Speaker 1: All right, break it down.
Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just won't some
Speaker 2: Amy and Cat got your cove and locking No, brother,
Speaker 2: ladies and felons, do you just follow an the spirit
Speaker 2: where it's telling over real stuff, tell the chill stuff
Speaker 2: and the m but sway. Sometimes the best thing you
Speaker 2: can do it just stop you feel things. This is
Speaker 2: feeling things.
Speaker 3: With Amy and Kat.
Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and.
Speaker 3: I'm Kat, and I am feeling empowered today.
Speaker 1: That is the feeling of the day, feeling.
Speaker 3: Of the day.
Speaker 1: And why.
Speaker 3: Well, so before I get into why I'm feeling empowered,
Speaker 3: I do want to I guess you could call this
Speaker 3: well it is a compliment. You know how we've talked
Speaker 3: about not knowing how to dress and like watching these
Speaker 3: people and them saying where this not that whatever, blah
Speaker 3: blah blah. I've been seeing a lot of videos about
Speaker 3: how the one piece of clothing you need for this
Speaker 3: season is a crew neck sweater.
Speaker 1: Oh you're wearing? Is that what I'm wearing? The white
Speaker 1: T shirt underne Yeah you know this one girl. I
Speaker 1: didn't do this today because I felt like I was
Speaker 1: going to be uncomfortable. But She said she wears her
Speaker 1: white shirts the T shirt she wears undersweaters backwards because
Speaker 1: the back of the neck sits higher up, so that
Speaker 1: way the white part really shows. So that could be
Speaker 1: a pro tip that I've never tried.
Speaker 3: Also, people take fashion tape and tape their crew neck
Speaker 3: to their white shirt so it stays.
Speaker 1: Oh see, because I will say I've had the problem
Speaker 1: today of like having to pull it down to make
Speaker 1: sure that the white is showing, because.
Speaker 3: The fashion tape is probably more comfortable, yeah.
Speaker 1: Than wearing it backwards. You has a thick tag, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want that like on my neck.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I just wanted to empower you.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you pause pause, paws for the compliment. My boyfriend.
Speaker 1: It's so cute, you know, because he listens to our podcast.
Speaker 1: I didn't know he listened as much as he did,
Speaker 1: and I can't say that he's listened to every single episode.
Speaker 1: But the other day he gave me a compliment and
Speaker 1: I really didn't take it well, like I just sort
Speaker 1: of like what no, And he was like he looked
Speaker 1: at me and goes, thank you, pause paus, pause paus,
Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, touche, Okay, you've been listening
Speaker 1: to the podcast, so he knows and he retains info
Speaker 1: and male listener check. All right, So why are you
Speaker 1: feeling empowered? And thank you for empowering me.
Speaker 3: You're welcome. I'm feeling empowered because I was at a
Speaker 3: presentation recently and I had taken these notes and I
Speaker 3: just hadn't. I guess I forgot about them. I was
Speaker 3: going back through like I was trying to clean up
Speaker 3: my notes app, which I'm assuming your notes app looks
Speaker 3: kind of like my notes app.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but I've never thought about cleaning it up, should I?
Speaker 1: Because I mean, I do have a storage is shoe?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think mine was because I have a storage
Speaker 3: shoe and I have all these notes and it's like
Speaker 3: chicken thighs, What am I gonna do next Saturday? Like
Speaker 3: it's like the randomest stuff on the same note, like
Speaker 3: they don't make sense. But I had this. I found
Speaker 3: this one note that had notes from this presentation I
Speaker 3: went to and I don't know, I'm assuming it was
Speaker 3: from this person. I wish I could credit them, but
Speaker 3: of course, knowing me, the notes had no other context
Speaker 3: of it, and it was just a quote that the
Speaker 3: person said are you looking up your notes?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: Well, what are your notes look like?
Speaker 1: What did Santa bring the naughty soccer Flayer?
Speaker 3: What Cole get it?
Speaker 1: Gold col? Okay, I that was I don't know. That's
Speaker 1: the note I ended up on. I have lots of those.
Speaker 3: You probably could delete that.
Speaker 1: What what if I need it? Here's another note. I
Speaker 1: met Kat exactly four years ago.
Speaker 3: Stop it.
Speaker 1: And that was on February fifteenth, twenty twenty four. I
Speaker 1: must have been journaling about it. Wait, why how did
Speaker 1: you just randomly find that? Just kidding? It must be
Speaker 1: notes from a fifth a long time ago.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we met on in February.
Speaker 1: What, Well, it was February twenty twenty four, and we
Speaker 1: met in February of twenty twenty.
Speaker 3: Wait did that? Oh? That didn't say the date we met.
Speaker 1: It's a day that I made the notes, was what it? Well,
Speaker 1: it must have been a fifth thing where we were
Speaker 1: talking about maybe we met exactly four years ago at
Speaker 1: that time, and it was February twenty twenty four, and
Speaker 1: then if we met in February twenty twenty that's four years. Oh.
Speaker 3: I was just hoping that the date was like maybe
Speaker 3: the same day that I met Patrick that could be
Speaker 3: like my lucky what day did you meet Patrick February fifteenth?
Speaker 1: Oh no, I don't think. Yeah, maybe maybe we did.
Speaker 1: Maybe we did, maybe we didn't. I will I could
Speaker 1: look it up because I could look at what day
Speaker 1: we recorded outweigh in twenty twenty, because Lisa flew into town.
Speaker 1: I know that it was right before COVID hit New
Speaker 1: York because she's from New York and she was in
Speaker 1: Nashville and then flew out, and then the torn happened here,
Speaker 1: and then she got back and New York was starting
Speaker 1: to get really eerie. Yeah, and so it was bizarre
Speaker 1: for her. She's like wow, because it had the tornado
Speaker 1: happened like earlier, she would have been here. No, No, No,
Speaker 1: she didn't. She would probably wouldn't come because I had
Speaker 1: no electricity. She stayed with Like, no, I had to
Speaker 1: go stay in a hotel because it's like a block
Speaker 1: from my house.
Speaker 3: Because you were in your old house. Okay, every lane Okay.
Speaker 3: So I'm feeling empowered because I came across this note
Speaker 3: from this presentation. I can't remember who it was. I
Speaker 3: could probably figure it out at some point, but the
Speaker 3: note just said, when you're feeling judged to get down
Speaker 3: on yourself, consider the source. Is the source qualified to
Speaker 3: be giving judgment? Oh and I just thought, like it's
Speaker 3: so simple. That's like the simplest thing ever. It's like
Speaker 3: the we say things like that all the time. But
Speaker 3: the thought of like, consider the source hit me a
Speaker 3: little different because I'm so hard on taking information from
Speaker 3: people that aren't reliable, you know that about me. I'm
Speaker 3: not going to take recommendations for things from somebody who's
Speaker 3: not qualified in the medical field, if it's about medical stuff,
Speaker 3: if it's about nutrition, I'm not going to be taking
Speaker 3: recommendations for somebody that's just a random person with no credentials.
Speaker 3: And so why are we so quick to take judgment
Speaker 3: or feedback or recommendations on how we should be living
Speaker 3: or what we're doing wrong or right when the people
Speaker 3: don't really know much about us and our stories.
Speaker 1: And yeah, they're professional in US.
Speaker 3: In US, well, I just thought that was so interesting, which.
Speaker 1: A side note on that, you'll love that. In China,
Speaker 1: I believe I think it was late October, they implemented
Speaker 1: a law where people online like social media platforms, have
Speaker 1: to have some form of certification, license or degree in
Speaker 1: whatever it is they're talking about.
Speaker 3: Wait, are you for real?
Speaker 1: I'm as for real as the article that I came across. Okay,
Speaker 1: so I mean you can fact check it, but I did.
Speaker 3: That's cool, see that.
Speaker 1: I think maybe Mosh had it in his newsletter or something.
Speaker 3: Now, the only thing that is coming up for me
Speaker 3: as feedback for that or criticism of it, is it
Speaker 3: kind of does censor your like freedom of speech.
Speaker 1: A little bit? Well, you know, yeah, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to say that that's what they're into, but yeah.
Speaker 3: That might be what they're into. But part of that
Speaker 3: makes sense because there's a lot of misinformation out yes,
Speaker 3: and there's a lot of confusion, and you can get
Speaker 3: very overwhelmed easily. Anybody who has the Internet knows that well.
Speaker 1: And I'm the opposite of you of you. You know,
Speaker 1: you're like, you know, I don't want to take advice
Speaker 1: from anybody unless they are an expert in X Y Z.
Speaker 1: And I'm like, did you see this person on TikTok?
Speaker 1: I have no idea their background, but they said yeah,
Speaker 1: and I you know.
Speaker 3: Go with it, go with it.
Speaker 1: So you're right, I need to be more cautious in
Speaker 1: that area. And then here in the US, if we
Speaker 1: could just implement that law, that'd be great, which I
Speaker 1: do understand the censorship behind it, but it would be
Speaker 1: great if if you're gonna talk about something medical or
Speaker 1: give advice about serious then like, yeah, go ahead and
Speaker 1: slap your credentials at the beginning of the video.
Speaker 3: And if you want to talk about it, like this
Speaker 3: could be taken different ways. So I want to be
Speaker 3: somewhat careful and how I say it, but like, if
Speaker 3: you want to be a therapist, you can do it,
Speaker 3: Like you can go to school and get licensed in it,
Speaker 3: and then there's a track for you to be able
Speaker 3: to then have that channel.
Speaker 1: You know, well, yeah, there's a lot of life coaches
Speaker 1: that would be in trouble. Yeah, and I do if
Speaker 1: we were in China and there's a place for life coaches,
Speaker 1: I agree, you.
Speaker 3: Say, like if you stay in your lane, I don't there.
Speaker 3: I recommend some of my clients to go to life
Speaker 3: coaches for certain things that like are out different from
Speaker 3: what I do. So it's not even like hating on that.
Speaker 3: It's like, oh, like if you want to be a
Speaker 3: doctor be giving medical advice, like you could do that
Speaker 3: now Easier said than done. I know that finances and
Speaker 3: all of that, but still.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's true. There's there's a nuance here,
Speaker 1: and I guess it depends at the end of the
Speaker 1: day ut or rather live here than there.
Speaker 3: So yes, we just have Channa just put in our
Speaker 3: doc a new rule, so you're not this is credible.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, back it up with the source. A new
Speaker 3: role from Cyberspace Administration of China CAC requires influencers to
Speaker 3: have a degree, license, or professional certification before creating content
Speaker 3: on serious topics like medicine, law, or finance. Social media
Speaker 3: platforms are now responsible for verifying influencer credentials, ensuring proper citations,
Speaker 3: and adding disclaimers. I think part of that can be
Speaker 3: very helpful. Yeah, Like, I think again it's more nuanced
Speaker 3: than just like you have to have this. And this
Speaker 3: also says like certifications, So there are plenty of certifications
Speaker 3: that don't require to go to grad school to be
Speaker 3: able to speak on certain things exactly.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Okay, So, as I was thinking about this quote that
Speaker 3: I found, it was kind of just reflecting on some
Speaker 3: things I was feeling a little bit. It's well, I'll
Speaker 3: just say I won't even qualify it I was just
Speaker 3: feeling insecure about of just thought about myself and feedback
Speaker 3: that people might be having about myself. It reminded me
Speaker 3: of I did a episode on You Need Therapy, probably
Speaker 3: like three years ago, on failure, and I think it
Speaker 3: was because I was asking people, like, what's the one
Speaker 3: thing that keeps you from going out and following your
Speaker 3: dreams or like going for the things you want? And
Speaker 3: it was the fear of failure. So I did a
Speaker 3: whole episode on it. And I found this report and
Speaker 3: it was from Populace and Gallop. So if you want
Speaker 3: to go back.
Speaker 4: And life, yeah, and they said, while less than ten
Speaker 4: percent of Americans to find personal success in status oriented terms,
Speaker 4: a vast.
Speaker 3: Majority beliefs is at large does. So I'm gonna say
Speaker 3: that again. So less than ten percent of Americans qualify
Speaker 3: success within status oriented terms, So like money, career? Does
Speaker 3: that make sense?
Speaker 5: Right?
Speaker 1: But I'm thinking you even think it would be higher. Well,
Speaker 1: so okay, follow up a higher percentage of people.
Speaker 3: Well you're you're proving the point less than ten percent
Speaker 3: people really qualify success within that realm. However, the vast
Speaker 3: majority of people think that other people do.
Speaker 1: Yes, we think it's higher, but it's really not.
Speaker 3: Yes, So we live in a world where we're and
Speaker 3: I think that there's this. Even explaining this, my head
Speaker 3: kind of gets in like a swivel because it's hard
Speaker 3: to grasp that. Like, we're all walking around, well most
Speaker 3: of us, actually, the vast majority most of us are
Speaker 3: walking around thinking that success comes from things like quality relationships,
Speaker 3: or family, or or having connection and love, all having
Speaker 3: fun like all of this stuff. Most of us are
Speaker 3: walking around thinking that. But then we're walking around thinking
Speaker 3: that everybody else is judging us in a different way,
Speaker 3: and everybody else thinks a different way. So then what
Speaker 3: happens is our behaviors because we want people to think
Speaker 3: we're successful, and because I mean we live in a
Speaker 3: world that values success, because we have a skewed idea
Speaker 3: of what people think successes, we end up chasing things
Speaker 3: that we don't actually even think matter. We think other
Speaker 3: people think they matter, therefore then we think they matter.
Speaker 3: Does that make sense?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Okay, no, I see how you can get a
Speaker 1: little twisted up with but yeah, it does make sense.
Speaker 1: And I do think that there is something in aging
Speaker 1: and maturity and growth life experience that where that some
Speaker 1: ages you may have that perspective and then there is
Speaker 1: a shift, like where something happens and you realize the
Speaker 1: reality of like what's important hopefully if you're lucky, Otherwise
Speaker 1: you could end up chasing that your entire life. I mean,
Speaker 1: I think of my dad, for example, like he's someone
Speaker 1: that chased something well into his late sixties. I think
Speaker 1: it was maybe seventy even I don't know. I'd have
Speaker 1: to look at the calendar to see when the actual
Speaker 1: shift happened. But I was in my thirties and he
Speaker 1: was really old when he had his sort of wake
Speaker 1: up call of like, oh my gosh, I've been chasing
Speaker 1: the wrong thing, and like this is what's really important.
Speaker 1: And he did get to live out several years with
Speaker 1: that perspective, thank goodness. But I think you probably wish
Speaker 1: he would have had that epiphany sooner. Well.
Speaker 3: I think that speaks to the quote in the beginning
Speaker 3: of are those people qualified to be making judgment?
Speaker 4: Is?
Speaker 3: It's another way to look at do I need to
Speaker 3: put so much of my stake in what other people
Speaker 3: think about me? Because at the end of the day,
Speaker 3: I don't really know, and like they might be basing
Speaker 3: that off of a skewed idea as well, and that
Speaker 3: also brings up we've talked about before. I don't know
Speaker 3: if on this podcast, but on the fifth thing back
Speaker 3: in the day, the Regrets of the Dying. Yeah, And
Speaker 3: for anybody who isn't familiar, there is this hospice nurse
Speaker 3: that she ended up writing this book. She would ask,
Speaker 3: I mean she's at the end of the end stage
Speaker 3: of life with all of her patients.
Speaker 1: Which that's the end. That's what hospice is. I don't
Speaker 1: know that everybody is familiar with it. I had never
Speaker 1: heard of hospice till my mom entered it. Really, I
Speaker 1: had no idea that hospice literally equaled end of life.
Speaker 1: When we went to this hospice house in Austin, we
Speaker 1: thought we could eventually be checking our mom out and
Speaker 1: she was going to come home and like live life
Speaker 1: like that was my ignorance. I didn't know.
Speaker 3: It's also like a hard wake up called yeah.
Speaker 1: But I guess I'm just sharing that because if you
Speaker 1: haven't experienced it and you don't know, you may not
Speaker 1: really have a full understanding of like hospice's Yeah, you know,
Speaker 1: you can be in hospice for your life. You could
Speaker 1: be there for a long time, but your quality of
Speaker 1: life is it's not necessarily going to improve. It just
Speaker 1: meant to keep you comfortable palliative care. And I did
Speaker 1: not realize that. And I remember when my sister and
Speaker 1: I were there and they handed us this pamphlet that
Speaker 1: was sort of explaining it, and I remember pacing the
Speaker 1: hall and being like, why are they giving us this
Speaker 1: pamphlet about like, you know, preparing for her death.
Speaker 3: You know, like we literally know that's what you were doing.
Speaker 1: No, we learned at the hospice house that she wasn't
Speaker 1: ever going to leave the hospice house.
Speaker 3: But so you weren't aware of like the stage of life.
Speaker 1: No, that's why I guess I'm clarifying for anybody, like
Speaker 1: they may not know, Oh, hospice nurse, Like that's specifically
Speaker 1: a nurse that is dealing with people that are in
Speaker 1: their final day's ish even though hospice can last a
Speaker 1: long time for some people. But that's not very common.
Speaker 1: But my mom before she fell conscious unconscious there because
Speaker 1: she went unconscious at the hospice house. But before she's
Speaker 1: like I want to leave, like I want to go home,
Speaker 1: Like I don't, I don't know what's going on? But
Speaker 1: I really really really want to be at home. And
Speaker 1: once we realized this was going to be her final time,
Speaker 1: then we totally didn't anticipate her losing consciousness. Like it
Speaker 1: was a procedure where they need to put a catheter
Speaker 1: in her and I can't remember if they sedated her
Speaker 1: for that or something. It was going to be painful,
Speaker 1: and then she just like never came out. But what
Speaker 1: was really terrible about that? Not to be a debbie
Speaker 1: down her, but she yelled at me that morning and
Speaker 1: it was only because I was trying to take her
Speaker 1: to the bathroom, hence why we ended up needing the catheter.
Speaker 1: But I picked her up, tried to carry her to
Speaker 1: the bathroom and she just didn't have the strength and
Speaker 1: me touching her, she was so frailed that she like
Speaker 1: screamed at me. And then I was like, what do
Speaker 1: you do? I'm trying to I'm like literally trying to
Speaker 1: help you when you're yelling at me. But I did
Speaker 1: not realize the like it just was, you know, you're
Speaker 1: you're processing so much and I think I was just
Speaker 1: surviving and I this one one of my last memories
Speaker 1: with her being conscious and I'm like, well, dang it, mom,
Speaker 1: to go out yelling each other, which is pretty like
Speaker 1: our style attracts. So we had a really really difficult
Speaker 1: relationship when I was a teenager. But then in my twenties,
Speaker 1: after I my brain fully developed probably twenty five shout
Speaker 1: out frontal cortex. You know, I think I needed to
Speaker 1: fully mature to like have a good relationship with her.
Speaker 3: Your mom just wanted to remind you where you came from.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And she would always tell me. She was like
Speaker 1: you just wait, you just wait wait. I mean, and
Speaker 1: then now I have kids and I'm like, okay, I
Speaker 1: get it. I get it. I get it. But she
Speaker 1: knowed to being my best friend, So there is hope.
Speaker 1: So for other moms out there, like if you're having
Speaker 1: a difficult time with your teenager, just wait until maybe
Speaker 1: they're twenty five.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's pretty normal.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So then we got tight and then yeah, back
Speaker 1: to hospice. In case anybody didn't.
Speaker 3: Know what that was, thanks us on that journey.
Speaker 1: Just clarified it for you.
Speaker 6: Well, I serve being shocked, yeah, anything like what like
Speaker 6: I didn't know, And there was this place I was
Speaker 6: also the Christopher House, like I thought, this cute little
Speaker 6: house my mom's going to hang out in for a
Speaker 6: couple of days, and it's like people die there.
Speaker 1: But then my mom was very clear. So after she
Speaker 1: went unconscious, we were like, we need to transfer her
Speaker 1: to my sister's house because she wants to be in
Speaker 1: a home. Yeah, and like then they were like, are
Speaker 1: you sure. So then she was unconscious and we transferred
Speaker 1: her to another bed unconscious. Did the hospice nurse come
Speaker 1: to your house then yes, So then you set up
Speaker 1: a plan where a hospice nurse can come to the house.
Speaker 1: And her hospice nurses were so great. They were just
Speaker 1: so great. They brought so much joy to our house.
Speaker 1: Like they were just awesome.
Speaker 3: Think about the type of person who would want to
Speaker 3: go into that field.
Speaker 1: You have to be awesome, well.
Speaker 3: I would think, so, you have to be a I
Speaker 3: think it takes a special type of person to work
Speaker 3: in transitioning people into that.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, we can add the final signs of death,
Speaker 1: which is what we're originally talking about.
Speaker 3: I don't signs of death, it's the regrets of the dying,
Speaker 3: That's what I mean.
Speaker 1: You know, let me share signs of death.
Speaker 3: Purple skin cold to the touch. While I do this, Shannon,
Speaker 3: can you look up the author of this book, The
Speaker 3: Regrets of the Dying. I want to say her name
Speaker 3: is Bonnie.
Speaker 1: Yes, her name was Bonnie, yes, but I can't think
Speaker 1: of her last name.
Speaker 3: Yeah. I think I started this Clyde Bronnie. I wanted
Speaker 3: to say Bonnie Claire.
Speaker 1: Okay, and I thought Bonnie Clyde.
Speaker 3: Bronnie where Bronnie where Bronnie where? Okay? So Brownie Ware
Speaker 3: was a hospice nurse and she would ask her patients
Speaker 3: what regrets they had, and she put them into these
Speaker 3: five different categories. I can't remember all five of them,
Speaker 3: so maybe Shannon can put those into the dock. But
Speaker 3: the number one regret of the dying was I wish
Speaker 3: I spent less time being who I thought other people
Speaker 3: wanted me to be and more time being who I
Speaker 3: am and being myself. And that hits me every time
Speaker 3: I talk about this. I feel just as strongly about
Speaker 3: it because I'm like, if people who are dying are
Speaker 3: saying this, we know it's important. They're dying, and that's
Speaker 3: the thing they look back on, and we're like, it
Speaker 3: wasn't important. What was important was being myself, and that's
Speaker 3: what I wish I would have done. I take that
Speaker 3: to heart, so in all of this stuff that I'm
Speaker 3: talking about, it is a good reminder for me to
Speaker 3: be like, Okay, when it comes down to me dying,
Speaker 3: I'm not going to care as much about what these
Speaker 3: people are thinking. So I might as well just be myself,
Speaker 3: do what I want to do, go after the things
Speaker 3: I want to go after.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like you're right. The people we need
Speaker 1: to be listening to are the ones that no us
Speaker 1: are will know us or they're dying. Oh, which I have.
Speaker 1: The first regret I wish I'd had the courage to
Speaker 1: live a life true to myself, not the ones ever
Speaker 1: the whoops, you already just said that one.
Speaker 3: Okay, just kid, it's hard to repeat it or.
Speaker 1: Repeat that one. Second one I wish I hadn't worked
Speaker 1: so hard. The third one I wish I'd had the
Speaker 1: courage to express my feelings. Feeling of the day. Empowered
Speaker 1: is the way.
Speaker 3: Mm hm, Houston, don't cut that out.
Speaker 6: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then the other one is I wish I'd had
Speaker 1: the feeling things. Podcast's kidding. I wish I'd stayed in
Speaker 1: touch with my friends and then another one is I
Speaker 1: wish I'd let myself be happier. That one's hard to
Speaker 1: know that you lived a life knowing that you could
Speaker 1: have been happier, which some of that is like doing
Speaker 1: those other things would have made you happy and all that.
Speaker 1: Like Cindy Luho who on Instagram? Get to me? Yeah, you,
Speaker 1: She'll send me a mean DM And next thing you know,
Speaker 1: I'm spiral ing and I'm like, who is Cindy lu
Speaker 1: Who Who? And I go to her page.
Speaker 3: And it's it's.
Speaker 1: No, she's not.
Speaker 3: Consider the source. That'll be a new thing for us
Speaker 3: to just say, like, s I B consider the source.
Speaker 3: C t S.
Speaker 1: CTS that's agency or a cat stand c I A
Speaker 1: c T E that's the football ct ct S, c
Speaker 1: T t S c t S. Were you a cheerleader ever?
Speaker 3: Okay? First of all, the way you asked that, I
Speaker 3: feel like ever, first of all, yes, and let me
Speaker 3: tell you about it. Okay, I made the football squad
Speaker 3: in seventh grade. I feel like I've told you.
Speaker 1: This, so sorry, I forgot.
Speaker 3: Dare you I not remember? I haven't some good Laura
Speaker 3: cheerleading days?
Speaker 1: Sorry, little Jesus, I remember that name.
Speaker 3: So when I was younger. So this is a perfect example.
Speaker 3: Thank you for bringing up when I was a cheerleader, because.
Speaker 1: Well, technically you were in the football squad.
Speaker 3: No, the football squad, cheerleading squad. It was the best
Speaker 3: squad to be on. There was the number one.
Speaker 1: Squad, football squad. Like, well, if you're a cheerleader, or you.
Speaker 3: Could be on the basketball squad, the football squad or
Speaker 3: the wrestling dance team. Cheerleaders ye to the rest and
Speaker 3: the ranking was football squad best basketball, second best wrestling, third,
Speaker 3: best dance team.
Speaker 1: Oh dang, I was on the dance team.
Speaker 3: But I think also you could be on the dance that.
Speaker 1: Was also on the dance team. Back row, I was
Speaker 1: also on the dance team. Didn't make every dance. No,
Speaker 1: it's not because I was tall. Thank you for that, though.
Speaker 1: I think it's because that's where they put people because
Speaker 1: they weren't as visible, you know. But that so I
Speaker 1: did cheerleading, I did dance team, and then when I
Speaker 1: realized that wasn't really for me, I did cheerleading. Also
Speaker 1: still wasn't for me. I probably would have been cheering
Speaker 1: for the wrestlers. But anyway, you were on a.
Speaker 3: Good squad, so this is what a team. Yeah, yes,
Speaker 3: so I can say that now as a as a
Speaker 3: human that knows that I don't have any dancing rhythm
Speaker 3: or skill. So it is very confusing when I look
Speaker 3: back on this. But this is tied to all of
Speaker 3: this because when I was a kid, I tried everything.
Speaker 3: I tried out for the basketball team, I tried it
Speaker 3: for the In what world was I trying out for
Speaker 3: the cheerleading squad. I wasn't a cheerleader. I did dance
Speaker 3: when I was like four, I played soccer, so like
Speaker 3: I just randomly was like, Oh, I'm in middle school
Speaker 3: and they have a cheerleading squad, I'll try out for it.
Speaker 3: I was on the indoor swim team, which some people
Speaker 3: said that was a weird way to say it. I
Speaker 3: guess it's just a year round swim team. I played
Speaker 3: everything and tried out for anything I wanted to do
Speaker 3: when I was younger, and that is not how I
Speaker 3: live my life as an adult.
Speaker 1: It because you had no fear, you mean, because.
Speaker 3: I think as a kid there are different expectations. So
Speaker 3: for me, as this is me looking back with the
Speaker 3: brain of a thirty five year old. So I wish
Speaker 3: I could go back and talk to myself at eleven
Speaker 3: or twelve, but I imagine that I was like, oh, I've
Speaker 3: never been a cheerleader before, so I'm going to try
Speaker 3: out and if I don't make it cool, like but
Speaker 3: why not try out? But as an adult, we have
Speaker 3: different expectations where we're like, oh, if I'm going to
Speaker 3: do something, I need to do it well because it
Speaker 3: would be embarrassing, or the expectations are different. But if
Speaker 3: I'm new at something, I've never done it before. I
Speaker 3: wish I could have the brain as a kid as
Speaker 3: an adult, because then we would go out and do
Speaker 3: more like speaking of your improv stuff, like I am
Speaker 3: not going to go to an improv class because that
Speaker 3: I feel like I'm gonna now get myself in a
Speaker 3: position where like you're like, I challenge you to go.
Speaker 1: Do it now if you go, I would go with you.
Speaker 1: I don't want to challenge you to it, like I
Speaker 1: think it would be fun, Like.
Speaker 3: I wish it would be fun, but it is so scary.
Speaker 3: But in fifth grade, I was in drama club and
Speaker 3: we did improv games and I had no fear. It
Speaker 3: was just fun because everybody there was just like kids
Speaker 3: learning why are you laughing?
Speaker 1: Were you talking about fifth grade? Jama Club? Made me
Speaker 1: think of like something I did in fourth grade that
Speaker 1: like does not track with my personality now, Like I
Speaker 1: would never ever ever try out for music. No, no,
Speaker 1: I've told you about it before. You don't remember. You
Speaker 1: don't remember my fourth grade when I ran.
Speaker 3: For class president treasury.
Speaker 1: Don't I ran for treasurer I hate money, I hate
Speaker 1: dealing with sciences, and I ran for class treasure vote
Speaker 1: for amiing offit? You can't top it?
Speaker 3: And didn't you hand out candy?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Dollar bills?
Speaker 3: Oh well about money?
Speaker 1: Take money, monopoly money? But yeah with candy so perfect? Yeah,
Speaker 1: but but I would never like, why in the world
Speaker 1: would I run for treasure in fourth grade?
Speaker 3: Because as kids are, we think differently because we don't
Speaker 3: have the same expect That's why. And I'm going to
Speaker 3: take some of my own advice. When I talk to
Speaker 3: clients about wanting to do things or trying new things,
Speaker 3: I say, if you only had to be sixty percent
Speaker 3: good at something, what would you what things would you try?
Speaker 3: And if I only had to be sixty percent good
Speaker 3: at improv And like that's just what's sticking in my
Speaker 3: brain right now I think I'd go do it, but
Speaker 3: I have this in my head expectation that like, oh,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna mess up and it's going to be embarrassing,
Speaker 3: and these people that aren't credible sources aren't going to
Speaker 3: judge me.
Speaker 1: Yeah, Cindy lu Who who?
Speaker 3: Cindy lou who who?
Speaker 1: It's study in a real hand, Get out of here.
Speaker 1: I just made it up. So but she's out there.
Speaker 1: You know who I'm talking about?
Speaker 3: Yeah, cause you're listening. So then you can judge Amy
Speaker 3: and make comments on our Instagram she and he and
Speaker 3: so here's my question to you, mm hmm. If you
Speaker 3: only had to be sixty percent good at something, what
Speaker 3: would you do? Would you try out for an adult
Speaker 3: cheer squad?
Speaker 1: No?
Speaker 3: Well, you did do a dance class. You're pretty good.
Speaker 1: That was fun. I only went to the dance class with.
Speaker 3: My daughter though, Like what things would you do?
Speaker 1: So fun? But I was horrible at it.
Speaker 3: I think that makes it even better.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would like to do more improv. The problem
Speaker 1: with the improv classes that are here in Nashville is
Speaker 1: there three hours long? Most all of them. Yeah, at
Speaker 1: least the places I've looked. If there's a short there's
Speaker 1: like a yeah, like an hour and hour and a half,
Speaker 1: but three hours every week like that was just hard
Speaker 1: to find for a week straight. Yeah, I just want
Speaker 1: like a pop in, like a casual improv hang like,
Speaker 1: not like a commitment to a class, like let's just
Speaker 1: gather together and improve it out Like that would be great.
Speaker 1: I would do that, Okay. I would maybe play piano
Speaker 1: or something.
Speaker 3: Okay, but I think piano is just another time thing
Speaker 3: for you. What do you mean, Like, I think you
Speaker 3: would do that if you could find like the time to.
Speaker 1: So I don't want to just be sixty percon.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you want to be good at That
Speaker 3: doesn't fit this, So what are you scared to do?
Speaker 3: It might be more like business things that you'd want
Speaker 3: to try, or like you also might need to think
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 1: Oh well, I want to do some keynote speaking. Okay, perfect,
Speaker 1: So only sixty percent good.
Speaker 3: But that's the the sixty percent is like the starting
Speaker 3: gate position for you. So like as a kid when
Speaker 3: I started playing soccer, there was no expectation for me
Speaker 3: to be good, So I just jumped on the field
Speaker 3: and I probably like made flower crowns the whole time.
Speaker 3: Who knows. As I get older and I put more
Speaker 3: effort and I practice, and then I realized that I
Speaker 3: really love it and I want to do something with it.
Speaker 3: That didn't really happen with me. I didn't care, but
Speaker 3: for the sake of this, then you start to want
Speaker 3: to be better, and then you start to like really
Speaker 3: hone your craft versus this is just how do we
Speaker 3: get you in? So if you only have to be
Speaker 3: sixty percent good to get you in, you might do
Speaker 3: some challenge yourself with some speaking engagements.
Speaker 1: Also, I have an invention in my head another one
Speaker 1: that has to do with your head. Another invention like
Speaker 1: the thing you can't reach. Oh yeah, well that wasn't
Speaker 1: really going to happen. I mean for places you can't
Speaker 1: reach when you're trying to self tan yourself. I feel
Speaker 1: like that was pretty good. But you most people have
Speaker 1: a roommate or a partner or a neighbor.
Speaker 3: Can you do my back for a stranger coming over
Speaker 3: and rebby motion?
Speaker 1: Right, that'd probably be bad. And then people do go
Speaker 1: to the house and they do spray tands the places
Speaker 1: you can't reach, I mean they could also if you
Speaker 1: can't reach your back, but also if you can't reach
Speaker 1: the thing up in the cabinet. You get a stool,
Speaker 1: anything you can reach. I know, but I do have
Speaker 1: an invention for the head and neck area when you sleep.
Speaker 3: I don't want to say too much, oh, because you
Speaker 3: don't want to anybody.
Speaker 1: To hijack my idea. So, but it has to do
Speaker 1: with your head and neck when you sleep. Okay, think
Speaker 1: of it like No, I've already said that, I don't.
Speaker 3: Say it, but okay, if this is a legit, I
Speaker 3: can't tell if you're joking now.
Speaker 1: I'm not joking. No, I swear. I've never seen anything
Speaker 1: like this, and I think it could be good. I
Speaker 1: just need the prototype and maybe the patent.
Speaker 3: We can do that. We I'm now in this with you.
Speaker 3: I'm going to get you to go after it. So
Speaker 3: I want ten percent.
Speaker 1: Okay, that's fine. I just think that it could be
Speaker 1: a game changer, at least for me when I sleep.
Speaker 1: And and it's something like I've had different versions of
Speaker 1: it in my head over time. This one that I've
Speaker 1: thought of recently, actually last Wednesday, to be exact, is
Speaker 1: when it came to me, and I think about it
Speaker 1: every I've thought about it every night since I laid.
Speaker 1: When I lay down to sleep, I'm like, if only
Speaker 1: I had that. So I need to order some things
Speaker 1: and maybe bust out my sewing machine and figure out
Speaker 1: how I'm gonna build it. But okay, I think it'll
Speaker 1: come together and it could change your life.
Speaker 3: Okay, I said it, So do you want me to
Speaker 3: hold you accountable to this?
Speaker 1: Please? Okay, But I have other things I'm working on too,
Speaker 1: so I'm like, oh, shoot, but this could be a thing.
Speaker 1: And I think of the woman Sarah Blakely that created
Speaker 1: spanks and how she was going door to door selling
Speaker 1: Fax machines and then she had this idea for her
Speaker 1: spanks and how she would, you know, take the idea
Speaker 1: to certain manufacturers and they rejected her. And I feel
Speaker 1: like I might take this idea to people and they
Speaker 1: might be like, this is ridiculous, like this doesn't make sense,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, but it does, and it's it's we
Speaker 1: our next need it.
Speaker 3: We need this. So this brings me to something else
Speaker 3: that I randomly just put in our doc because I
Speaker 3: liked it, but I didn't really have any way to
Speaker 3: work it end. So thank you for this.
Speaker 1: Okay, You're welcome.
Speaker 3: Thomas Edison once said.
Speaker 1: Oh here, my fellow inventor or tom.
Speaker 3: Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain
Speaker 3: way to succeed is always just try one more time. So,
Speaker 3: speaking of her going door to door, people being like, no,
Speaker 3: that's stupid. Person could be the person says yes, and
Speaker 3: then you're a bajillionaire. And I was talking with my
Speaker 3: friends about I don't know their names, but the inventors
Speaker 3: of cakes, those boob pads, oh yeah, and the girl
Speaker 3: that invented poppy. I'm pretty sure if the other one
Speaker 3: didn't she go on Shark Tank and like they rejected
Speaker 3: her or something.
Speaker 1: I think they might have. I know that she started
Speaker 1: poppy like in her kitchen. Yeah, and then PEPSI just
Speaker 1: bought it for like two billion dollars a billiona or
Speaker 1: one point eight oh could have been more, which yeah,
Speaker 1: mine as will be two.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'll.
Speaker 1: Round up once you hit a billion, like does it?
Speaker 1: It's just weird money anyway, Like what is it?
Speaker 3: So never get spent, It will never get spent ever,
Speaker 3: and so I don't need to be a billionaire. However,
Speaker 3: if we could come up now that I'm in this
Speaker 3: with you an invention, I will go door to.
Speaker 1: Door in honor of Thomas Tom Tom ed Tommy our boy, Tommy,
Speaker 1: our boy Tom.
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, well, well we'll keep inspire me too.
Speaker 1: I am as well. And if you're ever having a
Speaker 1: moment where you're feeling like not productive, but you know
Speaker 1: that you want to be, like maybe you need to
Speaker 1: have a brainstorming session or something. Have you ever heard
Speaker 1: of raw dogging? Have you ever heard of raw dogging boredom?
Speaker 1: Like raw dogging boredom? No, I feel like you need
Speaker 1: this in your back pocket as a therapist because you
Speaker 1: could recommend it to your clients.
Speaker 3: I was going to say, can we rebrand it?
Speaker 1: Why?
Speaker 3: First of all, I need to know what it is.
Speaker 3: I'm not going to with a client being like okay,
Speaker 3: well it sounds like what you need is to raw
Speaker 3: dog some boredom, never saying that.
Speaker 1: Okay, but it's I don't know what else to call it, Like.
Speaker 3: Well, I'll help you come up with a different name,
Speaker 3: but I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1: You you sit and liter make yourself bored. You can't
Speaker 1: just sit in a corner like you can't have your phone,
Speaker 1: you have nothing to entertain yourself. You just have to
Speaker 1: sit there and it helps reset. Let me read you specifically,
Speaker 1: it's allowing yourself to be bored for a certain amount
Speaker 1: of time without exposing your brain to micro reward stimulus.
Speaker 1: Says stimuli is a stimuli. Yeah, okay, well I didn't
Speaker 1: type that. Okay, stimuli like your phone. Allowing your mind
Speaker 1: to wander improves your performance on problem solving tasks and
Speaker 1: increases your creativity. Raw doggy off strain brain. You're so immature,
Speaker 1: you're the one lapping, but you're the one that made
Speaker 1: it awkward.
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. Okay.
Speaker 1: It helps train your brain to not need as many
Speaker 1: little dopamine hits, and that it's okay and safe to
Speaker 1: not put your attention towards that. It sounds like you
Speaker 1: do not need to clear your mind in order to
Speaker 1: do this, but you just have to sit there with
Speaker 1: no stimuli. Okay. Another name for it is Shannon, just
Speaker 1: looked it up. Can you say this radical downtime that
Speaker 1: you like it better than raw dogging boredom?
Speaker 3: Yes? From a professional standpoint.
Speaker 1: It does seem pretty radical to like put yourl It's
Speaker 1: like you're putting yourself in time out time out.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I think the raw did you find this
Speaker 3: is this from like TikTok or something.
Speaker 1: This is from some random influencer that I'm sure has
Speaker 1: a credential.
Speaker 3: I was just gonna say, we need the CIS or
Speaker 3: whatever sac to come in and see where this person
Speaker 3: got there.
Speaker 1: It's a gen Z TikTok trend.
Speaker 3: Okay and you know that. Yeah, okayfied I'm if I'm
Speaker 3: a gen Z's therapist, which I have some gen Z clients,
Speaker 3: and I'm like, have you tried raw dogging boredom? I
Speaker 3: think they'd be like, don't say that. I think they like,
Speaker 3: you're too old to say that.
Speaker 1: Okay, So then you could say.
Speaker 3: Have you tried radical downtime?
Speaker 1: Oh no, tell me more, put yourself in time out?
Speaker 1: And I'll be like, oh, yeah, well it's called raw
Speaker 1: dogging boredom lamb. Well, I don't know, maybe it would work,
Speaker 1: maybe not. But when I was watching some of the videos,
Speaker 1: because there was multiple people, it wasn't even just one person.
Speaker 1: It's like a trend. Like I was watching people do
Speaker 1: it and they're literally you watch the sitting up against
Speaker 1: the wall. Yeah, they'll time laps themselves. Okay, because this
Speaker 1: one girl raw dog for now?
Speaker 3: Stop it? Oh my Okay, she.
Speaker 1: Radical she radically down timed herself for one hour and
Speaker 1: she put it on.
Speaker 3: So she's just sitting there. So it's kind of like meditating.
Speaker 1: In a way. Yeah, but she wasn't like it wasn't
Speaker 1: like a force like, oh I have to sit here
Speaker 1: and like hmm, but like she sat there and.
Speaker 3: She's just sort of like you know, would rip on my.
Speaker 1: That's what you would do anyway, just a technique something
Speaker 1: to try out. Yeah, well, thank you on certified people online.
Speaker 3: I need to fact checked us, fact check us.
Speaker 1: On what poppy.
Speaker 3: They didn't get rejected. So, but were they on Shark
Speaker 3: They were on Shark Tank and they their names? Oh,
Speaker 3: their sisters Alison and sister and brother Alison and Stephen
Speaker 3: Ellsworth married.
Speaker 1: I thought they were married.
Speaker 3: I don't know why. I just thought sister and brother.
Speaker 3: They're probably married.
Speaker 1: But what are their names? Are they two feminine names?
Speaker 3: No, I just can't read. It's Allison and Steven sisters
Speaker 3: like I was seeing.
Speaker 1: You know, like if it was like you know, Jordan, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that could bead of.
Speaker 3: Well it's because I think the cakes people are two girls.
Speaker 1: Well that would make sense, I hope, So I hope
Speaker 1: that like Michael didn't invent the wipole covers, but maybe
Speaker 1: he did.
Speaker 3: Maybe he did. Okay. So the founders, Alison and Stephen Ellsworth,
Speaker 3: appeared on the show in season ten It's a long
Speaker 3: time ago twenty eighteen to pitch their company, and they
Speaker 3: back then they called it Mother Beverage Group Upgrade with
Speaker 3: the name Poppy Mother Beverage.
Speaker 1: There and there's like the Mother Mother.
Speaker 3: Okay. While they faced some initial criticism for from some
Speaker 3: of the sharks regarding the taste and branding, a guest
Speaker 3: shark Rohan Oza saw potential in the product and he
Speaker 3: offered them a deal of four hundred thousand dollars for
Speaker 3: a twenty five percent equity stake in the company, which
Speaker 3: they accepted. Also, those people are married. That means they
Speaker 3: didn't get one point eight billion because they had to
Speaker 3: give twenty five to Rohan Rohan, mister Oza.
Speaker 1: Yeah, which like okay, probably any other investors they had
Speaker 1: along the.
Speaker 3: Way, Oh yeah, I guess they probably did, which mothers.
Speaker 1: I'm sure they're fine. I saw, speaking of TikTok, I
Speaker 1: saw them on TikTok traveling the world, and they're we
Speaker 1: just sold our company to PEPSI. What would you do
Speaker 1: if you had all this money and were traveling the world.
Speaker 1: I can't remember what the TikTok was, but I remember
Speaker 1: being like, what an odd video.
Speaker 3: To make of? Like I'm so rich? What would you
Speaker 3: do if you were me?
Speaker 1: Where would you go first?
Speaker 3: This is what we're doing. Ha ha, you can't come.
Speaker 1: Who knows. Maybe I'll make one of those videos when
Speaker 1: I sell my pills. It's just kidding. It's not a pillow.
Speaker 3: It's not Nobody thought you were going with pillow and
Speaker 3: you said they had a neck and sleeping, but.
Speaker 1: It's not a normal pillow.
Speaker 3: Okay.
Speaker 1: So you know, whenever Bobby got inducted into the Radio
Speaker 1: Hall of Fame in Chicago for whatever reason, a lot
Speaker 1: of people were getting inducted at the same time. And
Speaker 1: I don't know who this guy was there with, but
Speaker 1: you know that guy that had the infomercials was like,
Speaker 1: you're gonna love my not you're gonna love my nuts.
Speaker 1: That's a different guy. The pillow guy, the pillow, my pillow,
Speaker 1: my pill You don't know the my pillow infomercial guy. No,
Speaker 1: he's like dark hair mustache, it's my pillow. I don't
Speaker 1: know you would know if you saw him. Anyway, he
Speaker 1: was there, I met him. Maybe maybe I'll contact him
Speaker 1: and I'll be like, I have an idea.
Speaker 3: Was he selling a pillow?
Speaker 1: No, he must have been there because he had a
Speaker 1: friend potentially being inducted into the Radio Hall of Fame.
Speaker 1: But I was like, I recognize him. I'm like, you're
Speaker 1: the my pillow infomercial eye.
Speaker 3: I'm saying like he was selling a pillow on the
Speaker 3: information Marshall.
Speaker 1: Yeah, he created a pillow that was like, the hell
Speaker 1: the pillow, my pillow?
Speaker 3: But where's it now?
Speaker 1: Mike what Mike Lindell? I met him, and maybe since
Speaker 1: I met him, I could reach out and I'd be like, Yo, Mike,
Speaker 1: you may not remember me, but I met you at
Speaker 1: in Chicago at the Radio Hall of Fame in whatever
Speaker 1: year it was two thousand and fifteen or sixteen, and
Speaker 1: I held a pillow idea. Would you like to be
Speaker 1: my first investor? And also, do you have a pillow manufacturer?
Speaker 1: So now everybody knows what you're gonna make, yeah, but
Speaker 1: they don't know what kind. And it is not your
Speaker 1: normal average pillow because I mean, I feel like I
Speaker 1: have a good pillow, but this is just totally different.
Speaker 1: I don't even really know how you'll put a pillow
Speaker 1: case on it, that's how different it is.
Speaker 3: Like, so you have Okay, so this is a great
Speaker 3: opportunity for more products for people to buy because they
Speaker 3: are going to buy the pillow, but then they have
Speaker 3: to buy the special case and you are only be
Speaker 3: the one that patents the case too. So then it's
Speaker 3: like when you buy the iPhone, you have to buy
Speaker 3: a case because then your iPhone's gonna break. It's like,
Speaker 3: you buy the pillow, you gotta buy the pillow case.
Speaker 3: So you're selling them two things in one every time.
Speaker 1: Which I'm not trying to upsell. It's not, it's about
Speaker 1: it just has to be a particular.
Speaker 3: You want to sell your product to Pepsi and travel
Speaker 3: the world, then you're gonna need to upsell. True, Yeah,
Speaker 3: I think smarter.
Speaker 1: It's a rebrand of a pillow.
Speaker 3: I do have a question about that, though, I don't
Speaker 3: mean I feel like I can ask this question because
Speaker 3: I'm not a billionaire. If you did have a product
Speaker 3: like that, and this is hypothetical, so you can't really know,
Speaker 3: so what would you think you would do? But if
Speaker 3: you had a company or product you sold it and
Speaker 3: you made like five hundred million dollars to a billion dollars,
Speaker 3: would you quit working or would you go and try
Speaker 3: to do more stuff?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Because I would have an opportunity to have money
Speaker 1: to invest in more and like create more.
Speaker 3: Or would you be like, I'm going to ride this
Speaker 3: out because as an inventor, the brain of an inventor
Speaker 3: you just can't stop.
Speaker 1: I would maybe have more ideas well. I would probably
Speaker 1: use the money to fund You know that we're trying
Speaker 1: to work on low key a protein bar, so I'd figure.
Speaker 3: Out that problem. I like my job.
Speaker 1: I don't know I would Maybe I wouldn't just quit
Speaker 1: working and do nothing, but I think I would still
Speaker 1: do the show, but then have money to do other
Speaker 1: things that I want to do.
Speaker 3: Like if you made a billion dollars, you would still
Speaker 3: do this podcast?
Speaker 1: This point?
Speaker 3: Yes? What else?
Speaker 1: Why would I enjoy? You and I were talking the
Speaker 1: other day about how it's like what we look forward to.
Speaker 3: I just think about a billion dollars. I would have
Speaker 3: other things to look forward So.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't do it? No, Well, you said the other day,
Speaker 1: this is the this is like the best thing right now,
Speaker 1: I'm not arathing that I have. Right, you said that, right,
Speaker 1: So you're saying that only at where you are financially, Like,
Speaker 1: if you had way more money, what what would change
Speaker 1: other than your bank account?
Speaker 3: I feel like, what else would you do?
Speaker 1: Serious?
Speaker 3: It's not crazy to say if I got a billion dollars,
Speaker 3: I would stop working.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but this doesn't feel like work.
Speaker 3: You said, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, okay, then let me
Speaker 3: te Okay, listen, let me I'm gonna yeah, but I
Speaker 3: said that as me.
Speaker 1: Now we're like oursue you with money changes.
Speaker 3: I will change.
Speaker 1: Is that everybody in this room is everybody anywhere out?
Speaker 3: Okay, listen, let me rephrase. I don't okay, Am I
Speaker 3: safe to say how I feel?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Obviously I'm joking.
Speaker 3: I'm just joking. It's fine.
Speaker 1: It can be feeling things with Amy and and the.
Speaker 3: Other cat because she that would be an easy transition. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 3: So if I got a billion dollars, I think I
Speaker 3: would still want to do something. I think I would
Speaker 3: do more. Yes, you're right, i would do more things
Speaker 3: that I would do just for fun versus I'm doing
Speaker 3: this because I need money or this is my job
Speaker 3: that I have to do listen, so this it would
Speaker 3: be just fun. So I think I would shift the
Speaker 3: way I think about it too, Like I probably would
Speaker 3: not do the social media. We could hire somebody yea, yeah,
Speaker 3: if I had a billion dollars, I would not be
Speaker 3: making Instagram reels. I would be asking something else to
Speaker 3: do it. And honestly, they could help us make some
Speaker 3: really cool like tiktoks and stuff, so it could be beneficial.
Speaker 1: But now that we're viral on TikTok, But I also.
Speaker 3: Would want the opportunity. Oh yeah, we'll come back to that.
Speaker 3: I would want the opportunity because we record this on
Speaker 3: a certain day every week. Well, what if I wanted
Speaker 3: to be in Italy, I would negoti that we could
Speaker 3: do some virtual for sure tapings, podcasts, recordings. So I
Speaker 3: think I would shift the way I wouldn't be So
Speaker 3: we would have to have a conversation about our boundaries.
Speaker 1: Again. Well, the likelihood of any of this happening is
Speaker 1: you never know. Yeah, you never know. You never know.
Speaker 3: You don't know what I have up my sleeve.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to believe that that's actually gonna happen.
Speaker 1: But at least we're good for the next year.
Speaker 3: I think I would also, Yeah, for the next year,
Speaker 3: we're really good. I think I also would want to
Speaker 3: do things just because I'm to help versus just make money.
Speaker 3: So like I mean, I would want to know. I
Speaker 3: mean like this would be one thing. Don't hear what
Speaker 3: I'm not saying. I think if I was a billionaire,
Speaker 3: I would hope My hope for myself is that I
Speaker 3: would get more involved in some nonprofits or things in
Speaker 3: my community to help.
Speaker 1: Oh for sure, Yeah, we could put on events, so yeah,
Speaker 1: that would be fun.
Speaker 3: I think the passion that just help people versus I
Speaker 3: have to help people and I have to sustain my life.
Speaker 3: It would open up doors for me.
Speaker 1: The orphanage in Haiti would be just totally taking care
Speaker 1: of check. School would be funded check. It's one thing
Speaker 1: that I have to figure out sometimes.
Speaker 3: But you know, so whatever I heard, you kind of
Speaker 3: whisper that we went viral, and I just wanted to
Speaker 3: make sure everybody heard that, since you know.
Speaker 1: Our custom videos and viral on TikTok who At the
Speaker 1: time that we're recording this, it's like one point seven
Speaker 1: to one point eight million, But at the time people
Speaker 1: are hearing this, it could be it could still be
Speaker 1: there or if it got stagnant, or it could be
Speaker 1: well over two million, which is funny that and you know,
Speaker 1: we're kind of attracting an audience that I'm not sure.
Speaker 1: I don't know who we want, but it's it's kind
Speaker 1: of funny. They must be seeing our other videos because
Speaker 1: they're deciding to follow. Yeah, so some people are following.
Speaker 1: The comments are hilarious.
Speaker 3: There's a lot of profanity in the comments. But what's
Speaker 3: funny about that and what is just interesting about social
Speaker 3: media in general? That video I was like, oh, well,
Speaker 3: I told you to make it. Well you yeah, you
Speaker 3: told me to make it, and then the idea behind it,
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, that could be good. But the clip
Speaker 3: that I had to work with that was like usable
Speaker 3: of me talking yeah.
Speaker 1: You were like not failing it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I was like it's so short.
Speaker 1: I feel like, well, you tried to add something else
Speaker 1: to make it your Internet. I was like take it out, yes,
Speaker 1: and then k I was like, Okay, I guess I'll
Speaker 1: put this up and then bam. It's been shared over
Speaker 1: twenty thousand times on Instagram.
Speaker 3: And versus the videos that I like, work really hard
Speaker 3: on and I think are just gonna kill it and
Speaker 3: it's like want want, so I just have to care less.
Speaker 3: I think it's the key.
Speaker 1: But I can't. I can't.
Speaker 3: I cared.
Speaker 1: I thought that would be a good video. I cared,
Speaker 1: like I thought of it. I went back and was
Speaker 1: like looking at our text because I was like, wait,
Speaker 1: what day did we think of this? And then we
Speaker 1: ended up? So I texted you on like a Wednesday
Speaker 1: and I was like, hey, can you make a video
Speaker 1: of the cussing whatever?
Speaker 3: And then I posted and then I was like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you posted to Instagram maybe Thursday or Friday,
Speaker 1: and then I posted it Friday night to TikTok and
Speaker 1: then it blew up. But I don't know why it is,
Speaker 1: but I so random thought it was so cute how
Speaker 1: you were like texting me and you're like, can you
Speaker 1: please add the source to the to the description? What
Speaker 1: is it the caption caption? Because people, you know, we're commenting, commenting, Yeah,
Speaker 1: what's your source?
Speaker 3: So where'd you get it? And then you're like bam,
Speaker 3: because I'm like, I didn't make this up, but that's
Speaker 3: part of it. I didn't add this me because in
Speaker 3: the actual podcast I said the source, but in the
Speaker 3: clip you did it. I didn't, so.
Speaker 1: I should have thrown in the source. So then I,
Speaker 1: who knows, I probably didn't like take that out.
Speaker 3: And then so right, you're like, this is boring. Wanh
Speaker 3: wanh Like then some of the people that were like
Speaker 3: would love to know this research. Where's this research come from?
Speaker 3: I commented, and I was like, oh, of course you
Speaker 3: can have the research article, and I posted it and
Speaker 3: send them you not asking you shall receive.
Speaker 1: You texted me to add it to the caption on TikTok.
Speaker 1: And then I go to TikTok and I'm looking in
Speaker 1: the comments and I all down and I see kat
Speaker 1: Defada and you put the source like you.
Speaker 3: As a commentary. You're like, you're here if you want
Speaker 3: to read it.
Speaker 1: It was really it was cute, and it's good that
Speaker 1: it was actual research and you had the data.
Speaker 3: It was a pure reviewed study back it up. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and not that I knew. I mean I could
Speaker 1: have told Honestly, I was sort of being like, I
Speaker 1: told you to make it because I did think it
Speaker 1: would be good. However, it could have easily done nothing right,
Speaker 1: because like I've had other ideas that have been like
Speaker 1: total flops. So it's just I was just shouting it
Speaker 1: out because I got lucky, you know. Okay, sometimes you know,
Speaker 1: you win, SEMy lose.
Speaker 3: Some you go viral. Sometimes nobody watches your video at all.
Speaker 1: I just you just go forward posting all the videos
Speaker 1: with just no fear.
Speaker 3: That's the whole whole point of.
Speaker 1: This whole point. We're going to pivot. Okay, this is
Speaker 1: gonna be this is going to feel like a hard
Speaker 1: pivot because it is.
Speaker 3: It could be any more of a hard pivot, and
Speaker 3: I don't think, don't get or it's kind of any harder.
Speaker 1: Okay, then this, And if you have little ones, well
Speaker 1: it's probably fine. They probably don't know what a five
Speaker 1: four three two giving you a break? Hey guy, have
Speaker 1: your kids not talking to Libya Labia? Well, kids probably
Speaker 1: don't know what a laby is, or they do or
Speaker 1: they do. And it's a great moment to talk about
Speaker 1: the body body.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Okay.
Speaker 1: So we have a voicemail from a listener that is
Speaker 1: following up with a previous conversation we had about Labia's
Speaker 1: at some point. This must have been a while back,
Speaker 1: because I can barely remember what we were talking about.
Speaker 1: I think maybe I mentioned that I saw from someone
Speaker 1: online talking about how it shrivels up with age, and
Speaker 1: we have a listener who is fact checking this for us,
Speaker 1: and the data is her own body.
Speaker 3: So hit it roll it.
Speaker 5: Hey guys, it's Melissa calling from northern California. I listen
Speaker 5: to your podcast every week. I absolutely love it. I
Speaker 5: feel like I'm sitting listening to two friends talk and
Speaker 5: it just brightens my day every week. But I honestly
Speaker 5: can't believe I'm leaving a voicemail about Labia. I turned
Speaker 5: fifty a few months ago, and I can tell you
Speaker 5: from firsthand experience that Labia does kind of go away
Speaker 5: shrivel up. And I can also tell you that no
Speaker 5: one talks about it, no one ever mentioned it, and
Speaker 5: so I just wanted to set the record straight and
Speaker 5: tell you that it does happen. But and you can
Speaker 5: also by using Estra dial cream and so I've been
Speaker 5: doing that and it's back kind of crazy. Anyways, hope
Speaker 5: you're having a great day and I will be listening
Speaker 5: to you next time.
Speaker 3: Bye.
Speaker 1: It's like, so, anyways, I hope you probably never thought
Speaker 1: I'd be calling a voicemail by Lavia, but here we are,
Speaker 1: and uh, she's right, nobody's talking about it really except us.
Speaker 1: Now we are and shout out to whatever person I
Speaker 1: saw online bring that up at some point because I
Speaker 1: was shocked by that I had never heard of it.
Speaker 1: And now this listener has a tip in case anybody
Speaker 1: else wants that cream.
Speaker 3: And it's too embarrassed or feels so much shame to
Speaker 3: bring it up. Yeah, so then they Yeah, also, I
Speaker 3: want to give her a shout out because I liked
Speaker 3: how she said. But and so good job.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we love and that is the number one rule
Speaker 1: of improv but uh.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, and so like I'm step one into improva.
Speaker 1: Ready, yeah, you already get it? And yeah uh. My
Speaker 1: boyfriend was doing some work thing the other day, a speech,
Speaker 1: a forty minute speech or how many people, like one
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty or something, but forty minutes. I was like,
Speaker 1: are you sure you want to talk this long to them?
Speaker 1: Like I think they might get bored, And he's like, no,
Speaker 1: there's how much song it has to be. And I
Speaker 1: was like, how long it has to be or how
Speaker 1: long you think, like doesn't have to be that No,
Speaker 1: but that's a long time to talk about like real estate.
Speaker 3: I feel like forty to forty five minutes is a
Speaker 3: normal public speaking time. Sure, I would not want to
Speaker 3: listen to that for forty minutes, but I'm not interested, right.
Speaker 1: If they're in that industry and they're therefore I get it.
Speaker 1: So maybe that was the thing is I wasn't into
Speaker 1: the Yeah, I was content we talked for forty minutes. True, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but we're all over the place.
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, which some people love, some people hate. Sidney
Speaker 3: who who?
Speaker 1: She will let us know about it. She will love
Speaker 1: our randomness or not love it. So in his speech
Speaker 1: somewhere I was reading over it and there was like
Speaker 1: a butt and guess what I did? I switched it
Speaker 1: to an end and it changed the vibe.
Speaker 3: Really Yeah?
Speaker 1: Did they notice that? He noticed it? And when he
Speaker 1: because he had to practice it, and I was like,
Speaker 1: do you want to do a run through?
Speaker 3: That's really cute.
Speaker 1: It was cute because I had to listen to him
Speaker 1: for forty minutes. Sorry, Yeah, yeah, we did.
Speaker 3: A full on dress rehearsal. Okay, but that is making
Speaker 3: me think of Alex Cooper's documentary. Did you ever go
Speaker 3: back and watch it?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I thought it was really good and she.
Speaker 3: Would practice her stuff in front of her husband, and
Speaker 3: her husband would give her a little notes. It was
Speaker 3: really cute that he was like that into helping her
Speaker 3: even when she was like really nervous. Yeah, so you
Speaker 3: kind of are like Alex Cooper and he's Alex Cooper's
Speaker 3: rich husband.
Speaker 1: Will switch because I was helping him?
Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, so I think that's really sweet. Also, like,
Speaker 3: I think her talk might have been more interesting to
Speaker 3: you than real estate. So what did you learn? Who's
Speaker 3: talk Alex Scoopers?
Speaker 1: Oh, her talk? Yeah? Probably what did I learn about?
Speaker 2: Now?
Speaker 1: I feel like there's more specific industry insider information for
Speaker 1: their company specifically and how they need to come together.
Speaker 1: He did use the analogy of the Ryder Cup and
Speaker 1: how the European team played more as a team than
Speaker 1: the American team and how they were great example of
Speaker 1: what it looks like to work together, because these are
Speaker 1: all these professional golfers coming together to be a team,
Speaker 1: and it's sort of like in his industry, there's all
Speaker 1: these leaders and professionals that are coming together as a group,
Speaker 1: and they're different parts of the country where they are
Speaker 1: the top of what they do, and then it's like,
Speaker 1: but if we work together, we could be even better.
Speaker 1: And he Oh, that's another part of the speech where
Speaker 1: I sort of tweaked it because he was like, how
Speaker 1: many of you are familiar with the Ryder Cup or
Speaker 1: he asked it in a way that a little it
Speaker 1: wasn't exactly like that, because it definitely sound a little
Speaker 1: more condescending. Like for those of you that don't know
Speaker 1: about the Writer Cup, when they explain to what it is,
Speaker 1: I said, just don't even ask them. Just be like
Speaker 1: I was watching the Ryder Cup the other day and
Speaker 1: that's where you know you have the European team and
Speaker 1: the Maryork team, Just like go explain it, like, don't
Speaker 1: ask it because it sounded condescending when he said it.
Speaker 3: That's really good feedback.
Speaker 1: Thanks, But I'm going to use what do you mean?
Speaker 1: Where are you going to use it? Well?
Speaker 3: Like I feel like sometimes on here I'll be like
Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? And like sometimes that's like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, or like do you know what this is?
Speaker 3: Or yeah? When I can just be like this is
Speaker 3: this thing and if you know what it is.
Speaker 1: I was like, do you know what raw dogging boredom is?
Speaker 3: Okay, That's why I did not take offense too like yeah,
Speaker 3: obviously I know what that is.
Speaker 1: Idiot speaking of things that I've felt like idiot ish about.
Speaker 1: You know when I brought to the other day how
Speaker 1: I felt lame on the phone when I was saying
Speaker 1: zero and oh, I am not alone. I am not alone.
Speaker 1: We got a voicemail from a listener that does the
Speaker 1: same thing, and she has a reason why. So I
Speaker 1: don't know really what my reason is. But I do it,
Speaker 1: she does it. We are not alone.
Speaker 3: I feel like I told you that I did it too,
Speaker 3: Did I not?
Speaker 1: Did you?
Speaker 3: I was confused.
Speaker 1: We were very confused.
Speaker 3: I think I do it.
Speaker 1: Seemed very confused, like when I was explaining it, well
Speaker 1: because I probably did a poor job explaining.
Speaker 3: It, to be honest, Well, maybe I hadd poor listening
Speaker 3: to who knows.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is why we work well together. Yeah, you
Speaker 1: want to hear the message.
Speaker 3: I would love to.
Speaker 5: Okay, hit it, Hi, Kat and Amy, this is Mary.
Speaker 5: I'm cracking up listening.
Speaker 1: P'll talk about zero in Oh, I'm from Texas and
Speaker 1: grew up saying oh, I moved to.
Speaker 5: California and worked at a law office. No one knew
Speaker 5: what I was talking about, so I changed it to zero,
Speaker 5: and so now I say both. Also, I think both
Speaker 5: is perfect.
Speaker 3: Because I think except for perfect, there you good.
Speaker 6: I hope y'all have today you need to have by Well.
Speaker 3: Maybe that's your issue too, because you came from Texas
Speaker 3: and then.
Speaker 1: I somewhere got the zero. Yeah, like somewhere I started
Speaker 1: doing the mixture.
Speaker 3: But I probably did oh.
Speaker 1: Growing up because my phone number going up was two
Speaker 1: A two oh eight for one, and I always said
Speaker 1: it that way. I never said zero eight for one.
Speaker 3: You can't say never you don't know.
Speaker 1: No, I know for a fact. I never said two
Speaker 1: eight two zero eight four one one hundred percent, never
Speaker 1: said that. I can say that with certainty. Why can't
Speaker 1: I say that.
Speaker 3: I just feel like that's one of those things.
Speaker 1: No, I know for a fact, cat, but we.
Speaker 3: Also can't check it. So like I guess, you can
Speaker 3: say that I know.
Speaker 1: But you have to trust me, like I know for
Speaker 1: a fact. Never, I never.
Speaker 3: Would have said, you said you do okay, I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: I was just being difficult just to trust. Trust.
Speaker 1: And if there's anything people take away from today's episode,
Speaker 1: it's that if you've been wanting to try something anything,
Speaker 1: whatever it is, whether it's to make a new friend,
Speaker 1: talk to somebody, approach a guy invent something. I mean,
Speaker 1: it could be something.
Speaker 3: That's try it. Yes, sunny recipe.
Speaker 1: I'm still a Pilates princess. By the way, what am
Speaker 1: I three weeks in now?
Speaker 3: Oh? Wow?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, it's a big deal. I saw a guy
Speaker 1: get his card.
Speaker 3: What it is?
Speaker 1: Did you hear the first Yeah? I heard him say
Speaker 1: it to his wife. He was not a Pilates princess,
Speaker 1: and he wasn't a plates prince.
Speaker 3: What was he?
Speaker 1: It was really cute. Actually, he was probably in his sixties,
Speaker 1: and I could tell that his wife brought him there,
Speaker 1: and then afterwards I knew exactly what his feelings. I
Speaker 1: was like, sir, I've been here. You're about to sign
Speaker 1: up for a full year membership. Because that's dopamine hits.
Speaker 1: They know what they're doing. Because he opened his locker
Speaker 1: and then I saw him look at the card, and
Speaker 1: then I saw him smile, and then his wife came
Speaker 1: up behind him and he was like, look at my card.
Speaker 1: I got five stars, five stars for his first time.
Speaker 1: That's likely, you know, it's like you did great, five stars.
Speaker 1: And he was so happy, and I mean, I'm telling you,
Speaker 1: he was again, probably in the sixties, professional businessman, probably
Speaker 1: belongs to a country club, like was like a child
Speaker 1: that just got five stars on.
Speaker 3: His Okay, well have you brought Alex?
Speaker 1: I haven't, but I should take him and see what
Speaker 1: kind of CARDI gets. I should take him. He's done
Speaker 1: plate he's with me once before where he went to
Speaker 1: Canyon Ranch.
Speaker 3: I think you should take him and because maybe that
Speaker 3: can be like a thing you guys do together.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did go with his daughter. I don't know.
Speaker 3: I don't think Alex is signing up for a membership,
Speaker 3: but I do think it'd be sweet if he went
Speaker 3: with you. Yeah, and see what kind of CARDI gets.
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, what if he doesn't get a card
Speaker 3: because they're like, oh, he's she's already signed up.
Speaker 1: Well they want him. No, they're thoughtful.
Speaker 3: They ok, they're going to get everybody.
Speaker 1: I say, they're thoughtful of it. Really it's I mean,
Speaker 1: it's probably a mixture of thoughtfulness and genius marketing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can't tell you. Probably how many people have instantly
Speaker 1: bought something after they got that car.
Speaker 3: You can care about people and your business at the
Speaker 3: same time.
Speaker 1: Which is how I'm going to be with my pillow,
Speaker 1: which is not a pillow. I really am going to
Speaker 1: care about.
Speaker 3: People before you give too much information. We should wrap
Speaker 3: this up.
Speaker 1: Okay. We hope you have the day you need to have.
Speaker 3: Bye. Bye,