1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast. 2 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:11,319 Speaker 1: This week's Adult Education, we are having a redo on 3 00:00:12,160 --> 00:00:15,800 Speaker 1: Q and A because well, A, we don't have a guest, 4 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:18,079 Speaker 1: and so we thought it would be fun to do 5 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,200 Speaker 1: a redo of Q and A because the last time 6 00:00:20,239 --> 00:00:24,320 Speaker 1: Alan was a little not in truth. Now, you weren't 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,120 Speaker 1: loving the questions true or false? 8 00:00:28,560 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, for different reasons. I mean, someone are about soft 9 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:34,400 Speaker 2: and fluffy, aren't they? And then some of them were 10 00:00:34,600 --> 00:00:38,960 Speaker 2: just you should appreciate my hair, young lady, you're married 11 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:41,000 Speaker 2: the bowl geier about how long. 12 00:00:43,880 --> 00:00:44,479 Speaker 3: Some of them were. 13 00:00:44,800 --> 00:00:47,240 Speaker 2: Some of them were about soft and fluffy, and others 14 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:49,960 Speaker 2: were just a little bit strangely. 15 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:50,879 Speaker 3: Do you go through counseling? 16 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: That's a normal question. Okay, So here we go, Hannah, 17 00:00:54,760 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: Hannah enerjecked my love Alan. 18 00:00:57,440 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 4: I went to the followers and I was like, listen, 19 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:03,080 Speaker 4: Alan wants the intrusive questions, and they delivered. 20 00:01:04,319 --> 00:01:06,920 Speaker 5: You're ready, they did, so I hope you're ready. 21 00:01:06,959 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 3: The jan the jan at there jamites little fans. 22 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: Okay, Hannah, do you want to ask us the questions? 23 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:22,279 Speaker 4: We'll start easy, we'll start using Okay, Abigail is asking 24 00:01:22,440 --> 00:01:25,560 Speaker 4: is another baby still on the table for you, guys. 25 00:01:26,080 --> 00:01:33,280 Speaker 1: No, why was that so definitive? 26 00:01:34,800 --> 00:01:37,959 Speaker 2: Because we've we've discussed the reality of it and actual 27 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 2: there's the there's a thought of it and how great 28 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:45,160 Speaker 2: it would be, and then the reality of it, which. 29 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: Is what's the reality how great it would be? 30 00:01:49,720 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 3: The reality is you're pregnant for nine months, which is 31 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,480 Speaker 3: tough for you. 32 00:01:57,200 --> 00:01:58,840 Speaker 1: I feel like when you say that, you make it 33 00:01:58,880 --> 00:01:59,560 Speaker 1: about you. 34 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 2: Because I know you went through it was it was 35 00:02:03,040 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 2: you were so brave and strong, but it was really 36 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 2: tough for you. There was a lot of anxiety around 37 00:02:08,560 --> 00:02:10,960 Speaker 2: it because of things that could go wrong. 38 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:13,920 Speaker 1: And look how great it went. 39 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:14,760 Speaker 3: MM. 40 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 2: I think we should be grateful for how great that 41 00:02:18,800 --> 00:02:24,000 Speaker 2: one went. I don't think we should maybe in atle. 42 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:27,960 Speaker 1: Discussion, what's the percentage for you, like if you had 43 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:31,079 Speaker 1: to percentage it out, what is the percentage for another baby? 44 00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:33,280 Speaker 3: Seventy thirty? 45 00:02:34,320 --> 00:02:38,040 Speaker 1: Oh, so you're saying there's good. That's like way better 46 00:02:38,040 --> 00:02:39,079 Speaker 1: than I thought you were going to say. I thought 47 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:40,360 Speaker 1: you were going to say like ninety nine to one. 48 00:02:42,120 --> 00:02:44,399 Speaker 1: You know what I would like to do? If I 49 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: truly what I would like to do? Are you ready 50 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:48,640 Speaker 1: for it? 51 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,240 Speaker 2: If it's something that you've floated before, and then I'm 52 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:53,160 Speaker 2: pretty play it on my answer to it. 53 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,720 Speaker 1: No, we're not going to do surrogacy. Yeah, I understand, 54 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: I'd like to, but you don't want to. But what 55 00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:08,359 Speaker 1: if we try for three months and if it doesn't happen. 56 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:16,720 Speaker 1: We tried it, and we tried it, We tried that, 57 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 1: and then okay when we stop if it was it 58 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:22,400 Speaker 1: wasn't meant to be. 59 00:03:22,960 --> 00:03:24,519 Speaker 3: I don't think we need to try for long. 60 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:27,960 Speaker 1: Why you just think you have super sperm? 61 00:03:28,960 --> 00:03:30,799 Speaker 3: Yeah? I was. 62 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:32,200 Speaker 1: I'm fifty to fifty. 63 00:03:32,480 --> 00:03:33,080 Speaker 3: Are you really? 64 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:39,920 Speaker 1: Yeah? Next question, all the discussions all right? 65 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 5: Another easy one. Would you guys ever move to Scotland? 66 00:03:43,640 --> 00:03:43,800 Speaker 3: No? 67 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:48,440 Speaker 1: Wow, you were so quick? Why why in this area? 68 00:03:48,480 --> 00:03:52,400 Speaker 1: Are you quick? In life and everywhere else? It's like 69 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: a sloth. 70 00:03:54,480 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 2: Because when something's clear in my mind, they will foist 71 00:03:57,840 --> 00:04:04,200 Speaker 2: that without without having to deliyate. I walk slowly, yes, granted, 72 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 2: I do things other things slowly because I need to 73 00:04:07,600 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 2: think about them so I can come back with solutions 74 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 2: of proper answers. 75 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:13,440 Speaker 1: What about the lady that's like five minutes with her 76 00:04:13,440 --> 00:04:15,960 Speaker 1: hand with the coffee out the window, I'm like, Alan, 77 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:20,560 Speaker 1: please grab the coffee from the Starbucks window and it's 78 00:04:20,600 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 1: like this one. 79 00:04:28,680 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 3: And then she's actually called me a sloth before. 80 00:04:31,400 --> 00:04:34,120 Speaker 1: Yes, I've also videoed one in the zoo and said 81 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:40,800 Speaker 1: he's in his natural habitat. I would love my own. 82 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:45,720 Speaker 1: I would love a condo one day in Scotland. Why 83 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 1: your parents maybe are getting older. 84 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:50,320 Speaker 3: M hm. 85 00:04:50,880 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: And maybe we could spend summers out there and then 86 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:55,960 Speaker 1: airbnb it or something like that. 87 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:58,440 Speaker 3: That's totally different from would you live in Scotland. 88 00:04:58,600 --> 00:05:00,360 Speaker 1: That's living in Scotland, not. 89 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 3: That's having a holiday home in Scotland. 90 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,560 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, okay, here's the only here's the only time 91 00:05:06,600 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 2: I go back in eleven Scotland. 92 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:10,120 Speaker 3: If I got offered the Rangeers job, oh. 93 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:12,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, which we talked about, He's like, listen, if that 94 00:05:12,400 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: opportunity ever gets He's like, we need to move to Scotland. 95 00:05:17,160 --> 00:05:17,680 Speaker 3: I'm coming. 96 00:05:19,120 --> 00:05:21,039 Speaker 1: Well I would need to too, because that would be really 97 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 1: hard to live eleven months away from each other for 98 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:24,000 Speaker 1: eleven months. 99 00:05:24,040 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 2: Of course, absolutely you would be there, So yes, we 100 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:29,760 Speaker 2: would live in Scotland, if. 101 00:05:29,720 --> 00:05:31,320 Speaker 1: If, and only if he coaches for the Rangers. 102 00:05:31,360 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 2: If I got the Rangelers job, however, a holiday home 103 00:05:35,080 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 2: in Scotland then the absolutely one hundred percent. I would 104 00:05:38,520 --> 00:05:41,480 Speaker 2: think about that because it's beautiful. It is in the summer. 105 00:05:42,760 --> 00:05:47,279 Speaker 4: Next question, okay, Alan, what is the first thing you 106 00:05:47,360 --> 00:05:49,760 Speaker 4: noticed about Jianna that made you want to slide into 107 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:50,560 Speaker 4: her DMS? 108 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:53,480 Speaker 5: And also when was the first time you googled her? 109 00:05:54,839 --> 00:05:58,760 Speaker 1: Good question, don't lie because I still don't think you tell. 110 00:05:58,640 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 2: It ignoring that outside noise and trying to focus on 111 00:06:01,520 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 2: your question. So the question was what was the first 112 00:06:03,760 --> 00:06:04,960 Speaker 2: thing I noticed about her? 113 00:06:05,279 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 5: Yeah? What did you? What did you notice about her 114 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:08,320 Speaker 5: that made you slide into her? 115 00:06:08,400 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 2: DMS plus smile one hundred percent, always say the same 116 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,679 Speaker 2: thing one million percent. 117 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:22,719 Speaker 5: The second question was what when was the first time 118 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:23,480 Speaker 5: you googled her? 119 00:06:24,880 --> 00:06:27,320 Speaker 1: Did you google me before you DMed me or after 120 00:06:27,360 --> 00:06:27,919 Speaker 1: you dm me? 121 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 3: After? 122 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:31,720 Speaker 2: And when I googled, I didn't do like a a 123 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:41,160 Speaker 2: Google proper Google search like deep search, so I don't 124 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:44,880 Speaker 2: know when timeframes after a dmder but I did. I 125 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 2: did obviously google you, but not didn't dive into like 126 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:53,560 Speaker 2: a deep investigation of your past or who you were interested. 127 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 3: I think I've always said I don't give a shit 128 00:06:55,360 --> 00:06:56,039 Speaker 3: about your past. 129 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:58,159 Speaker 1: I know on our first date, did you did you 130 00:06:58,160 --> 00:06:59,279 Speaker 1: know how many times I was married. 131 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:08,160 Speaker 3: I think I think i'd probably seen I had Lenya. 132 00:07:08,600 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: And it didn't bother you. 133 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:16,200 Speaker 3: No, not, So everyone makes mistakes, mistakes of me. Here's 134 00:07:16,200 --> 00:07:17,480 Speaker 3: my language. 135 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 5: Next question, Okay, Jenna, you mentioned it was hard for 136 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,400 Speaker 5: you to talk about sex with Mike. Is it different 137 00:07:23,440 --> 00:07:23,960 Speaker 5: with Alan? 138 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:27,960 Speaker 1: He like, it's light years different. I actually have a 139 00:07:28,040 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: husband that wants to have sex with me and not 140 00:07:30,320 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 1: other women. So it is the most refreshing thing in 141 00:07:32,960 --> 00:07:42,360 Speaker 1: the world to feel. To feel wanted, to feel sexy. 142 00:07:42,440 --> 00:07:45,600 Speaker 1: I did. I felt like the most. I felt like 143 00:07:45,640 --> 00:07:49,760 Speaker 1: the ugliest, un sexiest woman. In my last marriage, he 144 00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:52,680 Speaker 1: never wanted to have sex with me. He never touched me, 145 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:56,920 Speaker 1: he never like it. It was like pulling teeth to 146 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 1: have any sort of affection. This man can not keep 147 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: his hands off of me. He loves having sex with me. 148 00:08:03,720 --> 00:08:10,200 Speaker 1: He makes me feel so beautiful and sexy and wanted, 149 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 1: and it is a it's just a it's completely different experience, 150 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: so much so that I feel like all the things 151 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: that I had felt in my last marriage and the 152 00:08:22,560 --> 00:08:24,840 Speaker 1: things that he would say about me, And how you know, 153 00:08:24,880 --> 00:08:28,240 Speaker 1: if I only wore this or if I didn't just 154 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: wear t shirts to bed, Like, no matter what I wear, 155 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:36,360 Speaker 1: you always make me feel sexy. And but for a 156 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:40,679 Speaker 1: while I didn't feel that way. But spending obviously, and 157 00:08:40,920 --> 00:08:42,720 Speaker 1: you know the things that you say to me, I'm like, no, 158 00:08:42,800 --> 00:08:50,199 Speaker 1: he actually like or things with like you don't make 159 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:53,080 Speaker 1: comments like sometimes I okay, I had in my old 160 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:56,360 Speaker 1: clothing line that bombed Jolie and Jace. I still wear 161 00:08:56,559 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 1: just those long sleep shirts because they're so comfortable. They 162 00:09:02,040 --> 00:09:05,400 Speaker 1: were overly priced and that was a bad call, bad distributors, whatever, 163 00:09:05,480 --> 00:09:10,679 Speaker 1: But I still wear those long over what and they're like, 164 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: it's like a granny dress. I could just left off, 165 00:09:16,960 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: but it's so comfortable, and like, you make me feel 166 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:21,480 Speaker 1: sexy in that? 167 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:24,360 Speaker 3: Does you look sexy? And Everson. 168 00:09:26,240 --> 00:09:28,040 Speaker 1: And I just have never had that, so it is 169 00:09:28,360 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 1: light years different. It's a totally different experience. I actually 170 00:09:31,440 --> 00:09:37,800 Speaker 1: have a end within that sexualness of it. We enjoy 171 00:09:37,880 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: it and it works, if you know what I mean. 172 00:09:43,000 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: It all works. 173 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:49,600 Speaker 4: All right. 174 00:09:49,640 --> 00:09:54,599 Speaker 5: This leads listen to our next question. No, yeah, but 175 00:09:54,679 --> 00:09:57,240 Speaker 5: it's coming. Who wants to have sex more? 176 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:05,319 Speaker 1: I disagree. I think we equally equally want to have sex. 177 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:11,640 Speaker 1: Like there's times when I'm more aggressive in the area, 178 00:10:14,320 --> 00:10:17,000 Speaker 1: but mostly yeah, sure you, But I think it's pretty equal. 179 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:19,280 Speaker 1: It's not like I'm just like, oh okay. 180 00:10:20,520 --> 00:10:22,559 Speaker 3: Few he wants it again. Yeah, I think there's a 181 00:10:22,559 --> 00:10:24,439 Speaker 3: good balance within it. Yeah. Absolutely. 182 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:42,120 Speaker 4: Here's your position question, Alan, what's more intrusive? What's your 183 00:10:42,160 --> 00:10:44,800 Speaker 4: favorite position? To feel the most connected to one another? 184 00:10:48,080 --> 00:10:57,320 Speaker 2: Ah, to feel the most connected? I would say normal, 185 00:10:57,440 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 2: missionary because we can lock eyes. 186 00:11:01,840 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: Did you just wink at me? I would have to agree. 187 00:11:06,400 --> 00:11:09,319 Speaker 3: Yeah. I think when I'm in pop of Jannah, because 188 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:10,960 Speaker 3: then we can we can look at each other. 189 00:11:11,080 --> 00:11:12,600 Speaker 1: Yes, I'm getting like goosies. 190 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:14,920 Speaker 3: You can see my face. 191 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:20,360 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh. 192 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:25,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think general, massionary posession because then we can 193 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:26,160 Speaker 3: see each other. 194 00:11:26,760 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 1: Yeah. And kissy kiss Yeah. 195 00:11:28,720 --> 00:11:31,719 Speaker 2: Johnah loves not journals. We love kissing each other. But 196 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:34,319 Speaker 2: she kisses me so hard that I get no. 197 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:35,720 Speaker 1: He has very sensitive lips. 198 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:38,640 Speaker 3: A little thing in my lip like a bruise. 199 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 4: Next question, Okay, where is the wildest place or strangest place. 200 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:46,320 Speaker 5: You guys have had sex? 201 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:48,959 Speaker 1: So this question has always been interesting because I have 202 00:11:49,120 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 1: never been like a wild like ooh, gotta do it here, 203 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:56,160 Speaker 1: or you know, when I hear people talking about the 204 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:59,560 Speaker 1: crazy places they've had sex. I'm just like the classic 205 00:11:59,679 --> 00:12:00,840 Speaker 1: let's do it in the past. 206 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:03,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, you know that as well. 207 00:12:03,600 --> 00:12:06,679 Speaker 1: We haven't really had like a wild and crazy I remember. 208 00:12:06,400 --> 00:12:08,719 Speaker 3: The time in Phoenix when we were in the car 209 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:09,840 Speaker 3: and we were all. 210 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:12,120 Speaker 1: Like, oh, that got close. We didn't actually have sex, 211 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:14,319 Speaker 1: but that was like that was that took us back 212 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:18,640 Speaker 1: to like, you know, being young. You know that was 213 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:21,800 Speaker 1: that was that was hot and feisty. Yeah, because I'm like, 214 00:12:21,800 --> 00:12:23,880 Speaker 1: I didn't want to get in trouble. I didn't want 215 00:12:23,880 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 1: to get in trouble. We like started making out and 216 00:12:25,960 --> 00:12:28,719 Speaker 1: I didn't want to get caught doing it on the 217 00:12:28,840 --> 00:12:30,920 Speaker 1: side of the road, so I'm like, let's go. 218 00:12:31,360 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 3: And you were also pregnant, so like mobility assues might 219 00:12:35,679 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 3: have come up, but. 220 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 1: I would say we did it on a balcony one time, 221 00:12:40,080 --> 00:12:45,160 Speaker 1: didn't we Arizona was hot and steamy. See this is 222 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:49,400 Speaker 1: why was she like pregnant. Jana was very uh sexual. 223 00:12:51,320 --> 00:12:55,360 Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of as an unusual place. I 224 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:57,880 Speaker 2: don't think so joel and kiss someone. 225 00:12:58,320 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't people like see that. That's where I 226 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: get them a little like like I don't I don't 227 00:13:02,800 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 1: want people saying that it's a little I'm private in 228 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,319 Speaker 1: that area where I just want it between us. I 229 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:10,800 Speaker 1: don't want I don't want to get caught. I don't 230 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:13,720 Speaker 1: want to. I mean, god, I got caught my junior 231 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:14,520 Speaker 1: year of high school. 232 00:13:14,559 --> 00:13:17,880 Speaker 3: I'm just saying, sure, you get caught getting pumped? Yeah, 233 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:19,240 Speaker 3: year of high school? 234 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:22,319 Speaker 1: Yes, Oh my god, I've never told you that story. No, 235 00:13:22,400 --> 00:13:25,839 Speaker 1: it was my senior year. Sorry, senior year, I've never 236 00:13:25,920 --> 00:13:30,079 Speaker 1: told you that. By my high school boyfriend's dad and 237 00:13:30,320 --> 00:13:34,560 Speaker 1: mom also am no. At their house, they were they 238 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 1: came home early, and they went through the side door 239 00:13:37,640 --> 00:13:39,720 Speaker 1: and then his dad, you know, or his mom said 240 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:42,640 Speaker 1: pick up the condom. Oh, it was so like awful, 241 00:13:42,679 --> 00:13:44,240 Speaker 1: And then I tell my mom I was having sex. 242 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:47,880 Speaker 1: It was terrible. It was literally awful. I hear them 243 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,719 Speaker 1: walk in, and then I see his dad standing and 244 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:54,000 Speaker 1: we are butt naked on their living room couch and 245 00:13:54,160 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 1: he's like, and I mean I screamed and ran upstairs. 246 00:13:58,200 --> 00:14:00,520 Speaker 1: And then I'm crying in the bathroom. And then his 247 00:14:00,600 --> 00:14:03,400 Speaker 1: mom's say, go pick up the condom. And then she's like, 248 00:14:03,440 --> 00:14:06,000 Speaker 1: you have twenty four hours to tell your mother. I'm like, 249 00:14:06,120 --> 00:14:08,480 Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm just gonna kill me. 250 00:14:08,880 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 2: Sorry, Okay, unusual place, but don't think we've got an 251 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:13,760 Speaker 2: unusual place though. 252 00:14:14,240 --> 00:14:17,000 Speaker 1: Now the bed, we're boring in that way, but we're 253 00:14:17,000 --> 00:14:18,320 Speaker 1: not boring under the sheets. 254 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:24,760 Speaker 5: Heyo, I would be mortified if I ever got caught. 255 00:14:26,280 --> 00:14:27,320 Speaker 1: Literally, it was the worst. 256 00:14:27,440 --> 00:14:29,280 Speaker 3: That's a few outside instances. 257 00:14:29,560 --> 00:14:33,360 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, but we we are surrounded by woods. Those 258 00:14:33,360 --> 00:14:35,800 Speaker 1: were hot. Yeah, yeah, outside in the back by the pool, 259 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,480 Speaker 1: but again we're surrounded by by woods. 260 00:14:39,600 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 5: Favorite date night you've had so far? 261 00:14:43,840 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 1: My favorite date night was the Valentines where he made 262 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:50,760 Speaker 1: the restaurant in the woods over by the fire pit 263 00:14:50,840 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 1: that he him and Jase made and the kids were 264 00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:55,800 Speaker 1: the little servers and they made dinner. That was the 265 00:14:55,880 --> 00:15:01,440 Speaker 1: most thoughtful date night ever. Yeah, that's probably as well 266 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: or Italy honeymoon close toss up. 267 00:15:06,320 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 5: How do you beat Italy? That's crazy? That sounds amazing, 268 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 5: is how you beat it? 269 00:15:12,480 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: That was that was the name of the restaurant. They 270 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 1: made a restaurant, so he got a restaurant sign like 271 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:20,640 Speaker 1: the kids colored Rosselio's super cute. 272 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 5: That's sweet, very sweet, Alan, Thank you. 273 00:15:23,440 --> 00:15:26,480 Speaker 1: Good move there again, nothing like I've ever had before. 274 00:15:27,280 --> 00:15:29,200 Speaker 5: From Lauren, How often do you guys fight. 275 00:15:29,880 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 3: It's interesting to me what people call a fight. What 276 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:35,000 Speaker 3: deems it being a fight? 277 00:15:35,600 --> 00:15:37,200 Speaker 1: That's a good question. What deems it being a fight? 278 00:15:38,360 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 4: Well, what's a I guess it's probably different for every couple. 279 00:15:41,360 --> 00:15:42,560 Speaker 4: I'm like, what's a fight for you? 280 00:15:42,680 --> 00:15:42,920 Speaker 3: Guys? 281 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:47,800 Speaker 1: I think our last fight would have been a misunderstanding 282 00:15:49,920 --> 00:15:54,080 Speaker 1: or no, it wasn't a misunderstanding. But back in a 283 00:15:54,160 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: couple of months ago, where wasn't totally upfront. You weren't 284 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:02,400 Speaker 1: totally up front about some thing, which then triggered something 285 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 1: within me. Yeah, and so thats caused a little stir. 286 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:12,560 Speaker 2: So an actual argument, proper argument, probably once every three months. 287 00:16:13,480 --> 00:16:14,200 Speaker 1: Why are you laughing? 288 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:15,840 Speaker 3: I don't know if those ratios are good. 289 00:16:17,880 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 1: We really don't fight that often. 290 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 3: We have we have little She gets hoffy. 291 00:16:22,040 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 1: I get huffy because I get overwhelmed with a lot 292 00:16:25,040 --> 00:16:25,400 Speaker 1: of things. 293 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, because I've just got nothing going on. I don't 294 00:16:28,960 --> 00:16:29,800 Speaker 3: get overwhelmed. 295 00:16:32,440 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 1: You get quiet, but I do get I get I 296 00:16:34,680 --> 00:16:38,120 Speaker 1: get like, I do get huffy. But you also get 297 00:16:38,200 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: quiet and huffy in your own way. 298 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, because we perceive the communication different to what that 299 00:16:44,360 --> 00:16:48,880 Speaker 2: actually is. Okay, answer to the question, probably once every 300 00:16:48,920 --> 00:16:49,440 Speaker 2: three months. 301 00:16:49,960 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 1: I disagree with that. I would say like once every 302 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 1: like four to five, like a real fight. But again, 303 00:16:58,360 --> 00:16:59,080 Speaker 1: we don't really like fight. 304 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:05,000 Speaker 3: Fight. It's a hard question. Yeah, no question, good question. 305 00:17:05,000 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 1: I would say we are. We've gotten a lot better 306 00:17:08,880 --> 00:17:12,200 Speaker 1: with how we communicate and solve problems so that it 307 00:17:12,240 --> 00:17:16,760 Speaker 1: doesn't become a fight. I'll say that, Yeah, I apologize, 308 00:17:16,800 --> 00:17:20,639 Speaker 1: and given that's not true, what did I do the 309 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:22,800 Speaker 1: other day? It was a joke, No, But what did 310 00:17:22,840 --> 00:17:26,879 Speaker 1: I do the other day? I was huffy? And so 311 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:29,639 Speaker 1: I came out of the gym and I you were 312 00:17:29,680 --> 00:17:31,159 Speaker 1: working out outside, and I walked up to you and 313 00:17:31,200 --> 00:17:31,800 Speaker 1: I said, I'm. 314 00:17:31,680 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 3: Sorry, actually really cute. What it was? Cute? It was nice. 315 00:17:35,960 --> 00:17:36,760 Speaker 3: I appreciate you that. 316 00:17:37,080 --> 00:17:39,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, because I knew. I knew I was being huffy. 317 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:42,440 Speaker 1: I knew that I was being But why based off 318 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:46,000 Speaker 1: what I started my period? It always always goes back 319 00:17:46,040 --> 00:17:50,480 Speaker 1: to my period. But it was true, like I was huffy, 320 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 1: I hold a lot of things in a few days 321 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:55,879 Speaker 1: before my period and then lo and behold you know. 322 00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:58,119 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, that makes sense. But I did 323 00:17:58,240 --> 00:17:59,720 Speaker 1: come out and I said, I'm sorry, it's not so 324 00:17:59,760 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 1: it's not always you, but a lot of times, I 325 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:03,480 Speaker 1: feel like what we have been really good at has 326 00:18:03,560 --> 00:18:06,639 Speaker 1: been able to go okay. We now are understanding each 327 00:18:06,640 --> 00:18:10,600 Speaker 1: other's communication, and instead of having the big blow up 328 00:18:10,640 --> 00:18:12,680 Speaker 1: fights like we would not big blow up fights, but 329 00:18:12,800 --> 00:18:15,400 Speaker 1: like the big fights like every few months or whatever, 330 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: we don't really have those anymore because of how we've 331 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: been able to understand each other more and the more 332 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:24,480 Speaker 1: that we grow together, the more that we understand our 333 00:18:24,520 --> 00:18:28,760 Speaker 1: communication and what we're feeling. And you have more empathy now, 334 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:33,399 Speaker 1: which is a beautiful thing. So how often do you fight, Hannah? 335 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 5: I would say my husband and Alan are probably similar. 336 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:41,159 Speaker 4: He really diffuses any Like when I get huffy, he 337 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:45,560 Speaker 4: like really tries to diffuse and almost like starts doing 338 00:18:45,640 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 4: laundry or story around the house. 339 00:18:48,320 --> 00:18:50,600 Speaker 1: It is the same thing, like he'll be like all 340 00:18:50,640 --> 00:18:53,320 Speaker 1: of a sudden making the kids lunches, and I'm like 341 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:55,600 Speaker 1: he's sweet. He's just like trying. 342 00:18:55,400 --> 00:18:58,280 Speaker 4: Bringing me something I want, yes, And I'm like you, 343 00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:00,919 Speaker 4: I'm like, I need something to distract me and then 344 00:19:00,920 --> 00:19:02,399 Speaker 4: I can collect my thoughts and I can come back 345 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:03,160 Speaker 4: and apologize. 346 00:19:03,600 --> 00:19:07,960 Speaker 5: Yeah, but we don't. We don't fight a lot like 347 00:19:08,080 --> 00:19:11,120 Speaker 5: you guys. It's probably disagreements on things, disagreements. 348 00:19:11,320 --> 00:19:14,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we've got younger kids as well, You're 349 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 2: more open to disagreements and stress. 350 00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:23,119 Speaker 1: Therefore, Yeah, I think it's fighting, is I bet you would. 351 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:25,520 Speaker 1: I think to go back to the actually the question. 352 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:31,240 Speaker 1: Fights we probably have like two a year, and disagreements 353 00:19:31,320 --> 00:19:35,560 Speaker 1: are you know, once and once every other month, I 354 00:19:35,600 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: don't know. 355 00:19:36,760 --> 00:19:38,719 Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, which I feel like is very normal when 356 00:19:38,760 --> 00:19:41,760 Speaker 4: you're living with a whole other human who has a 357 00:19:41,800 --> 00:19:44,200 Speaker 4: different way of doing things, and you've got young kids 358 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:46,800 Speaker 4: that are adding stress to the relationship. 359 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:50,120 Speaker 5: So I'm similar to you guys. With my relationship. 360 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:53,960 Speaker 4: We maybe fight, yeah, twice a year, it's like a 361 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 4: big fight, but otherwise it's just little disagreements. 362 00:19:57,119 --> 00:20:00,840 Speaker 1: And yeah, and even within those fights, like you know, 363 00:20:00,960 --> 00:20:03,000 Speaker 1: there's still so much love. That's the thing. Like it's 364 00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:05,520 Speaker 1: so different. And I think the difference too with our 365 00:20:05,560 --> 00:20:10,240 Speaker 1: fighting is when we fight, it's not like my previous 366 00:20:10,440 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 1: fights with Xes have been explosive and abusive and bad 367 00:20:17,760 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: with him, it's like just the typical we're having a fight. 368 00:20:22,000 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 1: We all might say a few things we don't love. 369 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:28,120 Speaker 3: And I think we're both stolen. Yeah when it comes 370 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:30,359 Speaker 3: to fight. Yeah, Like, well I'm not given in and 371 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:32,200 Speaker 3: I'm not given in, so therefore. 372 00:20:32,640 --> 00:20:35,600 Speaker 1: But it's like night and day. What a fight, It's like, 373 00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:36,880 Speaker 1: it's like a healthy fight. 374 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:53,359 Speaker 4: Yeah, Jess wants to know, did you guys get married 375 00:20:53,440 --> 00:20:54,920 Speaker 4: before the Scotland wedding? 376 00:20:55,760 --> 00:21:00,440 Speaker 1: Done? Done? Dune breaking news? We Actually, these are the 377 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 1: questions that I don't get, Okay, can I just give 378 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:04,639 Speaker 1: what was her name? Jessica? 379 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:10,960 Speaker 3: Jess's life married before we get married in Scotland? That 380 00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:13,240 Speaker 3: is why these are the ones. These are the exact 381 00:21:13,359 --> 00:21:14,600 Speaker 3: ones that I don't get. 382 00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:16,640 Speaker 1: Can I defend my girl Jess? 383 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:20,240 Speaker 3: And my response is not personally against Jess. My response 384 00:21:20,359 --> 00:21:21,520 Speaker 3: is do you like how. 385 00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:26,920 Speaker 1: We just named you Jess girl Jessica? But can can we? 386 00:21:27,560 --> 00:21:30,920 Speaker 1: I think we should answer it, don't you do you 387 00:21:30,960 --> 00:21:31,680 Speaker 1: want me to answer it? 388 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 2: No? 389 00:21:32,200 --> 00:21:35,760 Speaker 1: I think we should answer though, because listen, you started 390 00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:40,480 Speaker 1: wearing your ring mm. And there was a lot of 391 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:43,480 Speaker 1: questions if we got married, and we did not answer them, 392 00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:47,520 Speaker 1: and there was a piece of me and even my 393 00:21:47,600 --> 00:21:52,480 Speaker 1: girlfriends asked so much so that Catherine is the most 394 00:21:52,760 --> 00:21:55,160 Speaker 1: and I love her to death. She's my best friend 395 00:21:55,240 --> 00:21:59,399 Speaker 1: in the entire freaking world. And we are in New 396 00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:03,440 Speaker 1: York City. Yeah, and I just knew. I knew, I 397 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:05,560 Speaker 1: knew she was going to ask me. I knew she 398 00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: was going to. 399 00:22:07,119 --> 00:22:11,639 Speaker 3: Well, of course people, I'm walking around the ring on, right, But. 400 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,480 Speaker 1: I just knew I knew she was going to ask him. 401 00:22:13,520 --> 00:22:15,440 Speaker 1: This was months after you had the ring on, So 402 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: you put the ring on in January, and we're going 403 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:22,520 Speaker 1: to answer the question for the first time, but you 404 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 1: but so she's been now I was like, oh, he 405 00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: just you know, he'd just put it on. And I 406 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:31,159 Speaker 1: just didn't want to say anything else to it because 407 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:37,880 Speaker 1: I I've always been incredibly open, incredibly open, yeah too much, 408 00:22:38,520 --> 00:22:40,440 Speaker 1: like so much so that I've you know, wish I 409 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:44,879 Speaker 1: would have kept a few things to myself, right, And 410 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:48,959 Speaker 1: so with this it was nice to not say anything 411 00:22:49,119 --> 00:22:52,600 Speaker 1: and let people think whatever they wanted to think, because 412 00:22:53,840 --> 00:22:57,040 Speaker 1: I didn't want to share. And it was something between 413 00:22:57,160 --> 00:23:01,240 Speaker 1: us that we decided that we weren't going to elaborate 414 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:03,439 Speaker 1: more on it. And at the end of the day, 415 00:23:03,440 --> 00:23:05,560 Speaker 1: we had a baby, So who cares if you did 416 00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 1: have a ring on before we got married, because we 417 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:12,000 Speaker 1: had a we we have a son. We had a 418 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,359 Speaker 1: son together, you know, and it was I think it 419 00:23:14,480 --> 00:23:17,920 Speaker 1: was weird for us not to be married when we 420 00:23:18,040 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 1: had Roman in the hospital. There was a piece of 421 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 1: it where it was like we weren't technically married then. 422 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:28,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, looking back at it now, just answer your question. Yeah, 423 00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,399 Speaker 2: we got married in January and we made it formal 424 00:23:32,960 --> 00:23:34,240 Speaker 2: people in July. 425 00:23:35,480 --> 00:23:36,919 Speaker 3: Jin What. 426 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:45,480 Speaker 1: When did we married Jeane thirteen? Right, Yeah, I think 427 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:48,720 Speaker 1: so July thirteenth, Jesus. 428 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,880 Speaker 2: July thirteenth to night, Okay, so yeah, But I think 429 00:23:51,920 --> 00:23:54,720 Speaker 2: part of it was also a lot of a lot 430 00:23:54,760 --> 00:24:00,720 Speaker 2: of people in our situation, i e. Foreign UK people 431 00:24:01,040 --> 00:24:04,639 Speaker 2: were making the legalities and the formalities long before the 432 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:07,399 Speaker 2: wedding just so they could focus on the planning of 433 00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 2: the wedding. 434 00:24:08,400 --> 00:24:09,880 Speaker 3: I think a lot of it was that as well. 435 00:24:09,920 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 3: But also we were like we were like desperate to 436 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:13,080 Speaker 3: manor each other. 437 00:24:13,840 --> 00:24:16,399 Speaker 1: Yeah, we were, and so this is what we did. 438 00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 1: And so because there was a piece of and so 439 00:24:19,880 --> 00:24:21,880 Speaker 1: that we wanted to do this before we had Roman. 440 00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:25,119 Speaker 1: But I didn't want I wanted our wedding to be 441 00:24:25,800 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 1: the actual wedding day, which is July thirteenth, But I 442 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:32,280 Speaker 1: also wanted I wanted that to be special. I didn't 443 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,480 Speaker 1: want anything to be taken away from that day. So 444 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,160 Speaker 1: what we did was after we had Roman. We still 445 00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:39,000 Speaker 1: had that feeling like this is so weird that we're 446 00:24:39,040 --> 00:24:43,639 Speaker 1: not married, you know, officially, and we have a son together. 447 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:48,000 Speaker 1: And so we went to the courthouse in January and 448 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:52,520 Speaker 1: we had a uh and then I started thinking, how 449 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:54,439 Speaker 1: are we going to have, you know, pastor Kevin going 450 00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:56,560 Speaker 1: to come over? But I was like, I don't want 451 00:24:56,600 --> 00:24:57,760 Speaker 1: to do any of it. I don't want to I 452 00:24:57,800 --> 00:24:59,879 Speaker 1: don't want to exchange vows. I don't want to do 453 00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 1: because I want to save that piece for the wedding. 454 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:05,359 Speaker 1: I want to save I want to save all of it. 455 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: Let's just get someone over. So it was a notary. 456 00:25:10,200 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 1: He was just a simple notary. He was so sweet. 457 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:16,720 Speaker 1: He was the mother of and this lady was so 458 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: sweet the Williamson County Clerk's office or whatever, you know. 459 00:25:20,600 --> 00:25:22,639 Speaker 1: I said, do you know anyone that can just privately 460 00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:26,480 Speaker 1: just sign a piece of paper for us? You know, 461 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:28,400 Speaker 1: we don't want to do the whole vows back and forth. 462 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:30,119 Speaker 1: And she's like, well, actually, my son, like you can 463 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,040 Speaker 1: absolutely come over to your house. And we're like great, 464 00:25:32,560 --> 00:25:35,480 Speaker 1: So four o'clock, like before before the kids got home, 465 00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,879 Speaker 1: it was like three o'clock in the afternoon before the 466 00:25:37,960 --> 00:25:41,200 Speaker 1: kids came home. We he came over and he's like, 467 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:42,480 Speaker 1: all right, so no vows. I was like, no, we 468 00:25:42,560 --> 00:25:44,720 Speaker 1: want to make that special, keep it, you know, keep 469 00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,960 Speaker 1: it to that day. And it was, you know, the 470 00:25:48,000 --> 00:25:50,200 Speaker 1: piece of paper we signed it, he put the ring on. 471 00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,239 Speaker 1: I didn't put my ring on. We save that as 472 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,480 Speaker 1: well too, but just to have that little something for 473 00:25:56,680 --> 00:26:00,000 Speaker 1: us that was special to us that we didn't announ 474 00:26:00,240 --> 00:26:03,600 Speaker 1: to everybody. And and I even when the January was 475 00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:06,159 Speaker 1: it twelfth or twenty first. I got to look back now, 476 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:09,320 Speaker 1: but I think it was a twenty first, But I 477 00:26:09,520 --> 00:26:12,480 Speaker 1: almost I drafted up a thing on January twenty first 478 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,520 Speaker 1: to be to say, you know, happy one year Bay, 479 00:26:15,680 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 1: Like you know, we didn't share this, and but this 480 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:20,560 Speaker 1: was a moment between us. I ended up not posting 481 00:26:20,600 --> 00:26:23,280 Speaker 1: it because I'm like, our wedding date is July thirteenth. 482 00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 1: We just made it official a little earlier. But I 483 00:26:28,400 --> 00:26:32,240 Speaker 1: didn't want to, like I wanted to almost say we 484 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,000 Speaker 1: did it privately and it was between us and we 485 00:26:35,119 --> 00:26:38,280 Speaker 1: had that moment. But I still just so want to 486 00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:40,199 Speaker 1: just honor our wedding day because that was a day 487 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:42,879 Speaker 1: we actually made official. And I didn't even really tell you. 488 00:26:44,240 --> 00:26:46,440 Speaker 1: I mean we didn't really say a husband wife even 489 00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 1: a lot then too, because I didn't want. 490 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 3: To keep an everything for the moment of in Scotland. 491 00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:56,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, and before you go to Scotland, like you have 492 00:26:56,520 --> 00:27:00,560 Speaker 1: to do all that paperwork anyways, So that's why it's 493 00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,359 Speaker 1: like you couldn't sign it down, like you have to 494 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:04,359 Speaker 1: do it before you go overseas. So that's why we're like, 495 00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:05,679 Speaker 1: all right, we'll just we'll just do it. But there 496 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: was something so beautiful and just private and precious about 497 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:18,560 Speaker 1: us holding that together and it just being like just 498 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:24,640 Speaker 1: us having that together without the whole world. But Catherine, 499 00:27:24,680 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 1: when she kept hounding me, not really hounded, I mean 500 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 1: not hounding, but she was in the car and she said, Okay, 501 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,280 Speaker 1: I just need to know, like did you guys get married, 502 00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:35,000 Speaker 1: Like why is he really wearing the ring? And sweet 503 00:27:35,080 --> 00:27:38,160 Speaker 1: Kristen does what Christen does, and just like on behalf 504 00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:41,080 Speaker 1: of my client. You know, she's not gonna it is 505 00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:44,040 Speaker 1: whatever she wants to say, and you don't have to say. 506 00:27:45,080 --> 00:27:47,600 Speaker 1: But Catherine and I are big on you know, I 507 00:27:47,640 --> 00:27:50,160 Speaker 1: don't want to lie to her, And so I ended 508 00:27:50,240 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: up saying to her, yes, we are technically, but it's 509 00:27:55,720 --> 00:27:58,399 Speaker 1: just been something that we've wanted to privately keep together. 510 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:01,280 Speaker 1: He's not calling me wife, not calling him husband, but 511 00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:04,640 Speaker 1: it's something that we wanted for ourselves. And I don't 512 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,760 Speaker 1: want to say anything else, and she goes, okay, so 513 00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:11,040 Speaker 1: that's it. Yes, So yes we did, yes, yes, yes, yes. 514 00:28:11,640 --> 00:28:14,760 Speaker 3: I hope that makes things easier for you in life. 515 00:28:15,119 --> 00:28:15,399 Speaker 5: Wow. 516 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:20,160 Speaker 4: Okay, well, I think I think we ended on that note. Alan, 517 00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,480 Speaker 4: you did great. How are the questions this time around 518 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 4: for you? 519 00:28:23,320 --> 00:28:25,520 Speaker 3: They were better? I think we can do a second 520 00:28:25,640 --> 00:28:26,480 Speaker 3: round at some point. 521 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:28,840 Speaker 1: What would be the question that you don't want to 522 00:28:28,840 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 1: be asked? 523 00:28:29,960 --> 00:28:33,520 Speaker 3: I don't think it's I would really want to swell that, 524 00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:34,080 Speaker 3: avoid that. 525 00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:41,160 Speaker 1: Nothing good to know. Stay tuned for next Q and A.