WEBVTT - MARC REBILLET GIVES ADVICE AS A GECKO 0:00:01.040 --> 0:00:05.880 Cheers, sorry, cheers idologize for chin chin chin chin. 0:00:06.040 --> 0:00:09.680 That's what the Italians say, really yeah. Also apparently in 0:00:09.760 --> 0:00:14.240 Japanese it means tiny penis really, but I prefer the Italian. 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:16.440 Well, in Italian it means cheers. 0:00:16.239 --> 0:00:17.440 Cheers, yeah, chinchin. 0:00:17.600 --> 0:00:19.959 What's your connection to Italian culture? Where you know that? 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:20.640 Or zero? 0:00:20.800 --> 0:00:20.840 Like? 0:00:20.960 --> 0:00:23.880 I love the way it sounds. Okay, chin chin chin chin, 0:00:23.960 --> 0:00:24.480 you know what I mean? 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:26.639 Mark Reva, how do you how do you pronounce your 0:00:26.720 --> 0:00:27.080 last name? 0:00:27.120 --> 0:00:29.040 Again? You did it? You've knocked it out in the park. 0:00:29.120 --> 0:00:31.920 Yeah, I was telling you beforehand. I like was on 0:00:32.040 --> 0:00:34.159 like fifty different interviews with you trying to find one 0:00:34.200 --> 0:00:36.800 where the interviewer said your name, yeah, so that I 0:00:36.800 --> 0:00:37.800 could be prepared. 0:00:38.320 --> 0:00:41.600 It's pretty much everybody fucks it up. But it's Robbie 0:00:41.760 --> 0:00:44.600 you killed it? Is that French? Yeah? That's very French? 0:00:44.720 --> 0:00:48.640 Okay French? Do you go to Dual Citizen? Really? Yeah? 0:00:48.840 --> 0:00:49.880 Do you go to France? 0:00:49.880 --> 0:00:52.360 Off? Yeah? I do? Now I go, you know, when 0:00:52.400 --> 0:00:54.920 I play shows, I generally go once a year on tour, 0:00:55.000 --> 0:00:56.200 but I used to go all the time when I 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:58.920 was a kid. I'd go to the south of France. 0:00:59.000 --> 0:01:00.880 I had a pen palace all over there. 0:01:00.840 --> 0:01:04.600 And yeah, how often could do you write to your 0:01:04.600 --> 0:01:05.040 pen pal? 0:01:05.080 --> 0:01:06.840 Well, I don't write to him anymore, but we we 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.200 do stay in touch. He's a good dude. He lives 0:01:09.200 --> 0:01:11.720 in Canada now, he's one of those like ex French 0:01:11.760 --> 0:01:13.240 transplants that lives in Canada. Now. 0:01:13.319 --> 0:01:15.200 Now, when you now, I assume your pen pal you 0:01:15.240 --> 0:01:18.000 just text him? Now? Yeah, but when you text him, 0:01:18.000 --> 0:01:19.720 do you write it like a letter? 0:01:20.520 --> 0:01:22.560 I write? I write a letter and then I take 0:01:22.600 --> 0:01:24.520 a picture of it and I send it to him 0:01:24.520 --> 0:01:25.200 on WhatsApp. 0:01:26.480 --> 0:01:29.840 That sounds efficient, It's it's not, It's. 0:01:29.640 --> 0:01:32.119 Not at all. I should probably just text the man, 0:01:32.280 --> 0:01:35.679 you know, Mark, what you been thinking about lately? Oh 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:39.760 Jesus lyle Man, I gotta tell you, dude, please, I 0:01:39.840 --> 0:01:46.080 might need to call in. I've been very stressed, a 0:01:46.080 --> 0:01:52.400 lot of stress. I'm putting together this studio in Brooklyn 0:01:52.440 --> 0:01:55.640 that I'm doing this project in that I'm really really 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:59.560 fucking pumped about. But what I didn't really take into 0:01:59.600 --> 0:02:03.960 account when I got this space was the fact that 0:02:04.040 --> 0:02:10.560 I would have to make decisions about every single part 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.600 of it, you know what I mean? That, Like my 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.000 idea was just like I had this idea and I 0:02:15.040 --> 0:02:17.120 was like, I'll get this studio and we'll do this 0:02:17.200 --> 0:02:19.800 fun thing in there. But then you start getting it 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:23.800 together and you realize it was like a thousand tiny 0:02:23.840 --> 0:02:25.040 decisions that need to be made. 0:02:25.160 --> 0:02:28.880 You consider yourself a decisive man. 0:02:33.760 --> 0:02:36.120 That just just I didn't know. 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:38.120 I didn't know if you were doing a bit just now. 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:41.720 I was like, are you with me or no, that's 0:02:41.760 --> 0:02:45.320 an organic bit. Okay, So no, I'm not, I'm not. 0:02:45.680 --> 0:02:49.320 I'm not. There are things I feel strongly about. I'm opinionated. 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:53.959 I was opinionating decisive. No, I'm trying. 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:55.760 I'm really trying to think about what the differences between 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:58.120 opinionated and I feel like decisive is when you have 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.600 the confidence to back up all of your opinion. Yet 0:03:00.760 --> 0:03:05.480 because opinions free opinions, you just have them right, they 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:06.600 are in your brain. 0:03:06.680 --> 0:03:09.919 They don't necessarily like drive your life or the world 0:03:09.919 --> 0:03:12.959 in one direction or another. The thoughts are just thoughts, 0:03:13.000 --> 0:03:17.040 their thoughts. I have very clear, defined thoughts about things 0:03:17.520 --> 0:03:20.200 that I'm willing to change, of course, But but but 0:03:20.280 --> 0:03:26.160 you know, instinct wise, I have strong opinions. Decisions much 0:03:26.200 --> 0:03:27.480 more difficult for me. 0:03:27.800 --> 0:03:31.080 But there's a did you feel like a very small 0:03:31.200 --> 0:03:33.720 gap between the opinions and the decisions, especially when it 0:03:33.800 --> 0:03:35.800 comes to like design, like you obviously like, okay, if 0:03:35.800 --> 0:03:37.040 you have a lot of opinions, I assume you have 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.320 a lot of opinions about that's what design of your 0:03:39.320 --> 0:03:39.920 place should look. 0:03:40.000 --> 0:03:42.119 That's very true. And I and and I make those 0:03:42.120 --> 0:03:44.800 decisions pretty quickly. So I don't know. Now I'm second guessing. 0:03:44.840 --> 0:03:45.320 Maybe I am. 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:51.080 You're decisive about your own decisive. Holy we just started 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:53.880 and we're already I therapy, get going. 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:57.800 I need real therapy, I think, Yeah, I have a 0:03:57.800 --> 0:03:59.520 couple of times, a couple of times, and I would 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.320 like to continue going. But I have I have yet 0:04:02.360 --> 0:04:05.040 to find a therapist who really who I jive with. 0:04:05.360 --> 0:04:08.720 You know, do you have anything you you might be 0:04:08.800 --> 0:04:10.840 looking for in particular, like when you think about someone 0:04:10.840 --> 0:04:12.960 who might be who might jive well with you? 0:04:13.000 --> 0:04:15.360 No, not, I mean it's more just like a It's 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:17.359 like a feeling, isn't it. I would hope that like 0:04:17.440 --> 0:04:20.119 it's like I'm talking with this person and I feel 0:04:20.160 --> 0:04:24.560 like they genuinely, even if they don't understand that, they 0:04:24.640 --> 0:04:26.880 genuinely empathize and can have a back and forth with 0:04:26.920 --> 0:04:29.479 me in a way that feels natural. Sure, and that 0:04:29.640 --> 0:04:35.279 feels helpful, I suppose, and I just haven't found that. 0:04:35.360 --> 0:04:38.839 Of had a couple therapists, you know, for a couple. 0:04:38.520 --> 0:04:42.560 Of weeks, you say, oh right, we forgot to go 0:04:42.600 --> 0:04:48.359 live on Reddit. We're not ready, We're not I forgot 0:04:48.360 --> 0:04:48.600 to go. 0:04:48.560 --> 0:04:49.240 Live on Reddit. 0:04:49.400 --> 0:04:54.320 Everybody give us just a moment on Reddit. That's you 0:04:54.400 --> 0:04:58.080 and I were both we're we're children, and I read it. 0:04:58.080 --> 0:05:01.120 We both started doing our ship on. That's right. I 0:05:01.160 --> 0:05:04.159 owe my pretty much my entire career to read it. 0:05:04.200 --> 0:05:06.480 Dude, I owe my entire career. 0:05:05.480 --> 0:05:11.760 Like our videos are cringe, I owe my career. Do 0:05:11.839 --> 0:05:12.919 you read it? All? 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:13.120 Right? 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:14.039 We I think we're on. 0:05:14.120 --> 0:05:14.400 We're on? 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:17.479 Is anything else wrong? Are we all? 0:05:18.000 --> 0:05:18.480 We're good? 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:23.719 Oh man, we are up and running. We're up and running. Hello, Reddit? 0:05:24.640 --> 0:05:24.960 Read it? 0:05:25.000 --> 0:05:25.279 Have you? 0:05:25.560 --> 0:05:27.600 Have you streamed on? You? You stream on our pan? 0:05:27.680 --> 0:05:27.840 Right? 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:29.920 I didn't even, to be honest with you, I didn't 0:05:29.920 --> 0:05:31.440 know it was still happening. I thought it was like 0:05:31.680 --> 0:05:33.680 a social experiment that they did. 0:05:33.760 --> 0:05:37.240 That's how it started. But it still it started as like, hey, 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:39.279 we're going to do this for a month, and then 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:42.400 I think they just kept it and really yeah, and 0:05:42.440 --> 0:05:44.200 my I, like I said, my whole thing is that's 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:45.400 where I started streaming, and. 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:48.560 Fuck yeah, you know that's awesome. Yeah. Our pan was awesome. 0:05:48.600 --> 0:05:51.560 I mean I remember it happened during the pandemic, didn't 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:55.000 it when it I think when they started it when 0:05:55.040 --> 0:05:57.599 they started putting it up, and it was this thing 0:05:57.680 --> 0:06:01.120 where you would get on it and stream and all 0:06:01.120 --> 0:06:02.920 of the same was it was kind of like TikTok 0:06:02.960 --> 0:06:06.360 and that it would propel someone who is doing something 0:06:06.440 --> 0:06:10.240 like half interesting, from like five watchers to like fifty 0:06:10.320 --> 0:06:14.680 thousand yeah. Yeah, and it was just this insane audience 0:06:14.720 --> 0:06:18.800 that if you managed to get on while it was happening, 0:06:18.880 --> 0:06:21.520 while the feature was enabled, yeah, then you could really 0:06:21.880 --> 0:06:24.120 like you could get some massive viewers. Yeah. That was 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:24.680 that was me. 0:06:24.800 --> 0:06:27.320 I went on right after like there would be a 0:06:27.360 --> 0:06:31.159 guy filming chickens yeah yeah, or something like something along 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:33.599 those lines, and it'd be fifty thousand people watching this 0:06:33.640 --> 0:06:36.240 guy filming his chickens. Yeah, and I would I would 0:06:36.560 --> 0:06:40.640 take some of the chicken attention, siphon it off into 0:06:40.680 --> 0:06:41.240 what I'm doing. 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:43.760 Get the chickens over here, yeah, chicken people over there. 0:06:43.960 --> 0:06:46.840 Yeah yeah yeah That's that's what I did too. I 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.559 what I rely on my on the people who watched 0:06:49.600 --> 0:06:51.279 me to sort of alert me to this kind of stuff. 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:53.520 So I would get a couple of dms that were like, 0:06:54.120 --> 0:06:56.320 Mark Arpan is live right now, You've got to go 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.279 on it. So I was like in the middle. I 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:01.960 was like high and watching something like I gotta stop everything. 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:03.800 I hook up my sound ship, I put my phone 0:07:03.880 --> 0:07:06.159 up here, and I get on our pan and I mean, yeah, 0:07:06.160 --> 0:07:08.880 it just like did incredible things for my viewership. 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:12.000 So so, so you get high, you're a green guy. 0:07:12.120 --> 0:07:14.480 I'm a bit very much agree do you? Uh? 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:17.080 Do you get high while you stream and while you 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:18.200 like work and stuff? 0:07:18.360 --> 0:07:23.080 I'll tell you I get high occasionally while I stream. Okay, 0:07:24.000 --> 0:07:29.280 because there's something about that that vibe in my in 0:07:29.320 --> 0:07:33.680 my apartment. It helps you say it definitely can. Yes, yes, 0:07:33.760 --> 0:07:38.160 I think it does at shows. Never I made that 0:07:38.240 --> 0:07:41.480 mistake a couple of times early in my touring life. 0:07:41.480 --> 0:07:45.000 What did that feel like? Dude? It I played this 0:07:45.160 --> 0:07:48.360 show in Uh? Is it cool? If I put my 0:07:48.400 --> 0:07:50.880 get go foot whatever you then we. 0:07:50.800 --> 0:07:53.280 Look a little bit like a you can It's like 0:07:53.320 --> 0:07:54.520 a leap frog stand. 0:07:54.600 --> 0:07:56.080 That's I'm gonna I'm gonna do. 0:07:56.000 --> 0:07:58.160 I'm gonna get banned for this one, but you go ahead. 0:07:59.280 --> 0:07:59.800 Is that all right? 0:08:00.120 --> 0:08:00.160 No? 0:08:00.360 --> 0:08:01.680 Please please? 0:08:02.640 --> 0:08:05.080 That's good. That's where it feel. Yeah, I feel good. 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:07.360 I feel good good. I'll tell you this show in 0:08:07.480 --> 0:08:11.440 Indianapolis I did. I think it was like maybe my 0:08:11.560 --> 0:08:15.480 first or second show touring show ever. So I just 0:08:15.520 --> 0:08:20.960 started touring. This was twenty eighteen, and and I get 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:24.960 up on the stage and it's a really high energy room. 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:28.520 People are squay. It's like a really good feeling in there, 0:08:28.960 --> 0:08:32.439 really enjoying myself. Halfway through the show, this guy in 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:37.680 the front hands me a vape pen and I'm like, fuck, yeah, 0:08:37.760 --> 0:08:39.640 let's do you know. I take the va I take 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:41.400 a little hit. And the thing about the vape pens 0:08:41.440 --> 0:08:43.960 is you never really know how tight or loose like 0:08:44.000 --> 0:08:47.640 the draw is gonna be. Yeah, And so I hit 0:08:47.720 --> 0:08:54.360 it and it was just this absurd hit, absurd hit. 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:59.000 I'm just a cloud. And all of a sudden, I 0:08:59.160 --> 0:09:02.840 realize that I'm standing on a stage and there's hundreds 0:09:02.880 --> 0:09:08.520 of people expecting me to die some thing. Yes, and 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:13.400 so my whole ship I'm just And it was like 0:09:13.480 --> 0:09:18.160 a basically a mini panic attack. I pulled through, I mean, 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:21.120 finished the show, but it was horrible. It was just 0:09:21.160 --> 0:09:22.040 an awful thing. 0:09:22.200 --> 0:09:24.560 I feel like in order to do things like like 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:26.959 what we're doing now and being on stage, like you, 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:31.160 you have to not be thinking about the fact that 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:32.840 you are being watched. 0:09:33.160 --> 0:09:33.880 True, that's a. 0:09:33.920 --> 0:09:36.360 Very like you know, the flow state, right, So you 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:37.880 have to be like in the flow state. You can't 0:09:37.920 --> 0:09:40.360 be thinking too much. Mech That's why I don't get 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:42.160 high when I do this, because if I did, I'd 0:09:42.160 --> 0:09:44.400 be like, oh God, there's how many other people. 0:09:45.360 --> 0:09:48.120 You got you start thinking about. But it's good when 0:09:48.160 --> 0:09:51.560 you're alone, Like when I'm on stream alone. I tend 0:09:51.600 --> 0:09:54.000 to find that if there's no one else in the room, 0:09:54.480 --> 0:09:56.720 it really does put me into an interesting place. I 0:09:56.720 --> 0:09:59.440 find I come up with cool stuff. But it just 0:09:59.480 --> 0:10:01.800 doesn't work when there's other people there and you and 0:10:01.840 --> 0:10:03.280 you're you're on the spot and you have to like 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.920 do something creatively. At least for me. I think it 0:10:05.960 --> 0:10:07.160 works for a lot of other people. A lot of 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:10.080 the other people are happy to get high and do shit, 0:10:10.200 --> 0:10:14.120 But I just can't reconcile it for some reason. 0:10:14.200 --> 0:10:16.360 You know, I've decided that this is the one stream 0:10:16.400 --> 0:10:18.840 where like I say, sometimes I just won't do anything. 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:21.599 Sometimes I'll just sit in silence. I'll stare at the 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.480 camera a little bit, if I if I, if I 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:34.480 need to, Hey, you want to take some calls? 0:10:34.800 --> 0:10:39.880 Yeah, let's do it. I'm very excited. I'm very excited 0:10:39.880 --> 0:10:41.559 to talk to people. It's been a while since I've 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:44.280 talked to some lovely callers. Hello. 0:10:46.920 --> 0:10:53.360 Hello, Sarah from New York, twenty two years old. How 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:54.000 are you doing. 0:10:56.480 --> 0:10:59.400 I'm good. I just got some back from class. 0:11:00.160 --> 0:11:03.920 Guys doing doing very well, Sarah. It's lovely to hear 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:05.440 your voice. How is class? 0:11:08.440 --> 0:11:12.920 It was long, but I'm glad it's over. We had 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:13.600 a lecture. 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:17.560 Anything interesting going on in that lecture. 0:11:20.120 --> 0:11:23.680 It was a lecture about structures and this guy named 0:11:23.720 --> 0:11:29.040 Felix Candela, who was a very famous Spanish designer who 0:11:29.080 --> 0:11:32.560 made these ultra thin shell structures in Mexico. 0:11:33.679 --> 0:11:34.960 Did you find that interesting? 0:11:37.320 --> 0:11:41.880 I did? I really did good. It had a lot 0:11:41.920 --> 0:11:44.679 to do with the project I'm working on for one 0:11:44.720 --> 0:11:45.680 of my other classes. 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:51.520 Well, Sarah, it says here speaking of class, that you 0:11:51.600 --> 0:11:56.480 have a professor who you say, is constantly over sharing 0:11:57.360 --> 0:12:01.800 about other teachers and staff. There gossiping around. They're talking 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:05.960 about who is sleeping with whom, and you find this 0:12:06.000 --> 0:12:08.000 to be wildly inapprogram Do you want to tell us 0:12:08.040 --> 0:12:08.600 more about this? 0:12:11.240 --> 0:12:14.080 Yeah, So she's the professor that I'm doing this other 0:12:14.200 --> 0:12:18.080 project for, and it's a very small school, so word 0:12:18.160 --> 0:12:23.680 gets around and essentially when we kind of meet for class, 0:12:24.440 --> 0:12:27.400 we kind of start talking, and then she we break 0:12:27.480 --> 0:12:29.560 up into smaller groups and she visits each one of 0:12:29.600 --> 0:12:32.800 us individually. We kind of update her on our progress, 0:12:33.559 --> 0:12:37.600 and she always starts spinning wildly out of control, sharing 0:12:37.720 --> 0:12:41.920 about these professors, these other faculty members that I've had previously, 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:46.640 and telling us about things that they were said, you know, 0:12:48.200 --> 0:12:50.440 in private, like just. 0:12:50.400 --> 0:12:55.800 Like is is I guess my question was go ahead, please, 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:57.760 I didn't mean to interrupt you, go right ahead. 0:12:59.320 --> 0:12:59.880 Oh. 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:04.000 My question would be in a professional relationship between a 0:13:04.040 --> 0:13:08.480 student and a professor where she has kind of complete 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:13.079 control over my success in this course and my ability 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:17.319 to move on with my education, Like what is the 0:13:17.360 --> 0:13:22.480 best way to kind of handle this situation? Whereas like 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:25.800 I don't want to you know, ruin any opportunities that 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:28.839 may you know, come from this in the future, whether 0:13:28.880 --> 0:13:31.920 it be a job or a teaching position, but like 0:13:32.200 --> 0:13:35.920 it's making me uncomfortable. Sometimes she's talking about her own 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:39.439 trauma with the pandemic or her childhood. 0:13:39.559 --> 0:13:44.520 Like can I ask you, is is she an influential 0:13:44.559 --> 0:13:47.800 professor for you? In other words, you know, would she 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:51.360 Are you worried that if if, if you were to 0:13:51.400 --> 0:13:54.360 sort of say anything about this or ruffle some feathers 0:13:54.400 --> 0:13:58.079 that you know that she would be able to impact 0:13:58.120 --> 0:13:59.720 your career in the future in some way. 0:14:02.440 --> 0:14:06.600 I would say. So, it's a small profession in the 0:14:06.640 --> 0:14:10.160 way that like a lot of these faculty members are 0:14:10.240 --> 0:14:13.440 practitioners in the field, and they speak to each other, 0:14:13.640 --> 0:14:17.120 you know, casually over drinks or so on, and that 0:14:17.280 --> 0:14:21.680 a small school like the school I go to very frequently, 0:14:21.720 --> 0:14:25.480 like students are obviously discussed over, like you know, drinks 0:14:25.520 --> 0:14:28.800 after after class that day with between the faculty. So 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:33.080 it's concerning in the way that I don't want to 0:14:34.520 --> 0:14:36.239 like seem unrecepted. 0:14:37.240 --> 0:14:41.040 What what is what is the wildest thing that this 0:14:41.120 --> 0:14:42.080 teacher has told you? 0:14:42.280 --> 0:14:43.120 I'm dying to know. 0:14:46.560 --> 0:14:50.240 So I think she was a refugee from war in 0:14:50.360 --> 0:14:54.120 the Eastern Europe and a story she told me. 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.080 That's a lot different from like thought I thought I 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:01.320 was like gossip about like who's sleep. 0:15:01.800 --> 0:15:06.360 I don't know the story about being a refugee hole 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:08.239 war story right right? 0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:13.920 No, it's like an insane like variety of things that 0:15:14.040 --> 0:15:16.440 she talks about. It feels as that she doesn't really 0:15:16.440 --> 0:15:19.600 have any personal friends to kind of like have it 0:15:19.720 --> 0:15:22.280 as an outlet, and she kind of dumps it on students, 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:24.760 but like kind of like more of the saucy stuff 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:28.320 is like I don't really feel comfortable discussing. 0:15:28.960 --> 0:15:31.960 Uh, okay, have you told her that you don't feel 0:15:32.000 --> 0:15:36.480 comfortable discussing this stuff with her? 0:15:37.240 --> 0:15:40.280 No, I'm just afraid to. I guess what do. 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:41.240 The other students think? 0:15:44.800 --> 0:15:47.680 I mean, you know how students kind of like joke 0:15:47.760 --> 0:15:50.520 on their own, like it's it's kind of like she's 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.840 notorious for this, and like it's not. I'm not the 0:15:52.840 --> 0:15:55.040 only person that it's happened to, and so you kind 0:15:55.040 --> 0:15:57.120 of make jokes about it, like, oh, did you hear 0:15:57.120 --> 0:15:58.840 what she says this day or whatever? 0:16:00.120 --> 0:16:01.600 So do you feel like you're having more of a 0:16:01.640 --> 0:16:03.280 problem with it than they are? 0:16:07.560 --> 0:16:08.360 Can you repeat that? 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:10.680 Do you feel like you're having more of a problem 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:12.000 with it than the other students are? 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:13.040 It seems like it. 0:16:13.120 --> 0:16:16.120 Yeah, maybe maybe, maybe I think so. 0:16:17.560 --> 0:16:19.840 I don't know. That's a tough predicament. You know, I 0:16:19.880 --> 0:16:21.960 don't know what I would do in that situation, because, like, 0:16:22.640 --> 0:16:29.000 you should not in an academic environment feel uncomfortable, particularly 0:16:29.680 --> 0:16:32.600 with someone who's like you're superior, who's supposed to be 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:36.680 teaching you. That's not it. You should not feel that 0:16:36.760 --> 0:16:42.800 way in that kind of dynamic. That's not good. Yeah, 0:16:43.040 --> 0:16:46.160 at the same time, Okay, but but hold on though, 0:16:46.200 --> 0:16:50.800 because I don't think. No, here's what it is. I 0:16:51.040 --> 0:16:56.320 wouldn't give a shit about this person's ability to affect 0:16:56.360 --> 0:17:01.480 your career in the future. That is less. I just 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:07.200 feel like that's less a concern than this person saying 0:17:07.200 --> 0:17:10.000 some really outrageous shit to their students that they really 0:17:10.040 --> 0:17:12.720 shouldn't be saying as a teacher, you know what I mean, 0:17:12.880 --> 0:17:17.240 Like that, that's that's an issue, and you could not 0:17:17.359 --> 0:17:22.960 only help solve that for yourself, but also for future classes. 0:17:23.080 --> 0:17:25.840 Like maybe she doesn't even know that what she's saying 0:17:25.960 --> 0:17:27.520 is true. She could be. 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:32.600 Of the fact that she's making people uncomfortable. 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:35.560 Right, I mean, maybe she just needs to be educated school. 0:17:37.560 --> 0:17:40.080 Yeah, I guess I do just have to kind of 0:17:40.080 --> 0:17:42.040 bring it up to her and ask if she's aware. 0:17:42.440 --> 0:17:44.119 I think that's the way to go. It's like, you 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:45.919 don't have to go through the whole school system and 0:17:45.960 --> 0:17:49.080 make a big fuss about it, but maybe personally to her, 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:52.560 you never know. She might be I mean, she might 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.439 be grateful. She might be like, man, I didn't know 0:17:54.480 --> 0:17:57.240 that I was over sharing or that making people uncomfortable. 0:17:57.480 --> 0:17:58.480 She might not even realize. 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:00.520 Yeah, that's my thoughts. 0:18:01.760 --> 0:18:05.439 Yeah, Sarah, I mean, what do you think you'll do 0:18:05.560 --> 0:18:06.240 moving forward? 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:14.040 Well, I'll see her on Thursday, and I think, oh god, 0:18:15.440 --> 0:18:17.080 I mean, I guess I should just bring it up 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:20.720 to her in a private and a casual method and 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:25.679 ask if she needs maybe an outlet in a different manner. 0:18:25.560 --> 0:18:29.840 Maybe she needs approaching the situation with some genuine kindness. 0:18:29.880 --> 0:18:32.600 I like this, I like one hundred. I think that's 0:18:32.640 --> 0:18:35.679 the way to go. And also I would try and 0:18:35.720 --> 0:18:39.160 remember that this is not you know, I know it's 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:42.160 going to be nerve wracking to approach her. Obviously that's 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:45.440 a weird thing. It's a weird situation. But I would 0:18:45.520 --> 0:18:48.960 try and remember that it's not that big a deal. 0:18:49.160 --> 0:18:54.320 It's someone leveling with someone else. Student teacher, employee. But whatever, 0:18:54.840 --> 0:18:57.879 you're just saying, Hey, this is a little weird for 0:18:57.960 --> 0:19:00.119 me human to human. You know, I just want to 0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:03.600 let you know. And it's you know, I wouldn't. It's 0:19:03.640 --> 0:19:05.520 not that big a deal. You know, she needs to know, 0:19:05.680 --> 0:19:08.439 she needs to know, Sarah. 0:19:08.440 --> 0:19:10.359 Is there anything else you want to say to me, 0:19:10.560 --> 0:19:12.239 Mark or the people of the computer before we go? 0:19:14.720 --> 0:19:16.680 Not really. Thank you guys so much, and I hope 0:19:16.680 --> 0:19:17.640 you have a wonderful night. 0:19:18.119 --> 0:19:22.680 Thank you very much for calling Sarah. Thanks Sarah, good night, 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:26.520 night night. Don't you dare let the bed bugs bite? 0:19:26.560 --> 0:19:31.440 Okay, see, maybe this is just me, but if and 0:19:31.760 --> 0:19:32.480 to each their own. 0:19:32.520 --> 0:19:34.680 Everyone has their own level of comfortable with other stuff. 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:37.399 But like I and maybe this is just my nature 0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:39.520 of what I do here, but I'm always honored when 0:19:39.520 --> 0:19:40.439 people open up to me. 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:42.720 Oh yeah, Oh I thought you were gonna say about 0:19:42.760 --> 0:19:43.280 bed bugs. 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.720 Oh no, no, I don't. I don't think I have 0:19:46.840 --> 0:19:48.840 anything at all to say about bed buddy. 0:19:48.920 --> 0:19:52.119 Well fuck them, really fuck them, don't let them bite 0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:54.640 pretty much. But when people open up. 0:19:54.680 --> 0:19:57.120 Yeah, I feel like I feel I don't know, I'm 0:19:57.160 --> 0:19:58.840 just like, it's a weird experience. 0:19:58.920 --> 0:20:03.119 I agree, I feel like an obligation to really listen 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:07.280 and support and try and work through it in whatever 0:20:07.480 --> 0:20:11.080 stupid way we can. You know, it's it feels I 0:20:11.080 --> 0:20:17.560 feel immediately like there's like a some sort of uh 0:20:18.920 --> 0:20:23.600 burden is the wrong words. It's like obligation. It's still 0:20:23.680 --> 0:20:27.560 the duty duty, dude, there's a duty bestowed on us 0:20:27.600 --> 0:20:29.400 this second someone opens up. 0:20:29.359 --> 0:20:31.399 Like that, right right, or you feel like you have 0:20:31.440 --> 0:20:34.600 to be and and you know, Sarah, I have a 0:20:34.640 --> 0:20:37.680 lot of respect for her because she clearly has high 0:20:37.720 --> 0:20:40.639 moral standards, because a lot of people, probably me included, 0:20:40.640 --> 0:20:43.040 would also be like, damn, what's the tea? I know, 0:20:43.359 --> 0:20:45.240 I'm just like I would be like sitting there, like, 0:20:45.440 --> 0:20:48.800 please tell me more about which professor is sleeping with her, 0:20:49.040 --> 0:20:51.800 just for like, but she she would rather hear about 0:20:51.800 --> 0:20:55.280 the Spanish architect. That's what she paid to go to 0:20:55.280 --> 0:20:56.960 school to hear about. So I respect her. 0:20:56.840 --> 0:21:02.680 For student self respect. Yeah, not something I know anything about. 0:21:02.760 --> 0:21:05.359 Were you what was your God? I dropped out. I 0:21:05.359 --> 0:21:07.159 went to college for acting for a year and I 0:21:07.440 --> 0:21:10.840 dropped out. Okay, that was it. How was the year? 0:21:11.040 --> 0:21:13.400 Did you learn anything that you currently use in your 0:21:13.600 --> 0:21:14.359 regular life? 0:21:14.440 --> 0:21:20.879 Well? Uh, you know, no, no, but I did. I 0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:24.440 did make some of my best friends there. That's definitely 0:21:24.440 --> 0:21:27.840 a big takeaway. That's helpful. Are you in any debt? No, 0:21:27.960 --> 0:21:30.080 I paid it all off. Well, my parents paid off 0:21:30.119 --> 0:21:31.680 like half of it, and then I paid off the rest. 0:21:32.359 --> 0:21:34.720 And I should reimburse my mom for that, now, you 0:21:34.800 --> 0:21:36.880 know what I mean. Wouldn't that be nice? A nice 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:37.760 little Christmas present? 0:21:37.760 --> 0:21:39.520 It's nice to think about things, are you Are you 0:21:39.600 --> 0:21:40.359 actually gonna do it? 0:21:40.840 --> 0:21:41.960 I certainly could. 0:21:42.280 --> 0:21:44.119 I like thinking about like nice things that. 0:21:44.160 --> 0:21:47.359 The yeah do, but never never did because because the. 0:21:47.840 --> 0:21:49.680 Good feeling, because you know how like you do something 0:21:49.760 --> 0:21:51.359 nice and you can do that feeling. You can just 0:21:51.400 --> 0:21:54.040 get that feeling by just saying that you're just thinking 0:21:54.040 --> 0:21:54.439 about it. 0:21:54.480 --> 0:21:57.399 You know. I should Uh, yeah, I should really donate 0:21:57.400 --> 0:22:02.240 to unis stuff. Yeah, that'd be nice. Anyway, I need whiskey. 0:22:02.400 --> 0:22:06.040 No, let's see what's going on in the queue here. 0:22:06.880 --> 0:22:14.080 Bethany from Ohio. Bethany from Ohio. Yeah, what's up? Yeah? 0:22:14.440 --> 0:22:18.840 Hill to hear Bethany from Ohio. 0:22:18.960 --> 0:22:24.680 I've never been able to hear you better, Bethany. It's true. 0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:28.600 Being connected together on the phone has increased our ability 0:22:28.640 --> 0:22:30.719 to hear one another more than before. 0:22:31.720 --> 0:22:33.680 I feel like this is more of a human interaction 0:22:33.720 --> 0:22:34.840 than I have with most people. 0:22:35.680 --> 0:22:39.240 Bethany, Uh, Bethany, Can I read here? What it says 0:22:39.240 --> 0:22:43.120 on the computer? Yeah? 0:22:43.240 --> 0:22:43.560 Sure? 0:22:44.119 --> 0:22:46.879 Says here that you've been doing tarot readings as a 0:22:47.000 --> 0:22:52.720 job for five years, but your boyfriend slash baby daddy 0:22:53.400 --> 0:22:57.200 is not supportive of you. Says he makes enough money 0:22:57.200 --> 0:22:58.959 to support both of you. Guys, but you want your 0:22:58.960 --> 0:23:00.880 own independence. Is accurate? 0:23:04.800 --> 0:23:08.120 Be me and my boyfriend about another like nine years 0:23:09.160 --> 0:23:13.199 and we have a child together. I've been interested in 0:23:13.240 --> 0:23:17.160 tara for five years and I want to because I'm 0:23:17.200 --> 0:23:17.679 my friends. 0:23:18.119 --> 0:23:21.720 I really think I'm good at it, and I. 0:23:21.760 --> 0:23:24.800 Really thoroughly enjoying it. It's like a lot. 0:23:25.119 --> 0:23:28.280 So it's something I really want to do. And my 0:23:28.320 --> 0:23:30.120 boyfriend's just really against it. 0:23:30.200 --> 0:23:31.840 He just doesn't like taro. 0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:35.639 He thinks that kind of stuff is silly. 0:23:35.920 --> 0:23:38.159 What doesn't he like about it? Has he expressed to 0:23:38.200 --> 0:23:39.080 you what he doesn't like? 0:23:41.520 --> 0:23:44.800 Oh, he just doesn't believe in it. 0:23:44.880 --> 0:23:45.840 I guess. 0:23:48.119 --> 0:23:53.800 You know. Here's my thing, and I get it. Here's 0:23:53.840 --> 0:23:54.400 here's the thing. 0:23:54.520 --> 0:23:56.439 Is like, Look, it's one thing if your boyfriend doesn't 0:23:56.440 --> 0:23:59.920 believe in it, But it's another thing if he because, 0:24:00.080 --> 0:24:02.800 like whatever, he can't force himself to believe in anything. 0:24:03.280 --> 0:24:06.800 But it's another thing if he's consistently going out of 0:24:06.880 --> 0:24:09.199 his way to be a dick about it. 0:24:09.400 --> 0:24:10.960 Yeah, I mean you don't have to believe in it, 0:24:11.000 --> 0:24:14.320 but he could still support yours what you believing in it. 0:24:14.400 --> 0:24:18.480 Yeah, and not that I think. 0:24:18.600 --> 0:24:22.399 So it's like basically, do I make myself happy or 0:24:22.440 --> 0:24:24.160 do I make my boyfriend happy. 0:24:25.960 --> 0:24:27.240 And leave any other nine minutes? 0:24:27.320 --> 0:24:31.120 Like I said, is is that where it's at right now? 0:24:31.200 --> 0:24:34.560 Or I mean, are you between those two choices? Do 0:24:34.600 --> 0:24:36.720 you feel like it's it's teeter tottering like that? 0:24:37.640 --> 0:24:42.000 Well, well, I'm gonna stay at home mom with our 0:24:42.080 --> 0:24:46.240 daughter with now, and I'm just very aware of how 0:24:46.359 --> 0:24:48.919 the prossed I can get. And I feel like I 0:24:49.119 --> 0:24:53.159 need some sort of career or I need something to 0:24:53.240 --> 0:24:58.800 make me feel happy outside of being a mom. And 0:24:59.320 --> 0:25:03.119 so I feel I need something. And this is something 0:25:03.119 --> 0:25:05.280 I really love, you know, and I wanted to give 0:25:05.320 --> 0:25:08.480 it to like sewing and clothes making. 0:25:08.760 --> 0:25:10.679 But that's really hard with Tapper. 0:25:11.359 --> 0:25:14.120 Yeah, you know, like learning that stuff and doing that Taro. 0:25:14.520 --> 0:25:17.239 I already know it, Like I can do that with 0:25:17.280 --> 0:25:21.639 her around like it's something that's like really easy to do, 0:25:21.760 --> 0:25:22.640 and that's something I love. 0:25:23.080 --> 0:25:26.600 I think not only do you need something like that, 0:25:27.040 --> 0:25:30.359 you deserve something like that. Everyone should have something in 0:25:30.400 --> 0:25:36.080 their life, you know, outside of whatever their familial responsibilities 0:25:36.200 --> 0:25:41.120 or their home life that brings them joy, brings them pleasure. 0:25:41.600 --> 0:25:45.560 If Tarot is that for you, you should absolutely pursue it, 0:25:47.080 --> 0:25:54.080 regardless of what this joker thinks about it. Excuse my language, 0:25:56.040 --> 0:26:00.720 but you know, come on, is he well? Can I 0:26:00.720 --> 0:26:03.840 ask Bethany real quick? Can I ask? Can I ask 0:26:03.920 --> 0:26:05.760 my friend behind? 0:26:05.800 --> 0:26:10.639 Is that Bethany? When when your boyfriend is when you 0:26:10.680 --> 0:26:13.359 say he's not supportive of you, what kind of like 0:26:13.560 --> 0:26:14.840 language is he using? 0:26:14.960 --> 0:26:17.320 Is he is he like telling you to stop? 0:26:17.560 --> 0:26:20.680 Is he like saying, hey, cut that shit out because 0:26:20.720 --> 0:26:22.760 you got to take care of our kid? Like how 0:26:22.840 --> 0:26:25.320 is he approaching? Because, like I said, it's one thing 0:26:25.320 --> 0:26:27.560 if he doesn't believe in it, like you know whatever, 0:26:27.600 --> 0:26:30.159 But it's a totally other thing if he's like trying 0:26:30.200 --> 0:26:34.080 to get you to stop or or or control what 0:26:34.119 --> 0:26:34.880 you're doing. 0:26:34.880 --> 0:26:39.920 Right, like like he doesn't want me, Like so I'm 0:26:39.960 --> 0:26:40.640 going to make. 0:26:40.840 --> 0:26:45.200 Money from this and you can make like thirty dollars 0:26:45.240 --> 0:26:47.800 for fifteen minutes or fifty for thirty minutes, Like you 0:26:47.840 --> 0:26:49.920 can really set the price at whatever you want. I'm 0:26:49.920 --> 0:26:52.880 not trying to like, he says, it's like ripping people off. 0:26:52.920 --> 0:26:55.640 I'm like, I'm the type of person that if you 0:26:55.680 --> 0:26:58.439 like call me with Tara reading like, I'm not going 0:26:58.520 --> 0:26:59.760 to try to put you off. I'm going to try 0:26:59.800 --> 0:27:01.760 to hell be like similar to what you do. But 0:27:01.880 --> 0:27:07.720 like with Taro, and it's like he just I'm sorry, 0:27:07.720 --> 0:27:08.520 I'm getting lost in my. 0:27:08.520 --> 0:27:09.200 Words on harvest. 0:27:09.560 --> 0:27:10.280 Yeah, okay. 0:27:11.600 --> 0:27:12.760 I just feel like he doesn't. 0:27:12.920 --> 0:27:15.760 I feel like he's like doesn't want me to talk 0:27:15.800 --> 0:27:18.919 about it around him. He doesn't want me to do 0:27:18.960 --> 0:27:21.480 it around him. Like, if I do it, he tells 0:27:21.520 --> 0:27:26.120 me that, like that's not important to be doing that. 0:27:26.200 --> 0:27:30.240 Man, that's some shitty belittling energy right there. That's some 0:27:32.600 --> 0:27:34.800 I don't like that. I just don't like that. I 0:27:34.800 --> 0:27:40.360 don't like that, dude. It's something, it doesn't matter what 0:27:40.400 --> 0:27:43.000 it is. It could be Taro, it could be astrophysics. 0:27:43.640 --> 0:27:47.200 It's making you happy and it's something you want to pursue. 0:27:47.760 --> 0:27:50.480 And he's I know it doesn't seem real. 0:27:50.560 --> 0:27:53.000 It doesn't matter, but that's not even. The point is 0:27:53.040 --> 0:27:57.480 that if he loves you and he cares about your 0:27:57.560 --> 0:28:00.520 happiness and this is one of the things that brings 0:28:00.560 --> 0:28:03.720 you that happiness, he should be supportive of that. He 0:28:03.720 --> 0:28:06.360 shouldn't be belittling it or telling you that it's stupid. 0:28:06.760 --> 0:28:10.439 That's just really not a nice thing to do to someone. 0:28:10.520 --> 0:28:13.399 See, if you really love someone, you will just really, 0:28:13.440 --> 0:28:17.159 like I feel, you can just feel really deeply in 0:28:17.240 --> 0:28:21.120 your heart that their hobby is stupid, but then never 0:28:21.160 --> 0:28:22.560 but never let it leave the heart. 0:28:23.000 --> 0:28:27.000 It's it just is a it's like a kindness thing, dude, 0:28:27.040 --> 0:28:30.679 and it's like a love thing. Like he I just 0:28:30.720 --> 0:28:35.919 feel like it's you should not feel small for doing 0:28:36.000 --> 0:28:39.760 something that brings you joy. You should feel good about that. 0:28:40.240 --> 0:28:42.840 And the fact that he doesn't, that he's like actively 0:28:42.880 --> 0:28:46.520 working against that is just kind of sucks. And I'm 0:28:46.560 --> 0:28:50.120 sorry that you're that you're dealing with that. That's that's 0:28:50.160 --> 0:28:51.760 a poopy thing, you know what I mean. We don't 0:28:51.760 --> 0:28:55.800 want a poopy thing here. I don't know, I don't know, 0:28:55.840 --> 0:28:56.640 I don't have an answer. 0:28:57.320 --> 0:28:59.560 Yeah, it's just you know, relationship stuff is always hard 0:28:59.560 --> 0:29:02.080 because I'm never gonna tell anybody, Uh, you know what 0:29:02.200 --> 0:29:06.320 to do with the big decisions. But I I think 0:29:06.360 --> 0:29:09.240 Mark and I both agree this is not cool behavior. 0:29:09.480 --> 0:29:11.200 It's definitely not you know. 0:29:11.400 --> 0:29:13.640 I mean, you should be empowered to do whatever the 0:29:13.640 --> 0:29:15.400 fuck it is that you want to do and not 0:29:16.000 --> 0:29:18.280 be following the whim of you know this guy. 0:29:19.640 --> 0:29:23.960 Yeah, I agree. I I just you know, it's it's 0:29:24.000 --> 0:29:27.640 a tough thing to reconcile. It's like, you know, I 0:29:27.680 --> 0:29:29.840 don't know, I don't know, I I don't really I 0:29:29.920 --> 0:29:33.920 hesitate to give you any sort of thoughts beyond that, 0:29:34.160 --> 0:29:37.000 because then it feels like I'm trying to give you 0:29:37.040 --> 0:29:41.160 like advice, which I'm not qualified to give. I feel 0:29:41.160 --> 0:29:43.320 like it's just I just want you to know that 0:29:43.640 --> 0:29:45.920 I don't like the way that that makes me feel, 0:29:46.280 --> 0:29:48.000 and I'm sure you don't like the way that it 0:29:48.040 --> 0:29:49.240 makes you feel either. 0:29:50.520 --> 0:29:52.600 How do you What do you think about everything that 0:29:52.600 --> 0:29:58.200 that we've been saying, Bethany, I. 0:29:58.240 --> 0:30:02.120 Just like, really like what to do from here? Like 0:30:02.240 --> 0:30:05.200 I'm not gonna I don't want to break up with him, 0:30:05.280 --> 0:30:06.760 like that's not I. 0:30:06.720 --> 0:30:08.920 Just want to be able to be happy. 0:30:08.960 --> 0:30:12.400 Have you I'll say this much. 0:30:12.520 --> 0:30:13.920 Have you told. 0:30:13.880 --> 0:30:18.400 Him directly how it makes you feel when he talks 0:30:18.400 --> 0:30:19.280 to you like this. 0:30:22.280 --> 0:30:26.120 Oh yeah, like he It's just it's like basically so 0:30:26.600 --> 0:30:27.120 like he knows. 0:30:27.160 --> 0:30:28.200 So it's basically like. 0:30:28.200 --> 0:30:31.680 I could go ahead and do what I need to 0:30:31.720 --> 0:30:33.720 do and like do what I want to do, but 0:30:33.840 --> 0:30:36.000 like it's going to be understood that I'm not going 0:30:36.080 --> 0:30:38.480 to get support from him and he's going to be 0:30:38.560 --> 0:30:39.440 upset about it. 0:30:40.160 --> 0:30:44.840 Okay, so he's like, yeah, go ahead, stupid ship. 0:30:48.000 --> 0:30:49.360 Like I can do it, but he's going to be 0:30:49.400 --> 0:30:53.040 an asshole like any time to bring it up, Like 0:30:53.040 --> 0:30:55.000 like if I'm like, hey, have you watched the beat 0:30:55.160 --> 0:30:57.640 like for a second so I can like do this, 0:30:57.720 --> 0:31:00.160 He's not probably going to be supportive of it. So 0:31:00.240 --> 0:31:05.720 it's like it's recently just like picking myself a man. 0:31:06.040 --> 0:31:08.280 Yeah, I don't know. I mean I I would be like, yo, 0:31:08.480 --> 0:31:13.720 this is this is serious, even though you think it's 0:31:13.760 --> 0:31:19.600 a joke or stupid. The way you know, I like Taro. 0:31:19.880 --> 0:31:22.520 I like doing it. It makes me feel good, and 0:31:22.560 --> 0:31:26.920 I really need you to like not treat it as 0:31:26.960 --> 0:31:33.440 though it's stupid just for me, you know, because yeah 0:31:33.640 --> 0:31:35.680 he should. You got you really got to tell him. 0:31:35.720 --> 0:31:38.040 If he's not willing to do that, then I think 0:31:38.080 --> 0:31:42.120 that speaks to something pretty fundamental that might need some 0:31:42.120 --> 0:31:46.760 some work. You know, I don't know, but but should 0:31:47.200 --> 0:31:47.840 meet you there. 0:31:48.280 --> 0:31:53.000 He should be you know, Bethany, Like you know, I 0:31:53.200 --> 0:31:54.640 I hope, I hope by the end of the day 0:31:54.680 --> 0:31:57.600 you do whatever is best for your own personal likewise 0:31:57.680 --> 0:32:00.800 personal happiness and like like we said, all right, we're 0:32:00.840 --> 0:32:04.040 not gonna tell you what to do, but I just hope. 0:32:04.080 --> 0:32:07.680 I I just hope you think really hard about what 0:32:08.760 --> 0:32:13.800 will make you happy and really consider all your different options. 0:32:13.920 --> 0:32:16.680 You deserve it, and I just you deserve it, and 0:32:16.760 --> 0:32:18.440 I hope you pick the right one. 0:32:20.840 --> 0:32:21.360 Definitely. 0:32:21.400 --> 0:32:26.040 And I really really appreciate your time and your niceness 0:32:26.080 --> 0:32:27.160 and honesty. 0:32:27.920 --> 0:32:30.080 Thank you, of course, Bethany. You have a good rest 0:32:30.080 --> 0:32:30.440 of the night. 0:32:31.400 --> 0:32:32.880 Have a lovely night, Bethany. 0:32:34.960 --> 0:32:36.000 Bye bye. 0:32:36.520 --> 0:32:39.840 Oh my god, fuck god, damn we are. 0:32:40.800 --> 0:32:42.560 It's really hard. It's super hard because. 0:32:42.320 --> 0:32:46.120 Like I love this listen, I'm at home right, good good, 0:32:46.240 --> 0:32:49.640 it's dude ship Like that is so hard because obviously 0:32:49.720 --> 0:32:51.840 everybody listening and everybody in the chat wants to tell 0:32:51.840 --> 0:32:53.640 this person fucking break up with your boyfriend. 0:32:53.760 --> 0:32:55.640 And I want to I want to tell fucking breakup 0:32:55.640 --> 0:32:57.320 with it. But it's like, but I but deep in 0:32:57.360 --> 0:32:59.720 my heart, I'm like, I'm like echo guy. 0:32:59.760 --> 0:33:01.960 And then I've known this person for ten minutes and 0:33:02.000 --> 0:33:03.640 they tell me what it is is. You know. It's 0:33:03.720 --> 0:33:06.600 so much more subtle than that. It's like, it's not 0:33:07.160 --> 0:33:10.280 the like as a comment, you could be like, fuck 0:33:10.320 --> 0:33:12.600 that dude, get the fuck out right. But then it's like, 0:33:12.640 --> 0:33:13.960 but I can't just beg and fuck that dude. 0:33:14.000 --> 0:33:15.760 Get make a major I can't just be like, make 0:33:15.760 --> 0:33:18.120 a major life decision, all right, I gotta keep going 0:33:18.120 --> 0:33:18.680 with my street. 0:33:18.800 --> 0:33:21.840 It's so much more subtle. This is life we're talking about. 0:33:22.040 --> 0:33:25.960 She lives with this dude. She probably loves him very much. 0:33:26.360 --> 0:33:28.600 They have a whole thing together. They've had a whole 0:33:28.600 --> 0:33:30.120 thing that for years. Probably. 0:33:30.560 --> 0:33:32.000 I feel so bad for her, And I feel bad 0:33:32.040 --> 0:33:34.880 for anybody who's like, and do we get we get 0:33:34.920 --> 0:33:37.400 calls like this all the time. Like I see people 0:33:37.480 --> 0:33:39.160 just in real life, like this other time, who like 0:33:39.720 --> 0:33:44.280 they're in some kind of relationship that's like defining them. 0:33:44.480 --> 0:33:45.400 Oh yeah, and. 0:33:45.400 --> 0:33:47.160 It's it's so painful to see. 0:33:47.320 --> 0:33:50.760 That is tough, man. It's tough because you know, and 0:33:50.760 --> 0:33:53.480 that's why it's another reason why I hesitated to give, 0:33:56.560 --> 0:33:59.360 to give like concrete advice to hers, because I have 0:33:59.440 --> 0:34:05.280 not been in a serious relationship and almost ten years now. 0:34:06.240 --> 0:34:11.319 Yeah really yeah, yoh hey, by the way, chim Chin 0:34:12.160 --> 0:34:19.360 forgot about that to that my dud life is easier 0:34:19.360 --> 0:34:21.600 this way. I'll tell you guys that right now. But 0:34:22.040 --> 0:34:24.920 at the same time, a relationship can bring you an 0:34:25.040 --> 0:34:28.799 enormous amount of support and joy and comfort and and 0:34:28.800 --> 0:34:34.040 and love, stuff that obviously everyone needs and wants, you know. 0:34:34.200 --> 0:34:36.680 And so I would never judge someone for being in 0:34:36.719 --> 0:34:39.600 a relationship, even if it's even if it's one that 0:34:39.840 --> 0:34:43.200 is going through something, you know, if they're going through 0:34:43.200 --> 0:34:49.320 something difficult. I just maybe this is a rough patch, 0:34:49.400 --> 0:34:52.239 maybe it can be worked out, Maybe there's a way 0:34:52.280 --> 0:34:55.239 to work through it. That's why you always try that 0:34:55.440 --> 0:34:58.359 before just saying fuck this piece of shit. That's why. 0:34:58.400 --> 0:35:00.400 That's why we were trying to be like, Okay, have 0:35:00.480 --> 0:35:03.120 you like expressed to him all your feelings? And then 0:35:03.160 --> 0:35:05.160 she said yes, I did, and I didn't like that 0:35:06.280 --> 0:35:10.040 I did, And he was like, She's like, she didn't 0:35:10.080 --> 0:35:10.640 just say yeah. 0:35:10.680 --> 0:35:14.560 She was like oh yeah, She's like, oh yeah, I. 0:35:15.000 --> 0:35:17.680 Feel I feel bad for I really hope, I wish 0:35:17.760 --> 0:35:22.520 I could like send her some sort of energy blast 0:35:22.880 --> 0:35:28.960 of whatever awareness or confidence to make the the right decision. 0:35:31.480 --> 0:35:33.319 It sounds like if the dude isn't going to give 0:35:33.360 --> 0:35:37.359 her that, it's such a simple thing to be like, yeah, man, 0:35:38.200 --> 0:35:41.319 do your thing, love, I love you for that. What 0:35:41.360 --> 0:35:42.600 do you think? Real quick? 0:35:42.600 --> 0:35:43.840 I think this is the thing I think about a 0:35:43.840 --> 0:35:44.920 lot on this stream, like. 0:35:45.200 --> 0:35:48.920 What do you should? I try to be like pretty neutron. 0:35:49.040 --> 0:35:51.920 I think sometimes I do, like tell people to do unconsciously, 0:35:51.960 --> 0:35:53.719 and I forget about it. Lately, I've been having it 0:35:53.760 --> 0:35:55.279 more in my head, like don't tell people what to do, 0:35:55.440 --> 0:35:56.360 just talk through it, huh. 0:35:56.360 --> 0:35:58.720 But sometimes I'm like, should I tell people what shouldn't? 0:35:58.840 --> 0:36:00.800 Should we have? Did we have some sort of duty 0:36:00.880 --> 0:36:02.360 to be? Like break up with your boyfriend? 0:36:02.440 --> 0:36:04.319 But then I also weigh that against the whole thing 0:36:04.400 --> 0:36:06.480 like that we were just talking about it, Like right, 0:36:06.640 --> 0:36:09.200 she's living with this fucking it's so much easier said 0:36:09.239 --> 0:36:12.200 than done. We're doing a little I mean twitch stream thing. 0:36:12.280 --> 0:36:14.799 I'm just gonna drop a fucking life decision on her. 0:36:14.719 --> 0:36:16.879 Out right, well, I I mean, I don't know, man, 0:36:17.080 --> 0:36:20.120 It's it's possible that both are true. That like it 0:36:20.239 --> 0:36:22.440 depends on the severity of the thing. You know, it 0:36:22.480 --> 0:36:25.359 sounds like this is not like well, I mean, it's 0:36:25.360 --> 0:36:27.840 certainly a kind of abuse. It's a kind of abuse. 0:36:27.880 --> 0:36:30.560 It's a kind of like psychological abuse of like what 0:36:30.640 --> 0:36:34.719 you're doing is small and stupid and I don't respect it. 0:36:35.280 --> 0:36:38.680 And if you need time away to do that thing, 0:36:39.000 --> 0:36:40.799 I'm gonna make a stink about it, and I'm gonna 0:36:40.800 --> 0:36:44.680 make you feel small. And that's shitty, that's shitty behavior. 0:36:45.880 --> 0:36:48.920 It's my instinct is to say, get rid of that 0:36:49.040 --> 0:36:51.520 piece of shit. But at the same time. 0:36:51.440 --> 0:36:55.279 We don't. We don't have all the context context. 0:36:56.560 --> 0:37:01.560 I don't know both are true. Maybe we're right. 0:37:01.800 --> 0:37:04.480 Hey, there's a guy here who drinks milk too much. 0:37:04.520 --> 0:37:07.520 Maybe maybe, maybe maybe we'll just do that one. Well, yeah, 0:37:07.600 --> 0:37:12.640 let's get milk guy, milk man. Hello, Riley. 0:37:14.040 --> 0:37:20.000 Yeah, how are you, Riley? I'm good, Riley. It says 0:37:20.080 --> 0:37:22.920 here that you're twenty one years old and that you 0:37:23.040 --> 0:37:28.720 consume a lot of milk, like five cartons of milk 0:37:30.160 --> 0:37:33.040 for lunch AM and PM. How first of all, how 0:37:33.040 --> 0:37:34.000 big are these cartons? 0:37:36.520 --> 0:37:38.319 I mean, it's just like the carton of milk that 0:37:38.320 --> 0:37:40.759 you would get like in high school, but like I'm 0:37:40.800 --> 0:37:42.960 in college now and there's like a buffet and like 0:37:43.840 --> 0:37:46.400 I put that shit in my pocket and walk away 0:37:46.440 --> 0:37:46.799 with it. 0:37:47.760 --> 0:37:49.640 Are these Is it like a pint you're talking about? No, 0:37:49.680 --> 0:37:53.120 you're talking about the little like the box cartons that 0:37:53.239 --> 0:37:56.640 like they look like an old school carton of milk, 0:37:56.640 --> 0:37:58.920 but they're like small sort of cubes. Is that what 0:37:58.920 --> 0:37:59.560 you're talking about? 0:38:00.840 --> 0:38:02.080 Right right, right right. 0:38:03.040 --> 0:38:06.520 And so okay, and so tell us your diet. Tell 0:38:06.600 --> 0:38:10.040 us throughout any given day, like today, what was your 0:38:10.080 --> 0:38:10.680 milk diet? 0:38:13.200 --> 0:38:16.120 I mean like well, like today was like I didn't 0:38:16.120 --> 0:38:18.880 have schools, Like I like splurged a little bit and 0:38:18.920 --> 0:38:20.920 got like a quart of chocolate milk on top of 0:38:21.080 --> 0:38:23.120 like the normal amount of milk that I drink. 0:38:25.120 --> 0:38:27.680 It was more than more than usual when you're not 0:38:27.719 --> 0:38:28.160 in school. 0:38:28.239 --> 0:38:30.560 So just the how much of the milk is chocolate? 0:38:30.600 --> 0:38:32.200 That's what I was kind of because because I didn't, 0:38:32.280 --> 0:38:35.960 I didn't. I feel like the type of milk is 0:38:36.000 --> 0:38:37.120 a factor here. 0:38:39.400 --> 0:38:42.520 Right, well, like chocolate milk, like usually it's just like 0:38:42.560 --> 0:38:45.600 two percent milk, but like on on, like I don't know. 0:38:45.719 --> 0:38:48.000 Sometimes when I'm just like feeling the mood, I like 0:38:48.480 --> 0:38:52.439 splurge and get some chocolate milk. So like today, it's 0:38:52.480 --> 0:38:54.319 not very often. It's like probably like once the week, 0:38:54.360 --> 0:38:55.440 prick chocolate. 0:38:57.880 --> 0:38:59.120 Dude feels pretty often. 0:38:59.239 --> 0:39:04.279 What's what's your what's your thing on strawberry milk? Oh? 0:39:04.760 --> 0:39:08.479 Nah nah, man, you can't catch fu fuck strawberry milk. 0:39:09.880 --> 0:39:10.160 Yeah. 0:39:10.239 --> 0:39:12.359 I don't funk with strawberry milk at all. I don't 0:39:12.360 --> 0:39:13.759 know who's out there drinking. 0:39:13.440 --> 0:39:16.760 It dirty garbage as far as. 0:39:17.080 --> 0:39:21.319 All right, so tell us all right, So so let's 0:39:21.320 --> 0:39:23.239 see Mark asked you what your diet was like, and 0:39:23.680 --> 0:39:25.600 were you asking him his milk diet or just his 0:39:25.760 --> 0:39:28.320 overall like what's because I'm also a little bit curious what's. 0:39:28.120 --> 0:39:30.279 Going on around the milk. Yeah, that's true. And and 0:39:30.280 --> 0:39:32.560 and also do you consider it to be like has 0:39:32.600 --> 0:39:36.400 it caused any sort of physical issues? Yeah? So you 0:39:36.400 --> 0:39:38.200 know that's a lot of milk to be putting in 0:39:38.320 --> 0:39:41.879 a one body, right. 0:39:42.400 --> 0:39:46.520 Well, Like I usually like plan out with specifically the cartons, 0:39:46.560 --> 0:39:49.600 Like it's like a buffet that I go to and 0:39:50.120 --> 0:39:53.080 on campus, and like I get food and then I 0:39:53.160 --> 0:39:55.160 drink three cartons of milk with that, and then when 0:39:55.160 --> 0:39:57.840 I go back for dessert, I grab two other cartons 0:39:57.840 --> 0:39:59.400 of milk and drink it with the dessert. 0:40:00.840 --> 0:40:03.080 What does it do to you? What's the feeling? 0:40:05.760 --> 0:40:06.080 Oh? 0:40:06.200 --> 0:40:08.840 Man, I mean it's not good. Like when I was 0:40:08.880 --> 0:40:12.400 like in like kindergartener first grade, I was told I 0:40:12.440 --> 0:40:15.000 was lactose sensitive, and like, if I were to continue, 0:40:15.040 --> 0:40:18.719 like I'll be lactose intolerant, and like I shiit a lot, 0:40:18.920 --> 0:40:22.960 so like I'm worried I might actually be lactose intolerant. 0:40:23.040 --> 0:40:26.279 So like I don't know, Jesus, have you been to 0:40:26.360 --> 0:40:28.480 a doctor about this? 0:40:31.440 --> 0:40:32.000 Uh? 0:40:32.719 --> 0:40:36.880 Yeah, in the yeah, and see what. 0:40:36.960 --> 0:40:40.239 It's from there, But like it's so good. 0:40:40.880 --> 0:40:46.759 Okay, but so okay, explain to us the talk us 0:40:46.840 --> 0:40:50.880 through the it's so good thing, you know what I mean? 0:40:50.960 --> 0:40:54.960 What to talk us through the sweet process of ingesting 0:40:55.040 --> 0:40:56.960 milk for you? Tell us about that? 0:40:59.080 --> 0:41:01.719 Well, I like my friends made me because like I 0:41:01.719 --> 0:41:04.400 have like milk theory. I have a theory that men 0:41:05.400 --> 0:41:08.000 enjoy milk more than women because like I like my 0:41:08.000 --> 0:41:09.920 my female friends like get mad at me when I 0:41:10.000 --> 0:41:12.080 drink milk for like anything. 0:41:12.360 --> 0:41:19.279 Mm hmm, suckling from mother's teeth. Perhaps that could be right. 0:41:19.239 --> 0:41:21.000 Right, Like I don't I don't want to dip into 0:41:21.040 --> 0:41:24.040 like Freud, but like he may have been onto something. 0:41:24.080 --> 0:41:31.400 You know, Riley, what is your relationship like with your mother? Oh? 0:41:31.440 --> 0:41:35.759 Great, it's good, it's healthy. You love each other. 0:41:38.239 --> 0:41:41.440 Did you did you breastfeed a lot as a child. 0:41:43.840 --> 0:41:46.399 I've been told I was breastfed, but I don't. 0:41:46.440 --> 0:41:46.840 I don't know. 0:41:47.200 --> 0:41:49.640 I don't think I was obviously consuming the amounts that 0:41:49.680 --> 0:41:50.360 I am today. 0:41:51.280 --> 0:41:53.239 Can I just say you didn't answer the question about 0:41:53.320 --> 0:41:56.040 medical issues as a result of the milk? Have you 0:41:56.360 --> 0:42:00.080 has anything happened? I mean, do you is it? What? 0:42:00.080 --> 0:42:04.759 What is there any cause for concern here? Is it 0:42:04.880 --> 0:42:07.480 just a personal concern that you're drinking too much milk? 0:42:10.480 --> 0:42:13.200 I think it's like both. I think like people like 0:42:13.239 --> 0:42:16.520 my friends think it's like a moral concern physically, like 0:42:16.880 --> 0:42:20.120 I just get like really bad cramps and like have 0:42:20.200 --> 0:42:21.319 to go to the bathroom a lot. 0:42:23.360 --> 0:42:28.520 Oh did you say moral concern the cow thing? Right? 0:42:28.800 --> 0:42:28.960 Uh? 0:42:29.880 --> 0:42:31.400 I was gonna ask what's the moral or what's the 0:42:31.480 --> 0:42:35.080 moral concern? Like like it's bad for the for the animals, 0:42:34.880 --> 0:42:36.360 That's what I would guess. 0:42:37.080 --> 0:42:39.319 Well, like I don't, I don't know that they're like 0:42:39.480 --> 0:42:43.279 just like really concerned about like like I'm interested in, 0:42:43.280 --> 0:42:45.280 like I kind of want to drink like exotic milks. 0:42:45.280 --> 0:42:47.280 Like I went on a on a on a ramp 0:42:47.480 --> 0:42:51.000 one night about like the benefits of drinking water buffalo milk. 0:42:53.760 --> 0:42:55.279 Yeah, because you want you want to give us the 0:42:55.400 --> 0:42:58.120 the the thesis of the ramps, give us the skinny 0:42:58.160 --> 0:42:58.520 on that. 0:43:00.800 --> 0:43:02.520 I mean, Like, so I looked into it and like, 0:43:02.640 --> 0:43:06.239 water buffalo buff water buffalo milk is like the best 0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:08.960 milk that you can drink like nutrition wise. 0:43:09.920 --> 0:43:14.360 Ah, this is about to turn into the Joe Rogan experience. 0:43:14.400 --> 0:43:15.319 Have you sampled it? 0:43:18.000 --> 0:43:20.520 No? I looked into it in like the nearest place 0:43:20.640 --> 0:43:22.960 that you can get water buffalo milk in the United States, 0:43:23.040 --> 0:43:24.000 it's Pennsylvania. 0:43:25.160 --> 0:43:25.440 Wow. 0:43:27.080 --> 0:43:29.160 Now what is it about two day shipping? 0:43:29.440 --> 0:43:33.319 What is it about water buffalo milk that is so 0:43:33.400 --> 0:43:37.040 nutritious from what you've from what you've researched. 0:43:39.280 --> 0:43:41.400 I don't really remember like the details. 0:43:41.480 --> 0:43:41.719 I know. 0:43:41.880 --> 0:43:44.759 I think it's like a little thinner than like normal milk, 0:43:44.800 --> 0:43:46.720 So I mean it goes down a little easier. 0:43:49.440 --> 0:43:49.720 Hmm. 0:43:51.200 --> 0:43:54.799 Okay, So water buffalo milk, And what are there any 0:43:54.840 --> 0:43:57.760 other types of exotic milks that you are passionate about 0:43:58.200 --> 0:43:59.520 that we should know about rest. 0:44:00.320 --> 0:44:00.960 Uh. 0:44:02.520 --> 0:44:05.880 You know, I've heard uh, goat milk is the closest 0:44:05.920 --> 0:44:09.440 to breast milk, And I really don't want to try that. 0:44:11.239 --> 0:44:13.440 You don't you you don't like the thought of trying 0:44:13.640 --> 0:44:19.000 human breast milk. Nah. Okay, So it's not about that. 0:44:19.080 --> 0:44:23.319 It's not like a fetish thing. It's just a now okay. 0:44:23.360 --> 0:44:25.319 But here's where I'm a little bit confused. Is that 0:44:25.760 --> 0:44:27.719 you say that it makes you feel it makes your 0:44:27.760 --> 0:44:30.200 stomach feel weird, and it makes you shit a lot. 0:44:31.120 --> 0:44:33.319 So then where is the pleasure part of this? Or 0:44:33.360 --> 0:44:37.359 is it a masochistic exercise? Is it a self harm thing? 0:44:37.560 --> 0:44:39.480 You know what I mean? Where where's the pleasure in 0:44:39.520 --> 0:44:40.840 it for you? That's a good question. 0:44:43.560 --> 0:44:46.239 I don't know. It's just like I don't I don't 0:44:46.280 --> 0:44:49.600 drink like pop or like coffee or anything like that. 0:44:49.719 --> 0:44:53.480 I strictly drink like water and milk, And like, if 0:44:53.480 --> 0:44:55.520 I'm not feeling water, then I just go to milk. 0:44:55.560 --> 0:45:00.839 So maybe it's just like my drink palate isn't really like, uh, 0:45:01.200 --> 0:45:03.120 I don't. I don't have like a huge drink palate, 0:45:03.160 --> 0:45:05.040 And maybe that's it. But like, I don't know, It's 0:45:05.080 --> 0:45:08.680 like some day that just feels really good to wash 0:45:08.800 --> 0:45:11.200 down some food with two percent milk. 0:45:12.200 --> 0:45:14.440 But I mean this, we both we all know this 0:45:14.480 --> 0:45:17.319 is not a sustainable practice. Eventually your body is going 0:45:17.360 --> 0:45:18.360 to react. 0:45:18.440 --> 0:45:21.040 Violently, if not already doing so. 0:45:23.560 --> 0:45:27.000 Do you have any plans to do wean off of milk, 0:45:27.080 --> 0:45:29.520 because you're you're only heading towards greater hell. 0:45:32.760 --> 0:45:37.399 Uh, you know, I was hoping maybe like maybe getting water, 0:45:37.440 --> 0:45:40.040 buffalo milk. I'll drink it and I don't like it, 0:45:40.080 --> 0:45:42.200 and maybe that'll make me like be like, oh I 0:45:42.200 --> 0:45:43.280 don't want milk. 0:45:43.360 --> 0:45:45.760 No, you just have to feed your curiosity. 0:45:46.400 --> 0:45:53.080 That's what it is, right, Yeah, you know, I'm just 0:45:54.480 --> 0:45:58.560 it's I don't I'm trusting what a pleasure part is. 0:45:58.719 --> 0:46:02.600 It's not obviously there's pleasure in washing down. So I 0:46:02.719 --> 0:46:08.000 love washing down a nice cookie, a fine chocolate cookie 0:46:08.239 --> 0:46:10.640 with a little bit of two percent milk. I agree, 0:46:10.680 --> 0:46:13.239 there's nothing wrong with that, with that at all, But 0:46:13.360 --> 0:46:16.640 all day, you know, it just feels like a bizarre 0:46:16.719 --> 0:46:20.239 It's not just an alternative to water. I think for you, 0:46:20.280 --> 0:46:23.160 it's it feels like it's it's more of an obsession. 0:46:23.200 --> 0:46:28.839 It's a little bit more of sort of a comfort yeah, 0:46:28.840 --> 0:46:30.880 I don't know, but it sounds like you're totally fine 0:46:30.880 --> 0:46:33.680 with it and that it's not presenting any serious medical problems. 0:46:33.680 --> 0:46:36.400 So I don't really know if asking you to stop 0:46:36.520 --> 0:46:38.840 is I don't think it really matters. 0:46:39.160 --> 0:46:41.080 You know, it sounds like it sounds to me like 0:46:41.120 --> 0:46:45.680 you're gonna push it until until you can't anymore. Riley. 0:46:48.520 --> 0:46:48.799 I think. 0:46:48.880 --> 0:46:50.960 I think that's what a lot of my friends think. 0:46:51.640 --> 0:46:55.680 My friend actually wanted me to call in about this situation, 0:46:55.880 --> 0:46:59.520 hoping that maybe a get go on the computer would 0:46:59.520 --> 0:47:01.560 get through to me. But like, after talking to you, like, 0:47:01.600 --> 0:47:02.560 I don't know, I don't know. 0:47:02.880 --> 0:47:06.400 Oh, that's interesting. Stop drinking the fucking milk. 0:47:07.640 --> 0:47:10.080 I second that if that's your your friends sound like 0:47:10.080 --> 0:47:12.399 they were about to host some sort of intervention for you. 0:47:12.640 --> 0:47:22.800 Yeah, hey, Riley, damn Riley, you there listening? Yeah, stop 0:47:23.160 --> 0:47:28.719 drinking so much goddamn milk. Okay, cut it out. It's bizarre. 0:47:28.760 --> 0:47:31.200 It's a bizarre habit. I think you can drink a 0:47:31.239 --> 0:47:33.239 healthy amount, but it sounds like it's a little out 0:47:33.239 --> 0:47:36.160 of control and you should maybe try and replace some 0:47:36.280 --> 0:47:42.920 of the milk. I don't know, water, you know, goji berry, 0:47:43.360 --> 0:47:45.919 I don't know. Whatever why I would. I I would 0:47:45.920 --> 0:47:46.480 be more concerned. 0:47:46.480 --> 0:47:48.080 I'm more concerned about the milk than if he was, like, 0:47:48.080 --> 0:47:50.600 I'm drinking like two cans of Coca. 0:47:50.400 --> 0:47:50.919 Day or something. 0:47:50.920 --> 0:47:53.920 Oh yeah, that's even though the coke's probably worse. I 0:47:53.920 --> 0:47:56.320 feel like the mill crew the milk. 0:47:56.120 --> 0:47:59.400 Is is is. It's just bizarre. 0:47:59.480 --> 0:48:02.760 But listen, Riley, thank you very much for calling and sharing. 0:48:02.800 --> 0:48:04.799 We wish you the best of luck in all your 0:48:04.800 --> 0:48:06.520 future endeavors. Is there anything else that you want to 0:48:06.520 --> 0:48:08.680 say to two geckos or to the rest of the 0:48:08.680 --> 0:48:10.000 computer before we go? 0:48:11.640 --> 0:48:19.120 Uh yeah, thank you for the intervention. I'm just gonna 0:48:19.160 --> 0:48:23.120 let my friends know online. I will try to be 0:48:23.120 --> 0:48:24.960 better about my milk consumption. 0:48:25.560 --> 0:48:26.440 Hey, we're rooting for you. 0:48:26.600 --> 0:48:28.799 That's the spirit you got this, my man. Take care. 0:48:32.400 --> 0:48:37.239 See if you're calling in about a toxic relationship. No 0:48:37.719 --> 0:48:40.839 direct advice, but milk, milk, milk. We will tell you. 0:48:40.880 --> 0:48:41.239 What's what? 0:48:41.360 --> 0:48:43.600 Oh, we're coming. We're coming for you. You know what. 0:48:44.000 --> 0:48:46.719 That conversation brought up something that I never thought about 0:48:46.760 --> 0:48:47.560 before in my life. 0:48:47.680 --> 0:48:49.440 Can you buy human breast milk? 0:48:50.480 --> 0:48:50.640 Oh? 0:48:50.719 --> 0:48:53.440 Yeah, man, they're well, actually, you know, I don't know 0:48:53.440 --> 0:48:56.959 if it was a like an art project or something. 0:48:57.000 --> 0:49:03.440 But there was this site where you could buy like aristocratic, 0:49:03.760 --> 0:49:07.960 like white women's breast milk. Really yeah, and and it 0:49:08.000 --> 0:49:12.080 was like a fetish thing. But I don't know if 0:49:12.120 --> 0:49:14.960 it exists anymore, and maybe some people in the chat 0:49:15.040 --> 0:49:18.040 know what I'm talking about, but it was, Yeah, it 0:49:18.080 --> 0:49:21.960 was like it was just a bizarre and I think 0:49:22.000 --> 0:49:23.399 it is a thing. It is a thing. 0:49:23.640 --> 0:49:25.319 It has to because there's no way they could make 0:49:25.360 --> 0:49:29.040 that illegal. Because if you're, you know, an adult woman 0:49:29.080 --> 0:49:31.239 and you make the conscious decision to sell your breast. 0:49:30.960 --> 0:49:32.000 Milk, right be allowed to. 0:49:32.080 --> 0:49:34.080 And then if you're an adult, if you're a person 0:49:34.120 --> 0:49:35.879 you want to buy breast mokey, you. 0:49:35.840 --> 0:49:39.920 Should be allowed to. Is it weird? It is? Has it? 0:49:40.360 --> 0:49:43.040 There has to have been at least one person, one 0:49:43.160 --> 0:49:49.359 startup somewhere that tried to get a brand, like a 0:49:49.480 --> 0:49:50.959 legitimate brand. 0:49:50.719 --> 0:49:54.920 Going what I'm talking about, to go into grocery stores. 0:49:54.960 --> 0:49:59.480 Oh god, happened at some point, whole foods. 0:49:59.520 --> 0:50:02.200 It's about a as whole as it gets a whole 0:50:02.840 --> 0:50:05.760 two percent. It's not two percent, it's one hundred percent 0:50:05.840 --> 0:50:07.520 mother's milk. Yeah, that's right. 0:50:07.640 --> 0:50:10.960 Someone said Mark I had a flamingo themed birthday party 0:50:11.000 --> 0:50:11.680 in your honor? 0:50:11.800 --> 0:50:13.799 Is there a do you have a Flamingo thing? I have? 0:50:14.040 --> 0:50:16.520 I made up a flamingo song at at one of 0:50:16.560 --> 0:50:19.360 my drive in shows during the pandemic in twenty twenty, 0:50:19.400 --> 0:50:22.800 and uh it it it made the rounds, I guess, 0:50:22.840 --> 0:50:26.640 and yeah, flamingo. It was just about a flamingo that 0:50:26.760 --> 0:50:30.440 like kills people and eats your your children and your 0:50:30.480 --> 0:50:34.040 grandmother's eats your grandmother's pussy. You did you did? You 0:50:34.040 --> 0:50:35.359 did the drive in shows? Yeah? 0:50:35.440 --> 0:50:37.359 Yeah, I heard of the drive with comedy. I heard 0:50:37.400 --> 0:50:40.040 that the drive in shows they honk to laugh, Yes, 0:50:40.160 --> 0:50:41.160 now what do they do with music? 0:50:41.320 --> 0:50:43.680 We were the first ones on the road to do 0:50:43.719 --> 0:50:46.520 that and then we got it well, I mean it 0:50:46.560 --> 0:50:48.839 wasn't my idea, it was my agent's idea, but they 0:50:49.400 --> 0:50:52.359 but yeah, they put me out on the road and 0:50:53.080 --> 0:50:57.279 it was like we did honking and we did you know, 0:50:57.400 --> 0:51:00.600 windshield wipers and shit and and yeah, basically just people 0:51:00.640 --> 0:51:02.080 just pulled up to a parking lot and I was 0:51:02.120 --> 0:51:05.400 in the back with like a green screen and cameras 0:51:05.480 --> 0:51:07.640 and then they projected the show onto the drive in 0:51:07.960 --> 0:51:11.600 theater screen and uh it was fun, I mean it 0:51:11.640 --> 0:51:13.719 was it was fun. It was a weird run of 0:51:13.760 --> 0:51:17.319 shows kind of cool to people, like participating in this 0:51:17.440 --> 0:51:20.000 weird part of history in that way. Yeah, dude, I 0:51:20.040 --> 0:51:22.040 mean it was Yeah, it was fun. People were I mean, 0:51:22.080 --> 0:51:25.680 there hadn't been shows in months at that point, and 0:51:26.719 --> 0:51:30.000 it was a nice way to connect with people in 0:51:30.040 --> 0:51:34.040 real life without like, you know, jeopardizing health too much. 0:51:34.520 --> 0:51:37.560 Well, it's a good thing that the pandemic is completely over. 0:51:37.760 --> 0:51:39.960 It's gone. It's done. I don't even know what that 0:51:40.040 --> 0:51:40.760 word means. 0:51:41.480 --> 0:51:43.640 And us that's it. 0:51:43.640 --> 0:51:47.120 It's been everyone and we have the world is one 0:51:47.239 --> 0:51:49.680 hundred percent back to normal. We did it. We won. 0:51:49.800 --> 0:51:51.759 We did it. Everybody. It's over. 0:51:52.160 --> 0:51:54.840 See what's going on in the queue here doesn't exist. 0:51:57.080 --> 0:52:00.240 I mean, honestly, it's I keep my sanity by thinking 0:52:00.360 --> 0:52:05.399 that because it's it's exhausting. It's just exhausting. We got 0:52:05.400 --> 0:52:06.560 anyone interesting. 0:52:06.200 --> 0:52:08.759 On the line, Yeah, tell me that. I'm looking around here. 0:52:08.840 --> 0:52:16.080 Let's see. Mm hmmm, Oh, just got a date with 0:52:16.160 --> 0:52:22.680 a girl hasn't dated since middle school. Talked to Jay Jay. Hi. 0:52:23.719 --> 0:52:27.160 Jay knew that we were gonna pick on him before 0:52:27.200 --> 0:52:28.759 he even what's up j doing? 0:52:28.840 --> 0:52:29.000 Man? 0:52:30.760 --> 0:52:35.799 Hey man, Jay, just coming right on with it with 0:52:35.880 --> 0:52:37.400 the intro coming right. 0:52:37.200 --> 0:52:40.120 In, JJ, what's what's what's crack of lacking with you? 0:52:45.760 --> 0:52:48.960 I mean sorry? It was a bit of delight and 0:52:49.200 --> 0:52:53.160 chilling watching the stream. I really thought that Riley guy 0:52:53.280 --> 0:52:57.120 was my own friend because he's obsessed with smoke. 0:52:59.160 --> 0:52:59.359 Jay. 0:52:59.400 --> 0:53:02.239 It says he you're twenty one years old, you just 0:53:02.239 --> 0:53:03.880 got a date with a girl, and you haven't been 0:53:03.920 --> 0:53:06.200 on a date since middle school, and you want to 0:53:06.239 --> 0:53:12.640 get some general date ideas. Is that when when you 0:53:12.680 --> 0:53:17.240 say date ideas, are you are you asking us about 0:53:17.320 --> 0:53:21.080 like date etiquette or like actual like ideas of things 0:53:21.160 --> 0:53:23.120 to do on a date. 0:53:25.560 --> 0:53:27.439 I guess a little bit of both, Like I kind 0:53:27.440 --> 0:53:30.840 of have an idea both her and I we go 0:53:30.960 --> 0:53:35.000 to our local arts school, so I was thinking, like, oh, 0:53:35.160 --> 0:53:38.680 we could go to a gallery. She can't eat pork, 0:53:38.800 --> 0:53:43.120 so I'm looking at restaurants that could accommodate for diet. 0:53:44.080 --> 0:53:47.040 Are you are you excited? Jay? Are you nervous? Are 0:53:47.040 --> 0:53:50.400 you excited? Tell us? How you tell us how you're feeling. 0:53:51.200 --> 0:53:54.440 Hold on a second, tell us about what's in your stomach? 0:53:54.440 --> 0:54:02.080 Are you excited? What's my Yeah? How are you feeling 0:54:02.120 --> 0:54:03.880 about it? You get nervous. 0:54:05.040 --> 0:54:11.879 I'm really excited. Ah, Like I haven't. I haven't dated 0:54:11.880 --> 0:54:15.160 since middle school, as you guys can tell. And I've 0:54:15.200 --> 0:54:18.000 been a very nervous person. I had a few bad 0:54:18.080 --> 0:54:20.279 like friendships, so it's made me very kind of like 0:54:20.880 --> 0:54:25.560 it is, I love like kind of opening myself. 0:54:25.320 --> 0:54:25.960 Up to people. 0:54:26.040 --> 0:54:28.960 But like she's been super nice. She's kind of just 0:54:29.040 --> 0:54:31.640 let me go off the walls talk about stuff I like. 0:54:32.080 --> 0:54:35.200 And I really like her. 0:54:37.600 --> 0:54:41.080 So I want I want to ask you, Uh, Jay, 0:54:41.440 --> 0:54:47.319 is there a reason in particular why you feel like 0:54:47.440 --> 0:54:50.200 you haven't been on a date since since middle school? 0:54:50.200 --> 0:54:54.560 Have you not been out there searching? Have you been 0:54:54.680 --> 0:54:57.520 focusing on other things? Has it just not lined up 0:54:57.520 --> 0:54:57.759 for you? 0:54:57.840 --> 0:54:57.960 Like? 0:54:57.960 --> 0:54:58.360 What? 0:54:58.360 --> 0:54:59.480 What could you peg that too? 0:55:02.239 --> 0:55:04.799 It's a little it's kind of like I've been both 0:55:05.160 --> 0:55:09.799 very closed off and like I'm trans. So in the 0:55:09.840 --> 0:55:12.560 school I went to, it was very much so like 0:55:13.040 --> 0:55:18.200 small queer community there. It was kind of awkward. I 0:55:18.280 --> 0:55:20.359 just didn't really like not a lot of people seem 0:55:20.400 --> 0:55:22.960 to have showed interest in me. I didn't really show 0:55:22.960 --> 0:55:25.799 any interest in anyone there. I just kind of like 0:55:25.960 --> 0:55:27.920 kept my head down and just wanted to focus on 0:55:28.000 --> 0:55:28.520 school work. 0:55:28.600 --> 0:55:34.560 Really and yeah, man, it sounds like she digs you, 0:55:35.560 --> 0:55:38.640 and it sounds like you got this shit in the bag. 0:55:39.480 --> 0:55:43.839 It sounds like like I it's I love hearing you 0:55:43.960 --> 0:55:47.040 talk about how you're feeling about the date because it's 0:55:47.120 --> 0:55:51.080 really sweet and genuine and I just know it's going 0:55:51.160 --> 0:55:53.080 to be a great date. It doesn't matter what you 0:55:53.120 --> 0:55:55.839 guys do, Honestly, you do whatever the fuck you want. 0:55:55.920 --> 0:55:58.600 Go to a gallery, go to a little cafe. Don't 0:55:58.640 --> 0:56:01.360 overthink it, you know what I mean. It's you're gonna 0:56:01.680 --> 0:56:04.680 You're just it sounds that you already have a little connection, 0:56:05.600 --> 0:56:10.200 So just go to any place where that's allowed to flourish, 0:56:10.239 --> 0:56:13.200 where you can talk to each other. Yeah, and uh, 0:56:13.800 --> 0:56:17.160 and you're just gonna have the time of your goddamn life. 0:56:17.360 --> 0:56:20.120 Just don't go to a movie. Yeah, oh no, definitely 0:56:20.120 --> 0:56:24.320 don't do that. That's it's an attempting thing to do because 0:56:24.719 --> 0:56:27.120 you don't actually have to like interact with each other. 0:56:27.640 --> 0:56:29.880 But don't do that. Do something where you have to 0:56:29.880 --> 0:56:31.440 interact with each other and look at each other in 0:56:31.480 --> 0:56:34.160 the eyes, because that's some special shit. 0:56:34.320 --> 0:56:34.400 Ye. 0:56:34.840 --> 0:56:38.719 And I'm just very excited for you. You're gonna be're 0:56:38.719 --> 0:56:39.759 about to have a great day. 0:56:40.040 --> 0:56:42.040 It sounds like yeah, because you know, you asked us 0:56:42.080 --> 0:56:45.200 if we had date ideas, but then hot off the bat, 0:56:45.239 --> 0:56:47.640 you came. You came to us with the currently existing 0:56:47.680 --> 0:56:48.719 good date idea. 0:56:48.480 --> 0:56:51.000 Excellent, great idea. And I don't know if you were calling. 0:56:50.760 --> 0:56:56.480 Us for uh uh what's the word, uh, confirmation encouragement, 0:56:56.640 --> 0:57:01.200 encouragement on your currently existing plans. But but you you 0:57:01.440 --> 0:57:05.840 have our you have our validation, you have our validation 0:57:05.960 --> 0:57:07.920 on your currently resisting plans. If that's what you were 0:57:08.360 --> 0:57:09.160 what you were searching for. 0:57:09.200 --> 0:57:09.520 I agree. 0:57:09.560 --> 0:57:12.439 It sounds like the chemistry is there and as Mark said, uh, 0:57:12.520 --> 0:57:17.640 just finding a place for it to get a flourish Yeah, yeah. 0:57:17.600 --> 0:57:19.720 Like I guess I really just wanted to know, like 0:57:20.000 --> 0:57:23.680 I haven't tried or dated in a very long time, 0:57:24.160 --> 0:57:26.880 Like I was worried, like oh am, I being a 0:57:26.960 --> 0:57:31.360 bit too like jumping in head first or something. 0:57:32.000 --> 0:57:37.000 Jump get your fuck on, jump on in there and 0:57:37.080 --> 0:57:38.280 get it done here. 0:57:38.320 --> 0:57:42.480 Here's another thing with the overthinking thing is like where 0:57:42.480 --> 0:57:44.040 you where You're like, oh am I being too much? 0:57:44.120 --> 0:57:44.200 This? 0:57:44.240 --> 0:57:46.320 Am I being too much? That even if. 0:57:46.240 --> 0:57:51.640 You are whatever you are, whatever you are being, that 0:57:51.800 --> 0:57:54.320 is you and it is not up to other people. 0:57:54.480 --> 0:57:56.040 I mean, look, some people are not going to fuck 0:57:56.080 --> 0:57:57.840 with you. Some people are not gonna fuck with your style. 0:57:58.200 --> 0:58:00.400 Some people are. Some people may think you are too much, 0:58:00.440 --> 0:58:02.200 some people may think you are too little. But it 0:58:02.200 --> 0:58:06.280 doesn't matter because you're not trying to mold your thing 0:58:06.520 --> 0:58:08.440 to be their thing. You're trying to see if this 0:58:08.520 --> 0:58:11.800 person jibes with your things. You don't even overthink about it, 0:58:13.040 --> 0:58:13.520 you know what I'm saying. 0:58:13.560 --> 0:58:17.760 It's a great point. Be yourself, be nervous, be excited. 0:58:18.200 --> 0:58:20.880 They are too, and you just had to know that 0:58:20.920 --> 0:58:23.680 you're you're You're both nervous and excited, and that's what 0:58:23.720 --> 0:58:26.520 makes a fun day. You know, before we go, where'd 0:58:26.520 --> 0:58:27.640 you meet this person? 0:58:27.880 --> 0:58:28.080 Jay? 0:58:30.960 --> 0:58:31.800 Where did we meet? 0:58:32.040 --> 0:58:32.520 Yeah? 0:58:32.720 --> 0:58:34.760 Liked you had you find out about. 0:58:34.600 --> 0:58:42.760 If we actually share like a close friend with each other, which, 0:58:43.400 --> 0:58:45.320 like I feel like if we didn't even meet on 0:58:45.360 --> 0:58:47.800 tender we could have could have probably met at like 0:58:48.200 --> 0:58:51.880 one of our friends, like he does see indie movie 0:58:52.320 --> 0:58:54.160 showing things that we probably would. 0:58:54.000 --> 0:58:54.520 Have met there. 0:58:54.920 --> 0:58:57.040 Hey, that's date number two right in the bag. The 0:58:57.840 --> 0:59:00.320 let's go to our mutual friends indie movie night. Love 0:59:00.320 --> 0:59:02.080 it man, you got a cool life. I like, I like, 0:59:02.160 --> 0:59:03.120 I like what's going on with you? 0:59:03.200 --> 0:59:03.400 Jay? 0:59:03.440 --> 0:59:09.040 I wish I could be you for like just one day. 0:59:07.600 --> 0:59:09.800 Oh oh. 0:59:11.840 --> 0:59:11.880 H. 0:59:12.240 --> 0:59:13.560 Is there anything else you want to say to the 0:59:13.560 --> 0:59:16.680 people of the computer or to Uh, to two Geckos, 0:59:16.720 --> 0:59:20.000 to to Mark, to Lyle, to my father, or to 0:59:20.120 --> 0:59:24.160 Mark's father, or to any any any any anyone or anything. 0:59:24.160 --> 0:59:28.480 I just want to say, thank you so much, guys 0:59:28.880 --> 0:59:32.600 for talking to me and like letting me know that 0:59:33.880 --> 0:59:37.320 go for it. Uh to Gek's father, you raised the 0:59:37.360 --> 0:59:37.960 great echo. 0:59:38.520 --> 0:59:39.200 That's very sweet. 0:59:40.320 --> 0:59:40.880 Thank you, Jay. 0:59:40.880 --> 0:59:41.840 You have a good rest of the night. 0:59:43.960 --> 0:59:48.520 You two guys, night night. Don't let the bed bugs. 0:59:48.520 --> 0:59:52.240 But okay, so I can help it. When when's that? 0:59:52.240 --> 0:59:53.600 When's last time you went on a date? 0:59:54.120 --> 1:00:00.040 Oh? God, to two days ago? It was great, it 1:00:00.120 --> 1:00:03.560 was great, it was a blast. I enjoy dates. I 1:00:03.600 --> 1:00:06.680 go on quite that I feel I feel confident to 1:00:07.000 --> 1:00:11.400 talk about. I love dates. I love getting to know 1:00:12.160 --> 1:00:17.360 new people, finding out about them and their quirks and 1:00:17.400 --> 1:00:23.000 their little subtleties and fun shit and you know, just 1:00:23.040 --> 1:00:24.800 fun you get to you sort of get to find 1:00:24.840 --> 1:00:29.280 out just who a new person is and if it works, 1:00:29.320 --> 1:00:31.720 it works. If a doesn't, A doesn't, it's no no harm. 1:00:31.800 --> 1:00:35.040 Enough out either way. But yeah, I had a really 1:00:35.040 --> 1:00:37.440 good date a couple of days ago. So we've established 1:00:37.440 --> 1:00:40.360 we're both been perpetually single people. That's right. 1:00:40.440 --> 1:00:42.960 What And we can get as much into this or 1:00:42.960 --> 1:00:44.440 out of this as you as you want to get 1:00:44.480 --> 1:00:45.280 into my thing too? 1:00:45.720 --> 1:00:45.840 What? 1:00:46.560 --> 1:00:47.640 Why? Why do you think that is? 1:00:47.680 --> 1:00:49.920 Because you say you like going on dates, but but 1:00:49.960 --> 1:00:51.160 you've been single for ten years. 1:00:51.480 --> 1:00:54.840 Yeah, I do think about that, and you know, it's 1:00:54.840 --> 1:00:57.720 an interesting I think it's an interesting thing to think 1:00:57.760 --> 1:01:03.200 about because we have this. I would say it's a 1:01:03.240 --> 1:01:09.320 traditional societal idea that perhaps has gone more and more 1:01:09.400 --> 1:01:11.840 out of style, maybe as the years have gone on, 1:01:12.320 --> 1:01:17.360 very recently, that you know, everyone needs to find their 1:01:17.480 --> 1:01:21.760 one person and they need to be so spectacular that 1:01:21.800 --> 1:01:25.160 it stops everything else and you are with that person 1:01:25.240 --> 1:01:27.920 for the rest of your days. And there is a 1:01:28.040 --> 1:01:32.000 very romantic notion around that, you know. I think it's 1:01:32.520 --> 1:01:35.120 I would like to find someone. I think eventually. I 1:01:36.120 --> 1:01:40.240 don't even know if that's my sort of childhood romanticism talking, 1:01:42.080 --> 1:01:45.840 but I think I would like to find someone permanently eventually. 1:01:45.920 --> 1:01:48.600 Maybe I don't even know if that's true, though I 1:01:48.600 --> 1:01:54.160 will say this, I find great joy fulfillment and satisfaction 1:01:54.400 --> 1:02:04.320 in getting to know different women with wonderful lives, varied 1:02:04.520 --> 1:02:16.120 experiences and takes and histories and and qualities, and I 1:02:16.120 --> 1:02:18.360 I know them for a little bit and sometimes I 1:02:18.400 --> 1:02:22.120 stay in touch with them and sometimes but I don't 1:02:22.120 --> 1:02:25.160 know if I don't know if I'm really looking if 1:02:25.160 --> 1:02:29.240 I really feel like I want anything beyond those sorts 1:02:29.240 --> 1:02:33.880 of burst relationships. They're like very quick relationships that are 1:02:34.560 --> 1:02:35.600 and I enjoy that. 1:02:36.080 --> 1:02:39.480 Yeah, man, I feel like we had a similar thing. Really, Yeah, 1:02:39.600 --> 1:02:42.280 I identify with a lot of what you're saying right now. 1:02:42.320 --> 1:02:44.520 Interesting what is you tell me about your tim? I mean, 1:02:44.600 --> 1:02:46.200 very similar to what kind of what you're saying. 1:02:46.240 --> 1:02:49.240 But I always feel like I'm weird because like because 1:02:49.440 --> 1:02:51.760 because as you're taying, there's a societal thing of like 1:02:52.000 --> 1:02:54.040 you know, you're supposed to be with this, but like 1:02:54.080 --> 1:02:56.160 you're supposed to find one person and be with them. 1:02:56.240 --> 1:02:58.800 But I just all I hear like horror stories like 1:02:59.000 --> 1:03:01.040 like uh was the name of the girl that we 1:03:01.120 --> 1:03:04.560 were talking about, Bethany, Like I hear stuff like that, 1:03:04.760 --> 1:03:07.240 and I'm like, fuck, I don't want to be like, like, 1:03:08.360 --> 1:03:08.760 what's the. 1:03:08.840 --> 1:03:10.880 Thing where like you think someone is great. 1:03:11.160 --> 1:03:14.880 You enjoy their company, Yeah, you're you're attracted to them 1:03:14.960 --> 1:03:17.800 like things are, but you you just like want to 1:03:17.840 --> 1:03:19.400 live your own life and you want to respect them 1:03:19.440 --> 1:03:21.280 and their ability to live their own life as well. 1:03:21.440 --> 1:03:23.000 I mean, I like, what's what's what is that? 1:03:23.280 --> 1:03:24.800 There's got to be a word. There's probably a word 1:03:24.840 --> 1:03:26.640 in German for the Germans have a word for everything, 1:03:27.360 --> 1:03:30.120 probably a word for it. But yeah, that would be great. 1:03:30.200 --> 1:03:31.920 I mean, I would love to eventually end on some 1:03:32.080 --> 1:03:33.760 sort of thing like that, where I have someone who 1:03:34.320 --> 1:03:36.640 I consider a best friend, you know, one of my 1:03:36.720 --> 1:03:40.160 best friends, but the sex is also great and we 1:03:40.520 --> 1:03:42.080 love each other, you know, it's like sort of a 1:03:43.400 --> 1:03:46.200 I would love to find something like that. I haven't 1:03:46.200 --> 1:03:49.439 really found anything permanently like that, and it doesn't hurt 1:03:49.560 --> 1:03:51.880 me that I haven't either though. That's the thing. It's 1:03:51.960 --> 1:03:55.680 not like I don't feel like something's missing, but I 1:03:56.600 --> 1:04:00.320 I'm open to that happening in the future. But I 1:04:00.600 --> 1:04:04.280 don't feel like I'm on this quest to find that. 1:04:04.640 --> 1:04:07.760 What I've found is that some of the women who 1:04:07.800 --> 1:04:10.720 have been with who are also of the same mind 1:04:10.800 --> 1:04:14.920 as me, who enjoy sort of being with people in bursts. 1:04:17.680 --> 1:04:19.480 That's just sort of is right. That's the key. 1:04:19.520 --> 1:04:22.080 You got to find somebody who thinks about these things, 1:04:22.360 --> 1:04:24.000 say the similar way that you think about these things. 1:04:24.040 --> 1:04:26.520 So those people exist, they do exist. And also I 1:04:27.120 --> 1:04:30.480 will say that it's not everybody, Like there are people 1:04:30.640 --> 1:04:36.200 who I have heard because you know, their expectations were 1:04:36.280 --> 1:04:40.280 different than my expectations, and I've had to lay that 1:04:40.400 --> 1:04:42.200 out on the table. We've had to lay that out 1:04:42.280 --> 1:04:45.640 on the table. And I hope that I've left those 1:04:45.680 --> 1:04:50.480 situations amicably by being honest and communicative. But it's not 1:04:50.720 --> 1:04:53.520 for everybody. It's not for everybody. And I understand that 1:04:54.360 --> 1:04:54.600 you know. 1:04:55.200 --> 1:04:57.520 So, and you know you imationed about being on this quest, 1:04:57.920 --> 1:05:02.040 and like do we get calls about this all the time, 1:05:02.200 --> 1:05:04.800 Like anyone who's like on a who like is on 1:05:05.000 --> 1:05:07.439 a quest or like I'm looking for another person. 1:05:08.920 --> 1:05:11.120 I'm like, like, it's it's this. 1:05:11.240 --> 1:05:12.840 I mean, this is why I tell every single caller 1:05:12.920 --> 1:05:15.880 who's like, you know, hey, I can't find a girlfriend 1:05:15.960 --> 1:05:17.640 or boyfriend or whatever, it's like, well, then just you know, 1:05:17.800 --> 1:05:20.480 focus on your own thing and then people will come. 1:05:20.520 --> 1:05:23.520 But like when you chase finding the other half, like 1:05:23.600 --> 1:05:24.959 that's when your ship just gets fucked. 1:05:26.480 --> 1:05:29.600 Person yo, one of my one of my very best friends. 1:05:30.440 --> 1:05:32.960 I won't say her name out of just privacy, but 1:05:33.400 --> 1:05:39.600 she was dating a dude who maybe wasn't the best 1:05:40.600 --> 1:05:45.680 suited to her, but he gave her love and time 1:05:45.800 --> 1:05:49.160 and respect and that was great. But she was on 1:05:49.280 --> 1:05:52.280 this really transformative sort of journey of her own where 1:05:52.320 --> 1:05:56.640 she was really learning a lot about herself still is therapy, 1:05:56.760 --> 1:06:02.960 doing beautiful, like really like huge things for herself, figuring 1:06:03.040 --> 1:06:05.320 herself out. Had a lot of trauma in her past, 1:06:05.800 --> 1:06:08.560 dealing with it, working through it, becoming a better person 1:06:08.680 --> 1:06:12.320 for it. And this dude was not necessarily on that 1:06:12.520 --> 1:06:15.360 journey with her, and so at the end of the day, 1:06:16.160 --> 1:06:18.440 you know, it didn't work out because they ended up 1:06:18.480 --> 1:06:22.400 in different places. She was, you know, she had grown, 1:06:23.160 --> 1:06:28.200 he maybe had not so much, yea. And so it's 1:06:28.360 --> 1:06:30.920 just sort of this thing of like, yeah, I like 1:06:31.040 --> 1:06:33.000 to find people who are in a who are in 1:06:33.080 --> 1:06:37.080 a similar place that I am at that time. I 1:06:37.320 --> 1:06:39.840 like connecting with them. And then if we go our 1:06:39.880 --> 1:06:42.640 separate ways, great, I wish you the best. I love you, 1:06:42.920 --> 1:06:46.480 enjoy yourself, enjoy your life. If we stay in touch, great, 1:06:46.560 --> 1:06:48.400 I'd love to see you in the future. But it's 1:06:49.280 --> 1:06:50.160 I'm very loose with. 1:06:50.240 --> 1:06:50.520 It and. 1:06:52.040 --> 1:06:55.760 Appreciating the moment. Yeah, moments all we got. I'm a 1:06:55.880 --> 1:06:58.880 loose little slut of a boy. The moments all we got. 1:07:00.160 --> 1:07:02.600 Things ever, guaranteed tomorrow doesn't exist. 1:07:02.920 --> 1:07:05.320 Live it up, baby, enjoy yourself. Do things that make 1:07:05.400 --> 1:07:08.160 you happy. How are you feeling, Mark, I'm feeling when 1:07:08.280 --> 1:07:10.680 when the jazz is on, I feel like I'm playing 1:07:10.760 --> 1:07:13.440 the Sims again. You know what I mean? Yeah, I 1:07:13.520 --> 1:07:16.080 think I'm just putting a little house together in two 1:07:16.120 --> 1:07:22.240 thousand and two. A here, I really have to pee? 1:07:23.120 --> 1:07:25.960 Oh you you go p here right now? Really? Yeah? Yeah? 1:07:26.000 --> 1:07:26.880 I take peeper experience. 1:07:27.040 --> 1:07:29.680 You do you let me do that. You go up here, 1:07:29.840 --> 1:07:31.720 you go pee in them when you get back. Okay, 1:07:31.800 --> 1:07:33.960 that sounds good. All right, ready break, I'll see you 1:07:33.960 --> 1:07:35.400 guys soon. I'm gonna go pee. I'm gonna have a 1:07:35.440 --> 1:07:40.320 nice peepee. Needs to take a peepee? Oh leka, drain 1:07:40.440 --> 1:07:52.600 the lizard. As they say, I want to stretch. I'm 1:07:52.600 --> 1:07:55.640 gonna stretch real quick. Hey. 1:07:55.720 --> 1:08:00.720 Shout out to freaking Mark Mark Mark Mark uh Mark 1:08:01.000 --> 1:08:05.320 Mark R. For coming on the stream. 1:08:05.520 --> 1:08:05.760 Dude. 1:08:06.720 --> 1:08:12.160 He's been great. Love having him in here. I always 1:08:12.200 --> 1:08:13.880 love doing the guest shows man. There was a lot 1:08:13.920 --> 1:08:18.599 of fucking fun. What's his name? I think it's Mark 1:08:19.479 --> 1:08:27.840 Ratituy Mark Uh, Mark mcribb, Mark Uh. 1:08:28.640 --> 1:08:29.880 What's the state? Is there any? 1:08:30.120 --> 1:08:33.120 Are there any states that start with the letter R? 1:08:35.280 --> 1:08:38.040 Rhode Island. That's the only one, right. I can't think 1:08:38.080 --> 1:08:39.960 of another one that was a good call, Leo. I 1:08:39.960 --> 1:08:42.719 couldn't think of one that would have been here forever 1:08:44.200 --> 1:08:56.559 rexus RAR Kansas, Alabama, Ruth Routh, Dakota. That's how Scooby 1:08:56.600 --> 1:09:02.200 Doo says, South Dakota. Oh, this is this is, this 1:09:02.400 --> 1:09:05.080 is I got I gotta know what's going on here? 1:09:05.560 --> 1:09:09.759 Oh my god, Oh my god. 1:09:11.800 --> 1:09:20.120 Uh Helsey Kelsey, Hello Kelsey from Pennsylvania, twenty three years old. 1:09:21.600 --> 1:09:22.120 What's going on? 1:09:24.640 --> 1:09:25.160 How are you? 1:09:26.960 --> 1:09:29.639 Mark? How are you? Yeah? I'm doing very well. I'm 1:09:29.680 --> 1:09:32.680 having a nice little evening. I'm enjoying myself. How are 1:09:32.680 --> 1:09:33.000 you well. 1:09:33.520 --> 1:09:36.080 I'm having a nice little evening and enjoying myself too. Yeah, 1:09:36.360 --> 1:09:40.400 I'm uh you know, I'm I'm having a fun time. 1:09:40.479 --> 1:09:42.800 It's fun. It's good to be alive for me. A 1:09:42.840 --> 1:09:44.400 little bit of that, oh please, of course hit me 1:09:44.479 --> 1:09:45.880 with a little bit of that, right, yes, yes, yes, 1:09:46.160 --> 1:09:50.320 quick quick, yeah, that's it. Yeah, anymore over you know, well, 1:09:50.360 --> 1:09:53.040 maybe just a taste, maybe a taste. That's perfect, that's it, 1:09:53.200 --> 1:09:59.680 beautiful chin chinchim my friend, Kelsey, are you still there? 1:10:00.240 --> 1:10:00.479 Hello? 1:10:01.120 --> 1:10:03.040 Kelsey? It says here. 1:10:04.640 --> 1:10:09.000 That you twenty three from Pennsylvanuary went over. That part 1:10:09.400 --> 1:10:13.639 says that your boy It says that your boyfriend left 1:10:13.720 --> 1:10:19.560 you for your grandpa, and that your boyfriend's twenty. It 1:10:19.600 --> 1:10:22.200 says your boyfriend's twenty five and your grandpa's seventy two. 1:10:24.640 --> 1:10:27.960 Yep, Kelsey, please God tell us the story. 1:10:30.560 --> 1:10:33.559 So my boyfriend was cheating on me for a while 1:10:33.680 --> 1:10:37.360 and wasn't home. Come to find out he was seeing 1:10:37.439 --> 1:10:38.200 my grandfather. 1:10:38.680 --> 1:10:40.479 Get the fuck out of here. 1:10:42.520 --> 1:10:44.720 And I think that's how I got chlamydia. 1:10:45.400 --> 1:10:49.120 Oh my god, you got chlamydia from your own grandfather, 1:10:51.280 --> 1:10:51.719 I guess. 1:10:51.800 --> 1:10:52.840 So get. 1:10:54.280 --> 1:10:54.320 What? 1:10:57.000 --> 1:11:03.920 Okay? Wait? Tell us how they give us the story 1:11:04.000 --> 1:11:07.800 of the meeting of the grandfather And did you sense 1:11:07.880 --> 1:11:09.280 any weird chemistry there? 1:11:09.479 --> 1:11:13.000 Tell us get please, there's so many details. 1:11:12.680 --> 1:11:13.360 That we are missing. 1:11:13.520 --> 1:11:14.599 How I found out. 1:11:16.360 --> 1:11:20.280 Was I got quamdia and I'm not cheating on my boyfriend. 1:11:21.400 --> 1:11:24.760 So I did some big deeping and he was been 1:11:24.840 --> 1:11:27.960 texting this person and seeing him, which was my grandfather. 1:11:30.360 --> 1:11:31.559 Wait, you saw texts? 1:11:34.479 --> 1:11:34.840 I did? 1:11:35.520 --> 1:11:36.800 What did they say? 1:11:40.640 --> 1:11:44.320 And well one it was saved under his grandfather's name, 1:11:44.400 --> 1:11:45.479 so I thought nothing of it. 1:11:45.960 --> 1:11:51.320 Oh he saved the texts under his grandfather's name. 1:11:51.439 --> 1:11:56.040 Also, I would have thought something, Grandpa, Jimmy, oh my? 1:11:56.360 --> 1:11:57.920 Can you tell us what the text said? 1:12:01.360 --> 1:12:04.280 While it was about the nights they were having sleeping 1:12:04.400 --> 1:12:08.719 over having work late when it wasn't. 1:12:08.600 --> 1:12:11.439 Actually worse you know, Oh my god? 1:12:11.680 --> 1:12:13.960 And that Chelsea has lamydia? 1:12:15.760 --> 1:12:20.080 Cal Say, Kelsey, tell us, have you spoken to your 1:12:20.080 --> 1:12:21.040 grandfather about this? 1:12:23.640 --> 1:12:25.959 No, it's a whole family affair, honestly. 1:12:26.640 --> 1:12:28.280 Wait wait, wait, so where is it at? What's the 1:12:28.360 --> 1:12:29.120 current status? 1:12:31.920 --> 1:12:33.160 I think they're still together. 1:12:33.600 --> 1:12:37.760 It happened like two months ago. What they're living it 1:12:37.880 --> 1:12:38.439 up over there? 1:12:39.080 --> 1:12:39.120 What? 1:12:39.760 --> 1:12:39.800 So? 1:12:40.520 --> 1:12:42.800 Are you not connected to the situation at all? 1:12:42.920 --> 1:12:43.080 Do you? 1:12:43.439 --> 1:12:47.320 Yeah? What's your grandfather's family? 1:12:48.560 --> 1:12:51.200 First, they asked me if I wanted a relationship with them? 1:12:52.120 --> 1:12:55.040 Oh my god, way, what do you mean a relationship 1:12:55.120 --> 1:12:55.479 with them? 1:12:58.080 --> 1:12:58.879 Like a thropple? 1:12:59.600 --> 1:13:00.840 Are you hold on? 1:13:02.560 --> 1:13:06.160 Cal calseiy Kelsey please? And I will, I swear to 1:13:06.240 --> 1:13:09.880 I'm not gonna be mad at you. I promise you 1:13:10.240 --> 1:13:12.640 that I will not be mad at you. Okay, do 1:13:12.640 --> 1:13:14.600 you understand me? I promise you I will not be 1:13:14.680 --> 1:13:15.000 mad at you. 1:13:16.520 --> 1:13:16.720 Are you? 1:13:17.040 --> 1:13:18.439 Are you fucking with us right now? 1:13:21.520 --> 1:13:21.560 No? 1:13:21.760 --> 1:13:23.559 I swear to God I would not mix that up. 1:13:23.600 --> 1:13:24.639 I'm single right now. 1:13:26.000 --> 1:13:29.559 Dude. Okay, hold on a second. Okay, So, so your 1:13:29.600 --> 1:13:36.439 boyfriend started fucking started sucking your grandfather is now with him? 1:13:37.520 --> 1:13:44.639 And how did that situation get resolved? Like, or rather 1:13:44.760 --> 1:13:51.120 not resolved but confronted in any way, like, explain to 1:13:51.240 --> 1:13:52.960 us that the sequence of events there. 1:13:53.640 --> 1:13:56.960 I confronted my boyfriend at the time, and he denied 1:13:57.000 --> 1:13:59.599 it and was trying to say they were doing other 1:13:59.720 --> 1:14:04.800 things that trying to surprise me what we're saying him. 1:14:04.880 --> 1:14:10.639 But then I got chamydia, dude, I that Wow. 1:14:11.680 --> 1:14:15.960 What was your relationship like with your grandfather before this happened? 1:14:16.840 --> 1:14:17.479 Very good question. 1:14:17.880 --> 1:14:21.360 We were pretty close, I mean close enough for my 1:14:21.600 --> 1:14:23.240 boyfriend to get to know him. I guess. 1:14:23.520 --> 1:14:32.840 Oh no, my you're playing chess yea oh god, dude, Okay, 1:14:33.000 --> 1:14:33.960 story to tell now? 1:14:34.080 --> 1:14:35.080 You know what? 1:14:35.200 --> 1:14:37.439 I want to just say? I I know I'm reacting 1:14:37.520 --> 1:14:42.960 with a like incredible shock. I apologize It's just it's 1:14:43.040 --> 1:14:49.679 such an intensely unusual thing, right, No, apology is definitely 1:14:52.160 --> 1:14:53.960 your grandma. Are they married? 1:14:56.360 --> 1:14:59.080 They they are. I mean they're not actually together now, 1:14:59.200 --> 1:15:01.160 but they were married for I think. 1:15:01.080 --> 1:15:01.880 Twenty two years. 1:15:02.680 --> 1:15:10.519 Are they not together because of this? What the fuck? Dude? 1:15:12.400 --> 1:15:16.479 This is in insane, insane sequence of events. 1:15:17.080 --> 1:15:17.280 Yeah. 1:15:17.320 --> 1:15:19.800 I never found out if she got media or not. 1:15:20.360 --> 1:15:23.800 I'm sure she did. I'm sure she did get it. 1:15:24.080 --> 1:15:24.519 Probably. 1:15:25.760 --> 1:15:29.080 Okay, wait, now hold on. We have to be sensitive 1:15:29.120 --> 1:15:33.360 here though, too, because, as I mean, this is something 1:15:33.400 --> 1:15:37.679 out of like an absurdist comedy, but this is also 1:15:37.920 --> 1:15:44.519 your life. I imagine this was like, oh it is okay, 1:15:44.640 --> 1:15:46.639 have you gotten as like you've gotten past the pain 1:15:46.840 --> 1:15:48.240 part or the trauma. 1:15:48.320 --> 1:15:50.880 But because this is like a it can only be 1:15:51.120 --> 1:15:54.639 so painful, you know, when someone's when your boyfriend's gay, 1:15:54.720 --> 1:15:55.960 you just have to move forward. 1:15:59.680 --> 1:16:02.519 This is about more than your boyfriend being getting way 1:16:02.680 --> 1:16:08.920 more than that, way more than that. Yeah, that's sort 1:16:08.960 --> 1:16:10.479 of an afterthought at this point. 1:16:11.920 --> 1:16:14.240 I would put that lower in the priority list of 1:16:14.360 --> 1:16:17.600 things to be thinking about in this situation. Kelsey so 1:16:18.760 --> 1:16:22.679 so so, Kelsey's so all right, tell me about your 1:16:22.920 --> 1:16:25.880 tell me about the reactions of other people in your family, 1:16:26.040 --> 1:16:28.560 your mom, I don't know if you have any siblings 1:16:28.960 --> 1:16:30.200 or you know, what what what? 1:16:30.439 --> 1:16:32.000 What is? What is the talk of the town and 1:16:32.040 --> 1:16:33.080 the other members of the family. 1:16:35.560 --> 1:16:38.040 Well, my mom said she wasn't surprised. 1:16:40.680 --> 1:16:44.240 Apparently he did. He's done things like this in the past. 1:16:44.360 --> 1:16:45.160 I wanted to. 1:16:46.640 --> 1:16:49.240 Well, so your mom said that she wasn't surprised because 1:16:49.280 --> 1:16:54.800 he's done things like this in the past, apparently, Like like, what, 1:16:54.960 --> 1:16:56.360 do you have any examples of anything? 1:16:58.160 --> 1:16:59.519 I have no clue. 1:17:00.240 --> 1:17:04.879 Oh okay, so wait, So it sounds like once this happened, 1:17:05.760 --> 1:17:10.680 you became somewhat disconnected in a in a sense, was 1:17:10.720 --> 1:17:13.400 that you're doing your choice? Tell us about where they 1:17:13.600 --> 1:17:16.439 because you it sounds like you're like, I have nothing 1:17:16.520 --> 1:17:18.640 to do with this anymore, Like you you know what 1:17:18.720 --> 1:17:28.640 I mean? Yeah, yeah, I have no earthly idea. I 1:17:28.720 --> 1:17:33.800 have no earthly idea. I mean, what's get It's just 1:17:34.160 --> 1:17:36.600 such an insane situation. 1:17:37.160 --> 1:17:39.080 Tell us about your grandma. Are you close with her? 1:17:39.320 --> 1:17:39.920 Have you have you? 1:17:40.000 --> 1:17:41.000 Have you been checking in on. 1:17:41.080 --> 1:17:41.479 Her at all? 1:17:42.240 --> 1:17:44.880 A little bit. She's just done with the whole family, 1:17:45.000 --> 1:17:47.080 you know, she's living on her own, living her life. 1:17:47.240 --> 1:17:53.920 He's like, I'm over this bullshit, this ship. What a 1:17:54.120 --> 1:17:57.400 champ man, what a fucking chip By the way, you too, 1:17:57.880 --> 1:18:03.040 what a fucking champ and your grandma too for putting up. 1:18:03.280 --> 1:18:06.160 And then also, I I do have to say on 1:18:06.280 --> 1:18:08.360 the other side of this, we have to be empathetic 1:18:08.400 --> 1:18:13.080 to all sides. Love clearly was found there in this 1:18:13.479 --> 1:18:15.120 very bizarre yeah. 1:18:16.520 --> 1:18:18.720 Way, I was wondering if I should bring that up. 1:18:18.760 --> 1:18:21.439 I was like, I'm almost am I weirdly happy for 1:18:21.640 --> 1:18:23.639 the boyfriends? I mean, I know we cheated. I guess 1:18:23.680 --> 1:18:26.280 that's bad, but am I weirdly happy that he found 1:18:26.800 --> 1:18:28.519 he found out who he was? 1:18:29.040 --> 1:18:31.000 Happy is the wrong? Happy is not the wrong, But 1:18:31.120 --> 1:18:33.400 I mean, well, well, look the situation okay, and. 1:18:33.479 --> 1:18:36.840 This guy sound crazy, Yeah, the situation kind of worked 1:18:36.840 --> 1:18:39.400 out for everybody because look. 1:18:39.720 --> 1:18:41.160 Well because look, you know, you don't want to be 1:18:41.320 --> 1:18:42.640 with it, well, because you don't want to. 1:18:42.640 --> 1:18:46.880 Be with somebody who ultimately is you know, hiding something 1:18:46.880 --> 1:18:48.320 about themselves that would make it. 1:18:49.840 --> 1:18:52.439 Yes, exactly, Yeah, you don't want to be with someone 1:18:52.479 --> 1:18:54.040 who's fucking your grandfather. 1:18:54.479 --> 1:18:57.760 To be with someone who's fucking your grandfather, and your 1:18:58.160 --> 1:18:59.919 boyfriend wants to be with your grandfather. 1:19:00.160 --> 1:19:03.439 So maybe everyone's kind of maybe this was good? Was 1:19:03.479 --> 1:19:04.719 this good? Am I crazy? 1:19:05.240 --> 1:19:08.240 I mean, maybe it's a good story. 1:19:08.800 --> 1:19:11.320 It's a great story, questionably a good story. Should it 1:19:11.400 --> 1:19:14.600 maybe have never? Like, would it have been better for 1:19:14.720 --> 1:19:17.480 everyone if it had never happened at all? Your boyfriend 1:19:17.680 --> 1:19:22.840 and your grandfather? And likely it's likely probably better if 1:19:22.920 --> 1:19:27.120 it had never happened at all. But I have to say, 1:19:28.320 --> 1:19:32.720 you are awesome for taking you clearly have you you 1:19:32.840 --> 1:19:36.720 have a healthy relationship with what has happened. You're you're 1:19:37.160 --> 1:19:40.240 looking at it with go ahead. 1:19:41.439 --> 1:19:43.280 Besides the commydia, you know what I mean? 1:19:43.920 --> 1:19:45.680 You take those pills. You get that pill on. 1:19:50.160 --> 1:19:52.120 Yeah, we're working on it. 1:19:52.479 --> 1:19:56.720 Take the pills to go to your fucking PCP. We 1:19:56.800 --> 1:20:00.400 were talking about lemittee on the streamline Lyles had yeah, 1:20:00.520 --> 1:20:03.400 and we when we're cure it's a curable illness. Just 1:20:03.479 --> 1:20:06.080 take a pill twice. Take the pill. 1:20:06.920 --> 1:20:08.719 Probably this story. 1:20:08.880 --> 1:20:12.360 Huh, you gotta go get that pill. It's very easy. 1:20:12.479 --> 1:20:15.519 It's a it's like a regiment. It's a little antibiotic regiment. 1:20:15.640 --> 1:20:17.479 Go do it before. 1:20:17.760 --> 1:20:24.439 Yes, I don't know why the h you answered that 1:20:24.560 --> 1:20:29.280 with maybe certainly have and you just take some pills 1:20:29.439 --> 1:20:30.240 and then you're good. 1:20:30.680 --> 1:20:36.120 Okay, I'm just reading the comments. 1:20:36.160 --> 1:20:38.080 I'm sorry, people are saying some good things. 1:20:38.520 --> 1:20:39.840 Tell me what the people are. So what of the 1:20:39.880 --> 1:20:41.360 people saying are they? Are they comforting you? 1:20:41.520 --> 1:20:43.160 Or normalize chlamydia? 1:20:43.640 --> 1:20:47.400 Normalize Grandpa Steel one of the mom's boyfriends too. 1:20:48.439 --> 1:20:55.040 Now, huh, just remember because the mom was saying, like, 1:20:55.240 --> 1:20:56.240 he does this type of thing. 1:20:56.880 --> 1:20:59.880 I feel like maybe when your mom was like whatever 1:21:00.400 --> 1:21:04.000 fucking like in college or something like that, maybe the 1:21:04.080 --> 1:21:07.920 same thing happened to her where like her boyfriend was 1:21:07.920 --> 1:21:08.760 stolen by her dad. 1:21:08.880 --> 1:21:10.960 Maybe he has a history of doing this kind of stuff. 1:21:12.600 --> 1:21:13.320 What's up with. 1:21:15.720 --> 1:21:16.400 Her boyfriend? 1:21:16.439 --> 1:21:17.960 Would become a step grandpa? 1:21:18.640 --> 1:21:22.200 If Grandpa could call him, this would be the most 1:21:22.320 --> 1:21:28.000 incredible sequence of events. Is it any way to. 1:21:28.000 --> 1:21:30.719 Make that happen to boyfriend? Grandmam? 1:21:31.160 --> 1:21:33.960 Do you do you have his? Wait? Actually, can I 1:21:33.960 --> 1:21:34.720 ask you? Can I ask you? 1:21:35.160 --> 1:21:38.400 Do you have your grandmother's phone number? Would you be 1:21:38.479 --> 1:21:39.640 willing to dial her in. 1:21:41.360 --> 1:21:41.479 Now? 1:21:41.560 --> 1:21:41.760 Though? 1:21:42.080 --> 1:21:46.040 Oh shit, that's right, she's on grandma time. 1:21:47.040 --> 1:21:49.320 Someone said, if you can't keep it in the pants, 1:21:49.479 --> 1:21:50.400 keep it in the family. 1:21:52.520 --> 1:21:54.080 By the way, can you figure this out real quick? 1:21:54.160 --> 1:21:56.800 If your boyfriend and your grand and your grandfather did 1:21:56.960 --> 1:22:00.680 get married. What what would the would you call? What 1:22:00.680 --> 1:22:05.400 would your boyfriend's title be? Step grand your father? Oh, 1:22:05.680 --> 1:22:08.040 my step grandfather. 1:22:08.160 --> 1:22:10.439 This is this is my step granddad. 1:22:12.000 --> 1:22:12.719 And my axe. 1:22:13.200 --> 1:22:21.080 Jesus, what mental just jungle jim to be climbing through here? 1:22:22.320 --> 1:22:25.200 I don't know, I mean, I can't imagine how honestly 1:22:25.320 --> 1:22:28.000 I'm I have I just have to say, because I 1:22:28.120 --> 1:22:30.759 know it must have fucked you up, and I'm sorry 1:22:30.840 --> 1:22:34.240 for that. That's that that must have been a real 1:22:35.400 --> 1:22:45.160 fucker to hear or to see, right, Oh, Kelsey, Kelsey's 1:22:45.720 --> 1:22:47.519 what would happen? Left? 1:22:48.439 --> 1:22:50.360 Let's bring it back, guy, this was an accident. 1:22:51.400 --> 1:22:56.760 I just I'm just I can't imagine what a what 1:22:56.920 --> 1:22:58.720 a fucker of a thing that must have been to 1:22:58.880 --> 1:23:04.719 see like your your boyfriend's text messages with your grand fund. 1:23:04.840 --> 1:23:07.519 Yeah, Kelsey, Kelsey dropped out of an accident. 1:23:07.640 --> 1:23:11.080 But maybe she got a cover blown or something. 1:23:11.360 --> 1:23:14.040 But yeah, that is a total that is a total 1:23:14.120 --> 1:23:18.600 fucker Uh, very crazy stuff. Kelsey did it seem like 1:23:18.680 --> 1:23:21.360 she was no, you've you've you've been very sensitive to 1:23:21.439 --> 1:23:23.639 this issue. I feel like it's it's true. Kelsey did't 1:23:23.640 --> 1:23:26.559 seem like she was handling it very well, super well. 1:23:26.680 --> 1:23:28.280 I mean, I mean, here's here's the problem. 1:23:28.360 --> 1:23:30.000 She had like a good attitude of I don't know if. 1:23:29.920 --> 1:23:31.080 It's I don't know if it's a problem, but here's 1:23:31.080 --> 1:23:36.559 the thing. Whatever it is, it's undeniably a pretty crazy, 1:23:36.760 --> 1:23:38.240 medically pretty funny. 1:23:38.240 --> 1:23:39.120 It's so funny. 1:23:39.280 --> 1:23:42.720 It's an undeniably funny start under it's a comedic. And 1:23:42.960 --> 1:23:47.600 I appreciate so heavily that Casey is aware of that, 1:23:47.680 --> 1:23:51.479 one hundred percent agreed it's undeniable. Is the only way 1:23:51.479 --> 1:23:52.200 it cannot be denied. 1:23:52.240 --> 1:23:52.960 She's a fucking champ. 1:23:53.040 --> 1:23:53.720 She's a fucking champ. 1:23:53.880 --> 1:23:56.160 A champ just like dealing with it in a way 1:23:56.280 --> 1:23:59.519 that is healthy and good. You know she knows or 1:23:59.600 --> 1:24:03.519 she should. No Kelsey, if you're listening, it's not about you, obviously, 1:24:04.120 --> 1:24:06.160 has nothing to do with you. It has to do 1:24:06.240 --> 1:24:12.000 with some strange, perhaps beautiful love between two men of 1:24:12.080 --> 1:24:16.160 differing ages, And who am I to judge that? Really? 1:24:16.400 --> 1:24:18.120 You know what I was thinking about is because I 1:24:18.479 --> 1:24:19.960 brought up real quick. I was like, this is a 1:24:20.000 --> 1:24:22.680 good thing for everyone, Like if I'm let's say I'm 1:24:22.680 --> 1:24:27.679 the boyfriend and I'm gay and I'm not telling okay, 1:24:27.800 --> 1:24:30.280 I'm trying to think of, like what's the ethical way 1:24:30.560 --> 1:24:32.559 to like, because you feel what. 1:24:32.560 --> 1:24:34.320 You feel, and there's nothing wrong with you know, feeling 1:24:34.320 --> 1:24:34.720 how you feel. 1:24:34.800 --> 1:24:37.840 Like, what the what's the ethical way to be like, Hey, 1:24:38.200 --> 1:24:40.960 I'm going to break up with you, yeah, to date 1:24:41.320 --> 1:24:43.040 your grand because cheating is different from. 1:24:42.960 --> 1:24:44.040 Being like I'm going to leave you. 1:24:44.600 --> 1:24:46.120 Yeah. I don't know if there's an ethical way to 1:24:46.200 --> 1:24:47.360 do that, if that even exists. 1:24:47.439 --> 1:24:49.840 I feel like there's no like good way to go 1:24:49.920 --> 1:24:50.200 about it. 1:24:50.320 --> 1:24:53.760 What's the proper communication involved? 1:24:54.520 --> 1:24:56.920 Just that if you're the boys had to be a 1:24:57.040 --> 1:24:59.840 cheating situation, like, there's no way that could have happened 1:25:00.120 --> 1:25:03.479 in like a formal way. Hey, Kelsey, you know listen, 1:25:03.840 --> 1:25:06.280 so we had a great run. He's hot, it's hot 1:25:06.320 --> 1:25:08.760 as fun. What do you think if I, uh, there's 1:25:08.880 --> 1:25:11.519 no good healthy way to get you just have to 1:25:11.680 --> 1:25:16.640 like do it and then deal with the repercussions, you know, 1:25:17.080 --> 1:25:17.639 you get. 1:25:19.080 --> 1:25:19.920 You can't just like. 1:25:22.560 --> 1:25:24.720 Take those dentures out and get give me that, give 1:25:24.760 --> 1:25:26.360 me those gummies. You can't. 1:25:27.360 --> 1:25:30.560 That's probably a unique sexual experience that I'm sure I 1:25:30.640 --> 1:25:32.719 had if I had to like get in his mind 1:25:32.760 --> 1:25:36.240 and be like, why would I, you know, be into 1:25:36.560 --> 1:25:39.800 you know, my girlfriend's grandfather. 1:25:40.080 --> 1:25:40.200 Right. 1:25:40.400 --> 1:25:43.080 Maybe maybe it's the gums thing. It's a gums thing, 1:25:43.280 --> 1:25:46.720 or it's a it's maybe a geriatric thing, or it's 1:25:46.760 --> 1:25:49.000 a family thing. Maybe it's a family fetish where it's 1:25:49.080 --> 1:25:53.680 like he's fucking people, you know, it's like or it's 1:25:53.880 --> 1:25:57.400 just family yeah maybe, or or it could be just 1:25:57.479 --> 1:25:59.760 like a sexual discovery thing. He might be having a 1:25:59.800 --> 1:26:00.559 real revelation. 1:26:01.280 --> 1:26:04.640 Hey, this is a good What What does geriatric mean? 1:26:05.439 --> 1:26:08.280 It means elderly. It means like a scet old. 1:26:08.560 --> 1:26:12.000 Oh okay, I know I couldn't even like vaguely describe 1:26:12.000 --> 1:26:13.640 what it meant before you told me just now, but 1:26:13.640 --> 1:26:14.200 I've used it. 1:26:14.240 --> 1:26:17.920 A medical way of saying old, uh, geriatrics. It's like 1:26:19.520 --> 1:26:23.960 having to do with elderly medicine and elderly people. Well, 1:26:24.000 --> 1:26:26.960 I wish Casey the best of luck and whatever comes next. 1:26:27.160 --> 1:26:27.560 I don't know what. 1:26:27.640 --> 1:26:29.160 I don't know what your dating life is supposed to 1:26:29.160 --> 1:26:30.280 look like after this case. 1:26:30.400 --> 1:26:34.840 I think I know exactly what's coming next, and well 1:26:34.880 --> 1:26:37.040 for your boyfriend at least, and I wish him the 1:26:37.280 --> 1:26:41.439 very best with your grandfather at the very least. 1:26:41.560 --> 1:26:45.000 The bar for whoever she dates nice is extremely low. 1:26:45.600 --> 1:26:49.000 That's what you know? What we should wish Kelsey the best? Yes, 1:26:49.080 --> 1:26:50.679 of course is that what you said? Kelsey? 1:26:50.720 --> 1:26:54.320 Kelsey's the girlfriend, Yes, who her the best? I wish 1:26:54.360 --> 1:26:55.080 her the best as well. 1:26:55.360 --> 1:26:58.200 Clearly her boyfriend is doing just fine with members of 1:26:58.320 --> 1:27:03.599 her family, so we wish, of course whatever. But Kelsey, 1:27:04.760 --> 1:27:08.920 Kelsey is a hero. Kelsey, God damn man, Nothing count nothing. 1:27:08.760 --> 1:27:10.160 Can hurt her now she is. 1:27:10.360 --> 1:27:14.639 She's been through the ringer. Dude, what like, top tier 1:27:14.760 --> 1:27:19.799 human being? Top tier human being. We wish you lovely 1:27:20.000 --> 1:27:22.919 sex with people who are not interested in your extended 1:27:23.000 --> 1:27:27.640 family and and and a and a good life thereforward, 1:27:28.880 --> 1:27:32.479 Let's see what else is going on. There's a lot 1:27:32.520 --> 1:27:36.000 of interesting stuff going on here. Kind of this one's 1:27:36.080 --> 1:27:38.400 kind of interesting. That's the one that I had my 1:27:38.479 --> 1:27:40.000 eye on. Yeah, you want to do this one? 1:27:40.200 --> 1:27:40.400 Yeah? 1:27:40.760 --> 1:27:44.920 Stuck to Maddie from Minnesota, Minnesoeta. 1:27:46.960 --> 1:27:50.960 Maddie, Oh my god, am I on? 1:27:51.360 --> 1:27:52.120 Oh You're so on. 1:27:53.320 --> 1:27:55.920 You are more on than anyone has ever but you 1:27:56.000 --> 1:27:59.680 are at your You're on, You're on right now, right now. 1:28:01.280 --> 1:28:02.080 How's it going, Maddie? 1:28:02.800 --> 1:28:04.200 Well, Hi, how are you guys? 1:28:06.720 --> 1:28:12.760 We're two geckos never better. See the best part of 1:28:12.800 --> 1:28:14.639 the show is when you just forget the yere cam. 1:28:14.800 --> 1:28:16.840 I live on a really busy street, so if there's 1:28:16.920 --> 1:28:19.240 like a loud truck or motorcycle that goes bay, I 1:28:19.320 --> 1:28:20.719 just want to apologize to everyone. 1:28:21.560 --> 1:28:24.439 Maddie, you have nothing to apologize for. Uh. It says 1:28:24.479 --> 1:28:27.640 you're twenty one from Minnesota. It also says here that 1:28:27.760 --> 1:28:32.879 you've been feeling like your friends pity invite you to events, 1:28:33.960 --> 1:28:36.439 and that you feel as though you're a side character 1:28:36.640 --> 1:28:37.639 in everyone's lives. 1:28:37.720 --> 1:28:39.360 That's what it says here. Do you want to tell 1:28:39.400 --> 1:28:40.000 us more about that? 1:28:43.080 --> 1:28:49.360 Yeah, So, for the past like year or so, I 1:28:49.479 --> 1:28:54.719 guess like nobody, like I don't know, people stopped inviting 1:28:54.800 --> 1:28:58.719 me to stuff. So for like probably like six months, 1:28:58.920 --> 1:29:01.599 I didn't like going anywhere except for work in my house. 1:29:02.600 --> 1:29:07.120 And then I moved to a new city and I 1:29:07.320 --> 1:29:09.640 go to school here and I got a job, and 1:29:10.560 --> 1:29:13.160 people at my job I ask them questions about themselves, 1:29:13.280 --> 1:29:15.479 and then that's like the end of the conversation. They 1:29:15.520 --> 1:29:18.320 don't want to talk to me about like what's going 1:29:18.360 --> 1:29:22.000 on in my life, and like my roommates will go 1:29:22.200 --> 1:29:24.280 off and hang out without me all the time and 1:29:24.400 --> 1:29:28.080 don't invite me, And I feel like I just kind 1:29:28.080 --> 1:29:33.439 of exist to say semi funny things to people and 1:29:34.080 --> 1:29:35.280 then like that's it. 1:29:37.160 --> 1:29:42.760 M Do you feel I don't know if any of 1:29:42.840 --> 1:29:43.439 that made sense. 1:29:43.680 --> 1:29:44.800 Yeah it does, it does. 1:29:45.400 --> 1:29:45.640 Do you. 1:29:47.640 --> 1:29:50.519 Feel like what kind of you say When you talk 1:29:50.600 --> 1:29:56.639 to your coworkers, they're talking mostly about themselves. They don't 1:29:56.680 --> 1:29:59.080 ask you much about yourself. Is that what you said? 1:30:01.680 --> 1:30:01.920 Yeah? 1:30:02.640 --> 1:30:05.320 And like they'll talk about like going to parties and stuff, 1:30:05.439 --> 1:30:09.360 and like if I'm present, they'll be like, oh, you can, 1:30:09.479 --> 1:30:11.360 like come as you want to, and then I'll go 1:30:11.880 --> 1:30:14.320 and nobody talks to me the whole time. 1:30:20.600 --> 1:30:25.560 I have a few thoughts about this, Maddie. Okay, so 1:30:25.640 --> 1:30:29.400 aside from like your your like friendships and your sort 1:30:29.439 --> 1:30:30.880 of personal life, what. 1:30:32.360 --> 1:30:33.240 Do you. 1:30:34.880 --> 1:30:37.679 Like and what do you do with your time? 1:30:42.080 --> 1:30:44.760 I guess a lot of the time, I just kind 1:30:44.800 --> 1:30:50.679 of hang out at my house. I watch YouTube a lot, 1:30:52.720 --> 1:30:54.640 I like playing video games, and I mean I'll have 1:30:54.720 --> 1:30:59.679 a boyfriend, but like none of his friends like lives. 1:31:00.080 --> 1:31:00.639 You're off. 1:31:01.960 --> 1:31:06.439 And like every time he's come to visit me here 1:31:06.600 --> 1:31:10.800 since we're a long distance right now, nobody like I'll 1:31:10.840 --> 1:31:13.040 be like, hey, let's let's go up to dinner with 1:31:13.200 --> 1:31:15.120 some of like these people that I know, and then 1:31:15.160 --> 1:31:17.760 that people just like cancel on us last minute, or 1:31:18.840 --> 1:31:22.760 they just are like, oh, we're doing something else, so 1:31:22.960 --> 1:31:24.320 I don't I don't know what I'm doing. 1:31:24.880 --> 1:31:26.840 So you just you feel like you're getting the short 1:31:26.960 --> 1:31:30.400 end of the social stick, shall we say? 1:31:32.120 --> 1:31:32.320 Yeah? 1:31:36.680 --> 1:31:37.880 What can can I ask? 1:31:38.120 --> 1:31:38.160 Like? 1:31:38.720 --> 1:31:42.519 What would your ideal situation be? 1:31:42.800 --> 1:31:44.400 Are are you hoping to have like. 1:31:46.000 --> 1:31:49.000 One or two like really close friends you hopen to 1:31:49.040 --> 1:31:51.400 have like be in a whole group, Like what how 1:31:51.400 --> 1:31:55.960 would you sort of describe your ideal uh communal situation? 1:31:56.600 --> 1:31:57.120 Good question? 1:32:00.320 --> 1:32:02.599 Well, I mean in high school, I had this big 1:32:02.680 --> 1:32:07.200 group of friends and we would literally like hang out 1:32:07.240 --> 1:32:09.880 all day at school and then after school we all 1:32:09.960 --> 1:32:11.960 go to someone's house and just hang out till like 1:32:12.080 --> 1:32:14.840 ten o'clock at night, and then winch and repeat the 1:32:14.960 --> 1:32:17.120 next day. I guess I just missed that. 1:32:20.520 --> 1:32:23.680 So the reason I was talking about like what your 1:32:23.720 --> 1:32:27.200 interests are outside of just your personal life is because I. 1:32:27.240 --> 1:32:29.040 Feel like one of the great. 1:32:30.840 --> 1:32:34.920 Missions in life is to take the big, bright universe 1:32:35.520 --> 1:32:39.160 and carve your tiny little piece of it somehow, so 1:32:40.360 --> 1:32:42.120 I don't know if you're in college. 1:32:42.200 --> 1:32:42.920 Are you in college? 1:32:45.600 --> 1:32:49.519 Yeah, okay, perfect if I were you, And this is 1:32:49.720 --> 1:32:52.040 this is I was a bit of a loner my 1:32:52.120 --> 1:32:55.519 freshman year of college, and this is how I sort 1:32:55.560 --> 1:32:57.760 of started to build a lot of people around me 1:32:57.840 --> 1:33:03.120 and have friends and stuff. Is very I'm gonna give 1:33:03.120 --> 1:33:06.439 you some very practical shit here. You gotta start a club, 1:33:07.280 --> 1:33:12.680 not join. Start a club in relation to your interests. 1:33:12.760 --> 1:33:13.439 Whatever that is. 1:33:13.760 --> 1:33:16.040 And anything you think is not an interest you can 1:33:16.080 --> 1:33:18.760 start a club around. You actually can, whether it's a 1:33:19.280 --> 1:33:21.280 video I know you said you'd like to play video games, 1:33:22.320 --> 1:33:25.640 anything else you could possibly think of to start a 1:33:25.760 --> 1:33:30.200 club and then advertise for the club on like whatever. 1:33:31.200 --> 1:33:33.280 Let's say you go to the University of Minnesota. You 1:33:33.360 --> 1:33:36.000 go to the fucking University of Minnesota Class of twenty 1:33:36.080 --> 1:33:40.400 twenty facebook page. Type in, Hey, everybody, We're gonna be 1:33:40.439 --> 1:33:43.439 at the room two nine. I'm bringing my Nintendo Switch. 1:33:43.520 --> 1:33:46.479 Everyone come hang, you know, and I guarantee there's other 1:33:46.520 --> 1:33:49.280 people on the University of Minnesota Facebook page who are 1:33:49.520 --> 1:33:50.200 just feel in the. 1:33:50.200 --> 1:33:50.840 Same way as you. 1:33:51.479 --> 1:33:52.400 They'll come show up. 1:33:54.120 --> 1:33:54.560 I like that. 1:33:55.240 --> 1:33:59.000 So that's sort of the way that I always. 1:33:59.000 --> 1:34:01.719 Think about these kinds of things, especially when you're in college, 1:34:02.280 --> 1:34:06.280 because that's a good uh uh avenue. And and that's 1:34:06.320 --> 1:34:09.000 that's my like practical advice for you, because that's something 1:34:09.040 --> 1:34:12.439 you can really like go and and and do and 1:34:12.520 --> 1:34:13.680 put yourself out there like that. 1:34:13.800 --> 1:34:14.479 Does that make sense? 1:34:17.040 --> 1:34:17.240 Yeah? 1:34:17.479 --> 1:34:18.680 And I think I do. 1:34:19.000 --> 1:34:21.800 I try to put myself out there. And like my 1:34:21.920 --> 1:34:24.840 freshman year of college, I was in a single dorm 1:34:24.960 --> 1:34:27.840 room and I would go, I went up to all 1:34:27.960 --> 1:34:31.160 the other people on my floor and introduced myself, and 1:34:31.520 --> 1:34:34.360 like none of them did anything to do with me, 1:34:35.439 --> 1:34:37.680 because a lot of them knew each other already. So 1:34:38.800 --> 1:34:41.040 I think that might also be part of my problem 1:34:41.240 --> 1:34:43.439 is that, like I think people think I want to 1:34:43.520 --> 1:34:47.000 insert myself into their already established groups. 1:34:47.960 --> 1:34:49.280 So they don't want to like, well, this is why, 1:34:49.400 --> 1:34:50.680 this is why I'm telling you to start This is 1:34:50.680 --> 1:34:52.280 why I'm telling you to start a club because you 1:34:52.400 --> 1:34:55.120 don't you you you don't want to insert yourself into 1:34:55.160 --> 1:34:56.519 a group. You want to four you want to be 1:34:56.600 --> 1:34:58.800 the genesis of a new group. 1:34:58.960 --> 1:35:01.760 Yeah, totally, what do you think, Mark? No, I like that. 1:35:01.880 --> 1:35:04.040 I mean, I think that's a good advice. I I 1:35:04.080 --> 1:35:07.839 I also had a little bit of trouble in college 1:35:07.960 --> 1:35:10.640 because I all of my friends from high school had 1:35:10.800 --> 1:35:14.360 left and so but you know, I was in like 1:35:14.920 --> 1:35:18.519 acting and so that sort of group was already sort 1:35:18.520 --> 1:35:21.360 of there to welcome me, right, it was a little 1:35:21.400 --> 1:35:27.160 bit easier in that regard. But I think, uh, do 1:35:27.240 --> 1:35:30.840 you what about your boyfriend? Is he is he open 1:35:31.000 --> 1:35:36.160 to this like sort of friendship excursion or how does 1:35:36.240 --> 1:35:40.560 he feel about you know, social gatherings and parties and 1:35:40.600 --> 1:35:42.840 stuff like that. Does he want that like you want that? 1:35:43.120 --> 1:35:45.240 Or how is you know? How what what are his 1:35:45.320 --> 1:35:45.920 feelings on that? 1:35:48.520 --> 1:35:51.560 I think he feels like pretty much the same as me, 1:35:51.760 --> 1:35:55.280 Like we've had conversations about before, and like it comes 1:35:55.360 --> 1:35:57.720 up a lot. How like you guys are saying, we 1:35:57.840 --> 1:35:59.960 think we get like the short end of the stay 1:36:00.240 --> 1:36:03.960 and like everything, like all of his friends moved to 1:36:04.080 --> 1:36:09.680 different states, Like I'm three hours away at college. You know, 1:36:09.880 --> 1:36:12.439 he has a dead end job he doesn't want to 1:36:12.479 --> 1:36:15.800 be at. And when he's he's doing because he's a 1:36:15.840 --> 1:36:20.880 student pilot, so he can only fly when the weather 1:36:21.120 --> 1:36:24.439 is like good and has been really bad for the 1:36:24.520 --> 1:36:28.719 past like four months. So he's like in the same 1:36:29.080 --> 1:36:32.280 boat as me. We just keep like feeling like we're 1:36:32.320 --> 1:36:36.200 not like getting what I feel like we deserve. I 1:36:36.240 --> 1:36:38.360 don't know if that's like entitled or arrogant for me 1:36:38.479 --> 1:36:41.639 to say, but I feel like we deserve some people 1:36:41.680 --> 1:36:42.960 that actually care about us. 1:36:44.479 --> 1:36:47.519 One hundred. Everyone does. Everyone deserves to be cared about 1:36:47.600 --> 1:36:50.880 and have people around them that love them and support them. 1:36:51.040 --> 1:36:53.720 I don't think that's it's not too much to ask 1:36:53.880 --> 1:36:56.320 or entitled at all. I think it's just a matter 1:36:56.400 --> 1:36:59.799 of it seems that you have not run into those people, 1:37:02.240 --> 1:37:06.320 because if you had, you know what I mean, they 1:37:06.360 --> 1:37:08.960 would be more that they would be happy to include you, 1:37:09.760 --> 1:37:12.920 I mean the the And so I think Lyle's advice 1:37:13.120 --> 1:37:17.600 is actually really good here and that you may have 1:37:17.720 --> 1:37:21.439 to just take it upon yourself to find an opening, 1:37:22.000 --> 1:37:25.160 you know, like you you make the thing and then 1:37:25.640 --> 1:37:28.680 and then find people that fall in there. Those are 1:37:28.720 --> 1:37:30.560 probably people that you'll you'll get along with. 1:37:31.400 --> 1:37:33.360 See, I'm always I'm always thinking about like a you know, 1:37:33.439 --> 1:37:34.360 what what can I control? 1:37:34.400 --> 1:37:35.240 What can I control? 1:37:35.400 --> 1:37:38.880 And like, relationship shit is so hard because it's like 1:37:38.960 --> 1:37:41.920 that it's all fifty to fifty, whether with relationship, friendship, whatever, 1:37:41.920 --> 1:37:44.320 it is all fifty to fifty. So it's fifty percent right. 1:37:44.400 --> 1:37:48.040 You cannot control, true, but you can control the amount 1:37:48.160 --> 1:37:52.000 of effort you put into putting yourself out there and 1:37:52.600 --> 1:37:55.320 attempting to put yourself in as many situations as possible 1:37:55.720 --> 1:37:58.439 in which other people are gravitating towards you. And that's 1:37:58.439 --> 1:38:01.479 why I like this whole start of clubs thing, because 1:38:01.560 --> 1:38:03.360 not only can you put yourself in a position where 1:38:03.360 --> 1:38:06.439 people are gravitating towards you, but also you can put 1:38:06.520 --> 1:38:08.880 yourself in a position where people who are interested in 1:38:09.000 --> 1:38:12.639 the same things as you are gravitating towards you, give 1:38:12.720 --> 1:38:16.360 it a higher percentage of it being the right people. 1:38:16.400 --> 1:38:19.080 I mean, what do you before we go, Maddie, what 1:38:19.120 --> 1:38:20.240 do you think of that idea? 1:38:23.160 --> 1:38:25.880 I think it'd be a really good idea, Like I 1:38:26.560 --> 1:38:29.879 don't I don't know if I'm confident enough in myself 1:38:29.960 --> 1:38:31.439 that I could actually like do it. 1:38:31.880 --> 1:38:35.240 Okay, all right, we are scared. 1:38:35.960 --> 1:38:39.240 It's a little bit scary, but you gotta get over that, Maddie. 1:38:39.240 --> 1:38:41.160 I wish, I wish I could send some sort of 1:38:41.320 --> 1:38:45.240 ray beam of confidence to you to get you there, 1:38:45.360 --> 1:38:46.920 But I tell you got to get there, Maddie. I'm 1:38:46.920 --> 1:38:48.760 telling you, I just want you to be able to 1:38:48.960 --> 1:38:51.280 feel empowered to take control of the situation. 1:38:54.720 --> 1:38:58.720 Just than put myself out there. 1:38:58.920 --> 1:39:01.040 Yeah, give it a shot, because it's really, at the 1:39:01.200 --> 1:39:05.840 end of the day, it's all just people, and we 1:39:06.160 --> 1:39:10.040 tend to overthink that we we we're all just stupid 1:39:10.240 --> 1:39:15.120 people and and and also we all really are sort 1:39:15.160 --> 1:39:20.360 of insecure at the core, and we really want a connection, love, 1:39:20.520 --> 1:39:24.519 support and validation. So you even the most confident people 1:39:24.600 --> 1:39:26.640 you know are the people that even ignore you or 1:39:26.880 --> 1:39:29.320 or like sort of passively invite you to their parties. 1:39:30.000 --> 1:39:33.599 They're insecure, They're looking for connection, they're looking for something 1:39:33.680 --> 1:39:38.000 to hang on to. So creating a group not a 1:39:38.040 --> 1:39:42.360 big leap, something you can absolutely do. Don't think too 1:39:42.439 --> 1:39:44.920 hard about it. I would say, just do it and 1:39:45.240 --> 1:39:48.920 uh and and you'll probably find that some magical ship 1:39:48.960 --> 1:39:50.400 will happen as a result. 1:39:51.000 --> 1:39:52.600 Mattie, is there anything else you want to say to 1:39:53.000 --> 1:39:54.560 me or market the computer before we go? 1:39:58.360 --> 1:40:01.040 Thank you guys for all this ad life. I definitely 1:40:01.160 --> 1:40:03.679 feel like more empowered by the end of the chat. 1:40:03.720 --> 1:40:05.400 Has been really nice to add up reading in a 1:40:05.479 --> 1:40:05.880 little bit. 1:40:09.320 --> 1:40:13.040 Have a good night, Maddie. Thank you, Maddie, thanks you too. 1:40:14.680 --> 1:40:17.560 Don't let the bed bugs bite. Have you have you 1:40:17.640 --> 1:40:19.639 had bed bugs bite you before? I feel like that's 1:40:19.680 --> 1:40:22.759 never happened, just like I just think it's a hilarious 1:40:22.800 --> 1:40:26.559 turn of phrase. Not oh yeah, they're real. In New York, 1:40:26.600 --> 1:40:29.640 it's a problem a lot of people who you know, 1:40:29.720 --> 1:40:34.880 there's there's a big habit of collecting, you know, if 1:40:34.920 --> 1:40:37.080 you need furniture, there's a lot of furniture on the street. 1:40:37.520 --> 1:40:40.639 But they will take edge and take bed But it's 1:40:40.840 --> 1:40:44.040 very real, and it'll it'll infect the whole building, will 1:40:44.120 --> 1:40:46.320 infest the whole building, I should say. But I've never 1:40:46.400 --> 1:40:49.720 had them, very lucky to never have had them. But 1:40:50.120 --> 1:40:51.280 you don't want to let them bite. 1:40:51.400 --> 1:40:53.479 I feel like you're almost you're like you're kind of 1:40:53.520 --> 1:40:55.479 like putting I don't know if you believe in this ship. 1:40:55.920 --> 1:40:57.200 I don't know if I believe in the ship. Like 1:40:57.280 --> 1:41:00.280 the vibes you're putting it out into the universe, putting. Yeah, 1:41:00.280 --> 1:41:03.679 every time after comments, you're like putting out the vibes 1:41:03.680 --> 1:41:07.400 of bed bugs coming to you. Or maybe you're like 1:41:07.520 --> 1:41:11.439 don't let maybe you're you can take them too. I 1:41:11.520 --> 1:41:13.439 think you're gonna take them to the way. I mean, 1:41:13.439 --> 1:41:16.040 they're they're fucking bugs. Yeah, you're a giant. 1:41:16.800 --> 1:41:17.200 I say it. 1:41:17.320 --> 1:41:20.720 Let the bed bugs bite, let the bikes come to 1:41:20.880 --> 1:41:27.960 me an immunity, you know. With Maddie's thing, it's uh, dude, 1:41:28.000 --> 1:41:28.240 it's a. 1:41:28.360 --> 1:41:28.600 It's a. 1:41:29.640 --> 1:41:32.479 That's a hard one because, like I, I approach everything 1:41:32.560 --> 1:41:35.000 from like a I had a hard time responding. 1:41:35.200 --> 1:41:36.439 I didn't really know what to say. 1:41:36.600 --> 1:41:38.799 I approach a lot of things from like a weird 1:41:39.160 --> 1:41:43.200 entrepreneurial thing where I'm like, fuck this, I'm taking control 1:41:43.320 --> 1:41:44.120 of this situation. 1:41:44.680 --> 1:41:47.680 I'm starting the club. That's what I And I know 1:41:47.760 --> 1:41:48.440 that Maddie. 1:41:48.200 --> 1:41:50.960 Seems like she might have issues doing that, but yeah, 1:41:51.040 --> 1:41:52.600 fuck I wish she didn't know, wish she would go 1:41:52.720 --> 1:41:53.760 on to the fucking cause. 1:41:53.760 --> 1:41:54.920 It's so if you. 1:41:55.000 --> 1:41:57.280 Really like take control of the situation, you can be 1:41:57.439 --> 1:41:59.639 you can meet people anywhere, you can go to fucking 1:41:59.640 --> 1:42:01.920 the middle of Taiwan, and you can make a whole 1:42:01.920 --> 1:42:02.400 bunch of friends. 1:42:02.600 --> 1:42:04.679 You really know how to take control of the situation. 1:42:04.800 --> 1:42:08.439 It's true, and that's something that I think probably, Yeah, 1:42:08.520 --> 1:42:10.479 you and Mattie are probably quite different in that way. 1:42:10.479 --> 1:42:15.840 It sounds like she doesn't have that thing in her 1:42:15.960 --> 1:42:21.200 that is like I'll just do you know, Yeah, how 1:42:21.240 --> 1:42:23.680 do we get that to her? I know, I thought, well, 1:42:23.720 --> 1:42:26.080 hopefully she felt it. Hopefully she felt it. I think 1:42:26.120 --> 1:42:28.439 it's a good instinct. I think if she did that, 1:42:29.200 --> 1:42:34.120 probably good things would happen in terms of friendships. But 1:42:35.160 --> 1:42:38.240 I felt so unqualified to answer because I have always 1:42:38.280 --> 1:42:44.360 been so lucky in like having friends around me, you know, friends, Yeah, 1:42:44.479 --> 1:42:47.639 I mean not a lot, but I have the ones 1:42:47.680 --> 1:42:51.400 that I do have are like real tight, real close. 1:42:51.439 --> 1:42:54.080 I've been there for a long time, okay, and I've 1:42:54.160 --> 1:42:56.720 never had trouble having those people in my life. So 1:42:57.160 --> 1:43:00.439 I just didn't feel qualified to like tell her how 1:43:00.479 --> 1:43:02.439 to do that. I don't know, I don't know. I've 1:43:02.479 --> 1:43:03.400 never been in that situation. 1:43:03.439 --> 1:43:06.160 It's hard to build friends from like just fucking scratch. 1:43:06.280 --> 1:43:09.800 That's I imagine. It is very sat I had one 1:43:09.960 --> 1:43:12.760 time like that when I lived in Paris back in 1:43:12.840 --> 1:43:17.519 the day. I moved over there and was waiting tables, 1:43:18.240 --> 1:43:24.120 and I was very depressed because I had like a 1:43:24.400 --> 1:43:27.799 couple friends. But I found it super difficult to crack 1:43:28.000 --> 1:43:34.040 that barrier and like, yeah, bring people into my life 1:43:34.080 --> 1:43:38.560 who meant a lot to me. And I didn't realize 1:43:38.680 --> 1:43:42.200 until I was in that situation how hollow that makes 1:43:42.240 --> 1:43:47.400 you feel. So I left, moved to New York, and 1:43:47.439 --> 1:43:50.160 I had a much easier time. But like, yes, it's 1:43:50.280 --> 1:43:52.040 not a luxury for a lot of people, you know, 1:43:52.120 --> 1:43:54.200 they just have to fucking deal with it. And I 1:43:54.320 --> 1:43:56.960 really don't know what the solution is. I think you you, 1:43:57.439 --> 1:44:00.160 what you suggested is a good one. You just have to, uh, 1:44:01.160 --> 1:44:04.840 like you said, you have to push past the nervousness, 1:44:04.960 --> 1:44:09.439 the insecurity and just give it a shot. Hope it works. 1:44:09.560 --> 1:44:09.720 You know. 1:44:09.800 --> 1:44:11.759 Else it's hard. Is like as you become an adult, 1:44:11.880 --> 1:44:12.320 it's like the. 1:44:14.840 --> 1:44:19.080 The like making time for your friends because I feel 1:44:19.080 --> 1:44:21.519 like because because when you're in high school, it's like 1:44:21.960 --> 1:44:23.840 you all see each other every day at the stupid 1:44:23.880 --> 1:44:26.400 bus stop and classrooms and whatever it is. But as 1:44:26.400 --> 1:44:28.840 you're an adult and you're just like, you know, you 1:44:29.000 --> 1:44:31.160 have to actually go out of your way to text, 1:44:31.240 --> 1:44:33.360 especially if like you're friends with people who are like 1:44:33.520 --> 1:44:35.439 in different groups, Like you don't like all of your 1:44:35.479 --> 1:44:38.160 friends aren't in the same group, right and just be like, Okay, 1:44:38.280 --> 1:44:39.960 everybody meet at this place. It's like you have to 1:44:40.000 --> 1:44:43.360 make time for this person more difficult and there's only 1:44:43.439 --> 1:44:45.960 seven days and a week times so much more n. 1:44:46.320 --> 1:44:48.599 More difficult when we think of it is. Yeah, even 1:44:48.800 --> 1:44:51.800 today now with friends who I have, who are established, 1:44:51.840 --> 1:44:54.160 who I love deeply, it's very difficult to find time 1:44:54.200 --> 1:44:58.760 for them. It's so difficult. Uh, it's I don't like that. 1:44:59.200 --> 1:45:03.320 I want more time for my relationships and my friends. 1:45:03.439 --> 1:45:04.400 I want more of that. 1:45:06.680 --> 1:45:07.920 We only have seven days a week. 1:45:08.080 --> 1:45:11.400 Gotta make that time though, that's super important. Do you 1:45:11.560 --> 1:45:11.960 do you waste? 1:45:11.960 --> 1:45:12.920 Do you waste a lot of time? 1:45:13.560 --> 1:45:16.080 Tons? Tons of time? Yes? 1:45:17.200 --> 1:45:18.320 What do you do when you're wasting time? 1:45:18.560 --> 1:45:21.439 I ride my electric Well it's not wasted time, but really, 1:45:21.880 --> 1:45:25.560 you ride your electric bike, my electric unicycle? Not a 1:45:25.720 --> 1:45:28.880 waste of time at all. I sit there high and 1:45:29.439 --> 1:45:31.200 play the piano. It's not a waste of time. No, 1:45:31.360 --> 1:45:33.960 I don't I love that you have an elect I 1:45:34.160 --> 1:45:37.040 completely glossed over this. You have an electric unicycle? I do? 1:45:37.160 --> 1:45:39.880 I have an electric The hell is an electric uni? Dude? 1:45:39.880 --> 1:45:43.639 It's the best thing. It's it's you know, the one wheels. Yeah, yeah, 1:45:43.800 --> 1:45:46.360 so it's that, But you're. 1:45:46.640 --> 1:45:48.679 It's the exactly what you're talking about. 1:45:49.640 --> 1:45:52.479 Yeah, you're going straight, that's not there. 1:45:52.880 --> 1:45:54.240 Fun yourself up on that thing? 1:45:54.320 --> 1:45:54.519 You ever? 1:45:54.680 --> 1:45:57.000 I have I have fucked myself up pretty bad on it, 1:45:57.640 --> 1:46:01.679 but I'm a lot more careful now. And dude, honestly, 1:46:02.439 --> 1:46:04.920 there's no better way to get around New York City. 1:46:05.040 --> 1:46:08.200 I've shipped them here to LA and ridden them around 1:46:08.240 --> 1:46:10.880 because I just love it so much. You can ride 1:46:10.920 --> 1:46:13.479 with car traffic, you get you can bring it into 1:46:13.479 --> 1:46:15.600 a restaurant, no one cares. It's the size of like 1:46:15.640 --> 1:46:20.000 a briefcase. They go forty miles an hour. It's it's 1:46:20.080 --> 1:46:23.360 the best. I only learn it if you want to 1:46:23.840 --> 1:46:25.960 learn it, and if you're okay with possibly being hurt 1:46:26.560 --> 1:46:29.959 a few times. But if you're okay with that learning process, 1:46:30.640 --> 1:46:34.400 it really is like to me, it's the future, But 1:46:34.479 --> 1:46:36.240 I don't think it'll ever be beyond a niche thing 1:46:36.240 --> 1:46:37.080 because it's hard to learn. 1:46:37.360 --> 1:46:39.679 Well, you know, you know the concept of minimalism. Yeah, 1:46:39.800 --> 1:46:42.320 I feel like the unicycle. That's the minimalism. That's the 1:46:42.360 --> 1:46:44.600 minimalists form of transportation. 1:46:45.280 --> 1:46:50.240 I only need one wheel. That's a single wheel, will do, 1:46:50.640 --> 1:46:55.000 single wheel, will do, single wheel is my way. Yeah, 1:46:55.479 --> 1:46:59.320 the car, four wheels, What does society come to a 1:46:59.360 --> 1:47:03.479 wheel that stuff? These quad wheeled assholes. 1:47:03.000 --> 1:47:05.480 All these wheels are capitalistic. 1:47:05.600 --> 1:47:09.960 Society is I'm a Uni wheel man, always have been, 1:47:10.120 --> 1:47:10.880 always will be. 1:47:11.520 --> 1:47:14.640 How are you feeling staminal wise? And it's kind of 1:47:14.680 --> 1:47:16.519 being a while. I don't want to, you know, I'm 1:47:16.560 --> 1:47:20.240 down to keep taking calls for as long as you're downing, 1:47:20.280 --> 1:47:21.599 and I don't want to keep you know, I don't 1:47:21.640 --> 1:47:23.559 know what your energy levels are. 1:47:23.560 --> 1:47:26.559 Like I'm chilling. I'm starting to get a little tired, 1:47:26.600 --> 1:47:29.200 but I could definitely take one or two more, Take 1:47:29.200 --> 1:47:29.880 a couple more. 1:47:29.840 --> 1:47:30.360 Take aple more. 1:47:30.520 --> 1:47:30.680 Do it. 1:47:30.760 --> 1:47:31.559 Yeah, it sounds good. 1:47:31.600 --> 1:47:33.040 See what's going on on the computer. 1:47:33.240 --> 1:47:36.040 There's a couple that I saw. It's been a big 1:47:36.120 --> 1:47:38.240 day for me, but I'm really enjoying this. It's nice 1:47:38.320 --> 1:47:40.040 to uh, nice to talk to people. 1:47:40.439 --> 1:47:43.320 Yeah, man, it's uh once again, thank you for coming 1:47:43.360 --> 1:47:45.680 on the show man. It's it's fun to do this 1:47:45.800 --> 1:47:46.479 with another person. 1:47:46.760 --> 1:47:47.000 Yeah. 1:47:47.240 --> 1:47:50.080 Good, Because I'm always in my own head about shit, 1:47:50.120 --> 1:47:51.280 it's not to have another perspective. 1:47:51.479 --> 1:47:53.560 Oh hell yeah, I mean I agree. It's nice to 1:47:53.600 --> 1:47:57.000 bounce off each other and think about things for people 1:47:57.080 --> 1:48:01.120 and with people. It's just nice. It's humanity. It's like, 1:48:01.439 --> 1:48:04.920 I feel like when we're doing this, we have it's 1:48:05.000 --> 1:48:08.439 like the same dynamic as meeting someone at a bar 1:48:09.040 --> 1:48:12.040 and having like a serious conversation about something it is, 1:48:12.080 --> 1:48:14.160 you know, or not so serious conversation. But either way, 1:48:14.320 --> 1:48:18.320 like having like a concentrated conversation about any old thing. 1:48:18.680 --> 1:48:19.200 I enjoy it. 1:48:19.600 --> 1:48:22.559 Mark, Do you feel like there's a and we can 1:48:22.640 --> 1:48:24.000 think about it for a second. You feel like there 1:48:24.080 --> 1:48:27.200 is any sort of underlying theme that's been prevalent in 1:48:28.400 --> 1:48:31.280 the majority of the calls tonight. 1:48:31.920 --> 1:48:35.120 You know, I think what it is, at least in 1:48:35.240 --> 1:48:42.040 the less well, yeah, generally, it's this feeling of unsure 1:48:42.080 --> 1:48:45.960 about what other people will think. Sure, yeah, the friendship, 1:48:46.240 --> 1:48:53.160 the relationship, the it's trepidation. It's like anxiety over and 1:48:53.240 --> 1:48:55.320 I think it's a problem that a lot of people have. 1:48:55.479 --> 1:48:58.680 Now is probably why such a large sample sizes. Is 1:48:58.800 --> 1:49:01.680 that sort of thing is like I just don't know 1:49:02.479 --> 1:49:07.160 what other people will think about this. Yeah, that sucks 1:49:07.360 --> 1:49:12.320 because like that's robbing. It's it's like almost like a 1:49:14.080 --> 1:49:19.800 confidence thief. It's like you it I I always hope 1:49:19.840 --> 1:49:24.960 that people feel good about enough about themselves too, you know, 1:49:25.360 --> 1:49:27.519 bring that sort of stuff to the table. You should 1:49:27.560 --> 1:49:33.040 feel good enough about yourself and if you don't, that sucks. 1:49:33.640 --> 1:49:36.759 You should feel better about yourself. You know you should 1:49:37.520 --> 1:49:42.320 because you there's nothing wrong with you. You know it's 1:49:42.439 --> 1:49:45.760 it's it's all about how you perceive yourself. There's nothing 1:49:45.800 --> 1:49:47.200 inherently wrong with you. 1:49:47.560 --> 1:49:49.800 I heard this quote someone and said this. You belong 1:49:49.920 --> 1:49:53.160 in every room, and you belong in every You belong 1:49:53.200 --> 1:49:55.280 in every room. There ain't no room out there you 1:49:55.320 --> 1:49:55.920 don't belong in. 1:49:56.080 --> 1:49:57.280 I love that. I like that. 1:49:57.479 --> 1:49:59.679 I remember, that's not mine. I heard that from from someone, 1:49:59.800 --> 1:50:01.439 but so true, so true. 1:50:01.800 --> 1:50:03.960 If there's anything anything that I could relate to it 1:50:04.040 --> 1:50:06.120 with in my in my current life, it would be 1:50:06.520 --> 1:50:10.800 like the imposter syndrome that I had and still have, 1:50:11.120 --> 1:50:15.479 of course for such a long time, of like, I 1:50:15.600 --> 1:50:20.960 don't belong in this job. I what I make is bullshit. 1:50:21.560 --> 1:50:24.080 What the people I look up to make is great. 1:50:24.640 --> 1:50:27.360 I don't know why they're entertaining me or talking to me. 1:50:27.800 --> 1:50:31.080 I feel like I need to prove something here. None 1:50:31.160 --> 1:50:34.600 of that is true. It's a fabrication. They like you 1:50:34.840 --> 1:50:39.640 because they like you. There's no catch. You know you 1:50:40.000 --> 1:50:44.800 are worth it. You are worth it, and and and 1:50:45.040 --> 1:50:48.800 and anyone out there that pays you a bit of 1:50:48.960 --> 1:50:54.000 mind thinks you're worth it too. And you just got 1:50:54.120 --> 1:50:57.360 to know that you know you you You gotta walk 1:50:57.479 --> 1:51:04.320 the earth knowing that that you are valuable. I can't 1:51:04.360 --> 1:51:07.320 impress that enough. It's so important, dude, because so many 1:51:07.360 --> 1:51:10.160 people feel like they're not and you are. 1:51:10.840 --> 1:51:14.360 You are, man, It's, uh, this is weird. Maybe this 1:51:14.520 --> 1:51:16.639 is uh, you know, we're both talking about being single 1:51:16.680 --> 1:51:17.000 for a while. 1:51:17.040 --> 1:51:17.360 It's like. 1:51:19.280 --> 1:51:22.280 Relationships, whether they're romantic or but just with friends or 1:51:22.280 --> 1:51:25.120 with family, whatever it is. It's like in your head, 1:51:25.200 --> 1:51:27.880 you're all like, there's just so many people are just 1:51:27.960 --> 1:51:30.320 like fucking weird and they have other weird stuff, and 1:51:30.400 --> 1:51:32.360 it's like it's enough to like figure out your own 1:51:32.439 --> 1:51:34.640 weird stuff. And then you bring another person in and 1:51:34.760 --> 1:51:37.760 you have to they're weird stuff in relationship with you're 1:51:37.880 --> 1:51:39.720 weird stuff. And you bring a third person, you bring 1:51:39.800 --> 1:51:42.599 your grandpa in, Yeah, and you have to figure out 1:51:42.600 --> 1:51:43.439 his weird stuff. 1:51:44.720 --> 1:51:48.240 Yeah, that's always tough, knows what that's like? You you 1:51:48.880 --> 1:51:52.040 you wanted? How are you feeling about? Let's find one 1:51:52.760 --> 1:51:56.719 final call. Let's take a finale, bring us in. Sounds great. 1:51:58.640 --> 1:52:00.400 Before we do that, let's let's check a with the chat. 1:52:00.400 --> 1:52:02.360 When we're talking. Oh yeah, last last time with the 1:52:02.439 --> 1:52:05.280 chat March makes me want to move to New York? 1:52:05.320 --> 1:52:06.880 Are you saying that you can stalk him? 1:52:09.280 --> 1:52:11.120 First of all, you should move to New York. You, 1:52:11.320 --> 1:52:12.240 you definitely should. 1:52:12.439 --> 1:52:14.799 We we were talking about this a little bit beforehand. 1:52:14.920 --> 1:52:17.040 I really want to move to New York at some point. 1:52:17.200 --> 1:52:19.479 It's the best place. I really want to move there. 1:52:19.520 --> 1:52:21.080 But all the we were also talking about this all 1:52:21.120 --> 1:52:28.840 the like, all the the the industry yep, yeah, the industry. Yeah, 1:52:28.880 --> 1:52:30.160 the whole industry is here. 1:52:30.560 --> 1:52:32.160 Is in Los Angeles. 1:52:32.280 --> 1:52:34.760 The entire entertainment industry is here for the most part. 1:52:34.800 --> 1:52:37.040 I mean there's some in New York, but it's you know, 1:52:37.280 --> 1:52:41.760 ninety nine percent of the entertainment industry is here. And 1:52:42.280 --> 1:52:46.599 it's a bummer because not because La sucks. I love La. 1:52:46.720 --> 1:52:49.240 We were talking about this too. I really have learned 1:52:49.320 --> 1:52:54.240 to love La. It's a great city. But if we're 1:52:54.280 --> 1:52:59.599 talking objectively about cities, yeah, New York is better. It's 1:52:59.600 --> 1:53:01.680 a better city. Every time I get in my car. 1:53:02.560 --> 1:53:04.120 Every time I get in my car, I'm like, I'm 1:53:04.160 --> 1:53:08.000 either gonna die or I'm gonna kill somebody. That happens 1:53:08.040 --> 1:53:10.000 every time I get in my car. Yeah, I have 1:53:10.160 --> 1:53:12.360 that thought every time I get in my car. 1:53:12.439 --> 1:53:14.240 I'm like, now, wouldn't it be great if you could 1:53:14.240 --> 1:53:19.040 have that thought at another person's face. That's what it is. 1:53:19.600 --> 1:53:22.240 You can just you get it out and then it's done. 1:53:22.360 --> 1:53:24.479 We all love each other, we're all on the same level. 1:53:24.560 --> 1:53:27.679 We're on the street. Get the fuck out of the way, 1:53:28.360 --> 1:53:31.519 thank you very much. And and and everything is within 1:53:31.720 --> 1:53:34.560 five minutes of you. You don't you walk outside. The 1:53:34.640 --> 1:53:37.760 whole world is right there. It's just a better design city, 1:53:37.800 --> 1:53:38.559 That's all I'm saying. 1:53:38.840 --> 1:53:42.160 And another thing is with the cars. You can't get 1:53:42.280 --> 1:53:44.680 drunk and drive a car. No, you shouldn't get high 1:53:44.680 --> 1:53:47.040 and drive a car. But on the subway, I mean, 1:53:47.080 --> 1:53:49.639 you can do PCP and ride the subway and you're fine. 1:53:49.400 --> 1:53:52.479 One hundred percent. Yep, you sure can. You could. You 1:53:52.560 --> 1:53:54.479 could do some PCP on the subway. You could do 1:53:54.560 --> 1:53:56.840 what Yeah whatever, that's salt. It's still bad. 1:53:56.880 --> 1:53:58.800 I feel like bath salts are like they're very like 1:53:58.920 --> 1:53:59.599 twenty twelve. 1:54:00.080 --> 1:54:01.960 Yeah, I feel like there. I haven't heard anything about 1:54:02.000 --> 1:54:05.240 of fashion. They're falling out of fashion, but I'm sure 1:54:05.280 --> 1:54:08.400 there's some some some people still doing them. We had 1:54:08.400 --> 1:54:10.840 a big old shooting on the subway this morning and 1:54:10.880 --> 1:54:13.280 oh yeah, I heard about that. Yeah man, not good. 1:54:13.560 --> 1:54:18.200 Not good. Also Gilbert Godfried, legendary New Yorker dead. Oh 1:54:18.240 --> 1:54:21.559 he was a guy. Yeah man, rest in peace, Rest 1:54:21.600 --> 1:54:24.400 in peace. Man. He dot it when he was sixty seven, 1:54:24.680 --> 1:54:27.479 too young. Life is really not that long. It's really 1:54:27.560 --> 1:54:30.040 not really not that long. That's why you have got 1:54:30.160 --> 1:54:33.560 to tell people that you love them. See if they 1:54:33.680 --> 1:54:36.800 love you back, just say it. It's too short. 1:54:37.400 --> 1:54:39.360 It's also too short not to try some PCP if 1:54:39.480 --> 1:54:41.880 you have the opportunity, if you feel like it, if 1:54:41.960 --> 1:54:48.360 it's in your bingo card, hit that shit. Someone said, 1:54:48.360 --> 1:54:50.640 my hobby's being a broke New Yorker. We're we're doing 1:54:50.720 --> 1:54:52.160 mushrooms and going to Times Square. 1:54:52.480 --> 1:54:55.840 That sounds sick. Yeah, that'd be fun. I don't know 1:54:55.840 --> 1:54:59.760 if I would probably choose time screw would be fun. 1:55:00.040 --> 1:55:03.680 Shrimps it would be, it would be. It's fun. Okay, 1:55:03.960 --> 1:55:07.120 it's fun. I haven't done them in some time, except 1:55:07.200 --> 1:55:09.040 for like a little bit, like a little micro dose. 1:55:09.080 --> 1:55:10.960 You know, people have given me a little micro dose. 1:55:11.000 --> 1:55:13.000 People are talking. I hear a lot of people talking 1:55:13.040 --> 1:55:15.600 about the micro dose. It's fine, it's sort of more. 1:55:15.640 --> 1:55:19.000 I would just rather get high honestly. But you do 1:55:19.120 --> 1:55:21.400 a lot of shrims. It's fun, it's a good time, 1:55:21.480 --> 1:55:23.480 but you got to be prepared for like like eight 1:55:23.600 --> 1:55:27.440 hours of that. It's like a it's a whole thing, 1:55:27.520 --> 1:55:30.760 it's a whole day. Okay. I would go to Times 1:55:30.760 --> 1:55:33.240 Square on shrimps. It'd be fun for a second, as 1:55:33.280 --> 1:55:35.240 long as I could get out out. 1:55:35.280 --> 1:55:37.920 I gotta, I gotta try that. I've never should I've 1:55:37.920 --> 1:55:39.040 never done. I've never done it before. 1:55:39.240 --> 1:55:42.600 Have you done like Mollie or acid? I've done ecstasy? 1:55:43.000 --> 1:55:44.960 Oh okay, but never. 1:55:47.000 --> 1:55:49.680 Would you? Would you? Have you done? Necessary? Yeah? Are they? 1:55:49.960 --> 1:55:51.560 Are they in any way, shape or form similarly? 1:55:53.360 --> 1:55:59.600 I mean not really No, No, they're different feelings. Mollie 1:55:59.680 --> 1:56:02.600 is what I would suggest, the same is Molly and 1:56:03.280 --> 1:56:06.920 extra different, right, yeah, Ecstasy is usually Molly cut with 1:56:07.240 --> 1:56:10.240 an upper. It's like, well, MDMA is an upper, but 1:56:10.520 --> 1:56:13.280 it's cut with another upper. It's like ecstasy would be 1:56:13.360 --> 1:56:16.320 like Molly and coke, or like Molly and speed or something. 1:56:16.440 --> 1:56:18.360 All I remember from x what I remember for xCD 1:56:18.520 --> 1:56:22.640 is that I remember trying to make myself sad just 1:56:22.720 --> 1:56:24.400 to like see if I could and I couldn't do it? 1:56:24.560 --> 1:56:27.400 Oh yeah, something happens in your brain where you literally 1:56:27.520 --> 1:56:28.440 can't be said. 1:56:28.280 --> 1:56:30.360 Yeah, you had some good ship. That's that's that's what 1:56:30.480 --> 1:56:33.320 it is. And Molly is like that, but even more 1:56:33.440 --> 1:56:36.000 it's like the pure version of that. I guess you 1:56:36.120 --> 1:56:40.000 may have just had Molly. Honestly, it's it's like four hours. 1:56:40.120 --> 1:56:42.480 It's less than shrooms an acid. It's a it's a 1:56:42.560 --> 1:56:47.360 shorter trip three or four hours, and it's just a 1:56:47.880 --> 1:56:54.960 surge of right, Oh man, that's really good. Yeah, that's 1:56:55.080 --> 1:56:55.720 really nice. 1:56:55.720 --> 1:56:57.280 It's a good impression of somebody on mom. 1:56:58.120 --> 1:57:02.360 Yeah, I've done it a few times. I can recall it, 1:57:02.440 --> 1:57:07.960 you know what I mean. It's just like this. Even 1:57:08.000 --> 1:57:11.200 the sound of you going is really nice. It's like 1:57:11.240 --> 1:57:15.200 the vibration on the palette. Every little thing feels good. 1:57:15.600 --> 1:57:17.560 When you look out into the crowd and you're doing 1:57:17.600 --> 1:57:21.360 your show. What percentage of people do you think are 1:57:21.440 --> 1:57:21.880 on drugs? 1:57:21.920 --> 1:57:23.960 Oh? You know, I was just about to say, it's 1:57:24.080 --> 1:57:28.520 actually not dissimilar to that feeling looking at if I'm 1:57:28.600 --> 1:57:32.920 having a good show, the audience is good, it's very 1:57:33.040 --> 1:57:33.680 similar to that. 1:57:34.040 --> 1:57:37.040 Do you think do you think a strong a portion 1:57:37.160 --> 1:57:39.720 of the people in your audience are on drugs? 1:57:40.280 --> 1:57:44.200 I would assume a good percentage. I don't know if 1:57:44.200 --> 1:57:47.560 it's a majority. I would say probably a majority or 1:57:47.640 --> 1:57:52.400 like drunk okay, but I would say I would wager 1:57:52.720 --> 1:57:57.040 wager twenty to twenty five percent at least as a 1:57:57.120 --> 1:58:01.120 health I would wager that it's health fucked up on something. 1:58:01.720 --> 1:58:04.520 I kind of I just like secretly like hope that 1:58:05.160 --> 1:58:07.920 people who are seeing me are like, oh, Garren sucking 1:58:08.160 --> 1:58:10.320 you kind of hope that because you're like, okay, that 1:58:10.560 --> 1:58:11.920 my bar is a little bit lower here. 1:58:12.680 --> 1:58:15.720 Yeah, it's these people will be easier to entertain. Right, 1:58:16.080 --> 1:58:19.880 That's true. It's true, And I guarantee you. I would 1:58:19.920 --> 1:58:22.200 say this gotta be at least thirty to forty percent 1:58:22.240 --> 1:58:23.880 of people that are watching this that are for me. 1:58:24.080 --> 1:58:27.400 Oh about for a live thing? Oh on this right now? 1:58:27.600 --> 1:58:30.800 Oh yeah, we can do a poll even Who's who's 1:58:30.880 --> 1:58:35.440 fucked up in some way? Who someone just took Joe? Oh, 1:58:35.520 --> 1:58:38.520 someone took a three hundred milligram edible before my DC show. 1:58:38.600 --> 1:58:40.920 See there you go. That's a good that's a good 1:58:40.960 --> 1:58:44.080 audience member. Who's fucked up? Anyone fucked up in any way? 1:58:44.600 --> 1:58:46.839 High truck, I'm high yep. 1:58:46.760 --> 1:58:50.080 Stone drug con says they're fucked up on com. 1:58:52.400 --> 1:58:54.200 Someone's fucked up on Come right now. 1:58:54.360 --> 1:58:57.800 Sun said, I just took a bong rip high to 1:58:57.840 --> 1:58:58.400 take another dab. 1:58:58.440 --> 1:59:00.640 I haven't done a dab in a while. Missed though too. 1:59:00.680 --> 1:59:05.120 It's been a hot second. Uh yeah, yeah, pretty much 1:59:05.200 --> 1:59:06.240 everyone in the chat is. 1:59:07.360 --> 1:59:11.640 Ecstasy at your show and shedding. New guy Ivy Profien. 1:59:11.720 --> 1:59:13.080 That doesn't sound safe at all. 1:59:13.360 --> 1:59:15.040 Guys, don't rail ibuprofen. 1:59:15.040 --> 1:59:16.800 It's not a good listen at the end of the 1:59:16.920 --> 1:59:22.360 day with therapy. Gecko says, don't do drugs. Let's do it. 1:59:22.440 --> 1:59:25.040 Let's bring it on home. Let's bring it on home, Mark, 1:59:25.120 --> 1:59:27.720 let's bring around what's going on. We're gonna take one 1:59:27.800 --> 1:59:29.040 last call for the people here. 1:59:30.360 --> 1:59:32.120 You know what we could honestly, you know we could do. 1:59:34.280 --> 1:59:35.920 These are all calls that have been screened. We could 1:59:35.960 --> 1:59:36.360 just take it. 1:59:36.440 --> 1:59:38.840 Sometimes we take just take one that has been screened. 1:59:38.920 --> 1:59:42.840 Love to take a random call that sounds great. Let's 1:59:42.880 --> 1:59:53.640 take something in the queue. Hello, Hello, Hi, ho's going 1:59:54.200 --> 1:59:55.160 It's going good? How are you. 1:59:57.600 --> 1:59:57.840 Dude? 1:59:57.920 --> 1:59:59.520 I'm doing wonderful? How are you? 1:59:59.640 --> 2:00:01.560 Man? I like this guy, and this was a good decision. 2:00:01.680 --> 2:00:03.600 That's a good ad. I like it. I like it. 2:00:05.040 --> 2:00:10.240 Tell us about that day. How's your day been? Uh, dude, my. 2:00:10.360 --> 2:00:11.960 Day's been actually great. 2:00:12.080 --> 2:00:12.160 Bro. 2:00:12.520 --> 2:00:14.720 Wait hold on, am I actually on with the GK 2:00:14.800 --> 2:00:15.080 right now? 2:00:15.520 --> 2:00:23.400 You are on with two geks, two double prizes for 2:00:23.520 --> 2:00:25.960 this man, Double GEK, baby d v d A. You 2:00:26.080 --> 2:00:26.560 know how it is? 2:00:26.680 --> 2:00:27.640 What's your name, homie? 2:00:29.960 --> 2:00:31.520 My name is Kyle Goodness. 2:00:31.640 --> 2:00:34.800 Man. We got a first ana last name. We're double 2:00:34.840 --> 2:00:35.760 prizes for both of us. 2:00:35.960 --> 2:00:38.000 Did you did you say Kyle Goodness? 2:00:40.680 --> 2:00:40.880 Good? 2:00:41.320 --> 2:00:43.400 Okay? Yeah, so good rich like the. 2:00:45.920 --> 2:00:46.360 Goodness. 2:00:46.880 --> 2:00:47.640 I'm not wealthy. 2:00:48.240 --> 2:00:50.960 That would be a sick last Goodness gracious? How do 2:00:51.000 --> 2:00:54.520 you do Kyle Goodness? That's the name of a superhero 2:00:54.640 --> 2:00:55.600 that does good deeds. 2:00:55.800 --> 2:00:57.440 You mind if we call you Kyle Goodness? 2:00:57.520 --> 2:00:59.800 Kyle just living in the fantasy that that's your name. 2:01:00.080 --> 2:01:02.400 I'd like you to call me whatever you want? 2:01:02.440 --> 2:01:02.600 Man. 2:01:02.840 --> 2:01:06.320 Hell yeah, Well listen, Dan, what's going on with you? 2:01:10.000 --> 2:01:10.760 With me? You know? 2:01:11.040 --> 2:01:14.160 Life's that are going great. I've been I've been putting 2:01:14.160 --> 2:01:15.400 in extra effort at work. 2:01:15.480 --> 2:01:21.640 I got a promotion, you know, wow, congratulations? Is it 2:01:21.720 --> 2:01:24.520 a big promotion? Is it a promotion that comes with perks, 2:01:24.720 --> 2:01:27.320 benefits and and the like? 2:01:30.440 --> 2:01:30.560 Uh. 2:01:30.800 --> 2:01:33.040 Well, I mean it doesn't really come with that many 2:01:33.160 --> 2:01:35.520 perks or benefits, but it's a promotion that gets me 2:01:35.680 --> 2:01:36.760 closer to my goal. 2:01:37.040 --> 2:01:40.280 So yeah, and what and what are your goals Kyle? 2:01:43.000 --> 2:01:43.120 Uh? 2:01:43.400 --> 2:01:46.520 Well, obviously to to make more money in the long run, 2:01:46.880 --> 2:01:50.120 but uh you know, to be able to have more 2:01:50.200 --> 2:01:52.720 time at home and spend with my friends and family 2:01:52.840 --> 2:01:56.160 and help everybody else around me if they need it. 2:01:58.320 --> 2:02:00.880 Good attitude on the sky, the attitude. I love it. 2:02:01.960 --> 2:02:04.200 What are your thoughts on life? My friend? Tell us 2:02:04.240 --> 2:02:07.920 about your your general life philosophy. How do you go 2:02:08.040 --> 2:02:08.840 about your life? 2:02:12.200 --> 2:02:14.800 How do I go about my life? Oh that's that's 2:02:14.840 --> 2:02:20.160 a heavy hitter. That's a real heavy hitter. Well, I 2:02:20.400 --> 2:02:24.560 wake up, I procrastinate most things, and then I go 2:02:24.720 --> 2:02:26.760 to work and I try to do the best that 2:02:26.880 --> 2:02:30.560 I can without ripping someone's face off. And then I 2:02:30.640 --> 2:02:33.760 come back home, take a shower, drink you know a 2:02:33.840 --> 2:02:36.240 white car or too, and fucking go to bed. Man. 2:02:37.120 --> 2:02:38.240 God, I love this guy. 2:02:38.640 --> 2:02:43.680 I love it. Simple, effective, well meaning you're not you're 2:02:43.720 --> 2:02:45.840 not harming anybody, You're just doing good. 2:02:46.080 --> 2:02:50.200 This is how all advice calling shows should go. Is 2:02:50.280 --> 2:02:52.720 it to just be people who are very happy with 2:02:52.880 --> 2:02:55.400 absolutely no problems calling in. 2:02:56.120 --> 2:03:00.480 Yeah every time, Hey man, everything's good, pretty good here. 2:03:03.000 --> 2:03:05.840 It's just a person after person calling in to tell 2:03:05.880 --> 2:03:09.800 us about how great everything's going. Not a single problem 2:03:10.720 --> 2:03:12.960 to be found. I mean, you know, Ky, don't want 2:03:12.960 --> 2:03:14.800 to put that on you, Kyle. I mean, is is 2:03:15.320 --> 2:03:16.960 is anything at all going wrong? 2:03:19.640 --> 2:03:22.280 I mean, yeah, of course there's stuff that's going wrong, 2:03:22.480 --> 2:03:25.400 you know, but if you've just focused on the stuff 2:03:25.440 --> 2:03:27.600 that's going wrong, like you're not, you're just gonna dwell 2:03:27.680 --> 2:03:29.120 on that, and you're not going to get anywhere, right, 2:03:31.480 --> 2:03:33.480 keep to yourself and keep going, you. 2:03:33.520 --> 2:03:37.160 Know, right, because there's always however, it doesn't matter how 2:03:37.480 --> 2:03:41.600 whatever rich and whatever great your life is, if you're 2:03:41.640 --> 2:03:43.360 looking for something wrong, you'll find it. 2:03:43.520 --> 2:03:48.000 There will always be bullshit in your life. What's your 2:03:48.040 --> 2:03:49.520 relationship like with your father, Kyle? 2:03:52.600 --> 2:03:55.320 My father? Yeah, So my father wasn't really around much 2:03:55.360 --> 2:03:59.000 of my childhood. Kind of a crazy story there, you know. 2:03:59.080 --> 2:04:01.040 He used to write me letters, but then my mom 2:04:01.080 --> 2:04:03.280 would always hide them and so I didn't get to 2:04:03.280 --> 2:04:05.280 see them until I turned to eighteen. And then when 2:04:05.280 --> 2:04:08.400 I was eighteen, he accused me of sleeping with his wife, 2:04:08.440 --> 2:04:10.400 but I had never met and I had to tell 2:04:10.520 --> 2:04:13.200 whoa no, you know, and then I turned into like 2:04:13.280 --> 2:04:14.240 this whole crazy thing. 2:04:14.720 --> 2:04:18.120 It's actually wild, man, I asked the right question. You 2:04:18.240 --> 2:04:22.680 really did? Do you get so I'm assuming you don't talk, 2:04:23.000 --> 2:04:24.720 you don't keep up with him anymore? 2:04:27.440 --> 2:04:28.000 No, I do. 2:04:28.360 --> 2:04:32.000 I do, because like once I had turned past, you know, 2:04:32.280 --> 2:04:35.720 like I got the full story. But yeah, when it happened, 2:04:35.760 --> 2:04:38.280 originally I was like, bro, I don't know what's happening 2:04:38.440 --> 2:04:38.800 right now. 2:04:39.280 --> 2:04:44.280 Wow, So he was writing you letters that you never saw. 2:04:46.920 --> 2:04:49.040 Yeah, he would write me letters, and he would write 2:04:49.080 --> 2:04:52.480 my mom letters, and then my mom would just hold 2:04:52.560 --> 2:04:54.880 the letters and I never got to see him until 2:04:54.880 --> 2:04:57.600 I was older, like seventeen eighteen years old. 2:04:57.840 --> 2:05:01.240 Oh my god? What was What was the contents of 2:05:01.320 --> 2:05:01.920 these letters? 2:05:04.560 --> 2:05:07.040 The letters were mostly just about like how much he 2:05:07.160 --> 2:05:08.960 missed my mom and wish that he would have done 2:05:09.000 --> 2:05:12.400 things differently, and then on like the side note would 2:05:12.440 --> 2:05:14.440 be about how much he wished he could be were 2:05:14.440 --> 2:05:17.920 a part of my life. Yeah, I mean that's pretty 2:05:18.000 --> 2:05:18.200 much it. 2:05:18.640 --> 2:05:22.000 Oh man, that's heavy. Man. How did that make you 2:05:22.080 --> 2:05:25.200 feel when you saw those letters after all that time? 2:05:27.800 --> 2:05:28.040 Dude? 2:05:28.080 --> 2:05:30.320 I cried. I cried a lot. I cried a lot. 2:05:30.440 --> 2:05:35.240 Yeah, well, I'm glad you've reconnected with him in some way, 2:05:35.320 --> 2:05:37.800 even though that I mean, it sounds like the reconnection 2:05:38.000 --> 2:05:41.320 part at first was a little rocky with the accusing 2:05:41.400 --> 2:05:43.600 you of having slept with his wife and shit, that's 2:05:43.680 --> 2:05:45.040 gonna yes, I said a lot. 2:05:45.320 --> 2:05:47.520 So he wrote you these heartfelt letters about how he 2:05:47.560 --> 2:05:49.600 misses you and he misses your mom, and then after 2:05:49.720 --> 2:05:52.080 the fact, started accusing you of sleeping with his wife. 2:05:54.840 --> 2:05:59.440 Yes, so something's going on there, all right, you okay, Now, 2:05:59.520 --> 2:06:01.640 I'm trying to be really positive, but you guys are 2:06:01.680 --> 2:06:03.800 striking like all of the right notes. 2:06:04.200 --> 2:06:06.000 So I don't know how deep you really want me 2:06:06.120 --> 2:06:08.960 to go into the deep end, my friend? 2:06:11.960 --> 2:06:14.320 Okay, okay, I'll go into the deep end. 2:06:14.400 --> 2:06:14.720 All right? 2:06:14.760 --> 2:06:15.280 Are you ready? 2:06:15.440 --> 2:06:17.000 Are you ready as deep as you want to go, 2:06:17.160 --> 2:06:20.520 my friend, I've got my snorkel. You can't you know what, 2:06:20.600 --> 2:06:24.640 You can't really go that deep with us? Yeah? 2:06:25.120 --> 2:06:28.960 I was, no, no, get ready. I was in middle school. 2:06:29.200 --> 2:06:32.480 This is Salem, Oregon. My mom was a drug lord. 2:06:33.360 --> 2:06:36.120 We got notified three days ahead of him that we 2:06:36.240 --> 2:06:39.600 were gonna get raided, so my mom cleaned house and 2:06:39.800 --> 2:06:43.200 got busted. I'd go to school the next day to 2:06:43.360 --> 2:06:45.520 find my dad sitting in a room with a bunch 2:06:45.560 --> 2:06:48.680 of cups at my school that he was nowhere near. 2:06:50.080 --> 2:06:52.600 Only to find out that I was no longer going 2:06:52.680 --> 2:06:54.840 to be living with my mom, no longer going to 2:06:55.000 --> 2:06:57.280 this school, and I was going to be living with 2:06:57.400 --> 2:07:00.280 my dad now that I hadn't seen in years, years, 2:07:01.120 --> 2:07:06.840 and his girlfriend. And that's how the whole thing came 2:07:07.000 --> 2:07:10.520 up with like once I turned eighteen years old. He 2:07:11.200 --> 2:07:13.800 didn't I don't want to say accused, maybe that was 2:07:13.880 --> 2:07:17.880 the wrong word, but he asked me if I slept 2:07:17.960 --> 2:07:22.000 with his wife because he wanted to prosecute her with like, 2:07:22.880 --> 2:07:26.560 you know, sleeping with a minor, and she's no, man, 2:07:26.880 --> 2:07:30.440 I don't that ever happened. So that caught me way 2:07:30.520 --> 2:07:34.480 off guard. It was just a wild show. 2:07:35.320 --> 2:07:35.960 My god. 2:07:36.400 --> 2:07:39.240 It's kind of crazy how close we came to having 2:07:39.320 --> 2:07:40.840 this call without you telling us. 2:07:40.720 --> 2:07:43.600 All that, Yeah, just being like all right, God, well 2:07:44.000 --> 2:07:46.320 life is good and life is fun. Thank you. 2:07:46.600 --> 2:07:50.839 We were very close to having just a extremely surface 2:07:51.000 --> 2:07:54.160 level picture, yeah, of who you are and what has 2:07:54.200 --> 2:07:55.480 happened to you in your life? 2:07:56.040 --> 2:08:03.240 Mom, a drug lord dead coming in Yeah, after having God, damn, 2:08:03.760 --> 2:08:04.480 so I mean, this. 2:08:04.880 --> 2:08:08.640 Is a crazy not a story that most people know 2:08:09.000 --> 2:08:09.360 at all. 2:08:09.880 --> 2:08:14.080 Really, you don't tell people everything you know, you don't 2:08:14.120 --> 2:08:15.920 you not a lot of people in your personal life 2:08:16.000 --> 2:08:16.560 know this aboute. 2:08:21.440 --> 2:08:26.360 My ex wife, uh, and maybe two or three other people. 2:08:27.320 --> 2:08:32.120 Would you say that this experience or this series of 2:08:32.200 --> 2:08:43.160 experiences has shaped your positivity your positive outlook on life. Yes, 2:08:43.880 --> 2:08:46.640 I think it has or has it made it more 2:08:46.720 --> 2:08:48.320 difficult easy to stay positive? 2:08:48.520 --> 2:08:50.440 I'm not I'm not trying to like put on a 2:08:50.560 --> 2:08:54.120 show or anything. But again, like I said earlier, you 2:08:54.240 --> 2:08:58.400 can always find negative things to complain about. And really, 2:08:58.520 --> 2:09:02.200 you if you can try to be positive, you're going 2:09:02.280 --> 2:09:05.960 to see more positive things around you rather than like 2:09:06.080 --> 2:09:08.240 when you're in that negative headspace, all you're going to 2:09:08.320 --> 2:09:09.840 see is that negative things around you. 2:09:11.960 --> 2:09:16.000 Yeah, that's it's true, man, It's true. I've always said 2:09:16.000 --> 2:09:18.040 that or thought it at least is that. 2:09:18.160 --> 2:09:18.480 It's like. 2:09:20.160 --> 2:09:26.840 It it's an effort, like it is work to find joy. 2:09:27.120 --> 2:09:30.280 For sure, it's work. But you really do have to 2:09:30.400 --> 2:09:33.240 do it if you want to have you know, I mean, 2:09:33.240 --> 2:09:35.320 if you want to go through this life with anything 2:09:35.480 --> 2:09:39.280 but you know, weird ass misery, you really have to 2:09:39.480 --> 2:09:43.360 work towards the positive. It's it's it's a job, it's 2:09:43.400 --> 2:09:43.680 a job. 2:09:43.880 --> 2:09:46.840 Weird ass misery sounds like exact, It sounds like a 2:09:46.880 --> 2:09:47.480 feeling that a. 2:09:47.520 --> 2:09:52.320 Lot of people are still try. It's that gray, that 2:09:52.520 --> 2:09:55.920 unknown sadness that is just there. 2:09:56.440 --> 2:09:59.440 That's if you that's what melancholy, if you have to 2:09:59.480 --> 2:10:03.480 define the word weird ass misery. 2:10:03.320 --> 2:10:08.360 Weird ass misery. So, Kyle, do you do you still talk? 2:10:08.840 --> 2:10:09.520 It's crazy. 2:10:09.840 --> 2:10:12.320 I feel like I forgive you if you said this already. 2:10:12.520 --> 2:10:14.560 We've sort of gone already on a lot of different 2:10:14.720 --> 2:10:16.280 roots here. But you still talk to your mom and 2:10:16.280 --> 2:10:16.640 your dad? 2:10:19.520 --> 2:10:19.640 Uh? 2:10:19.840 --> 2:10:22.120 Yeah, I do still talk to my mom obviously. I 2:10:22.200 --> 2:10:25.000 mean I lived with my mom for ninety nine percent 2:10:25.200 --> 2:10:27.520 of my experience kind of growing up as a kid. 2:10:28.680 --> 2:10:31.240 My dad kind of came in later half in life. 2:10:31.480 --> 2:10:34.120 And then once I got to sit alone in a 2:10:34.280 --> 2:10:37.120 room and think about, like what really happened in life, 2:10:37.440 --> 2:10:41.960 I realized that my mom kind of brainwashed me to 2:10:42.080 --> 2:10:44.240 view my dad as a negative way. But I've never 2:10:44.280 --> 2:10:47.960 really got to view my dad in my own way. 2:10:48.280 --> 2:10:51.680 And so once I really sat aside, especially as I 2:10:51.760 --> 2:10:55.680 grew older, I started to realize, like, nah, he was 2:10:55.800 --> 2:10:58.720 just doing his own thing. Things happened in life and 2:10:59.040 --> 2:11:02.840 he chose a different path that wasn't with my mom. 2:11:03.000 --> 2:11:06.560 And that's okay, even though it heard it's okay. 2:11:08.080 --> 2:11:09.320 That's a very wise thing. 2:11:09.800 --> 2:11:12.400 Yeah, when you're young, I mean you're especially if you're 2:11:12.400 --> 2:11:15.080 young and your parents like going through a thing, your 2:11:15.160 --> 2:11:17.560 mom or your dad, your your your mom is gonna 2:11:17.600 --> 2:11:22.320 have a pretty uh big influence over how you view 2:11:22.360 --> 2:11:24.280 your dad because she's telling you a bunch of shit 2:11:24.360 --> 2:11:27.080 about how you should be feeling about your dad. And 2:11:27.200 --> 2:11:30.440 you're young and you're impressionable of course your mom, and 2:11:30.520 --> 2:11:32.440 of course you're gonna believe whatever she says. And then 2:11:32.800 --> 2:11:35.880 I can kind of see the feeling of like getting 2:11:35.880 --> 2:11:37.920 a little bit older and going, oh shit, I actually 2:11:38.560 --> 2:11:41.400 now that I'm a little bit more of an adult, 2:11:41.480 --> 2:11:44.480 I can go and sort of gather this information independently. 2:11:45.080 --> 2:11:49.240 Yeah, for my opinion, independently, totally. Yeah, that's It's like 2:11:49.680 --> 2:11:52.160 I hear this from people for sure all the time. 2:11:52.400 --> 2:11:55.440 It's like as you grow older, you realize you just 2:11:55.520 --> 2:11:58.960 come to the realization that your parents, just like you, 2:11:59.720 --> 2:12:04.720 are flawed, broken people. Oh yeah, like that's just it. 2:12:05.600 --> 2:12:08.960 We all are. We are all flawed, broken people. But 2:12:09.080 --> 2:12:12.240 we have this thing where as children, we expect parents 2:12:12.320 --> 2:12:17.600 to be this beacon of maturity and wisdom, and you know, 2:12:17.720 --> 2:12:20.800 and it's just not the case. We're all large children 2:12:21.440 --> 2:12:24.160 and and we have to love each other despite that 2:12:24.440 --> 2:12:29.880 and because of it. I don't know, some bullshit like that. 2:12:30.080 --> 2:12:34.240 It's easier said than done. But if we can try, then. 2:12:34.440 --> 2:12:35.280 That's what matters. 2:12:37.280 --> 2:12:38.760 Yeah, you got a good head on your shoulders. 2:12:38.840 --> 2:12:42.240 Cal Yeah, Kyle, you really, Uh, this has really been 2:12:42.280 --> 2:12:44.680 a great one to top it off with. Sure has 2:12:45.080 --> 2:12:47.800 I feel like, wait, like there was like layers and layers. 2:12:48.120 --> 2:12:48.960 There's a lot of layers. 2:12:49.080 --> 2:12:52.000 It's true. It sort of encompasses all of the things 2:12:52.160 --> 2:12:54.040 we've been talking. Yeah, it really does. It really does, 2:12:54.200 --> 2:12:59.040 you know. Yeah, things to come to terms with, you know, 2:12:59.280 --> 2:13:04.120 broken sort of family lives that then are healed in 2:13:04.400 --> 2:13:10.320 their brokenness. Understanding that humans are humans, taking action, finding 2:13:10.400 --> 2:13:12.760 things out for yourself, all of that shit. Yep, you've 2:13:12.800 --> 2:13:15.800 done all of that. Kyle. You're good, dude, You're good, dude. 2:13:15.880 --> 2:13:17.560 I'm sorry. I'm so happy that you've been able to 2:13:17.600 --> 2:13:18.160 find peace. 2:13:18.360 --> 2:13:18.600 Kyle. 2:13:18.680 --> 2:13:19.760 I appreciate you guys. 2:13:20.280 --> 2:13:22.760 Yeah, man, I'm inspired by the peace you've been able 2:13:22.800 --> 2:13:24.840 to find. I hope that the other kind for any 2:13:24.880 --> 2:13:26.680 other call or any of the of the people who've 2:13:26.720 --> 2:13:29.880 called in who are like dealing with some shit where 2:13:29.880 --> 2:13:31.560 maybe we didn't even have an answer for them or 2:13:31.560 --> 2:13:33.480 anything like. I guess, I guess we can look at 2:13:33.520 --> 2:13:37.320 Kyle as like, look, whatever fucking crazy thing has happened 2:13:37.320 --> 2:13:39.640 to you, there's peace. 2:13:39.520 --> 2:13:42.920 To be found. Find a smile in there somewhere. Find 2:13:42.960 --> 2:13:43.960 a little smile in there. 2:13:44.200 --> 2:13:45.480 Kyle, is there anything you want to say to the 2:13:45.520 --> 2:13:47.320 people of the computer, to me, or to Mark, or 2:13:47.400 --> 2:13:49.440 to the or to God before we go? 2:13:50.680 --> 2:13:51.280 He's listening. 2:13:52.240 --> 2:13:54.120 I just want to say thanks, guys. I just want 2:13:54.160 --> 2:13:57.000 to say thanks for taking my call and listening to 2:13:57.240 --> 2:14:02.360 my brief but very surface level abbreviation of my story 2:14:02.480 --> 2:14:06.200 that's called life. We all have a life that's just 2:14:06.280 --> 2:14:09.360 as vivid as my own. So I know I'm not 2:14:09.480 --> 2:14:12.440 alone and neither you carry on, guys, you can make it. 2:14:14.400 --> 2:14:15.840 Couldn't have possibly said it better. 2:14:16.080 --> 2:14:19.400 Kyle Goodness, You're a hero. Take care man. 2:14:20.760 --> 2:14:25.200 Thank you, Kyle Goodness, Everybody give it give it up. 2:14:26.920 --> 2:14:27.040 Man. 2:14:27.120 --> 2:14:28.040 What a great. 2:14:29.320 --> 2:14:33.320 And it started off innocuous, yeah, and then we dug 2:14:33.360 --> 2:14:34.080 a little bit deep. 2:14:34.600 --> 2:14:36.560 That's how it is with everybody, though, isn't it. It's 2:14:36.640 --> 2:14:38.440 like you're like, hey, how are you? Man, I'm great, 2:14:38.440 --> 2:14:41.120 I'm good. And then but everyone has that. Yeah. 2:14:41.200 --> 2:14:42.960 I think about that all the time when I'm like 2:14:43.080 --> 2:14:45.680 looking at someone, I'm like, what is what is your 2:14:46.080 --> 2:14:46.720 what is your ship? 2:14:47.160 --> 2:14:49.680 Everyone has it? Everyone's got it, everyone's got it. 2:14:49.800 --> 2:14:52.800 But sometimes like I don't know, Like I like, I'll like, 2:14:52.880 --> 2:14:55.000 I'm like ordering ice cream from the ice cream guy, 2:14:55.040 --> 2:14:55.360 and I'm like. 2:14:55.480 --> 2:14:56.080 What is this? 2:14:56.760 --> 2:14:57.920 Tell me more about it? 2:14:58.080 --> 2:15:02.480 Maybe that's like part of what strong this is? Your 2:15:02.560 --> 2:15:04.320 car is to figure that out from me? 2:15:04.480 --> 2:15:06.800 Man, I think think about all the time. That's you. 2:15:07.120 --> 2:15:10.160 There's a word for this. I think, what's the word. 2:15:10.200 --> 2:15:12.879 There's a word. It's have you ever seen this? Empathy? 2:15:12.960 --> 2:15:13.840 I believe is the word? 2:15:14.320 --> 2:15:19.200 Okay, I know there's this word where it's like the 2:15:19.360 --> 2:15:21.440 realization that every single person is living. 2:15:22.720 --> 2:15:25.480 Is that the word? Sounder right? It's like the it's yeah, 2:15:25.520 --> 2:15:30.000 it's like the realization that of everything, of the inherent 2:15:30.160 --> 2:15:33.840 beauty and complexity of life and everything. Yeah, sonder. Yeah, 2:15:34.400 --> 2:15:37.280 that was a very reddit thing, very reddit word. I 2:15:37.400 --> 2:15:39.240 feel like there's a subreddit for it, even. 2:15:39.280 --> 2:15:40.120 Our slash sonder. 2:15:40.240 --> 2:15:42.360 Yeah, I think so you. Okay, So when you were 2:15:42.600 --> 2:15:45.200 going like, uh, popping off on Reddit and ship, what 2:15:45.360 --> 2:15:47.680 was what was the sub that showed you the most 2:15:47.720 --> 2:15:51.120 love videos? Slash videos? Yeah, they would always post me 2:15:51.240 --> 2:15:53.680 in and uh. I think a lot of people got 2:15:53.760 --> 2:15:55.960 sick of it though too. They were like, who's what 2:15:56.320 --> 2:15:58.840 Shill is posting this guy again? But it was just 2:15:59.000 --> 2:16:01.840 random people that were posting me show me a little 2:16:01.880 --> 2:16:04.960 bit of love. And I appreciate all of you did 2:16:05.040 --> 2:16:08.320 that it. Now I'm sitting here with therapy, get go 2:16:08.480 --> 2:16:12.400 and tour in the world, and life is good, and 2:16:12.600 --> 2:16:15.160 I think the Internet. I have the Internet to thank 2:16:15.280 --> 2:16:18.200 pretty much exclusively for that. That's true. 2:16:18.480 --> 2:16:22.280 Is there anything that you wanna either plug or say 2:16:22.680 --> 2:16:25.280 or to the people of the universe before we get 2:16:25.320 --> 2:16:25.640 out of here. 2:16:25.800 --> 2:16:27.360 Well, I don't know if I really want to plug. 2:16:27.440 --> 2:16:29.600 I already plugged some shit and I don't really like 2:16:29.720 --> 2:16:34.000 advertising stuff. So you can plug, thoughts, you can plug. 2:16:36.560 --> 2:16:38.280 I don't know if I could say really any better 2:16:38.360 --> 2:16:41.320 than Kyle Goodness said it. And and it's really just 2:16:42.920 --> 2:16:50.080 you must, above all try and find love and joy 2:16:50.640 --> 2:16:53.480 in your life, and and and and try and do that. 2:16:53.800 --> 2:16:57.560 By giving it to the people around you, giving it 2:16:57.640 --> 2:17:02.600 to yourself, and and and and try and do you 2:17:02.720 --> 2:17:08.440 know that's the exercise. It's not money or success, it's 2:17:08.800 --> 2:17:15.400 finding little pieces of joy. That is the thing. We 2:17:15.560 --> 2:17:20.600 will all die very soon, so just get that good 2:17:21.680 --> 2:17:25.640 stuff inside of this part of your body and then 2:17:25.760 --> 2:17:28.640 we're then you'll die, and you'll have more of that 2:17:29.160 --> 2:17:33.480 than the tragic ship and that it's the balance that's 2:17:33.920 --> 2:17:37.680 more towards that than the other stuff that's gonna make you. 2:17:38.120 --> 2:17:41.080 There's a very long winded way of just try and 2:17:41.160 --> 2:17:42.119 find happy moments. 2:17:44.040 --> 2:17:45.879 It's a very relevant thing what you're talking about, because 2:17:45.920 --> 2:17:48.840 we're always always trying to find happiness, and it's. 2:17:48.720 --> 2:17:49.280 A hard thing. 2:17:49.360 --> 2:17:52.039 Tomorrow or we're trying to find it yesterday, we're trying 2:17:52.080 --> 2:17:53.320 to find it once well we. 2:17:53.400 --> 2:17:57.120 Regret that we didn't want or maybe we should find her? 2:17:57.440 --> 2:17:59.600 How do I find it over there? Why didn't I 2:17:59.640 --> 2:18:02.520 find it back there? None of that bullshit matters. The 2:18:03.240 --> 2:18:08.520 future literally doesn't exist. It really hasn't it already happened. 2:18:09.080 --> 2:18:12.480 The only thing that actually exists is you and I 2:18:13.160 --> 2:18:16.520 sitting here right now and all of you right there 2:18:17.120 --> 2:18:20.760 watching this happen. So take a big, deep breath and 2:18:20.959 --> 2:18:23.880 find a little bit of joy just right now. Just 2:18:23.959 --> 2:18:39.200 a nice just a that's nice. It's nice. Mark revier Le, 2:18:40.800 --> 2:18:43.720 what a goddamn pleasure, What a goddamn pleasure it has. Indeed, 2:18:44.560 --> 2:18:48.720 thanks for coming, man, thanks for having me. Goes on 2:18:48.879 --> 2:18:53.080 the line, taking your phone calls every night. Goes to 2:18:53.360 --> 2:18:56.840 his eye. Who's teaching you Cloud in the life. He's 2:18:56.920 --> 2:18:58.520 not read an expert.