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Speaker 1: planted in the past will grow into flowers or weeds today.
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Speaker 1: We think of things as quite instant and right now.
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Speaker 1: Jay Sheidjou. Hey, everyone, welcome back to a very special
Speaker 1: episode of On Purpose. Today is my birthday, and so
Speaker 1: I wanted to do a very special reflection birthday episode
Speaker 1: where I get super deep, super vulnerable and open up
Speaker 1: to you about the lessons I've learned, insights I've gained,
Speaker 1: purification I've had to go through, and challenges I've overcome
Speaker 1: in the last twelve months. Now, I'm really excited to
Speaker 1: dive into this episod, but before I do that, I
Speaker 1: want to thank each and every one of you for
Speaker 1: choosing On Purpose this year. It has made a huge
Speaker 1: difference to our community, It's made a huge difference to me,
Speaker 1: and I hope that you will subscribe, leave a review,
Speaker 1: and share this episode with a friend. I am so
Speaker 1: grateful for your ongoing support and I couldn't do this
Speaker 1: without you. Now, as I sat down to think about
Speaker 1: this episode and introspect, I realized that there were twelve
Speaker 1: key lessons that I've learned in the last twelve months,
Speaker 1: and I think it's important. I challenged myself to think
Speaker 1: of twelve lessons because I believe that every month has
Speaker 1: something for me to learn. Every month of the year
Speaker 1: has something for me to have to encapsulate into a
Speaker 1: line of wisdom, a quote, a thought, a reflection that
Speaker 1: I can carry on into the next. The reason why
Speaker 1: we make the same mistakes again and again is because
Speaker 1: we don't learn the lesson we need to learn again
Speaker 1: and again. We miss the signs, we miss the opportunity,
Speaker 1: we miss the chance to learn and grow, and so
Speaker 1: we fall fail and make the same mistake again. The
Speaker 1: reason why I do this episode, and I recommend you
Speaker 1: do it around your birthday as well, is because it
Speaker 1: gives you the opportunity to make sure that you're carrying
Speaker 1: the wisdom of your last year into the next. And
Speaker 1: for those of you who are wondering, yes, I'm a
Speaker 1: virgo in case you hadn't forget it out just yet,
Speaker 1: and I'm just so happy that I get to share
Speaker 1: these lessons with you. Here's lesson number one. The seeds
Speaker 1: you planted in the past will grow into flowers or
Speaker 1: weeds today. What you experience is what you planted a
Speaker 1: long time ago. This is how karma works. Don't be
Speaker 1: mad at what grows focus on planting good seeds. How
Speaker 1: many times have you had it when something happens and
Speaker 1: you're thinking to yourself, I've been doing everything right, I've
Speaker 1: been doing good, I've been working hard, I've been acting appropriately,
Speaker 1: I've been really focused on service and making a difference,
Speaker 1: And all of a sudden, some surprise comes in your way,
Speaker 1: something that you weren't expecting, something that feels like you
Speaker 1: don't deserve it, and you probably don't. But what you
Speaker 1: realize when you recognize the power of karma, is that
Speaker 1: there was a weed you planted years ago, and today
Speaker 1: that weed has grown and is now affecting your life.
Speaker 1: And sometimes the most beautiful things happen to us. We
Speaker 1: meet someone amazing, we get an amazing opportunity in our careers,
Speaker 1: someone spots our talent, something phenomenal happens for us, and again,
Speaker 1: we didn't do anything different. Now, it was a seed
Speaker 1: that we planted many months, many years ago. So our
Speaker 1: life is like a garden, and the seeds and weeds
Speaker 1: that we planted months and years ago are growing today
Speaker 1: into either flowers or weeds, and then we're experiencing either
Speaker 1: the beautiful scent of that flower or we're experiencing the
Speaker 1: tightness of that weed around us in that moment. It's
Speaker 1: so easy to get bitter in that moment, it's so
Speaker 1: easy to be angry, and all of those feelings are valid,
Speaker 1: they're okay. But the behavior we want to see is
Speaker 1: the acceptance. The Vaders talk about this idea of one
Speaker 1: who can accept something as a reaction of their karmas
Speaker 1: of a seed that they planted a long time ago.
Speaker 1: To that person, they experienced liberation and peace. It's the
Speaker 1: acceptance that maybe there's somewhere in my journey that I
Speaker 1: acted in a certain way. Maybe there's some conversation that
Speaker 1: I said something. Maybe there was one period where I
Speaker 1: did something, and now there's a reaction to that action
Speaker 1: that I took. And instead of focusing on that, I'm
Speaker 1: going to start planting even better seeds, and I'm going
Speaker 1: to uproot this weed by figuring out how it was
Speaker 1: planted in the first place. If you've ever tracked a
Speaker 1: weed through a garden, you start pulling it out and
Speaker 1: you can actually follow it and trace it to its
Speaker 1: root place. Remember, the seeds you planted in the past
Speaker 1: will grow into flowers or weeds today. Not everything is
Speaker 1: about what you did in the last thirty days. We
Speaker 1: think of things as quite we think of things as
Speaker 1: quite instant and right now. A lot of what we're
Speaker 1: experiencing is from a long time ago. Lesson number two.
Speaker 1: For some people in your life, envy is uncontrollable compared
Speaker 1: to their character. Make sure yours is the other way around.
Speaker 1: Envy will erode your life. It's a really interesting characteristic
Speaker 1: envy because it's that feeling of I wish I had
Speaker 1: that I deserve that they don't deserve, that they don't
Speaker 1: They shouldn't get that. Why did that happen to them?
Speaker 1: Why not me? And by the way we all go
Speaker 1: through this, I don't want you to sit there and
Speaker 1: shame yourself or make yourself feel guilty, or make yourself
Speaker 1: feel bad for this. We all experience envy in different ways,
Speaker 1: no matter how successful or how at the beginning of
Speaker 1: your journey you are. It's something that everyone experiences. Two
Speaker 1: of the questions I ask my clients when I'm first
Speaker 1: meeting them, the first is who do you envy? I
Speaker 1: always ask that because to me, it shows so much
Speaker 1: about what a person values. It shows so much about
Speaker 1: what they think is good, what they think is better
Speaker 1: than what they have, their level of gratitude, their level
Speaker 1: of character. And the second question I ask is who
Speaker 1: or what is your God? What do you idolize? What
Speaker 1: do you obsess over? And it's not just what we
Speaker 1: think in our minds, it's what we show by our actions.
Speaker 1: What I found is that for most of us, we're
Speaker 1: able to calm our envy. We're able to not act
Speaker 1: on it. We're able to coach ourselves talk ourselves out
Speaker 1: of acting on that feeling and emotion. But for some
Speaker 1: people it's uncontrollable. Their envy has reached such a height
Speaker 1: that they are prepared to do anything in order to
Speaker 1: express their envy. Now, if you're on the receiving end
Speaker 1: of this, it can be really difficult and challenging. It
Speaker 1: can be really hard to go through that. And if
Speaker 1: you have been, I know some of you have said
Speaker 1: to me in the comments before jay I had a
Speaker 1: friend of mine tell me that they were envious of me,
Speaker 1: and I struggle to be friends with them. Now, some
Speaker 1: people are bold enough to admit it to you, and
Speaker 1: some of you know, some of you know that there's
Speaker 1: someone in your life who's envious of your relationship. Someone
Speaker 1: who's envious of your promotion, someone who's envious of your
Speaker 1: recent vacation, envious of your wedding, and it can be
Speaker 1: a really uncomfortable feeling. What we have to recognize is
Speaker 1: that we don't want to meet envy with bitterness. We
Speaker 1: want to meet it with love. We want to meet
Speaker 1: it with a recognition that envy is eroding that person's life,
Speaker 1: and we don't want to partake in increasing our envy
Speaker 1: or increasing our ego. If we take joy or satisfaction
Speaker 1: in the fact that someone envies us, our ego grows,
Speaker 1: and if we get really uncomfortable, then our bitterness grows. Instead,
Speaker 1: we meet you with love. We remind ourselves, I'm really
Speaker 1: grateful for what I have, I'm really fortunate for what
Speaker 1: I have. I'm really thankful and blessed for what i have.
Speaker 1: Please never let me be envious of others, and please
Speaker 1: let me not be the cause of envy for others.
Speaker 1: Let them be purified just as I wish to be purified.
Speaker 1: Let me also move towards love in this moment. Lesson
Speaker 1: number three. People forget things quick, do the right thing
Speaker 1: and what's meaningful to you. Sometimes when you're doing good things,
Speaker 1: I'm sure you felt this before. You're hoping that your friends,
Speaker 1: your family, they celebrate it. You're hoping that the people
Speaker 1: around you recognize it, that they notice it, that they're
Speaker 1: able to partake in your achievements, and where you've got
Speaker 1: to People forget things quick. You may have done the
Speaker 1: most amazing thing and someone will forget in the next
Speaker 1: twenty four hours. People forget in the next seven days.
Speaker 1: I often think about the great music artists of the
Speaker 1: last ten, twenty, thirty, forty fifty, sixty seventy years and
Speaker 1: how quickly people are forgotten. People forget things quick, both
Speaker 1: good and bad. Do the right thing and what's meaningful,
Speaker 1: what's truly meaningful, and do it for that reason. Sometimes
Speaker 1: it's the opposite. Sometimes we're dealing with negativity. We're dealing
Speaker 1: with other people's judgments, we're dealing with other people's assumptions,
Speaker 1: and it doesn't feel great, and we just wish that
Speaker 1: they could see the truth. But guess what. People forget
Speaker 1: things quick. Do the right thing and what's truly meaningful,
Speaker 1: and do it for that reason. I've often found that
Speaker 1: that's the test. If you're doing good things for validation,
Speaker 1: or if you're dealing with negativity, hoping to change people's perception.
Speaker 1: Then you can fail on both accounts because you may
Speaker 1: never ever shift what someone thinks of you. You can't
Speaker 1: change what someone thinks of you. You can't change how
Speaker 1: much someone thinks about you. You can't change their perception
Speaker 1: of who you are. All you can do is do
Speaker 1: the right thing and what's truly meaningful. And when you
Speaker 1: do it, because it's the right thing, and because it's meaningful,
Speaker 1: you get to feel that validation yourself. You get to
Speaker 1: experience it deep within your heart. People forget things quick.
Speaker 1: Stop giving them so much importance. People will forget the
Speaker 1: best thing you did in a moment. People will forget
Speaker 1: the biggest thing you did in a moment. People will
Speaker 1: forget the most amazing thing you did in a moment.
Speaker 1: And if you're hoping that they'll validate you, they'll recognize you,
Speaker 1: they'll believe in you. Because of it, you'll always be
Speaker 1: running out and you'll always have to keep filling up.
Speaker 1: People forget things quick. Don't place your value in how
Speaker 1: much they value what you're doing, because if you do,
Speaker 1: you'll always feel devalued. Lesson number four, everyone sets goals,
Speaker 1: not everyone chooses growth. I've realized as I've been coaching people,
Speaker 1: as I've seen people grow and seen people achieve their dreams.
Speaker 1: I've had the fortune of seeing some amazing comebacks to industries,
Speaker 1: have seen some amazing moments of brilliance of people in
Speaker 1: their field. And I've noticed that the people who do
Speaker 1: get to where they want are not the people who
Speaker 1: have goals. They're the people who choose growth. See a
Speaker 1: lot of people have goals. We know that the studies
Speaker 1: show that eighty percent of people don't meet their New
Speaker 1: Year's resolutions. Setting a goal doesn't make you amazing. Setting
Speaker 1: a goal doesn't ensure anything. It's those who choose growth
Speaker 1: that experience the success of a goal. And I've seen
Speaker 1: over the last twelve months people that have mentored, people
Speaker 1: that have coached that those who chose the discomfort, those
Speaker 1: who chose the uncomfortable path, those who chose growth achieve
Speaker 1: their goals. So I'm always asking myself, not what's my goal,
Speaker 1: but what's required of me from the perspective of growth?
Speaker 1: What growth have I not yet made? Which is why
Speaker 1: my goal feels so far away. Your goal will feel
Speaker 1: further and further away until your growth is constantly expanding. Right,
Speaker 1: your goals will feel closer when your growth grows faster.
Speaker 1: So I'm always asking myself, the thing that's blocking me
Speaker 1: from my goal is my growth. So let me figure
Speaker 1: out how I need to grow. What skill is it,
Speaker 1: What habit is it? What mindset is it that I
Speaker 1: don't yet have that is holding me back? This one
Speaker 1: has been a big lesson for me of late. Don't
Speaker 1: let anyone deter you from your purpose. There's a beautiful
Speaker 1: verse in the Vedic literatures that says, when you protect
Speaker 1: your purpose, your purpose protects you. And I love this
Speaker 1: statement because we often think of our purpose as something
Speaker 1: we have to find. We think of our purpose as
Speaker 1: something we have to build. We think of purpose as
Speaker 1: something we have to create. Our purpose is something we
Speaker 1: have to protect. You already have it, you know it,
Speaker 1: but you've been veering away from it because of other
Speaker 1: people's expectations, other people's judgment, other people's criticism, other people's negativity.
Speaker 1: And you've gone so far away from it that you
Speaker 1: feel like you have to find it again. But you
Speaker 1: don't have to find it again. It's already there. It exists,
Speaker 1: and we have to learn to protect it. So I
Speaker 1: want to ask you, what is something that you haven't
Speaker 1: protected for a while. What is a part of you
Speaker 1: that you haven't protected, that you haven't shielded, that you
Speaker 1: haven't created boundaries around Because when you protect your purpose,
Speaker 1: your purpose protects you. I found that everything in life
Speaker 1: is trying to get you to stop living your purpose
Speaker 1: because it's the only way the game wins. It's the
Speaker 1: only way the material world wins is by distracting you
Speaker 1: from your purpose. The material world wins when it takes
Speaker 1: you away from that which you were meant to do,
Speaker 1: that which you're born to do, that which you are
Speaker 1: made for. And for so many of us, I find
Speaker 1: that it's okay to get distracted, but we have to
Speaker 1: find our way back, find our way back to protect it.
Speaker 1: Less number six. Your challenge is designed for you to
Speaker 1: become who you're meant to become. Don't ask how do
Speaker 1: I get over this or through this? Ask who is
Speaker 1: this asking me to become? And why am I avoiding
Speaker 1: the co Whenever you meet a challenge, when you're ready,
Speaker 1: after you've experienced the emotions, experience the pain, experience the stress,
Speaker 1: ask yourself, who is this asking me to become? Who
Speaker 1: is this calling me to be become And whenever I
Speaker 1: avoided this in the past, chances are we only get
Speaker 1: a really strong alarm sound when we've resisted the call before. Right,
Speaker 1: your alarm gets louder and louder and louder and louder
Speaker 1: in the morning when you ignore it. What's the call
Speaker 1: you've been ignoring that just got loud? Who are you
Speaker 1: being asked to rise to become? Who are you being
Speaker 1: asked and challenged to become? Who are you required to become?
Speaker 1: And why are you avoiding the call? Whatever challenge you're
Speaker 1: going through, know that you are designed for it, and
Speaker 1: it is designed for you. And when you approach it
Speaker 1: in that way, you get the strength that you need
Speaker 1: because you recognize you're built for this. You're made for this,
Speaker 1: You're designed for this, You're created for this. The resistance
Speaker 1: makes us feel weak. This is not for me. I'm
Speaker 1: not for it. I can't do this. It's not possible.
Speaker 1: It makes you weak. In the fight. You can strengthen
Speaker 1: in the fight. You can build in the fight, you
Speaker 1: can grow in the fight. I've seen my friends this
Speaker 1: year fight some incredible things, truly fight some incredible things,
Speaker 1: really difficult, challenging, moments. And it's because they chose to
Speaker 1: become what that situation was asking them to be, not
Speaker 1: who they wanted to be, not what they wanted in
Speaker 1: the moment, but what was required of them in that moment.
Speaker 1: And that leads nicely on to lesson number seven. You
Speaker 1: will let things define you if you don't define them first.
Speaker 1: So we let things define us when we just go
Speaker 1: with the flow and we think, Okay, that happened to me,
Speaker 1: it defined me. No, let me define it. Let me
Speaker 1: decide and define how I want this to change my life.
Speaker 1: Let me decide and define, fine, how I want to
Speaker 1: speak about this. And this is a really important point.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of us don't use these as
Speaker 1: opportunities to expand our emotional vocabulary, to expand how we
Speaker 1: perceive this moment. How can you learn to define and
Speaker 1: make a decision about how you're going to let something
Speaker 1: affect you? Right? I can either use a life changing
Speaker 1: moment to actually change my life or to continue living
Speaker 1: life the same way after a few days. It's my choice,
Speaker 1: it's your choice. Less number eight. Help can come from
Speaker 1: unlikely sources in unlikely ways. This year I had a
Speaker 1: lot of random sources of help. And one thing I've
Speaker 1: really learned is to remember that in between us now.
Speaker 1: The in between Ers was a TV show in the UK.
Speaker 1: Maybe it wise to maybe you didn't. It was about
Speaker 1: a bunch of awkward people at high school. But to me,
Speaker 1: the in betweeners are the people that introduce you to
Speaker 1: someone that you're now best friends with. The in betweeners
Speaker 1: are the people who helped you get that job even
Speaker 1: though it didn't benefit them. The in betweeners are the
Speaker 1: person that maybe even introduce you to the love of
Speaker 1: your life and you're no longer friends with them. Who's
Speaker 1: an in between er in your life? Help can come
Speaker 1: from unlikely sources and unlikely ways. And I promise you
Speaker 1: have someone important in your life today, or something important
Speaker 1: in your life today, and you have it because of
Speaker 1: an in between us. Someone you've forgotten about, someone you
Speaker 1: no longer know or stay in touch with it, or
Speaker 1: someone that you don't ever really show that gratitude to.
Speaker 1: This is a reminder to express your gratitude to the
Speaker 1: person you forgot about, to the person who introduced you
Speaker 1: to an amazing friend, to the person who helped you
Speaker 1: with your last job, to the person who maybe introduced
Speaker 1: you to the love of your life. But somewhere along
Speaker 1: the way you fell out. You forgot about them, they
Speaker 1: forgot about you. You disconnected. But that in between he
Speaker 1: is one of the most important people you'll ever meet.
Speaker 1: And help can come from those in between us. Sometimes
Speaker 1: when we least expect it, help can come from unlikely
Speaker 1: sources in unlikely ways. We have to be receptive to it.
Speaker 1: Sometimes we go to the same sources for help. We
Speaker 1: have to be open to the fact that there are
Speaker 1: other people out there with wisdom, with insight, with so
Speaker 1: many things that can help us if we simply open
Speaker 1: ourselves up to it less Number nine. Try to see
Speaker 1: things as an invitation, not an impediment. I was speaking
Speaker 1: of my friend Aloak who actually said this to me.
Speaker 1: How can every impediment be seen as an invitation? What
Speaker 1: does that mean? An invitation is letting you in. An
Speaker 1: impediment often feels like it's keeping you out right. We
Speaker 1: often think as blocks, as rejections, keeping us out. We
Speaker 1: didn't make it in so an invitation. When you look
Speaker 1: at it as an invitation, what is it inviting you into?
Speaker 1: May not be inviting you into the room you want
Speaker 1: to be in. It may not be inviting you into
Speaker 1: the career you want to be in. It may not
Speaker 1: be inviting you into the relationship you want to be in.
Speaker 1: What is it inviting you to reading between the lines?
Speaker 1: What is this impediment inviting me to be a part of?
Speaker 1: It may not be inviting me to be a part
Speaker 1: of the thing I want to be a part of.
Speaker 1: But there is something else. I've seen this over the
Speaker 1: years in my work in life. I remember when I
Speaker 1: first came to LA, I had been reached out to
Speaker 1: by a production company this is seven years ago that
Speaker 1: wanted to make a TV show with me, and I'd
Speaker 1: come to LA and we pitched this TV show which
Speaker 1: I thought was pretty cool, and no one wanted it,
Speaker 1: and everyone got reject ive, got regientted over town. But
Speaker 1: I became really good friends with a lot of people.
Speaker 1: I met people at streamers and production companies, and it
Speaker 1: was really to me because I realized that because I
Speaker 1: didn't get the opportunity to do the TV show I wanted,
Speaker 1: I had time and energy to build the podcast that
Speaker 1: I really wanted to do. I had time and energy
Speaker 1: to create content that I really believed in. I had
Speaker 1: time and energy to write the books I cared about.
Speaker 1: And it's funny because I think, if seven years ago
Speaker 1: I was given that show, maybe I would never have
Speaker 1: done all of this. And today I'm so grateful because
Speaker 1: it was an invitation to say, be independent, be entrepreneurial,
Speaker 1: be creative. And I think about all this amazing stuff
Speaker 1: I've been able to do, and the connection I've been
Speaker 1: able to build up with you was because of an impediment.
Speaker 1: It was because something didn't work out. Most things that
Speaker 1: work out are because other things didn't work out. Most
Speaker 1: things are created because other things were blocked. Think about
Speaker 1: in your life where you're chasing the same thing and
Speaker 1: waiting for permission, when actually you can let go of
Speaker 1: the desire for permission and focus on making progress in
Speaker 1: the things that you see as potential less than number ten.
Speaker 1: Sometimes to get to your dreams, you have to take
Speaker 1: the stairs. Sometimes you get to take the elevator, and
Speaker 1: sometimes you have to come through the roof Mission impossible style, right,
Speaker 1: And I think a lot of us want the elevator.
Speaker 1: We might take the stairs, and we don't really want
Speaker 1: to have to jump through the roof. In that scenario,
Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself, have you been waiting
Speaker 1: for that elevator for too long? Have you been waiting
Speaker 1: on that floor for that elevator to stop for way
Speaker 1: too long? And he keeps missing it, You keep missing it.
Speaker 1: How many of you have been resistant to take the
Speaker 1: stairs because of the climb, the steep climb. But now
Speaker 1: it's the time to go through that fire exit and
Speaker 1: take the stairs, even though it's twenty four floors that
Speaker 1: you've got to climb. And how many of you realize
Speaker 1: that now it's time to just go through the roof right,
Speaker 1: to really take that leap, take that risk. And so
Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself, what have you been resisting?
Speaker 1: Have you been weighing for too long? Have you not
Speaker 1: been weighing long enough? It's been a big lesson for
Speaker 1: me this year. Lesson number eleven. The people you leave
Speaker 1: behind will feel left behind no matter what you do.
Speaker 1: You can try to please them, you can try to
Speaker 1: make them feel included, you can try to make them
Speaker 1: feel involved in everything you're doing. But if they want
Speaker 1: to feel left behind, they will find a reason to
Speaker 1: feel left behind, and there's nothing you can do about it.
Speaker 1: You have to accept it and move on. I've had
Speaker 1: the fortune of seeing people stay connected with me even
Speaker 1: when I was hard to connect with. And I've seen
Speaker 1: others that have tried to stay connected with who've disconnected
Speaker 1: despite my efforts. People, you leave behind and will feel
Speaker 1: left behind no matter what you do. You can't stop
Speaker 1: growing because of that. You can't stop going because of that.
Speaker 1: But the thing you promise to yourself you won't do
Speaker 1: is be bitter towards them, Be upset towards them, be
Speaker 1: disappointed by them, because what that does is it pollutes
Speaker 1: your journey. It pollutes your path, It pollutes the purity
Speaker 1: of your intention, the purity of your purpose. When you
Speaker 1: fall prey to the idea that they should have come,
Speaker 1: they must do what I wish they would do. Unless
Speaker 1: the number twelve love is not enough, build squills, qualities,
Speaker 1: and characteristics. Don't over rely on love. I've seen this
Speaker 1: the people I've worked with. People have mentored love will
Speaker 1: get you only so far. Because people's capacity to love
Speaker 1: is limited by their capacity for eight. People's capacity for
Speaker 1: love is limited by their capacity for a lack of trust.
Speaker 1: We are only love, We're made of love. But because
Speaker 1: we've increased our capacity to be all these other things,
Speaker 1: we have decreased our capacity for love. And therefore the skills,
Speaker 1: the mindsets, the habits make up for what we lack
Speaker 1: in love, only to ultimately lead to love. I want
Speaker 1: to thank you for listening to my special birthday episode.
Speaker 1: I hope these lessons gave you something to think about,
Speaker 1: something to reflect upon. I hope you will continue to
Speaker 1: be a part of this community and share the messages
Speaker 1: you're learning here. I look forward to reconnecting with you soon.
Speaker 1: Don't miss out on episodes new ones every Monday and Friday.
Speaker 1: We've got like five hundred episodes for you to catch
Speaker 1: up on. If you're new here. Thanks for listening. Remember
Speaker 1: I'm forever in your corner and always rooting for you.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to this conversation. If
Speaker 1: you enjoyed it, you'll love my chat with Adam Grant
Speaker 1: on why discomfort is the key to growth and the
Speaker 1: strategies for unlocking your hidden potential. If you know you
Speaker 1: want to be more and achieve more this year, go
Speaker 1: check it out right now. You set a goal today,
Speaker 1: you achieve it in six months, and then by the
Speaker 1: time it happens, it's almost a relief. There's no sense
Speaker 1: of meaning and purpose. You sort of expected it and
Speaker 1: you would have been disappointed if it didn't happen