1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,880 Speaker 1: Right here, Hold on tight, we gotta put you here. 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:06,520 Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. All right. Once again. The 3 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:10,240 Speaker 1: subject of today's Strawberry letter is I don't think it's 4 00:00:10,280 --> 00:00:14,080 Speaker 1: about Jay, but the subject is I wish this old 5 00:00:14,120 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: man would leave, all right, Dear Stephen Shirley. Five years ago, 6 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:23,360 Speaker 1: I got involved with an older married man that was 7 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:26,800 Speaker 1: my boss. Well we know it's not Jay, older married man. 8 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:30,040 Speaker 1: In the beginning, it was strictly business and I met 9 00:00:30,080 --> 00:00:34,000 Speaker 1: his entire family. Then after several business trips together, we 10 00:00:34,120 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: ended up having sex and we've been together since then. 11 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,040 Speaker 1: He stayed at my house at least four nights a week, 12 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 1: and he paid all of the bills. He was also 13 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 1: very controlling and stopped me from hanging out with my 14 00:00:47,360 --> 00:00:51,479 Speaker 1: girlfriends and most of my family. It was just me 15 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:55,240 Speaker 1: and him. Last year, his wife found out about us, 16 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:57,840 Speaker 1: and she called me and told me that I was 17 00:00:57,880 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: going to get fired for stalking her husband and trying 18 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:03,360 Speaker 1: to blackmail him and to giving me a raise. I 19 00:01:03,480 --> 00:01:05,840 Speaker 1: told her that it was all a big life, and 20 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:08,080 Speaker 1: I ended up telling her the truth about our affair 21 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 1: that has been going on for years. Things went downhill 22 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,720 Speaker 1: from there. Now he is living with me full time 23 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,559 Speaker 1: and I cannot take it. We argue and fight constantly 24 00:01:18,600 --> 00:01:21,760 Speaker 1: because he tries to control my every move. I also 25 00:01:21,760 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 1: see the other side of living with a much older man. 26 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:27,839 Speaker 1: It was different when he was just spending the night. 27 00:01:28,120 --> 00:01:30,959 Speaker 1: He has all of his stuff everywhere in my house 28 00:01:31,280 --> 00:01:35,200 Speaker 1: and all of the magic is gone from our relationship. 29 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,280 Speaker 1: I have lost twenty pounds since he's moved in with 30 00:01:39,319 --> 00:01:42,280 Speaker 1: me because I have no appetite anymore. We got into 31 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:45,400 Speaker 1: a really bad argument recently and he ran back to 32 00:01:45,440 --> 00:01:49,120 Speaker 1: his wife. She let him stay one night and then 33 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: send him back to me. I was truly hoping she 34 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:55,200 Speaker 1: want to keep him and repair their marriage. I don't 35 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: want him, but he can't see it. What can I do? 36 00:01:58,560 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: Please help? All right, come on, girl, you gotta change 37 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: your locks. You gotta get him out of your house. 38 00:02:05,160 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: You gotta start paying your own bills. Okay, this this relationship. 39 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: If you want it to be over, it can be over. 40 00:02:10,880 --> 00:02:13,200 Speaker 1: And how are you gonna let this old man just 41 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: play you like this? Put his stuff in a garbage 42 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:18,760 Speaker 1: bag and send him back to his wife or wherever. 43 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:21,320 Speaker 1: Just get him out of your house and get out 44 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 1: of this toxic toxic, toxic relationship. You need to reset 45 00:02:26,440 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: and restart. Okay, let him go. You gotta do that. 46 00:02:30,639 --> 00:02:33,520 Speaker 1: And you say you don't want him anymore. Why are 47 00:02:33,520 --> 00:02:36,080 Speaker 1: you letting him control everything in your life? And you 48 00:02:36,120 --> 00:02:39,280 Speaker 1: cannot blame this on the fact that he's older than you. 49 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 1: You can't. You shouldn't let any man any age control you. 50 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: He went back to his wife. She took him in 51 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 1: for one night. Well, she's gonna have to take him 52 00:02:47,840 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: in for several nights because you have to tell him 53 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: you're done with him. This man has got to go. 54 00:02:53,120 --> 00:02:55,480 Speaker 1: I don't care if he is paying your bills. You work, 55 00:02:55,600 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: you can pay your own bills, but you gotta get 56 00:02:57,720 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: him out. One good thing that came out of this 57 00:02:59,880 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: is that you lost twenty pounds. You know, if you 58 00:03:02,680 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 1: needed to lose some weight, I don't know, but anyway, Yeah, 59 00:03:05,480 --> 00:03:07,680 Speaker 1: you gotta get out of this, change your locks, just 60 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: start being proactive in your own life, all right, Steve, Well, 61 00:03:15,760 --> 00:03:20,120 Speaker 1: ain't really nothing but comedy coming out of this letter eventually, 62 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:24,000 Speaker 1: So I'm going to get started with the serious part 63 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:27,200 Speaker 1: of it. Kind involved with an older married man. He 64 00:03:27,320 --> 00:03:31,440 Speaker 1: was your boss, strictly business met his whole family, went 65 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: on a couple of trips together, y'all ended up having sex. 66 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: We've been together every since, so judge and body, this 67 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:42,880 Speaker 1: letter just a five year relationship. He's very controlling. All 68 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:47,600 Speaker 1: of this right here. Stopped you from hanging out with 69 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:50,080 Speaker 1: your girlfriends and most of your family. So you know 70 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:53,960 Speaker 1: what that means. He didn't cut you off. Yeah, Now, 71 00:03:54,640 --> 00:03:58,040 Speaker 1: he didn't stayed at your house for full nights a week, 72 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,400 Speaker 1: and he paid all the bats, ladies and gentlemen. There's 73 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 1: a technical term for this. This is called sugar daddy. Now, 74 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: sugar Daddy hasten wedged hisself into your life, and it 75 00:04:15,120 --> 00:04:18,760 Speaker 1: hurt done it. It's hard to have an old man 76 00:04:18,920 --> 00:04:23,279 Speaker 1: stand with you. Now. He was very controlling, stopped you 77 00:04:23,320 --> 00:04:26,440 Speaker 1: from hanging out. It's just me and him. Well, last 78 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 1: year's wife found out about us. She called me and 79 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:31,520 Speaker 1: told me that I was gonna get fired for stalking 80 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: her husband and trying to blackmailing into giving me a raise. 81 00:04:35,400 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: That's what he told her when she approached him about you, 82 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:46,520 Speaker 1: because she was smelling around and found something. This old 83 00:04:46,760 --> 00:04:53,039 Speaker 1: food said you was stalking to him trying to get 84 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:57,320 Speaker 1: a raise and blackmail you into a raise. I told 85 00:04:57,320 --> 00:04:59,880 Speaker 1: her it was a big lie. So what you do? 86 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:04,400 Speaker 1: You told the truth about our fair that had been 87 00:05:04,440 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: going on for years. Well it all went to hell 88 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:14,080 Speaker 1: after that. Now he living with me full time. I 89 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:18,640 Speaker 1: can't take it. We all go and fight constantly. I 90 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:22,880 Speaker 1: also seen to hear where the comedy coming. I also 91 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:27,880 Speaker 1: see the other side are living with a much older man. 92 00:05:27,960 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 1: See what different when he just was thumbing there every 93 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: nine then? But now his stuff is everywhere and the magic, 94 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:41,440 Speaker 1: the magic has gone from the relationship. You didn't have 95 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 1: lost twenty pounds, I surely say that's the good thing. 96 00:05:44,200 --> 00:05:46,880 Speaker 1: But if you wasn't but one ten before, we got 97 00:05:46,880 --> 00:05:50,800 Speaker 1: a problem because you're starting to look a little scared. 98 00:05:50,920 --> 00:05:58,920 Speaker 1: Now you down the ninety and start your brawl. Hanging off, 99 00:06:00,400 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: bra hanging off? Ain't nothing in the cup. You're just 100 00:06:06,560 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: putting your leg in one leg and the panti is now, God, 101 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:14,960 Speaker 1: you didn't put both your legs in your old leg 102 00:06:15,040 --> 00:06:17,520 Speaker 1: or your panty. Now you just got or have a 103 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:20,960 Speaker 1: penny on it. The other lead just be dangling now 104 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:22,680 Speaker 1: you don't turn it around to the back. So it 105 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:28,200 Speaker 1: looked like a throne with a flap on it. What 106 00:06:27,400 --> 00:06:30,640 Speaker 1: who do? What happened when you don't wait? But one, 107 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:36,200 Speaker 1: one on five and you lose twenty. Now you ain't 108 00:06:36,240 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: here looking like a crackhead commercial and his old asses everywhere. 109 00:06:42,440 --> 00:06:44,400 Speaker 1: So when I come back, I will tell you the 110 00:06:44,520 --> 00:06:49,120 Speaker 1: downfall of living with an older man. Let's begin with 111 00:06:50,440 --> 00:06:53,200 Speaker 1: you didn't know what that was in that glass over there, 112 00:06:54,240 --> 00:06:58,080 Speaker 1: and you look close and it was his damn teeth. 113 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:04,360 Speaker 1: You sit up in here. Hell n dim wasn't his teeth? 114 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 1: When I come back, here's what can happen when you 115 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:15,440 Speaker 1: live with an older man. Thank you, thank you, and mo, 116 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:18,840 Speaker 1: thank you, and you're welcome. You're welcome, and more You're welcome. 117 00:07:18,880 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response coming up. Wow, 118 00:07:22,680 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: Well she started having a fare with her old ass boss. 119 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 1: We don't know how old, but this old and got 120 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: on her nerves. He started paying all the bills he 121 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: was over the four nights. His man's wife found out 122 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:41,400 Speaker 1: about a call her because she busted him. He lied, said, 123 00:07:41,440 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: you're stalking him, trying to bribe him out of a rage. 124 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:48,440 Speaker 1: That's a lie, he told. Well, when she gave you 125 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: the lie, he old and he didn't forgot women gonna 126 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: check with each other. You told her about their fat 127 00:07:56,640 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: that had been going on for years. She put his 128 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: ass out. Now what you wanted, you got. You wanted 129 00:08:03,360 --> 00:08:06,680 Speaker 1: the old man, the boss, and now you got it. 130 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:09,920 Speaker 1: He lived with you. But she starting to understand the 131 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:15,080 Speaker 1: magnitude of living with old lass people. She says, stuff 132 00:08:15,240 --> 00:08:20,040 Speaker 1: is laying around everywhere, and she means everywhere. Really, she 133 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: didn't know what that was in that glass over there. 134 00:08:22,200 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: She looked close. I'll be damned. It's all his teeth 135 00:08:25,360 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: and a set of gums, a set of gums. He 136 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 1: looking when he looked at her. Without them teeth, it's 137 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:39,319 Speaker 1: just a hole in his head. It ain't nothing. It 138 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,720 Speaker 1: just all you can see that little dangling in the 139 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: back of his mouth. He got a set of teeth 140 00:08:44,360 --> 00:08:48,839 Speaker 1: and a set of gums. On the night stand is 141 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:59,120 Speaker 1: fifty folk bottles of prescription peels. Damn glasses everywhere. Them 142 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: readers in that drawing it Fred Samford, hat On, Samford, 143 00:09:03,679 --> 00:09:05,880 Speaker 1: and Sunway go through that draw with all the readers 144 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: on it. Apps and salt all in the kitchen. She 145 00:09:13,960 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: and that thinker, she getting the glass of milk. She 146 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: didn't pulled apps and salt in her damn coffee. She's 147 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: so mad sitting up in hill Man, she come here 148 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:28,080 Speaker 1: one day. She don't know what the hell is on 149 00:09:28,120 --> 00:09:30,720 Speaker 1: the stove here, glad. He just warming up baby food 150 00:09:32,720 --> 00:09:35,000 Speaker 1: because he don't want to put his damn teeth in. 151 00:09:36,679 --> 00:09:39,920 Speaker 1: He wasn't going back on eatnner time, and he wasn't 152 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:43,199 Speaker 1: going upstairs to get them damn teeth out that glass 153 00:09:43,280 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: and he dumbst so just just warming up baby food, 154 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:51,720 Speaker 1: trying to seize them damn green beans, make up tastes 155 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:57,360 Speaker 1: like when he's doing damn walker turn over every time 156 00:09:57,440 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: you somewhere, because he's been walking without them glasses on. 157 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 1: He had knocked all your glasses off, your ball everything. Man, 158 00:10:06,559 --> 00:10:09,880 Speaker 1: you came home and your yeah, he came home and 159 00:10:09,960 --> 00:10:12,840 Speaker 1: your bath tub gonne. He didn't installed to walk into 160 00:10:17,840 --> 00:10:20,520 Speaker 1: here sitting up in a high chair, time to take 161 00:10:20,559 --> 00:10:25,679 Speaker 1: a bath. All your days and laying down is gone. 162 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: He didn't listened to the TV, so damn loud and 163 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: all he liked Westerns. You're just in there, all you 164 00:10:34,640 --> 00:10:43,000 Speaker 1: co co co living in that house with that old 165 00:10:43,080 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: ass man oh man, heating pants everywhere. Every time you 166 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:49,839 Speaker 1: sit down, you got to jump off because this is 167 00:10:49,920 --> 00:10:58,400 Speaker 1: hot ass pan plug your girlfriends jumping your girlfriends. Come on, 168 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:00,800 Speaker 1: tell my baby what is that new sent That ain't 169 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:07,040 Speaker 1: no sense, that's methol. That's damned being gay. And I said, 170 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: sitting up in here with his shoe off, got that dead. 171 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:15,640 Speaker 1: All the toenails on his foot is dead, the last 172 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: one of them foot down there looking like a hawk claw. 173 00:11:21,040 --> 00:11:25,040 Speaker 1: What all those pills for, damn peels? Is for everything? 174 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: He got high blood, he need blood. Then he got stroke, medication, 175 00:11:29,600 --> 00:11:32,679 Speaker 1: he's taking the heart regulator. He's sitting up in here. 176 00:11:32,679 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 1: He got eggs more, he can't sleeping, two of them 177 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: sitting up in here. He got gout. You don't know 178 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: what it is. You thought it was grout. You tried 179 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:46,120 Speaker 1: to cock up the term with it. You found out 180 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:49,319 Speaker 1: his ass head gout. He got swelling in his ankle. 181 00:11:49,400 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 1: He got anti information drugs, every damn well one. And 182 00:11:55,520 --> 00:11:59,199 Speaker 1: then he got preparation. H but he's so down, Oh 183 00:11:59,280 --> 00:12:02,120 Speaker 1: his arm go back there no more. He handed your 184 00:12:02,240 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 1: pop circles stick to put this preparation. That last strang 185 00:12:13,520 --> 00:12:17,840 Speaker 1: was that walking too. You've been at work all day, 186 00:12:18,640 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: all your little young ass girls. Girls. I'm going home 187 00:12:22,240 --> 00:12:25,200 Speaker 1: and stretch out in the bathtub. Give me some wine 188 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:30,319 Speaker 1: and some music. Sitting up him here now you over 189 00:12:30,360 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: there watching him getting dressed. He didn't put his draws on, 190 00:12:33,120 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 1: then some depends. Now he got a suit on. He 191 00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 1: just looking fat ass hell below the bell you set 192 00:12:44,080 --> 00:12:46,280 Speaker 1: up here going to church and him he's sitting over 193 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: there with his eyes. Shit, you think he praying you 194 00:12:48,440 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 1: over there? Pin, that's like, okay, sitting over here. Every 195 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:01,000 Speaker 1: damn thing he got, I got a plug on. He 196 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 1: got a football side machine in every damn room. Sitting 197 00:13:08,640 --> 00:13:11,760 Speaker 1: over here. You the Dobell rings, Amazon Prime, they're bringing 198 00:13:11,800 --> 00:13:22,040 Speaker 1: in the oxygen ten DJ. This letter isn't about you. 199 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 1: You can't even sleep. Every time you try to doze 200 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:26,839 Speaker 1: off your damn mattress shift he getting up, going to 201 00:13:26,920 --> 00:13:33,600 Speaker 1: pee again. He can pay thirteen times last night, then 202 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:35,840 Speaker 1: the fourteenth time he comes to bed with a damn 203 00:13:35,960 --> 00:13:43,280 Speaker 1: depening on because he tired of getting up. That's what 204 00:13:43,520 --> 00:13:47,840 Speaker 1: you get. Im sleeping with an old last man. Yeah, 205 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:51,280 Speaker 1: we ain't got no help for you, but that's who 206 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 1: you wanted. You took her from her tick, this woman's husband. 207 00:13:54,800 --> 00:13:58,240 Speaker 1: Now you got it good? Fuck you all right, guys, 208 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:01,920 Speaker 1: email us her Instagram. That's your ots on Today's Strawberry 209 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:06,160 Speaker 1: letter at Steve Harvey FM you're listening to the Steve 210 00:14:06,280 --> 00:14:07,280 Speaker 1: Harvey Morning Show.