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<v Speaker 1>Oh my goodness. Today, to celebrate the end of season one,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a treat for you. As I'm sure you've noticed,

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<v Speaker 1>each time I ask a guest these questions, our conversations

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<v Speaker 1>go in wildly different directions. The same question might get

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<v Speaker 1>Gia Tolentino wondering about her life's purpose, ronan Pharaoh pursuing

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<v Speaker 1>decades old government secrets, or Stephen Fry thinking about Amazonian

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<v Speaker 1>tree frogs. And while every guest thinks about these questions

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<v Speaker 1>in a unique way, we don't always get to share

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<v Speaker 1>every answer. For the sake of sharing episodes with you

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<v Speaker 1>that aren't too long, we had to leave some memorable

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<v Speaker 1>moments on the cutting room floor, so today we're picking

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<v Speaker 1>up those pieces. In this episode, I will share with

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<v Speaker 1>you a few of my favorite answers that weren't in

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<v Speaker 1>the original episodes to help close out season one of

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<v Speaker 1>many questions. Think of them as deleted scenes. But don't worry.

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<v Speaker 1>Season one is wrapping up and I'm off to film

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of movies. Many questions will return for season

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<v Speaker 1>two very soon, and please be sure to let me

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<v Speaker 1>know in the comments and reviews if there are new

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<v Speaker 1>guests you'd like to hear. From now, let's get into

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<v Speaker 1>some of these deleted scenes. Here is today's show anchor

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<v Speaker 1>Herd to cut the what quality do you like least

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<v Speaker 1>about yourself? I am two things that I wish I

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<v Speaker 1>was less of. I'm super bossy, which is annoying to all,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm weirdly At the same time, I think I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a pleaser, A bossy pleaser. A bossy pleaser. Is that possible?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, my sister is like, okay, stop being so bossy,

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't help it. Joel is he just like

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<v Speaker 1>watches me spin around and call all the shots, and

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<v Speaker 1>he must be like when it's all comes down, it's like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>now can we discuss you You're good? Okay? My conversation

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<v Speaker 1>about it And I think at the same time, like

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<v Speaker 1>I want to make people feel so comfortable that I

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<v Speaker 1>sort of we'll turn myself into a pretzel to make

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<v Speaker 1>sure they feel good. That's interesting. I feel like it's

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<v Speaker 1>a very female experience, that of turning yourself into a

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<v Speaker 1>pretzel whilst also having to make ship happen. Yes, And

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<v Speaker 1>that's really it, because I feel like I'm always trying

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<v Speaker 1>to make the trains run on time and make sure

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<v Speaker 1>we get where we need to get and do all

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<v Speaker 1>the things we need to do. And at the same time,

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<v Speaker 1>I find myself doing this And it's so funny because

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<v Speaker 1>the other day I must say sorry a lot. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even realize it, but cope, my two year old O, sorry, Mom, sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh god, you're too What am I doing?

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<v Speaker 1>And I hear my words coming out? And then I

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<v Speaker 1>saw my daughter was playing with a little boy. What

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<v Speaker 1>she said, Calvin, what did you have for lunch? And

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<v Speaker 1>he said, girl, cheese? And he said what did you have?

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<v Speaker 1>And she said same like you but she didn't. And

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, does this start? Now? What's how playing? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean is that in her like She's already trying

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<v Speaker 1>to make him feel like I'm like you. And I

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<v Speaker 1>thought it was weird. But at the same time I

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<v Speaker 1>was wondering, you know, I don't even know what I'm

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<v Speaker 1>modeling at the time. I feel like I'm just living

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<v Speaker 1>and maybe they see I don't know, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>just live there. I mean, I'm all for self inquiry

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<v Speaker 1>and you know, being aware of your behavior, but you

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<v Speaker 1>simply cannot curate every second of what comes out of

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<v Speaker 1>your mouth. I sort of wish I could, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>just not possible. But that is interesting about the same

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<v Speaker 1>like you, because I remember doing that really young, particularly

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<v Speaker 1>with boys, you know, as a identifying heterosexual, assist gendered woman,

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<v Speaker 1>I learned to please boys really really young. Yeah, the bossy,

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<v Speaker 1>I like the bossy. I think bossy is good. I

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<v Speaker 1>think bossy should have another word. I think it should

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<v Speaker 1>just be called excellent. Okay, I'll think that. I'll take that.

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<v Speaker 1>Bossy is just like, I know what's supposed to happen.

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<v Speaker 1>Just let me make it happen. Shut up and let

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<v Speaker 1>me do it. Everybody get out here, we go. I

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<v Speaker 1>just need an open road and everything gets done. It's

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<v Speaker 1>exactly right. I'm going to now say, holda, Oh yeah, holda,

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<v Speaker 1>Why isn't she a bit bossy? Now she's a bit excellent.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that. I'm stealing it. How good you can

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<v Speaker 1>have it? Here is writer and global health advocate Chelsea Clinton.

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<v Speaker 1>So love what relationship real or fictionalized? To find love

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<v Speaker 1>for you? I love my parents. I was really close

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<v Speaker 1>to my grandmother, Um, who passed away almost a decade ago.

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<v Speaker 1>I spoke to her at least try to speak with

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<v Speaker 1>her every day. I love my husband we've known each

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<v Speaker 1>other since we were kids, and we were friends for

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<v Speaker 1>more than a decade before we fell in love, and

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<v Speaker 1>you know, got me right. And now I've created kind

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<v Speaker 1>of love and action in these three amazing beings that

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<v Speaker 1>I just am so thankfully get to be their mom.

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<v Speaker 1>And so, for me, love is being able to love

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<v Speaker 1>my children, to be able to care for them and

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully make them laugh and pick them up when they

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<v Speaker 1>fall down, literally and metaphorically teach them what's worth their

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<v Speaker 1>tears and not so when they just sort of trip

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<v Speaker 1>and fall in they're okay, like not worth their tears

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<v Speaker 1>versus like if they're actually bleeding, worth their tears, or

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<v Speaker 1>for the older kids and their baby brother like knocked

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<v Speaker 1>down their magnetile tower, which happens, you know, fairly frequently,

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<v Speaker 1>Like I get that that's totally frustrating, but not worth

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<v Speaker 1>their tears versus like you know, when they're missing their

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<v Speaker 1>cousins and they haven't seen them for more than a year, Like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>they can cry about that. That's painful. That's a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>And so that to me is love. And my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>Charlotte's obsessed with sharks and she wants to shave the

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<v Speaker 1>sharks and so we talk a lot about the environment

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<v Speaker 1>and how you know, I love for ourselves and love

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<v Speaker 1>for each other also has to I think we love

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<v Speaker 1>for our planet. And she's six, but she can carry

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<v Speaker 1>out the cardboard recycling or at least, you know, with

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<v Speaker 1>some help. And so I think all of that is love,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, making them laugh, picking them up, teaching

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<v Speaker 1>them to be good citizens, and how to love and

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<v Speaker 1>how to love and how to love each other. I think,

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<v Speaker 1>especially like I was an only child, and so like

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<v Speaker 1>how they love each other as siblings has also been

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<v Speaker 1>a new experience for me because I didn't have any

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<v Speaker 1>siblings growing up. My husband had ten siblings. Um, so

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<v Speaker 1>I thankfully here's a lot of experience to draw from.

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<v Speaker 1>So all of that to me is love. I love

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<v Speaker 1>that this wonderful man called Mike Coots, who is one

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<v Speaker 1>of the great environmental advocates for sharks. Okay, he was

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<v Speaker 1>a pro surfer who had the lower half of I

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<v Speaker 1>can't remember which leg it was a bitten off by shark.

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<v Speaker 1>And he suffs now, he stuffs still, But he is

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<v Speaker 1>the most extraordinary advocate for these animals that changed this

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<v Speaker 1>life definitively, but in a way that I mean, it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's a really interesting and beautiful exploration of the extraordinary

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<v Speaker 1>spect trum of love and fear. It's it's really amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>He has an instagram that is quite beautiful, um and

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<v Speaker 1>some videos that Charlotte might really like. Yeah, thank you,

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<v Speaker 1>because she's love sharks now half her life. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>when she was three, we went to the New or

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<v Speaker 1>Aquarium and she just became mesmerized by these animals. I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to learn everything that she could about them, and

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<v Speaker 1>thankfully she had a wonderful preschool teacher who read her

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<v Speaker 1>books about sharks, and then we kind of checked some

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<v Speaker 1>books out from the library, and then we bought more books,

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<v Speaker 1>and she just really you know, if you ask her

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<v Speaker 1>what she wants to be when she goes up, she

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<v Speaker 1>says she wants to be a shark scientist. Oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>And she's had the same answer, whereas my four year

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<v Speaker 1>old has like different he wants to be. He also

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<v Speaker 1>wants to be a scientists, but the type of scientist

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<v Speaker 1>he wants to be kind of changes every day. But

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<v Speaker 1>for Charlotte, it really is like she I have no

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<v Speaker 1>idea what should be when she goes up, but for

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<v Speaker 1>now to have had this consistent passion and commitment, and

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<v Speaker 1>she talks to all of our family about sharks, and

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<v Speaker 1>she wants her cousins and her aunts and uncles, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>about jerks, and to really appreciate them and not be

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<v Speaker 1>scared about them, and to know why that the caretakers

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<v Speaker 1>of the ocean, and why they're so fundamental to the

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<v Speaker 1>cycle of the ocean. I mean, really genuinely, that's so

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<v Speaker 1>amazing that she's identified this thing that is a figure

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<v Speaker 1>of you know, it has it has so much fair

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<v Speaker 1>attached to it, and they are they are genuinely such necessary, beautiful,

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<v Speaker 1>extraordinary creatures. Yes, yes, And and just that I've already

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<v Speaker 1>learned so much from her, so fun as a parent,

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<v Speaker 1>right that she's already taught me so much about about jerks.

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<v Speaker 1>That's amazing, is awesome, That's amazing. Next up we have

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<v Speaker 1>actor and director Coleman Domingo. Perhaps you could tell me

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<v Speaker 1>in your life something that has grown out of a

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<v Speaker 1>personal disaster my my my writing, to be honest, the

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<v Speaker 1>stories that I write and the place that I write,

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<v Speaker 1>I think a lot of times sort of document or

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<v Speaker 1>touch on something that I that I miss dearly, which

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<v Speaker 1>is that little house in Philadelphia, where I was raised,

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<v Speaker 1>where I felt tethered with all this love and hope,

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<v Speaker 1>that family unit that is no longer terrible tragedies. Because

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<v Speaker 1>I lost my parents within six months of each other.

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<v Speaker 1>It was one truly devastating year. But with that, I

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<v Speaker 1>think I poured all my energy into my heart and

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<v Speaker 1>then to my storytelling, because I like to tell stories

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<v Speaker 1>that are complex and about who we are. I think

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<v Speaker 1>they're always trying to bring people together. They're always trying

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<v Speaker 1>to show people the best parts of themselves. They will

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<v Speaker 1>get through something. I think it's also possibly for myself,

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest, to write it for someone else to

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<v Speaker 1>actually get through that thing that you've got through, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know it was harrowing, and you know that you

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<v Speaker 1>could have fallen at any time. And that's the truth.

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<v Speaker 1>I do look at my own tragedies that I've had

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<v Speaker 1>as I guess things that it sounds weird, but things

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<v Speaker 1>that they were mine. Not that I needed, but they

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<v Speaker 1>were mine. They were mine, things to cross, They were

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<v Speaker 1>my gifts. In some weird way. We don't want these gifts,

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<v Speaker 1>but they are gifts, and we take them with best

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<v Speaker 1>and we hopefully make them transformative. We show other people

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<v Speaker 1>the way. The thing that many of that I think

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<v Speaker 1>I do recognize even more so, and I think we've

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<v Speaker 1>been doing our work for a long time, is that

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<v Speaker 1>it is work of the soul, and it said you

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<v Speaker 1>have to pour it all in there, all the tragedy,

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<v Speaker 1>all the good times, all of it, and it's going

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<v Speaker 1>to help you establish a new truth and the truth

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<v Speaker 1>and creation I know. It's definitely the way I write,

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<v Speaker 1>that way I create, the way I create opportunities not

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<v Speaker 1>only for myself but for others. It's because of the

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<v Speaker 1>tragedy that have a production company, because I want to

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<v Speaker 1>make sure people taken care of. I feel like I

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<v Speaker 1>don't leave it to everyone out there. I don't just

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<v Speaker 1>writing a lot or getting upset about circumstances. I will

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<v Speaker 1>create it. I will create the world that I think

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<v Speaker 1>in the container that it should live in. And I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know where I get that from. Again, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know where I get this from where I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I think everything in my past would have set me

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<v Speaker 1>up to feel like I didn't have agency in the world,

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<v Speaker 1>but that's not the truth. I think it's my mother

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<v Speaker 1>and the way she raised me. Believing that I can

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<v Speaker 1>make a difference that although we've had we had no money,

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<v Speaker 1>but everything was available to me. I never believed that

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<v Speaker 1>something wasn't available, whether it was love or money access.

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<v Speaker 1>I've always walked into a room believing that everything was

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<v Speaker 1>available to me, and you just leave with love, you

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<v Speaker 1>leave with grace. I don't want and it seems to

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<v Speaker 1>knock on wood when working out. Yeah, it's an amazing thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Though to not come at any of it from a

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<v Speaker 1>point of view of paucity, and also to come it

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<v Speaker 1>from the idea that you can take things that are

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<v Speaker 1>difficult and turn them into something else. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>alchemy gets a big enough shout out. Frankly, alchemy needs

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<v Speaker 1>to get the biggest shout out in the world because

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<v Speaker 1>it is transforming that and it's always possible. Always It's

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<v Speaker 1>just up to you. It really is up to you

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<v Speaker 1>in the way that you see it, what you choose

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<v Speaker 1>to do with that fuel, because it's all fuel, right,

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<v Speaker 1>all of it. This next question is from my conversation

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<v Speaker 1>with actor Anna Faris, all right, love, So what what

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<v Speaker 1>question would you most like answered? It is tough to

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<v Speaker 1>think about potentially dying without without understanding a larger picture.

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<v Speaker 1>I suppose I would love to be around for an

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<v Speaker 1>extra terrestrial idea, for an interaction with an extra terrestrial

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<v Speaker 1>it is interact. I just need to see it all

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<v Speaker 1>the news, just of course, because you don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>happen in my lifetime. You just wanted to happen. I think,

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<v Speaker 1>I think that would be really fucking cool. Yeah, I agree, Mini,

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<v Speaker 1>What about you? Can I ask you? I mean it's

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<v Speaker 1>I asked this question because I really am so I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so interested. But I realized, and having asked it so much,

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<v Speaker 1>because so many people then myself included, go well, I

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I want to know what happens when we die.

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<v Speaker 1>But really what it is is, I want to know

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<v Speaker 1>how to talk to the dead people. I really, I

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<v Speaker 1>really feel like if what we're talking about is energetic

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<v Speaker 1>frequencies and that you know, our bodies a matter vibrating

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<v Speaker 1>at a certain level, that our optic nerves can perceive,

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<v Speaker 1>and that if being dead is just being non physical,

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<v Speaker 1>I really want to know how we can. I just

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<v Speaker 1>want to speed up our evolution, in our advancement. I'd

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<v Speaker 1>like to speak the head and see if we've we've

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<v Speaker 1>developed these ways of dealing with the more subtle frequencies

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<v Speaker 1>does that sound bananas? It sounds kind of bananas, but

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I think it's true. No, it will well

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<v Speaker 1>sounds bananas. It I mean, I'm getting to the age

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<v Speaker 1>and I know that you've experienced death of late, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm getting to the age where my friends and I

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<v Speaker 1>our parents are becoming ill and we are thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>these things in a in a slightly different way. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>But I love what you told me on my podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>I think about that a lot. You said that grief

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<v Speaker 1>is love amplified. It's an amplification of love. Yeah, it is.

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<v Speaker 1>It is enormous and it is amazing, and it's kind

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<v Speaker 1>of like the crone living in the scariest house on

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<v Speaker 1>the block. Like everybody's frightened of her. Nobody wants to

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<v Speaker 1>go in and talk to her, nobody wants to be

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<v Speaker 1>a asociated with her. But she really has so much

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<v Speaker 1>wisdom and there is so much life in grief. It's

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<v Speaker 1>a really funny thing. And there's a there's regret two,

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<v Speaker 1>I would imagine, is there regret? Well? Yeah, I mean

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<v Speaker 1>it depends and you're you know, when you start going

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<v Speaker 1>through the litany of things that you wish she'd said

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<v Speaker 1>or done differently, because you do. I don't know that

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<v Speaker 1>it's regret exactly. It's more like you examine everything. You

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<v Speaker 1>examine it almost like it's under a microscope. And then weirdly,

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<v Speaker 1>the things that I just don't need to be held

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<v Speaker 1>onto anymore are the things that fall by the wayside.

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<v Speaker 1>You keep shedding. I keep shedding layers of stuff that

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<v Speaker 1>just was not interesting to keep alive when my mother

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<v Speaker 1>herself was alive, and things that we talked about, and

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<v Speaker 1>now the things that I think about are almost like

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<v Speaker 1>the distillation of what I loved about her, and the

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<v Speaker 1>distillation of our conversations and the things that she taught me.

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<v Speaker 1>Because I feel like I look more like her. It's

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<v Speaker 1>weird because I feel like I'm inhabiting more of what

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<v Speaker 1>she meant and felt. That's kind of an amazing idea. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>it's really weird. It happened the other day, like I

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<v Speaker 1>was looking in my rear view mirror and I caught

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<v Speaker 1>side of myself and I got a shock because I

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<v Speaker 1>I looked like her. It was it was really it's

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<v Speaker 1>very strange. I mean, I'm sure it's all part of

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of the psychological journey, but I would I

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<v Speaker 1>would love to know how we're going to evolve. I

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<v Speaker 1>would love to know how human beings like, if we

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<v Speaker 1>are actually going to develop more areas of our brain,

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<v Speaker 1>if we are going to evolve beyond the kind of

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<v Speaker 1>the hideous sort of warmongering and all of the cruelty

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<v Speaker 1>that just has seemed to be this back and forth

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<v Speaker 1>of the haves and the have nots and the powerful

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<v Speaker 1>and the powerless. Will there ever change? I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I know I have quite a lot of questions that

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<v Speaker 1>I'd like answered, but I think it feels it feels necessary.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll probably have to go quite a long time into

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<v Speaker 1>the future, probably, and well our general will probably have

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<v Speaker 1>to take over. Yeah, oh probably. Oh my god. If

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<v Speaker 1>it stills exhausting having to be in oh god. But seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>it's going to be a matriarchy. Oh my gosh, exhausted.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not going to sleep as it is. Jesus, you

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<v Speaker 1>do it, no you. And finally, here is former Prime

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<v Speaker 1>Minister Tony Blair. I will ask you very quickly, because

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<v Speaker 1>I know you have to go. What would be your

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<v Speaker 1>last mail? You know, I could go sort of really

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<v Speaker 1>good fish and chips from my youth, and I would

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<v Speaker 1>love that. I like a really simple pasta. It depends

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<v Speaker 1>when my my last meal you can have you can

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<v Speaker 1>have as many courses as you want, is your last

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<v Speaker 1>male Yeah, that's so in that case, and it provided

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<v Speaker 1>we're not going to go into sort of leger On

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<v Speaker 1>booth style. So I would like a whole array of

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<v Speaker 1>different dishes, small small amounts. Japanese maybe, But look, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think if one knew it was my last meal,

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<v Speaker 1>my thoughts would be elsewhere they might. I could always

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<v Speaker 1>I could definitely consider my my mortal coil and have

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<v Speaker 1>an apple crumble like a whole one. Yeah, I could

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<v Speaker 1>definitely think about spirituality and eat everything that you said.

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<v Speaker 1>I'd eat all of that and then roast chicken apple crumble.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom used to make great apple crumble mine too.

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<v Speaker 1>It's my favorite pudding. It's pretty English, actually, isn't it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because you get good apples here. I mean not to

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<v Speaker 1>disparage America, but I've very rarely had really good apples.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't find cooking apples in America either. Rubob crumble

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<v Speaker 1>that's good too. Well, there you have it. The deleted

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<v Speaker 1>scenes of season one. In listening to all of these again,

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<v Speaker 1>I started to think back on why I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>start doing this podcast, and I've been reflecting on whether

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<v Speaker 1>I've accomplished a piece of what I set out to do.

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<v Speaker 1>You've heard me say this before, but my mission with

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<v Speaker 1>this podcast was to create a cultural anthology, an investigation

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<v Speaker 1>into the human experience, with each episode presenting a new guest,

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<v Speaker 1>a new data point in this great experiment. And I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not done. Many questions will return for season two, and

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<v Speaker 1>I hope three, four, or five, six, seven, eight, and

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<v Speaker 1>on and on. One season does not a cultural anthology make,

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<v Speaker 1>but I've gleaned an insight or two, and I hope

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<v Speaker 1>you've been able to do the same. One I think

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<v Speaker 1>about most often is whether you're a rock star performing

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<v Speaker 1>for a stadium full of adoring fans, or a correspondent

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<v Speaker 1>reporting on climate change, or a twelve year old trying

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<v Speaker 1>to go to school. A peaceful moment is usually a

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<v Speaker 1>happy one, so I hope that until we chat again,

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<v Speaker 1>you have many, many happy moments of peace. I also

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<v Speaker 1>hope that you have a meal where you never get

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<v Speaker 1>full and get to eat lots of oatmeal, fried chicken,

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<v Speaker 1>chocolate moose, and mashed potatoes without ketchup. In the meantime,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm extremely grateful that I have the opportunity to do

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<v Speaker 1>this and to share these conversations with you. Until next time,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the connection, Because I found it is our questions,

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