WEBVTT - Reverend Jesse & Jacqueline Jackson

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<v Speaker 1>Pushkin. Hi, I'm Phil Donahue and I'm Marlowe Thomas, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're going on a series of double dates to find

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<v Speaker 1>out what makes a marriage last It was a bitter

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<v Speaker 1>cold November morning when we got to the airport. We

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<v Speaker 1>were heading out to Chicago, my old stomping grounds, to

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<v Speaker 1>visit Reverend Jesse Jackson and Jacqueline Jackson. Not only are

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<v Speaker 1>these two civil rights icons, his work with doctor Martin

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<v Speaker 1>Luther King, her lifelong activism, but they've been married throughout

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<v Speaker 1>it all, nearly sixty years. I was really looking forward

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<v Speaker 1>to it. Only problem, our flight from New York was

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<v Speaker 1>severely delayed and we were five hours late for our date.

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<v Speaker 1>It was awful. I really hate being late for anything.

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<v Speaker 1>But even though it was already evening by the time

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<v Speaker 1>we landed, they said, come on over anyway. I've known

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<v Speaker 1>them for decades and that's the kind of generous people

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<v Speaker 1>they are. Oh the children, well, they all still talk

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<v Speaker 1>to me. That's a good side. Jesse was diagnosed with

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<v Speaker 1>Parkinson's disease several years ago, but despite his condition, his

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<v Speaker 1>spirits were lively and Jackie, she's always full of life.

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<v Speaker 1>As we settled in, Jesse began to recall their early days.

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<v Speaker 1>I prison met Jackie. She was in college. She was

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<v Speaker 1>into modern dass, she's hid been to the library and

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful begun measure. Parents are restrict on her. Those are pluses.

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<v Speaker 1>She was in church all the time. Those are pluses.

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<v Speaker 1>So you beginning you saying you evaluate what values you

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<v Speaker 1>share the foundation with. Many mergers don't last long as

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<v Speaker 1>they have no mottle rootage. It told tree roossa's deep

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<v Speaker 1>as the tree is high, the little roots, that's another foundation.

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<v Speaker 1>The wind blows, they can't take it. That's why I see.

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<v Speaker 1>And what tree grows without roots, it cannot grow grow right.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't get over how lucky you were to find Jackie.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, other women would have run out the door

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<v Speaker 1>because you were never home. I love you. I was lucky.

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<v Speaker 1>I told him because he was going and going and going,

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<v Speaker 1>and then he wouldn't inform me. I went to him

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, Reverend, you're supposed to make me happy.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was, I mean, because I really felt a

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<v Speaker 1>man is supposed to make you happy, that's his job.

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<v Speaker 1>We've always had a very kind of said my frank relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>And he looked at me and he said, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do that. Looks like, what do you mean, can't make

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<v Speaker 1>me happy? He said, that's your responsibility to you. Whoa oh.

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<v Speaker 1>I hated him. I was depressed for months. It's like,

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<v Speaker 1>that's not why you get married. Partner secure. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to finish my story. But that's an interesting thing to

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<v Speaker 1>say that you thought he should make you happy. I

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<v Speaker 1>thought he should make me happy. But he helped me

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<v Speaker 1>to grow because I think after year, after hating him

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<v Speaker 1>for a full year, planning a divorce and running away,

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<v Speaker 1>um I figured it out. Um, there are things he

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<v Speaker 1>enjoys that I don't. He likes sports and early in

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<v Speaker 1>the marriage, which I wanted, I love theater. I need

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<v Speaker 1>to go to sleep and snore. And that was very

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<v Speaker 1>embarrassing for me, and it occurred to me that I

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't humiliate him by imposing onto him the things that

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<v Speaker 1>I absolutely enjoy. And he made me miserable when we

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<v Speaker 1>did it together. And yet he was opening his thinking

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<v Speaker 1>that I could call my friends and we could go

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<v Speaker 1>out to the theater. You know, in many of these relationships,

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't like what I do, there is a

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<v Speaker 1>serious problem, but you can make it beyond liking what

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<v Speaker 1>I do in retrospect, have it overhead in common. It's

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<v Speaker 1>been married and building. We we demonstrated together. We resented

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<v Speaker 1>southern segregation, We resented the barbarism or racist institutions, visions

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<v Speaker 1>for our children. And at the end of the day,

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<v Speaker 1>it's about mutual to mutual security and fulfillment. If for

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<v Speaker 1>rest it is as exciting, it's as young, as fresh,

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<v Speaker 1>as sexy. But then there's responsibility comblems, and you had

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<v Speaker 1>to share your resources. I mean, one of the problems

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<v Speaker 1>of love is trust. And you trust somebody, you can't trust.

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<v Speaker 1>Love will asks very long. You can't trust somebody and

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<v Speaker 1>trust to make decisions that matter to you. Love matters soon.

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<v Speaker 1>But love has a mature and the air qualities of

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<v Speaker 1>life that add to love's maturity. Why didn't you tell

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<v Speaker 1>me these things? Zac was academically in kind, and so

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<v Speaker 1>was I either as incoming. She was trist based and

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<v Speaker 1>so was I. She marched for our freedom and our dignity,

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<v Speaker 1>and we did that together. We took risk together. But

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<v Speaker 1>that was said, I want you to leave seminary and

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<v Speaker 1>work with me full time. I was determined to ben

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<v Speaker 1>seminary jacket. You should you should go work with that

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<v Speaker 1>man when he was vacillating as to whether or not

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<v Speaker 1>to keep his scholarship at the Chicago Theological Seminary through

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<v Speaker 1>the Rockefeller Foundation. He had a scholarship to be here

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<v Speaker 1>in Illinois at the school, So our housing and everything

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<v Speaker 1>was in that package. Uh. And so when it came

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<v Speaker 1>time for Reverend to make the decision, he was trying

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<v Speaker 1>to weigh, what's to happen with my family if I

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<v Speaker 1>go fully with this guy full time? Uh, doctor King,

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<v Speaker 1>Doctor King, and and so, And what he's saying is

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<v Speaker 1>I I just thought, I'm not sure if I've ever

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<v Speaker 1>murdered someone else said they would have made that decision.

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<v Speaker 1>None of my friends, and that we're going safe for

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<v Speaker 1>the Urban League or something. It made more let's risk

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<v Speaker 1>and they had kind of stable administrative jobs. Dartine was

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<v Speaker 1>you might not come home, and you did not make

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<v Speaker 1>any money, and and and did you give up the scholarship?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Of course he accepted doctor

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<v Speaker 1>King's offer to join him. Jesse had been on this

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<v Speaker 1>journey for civil justice since that historic summer in college

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<v Speaker 1>in nineteen sixty. He'd been assigned a paper to write

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<v Speaker 1>and needed to borrow a book from the local library

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<v Speaker 1>in Greenville, South Carolina. It was a white library, and

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<v Speaker 1>when they refused to give him the book, he went

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<v Speaker 1>out back and cried. Eventually, he and his friends went

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<v Speaker 1>back to that same library and staged a sit in

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<v Speaker 1>in protest. We went to the library together, we were arrested.

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<v Speaker 1>That's I lost my film death in jails. Frankly, the

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<v Speaker 1>first time I went to jail, we were booked the afternoon.

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<v Speaker 1>But the fact that we've been going to be booked,

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<v Speaker 1>it was a book deal all over television was a breakthrough.

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<v Speaker 1>I got home. I was never get my father. Who

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<v Speaker 1>I got alarms my party from my father. That's your stepfather, father,

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<v Speaker 1>And so it's the janitor. And we go by the

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<v Speaker 1>bag on the Sunday afternoon. We would buff the floors

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<v Speaker 1>and into the hands. Anyhow, the door open and missed

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<v Speaker 1>the man who was in charge of the firm with

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<v Speaker 1>two of his friends. They were tall guys, kind of

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<v Speaker 1>drinking the red in the face. Yeah, then trying to

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<v Speaker 1>come here at seven. I was very aware of the

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<v Speaker 1>tone and who had that meant. He said, if you

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<v Speaker 1>look him, I'm gonna krick you. That's not the buve machine.

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<v Speaker 1>There's keys. The hope was what happened. He walt, miss sympathy,

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<v Speaker 1>you take the keys. I can't subject kicking me, and

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<v Speaker 1>you can't delay it back with you do the kick

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<v Speaker 1>in either we walked out the bank. My policy for

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<v Speaker 1>watching that acts of bravery. My father, Jesse's activism with

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<v Speaker 1>doctor King took him deeper and deeper into the civil

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<v Speaker 1>rights movement, so their work was often on the front

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<v Speaker 1>pages of the newspapers. Can you imagine how complicated it

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<v Speaker 1>must have been for Jesse and Jackie to be doing

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<v Speaker 1>all of that. It's kids to raise. I had three

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<v Speaker 1>children at that time, small children and one daughter sent

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<v Speaker 1>Teeter and two boys who want ten months apart. That's

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<v Speaker 1>pretty high schools all America. I never spoke with the

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<v Speaker 1>high school. Yeah, I want to be just a Jackson's daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>You see, that's attention because how they got you legal

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<v Speaker 1>shit this high profile. So and so my wife slept

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<v Speaker 1>in the gap. One time, Jesse and Junior said, I

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<v Speaker 1>come home from the room and its team to the

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<v Speaker 1>basketball game up at the academy. I didn't go. You

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<v Speaker 1>said that. I appreciate all you've done. But another night,

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<v Speaker 1>my mother comes to my game to see me play ball.

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<v Speaker 1>I felt bad about it because I'm having I'm always

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<v Speaker 1>ago shame between how the hell of this Jesse Jackson factor?

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<v Speaker 1>And so it was about assuming responsibility, whether jack understood

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<v Speaker 1>it and she transmitted it to them. In my work,

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<v Speaker 1>I never was inhibited from doing what I had to do.

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<v Speaker 1>My creativity was unlimited in times filling the road and

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<v Speaker 1>my work was risky. More Over, we had threats and

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<v Speaker 1>around the house beguns. We moved from the University of

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<v Speaker 1>Chicago right because we were working with doctor King, and

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<v Speaker 1>because of our work, we had access to many of

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<v Speaker 1>the people who were products of the Great Migration. That's

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<v Speaker 1>when so many African Americans, with the oppression in the

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<v Speaker 1>South cave to Illinois. Most of those people are deceased

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<v Speaker 1>now because that was a another age our elders and

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<v Speaker 1>because they knew that we had worked, we were working

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<v Speaker 1>with doctor King, and people kind of dove in and

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<v Speaker 1>embraced us and protected us. We lived on the third

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<v Speaker 1>floor of their apartment. And I remember who Spencer League now,

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<v Speaker 1>who is one of the largest funeral power services in

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<v Speaker 1>this area African American, and I remember his mother saying,

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<v Speaker 1>You'll be very safe here. You'll be safe. Jackie is

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<v Speaker 1>such a brave and determined woman. She wanted to be

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<v Speaker 1>down in the trenches with the people they were fighting for.

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<v Speaker 1>That's right. She didn't have what Jesse calls first lady ITAs.

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<v Speaker 1>I like this. I like to sit in the audience

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<v Speaker 1>because one you sit in the audience, you can hear

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<v Speaker 1>what they truly think. I go to the grocery store

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<v Speaker 1>and I interact with people in the parking lot. I

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<v Speaker 1>fight over my right to park in this space. And

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<v Speaker 1>you saw me here first. And then somebody will say,

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<v Speaker 1>aren't you Jesse Jackson's wife. I said, no, she's I

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<v Speaker 1>left her at home. No, I'm jack Well, I Jackson.

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<v Speaker 1>I still exist. You know, I can think for myself.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think women are very essential in holding a marriage,

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<v Speaker 1>and marriages are based on the attitude really of a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>If she wants, if she wants to keep it, she

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<v Speaker 1>will keep it. And if she's finished with it completely,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's done. We'll have more. After a quick break,

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<v Speaker 1>we're back to our conversation with Reverend Jesse Jackson and

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<v Speaker 1>Jacqueline Jackson. Jackie never had first Lady IDAs, but that's

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<v Speaker 1>because she was already doing her own thing, traveling the world,

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<v Speaker 1>with diplomatic delegations and on fact finding missions. Jackie met

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<v Speaker 1>a Fat first the delegation in Lebanon. I met him

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<v Speaker 1>as Jack's husband, this international dimission of her life of vision.

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<v Speaker 1>She met Daniel take a first and Castro and are

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<v Speaker 1>Fat and middlease home with the field. Jack was in Lebanon,

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<v Speaker 1>and there were moment So I don't tell you. There

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<v Speaker 1>were moment I panicked and she can't make you. I

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<v Speaker 1>could hear myself. I couldn't imagine her being over there

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<v Speaker 1>and me be at home, and a lot you lay.

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<v Speaker 1>You both have led a purposeful life, and you both

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<v Speaker 1>have supported each other and inspired each other, it feels

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<v Speaker 1>most of the time. Now. That does not mean that

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<v Speaker 1>we don't fight. I have to fight with him to

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<v Speaker 1>keep him sharp, and I do that every morning we

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<v Speaker 1>have our exercise. I shouted him and I call him names.

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<v Speaker 1>What what? What? What's ther name? You go? I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>telling you. It's our little secret. Call you return. You'll

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<v Speaker 1>never forget it. So I just take that blue. Let

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<v Speaker 1>me just comment about how I see you. First of all,

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<v Speaker 1>you're both very good looking, always have been. And Jesse

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<v Speaker 1>really enters the room. I mean, he's a tree He's like,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, that's very tall, and I have a feeling

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<v Speaker 1>that you know, you can yell at him and he's

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna run out the door. He won't run out

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<v Speaker 1>the door. He takes bunches. Oh, he's good, un profound.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not jealous of him, You're never concerned. It seems

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<v Speaker 1>to me. I'm not jealous of him. No, you're not

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<v Speaker 1>worried about I'm not worried about it. Mister tallman. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>good looking. I was. We went out one night and

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<v Speaker 1>this lady was so stunned to see reverend, so she

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<v Speaker 1>ran past me and she just grabbed him by his

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<v Speaker 1>neck and she just swung and swung, swung, and I

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<v Speaker 1>kept moving further back. It's like, I'm not getting the

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<v Speaker 1>hell beat out of me. You deal with the woman

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<v Speaker 1>until and he comes saying, my wife Jackie, got in

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<v Speaker 1>my wife Jackie. I think we've been in that situation

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<v Speaker 1>a few times. Well, perhaps, but there was a more

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<v Speaker 1>serious intrusion into the Jackson's marriage. We were in Atlanta,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe yeah, and this woman walked up to me. My god,

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<v Speaker 1>she was gorgeous, and she was saying, and she had

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<v Speaker 1>her camera and she said, I want to take a picture,

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, oh you can. She said, and who

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<v Speaker 1>are you? I said, I'm his wife. She said, how

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<v Speaker 1>can you stay with him after he went out there

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<v Speaker 1>and had this baby? I said, this one is taken

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<v Speaker 1>and you cannot stay around him too long because you're

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<v Speaker 1>too good looking. Now you take your picture and leave.

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<v Speaker 1>What baby? What she talking? The California reverend has a child.

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<v Speaker 1>I have five children. Reverend has six. So was this

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<v Speaker 1>woman's child? No, but she wanted to address it, and

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to let her know that I could. Well.

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<v Speaker 1>I asked a question, I don't know about this baby thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you mind telling me? I don't discuss it because

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<v Speaker 1>it's something in my past that I dealt with, and

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<v Speaker 1>I feel very comfortable. The young lady now is about

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<v Speaker 1>Ashley's about twenty, and she's ad spellman in school. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm very comfortable and I'm very h Well, did you

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<v Speaker 1>get mad at him? Did you throw him out? Or? An?

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<v Speaker 1>Of course I did, because I uh, you know, as

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<v Speaker 1>a wife, you feel you're the sexiest, you're the best.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to say before we go, is this well,

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<v Speaker 1>days of sunshine and the wind behind your back there

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<v Speaker 1>random days too. I don't think it's I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>to say that. I think there are some realities. I

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<v Speaker 1>think we are people. Nobody in this game, in this

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<v Speaker 1>world today it's perfect. We're imperfect beings. There are a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of flaws. And one of the things my attitude

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<v Speaker 1>in life is I don't like to discuss problems of anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell how you got out of it, Tell me how

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<v Speaker 1>you feel today, Tell me how you move forward. I

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<v Speaker 1>call him reverence, so it reminds him of who he

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<v Speaker 1>should be. What interested me when you said that is

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<v Speaker 1>you kept that marriage together. Yes, you said, this is

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<v Speaker 1>not going to destroy my marriage. I promised in sickness

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<v Speaker 1>and in health, in good times and in bad, through

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<v Speaker 1>triumphs and sorrows. This marriage is a test of my

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<v Speaker 1>character and I and I learned this from my mother.

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<v Speaker 1>Every time I received my report card, the first thing

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<v Speaker 1>she looked at was my character. I don't look for

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<v Speaker 1>good people. I try to be it myself and be

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<v Speaker 1>the example. And that's a test of my character. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I so admire you. I do you know. I am

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<v Speaker 1>very proud to be a woman. If I have another

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<v Speaker 1>chance to come back, I want to be a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I love and I love being an African American woman.

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<v Speaker 1>I want women to be the very best people. Women

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<v Speaker 1>are so necessary for men, and that's why women were

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<v Speaker 1>created last, so that all of the finest ingredients that

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<v Speaker 1>God may have missed when you were being composed. The

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<v Speaker 1>Lord thought about Lord stopped, rested, said when he looked

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<v Speaker 1>at men, I need a little help, and he's going

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<v Speaker 1>to need some help. And God I'd sat down and

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<v Speaker 1>thought about it and created me the second draft. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>Mumuranella was plaut Israel. Well, I would not I would

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<v Speaker 1>not have to do without my wife. I'm pretty good

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<v Speaker 1>he didn't take me first. I'd be lost. I couldn't survive.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the Reverend Jesse Jackson and Jacqueline Jackson. It's amazing

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<v Speaker 1>their hard work for justice and their long partnership had

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<v Speaker 1>been a part of American history. They certainly have. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've got to say, it was fun to be back

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<v Speaker 1>in Chicago again. Yep, just like the old days. Until

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<v Speaker 1>next time. I'm Phil Donahue and I'm Marlo Thomas. I

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