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Speaker 1: if I do say so myself, but like something that

428
00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 1: wasn't true about me got put out and it almost

429
00:22:12,840 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 1: felt like it was ruining my life. And it has

430
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:19,840
Speaker 1: in so many ways deeply affected my life and obviously

431
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:22,200
Speaker 1: a lot of friendships and things like that, and so

432
00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:24,879
Speaker 1: I felt it on such a deep level then like

433
00:22:24,960 --> 00:22:28,120
Speaker 1: our world fell apart, and I just like had this

434
00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:31,160
Speaker 1: moment today where I saw all these people posting like

435
00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:35,639
Speaker 1: normal or just like posting a picture of themselves, and

436
00:22:35,680 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 1: just like in some I can't there's one specifically I'm

437
00:22:39,640 --> 00:22:41,280
Speaker 1: thinking of, but I'll keep that. We're not going to

438
00:22:41,359 --> 00:22:47,880
Speaker 1: hate on people in here, but like, um, but it's

439
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,800
Speaker 1: just like what are you doing? What are you doing?

440
00:22:51,840 --> 00:22:54,320
Speaker 1: Today is not the day? Sorry, Today is not the

441
00:22:54,359 --> 00:22:56,520
Speaker 1: day to build your business. Today's a day to go, hey,

442
00:22:56,520 --> 00:22:59,280
Speaker 1: how do I help you? Like, how do I support you?

443
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:02,200
Speaker 1: How do I like love on you? How do I

444
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:04,399
Speaker 1: support my people in my life? Like I spent my

445
00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 1: whole morning reflect on what the funk is going on

446
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,720
Speaker 1: and how can I do better? That to me is

447
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:14,240
Speaker 1: what I felt on the first day was not that

448
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,600
Speaker 1: our world was put back together, but like hopeful in

449
00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:20,160
Speaker 1: the way of, hey, maybe now we're paying attention me included,

450
00:23:20,680 --> 00:23:24,240
Speaker 1: maybe now I can actually speak the truth even to

451
00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 1: myself about who I am and like what I want

452
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 1: to bring to this world versus just like trying to

453
00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:33,720
Speaker 1: succeed in business and make some money. Does that make sense? Absolutely?

454
00:23:34,000 --> 00:23:38,119
Speaker 1: And it's it's really tough because we do it's but

455
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:40,840
Speaker 1: you know, part of the social media game is building

456
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:44,080
Speaker 1: a business. Part of it is, you know, it to

457
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:47,160
Speaker 1: make yourself feel a little bit better about putting something

458
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 1: out and getting validated. But I also think that, like

459
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:54,200
Speaker 1: it's really important to remember that, like, the people that

460
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:56,679
Speaker 1: are receiving what you're putting out are real people that

461
00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:59,360
Speaker 1: have real lives, and there's consequences to what you put

462
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:03,520
Speaker 1: out what people are sending back to you, like you're

463
00:24:03,520 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 1: a real person, like, and I think that the if

464
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,160
Speaker 1: if we could all just like get a little bit

465
00:24:10,200 --> 00:24:15,320
Speaker 1: more real, um, it would actually make social media feel

466
00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:18,800
Speaker 1: like a safer place. Like I personally, I want to

467
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:20,920
Speaker 1: delete it all. I know, I've gotten to that place.

468
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 1: It's I feel like I waste time. I feel like

469
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,880
Speaker 1: it makes me feel like shit, I feel like I'm

470
00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:28,439
Speaker 1: addicted to it. Yeah, um, I feel like it doesn't

471
00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 1: serve me. But I also like I work in culture,

472
00:24:31,680 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 1: Like I can't close myself off to the world where

473
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,600
Speaker 1: I don't know what's happening culture wise, because then I

474
00:24:37,880 --> 00:24:40,200
Speaker 1: can't do my job as well. Yeah you know, I

475
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: mean I've built a business on soda and I'm like,

476
00:24:43,040 --> 00:24:45,600
Speaker 1: oh man, I really backed myself into a corner here.

477
00:24:46,280 --> 00:24:48,960
Speaker 1: I can't quit at the Internet doesn't go down. I

478
00:24:48,960 --> 00:24:52,080
Speaker 1: mean that's but that is I wouldn't be surprised if

479
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,520
Speaker 1: it did. Did with the bombing, if SCEs, you would

480
00:24:55,520 --> 00:24:58,159
Speaker 1: have been screwed right well, I couldn't post. I had

481
00:24:58,200 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 1: to take a break anyway after all that us. But

482
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: I will tell you this, Like, you actually just made

483
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:06,720
Speaker 1: a really good point because you were like, you know,

484
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:10,359
Speaker 1: we all get on social media and we're like the

485
00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:12,760
Speaker 1: worst to me, and oh god again I've done this too,

486
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:15,080
Speaker 1: and I'm like gross, Like when I look back at

487
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,479
Speaker 1: some of my old posts, I'm just like cringe worthy,

488
00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:20,960
Speaker 1: Like I just was doing it for content purposes or whatever.

489
00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:23,640
Speaker 1: But then there's just like casual for speaking about act

490
00:25:23,680 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 1: and casual way that people like subtly post this picture

491
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:30,760
Speaker 1: of themselves to receive validation, and it's like, what's your point,

492
00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 1: Like what are you bringing to me other than you

493
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:35,359
Speaker 1: need me to tell you how good you look, which

494
00:25:35,440 --> 00:25:39,000
Speaker 1: is like okay, we all need validation, but like what

495
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,320
Speaker 1: are we doing, where are we looking for it? And

496
00:25:41,480 --> 00:25:43,800
Speaker 1: is it actually serving us? And like I spent my

497
00:25:43,880 --> 00:25:47,879
Speaker 1: day working with this amazing organization in Nashville, and I

498
00:25:47,920 --> 00:25:51,360
Speaker 1: was reminded, actually, I want to say the Community Foundation

499
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:52,879
Speaker 1: because I've had a lot of people ask me how

500
00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:55,719
Speaker 1: they can help with um, the bombing, and also like

501
00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:58,440
Speaker 1: we still have a ship ton of tornado stuff. I mean,

502
00:25:58,480 --> 00:26:02,200
Speaker 1: it never really got resolved because happened. So if you're

503
00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:07,119
Speaker 1: looking to donate anything, the Community Foundation has an amazing website,

504
00:26:07,200 --> 00:26:08,840
Speaker 1: and that's who I'm going to be supporting with my

505
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,040
Speaker 1: discocaw gualties. And then some other stuff that I'm doing

506
00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:14,760
Speaker 1: with donations because I really really believe in them. They're

507
00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:18,199
Speaker 1: trustworthy with where they're putting the money. Um to just

508
00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:21,000
Speaker 1: go check out their website as the Community Foundation. But anyway,

509
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:23,560
Speaker 1: in working with them and seeing people who are just

510
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: serving others and me going like how else can I help,

511
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:30,159
Speaker 1: Like it kind of reminded me of how good that feels.

512
00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 1: Like it feels so good to get out of yourself

513
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,680
Speaker 1: for just a second and say like, how can I help?

514
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: And you just want to do more And that's so

515
00:26:37,680 --> 00:26:40,239
Speaker 1: much more validating at the end of the day than

516
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: getting a picture with a ship kind of likes yeah, I, Um,

517
00:26:44,760 --> 00:26:47,760
Speaker 1: it's funny because I feel like I don't volunteer enough.

518
00:26:48,119 --> 00:26:50,199
Speaker 1: But then I think about some things that I'll do

519
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 1: that there was no motivation other than me just wanting

520
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 1: to help, Like I I was going to say, even

521
00:26:58,720 --> 00:27:00,760
Speaker 1: the I have an app on my phone called be

522
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 1: the Eyes that blind people call and if they need help,

523
00:27:05,119 --> 00:27:09,280
Speaker 1: like you know, I've answered it where it's like, um,

524
00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:11,840
Speaker 1: someone needs to know what denomination their dollar bills are,

525
00:27:12,359 --> 00:27:14,480
Speaker 1: how much is this? How much is that? And then

526
00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:19,400
Speaker 1: they're like Okay, thanks, that's amazing. It's amazing, and it's

527
00:27:19,840 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: there's just little ways, and it's like sometimes it'll ring

528
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,359
Speaker 1: and like you'll got to answer, it'll be like someone

529
00:27:24,359 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 1: else got it. Um, And there's just little ways that

530
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 1: you can sort of step outside of yourself for a

531
00:27:29,840 --> 00:27:34,159
Speaker 1: moment and help people and it means so much to them,

532
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:38,480
Speaker 1: but it also means a lot to you. It means more.

533
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: Like that's the thing I think that gets lost and

534
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:43,680
Speaker 1: I've forgotten us a million times. But I remember there

535
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: was um many years ago when I canceled my wedding

536
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,800
Speaker 1: and was going through maybe the worst time in my life. Um,

537
00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:53,240
Speaker 1: I was so I remember my mentor at that time

538
00:27:53,320 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 1: saying like because I would just call her and I'd

539
00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:58,480
Speaker 1: be like, oh, you know, like woe is me and

540
00:27:58,480 --> 00:28:00,480
Speaker 1: blah blah blah, and she would go win the last

541
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:02,359
Speaker 1: time he did service work. She wouldn't even listen to

542
00:28:02,440 --> 00:28:05,439
Speaker 1: me sometimes because I just wanted to like bitch and

543
00:28:05,520 --> 00:28:08,719
Speaker 1: I just wanted to like blame and and focus on

544
00:28:08,760 --> 00:28:12,280
Speaker 1: someone else and all of this stuff. And um, every time,

545
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,440
Speaker 1: I would be so annoyed with that answer. But then

546
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,959
Speaker 1: if I would go do it, and like you know,

547
00:28:17,119 --> 00:28:20,160
Speaker 1: I mean, well, if you go help a homeless person,

548
00:28:20,200 --> 00:28:22,000
Speaker 1: you all of a sudden feel really grateful to have

549
00:28:22,040 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: a roof over your head, you know. And so that

550
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:28,639
Speaker 1: was the whole point. And I really think the reason

551
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,720
Speaker 1: yesterday was so disappointing to me and the reason today

552
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:34,840
Speaker 1: on social media has been so disappointing to me, UM

553
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 1: isn't necessarily even because of what happened. It's because I'm

554
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: just like, are we serious, y'all? Like do we not

555
00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 1: learn anything? Because the first couple of days of one,

556
00:28:45,320 --> 00:28:50,160
Speaker 1: I felt like maybe just maybe we're all like because

557
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,240
Speaker 1: I had some clarity for my own life, and so

558
00:28:52,320 --> 00:28:54,800
Speaker 1: maybe I was like, maybe like we can all work

559
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:57,080
Speaker 1: together and we can just go, Hey, you know, I

560
00:28:57,160 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: really fucked that up, or I really don't like who

561
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,880
Speaker 1: I was at that time, or I don't know what

562
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:04,880
Speaker 1: I was doing, but that wasn't me, and this is

563
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:06,400
Speaker 1: who I want to be. So I'm gonna try to

564
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:08,440
Speaker 1: start going in this direction and figuring out I don't

565
00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: want to get there, And I guess everyone gets there

566
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: in their own time or whatever, but I just really

567
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: hope that that's where up going. You know. It's interesting,

568
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:21,240
Speaker 1: as you were talking, it's like, UM, a lot of

569
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:26,480
Speaker 1: the division that's happened in our country is um antithetical

570
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:30,160
Speaker 1: to what you're saying, because and this is this is

571
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,960
Speaker 1: going to be a blanket statement, and I don't mean

572
00:29:32,000 --> 00:29:34,640
Speaker 1: for it to be because I think it's there are

573
00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:38,280
Speaker 1: you have extremes on both sides, but I think the

574
00:29:38,320 --> 00:29:41,480
Speaker 1: extremes on the right. You hear a lot of like

575
00:29:42,080 --> 00:29:45,320
Speaker 1: they're sucking off the teet of America, like there's lazy people,

576
00:29:45,440 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 1: like it's all and and then what they hate about

577
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:57,360
Speaker 1: the left is that it's about um creating systems that

578
00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: help the underprivileged. There's a lot of that that's going on.

579
00:30:01,400 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 1: So it's almost that like we're living in a world

580
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:08,000
Speaker 1: right now that does not like all we're hearing is

581
00:30:08,120 --> 00:30:10,880
Speaker 1: like I don't want to help people well or I

582
00:30:10,880 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 1: want to yeah, yeah, you know, it's like there's a

583
00:30:14,680 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 1: lot of privilege that is being put on display and

584
00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 1: there it's missing the point, you know, and it's it's

585
00:30:24,960 --> 00:30:28,160
Speaker 1: really aggravating and disheartening to live in a world like that.

586
00:30:28,320 --> 00:30:33,320
Speaker 1: It's like, I recognize my privilege, you know, it's um

587
00:30:33,400 --> 00:30:36,600
Speaker 1: sometimes I struggle with like how lucky I am, and

588
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:39,360
Speaker 1: but I also recognize that I could be doing more

589
00:30:39,400 --> 00:30:42,160
Speaker 1: and I should be doing more. We always will be

590
00:30:42,200 --> 00:30:44,200
Speaker 1: doing that though, you know what I mean, Like that's

591
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,880
Speaker 1: do you ever feel like when I was saying, like

592
00:30:47,920 --> 00:30:52,000
Speaker 1: I look back at my old self and I'm just like, um,

593
00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 1: the thing that I think is like the most embarrassing,

594
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 1: which I shouldn't really like shame myself completely for because

595
00:30:57,000 --> 00:30:59,880
Speaker 1: this is exactly why social media exploded. But it's like

596
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: what built most of my business is you know, I

597
00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 1: work with celebrities, and it's like looks glamorous because you're

598
00:31:07,240 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: doing all these fun things and going to these big

599
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:11,760
Speaker 1: events and you're flying around on a private plane and

600
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:14,320
Speaker 1: blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. And so like

601
00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 1: that's the stuff I'm posting about, right, and so people

602
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:21,680
Speaker 1: are interested and it's fascinating, but like then happens and

603
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,320
Speaker 1: like all of that goes away, and so then it's

604
00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 1: like you're left. And for me, there was so much

605
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 1: more that even just fell apart. It all just started

606
00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: to happen, which at first I was so upset about

607
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 1: and I was so just like, why am I being

608
00:31:34,840 --> 00:31:36,760
Speaker 1: punished exactly like what I was saying about when I

609
00:31:36,800 --> 00:31:38,880
Speaker 1: called my mentor. And then you get to a place

610
00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 1: where you're like, wait a second, like maybe this just

611
00:31:41,040 --> 00:31:43,920
Speaker 1: means I'm supposed to bring something different and bring something bigger,

612
00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 1: and bring something that actually is like useful. Like maybe

613
00:31:48,680 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 1: hair tutorials used to be useful to people, but like

614
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: when you're not fucking going anywhere, nobody cares what their

615
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:56,440
Speaker 1: hair looks like. Also, like, what kind of tutorial am

616
00:31:56,480 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: I gonna do because I never washed my hair anymore?

617
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,560
Speaker 1: Throw a hat on it at the video and seen

618
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,480
Speaker 1: here's how you do your hair. You put this hat

619
00:32:06,520 --> 00:32:12,880
Speaker 1: on by yeah. But so anyway, when you re evaluate,

620
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,600
Speaker 1: you're like, oh, man, okay. At first it can hurt,

621
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:17,960
Speaker 1: but like maybe there's some really cool ship we could

622
00:32:17,960 --> 00:32:21,840
Speaker 1: start doing and maybe our country could actually be even better.

623
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:24,680
Speaker 1: But it does take us getting out of ourselves, and

624
00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:26,840
Speaker 1: so that's like that's kind of the biggest thing that

625
00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:29,880
Speaker 1: I mean again, when you walked in, I was just like, oh,

626
00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: these tone off people, Like what the fuck? Well, you know,

627
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:35,920
Speaker 1: it's funny. I feel like we've naturally arrived at one

628
00:32:35,920 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 1: of the things that we wanted to talk about by yeah,

629
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,440
Speaker 1: Well I didn't want to. I like, it felt really

630
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:44,720
Speaker 1: like a really natural arrival, and I didn't want to

631
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:50,080
Speaker 1: miss it. UM. You know, I think volunteering and doing

632
00:32:50,320 --> 00:32:53,840
Speaker 1: kind thing for strangers can be a really overwhelming thing

633
00:32:53,880 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 1: to think about because you feel like you have to

634
00:32:57,200 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 1: like go in and make this big, huge difference, UM,

635
00:33:01,280 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 1: which is a great thing to think about, you know,

636
00:33:04,240 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: like we should want to impact as many people as possible.

637
00:33:07,920 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: But I think if you can do something for one person,

638
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,680
Speaker 1: it can change their life, it can change your life,

639
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: and it can change the world if everyone thought in

640
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:20,280
Speaker 1: the terms of what can I do to help one life?

641
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:24,720
Speaker 1: And I have a pretty like amazing experience happened to

642
00:33:24,760 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 1: me UM a few days ago on the third I

643
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,920
Speaker 1: thought it was a second but it was third January third,

644
00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: so three days in three day. I was riding back

645
00:33:37,720 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 1: from UM Florida. UM. I was northbound. I was in

646
00:33:42,320 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 1: the passenger seat. We were with our friend Mary. I

647
00:33:44,360 --> 00:33:47,720
Speaker 1: was with my friend descriptive, well, I need to paint

648
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:51,120
Speaker 1: the picture. So we were driving north UM. We were

649
00:33:51,200 --> 00:33:56,080
Speaker 1: just south of Birmingham and Alabama and on the southbound

650
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:59,160
Speaker 1: lane of the freeway. I saw the corner of my

651
00:33:59,200 --> 00:34:02,360
Speaker 1: eyes a woman carrying a baby and like a four

652
00:34:02,440 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 1: or five year old kid running north and then Mary

653
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:10,879
Speaker 1: Hilliard says, what was that? What? What was that? Why

654
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:12,719
Speaker 1: was that guy chasing that woman? And I was like,

655
00:34:12,719 --> 00:34:15,279
Speaker 1: I didn't see a man chasing that woman. She was like, yeah,

656
00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:17,120
Speaker 1: there was like a fat man chasing that woman and

657
00:34:17,160 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: their kids. Like, I feel like I should stop. And

658
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: we had literally just passed an exit and you know,

659
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: we're driving, and she was like, I feel really unsettled

660
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:28,400
Speaker 1: by that. I feel like we should turn around. And

661
00:34:28,440 --> 00:34:30,200
Speaker 1: I was like, I'm not in a rush. Let's go

662
00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:32,720
Speaker 1: and see what's going on. So we get off the freeway.

663
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 1: We turned around and we went south and as we're approaching,

664
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: we can see the woman and the kids are still

665
00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 1: walking north on the freeway and she's waving at cars,

666
00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: and we pull over and she like runs over to

667
00:34:43,280 --> 00:34:46,880
Speaker 1: my and I was a little cautious when as she approached.

668
00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 1: I was like, I mean that's a kind of my

669
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: mom would always be like, you know, bear stop for strangers,

670
00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:59,040
Speaker 1: like as a woman especially, So I rolled down my window. Yeah,

671
00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,759
Speaker 1: I rolled down my wind know, and we were like,

672
00:35:02,120 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 1: what's going on? And she proceeded to tell us that

673
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:07,200
Speaker 1: she had jumped out of the car because her husband

674
00:35:07,239 --> 00:35:10,719
Speaker 1: was hitting her and she had like pulled the keys

675
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:13,800
Speaker 1: out and made him pull over. She's carrying a baby

676
00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:16,000
Speaker 1: that was, you know, between one and two years old,

677
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:17,480
Speaker 1: and she had a five year old son with her,

678
00:35:17,800 --> 00:35:19,960
Speaker 1: and they were like, well. We asked like, what do

679
00:35:20,000 --> 00:35:22,640
Speaker 1: you need us to do? Where are you going? Is

680
00:35:22,640 --> 00:35:24,880
Speaker 1: there anyone that we can call? And the sun said

681
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:27,319
Speaker 1: call the police, And we said get in the car.

682
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:30,480
Speaker 1: Like we didn't there was not there. We didn't second

683
00:35:30,480 --> 00:35:32,399
Speaker 1: guess it for a second. We said get in the car.

684
00:35:32,520 --> 00:35:35,480
Speaker 1: And we just pulled our bags into my lap so

685
00:35:35,520 --> 00:35:37,920
Speaker 1: that the back seat was open for them. And we

686
00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:40,279
Speaker 1: got him in the car and she was where was

687
00:35:40,320 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: the guy? He had gone back to the car, his

688
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,640
Speaker 1: car given up on them. Even though you guys pulled over,

689
00:35:46,719 --> 00:35:49,040
Speaker 1: he was fitting. He was already gone. He left, he

690
00:35:49,080 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 1: was already gone. Yeah. I just think he couldn't catch

691
00:35:52,320 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: up with her. Um. So um. We sat there for

692
00:35:56,680 --> 00:36:00,640
Speaker 1: a minute. We let her lose it. Um. She sort

693
00:36:00,680 --> 00:36:05,840
Speaker 1: of was very vulnerable with us, um and we said, okay,

694
00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:09,320
Speaker 1: well we're gonna get moving. Let's go get you some water,

695
00:36:10,360 --> 00:36:13,120
Speaker 1: Let's try and call somebody and and we'll get this

696
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:16,640
Speaker 1: figured out. And we ended up we try to call

697
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:19,439
Speaker 1: her mom, who lives with her. Um, she didn't answer

698
00:36:19,480 --> 00:36:23,040
Speaker 1: the phone, and um she had there were four more

699
00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:26,640
Speaker 1: kids in the house that um she shares with her husband,

700
00:36:26,719 --> 00:36:29,279
Speaker 1: and she ultimately decided that it was best for her

701
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:32,800
Speaker 1: to go home, even though she was scared. So we

702
00:36:32,840 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 1: said where do you live? And it took us way

703
00:36:35,640 --> 00:36:37,040
Speaker 1: out of the way. It added like an hour and

704
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:39,600
Speaker 1: forty minutes to our trip, which you know, we were

705
00:36:39,600 --> 00:36:42,640
Speaker 1: fine to do. And um, we got to know her

706
00:36:42,640 --> 00:36:44,879
Speaker 1: on the ride, like she told us about like sort

707
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:47,920
Speaker 1: of her circumstances and how she ended up in this

708
00:36:48,000 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: situation and that he's actually a really good guy. But

709
00:36:51,600 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 1: things have been escalating, they've been getting worse, and you know,

710
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,399
Speaker 1: we were trying to be as sensitive as possible because

711
00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,160
Speaker 1: there's a kid in the car. But then she's saying

712
00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,719
Speaker 1: things like, you know it, I hate that my kids

713
00:37:02,719 --> 00:37:04,919
Speaker 1: are seeing me dragged across the floor by my hair,

714
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:10,480
Speaker 1: and so it's in we're now down on like small

715
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:15,200
Speaker 1: roads in Alabama, like we were getting in Alabama, and um,

716
00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:18,080
Speaker 1: we get to her street and we can as we

717
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:20,439
Speaker 1: like get near her house, we can see that he's home.

718
00:37:21,640 --> 00:37:24,000
Speaker 1: So we was like, what do you do? You still

719
00:37:24,000 --> 00:37:25,840
Speaker 1: want to go in? And so we back. There was

720
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: a church at the end of the street, so we

721
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:29,840
Speaker 1: back down to the church and we waited, and we

722
00:37:30,200 --> 00:37:32,080
Speaker 1: asked her if any of the other kids in the

723
00:37:32,120 --> 00:37:34,600
Speaker 1: house had a phone, and she said, yeah, my oldest does,

724
00:37:35,040 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 1: so we try to call him. He didn't answer, but

725
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:40,240
Speaker 1: he texted back and said who is this said, because

726
00:37:40,239 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 1: her her phone wasn't working. So we were using our

727
00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:46,399
Speaker 1: phones and we said, it's said our names, and we're

728
00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,359
Speaker 1: with your mother, and she would like to speak with you.

729
00:37:48,840 --> 00:37:52,399
Speaker 1: And so he called back and um, he said that

730
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 1: the dad was like seemed calm, and so she decided

731
00:37:55,880 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: she was going to go back, but we we made

732
00:37:57,520 --> 00:38:02,200
Speaker 1: sure that she had all of our information and um,

733
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 1: and also texted the son, if your father touches your mother,

734
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:09,680
Speaker 1: let us know, and he said okay, and UM. The

735
00:38:09,719 --> 00:38:13,560
Speaker 1: woman was. She sent texts afterwards that were like, you're

736
00:38:13,640 --> 00:38:16,960
Speaker 1: you're like our guardian angels, like that was amazing, I'm

737
00:38:17,000 --> 00:38:21,600
Speaker 1: so appreciative, like, um, it's heartbreaking stuff, especially when you

738
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 1: see these like sweet, sweet kids and UM, so now

739
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: it's you know, I don't know, I haven't gotten an

740
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:33,360
Speaker 1: update because she's only texting with Mary. UM. But she

741
00:38:33,400 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: managed to get herself at the house, um, and she's

742
00:38:36,000 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 1: in a hotel for a week, and we're going to

743
00:38:38,680 --> 00:38:40,080
Speaker 1: continue to try and see what we can do to

744
00:38:40,080 --> 00:38:45,720
Speaker 1: help this woman. And you know, it's hundreds of cars

745
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: had driven by, hundreds and hundreds of cars, but there

746
00:38:48,680 --> 00:38:51,080
Speaker 1: was just something like that told us we had to stop,

747
00:38:51,360 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: you know, like we had to Well, I was gonna say,

748
00:38:53,920 --> 00:38:55,719
Speaker 1: first of all, what a gift do you guys were

749
00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:59,279
Speaker 1: to that family? But also what a gift she was

750
00:38:59,360 --> 00:39:02,040
Speaker 1: to you mean, that's like what a way just like

751
00:39:02,080 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: what we're talking about to really remember how lucky we are,

752
00:39:06,440 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: first of all, but also like helping other people helps you.

753
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:13,919
Speaker 1: It just does does, like you know, we it's there's

754
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:17,920
Speaker 1: also like creates understanding, like obviously the rest of the

755
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 1: way back home we talked about. Of course you guys

756
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,800
Speaker 1: called me. Can I say this part of the story.

757
00:39:23,120 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 1: You guys called me, and you were both pretty shaken up,

758
00:39:25,520 --> 00:39:31,440
Speaker 1: Like it was, you know, very just extremely intense situation,

759
00:39:31,520 --> 00:39:34,680
Speaker 1: I think. And what's interesting is like we had just

760
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,319
Speaker 1: come off Christmas when I was with my boyfriends two children,

761
00:39:37,360 --> 00:39:38,719
Speaker 1: And I may get in trouble for telling the story,

762
00:39:38,719 --> 00:39:42,120
Speaker 1: but I don't care, because this was my reality. Is

763
00:39:42,160 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: that you know, we're very blessed, and especially those two

764
00:39:46,160 --> 00:39:48,600
Speaker 1: children are very blessed to have two parents who love them,

765
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: they have me who loves them very much, and they're

766
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:54,000
Speaker 1: very fortunate. And they got a ship ton of gifts,

767
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 1: probably more than I was comfortable with, if I'm being honest.

768
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,560
Speaker 1: And what I've noticed over the next couple of weeks

769
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:04,040
Speaker 1: was that, you know, we we had just we've just

770
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:06,439
Speaker 1: I don't know, it was just about gifts and like

771
00:40:07,200 --> 00:40:11,040
Speaker 1: and just like lots of food and and just fun

772
00:40:11,239 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 1: and you know, just stuff that like is great, but

773
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 1: in excess for kids, maybe make some loose perspective if

774
00:40:16,560 --> 00:40:19,839
Speaker 1: they don't have anything else they're seeing. And I kind

775
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:21,560
Speaker 1: of noticed them in a way that I have never

776
00:40:21,600 --> 00:40:24,560
Speaker 1: seen them before, and and being like a little bit

777
00:40:24,600 --> 00:40:27,799
Speaker 1: brawdy or ungrateful. Yeah, and those two girls are the

778
00:40:27,800 --> 00:40:30,799
Speaker 1: sweetest girls, and so like it was frustrating for me.

779
00:40:31,000 --> 00:40:34,839
Speaker 1: And when you guys called, it was the perfect opportunity

780
00:40:34,880 --> 00:40:37,120
Speaker 1: for me to tell that story. And I left out

781
00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:39,799
Speaker 1: the part about you know, the abuse of dad, but

782
00:40:39,920 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 1: just like them not having a place to go and say,

783
00:40:42,600 --> 00:40:44,840
Speaker 1: you guys helped, and like, it was amazing to watch

784
00:40:45,080 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 1: their faces be like, oh wow, and they wanted to

785
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 1: help immediately. Like it was like it kind of put

786
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:52,400
Speaker 1: it in perspective for all of us two of how

787
00:40:52,480 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: lucky we are and they're so young and so to

788
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:59,839
Speaker 1: be able to even like have that reminder was great

789
00:40:59,880 --> 00:41:03,040
Speaker 1: for all of us. And so like it goes further

790
00:41:03,120 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 1: than just the two of y'all pulling onto the sad,

791
00:41:05,120 --> 00:41:07,040
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Like it's just it's like

792
00:41:07,080 --> 00:41:09,320
Speaker 1: a small thing that you did for one person that

793
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:13,439
Speaker 1: now has helped my family who has now helped We're

794
00:41:13,440 --> 00:41:16,120
Speaker 1: telling it to these people that are listening, and it's

795
00:41:16,280 --> 00:41:18,759
Speaker 1: you know, it also just gives so much perspective because

796
00:41:18,800 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 1: it's really easy to like ride by someone and judge

797
00:41:22,120 --> 00:41:27,000
Speaker 1: their situation from afar and literally have no true knowledge

798
00:41:27,040 --> 00:41:31,520
Speaker 1: to what's going on. And you know, it's she this

799
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:35,319
Speaker 1: is a downtrodden family, Like there are six kids, her

800
00:41:35,360 --> 00:41:37,880
Speaker 1: mother lived in the house. She lives there. It's a

801
00:41:37,960 --> 00:41:44,799
Speaker 1: small house. The yard was not very presentable, and you know,

802
00:41:46,440 --> 00:41:48,720
Speaker 1: when we were thinking about it, I was she doesn't work.

803
00:41:48,960 --> 00:41:54,520
Speaker 1: She's got six kids, six a blended family. So he

804
00:41:54,560 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: had to she had to. They have two together, and

805
00:41:58,120 --> 00:42:00,439
Speaker 1: you know, she told us what her husband makes where

806
00:42:00,440 --> 00:42:04,960
Speaker 1: he works and they're not living on a lot, so

807
00:42:05,280 --> 00:42:09,000
Speaker 1: and she doesn't drive, so she needs to be with

808
00:42:09,040 --> 00:42:13,359
Speaker 1: someone who can support them, so she can't leave. And

809
00:42:13,440 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: it's like, so I can see if you want to

810
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 1: sit on a high horse and judge somebody, it's really

811
00:42:18,040 --> 00:42:20,120
Speaker 1: easy to be like, why does she keep herself in

812
00:42:20,200 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 1: that situation? And it's because the situation keeps her in it.

813
00:42:24,640 --> 00:42:27,040
Speaker 1: You know. It's like she she was, she was fairly young.

814
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 1: I don't know how old she is, but she she

815
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:31,480
Speaker 1: was fairly young, so I imagine she probably had a

816
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:34,879
Speaker 1: child young and it's just like everything compounded and she's

817
00:42:34,880 --> 00:42:37,520
Speaker 1: where she is today. But you know, I think the

818
00:42:37,560 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: most important part of takeaway for her was like and

819
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 1: I said this to her. I was like, what you

820
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 1: did today was really bravely. And I wanted to say

821
00:42:46,640 --> 00:42:49,120
Speaker 1: that because I wanted to drive home that it is

822
00:42:49,239 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 1: never fucking too late to make a step towards change

823
00:42:53,080 --> 00:42:56,520
Speaker 1: for yourself and and I and that's what I said.

824
00:42:56,520 --> 00:42:57,920
Speaker 1: So after she was out of the car, I was like,

825
00:42:58,040 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 1: I hope that, you know, if even if we never

826
00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:02,919
Speaker 1: hear from her again, I hope that what we did

827
00:43:02,960 --> 00:43:07,880
Speaker 1: to her or did for her one day makes her

828
00:43:07,920 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 1: wake up and says, I deserve better than this. Yeah,

829
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:13,239
Speaker 1: you know, and it sounds like it did, or even

830
00:43:13,239 --> 00:43:14,919
Speaker 1: the example for the kids to be like, oh, yeah,

831
00:43:14,920 --> 00:43:17,440
Speaker 1: that was really brave of mom to do whatever. I

832
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:19,960
Speaker 1: love what you said though about like not judging people's

833
00:43:19,960 --> 00:43:22,680
Speaker 1: circumstances because you know, like her life might look a

834
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:26,200
Speaker 1: certain way, and um, if you're someone of privilege, you

835
00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 1: might go, we'll look at her. She can't pare our bills,

836
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,480
Speaker 1: or she can't drivers, can't do whatever. But like the

837
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:33,600
Speaker 1: reality is as we all get in the situations we

838
00:43:33,640 --> 00:43:37,520
Speaker 1: get in because of our life path, right, Like it's

839
00:43:37,520 --> 00:43:39,880
Speaker 1: not to say that I haven't chosen or made a

840
00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 1: lot of bad decisions or whatever. Mine maybe just haven't

841
00:43:43,320 --> 00:43:47,200
Speaker 1: affected me on a like, uh, what's the way that

842
00:43:47,200 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 1: you should say this, Like in a way that maybe

843
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:51,640
Speaker 1: on the outward exterior looks the same, but that doesn't

844
00:43:51,640 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 1: mean like I have my ship together or whatever, and

845
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:57,759
Speaker 1: so like it's all relative. It's all relative, right, That's

846
00:43:57,800 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 1: exactly right, And so it's like, who am I to

847
00:44:00,040 --> 00:44:04,120
Speaker 1: sit and judge anyone's circumstance because until my life is perfect,

848
00:44:04,520 --> 00:44:08,280
Speaker 1: and until it's perfect, consistently I really should just shut

849
00:44:08,280 --> 00:44:12,080
Speaker 1: the funk up. Well, that's what I'm saying is it

850
00:44:12,160 --> 00:44:15,359
Speaker 1: will never be because like once a perfect life. I

851
00:44:15,400 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 1: love I love the dirt under the fingernails. It's like

852
00:44:18,200 --> 00:44:20,880
Speaker 1: it's what gives life color. But there's a lot of

853
00:44:20,960 --> 00:44:23,800
Speaker 1: days around I'm like, God, can't just work out because

854
00:44:23,800 --> 00:44:26,439
Speaker 1: it would be easy days are working out. It's like

855
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:30,759
Speaker 1: I noticed had I had a really good, like productive

856
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 1: day and it was like bam bam bam, and it

857
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:36,000
Speaker 1: was everything was and I like get excited, like, yeah,

858
00:44:36,040 --> 00:44:37,920
Speaker 1: you're right. You know you feel it in a different

859
00:44:37,920 --> 00:44:41,840
Speaker 1: way when you felt the pain before or whatever. Yeah,

860
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:44,439
Speaker 1: well I love that story. Um, there's one other part

861
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 1: of that story that I do want to mention. And

862
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 1: this was like a tidi a little bit from Mary,

863
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:52,560
Speaker 1: and I was like, I'm not going to tell him.

864
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:54,040
Speaker 1: I know that I'm only going to talk about it,

865
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 1: don't act so anyway, you guys are driving down the

866
00:44:58,239 --> 00:45:00,279
Speaker 1: road and at first it was really tinse She's said,

867
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:02,359
Speaker 1: and like it was kind of like, I mean, it's

868
00:45:02,400 --> 00:45:04,399
Speaker 1: sort of awkward, right, like you pick up people off

869
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:06,239
Speaker 1: the street. You're like, y'all don't know each other. You're

870
00:45:06,239 --> 00:45:07,839
Speaker 1: about to drive for like an hour, and she asked

871
00:45:07,840 --> 00:45:11,279
Speaker 1: you to turn some music? What did I turn on

872
00:45:11,880 --> 00:45:16,600
Speaker 1: show tunes? Did I do show too? That's what she said.

873
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:19,439
Speaker 1: I don't even remember when she said. She looked, didn't

874
00:45:19,440 --> 00:45:20,920
Speaker 1: you and she goes, well, thank god, I'm with the

875
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: manliest man. Ever. I do remember saying that, but I

876
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:27,360
Speaker 1: don't remember being shown you. Well, this opens up to

877
00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 1: new conversation, did you win a manliest man contest? Yes?

878
00:45:32,120 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: So I had a friend whose father lived in on

879
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 1: Grandmahamma Island, And this is when Mary and I lived

880
00:45:39,239 --> 00:45:42,720
Speaker 1: in New York and we were going to Grand Bahamma

881
00:45:42,719 --> 00:45:45,520
Speaker 1: Island to stay at his house. My friend was already there,

882
00:45:45,680 --> 00:45:47,360
Speaker 1: so it was just the two of us. Had flown

883
00:45:47,400 --> 00:45:49,279
Speaker 1: from New York to Fort Lauderdale. We had to take

884
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:53,759
Speaker 1: this like day cruise from Fort Lauderdale over to Grand

885
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:56,479
Speaker 1: Mahamma Island, and it was like most of the people

886
00:45:56,560 --> 00:45:59,319
Speaker 1: on the boat were like Bahamians who had come to

887
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:05,200
Speaker 1: the mainland to like go to Walmart or whatever, and

888
00:46:05,320 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 1: a handful of tourists, so they have like tourists cane

889
00:46:10,000 --> 00:46:13,520
Speaker 1: and it was like it was cold, so being outside sucks.

890
00:46:13,560 --> 00:46:15,280
Speaker 1: So we went in and I can't remember. The drinks

891
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 1: were free to but one of them was the Manliest

892
00:46:18,480 --> 00:46:20,919
Speaker 1: Ban Contest, and I think that maybe did four push ups.

893
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:26,320
Speaker 1: You won chugging push ups. I mean, it's been a

894
00:46:26,400 --> 00:46:28,520
Speaker 1: running joke literally for twenty years, and I'm the I

895
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:33,279
Speaker 1: have the picture. Well when she said when she she's

896
00:46:33,760 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: so much dirt on you right now? She okay. So

897
00:46:37,400 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: what I remember about her bring up the Manliespan contest

898
00:46:40,680 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 1: was as we were getting deeper into like Alabama, she

899
00:46:46,360 --> 00:46:48,839
Speaker 1: looked at me and she was like, I'm glad I'm

900
00:46:48,840 --> 00:46:50,839
Speaker 1: with the Man Lives Man because we didn't know what

901
00:46:50,880 --> 00:46:53,600
Speaker 1: we were driving up to. Yeah, that's what I was

902
00:46:53,640 --> 00:46:56,360
Speaker 1: saying about. I put on like Hits music, but I

903
00:46:56,400 --> 00:47:00,960
Speaker 1: don't know, I'll take show tints me to sing rent exactly.

904
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:04,160
Speaker 1: Did you just sing the French national anthem that you

905
00:47:04,160 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 1: should have the musical theater major? She of course you were.

906
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: That doesn't surprise me one bit. It's like she says

907
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:13,000
Speaker 1: to you, hey, can you turn on some music? And

908
00:47:13,239 --> 00:47:14,960
Speaker 1: you know, you go, no, you know what I'm gonna

909
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 1: do on a serenade you guys, I'm just gonna sing

910
00:47:18,120 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 1: what would you like me to sing? Kid? He's definitely

911
00:47:20,920 --> 00:47:23,319
Speaker 1: not gonna say it. Well, I mean I was really

912
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:26,120
Speaker 1: tempted to put on something like baby Shark because he's

913
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,839
Speaker 1: hold was this kid, So that's probably a little you're

914
00:47:29,880 --> 00:47:32,600
Speaker 1: really downplaying kids these days. They know way more than he.

915
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:39,880
Speaker 1: Well that might be extreme, but anyway, I mean, I

916
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:41,680
Speaker 1: think we could go on a lot about a lot

917
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: of things that have happened. But I actually love this

918
00:47:43,560 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 1: as a just a reminder of um, like I don't

919
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:47,719
Speaker 1: want to sit here on the hires and be like,

920
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 1: don't help people. It was I experienced a lot of

921
00:47:52,719 --> 00:47:55,040
Speaker 1: emotions and it was like it was like there were

922
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,560
Speaker 1: moments that we laughed with her, like it was a

923
00:47:57,640 --> 00:48:01,800
Speaker 1: really just like amazing human interaction. And it's yeah, I

924
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:04,440
Speaker 1: don't want any credit, Like I'm not telling this. That's

925
00:48:04,480 --> 00:48:06,600
Speaker 1: kind of the point of helping someone, right. It's like,

926
00:48:07,040 --> 00:48:08,719
Speaker 1: to me, this is another this is going out to

927
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:10,959
Speaker 1: social media. Can you tell them over social media right now?

928
00:48:11,200 --> 00:48:13,280
Speaker 1: But it's like, okay, if you go to service work,

929
00:48:14,360 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: you don't have to post about it, by the way,

930
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:18,080
Speaker 1: cool if you do, if you want to share how

931
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:22,000
Speaker 1: other people can help. But like maybe like I don't know,

932
00:48:22,040 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 1: there's a line to me and I think my point

933
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:27,759
Speaker 1: is these days is like what we could maybe all

934
00:48:27,840 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 1: do better, and what I'm hoping starts to be is

935
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 1: just like take a step out of your own self

936
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:38,200
Speaker 1: for one second, like one second even look at someone

937
00:48:38,239 --> 00:48:41,200
Speaker 1: else or look at go huh, Like where's the empathy?

938
00:48:41,480 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 1: You know, Like we've got to find it? And that

939
00:48:44,120 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 1: to me, I'm like, I can't watch my country keep

940
00:48:46,600 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: doing this. Like I used to be so proud to

941
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:51,200
Speaker 1: be an American and lately I've been embarrassed, if I'm

942
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:53,160
Speaker 1: being really honest, and like I don't want to live

943
00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:54,880
Speaker 1: in a country that I feel embarrassed to live in.

944
00:48:55,320 --> 00:48:58,080
Speaker 1: So like, how do we act a little more casual,

945
00:48:58,480 --> 00:49:00,960
Speaker 1: get out of ourselves for a second, go huh, and

946
00:49:01,040 --> 00:49:03,480
Speaker 1: just start asking questions? I think that's like the point

947
00:49:03,520 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 1: I just start maybe like even when you're scared, stepping

948
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:10,000
Speaker 1: outside of your box and like kind of having that

949
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:13,000
Speaker 1: moment where you could look a little deeper, look a

950
00:49:13,040 --> 00:49:18,080
Speaker 1: little bigger, Like there's just so much more. So anyway,

951
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 1: we're gonna be um bringing you guys a lot of

952
00:49:20,800 --> 00:49:23,040
Speaker 1: different topics this year, but we really do love the

953
00:49:23,040 --> 00:49:25,360
Speaker 1: feedback from y'all, and we really do love the topics

954
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 1: that come from you guys, So keep the emails coming

955
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:31,040
Speaker 1: to at casual at Velvet edge dot com. I hope

956
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: that things settle a little bit. I'm not so sure

957
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,520
Speaker 1: they will. I think we've got a couple of weeks

958
00:49:36,560 --> 00:49:39,319
Speaker 1: ahead of us that like how do I don't know.

959
00:49:39,480 --> 00:49:43,800
Speaker 1: I mean, maybe hopefully yesterday was the tip of the iceberg. Maybe.

960
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:46,680
Speaker 1: And also like I just like I think I had

961
00:49:46,719 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 1: this moment because I was like, oh gosh, this is

962
00:49:48,440 --> 00:49:51,160
Speaker 1: gonna like set all these other things off again and

963
00:49:51,200 --> 00:49:54,399
Speaker 1: like or not again, but like it's going to set

964
00:49:54,440 --> 00:49:57,760
Speaker 1: all these other triggers off to where there's more violence.

965
00:49:57,840 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: And I'm just sad with the violence. So let's find

966
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 1: productive ways to help and to do things like how

967
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:06,839
Speaker 1: do we do that? And I know it seems like

968
00:50:07,040 --> 00:50:09,919
Speaker 1: people won't listen unless it's like this huge act, but like,

969
00:50:10,520 --> 00:50:12,879
Speaker 1: I don't know, does that like how do we do that? Well?

970
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 1: I mean, I think the whole point of a democracy

971
00:50:15,160 --> 00:50:20,320
Speaker 1: is about togetherness. You know. It's it's like we can't

972
00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:24,880
Speaker 1: we can't look at our neighbors like their enemies. We

973
00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:27,960
Speaker 1: just can't. And I think that the more that we

974
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:30,800
Speaker 1: can look at people with empathy and try to understand

975
00:50:30,880 --> 00:50:37,600
Speaker 1: their situation, um, and elevate everyone together. Yeah, the better

976
00:50:37,600 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 1: we're going to be, you know. Like I literally was

977
00:50:40,160 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 1: about to make this huge video. I think I told

978
00:50:42,080 --> 00:50:43,160
Speaker 1: you this when you came in. I was like going

979
00:50:43,239 --> 00:50:45,600
Speaker 1: to rant about influencers and I'm like, if you're going

980
00:50:45,600 --> 00:50:49,680
Speaker 1: to influence influence on whatever? I was so mad, like

981
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:52,239
Speaker 1: because I get called an influencer sometimes and I'm like,

982
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:54,480
Speaker 1: I'm not a fucking influencer because I don't want to

983
00:50:54,520 --> 00:50:57,000
Speaker 1: be Like, I don't know, I just it doesn't feel

984
00:50:57,160 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 1: right to me right now to be influencing about like

985
00:50:59,120 --> 00:51:01,080
Speaker 1: what you should wear. And they're like sometimes I do

986
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:04,240
Speaker 1: post about that, but like right now at the moment,

987
00:51:04,280 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 1: if you have a following, if you're an influencer, like

988
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:09,239
Speaker 1: should we go influence something that matters? You know? That

989
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:12,399
Speaker 1: was kind of like my rant, um. But I don't

990
00:51:12,400 --> 00:51:14,600
Speaker 1: want to hate on other people either, and so like,

991
00:51:14,880 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 1: I don't think you solve hate with hate, Like I

992
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 1: think you have to lead by example. I think that's right,

993
00:51:19,600 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 1: because I think the problem with the influence or culture

994
00:51:23,640 --> 00:51:25,520
Speaker 1: is well, first of all, a lot of it's fucking fake.

995
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:30,400
Speaker 1: They're say that something is great. There's nothing more effective

996
00:51:30,840 --> 00:51:34,520
Speaker 1: than someone genuinely loving a product and wanting to talk

997
00:51:34,520 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 1: about there's And I love when I see a celebrity

998
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 1: or an influencer be like, oh my god, I love this.

999
00:51:40,280 --> 00:51:41,560
Speaker 1: And by the way, I'm not being paid to talk

1000
00:51:41,560 --> 00:51:46,080
Speaker 1: about it. But I think that like just living by

1001
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:51,880
Speaker 1: example and doing good things is the best kind of

1002
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:54,640
Speaker 1: influence that you can have in the world. Yeah, you know,

1003
00:51:54,719 --> 00:51:56,640
Speaker 1: and if you're going to try to sell some products,

1004
00:51:56,680 --> 00:51:58,640
Speaker 1: like do you do you like I'm not going to

1005
00:51:58,719 --> 00:52:01,480
Speaker 1: hate on anybody, and like I said, like I've built

1006
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:03,959
Speaker 1: a business doing a lot of things too, but let's

1007
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:06,160
Speaker 1: just add in let's sprinkle in some love and let's

1008
00:52:06,160 --> 00:52:09,480
Speaker 1: sprinkle in some like positivity because I think none of

1009
00:52:09,560 --> 00:52:13,520
Speaker 1: us can handle your Again, maybe it's something that influencers

1010
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:16,480
Speaker 1: should do is before they accept a check, they should

1011
00:52:16,480 --> 00:52:20,879
Speaker 1: say what is your social giving? What is your like

1012
00:52:21,040 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 1: your community outreach? What is They should ask that of

1013
00:52:25,000 --> 00:52:28,520
Speaker 1: corporations and products that are that are coming to them,

1014
00:52:28,920 --> 00:52:31,920
Speaker 1: because then maybe there's a way to say, like, hey,

1015
00:52:31,960 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: this this nut milk is great and they are building

1016
00:52:36,120 --> 00:52:38,680
Speaker 1: houses in whatever country the nuts are coming from. I

1017
00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 1: don't know, like highlights something good that the company is

1018
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:46,319
Speaker 1: also doing. Besides selling a product. This is also like

1019
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:50,279
Speaker 1: it's a tough conscientious influence And that's what I was

1020
00:52:50,280 --> 00:52:52,040
Speaker 1: gonna say. It's a tough thing because I think so

1021
00:52:52,080 --> 00:52:55,759
Speaker 1: many businesses are struggling after and like also like with

1022
00:52:55,800 --> 00:52:58,399
Speaker 1: the influencer culture, I mean like a lot of times

1023
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 1: you're just trying to make a buck because it's hard

1024
00:53:01,200 --> 00:53:04,759
Speaker 1: and life has been hard for everybody, and so like,

1025
00:53:05,000 --> 00:53:06,799
Speaker 1: I don't know, all I know is I don't want

1026
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,000
Speaker 1: to hate on anyone, and I don't want my period

1027
00:53:09,280 --> 00:53:12,960
Speaker 1: pms like anger to really get taken out on anyone

1028
00:53:13,040 --> 00:53:16,200
Speaker 1: specifically or any like one. I think it's it's like

1029
00:53:16,239 --> 00:53:18,680
Speaker 1: you said, it's too general to be like influencers because

1030
00:53:18,680 --> 00:53:23,160
Speaker 1: there's a lot of but like, let's just as a culture,

1031
00:53:23,800 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 1: maybe try to spread some love and maybe tried to

1032
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:29,840
Speaker 1: step outside of ourselves. I think that's that's what I

1033
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:34,440
Speaker 1: hope for one And that's what I think, like if

1034
00:53:34,480 --> 00:53:37,760
Speaker 1: we just simply start doing one person at a time,

1035
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:40,799
Speaker 1: one thing at a time, will spread. There was an

1036
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:43,000
Speaker 1: amazing story. I don't know that we're trying to wren

1037
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:46,160
Speaker 1: this up, but we want you to listen all day.

1038
00:53:46,920 --> 00:53:49,880
Speaker 1: There was a story that, um, I feel like it

1039
00:53:49,960 --> 00:53:53,120
Speaker 1: was at a Crispy cream or something where somebody paid

1040
00:53:54,280 --> 00:53:57,080
Speaker 1: for They said, I want to pay for the order

1041
00:53:57,120 --> 00:53:59,120
Speaker 1: behind me. It's like a pay it forward thing, and

1042
00:53:59,160 --> 00:54:01,720
Speaker 1: it went on for like four d and nineties seven cars.

1043
00:54:01,760 --> 00:54:06,120
Speaker 1: That's amazing. Who's the fucking asshole who stopped? Who was like,

1044
00:54:06,160 --> 00:54:13,760
Speaker 1: oh great, thanks, But so think about little things like that,

1045
00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:19,319
Speaker 1: like it's the one person, only one person had to

1046
00:54:19,320 --> 00:54:23,200
Speaker 1: pay for two people, the person that started it and

1047
00:54:23,200 --> 00:54:25,080
Speaker 1: they were willing to do it, and then all you

1048
00:54:25,120 --> 00:54:27,680
Speaker 1: had to do was pay for the person behind you. Yeah,

1049
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 1: so it's little things. It's so easy to be nice

1050
00:54:30,040 --> 00:54:33,319
Speaker 1: to people. So my challenge to everybody is, go do

1051
00:54:33,440 --> 00:54:36,440
Speaker 1: something nice for a stranger this week and send us

1052
00:54:36,440 --> 00:54:39,960
Speaker 1: an email or tag us when you do it or whatever. Yeah,

1053
00:54:40,120 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: that's so good. That would be such a nice thing

1054
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,360
Speaker 1: to see in our inboxes, like little different stories and

1055
00:54:44,360 --> 00:54:46,120
Speaker 1: we'll read them all next week. We can keep you

1056
00:54:46,160 --> 00:54:48,600
Speaker 1: anonymous if you want to stay anonymous, or we can

1057
00:54:48,600 --> 00:54:51,040
Speaker 1: say your name if you want to credit whatever you

1058
00:54:54,480 --> 00:54:59,560
Speaker 1: Conscious Influencers Conscious influencers hashtag. That's ourn shirt forget all

1059
00:54:59,600 --> 00:55:02,719
Speaker 1: the other ship we came up with last year. Conscious Influencer.

1060
00:55:02,800 --> 00:55:05,560
Speaker 1: I'm a conscious influencer. Maybe that's the shirt that we

1061
00:55:05,600 --> 00:55:08,279
Speaker 1: would create. I don't know. Someone take notes, because you know,

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Speaker 1: we never remember someone built us a merch store and

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00:55:11,200 --> 00:55:14,279
Speaker 1: just send us a royalty Jesus. Literally, if you guys

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Speaker 1: want to create the shirts with all the stuff and

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00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:18,720
Speaker 1: just send us a check, we'll donate it to charity.

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Speaker 1: How about that? Yes, we should. We should make our

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Speaker 1: merch charitable. I'm down with it if you guys do

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Speaker 1: want it to. The two companies that I highly support

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Speaker 1: is ore are is the Community Foundation in Nashville. If

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Speaker 1: you guys are wanting to help Nashville right now, I

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Speaker 1: sent the Community Foundation of Middle Tennessee. Yes, And I mean,

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Speaker 1: I know every city has struggled a lot, but like

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Speaker 1: we literally got hit with a tornado, happened and then

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00:55:45,440 --> 00:55:48,279
Speaker 1: we got bombed. It's like, are you joking? And we've

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Speaker 1: had an incredibly and I know COVID's bad everywhere, but

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Speaker 1: Naturalists continue to be a tourist destination for some reason,

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00:55:57,480 --> 00:56:00,399
Speaker 1: and it's been terrible. Well, it's so many to run things.

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00:56:00,480 --> 00:56:03,760
Speaker 1: It's like our main industry, the country music industry, has

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Speaker 1: basically disappeared, so so many people are out of work. Um,

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00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:14,040
Speaker 1: and then also Tennessee in general was literally the one

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Speaker 1: of the number one hot spots in the world for

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00:56:18,680 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 1: COVID for like and maybe it's stilled by the way,

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00:56:23,080 --> 00:56:30,920
Speaker 1: well that's a whole another anyway, we have a bottle

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00:56:30,920 --> 00:56:32,360
Speaker 1: of wine to finish. But also if you guys do

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00:56:32,400 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 1: want to help, that's a great organization to give to.

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00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 1: And also the Shop Forward. We're huge fans of the

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Speaker 1: Bobby Bones Show. Obviously, like you guys know, I work

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Speaker 1: with hits. They are, but they also they are really

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00:56:42,160 --> 00:56:45,520
Speaker 1: doing a lot to support COVID relief, to do to

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00:56:45,560 --> 00:56:47,880
Speaker 1: support Nashville right now. And so if you want to

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00:56:47,920 --> 00:56:51,000
Speaker 1: like get a T shirt and also give to charity.

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Speaker 1: Also for the month of January. My disco, my velvet

1093
00:56:54,800 --> 00:56:59,719
Speaker 1: disco queen, Oh my god, let me start that girl.

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00:56:59,880 --> 00:57:01,799
Speaker 1: I'm terrible at selling myself, do you know this. I

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00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:03,680
Speaker 1: can sell other things, but like when I'm trying to

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00:57:03,680 --> 00:57:06,600
Speaker 1: sell any day brought to you. But I just love

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00:57:06,640 --> 00:57:09,520
Speaker 1: ste I never get paid by You've never been made

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00:57:09,520 --> 00:57:13,080
Speaker 1: by that. Ever. I love their whole company. I feel

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Speaker 1: like probably has is a conscious company there. They're one

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Speaker 1: of They're literally they were built by the best family

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Speaker 1: I've spent many days with them, and they're amazing. Okay,

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Speaker 1: but I collaborated with this company called um Disco Cowgirl.

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00:57:26,480 --> 00:57:28,880
Speaker 1: We made these velvet Disco Queen teas and for the

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00:57:28,920 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 1: month of January we are given a huge portion of

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00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:35,720
Speaker 1: our proceeds to the Community Foundation. The Community Foundation and

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00:57:35,760 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: not to keep dragging on the Community Foundation of Middle Tennessee.

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00:57:39,560 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 1: If you go to their website, it's amazing they have

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00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 1: They partner with a lot of like celebrities and particularly

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00:57:46,200 --> 00:57:50,200
Speaker 1: artists in Nashville. UM and that. So it's it's a

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Speaker 1: way for artists to have their own it's saying calling

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00:57:53,040 --> 00:57:55,480
Speaker 1: it a foundation is the wrong thing because the Community Fund,

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00:57:55,880 --> 00:57:59,360
Speaker 1: it's a fund. And so I manage an artist named

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00:57:59,400 --> 00:58:01,960
Speaker 1: Lindsay l and she has a fund through their make

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Speaker 1: and she raises money for disenfranchised youth and victims of

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00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:13,240
Speaker 1: sexual and domestic assault. But like Kelly Clarkson, dagl, Laurena Lena,

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00:58:13,360 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 1: like so many artists have funds through there. It's an amazing,

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00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:20,040
Speaker 1: amazing organization and they raise millions and millions of millions

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Speaker 1: of dollars. So but if you can give twenty dollars,

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Speaker 1: that's that's the thing. I learned today. When speaking with

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Speaker 1: the founder, it was just like because I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh god, it's not going to be the same, you know,

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Speaker 1: I was worried about not giving enough, and he was like, whoa, whoa, whoa,

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Speaker 1: whoa whoa. The fact that you're even reaching out and

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Speaker 1: you're wanting to put this proceeds to that. Are these

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Speaker 1: proceeds to that and this part of your whatever to that,

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Speaker 1: like anything help. The reason why the twenty dollars is

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00:58:44,280 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 1: amazing is because what they do it's a fund, so

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Speaker 1: they put it in the market and it makes money.

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Speaker 1: They they make like twelve percent return every year on

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Speaker 1: the money, so it's like becomes more than yeah, thank

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Speaker 1: you for it's I mean, and obviously it's like affected

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Speaker 1: by the market so up and down, but long term

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Speaker 1: it's not it's it's more money than what you give

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00:59:05,520 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 1: that it turns out to be so right. Yeah. So anyway,

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Speaker 1: if you guys have any more questions, you can always

1136
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Speaker 1: email us at at casual at Velvet's Edge dot com.

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Speaker 1: Um Chip is at chip doorsh on Instagram, I'm at

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Speaker 1: Velvet's Edge so always you can slide into our d

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Speaker 1: m s as well, and we do like to keep

1140
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Speaker 1: these light? Was this was this heavy heavy heavy today?

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Speaker 1: I don't think it was heavy. I think it wasn't

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Speaker 1: just like we weren't talking about like plusy well, I

1143
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Speaker 1: literally exactly, but I literally was like, I have to

1144
00:59:31,200 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 1: bring up show tunes so people can like laugh thudd minutes.

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Speaker 1: Are we gonna to be publishing now? Yeah? Here we go.

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00:59:41,240 --> 00:59:47,200
Speaker 1: Can't forget all the money on rent rents, do no

1147
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 1: more charity work for us? So okay, anyway, I hope

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Speaker 1: you guys have a great week. Let's all send some

1149
00:59:53,760 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: love out there. If you want to give back, we

1150
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Speaker 1: gave these a couple of resources. If you have any

1151
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Speaker 1: more questions, just email us and always remember act casual

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Speaker 1: IM