WEBVTT - Adult Education: No Limits Q&A 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.359 Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast. 0:00:06.680 --> 0:00:11.319 This week's Adult Education, we are having a redo on 0:00:12.160 --> 0:00:15.800 Q and A because well, A, we don't have a guest, 0:00:16.160 --> 0:00:18.079 and so we thought it would be fun to do 0:00:18.120 --> 0:00:20.200 a redo of Q and A because the last time 0:00:20.239 --> 0:00:24.320 Alan was a little not in truth. Now, you weren't 0:00:25.000 --> 0:00:28.120 loving the questions true or false? 0:00:28.560 --> 0:00:31.760 Yeah, for different reasons. I mean, someone are about soft 0:00:31.800 --> 0:00:34.400 and fluffy, aren't they? And then some of them were 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:38.960 just you should appreciate my hair, young lady, you're married 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:41.000 the bowl geier about how long. 0:00:43.880 --> 0:00:44.479 Some of them were. 0:00:44.800 --> 0:00:47.240 Some of them were about soft and fluffy, and others 0:00:47.240 --> 0:00:49.960 were just a little bit strangely. 0:00:49.720 --> 0:00:50.879 Do you go through counseling? 0:00:51.920 --> 0:00:54.760 That's a normal question. Okay, So here we go, Hannah, 0:00:54.760 --> 0:00:57.080 Hannah enerjecked my love Alan. 0:00:57.440 --> 0:00:59.680 I went to the followers and I was like, listen, 0:01:00.080 --> 0:01:03.080 Alan wants the intrusive questions, and they delivered. 0:01:04.319 --> 0:01:06.920 You're ready, they did, so I hope you're ready. 0:01:06.959 --> 0:01:12.080 The jan the jan at there jamites little fans. 0:01:15.680 --> 0:01:18.360 Okay, Hannah, do you want to ask us the questions? 0:01:18.959 --> 0:01:22.279 We'll start easy, we'll start using Okay, Abigail is asking 0:01:22.440 --> 0:01:25.560 is another baby still on the table for you, guys. 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:33.280 No, why was that so definitive? 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.959 Because we've we've discussed the reality of it and actual 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:42.600 there's the there's a thought of it and how great 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:45.160 it would be, and then the reality of it, which. 0:01:44.920 --> 0:01:47.720 Is what's the reality how great it would be? 0:01:49.720 --> 0:01:53.280 The reality is you're pregnant for nine months, which is 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:55.480 tough for you. 0:01:57.200 --> 0:01:58.840 I feel like when you say that, you make it 0:01:58.880 --> 0:01:59.560 about you. 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.640 Because I know you went through it was it was 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:06.160 you were so brave and strong, but it was really 0:02:06.400 --> 0:02:08.520 tough for you. There was a lot of anxiety around 0:02:08.560 --> 0:02:10.960 it because of things that could go wrong. 0:02:11.000 --> 0:02:13.920 And look how great it went. 0:02:14.600 --> 0:02:14.760 MM. 0:02:15.520 --> 0:02:18.760 I think we should be grateful for how great that 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:24.000 one went. I don't think we should maybe in atle. 0:02:23.680 --> 0:02:27.960 Discussion, what's the percentage for you, like if you had 0:02:28.000 --> 0:02:31.079 to percentage it out, what is the percentage for another baby? 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:33.280 Seventy thirty? 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:38.040 Oh, so you're saying there's good. That's like way better 0:02:38.040 --> 0:02:39.079 than I thought you were going to say. I thought 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:40.360 you were going to say like ninety nine to one. 0:02:42.120 --> 0:02:44.399 You know what I would like to do? If I 0:02:44.440 --> 0:02:48.360 truly what I would like to do? Are you ready 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:48.640 for it? 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:51.240 If it's something that you've floated before, and then I'm 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:53.160 pretty play it on my answer to it. 0:02:53.400 --> 0:02:56.720 No, we're not going to do surrogacy. Yeah, I understand, 0:02:58.280 --> 0:03:01.520 I'd like to, but you don't want to. But what 0:03:01.600 --> 0:03:08.359 if we try for three months and if it doesn't happen. 0:03:09.280 --> 0:03:16.720 We tried it, and we tried it, We tried that, 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:21.760 and then okay when we stop if it was it 0:03:21.800 --> 0:03:22.400 wasn't meant to be. 0:03:22.960 --> 0:03:24.519 I don't think we need to try for long. 0:03:25.800 --> 0:03:27.960 Why you just think you have super sperm? 0:03:28.960 --> 0:03:30.799 Yeah? I was. 0:03:31.000 --> 0:03:32.200 I'm fifty to fifty. 0:03:32.480 --> 0:03:33.080 Are you really? 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:39.920 Yeah? Next question, all the discussions all right? 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:42.840 Another easy one. Would you guys ever move to Scotland? 0:03:43.640 --> 0:03:43.800 No? 0:03:44.600 --> 0:03:48.440 Wow, you were so quick? Why why in this area? 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:52.400 Are you quick? In life and everywhere else? It's like 0:03:52.800 --> 0:03:53.680 a sloth. 0:03:54.480 --> 0:03:57.760 Because when something's clear in my mind, they will foist 0:03:57.840 --> 0:04:04.200 that without without having to deliyate. I walk slowly, yes, granted, 0:04:04.560 --> 0:04:07.600 I do things other things slowly because I need to 0:04:07.600 --> 0:04:09.960 think about them so I can come back with solutions 0:04:09.960 --> 0:04:11.080 of proper answers. 0:04:11.120 --> 0:04:13.440 What about the lady that's like five minutes with her 0:04:13.440 --> 0:04:15.960 hand with the coffee out the window, I'm like, Alan, 0:04:16.000 --> 0:04:20.560 please grab the coffee from the Starbucks window and it's 0:04:20.600 --> 0:04:28.240 like this one. 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:30.800 And then she's actually called me a sloth before. 0:04:31.400 --> 0:04:34.120 Yes, I've also videoed one in the zoo and said 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:40.800 he's in his natural habitat. I would love my own. 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:45.720 I would love a condo one day in Scotland. Why 0:04:47.000 --> 0:04:48.800 your parents maybe are getting older. 0:04:50.000 --> 0:04:50.320 M hm. 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:53.520 And maybe we could spend summers out there and then 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:55.960 airbnb it or something like that. 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:58.440 That's totally different from would you live in Scotland. 0:04:58.600 --> 0:05:00.360 That's living in Scotland, not. 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:02.160 That's having a holiday home in Scotland. 0:05:03.920 --> 0:05:06.560 Okay, okay, okay, here's the only here's the only time 0:05:06.600 --> 0:05:07.920 I go back in eleven Scotland. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:10.120 If I got offered the Rangeers job, oh. 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:12.120 Yeah, which we talked about, He's like, listen, if that 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:16.880 opportunity ever gets He's like, we need to move to Scotland. 0:05:17.160 --> 0:05:17.680 I'm coming. 0:05:19.120 --> 0:05:21.039 Well I would need to too, because that would be really 0:05:21.040 --> 0:05:23.120 hard to live eleven months away from each other for 0:05:23.320 --> 0:05:24.000 eleven months. 0:05:24.040 --> 0:05:28.240 Of course, absolutely you would be there, So yes, we 0:05:28.279 --> 0:05:29.760 would live in Scotland, if. 0:05:29.720 --> 0:05:31.320 If, and only if he coaches for the Rangers. 0:05:31.360 --> 0:05:35.039 If I got the Rangelers job, however, a holiday home 0:05:35.080 --> 0:05:38.520 in Scotland then the absolutely one hundred percent. I would 0:05:38.520 --> 0:05:41.480 think about that because it's beautiful. It is in the summer. 0:05:42.760 --> 0:05:47.279 Next question, okay, Alan, what is the first thing you 0:05:47.360 --> 0:05:49.760 noticed about Jianna that made you want to slide into 0:05:49.800 --> 0:05:50.560 her DMS? 0:05:50.800 --> 0:05:53.480 And also when was the first time you googled her? 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:58.760 Good question, don't lie because I still don't think you tell. 0:05:58.640 --> 0:06:01.480 It ignoring that outside noise and trying to focus on 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:03.760 your question. So the question was what was the first 0:06:03.760 --> 0:06:04.960 thing I noticed about her? 0:06:05.279 --> 0:06:07.240 Yeah? What did you? What did you notice about her 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:08.320 that made you slide into her? 0:06:08.400 --> 0:06:15.040 DMS plus smile one hundred percent, always say the same 0:06:15.040 --> 0:06:17.679 thing one million percent. 0:06:19.520 --> 0:06:22.719 The second question was what when was the first time 0:06:22.760 --> 0:06:23.480 you googled her? 0:06:24.880 --> 0:06:27.320 Did you google me before you DMed me or after 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:27.919 you dm me? 0:06:28.160 --> 0:06:28.480 After? 0:06:29.000 --> 0:06:31.720 And when I googled, I didn't do like a a 0:06:31.760 --> 0:06:41.160 Google proper Google search like deep search, so I don't 0:06:41.200 --> 0:06:44.880 know when timeframes after a dmder but I did. I 0:06:44.920 --> 0:06:48.560 did obviously google you, but not didn't dive into like 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:53.560 a deep investigation of your past or who you were interested. 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:55.320 I think I've always said I don't give a shit 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:56.039 about your past. 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.159 I know on our first date, did you did you 0:06:58.160 --> 0:06:59.279 know how many times I was married. 0:07:05.680 --> 0:07:08.160 I think I think i'd probably seen I had Lenya. 0:07:08.600 --> 0:07:09.960 And it didn't bother you. 0:07:10.000 --> 0:07:16.200 No, not, So everyone makes mistakes, mistakes of me. Here's 0:07:16.200 --> 0:07:17.480 my language. 0:07:17.680 --> 0:07:21.160 Next question, Okay, Jenna, you mentioned it was hard for 0:07:21.200 --> 0:07:23.400 you to talk about sex with Mike. Is it different 0:07:23.440 --> 0:07:23.960 with Alan? 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:27.960 He like, it's light years different. I actually have a 0:07:28.040 --> 0:07:30.200 husband that wants to have sex with me and not 0:07:30.320 --> 0:07:32.920 other women. So it is the most refreshing thing in 0:07:32.960 --> 0:07:42.360 the world to feel. To feel wanted, to feel sexy. 0:07:42.440 --> 0:07:45.600 I did. I felt like the most. I felt like 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:49.760 the ugliest, un sexiest woman. In my last marriage, he 0:07:49.840 --> 0:07:52.680 never wanted to have sex with me. He never touched me, 0:07:52.880 --> 0:07:56.920 he never like it. It was like pulling teeth to 0:07:56.920 --> 0:08:00.440 have any sort of affection. This man can not keep 0:08:00.480 --> 0:08:03.560 his hands off of me. He loves having sex with me. 0:08:03.720 --> 0:08:10.200 He makes me feel so beautiful and sexy and wanted, 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:16.800 and it is a it's just a it's completely different experience, 0:08:16.960 --> 0:08:20.240 so much so that I feel like all the things 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.520 that I had felt in my last marriage and the 0:08:22.560 --> 0:08:24.840 things that he would say about me, And how you know, 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:28.240 if I only wore this or if I didn't just 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:30.920 wear t shirts to bed, Like, no matter what I wear, 0:08:30.960 --> 0:08:36.360 you always make me feel sexy. And but for a 0:08:36.440 --> 0:08:40.679 while I didn't feel that way. But spending obviously, and 0:08:40.920 --> 0:08:42.720 you know the things that you say to me, I'm like, no, 0:08:42.800 --> 0:08:50.199 he actually like or things with like you don't make 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:53.080 comments like sometimes I okay, I had in my old 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:56.360 clothing line that bombed Jolie and Jace. I still wear 0:08:56.559 --> 0:09:02.040 just those long sleep shirts because they're so comfortable. They 0:09:02.040 --> 0:09:05.400 were overly priced and that was a bad call, bad distributors, whatever, 0:09:05.480 --> 0:09:10.679 But I still wear those long over what and they're like, 0:09:10.720 --> 0:09:14.400 it's like a granny dress. I could just left off, 0:09:16.960 --> 0:09:20.920 but it's so comfortable, and like, you make me feel 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:21.480 sexy in that? 0:09:22.679 --> 0:09:24.360 Does you look sexy? And Everson. 0:09:26.240 --> 0:09:28.040 And I just have never had that, so it is 0:09:28.360 --> 0:09:31.400 light years different. It's a totally different experience. I actually 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:37.800 have a end within that sexualness of it. We enjoy 0:09:37.880 --> 0:09:40.400 it and it works, if you know what I mean. 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:44.000 It all works. 0:09:49.280 --> 0:09:49.600 All right. 0:09:49.640 --> 0:09:54.599 This leads listen to our next question. No, yeah, but 0:09:54.679 --> 0:09:57.240 it's coming. Who wants to have sex more? 0:10:00.679 --> 0:10:05.319 I disagree. I think we equally equally want to have sex. 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:11.640 Like there's times when I'm more aggressive in the area, 0:10:14.320 --> 0:10:17.000 but mostly yeah, sure you, But I think it's pretty equal. 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:19.280 It's not like I'm just like, oh okay. 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:22.559 Few he wants it again. Yeah, I think there's a 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:24.439 good balance within it. Yeah. Absolutely. 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:42.120 Here's your position question, Alan, what's more intrusive? What's your 0:10:42.160 --> 0:10:44.800 favorite position? To feel the most connected to one another? 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:57.320 Ah, to feel the most connected? I would say normal, 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.000 missionary because we can lock eyes. 0:11:01.840 --> 0:11:06.280 Did you just wink at me? I would have to agree. 0:11:06.400 --> 0:11:09.319 Yeah. I think when I'm in pop of Jannah, because 0:11:09.360 --> 0:11:10.960 then we can we can look at each other. 0:11:11.080 --> 0:11:12.600 Yes, I'm getting like goosies. 0:11:14.040 --> 0:11:14.920 You can see my face. 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:20.360 Oh my gosh. 0:11:21.320 --> 0:11:25.560 Yeah, I think general, massionary posession because then we can 0:11:25.600 --> 0:11:26.160 see each other. 0:11:26.760 --> 0:11:28.640 Yeah. And kissy kiss Yeah. 0:11:28.720 --> 0:11:31.719 Johnah loves not journals. We love kissing each other. But 0:11:32.040 --> 0:11:34.319 she kisses me so hard that I get no. 0:11:34.480 --> 0:11:35.720 He has very sensitive lips. 0:11:36.120 --> 0:11:38.640 A little thing in my lip like a bruise. 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:45.480 Next question, Okay, where is the wildest place or strangest place. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:46.320 You guys have had sex? 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:48.959 So this question has always been interesting because I have 0:11:49.120 --> 0:11:53.240 never been like a wild like ooh, gotta do it here, 0:11:53.760 --> 0:11:56.160 or you know, when I hear people talking about the 0:11:56.280 --> 0:11:59.560 crazy places they've had sex. I'm just like the classic 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:00.840 let's do it in the past. 0:12:01.880 --> 0:12:03.280 Yeah, you know that as well. 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.679 We haven't really had like a wild and crazy I remember. 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:08.719 The time in Phoenix when we were in the car 0:12:09.280 --> 0:12:09.840 and we were all. 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:12.120 Like, oh, that got close. We didn't actually have sex, 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:14.319 but that was like that was that took us back 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:18.640 to like, you know, being young. You know that was 0:12:18.960 --> 0:12:21.800 that was that was hot and feisty. Yeah, because I'm like, 0:12:21.800 --> 0:12:23.880 I didn't want to get in trouble. I didn't want 0:12:23.880 --> 0:12:25.800 to get in trouble. We like started making out and 0:12:25.960 --> 0:12:28.719 I didn't want to get caught doing it on the 0:12:28.840 --> 0:12:30.920 side of the road, so I'm like, let's go. 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:35.600 And you were also pregnant, so like mobility assues might 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:38.160 have come up, but. 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:40.040 I would say we did it on a balcony one time, 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:45.160 didn't we Arizona was hot and steamy. See this is 0:12:45.200 --> 0:12:49.400 why was she like pregnant. Jana was very uh sexual. 0:12:51.320 --> 0:12:55.360 I'm trying to think of as an unusual place. I 0:12:55.440 --> 0:12:57.880 don't think so joel and kiss someone. 0:12:58.320 --> 0:13:00.360 Yeah, I don't people like see that. That's where I 0:13:00.400 --> 0:13:02.800 get them a little like like I don't I don't 0:13:02.800 --> 0:13:06.920 want people saying that it's a little I'm private in 0:13:07.000 --> 0:13:09.319 that area where I just want it between us. I 0:13:09.360 --> 0:13:10.800 don't want I don't want to get caught. I don't 0:13:10.800 --> 0:13:13.720 want to. I mean, god, I got caught my junior 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:14.520 year of high school. 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:17.880 I'm just saying, sure, you get caught getting pumped? Yeah, 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:19.240 year of high school? 0:13:19.400 --> 0:13:22.319 Yes, Oh my god, I've never told you that story. No, 0:13:22.400 --> 0:13:25.839 it was my senior year. Sorry, senior year, I've never 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:30.079 told you that. By my high school boyfriend's dad and 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:34.560 mom also am no. At their house, they were they 0:13:34.600 --> 0:13:36.440 came home early, and they went through the side door 0:13:37.640 --> 0:13:39.720 and then his dad, you know, or his mom said 0:13:40.000 --> 0:13:42.640 pick up the condom. Oh, it was so like awful, 0:13:42.679 --> 0:13:44.240 And then I tell my mom I was having sex. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:47.880 It was terrible. It was literally awful. I hear them 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:50.719 walk in, and then I see his dad standing and 0:13:50.840 --> 0:13:54.000 we are butt naked on their living room couch and 0:13:54.160 --> 0:13:57.240 he's like, and I mean I screamed and ran upstairs. 0:13:58.200 --> 0:14:00.520 And then I'm crying in the bathroom. And then his 0:14:00.600 --> 0:14:03.400 mom's say, go pick up the condom. And then she's like, 0:14:03.440 --> 0:14:06.000 you have twenty four hours to tell your mother. I'm like, 0:14:06.120 --> 0:14:08.480 oh my god, I'm just gonna kill me. 0:14:08.880 --> 0:14:12.880 Sorry, Okay, unusual place, but don't think we've got an 0:14:12.960 --> 0:14:13.760 unusual place though. 0:14:14.240 --> 0:14:17.000 Now the bed, we're boring in that way, but we're 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:18.320 not boring under the sheets. 0:14:18.559 --> 0:14:24.760 Heyo, I would be mortified if I ever got caught. 0:14:26.280 --> 0:14:27.320 Literally, it was the worst. 0:14:27.440 --> 0:14:29.280 That's a few outside instances. 0:14:29.560 --> 0:14:33.360 Oh yeah, but we we are surrounded by woods. Those 0:14:33.360 --> 0:14:35.800 were hot. Yeah, yeah, outside in the back by the pool, 0:14:35.920 --> 0:14:38.480 but again we're surrounded by by woods. 0:14:39.600 --> 0:14:41.360 Favorite date night you've had so far? 0:14:43.840 --> 0:14:47.600 My favorite date night was the Valentines where he made 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:50.760 the restaurant in the woods over by the fire pit 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:53.120 that he him and Jase made and the kids were 0:14:53.240 --> 0:14:55.800 the little servers and they made dinner. That was the 0:14:55.880 --> 0:15:01.440 most thoughtful date night ever. Yeah, that's probably as well 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:05.600 or Italy honeymoon close toss up. 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:09.200 How do you beat Italy? That's crazy? That sounds amazing, 0:15:11.760 --> 0:15:12.360 is how you beat it? 0:15:12.480 --> 0:15:14.080 That was that was the name of the restaurant. They 0:15:14.120 --> 0:15:16.360 made a restaurant, so he got a restaurant sign like 0:15:16.560 --> 0:15:20.640 the kids colored Rosselio's super cute. 0:15:20.680 --> 0:15:23.360 That's sweet, very sweet, Alan, Thank you. 0:15:23.440 --> 0:15:26.480 Good move there again, nothing like I've ever had before. 0:15:27.280 --> 0:15:29.200 From Lauren, How often do you guys fight. 0:15:29.880 --> 0:15:33.440 It's interesting to me what people call a fight. What 0:15:34.000 --> 0:15:35.000 deems it being a fight? 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:37.200 That's a good question. What deems it being a fight? 0:15:38.360 --> 0:15:41.040 Well, what's a I guess it's probably different for every couple. 0:15:41.360 --> 0:15:42.560 I'm like, what's a fight for you? 0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:42.920 Guys? 0:15:43.440 --> 0:15:47.800 I think our last fight would have been a misunderstanding 0:15:49.920 --> 0:15:54.080 or no, it wasn't a misunderstanding. But back in a 0:15:54.160 --> 0:15:59.120 couple of months ago, where wasn't totally upfront. You weren't 0:15:59.120 --> 0:16:02.400 totally up front about some thing, which then triggered something 0:16:02.480 --> 0:16:06.560 within me. Yeah, and so thats caused a little stir. 0:16:07.520 --> 0:16:12.560 So an actual argument, proper argument, probably once every three months. 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:14.200 Why are you laughing? 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:15.840 I don't know if those ratios are good. 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:19.240 We really don't fight that often. 0:16:19.320 --> 0:16:21.760 We have we have little She gets hoffy. 0:16:22.040 --> 0:16:24.960 I get huffy because I get overwhelmed with a lot 0:16:25.040 --> 0:16:25.400 of things. 0:16:26.960 --> 0:16:28.960 Yeah, because I've just got nothing going on. I don't 0:16:28.960 --> 0:16:29.800 get overwhelmed. 0:16:32.440 --> 0:16:34.600 You get quiet, but I do get I get I 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:38.120 get like, I do get huffy. But you also get 0:16:38.200 --> 0:16:39.680 quiet and huffy in your own way. 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:44.280 Yeah, because we perceive the communication different to what that 0:16:44.360 --> 0:16:48.880 actually is. Okay, answer to the question, probably once every 0:16:48.920 --> 0:16:49.440 three months. 0:16:49.960 --> 0:16:54.200 I disagree with that. I would say like once every 0:16:54.320 --> 0:16:58.320 like four to five, like a real fight. But again, 0:16:58.360 --> 0:16:59.080 we don't really like fight. 0:16:59.160 --> 0:17:05.000 Fight. It's a hard question. Yeah, no question, good question. 0:17:05.000 --> 0:17:08.680 I would say we are. We've gotten a lot better 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:12.200 with how we communicate and solve problems so that it 0:17:12.240 --> 0:17:16.760 doesn't become a fight. I'll say that, Yeah, I apologize, 0:17:16.800 --> 0:17:20.639 and given that's not true, what did I do the 0:17:20.720 --> 0:17:22.800 other day? It was a joke, No, But what did 0:17:22.840 --> 0:17:26.879 I do the other day? I was huffy? And so 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.639 I came out of the gym and I you were 0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:31.159 working out outside, and I walked up to you and 0:17:31.200 --> 0:17:31.800 I said, I'm. 0:17:31.680 --> 0:17:35.800 Sorry, actually really cute. What it was? Cute? It was nice. 0:17:35.960 --> 0:17:36.760 I appreciate you that. 0:17:37.080 --> 0:17:39.200 Yeah, because I knew. I knew I was being huffy. 0:17:39.320 --> 0:17:42.440 I knew that I was being But why based off 0:17:42.520 --> 0:17:46.000 what I started my period? It always always goes back 0:17:46.040 --> 0:17:50.480 to my period. But it was true, like I was huffy, 0:17:50.600 --> 0:17:52.320 I hold a lot of things in a few days 0:17:52.359 --> 0:17:55.879 before my period and then lo and behold you know. 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:58.119 I was like, oh, that makes sense. But I did 0:17:58.240 --> 0:17:59.720 come out and I said, I'm sorry, it's not so 0:17:59.760 --> 0:18:01.840 it's not always you, but a lot of times, I 0:18:01.920 --> 0:18:03.480 feel like what we have been really good at has 0:18:03.560 --> 0:18:06.639 been able to go okay. We now are understanding each 0:18:06.640 --> 0:18:10.600 other's communication, and instead of having the big blow up 0:18:10.640 --> 0:18:12.680 fights like we would not big blow up fights, but 0:18:12.800 --> 0:18:15.400 like the big fights like every few months or whatever, 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:18.000 we don't really have those anymore because of how we've 0:18:18.040 --> 0:18:22.040 been able to understand each other more and the more 0:18:22.080 --> 0:18:24.480 that we grow together, the more that we understand our 0:18:24.520 --> 0:18:28.760 communication and what we're feeling. And you have more empathy now, 0:18:28.840 --> 0:18:33.399 which is a beautiful thing. So how often do you fight, Hannah? 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:36.639 I would say my husband and Alan are probably similar. 0:18:36.760 --> 0:18:41.159 He really diffuses any Like when I get huffy, he 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:45.560 like really tries to diffuse and almost like starts doing 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:47.600 laundry or story around the house. 0:18:48.320 --> 0:18:50.600 It is the same thing, like he'll be like all 0:18:50.640 --> 0:18:53.320 of a sudden making the kids lunches, and I'm like 0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:55.600 he's sweet. He's just like trying. 0:18:55.400 --> 0:18:58.280 Bringing me something I want, yes, And I'm like you, 0:18:58.440 --> 0:19:00.919 I'm like, I need something to distract me and then 0:19:00.920 --> 0:19:02.399 I can collect my thoughts and I can come back 0:19:02.440 --> 0:19:03.160 and apologize. 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:07.960 Yeah, but we don't. We don't fight a lot like 0:19:08.080 --> 0:19:11.120 you guys. It's probably disagreements on things, disagreements. 0:19:11.320 --> 0:19:14.240 Yeah, I think we've got younger kids as well, You're 0:19:14.320 --> 0:19:17.000 more open to disagreements and stress. 0:19:17.760 --> 0:19:23.119 Therefore, Yeah, I think it's fighting, is I bet you would. 0:19:23.400 --> 0:19:25.520 I think to go back to the actually the question. 0:19:25.920 --> 0:19:31.240 Fights we probably have like two a year, and disagreements 0:19:31.320 --> 0:19:35.560 are you know, once and once every other month, I 0:19:35.600 --> 0:19:35.840 don't know. 0:19:36.760 --> 0:19:38.719 Yeah, yeah, which I feel like is very normal when 0:19:38.760 --> 0:19:41.760 you're living with a whole other human who has a 0:19:41.800 --> 0:19:44.200 different way of doing things, and you've got young kids 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.800 that are adding stress to the relationship. 0:19:46.880 --> 0:19:50.120 So I'm similar to you guys. With my relationship. 0:19:50.960 --> 0:19:53.960 We maybe fight, yeah, twice a year, it's like a 0:19:54.320 --> 0:19:57.680 big fight, but otherwise it's just little disagreements. 0:19:57.119 --> 0:20:00.840 And yeah, and even within those fights, like you know, 0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:03.000 there's still so much love. That's the thing. Like it's 0:20:03.040 --> 0:20:05.520 so different. And I think the difference too with our 0:20:05.560 --> 0:20:10.240 fighting is when we fight, it's not like my previous 0:20:10.440 --> 0:20:17.080 fights with Xes have been explosive and abusive and bad 0:20:17.760 --> 0:20:21.760 with him, it's like just the typical we're having a fight. 0:20:22.000 --> 0:20:25.320 We all might say a few things we don't love. 0:20:25.600 --> 0:20:28.120 And I think we're both stolen. Yeah when it comes 0:20:28.160 --> 0:20:30.359 to fight. Yeah, Like, well I'm not given in and 0:20:30.480 --> 0:20:32.200 I'm not given in, so therefore. 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:35.600 But it's like night and day. What a fight, It's like, 0:20:36.000 --> 0:20:36.880 it's like a healthy fight. 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:53.359 Yeah, Jess wants to know, did you guys get married 0:20:53.440 --> 0:20:54.920 before the Scotland wedding? 0:20:55.760 --> 0:21:00.440 Done? Done? Dune breaking news? We Actually, these are the 0:21:00.560 --> 0:21:03.600 questions that I don't get, Okay, can I just give 0:21:03.680 --> 0:21:04.639 what was her name? Jessica? 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:10.960 Jess's life married before we get married in Scotland? That 0:21:11.119 --> 0:21:13.240 is why these are the ones. These are the exact 0:21:13.359 --> 0:21:14.600 ones that I don't get. 0:21:14.800 --> 0:21:16.640 Can I defend my girl Jess? 0:21:17.359 --> 0:21:20.240 And my response is not personally against Jess. My response 0:21:20.359 --> 0:21:21.520 is do you like how. 0:21:21.440 --> 0:21:26.920 We just named you Jess girl Jessica? But can can we? 0:21:27.560 --> 0:21:30.920 I think we should answer it, don't you do you 0:21:30.960 --> 0:21:31.680 want me to answer it? 0:21:32.080 --> 0:21:32.119 No? 0:21:32.200 --> 0:21:35.760 I think we should answer though, because listen, you started 0:21:35.840 --> 0:21:40.480 wearing your ring mm. And there was a lot of 0:21:40.560 --> 0:21:43.480 questions if we got married, and we did not answer them, 0:21:44.480 --> 0:21:47.520 and there was a piece of me and even my 0:21:47.600 --> 0:21:52.480 girlfriends asked so much so that Catherine is the most 0:21:52.760 --> 0:21:55.160 and I love her to death. She's my best friend 0:21:55.240 --> 0:21:59.399 in the entire freaking world. And we are in New 0:21:59.480 --> 0:22:03.440 York City. Yeah, and I just knew. I knew, I 0:22:03.480 --> 0:22:05.560 knew she was going to ask me. I knew she 0:22:05.840 --> 0:22:06.520 was going to. 0:22:07.119 --> 0:22:11.639 Well, of course people, I'm walking around the ring on, right, But. 0:22:11.760 --> 0:22:13.480 I just knew I knew she was going to ask him. 0:22:13.520 --> 0:22:15.440