1 00:00:10,680 --> 00:00:14,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to the Therapy for Black Girls Podcast, a weekly 2 00:00:14,400 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: conversation about mental health, personal development, and all the small 3 00:00:19,200 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: decisions we can make to become the best possible versions 4 00:00:22,360 --> 00:00:26,480 Speaker 1: of ourselves. I'm your host, doctor Joy hard and Bradford, 5 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: a licensed psychologist in Atlanta, Georgia. For more information or 6 00:00:32,040 --> 00:00:35,440 Speaker 1: to find a therapist in your area, visit our website 7 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 1: at Therapy for Blackgirls dot com. While I hope you 8 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: love listening to and learning from the podcast, it is 9 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:46,280 Speaker 1: not meant to be a substitute for a relationship with 10 00:00:46,320 --> 00:00:57,800 Speaker 1: a licensed mental health professional. Hey, y'all, thanks so much 11 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: for joining me for a special bonus episode of Therapy 12 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:04,000 Speaker 1: for Black Girls Podcast. We'll get right into our conversation 13 00:01:04,160 --> 00:01:15,520 Speaker 1: after a word from our sponsors. So many of us 14 00:01:15,600 --> 00:01:18,160 Speaker 1: have been patiently waiting for the arrival of the live 15 00:01:18,200 --> 00:01:21,759 Speaker 1: action remake of Disney's Little Mermaid. The nineteen eighty nine 16 00:01:21,800 --> 00:01:24,720 Speaker 1: classic has finally sailed back to the big screen, but 17 00:01:24,840 --> 00:01:28,279 Speaker 1: this time reimagined with a new leading lady, a black 18 00:01:28,319 --> 00:01:32,440 Speaker 1: arial brought to life by Halle Bailey. In anticipation for 19 00:01:32,480 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 1: the release of the film, our team here at Therapy 20 00:01:34,880 --> 00:01:36,880 Speaker 1: for Black Girls wanted to sponsor a group of young 21 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,080 Speaker 1: black women to go see the film in theaters on 22 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:42,800 Speaker 1: the opening box office weekend. We partnered with Valencia Sewell, 23 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:47,240 Speaker 1: the founder of Elite twenty three International, a nonprofit Chicago 24 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: based organization dedicated to empowering and uplifting women and young 25 00:01:51,400 --> 00:01:55,160 Speaker 1: girls around the world. Founded on the principles of academic excellence, 26 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,720 Speaker 1: community involvement, and higher level thinking, Elite makes it a 27 00:01:58,760 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 1: priority to ignite passion and leave a lifelong positive impact 28 00:02:02,520 --> 00:02:05,160 Speaker 1: on the lives of many. We invited four young women 29 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:07,520 Speaker 1: from Elite to join us on the podcast to share 30 00:02:07,560 --> 00:02:10,480 Speaker 1: their experience watching the film and what the film taught 31 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: them about life. Today, I'm joined by Callie, Samaya Amari, 32 00:02:15,919 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: and Kennedy. This episode does contain spoilers, so if you 33 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: haven't had the opportunity to see the film yet, put 34 00:02:21,720 --> 00:02:24,080 Speaker 1: this episode on pause and come back to it later. 35 00:02:26,960 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: All right, y'all, thank you so much for joining me today. 36 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 1: I'd love to start our conversation in here. Who did 37 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:34,960 Speaker 1: you go to the movies with to see The Little Mermaid? 38 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:39,799 Speaker 2: I went with my cousin and I went with her 39 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 2: a LAK group and it was very cool. When I 40 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 2: watched the movie. I went with my dad. I think 41 00:02:49,560 --> 00:02:51,640 Speaker 2: it was very good. 42 00:02:51,880 --> 00:02:55,080 Speaker 3: I think it was pretty good all over our family 43 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 3: and obviously Lee Drew and this son. I was just 44 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:02,560 Speaker 3: taking my little heart away. I was just stating that 45 00:03:03,320 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 3: this was. 46 00:03:03,760 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 4: Like, wow, I will with my mom, my sister, and 47 00:03:07,840 --> 00:03:11,880 Speaker 4: my cousin and obviously with the elite family. It was 48 00:03:11,919 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 4: a good experience. I was my sister's first time seeing Area, 49 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:19,080 Speaker 4: and so I was happy she saw the black area 50 00:03:19,760 --> 00:03:26,040 Speaker 4: and not the white area. I mean say watching, but. 51 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:28,359 Speaker 1: I okay, So next question, what was your favorite part 52 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:29,120 Speaker 1: about the movie. 53 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:32,680 Speaker 2: My favorite part was when Area steed up to her 54 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:37,160 Speaker 2: dad and showed that she was being mature enough to 55 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:38,320 Speaker 2: make her own dishes. 56 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:42,360 Speaker 5: My favorite part was the hair flip. It's because the 57 00:03:42,440 --> 00:03:46,160 Speaker 5: sunset and the hair is gorgeous, and it's the hair 58 00:03:46,200 --> 00:03:47,640 Speaker 5: flip for me is gorgeous. 59 00:03:47,840 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 3: I think my favorite part has been either the skinna 60 00:03:51,840 --> 00:03:54,440 Speaker 3: a party in World, because like I really just liked that, 61 00:03:54,600 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 3: and the skinna but was. 62 00:03:55,640 --> 00:03:56,560 Speaker 2: Really a bold one. 63 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:04,400 Speaker 4: My little part was probably I'll say, when she finally 64 00:04:04,480 --> 00:04:08,120 Speaker 4: got to be with Eric. It looks like a beautiful scene, 65 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:11,320 Speaker 4: like all the mermaids were very watched her and send 66 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:12,360 Speaker 4: her off and her. 67 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,640 Speaker 2: Dad was like she was there for her. 68 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:17,760 Speaker 1: All such good answers. I can tell you all were 69 00:04:17,800 --> 00:04:20,920 Speaker 1: really paying attention to this movie, So that makes me curious. 70 00:04:21,120 --> 00:04:24,120 Speaker 1: Were there any lessons you learned while watching The Little Mermaid? 71 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:29,479 Speaker 2: I really think there's a lesson of about how mermaids 72 00:04:29,520 --> 00:04:31,800 Speaker 2: and humans could really be. 73 00:04:32,040 --> 00:04:35,960 Speaker 3: One a lesson I learned is that no matter how 74 00:04:36,279 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 3: hard your parents trying to turn you down, talk about 75 00:04:39,880 --> 00:04:43,480 Speaker 3: them about like what you truly want to do instead 76 00:04:43,520 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 3: of going behind your backs. That's to see that has 77 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 3: a bad turnouts in every situation, like in movies and 78 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:50,520 Speaker 3: in real life. 79 00:04:50,839 --> 00:04:53,479 Speaker 4: The lesson I took from it was if you want something, 80 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,080 Speaker 4: you have to try really hard to get it because 81 00:04:56,880 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 4: obviously nobody ohs though what you want as that as 82 00:05:00,600 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 4: you do. So you have to fight really hard for 83 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:06,719 Speaker 4: what you want, no matter how hard it is or 84 00:05:06,800 --> 00:05:09,080 Speaker 4: what the consequences might be afterwards, about what. 85 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:10,960 Speaker 2: You get what you want when you like. 86 00:05:19,040 --> 00:05:21,279 Speaker 1: You all are so wise and I'm learning so much 87 00:05:21,360 --> 00:05:24,159 Speaker 1: just listening to you talk about the movie. So would 88 00:05:24,160 --> 00:05:28,159 Speaker 1: you recommend this movie to other families and to your friends? 89 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:36,240 Speaker 2: Yes, I would recommend it because I really think it's 90 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 2: a feel good movie and it makes you kind of 91 00:05:38,680 --> 00:05:40,919 Speaker 2: scared and it's true romance. 92 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:47,920 Speaker 5: Yeah, I would recommend this movie because, like it's all 93 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:53,240 Speaker 5: about what mermaids do stuff. It's really a good movie. 94 00:05:53,560 --> 00:05:54,599 Speaker 3: Show you guys. 95 00:05:54,400 --> 00:05:56,440 Speaker 4: Should watch it, and I love it so much. 96 00:05:56,720 --> 00:06:01,839 Speaker 2: It's about a blood girl that's like stood up for yourself. 97 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:05,360 Speaker 3: I definitely would recommended movie. 98 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:06,560 Speaker 2: Like every day I. 99 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 3: Go around to my friends telling them that they should 100 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:11,760 Speaker 3: go see this movie. If they haven't seen it already, they. 101 00:06:11,640 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 1: Should took me with them to like. 102 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:19,200 Speaker 3: It's definitely full of a bunch of great songs, original 103 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:19,760 Speaker 3: and new. 104 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:24,760 Speaker 4: Yes, I honestly took to go watch this movie because 105 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:31,000 Speaker 4: it's holle Like. It's a black female planet aeral and 106 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:34,600 Speaker 4: there's not a lot of black females and black artists 107 00:06:34,680 --> 00:06:38,919 Speaker 4: in general taking the role of a white. 108 00:06:38,680 --> 00:06:40,359 Speaker 2: Movie and this area. 109 00:06:40,440 --> 00:06:41,839 Speaker 4: Who wouldn't want to watch Area? 110 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: So I just love how y'all clap and applaud each 111 00:06:50,680 --> 00:06:53,760 Speaker 1: other's answers. This is such a great example of sisterhood 112 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:56,599 Speaker 1: in loving your friends. We definitely are big fans of 113 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:58,840 Speaker 1: the Black Area. I feel you on that one. A 114 00:06:58,920 --> 00:07:02,559 Speaker 1: MARII Okay, So my next question, what would you ask 115 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: Ariel if you could actually speak to her. What questions 116 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: do we have for Ariel? 117 00:07:08,160 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 2: I'll ask where did you guys go? At the end 118 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:14,200 Speaker 2: when she went on the boat, where did she go? 119 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:17,200 Speaker 2: Because I felt like she was just walking? I'm like, 120 00:07:17,320 --> 00:07:18,120 Speaker 2: where are you going? 121 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 1: Something? 122 00:07:26,000 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 2: Shit? I heard it? 123 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 3: If you had to go back and change one decision 124 00:07:34,240 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 3: you made, what would that decision? That was actually nice? 125 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:43,640 Speaker 4: Honestly? What was she thinking when Nursela asked her did 126 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 4: she want to become human? 127 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 6: And how she leg? 128 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:49,920 Speaker 4: Because she was zoned out, and so I'm like, what 129 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 4: was she really thinking? Because yes, wasn't her first answer. 130 00:07:54,640 --> 00:07:56,400 Speaker 6: It was like I don't know. 131 00:07:57,000 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 4: And then she was like, yeah, put. 132 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:01,520 Speaker 6: A curse on her. 133 00:08:02,520 --> 00:08:05,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, that curse was no joke. Speaking of the curse 134 00:08:05,600 --> 00:08:08,360 Speaker 1: and Ursula and all of that. All of that happened 135 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 1: because Ariel was sneaking behind her father's back. What do 136 00:08:11,600 --> 00:08:14,080 Speaker 1: you all think about Ariel hiding things from her father 137 00:08:14,280 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: and sneaking around to do what she wanted to do. 138 00:08:17,040 --> 00:08:20,920 Speaker 2: I don't really think that's a good idea because she 139 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 2: wasn't supposed to go up to the top. But if 140 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,400 Speaker 2: she didn't go up to the top, she would have 141 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,800 Speaker 2: never met Eric. I think it was a bad idea, 142 00:08:30,240 --> 00:08:35,000 Speaker 2: because like, why would you follow Ursula where she went? 143 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:37,600 Speaker 2: And she she was gonna take her voice and then 144 00:08:37,720 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 2: turned her to get too leg and then she was 145 00:08:40,840 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 2: gonna sell her voice for her to not talk to Eric. 146 00:08:44,880 --> 00:08:49,360 Speaker 3: It was a bad decision because you really, even though 147 00:08:49,400 --> 00:08:52,920 Speaker 3: he's so persisted, you really need to show him how 148 00:08:53,120 --> 00:08:57,840 Speaker 3: bad that she wanted to be above the surface. And 149 00:08:59,440 --> 00:09:02,160 Speaker 3: it comes with a lot of the responsibilities and the 150 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:04,880 Speaker 3: decisions that you have to think about as you get older. 151 00:09:08,440 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 4: Obviously, parents are always right, no matter if you think 152 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:16,200 Speaker 4: they're wrong, they're always right. I feel like, like she said, 153 00:09:16,240 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 4: she could have been persistent with I want to go out, 154 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:21,240 Speaker 4: Oh I'm not gonna I want to go up to 155 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 4: the sea, and you know I was to get up 156 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:32,200 Speaker 4: to service and yeah, because at the end, she got 157 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:36,640 Speaker 4: legs without having a several voice or without all the 158 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 4: bad things having to happen to her. So maybe if 159 00:09:40,120 --> 00:09:42,480 Speaker 4: she just would have stayed underwire a little longer, she 160 00:09:42,480 --> 00:09:45,280 Speaker 4: would have got her legs eventually without going through all 161 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:48,480 Speaker 4: of the stuff because now she got trouble. 162 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: Mm. Parents are always right. I wonder how many families 163 00:09:53,400 --> 00:09:56,400 Speaker 1: and kids listening feel the same way about that. So 164 00:09:56,600 --> 00:09:59,079 Speaker 1: Ursula was definitely the bad girl in this movie. How 165 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:02,160 Speaker 1: do you all decide when someone can be trusted? How 166 00:10:02,160 --> 00:10:04,520 Speaker 1: do you know when someone is trustworthy and when someone 167 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: is actually dangerous? 168 00:10:06,400 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 2: When somebody is dangerous, I would not trust them. 169 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:12,600 Speaker 5: How do you know if they're dangerous? 170 00:10:14,040 --> 00:10:18,600 Speaker 2: I would have to learn their personality and how they 171 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:24,199 Speaker 2: act around people, and how kind they are and how 172 00:10:24,240 --> 00:10:25,560 Speaker 2: respectful they are. 173 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:26,199 Speaker 3: Of my family. 174 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 5: I don't trust dangerous people because like, you need to 175 00:10:37,360 --> 00:10:40,360 Speaker 5: know them more if they're like dangerous or not, Like 176 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 5: I need to know what they do or what they 177 00:10:44,320 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 5: don't do or something like, like I need to know 178 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 5: their personality and stuff. I need to know them, like. 179 00:10:52,160 --> 00:10:56,880 Speaker 3: Oh, well, trust for me, touch from how you act 180 00:10:56,960 --> 00:11:01,120 Speaker 3: around me and if you're sick. I feel like her 181 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:05,599 Speaker 3: trust came out of really feeling the need to do 182 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:09,400 Speaker 3: anything to give what she wants, or like eventually, after 183 00:11:09,480 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 3: she said no, the fear person that she felt because 184 00:11:13,080 --> 00:11:17,320 Speaker 3: that might have been her only chance to actually get 185 00:11:17,440 --> 00:11:18,959 Speaker 3: legs and exploit. 186 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:23,120 Speaker 4: I would to say she really had trusted in Ursula. 187 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:24,640 Speaker 4: She doesn't really wanted. 188 00:11:24,679 --> 00:11:28,240 Speaker 6: To have her legs to get to Harry, so it 189 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:31,240 Speaker 6: was more of a I do this to need this 190 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:34,679 Speaker 6: from me, So it wasn't really not trust and she 191 00:11:34,760 --> 00:11:37,000 Speaker 6: doesn't want it legs at least still wasn't. 192 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:44,520 Speaker 1: Y'all are such a gift. I'm so glad you were 193 00:11:44,559 --> 00:11:46,559 Speaker 1: able to see this movie, and I want to thank 194 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:49,240 Speaker 1: you so much for joining us on the podcast. I'm 195 00:11:49,320 --> 00:11:51,080 Speaker 1: having such a great time with you, but we've got 196 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:53,360 Speaker 1: to wrap this up. I'm sure you've got homework to 197 00:11:53,440 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 1: be doing before we say our goodbyes. I'd love for 198 00:11:56,360 --> 00:11:58,319 Speaker 1: you all to share your name and one thing that 199 00:11:58,400 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: you believe makes you unique. 200 00:12:09,880 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 2: My name is Calli, and one way I'm unique, it's 201 00:12:15,040 --> 00:12:19,640 Speaker 2: because not a lot of people go to tournaments, and 202 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:26,120 Speaker 2: I go to tournaments so long in the karate, gymnastics, dance, 203 00:12:27,080 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 2: I'm very I'm very busy. My name is Samayah, and 204 00:12:32,200 --> 00:12:36,600 Speaker 2: what makes me unique is like my style and stuff, 205 00:12:37,720 --> 00:12:42,199 Speaker 2: and like I love everything about my style and stuff, 206 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 2: everything I wear about it. My name is Kennedy. 207 00:12:47,520 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 3: And one way that I'm unique is the spelling of 208 00:12:49,880 --> 00:12:52,480 Speaker 3: my name, like it's na spell a little wire. I 209 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:55,319 Speaker 3: feel with to either at the end because that's the 210 00:12:55,400 --> 00:13:00,160 Speaker 3: same way that my mother my name was a mine. 211 00:13:01,720 --> 00:13:07,679 Speaker 4: Going that im is my Namemari because not everybody's spelled 212 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:11,319 Speaker 4: their name like me, and there's only one week, and 213 00:13:11,840 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 4: I would think of the core sipons, so that's very special. 214 00:13:23,679 --> 00:13:27,840 Speaker 1: I want to thank Valencia, Calli, Samaya, Amari and Kennedy 215 00:13:27,960 --> 00:13:30,959 Speaker 1: for joining me for this episode. To learn more about 216 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:33,079 Speaker 1: the work Elite twenty three is doing, be sure to 217 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:35,640 Speaker 1: visit the show notes at Therapy for Blackgirls dot com 218 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,480 Speaker 1: slash Little Mermaid and be sure to text two of 219 00:13:38,559 --> 00:13:40,640 Speaker 1: your girls to tell them to check out this episode 220 00:13:40,679 --> 00:13:43,400 Speaker 1: as well. If you're looking for a therapist in your area, 221 00:13:43,760 --> 00:13:46,280 Speaker 1: be sure to check out our therapist directory at Therapy 222 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:49,240 Speaker 1: for Blackgirls dot com slash directory. And if you want 223 00:13:49,280 --> 00:13:51,319 Speaker 1: to continue digging into this topic or just be in 224 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:53,920 Speaker 1: community with other sisters, come on over and join us 225 00:13:53,960 --> 00:13:56,280 Speaker 1: in the Sister Circle. 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