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Speaker 1: up Here we go. Strawberry Letter subject I want my

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Speaker 1: man to spoil me? Did Stephen Sherley. I've been dating

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend for two years and it was really good.

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Speaker 1: For the first year, we spent a lot of quality

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Speaker 1: He feels that's enough to make me happy. He won't

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Speaker 1: do the things he did in the beginning. I don't

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Speaker 1: in advance. We've been talking about marriage and looking at rings.

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Speaker 1: He's loving and we have an emotional connection, but I

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Speaker 1: I've been married before, and although my ex husband and

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Speaker 1: I did not get along, he didn't make a big

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Speaker 1: That's all I need my boyfriend to do. And I

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Speaker 1: try not to mention how my ex husband did things,

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Speaker 1: but I can't help but drop hints here and there.

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Speaker 1: I had a birthday recently and we're limited on celebrating

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Speaker 1: birthday dinner. I didn't even get a card by the way,

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Speaker 1: I've been withholding sex, just like he's been withholding the

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Speaker 1: make up excuses without telling him why I don't want

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Speaker 1: want to be spoiled without sounding like a spoil brat?

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Speaker 1: I don't think you damn well. You know what, You've

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Speaker 1: been dating your boyfriend for two years. In the beginning,

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Speaker 1: it's always good in the beginning because you're getting to

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Speaker 1: know each other and it's and it's fun. But now

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Speaker 1: And you've been withholding sex and making up excuses not

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Speaker 1: You all have been looking at rings, so obviously you

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Speaker 1: know you're ready for the next step. You guys haven't

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Speaker 1: been talking about marriage, but girl, listen to me. Communication

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Speaker 1: is the key. Tell him how you feel. Tell your

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Speaker 1: But now you want to drop hints to your boyfriend

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Speaker 1: That's petty and vindictive. Steve, I agree, I agree totally.

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Speaker 1: I can't find nothing wrong with that. So let me

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Speaker 1: ash coming from Uncle Steve. Men like to be spall too.

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Speaker 1: Oh news flash. Men like to be spall too. So

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Speaker 1: why are you withholding sex? Maybe that's why you ain't

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Speaker 1: Eat wash infrigerator. Men like to be spall too. Now

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Speaker 1: Now after two years, he didn't told her he loved her,

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Speaker 1: more what flowers? Huh? Dinners? Romantic right? Oh oh, let

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Speaker 1: romantic dinners, birthday celebration, lunch dates, dinner dates, all of that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: Well guess what he wants. He wants some more damn sex.

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Speaker 1: So now now we had a stance, we got a

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Speaker 1: damn problem. Na, I think we have solved this letter,

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Speaker 1: beat the mo damn flowers. And then after that, right there,

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Speaker 1: she said, I've been married before, and although my ex

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Speaker 1: So what y'all get divorce fault? That all that? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: He all that? Damn love it. It It made you feel

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Speaker 1: know you feel appreciated. What was the divorce fault? What

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Speaker 1: on your special days, birthdays, holidays, anniversaries and everything. But

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Speaker 1: She said in a letter, they didn't get along, Steve,

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Speaker 1: didn't say, we didn't see it. But see, listen to me.

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Speaker 1: If they didn't get along and he was doing all listen,

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Speaker 1: See here we go with her again. The comment demand

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Speaker 1: That's all I need my boyfriend to do is try

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Speaker 1: not to and I tried not to mention how my

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Speaker 1: I got news for you. That's another reason he to

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Speaker 1: quit buying you stuff. Let your damn X buy If

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Speaker 1: you're gonna keep telling me about how your ex husband was,

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Speaker 1: then you must want your damn ex husband. We'll get

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Speaker 1: his ass to buy your flowers. Now. On your little

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Speaker 1: damn pandemic? That would have been way better than your boyfriend. See,

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Speaker 1: That's cool. Carlin said it best. She'll wan she get it.

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Speaker 1: you know what you're saying. You're saying it's a two

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Speaker 1: way street, Steve. Huh's what you're saying. Traffic go both ways. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: there ain't nothing one way. Sun go up, sun go down, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: what I wanted to. You like wet lips, I like

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Speaker 1: dry lips. But let's put these lips together and come

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