Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.
Speaker 1: This week's Adult Education, we are having a redo on
Speaker 1: Q and A because well, A, we don't have a guest,
Speaker 1: and so we thought it would be fun to do
Speaker 1: a redo of Q and A because the last time
Speaker 1: Alan was a little not in truth. Now, you weren't
Speaker 1: loving the questions true or false?
Speaker 2: Yeah, for different reasons. I mean, someone are about soft
Speaker 2: and fluffy, aren't they? And then some of them were
Speaker 2: just you should appreciate my hair, young lady, you're married
Speaker 2: the bowl geier about how long.
Speaker 3: Some of them were.
Speaker 2: Some of them were about soft and fluffy, and others
Speaker 2: were just a little bit strangely.
Speaker 3: Do you go through counseling?
Speaker 1: That's a normal question. Okay, So here we go, Hannah,
Speaker 1: Hannah enerjecked my love Alan.
Speaker 4: I went to the followers and I was like, listen,
Speaker 4: Alan wants the intrusive questions, and they delivered.
Speaker 5: You're ready, they did, so I hope you're ready.
Speaker 3: The jan the jan at there jamites little fans.
Speaker 1: Okay, Hannah, do you want to ask us the questions?
Speaker 4: We'll start easy, we'll start using Okay, Abigail is asking
Speaker 4: is another baby still on the table for you, guys.
Speaker 1: No, why was that so definitive?
Speaker 2: Because we've we've discussed the reality of it and actual
Speaker 2: there's the there's a thought of it and how great
Speaker 2: it would be, and then the reality of it, which.
Speaker 1: Is what's the reality how great it would be?
Speaker 3: The reality is you're pregnant for nine months, which is
Speaker 3: tough for you.
Speaker 1: I feel like when you say that, you make it
Speaker 1: about you.
Speaker 2: Because I know you went through it was it was
Speaker 2: you were so brave and strong, but it was really
Speaker 2: tough for you. There was a lot of anxiety around
Speaker 2: it because of things that could go wrong.
Speaker 1: And look how great it went.
Speaker 3: MM.
Speaker 2: I think we should be grateful for how great that
Speaker 2: one went. I don't think we should maybe in atle.
Speaker 1: Discussion, what's the percentage for you, like if you had
Speaker 1: to percentage it out, what is the percentage for another baby?
Speaker 3: Seventy thirty?
Speaker 1: Oh, so you're saying there's good. That's like way better
Speaker 1: than I thought you were going to say. I thought
Speaker 1: you were going to say like ninety nine to one.
Speaker 1: You know what I would like to do? If I
Speaker 1: truly what I would like to do? Are you ready
Speaker 1: for it?
Speaker 2: If it's something that you've floated before, and then I'm
Speaker 2: pretty play it on my answer to it.
Speaker 1: No, we're not going to do surrogacy. Yeah, I understand,
Speaker 1: I'd like to, but you don't want to. But what
Speaker 1: if we try for three months and if it doesn't happen.
Speaker 1: We tried it, and we tried it, We tried that,
Speaker 1: and then okay when we stop if it was it
Speaker 1: wasn't meant to be.
Speaker 3: I don't think we need to try for long.
Speaker 1: Why you just think you have super sperm?
Speaker 3: Yeah? I was.
Speaker 1: I'm fifty to fifty.
Speaker 3: Are you really?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Next question, all the discussions all right?
Speaker 5: Another easy one. Would you guys ever move to Scotland?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: Wow, you were so quick? Why why in this area?
Speaker 1: Are you quick? In life and everywhere else? It's like
Speaker 1: a sloth.
Speaker 2: Because when something's clear in my mind, they will foist
Speaker 2: that without without having to deliyate. I walk slowly, yes, granted,
Speaker 2: I do things other things slowly because I need to
Speaker 2: think about them so I can come back with solutions
Speaker 2: of proper answers.
Speaker 1: What about the lady that's like five minutes with her
Speaker 1: hand with the coffee out the window, I'm like, Alan,
Speaker 1: please grab the coffee from the Starbucks window and it's
Speaker 1: like this one.
Speaker 3: And then she's actually called me a sloth before.
Speaker 1: Yes, I've also videoed one in the zoo and said
Speaker 1: he's in his natural habitat. I would love my own.
Speaker 1: I would love a condo one day in Scotland. Why
Speaker 1: your parents maybe are getting older.
Speaker 3: M hm.
Speaker 1: And maybe we could spend summers out there and then
Speaker 1: airbnb it or something like that.
Speaker 3: That's totally different from would you live in Scotland.
Speaker 1: That's living in Scotland, not.
Speaker 3: That's having a holiday home in Scotland.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, here's the only here's the only time
Speaker 2: I go back in eleven Scotland.
Speaker 3: If I got offered the Rangeers job, oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, which we talked about, He's like, listen, if that
Speaker 1: opportunity ever gets He's like, we need to move to Scotland.
Speaker 3: I'm coming.
Speaker 1: Well I would need to too, because that would be really
Speaker 1: hard to live eleven months away from each other for
Speaker 1: eleven months.
Speaker 2: Of course, absolutely you would be there, So yes, we
Speaker 2: would live in Scotland, if.
Speaker 1: If, and only if he coaches for the Rangers.
Speaker 2: If I got the Rangelers job, however, a holiday home
Speaker 2: in Scotland then the absolutely one hundred percent. I would
Speaker 2: think about that because it's beautiful. It is in the summer.
Speaker 4: Next question, okay, Alan, what is the first thing you
Speaker 4: noticed about Jianna that made you want to slide into
Speaker 4: her DMS?
Speaker 5: And also when was the first time you googled her?
Speaker 1: Good question, don't lie because I still don't think you tell.
Speaker 2: It ignoring that outside noise and trying to focus on
Speaker 2: your question. So the question was what was the first
Speaker 2: thing I noticed about her?
Speaker 5: Yeah? What did you? What did you notice about her
Speaker 5: that made you slide into her?
Speaker 2: DMS plus smile one hundred percent, always say the same
Speaker 2: thing one million percent.
Speaker 5: The second question was what when was the first time
Speaker 5: you googled her?
Speaker 1: Did you google me before you DMed me or after
Speaker 1: you dm me?
Speaker 3: After?
Speaker 2: And when I googled, I didn't do like a a
Speaker 2: Google proper Google search like deep search, so I don't
Speaker 2: know when timeframes after a dmder but I did. I
Speaker 2: did obviously google you, but not didn't dive into like
Speaker 2: a deep investigation of your past or who you were interested.
Speaker 3: I think I've always said I don't give a shit
Speaker 3: about your past.
Speaker 1: I know on our first date, did you did you
Speaker 1: know how many times I was married.
Speaker 3: I think I think i'd probably seen I had Lenya.
Speaker 1: And it didn't bother you.
Speaker 3: No, not, So everyone makes mistakes, mistakes of me. Here's
Speaker 3: my language.
Speaker 5: Next question, Okay, Jenna, you mentioned it was hard for
Speaker 5: you to talk about sex with Mike. Is it different
Speaker 5: with Alan?
Speaker 1: He like, it's light years different. I actually have a
Speaker 1: husband that wants to have sex with me and not
Speaker 1: other women. So it is the most refreshing thing in
Speaker 1: the world to feel. To feel wanted, to feel sexy.
Speaker 1: I did. I felt like the most. I felt like
Speaker 1: the ugliest, un sexiest woman. In my last marriage, he
Speaker 1: never wanted to have sex with me. He never touched me,
Speaker 1: he never like it. It was like pulling teeth to
Speaker 1: have any sort of affection. This man can not keep
Speaker 1: his hands off of me. He loves having sex with me.
Speaker 1: He makes me feel so beautiful and sexy and wanted,
Speaker 1: and it is a it's just a it's completely different experience,
Speaker 1: so much so that I feel like all the things
Speaker 1: that I had felt in my last marriage and the
Speaker 1: things that he would say about me, And how you know,
Speaker 1: if I only wore this or if I didn't just
Speaker 1: wear t shirts to bed, Like, no matter what I wear,
Speaker 1: you always make me feel sexy. And but for a
Speaker 1: while I didn't feel that way. But spending obviously, and
Speaker 1: you know the things that you say to me, I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: he actually like or things with like you don't make
Speaker 1: comments like sometimes I okay, I had in my old
Speaker 1: clothing line that bombed Jolie and Jace. I still wear
Speaker 1: just those long sleep shirts because they're so comfortable. They
Speaker 1: were overly priced and that was a bad call, bad distributors, whatever,
Speaker 1: But I still wear those long over what and they're like,
Speaker 1: it's like a granny dress. I could just left off,
Speaker 1: but it's so comfortable, and like, you make me feel
Speaker 1: sexy in that?
Speaker 3: Does you look sexy? And Everson.
Speaker 1: And I just have never had that, so it is
Speaker 1: light years different. It's a totally different experience. I actually
Speaker 1: have a end within that sexualness of it. We enjoy
Speaker 1: it and it works, if you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: It all works.
Speaker 4: All right.
Speaker 5: This leads listen to our next question. No, yeah, but
Speaker 5: it's coming. Who wants to have sex more?
Speaker 1: I disagree. I think we equally equally want to have sex.
Speaker 1: Like there's times when I'm more aggressive in the area,
Speaker 1: but mostly yeah, sure you, But I think it's pretty equal.
Speaker 1: It's not like I'm just like, oh okay.
Speaker 3: Few he wants it again. Yeah, I think there's a
Speaker 3: good balance within it. Yeah. Absolutely.
Speaker 4: Here's your position question, Alan, what's more intrusive? What's your
Speaker 4: favorite position? To feel the most connected to one another?
Speaker 2: Ah, to feel the most connected? I would say normal,
Speaker 2: missionary because we can lock eyes.
Speaker 1: Did you just wink at me? I would have to agree.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think when I'm in pop of Jannah, because
Speaker 3: then we can we can look at each other.
Speaker 1: Yes, I'm getting like goosies.
Speaker 3: You can see my face.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think general, massionary posession because then we can
Speaker 3: see each other.
Speaker 1: Yeah. And kissy kiss Yeah.
Speaker 2: Johnah loves not journals. We love kissing each other. But
Speaker 2: she kisses me so hard that I get no.
Speaker 1: He has very sensitive lips.
Speaker 3: A little thing in my lip like a bruise.
Speaker 4: Next question, Okay, where is the wildest place or strangest place.
Speaker 5: You guys have had sex?
Speaker 1: So this question has always been interesting because I have
Speaker 1: never been like a wild like ooh, gotta do it here,
Speaker 1: or you know, when I hear people talking about the
Speaker 1: crazy places they've had sex. I'm just like the classic
Speaker 1: let's do it in the past.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that as well.
Speaker 1: We haven't really had like a wild and crazy I remember.
Speaker 3: The time in Phoenix when we were in the car
Speaker 3: and we were all.
Speaker 1: Like, oh, that got close. We didn't actually have sex,
Speaker 1: but that was like that was that took us back
Speaker 1: to like, you know, being young. You know that was
Speaker 1: that was that was hot and feisty. Yeah, because I'm like,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to get in trouble. I didn't want
Speaker 1: to get in trouble. We like started making out and
Speaker 1: I didn't want to get caught doing it on the
Speaker 1: side of the road, so I'm like, let's go.
Speaker 3: And you were also pregnant, so like mobility assues might
Speaker 3: have come up, but.
Speaker 1: I would say we did it on a balcony one time,
Speaker 1: didn't we Arizona was hot and steamy. See this is
Speaker 1: why was she like pregnant. Jana was very uh sexual.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of as an unusual place. I
Speaker 2: don't think so joel and kiss someone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't people like see that. That's where I
Speaker 1: get them a little like like I don't I don't
Speaker 1: want people saying that it's a little I'm private in
Speaker 1: that area where I just want it between us. I
Speaker 1: don't want I don't want to get caught. I don't
Speaker 1: want to. I mean, god, I got caught my junior
Speaker 1: year of high school.
Speaker 3: I'm just saying, sure, you get caught getting pumped? Yeah,
Speaker 3: year of high school?
Speaker 1: Yes, Oh my god, I've never told you that story. No,
Speaker 1: it was my senior year. Sorry, senior year, I've never
Speaker 1: told you that. By my high school boyfriend's dad and
Speaker 1: mom also am no. At their house, they were they
Speaker 1: came home early, and they went through the side door
Speaker 1: and then his dad, you know, or his mom said
Speaker 1: pick up the condom. Oh, it was so like awful,
Speaker 1: And then I tell my mom I was having sex.
Speaker 1: It was terrible. It was literally awful. I hear them
Speaker 1: walk in, and then I see his dad standing and
Speaker 1: we are butt naked on their living room couch and
Speaker 1: he's like, and I mean I screamed and ran upstairs.
Speaker 1: And then I'm crying in the bathroom. And then his
Speaker 1: mom's say, go pick up the condom. And then she's like,
Speaker 1: you have twenty four hours to tell your mother. I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm just gonna kill me.
Speaker 2: Sorry, Okay, unusual place, but don't think we've got an
Speaker 2: unusual place though.
Speaker 1: Now the bed, we're boring in that way, but we're
Speaker 1: not boring under the sheets.
Speaker 5: Heyo, I would be mortified if I ever got caught.
Speaker 1: Literally, it was the worst.
Speaker 3: That's a few outside instances.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but we we are surrounded by woods. Those
Speaker 1: were hot. Yeah, yeah, outside in the back by the pool,
Speaker 1: but again we're surrounded by by woods.
Speaker 5: Favorite date night you've had so far?
Speaker 1: My favorite date night was the Valentines where he made
Speaker 1: the restaurant in the woods over by the fire pit
Speaker 1: that he him and Jase made and the kids were
Speaker 1: the little servers and they made dinner. That was the
Speaker 1: most thoughtful date night ever. Yeah, that's probably as well
Speaker 1: or Italy honeymoon close toss up.
Speaker 5: How do you beat Italy? That's crazy? That sounds amazing,
Speaker 5: is how you beat it?
Speaker 1: That was that was the name of the restaurant. They
Speaker 1: made a restaurant, so he got a restaurant sign like
Speaker 1: the kids colored Rosselio's super cute.
Speaker 5: That's sweet, very sweet, Alan, Thank you.
Speaker 1: Good move there again, nothing like I've ever had before.
Speaker 5: From Lauren, How often do you guys fight.
Speaker 3: It's interesting to me what people call a fight. What
Speaker 3: deems it being a fight?
Speaker 1: That's a good question. What deems it being a fight?
Speaker 4: Well, what's a I guess it's probably different for every couple.
Speaker 4: I'm like, what's a fight for you?
Speaker 3: Guys?
Speaker 1: I think our last fight would have been a misunderstanding
Speaker 1: or no, it wasn't a misunderstanding. But back in a
Speaker 1: couple of months ago, where wasn't totally upfront. You weren't
Speaker 1: totally up front about some thing, which then triggered something
Speaker 1: within me. Yeah, and so thats caused a little stir.
Speaker 2: So an actual argument, proper argument, probably once every three months.
Speaker 1: Why are you laughing?
Speaker 3: I don't know if those ratios are good.
Speaker 1: We really don't fight that often.
Speaker 3: We have we have little She gets hoffy.
Speaker 1: I get huffy because I get overwhelmed with a lot
Speaker 1: of things.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I've just got nothing going on. I don't
Speaker 3: get overwhelmed.
Speaker 1: You get quiet, but I do get I get I
Speaker 1: get like, I do get huffy. But you also get
Speaker 1: quiet and huffy in your own way.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because we perceive the communication different to what that
Speaker 2: actually is. Okay, answer to the question, probably once every
Speaker 2: three months.
Speaker 1: I disagree with that. I would say like once every
Speaker 1: like four to five, like a real fight. But again,
Speaker 1: we don't really like fight.
Speaker 3: Fight. It's a hard question. Yeah, no question, good question.
Speaker 1: I would say we are. We've gotten a lot better
Speaker 1: with how we communicate and solve problems so that it
Speaker 1: doesn't become a fight. I'll say that, Yeah, I apologize,
Speaker 1: and given that's not true, what did I do the
Speaker 1: other day? It was a joke, No, But what did
Speaker 1: I do the other day? I was huffy? And so
Speaker 1: I came out of the gym and I you were
Speaker 1: working out outside, and I walked up to you and
Speaker 1: I said, I'm.
Speaker 3: Sorry, actually really cute. What it was? Cute? It was nice.
Speaker 3: I appreciate you that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, because I knew. I knew I was being huffy.
Speaker 1: I knew that I was being But why based off
Speaker 1: what I started my period? It always always goes back
Speaker 1: to my period. But it was true, like I was huffy,
Speaker 1: I hold a lot of things in a few days
Speaker 1: before my period and then lo and behold you know.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that makes sense. But I did
Speaker 1: come out and I said, I'm sorry, it's not so
Speaker 1: it's not always you, but a lot of times, I
Speaker 1: feel like what we have been really good at has
Speaker 1: been able to go okay. We now are understanding each
Speaker 1: other's communication, and instead of having the big blow up
Speaker 1: fights like we would not big blow up fights, but
Speaker 1: like the big fights like every few months or whatever,
Speaker 1: we don't really have those anymore because of how we've
Speaker 1: been able to understand each other more and the more
Speaker 1: that we grow together, the more that we understand our
Speaker 1: communication and what we're feeling. And you have more empathy now,
Speaker 1: which is a beautiful thing. So how often do you fight, Hannah?
Speaker 5: I would say my husband and Alan are probably similar.
Speaker 4: He really diffuses any Like when I get huffy, he
Speaker 4: like really tries to diffuse and almost like starts doing
Speaker 4: laundry or story around the house.
Speaker 1: It is the same thing, like he'll be like all
Speaker 1: of a sudden making the kids lunches, and I'm like
Speaker 1: he's sweet. He's just like trying.
Speaker 4: Bringing me something I want, yes, And I'm like you,
Speaker 4: I'm like, I need something to distract me and then
Speaker 4: I can collect my thoughts and I can come back
Speaker 4: and apologize.
Speaker 5: Yeah, but we don't. We don't fight a lot like
Speaker 5: you guys. It's probably disagreements on things, disagreements.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we've got younger kids as well, You're
Speaker 2: more open to disagreements and stress.
Speaker 1: Therefore, Yeah, I think it's fighting, is I bet you would.
Speaker 1: I think to go back to the actually the question.
Speaker 1: Fights we probably have like two a year, and disagreements
Speaker 1: are you know, once and once every other month, I
Speaker 1: don't know.
Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, which I feel like is very normal when
Speaker 4: you're living with a whole other human who has a
Speaker 4: different way of doing things, and you've got young kids
Speaker 4: that are adding stress to the relationship.
Speaker 5: So I'm similar to you guys. With my relationship.
Speaker 4: We maybe fight, yeah, twice a year, it's like a
Speaker 4: big fight, but otherwise it's just little disagreements.
Speaker 1: And yeah, and even within those fights, like you know,
Speaker 1: there's still so much love. That's the thing. Like it's
Speaker 1: so different. And I think the difference too with our
Speaker 1: fighting is when we fight, it's not like my previous
Speaker 1: fights with Xes have been explosive and abusive and bad
Speaker 1: with him, it's like just the typical we're having a fight.
Speaker 1: We all might say a few things we don't love.
Speaker 3: And I think we're both stolen. Yeah when it comes
Speaker 3: to fight. Yeah, Like, well I'm not given in and
Speaker 3: I'm not given in, so therefore.
Speaker 1: But it's like night and day. What a fight, It's like,
Speaker 1: it's like a healthy fight.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Jess wants to know, did you guys get married
Speaker 4: before the Scotland wedding?
Speaker 1: Done? Done? Dune breaking news? We Actually, these are the
Speaker 1: questions that I don't get, Okay, can I just give
Speaker 1: what was her name? Jessica?
Speaker 3: Jess's life married before we get married in Scotland? That
Speaker 3: is why these are the ones. These are the exact
Speaker 3: ones that I don't get.
Speaker 1: Can I defend my girl Jess?
Speaker 3: And my response is not personally against Jess. My response
Speaker 3: is do you like how.
Speaker 1: We just named you Jess girl Jessica? But can can we?
Speaker 1: I think we should answer it, don't you do you
Speaker 1: want me to answer it?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: I think we should answer though, because listen, you started
Speaker 1: wearing your ring mm. And there was a lot of
Speaker 1: questions if we got married, and we did not answer them,
Speaker 1: and there was a piece of me and even my
Speaker 1: girlfriends asked so much so that Catherine is the most
Speaker 1: and I love her to death. She's my best friend
Speaker 1: in the entire freaking world. And we are in New
Speaker 1: York City. Yeah, and I just knew. I knew, I
Speaker 1: knew she was going to ask me. I knew she
Speaker 1: was going to.
Speaker 3: Well, of course people, I'm walking around the ring on, right, But.
Speaker 1: I just knew I knew she was going to ask him.
Speaker 1: This was months after you had the ring on, So
Speaker 1: you put the ring on in January, and we're going
Speaker 1: to answer the question for the first time, but you
Speaker 1: but so she's been now I was like, oh, he
Speaker 1: just you know, he'd just put it on. And I
Speaker 1: just didn't want to say anything else to it because
Speaker 1: I I've always been incredibly open, incredibly open, yeah too much,
Speaker 1: like so much so that I've you know, wish I
Speaker 1: would have kept a few things to myself, right, And
Speaker 1: so with this it was nice to not say anything
Speaker 1: and let people think whatever they wanted to think, because
Speaker 1: I didn't want to share. And it was something between
Speaker 1: us that we decided that we weren't going to elaborate
Speaker 1: more on it. And at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: we had a baby, So who cares if you did
Speaker 1: have a ring on before we got married, because we
Speaker 1: had a we we have a son. We had a
Speaker 1: son together, you know, and it was I think it
Speaker 1: was weird for us not to be married when we
Speaker 1: had Roman in the hospital. There was a piece of
Speaker 1: it where it was like we weren't technically married then.
Speaker 2: Yeah, looking back at it now, just answer your question. Yeah,
Speaker 2: we got married in January and we made it formal
Speaker 2: people in July.
Speaker 3: Jin What.
Speaker 1: When did we married Jeane thirteen? Right, Yeah, I think
Speaker 1: so July thirteenth, Jesus.
Speaker 2: July thirteenth to night, Okay, so yeah, But I think
Speaker 2: part of it was also a lot of a lot
Speaker 2: of people in our situation, i e. Foreign UK people
Speaker 2: were making the legalities and the formalities long before the
Speaker 2: wedding just so they could focus on the planning of
Speaker 2: the wedding.
Speaker 3: I think a lot of it was that as well.
Speaker 3: But also we were like we were like desperate to
Speaker 3: manor each other.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we were, and so this is what we did.
Speaker 1: And so because there was a piece of and so
Speaker 1: that we wanted to do this before we had Roman.
Speaker 1: But I didn't want I wanted our wedding to be
Speaker 1: the actual wedding day, which is July thirteenth, But I
Speaker 1: also wanted I wanted that to be special. I didn't
Speaker 1: want anything to be taken away from that day. So
Speaker 1: what we did was after we had Roman. We still
Speaker 1: had that feeling like this is so weird that we're
Speaker 1: not married, you know, officially, and we have a son together.
Speaker 1: And so we went to the courthouse in January and
Speaker 1: we had a uh and then I started thinking, how
Speaker 1: are we going to have, you know, pastor Kevin going
Speaker 1: to come over? But I was like, I don't want
Speaker 1: to do any of it. I don't want to I
Speaker 1: don't want to exchange vows. I don't want to do
Speaker 1: because I want to save that piece for the wedding.
Speaker 1: I want to save I want to save all of it.
Speaker 1: Let's just get someone over. So it was a notary.
Speaker 1: He was just a simple notary. He was so sweet.
Speaker 1: He was the mother of and this lady was so
Speaker 1: sweet the Williamson County Clerk's office or whatever, you know.
Speaker 1: I said, do you know anyone that can just privately
Speaker 1: just sign a piece of paper for us? You know,
Speaker 1: we don't want to do the whole vows back and forth.
Speaker 1: And she's like, well, actually, my son, like you can
Speaker 1: absolutely come over to your house. And we're like great,
Speaker 1: So four o'clock, like before before the kids got home,
Speaker 1: it was like three o'clock in the afternoon before the
Speaker 1: kids came home. We he came over and he's like,
Speaker 1: all right, so no vows. I was like, no, we
Speaker 1: want to make that special, keep it, you know, keep
Speaker 1: it to that day. And it was, you know, the
Speaker 1: piece of paper we signed it, he put the ring on.
Speaker 1: I didn't put my ring on. We save that as
Speaker 1: well too, but just to have that little something for
Speaker 1: us that was special to us that we didn't announ
Speaker 1: to everybody. And and I even when the January was
Speaker 1: it twelfth or twenty first. I got to look back now,
Speaker 1: but I think it was a twenty first, But I
Speaker 1: almost I drafted up a thing on January twenty first
Speaker 1: to be to say, you know, happy one year Bay,
Speaker 1: Like you know, we didn't share this, and but this
Speaker 1: was a moment between us. I ended up not posting
Speaker 1: it because I'm like, our wedding date is July thirteenth.
Speaker 1: We just made it official a little earlier. But I
Speaker 1: didn't want to, like I wanted to almost say we
Speaker 1: did it privately and it was between us and we
Speaker 1: had that moment. But I still just so want to
Speaker 1: just honor our wedding day because that was a day
Speaker 1: we actually made official. And I didn't even really tell you.
Speaker 1: I mean we didn't really say a husband wife even
Speaker 1: a lot then too, because I didn't want.
Speaker 3: To keep an everything for the moment of in Scotland.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and before you go to Scotland, like you have
Speaker 1: to do all that paperwork anyways, So that's why it's
Speaker 1: like you couldn't sign it down, like you have to
Speaker 1: do it before you go overseas. So that's why we're like,
Speaker 1: all right, we'll just we'll just do it. But there
Speaker 1: was something so beautiful and just private and precious about
Speaker 1: us holding that together and it just being like just
Speaker 1: us having that together without the whole world. But Catherine,
Speaker 1: when she kept hounding me, not really hounded, I mean
Speaker 1: not hounding, but she was in the car and she said, Okay,
Speaker 1: I just need to know, like did you guys get married,
Speaker 1: Like why is he really wearing the ring? And sweet
Speaker 1: Kristen does what Christen does, and just like on behalf
Speaker 1: of my client. You know, she's not gonna it is
Speaker 1: whatever she wants to say, and you don't have to say.
Speaker 1: But Catherine and I are big on you know, I
Speaker 1: don't want to lie to her, And so I ended
Speaker 1: up saying to her, yes, we are technically, but it's
Speaker 1: just been something that we've wanted to privately keep together.
Speaker 1: He's not calling me wife, not calling him husband, but
Speaker 1: it's something that we wanted for ourselves. And I don't
Speaker 1: want to say anything else, and she goes, okay, so
Speaker 1: that's it. Yes, So yes we did, yes, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 3: I hope that makes things easier for you in life.
Speaker 5: Wow.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, I think I think we ended on that note. Alan,
Speaker 4: you did great. How are the questions this time around
Speaker 4: for you?
Speaker 3: They were better? I think we can do a second
Speaker 3: round at some point.
Speaker 1: What would be the question that you don't want to
Speaker 1: be asked?
Speaker 3: I don't think it's I would really want to swell that,
Speaker 3: avoid that.
Speaker 1: Nothing good to know. Stay tuned for next Q and A.