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Speaker 1: Thank you for having us.

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Speaker 2: Saw this Morning the Radio, the iHeart Have any time,

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Speaker 2: scenes video content, and on the Tangent. Yesterday our offer

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Speaker 2: Uncentered podcast. We got a little bit of an insight

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Speaker 2: into childbirth. Of course, Paulina is back. Gave birth to

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Speaker 2: baby Gabriella approximately six weeks ago. Yeah, and you came

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Speaker 2: right back to work. Now, I have a lot of

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Speaker 2: questions because you wrote a bunch of stuff down on here.

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Speaker 2: This is not me being overly intrusive, guys. I mean,

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Speaker 2: this is like I get a little guide each day

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Speaker 2: to what everyone's willing to talk about, and you're willing

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Speaker 2: to talk about your your post What was this visit?

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Speaker 2: It wasn't your You've been to the doctor since you

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Speaker 2: had a baby, right.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, they saw me two weeks after, but they want

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Speaker 3: to see you six weeks for your postpartum.

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Speaker 2: So they come and they're taking a look. They're taking

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Speaker 2: a look and look, and you were signed off for

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Speaker 2: for adult activities.

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Speaker 3: I'm clear.

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Speaker 1: Oh hell yeah, did you go ahead and dive right in?

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Speaker 3: I wanted to, but I don't have protection, and I

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Speaker 3: heard that if you don't stay protective, you know, you

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Speaker 3: can have some Irish twins as they call them.

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Speaker 2: Because I did point that out yesterday. I was very concerned,

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Speaker 2: I know, you know, because you were you were thinking

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Speaker 2: you were gonna get the okay. Oh yeah, you got

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Speaker 2: the okay, and then you were thinking that you're ready

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Speaker 2: to just sort of partake in those things. And I

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Speaker 2: think it was on the tangentary off the year. I

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Speaker 2: asked you, and what are you doing to prevent another one?

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Speaker 2: And the answer is nothing?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, I I guess I can't really even get

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Speaker 3: birth control depending what I want to do right, I

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Speaker 3: can't really get it for another week or so. But

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Speaker 3: my husband, Hobby and I have talked and we're like, well,

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Speaker 3: what are the options?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 3: I don't want more kids? And I say this now,

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Speaker 3: I may change my mind, but I don't think I

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Speaker 3: want any more. But I feel like the easiest way

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Speaker 3: would be for him to go and just get snipped

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Speaker 3: and just call it a day.

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Speaker 1: I agree with that, you know what I mean, It's

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Speaker 1: easiest way.

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Speaker 3: But yesterday shout out to a LEXI are my provider

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Speaker 3: at where I go. She mentioned like that it is reversible.

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Speaker 3: But if you do want another kid whatever, it's like

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Speaker 3: not worth the process. She says, I would be one

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Speaker 3: hundred and twenty percent positive you don't want more kids.

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Speaker 3: She's like, you know, so I'm just letting you know,

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Speaker 3: and I'm just like, true, true, But I think I

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Speaker 3: I've never been on birth control too, Like that's my

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Speaker 3: my toxic trait.

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Speaker 1: I never been on birth control, So I think that's

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I've never been on it, Like truthfully, I just

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Speaker 1: So we're trying to.

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Speaker 2: Figure out if that's just in case because you don't

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Speaker 2: want him to go, you know, semi permanently shut down

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Speaker 3: Right because I mean, like you guys, no man should

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Speaker 3: change my mind every five minutes about everything. And it's

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Speaker 1: For him to put his sperm in a bank, I

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Speaker 3: I didn't know that was an option.

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Speaker 2: I think he just took it in a freezer right

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Speaker 2: just right next to like the popsicles, right, I would

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Speaker 2: label it and you know, just to make sure it

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Speaker 2: doesn't am. So yesterday was the first that you left

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Speaker 2: him stay at home dad, Yes, because he took a

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Speaker 2: And how did that go?

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Speaker 3: It went well from my understanding. But also I know

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Speaker 2: Because you asked the question on here, and I'm curious

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Speaker 2: He is.

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Speaker 3: He's honestly better than me. He's more calmon all of

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Speaker 1: Really. Oh yeah, Like there's.

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Speaker 2: We were talking about this on the Tangy yesterday. There's

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Speaker 2: I don't know, there's just a there's something between. There's

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Speaker 2: we can't do a great job, but like, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: it's different. It's different when the guys watching the baby

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Speaker 2: than when then the mother's watching the baby. And I

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Speaker 2: think also your anxiety, probably in anticipation of leaving and

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I just literally bought another camera right now,

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Speaker 3: see like the baby, like the baby, like because she

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Speaker 3: for a long period of time. Oh, I'm gonna be

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Speaker 3: on it with this. He will now she's listening.

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Speaker 3: But like for me, like we said, like I feel

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Speaker 3: like as the mother, you when your baby screams or cries,

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Speaker 3: those those hurt, Like those cries hurt you, like biologically,

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Speaker 3: there's something there, and like I know with him he's

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Speaker 3: it and he's doing a great job. But when I'm there,

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Speaker 3: it's a little different. Mama's more nurturing. I feel like

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Speaker 3: I kind of attend to her knees a little quicker.

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Speaker 3: That's what I've observed. But we'll see, Tee.

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Speaker 2: You could be or he could be like my mom

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Speaker 2: who goes into my sister's house and then turns all

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Speaker 2: She turns the cameras around because she doesn't want.

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Speaker 1: To be watched right every room at Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well, no, she got one in the living room, she

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Speaker 2: then the other thing is they'll call my mom and

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Speaker 2: go do something about it, Like no, she can cry

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Speaker 2: for a minute. You know what I mean, but like, honestly,

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Speaker 2: the cameras, So you're are you watching hobby all day?

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Speaker 3: I do watch the camera. I only have one, but

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Speaker 3: I just purchased another one. The thing is with the cameras.

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Speaker 3: My mom did the same thing too when she came in.

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Speaker 3: The first question she asked me is where are the cameras.

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Speaker 1: I don't have any cameras, but she asks.

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Speaker 3: Where are they? Where are they? And I'm just like,

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Speaker 3: like it's hard not to watch when you have a

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Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: But I'm wondering eight five five five one three five.

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Speaker 2: Someone just texted this. If you can't leave your child

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Speaker 2: with your partner without fear, that's weird.

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Speaker 1: Now, I don't know that. It's not fear.

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Speaker 3: It's not fear and it's not wrong, but I don't

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Speaker 2: I think it's weird for a mom to leave her

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Speaker 1: I don't know what do I know. I'm not married,

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Speaker 1: I don't have kids, I'm not a woman. Actually feeling

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's the first time mom so yeah, and that's

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Speaker 3: that's my child, and I'm always going to feel that

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Speaker 3: I'm still going to feel like she's your respect right,

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Speaker 3: I'm not near her, So of course I have a

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Speaker 1: Valid well, Paulin, we have four kids.

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Speaker 2: Someone texted, I'm still concerned about what I'll return to

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Speaker 4: But he's like, that's why we only have a certain

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Speaker 4: it's like it's like, did you go outside today? Yeah,

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Speaker 4: we went outside. I didn't see it on the cameras all.

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Speaker 1: Don't worry. I think that's very normal.

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Speaker 2: Thinks are normal from the female, especially from the female perspective,

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Speaker 2: especially because of what I'm talking about, what you were

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Speaker 2: It's just that you made the baby, like there's just something,

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Speaker 2: there's some kind of a connectivity between you and this

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Speaker 2: it doesn't make it doesn't make us as man and

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Speaker 3: One hundred percent. And it's like something that you can't really,

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Speaker 3: I don't know, like get over. You just can't. And

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Speaker 3: I probably never will to be honestly, you're always gonna

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Speaker 3: have that. She has cameras for Big Tim and she

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Speaker 3: there's no baby there there.

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Speaker 1: I don't trust him with herself, you know.

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Speaker 5: And I think a lot of times for women, and

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Speaker 5: I'm just again, I have no experience, but I think

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Speaker 5: we are caregivers to are men sometimes like you, you

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Speaker 5: probably take care hobby a lot and do things for him.

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Speaker 5: So you're thinking, like, is he okay? Now you're thinking

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Speaker 5: now it's him and the baby. You're like, oh my god,

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Speaker 5: both of my children, both of my babies are at

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Speaker 5: home and I'm not there, so I would be worried too.

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Speaker 1: One hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: Let me see this Ben. Ben's doing the full background

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Speaker 2: check on these people. Like people are calling and he's

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Speaker 2: asking for their blood type and DNA. So he's like,

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Speaker 2: and I understand, he's typing a full explanation of what

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Speaker 2: I'm about to hear, which is put her on hold? Ben?

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Speaker 1: Put her on hold? Man, Like, how many keys do

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Speaker 1: you have right on hold? Now?

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Speaker 2: Is her name Tessandra? Is your name to Sandra or Cassandra?

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Speaker 2: I'm just curious. It's Cassandra. There is no name tess Sandra,

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Speaker 2: Ben so Ben, There's no such thing anyway.

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Speaker 1: So what did you Good morning to Sandra? Cassandra? How

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Speaker 1: are you?

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Speaker 6: I am good?

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Speaker 5: How are you?

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Speaker 6: Oh my god, I'm freaking out. I love you guys

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Speaker 6: so much.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm very very happy that you called. What what

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Speaker 1: did you want to say about all of this?

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Speaker 6: So? I ended up So I was on maternity late

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Speaker 6: for twelve weeks. I said, the whole twelve weeks, because

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Speaker 6: you know, Mama heads Ppa and I couldn't leave my

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Speaker 6: baby that quickly. God bless you Paulina for being a

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Speaker 6: being able to do that. And so the way our

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Speaker 6: schedule worked out is I have to go to work

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Speaker 6: two days a week in the morning, and then my

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Speaker 6: husband watches him in the morning. That first week was

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Speaker 6: so hard for me. I cried the first day I

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Speaker 6: went on my trinity to leave. I cried the entire

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Speaker 6: time on my way to work. But once I got

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Speaker 6: past that first week and I saw, like my husband

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Speaker 6: get that connection with my son, it's like it's magic

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Speaker 6: to watch how beautiful like their special connection is. And

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Speaker 6: then I have my special connection with him, so it's possible.

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Speaker 6: It's really really cool to see how wonderful my husband

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I'm not saying for one second that men

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Speaker 2: aren't fully capable and the hobbies.

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Speaker 1: I'm fully capable.

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Speaker 2: But I mean, I just I'm curious from the female

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Speaker 2: perspective what that's like when you when you leave your

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Speaker 2: baby at home with anybody.

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Speaker 1: But I mean, let's look at Rufie here. He can

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Speaker 1: keep the kids alive.

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Speaker 3: But I mean, I mean he does it every night.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, But I mean you've heard the man talk. It's like,

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Speaker 1: I mean, when they're infants. I feel like, when they're infants,

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Speaker 1: it's there.

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Speaker 4: It's a lot, it's it's a lot easier because they

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Speaker 4: they don't they they don't move around, they can't, they're

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Speaker 4: they're not vocal.

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Speaker 1: It's it's when they start walking and talking. Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well nine and a half and my husband's like, like,

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Speaker 6: what do I do? And I'm like, you got to

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Speaker 6: figure it out, brother, there's nothing.

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Speaker 2: Else thinking right, Well, to Sandra, it's a pleasure to

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Speaker 2: meet you. I've never met anyone named to Sandra before,

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Speaker 2: but call any time. Okay, I love you too. No,

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Speaker 2: I just have the I have the utmost respect for Honestly,

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Speaker 2: I was just shocked that you wanted to come back

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Speaker 2: so quickly, because I'm not judging. I truly like have

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Speaker 2: so much respect for for you for wanting to come

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Speaker 2: back to your your your working life. But I imagine

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Speaker 2: it's hard.

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Speaker 3: It is so hard, But like I said yesterday, it

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Speaker 3: would have been hard regardless of when for me, Like

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Speaker 3: I want Hobby and my husband to have that bond

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Speaker 3: with his daughter. So that's also why I'm also, you know,

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Speaker 3: like kind of doing this too. But I don't know,

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Speaker 3: I feel like it's gonna we make you work. My therapist,

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Speaker 3: I talked my therapists about this. I was like, what

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Speaker 3: if I get backlash? What if people don't like what

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Speaker 3: that's all you got to tell people. Just stay out

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Speaker 3: of the bike lane.

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Speaker 1: You'll be fine. Buddy.

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Speaker 2: Hey Christina, good morning, Hi, Hi, good morning, Hey, what

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Speaker 2: do you want to say welcome, thanks for listening.

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Speaker 7: By the way, thank you guys. So we have three

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Speaker 7: girls and from the very my oldest is eleven. My

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Speaker 7: mom always says that my husband's the better parent, and

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Speaker 7: that kind of burns, but it's because he's so he runs,

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Speaker 7: he's the opposite.

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Speaker 6: So I'll sit back, I'll watch for.

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Speaker 7: Keys, and my husband just runs like he's so hands on.

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Speaker 7: So my mom's so bragged about him all the time.

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Speaker 7: You know, he's the best dad when they're when they're newborns,

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Speaker 7: and I'm like.

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Speaker 3: Okay, like what about me? Though, I know, I'm like

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Speaker 3: I just popped her out, But that's okay.

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Speaker 1: Christina, thank you so much for calling. Have a great day.

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Speaker 7: Thank you guys.

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Speaker 2: Bye.

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Speaker 1: See this is this.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like something my sister would do. Hey Jamie, Hey,

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Speaker 2: hi Jamie. So what's going on with the cameras? Hi?

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Speaker 7: Okay, So, Paulina, I be careful because I have Irish

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Speaker 7: twins literally eleven eleven months and three weeks apart.

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Speaker 6: My son's due day was my daughter's first birthday.

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Speaker 1: Oh, be careful. So they cut you looe and you

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Speaker 1: were like, let's go.

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Speaker 5: Listen.

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Speaker 7: I honestly I don't even know. And Paulina also, I

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Speaker 7: was never on birth control either. This is my first

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Speaker 7: time ever on birth control, so girl, be careful.

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Speaker 6: Anyway.

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Speaker 7: So I'm a hairdresser and I work every other Saturday,

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Speaker 7: and my husband has the kids every other Saturday. And

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Speaker 7: besides like texting and calling and facetiming, facetiming him like constantly,

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Speaker 7: I get up on the cameras and I'll like see

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Speaker 7: and if he's like doing something or if he's just

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Speaker 7: like sitting on the couch not playing with the kids,

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Speaker 7: I'm like, what are you doing?

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Speaker 2: Because you can yell through the camera right like the app,

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Speaker 2: you can actually talk through the camera on somebody seas Yeah, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: Camera, so yeah, one hot the cameras. Congratulations on your baby,

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Speaker 7: and you go, mom, oh, thank you so much.

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Speaker 3: Congrat see you.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah Jamie, Yeah, they just turned one in two.

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Speaker 1: Wrap it up, girl, please get keep that.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, we're done, We're done.

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Speaker 1: Ye no more, no more. Yeah, listen to that. Paulina,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Jamie, I have a good day, man.

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Speaker 5: Thank you guys too.

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Speaker 2: And Katie called, sorry Katie, we gotta go, but yeah,

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Speaker 2: there you go. So the moral of the story is

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Speaker 2: hot is capable, but install some cameras. Yell at him

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Speaker 2: to the microphone on cameras and wrap it up.

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Speaker 1: Wrap that up. That's what we've learned. And stand the

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Speaker 1: bike lanes too, that we've learned. More Fred Show next

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Speaker 1: right here,