WEBVTT - I Choose ... MORE with Amy Landecker

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much. Welcome back to I Choose Me.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm back with Amy Landecker getting into some good

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<v Speaker 1>stuff from directing debuts to dating don'ts, and what.

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<v Speaker 2>She's learned about love.

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<v Speaker 1>For Better or For Worse? Amy, we had a fantastic

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<v Speaker 1>conversation about your new movie For Worse, navigating the second X,

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<v Speaker 1>blending the families, the vulnerability of starting over. So I

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<v Speaker 1>thought we could do a little fun word play with

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<v Speaker 1>For Worse. You went back and forth acting and directing

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<v Speaker 1>in For Worse and writing. By the way, what was

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<v Speaker 1>the better and what was the worse? Did you like

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<v Speaker 1>director more or acting more?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah? I know that's a really that's hard because I

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<v Speaker 3>liked them both. I mean, for Better was doing both

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<v Speaker 3>because I felt like, my I'm gonna chance change it

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<v Speaker 3>up on you a little, because my acting was better

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<v Speaker 3>because I was directing, And I think my directing was

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<v Speaker 3>better because I was acting because both part parts of

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<v Speaker 3>my brain were being used at the same time. For

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<v Speaker 3>Worse is always the writing, because it's the hardest part,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, it's it's writing is writing is one of

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<v Speaker 3>those things where like when you're in it it's really fun,

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<v Speaker 3>but getting in it is really painful.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, it's hard.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like the on ramp. It's really long. The on

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<v Speaker 3>ramp is hard.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you you hand those papers to people and

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<v Speaker 1>they read it, or even then they're they are asked

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<v Speaker 1>to act it out, and I'm sure your mind is

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<v Speaker 1>racing with oh my god, what are they thinking?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, And there were some lines I wrote where

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, don't say that. I can't.

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<v Speaker 2>That was so stupid, That's so terrible.

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<v Speaker 3>I wrote that. No, And then you give it to

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<v Speaker 3>people and they give you notes, and there's just nothing

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<v Speaker 3>worse than that. Like it's like, I don't want your notes.

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<v Speaker 1>I hate the notes because you wrote what you wrote,

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<v Speaker 1>and like, how do you incorporate what someone else wants

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<v Speaker 1>you to write?

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<v Speaker 3>If the note is worth taking or not. They're not. Honestly,

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<v Speaker 3>they're very helpful, but it is like, literally one of

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<v Speaker 3>the hardest feelings in the world, because all you want

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<v Speaker 3>is for someone to read it and go, this is

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<v Speaker 3>the best thing I've ever read in my entire life.

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<v Speaker 3>I have no notes. That's not how it goes. So okay.

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<v Speaker 1>You've worked with everyone from the Cohen Brothers to Paul

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<v Speaker 1>Giamatti to Judith Light, Gabby Hoffman, everyone, your husband, Bradley Whitford.

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<v Speaker 1>Who is an actor or director that you would love

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<v Speaker 1>to work with, who would make your work better? Maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you've already worked with them.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, that's really interesting for some reason, Like Jordan Peele

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<v Speaker 3>is coming into my head. Jordan Peele is one of

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<v Speaker 3>those people who like, he had a real passion for horror,

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<v Speaker 3>right so he he his first film was get Out.

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<v Speaker 3>Obviously I had connection to that because Bradley was in it.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought it was like one of the best movies

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<v Speaker 3>I've seen in a long time. It fired for me

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<v Speaker 3>on like all cylinders. Yeah, he was someone that Bradley

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<v Speaker 3>talked a lot about and I sort of took this

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<v Speaker 3>advice from him, and I think why it would be

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<v Speaker 3>fun to work with him as he was. I think

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<v Speaker 3>actors make great directors, first of all. I just think

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<v Speaker 3>they're they make great directors because they really understand how

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<v Speaker 3>an actor wants to be talked to, and a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of directors have no idea that like it's like are

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<v Speaker 3>you kidding me?

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<v Speaker 2>Like so bad?

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<v Speaker 3>Sometimes I mean it's so bad, it's like and actors,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, brobably always makes a joke like directors don't

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<v Speaker 3>don't get to see other people direct, right, but we

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<v Speaker 3>but we get yeah, we get laid. We're getting it

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<v Speaker 3>all the time. But he said, like every actor needs

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<v Speaker 3>it requires a complete like a different thing, Like I

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<v Speaker 3>can't come to Ken Marino with the same thing that

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<v Speaker 3>I come to Gabby Hoffman with because they might like

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<v Speaker 3>work differently, and so I feel like I'd love to

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<v Speaker 3>see how he would tailor to me. And I just

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<v Speaker 3>think there's certain I did a play with David Kromer,

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<v Speaker 3>who's a very well known theater director, and he was

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<v Speaker 3>really hard. I found like it wasn't an easy process.

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<v Speaker 3>But I felt like I would never be bad with him,

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<v Speaker 3>Like he would never he wouldn't allow like it just

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<v Speaker 3>his taste level was so high that like I would

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<v Speaker 3>never suck in that situation. And so I kind of

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<v Speaker 3>liked that too. I just like to feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 3>in really smart, good hands so that my best is

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<v Speaker 3>kind of brought to the surface.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's important.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean, because I can be not I can

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<v Speaker 3>be I mean, yeah bad, but I mean I'm bad

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<v Speaker 3>in some things, like I'm like, oh my god, I

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<v Speaker 3>can't watch that. Wait.

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<v Speaker 2>I have to ask you this question.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, as the writer, director, producer, actress, the person promoting

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<v Speaker 1>this movie, you're the movie when you when you watch

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<v Speaker 1>yourself on screen, when you when you're you know, you

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<v Speaker 1>said you didn't edit this much. But when you're watching

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<v Speaker 1>those dailies, when you see the final cut, what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on in what's the conversation going on in your mind?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I am familiar with the conversations that go on

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<v Speaker 1>in my mind, but I'm curious about you.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I think there's this thing. There's always the

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<v Speaker 3>first reaction, which is very physical. I just did like

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<v Speaker 3>ADR today. I'm in I have a fun little part,

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<v Speaker 3>very juicy little part in Chris Rock's movie called Misty Green,

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<v Speaker 3>that I think is going to come out in the

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<v Speaker 3>fall for A twenty four, and so I had to

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<v Speaker 3>go in and do ADYR. I don't know if you remember.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know when last year was nothing worse than

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<v Speaker 3>seeing yourself before color correction. And the first is always

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<v Speaker 3>the physical. I mean, it's just judgment. I don't like

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<v Speaker 3>the part on ourselves. It's so hard. I don't like this.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like that. I don't like this. In fact,

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<v Speaker 3>when I work in TV or film or whatever. I

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<v Speaker 3>go into the hair and makeup process and I do

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<v Speaker 3>not look in the mirror again. Other actors like to

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<v Speaker 3>sort of check themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>Out or no me either. I really they did their

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<v Speaker 2>exactly good. I'm sure it's good.

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<v Speaker 3>I want to look. I don't want to look. I

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<v Speaker 3>want to turn on like a totally different part of myself.

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<v Speaker 3>But I couldn't do that with this movie. I was

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<v Speaker 3>like going to be seeing myself. I knew a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>There was no way not to look right, so I

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<v Speaker 3>could like not watch stuff I'm in. I can, but

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<v Speaker 3>this was and what was the most like cool part,

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<v Speaker 3>I guess And I've sort of realized this with like

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<v Speaker 3>exposure therapy, like I'll see a picture or something like

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<v Speaker 3>oh not, just like stay with it, you know, and

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<v Speaker 3>stay with it, and then all of a sudden, it's

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<v Speaker 3>like like you can be kinder to yourself or you

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<v Speaker 3>can like it doesn't look as bad, and it's just

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<v Speaker 3>like giving yourself like enough familiarity because sometimes they think

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<v Speaker 3>our image doesn't match how we feel inside. And it's

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<v Speaker 3>like getting familiar with what you actually look like now,

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<v Speaker 3>which is different than you looked like before. And you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I obviously too. Also like I'm a Hollywood person and

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<v Speaker 3>I spend thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars a

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<v Speaker 3>year on my skin and trying to kind of fight

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<v Speaker 3>that battle and optimize it. But like today, my it

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<v Speaker 3>was tough, right. I'm just like and my girlfriend saw

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<v Speaker 3>this movie. They saw an early cut and they're like,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, you look so great in this movie,

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<v Speaker 3>and it's like so anyway, long story, sure, the real

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<v Speaker 3>delight watching the movie is that there was a point

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<v Speaker 3>where I really stopped judging myself, like I stopped having

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<v Speaker 3>any issue and all I was looking at and I

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<v Speaker 3>was and there was a part of me like, are

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<v Speaker 3>you narcissistic that you like this maybe so much? Or

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<v Speaker 3>that you like yourself in the movie? Like I like

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<v Speaker 3>my performance and I and what I see is someone

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<v Speaker 3>who's really enjoying being in the scenes with the people

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<v Speaker 3>that she's with. And that's that's what I'm seeing now,

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<v Speaker 3>And I really see we all had a really wonderful time,

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<v Speaker 3>like a really wonderful time, And that's what I see

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<v Speaker 3>is like that joyous play that was going on.

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<v Speaker 1>I love that you got there because that's what you

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<v Speaker 1>took a few viewings I'm sure. Yeah, I love that

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<v Speaker 1>you got there, because wow, it's just sucks being so

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<v Speaker 1>hard on ourselves.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know, everybody, let everybody else see that.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, but Bradley's like, women are insane, insane, Like

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<v Speaker 3>you guys are so hard on yourself. I'm like, it's unreal,

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<v Speaker 3>Like it's just it's it's never ending, you know, It's

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<v Speaker 3>He's just you know, and he's like, I mean, he's like, look,

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<v Speaker 3>I care about aging and I'm judgmental in myself, but

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like it's it's not used as like a

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<v Speaker 3>cudgel throughout the day, you know, and doesn't like change

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<v Speaker 3>my mental health. I'm like, oh right, women, it's tough, it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and hopefully we can just let it go because well, at.

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<v Speaker 3>The end of the day, looking at yourself and going

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<v Speaker 3>I love you this way I love you. I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>it sounds so cheesy, but it works.

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<v Speaker 1>It really does. SE mean, I say that to people

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. Look in the mirror and tell yourself

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<v Speaker 1>that you love your.

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<v Speaker 3>You're beautiful, you look beautiful. I was doing downward facing

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<v Speaker 3>dog with like nou with shorts on and like my

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<v Speaker 3>thighs are like unrecognizable to me on a downward facing

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<v Speaker 3>dog like it's.

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<v Speaker 2>Just an angle.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's literally, and I just instead of I remember

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<v Speaker 3>going like you should go put pants on, I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>just look, keep looking at it and be nice to

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<v Speaker 3>yourself and like be glad that your legs are working.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they're alive.

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<v Speaker 3>That I can do downward facing tod and it's just

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<v Speaker 3>fucking skin. And Bradley's always joking. He's like, women are like,

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<v Speaker 3>we're like, looks good to me, Like you know, like

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<v Speaker 3>we they're like fine with all of it. And then

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<v Speaker 3>you're like, dude, choose to not believe.

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<v Speaker 2>Him though, like when he says I like it, what

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<v Speaker 2>does it matter? Like my husband's like.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't see what you see. There are some men

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<v Speaker 3>who like but like, I know my husband thinks I've

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<v Speaker 3>got a great body. I know he does, and I

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<v Speaker 3>think I have a hideous body if I'm in a

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<v Speaker 3>certain part of my brain right like I'm like, this

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<v Speaker 3>is wrong. That is wrong, and I mean part of

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<v Speaker 3>what makes me feel better is his But he also

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<v Speaker 3>is a man likes real like like he doesn't. There are,

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<v Speaker 3>in my opinion, men who are really only interested in

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<v Speaker 3>like twenty five year old body Oh yeah, I just

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<v Speaker 3>don't need to be with those men, right, not your guy.

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<v Speaker 3>Not to say it doesn't exist, that there aren't men,

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<v Speaker 3>but I really do feel like in this might be controversial,

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<v Speaker 3>but to say that women and gay men are probably

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<v Speaker 3>the hardest on ourselves than anyone else.

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<v Speaker 1>And I think that's why I have such a love

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<v Speaker 1>for them.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, men, gay men.

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<v Speaker 3>Or kid, we're kindred spirits.

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<v Speaker 2>We get each other. Yep, it's you, okay.

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<v Speaker 3>So like the most straight guys are like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>looks good, looks good enough for you. I don't care,

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<v Speaker 3>Get over there, down and let's have fun.

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, okay, a romantic comedy. The Four Worst is

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<v Speaker 1>a romantic comedy.

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<v Speaker 2>So what has been.

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<v Speaker 1>Like the best and the worst advice about love that

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<v Speaker 1>you've either gotten or have given?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh good question, or what's the best. What's the best

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<v Speaker 4>advice that you would say ever got? The best advice

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<v Speaker 4>I ever got was to put Iris.

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<v Speaker 3>My child, my daughter first in every decision I was

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<v Speaker 3>making about my professional life and my love life, and

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<v Speaker 3>that if I put Iris's interests, it sounds weird because

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<v Speaker 3>it's like, well, I should be put first. But there

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<v Speaker 3>was something about putting my kid when my kid was younger,

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<v Speaker 3>what I would feel would be best for her first

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<v Speaker 3>was guiding me to better relationships and better better decisions

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<v Speaker 3>with work, and it worked really well for me. It

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<v Speaker 3>was like a like a you know, like what do

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<v Speaker 3>you call that, like like the light that guides you whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>It was just like a very healthy way to say,

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<v Speaker 3>would this be good? And honestly, my friends were struggling

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<v Speaker 3>a lot in their relationships, like because the person doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>get along with the kid or they like, it's very hard.

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<v Speaker 3>It's very hard to have any real happiness or peace

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<v Speaker 3>when that's going on. So for me, it was really

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<v Speaker 3>finding a man who could love my kid. And it

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<v Speaker 3>was also not taking a big job, maybe because I

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<v Speaker 3>was gonna I wanted to be present for my kid

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<v Speaker 3>and realizing in retrospect, I'm so glad I didn't put

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<v Speaker 3>like my ambition first, because I don't. I don't. I

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<v Speaker 3>think the idea of our jobs, particularly as actors, like

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<v Speaker 3>it sounds so good, right, It's like, but we know

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<v Speaker 3>when you're really in it. Like my manager said to me,

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<v Speaker 3>your job will never love you back, Like you can

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<v Speaker 3>love your job, but your job is not going to

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<v Speaker 3>love you back. Able to hear well, and it was

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<v Speaker 3>and I was kind of, well, I don't know if

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<v Speaker 3>that's true, because I've had some jobs that I really

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<v Speaker 3>but the more that I thought about, I was like, no,

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<v Speaker 3>people love you back, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Like the people at your job.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe, yes, absolutely, But the trappings of it, yeah, like oh,

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<v Speaker 3>the money or the prestige or whatever I think is

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<v Speaker 3>going to come from that thing is very transient.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it is. You got to let all that go.

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<v Speaker 1>And when you have a kid or kids, it just

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<v Speaker 1>puts it all just like right into perspective.

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<v Speaker 2>And a guy, like.

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<v Speaker 1>When you're an actress or an actor, you're in this industry.

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<v Speaker 2>Like especially an actress.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like there's that part of you have to put

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<v Speaker 1>put enough effort into yourself. You have to pay attention

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<v Speaker 1>to the decisions and think about what your next move

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<v Speaker 1>is and what's right for you. There's a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>like me, me, me, me me.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes in what we do. I had a very prestigious,

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<v Speaker 3>like dream job, and I would be much more well

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<v Speaker 3>known to today if I took it, and luckily I

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<v Speaker 3>didn't take the advice. And it was people that I

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<v Speaker 3>really like, thought very highly of who did always put

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<v Speaker 3>their career first, and that's not a wrong choice for

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<v Speaker 3>a person who wants to put their career first. That's

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<v Speaker 3>i'd like, I'm not saying there's one writer the other, no,

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<v Speaker 3>because it really is personal to you. I just had

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<v Speaker 3>known that I had a child who needed me, and

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<v Speaker 3>I knew if I was number one on a call

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<v Speaker 3>sheet what that meant in terms of hours, and we

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<v Speaker 3>were gonna have to move to another country, and I

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<v Speaker 3>was dating Bradley and I but it wasn't even like, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>because the kid, this is the cool part, right, It's

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<v Speaker 3>like it's not just because of the kid, and it's

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<v Speaker 3>not just because of Bradley. It's like I just know

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<v Speaker 3>that I just knew intuitively that I wasn't that that

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<v Speaker 3>wasn't something I was quite ready for, like in my

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<v Speaker 3>life as a my nervous system, the way I work,

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<v Speaker 3>the way I'm comfortable, and I might have used them

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<v Speaker 3>as like additional reasons, but like it was also very

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<v Speaker 3>true to myself. And it was really hard because when

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<v Speaker 3>the project hit it it was very very popular for

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<v Speaker 3>a while, and I spent some time going did I

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<v Speaker 3>make the wrong decision? And again, coming back to what

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<v Speaker 3>you're talking about earlier, I just whenever I got really quiet,

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<v Speaker 3>I knew I made the right decision. I knew it,

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<v Speaker 3>but it was all the fear around uh, power and prestige,

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<v Speaker 3>right like, and enough time has passed, I always look

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<v Speaker 3>back and I go, oh, thank god. Yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>I have a great relationship with my kid. My kid's

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<v Speaker 3>doing really well. I'm married to the love I mean, like,

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<v Speaker 3>none of that would have happened. No, and that job

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<v Speaker 3>was over now right like so.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think that's such a great insight because we

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<v Speaker 1>often think like we have to make a decision right now,

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<v Speaker 1>like this is opportunities going to pass five pm. I

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<v Speaker 1>need your answer, And sometimes you've got to be like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I need the night. I need some

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<v Speaker 1>time to consider that now.

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<v Speaker 3>First of I'll never make a decision after five pm

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<v Speaker 3>because you're too tired. But also never if you're in

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<v Speaker 3>a rush, stop, Like anytime I'm in a rush, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>usually about to make a bad decision. If I'm like,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in a rush, I have to text this person

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<v Speaker 3>right now or I have to like that is a

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<v Speaker 3>sign that I am not in alignment with myself and

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<v Speaker 3>I need to just slow down. Pause pause, pause, pause.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a huge pause believer.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, I pause all the time, and I think.

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<v Speaker 3>Pause poses people must think, like, what where'd you go?

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<v Speaker 3>It's so smart though, and definitely take twenty four hours.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean for sure, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, for sure, I love talking to you. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you are a really inspirational lady. Let's hang out, let's

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<v Speaker 1>get some tea or something.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I would love that. I am sober as well,

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<v Speaker 3>so we're kidding.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it doesn't happen all So finding the right date a.

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<v Speaker 3>Couple of years now, we didn't even talk about that.

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to say at some point like that

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<v Speaker 3>was probably one of the biggest decisions that I if

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<v Speaker 3>you want to, I didn't say, because I don't talk

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<v Speaker 3>about it, but like that much. It's like, look, if

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<v Speaker 3>you have a substance issue and you're trying to accomplish something,

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<v Speaker 3>take care of that first, because you will you will

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<v Speaker 3>not accomplish it with the joy and free and you

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<v Speaker 3>might accomplish it, but it's not going to feel the

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<v Speaker 3>same way. So that's a big thing that opened up

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<v Speaker 3>pathways for my whole life for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, just the clarity that you're like, I know that

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<v Speaker 1>this is clear, Like it feels there's something so you can't.

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<v Speaker 3>Hear your gut when it's covered with a lot of that.

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<v Speaker 3>If you have an issue with it, it's covering it,

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<v Speaker 3>you know.

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<v Speaker 2>And ya the best thing I did too, one of

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<v Speaker 2>the best things. So we will hang.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just want to make sure everybody knows how

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<v Speaker 1>to find your film, your gorgeous film, just.

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<v Speaker 3>Like Google, or go to Amazon. Really just go to

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<v Speaker 3>Amazon and put in for worse movie, or go to

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<v Speaker 3>Apple TV and search it, search it baby, and you

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<v Speaker 3>can rent it or you can buy it. And you know,

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<v Speaker 3>I would mean a lot to me and to all

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<v Speaker 3>the independent filmmakers out there that are support support.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I enjoyed it, and I'm going to tell everybody about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, thank you, Jenny's Okay, thank you, Amy. I love it. Bye.