1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:02,679 Speaker 1: Welcome into Unbreakable and Mental Health Podcast with Jay Lazer. 2 00:00:02,680 --> 00:00:05,240 Speaker 1: I'm Jay Laser, and if you're like many people, you 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:07,240 Speaker 1: may be surprised to learn that one of five adults 4 00:00:07,280 --> 00:00:10,560 Speaker 1: in this country experienced mental illness last year. Yet far 5 00:00:10,640 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: too many fella received the support they need. Carolym Behavioral 6 00:00:14,320 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: Health is doing something about it. They understand the behavioral 7 00:00:17,760 --> 00:00:20,840 Speaker 1: health is a key part of whole health, delivering compassionate 8 00:00:20,840 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: care that treats physical, mental, emotional, and social needs in tandem. 9 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 1: Carolm Behavioral Health raising the quality of life through empathy 10 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:32,400 Speaker 1: and action. Today, I want to teach you about caterpillars 11 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:35,319 Speaker 1: and butterflies. I know it was probably not my brand right, 12 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:40,200 Speaker 1: caterpillars and butterflies. So recently I had a friend who 13 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 1: had come into some success, actually found some love in 14 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:49,000 Speaker 1: the first time of her life, and she was so excited. 15 00:00:49,040 --> 00:00:53,040 Speaker 1: But she came to me that her friends, who she 16 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:55,960 Speaker 1: thought were going to be so incredibly happy for her, 17 00:00:56,440 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 1: instead were icing her out, weren't happy, we weren't excited 18 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: for her, and it was really hurting her. She was 19 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,400 Speaker 1: hoping to celebrate with all these people, and we started 20 00:01:06,400 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: talking about who these people are and what they did, 21 00:01:08,720 --> 00:01:11,759 Speaker 1: and a lot of them, turns out, liked her being 22 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 1: the single gal because she's always around. Whenever they need someone, 23 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:19,280 Speaker 1: she was there. She was there for them selfishly selfishly. 24 00:01:19,959 --> 00:01:21,240 Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to say they didn't 25 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: want it to be with somebody, because it's probably not accurate, 26 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,720 Speaker 1: but they certainly wanted to make sure she was still 27 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:31,280 Speaker 1: at their beck and call. And that's what happens in 28 00:01:31,319 --> 00:01:33,000 Speaker 1: a lot of these situations. When we are alone, we 29 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:36,639 Speaker 1: are single. And that was me for fifty three years 30 00:01:36,800 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 1: until Rosie and I reconnected and got engaged. So she 31 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 1: was told the story by somebody, and it was beautiful 32 00:01:44,920 --> 00:01:47,319 Speaker 1: and the woman told her, listen, for a long time, 33 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:50,560 Speaker 1: you've been hanging out with caterpillars, and you've been a 34 00:01:50,600 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: caterpillar and you guys are just happily walking along the ground. Well, 35 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: you found love and your rings spread and it turns 36 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,280 Speaker 1: you into a butterfly. Butterfly, the caterpillars don't hang out. 37 00:02:01,800 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: It's time for you to hang out with other butterflies. 38 00:02:04,520 --> 00:02:07,840 Speaker 1: Now that you're happy, your wings have grown and spread, 39 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,720 Speaker 1: you should be soaring to heights with others that could 40 00:02:11,760 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 1: soar to those heights. Don't let the caterpillars bring you down. 41 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:19,520 Speaker 1: You deserve to fly to the highest skies. You deserve 42 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,800 Speaker 1: to fly around with others who have experienced that. And 43 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,160 Speaker 1: in our journey in life, we want to fly higher 44 00:02:25,160 --> 00:02:27,400 Speaker 1: and hire and hire. So if you have people in 45 00:02:27,440 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: your life who you realize for holding you down, I 46 00:02:30,919 --> 00:02:33,040 Speaker 1: don't care who they are, and I've had to make 47 00:02:33,160 --> 00:02:35,600 Speaker 1: hard decisions like this in my life as well. If 48 00:02:35,639 --> 00:02:39,320 Speaker 1: somebody is not empowering you, they're a caterpillar. They've got 49 00:02:39,360 --> 00:02:41,080 Speaker 1: to go. Because you don't want to crawl on your 50 00:02:41,080 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: belly on the ground for the rest of your life. 51 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:44,400 Speaker 1: You've got to cut that cord and make sure you 52 00:02:44,440 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 1: could spread your wings and lift yourself up. And that's okay, 53 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:51,720 Speaker 1: and it's also okay to miss them. It's okay to grieve, 54 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:54,639 Speaker 1: then it's okay to feel bad about that. But if 55 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:57,360 Speaker 1: you're not empowering me, there's no reason for you to 56 00:02:57,360 --> 00:03:00,240 Speaker 1: be on this journey with me. So make sure everybody 57 00:03:00,440 --> 00:03:03,840 Speaker 1: in your life on your journey as walking this walk 58 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,760 Speaker 1: with you, is really flying the skies with you. Let's 59 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:09,120 Speaker 1: keep flapping our wings together.