1 00:00:01,639 --> 00:00:04,320 Speaker 1: There's a lot of talk about mindfulness these days, which 2 00:00:04,360 --> 00:00:06,680 Speaker 1: is fantastic. I mean, we all want to be more 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:11,240 Speaker 1: present and self aware, more patient, less judgmental. We discuss 4 00:00:11,320 --> 00:00:13,760 Speaker 1: all these themes on the podcast, but it's hard to 5 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:17,119 Speaker 1: actually be mindful in your day to day life. That's 6 00:00:17,120 --> 00:00:19,919 Speaker 1: where Calm comes in. I've been working with Calm for 7 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,640 Speaker 1: a few years now with the goal of making mindfulness 8 00:00:22,680 --> 00:00:25,479 Speaker 1: fun and easy. 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When you travel alone, 22 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:19,759 Speaker 1: you give yourself the opportunity, you give yourself the space, 23 00:01:20,560 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: You give yourself the time to recognize what's important to you, 24 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: what's meaningful to you, what's valuable to you, what's real 25 00:01:30,040 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 1: to you. The number one health and wellness podcast. 26 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:38,120 Speaker 2: Say set Jay Sety lyous. 27 00:01:39,400 --> 00:01:42,679 Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, welcome back to on Purpose, the place you 28 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:46,319 Speaker 1: come to listen, learn and grow. I'm so grateful that 29 00:01:46,400 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: you're back here with me. And today's episode is all 30 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,800 Speaker 1: about why you need to take a solo trip at 31 00:01:53,880 --> 00:01:57,640 Speaker 1: least once in your life now before you turn away 32 00:01:57,680 --> 00:02:00,680 Speaker 1: because you're too scared. Before you're like, hey, I don't 33 00:02:00,720 --> 00:02:03,160 Speaker 1: want this, I don't want to go there. Hear me out. 34 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:06,240 Speaker 1: I'm sure you've heard about your friends doing it, maybe 35 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:08,919 Speaker 1: a family member do it. Maybe your kids said to 36 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: you that they want to do it. Solo trips are 37 00:02:11,320 --> 00:02:14,880 Speaker 1: becoming more and more normalized, they're becoming more and more prevalent, 38 00:02:15,360 --> 00:02:18,359 Speaker 1: They're more and more in demand, so much so that 39 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: Forbes actually made a list of the ten most popular 40 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: solo travel destinations for twenty twenty four, and the report 41 00:02:26,919 --> 00:02:33,320 Speaker 1: went on to mention everything from Japan, Argentina, Colombia, Sri Lanka, Ecuador, 42 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 1: You've got Jordan on that list, Thailand, Philippines, Bali, and 43 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:42,960 Speaker 1: maybe one more as well. But what's incredible about that 44 00:02:43,080 --> 00:02:48,240 Speaker 1: list is that it's showing that there's this new found 45 00:02:48,960 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: interest in traveling alone. And I know what some of 46 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,720 Speaker 1: your thinking, Jay, Traveling is always better when you're with 47 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:57,000 Speaker 1: other people. Traveling is always more fun when you're with 48 00:02:57,080 --> 00:03:00,160 Speaker 1: family or friends or whatever it might be. But hey, 49 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: I think that we're all feeling like we don't always 50 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:07,280 Speaker 1: have enough time. A lot of us are feeling we 51 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:10,400 Speaker 1: don't have enough time alone. A lot of us can't 52 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 1: get schedules to match. Or maybe you've just gone through 53 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:17,160 Speaker 1: a breakup recently, Maybe you've gone through a life event, 54 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:20,560 Speaker 1: whether you're taking a sabbatical. Maybe you've been working for 55 00:03:20,600 --> 00:03:22,480 Speaker 1: too long, or you want to get this in just 56 00:03:22,600 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: before you start working, and you're the only one of 57 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 1: your friends who actually has that time and energy and 58 00:03:28,240 --> 00:03:32,520 Speaker 1: intention to want to do it. Maybe you're curious to 59 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:35,120 Speaker 1: what it might be like. Well, today I want to 60 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: give you some of the reasons, maybe to reaffirm your curiosity, 61 00:03:39,480 --> 00:03:42,520 Speaker 1: or if you've never considered it at all, to maybe 62 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: think about why it can be really powerful for you 63 00:03:45,920 --> 00:03:49,320 Speaker 1: and useful for you as well, And so I'm really 64 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 1: excited that you're here with me and that you're taking 65 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:55,240 Speaker 1: a chance on this, because I do believe that travel 66 00:03:55,680 --> 00:04:00,120 Speaker 1: is one of the greatest gifts that we've ever been given, 67 00:04:00,440 --> 00:04:03,120 Speaker 1: and the fact that today it's become simpler and easier 68 00:04:03,160 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: than ever before is truly an amazing blessing that we 69 00:04:07,840 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 1: all have in our lives. And I wanted to share 70 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:17,200 Speaker 1: one of my favorite quotes about travel that inspires this 71 00:04:18,120 --> 00:04:22,560 Speaker 1: desire that we all have, and it's this one. It 72 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 1: comes from Lisa Ling, where she said the best education 73 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:30,800 Speaker 1: I've ever received was through travel. I love that quote 74 00:04:30,839 --> 00:04:33,839 Speaker 1: because I realized that there are so many ways to 75 00:04:33,920 --> 00:04:37,680 Speaker 1: learn today, so many ways to grow, but travel definitely 76 00:04:38,279 --> 00:04:40,720 Speaker 1: is one of the most special ways. So let's dive 77 00:04:40,760 --> 00:04:43,960 Speaker 1: in to the reasons I think you should take a 78 00:04:44,000 --> 00:04:47,640 Speaker 1: solo trip, some of my experiences and also some of 79 00:04:47,640 --> 00:04:50,800 Speaker 1: the best lessons I've learned along the way. Now, today 80 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,479 Speaker 1: there's a lot of talk about self awareness. There's the 81 00:04:53,600 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 1: need to understand who you are, and I think solo 82 00:04:57,640 --> 00:05:02,680 Speaker 1: travel is by far the number one way to learn 83 00:05:02,839 --> 00:05:08,160 Speaker 1: about yourself. You get to know yourself the quickest, fastest, 84 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: most accelerated way when you choose to travel alone. Now, 85 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:16,400 Speaker 1: when you're traveling with others, you might be used to 86 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,720 Speaker 1: doing what everyone else does, or going along with what 87 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:23,599 Speaker 1: everyone else chooses. Someone else chooses the dinner spot, someone 88 00:05:23,600 --> 00:05:28,760 Speaker 1: else chooses the bar, someone else chooses today's adventure, today's activity, 89 00:05:29,200 --> 00:05:31,960 Speaker 1: and you might have, for a long time gone along 90 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:35,039 Speaker 1: with what's known as the bandwagon effect, or as we 91 00:05:35,120 --> 00:05:38,719 Speaker 1: call it, herd mentality, the idea that if enough people 92 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:40,919 Speaker 1: want to do it on the trip, you're happy to 93 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,480 Speaker 1: go along. Now, there's nothing wrong with that. You can 94 00:05:43,520 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: have some beautiful experiences because of it, and I've definitely 95 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:50,159 Speaker 1: had some of those. But I've also realized that it's 96 00:05:50,240 --> 00:05:52,960 Speaker 1: so rare for us to know what we actually want 97 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: to do, and one of the reasons we're indecisive, one 98 00:05:56,279 --> 00:05:59,479 Speaker 1: of the reasons why we struggle to make choices is 99 00:05:59,520 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: because of and we've just avoided it for a long 100 00:06:02,520 --> 00:06:05,919 Speaker 1: period of our life. Maybe we've never been asked, Maybe 101 00:06:05,920 --> 00:06:08,479 Speaker 1: when we were asked, we just deferred to someone else, 102 00:06:08,960 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 1: and maybe it's been so long that we've actually disconnected 103 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 1: from who we are, what we want, and what's meaningful 104 00:06:17,080 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: to us. I mean, think about it for a second. 105 00:06:19,200 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: If someone said to you you could do anything you 106 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:24,720 Speaker 1: wanted on vacation. You could go anywhere you wanted. What 107 00:06:24,760 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: would you choose? Would you choose a city break or 108 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: are you sure you'd want a beach now? Would you 109 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,560 Speaker 1: want an active day at the beach or would you 110 00:06:33,600 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: want a sightseeing there at the city or are you 111 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: actually looking for a city break with a bit of 112 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:42,440 Speaker 1: history and art, or actually are you looking for food 113 00:06:42,520 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 1: and tourism. I think as we get older we get 114 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:47,479 Speaker 1: a sense of this, but when you're on your own, 115 00:06:47,560 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: you get really close and connected to what it is 116 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,360 Speaker 1: that stands out to you. I know that when I've 117 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:57,360 Speaker 1: traveled on my own, it's given me a sense of 118 00:06:57,720 --> 00:07:00,960 Speaker 1: how for so many years I might even have thought 119 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:04,200 Speaker 1: I liked what other people liked. I actually had this 120 00:07:04,240 --> 00:07:07,960 Speaker 1: experience recently where me and a friend who were traveling 121 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:13,080 Speaker 1: somewhere actually and their friend had already been to that place. 122 00:07:13,760 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: Their friend was on the call with my friend and 123 00:07:16,720 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: they were talking to each other, and the other friend 124 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: was saying, I can't believe you're not doing anything. I 125 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:23,840 Speaker 1: can't believe you're not going to see any of the sites. 126 00:07:23,880 --> 00:07:26,560 Speaker 1: I can't believe that you haven't rented a car. I 127 00:07:26,600 --> 00:07:29,040 Speaker 1: can't believe that you're not going to go to this 128 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:32,520 Speaker 1: landmark or whatever else it may be. And I could 129 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 1: see that it was really getting under my friend's skin. 130 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: And my friend even mentioned to me like, Jay, are 131 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 1: we not going to rent a car? We're not going 132 00:07:41,320 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 1: to do this? Are we not going to do that? 133 00:07:43,240 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 1: And I could tell that they felt kind of uncomfortable 134 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: and insecure. Now at this time, I didn't know where 135 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: that was coming from. So I asked them where is 136 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:52,240 Speaker 1: this coming from? And they said, oh, no, nothing, And 137 00:07:52,280 --> 00:07:54,880 Speaker 1: I said, no, no, like it feels like it's important to you. 138 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:56,720 Speaker 1: I'd love to know. And they were like, oh, well, 139 00:07:56,760 --> 00:07:58,440 Speaker 1: I was talking to a friend who was here a 140 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,440 Speaker 1: couple of months back, and they made made me feel 141 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,120 Speaker 1: like I was missing out. And I said, well, let's 142 00:08:03,120 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 1: take a look at what they recommended. And so there 143 00:08:05,560 --> 00:08:08,320 Speaker 1: were a couple of sites and we mapped it from 144 00:08:08,360 --> 00:08:10,680 Speaker 1: where we were staying and it was about one and 145 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: a half our car journey either way. And so I 146 00:08:13,920 --> 00:08:15,880 Speaker 1: said to my friend, I said, is that what you 147 00:08:15,920 --> 00:08:18,120 Speaker 1: want to do? Do you want to take a one 148 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:20,240 Speaker 1: and a half hour journey either way to see the site, 149 00:08:20,240 --> 00:08:22,160 Speaker 1: because we can definitely rent a car and do that 150 00:08:22,480 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: if that's important to you. But I want to know 151 00:08:24,680 --> 00:08:27,520 Speaker 1: if it's important to you. And I saw this look 152 00:08:27,560 --> 00:08:31,360 Speaker 1: at my friend's face where they were reflecting, and then 153 00:08:31,360 --> 00:08:32,719 Speaker 1: they said to me, they said, Jay, actually I don't 154 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:34,600 Speaker 1: want to do that. We're in paradise. Why are we 155 00:08:34,600 --> 00:08:37,800 Speaker 1: going to spend three hours in a car. And it 156 00:08:37,880 --> 00:08:41,680 Speaker 1: was really interesting to me where just a few moments ago, 157 00:08:42,559 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: that fear of missing out, that insecurity of I'm not 158 00:08:45,880 --> 00:08:48,920 Speaker 1: doing enough, that feeling of oh my gosh, they had 159 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:52,720 Speaker 1: all these amazing experiences. Am I wasting time? Did I 160 00:08:52,760 --> 00:08:55,360 Speaker 1: get it wrong? Am I going to leave here feeling 161 00:08:55,440 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 1: like I didn't make the most of it? We're creeping 162 00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 1: in and so much of that happens. So much of 163 00:09:01,320 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 1: that occurs because we haven't got to know ourself. We're 164 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:08,280 Speaker 1: not really clear on what's important to us, and so 165 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:12,000 Speaker 1: when someone else tells us what's important to them, we 166 00:09:12,280 --> 00:09:19,800 Speaker 1: import what's important to others into our own likes and dislikes. Right, 167 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:25,200 Speaker 1: We literally extract and adopt what they find valuable to 168 00:09:25,280 --> 00:09:29,000 Speaker 1: be valuable to us. When you travel alone, you give 169 00:09:29,040 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: yourself the opportunity you give yourself, the space, you give 170 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:40,000 Speaker 1: yourself the time to recognize what's important to you, what's 171 00:09:40,200 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: meaningful to you, what's valuable to you, what's real to you. 172 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:48,079 Speaker 1: And that's one of the reasons why I love working 173 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 1: with the Booking dot Com because they have this filter 174 00:09:52,720 --> 00:09:56,200 Speaker 1: where it's easy to narrow down your search to find 175 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,640 Speaker 1: the perfect match for your preferences. And what's really amazing 176 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:02,040 Speaker 1: is that they we have this new AI powered trip 177 00:10:02,080 --> 00:10:06,840 Speaker 1: Planner which offers personalized recommendations to help you get exactly 178 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: what you need, and that might even be a great 179 00:10:08,960 --> 00:10:12,160 Speaker 1: way for you to discover what you might want. And 180 00:10:12,200 --> 00:10:14,520 Speaker 1: when you're doing this, here's a tip that I'd love 181 00:10:14,559 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: for you to practice. And it may feel weird at first, 182 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 1: but give it a go. When you're thinking about what 183 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:21,880 Speaker 1: you want, don't try and make a choice. Just sit 184 00:10:21,920 --> 00:10:25,760 Speaker 1: with it for a second and see how both experiences 185 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:29,319 Speaker 1: feel in your body at this time. So let's say 186 00:10:29,320 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 1: you're trying to choose between a city break or a 187 00:10:31,960 --> 00:10:35,240 Speaker 1: beach break. Just sit with that for a second and 188 00:10:35,360 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: see how thinking about a city break feels in your body, 189 00:10:39,960 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: and see how thinking about a beach break feels in 190 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:46,400 Speaker 1: your body. What I love about this approach is that 191 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:50,120 Speaker 1: not only are you becoming more self aware, you're actually 192 00:10:50,160 --> 00:10:53,400 Speaker 1: gaining the ability to tune in to what you need. 193 00:10:54,320 --> 00:10:56,240 Speaker 1: And what I'm trying to say here is that we 194 00:10:56,360 --> 00:11:00,000 Speaker 1: often kind of label ourselves as beach people's city peace 195 00:11:00,160 --> 00:11:02,520 Speaker 1: or country people, whatever else it may be. And the 196 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: truth is your body and mind may need something different 197 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:09,160 Speaker 1: right now. This is a great checking system. I'd love 198 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:12,560 Speaker 1: for you to try it out. Number two, This is 199 00:11:12,600 --> 00:11:15,120 Speaker 1: probably one of the favorite things I've learned about traveling alone. 200 00:11:15,160 --> 00:11:18,679 Speaker 1: I travel alone fairly often, both for work and for pleasure, 201 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: and I found that it deeply grows your confidence. You 202 00:11:24,520 --> 00:11:27,080 Speaker 1: know what it feels like to be in a random 203 00:11:27,160 --> 00:11:30,920 Speaker 1: airport which you've never been to, probably one of the smallest, 204 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:32,920 Speaker 1: maybe one of the biggest airports you've ever been to, 205 00:11:33,480 --> 00:11:37,280 Speaker 1: and navigate it. I remember years ago i'd gone to 206 00:11:37,760 --> 00:11:42,080 Speaker 1: a retreat in Europe, a meditation retreat, and I was 207 00:11:42,080 --> 00:11:43,960 Speaker 1: on my way back, and I was coming back before 208 00:11:44,000 --> 00:11:47,680 Speaker 1: everyone else because I had to get to a different commitment, 209 00:11:47,720 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: whatever it may have been at the time. And I 210 00:11:50,320 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 1: remember that I got late to the airport, I missed 211 00:11:53,520 --> 00:11:56,640 Speaker 1: my flight, and at the time I didn't have a 212 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,040 Speaker 1: lot of money, so I didn't really have enough money 213 00:11:59,040 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 1: to book the next flo I remember waiting at the 214 00:12:02,480 --> 00:12:06,560 Speaker 1: airport for nearly might have been like twelve to eighteen 215 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 1: hours overnight in an airport that I didn't feel fully 216 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:12,920 Speaker 1: comfortable in and didn't know anyone in and didn't know 217 00:12:12,920 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: how to get by. I didn't have enough money to 218 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:17,079 Speaker 1: book my next flight, and I got very, very lucky 219 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:19,480 Speaker 1: that I got to come home because the airliner was 220 00:12:19,559 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 1: very kind and it really built my confidence. Now, first 221 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: of all, it taught me never to come late to 222 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:26,760 Speaker 1: an airport ever again. So now I'm that person who 223 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:29,320 Speaker 1: turns up to every flight three hours early, and it 224 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: drives my wife crazy because she wants to have that 225 00:12:33,280 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: adrenaline feeling of running onto the plane. Whoever you are, 226 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:38,439 Speaker 1: you're all weirdos, right, like people who want to run 227 00:12:38,480 --> 00:12:40,080 Speaker 1: onto the plane. I never want to be late again. 228 00:12:40,160 --> 00:12:43,079 Speaker 1: I know what it feels like to sleep there without 229 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:45,200 Speaker 1: knowing what's going to happen and figuring it out. I 230 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: don't want to be in that position again. And I 231 00:12:48,080 --> 00:12:52,679 Speaker 1: find that traveling alone really builds your confidence. You choose 232 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:55,359 Speaker 1: your hotel, you book your hotel, you plan an itinery. 233 00:12:55,400 --> 00:12:59,440 Speaker 1: You develop so many skills in the process. And I 234 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:01,240 Speaker 1: know you're saying that that sounds basic, Well it doesn't. 235 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: When you travel alone, you have to have the skill 236 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:07,720 Speaker 1: of mapping out your day, mapping out your journey. You're 237 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:11,720 Speaker 1: learning to trust yourself. You're learning to build the skills 238 00:13:11,960 --> 00:13:15,320 Speaker 1: and habits you need to function in the real world. 239 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:19,280 Speaker 1: And I found so many people that I've recommended solo 240 00:13:19,360 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 1: travel to they come back and they say, I feel 241 00:13:21,720 --> 00:13:25,960 Speaker 1: so much more confident. I feel so much more self 242 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: assured in my abilities and my skills. And one thing 243 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,840 Speaker 1: I found is that your confidence also grows because you're 244 00:13:33,880 --> 00:13:37,560 Speaker 1: getting to talk to people from different backgrounds, different walks 245 00:13:37,600 --> 00:13:40,520 Speaker 1: of life. You have to navigate things not working out. 246 00:13:40,559 --> 00:13:43,559 Speaker 1: And I'll get back to that in a second reason 247 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:47,040 Speaker 1: number three and lesson number three, is it truly expands 248 00:13:47,080 --> 00:13:50,560 Speaker 1: your worldview. I find that often we can live in 249 00:13:50,600 --> 00:13:54,400 Speaker 1: such a cocoon, and it's easy when you travel to 250 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:58,960 Speaker 1: notice different sceneries. It's easy to notice different architecture, it's 251 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:02,920 Speaker 1: easy to notice different you know, like the obvious things 252 00:14:03,000 --> 00:14:07,640 Speaker 1: of whether there's a Starbucks there or not. But really 253 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:13,400 Speaker 1: what travel does is it shows you what a society, 254 00:14:13,640 --> 00:14:17,680 Speaker 1: what a community, what a town values. It shows you 255 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:21,400 Speaker 1: what a place believes. In the way I'd like to 256 00:14:21,400 --> 00:14:24,480 Speaker 1: think about this is think about what's at the center 257 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:28,960 Speaker 1: of a town. When you travel to certain cities, certain towns, 258 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:32,359 Speaker 1: certain countries, focus on what's at the center of it. 259 00:14:32,360 --> 00:14:34,680 Speaker 1: It gives you an idea of the values of that place. 260 00:14:34,720 --> 00:14:38,120 Speaker 1: It gives you an idea of the essence of that place. 261 00:14:38,800 --> 00:14:43,240 Speaker 1: Think about what the tallest tourist attraction is there, what's 262 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 1: the highest building monument, what is it? It tells you 263 00:14:47,360 --> 00:14:50,640 Speaker 1: a bit about what that city sees as powerful and 264 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:53,800 Speaker 1: as an important thing in that city. So think about 265 00:14:53,800 --> 00:14:57,520 Speaker 1: what's at the center, think about what's highest, and think 266 00:14:57,560 --> 00:15:02,000 Speaker 1: about what the country represents in terms of figuring out 267 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:05,320 Speaker 1: what's the biggest festival that happens there. You learn so 268 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: much about a city or a town or a country 269 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:13,080 Speaker 1: by the festivities, and ultimately you learn the most by 270 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:14,840 Speaker 1: speaking to the people there, which I'll get on too 271 00:15:14,880 --> 00:15:17,720 Speaker 1: in a second as well. And so I really feel 272 00:15:17,800 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: that there are certain methods, and those being my favorite ones. 273 00:15:20,760 --> 00:15:24,040 Speaker 1: What's at the center of a city, what's the highest 274 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:28,640 Speaker 1: monument building part of a city? What is that? And 275 00:15:28,720 --> 00:15:32,120 Speaker 1: how do they preserve nature. That's the third thing. How 276 00:15:32,120 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: do they look after nature in that place? What does 277 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 1: the nature say about that city, that town? And of 278 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:41,480 Speaker 1: course if you're in the countryside, what experience do you 279 00:15:41,520 --> 00:15:44,320 Speaker 1: get of nature? What are the festivals, what are the 280 00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: key events that that city, town, or country hosts. This 281 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:51,400 Speaker 1: gives you a real sense of what that place is 282 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:53,640 Speaker 1: all about. And often we can miss it. We can 283 00:15:53,760 --> 00:15:56,080 Speaker 1: just kind of get caught in, you know, going out 284 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:58,120 Speaker 1: to a restaurant and hitting a tourist attraction and not 285 00:15:58,280 --> 00:16:02,320 Speaker 1: really getting to the since the roots of what defines 286 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:05,800 Speaker 1: that country. But it's a really beautiful, simple exercise to 287 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:08,840 Speaker 1: give that a go. And you know, traveling pushes you 288 00:16:08,880 --> 00:16:11,080 Speaker 1: to adapt and grow in ways you might not expect. 289 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:13,920 Speaker 1: And one of the things I love about booking dot 290 00:16:13,920 --> 00:16:16,560 Speaker 1: Com is that you can book the experiences that let 291 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: you experience and explore different sides of yourself and the place. So, 292 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 1: whether you want to relax or venture into a new territory, 293 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 1: booking dot Com helps you plan for whoever you want 294 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:30,360 Speaker 1: to be on your trip. And I think that's a 295 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 1: really important part of this idea of expanding your worldview. 296 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:39,160 Speaker 1: Are you trying to expand it historically, culturally, socially, food wise, 297 00:16:39,240 --> 00:16:42,640 Speaker 1: language wise. It's a beautiful way to think about travel. 298 00:16:43,120 --> 00:16:45,000 Speaker 1: It took me years to think about traveling that way. 299 00:16:45,040 --> 00:16:47,280 Speaker 1: I used to think about travelers have been there and 300 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:49,480 Speaker 1: have been there, done that, And then I start to 301 00:16:49,520 --> 00:16:51,760 Speaker 1: realize what a you know, what a not great way 302 00:16:51,800 --> 00:16:56,040 Speaker 1: to travel. That was Number four comes from the confidence piece, 303 00:16:56,040 --> 00:17:02,040 Speaker 1: but an important one nevertheless, self reliance and problem solving. 304 00:17:02,600 --> 00:17:05,400 Speaker 1: This one's probably my favorite. I'm sure if you ever 305 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:07,160 Speaker 1: tried traveling on your own or even with a small 306 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 1: group of friends, you're bound to encounter some challenges. Now 307 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,159 Speaker 1: this is not including safety challenges. And you know, I 308 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:15,960 Speaker 1: want to make sure that you're traveling safely. I want 309 00:17:15,960 --> 00:17:18,439 Speaker 1: to make sure that you're traveling, you know, in a 310 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:21,080 Speaker 1: place and in a way that is protecting you from 311 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:23,760 Speaker 1: any harm. But what I mean is you may have 312 00:17:23,760 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: to problem solve. You may have a flight get canceled, 313 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:28,159 Speaker 1: you may need to jump on a train, you may 314 00:17:28,200 --> 00:17:31,919 Speaker 1: need to learn how to use the local system. I 315 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:35,199 Speaker 1: remember some really horrifying experiences as a kid where I 316 00:17:35,240 --> 00:17:39,399 Speaker 1: saw my parents problem solving, and actually watching them problem 317 00:17:39,480 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 1: solve gave me a sense of self reliance in seeing 318 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:46,439 Speaker 1: how they navigated very difficult things. I remember once in 319 00:17:46,480 --> 00:17:51,120 Speaker 1: a city we didn't know how to take their subway system, 320 00:17:51,200 --> 00:17:55,280 Speaker 1: and my parents maybe didn't get something stamped or whatever 321 00:17:55,320 --> 00:17:57,800 Speaker 1: it was. And I remember like being separated from my 322 00:17:57,880 --> 00:18:00,159 Speaker 1: parents and being held in a separate room, and I 323 00:18:00,160 --> 00:18:03,000 Speaker 1: could see my parents being shouted at and they took 324 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:06,040 Speaker 1: our passports, and it was a really uncomfortable, nerve wracking 325 00:18:06,119 --> 00:18:08,840 Speaker 1: experience for my parents and for me and my sister, 326 00:18:08,880 --> 00:18:11,760 Speaker 1: who were very young at the time. And that isn't 327 00:18:11,760 --> 00:18:14,800 Speaker 1: an experience I'd want anyone to have, but watching my parents' 328 00:18:14,840 --> 00:18:17,560 Speaker 1: problem solve even I mean back in the day, I'd 329 00:18:17,600 --> 00:18:19,439 Speaker 1: used to see my parents pull out a map and 330 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 1: navigate it or ask for help. And I think all 331 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: of those skills are really powerful in today's world, where, 332 00:18:26,119 --> 00:18:28,920 Speaker 1: of course we've become reliant on Google Maps. We don't 333 00:18:29,000 --> 00:18:31,679 Speaker 1: need to ask for directions anymore, we don't need to 334 00:18:31,720 --> 00:18:33,679 Speaker 1: learn how to read a map. But I think there 335 00:18:33,680 --> 00:18:36,359 Speaker 1: are a lot of other aspects that you grow in 336 00:18:36,400 --> 00:18:39,840 Speaker 1: when you travel alone, of self reliance and problem solving, 337 00:18:40,640 --> 00:18:43,480 Speaker 1: and I think that a lot of us today are 338 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:47,560 Speaker 1: looking for that. We've become so overreligned and dependent on others. 339 00:18:47,600 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 1: We crowdsource everything from what outfit should I wear tonight 340 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,480 Speaker 1: all the way through to is this job right for me? 341 00:18:55,160 --> 00:18:57,160 Speaker 1: Or do you think I'm going to get picked right? 342 00:18:57,400 --> 00:19:01,840 Speaker 1: We crowdsource everything. When you travel alone, you get the 343 00:19:01,920 --> 00:19:06,640 Speaker 1: opportunity to problem solve and be reliant on yourself. And 344 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:09,760 Speaker 1: one way to keep things stress free is by booking 345 00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:12,679 Speaker 1: with booking dot Com because what I've loved is that 346 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 1: they offer twenty four to seven customer service and helpful guides, 347 00:19:17,160 --> 00:19:20,080 Speaker 1: so you can follow your itinery with these no matter 348 00:19:20,080 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 1: how complex it gets. So you can actually take the 349 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:25,719 Speaker 1: stress out of travel by planning ahead so you can 350 00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:28,680 Speaker 1: focus on the experience and take care of yourself throughout 351 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:31,440 Speaker 1: the journey. And I think that's a really important touch 352 00:19:31,560 --> 00:19:33,800 Speaker 1: and a part of travel, especially when you're learning to 353 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:37,120 Speaker 1: travel alone. And sometimes we underestimate these things when we're 354 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:39,720 Speaker 1: traveling with friends. You know, you always kind of figure 355 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,480 Speaker 1: it out with friends, but you know when you're on 356 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:45,959 Speaker 1: your own, there's a deep sense of self reliance and 357 00:19:46,040 --> 00:19:48,080 Speaker 1: problem solving that that gets filled. 358 00:19:49,280 --> 00:19:49,440 Speaker 2: Now. 359 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:53,040 Speaker 1: Number five is mastering your mind. So this is the 360 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:54,480 Speaker 1: one I wanted to get to because I know a 361 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:57,199 Speaker 1: lot of you will be thinking right now. I have 362 00:19:57,480 --> 00:20:01,760 Speaker 1: no idea how I do this, and I don't want 363 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:03,479 Speaker 1: to lie to you and tell you it's easier. I'm 364 00:20:03,520 --> 00:20:04,760 Speaker 1: not going to just say to you, yeah, get on 365 00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:07,800 Speaker 1: with it. I actually empathize with it. We're living at 366 00:20:07,800 --> 00:20:11,520 Speaker 1: a time where we're so used to being surrounded by people. 367 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:16,359 Speaker 1: We're so used to having noise and clutter in our mind, 368 00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:21,120 Speaker 1: in our space wherever we are, and I feel traveling 369 00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:24,640 Speaker 1: alone actually helps you master your mind. The first few days, 370 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 1: it's uncomfortable, the noise and the chatter. Oh my gosh, 371 00:20:27,119 --> 00:20:29,159 Speaker 1: I'm bored. Oh my gosh, Why did I do this? 372 00:20:29,640 --> 00:20:31,679 Speaker 1: Why did I come here on my own? What am 373 00:20:31,720 --> 00:20:34,200 Speaker 1: I doing to myself? What is this? This is not right. 374 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:37,400 Speaker 1: I'm scared, I'm fearful, I'm insecure. Whatever it is right, 375 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:39,959 Speaker 1: You're going to hear all of that, and day two 376 00:20:40,040 --> 00:20:43,160 Speaker 1: will get a little quieter, and day three it will 377 00:20:43,160 --> 00:20:46,840 Speaker 1: get a little quieter. You're actually learning to master on 378 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:50,160 Speaker 1: the mind, to still the mind, to experience the mind 379 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:53,800 Speaker 1: in its most extreme sense of fear and then allowing 380 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:57,080 Speaker 1: it to dissipate, and noticing that you have the ability 381 00:20:57,160 --> 00:21:01,640 Speaker 1: to calm and still your mind when you travel alone. Yes, 382 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:04,880 Speaker 1: there will be anxiety. Yes, it will be uncomfortable. Yes, 383 00:21:05,080 --> 00:21:07,760 Speaker 1: it is taking you out of your comfort zone. For sure. 384 00:21:07,880 --> 00:21:11,120 Speaker 1: It's doing all of that right, it's doing all of that, 385 00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:17,320 Speaker 1: but it's also just giving you space to say I 386 00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: can actually acknowledge the voice of my head. I don't 387 00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:22,880 Speaker 1: have to listen to it. I don't have to follow it. 388 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:25,360 Speaker 1: I don't have to be totally set of course for it. 389 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 1: I can listen to it, I can hear it, and 390 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:32,240 Speaker 1: then I can choose what I want to do with it. 391 00:21:32,800 --> 00:21:36,480 Speaker 1: Letting your mind slowly get quieter really allows you to 392 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 1: build mindfulness. It really allows you to build that sense 393 00:21:40,560 --> 00:21:43,480 Speaker 1: of I don't always have to listen to the voice 394 00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:45,600 Speaker 1: of my head. I don't always have to follow the 395 00:21:45,720 --> 00:21:51,080 Speaker 1: loudest shout in my mind. I can learn to allow 396 00:21:51,119 --> 00:21:54,240 Speaker 1: it to come and go and then listen to what remains. 397 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:59,560 Speaker 1: Number six, you really challenge yourself to beat boredom and distractions. 398 00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:01,600 Speaker 1: I'm sure you have a long list of podcasts you 399 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:03,440 Speaker 1: want to listen to a long list of books. I'm 400 00:22:03,480 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 1: taking a three day solo trip this week, and I 401 00:22:07,560 --> 00:22:09,919 Speaker 1: am so excited because there are so many books that 402 00:22:09,960 --> 00:22:12,560 Speaker 1: have been sitting on my desk in my bag, and 403 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:14,960 Speaker 1: I really haven't managed to open up, and I am 404 00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:17,280 Speaker 1: so looking forward to diving deep. And I know that 405 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,160 Speaker 1: in three days I can do some serious damage onto 406 00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:22,760 Speaker 1: my reading list, and I know just being present with 407 00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:25,800 Speaker 1: that is going to be so powerful for me. Now 408 00:22:25,840 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 1: I'm obviously reading a lot of growth, a lot of 409 00:22:28,680 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: personal development nonfiction. But even if you've been waiting to 410 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:35,640 Speaker 1: escape into a book, I feel like when you solo travel, 411 00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:38,240 Speaker 1: you get to almost feel like you're a part of 412 00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,240 Speaker 1: that story. You get to feel like you're a part 413 00:22:40,280 --> 00:22:43,919 Speaker 1: of that experience. And so challenge yourself to beat boredom, 414 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,239 Speaker 1: to beat distractions, to always be on your phone when 415 00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:50,600 Speaker 1: you're in another country, another space, another environment, another energy, 416 00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:53,439 Speaker 1: another city or town you don't have to travel to 417 00:22:53,440 --> 00:22:58,560 Speaker 1: another country. It's incredible what you can achieve in terms 418 00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:02,760 Speaker 1: of productivity, createivity, and just being able to disconnect from 419 00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:06,480 Speaker 1: what you're used to disconnect from what you're usually surrounded by. 420 00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:14,120 Speaker 1: It's super powerful. Number seven is vigilance. I think this 421 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 1: is a really powerful trait and I think some of 422 00:23:17,560 --> 00:23:19,679 Speaker 1: us have it, some of us don't, and a lot 423 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,160 Speaker 1: of us need to develop it. What I mean by 424 00:23:22,200 --> 00:23:24,960 Speaker 1: this is can you read a room. I find that 425 00:23:25,040 --> 00:23:27,680 Speaker 1: when you're surrounded by people you're used to being surrounded by, 426 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 1: you're no longer reading the room. You're predicting the room. Right, 427 00:23:32,320 --> 00:23:35,439 Speaker 1: It's like Google, where it's predicting your search. It's not 428 00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,359 Speaker 1: reading it in the sense of it's not feeling it, 429 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:39,840 Speaker 1: it's not experiencing it. You are, but you're predicting it. 430 00:23:39,880 --> 00:23:41,600 Speaker 1: You know how your dad's going to behave, you know 431 00:23:41,640 --> 00:23:45,359 Speaker 1: how your friend behaves in a certain situation. What happens 432 00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:49,600 Speaker 1: with that is we lose our ability to be hyper vigilant. Now, 433 00:23:49,680 --> 00:23:53,399 Speaker 1: when you're new surroundings in new spaces, you're actually just 434 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:56,439 Speaker 1: getting a sense of the temperaments of the people. You're 435 00:23:56,480 --> 00:23:59,160 Speaker 1: getting a sense of the energy and the space. You're 436 00:23:59,200 --> 00:24:03,320 Speaker 1: actually high your ability to tune in to your intuition 437 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:06,960 Speaker 1: the energy around you, and how you feel about it. Now, 438 00:24:07,040 --> 00:24:09,399 Speaker 1: you may say, Jay, that sounds like anxiety to me. 439 00:24:09,960 --> 00:24:12,800 Speaker 1: It can be anxiety inducing, but it can also be 440 00:24:12,800 --> 00:24:15,480 Speaker 1: a really powerful skill if seen in that way. You're 441 00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:19,160 Speaker 1: learning how to navigate conversations with different people from different backgrounds. 442 00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:21,240 Speaker 1: You're learning how to navigate a conversation with someone in 443 00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:24,520 Speaker 1: a different language. You're learning to be vigilant in certain spaces. 444 00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:27,320 Speaker 1: I remember getting lost in a town I was in 445 00:24:27,359 --> 00:24:30,679 Speaker 1: a couple of a few years back now, and I 446 00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:32,280 Speaker 1: wanted to find a way out, and I had to 447 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:34,840 Speaker 1: be extra vigilant about my surroundings to make sure I 448 00:24:34,840 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: felt safe. And so I think you take safety more 449 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,880 Speaker 1: seriously and you can bring that back into your life. 450 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:45,000 Speaker 1: And I use the word vigilance because it's almost like 451 00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:47,680 Speaker 1: you're good at reading your surroundings. You're good at knowing 452 00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:51,520 Speaker 1: what's in your periphery, which sometimes we switch off when 453 00:24:51,600 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 1: we haven't been to a new place for a long time. 454 00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:59,359 Speaker 1: I think that number eight is obvious, but it's important 455 00:24:59,400 --> 00:25:02,280 Speaker 1: for me to say getting to know diverse people potential 456 00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:06,359 Speaker 1: friends for life. I think when you travel, especially on 457 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 1: your own, there's a certain feeling that you want to 458 00:25:09,760 --> 00:25:11,240 Speaker 1: get to know people. Now, of course, you want to 459 00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:15,080 Speaker 1: be safe about this, but you start learning how many 460 00:25:15,119 --> 00:25:17,720 Speaker 1: amazing people around the world, what kind of beautiful backgrounds 461 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:20,720 Speaker 1: around the world, the amount of trust we can build 462 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,639 Speaker 1: with other humans who are walking a different path and 463 00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:28,280 Speaker 1: a different background from us. I encourage you to find 464 00:25:28,480 --> 00:25:33,359 Speaker 1: people in places of similar value, service based projects, people 465 00:25:33,359 --> 00:25:36,680 Speaker 1: who are involved in this particular sport that you love abroad. 466 00:25:36,800 --> 00:25:40,840 Speaker 1: I think it's a wonderful way to connect with potential 467 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:45,199 Speaker 1: friends for life, and this one's one of my favorites. 468 00:25:45,920 --> 00:25:49,080 Speaker 1: When you travel alone, there's no stimulation and no one 469 00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:51,360 Speaker 1: else to worry about. A Lot of the time when 470 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,000 Speaker 1: we're traveling, one of the most anxiety inducing things is 471 00:25:54,040 --> 00:25:56,960 Speaker 1: making sure everyone's happy. Has everyone eaten? Is everyone happy 472 00:25:56,960 --> 00:25:58,639 Speaker 1: with how it's going? Is everyone having a good time? 473 00:25:59,040 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: I think having a good time? On they're not having 474 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:01,760 Speaker 1: a good time. Are we having a good time. I'm 475 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:04,119 Speaker 1: not having a good time. Cliques develop, whatever it may be. 476 00:26:04,920 --> 00:26:08,240 Speaker 1: You get to truly recharge, You get to truly focus 477 00:26:08,280 --> 00:26:12,120 Speaker 1: on yourself. You get to give yourself the attention and 478 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,959 Speaker 1: the patience and the time that you deserve that you 479 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:19,480 Speaker 1: often don't give to yourself. I really hope this inspires 480 00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,000 Speaker 1: you to take a solo journey. I hope you also 481 00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 1: tell me where you went and what you learned. That's 482 00:26:24,560 --> 00:26:26,919 Speaker 1: what I'd love to know. If you're listening to this 483 00:26:27,000 --> 00:26:29,240 Speaker 1: right now and you're feeling inspired and you feel called 484 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:31,800 Speaker 1: to go somewhere, tag me in a story, share it 485 00:26:31,800 --> 00:26:34,479 Speaker 1: on TikTok, Let me know where you're going because I'm very, 486 00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:37,520 Speaker 1: very excited for you. Thank you so much for listening. 487 00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:41,159 Speaker 1: I'm always rooting for you and forever in your corner, 488 00:26:42,000 --> 00:26:43,840 Speaker 1: and I'm so glad I've got to spend this time 489 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:47,399 Speaker 1: with you. I'm always traveling for work, whether it's for 490 00:26:47,440 --> 00:26:50,639 Speaker 1: a podcast recording, a shoot, or a speaking engagement. But 491 00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:52,840 Speaker 1: what I love most about traveling is that it allows 492 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:56,240 Speaker 1: me to discover new sides of myself. Whether I'm trying 493 00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:59,320 Speaker 1: new foods, meeting new people, or stepping into different cultures. 494 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,280 Speaker 1: Each time helps me grow and learn in ways they 495 00:27:02,320 --> 00:27:05,439 Speaker 1: didn't expect. That's why I always use booking dot Com. 496 00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:07,600 Speaker 1: They make it easy to not only find the perfect 497 00:27:07,640 --> 00:27:10,760 Speaker 1: place to stay, but also to explore new environments and 498 00:27:10,800 --> 00:27:14,240 Speaker 1: discover parts of myself I hadn't tapped into before. 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