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Speaker 1: two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in that we are. Yes,

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Speaker 2: do we have new options for our dear Bania jingle?

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Speaker 3: I have not anything.

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Speaker 2: Call with the question. I have idea, dear, it's just

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Speaker 2: giving miss Rachel. What was the other one? Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, no we can't.

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Speaker 2: It's okay, the time will come.

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Speaker 1: I don't want the Miss Rachel one.

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Speaker 2: I know, I know, because yeah, that makes sense. We

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Speaker 2: just have to shoot from for.

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Speaker 1: More, for more. Yeah, for the golden globe. Yes, for

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Speaker 2: That is not a Golden Globe jingle.

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Speaker 1: No, it's not.

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Speaker 2: That's just and I, first of all, I haven't. I

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Speaker 2: his hard work.

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, no digs at all. Actually I give

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Speaker 1: I commend him for even putting that together, right right, right.

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Speaker 1: But I think that in order to get the Golden

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Speaker 1: need to be made.

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Speaker 2: What are they?

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Speaker 1: I don't know yet. Oh, I have to create an

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Speaker 2: One thing about us is we have a big idea.

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Speaker 1: But no follow through.

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Speaker 2: That and like no way of getting there. It's just

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Speaker 1: And the passion the heart.

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Speaker 2: Do we have that?

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Speaker 2: I do, really yes. But when you have the passion

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Speaker 2: the heart, there's normally follow through.

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Speaker 1: Not true, it takes two. But do you feel like

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Speaker 2: It takes you feel like like you feel like when

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Speaker 2: you you're putting in the works to get the Golden Globe,

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Speaker 2: you put in the work for that. It's just me

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Speaker 1: No, I have the passion to do it. I have

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Speaker 1: I do. Do I have the answer of how to

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Speaker 2: Yes, okay, okay, yeah?

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Speaker 1: How cool would it be if we were a Golden

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Speaker 1: Globe nominated Becca? We won? Here's the thing, we won

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Speaker 1: two People's Choice Awards. I feel like you're so flippant

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Speaker 2: It is not at all major. It's so major.

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Speaker 1: Do you think we have armchair expert? Armchair expert? One

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Speaker 2: Marke? But I think that the the thing is, since

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Speaker 2: we've won those podcasts, we haven't done anything to upgrade

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Speaker 2: are now being nominated a winning such as Call Her Daddy.

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Speaker 1: No, I mean, like, what are they doing that's leveling up?

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Speaker 2: They have video, they have Yeah, so the like massive

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Speaker 1: They sit right in those those those chairs every time.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but we're talking about someone who is a famous

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Speaker 2: they're they have a little bit. They don't have to

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Speaker 1: I see your points. However, it is not lost on

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Speaker 2: But do you think we could beat Oprah right now?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 2: Right, That's what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: No, we cannot.

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Speaker 2: We What I'm saying is we had the momentum. We

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Speaker 1: Just yeah, yeah, that was a tough tough one to swallow.

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Speaker 1: But what goes down must come back.

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Speaker 2: It's just that we got to make sure. We got

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Speaker 2: to make sure that our elevator isn't on a sinking ship. Yes,

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Speaker 1: It's Oh my gosh, I'm saying today, I'm just.

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Speaker 2: Saying, we gotta we gotta be We gotta lok in. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm locking in baby in more ways than one. Let

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you what does that mean.

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Speaker 1: You'll see. February first was like the start of the

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Speaker 2: January same thing to January was a wash.

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Speaker 1: I said, to hell with it.

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Speaker 1: Feb one knew me, Yeah, catch me March one. You

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Speaker 2: WHOA, what's gonna be different.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to therapy. I'm gonna make some action items,

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Speaker 1: make a vision board, and it'll all come together.

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Speaker 2: I love therapy. My therapist is so amazing.

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Speaker 1: I've been out of it for a minute and I'm

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Speaker 1: getting back in because your girl.

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Speaker 2: She's just the best. Should we get into deer Bonnie

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Speaker 2: speaking of therapy?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Mark, cue the song here comes.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna call with the question ONNYA my idea. Dear Bony, Who.

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Speaker 3: This is from?

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Speaker 4: Audrey Hi Beca Easton Marcantania. I'm a first time mom

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Speaker 4: to a seven month old baby named Raleigh. That is

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Speaker 4: a great name, our a w l u y Raleigh

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Speaker 4: your recent mentions if Gilmore girls maybe think of the

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Speaker 4: amazing other daughter relationship Laura Leon Rory have and how

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Speaker 4: I hope Rawley and I have a similar relationship one day.

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Speaker 4: What tips or advice do you have for building a

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Speaker 4: all seem to have such amazing relationship with your parents

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Speaker 4: and Mark, you seem to be raising strong modern women.

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Speaker 4: I'd love to know what has been a difference maker

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Speaker 4: for you. Thank you for always bringing the laughs in

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Speaker 4: sunshine each week. You were one of the many things

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Speaker 3: All the love, Audrey, that's a really cute name.

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Speaker 2: Rolly uh? Mark, why don't you start with a daughter?

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Speaker 4: I take no credit. My secret, as it were, is

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't want to take any credit, but I

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Speaker 1: You know, It's interesting because I feel like I was

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I also think like doing just thoughtful things. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I leave my job? Dear Banya and Meeston.

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Speaker 4: First of all, thank you so much for providing such

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Speaker 1: Girl girl, girl, girl, girl girl, you're asking the wrong

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Speaker 4: You gotta look around, look around, talk to other companies,

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Speaker 4: think you leave if you don't have something else lined up.

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Speaker 1: No, I think you have to have something. But how

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Speaker 4: Well, hey, talked about I also talking to your manager

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Speaker 4: is a good idea to say, hey, look, I'm up

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Speaker 4: for all this stuff. You keep saying positive things. What

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and if they don't, I think that's your sign

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Speaker 1: On your sign. She saw the sign.

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Speaker 5: Most managers, I think aren't like waking up every day

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Speaker 1: And definitely not.

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Speaker 5: You gotta let them know that you want that and

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Speaker 2: What's the quote that's like when you accept it's not acceptable,

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Speaker 2: love you deserve, But it's like you, uh you know

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Speaker 2: It's basically saying like when you're mistreated or like overlooked.

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Speaker 1: Yeah? What are you not seeing in me?

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Speaker 2: What are you seeing in other people that you're not

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: So that I can do the same.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, good luck. We're rooting for you. Work.

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Speaker 1: Stuff's tough. It's tough, girl.

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Speaker 2: We have a self centered friend issue coming up, but

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Speaker 2: we're gonna take a break and then we'll come back

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Speaker 2: We are back with a self centered friend from anonymous.

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Speaker 4: Dear Beckatania Market, Easton. I need advice on how honest

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Speaker 4: She's not a bad person, but she's in a phase

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Speaker 4: to her issues. I don't think she's doing it intentionally,

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Speaker 4: without having that big talk.

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Speaker 3: I don't want a loser, but.

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Speaker 4: I can't continue this current dynamic. I'm a day one

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Speaker 4: scrubber and can't thank you enough for everything. We love you, guys.

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Speaker 2: This is just one of those things where you're gonna

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, and I'm going to be here because

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Speaker 2: I love you and that's that's what friendship is. But

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Speaker 2: I don't feel like there's any space for me. And

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Speaker 2: I also am going through things and would love to

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Speaker 2: best friend should have a reaction of being like, oh

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Speaker 2: my gosh, you're so right, Like I have been so

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Speaker 2: focused on myself. I haven't I haven't even asked you

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Speaker 2: I don't know y'all's relationship, but she might get defensive.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because nobody wants to feel self centered.

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Speaker 2: No one wants to feel self centered. Yeah, But I

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Speaker 2: I would love if there's space for me in these conversations.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. I think having a conversation. I don't

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and she's probably she probably without you saying anything,

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Speaker 2: she's just like, oh, I'm just gonna keep talking about

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Speaker 2: Like she probably just thinks you're loving hearing about her life.

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Speaker 2: So I would just be like reassure her and also say, hey,

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Speaker 2: I want my best friend to be there for me too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's conversation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, don't walk away and don't walk up.

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Speaker 1: Don't walk away? What don't you want to see my hotteat?

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Speaker 1: And just is the Crambers, I don't want you seeing me?

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Speaker 1: Cray Hi, just walk away? Nobody knows.

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Speaker 3: That's all.

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Speaker 1: Okay, it's a bass Don't turn around, Don't turn around?

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Speaker 1: The classic?

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Speaker 2: Did you get the lyrics right?

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Speaker 1: Probably not? Mostly fair enough?

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Speaker 2: All right, we have a troget. We have a couple more,

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Speaker 3: Check it out, check it out? What ready? Yeah, Natalie?

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Speaker 4: Should My wife and I travel internationally with her sister,

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Speaker 4: My wife and I take one international trip a year.

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Speaker 3: I big thank you to the four of you for

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Speaker 4: I catch myself smiling and giggling. We're listening to you all,

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Speaker 1: Oh that's not Wow, Wow, big deal, honor deal.

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Speaker 2: What if y'all got separate airbnbs so that there was separation,

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Speaker 4: I think that would be not met not received well

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Speaker 2: I agree, But what what the other option would be

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Speaker 2: So if it were me, I would say, Hey, I

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Speaker 4: I think, as far as the sister's concerned, your best

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Speaker 3: It sounds great. Two, I'm sorry we can't make it.

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Speaker 4: Three is we'd love to come, but it's not spend

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Speaker 1: I'm leaning towards option two, not going, not going.

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Speaker 3: I think one. I think go have fun.

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Speaker 4: It's your sister, you don't see her very often, and

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Speaker 2: It's her wife's sister.

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Speaker 6: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: But there is a different type of like.

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Speaker 7: word I'm looking for, Like like you have a little

441
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Speaker 7: more tolerance and capacity when it's your blood related sister

442
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:07,920
Speaker 7: versus like I'm saying because she's the one who wrote in.

443
00:21:09,359 --> 00:21:12,679
Speaker 2: I will say this, Okay, traveling, what I hear is

444
00:21:12,720 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 2: traveling with a baby before one is the easiest time

445
00:21:17,800 --> 00:21:20,120
Speaker 2: while a child, Like while you have a child that's

446
00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:22,679
Speaker 2: like a baby like that, like the time before they

447
00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:25,200
Speaker 2: start walking is like the easiest time to travel with them,

448
00:21:25,280 --> 00:21:27,960
Speaker 2: is what I hear. So if you're gonna do this vacation,

449
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:30,320
Speaker 2: I would say do it now.

450
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:39,359
Speaker 1: I just feel like life, life's and things are happening,

451
00:21:39,480 --> 00:21:41,880
Speaker 1: and if this is your one chance of the year

452
00:21:42,119 --> 00:21:45,280
Speaker 1: to have that like uninterrupted time with your wife where

453
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:49,479
Speaker 1: you it's like your one trip together that is like

454
00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:52,879
Speaker 1: so precious. You know, you work really hard, life happens.

455
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Speaker 1: If you want to spend more time with your nephew,

456
00:21:58,960 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 1: perhaps a weekend a trip to Portugal is like a

457
00:22:01,560 --> 00:22:04,320
Speaker 1: big trip, you know, like that's a big trip.

458
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Speaker 4: What a blessing that you can take an international trip

459
00:22:06,720 --> 00:22:11,080
Speaker 4: every year? So yeah, another one next year, I say, go,

460
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Speaker 4: I say, And by the way, a key element to

461
00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 4: this that we don't have, how does your wife feel

462
00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:16,199
Speaker 4: about this? It's her family?

463
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Speaker 1: Well she said that her wife. No, her wife. They're

464
00:22:19,359 --> 00:22:22,720
Speaker 1: having reservations, which is why I am writing in all right, fine,

465
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:26,040
Speaker 1: the more people, the more complicated against.

466
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Speaker 3: That plays a big role because it is her family.

467
00:22:28,840 --> 00:22:29,359
Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you.

468
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Speaker 5: I'm with Tanya in this one. And I would like

469
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Speaker 5: permission to be a brat for a second.

470
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Speaker 2: Be a brat.

471
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Speaker 5: Here's what I'm thinking when I see this. The sister

472
00:22:37,760 --> 00:22:41,159
Speaker 5: and her husband want a babysitter, so they That's what

473
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Speaker 5: I'm thinking.

474
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Speaker 3: Hey can you watch the kid? Well we got to dinner.

475
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Speaker 5: That's probably not going to happen, but and you probably

476
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Speaker 5: be delighted.

477
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Speaker 3: To do it.

478
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Speaker 5: But that's where I'm thinking. And When I hear like

479
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:52,600
Speaker 5: new parents inviting other people, like wanting to go on

480
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,320
Speaker 5: vacation with another couple, I think they're looking for babysitters.

481
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Speaker 2: She did say yes for house for help, like she

482
00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 2: did acknowledge that that is probably a part of it,

483
00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 2: and it's you know that's that would annoy me.

484
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 5: I'm just saying, as a as a bar and childless man.

485
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Speaker 2: With the two airbnbs, I think it's a win win.

486
00:23:10,960 --> 00:23:13,600
Speaker 1: I think you get your compromise.

487
00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 2: You get to spend time with them when you want,

488
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:18,359
Speaker 2: and then you also have your separate time. Because it'd

489
00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 2: be different if if they were like, hey, we'll cover

490
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:22,760
Speaker 2: y'all to come stay with us and and help out

491
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Speaker 2: with the baby if we need it. They're not doing that.

492
00:23:25,119 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 2: Do you get your own airbnb? Go to Portugal is

493
00:23:28,119 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 2: amazing from what I hear, It's one of Hailey's favorite places.

494
00:23:30,680 --> 00:23:33,800
Speaker 2: You travel to and you both get an amazing trip

495
00:23:33,840 --> 00:23:35,720
Speaker 2: and you get to spend time with your sister in

496
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Speaker 2: law and your nephew.

497
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Speaker 1: Charge it to the game.

498
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Speaker 2: Well, that leads us to our last question, which is

499
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Speaker 2: the Love Island question.

500
00:23:42,720 --> 00:23:46,280
Speaker 3: An all right here it is, well, we need one

501
00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:46,720
Speaker 3: more break.

502
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:50,600
Speaker 1: Oh my god, if there's on the Love Island when.

503
00:23:50,480 --> 00:24:15,960
Speaker 4: We come back, great Kirsty Kirsty or Kirsty I'm not sure.

504
00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:17,600
Speaker 1: Which I think it's Kirsty.

505
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:19,600
Speaker 3: Okay, you just get the vibe from the font.

506
00:24:19,720 --> 00:24:22,280
Speaker 1: Well because it's not a why Okay, I think.

507
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:23,640
Speaker 3: Kirsty like Kirsty.

508
00:24:23,840 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 1: Wouldn't Kirsty be k why?

509
00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 3: Firstly? Day one scrubber here? Just love you both to bits.

510
00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:37,480
Speaker 4: My question in quotes today is for Tanya, mostly since

511
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:41,439
Speaker 4: she is my Love Island sister. I always loved Scott

512
00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:43,919
Speaker 4: in the other seasons and shows i've seen him on,

513
00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:46,119
Speaker 4: But do you think he's actually a bully on this

514
00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,879
Speaker 4: All Stars season? I don't like his behavior and I

515
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,800
Speaker 4: find myself really disagreeing with his behavior this season. How

516
00:24:51,800 --> 00:24:53,600
Speaker 4: do you feel about him and the others that have been.

517
00:24:53,520 --> 00:24:54,200
Speaker 3: Not so nice?

518
00:24:54,280 --> 00:24:56,879
Speaker 4: Love you well and thanks for your continuous positivity you

519
00:24:56,920 --> 00:24:57,600
Speaker 4: bring to the world.

520
00:24:58,080 --> 00:24:58,800
Speaker 3: There you go, Tanya.

521
00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:02,920
Speaker 4: Maybe you guys could just do it offline.

522
00:25:03,440 --> 00:25:06,640
Speaker 1: I did not pick Kirsten. Kirst to Kirsten, Okay. This

523
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: email was put upon us.

524
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:12,480
Speaker 2: Upon it us, it found you, it found me. Thank you, becha.

525
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:14,320
Speaker 1: This is a DM that I would respond to if

526
00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,080
Speaker 1: it were DM to me, and it was not. It

527
00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,840
Speaker 1: was emailed in, So here we go. I have never

528
00:25:18,960 --> 00:25:22,480
Speaker 1: watched any of Scott's prior seasons, and I was totally

529
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:27,359
Speaker 1: thrown off when he was voted the best liked guy

530
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:31,200
Speaker 1: on the island because I find him to be atrocious.

531
00:25:31,840 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 1: I think he's so mean. I think he came into

532
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:37,520
Speaker 1: the villa being mean to people. I feel like he

533
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: puts his nose in everybody's drama and I don't like him.

534
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 1: Hot take charge it, charge it. No, we're not charging

535
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:49,320
Speaker 1: it because I don't like it.

536
00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 2: Okay, So you agree with her. I agree he's a bully.

537
00:25:52,040 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 1: But I've never seen I haven't seen his past seasons,

538
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:57,359
Speaker 1: like to know that like he was beloved before, because

539
00:25:57,359 --> 00:26:00,720
Speaker 1: this season he's just been I mean bully. But he

540
00:26:00,760 --> 00:26:03,080
Speaker 1: was voted by the public as the most liked guy.

541
00:26:03,160 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: So I was just totally thrown off by that.

542
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,600
Speaker 2: Which we didn't talk about this on Monday's episode, but

543
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 2: Traders last week was crazy.

544
00:26:12,640 --> 00:26:17,840
Speaker 1: This show, this show is good.

545
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:22,240
Speaker 2: The spoiler alert, spoiler alert, do you feel like Rob

546
00:26:22,800 --> 00:26:23,280
Speaker 2: is playing?

547
00:26:23,359 --> 00:26:23,479
Speaker 7: Like?

548
00:26:23,520 --> 00:26:27,520
Speaker 2: Do you think? Okay? So here's the controversial take. Rob

549
00:26:28,560 --> 00:26:29,840
Speaker 2: threw Lisa under the bus.

550
00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:32,280
Speaker 1: He did not need to do that.

551
00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:34,400
Speaker 2: He didn't have to go so hard, but he committed

552
00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 2: and he did it. But then Candace. My thought was

553
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:42,639
Speaker 2: that Haley thinks that it set her up to be

554
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:44,880
Speaker 2: able to like that Rob's gonna have to play with her.

555
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:47,560
Speaker 6: Yes, yes, so you think that too, Yes, because I

556
00:26:47,600 --> 00:26:50,520
Speaker 6: felt brilliant moved by I felt like she should have

557
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 6: not played the game against Lisa and just been like, Okay,

558
00:26:55,200 --> 00:26:58,040
Speaker 6: I'm gonna be watching Rob, but I don't want it

559
00:26:58,080 --> 00:26:59,879
Speaker 6: to come across that we're all traders together.

560
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:04,000
Speaker 1: No, I fam with Haley. I think that Candace voting

561
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:08,760
Speaker 1: for Rob makes makes it now that Rob needs to

562
00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:12,399
Speaker 1: needs to play with Candace because if they if it

563
00:27:12,560 --> 00:27:16,800
Speaker 1: comes out that he goes for her next, they're gonna

564
00:27:16,840 --> 00:27:19,480
Speaker 1: be like, why then, why did Candace have that random

565
00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: vote for Rob? And then they're gonna get him?

566
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:22,120
Speaker 2: I see.

567
00:27:22,320 --> 00:27:24,639
Speaker 1: I think it was Candace being I thought it was

568
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:26,600
Speaker 1: so brilliant. I don't think she needed to say it

569
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:28,119
Speaker 1: was a throwway vote. I think she could have just

570
00:27:28,119 --> 00:27:29,959
Speaker 1: been like, I don't think it's either of them. I'm

571
00:27:30,040 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 1: voting for Rob.

572
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:33,879
Speaker 2: No, but I think a throwway vote made it didn't

573
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:37,280
Speaker 2: feel so traitory and immediately because I think without saying oh,

574
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,760
Speaker 2: it's a throwway vote, uh, people would have been.

575
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:42,119
Speaker 1: Like why yeah, yeah, what do you think about Rob?

576
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, you're right all right. I'm excited to see

577
00:27:45,240 --> 00:27:47,960
Speaker 2: how it plays out. I thought it was gone. I

578
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:48,359
Speaker 2: love her.

579
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,480
Speaker 1: I just feel like Rob did it dirty because I

580
00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 1: understand Lisa was a sinking ship. She was going home,

581
00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:55,160
Speaker 1: she was going to get voted off.

582
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:58,280
Speaker 2: However, I feel they also did a bad job defending herself.

583
00:27:58,359 --> 00:28:01,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, anytime, anytime anybody accuses you of being a trader,

584
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,800
Speaker 1: you always need to say I'm a faithful and she

585
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:08,800
Speaker 1: was just like I'm like, okay, her ship was sinking.

586
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 1: But Rob could have just voted for her. He didn't

587
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,080
Speaker 1: need to. He was doubling down and going in and

588
00:28:14,119 --> 00:28:17,000
Speaker 1: I don't think he needed to do that. I'm tired

589
00:28:17,040 --> 00:28:19,200
Speaker 1: of these men, these just hot men thinking they can

590
00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:20,200
Speaker 1: just run the show.

591
00:28:20,240 --> 00:28:21,160
Speaker 2: They can just be hot.

592
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: Yeah, and that's enough. Like no, and no, you're sitting

593
00:28:24,840 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: back and letting the girls do the dirty work and

594
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:32,160
Speaker 1: you're just sitting there playing chess. I'm over it. I'm

595
00:28:32,320 --> 00:28:32,960
Speaker 1: so over it.

596
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 2: Easton, Before we go, how is Hillary duff in New York?

597
00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:42,880
Speaker 5: Oh my god, you guys, what an incredible experience. I

598
00:28:42,920 --> 00:28:46,400
Speaker 5: want to thank producer Sam for inviting me along getting

599
00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:49,600
Speaker 5: me to New York. I mean, I did not think

600
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 5: I was gonna get to go to any of the shows,

601
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:54,479
Speaker 5: and I made it to New York City to see Hillary.

602
00:28:54,520 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 5: She was incredible. The new songs she played, I cannot

603
00:28:57,760 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 5: wait for that album to come out. Oh my god,

604
00:28:59,200 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 5: they're so good.

605
00:29:00,240 --> 00:29:01,560
Speaker 2: How many does she play in the show?

606
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:03,520
Speaker 5: She plays two that haven't come out.

607
00:29:03,440 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 2: Yet, four new ones, four new ones?

608
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:06,560
Speaker 3: Yes?

609
00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 5: How many songs total?

610
00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:10,080
Speaker 3: Like twelve?

611
00:29:10,840 --> 00:29:12,560
Speaker 1: That's a lot. Wait, and I wanted to shout out

612
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:15,000
Speaker 1: the scrubber that helped Crystal get tickets to what was

613
00:29:15,000 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 1: her name?

614
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,880
Speaker 5: Her name is Ashley. She helped Crystal, who works on

615
00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:20,840
Speaker 5: the show, get into the LA show. So we all

616
00:29:21,040 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 5: because Sam, Crystal and I have like a Hillary Duff

617
00:29:23,200 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 5: like superfan group chat. So it was really fun that

618
00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 5: all three of us got to go see Hillary on

619
00:29:27,320 --> 00:29:27,720
Speaker 5: this one.

620
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 1: So we wanted to thank Ashley for getting Crystaline.

621
00:29:30,240 --> 00:29:33,320
Speaker 5: Ashley, you are our guardian angel. Thank you so much

622
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 5: for doing that. It was it was great, it was

623
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:36,080
Speaker 5: the best.

624
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:37,640
Speaker 2: It was worth the track out there.

625
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

626
00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 5: Yeah, I went out during that snowstorm. I was going

627
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:42,560
Speaker 5: to go a day early and like hang out in

628
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:44,480
Speaker 5: New York, be a little Brooklyn boy, you know. And

629
00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:48,320
Speaker 5: then my flight got canceled, and every other flight got canceled,

630
00:29:48,600 --> 00:29:50,360
Speaker 5: so I took a red eye. I had like three

631
00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,040
Speaker 5: canceled flights. I took a red eye. They sent my

632
00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:55,480
Speaker 5: luggage to the wrong airport, so I had I landed

633
00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:57,080
Speaker 5: in New York. Then I had to go from Laguardian

634
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,000
Speaker 5: to JFK. I got my luggage, then I went to

635
00:29:59,040 --> 00:30:02,320
Speaker 5: the hotel. I worked, And I'm very blessed to be

636
00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:05,440
Speaker 5: able to do this, but like I've had very good travel,

637
00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:08,280
Speaker 5: like my entire life. I was due some challenges.

638
00:30:08,400 --> 00:30:10,920
Speaker 2: Yeah it happens to us when you head there in

639
00:30:10,960 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 2: a snowstorm.

640
00:30:11,840 --> 00:30:13,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, you know, anyone else giving me.

641
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,120
Speaker 1: But now Hillary is going on a world tour, world tour.

642
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:20,240
Speaker 5: And I will be there, God willing will be at

643
00:30:20,280 --> 00:30:21,520
Speaker 5: one of those shows.

644
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:24,600
Speaker 1: Which one I don't think she's announced.

645
00:30:25,000 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 5: She has said world tour loading at her l A

646
00:30:27,560 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 5: show and uh, oh my god. Wait at the at

647
00:30:31,400 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 5: the Brooklyn show. So someone in the front row asked

648
00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:36,000
Speaker 5: her to sing the math and I started, like I

649
00:30:36,000 --> 00:30:39,600
Speaker 5: almost sort of going into a cobbe. I almost started

650
00:30:39,640 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 5: to passed out, and she's like, oh, the Math, the Math.

651
00:30:43,400 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 5: We love the Math, but not tonight. And I was like, oh,

652
00:30:46,600 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 5: but it's on the table. I think the next show

653
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:51,480
Speaker 5: somewhere surprise song, yes.

654
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 1: Exactly, Oh like a little Taylor Swift. Yeah, that'd be great.

655
00:30:57,320 --> 00:30:58,959
Speaker 2: Well worth the world for you.

656
00:30:59,480 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 5: Thank you.

657
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:01,920
Speaker 1: I was a little bummed not to have seen it,

658
00:31:02,000 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: so I'll be hitting that world tour.

659
00:31:04,040 --> 00:31:07,240
Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's right. Was a little left out I did.

660
00:31:07,440 --> 00:31:09,320
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like I wanted to have the butterfly

661
00:31:09,360 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: confetti on me.

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