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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 1: I'm Meela. Happy Wednesday, Happy hump Day.

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Speaker 2: How are you.

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Speaker 1: I'm fucking amazing. I love that. I'm great. Yeah, so

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Speaker 1: fucking happy. Honestly, I feel like I've come out from

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Speaker 1: beneath the cloud.

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Speaker 2: Hi.

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Speaker 1: It's me. Hi, how are you. It's me. I'm back.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god, I'm back. When you walked through the door,

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Speaker 2: you were very chipper. I was like, okay, girl.

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Speaker 1: Not chipper. I would like to say I'm generally chipper,

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Speaker 1: but okay, no, you are.

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Speaker 2: But it was to know sometimes you're like, hey, girl,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: For the last three months has been in life, it

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Speaker 1: was versus are making me sound like Daria.

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Speaker 2: It was you are very've been very real.

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Speaker 1: It's hey, I'm fine, everything's fine.

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Speaker 2: I'm fine.

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Speaker 1: Everything was not fine. I was fucking going through it.

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Speaker 1: And you know now I'm doing a lot better. You know,

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Speaker 1: retrograde is over too. I know, like it's just all

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Speaker 1: I'm just all aligned at the same time. It was

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Speaker 1: all going bad at the same time. Quickly it was

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Speaker 1: going bad and then it's getting better at the same time,

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Speaker 1: and I'm just like, like, for real, for real, for all,

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Speaker 1: I feel much much better.

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Speaker 2: How are you do you want to tell people why

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Speaker 2: you feel better? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just doing better.

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Speaker 2: I'm just better overall.

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Speaker 1: I woke up and everything's great. I drank some milk.

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Speaker 2: Are you four?

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Speaker 1: I'm eating cereal. So I have been struggling. I haven't

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Speaker 1: had like I've been in between places and staying at

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Speaker 1: my mom's, staying here, staying there, And finally this week

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Speaker 1: I got an apartment. Yesterday, I moved my shit in

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Speaker 1: so fast. You've never seen a bitch move shit in

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Speaker 1: so fast. Okay, it's never happened. I did it in

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Speaker 1: two hours. Oh my god, you really can't kick me

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Speaker 1: out here. I went through great lengths to get here,

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Speaker 1: great lengths at one point and have a car and

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Speaker 1: a house at the same time. And I was just

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Speaker 1: like on a downward spiral. I was like, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna die. I didn't think I was gonna make it.

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Speaker 1: I didn't see like I knew what the end goal was,

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Speaker 1: but I just was like, it wasn't happening how I

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Speaker 1: wanted to happen. So finally I made planted roots somewhere.

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Speaker 1: I don't even know if I realized it's really yeh.

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Speaker 1: I'm still like remembering like, oh I live here, this

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Speaker 1: is nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think because even like, wait, who are

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Speaker 2: we talking to? You said you got an apartment, and

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Speaker 2: and they were like are you excited? Like hello, You're

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Speaker 2: like I just I'm excited.

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Speaker 1: I just need to get in there, very excited. I'm

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Speaker 1: so excited. I just needed to get there. I needed

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Speaker 1: to get the keys. It took three days, close the door,

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Speaker 1: closed the door, And I'm like, did you do that?

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Speaker 2: Like what was that? Like? When everyone left, and.

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Speaker 1: Just just like literally a weight lifted off of my shoulders,

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Speaker 1: like literally I could not I could not think. I

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Speaker 1: could not think. I could not think. I literally could

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Speaker 1: only think about two things. And it was it was

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Speaker 1: just it's been clouding me and I emotionally, i'd have

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Speaker 1: an anxiety. I was feeling like this is going to

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Speaker 1: be forever. My anxiety was going to be a forever situation.

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Speaker 1: And I don't have anxiety anymore. And like I was

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Speaker 1: catching triple digits and I kept just saying like I

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Speaker 1: need an apartment. I need to get a place. I

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Speaker 1: need get a place. And now I've been catching all

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Speaker 1: these triple digits and I'm like, finally, but I wish

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Speaker 1: you can change.

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Speaker 2: You know.

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Speaker 1: It feels good to just be like, oh that that's

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Speaker 1: done now, like okay, now what I mean, Like even

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Speaker 1: with this like whole breakup bullshit, like just clouded in that,

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Speaker 1: Like I just feel so much better overall, Like none

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Speaker 1: of that shit matters at fucking.

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Speaker 2: All, because you have your own space, space to feel

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Speaker 2: stable and love on yourself the way you want in private,

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Speaker 2: in your own shit period. Yeah, you don't have to

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Speaker 2: stay anywhere because you know what i mean, like if

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Speaker 2: you get into it with someone that you're staying with,

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Speaker 2: or you'd be like where am I going to go

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Speaker 2: right now? I'm gonna figure this out right now. But

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Speaker 2: now it's like no, bye, nigga, bye bitches, catch you later.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, And it's just the power cancer.

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Speaker 2: You need your own little crab hole.

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Speaker 1: I really do. I was really trying it this last year,

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Speaker 1: you know, like literally trying it. This huge, huge struggle

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Speaker 1: for me, and I'm just so happy to like to

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Speaker 1: have let Luna have a room. I got two rooms,

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Speaker 1: not one. I'm just putting stuff in her room. And

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Speaker 1: I was like, I'm just so happy that I'm putting

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Speaker 1: stuff in her room. Ain't nothing in here yet, but

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Speaker 1: it's hers, and I'm putting stuff in, you know, and

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Speaker 1: like your stuff here, and I'm just so I took

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Speaker 1: for granted how important like just being rooted somewhere is.

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Speaker 1: You know, even if I want to like be a butterfly,

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Speaker 1: I still need roots somewhere. And it's just even being

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Speaker 1: like a creative and like trying to be inspired while

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Speaker 1: going through very personal shit that feels like it's a

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Speaker 1: train wreck. It's like, damn it, it's hard to like

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Speaker 1: dedicate that your energy is so caught up in what's

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Speaker 1: stressing you out and you can't Like I didn't feel

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Speaker 1: like I could breathe. Like even when I got a car,

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Speaker 1: I wasn't like I wasn't satisfied, but I was like,

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Speaker 1: I'm just sitting here for a minute, you know what

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Speaker 1: I mean, just sitting here for a minute. But just

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Speaker 1: there's no better fucking feeling for real, I feel really good.

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Speaker 2: Well, I am so proud of you. I'm so relieved

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Speaker 2: for you.

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Speaker 1: And I was probably stressing you out, stressing myself up.

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Speaker 2: No, no, you you. I don't know how you do it,

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Speaker 2: but you'd be pushing through a girl you push through.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I could do handle things the

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Speaker 2: or bad, but but I'm proud of you. I'm really

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Speaker 2: excited for you and Luna to have your own ship

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Speaker 2: and yeah, just have your own ship, you know. And

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Speaker 2: I think I think I've realized too, like how important

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Speaker 2: space is because like I fast forwarding to my trip trip,

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Speaker 2: but I just really realized how much I really do

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Speaker 2: enjoy being alone.

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Speaker 1: I really the Patreon you were going in. Erica went

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Speaker 1: in on Patreon her trip. I was like, I can't

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Speaker 1: do anything. I'm HAPPI you're I'm not happy you're not

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Speaker 1: doing well, but I'm happy you're creating content. You put

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Speaker 1: that shit on Patreon. Girl, I was like, oh wow,

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Speaker 2: Like I'm not even talking to you. You're you're on Patreon.

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh wow, I had no idea Jucys stuff.

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Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I just I had a good trip.

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Speaker 2: Most of the time there was just me and my man.

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Speaker 2: We're just not vibing. We were not getting along consistently

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Speaker 2: enough for me. And I also had some self realizations

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Speaker 2: that about myself, and I realize really how how I

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Speaker 2: can turn off so easily girl, And I feel it happened,

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Speaker 2: like in the middle of the conversation, I'll be like nope,

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Speaker 2: and then it's like and then I can't even help

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Speaker 2: it my smirk. I can't fucking am such a little bitch.

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Speaker 2: I can't help but smirk at you because I think

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Speaker 2: you're dumb. Not dumb, but like I don't really can't

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Speaker 2: understand your feelings. I don't feel heard too, and so

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Speaker 2: if I don't feel hurt, I'm not gonna hear you.

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Speaker 2: That's really what it comes down to. And it's really

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Speaker 2: hard to like work through that with someone when they

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Speaker 2: genuinely feel like they're listening to you and you genuinely

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Speaker 2: it's like two different conversations are happening. And so I

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Speaker 2: don't know. I feel bad because I went with friends,

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Speaker 2: and you know, I didn't want to like impose on

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Speaker 2: their trip. You know, I want my friends to have

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Speaker 2: removed myself from the situation. I literally left my group

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Speaker 2: and got my own hotel room and was like bye, bitches,

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Speaker 2: and you know what, Like something in me was like,

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Speaker 2: like you can't do that.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy what I was proud of you, No, you can't.

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Speaker 2: And then I was like fuck that, Yeah I can't.

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Speaker 2: There was like a big ass of little person on

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Speaker 2: I'm I was proud of myself. Looky, like I know

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Speaker 2: be really, I don't know, annoyed or mad or hurt,

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Speaker 2: I needed this vacation so badly, like I needed to

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Speaker 2: take my bake back. And so I got this little

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Speaker 2: hotel on the beach and it was like the best

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Speaker 2: thing I've ever done. I went there. I did Molly

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Speaker 2: by myself, which by the way, if you've never done that,

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Speaker 2: highly recommend amazing. And I just spent time with myself.

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Speaker 2: I rolled around my room. I fucking text my friends.

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Speaker 2: I loved them and shit, and.

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Speaker 1: I rolled around my room I did.

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Speaker 2: I was like rolled. My sheets were so white and

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Speaker 2: was like felt it was drugs. It was drugs, it was,

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Speaker 2: but also it was great. So the little things you

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Speaker 2: went to took myself. I went to dinner, and like

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Speaker 2: is it going to be loud? And they're like, no,

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Speaker 2: What's wrong? I was like, I'm just not me and

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Speaker 2: my boyfriend and not getting along. I just need I

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Speaker 2: just need a room.

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Speaker 1: I just need to be quiet.

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Speaker 2: Just put me in the quietest place. Please. They're like, okay,

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Speaker 1: It's so personal. Why does she get have an insight

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Speaker 2: I would just if a man told me that that

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Speaker 1: well they did say you are like this type of

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00:22:45,840 --> 00:22:48,080
Speaker 1: person basically, or you like have a lot of sexual

434
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 1: energy that needs attention, and like what is the point

435
00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:52,919
Speaker 1: of you telling me that I thought they liked me?

436
00:22:54,160 --> 00:22:55,840
Speaker 1: Like I went on a whole trip with that bitch.

437
00:22:56,080 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: And not that I care take it personally, but I

438
00:22:57,920 --> 00:22:59,600
Speaker 1: was just like I had to really start asking myself

439
00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:02,160
Speaker 1: and asking what is your intention by telling me that

440
00:23:02,520 --> 00:23:05,840
Speaker 1: what is your intention of sharing these like your these

441
00:23:05,880 --> 00:23:08,280
Speaker 1: things about these other women that you're talking to that

442
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:11,600
Speaker 1: like you know, it's really gonna it's gonna it's horrorful,

443
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:15,159
Speaker 1: and I'm just like, I just this is what I

444
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:19,159
Speaker 1: really dislike, Like I hate a nigga to downplay another

445
00:23:19,200 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 1: like females to each other. And then like come out

446
00:23:22,800 --> 00:23:24,960
Speaker 1: on top, you know, and I started to feel like

447
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,359
Speaker 1: that was happening, like telling me personal shit about someone's finances,

448
00:23:28,520 --> 00:23:30,159
Speaker 1: you know, like he didn't feel like he didn't want

449
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:31,840
Speaker 1: to date someone it because she didn't have was you know,

450
00:23:31,880 --> 00:23:33,639
Speaker 1: she wasn't in a good place financially. He didn't want

451
00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:38,200
Speaker 1: to have to pay for everything, and like, you know, yeah.

452
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:39,679
Speaker 2: No, that's just so. But I'm like, I feel like

453
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:44,639
Speaker 2: that's just like elementary, yeah yeah, yeah, like yeah, it

454
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:47,879
Speaker 2: shows you how deeply like immature that he is in

455
00:23:48,760 --> 00:23:49,160
Speaker 2: that way.

456
00:23:49,400 --> 00:23:54,200
Speaker 1: And and then it just so anyway, we're hanging out,

457
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:58,280
Speaker 1: and in this moment, like about HALLOWEENI ish I had

458
00:23:58,320 --> 00:24:00,800
Speaker 1: like just written a post just I was talking about

459
00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,920
Speaker 1: like holding on to other people and I wasn't even

460
00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:06,120
Speaker 1: talking about this situation at all, and I posted it. It

461
00:24:06,119 --> 00:24:08,720
Speaker 1: was real deep, It was real deep in like in

462
00:24:08,800 --> 00:24:11,760
Speaker 1: my feelings about releasing people and letting them go. And

463
00:24:11,760 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 1: I just happened to like look over on his phone

464
00:24:13,359 --> 00:24:15,520
Speaker 1: and I see that the girl keeps calling. Then I say,

465
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:19,280
Speaker 1: she writes, oh, you must be cupcaking. And I was

466
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 1: like what because he kept saying like, it's not like that,

467
00:24:21,760 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 1: even though I had really been like, you guys, I

468
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 1: was really being stupid. I was really allowing some crazy

469
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:28,960
Speaker 1: like I've never been so I've never I had to

470
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:30,679
Speaker 1: like someone should have slapped me, like bitch, do you

471
00:24:30,680 --> 00:24:33,560
Speaker 1: know who you are? And not even like it was

472
00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,320
Speaker 1: just like I was. I just feel like I've been

473
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:38,480
Speaker 1: sleeping on myself, you know, like just not noticing things

474
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:43,159
Speaker 1: because it was just so indirect and like I just

475
00:24:43,200 --> 00:24:45,400
Speaker 1: happened to look over and she's like, you must be cupcaking.

476
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:47,520
Speaker 1: But he told me I'm not into her. We're we're

477
00:24:47,560 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: not talking anymore, like I'm not really like I'm impressed.

478
00:24:50,320 --> 00:24:52,040
Speaker 1: I told her what it is. I told her and

479
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:53,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, well that doesn't seem like a text from

480
00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:58,439
Speaker 1: someone that thinks. Then, since you guys are not, you know, chilling,

481
00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 1: I'm like, do you know what cupcaking means? He's like, no,

482
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:05,040
Speaker 1: I didn't. I wasn't sure what that meant. I was like,

483
00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 1: I know, you don't. It means what you're doing. So

484
00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:12,160
Speaker 1: then girl got to be like he turned the phone over.

485
00:25:12,480 --> 00:25:16,199
Speaker 1: The girl calls and he because she keeps calling and

486
00:25:16,359 --> 00:25:18,639
Speaker 1: it turns over, it must have answered by mistake. She

487
00:25:18,720 --> 00:25:19,880
Speaker 1: hears our conversation.

488
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:21,480
Speaker 2: What is the conversation you were having.

489
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 1: I think it was like some sec shit. I don't

490
00:25:23,320 --> 00:25:24,919
Speaker 1: even know what we're talking about. What we were talking with,

491
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,720
Speaker 1: some real open sexual sex shit. The phone turns back

492
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,679
Speaker 1: over and she's like, oh, you're with your ex. I

493
00:25:31,720 --> 00:25:34,160
Speaker 1: can tell by her it's her. It sounds like your ex.

494
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:36,640
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's what the fuck you get. We're telling

495
00:25:36,640 --> 00:25:40,080
Speaker 1: this this woman to listen to my motherfucking podcast, who

496
00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: didn't have any reason. And I'm like, and that's what

497
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:44,840
Speaker 1: you get, ha ha. And I'm like, and you're a

498
00:25:44,840 --> 00:25:47,040
Speaker 1: liar because you just sat up here and made it

499
00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: seem like and I was like, and I know, bitches

500
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,359
Speaker 1: aren't crazy. Bitches don't be acting a certain way unless

501
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:54,159
Speaker 1: you're treating a bitch like a girlfriend. And I'm like,

502
00:25:54,240 --> 00:25:56,600
Speaker 1: we just broke up. We've been fucking we've been seeing

503
00:25:56,600 --> 00:26:00,200
Speaker 1: each other, and like the period where we had stopped talking,

504
00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:03,879
Speaker 1: he reached out to me, like why did you block me?

505
00:26:03,920 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: Like nigga, because this is over, but like pulling me

506
00:26:07,119 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: back in.

507
00:26:08,320 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 2: Just the attention, girl, Clearly he needs the attention.

508
00:26:11,720 --> 00:26:13,399
Speaker 1: That's what it was. It is, And you know, it

509
00:26:13,440 --> 00:26:16,240
Speaker 1: just started to see me, like started me seeing him

510
00:26:16,280 --> 00:26:19,399
Speaker 1: for who he he like who he is right now.

511
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:22,080
Speaker 2: You're gonna be a nice guy and still want unhealthy attention.

512
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:24,959
Speaker 1: And I get it, everybody wants to unhealth attention, but

513
00:26:25,000 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 1: like to what cause? At what expense? So it's unhealthy.

514
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:30,399
Speaker 1: It was just it was just and I was like,

515
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:32,919
Speaker 1: I said, I can't imagine what you're saying about me

516
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 1: to this girl. I said, if this girl knows all

517
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:39,399
Speaker 1: like I can, if I know this girl's business, I

518
00:26:39,400 --> 00:26:41,600
Speaker 1: can only imagine what you're saying about me. And I

519
00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:42,800
Speaker 1: was like, and that's that's not.

520
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 2: Cool, that's true, that's really true.

521
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: I was like, it's just like I was just like,

522
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:48,119
Speaker 1: I just don't want guys who do that, because if

523
00:26:48,160 --> 00:26:49,600
Speaker 1: you like her, just say you like her and you're

524
00:26:49,640 --> 00:26:52,760
Speaker 1: pursuing that, just be real about it. You went through

525
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 1: my shit. I was like, yeah, I fucked this person.

526
00:26:54,600 --> 00:26:57,840
Speaker 1: I fuck that person. What do you want to do

527
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:00,800
Speaker 1: about it? It wasn't like, you know what I mean, pretending,

528
00:27:01,359 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 1: And it just started just festered, and I started to

529
00:27:05,040 --> 00:27:11,200
Speaker 1: like piss me off. And then girl, how about moments later,

530
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:14,640
Speaker 1: I just like touched the phone and it stops at

531
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,840
Speaker 1: a plane ticket to Mexico. This is like a movie.

532
00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:20,119
Speaker 1: I swear to god, I just touched the phone and

533
00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: I was like, are you guys going to Mexico? And

534
00:27:23,280 --> 00:27:26,399
Speaker 1: he's like, I was gonna tell you, Oh no, you

535
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:30,919
Speaker 1: are a fucking professional hinge dater and you're also a

536
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:35,359
Speaker 1: fucking liar. He said, I didn't buy her ticket. Her

537
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,199
Speaker 1: mom bought her ticket. I said, and that's weird. If

538
00:27:38,200 --> 00:27:40,439
Speaker 1: you're going with a bitch, why did you buy her ticket?

539
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:43,200
Speaker 1: How are you gonna let the bitch mom buy her ticket?

540
00:27:43,440 --> 00:27:46,520
Speaker 2: And then even he's still trying to hold onto some something.

541
00:27:47,160 --> 00:27:49,120
Speaker 1: But that's what I'm like. I'm just like, why are

542
00:27:49,160 --> 00:27:51,720
Speaker 1: you doing this with me? I don't really give a fuck,

543
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:53,920
Speaker 1: but like I don't really need this, you know what

544
00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:57,000
Speaker 1: I'm saying, Like I just and then lying, he said

545
00:27:57,040 --> 00:27:59,880
Speaker 1: she invited herself. I said, nia this conversation, don't look

546
00:27:59,880 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: like bitch that invited herself. She invited herself.

547
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:06,840
Speaker 2: Myself, not to your house.

548
00:28:07,040 --> 00:28:10,879
Speaker 1: I was just like, and I asked him, are you

549
00:28:10,920 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: going with someone to the ship? Because I keep in mind,

550
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: we've been broken up like seven weeks and seen each

551
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 1: other the whole time. But I was just like, and

552
00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:22,240
Speaker 1: the night before, I meane that earlier, that day Erica

553
00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:24,000
Speaker 1: had just called me and we had got some really

554
00:28:24,040 --> 00:28:27,040
Speaker 1: like exciting news, and for a moment, I was just like,

555
00:28:27,320 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 1: huh huh, you're tripping, and so am I I am

556
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: really tripping hard, hard heart hard, okay, And in Twitch

557
00:28:37,080 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 1: was like and was like dumb bitch, and I was like,

558
00:28:49,320 --> 00:28:52,840
Speaker 1: I'm out. Yeah, I'm like I and and like when

559
00:28:52,880 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: you say when I can turn some ship off, bitch,

560
00:28:57,600 --> 00:29:04,080
Speaker 1: it's kind of scary. I'm just like huh huh, Like

561
00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:09,360
Speaker 1: I know, I just can't feel anything anymore. I just

562
00:29:09,400 --> 00:29:11,920
Speaker 1: don't care, and I just feel like it's just I

563
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: just I love to see people when with like real lenses,

564
00:29:17,280 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 1: you know, when you can like step back out of

565
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:23,120
Speaker 1: it and like reassess the situation. And granted, like I

566
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:26,240
Speaker 1: realize I am the cause of like the root of

567
00:29:26,280 --> 00:29:27,400
Speaker 1: this but in some.

568
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 2: Way, but maybe like you had to do that one

569
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 2: last time and do that relationship so a you could

570
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 2: see the type of people that you you still need to.

571
00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:38,800
Speaker 2: There's there's wolves in Sheep's clothing, you know what I mean.

572
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 2: And I don't mean like he's a wolf. I just

573
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:43,760
Speaker 2: mean like like what you normally attract.

574
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: And I love him, you know, I think he's a

575
00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:46,360
Speaker 1: good person.

576
00:29:46,080 --> 00:29:47,760
Speaker 2: You know, I'm just saying that. What I really want

577
00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,480
Speaker 2: to say is that like what you normally attract like

578
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 2: can be disguised in certain ways. I'm not saying that

579
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 2: he is your baby daddy or those things, but there's

580
00:29:55,680 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 2: qualities about him that are manipulative and that's something that

581
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:03,200
Speaker 2: you are used to doing and loving, you know, and so,

582
00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 2: but he's also treated you not great you so like

583
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:07,640
Speaker 2: that can be really fucking.

584
00:30:07,520 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 1: Confusing, right right, So, like am I supposed to deal

585
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:11,959
Speaker 1: with this?

586
00:30:12,040 --> 00:30:14,520
Speaker 2: You were supposed to cheat? I think you're to cheat.

587
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 2: I'm here to say it was so glad you cheated,

588
00:30:19,920 --> 00:30:22,560
Speaker 2: So fucking glad you cheated, Jamila, thank.

589
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: You revealing the truth. That's that's the best friend share.

590
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,440
Speaker 1: It's perfect. It's you know, it's for the best that

591
00:30:29,480 --> 00:30:29,880
Speaker 1: you cheated.

592
00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 2: This. I mean, I support your cheating. It's circle.

593
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:37,560
Speaker 1: I feel like it did comfortull Cir.

594
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 2: I really feel that way. I'm not like, I'm not

595
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:41,480
Speaker 2: just saying that. I think it's come full circle and it.

596
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:43,640
Speaker 1: Just really like it did. Let me know, like there

597
00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:45,680
Speaker 1: are got really first of all, can come in all

598
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,000
Speaker 1: different shape sizes, and like you have to have you

599
00:30:48,040 --> 00:30:49,880
Speaker 1: have to know what what you're not going to deal

600
00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:53,120
Speaker 1: with immediately, whether you're fucked up, whether you're like whatever

601
00:30:53,160 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 1: it is. It's like, either what's the point of keeping

602
00:30:55,800 --> 00:30:58,400
Speaker 1: relationships that are just like not good for you, you

603
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 1: know what I mean? And you just have to like cheat,

604
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,920
Speaker 1: chose yourself. Choose yourself, even when it feels like you

605
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,520
Speaker 1: should be like fighting for something. There's a difference between

606
00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:07,720
Speaker 1: like fighting for something and choosing yourself because I feel

607
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 1: like it will just happen naturally, you won't have to

608
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: like necessarily fight for it. Like I feel like if

609
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,400
Speaker 1: he was my nigga, like we could have really worked

610
00:31:16,400 --> 00:31:20,720
Speaker 1: past the shit, because that's how I felt, and because

611
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: we didn't, because it dragged on, and then I kept

612
00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:25,760
Speaker 1: telling him, I'm like, be careful how you do this,

613
00:31:26,360 --> 00:31:28,560
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Because once I turn off,

614
00:31:29,280 --> 00:31:31,800
Speaker 1: I won't turn back on. I can't. I can't physically,

615
00:31:31,880 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 1: I can't do it. And I'm just like, oh, well,

616
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:36,520
Speaker 1: look at God. And I told him that as soon

617
00:31:36,560 --> 00:31:39,480
Speaker 1: as it happened, I said, that's motherfucking God. I said,

618
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,880
Speaker 1: that's God, because that's crazy. I mean, but I'm not

619
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,840
Speaker 1: looking through your shit. I was like, you're alive. Yeah.

620
00:31:44,920 --> 00:31:47,120
Speaker 2: I was like, girl, look, I'm gonna give you one

621
00:31:47,440 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 2: more sign.

622
00:31:48,560 --> 00:31:50,120
Speaker 1: I don't know how many need because at this point

623
00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:52,120
Speaker 1: it had been like four hundred. It was like so many,

624
00:31:52,360 --> 00:31:57,360
Speaker 1: so much shit. I was just like, how am I stupid? Am? I?

625
00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,360
Speaker 1: I thought I was smart? But these actions are saying

626
00:32:00,360 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: something else. Maybe I'll tell them Patreon, like just how

627
00:32:02,880 --> 00:32:05,760
Speaker 1: stupid I was being. I'm too embarrassed to say it here.

628
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,440
Speaker 1: It's too bad. I told Erica later and I was like,

629
00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 1: I didn't want to tell you, but You're.

630
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:13,920
Speaker 2: Like, this happened like forty five days ago, but listen, listen.

631
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: To what I did. Yeah, but I am happy to

632
00:32:19,800 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 1: say this is the adventure Bays retired after this episode.

633
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:28,080
Speaker 1: There will be no mention of the Adventure Bay. We're

634
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 1: going to steal the.

635
00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:34,480
Speaker 2: Files, get the get the glue gun.

636
00:32:37,880 --> 00:32:40,440
Speaker 1: Not the glue gun. That's the Mom's ship I ever

637
00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 1: heard get get the ziplocks and the glue. We're a

638
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 1: freezing bagging this ship.

639
00:32:44,560 --> 00:32:50,719
Speaker 2: Get the stick g low elmersh my god, that's not secure.

640
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:51,840
Speaker 2: I wanted to cement that ship.

641
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:59,360
Speaker 1: But you know, all that to say is I was

642
00:32:59,440 --> 00:33:01,360
Speaker 1: just going through and I just realized a lot of

643
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:04,640
Speaker 1: it like I was just torturing myself and adding shit

644
00:33:04,760 --> 00:33:07,800
Speaker 1: that I didn't need to add, and I'm just such

645
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 1: in a clear space, so much happier, you know what

646
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:15,960
Speaker 1: I mean? Like that hurt, then I just kind I

647
00:33:15,960 --> 00:33:19,160
Speaker 1: almost feel happier for him too, Like I think you

648
00:33:19,240 --> 00:33:24,000
Speaker 1: are better off pursuing those situations. Like I like mistakenly

649
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:25,680
Speaker 1: scrolled past the picture of him and a girl and

650
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,920
Speaker 1: I was like, huh, I was high, keep in minds high,

651
00:33:28,000 --> 00:33:31,560
Speaker 1: Like they're kind of like happy, they're kind of like

652
00:33:31,640 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 1: really happy. I was like, good thing, I'm high. I

653
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:36,480
Speaker 1: didn't say shit, I just gave the phone back, But

654
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 1: I was just like, sometimes god, I'd be like, you

655
00:33:39,720 --> 00:33:41,640
Speaker 1: don't need to waste any time going down the road

656
00:33:41,720 --> 00:33:44,000
Speaker 1: that's not for you, and you gotta respect it.

657
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:46,840
Speaker 2: Sometimes you have to do the letting go. I think

658
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:50,280
Speaker 2: the other person won't. They're not capable of it, and

659
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,800
Speaker 2: that's when it's hardest. That's the hardest shit ever, you know,

660
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 2: But like for them, for them sometimes too, because it's

661
00:33:56,120 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: for their own their best interest.

662
00:33:58,320 --> 00:34:00,880
Speaker 1: It's usually me too. Yeah.

663
00:34:01,440 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 2: So well, here's two new houses, new Beginnings and sealing.

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Speaker 1: The files ceiling files.

665
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Speaker 2: And also highly recommend doing molly alone foreign country. One

666
00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 2: of the other things I said, I don't remember.

667
00:34:18,480 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: Rolling around in some cold sheets.

668
00:34:22,120 --> 00:34:24,040
Speaker 2: No, health is really important to take care of yourself.

669
00:34:24,040 --> 00:34:26,799
Speaker 2: I don't know. I'm not endorsing drugs. Do what you do,

670
00:34:26,840 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 2: what you must. Whatever makes you feel like rolling around

671
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 2: on cold sheets, do that.

672
00:34:31,400 --> 00:34:38,440
Speaker 1: Do that for me. It's molly For me specifically, I

673
00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:44,440
Speaker 1: enjoy rolling around cold sheets on molly. Maybe mushrooms mostly.

674
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:46,799
Speaker 2: Haven't been wanting to do mushrooms lately, like I need

675
00:34:46,800 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 2: to take a break from from that. That's that planted

676
00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,040
Speaker 2: for a moment I had. It did what it did.

677
00:34:54,080 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 2: It did what it needed to do for me, which

678
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,440
Speaker 2: is like cure my anxiety, because I don't really haven't.

679
00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:00,319
Speaker 2: I really haven't felt a lot of anxiety. Have I

680
00:35:00,400 --> 00:35:06,520
Speaker 2: like felt like irritated, annoyed, anxious in some way, but

681
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:16,840
Speaker 2: like not like before, not like March COVID, July COVID.

682
00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 1: Oh, no, March COVID was like April COVID was like

683
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:22,160
Speaker 1: a mushroom month.

684
00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:26,080
Speaker 2: There was no way I was making it without them.

685
00:35:26,280 --> 00:35:28,360
Speaker 1: It really was. I have some mushrooms in my purse.

686
00:35:29,640 --> 00:35:33,080
Speaker 2: Oh you know what? We had this like last minute

687
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:36,160
Speaker 2: little mini meetup situation the other day.

688
00:35:36,320 --> 00:35:38,080
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, we oh yeah, we did.

689
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:43,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it was with this afrobeats table party.

690
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:47,360
Speaker 1: It was called a brunch.

691
00:35:48,440 --> 00:35:50,880
Speaker 2: It started We got there at nine o'clock. Okay, it

692
00:35:50,920 --> 00:35:54,279
Speaker 2: was started at nine pm brunch, which I'm gonna have

693
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:57,120
Speaker 2: to talk to Joe or Joel or whatever his name is,

694
00:35:57,239 --> 00:35:59,319
Speaker 2: Joe Jim, who's the guy?

695
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:01,080
Speaker 1: It tal him?

696
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:03,680
Speaker 2: He needs to rename his party because it's not a brunch.

697
00:36:03,640 --> 00:36:06,920
Speaker 1: Not Joel. Joe said that Joe's party.

698
00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:08,640
Speaker 2: Who the fuck is the guy's name is party? It

699
00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 2: is done, don't okay?

700
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:15,520
Speaker 1: And it was a three letter word Joe John. Those

701
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:21,040
Speaker 1: party where we got named John Joe. You met at

702
00:36:21,080 --> 00:36:22,920
Speaker 1: Joe that night too, did I?

703
00:36:23,040 --> 00:36:25,799
Speaker 2: Okay, that's maybe that's why we got to hang out

704
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:29,359
Speaker 2: with Blumplow and Mama shout out to Sanitria.

705
00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:32,680
Speaker 1: Denise came up with her man. Yeah, one of our

706
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:36,120
Speaker 1: listeners came up. I was saying, they drove down. They

707
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:39,640
Speaker 1: didn't come up, they drove down. They came to kick it. Yeah,

708
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 1: they smoked with us, We took shots.

709
00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:46,920
Speaker 2: She gave me a huge bottle of champagne. I don't know,

710
00:36:47,040 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to save this for like a real brunch,

711
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,480
Speaker 2: a real serious brunch. Now, I need to have a

712
00:36:51,480 --> 00:36:52,800
Speaker 2: brunch just for this champagne.

713
00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 1: You should have. You should have a pot luck brunch.

714
00:36:56,400 --> 00:37:12,920
Speaker 2: Paula brunch. Okay, this weekend, I'm gonna town. Oh that's right, Jamila, Jimmila, Jimmy.

715
00:37:14,120 --> 00:37:17,879
Speaker 1: Yeah. So maybe next week maybe, yeah, okay, yeah.

716
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Speaker 2: I was not feeling that great this week, but you

717
00:37:19,760 --> 00:37:23,279
Speaker 2: know what, she so I restarted feeling a little like

718
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,160
Speaker 2: under the weather. And I got really nervous because I

719
00:37:25,200 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 2: was like, anytime you know your kid gets sick, you

720
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: automatically think like COVID.

721
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 1: Even you, I'm like, my fa hurts.

722
00:37:31,960 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 2: Oh no, but I did get COVID, So I got we,

723
00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:36,360
Speaker 2: I got COVID tested. We all got COVID tested, and

724
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:39,440
Speaker 2: we came back from Mexico and so I got she

725
00:37:39,480 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 2: wasn't feeling well anyway, So I got her COVID tested

726
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:46,719
Speaker 2: and I'm happy to confirm our status is negative. Oh

727
00:37:46,800 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 2: my god. I had to send it to my therapist

728
00:37:48,160 --> 00:37:49,239
Speaker 2: because my therapist.

729
00:37:49,200 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 1: Won't see you until you Yeah, she was gonna do it.

730
00:37:52,040 --> 00:37:53,279
Speaker 2: She was gonna be virtual. And it's like, I don't

731
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,799
Speaker 2: really feel comfortable. You've been traveling. I was like, here's

732
00:37:55,840 --> 00:38:00,800
Speaker 2: my COVID test. Okay, witch relax, but yeah, she was negative.

733
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 2: But I've been using these drops by a Joyspring.

734
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Speaker 1: If you heard Joyspring Vitamins, I love joy Spring.

735
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Speaker 2: Yeah they're really good. I don't know if you guys

736
00:38:08,880 --> 00:38:11,600
Speaker 2: have ever heard of joy Spring, but they have so

737
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Speaker 2: many like different vitamins on their website. They're all natural,

738
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Speaker 2: they're all organic, and they fucking work. So I was

739
00:38:18,040 --> 00:38:22,439
Speaker 2: using vitamin C plus zinc and elderberry blend because I'm

740
00:38:22,440 --> 00:38:26,480
Speaker 2: a witch doctor and so I like to blend my medicines,

741
00:38:27,120 --> 00:38:29,719
Speaker 2: even medicines. This is just like an herbal formula.

742
00:38:29,840 --> 00:38:33,160
Speaker 1: I like to like boost like Luna's immune system. That way,

743
00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:34,920
Speaker 1: if I feel here getting a little sniffle, a little

744
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: just a little cough that I start upping them. I

745
00:38:37,280 --> 00:38:38,960
Speaker 1: do it every day, but then I start upping them

746
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 1: a little bit if she's feeling sick. And for the

747
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: most part, she's pretty healthy. She doesn't really get sick.

748
00:38:43,840 --> 00:38:46,879
Speaker 2: So I know, no, this this vitamin C right here though,

749
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:50,000
Speaker 2: this is this right here is the best. So if

750
00:38:50,040 --> 00:38:51,840
Speaker 2: you guys want to check out Joyspring, make sure you

751
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Speaker 2: go to Joyspring Vitamins dot com. And use Good Moms

752
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Speaker 2: for twenty percent.

753
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Speaker 1: Off the whole product line, and I have like a

754
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Speaker 1: bunch of really good stuff, so check it.

755
00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:03,680
Speaker 2: Out for adults too. So yeah, I know she's feeling

756
00:39:03,719 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 2: better now, so but maybe next weekend because I was

757
00:39:07,640 --> 00:39:10,880
Speaker 2: feeling such mom guilt when I was gone, like she

758
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:13,839
Speaker 2: she missed me so much. She was literally counting down

759
00:39:13,840 --> 00:39:16,440
Speaker 2: the days, like every time I called her, four more days,

760
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:18,320
Speaker 2: three more days, two more days.

761
00:39:18,360 --> 00:39:19,160
Speaker 1: Oh my god.

762
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:21,560
Speaker 2: And then towards the end, because you know, I had

763
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:24,400
Speaker 2: to go take my own mini vacation, I was like,

764
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 2: I did want to leave. I was like, maybe I'll

765
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:28,960
Speaker 2: just extend my trip one more day, just one more day,

766
00:39:29,040 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 2: and then she called me. I was like, Okay, never mind.

767
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:37,759
Speaker 2: I don't know, it's not happening. But yeah, I was

768
00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:41,279
Speaker 2: feeling I don't know, as she gets older, like I

769
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:43,720
Speaker 2: feel like my guilt is worse because she's more aware.

770
00:39:44,280 --> 00:39:46,239
Speaker 1: I know I feel the same way too, But I've

771
00:39:46,239 --> 00:39:48,200
Speaker 1: also been feeling like I would need to go on

772
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:51,160
Speaker 1: a trip alone and feeling guilty about having the thoughts

773
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:53,400
Speaker 1: about going on a trip alone. But like and also

774
00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:58,919
Speaker 1: I'll be getting into trouble alone me unsupervised, who knows

775
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,880
Speaker 1: I'll end up in another entry three new best friends,

776
00:40:02,000 --> 00:40:05,520
Speaker 1: you know, at an aquarium. Who knows the weirdest shit

777
00:40:05,560 --> 00:40:08,200
Speaker 1: happened to me. But I've been really feeling like I

778
00:40:08,280 --> 00:40:10,879
Speaker 1: want to go out of town alone. But I also

779
00:40:10,880 --> 00:40:12,120
Speaker 1: feel like I should take her somewhere.

780
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:14,759
Speaker 2: But I mean, my next trip is definitely gonna have

781
00:40:14,800 --> 00:40:17,120
Speaker 2: to include her. She's not having that ship. She's not

782
00:40:17,160 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 2: gonna take that from me, I think because her dad

783
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 2: has gone too, and he's been gone for about a

784
00:40:22,200 --> 00:40:29,080
Speaker 2: month now. So I just I just felt like bad,

785
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,439
Speaker 2: But Mama got I have a life too.

786
00:40:33,239 --> 00:40:35,280
Speaker 1: Mama do have a gut, and that's why.

787
00:40:36,640 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 2: Mama got to take a vacation on a vacation if

788
00:40:38,800 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 2: she ain't enjoying her vacation. Yeah, yeah, dude, you gotta

789
00:40:41,040 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 2: do girl, follow that intuition.

790
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: I was proud. I was like, I wanna be like

791
00:40:44,600 --> 00:40:49,319
Speaker 1: Erica when I grow up. Yeah, And honestly, I was like, yeah,

792
00:40:49,320 --> 00:40:50,880
Speaker 1: I gotta get the fuck out of here. When I

793
00:40:51,160 --> 00:40:53,279
Speaker 1: you had left the vacation, and plus I was under

794
00:40:53,360 --> 00:40:55,600
Speaker 1: taking some bullshit, I was like, what am I doing

795
00:40:55,640 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 1: over here? I'm the ship. I gotta get my ship up.

796
00:40:58,280 --> 00:40:58,799
Speaker 1: I gotta go.

797
00:40:59,239 --> 00:40:59,799
Speaker 2: Oh, my god.

798
00:41:01,880 --> 00:41:07,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, well we gotta go buy plants.

799
00:41:07,520 --> 00:41:09,799
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're gonna go buy some plants and be very

800
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 2: domesticated today. What's your what's your style going to be

801
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:16,360
Speaker 2: of your apartment? Are you gonna like do you have

802
00:41:16,440 --> 00:41:17,640
Speaker 2: like Pinterest board?

803
00:41:18,120 --> 00:41:20,719
Speaker 1: I need to look at some ore Pinterest board. I'm

804
00:41:20,760 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 1: just going for like bare minimum plant boho vibes, just

805
00:41:26,200 --> 00:41:30,840
Speaker 1: minimal boho vibes, some splashes of color. I'm thinking about

806
00:41:31,040 --> 00:41:32,960
Speaker 1: maybe some like mustard yellows.

807
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:33,480
Speaker 2: I don't know.

808
00:41:35,640 --> 00:41:40,280
Speaker 1: I'm getting a pole for sure. I got this really

809
00:41:40,400 --> 00:41:42,680
Speaker 1: dope shower curtain.

810
00:41:43,080 --> 00:41:44,239
Speaker 2: I saw that with.

811
00:41:44,239 --> 00:41:50,400
Speaker 1: Two indigenous lesbians, tribal lesbians, is making us beautiful. I

812
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:54,000
Speaker 1: love it. I've gotten it from art addict online on Instagram,

813
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:56,120
Speaker 1: and I've been waiting to put it out for three months.

814
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:57,080
Speaker 2: Oh you've had it for a while.

815
00:41:57,080 --> 00:41:59,759
Speaker 1: I've had it for a while. Okay, get I need

816
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,360
Speaker 1: to get my pole. That's next, because I already got

817
00:42:02,400 --> 00:42:05,520
Speaker 1: the shoes. Oh okay, and then I'm going to start

818
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: my career as a professional poll dancer. Coming to you

819
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,719
Speaker 1: soon at an Instagram near you.

820
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,120
Speaker 2: You want miss right away? I can do a collab.

821
00:42:13,160 --> 00:42:15,839
Speaker 1: We should do a collab. Yes, I love this right away,

822
00:42:15,880 --> 00:42:18,320
Speaker 1: and I just looked back at our dms. I bestly

823
00:42:18,440 --> 00:42:21,960
Speaker 1: literally DM turn like twenty sixteen, like, hey girl, do

824
00:42:22,040 --> 00:42:26,760
Speaker 1: you want to meet me a priman? What total creep?

825
00:42:27,320 --> 00:42:29,040
Speaker 1: Hey do you want to meet me and go take

826
00:42:29,080 --> 00:42:32,399
Speaker 1: the girls on a hike? This is like hance their desperation. Yeah,

827
00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:33,160
Speaker 1: because this is a mom.

828
00:42:33,239 --> 00:42:36,200
Speaker 2: That's perfect example. I'm desperate. We were for mom and friends.

829
00:42:36,280 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 1: Yeah.

830
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:37,720
Speaker 2: Did she respond?

831
00:42:37,840 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: I don't think she's a damn damn Ashley. She's like,

832
00:42:41,120 --> 00:42:42,840
Speaker 1: why should we might just say something else? I was like,

833
00:42:42,880 --> 00:42:49,000
Speaker 1: I don't know. I was ashamed. I am. I'm excited

834
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 1: to just be in my own space doing spins. I'm

835
00:42:51,600 --> 00:42:55,080
Speaker 1: a strip a pole in the full mirror, minimal shit

836
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,319
Speaker 1: in it. I gotta go throw some shit out. But yeah,

837
00:42:57,400 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: I'm excited.

838
00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:01,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's gonna be great. Set the vibe, make a

839
00:43:01,160 --> 00:43:08,360
Speaker 2: little altar or something or I don't know. Lots of plants, oxygen, oxygen, right, there's.

840
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,319
Speaker 1: A lot of little sunlight, so amazing.

841
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 2: Well, if you need help painting or doing any of

842
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:15,839
Speaker 2: those things, you know, I love it. Okay, I don't

843
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:20,800
Speaker 2: do it, and uh you guys, we are going to

844
00:43:20,880 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 2: go now.

845
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,359
Speaker 1: Because I've told all of our business.

846
00:43:23,040 --> 00:43:25,239
Speaker 2: Told our business I'm high and in fact, I'm going

847
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 2: to hit this one more time.

848
00:43:26,360 --> 00:43:28,600
Speaker 1: I don't know that this is over. I can completely

849
00:43:28,640 --> 00:43:33,560
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Speaker 2: haven't left a review, why don't we have sixty thousand reviews?

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Speaker 2: Just we just need one, five minutes, just one review.

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Speaker 2: Just go on Apple Podcasts. Please, please, please, They do matter.

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Speaker 2: I know you think that doesn't matter, but they do matter.

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Speaker 1: They matter to us.

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Speaker 2: The matter, And go and leave a review and give

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Speaker 2: us that five star rating and go check out our website.

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Speaker 2: We have cool merch and guys, we're planning some cool events,

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Speaker 2: so look out for those on our Instagram is. Then

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Speaker 2: let's say ask