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Speaker 2: Lacey is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Matt.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call Matt and

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Speaker 2: see if I tell us why he's ghosting her and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Lacey, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Matt? Hey?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, honestly, it's been a couple of weeks. Okay, I

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Speaker 1: don't really understand.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well, have you tried to get a hold of

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Speaker 3: him in that time? Like, see, okay I did?

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Speaker 4: I did?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So, like I texted him a couple of times,

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Speaker 1: you know, just like a casual like, hey, how's your

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Speaker 1: week going? You know, nothing like desperate. But yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: been two weeks, and uh, you know, in dating months

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Speaker 1: that that feels like engating time. That feels like two months. So,

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Speaker 1: I mean we had an amazing We had an amazing date,

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Speaker 1: and like, you know, I've dated guys where the connection

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Speaker 1: feels kind of flat and forced and stuff, but with him,

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Speaker 1: like I really I felt an immediate spark, which is

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Speaker 1: so rare and we were like speaking the same language,

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Speaker 1: like without even trying. It was we had this like magnetism.

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Speaker 1: I don't know how else to describe it. And I

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Speaker 1: would just hate to see that go. It's such a

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Speaker 1: hard thing to come by, it really is.

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Speaker 5: I hate that. But why don't you tell us about

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Speaker 5: that day? Why don't you tell us about the day?

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Speaker 5: How did it go?

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Speaker 4: I would love to.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So we went to this like really blanky cocktail lounge.

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Speaker 1: It was I mean it was like velvet couches and

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Speaker 1: like candlelit. It was very romantic, like upscale, you know.

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Speaker 1: The bartenders were in like fancy vests and oh my gosh.

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Speaker 1: And Matt It's just like one of those like annoyingly

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Speaker 1: handsome guys like who sometimes you know, somehow just like

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Speaker 1: makes eye contact feel like flirting, you know, like like

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Speaker 1: it just like pierces your soul. And we had these

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Speaker 1: like ridiculous drinks that like came in teacup.

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Speaker 4: Which was like so cute.

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Speaker 1: We were just like laughing the all time. He was

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Speaker 1: like teasing me about being too extra. When I asked

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Speaker 1: the bartender to like torch my lemon peel longer, you know,

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Speaker 1: we were we already had this like banter going. You

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Speaker 1: I remember thinking like, oh my gosh, I got these

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Speaker 5: Oh you guys just flowed like that.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and there.

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Speaker 1: Was kissing a little more than a little more than kissing.

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Speaker 4: But you know, I will I'll spare you the details.

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Speaker 4: But he's a really.

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Speaker 1: Really good kisser, which is just all adding to like

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Speaker 1: why I'm so confused, because it was like one of

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Speaker 1: the best first dates.

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Speaker 4: I've ever had.

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Speaker 2: Okay, is there anything that you can think of at

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Speaker 2: all that would be the reason that he would be ghosting.

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Speaker 1: Maybe because I took a selfie during the date, like

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Speaker 4: Oh yeah, I mean.

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Speaker 1: But I don't know, I don't I mean, he laughed,

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Speaker 1: like but maybe he thought it was like too aggressive

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Speaker 1: even just taking a photo of us. But maybe he

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Speaker 1: thinks I'm like, you know, already planning our wedding or

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Speaker 1: something like. It didn't feel that way, you know, Yeah,

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Speaker 5: By the way, did you post it anywhere?

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Speaker 4: No? No, no, I just it was just for like.

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Speaker 5: My own memories got you. Okay, I think I think

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Speaker 5: I was really good. You can be like, hey, baby,

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Speaker 5: is this is when Day and I met you know?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well we'll see where you figured it out for you.

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Speaker 2: Cut, well, play us on come back and then call

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Speaker 2: him and see if he'll tell us why he's ghosting

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Speaker 2: you and maybe get you a second date.

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Speaker 5: Okay, okay, thank you. All right, we'll get your first

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Speaker 5: day follow up right after this.

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of your first day followup, if

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Speaker 2: you're just joining us, Lacey is on the phone and

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Speaker 2: she's getting ghosted by a guy named Matt. So we're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and see if that's ALUs why

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Speaker 2: he's ghostinger and maybe get our second date. But before

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Speaker 2: we do that, Lacy, why don't you catch us up

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Speaker 2: on your date again real quick?

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So, Matt and I went to this really twinky cocktail

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Speaker 4: Him to ghost?

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Speaker 5: You think it might be because of the selfie that

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Speaker 5: you guys have.

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Speaker 1: I think that's literally the only thing I can think

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Speaker 2: Yeah, warned me out of somebody took a selfie with

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Speaker 3: See myself doing. But I understand why people might be

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Speaker 3: It's okay, lazy, I.

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Speaker 5: Feel you all right? Are you ready for us to

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Speaker 5: get him a call?

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 5: Okay, here we go.

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Speaker 6: Hello?

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Speaker 5: Hi, may I speak to Matt? Please?

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Speaker 2: Hey, Matt? How are you? This is a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called The Jubile Show.

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Speaker 5: What's up?

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Speaker 7: Matt?

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Speaker 4: I'm Nina.

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Speaker 5: Hi, I am Victoria and my name's Jubel.

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Speaker 6: Oh wow, I love.

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Speaker 5: That reaction every day. Have you ever listened to the

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Speaker 5: show before?

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Speaker 7: I have?

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Speaker 1: I have?

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Speaker 6: This is awkward and surprising.

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Speaker 5: Sweet. Thank you? Well, Matt.

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Speaker 2: Guess what what? We got an email about you from

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Speaker 2: somebody that you're ghosting. Isn't that fun?

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Speaker 6: Is this about Lacey?

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Speaker 5: Yes? Okay, it is about Lacey. So we talked to Lacey.

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Speaker 2: She told us about your date, you know, said that

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Speaker 2: she really liked you a lot of thought things were great,

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Speaker 2: but cannot figure out why you're ghosting her? Do you

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Speaker 6: Yeah, okay, this is going to sound ridiculou, but I

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Speaker 6: I panicked, like I was, well, like in my head,

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Speaker 6: I was like, was that a move or was there

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Speaker 3: Okay, it would be kind of funny for a movement

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Speaker 3: a change how you how you view it, Like, is

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Speaker 3: it because it's a move that you were uncomfortable?

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Speaker 6: I just didn't know if like if she was messing

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Speaker 6: was it was like a scene of a movie that

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Speaker 3: Like she was giving you a signal or something.

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Speaker 4: I don't know.

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Speaker 6: I don't know. And that's yeah, that I mean, that's

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Speaker 6: that's like literally why I haven't called it back because

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Speaker 5: Like how bad of a lick was it? Right?

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Speaker 6: Like I said, it was intense it was aggressive, almost

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Speaker 2: Like did she pick the glass up and like lick

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Speaker 6: I mean it was like around the ram like she

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Speaker 5: Many times does she make it around the rim?

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Speaker 6: I didn't even count because it was one of those

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Speaker 6: Like I couldn't look away? But I also felt weird

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Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, if it's what I'm picturing in my head

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I also see how I kind of dig it,

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Speaker 1: This.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, but that's the reason.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, that's I mean, that's it. That's the reason.

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Speaker 2: Well, guess what, Matt, I mean, you listen to these,

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Speaker 2: but I'm not sure if you remember Lacy is on

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Speaker 6: Oh, I guess I should have known.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Hi Lacy, Hey Matt. Oh sorry, so I heard

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Speaker 4: the whole thing. You're you vanished over a glass?

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Speaker 5: Licking.

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Speaker 6: Is that yes?

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Speaker 4: Is that really?

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Speaker 1: Yes?

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Speaker 6: Yeah? Correct?

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Speaker 1: Yes, I'm so sorry one second, Okay, sorry, I was

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Speaker 1: just taking a sip of water and licking the bottle.

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Speaker 1: Who yeah, Matt, No, I I was not seducing you.

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Speaker 1: There was literally cinnamon sugar on the rim, like you said, So,

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Speaker 1: I'm not going to be.

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Speaker 4: Wasteful, you know.

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Speaker 1: And and honestly, like even if I even if I

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Speaker 1: Like this is kind of crazy that that you're going

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Speaker 6: It was intense and like you locked eyes like you

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Speaker 4: Well maybe I was. Maybe I was issuing a challenge

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Speaker 4: and maybe you failed.

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Speaker 6: Oh I don't fail.

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Speaker 4: You don't fail, Okay, prove it.

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Speaker 1: I mean you think I'm beautiful. You know, I'm funny,

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Speaker 1: I'm hilarious, I smell amazing. Like, give me one good

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Speaker 4: I'm serious, Matt.

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Speaker 5: Would you like to go on another day with Lazy?

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Speaker 5: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 6: Well, here's the thing is is not like being in control?

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Speaker 6: And do you make that very hard?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: That just sounds scared all around.

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Speaker 6: Power plase, I'd rather be like a you know, hey, lady,

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Speaker 6: h lick that glass for me?

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Speaker 7: Whoa, lady, you know you better watch out.

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Speaker 4: I might lick your glass next time.

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Speaker 6: Okay, but only if I give you permission. I'm not

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Speaker 6: like that all the time. I do like to be

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Speaker 3: You know, guys are so complicated.

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Speaker 6: So you know I can be in control if there's

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Speaker 6: a time for me to be in control, is right?

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Speaker 6: You know we can do that for you.

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Speaker 4: Lady.

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Speaker 2: All right, Well, what do you think, lay It sounds

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Speaker 2: like Matt's down for another day?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: That is that?

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Speaker 5: A yes?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 4: I didn't think we get at this point.

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Speaker 2: But hey, okay, all right, congratulations another day, saying lady.

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Speaker 4: Well, I'm all in.

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Speaker 6: I'm sorry that the glass looking threw me off before,

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Speaker 6: but now I'm all in and I'm ready to show you. Oh, Matt, oh,

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Speaker 6: I love that.

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Speaker 4: Hey, where's something that makes women stare at you? So

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Speaker 4: I can get tellous what I got? Just the thing,

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Speaker 4: Lady jubile, first dayfall up