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Speaker 1: All right, break it down.

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Speaker 2: If you ever have feelings that you just won't some

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Speaker 2: Amy and Cat got your cove and locking No, brother,

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Speaker 2: ladies and felons, do you just follow an the spirit

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Speaker 2: where it's telling over real stuff, tell the chill stuff

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Speaker 2: and the m but sway. Sometimes the best thing you

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Speaker 2: can do it just stop you feel things. This is

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Speaker 2: feeling things.

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Speaker 3: With Amy and Kat.

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Speaker 1: Happy Tuesday. Welcome to feeling things. I'm Amy and.

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Speaker 3: I'm Kat, and I am feeling empowered today.

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Speaker 1: That is the feeling of the day, feeling.

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Speaker 3: Of the day.

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Speaker 1: And why.

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Speaker 3: Well, so before I get into why I'm feeling empowered,

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Speaker 3: I do want to I guess you could call this

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Speaker 3: well it is a compliment. You know how we've talked

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Speaker 3: about not knowing how to dress and like watching these

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Speaker 3: people and them saying where this not that whatever, blah

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Speaker 3: how the one piece of clothing you need for this

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Speaker 3: season is a crew neck sweater.

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Speaker 1: Oh you're wearing? Is that what I'm wearing? The white

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Speaker 1: T shirt underne Yeah you know this one girl. I

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Speaker 1: going to be uncomfortable. But She said she wears her

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Speaker 1: white shirts the T shirt she wears undersweaters backwards because

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Speaker 1: a pro tip that I've never tried.

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Speaker 3: Also, people take fashion tape and tape their crew neck

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Speaker 1: Oh see, because I will say I've had the problem

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Speaker 3: The fashion tape is probably more comfortable, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Than wearing it backwards. You has a thick tag, and

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want that like on my neck.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but I just wanted to empower you.

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Speaker 1: Well, thank you pause pause, paws for the compliment. My boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: It's so cute, you know, because he listens to our podcast.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know he listened as much as he did,

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Speaker 1: and I can't say that he's listened to every single episode.

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Speaker 1: But the other day he gave me a compliment and

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Speaker 1: I really didn't take it well, like I just sort

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Speaker 1: And I was like, oh, touche, Okay, you've been listening

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Speaker 1: to the podcast, so he knows and he retains info

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Speaker 1: and male listener check. All right, So why are you

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Speaker 1: feeling empowered? And thank you for empowering me.

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Speaker 3: You're welcome. I'm feeling empowered because I was at a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but I've never thought about cleaning it up, should I?

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Speaker 1: Because I mean, I do have a storage is shoe?

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Speaker 3: it's like the randomest stuff on the same note, like

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Well, what are your notes look like?

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Speaker 1: What did Santa bring the naughty soccer Flayer?

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Speaker 1: Gold col? Okay, I that was I don't know. That's

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Speaker 1: met Kat exactly four years ago.

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Speaker 1: And that was on February fifteenth, twenty twenty four. I

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Speaker 3: Because you were in your old house. Okay, every lane Okay.

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Speaker 3: So I'm feeling empowered because I came across this note

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Speaker 3: note just said, when you're feeling judged to get down

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Speaker 1: And yeah, they're professional in US.

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Speaker 3: In US, well, I just thought that was so interesting, which.

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Speaker 1: A side note on that, you'll love that. In China,

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Speaker 1: I'm as for real as the article that I came across. Okay,

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Speaker 3: Now, the only thing that is coming up for me

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Speaker 4: And life, yeah, and they said, while less than ten

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Speaker 1: She'll send me a mean DM And next thing you know,

439
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Speaker 1: I'm spiral ing and I'm like, who is Cindy lu

440
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Speaker 1: Who Who? And I go to her page.

441
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Speaker 3: And it's it's.

442
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Speaker 1: No, she's not.

443
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Speaker 3: Consider the source. That'll be a new thing for us

444
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Speaker 3: to just say, like, s I B consider the source.

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Speaker 3: C t S.

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Speaker 1: CTS that's agency or a cat stand c I A

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Speaker 1: c T E that's the football ct ct S, c

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Speaker 1: T t S c t S. Were you a cheerleader ever?

449
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Speaker 3: Okay? First of all, the way you asked that, I

450
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,800
Speaker 3: feel like ever, first of all, yes, and let me

451
00:22:47,880 --> 00:22:51,359
Speaker 3: tell you about it. Okay, I made the football squad

452
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Speaker 3: in seventh grade. I feel like I've told you.

453
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Speaker 1: This, so sorry, I forgot.

454
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Speaker 3: Dare you I not remember? I haven't some good Laura

455
00:23:01,280 --> 00:23:01,960
Speaker 3: cheerleading days?

456
00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:05,760
Speaker 1: Sorry, little Jesus, I remember that name.

457
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 3: So when I was younger. So this is a perfect example.

458
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Speaker 3: Thank you for bringing up when I was a cheerleader, because.

459
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Speaker 1: Well, technically you were in the football squad.

460
00:23:14,720 --> 00:23:17,480
Speaker 3: No, the football squad, cheerleading squad. It was the best

461
00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,560
Speaker 3: squad to be on. There was the number one.

462
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Speaker 1: Squad, football squad. Like, well, if you're a cheerleader, or you.

463
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:25,680
Speaker 3: Could be on the basketball squad, the football squad or

464
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Speaker 3: the wrestling dance team. Cheerleaders ye to the rest and

465
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Speaker 3: the ranking was football squad best basketball, second best wrestling, third,

466
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Speaker 3: best dance team.

467
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Speaker 1: Oh dang, I was on the dance team.

468
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Speaker 3: But I think also you could be on the dance that.

469
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Speaker 1: Was also on the dance team. Back row, I was

470
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Speaker 1: also on the dance team. Didn't make every dance. No,

471
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Speaker 1: it's not because I was tall. Thank you for that, though.

472
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Speaker 1: I think it's because that's where they put people because

473
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Speaker 1: they weren't as visible, you know. But that so I

474
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Speaker 1: did cheerleading, I did dance team, and then when I

475
00:24:01,119 --> 00:24:04,760
Speaker 1: realized that wasn't really for me, I did cheerleading. Also

476
00:24:04,840 --> 00:24:06,520
Speaker 1: still wasn't for me. I probably would have been cheering

477
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Speaker 1: for the wrestlers. But anyway, you were on a.

478
00:24:10,720 --> 00:24:14,800
Speaker 3: Good squad, so this is what a team. Yeah, yes,

479
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,399
Speaker 3: so I can say that now as a as a

480
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Speaker 3: human that knows that I don't have any dancing rhythm

481
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Speaker 3: or skill. So it is very confusing when I look

482
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Speaker 3: back on this. But this is tied to all of

483
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Speaker 3: this because when I was a kid, I tried everything.

484
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Speaker 3: I tried out for the basketball team, I tried it

485
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Speaker 3: for the In what world was I trying out for

486
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Speaker 3: the cheerleading squad. I wasn't a cheerleader. I did dance

487
00:24:40,920 --> 00:24:43,719
Speaker 3: when I was like four, I played soccer, so like

488
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Speaker 3: I just randomly was like, Oh, I'm in middle school

489
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Speaker 3: and they have a cheerleading squad, I'll try out for it.

490
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Speaker 3: I was on the indoor swim team, which some people

491
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Speaker 3: said that was a weird way to say it. I

492
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,000
Speaker 3: guess it's just a year round swim team. I played

493
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Speaker 3: everything and tried out for anything I wanted to do

494
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Speaker 3: when I was younger, and that is not how I

495
00:25:01,119 --> 00:25:02,439
Speaker 3: live my life as an adult.

496
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Speaker 1: It because you had no fear, you mean, because.

497
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Speaker 3: I think as a kid there are different expectations. So

498
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Speaker 3: for me, as this is me looking back with the

499
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Speaker 3: brain of a thirty five year old. So I wish

500
00:25:13,160 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 3: I could go back and talk to myself at eleven

501
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:18,440
Speaker 3: or twelve, but I imagine that I was like, oh, I've

502
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Speaker 3: never been a cheerleader before, so I'm going to try

503
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Speaker 3: out and if I don't make it cool, like but

504
00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:26,560
Speaker 3: why not try out? But as an adult, we have

505
00:25:26,600 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 3: different expectations where we're like, oh, if I'm going to

506
00:25:29,800 --> 00:25:31,399
Speaker 3: do something, I need to do it well because it

507
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 3: would be embarrassing, or the expectations are different. But if

508
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:37,359
Speaker 3: I'm new at something, I've never done it before. I

509
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:39,199
Speaker 3: wish I could have the brain as a kid as

510
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Speaker 3: an adult, because then we would go out and do

511
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Speaker 3: more like speaking of your improv stuff, like I am

512
00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:47,080
Speaker 3: not going to go to an improv class because that

513
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Speaker 3: I feel like I'm gonna now get myself in a

514
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Speaker 3: position where like you're like, I challenge you to go.

515
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Speaker 1: Do it now if you go, I would go with you.

516
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Speaker 1: I don't want to challenge you to it, like I

517
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Speaker 1: think it would be fun, Like.

518
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Speaker 3: I wish it would be fun, but it is so scary.

519
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,840
Speaker 3: But in fifth grade, I was in drama club and

520
00:26:01,880 --> 00:26:05,280
Speaker 3: we did improv games and I had no fear. It

521
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 3: was just fun because everybody there was just like kids

522
00:26:08,960 --> 00:26:10,360
Speaker 3: learning why are you laughing?

523
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Speaker 1: Were you talking about fifth grade? Jama Club? Made me

524
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:15,359
Speaker 1: think of like something I did in fourth grade that

525
00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,800
Speaker 1: like does not track with my personality now, Like I

526
00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:21,359
Speaker 1: would never ever ever try out for music. No, no,

527
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Speaker 1: I've told you about it before. You don't remember. You

528
00:26:25,320 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 1: don't remember my fourth grade when I ran.

529
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Speaker 3: For class president treasury.

530
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Speaker 1: Don't I ran for treasurer I hate money, I hate

531
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Speaker 1: dealing with sciences, and I ran for class treasure vote

532
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Speaker 1: for amiing offit? You can't top it?

533
00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:42,919
Speaker 3: And didn't you hand out candy?

534
00:26:43,040 --> 00:26:44,280
Speaker 1: Yeah? Dollar bills?

535
00:26:44,600 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 3: Oh well about money?

536
00:26:45,640 --> 00:26:50,760
Speaker 1: Take money, monopoly money? But yeah with candy so perfect? Yeah,

537
00:26:50,840 --> 00:26:53,240
Speaker 1: but but I would never like, why in the world

538
00:26:53,280 --> 00:26:55,360
Speaker 1: would I run for treasure in fourth grade?

539
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:59,280
Speaker 3: Because as kids are, we think differently because we don't

540
00:26:59,280 --> 00:27:02,280
Speaker 3: have the same expect That's why. And I'm going to

541
00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:04,439
Speaker 3: take some of my own advice. When I talk to

542
00:27:04,640 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 3: clients about wanting to do things or trying new things,

543
00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 3: I say, if you only had to be sixty percent

544
00:27:11,040 --> 00:27:14,359
Speaker 3: good at something, what would you what things would you try?

545
00:27:14,840 --> 00:27:17,280
Speaker 3: And if I only had to be sixty percent good

546
00:27:17,400 --> 00:27:19,679
Speaker 3: at improv And like that's just what's sticking in my

547
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:22,159
Speaker 3: brain right now I think I'd go do it, but

548
00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,040
Speaker 3: I have this in my head expectation that like, oh,

549
00:27:25,040 --> 00:27:26,919
Speaker 3: I'm gonna mess up and it's going to be embarrassing,

550
00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:29,440
Speaker 3: and these people that aren't credible sources aren't going to

551
00:27:29,520 --> 00:27:29,840
Speaker 3: judge me.

552
00:27:30,520 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, Cindy lu Who who?

553
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,200
Speaker 3: Cindy lou who who?

554
00:27:34,240 --> 00:27:36,000
Speaker 1: It's study in a real hand, Get out of here.

555
00:27:36,480 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 1: I just made it up. So but she's out there.

556
00:27:39,520 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 1: You know who I'm talking about?

557
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:43,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, cause you're listening. So then you can judge Amy

558
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 3: and make comments on our Instagram she and he and

559
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,080
Speaker 3: so here's my question to you, mm hmm. If you

560
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:53,080
Speaker 3: only had to be sixty percent good at something, what

561
00:27:53,080 --> 00:27:54,959
Speaker 3: would you do? Would you try out for an adult

562
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:56,199
Speaker 3: cheer squad?

563
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:56,800
Speaker 1: No?

564
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:59,199
Speaker 3: Well, you did do a dance class. You're pretty good.

565
00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:01,160
Speaker 1: That was fun. I only went to the dance class with.

566
00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:04,280
Speaker 3: My daughter though, Like what things would you do?

567
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:06,560
Speaker 1: So fun? But I was horrible at it.

568
00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:08,240
Speaker 3: I think that makes it even better.

569
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I would like to do more improv. The problem

570
00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 1: with the improv classes that are here in Nashville is

571
00:28:14,359 --> 00:28:18,480
Speaker 1: there three hours long? Most all of them. Yeah, at

572
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:22,640
Speaker 1: least the places I've looked. If there's a short there's

573
00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:25,080
Speaker 1: like a yeah, like an hour and hour and a half,

574
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:27,960
Speaker 1: but three hours every week like that was just hard

575
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 1: to find for a week straight. Yeah, I just want

576
00:28:31,880 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: like a pop in, like a casual improv hang like,

577
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,679
Speaker 1: not like a commitment to a class, like let's just

578
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: gather together and improve it out Like that would be great.

579
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:46,040
Speaker 1: I would do that, Okay. I would maybe play piano

580
00:28:47,040 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: or something.

581
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 3: Okay, but I think piano is just another time thing

582
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:52,200
Speaker 3: for you. What do you mean, Like, I think you

583
00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:54,080
Speaker 3: would do that if you could find like the time to.

584
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:56,920
Speaker 1: So I don't want to just be sixty percon.

585
00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:58,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think you want to be good at That

586
00:28:59,120 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 3: doesn't fit this, So what are you scared to do?

587
00:29:02,080 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 3: It might be more like business things that you'd want

588
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 3: to try, or like you also might need to think

589
00:29:07,280 --> 00:29:07,600
Speaker 3: about it.

590
00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,719
Speaker 1: Oh well, I want to do some keynote speaking. Okay, perfect,

591
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,720
Speaker 1: So only sixty percent good.

592
00:29:14,600 --> 00:29:16,959
Speaker 3: But that's the the sixty percent is like the starting

593
00:29:17,000 --> 00:29:20,360
Speaker 3: gate position for you. So like as a kid when

594
00:29:20,400 --> 00:29:22,840
Speaker 3: I started playing soccer, there was no expectation for me

595
00:29:22,880 --> 00:29:24,560
Speaker 3: to be good, So I just jumped on the field

596
00:29:24,600 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 3: and I probably like made flower crowns the whole time.

597
00:29:27,560 --> 00:29:30,200
Speaker 3: Who knows. As I get older and I put more

598
00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:32,080
Speaker 3: effort and I practice, and then I realized that I

599
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,080
Speaker 3: really love it and I want to do something with it.

600
00:29:34,760 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 3: That didn't really happen with me. I didn't care, but

601
00:29:37,560 --> 00:29:39,800
Speaker 3: for the sake of this, then you start to want

602
00:29:39,840 --> 00:29:42,120
Speaker 3: to be better, and then you start to like really

603
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:44,920
Speaker 3: hone your craft versus this is just how do we

604
00:29:44,960 --> 00:29:46,760
Speaker 3: get you in? So if you only have to be

605
00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:49,160
Speaker 3: sixty percent good to get you in, you might do

606
00:29:49,240 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 3: some challenge yourself with some speaking engagements.

607
00:29:52,720 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 1: Also, I have an invention in my head another one

608
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:58,880
Speaker 1: that has to do with your head. Another invention like

609
00:29:58,960 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 1: the thing you can't reach. Oh yeah, well that wasn't

610
00:30:03,240 --> 00:30:05,200
Speaker 1: really going to happen. I mean for places you can't

611
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,320
Speaker 1: reach when you're trying to self tan yourself. I feel

612
00:30:08,320 --> 00:30:10,640
Speaker 1: like that was pretty good. But you most people have

613
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:12,760
Speaker 1: a roommate or a partner or a neighbor.

614
00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 3: Can you do my back for a stranger coming over

615
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 3: and rebby motion?

616
00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 1: Right, that'd probably be bad. And then people do go

617
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 1: to the house and they do spray tands the places

618
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: you can't reach, I mean they could also if you

619
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 1: can't reach your back, but also if you can't reach

620
00:30:24,560 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 1: the thing up in the cabinet. You get a stool,

621
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,720
Speaker 1: anything you can reach. I know, but I do have

622
00:30:31,080 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 1: an invention for the head and neck area when you sleep.

623
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Speaker 3: I don't want to say too much, oh, because you

624
00:30:38,200 --> 00:30:40,320
Speaker 3: don't want to anybody.

625
00:30:39,920 --> 00:30:45,880
Speaker 1: To hijack my idea. So, but it has to do

626
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: with your head and neck when you sleep. Okay, think

627
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:51,160
Speaker 1: of it like No, I've already said that, I don't.

628
00:30:51,040 --> 00:30:53,440
Speaker 3: Say it, but okay, if this is a legit, I

629
00:30:53,480 --> 00:30:54,640
Speaker 3: can't tell if you're joking now.

630
00:30:54,760 --> 00:30:58,040
Speaker 1: I'm not joking. No, I swear. I've never seen anything

631
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:02,760
Speaker 1: like this, and I think it could be good. I

632
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 1: just need the prototype and maybe the patent.

633
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:10,600
Speaker 3: We can do that. We I'm now in this with you.

634
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 3: I'm going to get you to go after it. So

635
00:31:12,640 --> 00:31:13,400
Speaker 3: I want ten percent.

636
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:18,960
Speaker 1: Okay, that's fine. I just think that it could be

637
00:31:18,960 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: a game changer, at least for me when I sleep.

638
00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 1: And and it's something like I've had different versions of

639
00:31:26,440 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 1: it in my head over time. This one that I've

640
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 1: thought of recently, actually last Wednesday, to be exact, is

641
00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 1: when it came to me, and I think about it

642
00:31:37,960 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: every I've thought about it every night since I laid.

643
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:41,920
Speaker 1: When I lay down to sleep, I'm like, if only

644
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: I had that. So I need to order some things

645
00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 1: and maybe bust out my sewing machine and figure out

646
00:31:48,520 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: how I'm gonna build it. But okay, I think it'll

647
00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:56,760
Speaker 1: come together and it could change your life.

648
00:31:56,920 --> 00:31:59,800
Speaker 3: Okay, I said it, So do you want me to

649
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:00,840
Speaker 3: hold you accountable to this?

650
00:32:01,120 --> 00:32:03,800
Speaker 1: Please? Okay, But I have other things I'm working on too,

651
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:06,600
Speaker 1: so I'm like, oh, shoot, but this could be a thing.

652
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 1: And I think of the woman Sarah Blakely that created

653
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: spanks and how she was going door to door selling

654
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,760
Speaker 1: Fax machines and then she had this idea for her

655
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:19,560
Speaker 1: spanks and how she would, you know, take the idea

656
00:32:19,680 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 1: to certain manufacturers and they rejected her. And I feel

657
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 1: like I might take this idea to people and they

658
00:32:26,760 --> 00:32:30,080
Speaker 1: might be like, this is ridiculous, like this doesn't make sense,

659
00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 1: and I'm like, but it does, and it's it's we

660
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:33,680
Speaker 1: our next need it.

661
00:32:34,320 --> 00:32:37,160
Speaker 3: We need this. So this brings me to something else

662
00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,160
Speaker 3: that I randomly just put in our doc because I

663
00:32:39,280 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 3: liked it, but I didn't really have any way to

664
00:32:40,760 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 3: work it end. So thank you for this.

665
00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 1: Okay, You're welcome.

666
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,640
Speaker 3: Thomas Edison once said.

667
00:32:45,920 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 1: Oh here, my fellow inventor or tom.

668
00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 3: Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain

669
00:32:50,920 --> 00:32:56,520
Speaker 3: way to succeed is always just try one more time. So,

670
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,000
Speaker 3: speaking of her going door to door, people being like, no,

671
00:32:59,160 --> 00:33:03,880
Speaker 3: that's stupid. Person could be the person says yes, and

672
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 3: then you're a bajillionaire. And I was talking with my

673
00:33:06,760 --> 00:33:09,400
Speaker 3: friends about I don't know their names, but the inventors

674
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 3: of cakes, those boob pads, oh yeah, and the girl

675
00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,640
Speaker 3: that invented poppy. I'm pretty sure if the other one

676
00:33:15,880 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 3: didn't she go on Shark Tank and like they rejected

677
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:18,760
Speaker 3: her or something.

678
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 1: I think they might have. I know that she started

679
00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 1: poppy like in her kitchen. Yeah, and then PEPSI just

680
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:26,000
Speaker 1: bought it for like two billion dollars a billiona or

681
00:33:26,120 --> 00:33:29,080
Speaker 1: one point eight oh could have been more, which yeah,

682
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: mine as will be two.

683
00:33:30,480 --> 00:33:31,760
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I'll.

684
00:33:31,680 --> 00:33:35,040
Speaker 1: Round up once you hit a billion, like does it?

685
00:33:35,000 --> 00:33:38,280
Speaker 1: It's just weird money anyway, Like what is it?

686
00:33:38,480 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 3: So never get spent, It will never get spent ever,

687
00:33:41,480 --> 00:33:44,400
Speaker 3: and so I don't need to be a billionaire. However,

688
00:33:45,000 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 3: if we could come up now that I'm in this

689
00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 3: with you an invention, I will go door to.

690
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:55,440
Speaker 1: Door in honor of Thomas Tom Tom ed Tommy our boy, Tommy,

691
00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:56,920
Speaker 1: our boy Tom.

692
00:33:57,200 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, well, well we'll keep inspire me too.

693
00:34:02,920 --> 00:34:05,479
Speaker 1: I am as well. And if you're ever having a

694
00:34:05,520 --> 00:34:09,040
Speaker 1: moment where you're feeling like not productive, but you know

695
00:34:09,160 --> 00:34:11,200
Speaker 1: that you want to be, like maybe you need to

696
00:34:11,239 --> 00:34:14,040
Speaker 1: have a brainstorming session or something. Have you ever heard

697
00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:30,640
Speaker 1: of raw dogging? Have you ever heard of raw dogging boredom?

698
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:35,200
Speaker 1: Like raw dogging boredom? No, I feel like you need

699
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,239
Speaker 1: this in your back pocket as a therapist because you

700
00:34:37,239 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 1: could recommend it to your clients.

701
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,960
Speaker 3: I was going to say, can we rebrand it?

702
00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:41,640
Speaker 1: Why?

703
00:34:41,760 --> 00:34:42,799
Speaker 3: First of all, I need to know what it is.

704
00:34:42,840 --> 00:34:44,920
Speaker 3: I'm not going to with a client being like okay,

705
00:34:44,960 --> 00:34:46,640
Speaker 3: well it sounds like what you need is to raw

706
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 3: dog some boredom, never saying that.

707
00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:52,560
Speaker 1: Okay, but it's I don't know what else to call it, Like.

708
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 3: Well, I'll help you come up with a different name,

709
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:55,359
Speaker 3: but I don't know what it is.

710
00:34:56,000 --> 00:35:02,200
Speaker 1: You you sit and liter make yourself bored. You can't

711
00:35:02,239 --> 00:35:04,880
Speaker 1: just sit in a corner like you can't have your phone,

712
00:35:05,040 --> 00:35:07,960
Speaker 1: you have nothing to entertain yourself. You just have to

713
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 1: sit there and it helps reset. Let me read you specifically,

714
00:35:14,080 --> 00:35:16,680
Speaker 1: it's allowing yourself to be bored for a certain amount

715
00:35:16,719 --> 00:35:20,279
Speaker 1: of time without exposing your brain to micro reward stimulus.

716
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 1: Says stimuli is a stimuli. Yeah, okay, well I didn't

717
00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:29,359
Speaker 1: type that. Okay, stimuli like your phone. Allowing your mind

718
00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:32,920
Speaker 1: to wander improves your performance on problem solving tasks and

719
00:35:33,040 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 1: increases your creativity. Raw doggy off strain brain. You're so immature,

720
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:46,200
Speaker 1: you're the one lapping, but you're the one that made

721
00:35:46,200 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 1: it awkward.

722
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:50,320
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. Okay.

723
00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:53,600
Speaker 1: It helps train your brain to not need as many

724
00:35:53,640 --> 00:35:57,279
Speaker 1: little dopamine hits, and that it's okay and safe to

725
00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:01,399
Speaker 1: not put your attention towards that. It sounds like you

726
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: do not need to clear your mind in order to

727
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:07,359
Speaker 1: do this, but you just have to sit there with

728
00:36:07,480 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 1: no stimuli. Okay. Another name for it is Shannon, just

729
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:18,440
Speaker 1: looked it up. Can you say this radical downtime that

730
00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:21,120
Speaker 1: you like it better than raw dogging boredom?

731
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 3: Yes? From a professional standpoint.

732
00:36:26,040 --> 00:36:28,239
Speaker 1: It does seem pretty radical to like put yourl It's

733
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:29,759
Speaker 1: like you're putting yourself in time out time out.

734
00:36:29,840 --> 00:36:34,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I think the raw did you find this

735
00:36:34,560 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 3: is this from like TikTok or something.

736
00:36:36,200 --> 00:36:39,160
Speaker 1: This is from some random influencer that I'm sure has

737
00:36:39,200 --> 00:36:39,760
Speaker 1: a credential.

738
00:36:39,840 --> 00:36:42,000
Speaker 3: I was just gonna say, we need the CIS or

739
00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:44,480
Speaker 3: whatever sac to come in and see where this person

740
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 3: got there.

741
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:50,080
Speaker 1: It's a gen Z TikTok trend.

742
00:36:50,360 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 3: Okay and you know that. Yeah, okayfied I'm if I'm

743
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:59,720
Speaker 3: a gen Z's therapist, which I have some gen Z clients,

744
00:36:59,719 --> 00:37:01,920
Speaker 3: and I'm like, have you tried raw dogging boredom? I

745
00:37:01,960 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 3: think they'd be like, don't say that. I think they like,

746
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 3: you're too old to say that.

747
00:37:05,840 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 1: Okay, So then you could say.

748
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:09,960
Speaker 3: Have you tried radical downtime?

749
00:37:10,480 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: Oh no, tell me more, put yourself in time out?

750
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,799
Speaker 1: And I'll be like, oh, yeah, well it's called raw

751
00:37:16,840 --> 00:37:21,200
Speaker 1: dogging boredom lamb. Well, I don't know, maybe it would work,

752
00:37:21,239 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 1: maybe not. But when I was watching some of the videos,

753
00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:27,080
Speaker 1: because there was multiple people, it wasn't even just one person.

754
00:37:27,160 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 1: It's like a trend. Like I was watching people do

755
00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:33,400
Speaker 1: it and they're literally you watch the sitting up against

756
00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 1: the wall. Yeah, they'll time laps themselves. Okay, because this

757
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:38,680
Speaker 1: one girl raw dog for now?

758
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,759
Speaker 3: Stop it? Oh my Okay, she.

759
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:47,600
Speaker 1: Radical she radically down timed herself for one hour and

760
00:37:47,640 --> 00:37:48,279
Speaker 1: she put it on.

761
00:37:48,920 --> 00:37:52,360
Speaker 3: So she's just sitting there. So it's kind of like meditating.

762
00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,600
Speaker 1: In a way. Yeah, but she wasn't like it wasn't

763
00:37:54,600 --> 00:37:56,080
Speaker 1: like a force like, oh I have to sit here

764
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:57,960
Speaker 1: and like hmm, but like she sat there and.

765
00:37:57,880 --> 00:38:00,640
Speaker 3: She's just sort of like you know, would rip on my.

766
00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:06,480
Speaker 1: That's what you would do anyway, just a technique something

767
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: to try out. Yeah, well, thank you on certified people online.

768
00:38:11,480 --> 00:38:16,160
Speaker 3: I need to fact checked us, fact check us.

769
00:38:16,040 --> 00:38:17,760
Speaker 1: On what poppy.

770
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 3: They didn't get rejected. So, but were they on Shark

771
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 3: They were on Shark Tank and they their names? Oh,

772
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:27,680
Speaker 3: their sisters Alison and sister and brother Alison and Stephen

773
00:38:27,719 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 3: Ellsworth married.

774
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:30,240
Speaker 1: I thought they were married.

775
00:38:30,680 --> 00:38:32,359
Speaker 3: I don't know why. I just thought sister and brother.

776
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:33,120
Speaker 3: They're probably married.

777
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:36,240
Speaker 1: But what are their names? Are they two feminine names?

778
00:38:36,520 --> 00:38:44,440
Speaker 3: No, I just can't read. It's Allison and Steven sisters

779
00:38:44,480 --> 00:38:45,480
Speaker 3: like I was seeing.

780
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:49,160
Speaker 1: You know, like if it was like you know, Jordan, Yeah,

781
00:38:49,280 --> 00:38:51,040
Speaker 1: that could bead of.

782
00:38:51,200 --> 00:38:54,400
Speaker 3: Well it's because I think the cakes people are two girls.

783
00:38:54,880 --> 00:38:57,840
Speaker 1: Well that would make sense, I hope, So I hope

784
00:38:58,200 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 1: that like Michael didn't invent the wipole covers, but maybe

785
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:01,759
Speaker 1: he did.

786
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:05,160
Speaker 3: Maybe he did. Okay. So the founders, Alison and Stephen Ellsworth,

787
00:39:05,160 --> 00:39:07,480
Speaker 3: appeared on the show in season ten It's a long

788
00:39:07,520 --> 00:39:10,120
Speaker 3: time ago twenty eighteen to pitch their company, and they

789
00:39:10,160 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 3: back then they called it Mother Beverage Group Upgrade with

790
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 3: the name Poppy Mother Beverage.

791
00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 1: There and there's like the Mother Mother.

792
00:39:20,640 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 3: Okay. While they faced some initial criticism for from some

793
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:27,840
Speaker 3: of the sharks regarding the taste and branding, a guest

794
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:33,279
Speaker 3: shark Rohan Oza saw potential in the product and he

795
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:35,880
Speaker 3: offered them a deal of four hundred thousand dollars for

796
00:39:35,920 --> 00:39:38,479
Speaker 3: a twenty five percent equity stake in the company, which

797
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:41,600
Speaker 3: they accepted. Also, those people are married. That means they

798
00:39:41,600 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 3: didn't get one point eight billion because they had to

799
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:48,040
Speaker 3: give twenty five to Rohan Rohan, mister Oza.

800
00:39:48,360 --> 00:39:51,839
Speaker 1: Yeah, which like okay, probably any other investors they had

801
00:39:51,880 --> 00:39:52,239
Speaker 1: along the.

802
00:39:52,239 --> 00:39:54,880
Speaker 3: Way, Oh yeah, I guess they probably did, which mothers.

803
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,640
Speaker 1: I'm sure they're fine. I saw, speaking of TikTok, I

804
00:39:57,680 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: saw them on TikTok traveling the world, and they're we

805
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 1: just sold our company to PEPSI. What would you do

806
00:40:03,480 --> 00:40:05,719
Speaker 1: if you had all this money and were traveling the world.

807
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 1: I can't remember what the TikTok was, but I remember

808
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 1: being like, what an odd video.

809
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:12,319
Speaker 3: To make of? Like I'm so rich? What would you

810
00:40:12,320 --> 00:40:13,000
Speaker 3: do if you were me?

811
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:15,800
Speaker 1: Where would you go first?

812
00:40:16,000 --> 00:40:18,120
Speaker 3: This is what we're doing. Ha ha, you can't come.

813
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:21,839
Speaker 1: Who knows. Maybe I'll make one of those videos when

814
00:40:21,840 --> 00:40:25,760
Speaker 1: I sell my pills. It's just kidding. It's not a pillow.

815
00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:29,120
Speaker 3: It's not Nobody thought you were going with pillow and

816
00:40:29,200 --> 00:40:31,600
Speaker 3: you said they had a neck and sleeping, but.

817
00:40:31,600 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 1: It's not a normal pillow.

818
00:40:33,680 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 3: Okay.

819
00:40:34,520 --> 00:40:37,560
Speaker 1: So you know, whenever Bobby got inducted into the Radio

820
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:39,840
Speaker 1: Hall of Fame in Chicago for whatever reason, a lot

821
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:41,480
Speaker 1: of people were getting inducted at the same time. And

822
00:40:41,480 --> 00:40:43,080
Speaker 1: I don't know who this guy was there with, but

823
00:40:43,160 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 1: you know that guy that had the infomercials was like,

824
00:40:45,480 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 1: you're gonna love my not you're gonna love my nuts.

825
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 1: That's a different guy. The pillow guy, the pillow, my pillow,

826
00:40:52,920 --> 00:40:55,360
Speaker 1: my pill You don't know the my pillow infomercial guy. No,

827
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:59,759
Speaker 1: he's like dark hair mustache, it's my pillow. I don't

828
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 1: know you would know if you saw him. Anyway, he

829
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:06,360
Speaker 1: was there, I met him. Maybe maybe I'll contact him

830
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,120
Speaker 1: and I'll be like, I have an idea.

831
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:09,800
Speaker 3: Was he selling a pillow?

832
00:41:10,360 --> 00:41:12,040
Speaker 1: No, he must have been there because he had a

833
00:41:12,080 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 1: friend potentially being inducted into the Radio Hall of Fame.

834
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: But I was like, I recognize him. I'm like, you're

835
00:41:16,719 --> 00:41:18,480
Speaker 1: the my pillow infomercial eye.

836
00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:20,120
Speaker 3: I'm saying like he was selling a pillow on the

837
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:21,000
Speaker 3: information Marshall.

838
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:25,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, he created a pillow that was like, the hell

839
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:26,760
Speaker 1: the pillow, my pillow?

840
00:41:26,960 --> 00:41:27,719
Speaker 3: But where's it now?

841
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:32,440
Speaker 1: Mike what Mike Lindell? I met him, and maybe since

842
00:41:33,200 --> 00:41:37,120
Speaker 1: I met him, I could reach out and I'd be like, Yo, Mike,

843
00:41:38,120 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: you may not remember me, but I met you at

844
00:41:40,280 --> 00:41:42,880
Speaker 1: in Chicago at the Radio Hall of Fame in whatever

845
00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:47,040
Speaker 1: year it was two thousand and fifteen or sixteen, and

846
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:50,080
Speaker 1: I held a pillow idea. Would you like to be

847
00:41:50,200 --> 00:41:53,440
Speaker 1: my first investor? And also, do you have a pillow manufacturer?

848
00:41:53,920 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: So now everybody knows what you're gonna make, yeah, but

849
00:41:56,160 --> 00:41:58,239
Speaker 1: they don't know what kind. And it is not your

850
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:00,880
Speaker 1: normal average pillow because I mean, I feel like I

851
00:42:00,920 --> 00:42:04,520
Speaker 1: have a good pillow, but this is just totally different.

852
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:09,120
Speaker 1: I don't even really know how you'll put a pillow

853
00:42:09,160 --> 00:42:11,239
Speaker 1: case on it, that's how different it is.

854
00:42:11,320 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 3: Like, so you have Okay, so this is a great

855
00:42:13,239 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 3: opportunity for more products for people to buy because they

856
00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:18,200
Speaker 3: are going to buy the pillow, but then they have

857
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:21,560
Speaker 3: to buy the special case and you are only be

858
00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:23,919
Speaker 3: the one that patents the case too. So then it's

859
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:25,359
Speaker 3: like when you buy the iPhone, you have to buy

860
00:42:25,360 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 3: a case because then your iPhone's gonna break. It's like,

861
00:42:27,160 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 3: you buy the pillow, you gotta buy the pillow case.

862
00:42:28,800 --> 00:42:30,960
Speaker 3: So you're selling them two things in one every time.

863
00:42:30,800 --> 00:42:32,759
Speaker 1: Which I'm not trying to upsell. It's not, it's about

864
00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:34,400
Speaker 1: it just has to be a particular.

865
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 3: You want to sell your product to Pepsi and travel

866
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:39,759
Speaker 3: the world, then you're gonna need to upsell. True, Yeah,

867
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 3: I think smarter.

868
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:42,800
Speaker 1: It's a rebrand of a pillow.

869
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,000
Speaker 3: I do have a question about that, though, I don't

870
00:42:45,000 --> 00:42:46,879
Speaker 3: mean I feel like I can ask this question because

871
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,720
Speaker 3: I'm not a billionaire. If you did have a product

872
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 3: like that, and this is hypothetical, so you can't really know,

873
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:55,279
Speaker 3: so what would you think you would do? But if

874
00:42:55,320 --> 00:42:58,239
Speaker 3: you had a company or product you sold it and

875
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:01,000
Speaker 3: you made like five hundred million dollars to a billion dollars,

876
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:06,600
Speaker 3: would you quit working or would you go and try

877
00:43:06,600 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 3: to do more stuff?

878
00:43:07,880 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 1: Yeah? Because I would have an opportunity to have money

879
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:11,560
Speaker 1: to invest in more and like create more.

880
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 3: Or would you be like, I'm going to ride this

881
00:43:13,719 --> 00:43:17,200
Speaker 3: out because as an inventor, the brain of an inventor

882
00:43:17,239 --> 00:43:17,920
Speaker 3: you just can't stop.

883
00:43:18,040 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 1: I would maybe have more ideas well. I would probably

884
00:43:21,200 --> 00:43:23,200
Speaker 1: use the money to fund You know that we're trying

885
00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:27,000
Speaker 1: to work on low key a protein bar, so I'd figure.

886
00:43:26,719 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 3: Out that problem. I like my job.

887
00:43:29,320 --> 00:43:32,919
Speaker 1: I don't know I would Maybe I wouldn't just quit

888
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:36,400
Speaker 1: working and do nothing, but I think I would still

889
00:43:36,440 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: do the show, but then have money to do other

890
00:43:39,040 --> 00:43:41,359
Speaker 1: things that I want to do.

891
00:43:41,840 --> 00:43:44,879
Speaker 3: Like if you made a billion dollars, you would still

892
00:43:44,920 --> 00:43:45,879
Speaker 3: do this podcast?

893
00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:46,520
Speaker 1: This point?

894
00:43:46,760 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 3: Yes? What else?

895
00:43:48,360 --> 00:43:50,200
Speaker 1: Why would I enjoy? You and I were talking the

896
00:43:50,239 --> 00:43:52,560
Speaker 1: other day about how it's like what we look forward to.

897
00:43:53,200 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 3: I just think about a billion dollars. I would have

898
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:56,560
Speaker 3: other things to look forward So.

899
00:43:56,600 --> 00:44:00,800
Speaker 1: You wouldn't do it? No, Well, you said the other day,

900
00:44:01,120 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: this is the this is like the best thing right now,

901
00:44:04,239 --> 00:44:06,879
Speaker 1: I'm not arathing that I have. Right, you said that, right,

902
00:44:07,560 --> 00:44:12,960
Speaker 1: So you're saying that only at where you are financially, Like,

903
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:17,760
Speaker 1: if you had way more money, what what would change

904
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:19,960
Speaker 1: other than your bank account?

905
00:44:21,200 --> 00:44:23,520
Speaker 3: I feel like, what else would you do?

906
00:44:25,120 --> 00:44:25,520
Speaker 1: Serious?

907
00:44:26,120 --> 00:44:29,520
Speaker 3: It's not crazy to say if I got a billion dollars,

908
00:44:29,520 --> 00:44:30,560
Speaker 3: I would stop working.

909
00:44:31,360 --> 00:44:33,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, but this doesn't feel like work.

910
00:44:33,520 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 3: You said, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay, okay, then let me

911
00:44:35,480 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 3: te Okay, listen, let me I'm gonna yeah, but I

912
00:44:39,520 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 3: said that as me.

913
00:44:40,200 --> 00:44:44,320
Speaker 1: Now we're like oursue you with money changes.

914
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:45,439
Speaker 3: I will change.

915
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:51,200
Speaker 1: Is that everybody in this room is everybody anywhere out?

916
00:44:51,360 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 3: Okay, listen, let me rephrase. I don't okay, Am I

917
00:44:55,719 --> 00:44:56,879
Speaker 3: safe to say how I feel?

918
00:44:56,960 --> 00:44:58,920
Speaker 1: Yeah? Obviously I'm joking.

919
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 3: I'm just joking. It's fine.

920
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:07,399
Speaker 1: It can be feeling things with Amy and and the.

921
00:45:07,360 --> 00:45:11,200
Speaker 3: Other cat because she that would be an easy transition. Yeah, okay,

922
00:45:11,239 --> 00:45:14,320
Speaker 3: So if I got a billion dollars, I think I

923
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:16,399
Speaker 3: would still want to do something. I think I would

924
00:45:16,480 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 3: do more. Yes, you're right, i would do more things

925
00:45:18,320 --> 00:45:20,560
Speaker 3: that I would do just for fun versus I'm doing

926
00:45:20,560 --> 00:45:23,640
Speaker 3: this because I need money or this is my job

927
00:45:23,680 --> 00:45:25,480
Speaker 3: that I have to do listen, so this it would

928
00:45:25,520 --> 00:45:28,360
Speaker 3: be just fun. So I think I would shift the

929
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:32,319
Speaker 3: way I think about it too, Like I probably would

930
00:45:32,360 --> 00:45:37,640
Speaker 3: not do the social media. We could hire somebody yea, yeah,

931
00:45:37,719 --> 00:45:39,440
Speaker 3: if I had a billion dollars, I would not be

932
00:45:39,560 --> 00:45:42,120
Speaker 3: making Instagram reels. I would be asking something else to

933
00:45:42,120 --> 00:45:44,719
Speaker 3: do it. And honestly, they could help us make some

934
00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:48,080
Speaker 3: really cool like tiktoks and stuff, so it could be beneficial.

935
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:50,920
Speaker 1: But now that we're viral on TikTok, But I also.

936
00:45:50,719 --> 00:45:53,719
Speaker 3: Would want the opportunity. Oh yeah, we'll come back to that.

937
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:56,120
Speaker 3: I would want the opportunity because we record this on

938
00:45:56,160 --> 00:45:57,960
Speaker 3: a certain day every week. Well, what if I wanted

939
00:45:57,960 --> 00:46:00,680
Speaker 3: to be in Italy, I would negoti that we could

940
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:06,719
Speaker 3: do some virtual for sure tapings, podcasts, recordings. So I

941
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:08,960
Speaker 3: think I would shift the way I wouldn't be So

942
00:46:10,280 --> 00:46:12,360
Speaker 3: we would have to have a conversation about our boundaries.

943
00:46:12,520 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 1: Again. Well, the likelihood of any of this happening is

944
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:18,160
Speaker 1: you never know. Yeah, you never know. You never know.

945
00:46:18,320 --> 00:46:19,600
Speaker 3: You don't know what I have up my sleeve.

946
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:22,919
Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to believe that that's actually gonna happen.

947
00:46:22,960 --> 00:46:25,000
Speaker 1: But at least we're good for the next year.

948
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:27,400
Speaker 3: I think I would also, Yeah, for the next year,

949
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,560
Speaker 3: we're really good. I think I also would want to

950
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:35,759
Speaker 3: do things just because I'm to help versus just make money.

951
00:46:35,840 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 3: So like I mean, I would want to know. I

952
00:46:37,880 --> 00:46:40,239
Speaker 3: mean like this would be one thing. Don't hear what

953
00:46:40,280 --> 00:46:42,800
Speaker 3: I'm not saying. I think if I was a billionaire,

954
00:46:42,880 --> 00:46:45,440
Speaker 3: I would hope My hope for myself is that I

955
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:48,759
Speaker 3: would get more involved in some nonprofits or things in

956
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:49,759
Speaker 3: my community to help.

957
00:46:49,840 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 1: Oh for sure, Yeah, we could put on events, so yeah,

958
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:54,279
Speaker 1: that would be fun.

959
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:57,759
Speaker 3: I think the passion that just help people versus I

960
00:46:57,800 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 3: have to help people and I have to sustain my life.

961
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:02,960
Speaker 3: It would open up doors for me.

962
00:47:03,120 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 1: The orphanage in Haiti would be just totally taking care

963
00:47:06,200 --> 00:47:10,040
Speaker 1: of check. School would be funded check. It's one thing

964
00:47:10,120 --> 00:47:12,480
Speaker 1: that I have to figure out sometimes.

965
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:15,920
Speaker 3: But you know, so whatever I heard, you kind of

966
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:18,239
Speaker 3: whisper that we went viral, and I just wanted to

967
00:47:18,280 --> 00:47:21,839
Speaker 3: make sure everybody heard that, since you know.

968
00:47:22,360 --> 00:47:25,520
Speaker 1: Our custom videos and viral on TikTok who At the

969
00:47:25,520 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 1: time that we're recording this, it's like one point seven

970
00:47:28,040 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 1: to one point eight million, But at the time people

971
00:47:30,239 --> 00:47:32,480
Speaker 1: are hearing this, it could be it could still be

972
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,400
Speaker 1: there or if it got stagnant, or it could be

973
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:39,400
Speaker 1: well over two million, which is funny that and you know,

974
00:47:39,680 --> 00:47:42,120
Speaker 1: we're kind of attracting an audience that I'm not sure.

975
00:47:43,800 --> 00:47:45,960
Speaker 1: I don't know who we want, but it's it's kind

976
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:48,080
Speaker 1: of funny. They must be seeing our other videos because

977
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,760
Speaker 1: they're deciding to follow. Yeah, so some people are following.

978
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:53,160
Speaker 1: The comments are hilarious.

979
00:47:53,719 --> 00:47:56,600
Speaker 3: There's a lot of profanity in the comments. But what's

980
00:47:56,640 --> 00:48:00,280
Speaker 3: funny about that and what is just interesting about social

981
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:04,319
Speaker 3: media in general? That video I was like, oh, well,

982
00:48:04,360 --> 00:48:06,400
Speaker 3: I told you to make it. Well you yeah, you

983
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:08,759
Speaker 3: told me to make it, and then the idea behind it,

984
00:48:08,800 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, yeah, that could be good. But the clip

985
00:48:10,600 --> 00:48:13,040
Speaker 3: that I had to work with that was like usable

986
00:48:13,080 --> 00:48:14,000
Speaker 3: of me talking yeah.

987
00:48:13,840 --> 00:48:14,759
Speaker 1: You were like not failing it.

988
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:16,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, because I was like it's so short.

989
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,359
Speaker 1: I feel like, well, you tried to add something else

990
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:20,719
Speaker 1: to make it your Internet. I was like take it out, yes,

991
00:48:21,239 --> 00:48:23,279
Speaker 1: and then k I was like, Okay, I guess I'll

992
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:26,080
Speaker 1: put this up and then bam. It's been shared over

993
00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:28,439
Speaker 1: twenty thousand times on Instagram.

994
00:48:28,120 --> 00:48:31,000
Speaker 3: And versus the videos that I like, work really hard

995
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 3: on and I think are just gonna kill it and

996
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:36,120
Speaker 3: it's like want want, so I just have to care less.

997
00:48:36,160 --> 00:48:37,800
Speaker 3: I think it's the key.

998
00:48:37,680 --> 00:48:38,920
Speaker 1: But I can't. I can't.

999
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:39,760
Speaker 3: I cared.

1000
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 1: I thought that would be a good video. I cared,

1001
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:44,360
Speaker 1: like I thought of it. I went back and was

1002
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:45,960
Speaker 1: like looking at our text because I was like, wait,

1003
00:48:46,000 --> 00:48:47,239
Speaker 1: what day did we think of this? And then we

1004
00:48:47,480 --> 00:48:49,560
Speaker 1: ended up? So I texted you on like a Wednesday

1005
00:48:49,600 --> 00:48:50,959
Speaker 1: and I was like, hey, can you make a video

1006
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:52,160
Speaker 1: of the cussing whatever?

1007
00:48:52,920 --> 00:48:54,600
Speaker 3: And then I posted and then I was like.

1008
00:48:54,640 --> 00:48:57,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then you posted to Instagram maybe Thursday or Friday,

1009
00:48:57,680 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: and then I posted it Friday night to TikTok and

1010
00:48:59,520 --> 00:49:03,239
Speaker 1: then it blew up. But I don't know why it is,

1011
00:49:03,320 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: but I so random thought it was so cute how

1012
00:49:06,320 --> 00:49:08,160
Speaker 1: you were like texting me and you're like, can you

1013
00:49:08,160 --> 00:49:13,239
Speaker 1: please add the source to the to the description? What

1014
00:49:13,400 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: is it the caption caption? Because people, you know, we're commenting, commenting, Yeah,

1015
00:49:20,760 --> 00:49:21,560
Speaker 1: what's your source?

1016
00:49:21,560 --> 00:49:23,400
Speaker 3: So where'd you get it? And then you're like bam,

1017
00:49:23,520 --> 00:49:25,359
Speaker 3: because I'm like, I didn't make this up, but that's

1018
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,880
Speaker 3: part of it. I didn't add this me because in

1019
00:49:28,960 --> 00:49:32,000
Speaker 3: the actual podcast I said the source, but in the

1020
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:33,879
Speaker 3: clip you did it. I didn't, so.

1021
00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:37,480
Speaker 1: I should have thrown in the source. So then I,

1022
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: who knows, I probably didn't like take that out.

1023
00:49:40,280 --> 00:49:42,719
Speaker 3: And then so right, you're like, this is boring. Wanh

1024
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,600
Speaker 3: wanh Like then some of the people that were like

1025
00:49:45,640 --> 00:49:48,520
Speaker 3: would love to know this research. Where's this research come from?

1026
00:49:48,600 --> 00:49:50,719
Speaker 3: I commented, and I was like, oh, of course you

1027
00:49:50,760 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 3: can have the research article, and I posted it and

1028
00:49:52,960 --> 00:49:55,040
Speaker 3: send them you not asking you shall receive.

1029
00:49:55,160 --> 00:49:57,440
Speaker 1: You texted me to add it to the caption on TikTok.

1030
00:49:57,520 --> 00:49:59,239
Speaker 1: And then I go to TikTok and I'm looking in

1031
00:49:59,280 --> 00:50:01,480
Speaker 1: the comments and I all down and I see kat

1032
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:04,919
Speaker 1: Defada and you put the source like you.

1033
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:08,560
Speaker 3: As a commentary. You're like, you're here if you want

1034
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:09,320
Speaker 3: to read it.

1035
00:50:09,320 --> 00:50:10,719
Speaker 1: It was really it was cute, and it's good that

1036
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:14,480
Speaker 1: it was actual research and you had the data.

1037
00:50:15,000 --> 00:50:17,440
Speaker 3: It was a pure reviewed study back it up. Yeah.

1038
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:19,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, and not that I knew. I mean I could

1039
00:50:19,800 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 1: have told Honestly, I was sort of being like, I

1040
00:50:22,719 --> 00:50:24,279
Speaker 1: told you to make it because I did think it

1041
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:28,560
Speaker 1: would be good. However, it could have easily done nothing right,

1042
00:50:28,800 --> 00:50:31,319
Speaker 1: because like I've had other ideas that have been like

1043
00:50:31,440 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: total flops. So it's just I was just shouting it

1044
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:38,680
Speaker 1: out because I got lucky, you know. Okay, sometimes you know,

1045
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:39,800
Speaker 1: you win, SEMy lose.

1046
00:50:39,600 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 3: Some you go viral. Sometimes nobody watches your video at all.

1047
00:50:42,840 --> 00:50:45,840
Speaker 1: I just you just go forward posting all the videos

1048
00:50:45,880 --> 00:50:47,360
Speaker 1: with just no fear.

1049
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 3: That's the whole whole point of.

1050
00:50:49,840 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 1: This whole point. We're going to pivot. Okay, this is

1051
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:07,160
Speaker 1: gonna be this is going to feel like a hard

1052
00:51:07,200 --> 00:51:08,680
Speaker 1: pivot because it is.

1053
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:10,680
Speaker 3: It could be any more of a hard pivot, and

1054
00:51:11,040 --> 00:51:14,640
Speaker 3: I don't think, don't get or it's kind of any harder.

1055
00:51:14,719 --> 00:51:19,680
Speaker 1: Okay, then this, And if you have little ones, well

1056
00:51:19,680 --> 00:51:22,560
Speaker 1: it's probably fine. They probably don't know what a five

1057
00:51:22,719 --> 00:51:25,759
Speaker 1: four three two giving you a break? Hey guy, have

1058
00:51:25,840 --> 00:51:31,600
Speaker 1: your kids not talking to Libya Labia? Well, kids probably

1059
00:51:31,640 --> 00:51:35,080
Speaker 1: don't know what a laby is, or they do or

1060
00:51:35,120 --> 00:51:37,320
Speaker 1: they do. And it's a great moment to talk about

1061
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:38,280
Speaker 1: the body body.

1062
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:39,640
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, Okay.

1063
00:51:39,680 --> 00:51:43,920
Speaker 1: So we have a voicemail from a listener that is

1064
00:51:44,560 --> 00:51:49,440
Speaker 1: following up with a previous conversation we had about Labia's

1065
00:51:49,480 --> 00:51:51,520
Speaker 1: at some point. This must have been a while back,

1066
00:51:51,520 --> 00:51:53,759
Speaker 1: because I can barely remember what we were talking about.

1067
00:51:53,760 --> 00:51:57,400
Speaker 1: I think maybe I mentioned that I saw from someone

1068
00:51:57,440 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 1: online talking about how it shrivels up with age, and

1069
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:08,480
Speaker 1: we have a listener who is fact checking this for us,

1070
00:52:08,680 --> 00:52:10,640
Speaker 1: and the data is her own body.

1071
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:14,040
Speaker 3: So hit it roll it.

1072
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:20,279
Speaker 5: Hey guys, it's Melissa calling from northern California. I listen

1073
00:52:20,360 --> 00:52:23,880
Speaker 5: to your podcast every week. I absolutely love it. I

1074
00:52:23,920 --> 00:52:27,759
Speaker 5: feel like I'm sitting listening to two friends talk and

1075
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:31,520
Speaker 5: it just brightens my day every week. But I honestly

1076
00:52:31,520 --> 00:52:35,240
Speaker 5: can't believe I'm leaving a voicemail about Labia. I turned

1077
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:39,120
Speaker 5: fifty a few months ago, and I can tell you

1078
00:52:39,200 --> 00:52:44,000
Speaker 5: from firsthand experience that Labia does kind of go away

1079
00:52:44,200 --> 00:52:47,960
Speaker 5: shrivel up. And I can also tell you that no

1080
00:52:48,000 --> 00:52:51,640
Speaker 5: one talks about it, no one ever mentioned it, and

1081
00:52:51,719 --> 00:52:54,440
Speaker 5: so I just wanted to set the record straight and

1082
00:52:54,480 --> 00:52:59,440
Speaker 5: tell you that it does happen. But and you can

1083
00:52:59,480 --> 00:53:04,160
Speaker 5: also by using Estra dial cream and so I've been

1084
00:53:04,200 --> 00:53:08,799
Speaker 5: doing that and it's back kind of crazy. Anyways, hope

1085
00:53:08,840 --> 00:53:12,160
Speaker 5: you're having a great day and I will be listening

1086
00:53:12,200 --> 00:53:13,040
Speaker 5: to you next time.

1087
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:13,680
Speaker 3: Bye.

1088
00:53:14,160 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 1: It's like, so, anyways, I hope you probably never thought

1089
00:53:19,480 --> 00:53:22,160
Speaker 1: I'd be calling a voicemail by Lavia, but here we are,

1090
00:53:22,480 --> 00:53:27,359
Speaker 1: and uh, she's right, nobody's talking about it really except us.

1091
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 1: Now we are and shout out to whatever person I

1092
00:53:31,080 --> 00:53:33,920
Speaker 1: saw online bring that up at some point because I

1093
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,080
Speaker 1: was shocked by that I had never heard of it.

1094
00:53:36,760 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: And now this listener has a tip in case anybody

1095
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 1: else wants that cream.

1096
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,360
Speaker 3: And it's too embarrassed or feels so much shame to

1097
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:46,880
Speaker 3: bring it up. Yeah, so then they Yeah, also, I

1098
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 3: want to give her a shout out because I liked

1099
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:52,919
Speaker 3: how she said. But and so good job.

1100
00:53:53,239 --> 00:53:56,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, we love and that is the number one rule

1101
00:53:56,040 --> 00:53:58,760
Speaker 1: of improv but uh.

1102
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:01,800
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, and so like I'm step one into improva.

1103
00:54:01,880 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 1: Ready, yeah, you already get it? And yeah uh. My

1104
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:09,480
Speaker 1: boyfriend was doing some work thing the other day, a speech,

1105
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:15,319
Speaker 1: a forty minute speech or how many people, like one

1106
00:54:15,400 --> 00:54:18,360
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty or something, but forty minutes. I was like,

1107
00:54:18,400 --> 00:54:20,480
Speaker 1: are you sure you want to talk this long to them?

1108
00:54:20,520 --> 00:54:22,799
Speaker 1: Like I think they might get bored, And he's like, no,

1109
00:54:22,840 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 1: there's how much song it has to be. And I

1110
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:27,200
Speaker 1: was like, how long it has to be or how

1111
00:54:27,239 --> 00:54:30,319
Speaker 1: long you think, like doesn't have to be that No,

1112
00:54:31,280 --> 00:54:34,800
Speaker 1: but that's a long time to talk about like real estate.

1113
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,480
Speaker 3: I feel like forty to forty five minutes is a

1114
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 3: normal public speaking time. Sure, I would not want to

1115
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:44,200
Speaker 3: listen to that for forty minutes, but I'm not interested, right.

1116
00:54:44,080 --> 00:54:45,880
Speaker 1: If they're in that industry and they're therefore I get it.

1117
00:54:45,920 --> 00:54:47,920
Speaker 1: So maybe that was the thing is I wasn't into

1118
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:52,239
Speaker 1: the Yeah, I was content we talked for forty minutes. True, Yeah,

1119
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:53,240
Speaker 1: but we're all over the place.

1120
00:54:53,320 --> 00:54:57,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, which some people love, some people hate. Sidney

1121
00:54:57,840 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 3: who who?

1122
00:55:00,239 --> 00:55:03,120
Speaker 1: She will let us know about it. She will love

1123
00:55:03,440 --> 00:55:08,120
Speaker 1: our randomness or not love it. So in his speech

1124
00:55:08,200 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 1: somewhere I was reading over it and there was like

1125
00:55:10,320 --> 00:55:14,120
Speaker 1: a butt and guess what I did? I switched it

1126
00:55:14,160 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: to an end and it changed the vibe.

1127
00:55:16,760 --> 00:55:17,600
Speaker 3: Really Yeah?

1128
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:20,640
Speaker 1: Did they notice that? He noticed it? And when he

1129
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:22,239
Speaker 1: because he had to practice it, and I was like,

1130
00:55:22,360 --> 00:55:23,600
Speaker 1: do you want to do a run through?

1131
00:55:24,000 --> 00:55:25,080
Speaker 3: That's really cute.

1132
00:55:25,120 --> 00:55:27,120
Speaker 1: It was cute because I had to listen to him

1133
00:55:27,160 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 1: for forty minutes. Sorry, Yeah, yeah, we did.

1134
00:55:30,680 --> 00:55:33,839
Speaker 3: A full on dress rehearsal. Okay, but that is making

1135
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:37,279
Speaker 3: me think of Alex Cooper's documentary. Did you ever go

1136
00:55:37,360 --> 00:55:37,960
Speaker 3: back and watch it?

1137
00:55:38,120 --> 00:55:39,560
Speaker 1: Yeah? I thought it was really good and she.

1138
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:41,360
Speaker 3: Would practice her stuff in front of her husband, and

1139
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 3: her husband would give her a little notes. It was

1140
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:46,040
Speaker 3: really cute that he was like that into helping her

1141
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:49,040
Speaker 3: even when she was like really nervous. Yeah, so you

1142
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:52,480
Speaker 3: kind of are like Alex Cooper and he's Alex Cooper's

1143
00:55:52,560 --> 00:55:53,480
Speaker 3: rich husband.

1144
00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:56,359
Speaker 1: Will switch because I was helping him?

1145
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:59,200
Speaker 3: Okay, Yeah, so I think that's really sweet. Also, like,

1146
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:03,239
Speaker 3: I think her talk might have been more interesting to

1147
00:56:03,280 --> 00:56:06,080
Speaker 3: you than real estate. So what did you learn? Who's

1148
00:56:06,160 --> 00:56:07,560
Speaker 3: talk Alex Scoopers?

1149
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 1: Oh, her talk? Yeah? Probably what did I learn about?

1150
00:56:11,320 --> 00:56:11,440
Speaker 2: Now?

1151
00:56:12,160 --> 00:56:15,279
Speaker 1: I feel like there's more specific industry insider information for

1152
00:56:15,320 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 1: their company specifically and how they need to come together.

1153
00:56:18,320 --> 00:56:20,920
Speaker 1: He did use the analogy of the Ryder Cup and

1154
00:56:21,640 --> 00:56:25,040
Speaker 1: how the European team played more as a team than

1155
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:28,480
Speaker 1: the American team and how they were great example of

1156
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:30,640
Speaker 1: what it looks like to work together, because these are

1157
00:56:30,680 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 1: all these professional golfers coming together to be a team,

1158
00:56:33,680 --> 00:56:35,520
Speaker 1: and it's sort of like in his industry, there's all

1159
00:56:35,560 --> 00:56:39,480
Speaker 1: these leaders and professionals that are coming together as a group,

1160
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:43,279
Speaker 1: and they're different parts of the country where they are

1161
00:56:43,360 --> 00:56:45,239
Speaker 1: the top of what they do, and then it's like,

1162
00:56:45,360 --> 00:56:48,480
Speaker 1: but if we work together, we could be even better.

1163
00:56:49,440 --> 00:56:52,440
Speaker 1: And he Oh, that's another part of the speech where

1164
00:56:52,480 --> 00:56:56,759
Speaker 1: I sort of tweaked it because he was like, how

1165
00:56:56,800 --> 00:56:58,920
Speaker 1: many of you are familiar with the Ryder Cup or

1166
00:56:58,960 --> 00:57:00,960
Speaker 1: he asked it in a way that a little it

1167
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 1: wasn't exactly like that, because it definitely sound a little

1168
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:05,960
Speaker 1: more condescending. Like for those of you that don't know

1169
00:57:05,960 --> 00:57:07,799
Speaker 1: about the Writer Cup, when they explain to what it is,

1170
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:09,600
Speaker 1: I said, just don't even ask them. Just be like

1171
00:57:09,840 --> 00:57:12,279
Speaker 1: I was watching the Ryder Cup the other day and

1172
00:57:12,560 --> 00:57:14,360
Speaker 1: that's where you know you have the European team and

1173
00:57:14,360 --> 00:57:16,160
Speaker 1: the Maryork team, Just like go explain it, like, don't

1174
00:57:16,240 --> 00:57:19,000
Speaker 1: ask it because it sounded condescending when he said it.

1175
00:57:19,080 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 3: That's really good feedback.

1176
00:57:20,640 --> 00:57:23,880
Speaker 1: Thanks, But I'm going to use what do you mean?

1177
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:25,360
Speaker 1: Where are you going to use it? Well?

1178
00:57:25,400 --> 00:57:27,440
Speaker 3: Like I feel like sometimes on here I'll be like

1179
00:57:27,440 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 3: do you know what I mean? And like sometimes that's like.

1180
00:57:30,600 --> 00:57:31,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, or like do you know what this is?

1181
00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:34,120
Speaker 3: Or yeah? When I can just be like this is

1182
00:57:34,160 --> 00:57:35,560
Speaker 3: this thing and if you know what it is.

1183
00:57:35,920 --> 00:57:39,320
Speaker 1: I was like, do you know what raw dogging boredom is?

1184
00:57:39,640 --> 00:57:43,560
Speaker 3: Okay, That's why I did not take offense too like yeah,

1185
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:44,800
Speaker 3: obviously I know what that is.

1186
00:57:45,960 --> 00:57:51,920
Speaker 1: Idiot speaking of things that I've felt like idiot ish about.

1187
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:54,200
Speaker 1: You know when I brought to the other day how

1188
00:57:54,280 --> 00:57:56,320
Speaker 1: I felt lame on the phone when I was saying

1189
00:57:56,400 --> 00:58:00,520
Speaker 1: zero and oh, I am not alone. I am not alone.

1190
00:58:00,560 --> 00:58:03,800
Speaker 1: We got a voicemail from a listener that does the

1191
00:58:03,840 --> 00:58:06,800
Speaker 1: same thing, and she has a reason why. So I

1192
00:58:06,800 --> 00:58:10,320
Speaker 1: don't know really what my reason is. But I do it,

1193
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:12,080
Speaker 1: she does it. We are not alone.

1194
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 3: I feel like I told you that I did it too,

1195
00:58:15,200 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 3: Did I not?

1196
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:16,800
Speaker 1: Did you?

1197
00:58:17,080 --> 00:58:17,920
Speaker 3: I was confused.

1198
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:19,200
Speaker 1: We were very confused.

1199
00:58:20,200 --> 00:58:20,840
Speaker 3: I think I do it.

1200
00:58:21,000 --> 00:58:24,480
Speaker 1: Seemed very confused, like when I was explaining it, well

1201
00:58:24,520 --> 00:58:27,280
Speaker 1: because I probably did a poor job explaining.

1202
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:29,680
Speaker 3: It, to be honest, Well, maybe I hadd poor listening

1203
00:58:29,720 --> 00:58:31,520
Speaker 3: to who knows.

1204
00:58:31,600 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is why we work well together. Yeah, you

1205
00:58:34,200 --> 00:58:35,280
Speaker 1: want to hear the message.

1206
00:58:35,560 --> 00:58:36,160
Speaker 3: I would love to.

1207
00:58:36,480 --> 00:58:41,280
Speaker 5: Okay, hit it, Hi, Kat and Amy, this is Mary.

1208
00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:42,600
Speaker 5: I'm cracking up listening.

1209
00:58:42,640 --> 00:58:47,440
Speaker 1: P'll talk about zero in Oh, I'm from Texas and

1210
00:58:47,480 --> 00:58:49,760
Speaker 1: grew up saying oh, I moved to.

1211
00:58:49,720 --> 00:58:52,760
Speaker 5: California and worked at a law office. No one knew

1212
00:58:52,760 --> 00:58:56,360
Speaker 5: what I was talking about, so I changed it to zero,

1213
00:58:56,960 --> 00:59:00,880
Speaker 5: and so now I say both. Also, I think both

1214
00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:02,280
Speaker 5: is perfect.

1215
00:59:01,960 --> 00:59:05,440
Speaker 3: Because I think except for perfect, there you good.

1216
00:59:05,440 --> 00:59:09,840
Speaker 6: I hope y'all have today you need to have by Well.

1217
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 3: Maybe that's your issue too, because you came from Texas

1218
00:59:13,040 --> 00:59:13,480
Speaker 3: and then.

1219
00:59:13,360 --> 00:59:18,040
Speaker 1: I somewhere got the zero. Yeah, like somewhere I started

1220
00:59:18,120 --> 00:59:19,240
Speaker 1: doing the mixture.

1221
00:59:19,400 --> 00:59:21,400
Speaker 3: But I probably did oh.

1222
00:59:21,160 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 1: Growing up because my phone number going up was two

1223
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:26,240
Speaker 1: A two oh eight for one, and I always said

1224
00:59:26,280 --> 00:59:28,680
Speaker 1: it that way. I never said zero eight for one.

1225
00:59:29,120 --> 00:59:30,480
Speaker 3: You can't say never you don't know.

1226
00:59:30,680 --> 00:59:32,720
Speaker 1: No, I know for a fact. I never said two

1227
00:59:32,800 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 1: eight two zero eight four one one hundred percent, never

1228
00:59:36,080 --> 00:59:39,400
Speaker 1: said that. I can say that with certainty. Why can't

1229
00:59:39,440 --> 00:59:39,920
Speaker 1: I say that.

1230
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:41,479
Speaker 3: I just feel like that's one of those things.

1231
00:59:41,840 --> 00:59:45,480
Speaker 1: No, I know for a fact, cat, but we.

1232
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:47,400
Speaker 3: Also can't check it. So like I guess, you can

1233
00:59:47,480 --> 00:59:48,120
Speaker 3: say that I know.

1234
00:59:48,080 --> 00:59:50,960
Speaker 1: But you have to trust me, like I know for

1235
00:59:51,000 --> 00:59:52,960
Speaker 1: a fact. Never, I never.

1236
00:59:52,800 --> 00:59:56,520
Speaker 3: Would have said, you said you do okay, I'm sorry.

1237
00:59:56,880 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 3: I was just being difficult just to trust. Trust.

1238
01:00:00,040 --> 01:00:04,000
Speaker 1: And if there's anything people take away from today's episode,

1239
01:00:04,160 --> 01:00:08,640
Speaker 1: it's that if you've been wanting to try something anything,

1240
01:00:09,000 --> 01:00:12,880
Speaker 1: whatever it is, whether it's to make a new friend,

1241
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:19,840
Speaker 1: talk to somebody, approach a guy invent something. I mean,

1242
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:21,040
Speaker 1: it could be something.

1243
01:00:20,760 --> 01:00:24,720
Speaker 3: That's try it. Yes, sunny recipe.

1244
01:00:25,320 --> 01:00:27,600
Speaker 1: I'm still a Pilates princess. By the way, what am

1245
01:00:27,600 --> 01:00:28,600
Speaker 1: I three weeks in now?

1246
01:00:29,120 --> 01:00:29,720
Speaker 3: Oh? Wow?

1247
01:00:30,000 --> 01:00:33,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, it's a big deal. I saw a guy

1248
01:00:33,240 --> 01:00:34,160
Speaker 1: get his card.

1249
01:00:34,720 --> 01:00:35,160
Speaker 3: What it is?

1250
01:00:35,160 --> 01:00:37,960
Speaker 1: Did you hear the first Yeah? I heard him say

1251
01:00:38,000 --> 01:00:39,600
Speaker 1: it to his wife. He was not a Pilates princess,

1252
01:00:39,600 --> 01:00:40,920
Speaker 1: and he wasn't a plates prince.

1253
01:00:41,080 --> 01:00:41,600
Speaker 3: What was he?

1254
01:00:42,800 --> 01:00:45,120
Speaker 1: It was really cute. Actually, he was probably in his sixties,

1255
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:46,800
Speaker 1: and I could tell that his wife brought him there,

1256
01:00:47,360 --> 01:00:50,760
Speaker 1: and then afterwards I knew exactly what his feelings. I

1257
01:00:50,760 --> 01:00:54,040
Speaker 1: was like, sir, I've been here. You're about to sign

1258
01:00:54,120 --> 01:00:57,280
Speaker 1: up for a full year membership. Because that's dopamine hits.

1259
01:00:58,240 --> 01:01:01,120
Speaker 1: They know what they're doing. Because he opened his locker

1260
01:01:01,240 --> 01:01:03,000
Speaker 1: and then I saw him look at the card, and

1261
01:01:03,040 --> 01:01:05,440
Speaker 1: then I saw him smile, and then his wife came

1262
01:01:05,520 --> 01:01:07,439
Speaker 1: up behind him and he was like, look at my card.

1263
01:01:07,480 --> 01:01:12,120
Speaker 1: I got five stars, five stars for his first time.

1264
01:01:12,560 --> 01:01:15,440
Speaker 1: That's likely, you know, it's like you did great, five stars.

1265
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:17,600
Speaker 1: And he was so happy, and I mean, I'm telling you,

1266
01:01:17,640 --> 01:01:21,280
Speaker 1: he was again, probably in the sixties, professional businessman, probably

1267
01:01:21,320 --> 01:01:24,480
Speaker 1: belongs to a country club, like was like a child

1268
01:01:24,880 --> 01:01:27,000
Speaker 1: that just got five stars on.

1269
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:29,040
Speaker 3: His Okay, well have you brought Alex?

1270
01:01:30,120 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 1: I haven't, but I should take him and see what

1271
01:01:32,560 --> 01:01:35,320
Speaker 1: kind of CARDI gets. I should take him. He's done

1272
01:01:35,320 --> 01:01:37,640
Speaker 1: plate he's with me once before where he went to

1273
01:01:37,680 --> 01:01:38,400
Speaker 1: Canyon Ranch.

1274
01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:41,560
Speaker 3: I think you should take him and because maybe that

1275
01:01:41,720 --> 01:01:43,160
Speaker 3: can be like a thing you guys do together.

1276
01:01:43,640 --> 01:01:46,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did go with his daughter. I don't know.

1277
01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:48,720
Speaker 3: I don't think Alex is signing up for a membership,

1278
01:01:48,720 --> 01:01:49,920
Speaker 3: but I do think it'd be sweet if he went

1279
01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:52,439
Speaker 3: with you. Yeah, and see what kind of CARDI gets.

1280
01:01:52,720 --> 01:01:54,240
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, what if he doesn't get a card

1281
01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:56,680
Speaker 3: because they're like, oh, he's she's already signed up.

1282
01:01:57,560 --> 01:01:59,400
Speaker 1: Well they want him. No, they're thoughtful.

1283
01:01:59,480 --> 01:02:02,040
Speaker 3: They ok, they're going to get everybody.

1284
01:02:02,120 --> 01:02:04,280
Speaker 1: I say, they're thoughtful of it. Really it's I mean,

1285
01:02:04,320 --> 01:02:08,720
Speaker 1: it's probably a mixture of thoughtfulness and genius marketing. Yeah,

1286
01:02:08,920 --> 01:02:12,440
Speaker 1: I can't tell you. Probably how many people have instantly

1287
01:02:12,480 --> 01:02:13,800
Speaker 1: bought something after they got that car.

1288
01:02:13,920 --> 01:02:17,080
Speaker 3: You can care about people and your business at the

1289
01:02:17,120 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 3: same time.

1290
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:19,320
Speaker 1: Which is how I'm going to be with my pillow,

1291
01:02:19,920 --> 01:02:24,320
Speaker 1: which is not a pillow. I really am going to

1292
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:25,040
Speaker 1: care about.

1293
01:02:24,880 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 3: People before you give too much information. We should wrap

1294
01:02:27,760 --> 01:02:28,040
Speaker 3: this up.

1295
01:02:28,120 --> 01:02:30,440
Speaker 1: Okay. We hope you have the day you need to have.

1296
01:02:30,640 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 3: Bye. Bye,