WEBVTT - Mull it over

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of my Heart Radio.

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<v Speaker 1>Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Today's tip is about how to make big decisions. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to ruminate on the small stuff. But with

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<v Speaker 1>anything major, no this your first idea might not be

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<v Speaker 1>your best idea. You want to give yourself space to

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<v Speaker 1>pull it over. I've been thinking about this a lot lately,

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<v Speaker 1>with something that's by no means high stakes but will

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<v Speaker 1>affect day to day life in my household. People who

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<v Speaker 1>read my blog or follow me on Instagram know that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm expecting a fifth baby in January. Now, as my

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<v Speaker 1>family gets bigger, we've been trying to figure out how

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<v Speaker 1>to configure our bedrooms and living spaces so everyone is happy.

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<v Speaker 1>There are lots of options, but every option has upsides

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<v Speaker 1>and downsides. We could move, but buying and selling houses

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<v Speaker 1>involves transaction costs. We could stay and have more kids

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<v Speaker 1>share bedrooms, but some already are sharing and they aren't

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<v Speaker 1>all thrilled about it. So then there's the possibility of

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<v Speaker 1>renovating to add more space. My first thought after surveying

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<v Speaker 1>my house and studying the internet was to finish the

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<v Speaker 1>attic it's a reasonable idea, but further research revealed that

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<v Speaker 1>this project would likely involve an architect and lots of

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<v Speaker 1>permitting and a lot of time and noise. I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>sure I had the capacity to manage that. But the

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<v Speaker 1>good news is that no one needs to make an

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<v Speaker 1>immediate decision. By thinking about my options before anything is urgent,

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<v Speaker 1>I can mull over my instincts and ask if they

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<v Speaker 1>make sense. I can recognize that my first ideas aren't

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<v Speaker 1>necessarily my best ideas. In time, more ideas might come

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<v Speaker 1>to me. Indeed, this is exactly what happened. After pondering

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<v Speaker 1>the attic idea for a while and getting feedback, I

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<v Speaker 1>decided to look around my house again with an open mind.

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<v Speaker 1>I realized that the finished basement offered more ready options

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<v Speaker 1>than the unfinished attic. This project would be much more doable.

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<v Speaker 1>It would be less expensive and time consuming. Making a

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<v Speaker 1>decision without intense time pressure allows us to see possibilities

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<v Speaker 1>In general, in life, I find this to be the case,

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<v Speaker 1>and sometimes time pressure focuses us, but sometimes it limits us.

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<v Speaker 1>For instance, one of the worst times to be job

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<v Speaker 1>hunting is when you really need a job, when you're

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<v Speaker 1>just passively looking. Because you're already employed, you can really

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<v Speaker 1>think about whether you like an offer or if you

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<v Speaker 1>might be able to flush out a different offer by

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<v Speaker 1>meeting with friends and colleagues at other organizations. When I

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<v Speaker 1>talk with people who are re entering the workforce after

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<v Speaker 1>caring for children, I suggest that it be a family

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<v Speaker 1>priority to give these job seekers the gift of time.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've been out of the workforce for five years,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not a huge deal if you start a new

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<v Speaker 1>job in April or October. But by taking the time

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<v Speaker 1>pressure off, you increase the chances of finding something you'll

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<v Speaker 1>craft into a position that works well for you and

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<v Speaker 1>your family. So how do you build in space to

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<v Speaker 1>mull it over. You don't want to lose your life

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<v Speaker 1>to decision makings, but there are ways to structure life

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<v Speaker 1>to leave space for decisions. It helps to survey upcoming

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<v Speaker 1>life transitions and events that might necessitate choices. Talk with

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<v Speaker 1>the people in your life who might be part of

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<v Speaker 1>these decisions. Ask about their thoughts, Ask for ideas, Ask

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<v Speaker 1>what other people have done in similar circumstances. Come up

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<v Speaker 1>with your own ideas, make lists, and then step away,

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<v Speaker 1>take a vacation, go somewhere for a long weekend, do

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<v Speaker 1>a more involved volunteer project. I promise that when you

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<v Speaker 1>come back to your list of options, you'll see it

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<v Speaker 1>in a new light. Or maybe you'll have more options

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<v Speaker 1>to add, and the odds are good that one of

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<v Speaker 1>those options might be better than your first thoughts. You

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<v Speaker 1>give yourself a huge gift by leaving space to pull

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<v Speaker 1>it over in the meantime. This is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Hey, everybody,

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