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Speaker 1: Big Bang and DJ Scream bring you Big Facts hot

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Speaker 1: class sounds. You know who it is, d J Scream,

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Speaker 1: I'm here, Big Banks here, Baby Jay, this here Sean Jones, O,

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Speaker 1: G Shante Cacheesy with the crocs that's in your name.

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Talk to me? Because they're not gonna

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Speaker 1: talk to me. They roll the week. What's up? Uh

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Speaker 1: So what we're gonna talk about today is, you know,

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Speaker 1: if you're in a relationship and it can be a

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Speaker 1: relationship of we don't know how long, like something that's

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Speaker 1: kind of short, or you you've been in that relationship

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Speaker 1: a long time, and I think you can you can

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Speaker 1: apply this to even some of your friends, to just friends.

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Speaker 1: Like if somebody just completely let theirselfs go, how do

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Speaker 1: you tell them about theirselves? Meaning as in, maybe it's

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Speaker 1: a woman that used to get her hair done. She

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Speaker 1: don't get a hair done no more, she don't get

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Speaker 1: her nails done no more. Maybe your man don't you know,

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Speaker 1: grow on myself right and getting his haircuts and shaving

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Speaker 1: might not The person might not smell the same way

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Speaker 1: they used to smell. They just don't let themselves go

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Speaker 1: and get comfortable, and they just on some bullshit and

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Speaker 1: you ain't feeling it. How do you talk to them

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Speaker 1: about that? Oh, I think I'm gonna just put them

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Speaker 1: to the side. And then what I'm saying like just

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Speaker 1: you know, trying to have one of them. You know,

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Speaker 1: when you pull your person to the side, you have

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Speaker 1: one of them deep conversation. Yeah, like you put them

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Speaker 1: to side, set them on the bed, like you know

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Speaker 1: them deep conversations, pull you the side, set you down

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Speaker 1: and let you know. You gotta get right or I

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Speaker 1: make you start. You're gonna find a nigger. I must

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Speaker 1: probably still stay, but I'm gonna just be outside sometime.

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Speaker 1: You'na be cheating basically, okay, kevi real up top. If

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Speaker 1: you tell somebody and they don't give a fuck and

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Speaker 1: I still love you, now what what? Okay? So if okay,

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Speaker 1: if you if you stop doing that ship, then that's

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Speaker 1: what you expect from the other person. Let me step

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Speaker 1: out at them to like try you know. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's only if you want somebody for let yourself go.

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Speaker 1: You're saying you would be okay or you would expect

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Speaker 1: let me clear this up. It depends on why they

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Speaker 1: let themselves go. If they let themselves go because they're

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Speaker 1: grieving something and they're dealing with like a death or

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Speaker 1: something like that, that's something deep. That's something that I'm

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Speaker 1: just gonna have to wait that out. And just I'm

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Speaker 1: talking about some lazy if you just own some lazy ship,

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Speaker 1: I'm not about to be lazy. Would you get your

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Speaker 1: get yourself together either? Like, come, what did this deep

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Speaker 1: conversation lead to? What you mean, what did the deep

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Speaker 1: conversation lead to? Like you had this deep conversation you

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Speaker 1: pulled him aside, Like what did you say to them? Baby, listen,

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Speaker 1: you've been around this house not doing shit about six

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Speaker 1: months now. I mean, what's the plan? Like, what's the

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Speaker 1: plan if you if the person said, sit there and

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Speaker 1: be like, you know, I'm just trying to I gotta

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Speaker 1: then I'm gonna try to help motivate them. They're like,

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Speaker 1: I ain't doing ship on me. I'm straight that ship

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Speaker 1: because I think I think the frustrating part is yeah,

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Speaker 1: but relationships changed but it's like, so the person you

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Speaker 1: if that makes sense. Like the person that you get

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Speaker 1: with is the person that you sign up to be with, right,

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Speaker 1: But I think people do need to know that you're

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Speaker 1: there might be some rough patches. I don't have some

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Speaker 1: rough patches on me. I ain't doing all that ship.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'm gonna keep my hygiene up, but I

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Speaker 1: yourself go, not being shipped. But if that's what you

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Speaker 1: something got to be wrong, not necessarily. You could have

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Speaker 1: That's when you let yourself go, not going through the depression.

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Speaker 1: But depression causes you to let yourself go, right cause.

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Speaker 1: But sometimes it's just negligence, a right thinking. Like if

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Speaker 1: that's just the relationship. You know, some people get a

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Speaker 1: that part said then about taking a bath, said not,

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Speaker 1: you're not babe. Yeah this is camera, so you can't

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Speaker 1: do what you do? We got you be No. But

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Speaker 1: depends like all the way back to do what I say. Man,

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Speaker 1: it depends on who it is, Okay, and if you do,

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Speaker 1: get a person's attention. Right, you do this ship, you're

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Speaker 1: fresh this, you fly you on your ship. Then you

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Speaker 1: They got comfortable, like you might. You might be attracted

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Speaker 1: they already got this, nigga. That's different really tripping on

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Speaker 1: I ain't really tripping on that. We're gonna wipe down

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Speaker 1: gotta be like this heady day. No, I ain't saying

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Speaker 1: that every day. I was saying, they ain't never doing it. No,

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Speaker 1: that's no. You don't like like you're saying, you just

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Speaker 1: don't lost show fly. But I can still see that

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Speaker 1: start saying, but see your parents and parents and yourself,

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Speaker 1: you let your hustle go. That's the physical characteristics and

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Speaker 1: character characteristics are two different things. They are, but you

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Speaker 1: We know some people used to be on the ship

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Speaker 1: character and si. People used to be on this ship

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Speaker 1: coming out of their character every day. May you you

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Speaker 1: you see the every day neggat that like sure, I

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Speaker 1: never thought he'd do that exactly. That's different. That's letting

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Speaker 1: he still, I know he is still she stip on me.

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Speaker 1: what you do in that situation, let yourself go. You

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Speaker 1: Beat up and bitching up is a different anything. Beat

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Speaker 1: I'm not even saying no, no leaving ship. I'm not

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Speaker 1: even saying no cheating ship. I'm saying that. But they

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Speaker 1: But I said, if somebody lose themselves and they're not

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Speaker 1: the shrimp fried rice, it don't taste good. When you

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Speaker 1: cook the pancakes, it don't taste good. This ship don't

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Speaker 1: taste good. That you're saying that, you know you would

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Speaker 1: be okay with somebody's cheating on you if I'm not

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Speaker 1: doing nothing. If you're not doing that, I'm already assuming

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Speaker 1: I ain't doing ship. They asked and all that, because

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Speaker 1: They might have kids or some ship. Who knows. I

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Speaker 1: at the house gaining like fifty pounds, I ain't doing shit.

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Speaker 1: I ain't having sex. So when so what is that

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Speaker 1: gonna do? Make you spiral even further out of control?

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Speaker 1: Or you're gonna try to get a grip and get

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Speaker 1: I'm an athlete, but I'm saying, ok, I don't ship.

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Speaker 1: honestly so, I do. I do think the part of

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Speaker 1: if somebody is losing themselves or letting themselves go, what

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Speaker 1: you should do is talk to the person relationship. Hear it.

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Speaker 1: What you think I need to do that? What? You

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Let's figure this ship out, man.

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Speaker 1: Some people are not capable of letting theirselves all the

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Speaker 1: I don't think I would ever just let myself completely go.

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Speaker 1: it to them because that's you said Drake. Them would

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Yeah, like that, so this ship must

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Speaker 1: I'm saying. Like you know, when you you know, you

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Speaker 1: I tell I can just tell this person that ship

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Speaker 1: I just put myself in the situation where we don't

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Speaker 1: the day, I already undid it. But I did it

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Speaker 1: my own ship. So I know how I go. No

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Speaker 1: matter how how how much you try to think you

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Speaker 1: can getting to me. If I feel how it is,

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Speaker 1: If you don't never make sense, like you can't make

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Speaker 1: if you don't get it, you don't get it. You

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Speaker 1: don't get it. I don't get it. Bro. You can't

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Speaker 1: make me say that that hat is goddamn. I mean,

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Speaker 1: that shirt is cream. I'm looking at that ship white, bro, right,

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Speaker 1: you got a little deep No, that's white. Yeah. Now,

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Speaker 1: so what if a person is past maybe past that

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Speaker 1: And it's unfair because that's not the person you met.

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Speaker 1: might just don't evolved into some Luis ship and then

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Speaker 1: with it or you don't. So you telling them they

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Speaker 1: I wasn't happy with makeup, but you're like you say,

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Speaker 1: like if you, if you, if you tell me in

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Speaker 1: Like you come tell me like before you even start

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Speaker 1: I tell like like I have to tell something, get

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Speaker 1: all that ship, Like I don't care. I'm straight, I

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Speaker 1: don't want to do ship. You get what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: So I already know. So she's gonna tell me like, man,

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Speaker 1: I'm going natural, ain't get my help. You've been saying

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Speaker 1: to be, right, yeah, yeah, all right. So the solution

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Speaker 1: me that. Man, hey, this is me. Man, I'm chilling.

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Speaker 1: I'm you don't see me putting my hat. I ain't

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Speaker 1: I'm good. Yeah, you got respect. That's attractive in itself.

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Speaker 1: It's confidence. What no listen if your wife hold on, buddy,

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Speaker 1: if your wife, being who she is, decided to three

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Speaker 1: that's different. That's falling off what you mean, she's just

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Speaker 1: she's sayin't got now what I like? How you treat me? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: to get my hair done. But I'm gonna do it

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Speaker 1: because my dude like that. But deep down you really

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Speaker 1: That's about deep downs. Really don't care. That's that's that's

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Speaker 1: a lot of times women make you don't need this ship. Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Like, if you like you

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Speaker 1: need some enhancements, you need some enhancements. If you don't,

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