1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Hello, everybody, Welcome back to the show. Welcome back to 2 00:00:03,840 --> 00:00:07,120 Speaker 1: the podcast, new listeners, old listeners. Wherever you are in 3 00:00:07,120 --> 00:00:09,080 Speaker 1: the world, it is so great to have you here 4 00:00:09,480 --> 00:00:12,879 Speaker 1: back for another episode. Today's episode, though you may have 5 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:18,000 Speaker 1: already noticed, is a rerun, So over the next two weeks, 6 00:00:18,280 --> 00:00:21,840 Speaker 1: I am putting out some of my best episodes from 7 00:00:21,880 --> 00:00:24,959 Speaker 1: the last four years of almost NonStop podcasting as I 8 00:00:25,040 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: just take some time away to launch my debut book, 9 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: Person in Progress, A Roadmap to the Psychology of Your Twenties. 10 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:34,160 Speaker 1: Do not fret. I will be back on the twenty 11 00:00:34,240 --> 00:00:36,479 Speaker 1: ninth of April, but I just wanted to give my 12 00:00:36,560 --> 00:00:38,880 Speaker 1: book a little bit of extra love these next two 13 00:00:38,880 --> 00:00:41,599 Speaker 1: weeks because it's a big deal and I'm not going 14 00:00:41,640 --> 00:00:43,400 Speaker 1: to talk about it too much. I'm sure you're just 15 00:00:43,440 --> 00:00:46,199 Speaker 1: here to listen to the podcast and probably sick of 16 00:00:46,240 --> 00:00:48,920 Speaker 1: me talking about it, but I just want to say 17 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 1: thank you. I want to say a huge thank you 18 00:00:51,680 --> 00:00:54,200 Speaker 1: for allowing me to write this book and put it 19 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:57,200 Speaker 1: out in the world. This is only possible because of 20 00:00:57,240 --> 00:01:00,760 Speaker 1: you all. Because of you, guys, the listeners. Literally, that's it. 21 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:02,920 Speaker 1: That's the only reason I'm able to do this. And 22 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:05,959 Speaker 1: I've wanted to be an author since I was five. 23 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: Twenty years later, you guys made that happen for me, 24 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:14,959 Speaker 1: So just thank you, Thank you so much. I would 25 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,240 Speaker 1: obviously love it if you could pre order it, buy it, 26 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: gift it to a friend, but you've already done so much, 27 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:23,600 Speaker 1: and I just feel honored to have had this opportunity. 28 00:01:24,120 --> 00:01:26,360 Speaker 1: Most of all, I'm just really pumped for you guys 29 00:01:26,440 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 1: to read it. I hope that you learn something. I'm 30 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:32,039 Speaker 1: sure if you love the podcast, you will love Person 31 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: in Progress as well. But it's a really exciting time 32 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:38,000 Speaker 1: and the main feeling I have right now is one 33 00:01:38,040 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 1: of gratitude. So thank you so much. Without further ado, 34 00:01:42,080 --> 00:01:45,399 Speaker 1: I hope you enjoy this rerun of one of my 35 00:01:45,880 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: favorite all time episodes. Hello everybody, and welcome back to 36 00:01:55,040 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: the Psychology of Your Twenties, the podcast where we talk 37 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:03,240 Speaker 1: through some of the big life changes and transitions of 38 00:02:03,280 --> 00:02:12,960 Speaker 1: our twenties and what they mean for our psychology. Hello everybody, 39 00:02:13,240 --> 00:02:16,360 Speaker 1: welcome back to the show. We'll welcome back to the 40 00:02:16,440 --> 00:02:20,639 Speaker 1: podcast new listeners, old listeners. Wherever you are in the world, 41 00:02:20,720 --> 00:02:23,080 Speaker 1: it is so great to have you here. Back for 42 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:27,399 Speaker 1: another episode. As we of course break down the psychology 43 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:33,400 Speaker 1: of our twenties. If nothing else, our twenties are this 44 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: kind of beautiful time of transformation and reinvention. That is 45 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: a universal truth, a universal statement for me that each 46 00:02:42,520 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: of us, no matter what we're going through, what we're 47 00:02:44,880 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: struggling with, what we do or don't achieve, we will 48 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: have to rediscover time and time again who we are, 49 00:02:52,680 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: and we also have to rediscover how far off that 50 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:58,520 Speaker 1: is from who we want to be. Probably hundreds of 51 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:03,040 Speaker 1: times during this pero period of emerging adulthood, we spend 52 00:03:03,280 --> 00:03:07,560 Speaker 1: so much of childhood and also our teenage years being 53 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:11,160 Speaker 1: the person that others want us to be, or rebelling 54 00:03:11,200 --> 00:03:14,399 Speaker 1: against this version entirely to carve out what we think 55 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:17,080 Speaker 1: is our own space. And I think our twenties is 56 00:03:17,080 --> 00:03:20,839 Speaker 1: when we start to find balance and we really get 57 00:03:20,880 --> 00:03:23,640 Speaker 1: the chance to do that all over again and independently, 58 00:03:24,320 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: and we approach self discovery with a new maturity and 59 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 1: a new sense of truth, things about us become a 60 00:03:33,160 --> 00:03:36,840 Speaker 1: lot more clear, and what we're likely to experience is 61 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:40,720 Speaker 1: a bit of a metamorphosis and a shedding of the 62 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:45,200 Speaker 1: old into the new. This is definitely a right of passage, 63 00:03:45,400 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: and sometimes it's deeply uncomfortable. But when you get to 64 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:53,360 Speaker 1: the point of not really enjoying your life, not liking 65 00:03:53,520 --> 00:03:56,720 Speaker 1: who you are, not knowing what you stand for, what 66 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: your dreams are, who you even want to be, you're really, 67 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:04,920 Speaker 1: I think, called to a place of reinvention. And that 68 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:07,960 Speaker 1: is what I want to talk about today. How can 69 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 1: we reinvent and rediscover ourselves in our twenties when things 70 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:15,840 Speaker 1: start to feel stagnant or off, or we start to 71 00:04:15,840 --> 00:04:18,840 Speaker 1: feel a sense of disconnection between who we are right 72 00:04:18,839 --> 00:04:20,839 Speaker 1: now and who we really want to be, how do 73 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: we kind of shake things up? How do we find 74 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: our path? How do we have that refresh where we 75 00:04:25,720 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: fall back in love with our lives through our old actions. Well, 76 00:04:30,560 --> 00:04:33,599 Speaker 1: we are going to talk through five tips that you 77 00:04:33,600 --> 00:04:36,480 Speaker 1: can work through either step by step or you can 78 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:40,839 Speaker 1: kind of choose one or the other for reinvention during 79 00:04:40,839 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 1: this decade. This includes some methods for visualizing your next 80 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:49,160 Speaker 1: chapter and how to use psychology to really motivate yourself 81 00:04:49,200 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: to get there, How to use psychology to motivate a 82 00:04:52,560 --> 00:04:56,480 Speaker 1: sense of confidence. Also, how we can use that discomfort, 83 00:04:56,600 --> 00:05:00,560 Speaker 1: use the bortom, the isolation, the stagnation, the un certainty 84 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: in our favor rather than fighting against it. How can 85 00:05:04,960 --> 00:05:08,159 Speaker 1: we actually take all of those things that are making 86 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: us cravery invention and help us get there rather than 87 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:17,720 Speaker 1: kind of, I don't know, burden us. We are also 88 00:05:18,000 --> 00:05:22,640 Speaker 1: going to discuss the power of risk and this construct 89 00:05:22,839 --> 00:05:27,240 Speaker 1: called the timeline for change and how to shift from 90 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: very anxious what if thinking to a what else or 91 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:35,240 Speaker 1: so what mentality, which is honestly one of my favorite 92 00:05:35,720 --> 00:05:38,720 Speaker 1: ways to think about this. One of my favorite ideas 93 00:05:38,760 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: in this space is that switch, that mental and cognitive 94 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:46,640 Speaker 1: switch from seeing things in a disaster scenario lens, or 95 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 1: from a disaster scenario lens to an abundant lens from 96 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:56,680 Speaker 1: an abundant position of excess and authenticity and growth. I've 97 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 1: got to say this is one of my favorite episodes 98 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: I've done as of recent because it just combines all 99 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: my favorite like nuggets of advice and theories into one package, 100 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:11,960 Speaker 1: and truly it really represents so much of my philosophy 101 00:06:12,640 --> 00:06:15,160 Speaker 1: towards this period in our lives. You know, our twenties 102 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: are for exploration, They are for reinvention, rebuilding, transformation more 103 00:06:21,880 --> 00:06:25,160 Speaker 1: so than any other time. So I really want us 104 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:28,560 Speaker 1: to be able to unlock that for ourselves, even if 105 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:30,799 Speaker 1: it's through small steps, even if it's not as drastic 106 00:06:30,800 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 1: as you're picturing. Also, I guess whenever I get the 107 00:06:33,560 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: opportunity to talk about risk and our approach to uncertainty, 108 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 1: that is like a favorite topic of mine because it's 109 00:06:42,279 --> 00:06:45,960 Speaker 1: something that I deeply, deeply think is important that we 110 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:49,160 Speaker 1: stop seeing risk is scary and we start seeing risk 111 00:06:49,760 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: as investment. It really falls into this overall concept and 112 00:06:53,560 --> 00:06:58,240 Speaker 1: topic of reinvention. So I am very excited to talk 113 00:06:58,240 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: about this. I'm enthused, I'm invigorated. So I think, without 114 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,760 Speaker 1: further ado, let us get into the five ways that 115 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:16,800 Speaker 1: we can reinvent ourselves in our twenties. Reinventing yourself changing 116 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:19,440 Speaker 1: your life, I think it really has to begin with 117 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:24,200 Speaker 1: identifying what it is about your current circumstances, your day 118 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: to day, your habits that are dissatisfying to you. What 119 00:07:29,520 --> 00:07:32,600 Speaker 1: is the main feeling that you have towards your life 120 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:35,520 Speaker 1: at the moment that is giving you this itch to 121 00:07:35,680 --> 00:07:38,920 Speaker 1: change things up, that is making you restless. There are 122 00:07:38,960 --> 00:07:42,200 Speaker 1: a few big ones that I think are specifically noteworthy 123 00:07:42,200 --> 00:07:46,520 Speaker 1: in our twenties. The first one is boredom. Boredom feeling 124 00:07:46,640 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 1: like not much is happening in your life. Nothing exciting 125 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:54,240 Speaker 1: is happening, nothing is changing, You're not changing the things 126 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:58,280 Speaker 1: that really elevate our day to day experiences, like adventure, 127 00:07:58,880 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: like excitement, like spontaneity. It's just not there. It's this 128 00:08:03,480 --> 00:08:06,760 Speaker 1: sense of just like plainness, boredom is the first one. 129 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:09,800 Speaker 1: Then we have stagnation, and this is very similar to boredom, 130 00:08:10,280 --> 00:08:13,120 Speaker 1: but it's more so centered on a sense that you've 131 00:08:13,200 --> 00:08:16,920 Speaker 1: kind of become complacent in some domain of your life, 132 00:08:16,960 --> 00:08:20,160 Speaker 1: even if you're still doing fun things. This is particularly 133 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:22,920 Speaker 1: to do with our careers or to do with some 134 00:08:23,160 --> 00:08:26,440 Speaker 1: larger goal finding that you know you're really not working 135 00:08:26,480 --> 00:08:29,559 Speaker 1: towards something the way that you anticipated that you would 136 00:08:29,560 --> 00:08:31,200 Speaker 1: be or the way that you have in the past, 137 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: feeling very stuck. Then we have isolation, lacking connection, lacking community, 138 00:08:38,400 --> 00:08:41,560 Speaker 1: feeling lonely, and maybe with that, you know some fomo 139 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: that you're missing out on the experiences that others seem 140 00:08:45,440 --> 00:08:48,120 Speaker 1: to be having during this time. And then the final 141 00:08:48,160 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: feeling that I think also makes us quite itchy for 142 00:08:51,320 --> 00:08:55,600 Speaker 1: change is just a general discomfort, a feeling that's probably 143 00:08:55,640 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 1: very similar to anxiety that something about your life just 144 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:02,400 Speaker 1: isn't quite right. You don't seem to fit in your 145 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:07,400 Speaker 1: current circumstances anymore. You know, you have these habits, these friends, 146 00:09:07,440 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: these situations that your body is very instinctually telling you 147 00:09:11,920 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 1: this is not what we want. We're not comfortable here, 148 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:17,400 Speaker 1: we're not happy here. And often it does that through 149 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: heightened sensitivity, being very nervous, repetitive thoughts, that again and 150 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 1: again bringing you back to some issue that you're having 151 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:30,600 Speaker 1: a sense of detachment between who you know you can 152 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:36,280 Speaker 1: be and who you are now. So these feelings boredom, stagnation, isolation, 153 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:41,040 Speaker 1: and discomfort, they tell us something very useful, even though 154 00:09:41,040 --> 00:09:44,640 Speaker 1: it's unpleasant. And what they're telling us is that we 155 00:09:44,760 --> 00:09:48,080 Speaker 1: need to change, we need to shift, we need to 156 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:52,600 Speaker 1: be doing something different, and hopefully sooner rather than later. 157 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:55,600 Speaker 1: The reason that I say sooner rather than later is 158 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: because if you don't do something, not instantly, but pretty soon, 159 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:04,679 Speaker 1: the alternative is that we begin to get quite comfortable 160 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:08,480 Speaker 1: with the discomfort. We get comfortable with being bored, with 161 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:12,440 Speaker 1: being lonely, with being stuck, and we think that that's normal. 162 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 1: In psychology, this process is actually called habituation, and it 163 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,920 Speaker 1: refers to our tendency to get more and more used 164 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 1: to something that used to frustrate us or bother us 165 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:27,760 Speaker 1: as time goes on. You know, I think about so I, 166 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: for example, I actually live under like a plane line 167 00:10:31,800 --> 00:10:34,199 Speaker 1: what's it called, like a flight path? Right, And when 168 00:10:34,240 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: I first moved into this house, like the sound of 169 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:42,520 Speaker 1: planes going overhead was so would just bother me so much, 170 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,440 Speaker 1: it was all I could think about. But the longer 171 00:10:45,480 --> 00:10:47,360 Speaker 1: that I've lived here, I don't even notice it anymore. 172 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:51,040 Speaker 1: Like I'm sure that about five planes had probably flown 173 00:10:51,120 --> 00:10:54,040 Speaker 1: over the skies above my house in the time that 174 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:57,679 Speaker 1: I've been recording this. But I've become habituated. And that 175 00:10:57,840 --> 00:11:01,839 Speaker 1: is the same thing that happens when we get comfortable 176 00:11:02,480 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: with something that we should not be comfortable with. You 177 00:11:05,640 --> 00:11:08,080 Speaker 1: should not be comfortable with being born in your life, 178 00:11:08,600 --> 00:11:13,320 Speaker 1: or being isolated, or being you know, stagnant. And we 179 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:18,120 Speaker 1: have a really small window to stop that habituation from happening, 180 00:11:18,320 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: and to act otherwise. It does get harder and harder. 181 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:24,360 Speaker 1: It's like breaking a bad habit. What we want to 182 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,640 Speaker 1: explore is what life would look like if we flipped 183 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:31,360 Speaker 1: those emotional states to be the complete opposite. So when 184 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:35,120 Speaker 1: we felt bored. We made a commitment to pursue excitement 185 00:11:35,800 --> 00:11:39,679 Speaker 1: when we felt stagnant. We made a commitment to pursue growth, 186 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:45,400 Speaker 1: to pursue connection over isolation, to pursue peace and boundaries 187 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,719 Speaker 1: over discomfort. So what I want from you is to 188 00:11:49,520 --> 00:11:53,080 Speaker 1: begin with notice what is driving you to want to 189 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:57,000 Speaker 1: reinvent or refresh your life, and then make a plan 190 00:11:57,080 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 1: for the next thirty days to do all the things 191 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 1: feel the exact opposite to that initial feeling. We're going 192 00:12:05,160 --> 00:12:08,920 Speaker 1: to really shake up your life whilst you're still feeling 193 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 1: motivated by the discomfort. For example, if you are just 194 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:16,200 Speaker 1: feeling so bored with your life right now, I want 195 00:12:16,200 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 1: you to make a list in your notes up or 196 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: on a sheet of paper to put on your fridge 197 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 1: of a series of activities that you've always wanted to 198 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:24,920 Speaker 1: do in your city or your town that you haven't 199 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:27,280 Speaker 1: and I want you to be committed to doing one 200 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:30,800 Speaker 1: every two days, every three days. Or if there is 201 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:34,079 Speaker 1: a class a hobby you've always wanted to pursue, sign 202 00:12:34,160 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 1: up for a six week course that you have to 203 00:12:36,400 --> 00:12:39,440 Speaker 1: go to week after a week, get a new gym membership, 204 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:46,320 Speaker 1: just do something different. Novel experiences quite literally give the 205 00:12:46,360 --> 00:12:51,000 Speaker 1: impression of creating more time in our lives. And there's 206 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,840 Speaker 1: a twenty sixteen study around this that has become quite 207 00:12:53,880 --> 00:12:57,360 Speaker 1: well known that found that the older we get, time 208 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 1: does seem to actually pass quicker, not because it's actually 209 00:13:01,040 --> 00:13:04,640 Speaker 1: going any faster, but because we are learning less, we 210 00:13:04,679 --> 00:13:09,120 Speaker 1: are exposed to fewer new things, we become more accustomed 211 00:13:09,120 --> 00:13:13,160 Speaker 1: to what we already know. But what actually creates the 212 00:13:13,240 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 1: mental experience of more time is novelty and newness, and 213 00:13:18,440 --> 00:13:20,880 Speaker 1: that is what we need to reintroduce to kind of 214 00:13:20,920 --> 00:13:25,040 Speaker 1: pull us out of the path towards indifference and monotony. 215 00:13:25,720 --> 00:13:27,960 Speaker 1: So put the excitement back in your life, because that 216 00:13:28,080 --> 00:13:30,440 Speaker 1: is a choice for you. You know, that is something 217 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:33,719 Speaker 1: that you can change on your own to reinvent how 218 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:36,840 Speaker 1: you feel about your circumstances. The same goes for if 219 00:13:36,880 --> 00:13:40,360 Speaker 1: you're feeling stagnant, you know, identify what area that's in 220 00:13:40,440 --> 00:13:43,320 Speaker 1: and make yourself a list of a series of things 221 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: that you know would help you break out of that. 222 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:48,080 Speaker 1: If it's work related, which I find it often is, 223 00:13:48,160 --> 00:13:50,880 Speaker 1: or career related, I want you to change your routine. 224 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:53,040 Speaker 1: I want you to spend thirty minutes a day applying 225 00:13:53,040 --> 00:13:57,080 Speaker 1: for new jobs. Instead of scrolling, I want you to 226 00:13:57,280 --> 00:13:59,760 Speaker 1: be networking. I want you to be, you know, re 227 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:03,360 Speaker 1: out to people that you admire online, shooting off those 228 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:06,520 Speaker 1: emails so that when you go to bed, you have 229 00:14:06,559 --> 00:14:09,560 Speaker 1: a sense that you've done something. You know, sign up 230 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 1: for the networking event, contemplate what you could do next. 231 00:14:12,559 --> 00:14:16,640 Speaker 1: I think reinvention is all about movement and picking the 232 00:14:16,679 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 1: direction you want to go in and actually pursuing it. 233 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:24,440 Speaker 1: Once you've kind of tested sliding the dial to your boredom, 234 00:14:25,000 --> 00:14:28,680 Speaker 1: your stagnation, whatever it is, in the opposite direction, it's 235 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:33,160 Speaker 1: time to really begin to visualize your next error and 236 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:36,000 Speaker 1: who this new version of you will be, but also 237 00:14:36,040 --> 00:14:39,280 Speaker 1: how this new version of you will act. You know, 238 00:14:39,360 --> 00:14:44,320 Speaker 1: in your wildest fantasies, your greatest, largest dreams, who is 239 00:14:44,360 --> 00:14:48,600 Speaker 1: your authentic self? Who is the character staring back at you? 240 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:52,400 Speaker 1: If you still are unsure about who that is, how 241 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:55,360 Speaker 1: to even visualize this version of yourself? I have some 242 00:14:55,520 --> 00:14:59,320 Speaker 1: questions to really help you bring elements of this person forward. 243 00:15:00,160 --> 00:15:02,000 Speaker 1: So what are some of the dreams that you've had 244 00:15:02,080 --> 00:15:04,840 Speaker 1: for as long as you can remember that you've always 245 00:15:04,880 --> 00:15:08,880 Speaker 1: put off? What truly excites you? What could you talk 246 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:12,840 Speaker 1: about for hours in five years time, what would your 247 00:15:12,880 --> 00:15:15,880 Speaker 1: ideal but average day in your life look like? And 248 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 1: how is that different from now? What chapter of your 249 00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: life are you ready to close? And what is holding 250 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:26,080 Speaker 1: you back from closing that chapter or what is holding 251 00:15:26,080 --> 00:15:30,400 Speaker 1: you back from putting everything behind the truest version of yourself. 252 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:35,760 Speaker 1: Your answers to these questions should really begin to direct 253 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:39,200 Speaker 1: you to what this next era of your life is 254 00:15:39,280 --> 00:15:42,000 Speaker 1: going to bring. You know, if you were to look 255 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: back I think, and if we were to look back 256 00:15:44,040 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 1: at past version, you know, past parts of our life story, 257 00:15:48,120 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 1: you start to really see in hindsight these strange lines 258 00:15:52,160 --> 00:15:54,800 Speaker 1: or periods that are carved into your memories. You begin 259 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:58,840 Speaker 1: to notice that life isn't one long sequence of events 260 00:15:58,880 --> 00:16:02,600 Speaker 1: and I guess it, but actually it's a series of 261 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:06,080 Speaker 1: seasons and a series of periods within which you've had 262 00:16:06,160 --> 00:16:12,360 Speaker 1: different goals, maybe different friends, different ambitions, different sense of style. 263 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:15,440 Speaker 1: You maybe've even lived in a different place, your routine 264 00:16:15,520 --> 00:16:18,960 Speaker 1: was different. We each have these different errors or chapters 265 00:16:18,960 --> 00:16:21,920 Speaker 1: of our lives that represent who we were and what 266 00:16:21,960 --> 00:16:25,120 Speaker 1: we were going through at that time. And this next 267 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:27,760 Speaker 1: era for you is going to be one of authenticity. 268 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:31,320 Speaker 1: It's going to be one where you're going to channel 269 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:37,800 Speaker 1: all of those deeply rooted dreams and values and goals 270 00:16:38,360 --> 00:16:41,160 Speaker 1: and actually just spend the next six months to a 271 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:45,280 Speaker 1: year prioritizing them. That is how you're going to bring 272 00:16:45,280 --> 00:16:49,040 Speaker 1: yourself into this next chapter and reinvent yourself. We can 273 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:52,800 Speaker 1: be in the business of deciding when a new season 274 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:56,760 Speaker 1: begins for us, regardless of what is happening externally, and 275 00:16:56,800 --> 00:17:01,560 Speaker 1: that really starts with being able to see, feel, touch, here, 276 00:17:01,840 --> 00:17:05,240 Speaker 1: experience what this new era represents for you before it 277 00:17:05,280 --> 00:17:08,240 Speaker 1: even emerges. And you've already done that in a way 278 00:17:08,240 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: by focusing on those questions that we were talking about before. 279 00:17:11,440 --> 00:17:14,240 Speaker 1: You do already have an idea, but then you have 280 00:17:14,320 --> 00:17:16,720 Speaker 1: to get it out of your mind into some physical form, 281 00:17:17,160 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 1: either through action or through something like visualization. So some 282 00:17:20,960 --> 00:17:23,400 Speaker 1: ways that people do this is through like vision boards, 283 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:26,280 Speaker 1: you know, spending an afternoon really putting to page or 284 00:17:26,320 --> 00:17:30,640 Speaker 1: to poster what this next chapter looks like for you, 285 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:33,080 Speaker 1: you know, with pictures of destinations that you'll visit and 286 00:17:33,119 --> 00:17:36,639 Speaker 1: accomplishments and the nature that you'll see, the mornings that 287 00:17:36,680 --> 00:17:39,520 Speaker 1: you'll have, the hobbies that will relax you. You need 288 00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 1: to have an idea of what you're actually aiming for here, 289 00:17:42,320 --> 00:17:46,960 Speaker 1: and visualization is extremely psychologically powerful. There was a recent 290 00:17:47,080 --> 00:17:51,120 Speaker 1: study that said about a quarter of successful entrepreneurs use 291 00:17:51,800 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: vision boards or a similar process to map out change 292 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:57,480 Speaker 1: for themselves. And there was a twenty nineteen study that 293 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:01,840 Speaker 1: also suggests that vision boards, as much as we sometimes 294 00:18:01,920 --> 00:18:06,280 Speaker 1: think that they're silly, actually no, they almost double an 295 00:18:06,280 --> 00:18:10,800 Speaker 1: individual's level of confidence in their ability to effectively execute 296 00:18:10,840 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 1: actions necessary to achieve a desired outcome. And it really 297 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:20,480 Speaker 1: promotes people to seek out supportive resources, and it keeps 298 00:18:20,680 --> 00:18:24,040 Speaker 1: this vision of who they want to be, who they're 299 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:28,000 Speaker 1: working towards, very squarely in the front of their mind. 300 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:31,239 Speaker 1: Because life is full of distractions. There are lots of 301 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:34,280 Speaker 1: things pulling us this way that way. You know, you're busy, 302 00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:39,520 Speaker 1: you know, there's people's expectations, there's money to worry about, 303 00:18:39,640 --> 00:18:44,120 Speaker 1: there's you know, relationships to worry about. But this method 304 00:18:44,200 --> 00:18:48,439 Speaker 1: really squarely says, very deeply, says no, this is what 305 00:18:48,480 --> 00:18:50,400 Speaker 1: we're working towards right now, This is who we want 306 00:18:50,400 --> 00:18:54,000 Speaker 1: to be. Another way to do this if visualization and 307 00:18:54,160 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: you know, mood boards, vision boards sorry, aren't really your 308 00:18:57,760 --> 00:19:02,320 Speaker 1: favorite method. It's too idea identify a theme for your 309 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:05,440 Speaker 1: new Error that you really want to embody and that 310 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:11,640 Speaker 1: you will use to charge, motivate, direct everything that you're 311 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,640 Speaker 1: doing in this new season. As in, you know, when 312 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:16,720 Speaker 1: it's time to make a decision or you have a 313 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:19,360 Speaker 1: hard choice ahead of you, I want you to have 314 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:26,399 Speaker 1: that one theme, that one word that decisively chooses for you. 315 00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:29,359 Speaker 1: Let me explain this a little bit more so with 316 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:33,160 Speaker 1: this new Error. Your theme could be discipline, It could 317 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 1: be reinvention, rebirth, passion, creativity, authenticity, exploration, intuition, focus, courage. 318 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:45,600 Speaker 1: I want you to choose one of those, or one 319 00:19:45,600 --> 00:19:48,640 Speaker 1: of your own, a theme that is going to sit 320 00:19:48,720 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 1: at the core of everything you aim to do for 321 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:54,760 Speaker 1: the next six months. Let me use the theme of 322 00:19:54,800 --> 00:19:57,640 Speaker 1: reinvention here to explain why this works. You know it's 323 00:19:57,720 --> 00:20:01,479 Speaker 1: very appropriate for this episode, but to embody reinvention, that 324 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:04,640 Speaker 1: really means doing things differently right, making space for what's new, 325 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,960 Speaker 1: making space for things that you haven't tried before. Maybe 326 00:20:07,960 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: because you're scared, you're embarrassed, you're held back by the 327 00:20:10,119 --> 00:20:12,560 Speaker 1: judgments of others, but you're going to do it anyways. 328 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:15,720 Speaker 1: You are stepping into this new era, You're reinventing yourself. 329 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,480 Speaker 1: So if someone invites you to a party that you'd 330 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:21,199 Speaker 1: normally not go to and you're kind of arming and 331 00:20:21,440 --> 00:20:24,640 Speaker 1: erring about whether you want to go, you have an 332 00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:30,199 Speaker 1: easy solution here, what decision would best align with that theme? Reinvention. 333 00:20:31,200 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: The decision that best aligns is to go to the party. 334 00:20:34,160 --> 00:20:38,440 Speaker 1: That is your directive. If you're back and forthing over 335 00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:40,879 Speaker 1: leaving the house and I don't know, an outfit that 336 00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:44,240 Speaker 1: you probably never wear and you're like, maybe I should 337 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:47,399 Speaker 1: take this off. I don't really know. Well, you have 338 00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:50,679 Speaker 1: to be guided by reinvention above all else. Everything is 339 00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:52,919 Speaker 1: coming back to this theme for the next six months. 340 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 1: It is a very simple, you know, compass for you, 341 00:20:57,160 --> 00:21:00,680 Speaker 1: a decision making tool that's like, Okay, if I'm face 342 00:21:00,760 --> 00:21:03,600 Speaker 1: with two choices, the one that best aligns with my 343 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:06,320 Speaker 1: theme is the one that I have to do, is 344 00:21:06,359 --> 00:21:09,800 Speaker 1: the one that I need to pursue. This is just 345 00:21:09,800 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 1: such a powerful, I think, mental trick, because sometimes we 346 00:21:14,240 --> 00:21:16,960 Speaker 1: set out to reinvent our lives and like I said, 347 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:20,000 Speaker 1: you know, you kind of try and do a whole overhaul, 348 00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:23,040 Speaker 1: and you want to change everything right now at once, 349 00:21:23,920 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 1: and eventually, like this version of you that you're actually 350 00:21:26,840 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 1: aiming for gets a little bit lost in all the chaos. 351 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:32,119 Speaker 1: When you simplify it, when you bring it back to 352 00:21:32,240 --> 00:21:35,280 Speaker 1: one theme and one theme only, you are just better 353 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,600 Speaker 1: able to truly focus and not get caught up in 354 00:21:38,640 --> 00:21:42,120 Speaker 1: the clutter and not get caught up in the chaos 355 00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:46,800 Speaker 1: that transformation often brings. Moving beyond this method, let's now 356 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:51,160 Speaker 1: turn to some longer term activities for refreshing recharging your 357 00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:55,880 Speaker 1: life in your twenties, specifically to do with goal setting. Now, 358 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:58,720 Speaker 1: I'm going to say something that might be controversial, that 359 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: might be unexpected, but goal setting to me is one 360 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,600 Speaker 1: of the most boring things to talk about in the world. 361 00:22:05,080 --> 00:22:09,040 Speaker 1: And that might surprise you, but I really struggle to, 362 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:11,399 Speaker 1: you know, be around people who have a million goals 363 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:13,840 Speaker 1: for every single thing in their life because it just 364 00:22:13,840 --> 00:22:17,119 Speaker 1: feels so intense and disciplined to me. And my natural 365 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:21,200 Speaker 1: inclination is and was, to really feel my way through 366 00:22:21,240 --> 00:22:24,120 Speaker 1: things and to like go with my gut rather than 367 00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: having like a two year, five year plan. You know, 368 00:22:27,080 --> 00:22:29,000 Speaker 1: I could work very hard at things for a long 369 00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:31,920 Speaker 1: period of time, but you know, I wasn't really into 370 00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:35,439 Speaker 1: resetting goals every six months and planning out where I 371 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: wanted to be and doing distinct things to make that happen. 372 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:46,040 Speaker 1: I have slowly begun to retire that philosophy that you know, 373 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:48,359 Speaker 1: I think I was misguided. I thought that goal setting 374 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:54,080 Speaker 1: had to be really intensive, when actually, no, it doesn't 375 00:22:54,080 --> 00:22:56,120 Speaker 1: have to be that way. It doesn't have to make 376 00:22:56,160 --> 00:23:02,400 Speaker 1: you an ultra disciplined person. Actually it's really about change, 377 00:23:02,480 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: right And you know, as we always say, nothing changes 378 00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:09,120 Speaker 1: if you don't and in a similar vein, nothing changes 379 00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 1: if you can't imagine them changing. And that is really 380 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:16,240 Speaker 1: what goal setting is all about, saying to yourself, this 381 00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,640 Speaker 1: could be different. This part of my life, my routine, 382 00:23:19,720 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 1: my lifestyle, my job could be different, and I could 383 00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:26,400 Speaker 1: be happier. And I'm going to trust myself and I'm 384 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:30,080 Speaker 1: going to believe that I am capable of doing that, 385 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:33,480 Speaker 1: of bringing about that change. I think, instead of having 386 00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,840 Speaker 1: one big goal that is miles away. I was recently 387 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:40,919 Speaker 1: introduced to this concept called the timeline for change. And 388 00:23:41,000 --> 00:23:44,760 Speaker 1: the timeline for change is another way of conceptualizing your 389 00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:49,639 Speaker 1: goals or setting up benchmarks that is a bit less 390 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:54,879 Speaker 1: intensive and more daily and broken down into these small pieces. 391 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:57,879 Speaker 1: You have a one year goal, a six month goal, 392 00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:01,640 Speaker 1: a monthly goal and a day or what we would 393 00:24:01,760 --> 00:24:04,280 Speaker 1: you know typically call a micro habit, the thing that 394 00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:07,440 Speaker 1: you do each day that hopefully builds to the big 395 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:10,959 Speaker 1: win at the end. You can really then apply this 396 00:24:11,080 --> 00:24:15,959 Speaker 1: like timeline for change to whatever area you desire, whatever 397 00:24:16,080 --> 00:24:20,760 Speaker 1: area needs reinvention, needs a refresh. It could be Korea, friendship. 398 00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:24,760 Speaker 1: Health finance is a creative passion. Think about, you know, 399 00:24:24,800 --> 00:24:28,640 Speaker 1: transforming your health. For example, you know, perhaps your timeline 400 00:24:28,680 --> 00:24:32,200 Speaker 1: for change would be to every day walk for thirty minutes, 401 00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:34,359 Speaker 1: and then your one month goal would be to go 402 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:36,760 Speaker 1: to the gym twice a week. Your six month goal 403 00:24:36,840 --> 00:24:39,240 Speaker 1: is to run a five k and by one year 404 00:24:39,320 --> 00:24:41,320 Speaker 1: to have a gym routine and be able to run 405 00:24:41,440 --> 00:24:45,600 Speaker 1: ten k. I think fitness related goals slot very easily 406 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:48,159 Speaker 1: into the timeline for change, but you can kind of 407 00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:51,680 Speaker 1: see how this method really allows you to combine both 408 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 1: momentum and sustainable habit building with that long term planning. 409 00:24:57,480 --> 00:24:59,720 Speaker 1: You know, because your your goals are sitting along a 410 00:24:59,760 --> 00:25:03,560 Speaker 1: gym nie, they're sitting along a timeline rather than just 411 00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:08,760 Speaker 1: consisting of a start line, an ambitious big dream, and 412 00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:10,960 Speaker 1: a finish line. You know a sense of what is 413 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,639 Speaker 1: going to be like when you get there and you 414 00:25:13,680 --> 00:25:16,760 Speaker 1: know nothing in between. And I think that is exactly 415 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:19,639 Speaker 1: why most New Year's resolutions often fail. You know, there 416 00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:21,679 Speaker 1: was a poll done by the University of Ohio that 417 00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,359 Speaker 1: showed twenty three percent of people will quit their New 418 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:27,280 Speaker 1: Year's resolutions by the end of January seventh, and almost 419 00:25:27,280 --> 00:25:31,480 Speaker 1: fifty percent by the second week because we underestimate how 420 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,480 Speaker 1: much progress we're going to make, so we think too big, 421 00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:37,480 Speaker 1: and we lack the positive reinforcement along the way because 422 00:25:37,800 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 1: we're only thinking about the beginning and the end and 423 00:25:40,920 --> 00:25:44,840 Speaker 1: b to enact those significant and immediate changes you know, 424 00:25:45,200 --> 00:25:49,320 Speaker 1: psychologically and physically speaking, is it's very very difficult. It's 425 00:25:49,560 --> 00:25:53,119 Speaker 1: very difficult to just come in all guns blazing and 426 00:25:53,240 --> 00:25:56,080 Speaker 1: change everything about your life. You need to build that 427 00:25:56,119 --> 00:26:00,600 Speaker 1: foundation through consistency, not through new peaks with and you know, 428 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:05,760 Speaker 1: dashes of effort. So, to summarize our third tip, give 429 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:10,440 Speaker 1: yourself the necessary space for reinvention by making things actionable, 430 00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:16,240 Speaker 1: by making things realistic, and really implementing a sustainable timeline 431 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 1: for change that you are both excited about but is 432 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:23,600 Speaker 1: also very very doable. Okay, my lovely listeners, we are 433 00:26:23,640 --> 00:26:26,560 Speaker 1: going to take a short break. But when we're back, 434 00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,080 Speaker 1: I want to discuss so more of you know, more 435 00:26:29,119 --> 00:26:34,680 Speaker 1: of our spontaneous, rebellious maybe refreshing paths for change, a 436 00:26:34,800 --> 00:26:40,199 Speaker 1: more energetic, you know, perspective on reinvention. We have a 437 00:26:40,240 --> 00:26:46,920 Speaker 1: lot more to talk about, so please stay with us. 438 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,199 Speaker 1: At some stage you are going to have to do 439 00:26:51,280 --> 00:26:54,560 Speaker 1: something that really scares you or that you didn't think 440 00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,639 Speaker 1: was possible. If you want to grow into your next 441 00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:02,640 Speaker 1: phase long term goal setting, having a planning phase, visualizing, 442 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,960 Speaker 1: articulating what you want, labeling this new error for yourself 443 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,560 Speaker 1: is so wonderful. You know, by that stage you really 444 00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,280 Speaker 1: you can't go wrong. But one of the easiest ways 445 00:27:12,280 --> 00:27:17,000 Speaker 1: to almost guarantee transformation and to speed up your reinvention 446 00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:23,040 Speaker 1: your realignment is to take risks, big or small. Risk 447 00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:26,640 Speaker 1: in my mind, is like the fast forward button. There's 448 00:27:26,720 --> 00:27:29,160 Speaker 1: less accuracy about where you're going to end up right, 449 00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:32,000 Speaker 1: like you're skipping through a movie. You want to get 450 00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:35,719 Speaker 1: to the action quicker, but it means that you really 451 00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:40,480 Speaker 1: propel yourself even faster into this new era. There is 452 00:27:40,520 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: not a single person that you admire, that you respect, 453 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,960 Speaker 1: you idolize, whether that is professionally or personally that has 454 00:27:46,960 --> 00:27:49,240 Speaker 1: gotten to where they are without being a little bit 455 00:27:49,320 --> 00:27:53,320 Speaker 1: daunted and unsure of whether they made the right decision. 456 00:27:53,720 --> 00:27:56,800 Speaker 1: You know, actually, for me, if you're questioning whether you've 457 00:27:56,800 --> 00:28:00,000 Speaker 1: made the right decision, you are exactly in the place 458 00:28:00,160 --> 00:28:02,760 Speaker 1: you need to be, because those are the decisions that 459 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:07,560 Speaker 1: really contribute to growth. Easy decisions feel great because they 460 00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,600 Speaker 1: don't require you to really question anything fundamental about yourself. 461 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,919 Speaker 1: But hard decisions risks. That is where you really have 462 00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:19,320 Speaker 1: to look in the mirror and question what do I 463 00:28:19,359 --> 00:28:22,120 Speaker 1: actually want from my life? A lot of people don't 464 00:28:22,119 --> 00:28:25,199 Speaker 1: do that. Another way I think about it is, you 465 00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:28,439 Speaker 1: know how when we build muscle at the gym or 466 00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:32,200 Speaker 1: when we're working out, what is actually happening are these microtares. 467 00:28:32,680 --> 00:28:35,760 Speaker 1: You know, things are ripping, spaces being made. It's painful, 468 00:28:36,359 --> 00:28:39,400 Speaker 1: but then those holes get filled with new mass and 469 00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:42,920 Speaker 1: we grow. It's a strange analogy, I know, but it's 470 00:28:42,960 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 1: how I think about risk. You know, it's small tears 471 00:28:45,720 --> 00:28:49,400 Speaker 1: that are sometimes sore, that are sometimes uncomfortable. I don't 472 00:28:49,440 --> 00:28:51,040 Speaker 1: really know what you're doing, you know, you don't really 473 00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,840 Speaker 1: know what you're doing, but it needs to happen in 474 00:28:53,920 --> 00:28:58,840 Speaker 1: order to bring about strength and psychologically, risk is scary 475 00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:04,840 Speaker 1: naturally right, because anything that's unfamiliar will cause our brain 476 00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:08,200 Speaker 1: to have quite a natural hesitancy, because it is hesitant 477 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:12,080 Speaker 1: towards the unknown. But just because your mind says something 478 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:17,680 Speaker 1: is scary doesn't necessarily mean it should be avoided. Actually, 479 00:29:17,760 --> 00:29:21,640 Speaker 1: it might mean the opposite. If you're going to do 480 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 1: one thing to reinvent yourself during this decade, it's to 481 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:29,040 Speaker 1: take a risk that you've always wanted to but never 482 00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 1: imagine that you could. And I'm going to give you 483 00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 1: like a rapid fire list as to why I believe 484 00:29:34,440 --> 00:29:38,320 Speaker 1: this truly and deeply, and I want you to seriously 485 00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:42,360 Speaker 1: try and rebut my reasons with the reasons why you shouldn't. 486 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:46,400 Speaker 1: Number one, you will never have as few responsibilities as 487 00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:49,200 Speaker 1: you do now. Number two, you are the youngest that 488 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:52,000 Speaker 1: you will ever be, probably with the least to lose. 489 00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:55,080 Speaker 1: You will never have more time than you have right now. 490 00:29:55,760 --> 00:29:58,760 Speaker 1: I also think that risks are an investment. They are 491 00:29:58,800 --> 00:30:02,000 Speaker 1: not a cost. They will benefit your life and your 492 00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 1: foundations way more than the risks that you don't take, 493 00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 1: and way more than playing it safe. And finally, in 494 00:30:09,640 --> 00:30:13,280 Speaker 1: a very similar vein, you are more likely to live 495 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:18,000 Speaker 1: with regret over the risks you didn't take over the 496 00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:21,440 Speaker 1: ones that you did. And if you want some anecdotal 497 00:30:21,640 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 1: primary evidence of this, ask your parents or your grandparents 498 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,440 Speaker 1: next time you see them what their biggest regrets are, 499 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,640 Speaker 1: and I would say eighty percent of the time, your 500 00:30:31,640 --> 00:30:34,400 Speaker 1: parents are going to say, oh, you know, the time 501 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 1: I didn't travel, the time I was too scared to 502 00:30:36,680 --> 00:30:39,960 Speaker 1: do that thing that I should have, the time that 503 00:30:40,240 --> 00:30:42,280 Speaker 1: I didn't tell that person I loved them, the time 504 00:30:42,280 --> 00:30:45,200 Speaker 1: that I said no to an opportunity that I really 505 00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:49,800 Speaker 1: actually should have taken. Because of imposter syndrome, regret often 506 00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 1: feeds off in action rather than action. Here's the thing, 507 00:30:53,680 --> 00:30:57,840 Speaker 1: reinventing yourself through risk doesn't have to be dramatic. Some 508 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:01,360 Speaker 1: of us get really paralyzed by this idea that to 509 00:31:01,440 --> 00:31:03,680 Speaker 1: move forward we have to do something we are deeply 510 00:31:03,760 --> 00:31:06,360 Speaker 1: uncertain of. And normally this is the case if if 511 00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:09,960 Speaker 1: you're quite risk averse, right so, in psychology and economics 512 00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:12,720 Speaker 1: even there are these different profiles of the types of 513 00:31:12,720 --> 00:31:16,760 Speaker 1: people in their perspective on risk. There are risk positive people, 514 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:20,080 Speaker 1: people who will put it all on the line very 515 00:31:20,120 --> 00:31:23,880 Speaker 1: frequently without really considering the costs. There are risk neutral people, 516 00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:28,080 Speaker 1: people who are very practical, almost mathematical, about the costs 517 00:31:28,080 --> 00:31:30,760 Speaker 1: and benefits of a risk. And then there are risk 518 00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:35,080 Speaker 1: averse individuals, those of us whose minds just naturally exaggerate 519 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:37,800 Speaker 1: the consequences and the costs of the risk over the 520 00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:41,640 Speaker 1: benefits to the point where the risk actually seems entirely ridiculous. 521 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,080 Speaker 1: You know, we are convinced that we should always play 522 00:31:45,080 --> 00:31:48,200 Speaker 1: it safe. And if that is you, if the idea 523 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,080 Speaker 1: of moving to a new country knowing no one, quitting 524 00:31:52,120 --> 00:31:55,280 Speaker 1: your job without anything lined up, if that is really 525 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:59,120 Speaker 1: really scary. What I want you to adopt is this 526 00:31:59,200 --> 00:32:03,560 Speaker 1: idea of micro risks, things that you can slowly incorporate 527 00:32:03,640 --> 00:32:08,120 Speaker 1: to almost increase your tolerance for the uncertainty that comes 528 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:11,560 Speaker 1: along with these decisions. You can go on solo dates, 529 00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:16,200 Speaker 1: You can go on microadventures on the weekend solo. You 530 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:18,600 Speaker 1: don't have to travel across the world. You can book 531 00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:22,719 Speaker 1: an airbnb for the weekend in the mountains near national 532 00:32:22,760 --> 00:32:25,760 Speaker 1: parks and we're like an hour or two away and 533 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:28,640 Speaker 1: just enjoy a new part of the world alone. My 534 00:32:28,720 --> 00:32:32,080 Speaker 1: cousin Stella, actually she was just messaging me about her 535 00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,160 Speaker 1: solo camping trip that she's been on for the last 536 00:32:34,200 --> 00:32:37,240 Speaker 1: two to three days. Literally she's only like an hour 537 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:40,000 Speaker 1: or two from her home, but she's just having the 538 00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,480 Speaker 1: most amazing time, and she's doing something that she may 539 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:46,920 Speaker 1: not normally do, and it's just completely expanded her perspective 540 00:32:46,920 --> 00:32:49,400 Speaker 1: on her life, like in the span of two days, 541 00:32:49,440 --> 00:32:51,880 Speaker 1: just getting out of an old environment and into a 542 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:57,000 Speaker 1: new one. These are small but mighty choices. Some more examples. 543 00:32:57,040 --> 00:33:00,240 Speaker 1: You know, share your passion, your art, your hobbies, your 544 00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:05,200 Speaker 1: lifestyle online to a private audience. Ask new people to 545 00:33:05,240 --> 00:33:09,440 Speaker 1: go for coffee, be spontaneous, do something different this weekend 546 00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:13,120 Speaker 1: that's not your usual Sunday reset, Start putting twenty dollars 547 00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:17,040 Speaker 1: a week aside purely for a dream fund. Just take 548 00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:21,640 Speaker 1: those first steps without worrying about them being perfect. And 549 00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 1: that might not sound like a risky thing to do 550 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,480 Speaker 1: for some people, but I think anything that goes against 551 00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:30,800 Speaker 1: the habits, the systems, the routines that you have in 552 00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:33,800 Speaker 1: place to keep you secure and safe that you are 553 00:33:33,840 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 1: using as a crutch. Anything that's like that, that is 554 00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:40,360 Speaker 1: a risk. That is a risk that you are taking 555 00:33:40,440 --> 00:33:44,240 Speaker 1: to go against what your natural, deeply ingrained intuition is 556 00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:47,280 Speaker 1: telling you to do. What I want you to remember 557 00:33:47,480 --> 00:33:50,720 Speaker 1: is that you are in charge here of creating a 558 00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,880 Speaker 1: reality you love, creating a version of yourself that you 559 00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 1: love even more. Sometimes that's going to take courage. The 560 00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:02,880 Speaker 1: path to reinvention, I think involves risk, and it involves 561 00:34:03,440 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 1: a little bit of fear. So my fifth and my 562 00:34:06,200 --> 00:34:09,720 Speaker 1: final tip for you today is to stop asking yourself 563 00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:14,600 Speaker 1: what if and instead replace that with what else? Or 564 00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:18,920 Speaker 1: my favorite, so what Each of us again, has an 565 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:21,439 Speaker 1: idea of our truer selves, the person that we would 566 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:25,120 Speaker 1: be if no one else was watching, If this magical 567 00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:28,439 Speaker 1: switch was turned, that suddenly meant that you were free 568 00:34:28,480 --> 00:34:32,280 Speaker 1: from others opinions, if the only person we were focused 569 00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:34,359 Speaker 1: on was ourselves. We all had this idea of who 570 00:34:34,360 --> 00:34:37,480 Speaker 1: we would be in that situation. They're almost a fantasy. 571 00:34:37,560 --> 00:34:39,840 Speaker 1: They are a character, you know, that we've created that 572 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:41,720 Speaker 1: we one day aspire to be, but we're not really 573 00:34:42,440 --> 00:34:45,239 Speaker 1: not really focused on that right now now. The things 574 00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:48,160 Speaker 1: that are really maintaining that gap between who we are 575 00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:52,440 Speaker 1: now and who we would really love to be is 576 00:34:52,480 --> 00:34:56,160 Speaker 1: normally our fear of judgment, our fear of upsetting others 577 00:34:56,239 --> 00:35:00,640 Speaker 1: and their expectations, our fear of embarrassment of being perceived, 578 00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:04,280 Speaker 1: that's a huge one, and our fear of change. These 579 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:08,600 Speaker 1: fears are all maintained by these what if disaster scenarios. 580 00:35:09,320 --> 00:35:12,280 Speaker 1: If I start putting myself out there, if I start 581 00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:15,680 Speaker 1: being loud about my hobbies, about my desires, if I 582 00:35:15,719 --> 00:35:18,759 Speaker 1: start wearing what I want, if I start staying no 583 00:35:18,880 --> 00:35:23,400 Speaker 1: to people, if I let myself be perceived as my truest, 584 00:35:23,520 --> 00:35:27,400 Speaker 1: authentic self. What if no one likes this version of me? 585 00:35:28,200 --> 00:35:32,480 Speaker 1: What if I'm ostracized. What if I tell someone about 586 00:35:32,480 --> 00:35:36,160 Speaker 1: my dreams and I fail? What if people don't like 587 00:35:36,239 --> 00:35:39,520 Speaker 1: this reinvented version of me, I lose all my friends 588 00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:41,800 Speaker 1: and I end up alone? You know? What if? What if? 589 00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:46,840 Speaker 1: What if? Not only are most of these very social fears, 590 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:50,200 Speaker 1: meaning that we are being guided more so by the 591 00:35:50,200 --> 00:35:53,840 Speaker 1: potential opinions of others rather than the reality that we 592 00:35:53,920 --> 00:35:56,960 Speaker 1: are the only one who has to experience and enjoy 593 00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:00,400 Speaker 1: our lives, but they are also just anxious thought. They 594 00:36:00,440 --> 00:36:06,160 Speaker 1: are not predictions. They most likely not come true. If 595 00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:10,960 Speaker 1: you've listened to our most recent episode on anxiety, you'll 596 00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:15,120 Speaker 1: know that the easiest way to distinguish between an anxious 597 00:36:15,160 --> 00:36:17,680 Speaker 1: thought and a thought that you should pay attention to 598 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,880 Speaker 1: is if those thoughts begin with a what if, here's 599 00:36:22,920 --> 00:36:27,120 Speaker 1: how we counteract that. We counteract it with what else? 600 00:36:27,480 --> 00:36:31,200 Speaker 1: Or so what statements. So let's take this statement, what 601 00:36:31,320 --> 00:36:33,440 Speaker 1: if I tell everyone about my dreams and I fail? 602 00:36:33,600 --> 00:36:36,680 Speaker 1: You know, I'll be so embarrassed. I better play it safe. 603 00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:39,640 Speaker 1: That's one way of thinking, and it is a naturally 604 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:43,320 Speaker 1: limited way of thinking. But consider now ending that statement 605 00:36:43,440 --> 00:36:47,800 Speaker 1: with so what. Okay, maybe I'll be embarrassed, so what? 606 00:36:47,800 --> 00:36:51,480 Speaker 1: What is the worst case scenario? I'm embarrassed, it's uncomfortable, 607 00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:54,840 Speaker 1: so what? So people might not like me? So what? 608 00:36:55,840 --> 00:36:59,360 Speaker 1: And then again, keep going, keep going with the so 609 00:36:59,480 --> 00:37:03,120 Speaker 1: what's until you get to the final conclusion of your 610 00:37:03,160 --> 00:37:06,319 Speaker 1: fear and you realize that actually there is not much 611 00:37:06,360 --> 00:37:10,720 Speaker 1: harm that embarrassment can really do. This method is about 612 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 1: taking an anxious, fear based thought and actually interrogating it, 613 00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,120 Speaker 1: because so often we're too scared to even think about 614 00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,279 Speaker 1: our anxious thoughts that we just let them get away 615 00:37:20,280 --> 00:37:23,160 Speaker 1: with lying to us. But when we say so what, 616 00:37:23,800 --> 00:37:26,359 Speaker 1: our anxiety kind of is like, oh, well, you've never 617 00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,680 Speaker 1: questioned me before, so I don't really know. I don't 618 00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:32,719 Speaker 1: really know what's going to happen. And that's when I 619 00:37:32,760 --> 00:37:37,120 Speaker 1: think we see things more clearly. We see things for 620 00:37:37,200 --> 00:37:40,680 Speaker 1: what they really are, which is not as big in 621 00:37:40,760 --> 00:37:43,840 Speaker 1: reality as they are in our minds. The other option 622 00:37:43,960 --> 00:37:47,399 Speaker 1: is to say, well, what else? What if people don't 623 00:37:47,440 --> 00:37:50,560 Speaker 1: like this new version of me? Okay, that's one unlikely option, 624 00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:55,319 Speaker 1: but what else? Let's expand that disaster scenario and go 625 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,719 Speaker 1: in search of some other alternatives. You know, what if 626 00:37:58,719 --> 00:38:02,239 Speaker 1: I actually attract people who are really aligned with who 627 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:06,080 Speaker 1: I truly am. What if I suddenly meet the greatest 628 00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:09,560 Speaker 1: friends I'll ever have? What if I suddenly attract a 629 00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:13,919 Speaker 1: love that I deserve? What if I completely level up 630 00:38:14,080 --> 00:38:16,560 Speaker 1: every aspect of my life and I never look back. 631 00:38:16,960 --> 00:38:22,040 Speaker 1: What if I am the happiest I've ever been? What else? Remember? 632 00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:25,560 Speaker 1: The first thought that you have is probably not the 633 00:38:25,600 --> 00:38:28,880 Speaker 1: most accurate, and you can grab onto that thought. You 634 00:38:28,920 --> 00:38:31,400 Speaker 1: can let it control you, you can let it dominate 635 00:38:31,440 --> 00:38:36,960 Speaker 1: your choices. But you also have this extreme power and 636 00:38:37,040 --> 00:38:40,360 Speaker 1: ability to be whoever you want to be if you 637 00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:45,120 Speaker 1: just zoom out and question your fear, replacing that what 638 00:38:45,239 --> 00:38:50,160 Speaker 1: if with what else? Or so what during this brief 639 00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,200 Speaker 1: time that we have on earth? You deserve at the 640 00:38:53,200 --> 00:38:57,439 Speaker 1: bare minimum to actually be yourself. Sometimes we do find 641 00:38:57,480 --> 00:38:59,640 Speaker 1: ourselves in a loop of not knowing who we are, 642 00:39:00,160 --> 00:39:02,760 Speaker 1: not liking who we are either not liking our lives 643 00:39:03,120 --> 00:39:07,799 Speaker 1: because of boredom, stagnation, you know, isolation. The longer you 644 00:39:07,840 --> 00:39:11,960 Speaker 1: spend as this version of you, you will become quite 645 00:39:12,080 --> 00:39:15,480 Speaker 1: used to the discomfort, and you will no longer feel 646 00:39:15,520 --> 00:39:18,400 Speaker 1: like you have to outgrow that shell. You'll just keep 647 00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 1: squeezing yourself back in, hiding away, and it becomes a 648 00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,279 Speaker 1: lot easier to tolerate. I don't want that for you, 649 00:39:26,920 --> 00:39:29,160 Speaker 1: to be honest, I don't want that for anyone. I 650 00:39:29,160 --> 00:39:31,839 Speaker 1: don't want anyone to be eighty and think, what if 651 00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,120 Speaker 1: I've just done it a little bit bigger? What if 652 00:39:34,120 --> 00:39:38,040 Speaker 1: I just had one six month period of reinvention? Because 653 00:39:38,160 --> 00:39:41,120 Speaker 1: you have no idea what that could do for your life. 654 00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:44,960 Speaker 1: You have no idea you know how much growth and 655 00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:50,000 Speaker 1: new experiences you could have in six months. How many 656 00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:51,560 Speaker 1: weeks is that? Oh my god, I've got to do 657 00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:55,799 Speaker 1: quick maths, like twenty four weeks. I could be completely wrong, 658 00:39:55,880 --> 00:39:59,479 Speaker 1: Please correct me. Twenty four weeks, right, yeah, you could 659 00:39:59,520 --> 00:40:02,719 Speaker 1: just be completely new person. That's twenty four weeks of 660 00:40:02,840 --> 00:40:07,839 Speaker 1: time for you to reinvent, transform, invest in yourself. This 661 00:40:07,880 --> 00:40:10,120 Speaker 1: is an investment. I really want you to take your 662 00:40:10,200 --> 00:40:15,680 Speaker 1: dream seriously. Take responsibility for your happiness, take responsibility for 663 00:40:16,040 --> 00:40:20,520 Speaker 1: evolving into the most authentic version of yourself, even if 664 00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:25,000 Speaker 1: that requires a bit of a painful metamorphosis. So I 665 00:40:25,040 --> 00:40:27,279 Speaker 1: really hope that you got something from this episode. I 666 00:40:27,280 --> 00:40:30,319 Speaker 1: hope that you can take on board this advice. You know, 667 00:40:30,360 --> 00:40:32,879 Speaker 1: you can cherry pick it as you wish, if some 668 00:40:32,960 --> 00:40:35,920 Speaker 1: things you already do, some things you don't, whatever you need, 669 00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,080 Speaker 1: take what you need. That's what we always say at 670 00:40:38,080 --> 00:40:40,600 Speaker 1: the end of these episodes, and feel free to send 671 00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:43,520 Speaker 1: it to someone else who you think my benefit, who 672 00:40:43,560 --> 00:40:47,720 Speaker 1: you think might enjoy what we've been talking about. As always, 673 00:40:48,640 --> 00:40:52,160 Speaker 1: five star reviews are also appreciated, as is a follow 674 00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 1: either on Spotify or Apple Podcasts or on Instagram at 675 00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:59,440 Speaker 1: that Psychology podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, or you 676 00:40:59,520 --> 00:41:01,680 Speaker 1: have a few trure episode that you would like to suggest, 677 00:41:02,080 --> 00:41:05,440 Speaker 1: anything to do with psychology, self help, wellness in our twenties, 678 00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:08,040 Speaker 1: mental health in our twenties, I would love to hear 679 00:41:08,040 --> 00:41:12,640 Speaker 1: from you. A final tidbit, we do have an event, 680 00:41:13,120 --> 00:41:17,080 Speaker 1: a friendship event in Melbourne coming up on the tenth 681 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:19,160 Speaker 1: of October. I thought I would sneak that in here. 682 00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:21,200 Speaker 1: So if you are Melbourne based listener and you want 683 00:41:21,239 --> 00:41:23,600 Speaker 1: to make some like minded friends, you want to meet me. 684 00:41:24,360 --> 00:41:27,280 Speaker 1: I think we have a few tickets left on event bright. 685 00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:29,200 Speaker 1: You can go to our Instagram and there will be 686 00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:32,839 Speaker 1: a link in our buyer. I'm really excited to meet 687 00:41:32,840 --> 00:41:35,160 Speaker 1: you guys, so let me know if I'm going to 688 00:41:35,200 --> 00:41:37,279 Speaker 1: see you there. If you'll be there, We'll be doing 689 00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:41,520 Speaker 1: heaps of other events in Sydney, Brisbane, in the Perth 690 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:45,240 Speaker 1: I believe, and then also in the UK and later 691 00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,919 Speaker 1: next year in the US. So cannot wait to meet 692 00:41:47,960 --> 00:41:52,160 Speaker 1: you all. Until next time, Stay safe, stay kind, Please 693 00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:55,560 Speaker 1: be gentle with yourselves. You deserve a gentle life and 694 00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,680 Speaker 1: gentle thoughts. And we will talk very very soon.