WEBVTT - Meditation with Deepak Chopra 0:00:00.760 --> 0:00:07.520 Hello, Hello guys, Hello everybody. Hi, Oh God, what to cover? 0:00:07.720 --> 0:00:09.959 What to cover? This is week three of my no 0:00:10.119 --> 0:00:14.560 smoking pot with my boyfriend Shane, And now I don't 0:00:14.600 --> 0:00:16.439 really don't even care about ever smoking a joint again, 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:18.880 quite frankly, Like now, I'm just like, what was that? 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:22.760 Are you partaking in any other sort of drugs? Are 0:00:22.760 --> 0:00:25.200 you taking your chocolate mushrooms? Just no, I haven't had 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:27.680 the chocolate mushrooms in a while. I thought I would 0:00:27.680 --> 0:00:29.840 take a break. I've been writing a lot, so I've 0:00:29.880 --> 0:00:31.720 had to be sober for that, because I'm writing a 0:00:31.760 --> 0:00:34.519 lot of my stand up which I started, so you know, 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:36.760 I've had to focus on that. So, yeah, it's a 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:38.479 good time. It's a good time for me to take 0:00:38.479 --> 0:00:40.440 a break. And if Shane had not come into my 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:43.199 life in the moment he did, God, where would I 0:00:43.200 --> 0:00:45.879 be now? I would be lost without him. Well, I 0:00:45.880 --> 0:00:47.600 wonder if he feels the same. I wonder if he's 0:00:47.680 --> 0:00:51.640 just elevated right now. It's on a different plane, cognitively, 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:54.320 very aware of his surroundings and what he needs to 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.560 be taking on the job site. Yeah, I feel like 0:00:56.600 --> 0:00:58.560 when you have a connection like that, it can't just 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:01.160 be one way. It's got to be a two way connection. 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:04.759 Although we did speak to somebody who had no connection 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:07.160 with somebody and didn't understand that it was broken, so 0:01:07.280 --> 0:01:11.800 I could also be playing that role in this scenario. Anyhow, 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:14.000 what else is New Brandon? What do you have to 0:01:14.040 --> 0:01:17.399 say for yourself? Not much. You're going on trips, you 0:01:17.440 --> 0:01:20.120 have stand up dates that you're doing all through the fall, now, 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:24.440 stand up dates, looking for a house, trying to plan vacations. 0:01:24.440 --> 0:01:26.559 But you know now that things feel like they're opening 0:01:26.640 --> 0:01:29.880 up again and people are vaccinated and getting out, you 0:01:29.880 --> 0:01:32.039 see people without a mask, and it's very jarring. I 0:01:32.120 --> 0:01:33.880 just did this podcast with these two girls and they 0:01:33.880 --> 0:01:36.040 were saying that it's so different here than in New York, 0:01:36.080 --> 0:01:38.320 Like New York has wrapped COVID up so much more 0:01:38.319 --> 0:01:40.959 than we have here that they're not used to wearing 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:43.800 masks walking out to outdoor restaurants and stuff. And they 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:46.040 were saying it was so strange. They're like, oh, New 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:48.800 York has been over it for so long. But I 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:51.320 did a podcast where they asked me lots of really 0:01:51.440 --> 0:01:56.080 personal sexual questions, and I just thought, who talks about 0:01:56.120 --> 0:01:59.080 that stuff? You know? I don't love talking about personal 0:01:59.240 --> 0:02:03.280 sexual proclivities or people like what are you into? What 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:07.040 kind of games and role playing that makes my vagina 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:10.840 clench tight it shuts. Yeah, I get that, And I 0:02:10.880 --> 0:02:13.359 think that that's like a societal change that people are 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:17.160 really adamant, Like there's so much body empowerment that it's 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:20.840 like all about masturbation and yes, I watch porn, and 0:02:20.960 --> 0:02:25.440 yes I finger bloss myself and yes, and it's almost like, oh, 0:02:25.480 --> 0:02:27.760 I know the number of vibrators that your sent is 0:02:27.960 --> 0:02:31.280 really STANDI in the mail like every other it looks 0:02:31.280 --> 0:02:34.120 like you're an addict. It looks like you have a problem. 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:36.760 My brother sent me this Texas morning, my brother Glenn, 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:38.400 and he was like, hey, my friend sent you one 0:02:38.400 --> 0:02:40.160 of these water bottles and I need you to post 0:02:40.200 --> 0:02:42.760 it on Instagram. His son is starting a business. I 0:02:42.800 --> 0:02:44.359 was like, do you know how much fucking ship I 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:47.200 get every single day? Like, give me a minute. And 0:02:47.240 --> 0:02:48.760 I went to go look for the bottle and I 0:02:48.800 --> 0:02:51.640 found two dildos while I was looking for this water 0:02:51.680 --> 0:02:53.720 bottle that my brother wants me to post about. So 0:02:53.760 --> 0:02:55.400 if you're my brother, or if you're this person with 0:02:55.440 --> 0:02:57.320 a company, hold your fucking horses. I'll do it. When 0:02:57.320 --> 0:02:59.680 I find it. And if your person selling a vibrator, 0:02:59.760 --> 0:03:02.920 she's got enough. Yes, please no more vibrators for me, Okay, 0:03:02.960 --> 0:03:06.320 I've lost them all. I'm reading this book called Set Boundaries, 0:03:06.360 --> 0:03:09.080 Find Piece, a Guide to Reclaiming Yourself. I mean, I'm 0:03:09.120 --> 0:03:11.000 not really reading it. I'm skimming through it. I'm going 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:13.720 to read it, but I just came upon this. Here's 0:03:13.720 --> 0:03:17.600 a reminder for adults who experienced emotional neglect in childhood. 0:03:18.040 --> 0:03:20.760 It was never your job to be the man of 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:24.120 the house. That applies to you. To be a confidant 0:03:24.200 --> 0:03:27.440 for your parents also applies to you. Neither of those 0:03:27.440 --> 0:03:30.320 apply to me. To take care of your siblings, that 0:03:30.360 --> 0:03:32.480 applies to both of us. Well not when I was 0:03:32.520 --> 0:03:33.960 growing up, though I didn't have to take care of them, 0:03:33.960 --> 0:03:37.760 They took care of me to learn things without parental guidance. 0:03:38.640 --> 0:03:41.840 Definitely for me, I mean that's why. Yeah, no one 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:44.360 ever said a thing to me about sex. You were 0:03:44.400 --> 0:03:47.400 like Matilda, you were on your own. No one said anything. 0:03:47.520 --> 0:03:50.000 All I did was know that my parents were having 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:52.640 sex and that I wanted to start having sex. Also 0:03:53.080 --> 0:03:56.240 to keep the peace within a chaotic home. Does that 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:58.560 apply to you a little bit? Yeah? That doesn't apply 0:03:58.600 --> 0:04:01.560 to me. I was the chaos to figure things out 0:04:01.600 --> 0:04:06.080 without emotional support. Yep, that applies to me. That applies 0:04:06.080 --> 0:04:08.440 to you. And to be responsible for bills when you 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:12.320 were a kid, Oh god, that's so luckily. My mom 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.480 worked like three jobs at a time to take care 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:16.719 of us, but we were always concerned about the bills. 0:04:16.720 --> 0:04:18.719 Like that is something I don't wish on any child 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:21.480 to have that sort of awareness of what's going on. 0:04:21.520 --> 0:04:24.240 I do think it probably helped me have appreciation for 0:04:24.400 --> 0:04:27.920 money and things now. But yeah, I was annoyed by 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:31.679 my parents lack of savings account and like acumen towards 0:04:31.760 --> 0:04:36.640 like future plans, Like they had no business acumen or 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:40.520 financial acumen about like, oh, eventually these children are going 0:04:40.560 --> 0:04:43.080 to have to grow up and go to college. Luckily 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:47.479 I didn't have to because I didn't apply anywhere. I 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:49.800 like to think of you asking your parents about their 0:04:49.800 --> 0:04:52.279 business investments. As a little child, I remember being like, 0:04:52.360 --> 0:04:54.480 do I have a dowry? I was like three, And 0:04:54.560 --> 0:04:56.720 I mean maybe I wasn't three, because I knew what 0:04:56.720 --> 0:04:58.240 a dowry was, so I must have been like six, 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:00.839 And I said, and my dad goes, can you believe 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:02.680 the hutzpah. He always used to say that I had 0:05:02.720 --> 0:05:05.040 so much hot spies, like can you believe the hutzpah? 0:05:05.040 --> 0:05:06.680 And this girl? He would say to my mother like 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:09.000 I wasn't in the room, and she'd be like, she's 0:05:09.040 --> 0:05:10.880 it's a good question. Scene more, where is the money? 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.839 And he'd be like, please, are you convolt we don't 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:17.440 have any. Don't worry about it. But yeah, I was 0:05:17.480 --> 0:05:20.200 always questioning because I started a babysitting ring on Martha's 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:22.159 Vineyard when I was like twelve, you know, when I 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:24.520 was babysitting for older children sometimes because I lied and 0:05:24.560 --> 0:05:27.040 said I was fifteen, but I was. I was twelve 0:05:27.080 --> 0:05:29.120 and I was babysitting for our fourteen year old boy. Once, 0:05:29.240 --> 0:05:31.840 I think we talked about this and I would come 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:33.960 home and I would count my money because I made 0:05:34.120 --> 0:05:37.640 so much money. And yeah, I called all the hotels 0:05:37.680 --> 0:05:40.800 and Martha's Vineyard and my babysat and I made thousands 0:05:40.839 --> 0:05:42.960 of dollars that summer, and I had a little cigar 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:44.640 box and my dad would come up and be like, 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:46.880 I see you counting your money. I'm like, back the 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:50.200 funk up, I saw what you did. Well I didn't 0:05:50.200 --> 0:05:51.760 because I was twelve at the time. But when I 0:05:51.800 --> 0:05:54.520 had my bot Mitzvah, they threw me a party, like 0:05:54.560 --> 0:05:57.000 but mitz was when you cash out as a Jewish person, 0:05:57.120 --> 0:06:00.000 Like that is when you go chi ching ching from 0:06:00.000 --> 0:06:02.159 my bot Mitzvah. All the money that was given to 0:06:02.200 --> 0:06:05.000 me by my relatives, my parents took and I never 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:08.080 saw don My dad was like, we'll hold this for you. 0:06:08.160 --> 0:06:11.360 I'm like, oh please, I was like kiss that goodbye. Yeah. 0:06:11.360 --> 0:06:13.880 My dad was terrible with his finances. There were there 0:06:13.880 --> 0:06:16.400 were weeks where like if he hadn't sold a car, 0:06:17.240 --> 0:06:19.560 it was very very tense at my house because there 0:06:19.600 --> 0:06:21.600 was no money coming in because he was always working 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:24.280 in cash right, And I remember once it was like 0:06:24.400 --> 0:06:26.359 two months he hadn't sold a car, and then he 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:28.320 finally sold one and he walked into the living room 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:32.400 and handed my sister Shoshana and I each ten dollars. Okay, 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:34.800 this really is just like Matilda. Have you ever seen 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:36.960 the movie and you're gonna need to watch it. It 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:40.560 starts Danny DeVito, Ray Pearlman. I love Danny DeVito. I 0:06:40.720 --> 0:06:44.160 love his shape, his body type. That is my type 0:06:44.160 --> 0:06:46.600 of guy's. Her dad's a used car sales. When she's 0:06:46.680 --> 0:06:49.320 left her own devices, she literally has to admit herself 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:51.880 into kindergarten. It sounds just like that's what I did. 0:06:52.040 --> 0:06:53.640 I had to do that. You went to school, and 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:55.440 just like I think I need to be educated. I 0:06:55.480 --> 0:06:57.960 don't know, but well no, I noticed that all the 0:06:58.000 --> 0:07:00.560 other kids started disappearing after her, and I was like, 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.640 where did they go? And then on the weekend I 0:07:02.720 --> 0:07:05.040 ran into one and I was like, hey, where were 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:06.760 you all week? And he's like, I went to kindergarten. 0:07:06.760 --> 0:07:09.240 I was like kindergarten. I was like, what is everybody 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:11.240 doing that? And then when I went to my parents, 0:07:11.240 --> 0:07:13.080 she's like, don't worry about it. You know, things don't 0:07:13.080 --> 0:07:15.000 really take off until first grade. You don't have to 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.440 go to kindergarten. I'm like, I do have to go 0:07:17.480 --> 0:07:20.440 to kindergarten. You fucking idiots. I like to think of 0:07:20.520 --> 0:07:25.480 your mom is watching like soaps during the day. Yeah yeah, yeah, 0:07:25.480 --> 0:07:29.440 as the world turns. General Hospital was good one days 0:07:29.440 --> 0:07:31.720 of our lives. But Santa Barbara was for me, you know, 0:07:31.840 --> 0:07:35.560 the one, the one I loved Kelly Capwell, who is 0:07:35.640 --> 0:07:39.160 Robin right? I loved her and I just wanted to 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:41.880 come home and watch her swing her blonde air around 0:07:41.920 --> 0:07:45.440 on the television and she was so beautiful and I 0:07:45.480 --> 0:07:49.240 tried to call her. I called Information and I asked 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:53.720 for Kelly Capwell in Santa Barbara, and I called someone 0:07:53.800 --> 0:07:56.560 named Kelly Capwell. I told Robin that story. She thinks 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.760 I'm making it up and she doesn't realize what could 0:07:58.800 --> 0:08:00.840 we get her on the podcast for? I don't know what. 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:05.160 Robin's not a big talker, like she doesn't love being interviewed. 0:08:05.680 --> 0:08:08.520 I did interviewer on Ellen. Actually, she was one of 0:08:08.560 --> 0:08:11.200 the people that I interviewed on my episode of Ellen. Her. 0:08:11.360 --> 0:08:12.920 They told me to pick who I wanted, and I 0:08:12.920 --> 0:08:14.880 gave them a list of names, and I ended up 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:19.240 being Robin Wright was Khalifa, Kristen Bell and then a 0:08:19.320 --> 0:08:22.240 nice cute human interest story because this woman was doing 0:08:22.320 --> 0:08:25.120 an awesome that's a nice lineup act of kindness that 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:28.880 we wanted to highlight. Yeah, it was a nice lineup. Wait, 0:08:29.120 --> 0:08:33.520 I heard something. So this guy Jason Baldoni, I think 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:35.640 his name is. He's an author. You've actually bought me 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.439 his book recently. Man Enough for I was on the 0:08:38.440 --> 0:08:40.160 phone with my friend yesterday and she was telling me 0:08:40.200 --> 0:08:43.120 that he was describing the time before you're born. You're 0:08:43.160 --> 0:08:47.080 in a womb, right, You're in like a sack, and 0:08:47.160 --> 0:08:50.880 you that is your reality, and that is technically a 0:08:50.920 --> 0:08:53.800 different dimension than when you are born into the world. 0:08:53.840 --> 0:08:56.160 And then you are part of something. So you're in 0:08:56.200 --> 0:09:01.360 that little womb, you don't know anything. You're just developing, growing, sleeping, eating, 0:09:01.720 --> 0:09:05.360 getting nutrients and turning into a human. And then the 0:09:05.440 --> 0:09:09.280 human experience of being born when you're in the world. Okay, 0:09:09.280 --> 0:09:11.000 So like you can look at those two things and 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:14.880 you're like, okay, I get that delineation. And then he 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:16.559 was saying how you have to think of death the 0:09:16.559 --> 0:09:19.600 way you think of birth that then when you leave 0:09:19.640 --> 0:09:22.200 the world, it's similar to the way you came into 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:26.000 the world. That you're not gone, you're just not here. 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.679 And I thought that was so yeah, I liked that. 0:09:29.760 --> 0:09:31.560 I was trying to explain it to my sister Shanda 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:34.760 last night, and she's not on the same page as 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:36.679 I am with you know, the physics of it all, 0:09:36.720 --> 0:09:39.559 because I have a hard time understanding physics, but I 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:43.000 understand what energy means. But when the math gets involved 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:45.880 and the dimensions get involved, I'm like, but I I 0:09:45.960 --> 0:09:50.440 know that it's true because it's science that seems very 0:09:50.440 --> 0:09:53.840 easy to digest and it makes sense, right. I thought 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:55.720 so too. I was like, this is an easy way 0:09:55.720 --> 0:09:59.360 to explain it. There was an Instagram post. It was 0:09:59.400 --> 0:10:02.000 a guy who had lost his brother three years earlier, 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:06.160 was shot and his brother did this ad campaign Prince 0:10:06.240 --> 0:10:09.320 AD when he was like six years old, and it 0:10:09.400 --> 0:10:11.120 was on the side of this truck. And his brother 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:12.839 took a picture of the ad that he had done 0:10:12.880 --> 0:10:16.440 himself when he was six and right before he died, 0:10:16.480 --> 0:10:18.920 and sent it to his brother. And on his birthday, 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.559 which would have been his thirtieth birthday, his brother was 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:24.319 driving along the freeway and the truck, there's only one 0:10:24.360 --> 0:10:27.040 truck with that ad on it drove right past him. 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:30.360 And when you hear stuff like that, you're like, Okay, 0:10:30.400 --> 0:10:33.120 there's something else at play here that we can't identify 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:37.280 and that we can't see because that's not just a coincidence. Well, 0:10:37.320 --> 0:10:39.200 I think that's why people have a hard time accepting 0:10:39.320 --> 0:10:42.920 things like this, because upon death, like the physical material 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:46.400 of our persons is no longer present, so they think, 0:10:46.440 --> 0:10:49.880 like at conception, as soon as those cells merge, they 0:10:49.920 --> 0:10:52.120 can understand, oh, a baby is being formed and then 0:10:52.160 --> 0:10:54.200 a person is born. But then when you die and 0:10:54.240 --> 0:10:57.320 you remove that factor, like that is what's hard for people, 0:10:57.360 --> 0:11:01.360 I think, to reconcile or understand that you continue on 0:11:01.520 --> 0:11:04.400 even though that material is gone, because like when you 0:11:04.480 --> 0:11:07.559 ask for signs from a loved one who's died, some 0:11:07.600 --> 0:11:10.800 people get them right away and some people don't. So 0:11:10.880 --> 0:11:12.760 you're like, well, what does that mean? Why can some 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:15.160 people get them? And why are they available? You know, 0:11:15.280 --> 0:11:17.120 Sometimes I'm like I say to my mom, like I 0:11:17.160 --> 0:11:19.200 need you right now, can you whatever? And I don't 0:11:19.200 --> 0:11:21.520 feel her presence, and other times I feel her presence 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:23.640 all the time. So I guess maybe it's not up 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:27.000 to us to be summoning the people. But yeah, when 0:11:27.000 --> 0:11:28.959 you think about it, like, Okay, that person is in 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:33.679 another dimension now, but they still exist in some realm, 0:11:33.720 --> 0:11:36.760 you know, dimension matrix. I don't know. I mean, you 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:39.280 can use whatever word makes the most sense to you. 0:11:39.320 --> 0:11:40.800 But yeah, I did think that was an easy way 0:11:40.800 --> 0:11:43.800 to understand it, and it makes death so much more palatable. 0:11:43.840 --> 0:11:45.320 I feel like we're a little bit behind the eight 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:47.200 ball when it comes to death in this country, Like 0:11:47.280 --> 0:11:49.920 it should be a little bit more of a celebration 0:11:50.000 --> 0:11:52.440 of life when people are taken from us. I mean, 0:11:52.480 --> 0:11:55.559 it's hard to look at it like that in all circumstances, 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:58.199 especially when you know innocent people are gunned down by 0:11:58.280 --> 0:12:00.640 the police force that is meant to protect. That's hard 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:02.720 to be like, oh, this should be a celebration instead 0:12:02.720 --> 0:12:05.880 of a huge miscarriage of justice. Have you watched Surviving 0:12:05.920 --> 0:12:09.200 Death on Netflix? People should watch that. It's a really 0:12:09.240 --> 0:12:12.560 interesting take on what you experience after death or people's 0:12:12.600 --> 0:12:14.840 experiences with it. There was a woman who knew she 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:16.679 was going to die while giving birth, and no one 0:12:16.720 --> 0:12:18.360 would listen to her, and she did, and then she 0:12:18.440 --> 0:12:21.520 came back and she knew exactly who was operating on her, 0:12:21.720 --> 0:12:23.760 how they were trying to resuscitate her. Was fucking weird. 0:12:23.920 --> 0:12:26.400 But Laura Lynn Jackson is in it. And Laura Lynn 0:12:26.440 --> 0:12:29.959 Jackson wrote the book Signs, and that's you know about 0:12:29.960 --> 0:12:32.160 like asking for signs from your loved ones who have 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:36.160 passed away, not passed on. Yeah, And so I started 0:12:36.200 --> 0:12:39.880 doing that. And my grandmother's is dragonflies, which I never 0:12:39.960 --> 0:12:42.719 see anywhere, but something will happen. I'm like, where the 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:44.800 fun did that guy come from? Like I literally had 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.360 one fly through the house the other day as you 0:12:47.440 --> 0:12:49.400 never where the fund do you ever seeing fly right 0:12:49.600 --> 0:12:52.520 right right right? Well, no, because there's mosquitoes everywhere, because 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:55.920 the world is melting, so ask for signs. I think 0:12:55.960 --> 0:12:58.360 my mom is a bird, and I think of her 0:12:58.400 --> 0:13:01.640 as one of my dogs, because she's definitely she's fucking 0:13:01.640 --> 0:13:03.720 with me. All right, Well, before we dive in, why 0:13:03.720 --> 0:13:08.240 don't we take a quick break? Okay, okay, who's on 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:11.920 deck up? First? We have actually call her. Her name 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:14.440 is Claudia, so why don't we get her. I pronounce 0:13:14.480 --> 0:13:17.680 that Cloudia Claudia to see what she's got going on 0:13:17.960 --> 0:13:23.439 high Cloudia. Hey, is it Claudia or Cloudia? It's funny 0:13:23.480 --> 0:13:25.400 that you say Cloudia. Some people do say it, but 0:13:25.440 --> 0:13:28.439 it is Claudia, so people say Claudia. That's what I thought. 0:13:29.080 --> 0:13:32.040 Very South American of you. Yeah, I always tried an 0:13:32.120 --> 0:13:34.319 air on the side of South American, especially when I'm 0:13:34.320 --> 0:13:38.160 in North America. Well for me, oddly enough, it comes 0:13:38.160 --> 0:13:42.280 from a German side. So oh a spreckenzie Deutsch mind bission. 0:13:42.800 --> 0:13:45.880 Oh well, that's one more word than I know I 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.880 know how to say. Little. Oh yeah, yeah, I figured 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:52.319 my mom was German. Oh really, what about you? Who's 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:55.200 German on your side? Yeah? My mom. Her last name 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:59.480 is Humble, which is bumbledee. Oh is it? I guess 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:03.160 that's what she don't me. No, it is. Actually I 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:06.040 took three years in German in high school. I also 0:14:06.160 --> 0:14:07.839 took three years of German in high school, but I 0:14:08.200 --> 0:14:10.800 took four years. I know nothing besides it Cleveland Dick, 0:14:11.480 --> 0:14:14.880 which means I love you, not I love Dick. I 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.280 think it means I love Dick. I can say it 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:20.720 depends on how you pronounce it. Do you pronounce it 0:14:20.800 --> 0:14:23.720 cock or how do you pronounce it in German? Dick 0:14:23.960 --> 0:14:27.720 or you Dick? I couldn't tell you. Is I I 0:14:27.800 --> 0:14:32.760 know that? And sloth is sleep. Well, now that everybody's 0:14:32.800 --> 0:14:35.680 gotten there, this is very educational. Yeah. Well it's always 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:40.320 been my intent to educate the masses. So okay, So Claudia, Yes, 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.080 tell us why you're calling in today, and nice to 0:14:43.080 --> 0:14:46.840 meet you. We're nice to meet you too. Yeah. So 0:14:47.840 --> 0:14:49.720 I was selling your producer when I wrote the letter. 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:51.400 I must have been very angry and it must have 0:14:51.400 --> 0:14:53.920 been happening at the time. So my neighbor has been 0:14:53.920 --> 0:14:57.320 redoing his home. We share a wall. It's a row 0:14:57.400 --> 0:15:00.280 home in Philadelphia. There's no firewall, there's no instantly. Ashton 0:15:00.400 --> 0:15:02.840 is just basically, you know, some wood slats and some 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:06.160 horse hair from a hundred years ago and that's it, right, 0:15:06.240 --> 0:15:08.520 and then some plaster and I can hear him sneeze. 0:15:08.520 --> 0:15:11.760 I can hear everything. And I've lived there for ten years, 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:13.720 or I lived here for ten years transplant from New 0:15:13.800 --> 0:15:16.840 Jersey and um, you had to get out of there right, Well, 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.520 oh my god, that's a lateral move, though Jersey to 0:15:19.560 --> 0:15:22.360 Philly is a lateral move totally. It's like I'm saving 0:15:22.360 --> 0:15:26.040 all my property taxes, but everything else sucks. So my 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:28.680 vent here ten years. They had three adult children living 0:15:28.680 --> 0:15:30.800 with them when we first moved in, and I was 0:15:30.840 --> 0:15:33.480 considered them to be quiet neighbors, and I thought we 0:15:33.480 --> 0:15:35.280 were the loud ones. We would have dinner parties and 0:15:35.280 --> 0:15:37.960 friends over, but nothing ever really crazy. You know, we're adults. 0:15:37.960 --> 0:15:40.000 It's and everybody's gotta work, so it's like not a 0:15:40.000 --> 0:15:43.160 big deal. Well, slowly, over the past few years he's 0:15:43.160 --> 0:15:45.280 been redoing the house and little things here and there. 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:48.400 But once the pandemic hit, it was like all day 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:52.800 from eight in the morning to six o'clock in the evening. Banging, hammering, 0:15:52.960 --> 0:15:56.080 like floor shaking crap, right, you know, and it's like, 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:57.920 is he going to come through the wall, because either 0:15:57.960 --> 0:15:59.360 he's going to come through the wall or I'm going 0:15:59.400 --> 0:16:01.440 to go through the all Like what the funk are 0:16:01.440 --> 0:16:05.040 you doing? So based on the sounds we hear, we 0:16:05.080 --> 0:16:07.800 can guess what is he doing now? Like doing his 0:16:07.880 --> 0:16:10.200 own electric is the one thing that we came to 0:16:10.240 --> 0:16:12.760 that got a little scary, right, So we were like, okay, well, 0:16:13.000 --> 0:16:15.920 houses are notorious for burning down in Philly. So then 0:16:15.920 --> 0:16:17.840 we try to move right and then it's like, no, 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:20.680 you can't not unless you have like several hundred thousand 0:16:20.720 --> 0:16:22.520 dollars cash in your pocket. Are you even able to 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:23.920 get out of your home at this point? So I'm 0:16:23.960 --> 0:16:26.840 like okay, So now we tried to like play music, 0:16:27.600 --> 0:16:30.480 turn up the television, I don't know, we just try 0:16:30.520 --> 0:16:33.480 to like offset it, but it's always not so easy. 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:36.400 So what have the conversation has been like up to now? 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:39.760 My husband will say things like, hey, so it's pretty 0:16:39.760 --> 0:16:42.120 loud today, and he'd be like, yeah, we're almost done. 0:16:42.680 --> 0:16:44.720 We're doing the loud parts now, but we should be 0:16:44.760 --> 0:16:46.920 done soon. And he'd be like, okay, you when he 0:16:46.960 --> 0:16:49.600 comes inside and then he tells me, and then I'm like, okay, 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:52.800 that's great. And then three months later it's like, I 0:16:52.840 --> 0:16:54.480 guess we're going to have to leave again today because 0:16:54.480 --> 0:16:56.960 it's pretty loud. I know, they can't afford to pay 0:16:56.960 --> 0:16:58.760 for somebody to do the work and get it done sooner. 0:16:58.800 --> 0:17:00.760 So there's that, right. I don't want to be like 0:17:00.880 --> 0:17:03.920 totally insensitive, but how many months has this been going 0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:09.280 on for? Well? I mean how long has the pandemic nonsince? Like, 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:12.440 what a year ago? Yeah, so that's over a year. Yeah, 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:14.399 it was here and there, upton to that point and 0:17:14.480 --> 0:17:16.920 we could handle it, I guess, but it was on 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:19.520 we got lockdown and they were like, okay, well we're 0:17:19.520 --> 0:17:21.720 doing this now then, and we were like okay, well, 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:23.720 it would have been nice if we had a conversation. 0:17:24.040 --> 0:17:26.120 I think this guy deserves You need to start playing 0:17:26.119 --> 0:17:28.800 hardball with this asshole. Like he's gotten away with this 0:17:28.920 --> 0:17:30.879 for a year. I mean, if he was giving you 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:33.239 an honest timeline, then that would be one thing. But 0:17:33.320 --> 0:17:36.480 you're living with a connecting wall. It's a much different issue. 0:17:36.480 --> 0:17:39.240 You can't just start construction without letting your neighbors know. 0:17:39.920 --> 0:17:42.120 And that's clearly what he's doing. If you can hear 0:17:42.160 --> 0:17:44.680 all of that, it is construction. Do you have any 0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:47.280 lawyer friends, I would put together a letter that scared 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:50.679 the ship out of him. What do you think, Brandon, Like, 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:52.920 I'm going through construction in my house right now. Your 0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:56.560 rental has construction next to it. So I totally understand 0:17:56.640 --> 0:18:01.280 your frustration that it's at all year year. That's like abuse. 0:18:01.440 --> 0:18:05.280 That's like, you know, chronic abuse a year. Yeah. If 0:18:05.280 --> 0:18:07.119 he especially if he says we're gonna be done soon, 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:08.800 We're gonna be done soon. That guy is never going 0:18:08.840 --> 0:18:11.520 to be done with anything, it sounds like. So, you know, 0:18:11.640 --> 0:18:14.520 that's disrespectful to the neighbor. So it's one thing like 0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:16.840 our house, the rental house I'm staying in next door, 0:18:16.880 --> 0:18:19.760 they're building a huge monstrosity. There's nothing I can do 0:18:19.800 --> 0:18:22.000 about that. That's that they own that lamb. They can 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:23.960 do whatever they want. But this, if you're sharing a 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:27.439 wall with somebody, it's basic common decency to be a 0:18:27.480 --> 0:18:30.639 little bit more forthcoming with the actual facts of the 0:18:30.680 --> 0:18:32.720 matter and when he will be done, because it feels 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:35.439 like there's no end date. You've been playing softball with 0:18:35.520 --> 0:18:37.919 him and it's not getting you any results. So I 0:18:37.960 --> 0:18:40.960 would start playing hardball, and even if that means you 0:18:41.040 --> 0:18:45.240 having a fucking meltdown running outside and just like throwing 0:18:45.480 --> 0:18:47.679 ship at his house, like he needs to see that, 0:18:48.640 --> 0:18:51.080 he needs to see that this is the last straw, 0:18:51.320 --> 0:18:53.200 you know, like it's at the end and you're not 0:18:53.240 --> 0:18:57.360 gonna be playing Mr. Nice guy anymore. Okay, totally, totally, 0:18:57.680 --> 0:19:00.399