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Speaker 1: My mother in law disrespected me in front of my

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Speaker 1: husband's a fair partner, so I called her out. Oh my, So,

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Speaker 1: right after my husband and I got married, he was

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Speaker 1: served with paternity papers for a child he did not

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Speaker 2: Oh lovely, you get home. It's like, oh, baby, what

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Speaker 2: a wonderful honeymoon. This is so beautiful. Surprise, you're having

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Speaker 2: a fair baby.

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Speaker 3: Ooh gotcha, sucker eat it now.

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Speaker 1: A month before our engagement, a year before, he had

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Speaker 1: cheated on me with some random girl that was his friend.

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Speaker 1: The friend had gotten pregnant and never told him, I

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Speaker 1: think because she knew about me. And yes, I know

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Speaker 1: I should have left, but I have been trying to

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Speaker 1: make it work. I am now pregnant with his baby.

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Speaker 1: By the way, this comes from Important Rip nine eight

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Speaker 1: eight two from our size Okay story time, So submit

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Speaker 1: more insanity to our subreddit. We gotta love it. So

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Speaker 1: put in the baby's first birthday. My in law's had

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Speaker 1: her birthday party. The baby and the baby's mother live

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Speaker 1: in another day, I believe the affair baby. So at

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Speaker 1: the birthday party, my mother in law kept saying that

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Speaker 1: she wanted pictures of just my husband. The mistress and

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Speaker 1: the baby and we had brushed her off. Then she

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Speaker 1: wanted a picture in front of a backdrop that she created.

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Speaker 1: My husband stood up to take a picture and told

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Speaker 1: by saying she just wanted a picture with the three

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Speaker 1: of them, the husband, the affair partner, and the affair baby.

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Speaker 1: I didn't say anything, but my husband responded that she

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Speaker 1: was doing too much. He knew I was already uncomfortable.

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Speaker 1: I sat down and pictures were taken. At least he

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Speaker 1: bare minimum, this is already damp into the mood you

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Speaker 1: don't say. Eventually, my mother in law ended up crying

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Speaker 1: and running out of the room. She comes back saying

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Speaker 1: she feels disrespected. In response, I cut her off and

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Speaker 1: told her coldly that I don't want drama. I go

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Speaker 1: going to leave, but I come back in. I let

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Speaker 1: this go, and even afterwards I tried being amicable, such

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Speaker 1: as inviting them over for family meals. Eventually, other issues

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Speaker 1: with my mother in law surface. I'm trying to keep

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Speaker 1: this short, so I want to go into detail now.

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Speaker 1: Her and I ended up going to dinner to clear

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Speaker 1: the air. We started talking about the other issues. She

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Speaker 1: starts saying she's never disrespectful. I cut her off by

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Speaker 1: done and she is not talking anymore. So I left

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Speaker 1: after trying to pay the tab. Let's stop real quick.

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Speaker 1: Wow okay, so Riley, yes, Anthony, yes, oh wow, let's

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Speaker 1: talk about some conspiracy theories. There must be some tie

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Speaker 1: with the mistress and the mother in law. Yeah, why

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Speaker 1: would the mother in law favor the mistress?

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Speaker 2: This is good, you're insanity.

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Speaker 4: One, the mistress is a friend of OP. Two, My

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Speaker 4: conspiracy theory is that the mistress is a family friend

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Speaker 4: and that's why she's like really close. And three I

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Speaker 4: think that this is the mother's first grandchild, so that's

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Speaker 4: why she's like I want to put make it seemed

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Speaker 1: The first grandchild does make a lot of sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was it was not Op's friend, but the husband's friend. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so yeah, maybe maybe it was like a friend through

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Speaker 1: like some family friend ties or yea, yeah, husband's friend

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Speaker 1: which which still makes sense with your theory and the

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Speaker 1: first I mean, we've seen some insane first grand baby syndrome.

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Speaker 1: Usually it's with the adopted kids, where it's like there's

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Speaker 1: my real grandchild. But this maybe this grandma. This grandma

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Speaker 1: is like, oh no, this is my first blow. That's

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Speaker 1: all I need, mom, that's all I need. Well, afterwards,

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Speaker 1: I sent a text about boundaries, which included not disrespecting

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Speaker 1: due to my pregnancy, my mental health is what matters.

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Speaker 1: Back to Riley's point, I think her baby isn't born yet,

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Speaker 1: so this is currently the only outside baby, only grandchild

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Speaker 2: She never responded to the text.

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Speaker 1: Eventually, my father in law gets involved and says that

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Speaker 1: it wasn't her intent to be disrespectful. As an apology,

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Speaker 1: he says the picture was for the baby, so it

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Speaker 2: Was I disrespectful?

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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for being upset after my

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Speaker 1: mother in law wanted pictures of just my husband, his

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Speaker 1: mistress and their oopsie baby. That's literally what OPI wrote. Okay, guys,

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Speaker 1: we have an edit coming up. We have the end

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Speaker 1: of the story coming up and that edit. But let's

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Speaker 1: take a quick break before we get into that. Riley

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Speaker 1: and Anthony eskaway. Is OPI the a hole for being

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Speaker 2: Anthony?

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Speaker 5: Just to clarify a few things, there was a picture

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Speaker 5: being taken with the mother in law, the son, the mistress.

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Speaker 1: The affair baby, and the husband. So it's like the

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Speaker 5: A fair family, and she was not allowed in the

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Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, she was like exiled from the picture basically.

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Speaker 1: So she's like, why are you prioritizing an a fair

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Speaker 2: That's crazy? Was that the birthday? Was there a birthday

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Speaker 6: Yes, so hot take, cook, cook give it to a

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Speaker 6: hot take. That's not a crazy thing to do. That's

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Speaker 6: not a crazy thing to do to be like.

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Speaker 2: Neither did I. That's a good point to be made.

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Speaker 5: You know, like just put yourself in the shoes. It's

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Speaker 5: kind of fucked up that they're all kind of there

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Speaker 5: together like in this event. But it's not a crazy

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Speaker 1: I think that is a supervalil point. I didn't think

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Speaker 1: about that either. But you know what, guys, there's an edit.

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Speaker 1: So this escalated quickly. Yes, I know I am dumb

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Speaker 1: for staying, but we are working on it. There's complete

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Speaker 1: with him too, as I have told him all of

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Speaker 1: this is his faults. He has taken accountability and he

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Speaker 1: is trying to make things right. Yeah, there wouldn't be

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Speaker 1: an a fair family if he didn't have an affair.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I have the means and help from loved ones to leave,

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Speaker 1: I would be just fine as a single mother. I

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Speaker 1: have done it before with my now grown children. Uh

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Speaker 1: what so OPI has raised full grown children's and is

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Speaker 1: now having another baby doing it over so many flot twists.

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Speaker 3: How old is she?

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Speaker 1: She's like late thirties. She can have like, have a

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's what my mom did. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, because she's like forty five and she has like

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Speaker 4: one set and me set.

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Speaker 2: It happens, baby.

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Speaker 3: Wow.

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Speaker 1: My current pregnancy was not planned. Leaving is not completely

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Speaker 1: my mind. I have told him that his parents will

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Speaker 1: be part of the reason if we divorce. I have

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Speaker 1: had the divorce papers already signed and printed for a while.

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Speaker 2: Bro bom Opie's like it's locked and loaded.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, it's here.

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Speaker 2: I'll put it down for now, but it's right here.

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Speaker 3: I honestly do not know how I feel about that.

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Speaker 1: My husband wants his parents out after the last conversation.

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Speaker 1: My husband has always hated his mother and only has

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Speaker 1: custody of. Why didn't you mention that earlier? We wouldn't

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Speaker 1: want her to suffer because of the adult drama. She

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Speaker 1: is the reason why he's still been in contact. Is

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Speaker 1: they have always been actively involved in her life After

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Speaker 1: the last convo, he is contemplating that. By the way,

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Speaker 1: we're live every day at three pm PSC, So what

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Speaker 1: are you doing? Join us tap the profile, but Riley,

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Speaker 1: tap my brain with your takes. We're almost at the

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Speaker 1: her having the divorce papers locked and loaded?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, the divorce papers. People make mistakes, and this couple

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Speaker 4: decided to work through this mistake instead of divorcing through it.

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Speaker 4: It is very strange to me that she kind of

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Speaker 4: but does he know about it? What I don't want

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Speaker 4: to happen is that she's holding this over his head. Yeah,

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Speaker 4: like the next strong thing you do, you're out of here.

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Speaker 4: That doesn't seem healthy.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I hear what you're saying. I think.

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Speaker 1: I mean, he had in a full baby with his mistress,

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Speaker 4: But it was it was thirteen months before the engagement,

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Speaker 5: I don't think it's a mistress. If they're not together.

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Speaker 4: Oh okay my definition.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's where my head was.

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Speaker 1: They were like they were in a relationship the entire time,

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Speaker 1: like immediately after they got married, which means they didn't

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Speaker 3: Okay, so she has it ready.

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Speaker 1: I think she has it ready because when it all happened,

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Speaker 3: Gotcha.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, if your partner goes and has

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Speaker 1: drop some divorce papers and I have them locked and loaded,

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Speaker 1: not locked and loaded, but like I have them because

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Speaker 1: I drew them up when it initially happened, which sounds.

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Speaker 2: Like is what happened. I don't falter for that.

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Speaker 1: And I think like when you make a mistake that big,

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Speaker 1: the trust backed is like massive, And you know, to

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Speaker 1: your point, I do think there probably is a point

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Speaker 1: that there seems to be this like certain level of like, look,

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Speaker 4: The story was more the issue with the mother in law.

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Speaker 4: The edit is given context of their relationship. I don't

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Speaker 3: I got those divorce papers ready for you.

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Speaker 1: If it's literally every conversation, I would have that fight

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Speaker 2: That's clearly too much.

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Speaker 5: So, is Opie wondering whether she should divorce? Is that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're kind of discussing, like is it too much

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I think a couple more moves by the mom

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Speaker 1: Right, the first offense was the affair baby being created,

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Speaker 2: Okay, pieces do south?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think I'm closer to that side chat is

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Speaker 1: split fifty says too much, literally like almost on the

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Speaker 3: I thought it was gonna be like, nah, yeah, all good.

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Speaker 2: Blow.

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Speaker 1: Yes, well, let's get into this final part. So the

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Speaker 1: So basically they're like, oh, we didn't mean it, and

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Speaker 1: we got here. So the close things out here if

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Speaker 1: you stayed through the affair, baby being born, You've stayed

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Speaker 2: I feel like it's kind of been a little over

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Speaker 1: To Anthony's point in the beginning, them taking a family

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Speaker 3: Yeah, but also like, are you staying or not?

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Speaker 1: Oh? Honestly, I think I probably would have left in

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Speaker 5: Yeah, you can't go back in time, right, I can't.

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Speaker 2: Go back in time. I'm right here.

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Speaker 1: I think that I would probably say like, hey, look,

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Speaker 1: you're doing everything in your power, maybe not, maybe there's

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Speaker 4: I think that's the us seems to be doing everything

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Speaker 2: I think that the husband is doing a good job

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Speaker 3: So you stay in or nut.

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Speaker 1: You know, I think no, because I wouldn't want to

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Speaker 3: You were on the fence and this just tipped you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, especially if I've already stayed through the affair. Baby,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't want to make my life a

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm staying all right, plead your case. We already

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Speaker 4: work through the affair, baby and the family. This incident

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Speaker 1: I think to your credit, like showing the work that

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Speaker 2: You know, he can help with the kids and whatnot.

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Speaker 3: Because I don't know.

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Speaker 4: How hard it would be to find another partner that

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Speaker 5: That's what I'm thinking. It's like Opie has had kids already,

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Speaker 5: Like she's done the single mom thing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah already.

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Speaker 5: So it's like, Okay, maybe she just want to do

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Speaker 2: But could be better than better than not.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, although I mean although she the way she was

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Speaker 1: talking about it, she's like, I'm fine with being a

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Speaker 2: I've got a good career, I have.

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Speaker 1: Family support also, and so and so people in Poel

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Speaker 1: right now are voting sixty sixty eight percent.

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Speaker 2: Nah, sixty nine percent.

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Speaker 1: As in as in don't stay, as in don't stay

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Speaker 1: the relationship out there with you. Yeah, I think I

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Speaker 1: think I'm there, Anthony, where would you say you are?

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Speaker 2: I think it? Should I stay?

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Speaker 1: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Should I go?

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Speaker 5: I think at this point in time, I probably stay

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Speaker 5: until like the family does something that's just so in

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Speaker 2: I'm gone.

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Speaker 5: And maybe this already is that. But like you made

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Speaker 2: So there we have it. Hey got a split story. Well,

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Speaker 2: but you know what's better than a split.

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Speaker 3: Story, another story, the whole new story.

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Speaker 2: Let's get into it.