1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,960 Speaker 1: is how Men Thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey everyone, 3 00:00:09,200 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: my name's Blake Horseman and you may know me from 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:14,520 Speaker 1: the Bachelor franchise and currently on All Star Shore. I'm 5 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: so happy to be guest hosting How Men Think. I'm 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:19,239 Speaker 1: gonna answer a few of your questions and try to 7 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,680 Speaker 1: help you understand how men think. But first this eleven 8 00:00:22,760 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 1: Questions with Blake Corseman. Let's get into it. What am 9 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:30,000 Speaker 1: I known for? Um? Obviously, I'm known for the Bachelrette 10 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: season I believe it was fourteen, and then a Bachelor 11 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:38,280 Speaker 1: in Paradise season six. Now I'm currently filming Also Store, 12 00:00:38,320 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: which is in its fourth episode. But if I had 13 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:42,560 Speaker 1: to see what I've known for the most, it would 14 00:00:42,560 --> 00:00:46,440 Speaker 1: probably be Stagecoach. Um. That was kind of the drama 15 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:50,519 Speaker 1: in the big storyline in b I P. Six. Uh 16 00:00:50,520 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 1: So that's probably the biggest thing we all kind of 17 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:54,600 Speaker 1: met down Stage Coach country music festival in California. If 18 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 1: you haven't, you don't know what it is, but that's 19 00:00:56,360 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: probably the biggest thing. Unknown for Who am I in 20 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 1: my personal life? Well, honestly, so you know, I uh, 21 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: I'm a pretty outgoing guy and extroverted in public. And 22 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 1: you know, I, Um, I can be an entertainer a time. 23 00:01:09,640 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 1: Most of the time, I'm an entertainer, especially you know, 24 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:13,320 Speaker 1: I DJ now for a living and things like that. 25 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: But honestly, UM, I think my close friends, UM and 26 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:19,840 Speaker 1: family know that when I'm alone and in my personal life, 27 00:01:19,840 --> 00:01:22,119 Speaker 1: I'm actually quite the opposite. I'm an introvert. I don't 28 00:01:22,160 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: really I really stick to myself. I don't go out 29 00:01:25,360 --> 00:01:27,119 Speaker 1: during the week you know, I kind of just hang 30 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:29,399 Speaker 1: out Netflix, chill, work out, that kind of thing. So 31 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:31,200 Speaker 1: um on the weekends. You know, I know how to 32 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:32,960 Speaker 1: turn it on everything, but my personal life I'm actually 33 00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:37,800 Speaker 1: quite boring, to be honest. Um. Three shows that I'm 34 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: currently binge watching. Okay, actually I got this because I 35 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 1: just started one two days ago and I'm already like 36 00:01:41,760 --> 00:01:44,160 Speaker 1: a season and a half in. But The news Room 37 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: on HBO Max incredible writing, incredible show I've been watching 38 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 1: that I binged all of Stranger Things are yeah, Stranger Things, 39 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:55,280 Speaker 1: And then, um, what other shows have I binged lately? 40 00:01:55,320 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: I Mean I'm always rewatching one of those people who 41 00:01:57,880 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: need to fall asleep to something to a television show. 42 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:04,240 Speaker 1: Always be watching Community and New Girl on Netflix. So 43 00:02:04,240 --> 00:02:08,280 Speaker 1: those are two that I'm always constantly watching. Um, what 44 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: is my favorite food? Let's see here. Uh, I love gosh. 45 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:15,359 Speaker 1: I would say my like guilty pleasure food. I love sushi. 46 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: Put my guilty pleasures food to be like. Probably pizza. 47 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:22,240 Speaker 1: I just love pizza. You could any kind of pizza, deep, dish, thin, Chicago, 48 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:25,919 Speaker 1: New York, all the kind of styles. I love pizza. Uh, 49 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: tell us about my career. Yeah, so you know, obviously 50 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: a lot has changed since I was on a basherette 51 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:34,400 Speaker 1: roughly four years ago. I currently, I've always been a 52 00:02:34,400 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 1: big music guy. I was always the ox cord guy 53 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:39,200 Speaker 1: at parties. I was always the guy finding new music 54 00:02:39,280 --> 00:02:41,239 Speaker 1: on YouTube, on SoundCloud, all that kind of stuff. So 55 00:02:41,280 --> 00:02:43,960 Speaker 1: I've always been into music. And Um, obviously, coming off 56 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: the show, you're giving a lot of different opportunities. You're 57 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 1: given a platform, and I decided to know what I'm 58 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,560 Speaker 1: gonna pursue a passion of mind, something I love to do, 59 00:02:50,639 --> 00:02:53,000 Speaker 1: and that is music. And so I decided a DJ. 60 00:02:53,320 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: And Um, you know, I took classes. Um, I've created 61 00:02:55,880 --> 00:02:57,919 Speaker 1: my own mixes, started producing, and that's why I do 62 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 1: for a living now. Travel the world. Actually three countries 63 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:03,760 Speaker 1: this year or this month. Um, travel the world, dejaying. 64 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:07,239 Speaker 1: So never something I thought I'd be doing. Yet here 65 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:10,520 Speaker 1: I find myself really, really truly enjoying what I do 66 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:13,480 Speaker 1: and loving meeting people out on the road and kind 67 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:14,840 Speaker 1: of you know, meeting fans and that kind of thing. 68 00:03:14,840 --> 00:03:16,600 Speaker 1: So that's what I do. I also have a podcast 69 00:03:16,639 --> 00:03:20,440 Speaker 1: called Behind the Worse Podcast and um, yeah, so and 70 00:03:20,480 --> 00:03:22,520 Speaker 1: then of course you know Instagram stuff all that fun stuff. 71 00:03:22,560 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: So a lot of different things, but all things I 72 00:03:25,160 --> 00:03:29,680 Speaker 1: never thought i'd be doing. So Uh, what is your 73 00:03:29,680 --> 00:03:34,080 Speaker 1: biggest fear in life? Deep? Biggest fear in life would 74 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: be probably, honestly, to die alone, to get real dark. 75 00:03:39,960 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: You know. I think to be one of those people 76 00:03:41,840 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: who you know, doesn't have a family, friends, anything like 77 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: that around him when he passes. I think that's probably 78 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:54,600 Speaker 1: my biggest hear in life. Um, what is my biggest pet? Peeve? Honestly, 79 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 1: I absolutely despise being late. I am one of those 80 00:03:57,320 --> 00:03:59,120 Speaker 1: people whose early to everything and one of the most 81 00:03:59,160 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: prompts humans you will ever meet. I just find that 82 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: to be late to something is wildly disrespectful to the 83 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: person you know who was either meeting their person who's 84 00:04:07,720 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 1: putting on the event or whatever it is. So my 85 00:04:09,400 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: biggest pet peeve is is being late, and that's not 86 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,880 Speaker 1: much closer. There's not many things that are even as 87 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:16,279 Speaker 1: close to that as big as pet peeve to me? 88 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 1: What makes me most happy? Uh, that's hard. I mean, 89 00:04:20,880 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 1: I'll just be honest. I'm a pretty easy guy to 90 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:25,600 Speaker 1: make happy. I'm pretty you know. Um, I don't know, 91 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:29,000 Speaker 1: I'm pretty lighthearted, level headed, that kind of thing. I 92 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,880 Speaker 1: think probably, I it's it's it's crazy because like I 93 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:34,440 Speaker 1: enjoy being on stage and entertaining and made people laugh, 94 00:04:34,480 --> 00:04:37,160 Speaker 1: smile and dance while I'm you know, doing my craft. 95 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:39,600 Speaker 1: But then at the same time, I'm incredibly happy in 96 00:04:39,640 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 1: bed binging Netflix. So um, then those are very very 97 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,560 Speaker 1: opposite on the spectrum. But those two things are probably 98 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:49,039 Speaker 1: what makes me the happiest when I'm either on stage 99 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 1: entertaining orhen I'm in bed resting. So one of those 100 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:56,800 Speaker 1: two things for sure. Next question, what is your ideal 101 00:04:57,080 --> 00:05:01,560 Speaker 1: Saturday morning? Uh? So my deal Saturday morning? Um, probably, 102 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: you know, as much as people think like I go 103 00:05:04,560 --> 00:05:06,400 Speaker 1: out party and drink all the time, I really don't. 104 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 1: I'm working now, so you know, I don't go out 105 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:10,200 Speaker 1: to party, actually go out to work now, so I 106 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:12,760 Speaker 1: don't drink as much. Uh. So hopefully you know, I 107 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:14,880 Speaker 1: didn't go out the Friday before. But Sunday, Saturday, you 108 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 1: wake up a couple of coffee in the hot tub, 109 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:19,920 Speaker 1: I go work out, get a good sweat in. Uh. 110 00:05:19,960 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: And then Saturday, I either do something you know, with 111 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 1: family or friends, something super casual in the daytime or 112 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: of a day drinker. Maybe visit some breweries, um, go 113 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:29,880 Speaker 1: to top golf, maybe play a little golf, that kind 114 00:05:29,920 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: of thing. Uh. And then honestly in bed early watching 115 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:36,960 Speaker 1: Netflix on a Saturday night. So um, those are probably 116 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:43,359 Speaker 1: that would be my ideal Saturday. Next question, are you 117 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 1: more of an athletes or the armshare quarterback? I love 118 00:05:46,400 --> 00:05:49,960 Speaker 1: that question. Uh, an athlete, I'm both Like I am 119 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,320 Speaker 1: also that person now who sits on you know, sits 120 00:05:52,360 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 1: in the chair and yeels at the you know, the 121 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: quarterbacks getting paid five million dollars. But I was an 122 00:05:58,360 --> 00:05:59,919 Speaker 1: athlete back and then I still him an athlete. But 123 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: I did play college football, actually was a quarterback um 124 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:05,680 Speaker 1: in college. So I I am an athletes. You know, 125 00:06:05,800 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: I enjoy staying fit. I really put you know, I'm 126 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:11,280 Speaker 1: passionate about my health and what I eat and what, 127 00:06:11,440 --> 00:06:13,080 Speaker 1: you know, the way I cheat my body. So, um, 128 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,200 Speaker 1: definitely I'm an athlete, but there are times when I'm 129 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:18,600 Speaker 1: watching some of my favorite sports that I am definitely 130 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:22,960 Speaker 1: an arm chair quarterback. What keeps you motivated? Uh, wow, 131 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:24,560 Speaker 1: that's a lot of different things, you know. I think 132 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,480 Speaker 1: one of the biggest things I went through, uh some 133 00:06:28,600 --> 00:06:32,200 Speaker 1: things you know in Paradise and um, I think a 134 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 1: lot of people counted me out. I think a lot 135 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 1: of people decided who I was based on a few 136 00:06:37,520 --> 00:06:43,480 Speaker 1: you know, stories written, told and stuff on Paradise and 137 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:45,400 Speaker 1: so I think, honestly, one of the biggest motivations for 138 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:48,240 Speaker 1: me right now is as far as career wise, is 139 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 1: the chip on my shoulder. I have a bit of 140 00:06:49,520 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: a chip on my shoulder. I want to prove to 141 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 1: everybody that, um, you know, I don't really I don't 142 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:56,760 Speaker 1: need the show, um to be successful and I'm able 143 00:06:56,800 --> 00:06:59,200 Speaker 1: to find success on my own. Um. So that's probably 144 00:06:59,200 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: the thing that motivates me the most right now is 145 00:07:00,720 --> 00:07:04,320 Speaker 1: a chip on my shoulder. And then um, also my 146 00:07:04,400 --> 00:07:06,000 Speaker 1: family and friends. You know, I think I have an 147 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:09,040 Speaker 1: incredible support system around me and they continue to motivate me. 148 00:07:09,680 --> 00:07:11,520 Speaker 1: But that's probably the biggest thing as far as motivation 149 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: career wise. So that's eleven questions with me, Blake Horseman. 150 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:17,680 Speaker 1: So now we'll take a little break and we'll come 151 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 1: back with some questions from colors. Hi, Alexa, how are you? 152 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: I'm good? How are you? I'm doing well? I heard 153 00:07:33,840 --> 00:07:37,120 Speaker 1: you get a question for me fire away? Yeah, I 154 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:43,120 Speaker 1: sure do. Um, my boyfriend and his best friend do 155 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 1: everything together. They're basically like attached at the hip and um, like, 156 00:07:50,280 --> 00:07:54,400 Speaker 1: they run errands together. I'm always trying out new restaurants 157 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:59,679 Speaker 1: and honestly, I just want some quality time with him. 158 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:03,200 Speaker 1: So how do I ask for this without making him 159 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:08,640 Speaker 1: feel like he's choosing me over his friend? Yeah? Great question. 160 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:11,240 Speaker 1: So have you approached him at all kind of have 161 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:13,040 Speaker 1: you kind of dropped hints? Have you done that kind 162 00:08:13,040 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 1: of thing with him? Uh? Yeah, I was like, you know, 163 00:08:18,640 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 1: maybe it'd be nice to have some alone time later. 164 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:27,280 Speaker 1: But I don't think he understands that that means without 165 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 1: his friend, because uh, he showed up to my place 166 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: with his friends, so the way I'd look at it, 167 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:40,400 Speaker 1: So it's good that you've been dropping hints because I 168 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:42,200 Speaker 1: was really my first thing. It's like slowly drop hints 169 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:45,160 Speaker 1: before you kind of like approach him about being like listen, 170 00:08:45,320 --> 00:08:48,200 Speaker 1: like either it's he not necessarily like your friend or me, 171 00:08:48,720 --> 00:08:50,680 Speaker 1: but it's more of like, you know, this is impeding 172 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,880 Speaker 1: our ability, um, to grow a relationship. But honestly, I 173 00:08:53,880 --> 00:08:55,640 Speaker 1: think the way I look at it, the reason maybe 174 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:59,839 Speaker 1: he's doing this UM bringing his friend around UM is 175 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:03,240 Speaker 1: maybe because he's he's scared UM. You know. I think 176 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: maybe he has, you know, an issue with being not 177 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:08,720 Speaker 1: necessarily alone with you, but he has, you know, an 178 00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:12,199 Speaker 1: issue of like what is our you know, conversation is 179 00:09:12,240 --> 00:09:13,440 Speaker 1: going to be like that kind of thing? What does 180 00:09:13,440 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 1: our relationship look like when he's not in it? And 181 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: I think that's maybe fearful to him, like what does 182 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:19,400 Speaker 1: our relationship look like when we don't have this quote 183 00:09:19,440 --> 00:09:21,920 Speaker 1: unquote like third wheel? So I think that's the way 184 00:09:21,960 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: I'd be approached it, be like are you Instead of 185 00:09:24,400 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 1: like throwing all the blame on him, I'd be like 186 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: am I Like am I doing something that is like 187 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:31,160 Speaker 1: are you scared to be you know alone with me? 188 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,160 Speaker 1: Like do you always have to have this crutch of 189 00:09:33,200 --> 00:09:35,560 Speaker 1: your friend with you? Like? Am I doing something and 190 00:09:35,559 --> 00:09:38,200 Speaker 1: then maybe that will at least create the communication and 191 00:09:38,200 --> 00:09:40,760 Speaker 1: then you can have the open dialogue of why he 192 00:09:40,840 --> 00:09:43,560 Speaker 1: keeps bringing his friends around constantly when you want to 193 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:47,480 Speaker 1: have some you know, one on one time. Got it? 194 00:09:47,640 --> 00:09:49,880 Speaker 1: So I need to put it on him. Yeah, I 195 00:09:49,880 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: would say. I would just be like, listen, like why 196 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:54,079 Speaker 1: I just asked, Just be like, why do you need 197 00:09:54,120 --> 00:09:56,280 Speaker 1: this crutch of your friend when you're around me? You know, 198 00:09:56,320 --> 00:09:58,080 Speaker 1: I understand that you guys are close, and I love that, 199 00:09:58,120 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: Like you'd rather have it? You know, I don't know 200 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:01,679 Speaker 1: you'd rather have it, but you definitely want somebody who 201 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:03,959 Speaker 1: has a life outside of your relationship. But at the 202 00:10:04,000 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: same time, it can't it can't be too much like 203 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:12,080 Speaker 1: it sounds like it is. At least yeah, definitely, Um, 204 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: I I definitely feel like it's impacting our ability to 205 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:21,720 Speaker 1: connect and friends. Nice, but I didn't want two boyfriends. 206 00:10:21,720 --> 00:10:25,120 Speaker 1: But yeah, that's a seat. That's a good way to 207 00:10:25,160 --> 00:10:26,680 Speaker 1: put it. Be like, listen, I didn't sign up for 208 00:10:26,720 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: two boyfriends. Like I want us to get close. And 209 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:32,160 Speaker 1: I think, maybe you know, I'm trying to be you know, 210 00:10:32,200 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 1: I guess optimistic here, but maybe he doesn't really understand. 211 00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:37,960 Speaker 1: Just how much it is impacting you and how hard 212 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,480 Speaker 1: it's become for you and your relationship, and maybe if 213 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:41,839 Speaker 1: you kind of just talk to him about it and'll 214 00:10:41,840 --> 00:10:43,400 Speaker 1: be like, wow, you know, I don't I don't want 215 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:44,880 Speaker 1: to lose you and I don't want to relationship to 216 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: take steps backwards. Um, I'll make a change, you know, 217 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:53,440 Speaker 1: got it? Got it? Okay, I think that sounds fair, dude. 218 00:10:53,440 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 1: I hope that. I hope that helps because you're not 219 00:10:55,600 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: the in trust me, You're not alone in this. Yeah, 220 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:59,480 Speaker 1: there are a lot of women out there who have 221 00:10:59,640 --> 00:11:02,920 Speaker 1: the same problem because yeah, Min running packs. We'll put 222 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:06,280 Speaker 1: it that way, Min running packs. So oh I always 223 00:11:06,280 --> 00:11:10,120 Speaker 1: thought it was the other way around. Unfortunately it's both. 224 00:11:10,160 --> 00:11:14,880 Speaker 1: It's both. Okay, Well, thank you very much. Absolutely, have 225 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:19,120 Speaker 1: a good one. Alexa. Hi Aubrey, how are you. Um, 226 00:11:19,160 --> 00:11:23,000 Speaker 1: I'm doing okay, I'm doing well. Thank you. I heard 227 00:11:23,000 --> 00:11:24,280 Speaker 1: you got a question for him and see if I 228 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:28,959 Speaker 1: can help you out. Yeah, definitely. So I'm living with 229 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:33,079 Speaker 1: my boyfriend where we've been in a relationship for a while. Um, 230 00:11:33,360 --> 00:11:38,800 Speaker 1: I'm the bread wridden winner, like I make more money. Um. 231 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:41,640 Speaker 1: And my boyfriend he just quit his job of ten years. 232 00:11:41,640 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: He was really stressed out, and he's looking for something else, 233 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:47,719 Speaker 1: but he doesn't seem to be looking as hard as 234 00:11:48,640 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 1: as he should. Um, And I told him I would 235 00:11:52,679 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 1: support him through his transition, but it just feels like 236 00:11:56,920 --> 00:12:00,360 Speaker 1: it's taking a really long time, longer than expected. And 237 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:03,640 Speaker 1: you know, since I'm making the money, I I want 238 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:06,920 Speaker 1: to support him, but I don't want like to feel 239 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:11,320 Speaker 1: like a burden, you know. Yeah, yeah, Um, that is 240 00:12:11,360 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 1: a predicament. So how long how long currently has he 241 00:12:14,679 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 1: been I guess unemployed or at least searching for a job. Roughly, Um, 242 00:12:18,840 --> 00:12:22,920 Speaker 1: it's been like six or seven months. That is a 243 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:25,320 Speaker 1: long time. That really is so first of all, I 244 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:28,439 Speaker 1: don't think you're in the wrong to ask this question 245 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: or to actually just feel the way that you're feeling 246 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:32,880 Speaker 1: right now, because that is a long time, six seven months, 247 00:12:32,960 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 1: especially with you providing for him and supporting him, and 248 00:12:36,280 --> 00:12:39,840 Speaker 1: which by the way, is amazing. UM. So are you 249 00:12:39,920 --> 00:12:41,360 Speaker 1: kind of are you kind of wondering, like how do 250 00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: you approach the conversation with him, and like how do 251 00:12:44,160 --> 00:12:47,079 Speaker 1: you light a fire under you know, under him if 252 00:12:47,080 --> 00:12:50,800 Speaker 1: you will? Yeah, Like sometimes I'll ask him questions about 253 00:12:50,840 --> 00:12:53,480 Speaker 1: what he did with his day to see I feel 254 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:56,960 Speaker 1: tell me about a new job interview or something, and 255 00:12:57,480 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't think he's catching on. Uh, And 256 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: I'll be honest. This is actually probably one of one 257 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:06,439 Speaker 1: of the hardest situations because men's egos are very fragile, 258 00:13:06,559 --> 00:13:08,960 Speaker 1: Like coming from a man, our egos are very fragile. 259 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:14,880 Speaker 1: And if you know, we feel like, um, we're to 260 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:18,079 Speaker 1: a point where it's like, you know, you're obviously supporting 261 00:13:18,080 --> 00:13:20,280 Speaker 1: and everything, and then you feel like we aren't that 262 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:23,120 Speaker 1: you don't feel like he isn't working hard to get 263 00:13:23,120 --> 00:13:25,720 Speaker 1: that next job. It could it could become you know, 264 00:13:26,200 --> 00:13:28,640 Speaker 1: a pretty big I don't want to I mean argument, 265 00:13:28,679 --> 00:13:30,240 Speaker 1: I guess, or fight if you will, Like just let's 266 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,400 Speaker 1: just come from my experience. So this is a very 267 00:13:32,440 --> 00:13:35,200 Speaker 1: delicate situation, fragile. So I think the one way to 268 00:13:35,240 --> 00:13:36,680 Speaker 1: do it, at least for me if I was in 269 00:13:36,800 --> 00:13:40,199 Speaker 1: his shoes, is to be like, listen, it's been six 270 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:42,400 Speaker 1: months now, Um, I think you just gotta straight up 271 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,560 Speaker 1: like be honest with him, because maybe he doesn't think 272 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,000 Speaker 1: he doesn't understand. I know you said you dropped some hints, 273 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 1: but we're not the brightest people. So I would say, 274 00:13:50,080 --> 00:13:52,480 Speaker 1: maybe you know, like just straight up ask him or 275 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: tell him, and be like listening. You know, I don't 276 00:13:54,280 --> 00:13:57,480 Speaker 1: mind supporting you and this, you know, I want to 277 00:13:57,520 --> 00:13:59,839 Speaker 1: make sure that you find a job that you and 278 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:01,960 Speaker 1: joy because it sounds like maybe his job before he 279 00:14:02,000 --> 00:14:04,400 Speaker 1: didn't enjoy, because that you know, if he finds a 280 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:07,240 Speaker 1: job he enjoys, it will help your relationship so much more, 281 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:10,240 Speaker 1: you know. Um, yeah, So I would say, listen, I 282 00:14:10,320 --> 00:14:12,640 Speaker 1: understand you're taking your time, you're finding what you're passionate about, 283 00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: you're finding a job that you're going to enjoy going 284 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:17,960 Speaker 1: to every day. But at the same time, like you know, 285 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:21,920 Speaker 1: this agreement or deal whatever you wanna call that we have, 286 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,520 Speaker 1: I don't mind supporting you. But if you're not out 287 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:26,680 Speaker 1: there looking for a job that you know you're passionate 288 00:14:26,720 --> 00:14:29,240 Speaker 1: about and that you love, then we gotta figure another 289 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: you know, we gotta figure something else out. Um. But 290 00:14:32,400 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 1: I would say, you know, it is a very delicate situation, 291 00:14:34,880 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 1: like I said, because men's egos are so fragile. But 292 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:39,400 Speaker 1: I would just honestly approach him with honesty, to be 293 00:14:39,480 --> 00:14:43,600 Speaker 1: completely honest with him. Definitely, all right. The biggest way 294 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 1: to the frame is to be like listen, because it 295 00:14:45,640 --> 00:14:47,600 Speaker 1: sounds like maybe he's looking, but just be like, you know, 296 00:14:47,720 --> 00:14:50,160 Speaker 1: I know you're looking for like a passion job. You know, 297 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,000 Speaker 1: you're looking for something you're you know you're going to 298 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:53,560 Speaker 1: enjoy to go to. But at the same time, it's 299 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:57,040 Speaker 1: been six seven months. You know, we gotta we gotta 300 00:14:57,040 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 1: figure out something else. Even if it's like him, get 301 00:14:59,000 --> 00:15:02,560 Speaker 1: a job now on the side, I don't know, you know, 302 00:15:03,160 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: a gas stations and whatever it is. Wow, he finds 303 00:15:06,000 --> 00:15:07,600 Speaker 1: this job he's passionate about. You could frame it in 304 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:14,239 Speaker 1: that sense too. Definitely, Yeah, well, thank you so much. Absolutely, 305 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: I hope that helped a little bit. Already definitely already 306 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:20,680 Speaker 1: have a good one too. And Danielle, how are you 307 00:15:20,800 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 1: blake here? Hey? How's it going? Oh, I'm going I'm 308 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:27,520 Speaker 1: doing pretty good, actually doing pretty good. Can't complain. I 309 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:28,960 Speaker 1: heard you got a question for me. I can help 310 00:15:29,000 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 1: you out, yes please? Um? Okay. So I am single 311 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:36,640 Speaker 1: and ready to mingle, right and um, I go to 312 00:15:36,680 --> 00:15:39,960 Speaker 1: bars and I feel like I feel like I'm putting 313 00:15:39,960 --> 00:15:43,920 Speaker 1: out that vibe. Um, but guys aren't coming up to 314 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:47,960 Speaker 1: me as much as I expected, as much as I thought. Um, 315 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 1: it's like everyone seems to be on their phones or 316 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:53,760 Speaker 1: like in a group. Um so, I guess my question 317 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:56,800 Speaker 1: is what would be a cool way to start like 318 00:15:56,840 --> 00:16:00,560 Speaker 1: a fun conversation or what could I do to I 319 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: don't know, catch their attention and took away from their 320 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:07,400 Speaker 1: friends or you. Yeah, no solid question, um And I 321 00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: think a lot of women lately do feel this. I 322 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:13,280 Speaker 1: mean obviously that the phone thing, and like the them 323 00:16:13,320 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: being honestly like so worried about themselves and they don't 324 00:16:16,800 --> 00:16:19,080 Speaker 1: look up from their phone or whatever it is, and 325 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,760 Speaker 1: you know, and men are terrified of rejection. Like I'll 326 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:24,840 Speaker 1: just put that out there. Men are terrified of rejection. Um. 327 00:16:24,920 --> 00:16:26,680 Speaker 1: So that could be one of the reasons they're they're 328 00:16:26,760 --> 00:16:28,680 Speaker 1: afraid to put themselves out there to come up to you. 329 00:16:29,080 --> 00:16:30,640 Speaker 1: So if you see somebody, let's say, you know what, 330 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:32,280 Speaker 1: you see a cute guy or whatever it is, and 331 00:16:32,600 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 1: or somebody who intrigues you. Honestly, it's it sounds like 332 00:16:36,080 --> 00:16:38,920 Speaker 1: so cliche, but one of the biggest things is if 333 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:41,600 Speaker 1: if you for me, what I used to do is 334 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:44,040 Speaker 1: eye contact, right you you make some eye contact and 335 00:16:44,040 --> 00:16:46,440 Speaker 1: if they linger, I always call it lingering eye contact. 336 00:16:46,440 --> 00:16:49,600 Speaker 1: If there's some lingering eye contact there, then I think 337 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 1: that's when you and men love it, at least I do. 338 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 1: I think most men love when women make move um, 339 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:55,760 Speaker 1: as long as it's not too over the top and 340 00:16:55,960 --> 00:16:58,920 Speaker 1: simply walking up and being like introducing your name and 341 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:00,360 Speaker 1: saying kind of buy you a drink. I know that 342 00:17:00,400 --> 00:17:02,880 Speaker 1: sounds so boring and cliche, but that would work on 343 00:17:02,920 --> 00:17:05,480 Speaker 1: me every time. Especially And you know what it's like 344 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:07,359 Speaker 1: when you feel that like attraction or you feel that 345 00:17:07,400 --> 00:17:09,840 Speaker 1: you get that lingering eye contact, you're like, oh, like 346 00:17:09,920 --> 00:17:11,679 Speaker 1: you know, he checked me out, or oh he's like 347 00:17:11,720 --> 00:17:14,600 Speaker 1: you know, he's looked over here five times. Then it's like, okay, 348 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:16,719 Speaker 1: there's something here. So the way for him to come 349 00:17:16,760 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 1: to you just do it yourself. Just introduce you, can 350 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:20,480 Speaker 1: I buy you a drink, or just introduce yourself in 351 00:17:20,520 --> 00:17:22,360 Speaker 1: general and they be like, what are you doing here? 352 00:17:22,359 --> 00:17:23,520 Speaker 1: You know, one of those things. But I think the 353 00:17:23,600 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: key is that lingering eye contact and just noticing that 354 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:29,440 Speaker 1: he's looking at you a few times. Okay, yeah, yeah, 355 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:31,400 Speaker 1: So that's what I always say, lingering one contact. If 356 00:17:31,400 --> 00:17:33,879 Speaker 1: I noticed shiming across the bar and we linger eye contact, 357 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:37,359 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, time to make a move. Yeah, So 358 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:40,800 Speaker 1: that's what I would say it sounds awesome. Okay, good well, 359 00:17:40,840 --> 00:17:43,240 Speaker 1: I hope good luck out there, good luck out there. 360 00:17:43,560 --> 00:17:48,320 Speaker 1: It's it's not easy dating. I know it's not. All right, 361 00:17:48,359 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: We'll have a good one. Thank you. Right, Hi, Amanda 362 00:17:52,600 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 1: Blake here heard you might have a question for me. 363 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: We can help you out with he yes. Um, so 364 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:04,120 Speaker 1: this is so awkward. I just I started like casually 365 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 1: dating this guy was like the single dad of two kids, 366 00:18:07,520 --> 00:18:10,080 Speaker 1: and I really like him. We had like a few 367 00:18:10,119 --> 00:18:16,560 Speaker 1: great dates and um, we're not exclusive per se. Yeah, 368 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 1: but um, he also told me that he wasn't like 369 00:18:19,400 --> 00:18:26,600 Speaker 1: dating anybody else, so um yeah, and like recently he's 370 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:30,640 Speaker 1: been going on what he says, our business trips, so 371 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:32,879 Speaker 1: we haven't seen each other, you know, in a little while. 372 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:36,840 Speaker 1: But um, the thing my question is, I saw him 373 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:41,960 Speaker 1: get tagged on Instagram in a photo with like this 374 00:18:42,080 --> 00:18:48,160 Speaker 1: girl at music festival. Um, and like, I know we're 375 00:18:48,200 --> 00:18:51,680 Speaker 1: not exclusive, but I'm just like I'm more upset that 376 00:18:51,800 --> 00:18:57,840 Speaker 1: he lied about it, you know. And you know, I 377 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:00,480 Speaker 1: just lied that he was on a busy this trip 378 00:19:00,520 --> 00:19:02,719 Speaker 1: and then he wasn't seeing anyone else, and I'm just 379 00:19:03,320 --> 00:19:05,520 Speaker 1: so I'm just wondering, like should I call him out 380 00:19:05,600 --> 00:19:08,520 Speaker 1: for line to me, I mean, and also like, how 381 00:19:08,520 --> 00:19:13,320 Speaker 1: do I bring it up because I was snooping? Yeah, yeah, 382 00:19:13,800 --> 00:19:15,679 Speaker 1: we all snoop though, don't feel guilty at that, we 383 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:18,800 Speaker 1: all snoop. Uh, you know, I would say the biggest 384 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 1: thing is first to find out, right, like, maybe that's 385 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,800 Speaker 1: his I mean, you know, I'm thinking optimistically here, maybe 386 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:29,040 Speaker 1: that's his cousin, Maybe that's whatever. It is. Always find 387 00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:31,760 Speaker 1: out before you you know, more or less like getting 388 00:19:31,760 --> 00:19:33,159 Speaker 1: mad at I'm always find out if it's true. So 389 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:36,159 Speaker 1: the way I had approach um, the opening to the 390 00:19:36,160 --> 00:19:38,120 Speaker 1: conversations being like, listen, I just want you to know 391 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:41,640 Speaker 1: we're not exclusive. I know that, you know, we've talked 392 00:19:41,680 --> 00:19:43,520 Speaker 1: about that. But at the same time, I want to 393 00:19:43,560 --> 00:19:46,119 Speaker 1: be safe. Um, so I would like to know if 394 00:19:46,119 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: you are sleeping with anybody else, if you are seeing 395 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:51,640 Speaker 1: anybody else. Um. I know. Actually, honestly, I've been approached 396 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:53,280 Speaker 1: that way, and I thought it was a really mature 397 00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,080 Speaker 1: and a great point, you know what I mean. And 398 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:57,560 Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, you're right, like we do need 399 00:19:57,600 --> 00:19:59,679 Speaker 1: to talk about this because this is you know, you know, 400 00:20:00,640 --> 00:20:02,919 Speaker 1: sexual safety or whatever you want to call it, is 401 00:20:03,000 --> 00:20:06,000 Speaker 1: something that is really important and so to me it 402 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:07,560 Speaker 1: was like, okay, you're right, I need to be honest, 403 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:10,359 Speaker 1: completely honest. So that would be how I approached to 404 00:20:10,400 --> 00:20:12,400 Speaker 1: find out whether or not, you know, he is seeing 405 00:20:12,400 --> 00:20:15,880 Speaker 1: anybody else, he's sleeping with anybody else, whatever it is. Um. 406 00:20:15,920 --> 00:20:19,120 Speaker 1: And if he straight up says, you know, no, I'm not, 407 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:21,200 Speaker 1: then maybe be like, well listen, I'll just be honest. 408 00:20:21,280 --> 00:20:23,199 Speaker 1: I saw this picture of you, tag like, I just 409 00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:25,600 Speaker 1: want to know who this is. It'll be interesting to 410 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:27,560 Speaker 1: see if he fumbles around a little bit, if he uh, 411 00:20:27,640 --> 00:20:29,080 Speaker 1: you know, he looks to the left or whatever it 412 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,360 Speaker 1: is that they do in people life. Um. And if 413 00:20:32,359 --> 00:20:33,800 Speaker 1: he you know, if he's caught red hand, or if 414 00:20:33,800 --> 00:20:35,080 Speaker 1: he's honest and he's like, yeah, I am, you know, 415 00:20:35,160 --> 00:20:38,080 Speaker 1: kind of seeing somebody else, then you have to decide 416 00:20:39,160 --> 00:20:41,240 Speaker 1: is this do you want to be exclusive? Because sometimes 417 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 1: it takes a little you know, kicking the stomach to 418 00:20:43,760 --> 00:20:45,840 Speaker 1: realize that you want to be exclusive with somebody. You know, 419 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,879 Speaker 1: sometimes it takes something like this to realize, oh, I 420 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:50,280 Speaker 1: care about this person more and I think and it 421 00:20:50,280 --> 00:20:53,159 Speaker 1: could happen for him too. Maybe he realizes if you say, 422 00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:56,200 Speaker 1: you know, I'm now like, I just don't really feel comfortable. 423 00:20:56,520 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 1: He might be like, wait, wait, wait, wait, um, I'll 424 00:20:59,119 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 1: dump this other person all stop seeing this other person. 425 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,879 Speaker 1: I'll be with you. So um, that's kind of crossroads 426 00:21:03,920 --> 00:21:05,480 Speaker 1: I think you'll be at after you figure out if 427 00:21:05,480 --> 00:21:07,439 Speaker 1: he's seeing anybody else. It's like, do you decide if 428 00:21:07,480 --> 00:21:09,479 Speaker 1: you still want to continue seeing him and you want 429 00:21:09,520 --> 00:21:11,439 Speaker 1: to make it exclusive, or maybe does he still want 430 00:21:11,440 --> 00:21:14,159 Speaker 1: to see you and make it exclusive. So um, this 431 00:21:14,200 --> 00:21:16,359 Speaker 1: one little conversation can actually lead to a pretty big 432 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,400 Speaker 1: breakthrough I think in your conversation or in your relationship. Yeah. 433 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 1: I love that. Okay, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's kind of 434 00:21:22,760 --> 00:21:26,200 Speaker 1: how I approach it. Hopefully that helps a little bit, 435 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:28,200 Speaker 1: because that is not easy. I've been there, We've all 436 00:21:28,200 --> 00:21:30,800 Speaker 1: been there. No, it's not easy. But that gives me 437 00:21:30,840 --> 00:21:32,399 Speaker 1: at least a direction to go in because I was 438 00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 1: just flailing. Yeah. Yeah, hopefully it helps. Yeah, Like that's 439 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:37,399 Speaker 1: a good way to put a direction in direction to 440 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:41,679 Speaker 1: go in. So yeah, okay, thank you so much. Astute Amanda. 441 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:45,000 Speaker 1: Yeah you have a going too. Hi, Rebecca Blake here, 442 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:48,119 Speaker 1: how are you? I'm good? Are you? Oh? I'm doing 443 00:21:48,280 --> 00:21:50,800 Speaker 1: all right? So do you might have a little problem. 444 00:21:50,800 --> 00:21:54,760 Speaker 1: I can maybe help you out with Oh, yeah, so 445 00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:57,919 Speaker 1: you know, my best friends, we've always been very open 446 00:21:58,119 --> 00:22:02,880 Speaker 1: about talking about our relationships, but now their relationships went 447 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:07,520 Speaker 1: so well. They're all married, but I'm not so so 448 00:22:07,640 --> 00:22:10,600 Speaker 1: like now our conversations are different and I'm the only 449 00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:15,879 Speaker 1: one talking about my relationship, and like their marriages are different. 450 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 1: I get it, like marriages marriage, but I feel like 451 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:21,919 Speaker 1: they aren't really adding any input anymore. And I'm not 452 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 1: really sure if, like, should I keep giving my dating 453 00:22:26,280 --> 00:22:28,800 Speaker 1: information and all of that, or should I just back 454 00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:31,840 Speaker 1: off and realized that this is just the way it is. Yeah, 455 00:22:32,160 --> 00:22:34,639 Speaker 1: good question. First of all, I know exactly how you feel. 456 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:37,879 Speaker 1: All my friends are married with kids, Like, it's crazy. 457 00:22:38,440 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 1: I went to a bachelor party the other night and 458 00:22:39,840 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 1: it was like us, I was like, you guys are 459 00:22:41,400 --> 00:22:42,920 Speaker 1: all married, aren't you, Like it was crazy. So I 460 00:22:43,040 --> 00:22:47,880 Speaker 1: understand where you're coming from. Um, I think personally, you know, again, 461 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:49,600 Speaker 1: you know, I'm not entirely show obviously can't get in 462 00:22:49,600 --> 00:22:51,400 Speaker 1: the brains of your friends, but I think maybe they 463 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:55,120 Speaker 1: in a way feel guilty talking about, you know, their 464 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,560 Speaker 1: relationship and what they've learned and things like that, because 465 00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:00,240 Speaker 1: maybe there's you know, there's obviously the stigma like you 466 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:01,560 Speaker 1: need to get married and you have kids, all this 467 00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:03,840 Speaker 1: kind of stuff, and so maybe they're feeling they're trying 468 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,639 Speaker 1: to put your feelings first. Uh, and they're kind of 469 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:08,960 Speaker 1: worried about, you know, hurting your feelings by talking about 470 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:11,280 Speaker 1: their relationships. So one of the easiest ways I think 471 00:23:11,320 --> 00:23:13,679 Speaker 1: maybe would just to be approaching me, like, listen, it 472 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:16,000 Speaker 1: doesn't bother me that you guys are in a happy relationship, 473 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,200 Speaker 1: Like it is something I'm striving for, and I would 474 00:23:18,280 --> 00:23:20,680 Speaker 1: love your input. I would love you guys advice even 475 00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:23,359 Speaker 1: more now than maybe before because you have found the person, 476 00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:26,399 Speaker 1: you have worked through issues, problems, whatever it is. So 477 00:23:26,440 --> 00:23:27,960 Speaker 1: I would just be honest with and be like, listen, 478 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,720 Speaker 1: you're not hurting my feelings, like I would love to 479 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:32,200 Speaker 1: hear and put from you guys, because I think maybe 480 00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:35,280 Speaker 1: they're just scared to hurt your feeling. Yeah, yeah, I 481 00:23:35,320 --> 00:23:37,960 Speaker 1: know we still have a good friendship, which is that 482 00:23:38,119 --> 00:23:41,679 Speaker 1: dynamics change. So yeah, I think you're right. Yeah, I 483 00:23:41,680 --> 00:23:44,680 Speaker 1: think just maybe that and especially if that's the only 484 00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:46,880 Speaker 1: thing that's changed, if you still have an incredible friendship, 485 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:48,600 Speaker 1: you guys talk about everything else, but that's the one 486 00:23:48,680 --> 00:23:51,080 Speaker 1: thing that you're not really talking about. I think maybe 487 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: they're scared approach to breach the subject just because it 488 00:23:54,600 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 1: might be uncomfortable for you. So maybe I would just 489 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,840 Speaker 1: express to them it's not uncomfortable and please, you know, 490 00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:01,359 Speaker 1: help me out. We need some of to So yeah, 491 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:05,280 Speaker 1: well I'm not the babysitter for them yet. So you 492 00:24:05,359 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 1: got yeah, Yeah, that's good. That's a good thing. It's 493 00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:11,680 Speaker 1: coming so awesome. I hope that helped a little bit. 494 00:24:12,240 --> 00:24:14,400 Speaker 1: All Right, cool, thank you. Yeah, absolutely have a good one. 495 00:24:14,920 --> 00:24:18,080 Speaker 1: You already, Well, that will do it for our callers. 496 00:24:18,440 --> 00:24:20,000 Speaker 1: We're gonna take a little break here and then we're 497 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:31,280 Speaker 1: gonna ask some questions answers for me already and we're 498 00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:34,800 Speaker 1: back now and we're gonna ask some Q and A 499 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 1: to me here. Uh. So we know you're from the 500 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:42,760 Speaker 1: Bachelotte fourteen season with Becca Koufern. How much has your 501 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 1: life changed since then? Honestly, it'd be easier to ask 502 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:49,480 Speaker 1: what has stayed the same. Uh In the last four years, 503 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 1: my life has completely changed and almost almost every aspect, 504 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:56,200 Speaker 1: to be completely honest. You know, I was before the show. 505 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:58,919 Speaker 1: I was selling beer. How I was working for Coopers. 506 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,199 Speaker 1: I was a beer sales rep for Coors Distributing Company 507 00:25:01,200 --> 00:25:04,920 Speaker 1: here in Denver, Colorado. UM, I'm obviously not doing that anymore. 508 00:25:05,359 --> 00:25:08,480 Speaker 1: I have some other opportunities. You know, I'm djaying full 509 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:12,159 Speaker 1: time now and traveling dj um and then also you know, 510 00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:14,800 Speaker 1: I have a podcast of my own Behind the Worst Podcasts. 511 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:17,879 Speaker 1: And one of the coolest things about you know, coming 512 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:21,119 Speaker 1: on off, I should say, coming off a show like 513 00:25:21,160 --> 00:25:24,960 Speaker 1: the Bacherette is the incredible opportunities and people you meet. 514 00:25:25,520 --> 00:25:28,439 Speaker 1: And one of the things I do cherish and I 515 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:32,680 Speaker 1: do pride my cell phone is UM, nurturing relationships and 516 00:25:32,800 --> 00:25:34,879 Speaker 1: nurturing you know, being a good networker if you will. 517 00:25:34,920 --> 00:25:36,119 Speaker 1: So I think when I come off the show, I 518 00:25:36,160 --> 00:25:39,160 Speaker 1: met some incredible people, people I never thought i'd meet, 519 00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:42,280 Speaker 1: you know, celebrities, UM, incredible, you know, people in in 520 00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 1: industries like world leaders and industries like just crazy crazy stuff. 521 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:49,600 Speaker 1: And you know I'd be able to really cherish those 522 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,760 Speaker 1: relationships and nourish those relationships, and UM, gotten some incredible 523 00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: opportunities from it. And honestly, I travel now. I mean 524 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:58,800 Speaker 1: I'm hitting eight cities this month, so travel like crazy. Um, 525 00:25:58,880 --> 00:26:01,080 Speaker 1: My life is way way a lot, you know, a 526 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:03,720 Speaker 1: lot crazier than before, and I love it. I love 527 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:06,080 Speaker 1: it to it agree, I'm definitely not bored. But at 528 00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:10,320 Speaker 1: the same time, I do miss the the routine of 529 00:26:10,359 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 1: a regular life. Um. But I'm happy where I am 530 00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: in my career, in my first life as well. Right now, 531 00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 1: so a lot has changed, to say the least. Has 532 00:26:19,000 --> 00:26:22,879 Speaker 1: it gotten easier or harder to date? It get asked 533 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 1: this quite a bit, and honestly, it's both. It's both. 534 00:26:26,400 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: What I always say is things that were things about 535 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:32,840 Speaker 1: dating that were easier before the show are now harder. 536 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:37,160 Speaker 1: So getting a date, for example, a lot easier. Um. 537 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:40,040 Speaker 1: You know, the d m s are full, um, the 538 00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,480 Speaker 1: just meeting people in general coming up, they come up 539 00:26:42,520 --> 00:26:45,480 Speaker 1: to me and know me. So meeting people it's a 540 00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:49,240 Speaker 1: lot easier. Um. But then having a genuine connection, which 541 00:26:49,280 --> 00:26:51,639 Speaker 1: I think was easier before the show, is now harder 542 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:54,040 Speaker 1: after the show. So you know, it's a little harder 543 00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:57,960 Speaker 1: to know whose um intentions are right um, because you 544 00:26:57,960 --> 00:27:00,800 Speaker 1: know you have people who maybe just on the Instagram 545 00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,359 Speaker 1: followers I want the cloud or want to meet a 546 00:27:03,480 --> 00:27:05,960 Speaker 1: famous person that's levet, whatever you want to call it. Um. 547 00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:09,000 Speaker 1: So yeah, it's some things are easier, some things are harder, 548 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:10,440 Speaker 1: things that were easier before the show and how harder 549 00:27:10,440 --> 00:27:12,840 Speaker 1: and things that are harder for the show now easier. So, um, 550 00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:14,639 Speaker 1: it's just as hard to date though, you know, in general, 551 00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:16,240 Speaker 1: like it's just as hard to date as it was 552 00:27:16,280 --> 00:27:20,760 Speaker 1: before the show. Uh. You recently came out publicly that 553 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:24,560 Speaker 1: you're dating Giannina Jibelli from Love is Blind. You two 554 00:27:24,600 --> 00:27:26,960 Speaker 1: met on All Star Shore. Did you expect to find 555 00:27:27,000 --> 00:27:30,000 Speaker 1: love on the show? Great questions. So yes, me and 556 00:27:30,080 --> 00:27:34,400 Speaker 1: Jean and Nina we did find a pretty amazing relationship 557 00:27:34,440 --> 00:27:38,399 Speaker 1: while filming All Star Shore. And honestly, no, I not 558 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:40,320 Speaker 1: only did I not expect to find love on the show, 559 00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:42,920 Speaker 1: but I told myself not to find love on the show. 560 00:27:42,920 --> 00:27:45,480 Speaker 1: I told myself to stay away from relationships, to stay 561 00:27:45,480 --> 00:27:47,200 Speaker 1: away from that. You've done that twice now on two 562 00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:50,360 Speaker 1: different shows. It's a competition show, like have fun, show 563 00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:56,000 Speaker 1: your fun side. Um, don't fall for anybody, but not. Unfortunately, 564 00:27:56,080 --> 00:28:00,440 Speaker 1: Fortunately I didn't meet Janina pretty quickly, and um, right 565 00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:02,919 Speaker 1: away we kind of hit it off, and I'm so 566 00:28:02,920 --> 00:28:04,840 Speaker 1: glad we did. Obviously, I'm so glad you know it 567 00:28:04,880 --> 00:28:07,800 Speaker 1: happened the way it did, because I'm incredibly happy, right now, Um, 568 00:28:07,880 --> 00:28:11,680 Speaker 1: but yeah, neither of us anticipated finding anybody on this show, 569 00:28:12,080 --> 00:28:15,400 Speaker 1: so it's quite the surprise, but it was the best surprise. 570 00:28:17,560 --> 00:28:19,760 Speaker 1: Tell us how your relationship started when we see a 571 00:28:19,760 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: play out on All Star Shore. Yeah, so currently we 572 00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:24,919 Speaker 1: are this week so um, this week will be on 573 00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: episode four of All Star Shore. And you've kind of 574 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,840 Speaker 1: seen a little bit of you know, some of our 575 00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:34,159 Speaker 1: first conversations, some of our first um ups and downs, 576 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,879 Speaker 1: even in the relationship right off the bats. But at 577 00:28:36,880 --> 00:28:40,240 Speaker 1: the same time, UM, there's still a lot to be seen. 578 00:28:40,280 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 1: There's still a lot that happens in our relationship in 579 00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 1: the next roughly six seven episodes whatever we have left. Um. 580 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 1: But I think one of the coolest things in one 581 00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:49,280 Speaker 1: of the that you saw kind of in the first 582 00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 1: two episodes is obviously we're culturally a lot different, right, 583 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,240 Speaker 1: you know, she's born in Venezuela. First thing where just 584 00:28:55,200 --> 00:28:58,720 Speaker 1: the Spanish, um, her culture, you know, is incredible. And 585 00:28:58,760 --> 00:29:01,719 Speaker 1: I'm this you know gringo who's just like you know, 586 00:29:01,760 --> 00:29:04,920 Speaker 1: your normal uh, you know, all American white boy. So 587 00:29:05,040 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: at the same time, we're very different, but we've been 588 00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:10,400 Speaker 1: through a lot of life experiences, um that are very 589 00:29:10,440 --> 00:29:12,720 Speaker 1: similar and so we're looking for the same things in 590 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:15,360 Speaker 1: a partner, and you kind of see that the first 591 00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:18,160 Speaker 1: few episodes of us like having these moments of connecting 592 00:29:18,240 --> 00:29:21,959 Speaker 1: and and realizing, oh, like you know you're looking for this, 593 00:29:22,120 --> 00:29:24,680 Speaker 1: I'm looking for that as well. And we we've been 594 00:29:24,720 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: through these life experiences that help us more or less 595 00:29:28,080 --> 00:29:30,640 Speaker 1: deal with, you know, conflict in our relationship or deal 596 00:29:30,680 --> 00:29:33,280 Speaker 1: with certain moments maybe in past relationships that we would 597 00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,160 Speaker 1: have blown a gasket or we would have freaked out, 598 00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:36,680 Speaker 1: it would have been the end of things. So it's 599 00:29:36,680 --> 00:29:38,920 Speaker 1: pretty cool to see, you know, how these life experiences 600 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:42,320 Speaker 1: and pass relationships um have kind of created, you know, 601 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:45,400 Speaker 1: this perfect atmosphere for us to create a relationship with. So, 602 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:47,280 Speaker 1: but continue to watch. There's still a lot that happens 603 00:29:47,280 --> 00:29:52,120 Speaker 1: on All Star Shore. Um. How early on did you 604 00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: know it was love? Um? That's one of those things 605 00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:57,440 Speaker 1: where obviously, you know, I've said I love you pretty 606 00:29:57,520 --> 00:29:59,800 Speaker 1: quick on the mashirette, you know, I said it within 607 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,880 Speaker 1: you know, weeks, um, And on Paradise I didn't say it, 608 00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:05,719 Speaker 1: you know, And I went through a couple different relationships 609 00:30:05,720 --> 00:30:07,840 Speaker 1: in Paradise, but I didn't want it to be a 610 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,720 Speaker 1: rushed thing like I wanted to take my time. Um. 611 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,680 Speaker 1: You know, obviously for her, she was engaged within like 612 00:30:12,800 --> 00:30:14,680 Speaker 1: eight days or whatever it was. In love is blind, 613 00:30:15,360 --> 00:30:17,960 Speaker 1: so I think there was moments where we felt it, 614 00:30:18,040 --> 00:30:19,959 Speaker 1: but we didn't want to rush things like what was 615 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:21,960 Speaker 1: the rush? You know, we don't have producers breathing down 616 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:23,760 Speaker 1: our neck, being like say it, say it, Say it 617 00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:26,040 Speaker 1: if you feel it's say it. So we did take 618 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:28,680 Speaker 1: our time. And you know, although I did feel you know, 619 00:30:28,760 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 1: love for her pretty early on, I did wait until, 620 00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:34,040 Speaker 1: you know, quite a few months in to say it, 621 00:30:34,120 --> 00:30:35,800 Speaker 1: just because I wanted to be sure. I didn't want 622 00:30:35,960 --> 00:30:37,800 Speaker 1: I always said the next person I would go public with, 623 00:30:37,840 --> 00:30:39,400 Speaker 1: you know, it's gonna be a very serious relationship and 624 00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:41,920 Speaker 1: someone I could see myself spending my life with. So 625 00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:44,719 Speaker 1: we took our time. Um, and that's not for everybody. 626 00:30:44,720 --> 00:30:46,440 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here and act like taking your 627 00:30:46,480 --> 00:30:49,200 Speaker 1: time as the answer, you know, answered end all. But 628 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:50,960 Speaker 1: for me, it was something I wanted to do in 629 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,360 Speaker 1: this relationship because obviously me love bombing or whatever you 630 00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:55,880 Speaker 1: want to call it, in the past love blowing each 631 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 1: other didn't work. So I want to try something a 632 00:30:57,880 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 1: little different this than it's it's been fantastic. Um, since 633 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:05,520 Speaker 1: you are you guys are both reality stars and in 634 00:31:05,560 --> 00:31:08,480 Speaker 1: the public eye. Does that add a different awareness to 635 00:31:08,520 --> 00:31:12,520 Speaker 1: the relationship. Great question, So I actually believe it or not. 636 00:31:13,200 --> 00:31:15,440 Speaker 1: I had never really dated in public, you know what 637 00:31:15,520 --> 00:31:19,040 Speaker 1: I mean, Bacherettes. When it was airing, I was obviously 638 00:31:19,120 --> 00:31:21,200 Speaker 1: I was not, you know, the final pick. So I 639 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:24,080 Speaker 1: didn't was it wasn't dating anybody then coming off Paradise, 640 00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:26,480 Speaker 1: I didn't finish Paradise in a relationship. So I had 641 00:31:26,480 --> 00:31:29,000 Speaker 1: actually never dated in public. And I I've seen a 642 00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:32,480 Speaker 1: lot of my friends dating public, and it is incredibly difficult. 643 00:31:32,560 --> 00:31:35,320 Speaker 1: You have a lot of eyes on your relationship, a 644 00:31:35,320 --> 00:31:38,360 Speaker 1: lot of opinions about your relationship that can seep into 645 00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:41,720 Speaker 1: you know, you can't ignore everything and I can see 646 00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:44,680 Speaker 1: in your relationship. So I actually leaned on g a 647 00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:46,400 Speaker 1: lot for that because she had dated in the public, 648 00:31:46,440 --> 00:31:48,880 Speaker 1: and so I was very nervous. I'm sitting in act 649 00:31:48,920 --> 00:31:51,920 Speaker 1: like I was, and I was very nervous to go public. Um. 650 00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 1: But you know, she was obviously incredible, and she explained 651 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,520 Speaker 1: to me kind of what to expect. And actually it's 652 00:31:57,640 --> 00:31:59,800 Speaker 1: been so far, I mean, really, you know, maybe a 653 00:31:59,800 --> 00:32:02,760 Speaker 1: couple weeks in. But it's been amazing. Um. There hasn't 654 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:05,960 Speaker 1: really been any any moments so far where I felt like, 655 00:32:06,720 --> 00:32:09,920 Speaker 1: you know, there was you know, people were having opinions 656 00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:11,680 Speaker 1: and they were seeping into my relationship where I was 657 00:32:12,320 --> 00:32:14,680 Speaker 1: aware of things are being said in the media on 658 00:32:14,680 --> 00:32:17,000 Speaker 1: social media, on Twitter or whatever it is. Um, So 659 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:19,960 Speaker 1: so far, it's been amazing and the support has been incredible. UM, 660 00:32:20,000 --> 00:32:22,160 Speaker 1: and it's been easier than I anticipated. I'm sure that's 661 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:25,200 Speaker 1: will change. Um it's ever easy to date uh in 662 00:32:25,280 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 1: the public eye. But UM, yeah, I can't really speak 663 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:30,120 Speaker 1: to that so far because it's all been it's all 664 00:32:30,160 --> 00:32:35,000 Speaker 1: been pretty awesome and pretty amazing. So next question, UM, 665 00:32:35,080 --> 00:32:38,920 Speaker 1: why did you wait to publicly share your relationship? Obviously 666 00:32:39,000 --> 00:32:42,200 Speaker 1: we were you know, contractually obligated for the most part 667 00:32:43,080 --> 00:32:46,200 Speaker 1: two hot our eye ship because of All Star Shore. Um, 668 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,840 Speaker 1: you know, it had filmed in December. We went public 669 00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:50,560 Speaker 1: just a few weeks ago, so it's been about almost 670 00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:53,280 Speaker 1: seven months. We've been dating for seven months privately, and 671 00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 1: actually I'm so glad we did. Um, it's been you know, 672 00:32:56,360 --> 00:32:58,320 Speaker 1: putting that added pressure of the public eye on our 673 00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 1: relationship very early, I think can be hard on a relationship. Um, 674 00:33:02,520 --> 00:33:04,800 Speaker 1: and although you know we did, you know, at times 675 00:33:04,880 --> 00:33:07,680 Speaker 1: want to share, you know, what we have and share 676 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:09,520 Speaker 1: some really fun moments that we've had together of the 677 00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:12,360 Speaker 1: last seven months. At the end of the day, we're 678 00:33:12,400 --> 00:33:15,120 Speaker 1: really glad that we did wait. And we're really glad 679 00:33:15,120 --> 00:33:16,840 Speaker 1: even if it was quote you know, more or less 680 00:33:16,880 --> 00:33:19,479 Speaker 1: quote unquote forced, We're so glad we didn't. I think 681 00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:21,000 Speaker 1: if we did it again, even if we weren't forced, 682 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:23,760 Speaker 1: we'd wait until a relationship really had a solid foundation 683 00:33:23,800 --> 00:33:28,360 Speaker 1: of solid core before we decided to go public. Um. Yeah, 684 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:30,040 Speaker 1: So I'm glad we did what we did, and I'm 685 00:33:30,040 --> 00:33:32,360 Speaker 1: glad it worked out the way it did. But I'm 686 00:33:32,360 --> 00:33:38,040 Speaker 1: glad republic now, I'm not gonna lie honest some dating questions. 687 00:33:38,800 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 1: Is it true when a man wants to be with someone, 688 00:33:41,960 --> 00:33:45,480 Speaker 1: he will be with her no matter what. So I've 689 00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:48,000 Speaker 1: I'm old enough. I'm thirty three, right, I've been in 690 00:33:48,040 --> 00:33:51,160 Speaker 1: a lot of different relationships, Um, a lot of crazy relationships, 691 00:33:51,280 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 1: you know, based on just reality TV alone. UM. I 692 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:57,760 Speaker 1: used to think, yes, I used to think if a 693 00:33:57,800 --> 00:33:59,560 Speaker 1: man or a woman wanted to be with somebody, they 694 00:33:59,600 --> 00:34:02,480 Speaker 1: would make worth work no matter what, Like that used 695 00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,440 Speaker 1: to be a philosophy of mine was like, if you 696 00:34:04,440 --> 00:34:05,920 Speaker 1: want to be with me, you'll be with me. If 697 00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:07,640 Speaker 1: I want to be with you, I'll be with you. 698 00:34:07,680 --> 00:34:09,640 Speaker 1: But the more I've learned, the more I've grown, the 699 00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:12,000 Speaker 1: more life experience I have, I realized that there really 700 00:34:12,040 --> 00:34:15,279 Speaker 1: is a thing called bad timing. I truly do believe that. 701 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:17,239 Speaker 1: And I think there are certain relationships that will work 702 00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:19,560 Speaker 1: at a certain time in your life and certain relationships 703 00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,200 Speaker 1: that won't. And I'm one of those firm believers that 704 00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,360 Speaker 1: you do have multiple loves in your life. There's like, 705 00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,399 Speaker 1: you know, I can't remember what movie or maybe even 706 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:27,239 Speaker 1: a book that I read where it was like, you know, 707 00:34:27,239 --> 00:34:29,239 Speaker 1: there's certain loves in your life at certain points in 708 00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:32,200 Speaker 1: your life when you're ready to accept certain amounts of love. 709 00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,920 Speaker 1: So I think, No, I don't think to answer the question, 710 00:34:35,960 --> 00:34:39,160 Speaker 1: you know. Finally, No, I think that there are certain 711 00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:41,319 Speaker 1: moments in life where you are willing to accept love. 712 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:44,719 Speaker 1: And you're a good point professionally, personally we're able to 713 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 1: accept love and give love. So no, I think, even 714 00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:52,360 Speaker 1: though maybe you have this intense feelings and you know, 715 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:55,719 Speaker 1: if you're passionate about somebody, sometimes it won't work because 716 00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:59,640 Speaker 1: of timing. Uh so, yeah, that's something that's changed over time. 717 00:34:59,680 --> 00:35:01,880 Speaker 1: But no, I think there are You have to be 718 00:35:01,960 --> 00:35:03,919 Speaker 1: ready to accept love and give love just as much 719 00:35:03,960 --> 00:35:06,840 Speaker 1: as your partner, and sometimes that that's you know, neither 720 00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,120 Speaker 1: or both or one isn't ready to do that. So 721 00:35:10,480 --> 00:35:14,040 Speaker 1: timing is everything. I really do believe that. Do you 722 00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:17,360 Speaker 1: think it's better to call or text when you're starting 723 00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:21,800 Speaker 1: to date someone? Oh? I hate being on the phone. 724 00:35:22,360 --> 00:35:25,440 Speaker 1: I am one of those stupid millennial gen's whatever you 725 00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:26,799 Speaker 1: want to call us on one of the gen X 726 00:35:26,880 --> 00:35:29,600 Speaker 1: gen zs whatever. I do not like talking on the phone. 727 00:35:29,680 --> 00:35:35,320 Speaker 1: So for me, especially to start a relationship, texting texting 728 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:38,279 Speaker 1: for me is huge. Now I am not a like, 729 00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:39,840 Speaker 1: I don't play the game of like I'll wait a 730 00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:42,080 Speaker 1: couple of hours of text back. I'm you know, I 731 00:35:42,239 --> 00:35:45,160 Speaker 1: text right away, especially when I'm into somebody or I'm 732 00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:47,440 Speaker 1: dating somebody at text right away. Um so I think 733 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:48,920 Speaker 1: that's more of a red flag. Is like, if you're 734 00:35:48,920 --> 00:35:50,879 Speaker 1: texting and they wait six seven hours of text back 735 00:35:50,960 --> 00:35:52,920 Speaker 1: days the text back, then that's like they're not into you. 736 00:35:53,400 --> 00:35:56,239 Speaker 1: But once you get to a certain degree, Actually, I 737 00:35:56,280 --> 00:35:58,400 Speaker 1: think not even phone call like I think, I skip 738 00:35:58,440 --> 00:36:00,839 Speaker 1: phone call, I go straight to face time. Like face 739 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:04,000 Speaker 1: times are enormous, and relationships, um so texting to start, 740 00:36:04,160 --> 00:36:07,760 Speaker 1: skip phone calls, go straight into facetiming. That's that's my advice, 741 00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:10,600 Speaker 1: or at least that's what I do in relationships. Okay, 742 00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:13,319 Speaker 1: Well answer uh last question here. Do you think it's 743 00:36:13,400 --> 00:36:15,680 Speaker 1: always the guy's job to pay for the first date? 744 00:36:16,520 --> 00:36:21,080 Speaker 1: This is a great question, because, um, the first date 745 00:36:21,160 --> 00:36:24,120 Speaker 1: changes things. I do think maybe that first especially if 746 00:36:24,160 --> 00:36:26,160 Speaker 1: he asked you on a date. I think if he 747 00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:30,359 Speaker 1: asked you on a date, women, and he takes you out, 748 00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,200 Speaker 1: he picks the date, he picks you up, whatever it is, 749 00:36:32,520 --> 00:36:34,600 Speaker 1: I do think then you know, he should pay for 750 00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:36,640 Speaker 1: the first date. But then I think moving forward, I'm 751 00:36:36,719 --> 00:36:38,480 Speaker 1: very much a fifty fifty kind of guy, Like I 752 00:36:38,600 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 1: very much believe that, like you know, you pick up 753 00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,919 Speaker 1: one date, he picks up the next. You split dates, 754 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:44,960 Speaker 1: you split bills, whatever it is. But I do think 755 00:36:45,000 --> 00:36:47,680 Speaker 1: that first date, especially if he asked you on the date, 756 00:36:48,160 --> 00:36:51,120 Speaker 1: I do think that he should pay for the first date. 757 00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:52,799 Speaker 1: But hey, if a woman asked the man on the date, 758 00:36:52,800 --> 00:36:54,239 Speaker 1: maybe she should pay for the first date. You know 759 00:36:54,280 --> 00:36:56,279 Speaker 1: what I mean? I'm not into the whole you know, 760 00:36:56,520 --> 00:36:58,480 Speaker 1: nine should pay for everything thing. I think it should 761 00:36:58,480 --> 00:37:01,839 Speaker 1: be fifty um, and I think, um, I think everything 762 00:37:01,880 --> 00:37:04,360 Speaker 1: internation ship should be fifty so not just the money, 763 00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:09,800 Speaker 1: you know. So so yeah, that'll do it for questions. UM. Yeah, 764 00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:12,319 Speaker 1: so thank you guys so much for listening. Really appreciate again. 765 00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:15,640 Speaker 1: Money is Blake Horseman. Um. You'll see me out there 766 00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:19,799 Speaker 1: on the road dejaying spinning hopefully in a city near you. 767 00:37:19,800 --> 00:37:23,640 Speaker 1: You can check out my schedule at Blake Horseman dot com, 768 00:37:23,680 --> 00:37:25,920 Speaker 1: where you can follow me on Instagram at billock A 769 00:37:26,560 --> 00:37:29,279 Speaker 1: dot h Um. I do post you know, kind of 770 00:37:29,320 --> 00:37:31,200 Speaker 1: the city's albeit I'm in a lot of different cities 771 00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,880 Speaker 1: every month. And then follow and listen to Behind the 772 00:37:34,920 --> 00:37:38,279 Speaker 1: Rose podcast on Instagram and uh on anything you listen 773 00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:41,680 Speaker 1: to your to your podcast, whether that be UM, Apples, Spotify, 774 00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:44,839 Speaker 1: all that stuff. UM, so tune into that. And yeah, 775 00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,799 Speaker 1: thanks for listening to How Men Think? And I hope 776 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:49,279 Speaker 1: you enjoy this and hope I was able to help 777 00:37:49,320 --> 00:37:52,200 Speaker 1: out a little bit. 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