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Speaker 3: My boss said, I don't deserve a raise.

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Speaker 2: Sounds like you need a new job.

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Speaker 3: Trigger warning, workplace exploitation and toxic boss. I'm nineteen female,

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Speaker 3: am working two part time jobs and going to school

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Speaker 3: full time. My first part time job, Job one, is

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Speaker 3: as a pharmacy clerk, and I make eighteen fifty an hour.

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Speaker 3: That's not too bad as a nineteen.

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Speaker 2: Year old, depending on where you live.

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Speaker 3: Part time job eighteen fifty. My first part time job

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Speaker 4: I was working for free.

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Speaker 3: My second part time job, Job two, which I started

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Speaker 3: in April, is also an healthcare I make twenty three

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Speaker 3: dollars an hour now at job two. By the way,

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Speaker 3: this comes from Cool Negotiation one to eight. And if

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Speaker 3: r slash Okay Storytime subered it. I'm Sophia, I'm Ryan,

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Speaker 3: I'm ke On, and we're here to give good advice goofully,

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Speaker 3: but we don't have all the answers. We only know

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Speaker 3: what we'd do, So let us know what you would

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Speaker 3: do in the comments and o pisas. When I was

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Speaker 3: hired at Job two, they knew I was going to

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Speaker 3: was given a position title and a list of responsibilities

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Speaker 3: that I signed for, acknowledging that I understood them. When

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Speaker 3: summer started, I was able to work full time at

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Speaker 3: Job two. My boss, Mary, who is the CEO of

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Speaker 3: the company, wanted me to be at the office daily

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Speaker 3: as well. They also made me a scheduler for their staff.

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Speaker 3: I was told by my supervisor, Karen not her actual name,

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Speaker 3: that I was to put aside all other tasks that

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Speaker 3: I was hired for and complete the schedules for at

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Speaker 3: the time for people. Mary is Karen's boss too. Eventually

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Speaker 3: another person was hired and I was scheduled for five

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Speaker 3: people at one point, all by myself, whoa I mentioned

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Speaker 3: that with the current scheduling system it would not be

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Speaker 3: do what I can and that we would circle back

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Speaker 3: at the end of the week. From then on, any

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Speaker 3: attempt to receive help was responded to with do what

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Speaker 3: you can and we'll circle back on it.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 3: However, I eventually created a new scheduling system and two

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Speaker 3: people left the company. They were social workers. One of

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Speaker 3: the people quit because of being overworked by the way.

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Speaker 3: This meant I only had to schedule for three nurses.

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Speaker 3: With my new system that Karen loved and that she

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Speaker 3: constantly monitors for new changes I make, I was able

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Speaker 3: to create schedules for the nurses that were always up

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Speaker 3: to date. Now, for context, two out of three nurses

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Speaker 3: go to patient homes in over eleven different cities. The

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Speaker 3: nurses do not go to the same cities. The schedules

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Speaker 3: also changed based on several factors. The nurse says she

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Speaker 3: cannot work that day, a new patient is omitted, and

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Speaker 3: we now have to cancel the visits that were originally scheduled,

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Speaker 3: or the nurse sees them ahead of schedule, and now

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Speaker 3: there are gaps in our calendar. As a scheduler, I

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Speaker 3: am to apologize to the patient when any of these

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Speaker 3: last minute changes happen, sometimes the day of or day before,

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Speaker 3: and I also have to reschedule them as is scheduler.

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Speaker 3: I pick who to put on the nurse's calendar and

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Speaker 3: have gone the longest without nurse visits. The same goes

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Speaker 3: in person. Now, some of these nurses do not send

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Speaker 3: once I finally get it, I am left scrambling last

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Speaker 3: minute to schedule people for them. When the nurses are

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Speaker 3: rude to patients, I file complaints for the patients as well.

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Speaker 3: I was asked to request the availability from the nurses

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Speaker 3: If there is a complaint, it will be addressed weeks later.

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Speaker 3: HR and Mary talk to the nurses about these issues,

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Speaker 3: but nothing ever changes and the behavior continues. God it,

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Speaker 3: it has been several months and each month is the same,

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Speaker 3: So it seems you're hope he's just doing a lot.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, what you have going on is work, but the

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Speaker 3: To do exactly, so you make an ope's job harder,

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Speaker 3: it seems. I call our patients and start with the

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Speaker 3: ones without visits in the longest times stated earlier. Now,

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Speaker 3: twice and leaving voicemails in English and Spanish. Those patients

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Speaker 3: aren't even being scheduled, but they still take a chunk

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Speaker 3: out of my day, especially people with landlines. Anyways, there

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Speaker 3: are several other things that take up a huge part

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Speaker 3: especially updating my scheduling system every morning with all the

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Speaker 3: I also want to point out that I monitor another

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Speaker 3: person's scheduling Lucy. Lucy creates a schedule for our nurse

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Speaker 3: it's because I do such a great job with the

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Speaker 3: it's more stuff for OP.

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Speaker 2: Let's go pay raise.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, are you getting paid? According to all this new

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Speaker 3: stuff that you have to do. My responsibilities right now

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Speaker 3: are to schedule for three part time nurses, monitor Lucy's scheduling,

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Speaker 3: update my scheduling system, and update my supervisor. Karen. Now,

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Speaker 3: let's talk about Karen. Karen loves to micromanage and tell

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Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, I.

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Speaker 3: Even though I am almost one hundred percent positive, she

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Speaker 3: has never scheduled anyone in her life. Now, I want

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Speaker 3: to say this, I hate Karen. Her favorite line to

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Speaker 3: tell me is when I tell you to do something,

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Speaker 3: you do it.

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 3: I also want to say this, I don't need this job,

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Speaker 3: then quit, just quit. I already have another job, job,

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Speaker 3: one where I've been cussed at before by customers or

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Speaker 3: been a victim of my boss's passive aggressive comments. I've

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Speaker 3: dealt with it before. It's not something new. However, I

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Speaker 3: do not like to be someone's witch when I don't

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Speaker 3: have to. Karen's meetings with me are always an unnecessary

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Speaker 2: Anyway, Lovely, I love that about you. Always want that

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Speaker 3: The best part It always slows me down. And is

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Speaker 3: I want to mention that I sent an email to

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Speaker 3: and could not continue to do both. Also, my coworker

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Speaker 3: Chloe is literally the person who has been taking over

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Speaker 3: also mentioned this to Mary in my email. Mary's response

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Speaker 3: that was still my current position. This is row I

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Speaker 3: was hired to be an admin. I was being asked

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Speaker 3: of our email chain, Mary said talking to me was

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Speaker 2: And also sounds like they don't respect you, they're taking

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Speaker 3: No, not at all, she said. If it didn't align

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Speaker 4: So I quit good job, huge.

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Speaker 3: Just like that. I did not give two weeks. I

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Speaker 3: quit the same day I sent my resignation letter. I

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Speaker 3: and never complains. Well, you probably make a lot more money, Karen.

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Speaker 3: The difference is me and Karen don't make the same

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Speaker 4: Mm hmm.

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Speaker 3: I wrote my email to HR, telling them I would

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Speaker 4: Oh dude, for real zase this time.

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Speaker 2: As you can see, people are more worried about their

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: Literally, if you were focused on getting the stuff done,

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Speaker 2: top of the nurses. They would understand, they'd try to

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Speaker 2: make game plans for you if things weren't working out.

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Speaker 2: They're just trying to be like, Oh, you're smaller than me,

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Speaker 2: Look how small you are I'm going.

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Speaker 3: To take advantage of all the hard work you do

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Speaker 3: and not pay you properly. In the meeting, they asked

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Speaker 3: I usually did, and I said yes, just not in

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Speaker 3: the same timeframe. Mary mentioned if I couldn't complete this job,

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Speaker 3: she would find someone who could schedule and do admin tasks.

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Speaker 3: This is my second week of school. I quit during

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Speaker 3: my first week of school and was rehired during the

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Speaker 3: time I was thinking about quitting. The first time I

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Speaker 3: applied to an internship I got in this week, I

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Speaker 3: am planning to quit again. My internship will help me

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Speaker 3: build my resume and work experience that actually contributes to

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Speaker 3: until I could transfer to a fourth year. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: quit today again. Am I the a hole? No? Just quit,

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Speaker 3: it's just quit.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, that's what the well, that's what he's going on.

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Speaker 3: How do you get your number? Get rid of the fire?

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Speaker 3: Block fire all that job.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know how many people are in the IT

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Speaker 3: No, you did not do anything wrong. You feel creeped

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Speaker 3: He is You've already said I am not interested in you.

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Speaker 3: He then kept calling you and now he's sending you emails.

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Speaker 2: Fire this guy, Loki. I think you did the wrong

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Speaker 2: thing by asking him for help. He could have done

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Speaker 3: This just shows that you never should doubt yourself, never

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Speaker 2: Yep, never doubt yourself, never ask for help. This is

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Speaker 3: I'm waving my Riley sarcasm.

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Speaker 2: Opie says, thank you for confirming that this is creepy.

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Speaker 2: I've been feeling that way. But the thing is is

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Speaker 2: I can speak about this. One person in the office

443
00:19:26,320 --> 00:19:29,040
Speaker 2: said that they can't lose them, so I'll have to

444
00:19:29,080 --> 00:19:31,600
Speaker 2: be nice. I have seen a funny video of a

445
00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:33,639
Speaker 2: guy that's like an it guy and holds all the

446
00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:35,960
Speaker 2: servers up with just like scripts that no one knows

447
00:19:36,000 --> 00:19:38,639
Speaker 2: anything about. And he can like literally like do whatever

448
00:19:38,680 --> 00:19:40,720
Speaker 2: all year and show up whenever he wants. And he's

449
00:19:40,760 --> 00:19:42,320
Speaker 2: been wanting to quit for years, but they just pay

450
00:19:42,400 --> 00:19:43,560
Speaker 2: him money because they need him.

451
00:19:43,840 --> 00:19:46,679
Speaker 3: Is he that like or is he just like run Well,

452
00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:48,640
Speaker 3: it seems like no, because he'll be figured it out

453
00:19:48,680 --> 00:19:49,160
Speaker 3: on our own.

454
00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:52,280
Speaker 2: But what else, like if we didn't have our main

455
00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:53,480
Speaker 2: man Eddie around.

456
00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:56,119
Speaker 3: Yeah, but this is not main man Eddie. Yeah, this

457
00:19:56,200 --> 00:19:58,680
Speaker 3: is a guy who literally like he didn't fix the

458
00:19:58,720 --> 00:20:02,480
Speaker 3: problem the first time. Aha, the guy who didn't fix

459
00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:06,879
Speaker 3: the problem the first time. And then also she figured

460
00:20:06,880 --> 00:20:07,480
Speaker 3: it out her own.

461
00:20:07,720 --> 00:20:11,080
Speaker 2: So yep, okay, coming to keep track of job openings

462
00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:13,439
Speaker 2: in case you got a jump ship. They don't value

463
00:20:13,480 --> 00:20:15,480
Speaker 2: you and you will be put in worse positions in

464
00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:19,040
Speaker 2: the future potentially. Don't let them walk over you because

465
00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:22,720
Speaker 2: it'll always get only worse. Opie says, I kind of

466
00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:24,480
Speaker 2: need to stay here until the end of the next

467
00:20:24,560 --> 00:20:27,600
Speaker 2: year contract, but honestly, I'm going to look into just

468
00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,920
Speaker 2: leaving anyways, I would owe them money if I left,

469
00:20:31,000 --> 00:20:33,920
Speaker 2: but that's fine. I'll make the money and pay them back.

470
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:36,119
Speaker 2: The more I talk to people, the more I realize

471
00:20:36,200 --> 00:20:38,879
Speaker 2: that this place is a giant red flag. Reply. I

472
00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:42,160
Speaker 2: doubt you'd owe them money. That usually isn't how it works,

473
00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:44,880
Speaker 2: And the fact that they aren't providing a safe work

474
00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:48,080
Speaker 2: environment is grounds for termination of the contract. They're going

475
00:20:48,119 --> 00:20:50,600
Speaker 2: to have trouble collecting that from you, no matter what.

476
00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:54,679
Speaker 2: I'd start immediately looking elsewhere. Honestly, I just ghost people

477
00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:57,040
Speaker 2: these days and start looking for a new job without

478
00:20:57,080 --> 00:21:00,520
Speaker 2: telling them and just block their number from calling you. Please,

479
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:01,160
Speaker 2: don't ghost.

480
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:02,760
Speaker 3: Us, don't ghost us. Stay with us.

481
00:21:02,880 --> 00:21:06,240
Speaker 2: We have an update. Oh boy, you think she stays?

482
00:21:06,640 --> 00:21:09,320
Speaker 3: I hope not. If they're not supporting her and protecting

483
00:21:09,320 --> 00:21:12,080
Speaker 3: her from this creepy guy, then it's not a safe

484
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,439
Speaker 3: work environment for you as a woman, or just like

485
00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:18,440
Speaker 3: anyone who's working there and that's getting harassed by anyone, yep,

486
00:21:18,600 --> 00:21:20,640
Speaker 3: and no one's doing anything about it. Got to leave

487
00:21:20,720 --> 00:21:21,159
Speaker 3: that place.

488
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:25,040
Speaker 2: And after being around computers, I know you can install

489
00:21:25,320 --> 00:21:28,880
Speaker 2: on people's computers. I've installed a few apps on Keon's

490
00:21:28,920 --> 00:21:31,240
Speaker 2: computers so I can log in whenever I want.

491
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,000
Speaker 3: Oh, creepy and yours.

492
00:21:33,520 --> 00:21:35,200
Speaker 4: Oh, so that's what's been going on.

493
00:21:35,640 --> 00:21:38,320
Speaker 2: I've been bitcoin mining this whole time, like it's really

494
00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:43,680
Speaker 2: hot in your room and your computer fans are exploding.

495
00:21:43,920 --> 00:21:47,880
Speaker 4: Thanks for that. I've got four already four whole coins.

496
00:21:48,920 --> 00:21:49,640
Speaker 4: Thanks for that.

497
00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,000
Speaker 2: So we got an update everyone. I just want to say,

498
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:54,840
Speaker 2: thanks to everyone. I don't care. So some of you

499
00:21:55,160 --> 00:21:58,280
Speaker 2: have already said that there might be other employees he's

500
00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:00,480
Speaker 2: doing this too, how do you think and some of

501
00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:03,280
Speaker 2: you said it sounds like he has some strange ideas

502
00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:06,040
Speaker 2: about women. I want to tell you guys that you.

503
00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:09,760
Speaker 3: Were right new and that sucks though.

504
00:22:10,600 --> 00:22:13,040
Speaker 4: I mean, yeah, if he kept doing it to you

505
00:22:13,240 --> 00:22:16,480
Speaker 4: when you literally said I have a boyfriend, leave me alone.

506
00:22:16,119 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 3: Creepy guy, He's he doing this too, Yeah, not just you.

507
00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:21,679
Speaker 4: I wonder if I was gonna say, like, if this

508
00:22:21,680 --> 00:22:24,800
Speaker 4: has been happening or been reported before, maybe I hope.

509
00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,280
Speaker 3: They've done nothing about it in your case, then probably

510
00:22:27,359 --> 00:22:30,280
Speaker 3: haven't done anything about it in other cases. Nikes.

511
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:33,160
Speaker 2: So we had this sort of company social thing during

512
00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:35,400
Speaker 2: the week. There was a guy there who also works

513
00:22:35,440 --> 00:22:38,119
Speaker 2: at my company, but in another department. He's friends with

514
00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:40,760
Speaker 2: the IT guy, like, real friends hang out at each

515
00:22:40,800 --> 00:22:42,520
Speaker 2: other's house on the weekend. Type friends.

516
00:22:42,560 --> 00:22:44,440
Speaker 3: Not a good sign for that guy.

517
00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,400
Speaker 2: So at some point me and him start talking about

518
00:22:47,440 --> 00:22:50,200
Speaker 2: all kinds of random things, and I don't remember exactly

519
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:53,040
Speaker 2: how the conversation went, but he revealed to me that

520
00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:56,679
Speaker 2: IT guy thinks that women only ever won attention and

521
00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:59,479
Speaker 2: flirt for attention and validation, and that they only ever

522
00:22:59,520 --> 00:23:02,280
Speaker 2: want to play game. It seems he doesn't hold women

523
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:03,439
Speaker 2: in a high regard.

524
00:23:03,520 --> 00:23:05,280
Speaker 3: Seems like he is a misogynist.

525
00:23:05,720 --> 00:23:10,440
Speaker 2: Yea, and very I've realized if you're around all day

526
00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:13,280
Speaker 2: thinking about a woman in a certain way in your head,

527
00:23:13,400 --> 00:23:16,480
Speaker 2: not interacting, then it's like you're you're creating these ideas.

528
00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:18,680
Speaker 2: And if you don't interact with women on a daily

529
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,400
Speaker 2: basis and you're just talking about them and just ideating,

530
00:23:21,440 --> 00:23:23,600
Speaker 2: and like, I just think if.

531
00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:27,440
Speaker 3: You only think about women in romantic or spicy ways,

532
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 3: then you don't actually see women as people. I think

533
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:33,320
Speaker 3: a lot of men view women in that way, and

534
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,680
Speaker 3: there's like a lack of respect about women. And I think,

535
00:23:36,760 --> 00:23:38,560
Speaker 3: like a lot of guys like don't think that they

536
00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:39,639
Speaker 3: could be friends with women.

537
00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:40,640
Speaker 2: I thought that way.

538
00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that you've learned since then.

539
00:23:43,080 --> 00:23:44,960
Speaker 2: But I think I don't see gender anymore.

540
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:46,919
Speaker 4: That's great, thank you, doctor Riley.

541
00:23:47,359 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 3: But I think that if you think that you can't

542
00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:52,040
Speaker 3: even have like a just friendly relationship with a woman

543
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:56,160
Speaker 3: outside of a romantic or spicy, you know, relationship, then

544
00:23:56,280 --> 00:23:58,000
Speaker 3: it's not Yeah, great sign.

545
00:23:58,119 --> 00:24:00,080
Speaker 4: You know, I was gonna say, I've gotten so so

546
00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 4: numb to it. I don't even think my girlfriend likes me.

547
00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:04,720
Speaker 4: I think she. I think she just wants to be friends.

548
00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:05,880
Speaker 3: She just wants to be my.

549
00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:07,720
Speaker 2: Friend, just wants to be paid for food.

550
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:10,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wants to play video games all the time.

551
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:13,520
Speaker 2: I've always been friends with women, but it's like being

552
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:15,800
Speaker 2: I think whenever I said, like, whenever I think friends,

553
00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:18,680
Speaker 2: it's like that close friend, close friends going to coffee

554
00:24:19,160 --> 00:24:21,280
Speaker 2: one on one. I would only do that with Sophia

555
00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:22,440
Speaker 2: on that I'm like.

556
00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:25,359
Speaker 3: I think that that's that's different. But I think that,

557
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 3: like there's a lot of men who don't even think

558
00:24:27,040 --> 00:24:30,800
Speaker 3: that they can have like be friendly with women.

559
00:24:30,880 --> 00:24:33,000
Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, it's such a sad life.

560
00:24:33,119 --> 00:24:35,720
Speaker 3: Which, Yeah, it's like you can only see women in

561
00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:38,880
Speaker 3: a spicy or romantic sense, then you just don't see

562
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 3: women as people.

563
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 4: Those are the type of guys who are like, oh,

564
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:43,960
Speaker 4: he gets declined by a girl, He's like, ah, whatever,

565
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 4: she probably likes other girls, or like, yeah, she's a thing.

566
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, like immediately putting it on the girl for some

567
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 3: some fault in her. Yep.

568
00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,639
Speaker 2: Not only that I found out that this thing he

569
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:56,840
Speaker 2: did to me, he did the exact same thing the

570
00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 2: two other female employees two.

571
00:25:00,800 --> 00:25:02,400
Speaker 3: It's awful, but I'm not surprised.

572
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:04,680
Speaker 2: I couldn't believe it. So the next day I decided

573
00:25:04,720 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 2: to go talk to them. I wanted to hear what

574
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:09,119
Speaker 2: they thought and how it made them feel and what

575
00:25:09,680 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 2: and I kind of thought we could team up and

576
00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,840
Speaker 2: get him reported. But no, both of them basically said, yeah,

577
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,680
Speaker 2: it's annoying, but he's harmless. They don't care about it.

578
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,840
Speaker 2: I don't know if it's relevant to the story, but

579
00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,919
Speaker 2: these other two employees, one of them is married and

580
00:25:22,960 --> 00:25:25,440
Speaker 2: the other has been in a relationship for six years now.

581
00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 2: They're a bit older than me, but still younger than him.

582
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 2: So now I feel very weird about everything and conflicted.

583
00:25:31,760 --> 00:25:35,480
Speaker 2: I feel like perhaps I did overreact since they're nonchalant

584
00:25:35,480 --> 00:25:37,719
Speaker 2: about it, and I also feel like if I do

585
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 2: report it, they're going to say that it's not a

586
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 2: big deal and that I'm making a bigger deal out

587
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:44,159
Speaker 2: of it than it actually is.

588
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:47,000
Speaker 4: That's crazy. That's crazy. So they're just okay with it.

589
00:25:47,119 --> 00:25:48,359
Speaker 4: I'm literally okay with yeah.

590
00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: I think if you're in an environment that is not

591
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:54,160
Speaker 3: supporting you and defending you when you are being harassed,

592
00:25:54,640 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 3: I think, unfortunately, it sucks because you shouldn't have to

593
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:02,160
Speaker 3: leave this job. Yeah, but it's not a safe environment

594
00:26:02,200 --> 00:26:03,520
Speaker 3: for you, and it sucks.

595
00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:05,000
Speaker 4: I would still just go to HR.

596
00:26:05,320 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 3: Absolutely you should go to HR. But if they don't

597
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:10,440
Speaker 3: defend you, and they don't fire this guy or give

598
00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:13,560
Speaker 3: him severe consequences, then this is not a place that's

599
00:26:13,600 --> 00:26:15,680
Speaker 3: going to protect you. If something worse for it to.

600
00:26:15,600 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 4: Happen, they're okay with him continuing to act like this,

601
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:20,240
Speaker 4: and god forbid.

602
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:20,520
Speaker 3: It it's worse.

603
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:24,040
Speaker 2: Oh gosh, huh. I don't know, I guess, and I

604
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:26,679
Speaker 2: feel a bit defeated. I really thought they would be

605
00:26:26,720 --> 00:26:29,560
Speaker 2: on my side here, but they're not. It's not that

606
00:26:29,680 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 2: they aren't, it's just that they're in a different place.

607
00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:35,200
Speaker 2: I think this entire place is toxic. I know that

608
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:38,480
Speaker 2: word is seriously overheused, but I truly believe that even

609
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:41,399
Speaker 2: if I report it, nothing will happen. But yeah, I

610
00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,359
Speaker 2: don't know. I thought i'd ask anyway if perhaps someone

611
00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,240
Speaker 2: has any thoughts or ideas. I just don't know what

612
00:26:47,320 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 2: to think, and we have some comments. If you can,

613
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:52,040
Speaker 2: let's go ahead and report it.

614
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, paper trail at the very least, which is what

615
00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:56,359
Speaker 3: Kim Roberts says.

616
00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:00,679
Speaker 2: That's incredible idea. And if you don't want this happening

617
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,320
Speaker 2: to other women in your office, do something about it

618
00:27:03,359 --> 00:27:05,080
Speaker 2: for them, protect them.

619
00:27:05,320 --> 00:27:07,600
Speaker 3: Yeah maybe those other women didn't protect.

620
00:27:07,320 --> 00:27:09,479
Speaker 4: You, but I think that, you know, just to end

621
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 4: the cycle.

622
00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:14,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely report it. Don't be cowed into not reporting it.

623
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 2: I'm number one. If this is seriously bothering you and

624
00:27:17,000 --> 00:27:19,359
Speaker 2: you don't have an HR to report it, then you

625
00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:21,879
Speaker 2: should really start looking for another job. I know you

626
00:27:22,000 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 2: said you want to be there for two years, but

627
00:27:24,200 --> 00:27:26,480
Speaker 2: there's no harm in sending your resume out now, just

628
00:27:26,480 --> 00:27:28,680
Speaker 2: do it. If that's the way this guy is, he's

629
00:27:28,720 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 2: probably a bigoted, a harmless knucklehead. I'd probably ignore, so

630
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:35,520
Speaker 2: I should avoid him as much as possible in the meantime. Hope,

631
00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:38,320
Speaker 2: he says, it's not that I want to be there

632
00:27:38,440 --> 00:27:41,240
Speaker 2: for two years. It's that the company funded my studies

633
00:27:41,320 --> 00:27:43,239
Speaker 2: and I'm supposed to either work for them for two

634
00:27:43,359 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 2: years or pay him back.

635
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:46,119
Speaker 3: That's tough.

636
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:50,280
Speaker 2: I'm actually considering to just pay him back and leave,

637
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 2: but it's quite a lot of money, so I really

638
00:27:52,840 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 2: have a lot to think about. But yeah, I'm definitely

639
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,119
Speaker 2: trying to ignore him. It sucks that he lives so

640
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,920
Speaker 2: close to me. Since he's realized that live so close toge,

641
00:28:00,440 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 2: I've been seeing him a lot more in the area.

642
00:28:03,520 --> 00:28:07,119
Speaker 3: And now I think it's like police. He's talking you.

643
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:11,160
Speaker 2: I would definitely reformat your computer. Every time I see

644
00:28:11,240 --> 00:28:13,760
Speaker 2: him walk around or see his car, I run hide

645
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,360
Speaker 2: until he goes away. I know that sounds super pathetic,

646
00:28:16,800 --> 00:28:20,120
Speaker 2: but I just have so much anxiety surrounding him right now.

647
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,280
Speaker 2: It's crazy. That's it, my boy.

648
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:28,160
Speaker 3: Oh, to be clear, you are not being super pathetic.

649
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:32,199
Speaker 3: You feel that you are in danger because he is

650
00:28:32,280 --> 00:28:35,040
Speaker 3: putting you in danger. He is activating that fight or

651
00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:38,959
Speaker 3: flight response because he is harassing you. You're not overreacting.

652
00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,200
Speaker 3: You were having a fear response to something that is scary,

653
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:46,000
Speaker 3: which is a man who is older than you and

654
00:28:46,120 --> 00:28:49,040
Speaker 3: has some sort of power in the company and that

655
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:50,960
Speaker 3: you know has allowed him to get away with this.

656
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 2: And is a keyboard wizard.

657
00:28:53,080 --> 00:28:55,920
Speaker 3: I guess, so he is doing something that is inappropriate

658
00:28:56,320 --> 00:29:00,200
Speaker 3: and it's just not okay. So you're not of reacting.

659
00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 3: If there is anybody in your job that you can

660
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:05,400
Speaker 3: talk to about this who has a little bit more

661
00:29:05,440 --> 00:29:08,280
Speaker 3: authority than you know the people that you have talked about,

662
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 3: please do report him, even if you don't have an HR.

663
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:15,320
Speaker 2: Do you guys have any similar like situations or stories.

664
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 2: Have you been in a soccer situation?

665
00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 4: Keon, No, not that I know work.

666
00:29:20,800 --> 00:29:23,520
Speaker 3: Not a workspace where I was like harassed. I've never

667
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 3: never heard that.

668
00:29:24,440 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 2: Yum, I have. I'd be on this, I'd be on

669
00:29:27,280 --> 00:29:29,920
Speaker 2: this like thing, like this video thing, and every day

670
00:29:29,920 --> 00:29:31,280
Speaker 2: people would come in and like.

671
00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:33,520
Speaker 4: Pully me all the time, and I just couldn't get

672
00:29:33,520 --> 00:29:36,640
Speaker 4: away from news that was anything. It's just deleted.

673
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:41,440
Speaker 2: No, Oh, that's scary. I hate it when people dolase stuff.

674
00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:43,480
Speaker 5: John here, we're gonna get back to this juicy story,

675
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 5: but a quick three minute break of ads from our sponsors.

676
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:48,880
Speaker 3: My boyfriend's co worker is in love with him and

677
00:29:49,160 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 3: enraged at me. And this comes directly from the r

678
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:58,000
Speaker 3: slash Okay story Time severed it so op says, me

679
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:01,080
Speaker 3: and my boyfriend female twenty four and male twenty five

680
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 3: have been together for almost four years. We met and

681
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,200
Speaker 3: fell in love young and have what I would consider

682
00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 3: a one in a million connection. We are basically obsessed

683
00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 3: with each other. We are best friends who happen to

684
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 3: be raising a few cats and lizards together to practice

685
00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:17,000
Speaker 3: for our first child we plan on having within the

686
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:17,680
Speaker 3: next few years.

687
00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 2: That is adorable.

688
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from outrageous Claim thirty two,

689
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:22,920
Speaker 3: and if you want to smit your own stories, go

690
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 3: to the r slash Okay story Time Separate. I'm Sophia,

691
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,840
Speaker 3: I'm Riley, I'm Keon, and we're here to give good

692
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,040
Speaker 3: advice goofully. But we don't have all the answers. We

693
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 3: only know what we do, so let us know what

694
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:35,200
Speaker 3: you would do. In the comments, an Opie says we

695
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:38,959
Speaker 3: are sappy and annoying and blah blah blah. He's planning

696
00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:42,080
Speaker 3: on proposing in twenty twenty five. I've seen big statements

697
00:30:42,080 --> 00:30:44,040
Speaker 3: of him paying off the ring and he asked my

698
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:46,560
Speaker 3: sister for permission to marry me since I don't have

699
00:30:46,560 --> 00:30:50,280
Speaker 3: any parents anymore. Oh, we're both kind of limited in

700
00:30:50,360 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 3: our friendships. I have a few friends I see sometimes,

701
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 3: and so does he, but mostly we just want to

702
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 3: be alone together, play in video games or whatever. Him especially,

703
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:03,000
Speaker 3: he rarely sees any of his friends. He is maybe three,

704
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:05,480
Speaker 3: and he sees each of them maybe once a year,

705
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 3: and he likes it that way. I try to encourage

706
00:31:08,360 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 3: him to go out whenever there's an opportunity, because having

707
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 3: separation is healthy. But according to his family, he has

708
00:31:14,120 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 3: always found it hard to connect with others and just

709
00:31:17,000 --> 00:31:19,760
Speaker 3: prefers to be alone until he met me. Now he

710
00:31:19,880 --> 00:31:22,520
Speaker 3: just wants to be alone with me. One of his

711
00:31:22,560 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 3: friends is not my favorite person.

712
00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:26,400
Speaker 4: Oh.

713
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,520
Speaker 3: I won't go into details because it's not my choice

714
00:31:29,560 --> 00:31:32,320
Speaker 3: who he connects with, and honestly, I'm just glad he

715
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:35,200
Speaker 3: connects with someone enough to consider them a friend. He's

716
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,640
Speaker 3: mailed twenty six openly by, which never really meant anything

717
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 3: to me until recently, because I'm also by and I

718
00:31:41,200 --> 00:31:43,360
Speaker 3: know firsthand that it doesn't define you as a person

719
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,360
Speaker 3: and shouldn't be the first thing you think of a person. Anyway.

720
00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,480
Speaker 3: He and my boyfriend went to school together in the

721
00:31:48,480 --> 00:31:51,480
Speaker 3: fourth grade, but they weren't friends until over ten years

722
00:31:51,560 --> 00:31:53,640
Speaker 3: later when they happened to get the same job. They

723
00:31:53,680 --> 00:31:56,240
Speaker 3: were work friends, but never hung out outside of work

724
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:59,400
Speaker 3: until I encouraged my boyfriend to accept his invitation to

725
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:03,000
Speaker 3: hang out. It never happened again, and every time he

726
00:32:03,080 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 3: was asked to hang out again, my boyfriend would insist

727
00:32:06,280 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 3: that I joined them. He was very clear from the

728
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 3: second I met him that he didn't like me. For

729
00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 3: almost four years, I have completely ignored his obvious distaste

730
00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 3: of me and have still encouraged my boyfriend to hang

731
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 3: out with him and talk to him. I'm confident in

732
00:32:20,120 --> 00:32:22,800
Speaker 3: my place in life, and if his friend could somehow

733
00:32:22,840 --> 00:32:25,480
Speaker 3: make my boyfriend not like me, then he's not the

734
00:32:25,520 --> 00:32:27,920
Speaker 3: one for me. My boyfriend is also ignored that his

735
00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:30,640
Speaker 3: friend doesn't like me. He just kind of changes the

736
00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:33,400
Speaker 3: subject or doesn't engage and moves on, which he doesn't

737
00:32:33,440 --> 00:32:35,479
Speaker 3: have to do often because he doesn't talk to him

738
00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:38,360
Speaker 3: anymore than three times a year. Anyway. The other day,

739
00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,520
Speaker 3: his friend called my boyfriend at around midnight. He answered

740
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:43,440
Speaker 3: and told him that I was there and that he

741
00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 3: was on speaker. He said hi, and then talked about

742
00:32:46,000 --> 00:32:48,880
Speaker 3: how miserable he was to be alone in life. He

743
00:32:48,960 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 3: talked about how he just fills the board in his

744
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:54,840
Speaker 3: life with mindless, spicy sleep and booze, and was happy

745
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:57,920
Speaker 3: to see him happy, but hated that it was because

746
00:32:57,920 --> 00:33:01,760
Speaker 3: of me. Then he finally admitted it out loud. He

747
00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:04,240
Speaker 3: said that he hated me when we first met, that

748
00:33:04,360 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 3: I seem like a witch, and that he didn't think

749
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:09,600
Speaker 3: I was right for my boyfriend my boyfriend, and I

750
00:33:09,720 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 3: just stayed completely silent, stunned.

751
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 2: Oh he wants your boyfriend.

752
00:33:14,760 --> 00:33:16,720
Speaker 3: That's that's pretty obvious.

753
00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:18,920
Speaker 2: Or he wants you Not really sure here, but he's

754
00:33:19,000 --> 00:33:24,600
Speaker 2: what you guys have. The boyfriend that's crazy. Hey, by

755
00:33:24,640 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 2: the way, the guy you've been seeing, actually, hey, that guy,

756
00:33:29,240 --> 00:33:30,160
Speaker 2: he's like the worst.

757
00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:34,360
Speaker 3: He smells to be pretty awful if you're like close

758
00:33:34,720 --> 00:33:37,720
Speaker 3: his only close friend is like, I hate your your

759
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,400
Speaker 3: friend and I'm in love with you.

760
00:33:39,320 --> 00:33:41,560
Speaker 2: Like, how do you even in front of both of them,

761
00:33:41,600 --> 00:33:42,640
Speaker 2: not just to the partner.

762
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:44,480
Speaker 3: Well, I don't. I don't think he knew that he

763
00:33:44,600 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 3: was To be clear, I think he said it said

764
00:33:47,640 --> 00:33:51,880
Speaker 3: he called at midnight and the boyfriend put it on speaker.

765
00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:54,080
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, I would never have the balls and say that.

766
00:33:54,120 --> 00:33:57,959
Speaker 2: It is like, dude, that is whackledoodle do? What does

767
00:33:58,000 --> 00:33:59,600
Speaker 2: he try? What's he trying to get out of this? Though?

768
00:33:59,760 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 3: That's hope he's boyfriend. He continued to talk, saying he

769
00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:06,400
Speaker 3: gets that he chose me, and that he has grown

770
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:09,440
Speaker 3: to not hate me, just dislike me, and that I

771
00:34:09,560 --> 00:34:12,520
Speaker 3: only matter as much as my boyfriend likes me. That

772
00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,440
Speaker 3: when we break up, I'll be completely passed away to

773
00:34:15,560 --> 00:34:17,320
Speaker 3: him and he will go back to hating me for

774
00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:22,040
Speaker 3: wasting my boyfriend's time. That was incredibly rude, but also strange.

775
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:24,440
Speaker 3: The way he worded it just seemed odd like he

776
00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,400
Speaker 3: was possessive of my boyfriend. Yes, he's in love with

777
00:34:27,480 --> 00:34:28,640
Speaker 3: your boyfriend.

778
00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:34,120
Speaker 2: And he is in love with your boyfriend, Fluella. Does

779
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 2: your boyfriend even like this guy that's mine?

780
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,319
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know. It seems like he's

781
00:34:38,360 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 3: the only friend.

782
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 4: Does he like this guy?

783
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:44,400
Speaker 3: I try to brush it off as drunk and rambling,

784
00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:47,200
Speaker 3: but today it all clicked for me. See. I got

785
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 3: a job at the same company that my boyfriend is in,

786
00:34:49,520 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 3: but in a different department. I was in the break

787
00:34:51,840 --> 00:34:54,480
Speaker 3: room with my coworker and we were sharing pictures of

788
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:57,040
Speaker 3: our partners and talking about how much we love them.

789
00:34:57,160 --> 00:35:00,120
Speaker 3: When my boyfriend's friend came and sat with us, co

790
00:35:00,239 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 3: worker asked how long we were together, and when I

791
00:35:03,239 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 3: told her, he chimed in with, yeah, but I've known

792
00:35:05,840 --> 00:35:06,200
Speaker 3: him longer.

793
00:35:06,400 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 2: Oh dude, I've had this happen to me. I've had

794
00:35:08,080 --> 00:35:10,920
Speaker 2: this happened to me and other friends where I'm friends

795
00:35:10,960 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 2: with the chick. Yeah, but I'm dating someone else. But

796
00:35:12,880 --> 00:35:14,960
Speaker 2: she's like, oh, I know him longer. I've known him

797
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:17,520
Speaker 2: for so much longer. What they're trying to do is

798
00:35:17,719 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 2: nablused dominance, established dominance, and then also try to get

799
00:35:21,320 --> 00:35:23,239
Speaker 2: the person that they're like, oh, i've known them longer,

800
00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:25,040
Speaker 2: Like she's trying to get me to like her, so

801
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:26,800
Speaker 2: then I'll break up my girl and then come cralling

802
00:35:26,840 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 2: to her. Oh dude, I've seen it happen so many times.

803
00:35:31,160 --> 00:35:31,520
Speaker 2: Not good.

804
00:35:31,719 --> 00:35:34,080
Speaker 3: But then remember they went to the same school years

805
00:35:34,080 --> 00:35:36,080
Speaker 3: ago when they were eight to nine, and they have

806
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 3: both said that they never even spoke. Then, my boyfriend

807
00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,479
Speaker 3: knew him as a coworker for about a year before

808
00:35:41,520 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 3: we met, so I tried to assume that's what he meant.

809
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:47,440
Speaker 3: I continue the conversation with my coworker showing my favorite

810
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 3: picture of my boyfriend and said, oh, Gia, just think

811
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,439
Speaker 3: he's the absolute cutest person in the world. His friend

812
00:35:53,560 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 3: chimed in again and said, I happened to agree, but

813
00:35:56,560 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 3: he was cuter as a kid though, Ew.

814
00:35:59,000 --> 00:36:00,839
Speaker 4: What kind of comment is What does that mean? It's

815
00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:04,280
Speaker 4: a weird so weirdly.

816
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 3: Just to nail in that he knew him when he

817
00:36:05,640 --> 00:36:07,840
Speaker 3: was a kid, all I could think to say was,

818
00:36:08,120 --> 00:36:10,720
Speaker 3: then I guess I'll have to make a mini version

819
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:12,200
Speaker 3: and see for myself.

820
00:36:12,719 --> 00:36:13,200
Speaker 4: I like that.

821
00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:19,719
Speaker 2: They're gonna have intercourse and have children. They're gonna do

822
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 2: it and and puppies.

823
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 3: For the rest of the conversation, he mentioned two more

824
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,440
Speaker 3: times that he knew him longer than me and that

825
00:36:28,560 --> 00:36:30,600
Speaker 3: he knew him as a kid. When we got back

826
00:36:30,640 --> 00:36:33,400
Speaker 3: to our station, my coworker said, I think that guy's

827
00:36:33,440 --> 00:36:36,440
Speaker 3: in love with your man. I think you'd be right, coworker,

828
00:36:36,760 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 3: I think you'd be right. It was that moment that

829
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:41,520
Speaker 3: I remember that he was by and that this was

830
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:44,160
Speaker 3: an actual explanation for all of the weirdness over the

831
00:36:44,200 --> 00:36:44,919
Speaker 3: past few years.

832
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:48,120
Speaker 2: So you should judge people by that you didn't realize.

833
00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:50,680
Speaker 2: You should always hold that against people that are by,

834
00:36:50,880 --> 00:36:52,319
Speaker 2: and always keep that in mind.

835
00:36:52,560 --> 00:36:55,520
Speaker 3: I'm waving the star, guys a flag. I'm sorry you

836
00:36:55,600 --> 00:36:59,000
Speaker 3: didn't realize after he called your boyfriend at midnight that

837
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:01,440
Speaker 3: this guy was in love with your boyfriend.

838
00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:04,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, I didn't like together, but.

839
00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:06,960
Speaker 4: I get calls from my friends after midnight. That's okay.

840
00:37:07,400 --> 00:37:10,200
Speaker 2: But he never answers after when have you called me?

841
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:10,759
Speaker 2: You know?

842
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 4: No, no, don't, don't, don't under the imaginary bus here.

843
00:37:15,960 --> 00:37:16,319
Speaker 3: Uh huh.

844
00:37:16,719 --> 00:37:18,399
Speaker 2: I've coached you so many times after midnight you don't

845
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:19,200
Speaker 2: even answer anymore.

846
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:24,240
Speaker 4: Oh, anyway, that's wild wild, Like look at the TLDR.

847
00:37:24,640 --> 00:37:26,400
Speaker 2: I've known him longer. He's trying to like pee on

848
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:29,960
Speaker 2: your boyfriend's leg. Come on, the TELDR is wild. Sophia

849
00:37:30,000 --> 00:37:32,920
Speaker 2: and Riley share deep bond raising pets in preparation for

850
00:37:33,000 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 2: having a child. Riley values Solitude but cherishes his connection

851
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:36,600
Speaker 2: with Sophia.

852
00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:37,680
Speaker 3: What was this based off?

853
00:37:38,239 --> 00:37:39,600
Speaker 2: I guess we said our names earlier.

854
00:37:39,920 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 3: But it's not even this, it's not even the story.

855
00:37:41,760 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, he won't solitude, but he likes Ope, there's no child, No,

856
00:37:45,840 --> 00:37:46,479
Speaker 2: they want kids.

857
00:37:47,120 --> 00:37:49,000
Speaker 3: I guess. I guess that was the beginning of the story.

858
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:51,600
Speaker 3: I was, but it was relevant. He's been doing this

859
00:37:51,719 --> 00:37:54,239
Speaker 3: to me for as long as I've known him, undermining

860
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 3: my relationship whenever he can by reminding me that he

861
00:37:57,640 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 3: knows him better because they went to the same school.

862
00:38:00,960 --> 00:38:03,080
Speaker 2: When they were nine, we guys literally never even talked,

863
00:38:03,120 --> 00:38:04,920
Speaker 2: and then you guys became friends as coworkers would have

864
00:38:04,960 --> 00:38:05,440
Speaker 2: the same company.

865
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 3: Right now, right now, I just feel a bit bad

866
00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:10,319
Speaker 3: for him. My boyfriend is straight, and even if he wasn't,

867
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 3: he's still my man. If he wanted to be with him,

868
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:14,920
Speaker 3: he had a year to have done so before I

869
00:38:15,000 --> 00:38:17,800
Speaker 3: came into the picture. My boyfriend has barely shown interest

870
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:21,520
Speaker 3: in this guy as a friend. Oh this is his

871
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 3: only friend, and he barely shows interest to him. He's

872
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 3: got to find new friends.

873
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 2: To find another only friend, So it must.

874
00:38:27,239 --> 00:38:29,560
Speaker 3: Really suck to see him happy with a woman, let

875
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:32,480
Speaker 3: alone a woman so different from himself as someone in

876
00:38:32,600 --> 00:38:35,520
Speaker 3: love with my boyfriend. I get it. I completely understand

877
00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:37,840
Speaker 3: that falling in love with him is impossible to avoid

878
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 3: and even more impossible to shake. I feel so bad

879
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:42,840
Speaker 3: to have hurt this guy, but I can't help it.

880
00:38:43,200 --> 00:38:45,759
Speaker 3: I'm not going anywhere. I talked to my boyfriend about it,

881
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:48,120
Speaker 3: and he said he can see it as a possibility

882
00:38:48,360 --> 00:38:50,800
Speaker 3: in theory, but said if it was true, it wouldn't

883
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:53,360
Speaker 3: change anything that he'd have to get over it because

884
00:38:53,400 --> 00:38:56,040
Speaker 3: he is an attractive to him or any man, and

885
00:38:56,160 --> 00:38:58,719
Speaker 3: if he was, he'd choose me every time. It's like,

886
00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:01,960
Speaker 3: even if that was attracted to I, Chi you. I

887
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:04,800
Speaker 3: want our kids to have your heart. Oh God, I

888
00:39:04,920 --> 00:39:07,120
Speaker 3: love him so much. I don't know how to navigate this.

889
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:09,600
Speaker 3: We work together and I see him pretty often. I

890
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:11,800
Speaker 3: don't like having to put up with him walking around

891
00:39:11,880 --> 00:39:14,520
Speaker 3: and acting as if we're in competition because there's no

892
00:39:14,680 --> 00:39:17,759
Speaker 3: competition to be had. It's been four years and he

893
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:19,800
Speaker 3: still won't let it go.

894
00:39:20,080 --> 00:39:21,239
Speaker 4: No, Sophia, you love us.

895
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,560
Speaker 3: I won't let you go. Let me go. I won't

896
00:39:23,680 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 3: let you go.

897
00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,560
Speaker 4: It's okay, Jack, I won't let you go.

898
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 2: Okay. Only reasonable thing here to do. Fake some sort

899
00:39:32,719 --> 00:39:35,440
Speaker 2: of accident where this guy will have to get fired

900
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:39,600
Speaker 2: because he was responsible for oh well, because that's the

901
00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:41,840
Speaker 2: only place we see him. And then the boyfriend. But you,

902
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 2: I can't believe he would do that.

903
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 3: And then you know, I think you just have a

904
00:39:44,560 --> 00:39:47,520
Speaker 3: conversation with your boyfriend and say, hey, this guy's making

905
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,279
Speaker 3: me go. Yeah, I know. I feel like, that's good.

906
00:39:49,320 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 4: And then if your boyfriend talked to this guy, yeah, hey.

907
00:39:52,000 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 3: If he doesn't step off, and it's like okay, well,

908
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:57,560
Speaker 3: I guess we can't be friends with him. More. I

909
00:39:57,640 --> 00:39:57,960
Speaker 3: need more.

910
00:39:58,000 --> 00:39:59,480
Speaker 2: I need this guy to get fired. I don't want

911
00:39:59,480 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 2: to ever see his face again. Really, he should get fired,

912
00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:02,840
Speaker 2: so of you.

913
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:05,359
Speaker 3: But she hasn't done anything bad at his job.

914
00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:08,280
Speaker 4: Yuh huh makes oh he feel comfortable?

915
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:08,680
Speaker 2: Yeah?

916
00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:13,200
Speaker 4: Yeah, it makes a competition and piano everywhere. Yeah, if

917
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:15,040
Speaker 4: your partner's not like a little puppy when you get

918
00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 4: home and they pee a little on the floor, If

919
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:18,920
Speaker 4: your partner doesn't do that, what is that? Is that

920
00:40:19,080 --> 00:40:19,880
Speaker 4: really your partner?

921
00:40:20,320 --> 00:40:22,600
Speaker 3: What is Carly pan on the floor?

922
00:40:25,520 --> 00:40:29,799
Speaker 2: No comment, Carle, Are you peeing on the floor when

923
00:40:29,840 --> 00:40:32,480
Speaker 2: you see Keon whenever he gets home from work? She said, yes,

924
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 2: like a golden Retriever's so.

925
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:37,480
Speaker 3: Funny, you like, literally, I just said your name and

926
00:40:37,600 --> 00:40:40,279
Speaker 3: then you walked in. Yeah, we just Kean said, if

927
00:40:40,320 --> 00:40:42,279
Speaker 3: your partner's not pean on the floor a little bit,

928
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:44,440
Speaker 3: are they even your partner? And I said, is Carly

929
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 3: pan on the floor? And then you entered? Yes, it

930
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:47,200
Speaker 3: is crazy.

931
00:40:48,400 --> 00:40:54,200
Speaker 4: I guess your partner suck and on the floor. He's

932
00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:58,800
Speaker 4: peeing right now because I walked in. I got too excited.

933
00:41:02,880 --> 00:41:06,040
Speaker 2: Time out. We have to know this, Andrew. Hey, hey,

934
00:41:06,080 --> 00:41:09,960
Speaker 2: you're on the live stream everyone, okay, So whenever you

935
00:41:10,640 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 2: see me after like not seeing me for a whole day,

936
00:41:13,280 --> 00:41:15,320
Speaker 2: do you pee your dance like a little puppy sometimes

937
00:41:15,560 --> 00:41:16,440
Speaker 2: because you're so excited?

938
00:41:19,160 --> 00:41:19,680
Speaker 3: You hate me?

939
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:27,319
Speaker 4: See, yes, hung out?

940
00:41:27,600 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 3: She hates me. He won't let me talk about him

941
00:41:30,719 --> 00:41:34,640
Speaker 3: without inserting himself. What he brings him up if we

942
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:37,240
Speaker 3: are talking about him. One of my friends I confided

943
00:41:37,320 --> 00:41:39,239
Speaker 3: and told me to be careful that you've seen a

944
00:41:39,320 --> 00:41:41,400
Speaker 3: dateline thing about a man hurting the woman. The man

945
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:43,520
Speaker 3: he was in love with was engaged too. When I

946
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:45,520
Speaker 3: laughed it off, she said that with his drinking and

947
00:41:45,560 --> 00:41:48,439
Speaker 3: attitude towards me, I should be avoiding him. I want

948
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 3: my boyfriend to maintain his friendship, but I also don't

949
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 3: want to be treated like this anymore. I've tried to

950
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:55,320
Speaker 3: be friendly for years and nothing has worked. What do

951
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 3: I do?

952
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:57,800
Speaker 5: Hey, John Ogi host here, We're gonna get back to

953
00:41:57,800 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 5: this episode, but a quick three minute break of as

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Speaker 5: from a sponsor's keeping the show alive again.

955
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:06,320
Speaker 3: If your boyfriend does not understand this is making you uncomfortable,

956
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:09,879
Speaker 3: and his friend is not you know, good is bad friend?

957
00:42:10,360 --> 00:42:13,560
Speaker 3: Then uh, not the best relationship he needs to support you.

958
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, you don't need to be a relationship where you

959
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:20,359
Speaker 2: kind of pity someone, because like you can have those

960
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:22,640
Speaker 2: relationships at group parties where you're like, yeah.

961
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:25,880
Speaker 3: Group parties. But that's it. But there is comments and

962
00:42:25,960 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 3: one and says, if you have to push your boyfriend

963
00:42:28,200 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 3: to be friends with this dude, your boyfriend probably doesn't

964
00:42:31,080 --> 00:42:33,920
Speaker 3: give a crap about the guy either way, Stop pushing

965
00:42:33,960 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 3: the friendship. Honestly, I'd be petty and rub it in,

966
00:42:36,560 --> 00:42:38,239
Speaker 3: but that's me and that's the end.

967
00:42:38,160 --> 00:42:38,560
Speaker 2: Of the story.

968
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 4: Thang, Okay, Now you guys have to ask Dakota the

969
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:42,080
Speaker 4: same thing that you asked Dakota.

970
00:42:42,520 --> 00:42:45,239
Speaker 3: When you see your girlfriend, when you sorry, when you

971
00:42:45,280 --> 00:42:48,640
Speaker 3: see Kean, do you peel a little bit like a little.

972
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:50,600
Speaker 4: Puppy, Like a little puppy because you get so excited

973
00:42:50,640 --> 00:42:52,719
Speaker 4: to smell nice? No?

974
00:42:53,960 --> 00:42:58,279
Speaker 3: Cue, do you feel a little bit when you see

975
00:42:58,320 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 3: your girlfriend?

976
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:02,760
Speaker 2: No, I'm a big boy, I don't beee my pants,

977
00:43:02,840 --> 00:43:05,520
Speaker 2: but it's like a puppy, not like a little boy.

978
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 2: I'm a big boy. I'm not a puppy.

979
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:16,080
Speaker 3: Not a puppy grown telling you up. My pants is

980
00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:16,880
Speaker 3: a fibb.

981
00:43:17,400 --> 00:43:20,439
Speaker 2: All right, your girlfriend's let's call the boy.

982
00:43:20,920 --> 00:43:22,640
Speaker 3: I'm not calling the boy to ask him if he

983
00:43:22,760 --> 00:43:23,880
Speaker 3: peace call him.

984
00:43:24,239 --> 00:43:26,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'll call him.

985
00:43:26,320 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 3: No, call him. You can't know. No, do not call him.

986
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:41,480
Speaker 3: Do not call him, don't do not. Don't call him,

987
00:43:42,320 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 3: don't call him.

988
00:43:43,840 --> 00:43:45,520
Speaker 4: Wait, Sofia, when do you see your boy?

989
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 3: You be a little bit. Are you gonna be? All right?

990
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:49,239
Speaker 4: Guys?

991
00:43:49,640 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 3: I don't want to.

992
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:53,800
Speaker 2: We're not gonna call him. She's gonna be on street, guys,

993
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:58,879
Speaker 2: and you could see it. That's the only reason we're

994
00:43:58,880 --> 00:43:59,400
Speaker 2: not call him.

995
00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:04,600
Speaker 3: I says, you ain't cool unless you.

996
00:44:04,640 --> 00:44:12,640
Speaker 2: Feel exactly yes, yes, the eggs yes, all right, let's

997
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:13,440
Speaker 2: the end of that story.

998
00:44:13,520 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 4: My gags comments what did you put on?

999
00:44:17,160 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 5: Literally nothing?

1000
00:44:17,760 --> 00:44:19,640
Speaker 3: What are you talking about it? You smell nice?

1001
00:44:22,040 --> 00:44:22,479
Speaker 2: I don't.

1002
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:24,080
Speaker 4: I'm meeting the comments.

1003
00:44:25,480 --> 00:44:28,640
Speaker 2: A manic episode of pissing herself.

1004
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:32,319
Speaker 3: I'm being out, Yeah, get out.

1005
00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 2: I laughed so hard I pissed myself. See Tomlin, that's crazy.

1006
00:44:39,239 --> 00:44:42,200
Speaker 3: Comments from the video. My wife cheated and now wants

1007
00:44:42,200 --> 00:44:44,800
Speaker 3: an open marriage. It's hard to read it from me,

1008
00:44:44,880 --> 00:44:48,200
Speaker 3: I know. And this was posted September tenth, twenty twenty five.

1009
00:44:48,600 --> 00:44:50,880
Speaker 3: This is my freaking eye exam t L d r

1010
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 3: op thirty three male forgave his wife thirty mail after

1011
00:44:56,280 --> 00:44:58,839
Speaker 3: she cheated years ago, but now she wants an open

1012
00:44:59,200 --> 00:45:00,360
Speaker 3: We read this, we.

1013
00:45:00,480 --> 00:45:03,320
Speaker 2: Read this, We read this, we read this, We've read this.

1014
00:45:03,640 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 2: This is unacceptable. We read this this, we just.

1015
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:07,080
Speaker 3: Read this earlier.

1016
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:09,680
Speaker 4: Guys, I'm just a human being.

1017
00:45:10,320 --> 00:45:11,239
Speaker 2: We literally read this.

1018
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:12,279
Speaker 3: Literally read this.

1019
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:14,239
Speaker 2: He's literally we read this one.

1020
00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:16,200
Speaker 3: That's the same one.

1021
00:45:16,360 --> 00:45:18,760
Speaker 2: Get it together, man, that's the same one.

1022
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:25,879
Speaker 4: That's the one that I have there, I think one five?

1023
00:45:26,640 --> 00:45:26,920
Speaker 2: Why not?

1024
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 3: Why not?

1025
00:45:29,120 --> 00:45:31,120
Speaker 4: I did not yet? This was not added. I did

1026
00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:31,759
Speaker 4: not add this here.

1027
00:45:32,640 --> 00:45:38,320
Speaker 2: Oh god, jeez, Louise. He wants he wants to grab it.

1028
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:40,359
Speaker 4: I don't. Yeah, that was the only one.

1029
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:42,440
Speaker 2: That's all right, Well, bad job, Keon.

1030
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:46,280
Speaker 4: What the what did I do? You did wrong, Dakota?

1031
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:46,960
Speaker 4: Look at the eggs?

1032
00:45:48,239 --> 00:45:50,200
Speaker 2: Yeah, and you have questions for you.

1033
00:45:52,239 --> 00:46:04,919
Speaker 6: Eggs, eggs, eggs, eggs, eggs exite What was the bet again?

1034
00:46:05,040 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 2: Alright, guys, that's the end of the story and that's

1035
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:11,600
Speaker 2: the end of this episode. So if you love us,

1036
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Speaker 2: make sure to subscribe.

1037
00:46:13,000 --> 00:46:15,320
Speaker 3: We love you and see you tomorrow.