WEBVTT - Killing the Hour with Chelsea’s Trainer Ben Bruno 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:02.920 Hi everybody. While I'm taking the month of September off 0:00:02.960 --> 0:00:06.120 of doing stand up, I return on October one to 0:00:06.240 --> 0:00:11.240 complete my Vaccinated and Horny tour. October, November, and December, 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:15.520 I have new dates up. I kick it off in Saratoga, California, 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.720 and I'm coming to all parts of California, Long Beach, 0:00:18.720 --> 0:00:23.840 Baker's Field. I'm going to Niagara Falls, Tucson, Arizona, Colorado, Minneapolis, 0:00:24.520 --> 0:00:28.640 San Diego, Reading, Pennsylvania, and Baltimore, Maryland, just to name 0:00:28.640 --> 0:00:31.280 a few. There's also some Floridian dates in there, since 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:33.040 this will be my last year that I'm able to 0:00:33.080 --> 0:00:36.080 go inside the state of Florida. So check out Chelsea 0:00:36.120 --> 0:00:37.960 Handler dot com for more stand up dates for my 0:00:38.080 --> 0:00:42.600 Vaccinated in Horny Tour. These are my last dates. Okay, 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:46.120 hello Catherine, Hi Chelsea. Oh my god, I am fresh 0:00:46.159 --> 0:00:50.240 as a daisy. I'm so glad. I had a big 0:00:50.240 --> 0:00:53.680 photo shoot this weekend and I had to really nail 0:00:53.720 --> 0:00:55.640 it down, which was not hard at all. I actually 0:00:55.760 --> 0:00:58.760 enjoyed the week of preparation because I had been on 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:03.040 vacation for base only a month and drinking obviously a lot, 0:01:03.160 --> 0:01:07.199 and eating whatever I felt like. Actually, no I'm pretty 0:01:07.240 --> 0:01:10.039 good when I'm my vacation, I don't go off. But anyway, 0:01:10.360 --> 0:01:12.520 I had to get my act together for this photo 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:15.240 shoot that will be coming out soon. I won't say 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:17.040 what it is for yet, but everyone's going to find 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:19.399 out because it'll probably be a pretty big campaign. But 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:22.039 I love having to get ready for something because that's 0:01:22.080 --> 0:01:24.160 the only reason I would just get it. Like I 0:01:24.200 --> 0:01:27.760 came home for a week hunkered down. I'm like, on 0:01:27.880 --> 0:01:31.440 my program, no drinking, no bada. I have been smoking pot, 0:01:31.560 --> 0:01:33.479 but I'm not supposed to be smoking pot at all 0:01:33.600 --> 0:01:37.039 because of my situation with my vocal cords. But I 0:01:37.200 --> 0:01:40.399 decided to give myself a treat and I started a 0:01:40.440 --> 0:01:43.720 new endorsement deal, also a brand partnership deal with a 0:01:43.720 --> 0:01:46.160 company called leisure Town, which is a cannabis drink. So 0:01:46.200 --> 0:01:48.760 you will be getting a full supply of that because 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:50.600 it has the lowest amount of sugar. It only has 0:01:50.600 --> 0:01:54.200 four grams of sugar. It's calories and they're light, so 0:01:54.240 --> 0:01:56.680 you can get CBD or you can get th HC, 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:59.360 and the th HC version only has two point five 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:02.440 milligram of th HC. So yeah, I'm going to bring 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.600 you a kid. I love that. Absolutely, that's so exciting 0:02:05.600 --> 0:02:07.440 to see. I'm somebody who works the deadlines too. Like 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:09.760 if I have something that I know is coming up, 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:11.919 like I can get it done, I can make it happen. 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:14.880 But like I need that sort of motivation that impetus 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:18.120 to like here's what I'm aiming for. Yeah, you know, yeah, 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:20.639 absolutely I need a deadline as well. If they left 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.560 to my own devices, I mean I would just basically 0:02:22.560 --> 0:02:25.519 sit on my ass and it smoked pot with Bert 0:02:25.639 --> 0:02:29.040 and just stare at him until the taco arrived. I 0:02:29.080 --> 0:02:31.320 love it. He likes Spot a little bit more than Bernice. Well, 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:34.960 he's like a pothead, you know. That explains his laziness. 0:02:34.960 --> 0:02:37.200 They're so sweet though, since I haven't been there, they 0:02:37.280 --> 0:02:39.640 love me now and they come in my room at 0:02:39.760 --> 0:02:41.919 night and they're both on the floor and then Bert 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:44.160 looks at me in the morning like when are you 0:02:44.160 --> 0:02:46.280 going to feed me? And I'm like, oh, honey, I 0:02:46.320 --> 0:02:49.120 am going to feed you. Actually, because when I'm home now, 0:02:49.160 --> 0:02:51.480 I take their feeding more seriously because I'm wanting to 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.600 know that I too love them. I'm just not that 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:56.320 interested in sticking around their way, right, and like the 0:02:56.320 --> 0:02:58.840 food comes from you when you're home, not my bell 0:02:58.919 --> 0:03:02.600 and yeah. Well, we have a quick follow up from 0:03:02.639 --> 0:03:06.120 one of our callers. This is from Quinn, who called 0:03:06.120 --> 0:03:08.440 in on our episode with Ashley Graham a few weeks ago. 0:03:09.040 --> 0:03:10.640 She had sort of wanted to know if she should 0:03:10.720 --> 0:03:16.400 lose weight before getting into the dating scene. And she says, Hey, 0:03:16.480 --> 0:03:18.440 Chelsea and Catherine. I know it's only been a short 0:03:18.480 --> 0:03:20.600 time since we last spoke, but I wanted to give 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:23.440 a progress update. I just recently started a new job 0:03:23.480 --> 0:03:27.440 as a campaign manager for my boss's state Assembly reelection campaign. 0:03:27.919 --> 0:03:30.640 Don't worry, He's a Democrat and damn good one at that. 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:33.720 At first, I was really nervous about taking this job, 0:03:34.000 --> 0:03:35.480 as I would be in a new city where I 0:03:35.480 --> 0:03:39.120 wouldn't know anyone. However, per your advice, I've begun journaling 0:03:39.240 --> 0:03:41.640 most nights and have become more conscious of how I've 0:03:41.640 --> 0:03:45.520 been treating myself, both physically and mentally. All of this 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:48.720 has helped me find new avenues of confidence, like being 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:52.720 a motherfucking campaign manager. This new confidence has helped me 0:03:52.760 --> 0:03:54.840 get on the dating apps again in this new city 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:57.920 and begin swiping away. I haven't had a date yet, 0:03:57.960 --> 0:04:00.800 but I'm definitely talking to multiple people right now, and 0:04:00.840 --> 0:04:03.920 it's always fun. I know I will definitely have to 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.080 keep building my confidence and my healthy living journey is 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:09.120 far from over, but I am proud of the progress 0:04:09.120 --> 0:04:12.200 I've made so far. Thanks for your help. Quinn. Oh, 0:04:12.560 --> 0:04:16.839 great job, Quinn, wait to fucking get after it. Good job. 0:04:16.920 --> 0:04:19.159 I love that, I know. And it's like when you 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:21.919 start doing other things, you realize, like man, confidence can 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.320 come from all these different places, like it just doesn't 0:04:24.480 --> 0:04:27.360 have to come from like one avenue in your life. Absolutely, 0:04:27.680 --> 0:04:30.680 confidence can come from your friendships, from your family, from 0:04:30.680 --> 0:04:33.880 your job, from you know, your relationship with yourself, from 0:04:33.920 --> 0:04:37.880 your animals. You're just making contributions. It builds, instills confidence 0:04:37.880 --> 0:04:41.400 and builds it absolutely well. It's actually a fitting follow 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:44.400 up for our guest today. He is going to join 0:04:44.520 --> 0:04:46.280 us here in st Okay. Guys, you're in for a 0:04:46.360 --> 0:04:50.400 real special treat. Okay. I have Ben Bruno, my trainer, 0:04:50.640 --> 0:04:54.560 is our guest today and I have spent every morning 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:57.000 at eight o'clock with him for the last week. So 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.440 the last thing I want to do is spend an 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:01.919 hour with him on this podcast. But guess what he's 0:05:01.960 --> 0:05:07.000 coming right in Yo yo yo, Ben, you put on headphones. 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.520 All right, Ben Bruno's here today everyone. He's my personal 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:14.880 trainer and Catherine, have you ever met Ben before? And 0:05:14.920 --> 0:05:18.160 not in person, just see him on your Instagram. Okay, 0:05:18.160 --> 0:05:20.240 well this must be a thrill for you. Ben. Thank 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.440 you first of all for bringing me coffee. That was 0:05:22.520 --> 0:05:25.920 really nice. I brought her coffee. I just go. Yeah, 0:05:25.960 --> 0:05:29.360 he brought Katherine and me coffee. If it was for you, 0:05:29.400 --> 0:05:31.440 I wouldn't have brought it. Well, you were texting me, 0:05:31.480 --> 0:05:33.240 so it's pretty weird that you don't know that that 0:05:33.320 --> 0:05:35.960 was for me. But furthermore, why did you call me 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:38.600 when I put my order in for the coffee? Oh? 0:05:38.600 --> 0:05:40.400 Because the order I didn't know what it was. It 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:43.120 was called the Starbucks Refresher, which I didn't know what 0:05:43.160 --> 0:05:45.720 that meant. And then when I ordered it no lemonade. 0:05:46.360 --> 0:05:49.600 I was faced with the choice of mango, strawberry or pineapple. 0:05:49.760 --> 0:05:52.719 So I called and nobody picked up. So I just 0:05:52.760 --> 0:05:54.919 went with mango. So whoever that is, you're getting mango, 0:05:55.279 --> 0:05:58.040 I'm really pleased. I've never tried the mango one before, 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.599 So here we are. We just picked what I would want. 0:06:01.640 --> 0:06:03.000 If you didn't like it, I was like, then I 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:08.520 would go with Mango. Thank you, Ben, strong decision making. So, Catherine, 0:06:08.560 --> 0:06:10.840 Ben has been my trainer for how many years been? 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:15.720 What's our too long? Probably seven years, seven or eight years, 0:06:15.920 --> 0:06:18.080 A long time, A long time. I would say it's 0:06:18.120 --> 0:06:21.280 probably common law at this point. Hey annoyed me, extremely 0:06:21.320 --> 0:06:25.000 annoyed me from the very outset of our relationships, and 0:06:25.120 --> 0:06:27.880 I also annoy him a great deal. But we've managed 0:06:27.920 --> 0:06:31.200 to remain in a trainer relationship for a very long time, 0:06:31.400 --> 0:06:34.720 my longest trainer relationship, that's for sure. And so he's 0:06:34.760 --> 0:06:36.159 trained a lot of my friends and a lot of 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:39.560 my family members, and no one who's really as enthusiastic 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:42.440 as I am about working out. I wouldn't I wouldn't 0:06:42.440 --> 0:06:46.200 call it enthusiastic. No, you're not enthusiastic at all. But well, 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:49.480 what it's my motivation? Then I will say, you always 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:52.240 do show up, but you never seem to like it. Well, 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:54.000 I mean, I don't know what kind of excitement you 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:56.440 want to happen during a workout where you come out 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:59.240 of a set and you're like, fuck, that was killed. 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:02.400 I don't. I get it's just working out, But I 0:07:02.440 --> 0:07:05.919 also think I've never actually met trying to think that 0:07:06.000 --> 0:07:08.040 this is true. But I don't think I've met anyone 0:07:08.120 --> 0:07:11.000 that complains more than you do. I don't. That's such bullshit. 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:14.520 That is a total bullshit. No, it's not about working out. 0:07:14.640 --> 0:07:18.200 I complain about or put me on a polygraph. I'm serious. Well, 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:20.480 we don't have a polygraph, Ben, because that's from the 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:24.240 I'm telling the truth. No, they still use polygraph not 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:27.640 admissible in court though. Anyway, Ben, are you what people 0:07:27.640 --> 0:07:30.520 would consider a bro? In some ways? I'm a bro? 0:07:30.720 --> 0:07:33.680 I yeah, I don't like to admit it. But when 0:07:33.720 --> 0:07:35.880 I think of my interests and what I do for 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:37.840 fun and things, for better or worse, I'm just like 0:07:37.880 --> 0:07:40.840 a typical dude. Right, Okay, so you what does that 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:44.160 mean to you? What are your interests? You know, I 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:47.920 like working out, I like watching football. I love golf. 0:07:47.960 --> 0:07:51.080 I love watching golf. All my golf friends understand that 0:07:51.120 --> 0:07:54.120 everyone else thinks that's the dumbest thing ever. I like 0:07:54.240 --> 0:07:56.520 dude stuff. I like, uh, you know, my go to 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:59.200 order is a burger and fries. Yeah, I would say 0:07:59.200 --> 0:08:02.560 I'm pretty average. I actually googled average height for a 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:04.880 dude because I have a lot of friends that play basketball, 0:08:05.480 --> 0:08:07.640 and so when I'm around them. I feel like I'm 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:10.960 just three ft tall, and I'm right on average. I'm 0:08:11.040 --> 0:08:14.080 five nine and three quarters and the average according to 0:08:14.120 --> 0:08:18.320 Google is five nine and like point six. And then 0:08:18.520 --> 0:08:20.400 my shoe size is a nine and a half, which 0:08:20.440 --> 0:08:24.000 is average for a guy. So in just about every way, 0:08:24.040 --> 0:08:26.280 I'm average. Well that's good for you to know. I'm 0:08:26.280 --> 0:08:28.840 glad that there's scientific data behind that to back up 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:34.559 that argument, because yes, nine three quarters, So stop that 0:08:34.559 --> 0:08:39.440 that's ridiculous. Well, no one is saying three quarters. I listen, 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:42.520 I will round up. I'm gonna say five ten. Say 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:44.960 that that's better than saying five nine and three quarters. 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:47.120 Why why do you say five ten minus one quarter? 0:08:47.880 --> 0:08:50.160 See just so the listeners. No, this is the type 0:08:50.160 --> 0:08:53.640 of ship that I deal with every single workout. Chelsea 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:56.680 comes in every day. I'm gonna I'm gonna give the listeners. 0:08:56.679 --> 0:08:58.600 This is actually therapy for me. I'm gonna give the 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:01.559 listeners like taste into what I deal with on a 0:09:01.640 --> 0:09:04.960 daily basis. She comes in, I say, Hi, how are 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:11.200 you feeling? Because that's actually very important because I'm a trainer. 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:13.400 I need to know how your body is feeling. Then 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:15.840 I say how you doing, which to me means like 0:09:16.160 --> 0:09:19.320 you're like mental state, what's been going on? Whatever? Also, 0:09:19.440 --> 0:09:22.440 to backtrack, I see Chelsea every fucking day, So a 0:09:22.440 --> 0:09:25.200 big part of it is just trying to kill the hour. 0:09:25.280 --> 0:09:28.200 I need talking points. Yeah, well that's what you do 0:09:28.280 --> 0:09:32.040 need because the questions you ask are repetitive. When I say, 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:34.600 how is your body feeling? Then how you're doing? She goes, 0:09:34.760 --> 0:09:36.760 you just ask me that, You just ask me because 0:09:36.800 --> 0:09:39.320 you do. You have different things, but you repeat yourself 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:41.679 all the time. You go, you go like this, hold on, 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:44.400 let me talk now, you say, he goes, I come in, 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:48.400 He goes, Hey, how you doing good? How you doing? Yeah? 0:09:49.360 --> 0:09:51.640 Time the third No, well, then come up with some 0:09:51.720 --> 0:09:55.560 new material. There's not new material nothing. You can't just 0:09:55.640 --> 0:09:58.320 keep asking the same question and hoping for a different answer. 0:09:58.360 --> 0:10:01.760 That doesn't make any accumulate talking points if I do 0:10:01.880 --> 0:10:04.360 something on the weekend. But otherwise my day's my life's 0:10:04.360 --> 0:10:07.360 ground Hug day. I trained people, and then I eat 0:10:07.400 --> 0:10:09.680 dinner and I watch a little TV, go to bed 0:10:09.720 --> 0:10:12.000 call today, so there's not much for us to talk 0:10:12.040 --> 0:10:15.400 about from Monday to Tuesday to Wednesday. Also, her life 0:10:15.480 --> 0:10:17.080 is ground Hug day, so she don't have shipped to 0:10:17.080 --> 0:10:20.240 talk about either, So I'm just grasping at straws. And 0:10:20.280 --> 0:10:23.480 then everything I do say she tells me is a 0:10:23.559 --> 0:10:27.800 dumb question. And then also just so that people know 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:31.720 as a trainer, I I actually I find this funny. 0:10:31.840 --> 0:10:35.880 I take pride in being pretty creative. I'll to my 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:38.560 own horn. I I got named the most innovative trainer 0:10:38.640 --> 0:10:42.439 by Men's Health. Meanwhile, every single day two years, Yeah, 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:45.960 and I'm still it is what it is. Meanwhile, in 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:49.719 my field, I'm considered innovative every day that since I've 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:51.800 trained Chelsea, which I don't know how many days that is, 0:10:51.840 --> 0:10:55.079 but it's way too many. She goes Google new Ship. 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:57.560 We did this one before, as if like that's what 0:10:57.640 --> 0:11:01.479 training is. You were just pretty much otate twenty exercises 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:03.640 till one of us gets sick of the other person 0:11:03.679 --> 0:11:07.120 and moves on. But every day it's like Google new ship, 0:11:07.280 --> 0:11:11.120 Google new ship. And then any time I show something different, 0:11:11.280 --> 0:11:14.679 she's like, this is way dumber than the original one. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:17.760 This is like dumb. So that is what I go 0:11:17.880 --> 0:11:22.760 through people, and you love it. You love it. I'm 0:11:22.760 --> 0:11:24.760 glad it seems like you're getting stuff off your chest. 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:30.559 So Katherine Ben is a very straight bro. How I 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.320 would classify him in my group of people that I know, 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:36.960 and he goes to therapy. He has a therapist that 0:11:37.000 --> 0:11:39.800 he's been seeing for a few years now, right, six 0:11:39.880 --> 0:11:45.440 or seven? Oh yeah, six or seven years. And let's 0:11:45.480 --> 0:11:47.720 talk about I would like to hear about your therapy 0:11:47.760 --> 0:11:51.480 experience as a male, as a bro, because a lot 0:11:51.520 --> 0:11:54.719 of men can't go to therapy and they don't want 0:11:54.760 --> 0:11:58.439 to even talk about what's really happening because they're scared 0:11:59.040 --> 0:12:02.480 and they don't think it's a necessary So what's been 0:12:02.520 --> 0:12:05.920 your experience? Well, I'll tell you how it started. I 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:08.640 tried therapy at two different points in my life before 0:12:08.679 --> 0:12:11.959 this little six month run. Once six year ru six 0:12:12.040 --> 0:12:15.640 year run. Sorry. Once when I was ten years old, 0:12:15.880 --> 0:12:18.040 I got put in therapy, but I don't think it 0:12:18.080 --> 0:12:20.360 was therapy. I think it was um, I don't know 0:12:20.400 --> 0:12:23.640 all the differences, but this guy was a psychiatrist. To 0:12:23.800 --> 0:12:26.480 backtrack real quick, my my dad passed away when I 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:30.520 was nine, and that's obviously there's a lot of ship 0:12:30.679 --> 0:12:33.000 that comes with that. So my mom put me in 0:12:33.160 --> 0:12:35.920 therapy with the guy that my dad had actually seen, 0:12:36.120 --> 0:12:40.040 and that was definitely different than the therapy, I do now, 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.360 because that was like I would say to him that 0:12:42.360 --> 0:12:44.520 that was a failed attempt. I guess because he would 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:47.839 say he was a medicine guy, and I think maybe 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:52.120 some people benefit from medicine, but I think sometimes feelings 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:55.560 of depression and stuff can be situational. Sometimes it's probably chemical, 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:59.839 sometimes it's situational. And I just remember at ten, the 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:01.960 guy would say to me, how do you feel about 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:04.160 your dad dying? And I'd say, I'm sad, and I'm like, dude, 0:13:04.160 --> 0:13:07.080 who wouldn't be sid And then I went again when 0:13:07.120 --> 0:13:11.400 I was probably nineteen or twenty. At another low point 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:13.319 in my life. I had a back surgery when I 0:13:13.400 --> 0:13:17.760 was nineteen in college, and the surgery did nerve damage 0:13:17.760 --> 0:13:21.400 in my right leg, and in hindsight, it was a 0:13:21.400 --> 0:13:24.880 great thing for me because it got me into physical 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:26.840 fitness and now I'm a trainer because of it. But 0:13:26.880 --> 0:13:28.920 at the time it was a real low point because 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:32.120 I had always been very physically active and into sports. 0:13:33.000 --> 0:13:36.800 And after the surgery, I lost about forty pounds and 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:38.520 I'm I was this big to begin with, so I 0:13:38.559 --> 0:13:40.439 didn't even have that to lose. I was super skinny 0:13:40.440 --> 0:13:43.440 week and just really depressed because my right leg like 0:13:43.520 --> 0:13:45.880 basically shut down. I couldn't drive or anything like that. 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:49.200 And so I was super depressed and tried therapy again, 0:13:50.240 --> 0:13:52.480 but I wasn't really open to it at the time. 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:55.520 Long story short, Now this is my third foray into it, 0:13:56.000 --> 0:14:01.640 and this time started about six years ago. I woke 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.520 up one day and thought I just drank too much 0:14:04.520 --> 0:14:07.760 coffee on an empty stomach and just felt wired and 0:14:08.000 --> 0:14:10.520 just got something to eat, kind of went about my day. 0:14:11.120 --> 0:14:14.840 Second day this happened, I felt this crazy fast heartbeat 0:14:15.000 --> 0:14:17.719 the middle of Los Angeles, which is hot, and I 0:14:17.760 --> 0:14:21.480 was freezing cold and felt like I couldn't take in air. 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.280 It was this really weird feeling. I couldn't breathe. So 0:14:24.480 --> 0:14:26.640 I was training a guy I still trained him now, 0:14:26.840 --> 0:14:28.760 and he was like, dude, you gotta go to the doctor. 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:31.240 So I went to the doctor. They did this whole 0:14:31.240 --> 0:14:34.880 work up on me E k G. The treadmill test, 0:14:35.120 --> 0:14:37.200 and then the guy told me I had a panic attack, 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:40.080 and I was like, what the fuck. I think most 0:14:40.120 --> 0:14:42.760 of my friends people in my life would describe me 0:14:42.800 --> 0:14:45.680 as pretty chill. This is like, right now, this is 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:47.920 as animated as I ever get. I'm a pretty even 0:14:48.000 --> 0:14:51.840 keel person, and so the panic attack thing felt weird 0:14:51.880 --> 0:14:54.040 to me because I usually felt like I was never 0:14:54.080 --> 0:14:57.840 two up or down, and that really threw me for 0:14:57.880 --> 0:14:59.640 a loop because I was like, wait, am I like 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:03.160 cra easy? Like what is this thing? The panic attack 0:15:03.280 --> 0:15:05.480 was made worse by all those feelings that I think 0:15:05.600 --> 0:15:08.840 people dudes might have when they think of, like I've 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:10.880 had a panic attack, because it seems weird. And I 0:15:11.240 --> 0:15:13.360 took myself down this whole rabbit hole over that. This 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:15.880 is over the course of three or four days, where 0:15:15.880 --> 0:15:17.880 I was like, I can't believe I had a panic attack, 0:15:17.960 --> 0:15:20.440 Like am I like this anxiety kind of person? Now? 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.640 I just felt very weird about it, and so someone 0:15:23.760 --> 0:15:28.240 suggested therapy, and then the first person that was recommended 0:15:28.280 --> 0:15:32.640 to me. Her advice was to carry around a brown 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:34.840 paper bag in case you get anxiety and then you 0:15:34.840 --> 0:15:37.280 can breathe into it. And I'm like, yeah, no, I'm 0:15:37.320 --> 0:15:40.520 not doing that. So then I was talking to one 0:15:40.520 --> 0:15:44.360 of my family friends from home because I had remembered 0:15:44.440 --> 0:15:47.240 his son got anxiety, and to be truthful, I didn't 0:15:47.240 --> 0:15:50.760 even really know what anxiety was prior to that, and 0:15:51.120 --> 0:15:53.200 he told me that there's this woman in l A 0:15:53.400 --> 0:15:56.080 that it was a great therapist, and I looked her 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:57.920 up and she happened to be very close to my house. 0:15:58.000 --> 0:16:01.680 So I've seen her ever since that panic attack, And 0:16:01.880 --> 0:16:06.440 originally my first appointment was just to figure out why 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:07.920 I had a panic attack, and then I've just been 0:16:07.960 --> 0:16:10.040 going ever since. In some ways, I think of it 0:16:10.080 --> 0:16:12.040 like a paid friend, but a friend that just gives 0:16:12.080 --> 0:16:14.640 like way better advice than my real friends. Because the 0:16:14.640 --> 0:16:16.760 thing about dudes, dudes don't want to go to therapy, 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:20.040 But I bet guys we probably need it more than 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:23.120 women because guys just in general give shitty advice. So 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:26.320 if you ever talk to your friends about your problems, 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:29.880 you're not getting good advice. They're probably gonna direct you 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.960 in a way that will like lead to more problems. 0:16:32.320 --> 0:16:35.000 So I think it's good to just have a professional opinion. 0:16:35.680 --> 0:16:38.760 And then also too, I do spend a lot of 0:16:38.800 --> 0:16:41.800 time as a trainer. I take on a lot of 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:44.120 other people's problems over the course of the day. They 0:16:44.160 --> 0:16:46.200 tell me all their stuff, but I don't really get 0:16:46.240 --> 0:16:49.160 too into my stuff. And I realized that it's just 0:16:49.240 --> 0:16:53.880 good for me to have you have this outlet to 0:16:53.880 --> 0:16:57.240 get everything off your Yeah, I haven't spoken in like 0:16:57.280 --> 0:17:00.800 eight minutes, so I mean, let it rap. I'm just talking. Honestly. 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:03.040 I had to deal with Chelsea for an hour already today, 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:04.640 so I can't hear her talk anymore. I'm just gonna 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:08.000 keep talking. But I think for me, it's just I 0:17:08.040 --> 0:17:10.119 go once a week or once every other week, and 0:17:11.000 --> 0:17:14.040 I get a good sounding board, and I think sometimes 0:17:15.080 --> 0:17:17.480 even if there's actually a lot of times I will 0:17:17.520 --> 0:17:20.760 say I've told her straight up that I'm not really 0:17:20.800 --> 0:17:23.760 good at the therapy process. Sometimes she'll ask me. I'll 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:26.080 be telling her something and she'll ask me, like, how 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:28.040 does that make you feel? And I'm like, I don't know, 0:17:28.119 --> 0:17:29.919 Like I'm still trying to figure out my emotions. But 0:17:29.960 --> 0:17:33.560 I think talking through things sometimes I solve my own problems. 0:17:33.560 --> 0:17:36.399 But it's also just good to have someone to talk to. 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:42.880 And it's made me probably better than maybe it has. 0:17:42.960 --> 0:17:44.640 I don't know. Your body is pretty good. At least 0:17:44.960 --> 0:17:47.880 I've yet to google any exercises for her personality. We're 0:17:47.880 --> 0:17:50.639 working on that, but I do think it helps me. 0:17:50.760 --> 0:17:53.080 I noticed. I think it's helped me a lot in 0:17:53.400 --> 0:17:55.359 now I have a living girlfriend. It's helped me with 0:17:55.400 --> 0:17:57.800 that type of stuff and she likes it. I go 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:00.840 to therapy, so do dude should go? Just it's probably 0:18:00.840 --> 0:18:02.560 a better way to get girls too. I think girls 0:18:02.560 --> 0:18:07.639 actually now it's like now it's cool. Now it's cool. 0:18:07.760 --> 0:18:11.239 So the other part to this is I remember when 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:13.600 I first went to therapy. There was like sort of 0:18:13.640 --> 0:18:17.000 a shame when I had the panic attack where I 0:18:17.040 --> 0:18:19.280 felt like I was copying to guilt to a couple 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:23.040 of my buddies and across the board all my guy friends. 0:18:23.080 --> 0:18:25.480 But one was like, oh, yeah, dude, I go to 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:27.280 And I was like, what the funk? I've known you 0:18:27.320 --> 0:18:29.000 forever and I don't even know this. Guys just don't 0:18:29.040 --> 0:18:30.680 really talk about it. But I think it's more common 0:18:30.720 --> 0:18:32.840 than they think. Do Have you had a panic attack 0:18:32.880 --> 0:18:35.920 since you went to therapy? You know? I don't think 0:18:36.160 --> 0:18:39.200 to that level, but yes I have. But it's it's 0:18:39.240 --> 0:18:42.640 actually way better now knowing what it is, because I've 0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:45.959 had times stress, you know, and who I don't know 0:18:46.040 --> 0:18:49.760 the continuum of panic attack for stress first whatever, but 0:18:49.800 --> 0:18:55.200 I've definitely had times where I'll be feeling nervous about 0:18:55.280 --> 0:18:58.560 something or uncomfortable or just unhappy, and then my heart 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:01.000 rate just gets jacked. It's like I can feel it 0:19:01.119 --> 0:19:04.720 throughout my whole body, or I'll just start sweating or 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:09.840 things like that. And so I've learned now it's less 0:19:09.880 --> 0:19:12.240 of a panic attack, because i think part of the 0:19:12.240 --> 0:19:15.280 panic part comes, at least for me, from not knowing 0:19:15.280 --> 0:19:16.760 what it was. But when you know what it is, 0:19:17.000 --> 0:19:21.840 and I've learned breathing techniques and I've learned how powerful 0:19:21.920 --> 0:19:26.200 breath can be to back that stuff down. The breathing 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:29.080 thing is crazy in the sense that I can go 0:19:30.080 --> 0:19:35.240 from feeling jacked up to like a zen like stoned, 0:19:35.520 --> 0:19:39.760 in like a minute, just through breath. What breathing exercises 0:19:39.760 --> 0:19:43.560 do you do? Uh? Well, they're all cousins of each other. 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:46.200 I think I've learned different ones, but one is called 0:19:46.560 --> 0:19:49.280 It's just a breathing ladder that I learned, and that 0:19:49.440 --> 0:19:52.840 is essentially the exhales twice as long as the inhale. 0:19:52.920 --> 0:19:56.800 So you breathe in for one second, out for two, 0:19:57.000 --> 0:20:01.280 in for two out for four, three, six, four, eight, 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:03.560 five ten, then you do five ten twice and then 0:20:03.600 --> 0:20:06.800 go back down four eight, three, six, etcetera. And by 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:11.639 the end, etcetera. And then by the end you know 0:20:11.760 --> 0:20:14.440 you you either are cool, or you do it once through. 0:20:14.880 --> 0:20:18.439 Another thing that I just learned actually from therapy is 0:20:18.520 --> 0:20:21.440 called square breathing, and I believe in and it started 0:20:21.440 --> 0:20:24.240 with the Navy seals. I could be wrong about that, 0:20:24.280 --> 0:20:27.000 but I think that's what she said, and that's essentially 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:30.800 think of a square. So the you inhale for four, 0:20:31.080 --> 0:20:34.920