: feel like it's a no and they don't know how 452 00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:48,440 Speaker 1: to verbalize that, if I feel like their energy isn't 453 00:23:48,560 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 1: accepting and wanting to do this. And I really appreciated 454 00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 1: that because her concept that she taught me is when 455 00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:58,119 Speaker 1: you go you try to take things from people, you 456 00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:00,000 Speaker 1: put them into fight or flight, and you're not getting 457 00:24:00,240 --> 00:24:03,680 Speaker 1: the real thing. And when you put people at ease 458 00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:07,240 Speaker 1: where they want to share and they give, and we're givers, 459 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:09,440 Speaker 1: be signed up for this, we wanted to give and 460 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:13,639 Speaker 1: show our life, then you actually get the real truths, 461 00:24:14,200 --> 00:24:15,160 Speaker 1: the authenticity. 462 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 2: Well, I have a question, then if Real Housewives of 463 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:22,200 Speaker 2: New York came calling, would you do it? 464 00:24:22,400 --> 00:24:24,080 Speaker 3: Because then you don't have the control. 465 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:27,560 Speaker 4: Then the controls, Oh, you have zero control, zero control. 466 00:24:27,640 --> 00:24:31,560 Speaker 1: That's that's what I've heard. I think I've had enough 467 00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:39,160 Speaker 1: fair share of people misinterpreting me and using me as 468 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,399 Speaker 1: like alf a house I've had enough of that for 469 00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:47,400 Speaker 1: a lifetime. And so as much as I absolutely adore 470 00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:52,240 Speaker 1: every single real housewife that I've met, and we've had 471 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:55,600 Speaker 1: some wild nights at some like really fun bars and 472 00:24:55,600 --> 00:24:59,480 Speaker 1: stuff like that, so I like love them, I just 473 00:24:59,560 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 1: think that I've had my fill for that kind of 474 00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:07,440 Speaker 1: you know, pure pure for entertainment. I mean that stuff 475 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: again that's been out about me. It's been for a 476 00:25:10,160 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 1: lot of people's entertainment, which is kind of sick. Yeah, 477 00:25:13,400 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 1: you know, and so I just think, you know, and 478 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,040 Speaker 1: that's that's what I wanted to do in the show. 479 00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,399 Speaker 1: And you know what I've done in this book is 480 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:21,640 Speaker 1: I was a kid. I met Alex I just turned 481 00:25:21,680 --> 00:25:26,359 Speaker 1: twenty seven years old. Wow, And I had no experience 482 00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:30,560 Speaker 1: whatsoever with this kind of world. And I was teaching 483 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 1: yoga all the time, and I was like, Eh, pretty 484 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:34,639 Speaker 1: is friendly and let's like breathe and like say no, 485 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:36,280 Speaker 1: I'm gonna say, like this is going to be great. 486 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:38,399 Speaker 1: And I just assumed that the world was like that, 487 00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:40,399 Speaker 1: and it wasn't. Some of the world is some of 488 00:25:40,440 --> 00:25:44,320 Speaker 1: the world is not. And so I have been you know, 489 00:25:44,400 --> 00:25:46,760 Speaker 1: people have been talking about me and for me for 490 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:51,000 Speaker 1: the past fourteen years, and this is an opportunity right now. 491 00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:54,480 Speaker 1: I'm in my forties now, I have seven children. You know, 492 00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,000 Speaker 1: I've been through the experiences that I've been through, and 493 00:25:57,680 --> 00:25:59,680 Speaker 1: you know, are people going to stop talking? No, they're 494 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:01,080 Speaker 1: doing a right now about the book, you know what 495 00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:04,439 Speaker 1: I mean. But at the same time, I have an 496 00:26:04,480 --> 00:26:08,359 Speaker 1: opportunity to put my words out there. And I always 497 00:26:08,440 --> 00:26:11,240 Speaker 1: believe that you should listen to the person. When I 498 00:26:11,320 --> 00:26:13,520 Speaker 1: started dating out, like people would send me articles and 499 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:14,920 Speaker 1: stuff like that, I was like, I don't want to 500 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:17,879 Speaker 1: read anything. I want you to know who he is 501 00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: from him. And I don't even know where I came 502 00:26:21,520 --> 00:26:22,879 Speaker 1: up with that idea, but it was one of the 503 00:26:22,960 --> 00:26:24,800 Speaker 1: best ideas I've ever had because I got to know 504 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:29,359 Speaker 1: him from him and so, you know, I mean that's that. 505 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,359 Speaker 1: You know, I have a tremendous amount of respect for 506 00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,080 Speaker 1: that show. I just feel like, not for you. 507 00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,320 Speaker 4: And would you do another season? Would you do another 508 00:26:38,400 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 4: season of your reality show? 509 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,040 Speaker 1: We might do another season. We're sort of we're thinking 510 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:45,600 Speaker 1: it through. We might do another season. I'm very proud 511 00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:48,560 Speaker 1: of the season that we've done and I really I 512 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:52,000 Speaker 1: can't think of a better better partners to do it with. 513 00:26:53,160 --> 00:26:55,879 Speaker 4: How did your How did your kids like it? 514 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:02,600 Speaker 1: They liked it. They call it their movie. It's really funny. 515 00:27:02,600 --> 00:27:05,680 Speaker 1: I'm like, we're like, yeah, did people see our movie? 516 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:11,359 Speaker 1: I am You know Rafayel, who's my oldest son, so 517 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:15,280 Speaker 1: he's my second child. He was one of them where 518 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:18,440 Speaker 1: he never said he didn't want to be in the 519 00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:20,840 Speaker 1: filming of it, but you could tell from his energy 520 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:24,080 Speaker 1: that he was kind of retreating during generary of filming, 521 00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,760 Speaker 1: and so everybody was very respectful of that, as as 522 00:27:28,040 --> 00:27:32,639 Speaker 1: was the you know, intention of his project. And he said, 523 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:35,920 Speaker 1: now he watched them and he's like, where am I 524 00:27:36,040 --> 00:27:36,919 Speaker 1: in all of this? Why is. 525 00:27:38,640 --> 00:27:39,240 Speaker 3: Next season? 526 00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:41,920 Speaker 4: He's you're not going to get the star. I was like, 527 00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:45,360 Speaker 4: he'll be in front of the camera like here I am, exactly. 528 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,840 Speaker 1: But that's where he was at the time, and that's okay. 529 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, but some kids, like my kids, some of them really, 530 00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:52,760 Speaker 5: you know, my daughter really likes it, but my other 531 00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:54,000 Speaker 5: kids are like, yeah, not for me. 532 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:57,040 Speaker 4: And I'm like, cool, you don't have to be in it. 533 00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:01,639 Speaker 2: It's not for everybody, and it's not Yeah, it's not 534 00:28:01,800 --> 00:28:04,359 Speaker 2: for everybody. He sends him like Prime or something like. 535 00:28:04,400 --> 00:28:06,280 Speaker 2: He doesn't ever want to be on camera about anything, 536 00:28:06,520 --> 00:28:08,440 Speaker 2: but if somebody sends Prime to the house, which I 537 00:28:08,520 --> 00:28:10,040 Speaker 2: normally wouldn't purchase on my own. 538 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:13,600 Speaker 3: He's so obsessed with those brothers. He's like, Mom, film 539 00:28:13,680 --> 00:28:17,159 Speaker 3: me opening the box. I need to do an unboxed influencer. 540 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I don't even really known energy. 541 00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:27,240 Speaker 2: Well there's a version that's not energy, it's a hydration. 542 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,399 Speaker 2: So that's the one they always send us. So he 543 00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:32,639 Speaker 2: has he's justifications on why he needs to have it. 544 00:28:32,720 --> 00:28:36,240 Speaker 2: He's like, Mom, you know the new pubsicle Prime is great. 545 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:37,320 Speaker 3: Yeah. 546 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,640 Speaker 2: But so before we get into just final stuff about 547 00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,360 Speaker 2: your book, we have one silly question that the fans 548 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:45,880 Speaker 2: wanted to know. 549 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,400 Speaker 3: You're not gonna hate us. It's it's light. 550 00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:52,640 Speaker 2: If you didn't know Alec and you had to pick 551 00:28:52,720 --> 00:28:55,520 Speaker 2: between the brothers or to be Billy, Stephen or Daniel 552 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:02,600 Speaker 2: h we do normally we do what we do, a 553 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,720 Speaker 2: pick every time, and the people Tam was picked. 554 00:29:06,200 --> 00:29:08,720 Speaker 4: Sometimes, Hey, now. 555 00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:12,240 Speaker 1: Can we do like different brothers? Like there's another brother 556 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,920 Speaker 1: like what are like brothers? Like the hemsworks right. 557 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,360 Speaker 4: Right them where they both win? 558 00:29:18,840 --> 00:29:24,760 Speaker 3: I know, right, Okay, fine. The Jonas brothers, well, we'll 559 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:25,040 Speaker 3: do that. 560 00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:29,560 Speaker 1: The Jonas brothers, they're all really nice. I don't really remember. 561 00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:30,840 Speaker 3: She was like, I don't know their names. 562 00:29:30,880 --> 00:29:33,520 Speaker 4: She's like, I don't even know the names. Literally, all 563 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 4: I know is Joe, Right, there's a Jo. 564 00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:45,840 Speaker 3: Yes, there's a nick Jonas. Yeah, Kevin, guys Kevin. 565 00:29:45,920 --> 00:29:47,680 Speaker 4: Why does Kevin always get forgotten? 566 00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:48,800 Speaker 1: Forgot? 567 00:29:48,840 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 4: I don't even know who Kevin is. 568 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 3: Oh, Ken, I have the best bald You have the best. 569 00:29:56,720 --> 00:29:57,560 Speaker 4: That's a good answer. 570 00:29:57,800 --> 00:30:01,160 Speaker 1: I have the best Baldwin. And I feel like, yeah, 571 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:04,840 Speaker 1: I just I love my brothers in law and I 572 00:30:05,360 --> 00:30:09,720 Speaker 1: really just loves in law with their spouses. 573 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:10,760 Speaker 4: Correct. 574 00:30:11,080 --> 00:30:13,840 Speaker 3: We were considering there was like it was what do 575 00:30:13,920 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 3: you call Alec? Does see you have a nickname. 576 00:30:17,920 --> 00:30:18,240 Speaker 1: Alex? 577 00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:23,160 Speaker 4: You know, what do you call him when you're mad 578 00:30:23,200 --> 00:30:23,520 Speaker 4: at him? 579 00:30:23,640 --> 00:30:26,440 Speaker 1: When you know when I'm mad? That was it? Anything 580 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:28,440 Speaker 1: about the hold on not talking and talking if I'm 581 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:29,920 Speaker 1: actually mad at him, I don't talk with him. 582 00:30:30,280 --> 00:30:34,040 Speaker 4: Oh, you're like, damn, Ron, that's me. I'm like that too, like, 583 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:34,840 Speaker 4: don't talk to him. 584 00:30:35,000 --> 00:30:36,560 Speaker 1: I'm like, it's better, I'm not going to talk with you. 585 00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:38,640 Speaker 1: And when I'm going to use my kind words, I'll 586 00:30:38,680 --> 00:30:39,240 Speaker 1: speak again. 587 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:41,240 Speaker 4: I just don't trust what's going to come out of 588 00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:44,480 Speaker 4: my mouth. So it just like I'm not saying the feelings. 589 00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:46,080 Speaker 3: When you guys. Don't like when people don't talk to me. 590 00:30:46,200 --> 00:30:48,160 Speaker 4: I want to clear enough, don't kiss us off. 591 00:30:48,760 --> 00:30:50,160 Speaker 1: When's your birthday? 592 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 4: Mine? September? Second? 593 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:55,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, September and your July. I knew you. You're you're 594 00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:56,800 Speaker 1: a cancer, aren't you? Yes? 595 00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:57,600 Speaker 3: How do you know? 596 00:30:58,000 --> 00:31:02,360 Speaker 1: Because I can tell I'm a Capricorn. Caps and cancers 597 00:31:02,400 --> 00:31:07,600 Speaker 1: we are. Yeah, Capracorn just get like quietly done and 598 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:10,760 Speaker 1: cancers are that like, just want to make it right again? 599 00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:11,600 Speaker 1: Let me make it right. 600 00:31:11,800 --> 00:31:14,640 Speaker 2: Yes, I can deal with about five minutes of silence, 601 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,080 Speaker 2: but like when then it gives me the cold shoulder, 602 00:31:17,200 --> 00:31:19,360 Speaker 2: I'm like, uhh no, no, well now I know what. 603 00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,800 Speaker 4: Drives you crazy, so I don't do it anymore. 604 00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:25,560 Speaker 3: One day, she deleted herself from a group chat, and 605 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:30,960 Speaker 3: I was like, no, I can't get them out. 606 00:31:31,360 --> 00:31:35,160 Speaker 1: But that is just us taking care of everybody, right, 607 00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:41,200 Speaker 1: We're just like taking care of And you're a virgo rising, Yeah, 608 00:31:41,680 --> 00:31:46,040 Speaker 1: that's like a love. I have four children that are virgos. 609 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:47,320 Speaker 3: What you believe? 610 00:31:47,360 --> 00:31:50,720 Speaker 4: Oh yay, I love that you're in for it. Did 611 00:31:50,760 --> 00:31:52,480 Speaker 4: you ever think you're going to have seven children? 612 00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:54,600 Speaker 1: Oh? I didn't even know if I wanted one. I 613 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:56,959 Speaker 1: really wanted to have kids right away. That was one 614 00:31:57,080 --> 00:32:00,560 Speaker 1: thing when we like met, He really wanted to have kids. 615 00:32:00,600 --> 00:32:02,000 Speaker 1: And it wasn't even something I was like in New 616 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 1: York and on twelenty seven and like that's like not 617 00:32:05,440 --> 00:32:07,240 Speaker 1: very young other places, but in New York it's very 618 00:32:07,360 --> 00:32:09,760 Speaker 1: very and I wasn't even like it wasn't even on 619 00:32:09,840 --> 00:32:12,480 Speaker 1: my radar. And he very much wanted to start a 620 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,720 Speaker 1: family right away. And I actually after we got married, 621 00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:18,240 Speaker 1: I got a little bit of could feet and I 622 00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,680 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, maybe we should wait a little bit. 623 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,160 Speaker 1: Then I found out I was pregnant, So yeah, that's 624 00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:24,720 Speaker 1: that happened. And then I found out I was pregnant 625 00:32:24,800 --> 00:32:26,880 Speaker 1: again and again and again and again. Then the whole 626 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:31,360 Speaker 1: like breastfeeding getting pregnant thing totally can happen. It's not 627 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:32,720 Speaker 1: true that that can't happen. 628 00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:34,240 Speaker 3: I meant, do you want more? 629 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:37,800 Speaker 1: Alex would have more? If I said I wanted more? 630 00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 3: Alex, girl, are you saying now? 631 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,720 Speaker 5: You snapped back better faster than anybody I've ever seen 632 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 5: in my life. 633 00:32:44,240 --> 00:32:46,520 Speaker 4: Your body is rocking, and I know that you're you know, 634 00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:47,200 Speaker 4: yoga is. 635 00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 3: A big part of it. 636 00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:50,640 Speaker 4: But any tips or advice should give women like you 637 00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,040 Speaker 4: just right back. 638 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 1: I mean, I think I stayed active while I was pregnant, 639 00:32:58,760 --> 00:33:02,040 Speaker 1: and I think a lot of that is driven by that. 640 00:33:02,160 --> 00:33:05,280 Speaker 1: I have a lot of energy because of my ADHD 641 00:33:05,440 --> 00:33:08,240 Speaker 1: and so I've always been just a very moving, moving, 642 00:33:08,320 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 1: moving person. If I don't move every day, my brain 643 00:33:11,320 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 1: is a little foggy, and I forget and I forget 644 00:33:15,320 --> 00:33:18,800 Speaker 1: more things. So were you okay? So there you go. 645 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:22,160 Speaker 5: You did you gain much weight when you're pregnant? Are 646 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:24,640 Speaker 5: you like, oh, eighteen pounds? Twenty pounds? 647 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:28,680 Speaker 1: I didn't know I gained more than eighteen pounds. I was, 648 00:33:28,840 --> 00:33:31,640 Speaker 1: you know, it's within the normal range range that I 649 00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:32,440 Speaker 1: that I gained. 650 00:33:32,600 --> 00:33:33,840 Speaker 3: And I think. 651 00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:39,320 Speaker 1: Breastfeeding helped me to shed the the baby weight a lot, 652 00:33:40,560 --> 00:33:43,960 Speaker 1: but it's you know, I think that it was just 653 00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:49,680 Speaker 1: staying active and you know, and I think just I've 654 00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:51,720 Speaker 1: been acting my whole life, so my bodies used to 655 00:33:52,720 --> 00:33:54,640 Speaker 1: a certain place lives. 656 00:33:55,000 --> 00:33:56,880 Speaker 3: Does your favorite child rotate by day? 657 00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:00,960 Speaker 1: You know? I always would wonder like, if you have 658 00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:02,560 Speaker 1: a big family, do you have a favorite kid. I 659 00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:03,640 Speaker 1: don't have a favorite kid. 660 00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:05,400 Speaker 4: I think that I'm not. 661 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:07,800 Speaker 1: Sure, but I feel like the Baldwins may have grown 662 00:34:07,840 --> 00:34:10,520 Speaker 1: up with like there's like favoritism and timing and sort 663 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 1: of like and I think that there may have been that, 664 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,560 Speaker 1: mostly because they each claim to be the favorite child. 665 00:34:14,800 --> 00:34:18,120 Speaker 2: Well, my kids claim they they think they all know 666 00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,439 Speaker 2: who the favorite is and they all say it's the one. 667 00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:22,440 Speaker 2: But I'm like, I don't have a favorite and they're like, yes, 668 00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:24,680 Speaker 2: that you do it, and it's blah, and I'm like, shoot, 669 00:34:25,000 --> 00:34:28,520 Speaker 2: and then I think about it, right, I mean. 670 00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:31,640 Speaker 1: I don't know. One of the things I loved about 671 00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:34,160 Speaker 1: having and I love about having had so many kids 672 00:34:34,520 --> 00:34:37,800 Speaker 1: is that they're all different, right because you have you 673 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:38,800 Speaker 1: have four kids. 674 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:42,680 Speaker 3: Have four kids and Tam, how many jillions we do? 675 00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,240 Speaker 3: Fo or we have four and four, four. 676 00:34:45,160 --> 00:34:48,520 Speaker 1: And four and that's a lot of kids. Yes, I 677 00:34:49,360 --> 00:34:53,840 Speaker 1: feel like each one comes out totally different, absolutely, and 678 00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:55,640 Speaker 1: that's been an amazing thing. And the way that I 679 00:34:55,760 --> 00:34:58,000 Speaker 1: liked his parent is I like them to stand back 680 00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:01,160 Speaker 1: a little bit and let them figure it themselves out 681 00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,800 Speaker 1: and let them become who they really are, like just 682 00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:06,520 Speaker 1: let that come out of them and of course you 683 00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,759 Speaker 1: got to go to bed your vegetables. There's rules, But 684 00:35:10,200 --> 00:35:13,560 Speaker 1: I really do think that that's been one of the 685 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:15,840 Speaker 1: real joys. And so it's kind when thinking about like 686 00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:18,560 Speaker 1: a favorite, I'm like, how can they're all just different 687 00:35:18,960 --> 00:35:21,800 Speaker 1: apples and oranges and bears and bananas, like it's everything 688 00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:22,040 Speaker 1: you know? 689 00:35:22,680 --> 00:35:25,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, And before we close out, is there anything else 690 00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:27,040 Speaker 2: you want to tell us about your book? 691 00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:30,239 Speaker 3: How people can get it? Any key details? 692 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:37,120 Speaker 1: The book is out today and we are it's so funny. 693 00:35:37,120 --> 00:35:39,680 Speaker 1: I mean, I don't if you guys have written books, 694 00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:40,800 Speaker 1: you've written. 695 00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:42,359 Speaker 3: A book, right, I have not written a book. How 696 00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:43,080 Speaker 3: long did it take you? 697 00:35:43,560 --> 00:35:46,160 Speaker 1: You should write a book? Tim or have you written 698 00:35:46,160 --> 00:35:46,840 Speaker 1: a book? No? 699 00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:50,320 Speaker 4: Ask many times, but just has It's hard. This is 700 00:35:50,360 --> 00:35:50,719 Speaker 4: my time. 701 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:54,239 Speaker 1: It's time consuming. This is my second book, and the 702 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 1: other one came together quite quickly, living clearly method that 703 00:35:57,680 --> 00:36:04,120 Speaker 1: I wrote many years ago. This I signed my book 704 00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:09,279 Speaker 1: deal during that very dark period of our lives, and 705 00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:14,400 Speaker 1: I again didn't really think it through. I was just 706 00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:20,000 Speaker 1: sort of on autopilot saying yes. And there were times 707 00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:22,719 Speaker 1: when I really regretted that I signed up to write 708 00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:26,040 Speaker 1: this book, because sometimes you just don't have the works, 709 00:36:26,880 --> 00:36:30,920 Speaker 1: and I I got I was not pregnant when I 710 00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:33,280 Speaker 1: started the book. I got pregnant. I had a baby. 711 00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:36,480 Speaker 1: This is a three year process of right, Yeah, it 712 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:38,400 Speaker 1: took much longer. The other one was done in like 713 00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:42,920 Speaker 1: six months. This one was was along a long process. 714 00:36:43,120 --> 00:36:46,799 Speaker 1: And but as soon as the trial was over in July, 715 00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:51,280 Speaker 1: I went back home and I wrote it during filming 716 00:36:51,320 --> 00:36:53,279 Speaker 1: the rest of the show, and I would just write 717 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:57,120 Speaker 1: like it all of a sudden it started flowing, and 718 00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:59,719 Speaker 1: I would take all the different bits and pieces and 719 00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:02,279 Speaker 1: and hundreds of peages that I had written that just 720 00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,680 Speaker 1: didn't feel right, and I would, you know, all of 721 00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:06,560 Speaker 1: a sudden it just like got hold in and. 722 00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:11,720 Speaker 3: I just I just typed, so, well, congratulations, that is amazing. 723 00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:13,359 Speaker 4: And can you give us the name? 724 00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,160 Speaker 1: It's called Manuel, not included because there's no Manuel. 725 00:37:17,640 --> 00:37:19,720 Speaker 4: Are you doing a book tour where you're signing books? 726 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:22,480 Speaker 1: I am signing. I'm doing I'm doing some of it. 727 00:37:22,560 --> 00:37:25,440 Speaker 1: I'm doing a book signing this Thursday in New Jersey 728 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,719 Speaker 1: and rich Wood. Yeah. 729 00:37:27,760 --> 00:37:30,040 Speaker 4: So I'm going to be you guys, go go see her, 730 00:37:30,080 --> 00:37:30,840 Speaker 4: get a book. 731 00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:34,080 Speaker 1: Go see there, and we're bringing wine because you. 732 00:37:34,160 --> 00:37:37,080 Speaker 4: Know what, I might be there how do I get to. 733 00:37:43,080 --> 00:37:45,520 Speaker 2: Well, we really appreciate you guys coming on. Make sure 734 00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,280 Speaker 2: that you get Manuel not included, and you watched the show. 735 00:37:49,360 --> 00:37:50,080 Speaker 2: We loved having you. 736 00:37:50,280 --> 00:37:50,960 Speaker 3: Thank you so much. 737 00:37:51,239 --> 00:37:54,120 Speaker 1: Thank you guys for having me on. Thank you and 738 00:37:54,239 --> 00:37:55,319 Speaker 1: be good and feel good. 739 00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:57,719 Speaker 3: Okay, thanks, just got this. 740 00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:01,000 Speaker 1: Bye bye to