1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 1: is how Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey, 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:10,320 Speaker 1: what's going on everybody. I'm Jeff Timmins and you may 4 00:00:10,360 --> 00:00:13,360 Speaker 1: know me from the boyband Degrees. I'm so happy and 5 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,040 Speaker 1: thrilled to be guest hosting How Men Think. I'm gonna 6 00:00:16,079 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: answer all your questions and try to help you understand 7 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,959 Speaker 1: how Men Think. But first, this is eleven Questions with 8 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:26,639 Speaker 1: Jeff Timmins. So let's get into it. What are you 9 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: known for? Well? Uh, mostly known for being a member 10 00:00:30,240 --> 00:00:33,400 Speaker 1: of ninety eight Degrees, which has been an amazing run 11 00:00:33,440 --> 00:00:36,319 Speaker 1: for me. It's our twenty fifth year. Uh this year 12 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:39,720 Speaker 1: Degrees being in existence. Although it makes me feel really old, 13 00:00:39,840 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: I feel very blessed and fortunate to get out there 14 00:00:42,120 --> 00:00:44,720 Speaker 1: and still be performing for such wonderful fans and be 15 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:47,360 Speaker 1: doing this for a living and supporting my family. So 16 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:49,680 Speaker 1: I think all of you a little bit about me. 17 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:52,360 Speaker 1: I love music, of course, that's the obvious thing. I'm 18 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:55,360 Speaker 1: a big family man. I've got five kids, They're all amazing. 19 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:58,360 Speaker 1: I've been very blessed, got a beautiful wife, and you 20 00:00:58,360 --> 00:01:00,000 Speaker 1: know I like to work behind the scenes as well. 21 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,960 Speaker 1: I'm a big studio guy. Um like to do music 22 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:06,199 Speaker 1: and produce stuff for other people, I mean the tech space. 23 00:01:06,480 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: It's like to keep busy. So who am I in 24 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: my personal life? I'm just a guy that likes the 25 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:14,760 Speaker 1: screw around. I don't take myself too seriously at all. 26 00:01:14,800 --> 00:01:17,600 Speaker 1: I take other people seriously. But I like to have 27 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,000 Speaker 1: a lot of fun, roll with the flow, make people laugh, 28 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 1: and you know, enjoy family and friends and you know, 29 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:25,080 Speaker 1: the little things in life are are very very important 30 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: to me. All right. What are three shows that I'm 31 00:01:28,600 --> 00:01:31,640 Speaker 1: binge watching. Well, there's a show called Elite. There's a 32 00:01:31,640 --> 00:01:34,520 Speaker 1: lot of these Spanish shows that are translated to English 33 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: on Netflix that I really love. Elite is one of them. 34 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:39,600 Speaker 1: Money Heisten is another one. And then I've really been 35 00:01:39,680 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: kind of getting my guilty pleasure from the Pam and 36 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:47,440 Speaker 1: Tommy story on Hulu, which I absolutely love. What is 37 00:01:47,480 --> 00:01:50,320 Speaker 1: my favorite food? Well, it's kind of a toss up. 38 00:01:50,560 --> 00:01:53,720 Speaker 1: I'm a low carb guy, so it's usually meat and 39 00:01:53,800 --> 00:01:56,200 Speaker 1: cheese and seafood and things like that. I would have 40 00:01:56,280 --> 00:01:59,160 Speaker 1: to say steak and lobster. I'm you know, I like 41 00:01:59,240 --> 00:02:02,280 Speaker 1: the finer things in life, so I'd say steaks, steak, 42 00:02:02,480 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: steak and lobster my favorite foods. Tell us about your career, Well, 43 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:13,000 Speaker 1: I have been totally blessed. Uh, it's been a wonderful ride. 44 00:02:13,200 --> 00:02:16,720 Speaker 1: I'm from a very small town in Ohio where you know, 45 00:02:16,760 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: a lot of not a lot of people kind of 46 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: venture off into the entertainment business. UM. I was inspired 47 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,720 Speaker 1: by the group Boys Two Men and wanted to create 48 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:27,640 Speaker 1: a similar group just like that. Um, we didn't have 49 00:02:27,720 --> 00:02:31,640 Speaker 1: the Internet and uh things that like like like um, 50 00:02:31,840 --> 00:02:36,119 Speaker 1: Twitter and Snapchat and YouTube at our disposal and TikTok, 51 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: so you literally had to go pursue your dreams. I 52 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: drove with my original band across the country to l 53 00:02:42,800 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 1: a Um to pursue the dream and got lucky. You know. 54 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: We ended up singing backstage at a Boys de Men 55 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:53,240 Speaker 1: concert ironically, and we're fortunate enough to get signed and 56 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 1: we got signed to Motown Records, which is a legendary label. UM, 57 00:02:57,919 --> 00:03:00,919 Speaker 1: like Boys Demand Did. We toured the world, we sold 58 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,800 Speaker 1: millions and millions of records and we're still around twenty 59 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: five years later with great fans that embrace our music 60 00:03:08,600 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 1: and we enjoy the camaraderie of our brotherhood of getting 61 00:03:12,080 --> 00:03:14,680 Speaker 1: up on stage and acting silly and singing songs for 62 00:03:14,680 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: our living. So it's been a blessing. We've got to 63 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:20,080 Speaker 1: perform with Stevie Wonder on a song for Disney's Mulan 64 00:03:20,240 --> 00:03:23,119 Speaker 1: with Mariah Carey that went and Joe that a song 65 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 1: that went number one. We got to perform for Michael 66 00:03:26,120 --> 00:03:30,040 Speaker 1: Jackson with Usher and Luther Vandrow's anything you can imagine. 67 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:32,919 Speaker 1: We've been fortunate enough to do and and we never 68 00:03:32,960 --> 00:03:36,280 Speaker 1: took different granted. So it's been an amazing ride. What's 69 00:03:36,280 --> 00:03:39,680 Speaker 1: my biggest fear in life? I think just not being successful. 70 00:03:39,800 --> 00:03:42,320 Speaker 1: I mean I think that, uh you know, it's important 71 00:03:42,360 --> 00:03:45,080 Speaker 1: for me to always get better every day. Uh, never 72 00:03:45,120 --> 00:03:49,720 Speaker 1: settled for mediocrity. I don't expect that of everybody else 73 00:03:49,760 --> 00:03:52,480 Speaker 1: that I meet in my life, particularly my beautiful wife 74 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:55,360 Speaker 1: and my kids. But for me, it's always achieving something 75 00:03:55,400 --> 00:03:58,680 Speaker 1: new and it doesn't necessarily have to do with monetization 76 00:03:58,720 --> 00:04:01,320 Speaker 1: and making money or being famous. It's just getting better 77 00:04:01,360 --> 00:04:04,440 Speaker 1: every day. So my fear is to become relaxed and 78 00:04:04,440 --> 00:04:07,440 Speaker 1: not be a success or not really have the influence 79 00:04:07,440 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: and impact that I hope to do to encourage others 80 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: to pursue their dreams. So the fear of failure is 81 00:04:13,000 --> 00:04:18,680 Speaker 1: probably my biggest driver, ah, my biggest pet peeve. On 82 00:04:18,720 --> 00:04:22,719 Speaker 1: that note, I despise people that are lazy. I like 83 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:25,279 Speaker 1: people that like to kick back and take it easy, 84 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:31,080 Speaker 1: but laziness drives me absolutely crazy. Absolutely my pet peete laziness. 85 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:35,560 Speaker 1: What makes me most happy seeing smiling faces in my family. 86 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:38,280 Speaker 1: I mean, I think it's really really important. Um. The 87 00:04:38,320 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: world is always, uh, you know, a challenging place to 88 00:04:41,560 --> 00:04:44,080 Speaker 1: live in and life is hard, so you know, the 89 00:04:44,600 --> 00:04:47,479 Speaker 1: small victories for me or when I see smiling faces 90 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 1: on all of my kids, I see happy faces, and 91 00:04:50,680 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: you know, when my wife's happy, that's always nice. My 92 00:04:54,640 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: ideal Saturday morning, well, you know, Saturday, the day is 93 00:04:58,120 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: kind of blur together. I travel a lot. I'm very 94 00:05:00,480 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: fortunate to do, and um, so Saturdays could be a Sunday, 95 00:05:04,080 --> 00:05:06,200 Speaker 1: it could be a Monday. I'm always working, which is 96 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: a really very fortunate thing for myself. Um, but you know, 97 00:05:09,839 --> 00:05:12,680 Speaker 1: if if you're talking about the weekend, a Saturday morning 98 00:05:13,040 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 1: would be watching college football. I know that's a boring answer, 99 00:05:16,320 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: but I'm a big sports fan and being from a 100 00:05:18,240 --> 00:05:22,799 Speaker 1: small town in Ohio that revolves around football, Massillon, Ohio, Um, 101 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 1: I love watching my college football and I'm just hanging 102 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: out with my kids on a Saturday if I'm in 103 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: town and if we're all together. But traditionally I'm I'm 104 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,280 Speaker 1: watching college football, either with the guys in ninety eight 105 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:35,680 Speaker 1: degrees or even by myself. But that's a that's a 106 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,359 Speaker 1: typical Saturday for me. Am, I'm more of an athlete 107 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,960 Speaker 1: or our share quarterback. Um, well, I'd like to think. 108 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: I'd like to think of an athlete. I but you 109 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,719 Speaker 1: know what, I'm just I'm coming to terms with the 110 00:05:48,760 --> 00:05:51,520 Speaker 1: fact that I'm not that good of an athlete, so 111 00:05:51,960 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 1: I'm sort of both. I try to keep in shape. 112 00:05:54,520 --> 00:05:56,919 Speaker 1: I wanted to play football collegiately, and of course in 113 00:05:56,960 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: the NFL where I'm from, it's all about that. And 114 00:06:00,520 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: unfortunately I was vertically challenged. I didn't have enough skills, 115 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:06,880 Speaker 1: wasn't good. I mean, the list goes on and on. 116 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,520 Speaker 1: But I would say now I've I've come to terms 117 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:13,200 Speaker 1: with the fact that I'm an arm chair quarterback. I 118 00:06:13,880 --> 00:06:17,440 Speaker 1: watched you criticize the coaches and throw stuff at the 119 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 1: TV and say they should have any better choices and 120 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,160 Speaker 1: all that stuff. But at the end of the day, 121 00:06:22,320 --> 00:06:27,880 Speaker 1: I'm just a fan like everybody else. What keeps you motivated? Um? Well, 122 00:06:28,040 --> 00:06:30,800 Speaker 1: I have a lot of self motivation. UM. I think 123 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: you know, striving to be successful is an important thing 124 00:06:34,720 --> 00:06:37,840 Speaker 1: for me, and to get better every day. Like I mentioned, Um, 125 00:06:37,880 --> 00:06:39,839 Speaker 1: but my family does you know? I want to be 126 00:06:39,880 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 1: able to provide for them so they don't have to struggle. 127 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: I've been very fortunate, but you know, along the ways 128 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:48,359 Speaker 1: there are high highs and low lows in the entertainment industry. 129 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 1: And if I can prevent anybody in my life, not 130 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:55,080 Speaker 1: just my family, but groups and bands and artists that 131 00:06:55,160 --> 00:06:57,640 Speaker 1: I mentor or just people along the way that I 132 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,440 Speaker 1: meet in life, if I can um prevent them from 133 00:07:00,520 --> 00:07:03,320 Speaker 1: having some of those low lows. Uh, that's very very 134 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:08,000 Speaker 1: motivating for me in life. So that was eleven questions 135 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:10,080 Speaker 1: and now we're going to get right into some of 136 00:07:10,120 --> 00:07:23,280 Speaker 1: your phone calls. Hi Meggan, are you there? Hi? Hi? 137 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:26,520 Speaker 1: How are you? I'm good? How are you? Wow? Such 138 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 1: a clear, clean sound coming from your computer. Oh, thank you, 139 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:36,120 Speaker 1: I am using my earbuds. Oh nice, nice, Nice to 140 00:07:36,160 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: meet you too. So do you have a question for 141 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 1: me or anything you want to talk about. I do 142 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,360 Speaker 1: have a question for you. Okay, here's the deal. A 143 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:47,360 Speaker 1: guy asked me on a date, and then on the 144 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,720 Speaker 1: day of the day, I didn't hear from him. So 145 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:52,200 Speaker 1: I reached out to him like two hours before to 146 00:07:52,240 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 1: make sure we were on and he bales and says 147 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,480 Speaker 1: he has to go to his friend's mother's birthday dinner. 148 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: So that seems kind of like a cop out. But whatever, 149 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 1: indeed does seem like a cop out, I don't think that, 150 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 1: you know, I think that obviously you want to follow 151 00:08:08,800 --> 00:08:10,320 Speaker 1: up to make sure that the data is still on 152 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,160 Speaker 1: and all that good stuff, and and sometimes that kind 153 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:15,360 Speaker 1: of stuff can be awkward. But the fact that he 154 00:08:15,400 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 1: canceled if it was a different excuse, for example, if 155 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:21,200 Speaker 1: he had kids or it was his own mother, but 156 00:08:21,280 --> 00:08:25,200 Speaker 1: it was his friend's mother's birthday, and you know, and 157 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:27,880 Speaker 1: you reached out to him two hours beforehand instead of 158 00:08:27,960 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: him reaching out to you to kind of let him know, 159 00:08:30,480 --> 00:08:33,200 Speaker 1: it sounds like he bailed time to move on. Okay, 160 00:08:33,200 --> 00:08:35,600 Speaker 1: But see, now here's my follow up though, he just 161 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:38,520 Speaker 1: asked me out on another day, So like, do I 162 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:43,599 Speaker 1: give him another try or am I? Like? Nah? I 163 00:08:43,679 --> 00:08:47,760 Speaker 1: think maybe a conversation would be had about why he canceled. 164 00:08:47,960 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: Kind of feel out the vibe on the phone, right yeah, 165 00:08:52,520 --> 00:08:54,760 Speaker 1: time call, which you can really kind of tell cues 166 00:08:54,840 --> 00:09:00,439 Speaker 1: with people's visuals right lying in the queues there, um, 167 00:09:00,480 --> 00:09:04,480 Speaker 1: with the spatial expressions and all that, and maybe saying hey, 168 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:07,280 Speaker 1: I totally forgot, I'm so sorry. I want to make 169 00:09:07,320 --> 00:09:10,080 Speaker 1: it up to you, or he says, well, uh, and 170 00:09:10,120 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: he if he does that, obviously a second date, well, 171 00:09:13,880 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: a first second date isn't an effect. I don't think. Okay, 172 00:09:17,240 --> 00:09:20,720 Speaker 1: I think that's a good plan. I like that. Thank you. 173 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: I'm not a relationship expert, but you know, no, but 174 00:09:24,160 --> 00:09:26,040 Speaker 1: that's helpful because I just couldn't even tell, like I 175 00:09:26,080 --> 00:09:27,640 Speaker 1: was like, I don't even know how to I don't 176 00:09:27,640 --> 00:09:29,800 Speaker 1: know how to perceive with this, like what's your deal? 177 00:09:30,080 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 1: So that's great. You got to feel the vibe out 178 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:37,680 Speaker 1: on all this stuff for sure. Thank you. Bye bye, 179 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:41,679 Speaker 1: Hey Simona, how are you? I'm good? How are you? 180 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:44,360 Speaker 1: I'm good. I'm enjoying this. Uh, this Q and A 181 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 1: that I'm doing with people that are calling it about 182 00:09:46,600 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: relationship advice. The worst guy in the planet to give advice, 183 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:52,440 Speaker 1: but I'll do my best. What kind of questions do 184 00:09:52,480 --> 00:09:56,960 Speaker 1: you have for me today. Well, okay, so my question is, 185 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:00,200 Speaker 1: I'm so, I'm a divorced mom of two kids and 186 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 1: dating kind of sucks right now. Um, I'll have a 187 00:10:04,240 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: great date, and then as soon as my date hears 188 00:10:06,480 --> 00:10:10,360 Speaker 1: about my kids, it doesn't go further. Um. So my 189 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:13,960 Speaker 1: question is how far into dating someone should I bring 190 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:16,440 Speaker 1: up my kids? Is there a way to do that 191 00:10:16,440 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 1: that won't scare them off? Well? Look, I mean anybody 192 00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: that you want to be with long term, it depends 193 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,000 Speaker 1: on whether you're looking for a long term relationship or 194 00:10:24,040 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: you just out there looking to have fun. Right. If 195 00:10:26,160 --> 00:10:28,480 Speaker 1: you're out there looking to have fun, you can mention 196 00:10:28,520 --> 00:10:32,600 Speaker 1: them later, mention your kids later on in your dating process. 197 00:10:32,640 --> 00:10:35,360 Speaker 1: But I think if you're serious about settling down with somebody, 198 00:10:35,640 --> 00:10:38,000 Speaker 1: finding the one, I think you got to mention your 199 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,760 Speaker 1: kids right away. I mean, with with me, I always 200 00:10:41,000 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 1: talked about my kids right away, and if that was 201 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:46,320 Speaker 1: an issue, then that was an automatical, automatic X out 202 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 1: for for me. With uh with that, because you know, 203 00:10:49,559 --> 00:10:52,319 Speaker 1: obviously my children are the most important thing to me 204 00:10:52,360 --> 00:10:55,160 Speaker 1: in my entire life. So if someone is kind of, 205 00:10:55,240 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: you know, getting scared or afraid of you because you 206 00:10:58,520 --> 00:11:01,000 Speaker 1: have kids, I mean I say run for the hills. 207 00:11:01,040 --> 00:11:03,840 Speaker 1: But like I said in the beginning of the conversation, 208 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: if you're just going to have fun and it's not 209 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:08,199 Speaker 1: going to be a long term thing, then it might 210 00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: not necessarily be a topic of conversation. Okay, all right, 211 00:11:12,840 --> 00:11:18,600 Speaker 1: thank you, thanks Semona. Hi, Kate, how are you? Hey? Good? 212 00:11:18,600 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 1: How are you nice? To be connected with you over 213 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:27,240 Speaker 1: zoom you too, It's really nice to connect. Um. I 214 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:30,160 Speaker 1: guess I could use some advice. Okay, Well, I'll do 215 00:11:30,240 --> 00:11:32,760 Speaker 1: my best to give you some advice. I'm not I'm 216 00:11:32,800 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 1: not I'm not a doctor and expert, but I'll try 217 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:39,839 Speaker 1: my best from life experience to help you out. Okay, Um, well, 218 00:11:39,880 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 1: here's my scenario. I went on a date, a first 219 00:11:42,320 --> 00:11:44,720 Speaker 1: date with a guy the other day. I met him 220 00:11:44,920 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: on just like a dating app and it was a 221 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: it was a great date. But he drank a lot 222 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:57,400 Speaker 1: about the date, like a lot, A lot, And what's 223 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,200 Speaker 1: a lot coming from a drinker? A lot to mean, 224 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 1: you know, how much? Was a lot? He had two 225 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:10,600 Speaker 1: drinks before the appetizer got there, three before dinner was over, 226 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:14,120 Speaker 1: and two more before the check came, so like seven 227 00:12:14,200 --> 00:12:16,920 Speaker 1: drinks and I had to the whole time, so we're 228 00:12:17,000 --> 00:12:23,319 Speaker 1: under twelve. No, did he was he? Was he drinking 229 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:27,160 Speaker 1: it like he was needed to drink the booze to 230 00:12:27,240 --> 00:12:30,319 Speaker 1: get through the night. Or was he drinking because he 231 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 1: was trying to be social? How was his behavior as 232 00:12:33,320 --> 00:12:35,560 Speaker 1: he drank? I mean, there's so many lays I need 233 00:12:35,600 --> 00:12:38,840 Speaker 1: to know about this fellow drinking guy that I need to. 234 00:12:38,920 --> 00:12:41,040 Speaker 1: I don't want to. I don't want to disparage the 235 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:44,240 Speaker 1: guy or or kind of lead you in the wrong direction. 236 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 1: If he's a nice guy, maybe he was nervous. You 237 00:12:46,240 --> 00:12:49,000 Speaker 1: know a lot of times us guys are nervous around 238 00:12:49,040 --> 00:12:53,280 Speaker 1: beautiful women like yourself, and you know, afraid that especially 239 00:12:53,400 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: if he's been on the dating scene for a while, 240 00:12:55,559 --> 00:12:58,800 Speaker 1: maybe not had that much success like most people don't 241 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 1: um And so that was a way for him to 242 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:04,240 Speaker 1: calm his nerves. But if he's drinking, is almost he 243 00:13:04,360 --> 00:13:06,400 Speaker 1: has a problem, and the guy's getting sloppy and he's 244 00:13:06,400 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: fallen all over the place. I mean that's probably self explanatory, right, yeah. 245 00:13:11,640 --> 00:13:14,000 Speaker 1: I mean that's the thing that he wasn't mesty, he 246 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:17,280 Speaker 1: wasn't slurring, He was totally fine, Like he needed it 247 00:13:17,320 --> 00:13:20,840 Speaker 1: to like self regulate his his nerves or something because 248 00:13:21,200 --> 00:13:24,120 Speaker 1: he wasn't drunk, which is also amazing, Like, what kind 249 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:26,280 Speaker 1: of metabolism does he have that he can drink that 250 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:30,120 Speaker 1: much and be fine. He's a pro. Where's this guy lit? 251 00:13:30,720 --> 00:13:33,800 Speaker 1: Because that's what what Midwestern people like myself, Dude, there's 252 00:13:33,840 --> 00:13:37,040 Speaker 1: nothing to do except for drink um and and talk 253 00:13:37,120 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: about sports. But no, look, I mean, certainly that's a 254 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 1: lot of drinks to having at night. And if he 255 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:45,080 Speaker 1: was getting sloppy, or he was embarrassing himself or you 256 00:13:45,160 --> 00:13:48,200 Speaker 1: in the process, you know, obviously you know, there's probably 257 00:13:48,200 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 1: not a call for a second date there. But if 258 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:52,840 Speaker 1: the guy was just getting through the night and it 259 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:55,920 Speaker 1: was your first was at your first date with the guy, Yes, 260 00:13:56,080 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 1: it was our first time meeting. I'm pretty laxed with 261 00:13:59,840 --> 00:14:01,959 Speaker 1: that stuff. I'd say give the guy a pass, give 262 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 1: him a second date. If the guy is sitting on 263 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:07,360 Speaker 1: a Tuesday afternoon and he doesn't have a job and 264 00:14:07,360 --> 00:14:11,960 Speaker 1: he's smashing you know, bush leg draft or you know, 265 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:17,200 Speaker 1: or or bottle jack, I would start to get worried then, 266 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 1: but I think, you know, maybe give him a second 267 00:14:19,800 --> 00:14:22,800 Speaker 1: shot and see if he kind of slows it down 268 00:14:22,840 --> 00:14:24,840 Speaker 1: the second time around. Or maybe that's just part of 269 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:28,080 Speaker 1: the guy's personality. But you know, it's something to watch, 270 00:14:28,120 --> 00:14:30,320 Speaker 1: but not something to be concerned with on the first date. 271 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 1: Just my opinion. Okay, cool, I'll take that and I'll 272 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 1: definitely give him another shot. And you know, I don't know, 273 00:14:40,080 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 1: maybe I'll call and give you an update again. I 274 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:43,840 Speaker 1: would love it. Right now. I need to know, so 275 00:14:45,040 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 1: send me a note. I want to find out how 276 00:14:46,960 --> 00:14:50,200 Speaker 1: it goes. Alrighty, we'll do Thank you so much. I 277 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 1: appreciate it. Appreciate it alright, by bye bye. Hi, Susan, 278 00:14:55,360 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 1: how are you? Hi? I'm great, how are you. I'm 279 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:00,440 Speaker 1: doing great. I'm having a lot of fun on with this, 280 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 1: uh this podcast. It's pretty cool, wonderful. So, um, I'm 281 00:15:06,200 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 1: dating this guy who he's a great guy. He has 282 00:15:11,440 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: two kids and I have three kids, and we're getting 283 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:20,120 Speaker 1: pretty serious and I'm thinking it's time that the kids 284 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:24,240 Speaker 1: met each other. So I'm just wondering, you know, like 285 00:15:24,880 --> 00:15:27,040 Speaker 1: what's a good way to introduce them and is there 286 00:15:27,040 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 1: anything I need to be careful of to ensure it 287 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 1: goes well? Like I'm just I'm a little nervous about 288 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:34,600 Speaker 1: the whole thing, you know, because so far it's been 289 00:15:34,720 --> 00:15:37,160 Speaker 1: me and him. It sounds like a great question. And 290 00:15:37,160 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: and look, I've been through this, so I can speak 291 00:15:39,240 --> 00:15:42,240 Speaker 1: to what what worked for me doesn't necessarily mean it 292 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:45,560 Speaker 1: works for everybody. Um, but I actually, have you ever 293 00:15:45,600 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: seen how First of all, how long have you been 294 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:51,520 Speaker 1: dating this guy? Like seven and a half months? That's 295 00:15:51,520 --> 00:15:53,600 Speaker 1: a long time. I mean that's a that's a pretty 296 00:15:53,680 --> 00:15:56,520 Speaker 1: lengthy amount of time. And it probably is time that you, 297 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:59,240 Speaker 1: you know, sort of see how the family members would 298 00:15:59,280 --> 00:16:01,680 Speaker 1: interact in there if you're getting started to get pretty 299 00:16:01,680 --> 00:16:04,640 Speaker 1: serious about it. Um, you know, I think that with 300 00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:08,080 Speaker 1: regards to you know, watching somebody other how the other 301 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:10,960 Speaker 1: person parents? Have you parents their kids? Have you been 302 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:13,240 Speaker 1: able to take a look at how he is with 303 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:21,320 Speaker 1: his kids? Um? Yeah, I mean I haven't, like I 304 00:16:21,360 --> 00:16:26,240 Speaker 1: haven't had a lot of time with them either, you know. Um, 305 00:16:26,280 --> 00:16:28,440 Speaker 1: but he seems like, you know, they seem to kid 306 00:16:28,480 --> 00:16:30,760 Speaker 1: around kind of and like they have a nice They 307 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: seem pretty close. Does he talk with affinity for his kids? 308 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:38,080 Speaker 1: Is that like a lot of the topic of conversation. 309 00:16:38,160 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 1: I know a lot of people, you know, are are 310 00:16:40,600 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 1: scared and shy away from talking about their kids because 311 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 1: they're afraid that this person that they're gonna date doesn't 312 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,320 Speaker 1: like that. But in this case, he's got kids of 313 00:16:49,360 --> 00:16:52,520 Speaker 1: his own, does he does he speak affectionately about his 314 00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:57,000 Speaker 1: own kids? Oh yeah, oh yeah, definitely. Well look, I 315 00:16:57,040 --> 00:16:59,640 Speaker 1: think that's a start, and um, you know, I think 316 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:02,760 Speaker 1: that with me. I saw my wife with her kids, 317 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:05,080 Speaker 1: and I was like, Okay, she's a good mom. She 318 00:17:05,160 --> 00:17:08,400 Speaker 1: takes care of her kids, she handles her business, she 319 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: disciplines them the right way, they have respect for her, 320 00:17:11,160 --> 00:17:14,400 Speaker 1: they're well put together. So that after I saw that, 321 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:17,040 Speaker 1: I thought it would be a good time to introduce 322 00:17:17,080 --> 00:17:19,600 Speaker 1: her to my kids, which was, you know, kind of 323 00:17:19,600 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: a difficult thing because I didn't have the easiest of 324 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:27,080 Speaker 1: of divorce process of the divorce process going on, so 325 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:31,200 Speaker 1: it was I was always very nervous about introducing um 326 00:17:31,480 --> 00:17:34,200 Speaker 1: my kids to other people, which I didn't forever until 327 00:17:34,280 --> 00:17:37,320 Speaker 1: I met my wife and felt comfortable about how she 328 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:41,119 Speaker 1: was with her kids, and they ended up getting along famously. 329 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:44,240 Speaker 1: I mean, uh, And what I was. I travel a lot, 330 00:17:44,359 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: So I was in a certain city that was close 331 00:17:46,880 --> 00:17:49,640 Speaker 1: to them, and and her kids were close to to us, 332 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:51,439 Speaker 1: and really we were just out and about and we 333 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:53,600 Speaker 1: went and did an event and took him to a 334 00:17:53,640 --> 00:17:56,120 Speaker 1: hotel and they all kind of had a good time, 335 00:17:56,160 --> 00:17:58,359 Speaker 1: went swimming and all that stuff. And then you know 336 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:01,919 Speaker 1: that the rest after that was always positive. So they 337 00:18:01,960 --> 00:18:04,480 Speaker 1: all got along. You know, they fought a little bit 338 00:18:04,560 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 1: like any uh, you know family would do. But um, 339 00:18:08,400 --> 00:18:12,600 Speaker 1: you know it, are any of them still in the 340 00:18:12,680 --> 00:18:16,280 Speaker 1: house or three of them are gone? Three of them 341 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:19,080 Speaker 1: are off to school and doing other things and graduated, 342 00:18:19,600 --> 00:18:21,760 Speaker 1: you know, and then we have two left here. So 343 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:25,440 Speaker 1: my my youngest stepson just turned sixteen yesterday. He's still 344 00:18:25,480 --> 00:18:28,360 Speaker 1: here and now he's driving and it's gone to buy 345 00:18:28,359 --> 00:18:30,680 Speaker 1: in a flash. I've known him since he's three years old. 346 00:18:30,840 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 1: And then um uh, my daughter's ten. So those are 347 00:18:34,320 --> 00:18:36,000 Speaker 1: the only two that are left. And then the other 348 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:39,119 Speaker 1: ones are are all growing up now one and almost 349 00:18:39,119 --> 00:18:43,640 Speaker 1: twenty one. So it's been a fun ride. That's so great. 350 00:18:43,680 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 1: So do you have any suggestions on like like a 351 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 1: things like what kind of setting should we be in? 352 00:18:51,680 --> 00:18:53,960 Speaker 1: Do you think for the kids to meet each other? 353 00:18:54,400 --> 00:18:56,000 Speaker 1: I think it might be cool, you know what, just 354 00:18:56,080 --> 00:18:59,280 Speaker 1: do something fun where they can have fun together, like, uh, 355 00:18:59,359 --> 00:19:01,439 Speaker 1: take him to Wet and Wild or go to like 356 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,880 Speaker 1: a theme park or something like that that's a good 357 00:19:03,880 --> 00:19:06,560 Speaker 1: way kids ice. They can hang out with each other, 358 00:19:06,680 --> 00:19:09,879 Speaker 1: they can go run around and and do fun stuff 359 00:19:09,920 --> 00:19:12,320 Speaker 1: together and you know, like kids would do if as 360 00:19:12,320 --> 00:19:14,639 Speaker 1: if they're meeting friends right as opposed to like some 361 00:19:14,760 --> 00:19:17,560 Speaker 1: formal dinner we're like you're sitting across from Yeah, yeah, 362 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:22,199 Speaker 1: I know sister or you know step sisters. So I 363 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:24,640 Speaker 1: think in a fun environment is always a really really 364 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:28,479 Speaker 1: cool way for for young people to break the ice. Okay, 365 00:19:28,560 --> 00:19:31,280 Speaker 1: that's a good idea. I'm thinking maybe even mini golf 366 00:19:31,359 --> 00:19:33,879 Speaker 1: or something like that. Do people's don't great? Yeah, something 367 00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:38,119 Speaker 1: like that bowling mini golf like you know, yeah, I 368 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:39,920 Speaker 1: don't know where you live, but like a small theme 369 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:42,399 Speaker 1: park Disney Went and Wild. Their kids always love to 370 00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: go to the water parks together, that kind of stuff, 371 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:48,760 Speaker 1: don't car Okay, yeah, no, I think that's a good idea, 372 00:19:49,000 --> 00:19:53,080 Speaker 1: good idea. Well, thanks you. I appreciate it, of course, 373 00:19:53,119 --> 00:19:55,879 Speaker 1: thank you so much, because, um now you've given me 374 00:19:56,040 --> 00:19:58,520 Speaker 1: some um you know, now at least I have some ideas. 375 00:19:58,560 --> 00:20:00,480 Speaker 1: Like I before, I was just like I have no, 376 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:03,440 Speaker 1: I can't even I don't know. I've just been nervous, 377 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: you know, Yeah, I completely relate and understand. And UM, 378 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:08,720 Speaker 1: I got your email from the producers, so I'll send 379 00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:11,560 Speaker 1: you the bill. It's only gonna be a hundred for 380 00:20:11,600 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 1: this short call. I'm just just playing anyhow. Nice to 381 00:20:18,119 --> 00:20:20,640 Speaker 1: talk to you and good luck with all that. Thank 382 00:20:20,640 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 1: you so much, Thank you. Bye. Hi, it's up late. 383 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:28,679 Speaker 1: Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you. How are 384 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:32,680 Speaker 1: you today? Oh? I'm good? Are you? I'm doing great? Um? 385 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:36,960 Speaker 1: So um, thank you so much for taking my call. Um. 386 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 1: I'm so. I'm thirty six. My boyfriend is twenty six. Um, 387 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:47,560 Speaker 1: we've been together for a while. Um. Anyways, we've been 388 00:20:47,560 --> 00:20:53,159 Speaker 1: talking a lot about having kids lately and uh. Um, 389 00:20:53,160 --> 00:20:55,960 Speaker 1: so I've kids have always been part of my plan 390 00:20:56,720 --> 00:21:01,119 Speaker 1: and I feel like my biological clock is ticketing. Um, 391 00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:04,280 Speaker 1: and so I really want to get married and start 392 00:21:04,359 --> 00:21:06,800 Speaker 1: trying for kids. But when we started talking about it, 393 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: he thinks that kids are like four years away for 394 00:21:09,119 --> 00:21:12,440 Speaker 1: him at least. But I'm worried that four years might 395 00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:17,120 Speaker 1: be too late for me. Should I Should I stay 396 00:21:17,280 --> 00:21:21,240 Speaker 1: in this and be patient with him? Or like, should 397 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:24,119 Speaker 1: I try and find someone who's more like in the 398 00:21:24,240 --> 00:21:28,000 Speaker 1: line with my timeline? Wow, what a tricky question where 399 00:21:28,040 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: I'd hate to give you the wrong advice on this one. 400 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,000 Speaker 1: But how long? First of all, there's some important factors. 401 00:21:33,000 --> 00:21:34,880 Speaker 1: You said you've been a long together for a long time. 402 00:21:34,920 --> 00:21:38,200 Speaker 1: How long is a long long time? Um? Well it's 403 00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,119 Speaker 1: been like, well, a long time for me is three years. 404 00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:43,239 Speaker 1: The three years He was twenty three and you were 405 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:46,320 Speaker 1: thirty three at the time. Yeah, so three years. It's 406 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:49,160 Speaker 1: kind of a long time. And when you first started dating, 407 00:21:49,240 --> 00:21:51,359 Speaker 1: was this any part of the discussion at all that 408 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:54,120 Speaker 1: you would like to have kids? And obviously he knows 409 00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:56,960 Speaker 1: you're just a little bit older than him. Um, I'm 410 00:21:56,960 --> 00:21:58,480 Speaker 1: sure it's in the back of his mind that you 411 00:21:58,480 --> 00:22:01,280 Speaker 1: would probably want to have kids at some point. Um, 412 00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,040 Speaker 1: did that ever come up in the beginning or all 413 00:22:03,040 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 1: of a sudden, Did you just spring it on him 414 00:22:04,720 --> 00:22:06,080 Speaker 1: that you know what, I think it's time for us 415 00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:09,280 Speaker 1: to have kids. Yeah. No, we definitely have had those 416 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:11,800 Speaker 1: conversations since the beginning. It was you know, I would 417 00:22:11,800 --> 00:22:14,000 Speaker 1: not have gotten with him in the first place if 418 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:17,680 Speaker 1: he hadn't been someone who have said that he wanted kids. Uh, 419 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:21,399 Speaker 1: it's just that, Um, now I'm realizing, Oh no, this 420 00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:26,359 Speaker 1: like age gap, uh might actually be a problem. Well, 421 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: this is something you often hear. I mean, look, I 422 00:22:28,800 --> 00:22:31,280 Speaker 1: mean there are a couple of different other factors. Does 423 00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:34,520 Speaker 1: his career prevent him from being able to put the 424 00:22:34,520 --> 00:22:37,679 Speaker 1: time in it that's necessary to be a father. Is 425 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:40,960 Speaker 1: there anything going on with regards to his his professional 426 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,440 Speaker 1: life that would prevent him. Does he travel a lot? 427 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:47,040 Speaker 1: Or is he a baseball player or rock star? I mean, 428 00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,879 Speaker 1: is there something that that keeps this man, keeps him 429 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:51,720 Speaker 1: on the road all the time that he wouldn't be 430 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:53,480 Speaker 1: able to put the time and necessary to be a 431 00:22:53,520 --> 00:22:57,520 Speaker 1: good dad. Uh No, No, he works a pretty standard 432 00:22:57,560 --> 00:23:01,400 Speaker 1: like nine to six job um in finance. Like he's 433 00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:06,520 Speaker 1: very you know, he's he's got his stuff together. Everything is, 434 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:10,120 Speaker 1: everything's in a good place. I think he just feels like, 435 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 1: you know, he's not really you know, he wants to 436 00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 1: do traveling and stuff like that, and you know he 437 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,160 Speaker 1: feels like there's just a lot that he still wants 438 00:23:19,160 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 1: to do before having kids. Well, look, I mean there 439 00:23:22,560 --> 00:23:24,280 Speaker 1: there are a couple of things. One he has to 440 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,199 Speaker 1: respect that you know, you you're having anxiety about your 441 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:31,360 Speaker 1: biological clock. Although that as we know now, there are 442 00:23:31,400 --> 00:23:35,000 Speaker 1: things you can do with regards to science that enable 443 00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 1: you to carry children and bear them a lot older 444 00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:39,600 Speaker 1: than you used to be able to do back in 445 00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:42,560 Speaker 1: the day that's available, but he also has to respect 446 00:23:42,600 --> 00:23:45,520 Speaker 1: your desire to to do this in a in a 447 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 1: in a natural way. And and so I think, you know, 448 00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:52,280 Speaker 1: three years just my opinion, and all of a sudden, 449 00:23:52,440 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 1: this relationships and I get I get like a d 450 00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,679 Speaker 1: M on Instagram from this guy who is mad at 451 00:23:57,680 --> 00:24:00,119 Speaker 1: me because you broke up with them. Um, no, I 452 00:24:00,119 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: I think that probably time you have that talk with 453 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:05,439 Speaker 1: him and say, hey, look, we've been together three years. 454 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:08,600 Speaker 1: I've invested this time into you. You know me well 455 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:11,359 Speaker 1: enough that this is kind of something that I really 456 00:24:11,359 --> 00:24:14,000 Speaker 1: see on the horizon and want to do before I 457 00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:15,879 Speaker 1: feel like it's too late or I have to go 458 00:24:15,960 --> 00:24:18,240 Speaker 1: through obstacles to make it more difficult for me to 459 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:24,240 Speaker 1: have kids. And I think it's it's definitely worth the conversation. Yeah, yeah, 460 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,119 Speaker 1: I'm I guess I'm worried that you know, if I 461 00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,679 Speaker 1: if for some reason I break up with him, like 462 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:31,000 Speaker 1: that's a no go, then you know, well I just 463 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:33,680 Speaker 1: ruin my chances at all. But I guess we'll we'll 464 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:36,680 Speaker 1: find out. Well, I mean, look, you don't have to 465 00:24:36,720 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: break up with them. But you know, maybe feel it, 466 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:42,439 Speaker 1: feel it out, because sometimes guys will prolong the you know, 467 00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,239 Speaker 1: they'll they'll just kind of there. There might never be 468 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:46,879 Speaker 1: a time, you know what I mean that they'll say 469 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,359 Speaker 1: he wants to have kids and he just enjoys dating you, 470 00:24:49,440 --> 00:24:52,359 Speaker 1: which is perfectly fine. But if you have different life 471 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:55,320 Speaker 1: goals for yourself and and and the way you envision 472 00:24:55,800 --> 00:24:57,720 Speaker 1: you know, being a mother, and that's not going to 473 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:00,200 Speaker 1: play into his plans, and then maybe it is good 474 00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 1: good to cut it short. Yeah, yeah, okay, okay, cool, Well, 475 00:25:06,200 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 1: thank you so much, Thank you appreciated, Bhie, thank you 476 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: made to you. Holdine is the and busy man. Oh 477 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,000 Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Let me let me turn that down. 478 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: The problem by all means, please play our music at 479 00:25:29,600 --> 00:25:32,560 Speaker 1: all times in your house. That's awesome. I had to 480 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:34,959 Speaker 1: go back and it brought back so many memories. I mean, 481 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:38,720 Speaker 1: ninety degrees in rising, it's a classic. I'm loving the 482 00:25:38,760 --> 00:25:42,080 Speaker 1: backdrop with the co posters back there, the Moman ruge, 483 00:25:42,080 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 1: what is that? The aviator? Gladiator? Oh gladiator? Nice, very nice. 484 00:25:47,480 --> 00:25:50,520 Speaker 1: Thanks for taking the time to join me today. Of course. 485 00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:54,240 Speaker 1: Oh here's my cat right on time. She loves boys 486 00:25:54,320 --> 00:26:00,639 Speaker 1: to her name is Pixy. Yes, what a cool name. Hey, Okay, 487 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:04,440 Speaker 1: you can go, let me talk to Jeff. Um, I'm 488 00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:06,240 Speaker 1: so excited to me You've been such a huge fan 489 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: for a long time. Thank you. I'm totally flattered and 490 00:26:09,359 --> 00:26:11,760 Speaker 1: excited to meet you too. I really appreciate it. Yeah, 491 00:26:11,840 --> 00:26:14,479 Speaker 1: of course. Um. So I'm just gonna jump in with 492 00:26:14,520 --> 00:26:18,360 Speaker 1: my question. Um, So, it seems like, you know, back 493 00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,920 Speaker 1: in the day, there was like rivalries among the groups, right, 494 00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:25,800 Speaker 1: but recently, you know, we see guys from different groups 495 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:28,520 Speaker 1: doing things together, right, like the boy Man Christmas specialty 496 00:26:28,520 --> 00:26:31,840 Speaker 1: you were in last year. So aside from maybe just 497 00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:34,840 Speaker 1: being like a little bit older and wiser, what do 498 00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 1: you what do you think has changed to sort of 499 00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:41,240 Speaker 1: encourage those kind of collaborations. Well, here's what's really interesting, Donna, 500 00:26:41,320 --> 00:26:44,200 Speaker 1: because we never really had a rivalry with the other 501 00:26:44,400 --> 00:26:47,440 Speaker 1: other quote unquote boy bands. I know, it's it's contrary 502 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,399 Speaker 1: to popular belief and it's not a it's not a 503 00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:53,600 Speaker 1: great hot button for the media, but we really really 504 00:26:53,600 --> 00:26:55,840 Speaker 1: had a ton of respect for both the Backstreet Boys 505 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:59,479 Speaker 1: groups we were compared to Backstreet Boys and instinct although 506 00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,879 Speaker 1: we were un formulated a little bit differently and that 507 00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:05,600 Speaker 1: we put ourselves together and considered ourselves a vocal group. 508 00:27:05,680 --> 00:27:09,200 Speaker 1: Certainly years later, we're thrilled and honored to be mentioned 509 00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:12,000 Speaker 1: in the same company with those guys and you know, 510 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,320 Speaker 1: experience in the same sort of journey, the high highs 511 00:27:15,359 --> 00:27:17,919 Speaker 1: and low lows that those guys that we had nothing 512 00:27:17,960 --> 00:27:20,160 Speaker 1: but respect for them, they had tons of hits, tons 513 00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,600 Speaker 1: of talent, and we're just great guys to be around 514 00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:26,120 Speaker 1: on the road. I mean, like you had mentioned there, 515 00:27:26,200 --> 00:27:28,359 Speaker 1: there was the boy band Christmas Special, there was this 516 00:27:28,400 --> 00:27:30,960 Speaker 1: thing called back Sync. They had this thing here in 517 00:27:31,040 --> 00:27:33,760 Speaker 1: Vegas called the After Party. I'm part of a company, 518 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:36,080 Speaker 1: a group called A T C K with A J 519 00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,119 Speaker 1: and christ you know. Um, so you know, I I 520 00:27:39,200 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 1: have an affinity and love and appreciation for those guys, 521 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:45,840 Speaker 1: their journey, their work ethic and just what what type 522 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,320 Speaker 1: of great people they are. You know, haven't been in 523 00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:53,439 Speaker 1: the business now for twenty seven years, it's anniversary. You know, 524 00:27:53,600 --> 00:27:56,040 Speaker 1: you don't really come across people that are really true 525 00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:59,560 Speaker 1: and genuine and and great folks to be around. And 526 00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:01,639 Speaker 1: to be honest, it sounds like I can't answer, but 527 00:28:01,720 --> 00:28:05,280 Speaker 1: those guys are all fantastic dudes. Okay, And because I 528 00:28:05,320 --> 00:28:07,399 Speaker 1: just saw Backstreet in Vegas two weeks ago, and now 529 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:10,960 Speaker 1: I have to ask when are we going to see nine? Well, look, yeah, 530 00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:13,720 Speaker 1: as I mentioned, it's our twenty fifth anniversary. Thanks for 531 00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:16,600 Speaker 1: asking the question. Um, we're thrilled and excited that so 532 00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:18,800 Speaker 1: many people are coming out to see us. I mean 533 00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,600 Speaker 1: we've we've been you know, back since two thousand and 534 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 1: thirteen when we toured with Boys the Men and New Kids, 535 00:28:24,080 --> 00:28:26,479 Speaker 1: and since then, I've had multiple tours. The fans are 536 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:29,199 Speaker 1: always there for us. We're gonna be recording some stuff 537 00:28:29,280 --> 00:28:32,600 Speaker 1: last week of I want to say May, uh, first 538 00:28:32,600 --> 00:28:35,120 Speaker 1: week of May, we're recording some new material, and then 539 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:37,400 Speaker 1: we're gonna be back on the road end of August, 540 00:28:37,600 --> 00:28:40,480 Speaker 1: probably into September, and then go through the holiday season. 541 00:28:40,680 --> 00:28:42,800 Speaker 1: I don't know that we'll probably do a holiday tour 542 00:28:42,840 --> 00:28:45,360 Speaker 1: like we've done in the past, but we will definitely 543 00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 1: be on the road, you know, going out there and 544 00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: uh hitting the pavement, doing some shows for our fans. 545 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:53,840 Speaker 1: Were super excited about it. That's awesome. I'm super excited. 546 00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:55,680 Speaker 1: And I just have to say this gift is one 547 00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:58,040 Speaker 1: of my favorite Christmas songs. Thank you. I mean you 548 00:28:58,160 --> 00:29:00,840 Speaker 1: look the Christmas album I'm proud of all the material 549 00:29:00,960 --> 00:29:03,520 Speaker 1: and feel blessed and fortunate and lucky to be a 550 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:05,360 Speaker 1: part of any of it. But I think that the 551 00:29:05,480 --> 00:29:08,320 Speaker 1: Christmas music for us, because we're a true court quartet. 552 00:29:08,880 --> 00:29:11,080 Speaker 1: I think the fact that we can, you know, arrange 553 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,600 Speaker 1: all the harmonies and the vocal stacks that we like 554 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:16,520 Speaker 1: to do. We I feel like the Christmas music is 555 00:29:16,520 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 1: our best stuff. So I appreciate the compliment. Every year 556 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:21,400 Speaker 1: I have to listen to it, I find it and 557 00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:25,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I love this song and totally superficially 558 00:29:25,880 --> 00:29:28,560 Speaker 1: you're a tiny box, but you look fabulous. I thank you, 559 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: very appreciate. I'm trying to keep up with the young bucks. 560 00:29:32,120 --> 00:29:35,040 Speaker 1: You know, I'm about to turn forty nine here in 561 00:29:35,080 --> 00:29:38,080 Speaker 1: a few days, so I'm trying to try to stay 562 00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: young and vibrants so we can, uh, we can still 563 00:29:40,600 --> 00:29:45,640 Speaker 1: compete in our old age are anti created souls. I'm 564 00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:49,240 Speaker 1: right behind you, so don't say old age, please you. 565 00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,680 Speaker 1: And uh, I appreciate your time down and and asking 566 00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 1: me such great questions and the compliments to yeah, no problem. 567 00:29:55,960 --> 00:29:58,120 Speaker 1: It's so great to me, you know, I'm I'm so 568 00:29:58,160 --> 00:30:04,200 Speaker 1: happy to do it. Thank you, Okay, Hey, how are 569 00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:07,960 Speaker 1: you good. How are you I'm doing I'm doing great. Thanks, 570 00:30:08,040 --> 00:30:10,640 Speaker 1: Thanks a lot for hopping on with me. Yeah. So, 571 00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: being in the industry so long, we're all curious to 572 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,920 Speaker 1: know what is the one song you wish she never 573 00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:20,120 Speaker 1: had to sing? Ever again, that's a good one. You know. 574 00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:24,400 Speaker 1: I hate to sound like a corny person, but I 575 00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:27,760 Speaker 1: love all the songs I mean, you know, especially the 576 00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,080 Speaker 1: ones that were hits that you know, people say, oh 577 00:30:30,120 --> 00:30:32,040 Speaker 1: my gosh, I'm so sick of singing I Do or 578 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,959 Speaker 1: Invisible Man or Hardest Thing or whatever the hit is 579 00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,720 Speaker 1: or song that we've done. Um, it's actually the opposite. 580 00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,360 Speaker 1: I used to not like singing some of the songs 581 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:43,719 Speaker 1: that we recorded back in the day in concert, like 582 00:30:43,840 --> 00:30:46,760 Speaker 1: Dizzy or the Way You Want Me To, because I 583 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,480 Speaker 1: wanted to sing all the love songs and ballads. But 584 00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 1: now many years later, those are tempo dance songs. Yeah, 585 00:30:55,320 --> 00:30:58,520 Speaker 1: I think that they seem relevant now. So it's the opposite. 586 00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:01,840 Speaker 1: I actually like singing more songs then the ones I 587 00:31:01,880 --> 00:31:04,920 Speaker 1: don't like. I mean, you know, I wish I had 588 00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:06,960 Speaker 1: a different answer and said, oh man, I hate singing 589 00:31:07,000 --> 00:31:10,200 Speaker 1: because of you, but I get it. Joked out of 590 00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:12,880 Speaker 1: it out of it every time because the crowd responds 591 00:31:12,960 --> 00:31:15,240 Speaker 1: differently every time. And you know, look at this point 592 00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,480 Speaker 1: you mentioned many years, many years later, for anybody to 593 00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:20,520 Speaker 1: know any of the lyrics to any of our songs 594 00:31:20,560 --> 00:31:24,720 Speaker 1: and back to us. I'm thrilled. That's awesome. My first 595 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:26,800 Speaker 1: concert was actually one of the All That tours of 596 00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:30,640 Speaker 1: ninety eight degrees, so I'll never forget. Well, thanks, We're 597 00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:32,520 Speaker 1: we're part of the world. Are you in? Where was 598 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,600 Speaker 1: that at UM in southern California? It was like before 599 00:31:35,640 --> 00:31:38,600 Speaker 1: they tore down the Universal Amphitheater. Yeah, that's right, So 600 00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 1: that was And so you got Monica and the Keenan 601 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:48,480 Speaker 1: and kel and n that's fun. Well, I appreciate that. Geez, 602 00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 1: that's awesome. Thank you. Yeah, so glad you guys have 603 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:54,000 Speaker 1: all success witching many years ahead. Thank you guys for 604 00:31:54,040 --> 00:31:57,520 Speaker 1: having such great anthems. Oh, I appreciate it, and I 605 00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:00,600 Speaker 1: love the love. And thanks Joyce. I appreciate they appreciate 606 00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:05,040 Speaker 1: the support seriously, Thanks Joyce, what great calls. We're gonna 607 00:32:05,040 --> 00:32:06,880 Speaker 1: take a little break and we're gonna get right into 608 00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:19,240 Speaker 1: the Q and A. So the question, the first question 609 00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:23,160 Speaker 1: is how did I meet my beautiful wife, Amanda. It 610 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,080 Speaker 1: was very interesting. So a friend of mine, Jordan's Knights, 611 00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:28,120 Speaker 1: who is a member of New Kids on the Block. 612 00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:30,360 Speaker 1: He and I had been touring for a couple of 613 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:33,200 Speaker 1: years together as solo artists and having a lot of fun, 614 00:32:33,320 --> 00:32:34,600 Speaker 1: and he asked me to be a part of this 615 00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,560 Speaker 1: thing that he had called he was doing called Jordan's Idol, 616 00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,280 Speaker 1: and jordan Idol was essentially a basically a version of 617 00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:42,880 Speaker 1: his version of American Idol would where fans would come 618 00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:45,440 Speaker 1: out and they would sing covers and then a winner 619 00:32:45,480 --> 00:32:48,360 Speaker 1: of the contest would get to record with Jordan's and 620 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:51,040 Speaker 1: Jordan wanted me to be a judge. Well, I was 621 00:32:51,120 --> 00:32:54,200 Speaker 1: really busy with my kids. I was going through going 622 00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,920 Speaker 1: through a divorce and only had limited amounts of times 623 00:32:57,240 --> 00:32:59,280 Speaker 1: time to spend with my kids. And at that time 624 00:32:59,320 --> 00:33:01,320 Speaker 1: I was like, look, I get I have visitation with 625 00:33:01,320 --> 00:33:04,160 Speaker 1: my kids. I can't make it. So Jordan was like, look, 626 00:33:04,200 --> 00:33:06,920 Speaker 1: you have to be here, please bro do it. So 627 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,360 Speaker 1: I drove to l a um from Orange County and 628 00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:14,480 Speaker 1: and um, you know, reluctantly went and uh and then 629 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:18,000 Speaker 1: judge this contest and my wife was there, my future 630 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:20,120 Speaker 1: wife was there at a v I P table, and 631 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:22,400 Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna be really, really cool, and 632 00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:24,840 Speaker 1: I sauntered up to her like she was gonna know 633 00:33:24,880 --> 00:33:28,040 Speaker 1: who I was, and said, hey, you must be one 634 00:33:28,040 --> 00:33:30,720 Speaker 1: of Jordan's younger fans. And she was like, no, I'm 635 00:33:30,760 --> 00:33:32,920 Speaker 1: in my thirties. You know you're by the way, you're 636 00:33:32,920 --> 00:33:34,760 Speaker 1: sitting at my table, and she kind of dismissed me, 637 00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,080 Speaker 1: which I was kind of like taking her back, and 638 00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:38,800 Speaker 1: it was definitely a bruise to my ego. But I 639 00:33:38,840 --> 00:33:41,720 Speaker 1: was like, hey, you know, what's your name? And she 640 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:43,880 Speaker 1: told me her name was Amanda, and she really kind 641 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,080 Speaker 1: of ignored me, and then her friend said, don't you 642 00:33:46,080 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 1: know who this guy is. It's a guy from ninety degrees. 643 00:33:48,520 --> 00:33:51,280 Speaker 1: So her exact words were, what do you want a cookie? 644 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:55,080 Speaker 1: So I was like, I walked my butt back to 645 00:33:55,160 --> 00:33:58,360 Speaker 1: my own judgment judge chair and spent the rest of 646 00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,640 Speaker 1: the night doing the doing the thing in the contest 647 00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,640 Speaker 1: and all that. But on my way out she denies this, 648 00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,480 Speaker 1: but she followed me. On my way out, I was 649 00:34:06,520 --> 00:34:09,080 Speaker 1: going home to be with my kids and do their 650 00:34:09,120 --> 00:34:11,160 Speaker 1: homework with them, and she said, hey, where are you going. 651 00:34:11,360 --> 00:34:12,799 Speaker 1: I said, well, I gotta go home and be with 652 00:34:12,840 --> 00:34:14,319 Speaker 1: my kids. And by the way, you didn't know who 653 00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 1: I was earlier. And then um, we didn't exchange numbers 654 00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:20,920 Speaker 1: at the time, but we exchanged Twitter handles, and so 655 00:34:21,120 --> 00:34:23,479 Speaker 1: I immediately d M her and was trying to chat 656 00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:26,320 Speaker 1: her up, and I slid into the d M s 657 00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,560 Speaker 1: and all that stuff. And then eventually I just started 658 00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:32,719 Speaker 1: seeing her uh now and again on the road. It 659 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:36,399 Speaker 1: wasn't anything seriously I was taking seriously. I never really 660 00:34:36,440 --> 00:34:39,440 Speaker 1: wanted to get married again. I was kind of disenchanted, 661 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,960 Speaker 1: disenchanted with relationships. But she was sweet, She really had 662 00:34:43,960 --> 00:34:47,239 Speaker 1: her stuff together. She was a good mom, she was impressive, 663 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:49,960 Speaker 1: she didn't rely on me to do everything for her, 664 00:34:50,600 --> 00:34:52,560 Speaker 1: and she was just there for me at a very 665 00:34:52,640 --> 00:34:55,560 Speaker 1: rough time in my life. So um ended up being 666 00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:58,800 Speaker 1: a blessing in disguise that I went to the jordanal 667 00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:03,840 Speaker 1: event and she changed my life. The other question is 668 00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,680 Speaker 1: how did I know I was ready to marry? Well, 669 00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,120 Speaker 1: you know, look, I again, I didn't think I was 670 00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,560 Speaker 1: ever going to get married again. I obviously I love 671 00:35:12,600 --> 00:35:16,040 Speaker 1: women and and dating is okay, and and you know, 672 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,359 Speaker 1: sort of wanted to focus on being a father. But 673 00:35:18,760 --> 00:35:21,920 Speaker 1: this person came into my life and completely changed it 674 00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:25,640 Speaker 1: around for the better, almost effective immediately. And you know, 675 00:35:25,920 --> 00:35:27,960 Speaker 1: I sat there and it kind of was like a 676 00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:31,800 Speaker 1: revelation to me. I was visiting her in uh in 677 00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:34,120 Speaker 1: l A. She was doing something, she was in the 678 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,360 Speaker 1: medical field, doing something, and I visited her at a 679 00:35:37,440 --> 00:35:40,960 Speaker 1: restaurant at her hotel, and I thought, wow, you know, um, 680 00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,640 Speaker 1: this one might be the one. I remember, you know, 681 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:47,920 Speaker 1: going home after hanging out with her and telling my parents, Man, 682 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:49,520 Speaker 1: I think this is gonna be the person that I 683 00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,399 Speaker 1: end up you know, having a long term relationship with. 684 00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:57,640 Speaker 1: And you know, eventually, very shortly thereafter, Um, we got married. 685 00:35:57,719 --> 00:35:59,399 Speaker 1: We kind of just fell in love with each other 686 00:36:00,040 --> 00:36:03,279 Speaker 1: and life got better with with both of us in 687 00:36:03,320 --> 00:36:07,000 Speaker 1: each other's lives, and um, the rest is history totally 688 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:09,600 Speaker 1: changed my life around, all right. So the question is 689 00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:11,959 Speaker 1: do men have a one track mind? Can they listen 690 00:36:12,000 --> 00:36:14,640 Speaker 1: to women when they're also doing something else? Now, this 691 00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:17,080 Speaker 1: is something you want to talk about pet peeves. We 692 00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:19,960 Speaker 1: talked about pet peeves earlier, um, and one of the 693 00:36:20,040 --> 00:36:23,880 Speaker 1: questions was my pet peeve, mine's lazy people? Well, probably 694 00:36:23,920 --> 00:36:26,640 Speaker 1: my wife Amanda's pet peeve is the fact that I 695 00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,920 Speaker 1: cannot do more than one thing at a time. If 696 00:36:29,920 --> 00:36:33,480 Speaker 1: I'm crafting an email in my phone, I am literally 697 00:36:33,560 --> 00:36:35,879 Speaker 1: hearing the words as I'm typing them, and she could 698 00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,640 Speaker 1: be saying, well, you need to take the trash out 699 00:36:38,760 --> 00:36:41,399 Speaker 1: or the pool guys gonna come, and I cannot hear 700 00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:47,160 Speaker 1: anything else. So one track mind, it's kind of a rough, 701 00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:50,280 Speaker 1: rough sort of term for that. I would say focus. 702 00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:53,239 Speaker 1: I would say I'm focused on one thing, and I 703 00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:56,040 Speaker 1: don't speak for all men. There are other guys that multitasks, 704 00:36:56,080 --> 00:36:59,319 Speaker 1: can talk texts and you know, do all kinds of things. 705 00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:02,200 Speaker 1: I have to be focused on whatever it is, and 706 00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:04,879 Speaker 1: it doesn't necessarily have to do with being a man. 707 00:37:05,000 --> 00:37:06,960 Speaker 1: It could be that I have like a d D 708 00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:09,080 Speaker 1: and I have to like focus on that because if 709 00:37:09,120 --> 00:37:11,479 Speaker 1: I start to focus on a bunch of other things 710 00:37:11,520 --> 00:37:13,840 Speaker 1: that I can't pay attention. But in this case, I 711 00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,959 Speaker 1: would say most men do have a one track mine. 712 00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:21,640 Speaker 1: It's been wonderful spending time with you, great calls, great 713 00:37:21,719 --> 00:37:24,560 Speaker 1: Q and A. I loved, you know, spending some time 714 00:37:24,560 --> 00:37:27,719 Speaker 1: with everybody, and love the fact that twenty five years later, 715 00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:31,520 Speaker 1: degree still has fans out there, and it's been a 716 00:37:31,520 --> 00:37:34,319 Speaker 1: pleasure and honor for me to spend so much time 717 00:37:34,360 --> 00:37:36,560 Speaker 1: with you, you probably learned a little bit too much. 718 00:37:36,640 --> 00:37:38,600 Speaker 1: But one last thing I want to talk about is 719 00:37:38,680 --> 00:37:40,799 Speaker 1: nine Degrees is gonna be on the road recording some 720 00:37:40,840 --> 00:37:43,120 Speaker 1: new music. I have a new song out right now 721 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:47,240 Speaker 1: called Lit featuring Pompeii, debut number one on the iTunes 722 00:37:47,320 --> 00:37:49,719 Speaker 1: Dance chart. I'm very, very proud of it. It's been 723 00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:53,959 Speaker 1: a blast hanging out here on How Men Think. Thanks 724 00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:56,399 Speaker 1: for having me, We'll see you soon. This is How 725 00:37:56,440 --> 00:38:00,720 Speaker 1: Men Think and I Heart Radio London Audio Production. Listen 726 00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,520 Speaker 1: each Thursday on the iHeart Radio app, Apple podcast or 727 00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:06,120 Speaker 1: wherever you get your podcasts.