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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: Allegra is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Gary.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and

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Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's a ghostinger and

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Speaker 2: maybe get her another date. But first, Allegra, how long

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Speaker 2: has it been since you heard from Gary?

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Speaker 3: It has been five days?

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Speaker 4: Who's keeping tracker?

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Speaker 5: You know anything? Five Jay's on the dot? What was

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Speaker 5: your last interaction with him?

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Speaker 6: Like?

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Speaker 1: Uh, it was great, Like he asked me to maybe

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Speaker 1: go on a second date and I was looking for that,

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Speaker 1: just even a text from him, and yeah, now it's

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Speaker 1: a fifth day. I've been feeling I haven't been sleeping.

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Speaker 1: I know that's embarrassing, but I just really liked.

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Speaker 3: Him a lot.

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Speaker 2: Have you tried to reach out to him?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I sent, like, I sent three texts and I

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Speaker 1: think that's about it. Like, I'm not gonna push it anymore.

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Speaker 2: What are you saying in the text?

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Speaker 4: Are you just like hey, yeah.

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Speaker 1: I'm just like hey, I had a great time. And

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Speaker 1: then the other one was like hope you're doing well.

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Speaker 1: Third one was like, hey, do you want to go

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Speaker 1: to six Flags together or something?

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Speaker 5: Okay, well, let's try to figure it out. Why don't

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Speaker 5: you tell us about your date.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so we had a picnic at the park and

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Speaker 1: we went to a market, got some sandwiches, and I

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Speaker 1: brought Monopoly.

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Speaker 3: That was fun.

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Speaker 1: We went to go see a movie after so I

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Speaker 1: thought like things were going really well.

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Speaker 3: There was chemistry, in my opinion.

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Speaker 1: We just talked about like where we went to school,

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Speaker 1: like what our hobbies are, and I feel like I

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Speaker 1: really liked how quirky he was, and and that like

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Speaker 1: he had he was interested in, like reptiles, and I

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Speaker 1: really tried to engage with him and telling how how

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Speaker 1: my dad also has like like esoteric interests. And I

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Speaker 1: was really nervous, honestly. So I don't I'm afraid if

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Speaker 1: I like messed up or anything, but I was just

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Speaker 1: really anxious.

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Speaker 3: Maybe I like got something out of.

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Speaker 1: The blue or made him feel bad about liking reptiles.

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Speaker 3: I'm not sure.

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Speaker 2: Do you remember anything awkward that you might have said?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I think he told me before like on

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Speaker 1: his previous relationship. He uh, he cheated on his last

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Speaker 1: girlfriend and so I kind of maybe said, like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: like that wasn't a good thing to do, Like maybe

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Speaker 1: I wasn't supportive to him.

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Speaker 3: You know, a pretty.

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Speaker 5: Bold thing to come out on a first date. They

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Speaker 5: cheated on their last person. I sent you I have

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Speaker 5: a track record of cheating in my relationship.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, you probably don't want to be

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Speaker 2: supportive of that. I think it's okay to say that

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Speaker 2: that was a bad decision. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So I don't know what's happened since then.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we've been texting for two weeks on it from

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Speaker 1: a dating app, so we were like, we've already gone

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Speaker 1: through the first stages of like ice breakers.

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Speaker 3: So that's why we died pretty deep that day.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we'll play a song come Back, and then

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Speaker 2: call him and see if I'll tell us why he's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you and maybe get you another date. Okay, thank

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Speaker 2: you so much. All right, we'll play song come Back,

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Speaker 2: get your first Day follow up next. Right in the

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Speaker 2: middle of today's first date follow up, And if you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us, Allegra is on the phone, and Allegra

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Speaker 2: is getting ghosted by a guy named Gary, and we're

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Speaker 2: about to call him and see ifi'll tell us why

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Speaker 2: he's a ghostinger and see if we can get her

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Allegra, why don't you catch everybody

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Speaker 2: up on your situation?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's been five days since he texted me, and

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Speaker 1: I thought our first date went amazing. Maybe I heard

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Speaker 1: his feelings on something that was personal.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, I'm just curious to see like what he's

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Speaker 3: up to. It's been a while.

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Speaker 2: You ready? Yeah, Okay, here we go. Hi, I speak

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Speaker 2: to Gary please. Yeah, this is Gary, Gary. How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbell. I'm calling from a radio show.

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Speaker 2: It's called the Jubil Show.

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Speaker 4: Hi, Gary, I'm Nina also on the show.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 7: Hi everyone, how are you? I'm good? What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Do you ever listen to the radio show at all?

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Speaker 7: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: I have?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Great? Have you ever heard a first date follow

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Speaker 2: up before?

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Speaker 7: Yes?

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Speaker 2: I have? Perfect. Well, then you know that that's the

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Speaker 2: segment that we do where if you go on a

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Speaker 2: date with someone and then end up ghosting them, they

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Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, that's so.

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Speaker 2: We got an email about you, Gary. Oh did you Yes,

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Speaker 2: we did. Any idea. Who would email us and say

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Speaker 2: that you're ghosting them?

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Speaker 7: I can think of one person.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, does it start with an agra, Yes it is.

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Speaker 2: She emailed us. We talked to her. She told us

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Speaker 2: about your date. She said she really liked you, but

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Speaker 2: she's confused and wants to know why you're ghosting or

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Speaker 2: would you mind telling us?

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Speaker 7: Surely? Well, did she tell you about the date?

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Speaker 2: She did? She said it was good. She said, you

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Speaker 2: guys went to like, to a park and then you

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Speaker 2: like reptiles. Yeah, she said, She said, you guys talked

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Speaker 2: about a bunch of stuff, including the fact that you

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Speaker 2: like reptiles, and she said it was a really good date.

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Speaker 7: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: We went to a I guess you could call it

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Speaker 6: a park, but it was actually a graveyard.

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Speaker 1: What.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she laid out a picnic blanket over just you know,

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Speaker 6: like a random person's grave, and then she wanted us

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Speaker 6: to eat on it.

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Speaker 5: Okay, so you guys met at the graveyard. She took

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Speaker 5: you to the graveyard, took her to the graveyard. How

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Speaker 6: Well, she said she wanted to have a picnic, and

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Speaker 6: so I met her and she took me to it.

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Speaker 6: She said was going to be a great spot for

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Speaker 6: picnic and then she, like I said, she just laid

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Speaker 6: that brought me to a graveyard. I kind of felt

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Speaker 6: we were walking through the graveyard to go to the

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Speaker 6: next you know that there was a park on the other.

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Speaker 7: Side, huh.

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Speaker 6: But no, no, it was like full picnic basket on

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Speaker 6: top of someone, you know, someone who is decomposing.

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Speaker 2: You didn't say anything about that, like, hey, we go

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Speaker 6: I was, I mean, I was shocked, frankly, and I

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Speaker 6: was I was hungry, so I was too hungry.

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Speaker 7: Lady. She was just talking the whole time, so.

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Speaker 6: I maybe got like two words and I was, I

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Speaker 6: was just sort of in shock. It just felt like

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Speaker 6: you know, when you're running out the clock and it

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Speaker 4: Did she address the fact that you guys were at

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Speaker 7: Oh? Yeah, she loved it. She thought it was fantastic.

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Speaker 6: Then it's so cool that this is here and that

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Speaker 5: My momyard, she totally would. My mom loves going to

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Speaker 2: I don't think that's what they were doing. I mean,

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Speaker 4: Maybe she's got a fascination with it too, you know.

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Speaker 6: I thought maybe it was someone that she loved. But

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Speaker 6: then she started talking about how she, you know, likes

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Speaker 2: And do the same thing, like have picnics at the graveyard.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, and sometimes she goes by herself, she said. Sometimes

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Speaker 6: it's just she likes to bring a blanket and sunbathe.

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Speaker 5: My mom always says that the whole idea is that

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Speaker 5: I mean, for me, I would be very creeped out

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Speaker 7: It was.

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Speaker 6: If we weren't at a graveyard, it was just a

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Speaker 7: It was on a grave. I just I thought it

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Speaker 6: Super weird, and if I'm being honest, it.

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Speaker 7: Was probably the worst situation could I've ever been in.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Lego felt differently. She thought it was great.

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Speaker 7: Oh I know, yeah, she she made that very clear.

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Speaker 7: It's like it felt like maybe she was.

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Speaker 6: At one point I was like, is this is is

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Speaker 7: And is there?

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Speaker 2: Okay? Yeah over here back behind the behind this building.

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Speaker 2: Smart Well, Gary Allegra is on the phone listening and

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Speaker 2: wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: Oh yeah, that's right, that's right.

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Speaker 3: I forgot that.

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Speaker 7: She that that's what you do. She's right there on

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Speaker 7: the phone.

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Speaker 1: Huh high Allegra, Gary, you're a buyer.

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Speaker 3: You you loved it? So I I.

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Speaker 6: Was uncomfortable when you kept saying do you do you

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Speaker 6: love it? Isn't this great? Don't you love it? And

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Speaker 6: I said yeah, like that you think that's how somebody

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Speaker 1: Well, you could be a little more honest because I

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Speaker 1: didn't get the cue.

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Speaker 3: Wants a cheater, always a cheater. I don't know you're

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Speaker 3: gonna cheater?

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Speaker 7: How did I what?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? You should feel guilty, like still to this day.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, you told me what are you talking about?

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Speaker 3: You told me that cheer flast relationship?

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Speaker 7: Absolutely not. I don't mean what are you talk this?

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Speaker 3: I never said that plastic cheater mode. Honestly, I don't

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Speaker 3: even know who you are.

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Speaker 1: Gary.

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Speaker 3: I wish I never met you.

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Speaker 2: Well, don't say that too quickly, Gary, Would you like

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Speaker 2: another date with a legro? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 7: No, no, thank you?

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Speaker 3: Yeah you, Gary, you will. First D follow up