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Speaker 1: is Strawberry letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject. I bought him

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Speaker 1: that last year. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm going through a

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Speaker 1: divorce and my soon to be ex husband moved on

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Speaker 1: with another woman before I moved out of the house.

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Speaker 1: It was a disrespect for me. He'd come home in

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Speaker 1: the wee hours of the morning smelling like a woman

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Speaker 1: with his shirt balled up in his hand. I'm sure

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Speaker 1: it had makeup or something worse on it. Near the end,

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Speaker 1: he told me that he never wanted to hurt me

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Speaker 1: or leave the marriage, but he had to sort some

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Speaker 1: things out. He said it was not over another woman.

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Speaker 1: I believed him at first, but he started staying out

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Speaker 1: all night, and then I knew he was on to

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Speaker 1: something else. When he gave me the divorce papers, I

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Speaker 1: didn't flinch and I did not let him see me

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Speaker 1: cry or look depressed. I kept going and I found

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Speaker 1: a rental house close to my job. He would fake

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Speaker 1: he loves how understanding I am. He is not a

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Speaker 1: good actor, and he's terrible at covering his tracks. One

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Speaker 1: of my sorority sisters started following him on social media

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Speaker 1: last year. He didn't follow her back, but I did

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Speaker 1: a few weeks ago. She posted a selfie in front

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Speaker 1: of my husband's SUV and she was wearing a gold

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Speaker 1: necklace with a diamond OH one pendant hanging on it.

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Speaker 1: I had it made for my husband a year ago

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Speaker 1: to signify that he was one of one, my number one,

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Speaker 1: my king. He never took the necklace off. I gave

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Speaker 1: it to him. I was sick to my stomach when

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Speaker 1: I saw her wearing it. It's like she wanted me

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Speaker 1: to see it. A friend of a friend told me

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Speaker 1: they have been together for a while, and this woman

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Speaker 1: is not ashamed to tell people that he left his

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Speaker 1: wife for her. It hurt like heck, but I got closure. Finally,

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Speaker 1: it hurt like hale. She can have him, but not

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Speaker 1: the necklace. I hear you, Steve. Okay, you could say, Hale,

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Speaker 1: do you ain't all that? I chose not to, not

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Speaker 1: to say hale, she can have him, but not the necklace. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I told my husband to give the necklace back and

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Speaker 1: he laughed. Am I wrong for asking? Well? You know

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Speaker 1: my answer to that is no, of course not. You

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Speaker 1: can ask anyone anything, especially your husband. But I'm just

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Speaker 1: gonna say this to you. Just just stop, don't be petty.

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Speaker 1: Let that necklace go. It is okay. It represents some

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Speaker 1: bad memories for you, It really does. I mean, it

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Speaker 1: represents your husband cheating on you, lying to you. And

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Speaker 1: that's what you're gonna think of every time you see

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Speaker 1: that necklace. The bad parts, the bad parts, And why

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Speaker 1: would you want that? Because you are moving on, right,

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Speaker 1: You already got a house and everything. I mean, after all,

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Speaker 1: your husband has for sure moved on, and he did

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Speaker 1: it with your sore roar. You need to make new

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Speaker 1: and better memories in your new life. Again, since you're leaving,

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Speaker 1: just leave clean. I mean, you can note that if

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Speaker 1: this were money or something like that, cash or whatever,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't tell you the same thing. I would say, yeah,

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Speaker 1: fight for it, go get it. But this is this

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Speaker 1: is a necklace. Okay, this is a necklace. It may

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Speaker 1: have some sentimental value to you, but I think those

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Speaker 1: that instead of you know what you want them for.

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Speaker 1: I think he laughed, you said when you asked him

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Speaker 1: to give the necklace back? Way, And I just say,

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Speaker 1: if you're truly moving on, do it and don't look

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Speaker 1: back necklace and all leave it, Steve. I'm you know, look,

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Speaker 1: let me start at the bottom of the letter. Am

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Speaker 1: I wrong for? I told my husband that he had

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Speaker 1: I wrong? Fasking? Yeah, you're dad wrong, fast, It ain't yours,

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Speaker 1: it's his. It's his necklace. You gave it to him.

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Speaker 1: If you get a divorce out, you're gonna give him

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Speaker 1: the ring back? Nope, so and and you shouldn't because

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Speaker 1: it's yours, so you know, and ain't nobody else giving

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Speaker 1: it back either. It's no, no, and you're dad wrong

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Speaker 1: fasking for it back. But let me going back to

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Speaker 1: the top of the letter. Now, this is what I

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Speaker 1: don't understand. You're going through a divorce soon. Your ex

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Speaker 1: the house. It's the disrespect for me. He'd come home

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Speaker 1: in the wee hours of the morning, smelling like a

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Speaker 1: woman with his shirt balled up in his hand. What

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Speaker 1: who do that? Yeah? What? Why even bring this shirt home?

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Speaker 1: Stop throwing away? It ain't that much. Let that go.

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Speaker 1: That shirt you don't even need to bring that's efidence.

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Speaker 1: You don't even need to bring that in the house.

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Speaker 1: Should have threw that out the window. The heir you

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Speaker 1: look like walking in the house with no shirt on,

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Speaker 1: that baby, wear your shirt. I don't know what? What

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Speaker 1: what one shirt? The one is in your hand whiles

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Speaker 1: balled up? Why even why even make that a question?

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Speaker 1: I'm sure it had makeup or something worse on it.

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Speaker 1: Near the end, he told me they never wanted to

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Speaker 1: hurt me or leave the marriage, but he had to

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Speaker 1: sort some things out. What the hell do that mean?

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Speaker 1: I never meant to hurt you or leading marriage, but

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Speaker 1: I need to saw some things out. The hell did

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Speaker 1: at me? He said it was not over another woman.

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Speaker 1: I believed him at first? How how you believing at first?

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Speaker 1: He's standing in front of you with no shirt on

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Speaker 1: his hand. You believe what at first? This ain't about

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Speaker 1: no woman? Why is your shirt balled up in your hand?

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Speaker 1: Man o, man o, man. I don't know what to

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Speaker 1: tell you, lady, but when I'm bath, I'm gonna tell

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Speaker 1: you the rest. Okay, all right, hang on, we'll have

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Speaker 1: part two of your response coming up at twenty three

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Speaker 1: minutes after today's Strawberry letter. Subject is I bought him

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Speaker 1: that last year. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening show, all right, Come on, Steve, Let's recap

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Speaker 1: today Strubberry letter. The subject is I bought him that

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Speaker 1: last year. This woman is leaving her husband and getting

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Speaker 1: a divorce. She's upset because he moved on with another

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Speaker 1: woman before I moved out with the house. He said,

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Speaker 1: he moved on with another woman before I moved out

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Speaker 1: of the house. He didn't move out the house. He

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Speaker 1: moved on with another woman before she moved out the house.

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Speaker 1: It was disrespect for me. He'd come in the wee

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Speaker 1: hours of the morning, smelling like a woman, with his

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Speaker 1: shirt balled up in his hand. I don't know how

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Speaker 1: to hell you do that? How he had two shirts

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Speaker 1: at least, So why would you bring that shirt to

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Speaker 1: the house balled up? It's just used to do this

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Speaker 1: never wanted to hurt me or lead a marriage, but

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Speaker 1: they had to saw some things out. I don't know

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Speaker 1: what the hell that means. He said it wasn't over woman.

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Speaker 1: I believed him at first. You believed him at first.

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Speaker 1: Now at first you believed him. But he's standing there

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Speaker 1: his hand. What man, where do these women at? Because

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Speaker 1: I have never had, never had no man. No, no,

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Speaker 1: I've never had I had women? What? Why is your

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Speaker 1: shirt in your head? I'm going through some things. Why

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Speaker 1: do I smell all that perfem So it's not a

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Speaker 1: woman anyway? Then, then she said, but he started staying

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Speaker 1: something else. When he gave me the divorced papers. Wow,

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Speaker 1: that was a quick jump after you let him go

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Speaker 1: with the shirt ball up in his hand. Then he

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Speaker 1: I didn't flinch. I didn't let him on the cry.

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Speaker 1: Nothing looked depressed, none of that. I just kept going

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Speaker 1: found the rental house. But you know he's not a

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Speaker 1: good actor. He would fake crying to him. He's going

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Speaker 1: He ain't a good actor, and he's terrible at covering

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Speaker 1: his tracks. Then you said one of your sorority sisters

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Speaker 1: started following on social media. He didn't follow her back,

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Speaker 1: wearing a gold necklace with a diamond zero one old

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Speaker 1: my husband a year ago. Signified that he was one

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Speaker 1: of one, my number one, my king. You ain't lying

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Speaker 1: he won on one because I don't know no dude

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Speaker 1: wanted me to see it. See but lady. And then

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Speaker 1: tell people he left his wife for her. It hurt

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Speaker 1: like hell, but I got closure. Finally she can have him,

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Speaker 1: but not the necklace. I told my husband to give

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Speaker 1: the necklace back, and he laughed. Am I wrong for asking? Yes? Yes,

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Speaker 1: she's wrong for asking, because it's his. You asked him

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Speaker 1: him because you said he was one of the one,

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Speaker 1: his neck and gave it to her because she's one

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Speaker 1: of the one, his queen, and he gave it to it.

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Speaker 1: My question to you is, why do you even want

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Speaker 1: the damn necklace? What good is the necklace? I mean, really,

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Speaker 1: what so you can say you got it back and

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Speaker 1: it's just it's over. You said you had closure, didn't

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Speaker 1: close it walk away? Ain't. My father taught me a

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Speaker 1: very variable lesson in life. He says, son, the best

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Speaker 1: lesson is a balt lesson. I didn't know what he

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Speaker 1: means until he just kept telling it to me over

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Speaker 1: and over, and finally one day he just said, son,

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Speaker 1: the world. Yeah, the best. Ain't no lesson like a

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Speaker 1: and a way for you to really have real closure.

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Speaker 1: You bought that misery out your life. He wasn't a

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Speaker 1: good man. He didn't do you right. He's moved on.

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Speaker 1: Let your sorority seposed to happen. You know, I would

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Speaker 1: post it on the sorority website. Oh you would, Oh,

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, you know you ain't gonna get

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Speaker 1: the necklace back, but just say, you know, get her

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Speaker 1: line name, get get get her line name, get the

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Speaker 1: to thank my sister so and so, so and so spring,

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Speaker 1: bring eighty eighty nine, bring ninety four, whatever it was.

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Speaker 1: old people whoop your ass? Just what it went? Post

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Speaker 1: and puting bring two old five whatever. I just want

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Speaker 1: to say, Uh, she's wearing my ex husband's necklace that

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Speaker 1: I bought and it looks and it looks divine on you.

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Speaker 1: Just say it looks divine on you, you know, and

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Speaker 1: just say something like that. Don't don't say nothing ugly,

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Speaker 1: just post it and be complimentary of it. Oh and

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Speaker 1: that's my husband, you see that for him too? All right, Yeah,

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