WEBVTT -  I Want Candace... More with Candace Bushnell...  

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<v Speaker 1>Hi, I'm Kristin Davis, and I want to know are

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<v Speaker 1>you a Charlotte? You guys, it's exciting. On the podcast

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<v Speaker 1>today we have none other than Candace Bushdell.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you for being with us.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, we have so many questions for you. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the original Carrie Bradshaw, herself, her alter ego

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<v Speaker 1>that she created many many years ago. We're going to

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<v Speaker 1>hear all about it. I want to take you back

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<v Speaker 1>because honestly, there are things that I don't even know,

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<v Speaker 1>because in the beginning of the show I was just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to like get through it, you know what I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>like figure out what was going on. We were filming

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<v Speaker 1>like crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't ask you questions that I'm like, why why

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<v Speaker 1>didn't we take Candace out to lunch and ask her

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<v Speaker 1>a bunch of questions? But it was too hectic, right,

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<v Speaker 1>So like for me, I have questions about how did

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<v Speaker 1>you come to write the column for The Observer in

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<v Speaker 1>the first place.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know, it's so interesting because I'm doing this

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<v Speaker 3>one woman show called True Tales of Sex, Success and

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<v Speaker 3>Sex and the City, which I've done. I actually just

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<v Speaker 3>got back from doing it in Prague. The London Palladium, Wow,

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<v Speaker 3>Budapest and Zurich, and then I'm going to go to Copenhagen. Great.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to end up at Sony Hall in New

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<v Speaker 3>York City on May sixteen, so great. I want people

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<v Speaker 3>to buy tickets. But it's so in this show it

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<v Speaker 3>really answers all of those questions. So it's really the

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<v Speaker 3>origin story of Sex and the City. How I ended

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<v Speaker 3>up writing it, how hard I worked to get there,

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<v Speaker 3>why I invented Carrie Bradshaw, and what happened to me afterward.

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<v Speaker 3>And I was really doing, you know, with the New

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<v Speaker 3>York Observer.

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<v Speaker 2>I was writing about women and.

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<v Speaker 3>Relationships, sex and money, power and status in New York

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<v Speaker 3>City all through the eighties for women's magazines, Got It.

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<v Speaker 3>And in fact I was writing about my my Samantha. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>but she had different names, of course, so in like

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<v Speaker 3>nineteen eighty five, I think her name was Julie, and

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<v Speaker 3>then she might have been Susan, and then she ended

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<v Speaker 3>up being Samantha. But I kept changing her name. And

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<v Speaker 3>she was one of those women who she knew everything

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<v Speaker 3>about men somehow, she just knew everything, okay. And then

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<v Speaker 3>I was writing for the New York Observer, and they

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<v Speaker 3>asked me if I wanted to have my own column,

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<v Speaker 3>so obviously I said yes, And it was Sex and

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<v Speaker 3>the City. It had one foot in sex, one foot

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<v Speaker 3>in society, and it was really pretty much the same

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<v Speaker 3>as what I'd been writing in the eighties. It was

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<v Speaker 3>about women and you know, dating and mating ritual in

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<v Speaker 3>New York City, which are very heightened because everybody's everybody

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<v Speaker 3>who comes here is really ambitious and they really want

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<v Speaker 3>to make it, and so it adds another layer. So

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<v Speaker 3>all the alphas, yes, exactly, all the alphas.

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<v Speaker 2>And but the.

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<v Speaker 3>Difference was that it was in a publication that a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of men read. So I think the audience for

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<v Speaker 3>the New York Observer was like sixty five or seventy

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<v Speaker 3>percent men. So that made people feel like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 3>much more important because it's in a publication that, wow,

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<v Speaker 3>men are reading, and you know, as we all know,

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<v Speaker 3>if men are doing something, it's very important. Oh my

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<v Speaker 3>god doing it, Oh my gosh, how crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>So this was a big deal for you, Yes, and

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<v Speaker 1>in general.

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<v Speaker 3>In fact, when I got the column, I remember that

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<v Speaker 3>moment and it was probably maybe it was the end

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<v Speaker 3>of October of nineteen ninety four, and it was a

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<v Speaker 3>warm day and I like ran up Park Avenue thinking, oh,

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<v Speaker 3>this is my big break, this is my big break

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<v Speaker 3>because I've been writing for fifteen years since I was nineteen.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my gosh, and and I just felt like this

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<v Speaker 3>was going to be my big break. And it was

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<v Speaker 3>and it was, and I remember all the door men

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<v Speaker 3>were like, oh, good afternoon. This you know, things were

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<v Speaker 3>somehow radiating off of this happy energy.

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<v Speaker 1>So now when there's a hard question, is there any

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<v Speaker 1>part of you at that point who could have foreseen

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<v Speaker 1>what was to come?

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely one hundred percent. No. No, I mean I don't

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<v Speaker 3>think anybody could have ye foreseen it?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? No, me neither.

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<v Speaker 3>And you know what I do know is people started

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<v Speaker 3>reading the column right away because it was you know,

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<v Speaker 3>it was about people who everybody knew.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so that was another question that yes, got it.

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<v Speaker 1>So they wrote something and like and you would change

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<v Speaker 1>the names, Yes, I would change the names. But I

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<v Speaker 1>went out pretty much every single night with my notebook,

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<v Speaker 1>and I had Wow, these notebooks they were this big

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<v Speaker 1>and they were little spiral notebooks and they could back

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<v Speaker 1>then they could fit in your handbag.

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<v Speaker 2>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>So you take notes, actual notes.

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<v Speaker 3>I took actual notes and if if it was like

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<v Speaker 3>kind of uncomfortable, I would run to the bathroom and

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<v Speaker 3>take notes.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>So I would be in the bathroom like writing things

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<v Speaker 3>down like you know, somebody said this, somebody said that, yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>And then I would get back the next day and

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<v Speaker 3>I would look at all of the notes and and

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<v Speaker 3>construct a story out of it.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, the people couldn't know they'd read it, and

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<v Speaker 1>they yes, they know we're guests.

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<v Speaker 3>Well they would know or they would guess. And you know,

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<v Speaker 3>the reality is sometimes people came up to me and

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<v Speaker 3>asked me to write about them. Wow, Like the story

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<v Speaker 3>about the twenty something twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>Something guys guys, Oh, okay, that was all right. So

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<v Speaker 2>that was one thing.

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<v Speaker 3>But then and those were two real guys wow, that

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<v Speaker 3>I was hanging out with, okay, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>this is like, you know, the best material. And there

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<v Speaker 3>was also one about the twenty five year old girls

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<v Speaker 3>when they go to the Hampton's. Yeah, the Hampton's was

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<v Speaker 3>really yes, Staten Island, which was because.

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<v Speaker 1>We couldn't for the Hampton's. Yeah exactly said when I

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<v Speaker 1>pretend Charlotte pretends to be twenty seven or whatever, and

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<v Speaker 1>then they.

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<v Speaker 2>Get crabs exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>The crazy storyline, yes, that was real, Yes, but not

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<v Speaker 1>the part about Charlotte heading the crabs.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but that.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, look, that's the kind of thing that happens.

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<v Speaker 3>I had this whatever, crazy roommate, and she went she

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<v Speaker 3>was always having sex and and she got crabs.

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<v Speaker 2>And we shared an apartment and guess what did you

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<v Speaker 2>get crabs from my room? I did. Oh, that's bad.

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<v Speaker 2>They go on the towel.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, nobody tells you that, no, no one does. Listen, people,

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<v Speaker 1>this is some information that we're going to end up.

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<v Speaker 1>It will be definitely interesting to people. But you know

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<v Speaker 1>what Canna says, Okay, because we're educating people exactly right,

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<v Speaker 1>and this was a long time ago. Exactly still exists.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm sure they do the wait, go back to

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<v Speaker 1>the real people part because I do get asked this

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<v Speaker 1>a lot, like who was Charlotte? And in my mind

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<v Speaker 1>Charlotte was an amalgam of different people, but I don't

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<v Speaker 1>know if that's right.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, So Charlotte is the one character who I would

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<v Speaker 3>say Darren really created that character, got it, That's what

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<v Speaker 3>I thought.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know, all of the other characters, there was

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<v Speaker 2>a Miranda.

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<v Speaker 3>There was a Samantha that specific or different people that

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<v Speaker 3>you know, they were pretty specific. Samantha was pretty specifically

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<v Speaker 3>one friend of mine again who knew everything about men,

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<v Speaker 3>and I'm actually still friends with her.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh great.

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<v Speaker 3>And then the character of Miranda was like just this

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<v Speaker 3>really ballsy, smart girl who she wasn't a lawyer, but

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<v Speaker 3>she was somehow like in tech before anybody was in tech,

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<v Speaker 3>so she was like really up on things, and she

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<v Speaker 3>was just so she always used to say to men, listen, buddy,

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<v Speaker 3>let me explain something to you.

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<v Speaker 1>Cute and funny. She just didn't put up with any

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<v Speaker 1>nice stuff, got it. Did they know that they were

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<v Speaker 1>the people that the characters were based on, Yes, okay

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<v Speaker 1>kind of woes. Did they come to the parties and stuff?

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<v Speaker 3>One of them might have maybe the Miranda character, Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>she probably did.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, she probably did. I mean, I don't know Cynthia

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<v Speaker 1>knew that. I don't know that we knew this. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think we did.

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<v Speaker 3>And she had short, dark hair, okay, interesting, and she

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<v Speaker 3>was really she was just like super smart, just go

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<v Speaker 3>get her woman. And then my friend Samantha, of course,

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<v Speaker 3>you know the character's not really like her, anymore at all.

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<v Speaker 3>But she was really beautiful and and she just knew,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, everything about men, and men were crazy about her.

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<v Speaker 3>So I always went to her for advice, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 3>what do you think about this?

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<v Speaker 2>The guys said this, what does it mean? Oh? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>he was really that.

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<v Speaker 1>That's helpful.

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<v Speaker 2>You know that friend that you have who knows everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Now let's back up to Darren a little bit. Darren.

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<v Speaker 1>How'd you meet Darren?

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<v Speaker 2>Well?

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<v Speaker 3>I met Darren because I wrote a story about him

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<v Speaker 3>for Vogue. Oh, because I actually had a column in Vogue. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>oh my god, like Carrie. I don't know if she

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<v Speaker 3>ended up having a column, but right, she did. So

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<v Speaker 3>I had a column in Vogue, and I also wrote

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<v Speaker 3>stories for them. I did profiles, got it And in fact,

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<v Speaker 3>I just came across one that I did of Hugh Grant,

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<v Speaker 3>which wow, I was reading it, I was like, God,

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<v Speaker 3>this is such a great story. But he was very entertaining.

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<v Speaker 3>He is very entertaining, Yes he is, he was. He

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<v Speaker 3>was really interesting. He's very and Darren had come to

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<v Speaker 3>New York to do Central Park West right right, right,

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<v Speaker 3>So Vogue wanted me to do a story on him,

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<v Speaker 3>and I think we met in New York and then

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<v Speaker 3>I went to LA and also he met the real

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<v Speaker 3>mister Big Ron Galotti. So then the three of us

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<v Speaker 3>were friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh got it. And Ron and Darren loved each other.

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<v Speaker 1>That's friend.

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<v Speaker 3>We used to hang out and in fact we rented

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<v Speaker 3>a house in Aspen one year.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow.

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<v Speaker 3>So and then I took Darren for the first time

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<v Speaker 3>to the Hamptons. And this was probably in nineteen ninety five,

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<v Speaker 3>and I had just.

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<v Speaker 2>I had just.

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<v Speaker 3>Done a book deal for the columns Sex and the

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<v Speaker 3>City to become a book. So that happened after I

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<v Speaker 3>feel like I been writing it for maybe three or

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<v Speaker 3>four months and a publisher said I want to make

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<v Speaker 3>this into a book.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh huh.

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<v Speaker 3>So I told Darren and he said, oh, I want

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<v Speaker 3>to option it.

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<v Speaker 1>Got it? So that all have been kind of bam

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<v Speaker 1>bam bam.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, But then I don't think he actually did option

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<v Speaker 3>it until kind of a year later, and HBO wanted

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<v Speaker 3>to buy it, and I had meetings with HBO and

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<v Speaker 3>ABC wanted to buy it as well. That would have

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<v Speaker 3>been different, and yes, that would have been really different.

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<v Speaker 2>And some movie companies.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't take any of it serious.

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<v Speaker 1>Didn't no.

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<v Speaker 2>I was like really, yes.

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<v Speaker 3>I was very like, oh, I only want to write

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<v Speaker 3>novels and when the police are prize.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, adorable. So how did Darren convince you?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, he we had the same agency, ICM right, and

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<v Speaker 3>and HBO made an offer. And then my agent was like,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, when I'm just gonna ask Darren again if

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<v Speaker 3>you know he was serious about wanting to buy it,

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<v Speaker 3>and he said yes, So I think he offered like

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<v Speaker 3>a tiny bit more, you know, HBO, which at the

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<v Speaker 3>time seemed like, oh my god, a lot of money, right,

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<v Speaker 3>And and also I just loved Darren's sense of humor.

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<v Speaker 3>And when I was interviewing him, we went to the

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<v Speaker 3>set of Maybe it was Melrose Place?

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<v Speaker 1>Was it in Chatsworth? You had to like drive far

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<v Speaker 1>from We had to drive far again desert.

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<v Speaker 3>It was in the desert, and one of the characters

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<v Speaker 3>was like buried underground and I.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, we did some craziness.

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<v Speaker 3>Was I don't know what that was, but ye, crazy, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>And and he was like laughing and he was like,

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<v Speaker 3>is this the funniest thing you've ever seen? And I

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<v Speaker 3>was like yes, And I just thought, this man has

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<v Speaker 3>the best sense of humor.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, Yeah, yeah, and it hadn't really been used

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<v Speaker 1>in his other shows, yes, exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>And and so I was just thrilled to be working

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<v Speaker 3>with him. And then of course HBO and ABC still

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<v Speaker 3>wanted it.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow, So with Darren, Yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Got it, which of course makes it even more attractive.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, having a showrunner like Darren is incredible.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>And and and he wanted to go with HBO because

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<v Speaker 3>he he wanted some freedom. Yeah, he'd done the CBS

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<v Speaker 3>show and and you know, I mean, I don't think

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<v Speaker 3>any of this is a secret. I think he's talked

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<v Speaker 3>about that. He wasn't he wasn't thrilled, so he wanted

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<v Speaker 3>and HBO was brand new really in terms of making

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<v Speaker 3>original content. So it was kind of like a freedom,

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<v Speaker 3>like a free playground.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was their second show after Arless, right and

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<v Speaker 1>wait on, don't forget dream On? Our listened dream On?

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<v Speaker 2>Why don't remember dream On?

0:15:04.480 --> 0:15:07.440
<v Speaker 1>Dream On was a strange show, Emil one who remembers it.

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<v Speaker 1>It was a show with this guy, Brian ben Ben

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<v Speaker 1>I believe his name is. Do you remember this? And

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<v Speaker 1>there is nudity, There is female nudity every week. This

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<v Speaker 1>is partly why we were all so nervous our first

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<v Speaker 1>season about what is this and whose perspective is it

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<v Speaker 1>from and who is it four?

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<v Speaker 3>Well they did. They definitely pushed those boundaries. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>even more than because you know, Sex and the City

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<v Speaker 3>was published in a newspaper, right, so it was how

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<v Speaker 3>much details? Yeah, And also one of the things that

0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:49.080
<v Speaker 3>we decided was we don't want it to be about plumbing, like,

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<v Speaker 3>we don't want it to be about actual sex, because right,

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<v Speaker 3>it's like, right, right, what are you going to say exactly? Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>everybody knows. Yeah, I have sech for sure.

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<v Speaker 1>For sure.

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<v Speaker 3>So it was like all of the things that went

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<v Speaker 3>around sex. And then when it was on HBO, I

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<v Speaker 3>mean it could be quite specific. And also when I

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<v Speaker 3>was started rewatching it when it was on Netflix, Uh,

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<v Speaker 3>I was like, I forgot how much sex everybody.

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<v Speaker 1>Was having with you.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm with you, you know, I mean Charlotte was having

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<v Speaker 3>I know, so much sex.

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<v Speaker 1>Rude.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, the I'm busy really like thought, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>There's some certain things that I sometimes I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 1>need to go back and read the book because I

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<v Speaker 1>remember reading your book when Darren sent me this script.

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<v Speaker 1>So I read the script first, and then I went

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<v Speaker 1>and read the book and then I was like, whoa,

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<v Speaker 1>the book is a lot, right, because it had just

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<v Speaker 1>much more maybe less specifics, but more storylines. Not really

0:17:05.080 --> 0:17:06.480
<v Speaker 1>Charlotte so much, but.

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<v Speaker 3>It was it, you know, with the column and the book.

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<v Speaker 3>Every week was a totally different column with different characters

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<v Speaker 3>and different people.

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<v Speaker 2>So you know that.

0:17:20.160 --> 0:17:23.040
<v Speaker 3>And sometimes people read the book and they're like, it.

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<v Speaker 2>Doesn't make sense.

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<v Speaker 3>It's like, okay, yeah, because it was a little different,

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<v Speaker 3>right right, right right.

0:17:30.000 --> 0:17:31.960
<v Speaker 1>But it was a different time too. But like in

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<v Speaker 1>the beginning because remember, I don't know if you remember,

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<v Speaker 1>we did the whole we did the pilot that we

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<v Speaker 1>had to wait kind of a long time and my

0:17:38.560 --> 0:17:41.840
<v Speaker 1>mire right right, yes, Skip picked up, which was bizarre,

0:17:41.960 --> 0:17:43.800
<v Speaker 1>but whatever. And then we got picked up. We did

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<v Speaker 1>the whole first season without airing, which was interesting. Oh yeah,

0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:52.760
<v Speaker 1>it hadn't aired. Now that's kind of normal with streaming, right,

0:17:52.760 --> 0:17:54.639
<v Speaker 1>but back in the way, very unusual.

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<v Speaker 3>So but wait, I thought we shot the pilot in

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<v Speaker 3>nineteen ninety seven.

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<v Speaker 1>We did, and then we were waited until we got

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<v Speaker 1>picked up in nineteen ninety eight. Then we filmed really quick.

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<v Speaker 3>What I remember was that summer, and it's I think

0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:11.960
<v Speaker 3>it started filming in the spring.

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<v Speaker 1>Yep, we would always come in the cold. Yeah, you

0:18:14.320 --> 0:18:16.760
<v Speaker 1>have to pretend like it wasn't. Yes, And we filmed

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<v Speaker 1>for like all of three months or something. We did

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<v Speaker 1>all of it really really fast. Yes, came on the

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<v Speaker 1>air fast. Yes, but we had no one had seen

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<v Speaker 1>a thing, and we were just like like, are we funny?

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<v Speaker 1>Are we sexy? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>What are we doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? But when I started watching back it, I always

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<v Speaker 1>felt like the first season was kind of a mess

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<v Speaker 1>in terms of I'd come from. You know, spelling was

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<v Speaker 1>like a very much not a factory in a bad way,

0:18:45.440 --> 0:18:48.960
<v Speaker 1>but like it was a very set medium, right, very

0:18:49.040 --> 0:18:53.280
<v Speaker 1>structured medium that Darren definitely changed and juiced up and

0:18:53.320 --> 0:18:56.920
<v Speaker 1>made younger and exciting. But like, there's a scene, there's

0:18:56.960 --> 0:19:01.800
<v Speaker 1>a storyline in the Modelizer episode. Yes, was that a

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<v Speaker 1>real storyline that was in your column? I mean this

0:19:05.800 --> 0:19:08.119
<v Speaker 1>was something we would call the police now you know

0:19:08.160 --> 0:19:10.000
<v Speaker 1>what I mean? Do you remember this guy is filming

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<v Speaker 1>the models from the magazine?

0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:12.240
<v Speaker 2>Now that's real?

0:19:13.840 --> 0:19:16.639
<v Speaker 1>Now, okay, so get to so you know about this?

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<v Speaker 2>How how did this? I?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, first of all, like the Modelizer story is real,

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<v Speaker 3>and in the first season, they took a they took

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of stuff. A lot of the stories from

0:19:31.880 --> 0:19:35.520
<v Speaker 3>the book, you know, they get changed around, and even

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<v Speaker 3>in the first actually the first two seasons, a lot

0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:43.359
<v Speaker 3>comes from the book, which I recognize because I know

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<v Speaker 3>kind of where everything came from. But you know, it

0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:53.080
<v Speaker 3>was just going out and doing research and getting people

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<v Speaker 3>to tell me stories. So people love to tell you

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<v Speaker 3>their story. I don't know if this happens to you

0:20:02.240 --> 0:20:04.359
<v Speaker 3>where people come up to you and they're like, yes, oh,

0:20:04.600 --> 0:20:07.600
<v Speaker 3>because of the show, let me tell you about this

0:20:07.680 --> 0:20:11.120
<v Speaker 3>thing that happened to me, And you're like, right, right, right.

0:20:11.000 --> 0:20:13.919
<v Speaker 1>But like someone told you? Did someone tell you I

0:20:14.080 --> 0:20:16.400
<v Speaker 1>do this? Did the person himself who was filming these

0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:19.000
<v Speaker 1>models secretly tell you this? Or did you just hear

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<v Speaker 1>about it?

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<v Speaker 2>Probably got it.

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<v Speaker 3>But also, filming people while you're having sex with them

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<v Speaker 3>is not a new thing. I know what it used

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<v Speaker 3>to be like without consent is bad, Yes, it is,

0:20:31.560 --> 0:20:34.480
<v Speaker 3>it is bad. But I remember when I first came

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<v Speaker 3>to New York people were doing that in like nineteen

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<v Speaker 3>seventy eight.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, like with a big camquarder.

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<v Speaker 3>No, they had like hidden cameras, hidden cameras in their apartments.

0:20:49.080 --> 0:20:51.920
<v Speaker 3>I mean, look, these are really really rich men, which

0:20:52.119 --> 0:20:58.600
<v Speaker 3>we know they don't always follow I understand the law, right,

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<v Speaker 3>So so that.

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<v Speaker 2>Wasn't really a totally new thing. But yes, that was.

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<v Speaker 2>There was.

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<v Speaker 3>A guy who was filming his encounters with you know,

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<v Speaker 3>with models.

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<v Speaker 1>God, because the thing that's interesting when I look back

0:21:21.680 --> 0:21:23.439
<v Speaker 1>on it, I hadn't remembered that at all. There's so

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<v Speaker 1>much that I don't remember about the first season. And Carrie,

0:21:26.560 --> 0:21:28.320
<v Speaker 1>you know, she goes over there and he's like, you've

0:21:28.320 --> 0:21:30.800
<v Speaker 1>got to see my master work, my work of art,

0:21:30.800 --> 0:21:32.960
<v Speaker 1>and he gets all has all those old TVs. It's

0:21:33.080 --> 0:21:36.520
<v Speaker 1>very creative. And then the different models you know, show

0:21:36.600 --> 0:21:38.040
<v Speaker 1>up and he's having sex with them, and you know,

0:21:38.080 --> 0:21:41.520
<v Speaker 1>she likes a cigarette, like she's very unjudgmental, you know,

0:21:41.680 --> 0:21:45.000
<v Speaker 1>there's not judgment or rror. Well, it was a different

0:21:45.080 --> 0:21:48.800
<v Speaker 1>time also, I mean we you know, there are a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of things that.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, women just kind of sucked it up back then.

0:21:55.960 --> 0:21:59.160
<v Speaker 3>It's truely, not literally, but you know, yes, I mean,

0:21:59.320 --> 0:22:05.760
<v Speaker 3>I mean it's and things have changed so much and

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<v Speaker 3>it actually makes me really really happy. And it is

0:22:10.320 --> 0:22:13.159
<v Speaker 3>partly because of sex and the city. Because sex and

0:22:13.200 --> 0:22:16.760
<v Speaker 3>the city. You know, it's it has made women so

0:22:16.880 --> 0:22:22.040
<v Speaker 3>much more aware and emboldened. Is kind of emboldened and

0:22:22.119 --> 0:22:25.400
<v Speaker 3>given them a new way to look at their lives.

0:22:26.160 --> 0:22:27.640
<v Speaker 2>And you know, now.

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<v Speaker 3>When I, you know, I talk to young women, I'm

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<v Speaker 3>still covering dating for whatever reason.

0:22:36.640 --> 0:22:40.679
<v Speaker 1>I love it, which is it's great. Is not so

0:22:40.760 --> 0:22:44.840
<v Speaker 1>great right now for anybody. For sure, dating is hard,

0:22:44.960 --> 0:22:47.680
<v Speaker 1>But I'm glad that you're covering it. Yes, that's helpful.

0:22:47.920 --> 0:22:48.760
<v Speaker 2>Yes, but.

0:22:50.800 --> 0:22:53.399
<v Speaker 3>You know, women have just they've just changed their attitude

0:22:53.600 --> 0:22:56.200
<v Speaker 3>so much and they know. Now I hear a lot

0:22:56.240 --> 0:22:59.440
<v Speaker 3>of women saying, you know, we don't even think heterosexual

0:22:59.520 --> 0:23:02.840
<v Speaker 3>relationship are so good for us anymore, which is something

0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:06.400
<v Speaker 3>that you would never have heard. In the mid nineties.

0:23:06.440 --> 0:23:09.679
<v Speaker 3>There was no woman who would ever say, you know,

0:23:09.920 --> 0:23:16.280
<v Speaker 3>I question the validity of the heterosexual relationship and being

0:23:16.359 --> 0:23:17.920
<v Speaker 3>secondary to a man.

0:23:18.080 --> 0:23:19.320
<v Speaker 2>It was kind of a given.

0:23:19.560 --> 0:23:23.640
<v Speaker 3>And now women really they don't accept that. I think

0:23:23.680 --> 0:23:26.680
<v Speaker 3>that's amazing. I think it's great, and I think it's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. So it's so great because this is one of

0:23:29.800 --> 0:23:32.160
<v Speaker 1>the reasons I wanted to do the podcast, is because

0:23:32.640 --> 0:23:35.399
<v Speaker 1>I feel like the storylines and the writing and the

0:23:35.440 --> 0:23:39.359
<v Speaker 1>subject matter is still so relatable. And some things have changed,

0:23:39.400 --> 0:23:41.800
<v Speaker 1>but some things haven't, and being able to look at

0:23:41.800 --> 0:23:45.200
<v Speaker 1>those things, you would think more things would have changed,

0:23:45.280 --> 0:23:47.320
<v Speaker 1>and some haven't changed at all. And then some like

0:23:47.359 --> 0:23:50.160
<v Speaker 1>what we're talking about in terms of women, have changed

0:23:50.200 --> 0:23:52.879
<v Speaker 1>where And I think some of it is because we

0:23:53.000 --> 0:23:56.199
<v Speaker 1>pulled the lid off just talking about it, Like, just

0:23:56.359 --> 0:23:58.040
<v Speaker 1>talking about it is so powerful.

0:23:58.760 --> 0:24:01.000
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it is, because if you're not.

0:24:01.080 --> 0:24:03.800
<v Speaker 1>Talking about it or feeling free to talk about it,

0:24:03.880 --> 0:24:05.760
<v Speaker 1>how are we ever going to figure stuff out? How

0:24:05.760 --> 0:24:07.760
<v Speaker 1>are we ever going to know all the things that

0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:10.280
<v Speaker 1>are going on or all the choices that you have,

0:24:10.800 --> 0:24:13.000
<v Speaker 1>or what it might be like to make these choices

0:24:13.119 --> 0:24:17.159
<v Speaker 1>or make these choices. You know what I'm saying? Yes, absolutely,

0:24:17.200 --> 0:24:20.040
<v Speaker 1>I absolutely Okay, So let's get back to the real

0:24:20.080 --> 0:24:21.520
<v Speaker 1>people for a second, because I get a lot of

0:24:21.600 --> 0:24:25.120
<v Speaker 1>questions about this. I'm sure you do too. So there's

0:24:25.240 --> 0:24:29.360
<v Speaker 1>real Miranda obviously, a real mister Big, and a real Samantha,

0:24:29.480 --> 0:24:31.480
<v Speaker 1>and then not a real me, which I kind of

0:24:31.520 --> 0:24:32.960
<v Speaker 1>knew because no one knew what to do with me

0:24:33.000 --> 0:24:35.439
<v Speaker 1>in the beginning, which is totally fine. And Michael Patrick

0:24:35.440 --> 0:24:37.240
<v Speaker 1>says that when he came on to he was like

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know how to write.

0:24:38.119 --> 0:24:38.600
<v Speaker 2>For that one.

0:24:38.800 --> 0:24:40.760
<v Speaker 1>And then Jenny Biggs came who grew up on the

0:24:40.800 --> 0:24:42.920
<v Speaker 1>Upper East Side, and she did know how to write

0:24:42.920 --> 0:24:46.040
<v Speaker 1>for me, so that helped kind of give me something

0:24:46.640 --> 0:24:50.080
<v Speaker 1>more like a through line that made sense, I guess.

0:24:50.359 --> 0:24:52.280
<v Speaker 1>And also, I mean that's how it often is when

0:24:52.280 --> 0:24:54.280
<v Speaker 1>a TV show starts. You know, you don't really know

0:24:54.920 --> 0:24:59.240
<v Speaker 1>right exactly. So as you were watching the show develop,

0:24:59.600 --> 0:25:04.600
<v Speaker 1>what were your thoughts on how Darren and company were writing?

0:25:06.080 --> 0:25:10.000
<v Speaker 2>You know, honestly, I always loved it. Oh good.

0:25:10.040 --> 0:25:15.480
<v Speaker 3>I always thought the show was first of all funny, yes,

0:25:15.520 --> 0:25:21.240
<v Speaker 3>and you know, the column was is funny, and and

0:25:21.359 --> 0:25:24.440
<v Speaker 3>you know, the humor is something that for me, it's

0:25:24.480 --> 0:25:27.520
<v Speaker 3>like unavoidable, right, I want to try to write seriously,

0:25:27.640 --> 0:25:31.239
<v Speaker 3>but but there's always this sort of deep humor that

0:25:31.480 --> 0:25:37.440
<v Speaker 3>comes across, and that really came across in this series.

0:25:37.840 --> 0:25:42.159
<v Speaker 3>And also, you know, it was a time like in

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<v Speaker 3>the nineties when women were a little bit badass, you know,

0:25:47.119 --> 0:25:50.399
<v Speaker 3>it was it was it was like, you know, we

0:25:50.480 --> 0:25:55.000
<v Speaker 3>can't we rule this town and we don't have to

0:25:55.040 --> 0:26:00.040
<v Speaker 3>put up with, you know what men say, because we

0:26:00.080 --> 0:26:03.399
<v Speaker 3>you know, we have each other's backs and we're a

0:26:03.440 --> 0:26:09.720
<v Speaker 3>little group, and there's power in this friendship. And the

0:26:09.840 --> 0:26:15.159
<v Speaker 3>friendship part is so real and so important in New

0:26:15.280 --> 0:26:19.480
<v Speaker 3>York City because that is a real thing in this

0:26:19.680 --> 0:26:24.359
<v Speaker 3>city where there are actually more women than men, and

0:26:25.720 --> 0:26:28.720
<v Speaker 3>it's like, if you don't have female friends here, you're

0:26:28.760 --> 0:26:31.000
<v Speaker 3>gonna have a very hard time surviving.

0:26:30.560 --> 0:26:33.840
<v Speaker 1>Right, And I do think that is what really has

0:26:33.920 --> 0:26:37.000
<v Speaker 1>resonated over time with the show. Yes, and thank god,

0:26:37.200 --> 0:26:39.320
<v Speaker 1>you know, and I know there were different people who

0:26:39.400 --> 0:26:43.040
<v Speaker 1>felt different ways at different times of the long trajectory

0:26:43.080 --> 0:26:46.479
<v Speaker 1>of Sex and the City about whether people should have

0:26:46.520 --> 0:26:49.119
<v Speaker 1>gotten married or should not have gotten married, et cetera.

0:26:49.200 --> 0:26:51.680
<v Speaker 1>I get that, but I also feel like we've now

0:26:51.720 --> 0:26:54.760
<v Speaker 1>been through so many phases and the remaining thing is

0:26:54.800 --> 0:26:55.280
<v Speaker 1>the bond.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, exactly exactly, And you know, no, I always

0:27:02.640 --> 0:27:06.480
<v Speaker 3>loved the show. Oh good, I thought it was fantastic good.

0:27:06.680 --> 0:27:08.480
<v Speaker 1>I didn't know for sure. I didn't know for sure.

0:27:09.040 --> 0:27:11.560
<v Speaker 2>I always didn't know. I didn't know if it was weird.

0:27:12.080 --> 0:27:15.439
<v Speaker 1>Like like when you say, so this was your you know,

0:27:15.520 --> 0:27:18.560
<v Speaker 1>your kind of almost like you know, research thing that

0:27:18.600 --> 0:27:20.760
<v Speaker 1>you were doing for years and years and years where

0:27:20.800 --> 0:27:23.160
<v Speaker 1>you're out and you're taking notes and you're studying people,

0:27:23.200 --> 0:27:25.800
<v Speaker 1>and you know these people and you're hearing stories and everything,

0:27:25.960 --> 0:27:28.000
<v Speaker 1>and then all of a sudden it gets kind of

0:27:28.480 --> 0:27:31.679
<v Speaker 1>taken over here, you know, into a TV show. I

0:27:31.720 --> 0:27:32.959
<v Speaker 1>didn't know if that was weird.

0:27:33.920 --> 0:27:39.239
<v Speaker 3>You know, people always ask that question, and you know,

0:27:39.359 --> 0:27:44.600
<v Speaker 3>for me, no, good, it was never you know, it

0:27:44.640 --> 0:27:48.399
<v Speaker 3>was never strange or I mean, maybe there would be

0:27:48.480 --> 0:27:51.320
<v Speaker 3>some things that I know. I mean, honestly, there was

0:27:51.359 --> 0:27:55.840
<v Speaker 3>never anything that was strange or uncomfortable for me because

0:27:56.400 --> 0:27:59.800
<v Speaker 3>I was always writing.

0:28:00.480 --> 0:28:00.760
<v Speaker 2>You know.

0:28:00.840 --> 0:28:02.840
<v Speaker 3>I mean, I've had like a lot of New York

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:08.439
<v Speaker 3>Times bestsellers, so you had writing novels and you know,

0:28:08.600 --> 0:28:11.840
<v Speaker 3>and I had an opportunity to be on TV and

0:28:12.080 --> 0:28:15.200
<v Speaker 3>like have my own TV show and all of that

0:28:15.280 --> 0:28:16.000
<v Speaker 3>V one thing.

0:28:16.560 --> 0:28:18.040
<v Speaker 2>It was VH one.

0:28:18.200 --> 0:28:20.440
<v Speaker 3>I had that this show on VH one, right, I

0:28:20.440 --> 0:28:22.240
<v Speaker 3>think it was like one of the first reality shows,

0:28:22.480 --> 0:28:26.920
<v Speaker 3>which is crazy, which is kind of crazy. Yeah, And

0:28:26.920 --> 0:28:29.640
<v Speaker 3>and then I was you know, then there were people

0:28:29.640 --> 0:28:31.960
<v Speaker 3>who always wanted to make the real life version of

0:28:32.000 --> 0:28:37.280
<v Speaker 3>Sex and the City, which was interesting and I was like, no,

0:28:38.080 --> 0:28:45.840
<v Speaker 3>why because there's already a TV show that's for sure amazing, right,

0:28:47.560 --> 0:28:50.560
<v Speaker 3>And then I was on another reality show and the

0:28:50.560 --> 0:28:53.240
<v Speaker 3>fact does like, I just say that's sitting around.

0:28:54.000 --> 0:28:57.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I means a lot of sitting around. It's it's

0:28:57.680 --> 0:29:02.600
<v Speaker 1>just it's true. I was like, I couldn't. And then

0:29:03.040 --> 0:29:05.000
<v Speaker 1>even when I had that show on VH one and

0:29:05.040 --> 0:29:06.760
<v Speaker 1>I had to sit in front of the mirror for

0:29:06.840 --> 0:29:07.480
<v Speaker 1>two hours.

0:29:07.520 --> 0:29:08.320
<v Speaker 2>Oh, it's the worst.

0:29:08.960 --> 0:29:13.360
<v Speaker 3>I was like, this will turn you into a narcissist.

0:29:14.000 --> 0:29:16.920
<v Speaker 1>It could. I think it can do numerous things, right,

0:29:16.920 --> 0:29:20.640
<v Speaker 1>it continue into the narcissists. It can also exacerbate all

0:29:20.640 --> 0:29:23.040
<v Speaker 1>of your insecurities that you ever had in your life. Right,

0:29:23.120 --> 0:29:24.800
<v Speaker 1>And maybe those are the two same things. I don't know,

0:29:24.880 --> 0:29:26.440
<v Speaker 1>but it is rough.

0:29:26.280 --> 0:29:27.720
<v Speaker 2>To have to do. I was like, can't.

0:29:28.080 --> 0:29:29.560
<v Speaker 1>I can't do it. It is rough.

0:29:29.680 --> 0:29:30.240
<v Speaker 2>I can't do it.

0:29:30.240 --> 0:29:30.560
<v Speaker 1>I can't.

0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:32.600
<v Speaker 2>I can't look at my face for two hours.

0:29:32.600 --> 0:29:35.360
<v Speaker 1>It's hard. It's really really hard. It's really really hard

0:29:45.800 --> 0:29:47.760
<v Speaker 1>to wait. Let's go back for a second. Okay, So

0:29:47.840 --> 0:29:51.080
<v Speaker 1>Darren's got the show and it's getting you know, first

0:29:51.160 --> 0:29:53.240
<v Speaker 1>we were small, as you remember, and then you know,

0:29:53.240 --> 0:29:56.120
<v Speaker 1>it grew and go and grew. You're over still doing

0:29:56.120 --> 0:29:58.840
<v Speaker 1>your writing, doing different things. You've got different things going on.

0:29:58.920 --> 0:30:05.800
<v Speaker 1>So you weren't like focused on the show necessarily, No, okay.

0:30:05.880 --> 0:30:10.600
<v Speaker 1>I mean, in fact, well, they used to send me

0:30:10.800 --> 0:30:14.720
<v Speaker 1>the DVDs or the vhs.

0:30:14.960 --> 0:30:16.240
<v Speaker 2>H they were vhs.

0:30:16.280 --> 0:30:20.440
<v Speaker 3>They would send them to me on Wednesday, right, and

0:30:20.440 --> 0:30:23.360
<v Speaker 3>and you know, I would watch it like it was

0:30:23.400 --> 0:30:25.160
<v Speaker 3>going to be good. And then I always thought it

0:30:25.200 --> 0:30:27.840
<v Speaker 3>was great, okay, good, and then people would watch it

0:30:27.880 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 3>on Sundaday, yeah, and and be really excited about it.

0:30:34.640 --> 0:30:37.600
<v Speaker 3>And I just thought, oh, you know, I had a

0:30:37.880 --> 0:30:40.760
<v Speaker 3>book that was turned into a TV show.

0:30:41.480 --> 0:30:43.800
<v Speaker 2>So and I mean.

0:30:43.760 --> 0:30:47.120
<v Speaker 3>It was really like the first two seasons, I wasn't

0:30:48.600 --> 0:30:51.600
<v Speaker 3>you know, I guess it was a hit, but it wasn't.

0:30:51.640 --> 0:30:53.920
<v Speaker 1>It wasn't a big hit till third Yeah. I got

0:30:54.440 --> 0:30:58.440
<v Speaker 1>for that, Emmy. That's when I felt myself like what, yes.

0:30:58.560 --> 0:31:02.120
<v Speaker 3>I mean it was like after the second season that

0:31:03.080 --> 0:31:07.200
<v Speaker 3>it felt like it really took off. And in fact,

0:31:07.560 --> 0:31:10.920
<v Speaker 3>I actually thought it was going to be over when

0:31:11.080 --> 0:31:14.520
<v Speaker 3>mister Big dumps Carrie and marry somebody else, because that

0:31:14.600 --> 0:31:15.720
<v Speaker 3>happened in my real life.

0:31:15.840 --> 0:31:17.240
<v Speaker 2>Oh did it? Yes?

0:31:17.560 --> 0:31:21.600
<v Speaker 1>I really there was a time when walking around New

0:31:21.680 --> 0:31:24.960
<v Speaker 1>York people would be like, the real mister Big did this,

0:31:25.040 --> 0:31:27.520
<v Speaker 1>and I just be like, I can't deal with that,

0:31:27.600 --> 0:31:30.320
<v Speaker 1>because we have to deal with our fictional selves. Right,

0:31:30.560 --> 0:31:32.480
<v Speaker 1>So there's a time that I tuned it out, so

0:31:32.520 --> 0:31:35.520
<v Speaker 1>I didn't really know how it played out, yes for

0:31:35.600 --> 0:31:39.560
<v Speaker 1>you personally, Yes, so that happened.

0:31:40.080 --> 0:31:43.640
<v Speaker 3>In real life and that and I thought, oh, that

0:31:43.760 --> 0:31:47.720
<v Speaker 3>would be like that, that'll be the end, the end,

0:31:47.840 --> 0:31:49.760
<v Speaker 3>got it. You know, it's like it's told the whole

0:31:49.800 --> 0:31:54.360
<v Speaker 3>story of Carrie and mister Big and he you know,

0:31:54.520 --> 0:31:56.840
<v Speaker 3>ends up marrying somebody else, which is like such a

0:31:56.880 --> 0:32:01.240
<v Speaker 3>New York story. Yes, and and so I really thought

0:32:01.280 --> 0:32:02.680
<v Speaker 3>that would be that's the end.

0:32:02.920 --> 0:32:03.920
<v Speaker 2>Got this series.

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:09.560
<v Speaker 1>Got it? And then it kept going and it's still going. Yeah,

0:32:09.600 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean, which is really incredible, isn't it incredible? I

0:32:13.440 --> 0:32:16.040
<v Speaker 1>agree that it's incredible. I mean, we're so lucky to

0:32:16.160 --> 0:32:18.760
<v Speaker 1>be able to keep going with these characters, I think.

0:32:18.840 --> 0:32:20.880
<v Speaker 1>And we're so lucky to have the writing that we've

0:32:20.880 --> 0:32:23.240
<v Speaker 1>always had and to have the characters that you started,

0:32:23.680 --> 0:32:26.440
<v Speaker 1>because nothing would happen without that, you know, Like, characters

0:32:26.440 --> 0:32:28.960
<v Speaker 1>and writing is the whole. It's the whole thing. I Mean.

0:32:29.000 --> 0:32:31.680
<v Speaker 1>People talk about actors, and I understand actors are where

0:32:31.680 --> 0:32:34.240
<v Speaker 1>you're looking at, but if you don't have the material,

0:32:34.640 --> 0:32:37.840
<v Speaker 1>it's not going to succeed, you know, there's almost nothing

0:32:37.880 --> 0:32:40.280
<v Speaker 1>you can do to make it succeed. You can be

0:32:40.640 --> 0:32:43.000
<v Speaker 1>super charismatic and it's still not going to work, you

0:32:43.040 --> 0:32:43.520
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean.

0:32:43.840 --> 0:32:46.080
<v Speaker 3>Yes, yeah, I mean I do always say it like

0:32:46.200 --> 0:32:48.360
<v Speaker 3>it kind of has to be on the page. If

0:32:48.360 --> 0:32:50.640
<v Speaker 3>it's not on the page, it's not going to work

0:32:50.640 --> 0:32:51.600
<v Speaker 3>on the screen. I agree.

0:32:51.640 --> 0:32:53.240
<v Speaker 1>I mean, it might work for a second, you know

0:32:53.280 --> 0:32:55.480
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, but it won't work over time. So

0:32:56.640 --> 0:33:01.440
<v Speaker 1>in the real life, when so mister Big previous to

0:33:02.600 --> 0:33:05.120
<v Speaker 1>him marrying someone else on the show, which I didn't

0:33:05.160 --> 0:33:08.640
<v Speaker 1>really I wasn't aware of the parallels still happening with life.

0:33:08.760 --> 0:33:12.200
<v Speaker 1>Were you happy with how they developed mister Big and carry?

0:33:12.240 --> 0:33:14.320
<v Speaker 1>How did you feel about that, because it's very interesting

0:33:14.320 --> 0:33:18.040
<v Speaker 1>to look back on it. I think, you know it is.

0:33:18.360 --> 0:33:23.400
<v Speaker 3>And at the time, I I know what, I didn't.

0:33:23.520 --> 0:33:27.440
<v Speaker 3>I didn't think about it that much. It seemed natural

0:33:27.520 --> 0:33:27.800
<v Speaker 3>to me.

0:33:27.960 --> 0:33:28.960
<v Speaker 1>Uh huh.

0:33:29.040 --> 0:33:31.400
<v Speaker 2>And you know, but now.

0:33:31.160 --> 0:33:35.040
<v Speaker 3>With all this social media, a lot of people question it.

0:33:36.040 --> 0:33:46.640
<v Speaker 3>And no, I mean, I mean, you know, in real life,

0:33:46.840 --> 0:33:49.240
<v Speaker 3>you know, the real mister Big was. He was a

0:33:49.920 --> 0:33:52.040
<v Speaker 3>you know, he was a great guy, but he was

0:33:52.120 --> 0:33:55.800
<v Speaker 3>also a very powerful man, and you know, powerful men

0:33:56.040 --> 0:33:59.360
<v Speaker 3>in New York City at that time were really a

0:33:59.400 --> 0:34:05.520
<v Speaker 3>specific breed. You know, they threw things, They threw phones,

0:34:05.680 --> 0:34:08.680
<v Speaker 3>they threw this, they threw that.

0:34:08.880 --> 0:34:11.480
<v Speaker 1>So in some ways, mister Big was even softer than

0:34:11.520 --> 0:34:14.520
<v Speaker 1>the real deal, because I don't remember him throwing a phone.

0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:17.560
<v Speaker 2>No, he didn't throw a phone.

0:34:18.080 --> 0:34:21.080
<v Speaker 3>But in real life, I think the real mister Big

0:34:21.160 --> 0:34:23.360
<v Speaker 3>had thrown a phone and it ended up in page six.

0:34:23.800 --> 0:34:29.360
<v Speaker 2>Wow of course, wow wow wow. But he's he was actually.

0:34:30.600 --> 0:34:35.000
<v Speaker 3>A great guy, and I was really in love with him,

0:34:35.960 --> 0:34:41.200
<v Speaker 3>and but it just we were in just totally different places,

0:34:41.200 --> 0:34:44.480
<v Speaker 3>like he was winding down. He actually left New York

0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:49.279
<v Speaker 3>and went and lived and still lives in Vermont. And

0:34:49.360 --> 0:34:53.000
<v Speaker 3>now when I look at his life, I'm like, why

0:34:53.040 --> 0:34:55.520
<v Speaker 3>didn't I.

0:34:54.520 --> 0:34:55.239
<v Speaker 1>Go for that?

0:34:56.080 --> 0:35:01.040
<v Speaker 3>Living on a farm in New Hampshire would Well, now

0:35:01.120 --> 0:35:05.520
<v Speaker 3>I think I would. Interesting now that I'm like old,

0:35:05.600 --> 0:35:06.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm like, I could do that.

0:35:06.960 --> 0:35:11.359
<v Speaker 1>That is so interesting. Oh how we change? Yes, but

0:35:11.480 --> 0:35:11.839
<v Speaker 1>I don't.

0:35:11.960 --> 0:35:12.799
<v Speaker 2>I don't know if that's right.

0:35:12.880 --> 0:35:16.480
<v Speaker 1>Okay, too, Okay, but it's an interesting fantasy. In fantasy,

0:35:17.120 --> 0:35:18.960
<v Speaker 1>I had heard that about him, which I did think

0:35:19.080 --> 0:35:20.600
<v Speaker 1>was also super interesting.

0:35:20.960 --> 0:35:24.000
<v Speaker 3>Yes, And also when I look back on the book,

0:35:24.360 --> 0:35:30.680
<v Speaker 3>I realized he was looking for a very serious relationship.

0:35:30.920 --> 0:35:33.920
<v Speaker 3>He wanted to get married, and I was so not

0:35:34.360 --> 0:35:37.319
<v Speaker 3>there got it. I mean he was saying things like, oh,

0:35:37.360 --> 0:35:38.960
<v Speaker 3>we should have a baby, and I was like.

0:35:39.680 --> 0:35:44.120
<v Speaker 1>No way, Yes, that's interesting. So I thought that we

0:35:44.160 --> 0:35:47.600
<v Speaker 1>didn't put that in. We don't have that. No, wow,

0:35:47.760 --> 0:35:48.640
<v Speaker 1>very fast, so.

0:35:48.640 --> 0:35:51.400
<v Speaker 3>That you know, so that you know, so in the

0:35:53.160 --> 0:35:55.719
<v Speaker 3>I mean, it followed a trajectory. But I feel like

0:35:55.800 --> 0:36:00.440
<v Speaker 3>in the first two seasons it was pretty it was

0:36:00.560 --> 0:36:01.920
<v Speaker 3>pretty realistic.

0:36:02.080 --> 0:36:04.120
<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, good, that's good to me.

0:36:04.360 --> 0:36:07.279
<v Speaker 3>I wonder I like, you know, you know the way

0:36:07.440 --> 0:36:10.160
<v Speaker 3>Carrie was like even when she goes to the church

0:36:10.320 --> 0:36:13.120
<v Speaker 3>to see his mother. Right, it's like, you know, that

0:36:13.239 --> 0:36:15.359
<v Speaker 3>was the kind of stuff that we did back then, right,

0:36:15.480 --> 0:36:18.600
<v Speaker 3>I know, it's kind of I mean it's yeah, it's

0:36:19.120 --> 0:36:22.759
<v Speaker 3>now when I look back on it, it's like, I

0:36:22.760 --> 0:36:25.680
<v Speaker 3>don't even know how we did that. But I mean

0:36:26.040 --> 0:36:27.960
<v Speaker 3>there was like a guy was in love with when

0:36:27.960 --> 0:36:29.960
<v Speaker 3>I was twenty years old, and I used to go

0:36:30.040 --> 0:36:33.239
<v Speaker 3>and sit on a park bench in front of his

0:36:33.400 --> 0:36:35.280
<v Speaker 3>building and wait.

0:36:35.120 --> 0:36:38.640
<v Speaker 2>For him to come home. I mean, come, oh and

0:36:38.800 --> 0:36:42.520
<v Speaker 2>wany god, nobody would ever do that.

0:36:43.160 --> 0:36:45.560
<v Speaker 1>Well, no, we wouldn't have to. We would stalk them

0:36:45.560 --> 0:36:49.560
<v Speaker 1>on Instagram or TikTok or whatever exactly right, exactly, but

0:36:49.880 --> 0:36:51.040
<v Speaker 1>you'd have to go in person.

0:36:51.200 --> 0:36:54.480
<v Speaker 3>It's like, you know, it's like, yeah, I mean so

0:36:54.760 --> 0:36:56.880
<v Speaker 3>I get it because I feel like I was you know,

0:36:56.960 --> 0:36:59.160
<v Speaker 3>it's a girl. Yeah, yeah, he's like, I'm going to

0:36:59.239 --> 0:37:02.120
<v Speaker 3>get this guy. I'm going to show up and he's

0:37:02.120 --> 0:37:03.960
<v Speaker 3>going to fall in love with me. Well, I mean

0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:05.680
<v Speaker 3>nowadays it's like that.

0:37:05.560 --> 0:37:07.720
<v Speaker 2>Will not work. But it won't.

0:37:08.160 --> 0:37:11.799
<v Speaker 3>No, that's what these experts on TikTok say.

0:37:11.840 --> 0:37:14.360
<v Speaker 2>The men, really the men, The men.

0:37:14.360 --> 0:37:15.439
<v Speaker 1>Okay, what do men say?

0:37:15.800 --> 0:37:18.959
<v Speaker 2>They say things like don't approach a guy in a bar.

0:37:19.400 --> 0:37:23.279
<v Speaker 3>What, Yes, because it's such odd behavior that the man

0:37:23.320 --> 0:37:27.960
<v Speaker 3>will immediately think that you are, you know, unhinged.

0:37:28.520 --> 0:37:29.320
<v Speaker 1>This is bizarre.

0:37:29.480 --> 0:37:30.920
<v Speaker 2>This is bizarre.

0:37:31.360 --> 0:37:34.480
<v Speaker 1>And this is another change that is fascinating. Yes, and

0:37:34.480 --> 0:37:35.880
<v Speaker 1>I would have seen this coming.

0:37:36.960 --> 0:37:39.279
<v Speaker 3>Never because I remember we used to go up to

0:37:39.360 --> 0:37:40.440
<v Speaker 3>men and bars all.

0:37:40.320 --> 0:37:42.960
<v Speaker 1>The time, right, and I thought that was a good thing.

0:37:43.239 --> 0:37:44.920
<v Speaker 2>Yes, it was.

0:37:45.239 --> 0:37:48.960
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so weird. See that's a weird and interesting thing too,

0:37:49.080 --> 0:37:53.000
<v Speaker 1>because like in some ways we're talking about women who

0:37:53.040 --> 0:37:57.360
<v Speaker 1>are I don't know older, questioning you know the validity

0:37:57.400 --> 0:38:00.840
<v Speaker 1>of a heterosexual relationship. Then on the other hand, we

0:38:00.920 --> 0:38:03.120
<v Speaker 1>have men on TikTok saying, don't approach a man in

0:38:03.239 --> 0:38:05.920
<v Speaker 1>bar because they might think you're crazy. Like, it's a

0:38:06.080 --> 0:38:08.000
<v Speaker 1>very weird dichotomy going on.

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<v Speaker 3>It is, it's wacky, it is there's been a lot

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<v Speaker 3>of It feels like there's a lot of separation between

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<v Speaker 3>the sexes just sad yes, in a way that there

0:38:21.880 --> 0:38:25.600
<v Speaker 3>wasn't before. And I also see a lot of women

0:38:26.080 --> 0:38:31.239
<v Speaker 3>on these dating reality shows. If the guy voted Republican,

0:38:31.960 --> 0:38:33.439
<v Speaker 3>they ain't ending up with him.

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<v Speaker 1>They're like, no, I don't watch any of those shows

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<v Speaker 1>because I find them depressing. But anyone who might be

0:38:41.960 --> 0:38:44.000
<v Speaker 1>on those shows, listen to Candace because she knows what

0:38:44.040 --> 0:38:47.640
<v Speaker 1>she's saying. Okay, I know nothing about that. Now let

0:38:47.719 --> 0:38:49.840
<v Speaker 1>me get back on track of I have literally so

0:38:49.880 --> 0:38:51.719
<v Speaker 1>many questions for you, and then we have to think

0:38:51.719 --> 0:38:54.680
<v Speaker 1>about the actual episode. Right, Yes, but this is so cool.

0:38:54.719 --> 0:38:56.840
<v Speaker 1>So let's just go back to where we were in

0:38:56.920 --> 0:38:59.760
<v Speaker 1>terms of the show and third season when it hit big,

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<v Speaker 1>right when we got nominated for the Emmy, which we

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<v Speaker 1>never believed would happened. I remember Darren and I used

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<v Speaker 1>to make jokes first and second season about him maybe

0:39:07.719 --> 0:39:10.360
<v Speaker 1>one day we would get nominated for a Cable Ace Award,

0:39:10.680 --> 0:39:13.200
<v Speaker 1>something that they got rid of real quick, do you remember,

0:39:13.520 --> 0:39:18.759
<v Speaker 1>because Cable became like the prestige you know, content provider, right,

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<v Speaker 1>and then suddenly one morning we get the call that

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<v Speaker 1>we have been nominated for an Emmy.

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<v Speaker 3>It was insane. See it didn't seem strange to me.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, because it was like, the show's brilliant. I

0:39:31.080 --> 0:39:33.719
<v Speaker 3>always thought the show was brilliant. I did got it.

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<v Speaker 3>That's good, you know, good for you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I thought it seemed you know, it seemed very normal.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, I wasn't person right, you didn't come

0:39:45.560 --> 0:39:48.600
<v Speaker 3>from the TV from the TV world. So for me

0:39:48.680 --> 0:39:51.239
<v Speaker 3>it was like, oh, of course we got nominated, got

0:39:51.280 --> 0:39:54.080
<v Speaker 3>it for an Emmy. But I remember I was staying

0:39:54.080 --> 0:39:59.600
<v Speaker 3>at Darren's house during the ammy's and he was like, oh,

0:39:59.680 --> 0:40:02.680
<v Speaker 3>we got nominated. You know you're gonna go. I didn't

0:40:02.719 --> 0:40:07.040
<v Speaker 3>get to go. I had to sit in the HBO room.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah yeah, yeah, and then I could go to the

0:40:09.920 --> 0:40:10.800
<v Speaker 3>parties afterward.

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<v Speaker 2>But they're the best part. But yeah, it was like

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<v Speaker 2>it was really exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>It was exciting. I mean, it was exciting for us

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't think that we thought that it would

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<v Speaker 1>ever happen, right, And I think that we thought that

0:40:26.719 --> 0:40:28.359
<v Speaker 1>it was fine. I think that we thought we would

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<v Speaker 1>be like a little cult hit, you know, like Larry Sanders, right,

0:40:31.360 --> 0:40:34.960
<v Speaker 1>like that type of like beloved in the industry maybe

0:40:34.960 --> 0:40:38.600
<v Speaker 1>but not widespread. And then you know the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>people cared and were so invested.

0:40:42.440 --> 0:40:44.800
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's just so amazing, really invested.

0:40:44.920 --> 0:40:50.280
<v Speaker 3>And I remember at the New York Observer them saying

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<v Speaker 3>to me, I guess it was like maybe it was

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<v Speaker 3>like the when the third season started, I'm saying, like,

0:40:57.960 --> 0:41:01.279
<v Speaker 3>you know what, now Sex in the City is made

0:41:01.360 --> 0:41:05.839
<v Speaker 3>being single really really cool. Wow, being single in your

0:41:05.880 --> 0:41:07.520
<v Speaker 3>thirties and everybody's watching it.

0:41:07.560 --> 0:41:09.960
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, wow, that's great.

0:41:10.360 --> 0:41:12.560
<v Speaker 1>It is great, And I mean wish it were still

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<v Speaker 1>true because I still feel like people just have this

0:41:15.640 --> 0:41:19.200
<v Speaker 1>desire to couple everybody up, you know, don't you feel

0:41:19.480 --> 0:41:23.560
<v Speaker 1>I mean, even though I think women maybe have more choices,

0:41:23.640 --> 0:41:26.960
<v Speaker 1>I think like society at large is always like why

0:41:26.960 --> 0:41:29.680
<v Speaker 1>are you single? Why are you single? Why are you single?

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<v Speaker 3>Well, you know, now there are more and more single women,

0:41:33.600 --> 0:41:35.840
<v Speaker 3>which is great. I think it's like fifty one percent

0:41:35.960 --> 0:41:40.160
<v Speaker 3>of the population. No way, Yes, fifty one percent of

0:41:40.760 --> 0:41:42.239
<v Speaker 3>women over.

0:41:43.560 --> 0:41:46.680
<v Speaker 2>Eighteen are single. That's amazing.

0:41:46.920 --> 0:41:51.279
<v Speaker 3>Yes, and it used to be forty three percent in

0:41:51.320 --> 0:41:55.799
<v Speaker 3>like twenty twelve. Wow, it's increasing, and it really is

0:41:55.840 --> 0:42:01.120
<v Speaker 3>increasing amongst young women. So it's really the young women

0:42:01.200 --> 0:42:07.920
<v Speaker 3>who I see on social media who are questioning, like,

0:42:08.440 --> 0:42:11.839
<v Speaker 3>you know, what am I getting out of a heterosexual relationship?

0:42:11.880 --> 0:42:15.279
<v Speaker 3>You know, I'm doing all this work. Yes, he's kind

0:42:15.280 --> 0:42:20.560
<v Speaker 3>of disrespectful, he's cheating on me. Oh no, and he's

0:42:21.040 --> 0:42:23.640
<v Speaker 3>not treating me the way that I want to be treated,

0:42:23.640 --> 0:42:28.640
<v Speaker 3>and I'm super stressed, and I just don't I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think that's amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>So I wish I had asked those questions in my

0:42:32.520 --> 0:42:35.080
<v Speaker 1>twenties for goodness sake, I know, but we couldn't.

0:42:35.200 --> 0:42:38.400
<v Speaker 3>No, no, we had to toe the line of you know,

0:42:38.760 --> 0:42:41.120
<v Speaker 3>a relationship much weird of us.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I don't even know if I thought it

0:42:43.280 --> 0:42:45.239
<v Speaker 1>was going to save me. I just felt like I

0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:47.399
<v Speaker 1>was supposed to do that, you know what I mean.

0:42:47.840 --> 0:42:50.640
<v Speaker 1>And I just also like, when I look back at

0:42:50.640 --> 0:42:54.200
<v Speaker 1>the shows from first season, mister Big is so aloof

0:42:55.200 --> 0:42:59.440
<v Speaker 1>to Gary and she is so adorable and trying so

0:42:59.680 --> 0:43:02.480
<v Speaker 1>hard and trying different things tru I mean, and she's

0:43:02.560 --> 0:43:04.239
<v Speaker 1>kind of trying to hide herself. And then at one

0:43:04.320 --> 0:43:06.520
<v Speaker 1>episode she talks about like, I don't even show him

0:43:06.520 --> 0:43:09.879
<v Speaker 1>my real self exactly. It's such a great, great episode

0:43:10.200 --> 0:43:13.719
<v Speaker 1>because you know, she's amazing. Of course she should show

0:43:13.760 --> 0:43:17.200
<v Speaker 1>him her real self. She's unbelievable, right, And obviously that

0:43:17.360 --> 0:43:20.799
<v Speaker 1>is also just maturity. It's a conversation you have with

0:43:20.840 --> 0:43:23.560
<v Speaker 1>yourself at a certain point of like, if I'm actually

0:43:23.560 --> 0:43:25.279
<v Speaker 1>going to be with someone, I need to actually be

0:43:25.360 --> 0:43:28.800
<v Speaker 1>my authentic self obviously. But it was so great because

0:43:29.120 --> 0:43:31.200
<v Speaker 1>and he would do that thing where she would try

0:43:31.200 --> 0:43:33.600
<v Speaker 1>to get him to talk, like for like the whole

0:43:33.640 --> 0:43:36.800
<v Speaker 1>beginning of the first season, and he would evade, evade, evate,

0:43:37.080 --> 0:43:39.960
<v Speaker 1>But then his actions like he'd she says, I want

0:43:39.960 --> 0:43:42.640
<v Speaker 1>to stand alone with you, you know, stand still with you

0:43:43.160 --> 0:43:45.279
<v Speaker 1>in the city of seven million people or whatever it

0:43:45.360 --> 0:43:48.279
<v Speaker 1>was back then, and he's like, oh, you're in the

0:43:48.320 --> 0:43:50.200
<v Speaker 1>back and I'm in the front of the park. He

0:43:50.239 --> 0:43:52.319
<v Speaker 1>complains and complains, but then he stands still with her

0:43:52.400 --> 0:43:55.560
<v Speaker 1>under the moonlight. Do you remember this, Like his actions

0:43:55.760 --> 0:43:59.160
<v Speaker 1>kind of give her what she wants over some hope.

0:43:59.360 --> 0:44:03.759
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think today it would be called breadcrumbing. Hang,

0:44:03.920 --> 0:44:08.120
<v Speaker 3>oh my god, you are where he gives her these

0:44:08.200 --> 0:44:15.440
<v Speaker 3>little bits. I mean, I think like in today's dating landscape,

0:44:15.440 --> 0:44:19.279
<v Speaker 3>if you look at their relationship in those first couple

0:44:19.320 --> 0:44:25.520
<v Speaker 3>of seasons, you know, I I like, I understand it's

0:44:25.680 --> 0:44:31.160
<v Speaker 3>hard to look at that relationship through today's lens because

0:44:31.280 --> 0:44:36.359
<v Speaker 3>he is so aloof and he is so noncommittal, and

0:44:36.600 --> 0:44:40.040
<v Speaker 3>she is trying to turn herself into whatever she thinks

0:44:40.120 --> 0:44:45.319
<v Speaker 3>the man wants, which is what women did back then.

0:44:45.880 --> 0:44:49.720
<v Speaker 3>Women were told to turn yourself into what the guy wants,

0:44:50.280 --> 0:44:53.520
<v Speaker 3>and that's how you will get him. And you know,

0:44:53.640 --> 0:44:57.120
<v Speaker 3>there are still some women out there on social media

0:44:57.120 --> 0:45:02.360
<v Speaker 3>who are saying just you know, like become what he wants.

0:45:02.840 --> 0:45:05.400
<v Speaker 1>I mean, that's saying that never goes away. I think,

0:45:05.640 --> 0:45:07.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, and I don't even know what's happening with

0:45:07.640 --> 0:45:11.080
<v Speaker 1>this tradwife situation, but like like that, like what is it? Like?

0:45:11.160 --> 0:45:13.440
<v Speaker 1>What on earth? Do you know? What I mean? I mean,

0:45:13.480 --> 0:45:17.239
<v Speaker 1>we've got some women questioning the validity of a heterosexual relationship,

0:45:17.440 --> 0:45:19.440
<v Speaker 1>and then we've got tradwives, yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Cream And the thing that's so interesting to me is

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<v Speaker 3>also there's this huge interest in romance like romance novels,

0:45:31.200 --> 0:45:36.560
<v Speaker 3>and now it's romanticy. It's basically a romance with a

0:45:37.480 --> 0:45:40.920
<v Speaker 3>something out of a fantasy, like a dragon, like a dragon.

0:45:40.920 --> 0:45:44.719
<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, okay, exactly Game of Thrones, thank you very much.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, then at the same time we have there

0:45:48.920 --> 0:45:53.239
<v Speaker 3>is a real movement also of women saying, you know,

0:45:53.360 --> 0:45:57.560
<v Speaker 3>I'm not going to do what society is telling women

0:45:57.600 --> 0:46:00.480
<v Speaker 3>to do. But at the same time, like the romance

0:46:00.560 --> 0:46:04.080
<v Speaker 3>is bigger than ever. So it's falcinating acotomy. It's very

0:46:04.120 --> 0:46:07.319
<v Speaker 3>fascinating and strange. I wonder what's going to happen. We

0:46:07.440 --> 0:46:07.879
<v Speaker 3>never know.

0:46:08.040 --> 0:46:10.640
<v Speaker 2>Don't ask me, I know, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>No, don't don't und don't no, no, don't gloom and

0:46:14.160 --> 0:46:16.040
<v Speaker 1>do I mean, it might be coming, but let's not

0:46:16.080 --> 0:46:19.200
<v Speaker 1>think about it if it is exactly so, Candace, thank

0:46:19.239 --> 0:46:22.400
<v Speaker 1>you for being with us this whole week. Two episodes

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<v Speaker 1>of Candace Bush Now, yay, that's fantastic. Candace has been

0:46:27.800 --> 0:46:29.840
<v Speaker 1>so great to take us back to the beginning of

0:46:29.880 --> 0:46:32.520
<v Speaker 1>the show and also to remind us that she has

0:46:32.640 --> 0:46:36.520
<v Speaker 1>written and is performing a one woman show, also about

0:46:36.840 --> 0:46:39.319
<v Speaker 1>writing the column and the book that became Sex in

0:46:39.360 --> 0:46:41.760
<v Speaker 1>the City and it is called True Tales of Sex,

0:46:42.080 --> 0:46:45.200
<v Speaker 1>Success and Sex and the City the tour and she's

0:46:45.200 --> 0:46:48.640
<v Speaker 1>been all around the world with this tour. Congratulations, thank you.

0:46:48.760 --> 0:46:51.680
<v Speaker 3>It's amazing and it's coming to New York and this

0:46:51.920 --> 0:46:55.040
<v Speaker 3>will be at Sony Hall on May sixteenth.

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<v Speaker 1>Awesome, that's amazing. And congratulations on all of your so

0:46:59.000 --> 0:47:02.080
<v Speaker 1>many New York Times sellers and everything that you do. Oh,

0:47:02.200 --> 0:47:03.280
<v Speaker 1>thank you. You're welcome.

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<v Speaker 3>M