WEBVTT - Bad Influences

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janvick, Taylor and Michael Cousin and I'm

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<v Speaker 1>on radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Happy Monday.

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<v Speaker 3>Bo. Yeah, so I learned something new about Mike and

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<v Speaker 3>sure we were on We were in New York last

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<v Speaker 3>week and Mike leaned over to me and he goes,

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<v Speaker 3>are you guys.

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<v Speaker 4>There, Mark, Yes, yes, we're here, of course.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you ready for this? So he leans over and

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<v Speaker 3>he's just like, you know what just drives me crazy?

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, what, what was it? I don't

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<v Speaker 2>remember the Southwest? Oh yeah, I don't know why. It's

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<v Speaker 2>just when people that are maybe not foreign and live

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<v Speaker 2>in America and get onto a Southwest airplane or are

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<v Speaker 2>boarding a Southwest airplane and they ask a million questions

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<v Speaker 2>because they don't understand how to.

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<v Speaker 1>A situation on Southwest? What's that because you don't have

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<v Speaker 1>an assigned seat? Is that the issue?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and people it just blows people's minds. I'm a

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<v Speaker 2>granted we travel so much, I mean, but it made

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<v Speaker 2>me think. I'm like, when when was the first time

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<v Speaker 2>I took a Southwest flight? Like my first experience? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't remember.

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<v Speaker 3>I think I was super young when I took my

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<v Speaker 3>first one.

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<v Speaker 2>But how long has Southwest been doing that.

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<v Speaker 3>That's actually a really good question. I don't know. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to look that up. How long is Southwest? Mark?

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<v Speaker 3>You gotta you gotta see how long I can take

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<v Speaker 3>care of that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, But you know a great thing about Southwest if

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<v Speaker 1>I may, because I know some people are a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit honked off yourself, like, yeah, they don't charge bag.

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<v Speaker 3>Fees, yeah, and for change fees for Southwest.

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<v Speaker 4>I understand it.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm baffled by that because at this point, if

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't know, what would get mad at them.

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<v Speaker 4>But they don't, and I love that.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll see they opened in nineteen seventy one, But when

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<v Speaker 1>did they start doing the seat yourself thing?

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's always been seeing yourself? Maybe really I

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<v Speaker 3>don't I think so, but I mean, obviously I don't

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<v Speaker 3>remember remember. But it's funny though, because Mike said that

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<v Speaker 3>if it was an American he gets angry at But

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<v Speaker 3>then he said that he saw these like two Chinese

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<v Speaker 3>people not knowing where to sit, and he's like, oh, well.

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<v Speaker 2>Just someone who's foreign who doesn't maybe isn't from America

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<v Speaker 2>and it's new to them. I empathize with that, but

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<v Speaker 2>someone who I guess and it's just wrong for me

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<v Speaker 2>to assume that everybody flies all the time and should

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<v Speaker 2>understand it. It's not just asking one question. It's just

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<v Speaker 2>I experienced these these group are like three people the

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<v Speaker 2>other day when we're flying back from New York that

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<v Speaker 2>just asks like ten questions and just couldn't wrap their

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<v Speaker 2>heads around it. And I just wanted to be like,

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<v Speaker 2>just get on the plane, set where you want. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't imagine what questions two through ten would be,

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<v Speaker 1>because the first question would be so I can sit

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<v Speaker 1>wherever I want?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, right, It's just funny what you get because like

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<v Speaker 3>you can be very it's just funny what you get

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<v Speaker 3>upset about. Like I think stupid people that are stupid

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<v Speaker 3>you don't like, Like I think stupidity really bothers you,

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<v Speaker 3>because I know you get a little bit more annoyed

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<v Speaker 3>with me when I say things that are wrong or

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<v Speaker 3>I say the wrong grammar, and so I think you

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<v Speaker 3>it's just it's just funny because I think I think

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<v Speaker 3>it's just stupid people you don't like. But then who

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<v Speaker 3>on the flip side, though, you'll do some stupid things

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<v Speaker 3>and never but it's like you don't see that. But

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<v Speaker 3>it's like you know what I mean, it's just about

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<v Speaker 3>seeing other people.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all about my perspective. How is it view the world?

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<v Speaker 2>If you don't view it my way, then it's oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm kidding now, it's just one of those things.

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<v Speaker 3>I have an interesting topic. Well, I don't even know

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<v Speaker 3>if actually I can talk about it. Why if you knew, Well,

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<v Speaker 3>because I don't know who listens to the podcast, Like

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<v Speaker 3>if it was someone that listens, and I don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to be offensive.

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<v Speaker 4>I think you have to go for it now. Now, yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>just genericize it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay. Let's say there's someone in the neighborhood that has

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<v Speaker 3>a problem child and they were kind of known from

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<v Speaker 3>the last neighborhood for example, like lighting things on fire,

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<v Speaker 3>vandalizing I mean to the point of like really gross

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<v Speaker 3>stuff that would you know it is throwing rocks and

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<v Speaker 3>then also I mean bullying kids, inappropriately touching younger children.

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<v Speaker 3>And then you find out they moved to your neighborhood.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you think, Because Michael and I've had this

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<v Speaker 3>conversation now because now we're on more of a high alert.

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<v Speaker 3>If that's some uncertain person moved into our neighborhood and

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<v Speaker 3>it's do you make you or are you nice? Or

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I don't know how to because I'm now

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<v Speaker 3>a little bit scared because of the things that I've

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<v Speaker 3>heard that are not great? Or do you petition to

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<v Speaker 3>kick them out of the neighborhood? But can you even

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<v Speaker 3>you can't do that.

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<v Speaker 2>No, you can't do that. You can't they we don't

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<v Speaker 2>have the power to.

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<v Speaker 3>I would never want a kid, but I'm just like, what,

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<v Speaker 3>what do you like? Do you talk to the kid

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<v Speaker 3>that's in high school? And I empathize and I want

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<v Speaker 3>to be there, but also the things that I've heard

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<v Speaker 3>is scary. They basically we were warned stay away, So

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<v Speaker 3>it's do we make ourselves? Does he?

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<v Speaker 5>You know?

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<v Speaker 3>Mike was like, do I talk to him? And but

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, but I don't want him to get scared

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<v Speaker 3>and then do something to the house or or bully.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, our kids are young.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's just something to be aware of.

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<v Speaker 3>I think, you know, I feel like you were going

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<v Speaker 3>to say something to the mom, which I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think you should say. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's one of those I want to where my heart is.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to kind of treat it as innocent until

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<v Speaker 2>proven guilty, but the.

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<v Speaker 3>Cops have already been over there. They were already in.

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<v Speaker 3>He was already in like one of the other houses.

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<v Speaker 2>Right.

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<v Speaker 3>I understand that I met he seems so nice, but

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<v Speaker 3>when I I mean, my text for my friend was

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<v Speaker 3>stay away. He is bad news. He's the kid that

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<v Speaker 3>would potentially go into a school and do some bad

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<v Speaker 3>stuff and that terrifies me for you know, other people,

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<v Speaker 3>especially the other kids in the neighborhood. But I don't

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<v Speaker 3>want to be that person either. I would love to

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<v Speaker 3>be able to help, but then you also hear the

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<v Speaker 3>stories when you help, they are also the ones that

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<v Speaker 3>hurt you too.

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<v Speaker 2>So but no, it's just one of those things that you,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you want to have a we have a

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<v Speaker 2>good heart about, but at the same time, ultimately you

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<v Speaker 2>have to protect your family and your kids. So it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's being able to be empathetic and helpful but also

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<v Speaker 2>keep our kids away. I think that's where we have

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<v Speaker 2>to stand with it. Yeah, we can be opened open

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<v Speaker 2>to it, but are not with our kids involved.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, my problem is my I play too much

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<v Speaker 3>scary movies in my head.

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<v Speaker 2>You did, I mean, you definitely go like worst case scenario.

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<v Speaker 3>I yeah, because our house is kind of like a

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<v Speaker 3>fish bowl. We don't have really many shades. So when

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<v Speaker 3>it's nighttime and he's gone, it's just you know that

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<v Speaker 3>movie Strangers where I feel like I'm just gonna look

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<v Speaker 3>to the to the all the open windows in the

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<v Speaker 3>house and just see these faces appear.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh gosh. And that's why we're having an alarm and

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<v Speaker 2>guns in the house.

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<v Speaker 4>And I know, but maybe shades. Maybe before you get

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<v Speaker 4>the alarm of the guns, get some shit.

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<v Speaker 3>I ask for shades, but Mike says it's going to

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<v Speaker 3>ruin the aesthetic of the house.

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<v Speaker 2>I put my foot down on that one.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm just like, give me some shades. I feel like

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<v Speaker 3>I'm in a fish bowl.

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<v Speaker 2>It's great natural light.

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<v Speaker 3>I wonder if there's a way to tint the windows.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't they have like the you can bring the

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<v Speaker 1>tinting down. There's like a sheet a tinted shade, or

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<v Speaker 1>you just hit a button that comes out.

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<v Speaker 2>Even having the reservoir above the windows wouldn't look at more.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh Halloween week? Oh yeah, what are we doing?

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<v Speaker 3>What do you mean? What are we doing? We just

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<v Speaker 3>tried on our costumes, like we just but I appreciate

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<v Speaker 3>the the surprise factor, but we can't tell people what

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<v Speaker 3>we're doing yet. But again, I'm very much the family themed,

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<v Speaker 3>so everyone, we're all about the family theme. So we're

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<v Speaker 3>all a part of a princess fairy tale. We'll say that.

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<v Speaker 3>Would you like to guess?

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<v Speaker 1>I would like to guess because one year right after Brooklyn,

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<v Speaker 1>when my youngest was born, my daughter, my oldest was

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<v Speaker 1>snow white, and I was Prince Charming and my wife

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<v Speaker 1>was Doc and the little one was the tiny little

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<v Speaker 1>dwarf was a baby, was dopey and it was the cutest.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to send you that picture today because you

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<v Speaker 1>will know he's beautiful. Yeah, I'm going to send you that.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm going to guess. Let me think you said

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<v Speaker 1>princess fairy tale?

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<v Speaker 4>Is that what you said?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes?

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<v Speaker 4>Of course. Are you gonna tell me if I get

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<v Speaker 4>it right?

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<v Speaker 3>Or no? Sure?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, think about this.

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<v Speaker 3>You get one guess though, since you're doing that one guess,

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<v Speaker 3>you get one guess because you know, if not, you'll

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<v Speaker 3>keep going. And then if we told you that, we're

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<v Speaker 3>going to tell you.

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<v Speaker 4>That way right, Two boys and two girls? What? Oh? Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 4>I got it, I got it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, here's what I'm saying. Okay, Elsa vir Janna Anna

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<v Speaker 1>for Jolee. Mike's gonna be uh what's his name? The

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<v Speaker 1>guy with the donkey.

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<v Speaker 4>Spen Christoph, Christoph. Yeah, you're gonna be Christoph and then Olaf.

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<v Speaker 4>That's the family right there.

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<v Speaker 3>Well you know what, I guess you don't follow us

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<v Speaker 3>on Instagram because Mike was a seven foot ole off

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<v Speaker 3>two years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry we were yeah, we were frozen two years ago.

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<v Speaker 2>I ordered this off costume.

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<v Speaker 3>By the way, you still have it because I want

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<v Speaker 3>you to surprise the kids.

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<v Speaker 4>No, I wish.

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<v Speaker 2>Remember we left in La John.

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<v Speaker 3>Walked into Jolie's classroom. That would have been so good.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I'll reorder it. Anyways, Mark, I found this

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<v Speaker 2>costume from straight up from China, got it two years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>sent to our house in La It was a legit, legit.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean the head was like three feet high itself

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<v Speaker 2>and I'm six foot five, so I was literally nine

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<v Speaker 2>feet tall. Huge round costume, legs, slippers, everything. We go

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<v Speaker 2>to Luca Lake to trick or treat, which you know

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<v Speaker 2>it's crazy.

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<v Speaker 4>Place to go. Oh oh yeah, they're showing me a picture. Now, wow,

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<v Speaker 4>you are tall.

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<v Speaker 2>And the best part about it, Mark, walking through to

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<v Speaker 2>Luca Lake, I mean you would have thought I was

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<v Speaker 2>paid to be there. Everyone wanted a picture with me.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a it was a meet and Greek was

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<v Speaker 2>a celebrity.

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<v Speaker 3>He was I mean everyone was high fiving him, and

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<v Speaker 3>it was it was that will go down.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it's hard to beat that.

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<v Speaker 3>It is real hard to beat that. But now I

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<v Speaker 3>love that.

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<v Speaker 4>I know. Do you still have it?

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<v Speaker 2>No, it's literally it's humongous. So we threw it away

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<v Speaker 2>in LA because we already did it.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't even have shades. I could you have a

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<v Speaker 1>giant Olaf costume of that house?

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<v Speaker 4>Right?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. It's too big.

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<v Speaker 3>But it's gonna be fun though. Oh it'll be Jason's

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<v Speaker 3>first Halloween. He's gonna be so cute. Oh, he's the

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<v Speaker 3>best friend. He's almost walking. Hey Easton, what's up with

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<v Speaker 3>the crocs?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh?

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<v Speaker 6>What's what's up with the crocs?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 6>Well it's c October.

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<v Speaker 3>Is that a thing? Or is that a thing that

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<v Speaker 3>you made up?

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<v Speaker 4>It's a thing.

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<v Speaker 6>It's it's it's a thing that croc Crocs made it up.

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<v Speaker 6>But I'm celebrating it in a.

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<v Speaker 2>Really big way. Do you have Crocs on?

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<v Speaker 6>I don't have crocs on at the moment because I'm

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<v Speaker 6>at work and I'm a professional and Crocs.

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<v Speaker 4>Are a leisure shoe I was wearing.

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<v Speaker 6>I've been wearing them a lot this month, though.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, I saw you hiking with them, and I was like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know if you should be hiking with Crocs

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<v Speaker 3>on I mean, I love Crocs. Jolie calls them her

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<v Speaker 3>alligator shoes, but I mean, you've really every time I've

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<v Speaker 3>watched your stories this week or this month, it's been

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<v Speaker 3>c October.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I've a you know, I was gonna do every

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<v Speaker 6>night of the month. I was going to profile a

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<v Speaker 6>different pair of Crocks for my collection, but I only

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<v Speaker 6>have three. I ran out of ideas after day three.

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<v Speaker 6>But I you know, I took it as a creative

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<v Speaker 6>challenge and I've just been doing original Croc content every

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<v Speaker 6>single day of the month.

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<v Speaker 3>That's huge.

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<v Speaker 4>Any fine heard from Crocs?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh?

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I've been messing with CROs. I've been trying to

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<v Speaker 6>get Crocs. I don't want like money or anything. I

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<v Speaker 6>just want them to know that I'm a passionate fan

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<v Speaker 6>and I have some questions for them. Actually, I've been

0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:12.840
<v Speaker 6>trying to get them to interview with me. No no answer,

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<v Speaker 6>no answer. And then finally Ben Higgins from the Almost

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<v Speaker 6>Famous podcast reposted one of my stories and Crocs came

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<v Speaker 6>reaching out.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow huge, your celebrity.

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<v Speaker 6>Hey I'm just trying to spread the good word. Crocs

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<v Speaker 6>are a comfortable shoe.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey.

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<v Speaker 3>Did anyone read the Kanye West story? By the way?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Yeah? Interesting?

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<v Speaker 3>What are hey, Tory? Do you want to give the

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<v Speaker 3>brief rundown of what the article said?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, So basically it's him kind of saying that he's

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<v Speaker 5>redirecting his life. There was a lot in the article

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<v Speaker 5>about him like starting a church, doing a faith based

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<v Speaker 5>Christian album, but his struggle with sex addiction has been

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<v Speaker 5>something he's been dealing with for a really long time,

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<v Speaker 5>and so he's been opening up about that and basically,

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, I just I think it's a really

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<v Speaker 5>interesting article to hear that Kanye West, and I guess

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<v Speaker 5>that he's kind of opened up about it prior. I

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<v Speaker 5>was looking at some other articles, but it was never

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<v Speaker 5>to this extent of him being like, here's where I'm

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<v Speaker 5>at and here's where I struggle with and yeah, so

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<v Speaker 5>that's basically kind of a little when you read it too, right, Mite.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, The thing is it's Kanye West. So I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like anything he says kind of has to be taken

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<v Speaker 2>with a grain of salt. Why because he just he

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<v Speaker 2>says outlandish thing and outlandish things, and he just has

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<v Speaker 2>is he still.

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<v Speaker 3>Running for president? Didn't say he was running sween twenty.

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<v Speaker 2>Exactly my point. Okay, So the fact that that even

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<v Speaker 2>came out of his mouth, it's hard to take everything

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<v Speaker 2>he says. And you know, if he claims that he

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<v Speaker 2>suffers from sex addiction, then you.

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<v Speaker 3>Know that may that's such a that's such a big

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<v Speaker 3>thing to just come out and say, right, I mean,

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<v Speaker 3>that would be kind of It's.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of like when Dax Shepherd said something about that

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<v Speaker 2>and he said, I used to suffer from sex addiction.

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<v Speaker 3>He said that, yeah, well, if you're a sex addict

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<v Speaker 3>use right, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>But and he's even I'm pretty sure he's in a

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<v Speaker 2>twelve step program for drugs or something like that. But

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<v Speaker 2>so it's I don't know. It's just one of those

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<v Speaker 2>things that as someone who's open and out about it,

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<v Speaker 2>it's frustrating at times because I feel like in situations

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<v Speaker 2>like this, it's just it just feels thrown.

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<v Speaker 3>Around almost if they're not making it. Because when you say,

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<v Speaker 3>like I use, when Dak says like I used to

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<v Speaker 3>be a sex addict, that's almost devaluing what the addiction

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<v Speaker 3>is from someone who has a big platform to be

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<v Speaker 3>able to talk about addictions. So saying, like I used to,

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<v Speaker 3>that means that you can just get over sex addiction,

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<v Speaker 3>which that's not true. When you're an addict, you're always

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<v Speaker 3>an addict, right, Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean maybe his not to make this about Dax,

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<v Speaker 2>but maybe his thing was more of something else alcoholic

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<v Speaker 2>drugs or something that was and maybe the sex aspect

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<v Speaker 2>was just a product of that. So I can understand

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<v Speaker 2>maybe someone folks seen more on another addiction if they

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<v Speaker 2>if they qualify for multiple addictions. Okay, so I can

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<v Speaker 2>understand that. Okay, maybe that's what he was saying. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>But for like Kanye West, it's you know, it's just like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I you know, suffer from sex iction two and then

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<v Speaker 2>what he's talking about with just a playborn magazine out

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<v Speaker 2>and and everything, he doesn't really talk anymore about it.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just I don't know. Again, it's Kanye. It's kind

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<v Speaker 2>of confusing. I'm just afraid of someone just saying it

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<v Speaker 2>just to say it, but not understanding or not living

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<v Speaker 2>in recovery, or just saying that was a part of

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<v Speaker 2>their life at some point, because it doesn't say anything

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<v Speaker 2>that he currently still does, or he goes to meetings

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<v Speaker 2>or anything like that.

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<v Speaker 3>So it's just I don't know, do you think people

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<v Speaker 3>can recover from sex addiction? Like when people say that, so,

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<v Speaker 3>I think Jada Pinkett also, I don't want to misquote her.

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<v Speaker 3>I believe she also said too that she had a

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<v Speaker 3>sex addiction.

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<v Speaker 2>She had, I don't. I don't see how it's a

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<v Speaker 2>past tense thing. It's an addiction, just like anything anything else.

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<v Speaker 2>People don't say I was an alcoholic, right.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I agree with you, Yeah, No, So, I

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<v Speaker 3>mean I.

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<v Speaker 2>Think that's just a little frustrating because again of someone

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<v Speaker 2>who's trying to, you know, educate people out there that

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<v Speaker 2>it is a real thing. When it's thrown around like that,

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<v Speaker 2>it just feels like it's undermining it, for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, And you're right about the doubt, and he might

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<v Speaker 3>have realized, Okay, this is where the actual, the stronger

0:18:32.000 --> 0:18:34.040
<v Speaker 3>addiction is, for sure, and that could have maybe played

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<v Speaker 3>a part of it with the sex. But to say

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<v Speaker 3>to say that, especially when sex addiction is still not

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<v Speaker 3>a accepted.

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<v Speaker 2>Super socially accepted, accepted addiction.

0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:47.359
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, it's hard when known or talked about.

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<v Speaker 2>When people are just kind of throw it around, especially

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<v Speaker 2>people in the limelight or whatever it's. It just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of gives me a bad taste in my mouth because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, you're not helping the cause, you're not helping anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Because then next thing, you know, is it is it

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<v Speaker 2>going to turn into some fad right you know where

0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:07.719
<v Speaker 2>just nowadays people are more open or there's more you know,

0:19:07.880 --> 0:19:11.479
<v Speaker 2>sexual controversy and headlines a lot with me too stuff

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<v Speaker 2>and abuse and all this, and it's oh, well sex.

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<v Speaker 3>Addiction, And then you can say and then yeah, the

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<v Speaker 3>part is saying like, but I'm not anymore. It's like, no,

0:19:20.240 --> 0:19:23.479
<v Speaker 3>you still an addiction is something that you have to

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<v Speaker 3>continue to work on because when you start to become weaky,

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<v Speaker 3>I think that's what scares me. Two when people are like,

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<v Speaker 3>but I'm in control of it now, well you need

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<v Speaker 3>to have those steps right to be able to continue

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<v Speaker 3>to not let it overpower you.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I mean that's what that's my belief. If someone

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<v Speaker 2>else believes that there's a cure to addiction, then okay, fine,

0:19:43.000 --> 0:19:46.520
<v Speaker 2>but there isn't anybody that in any kind of twelve

0:19:46.520 --> 0:19:48.359
<v Speaker 2>step program out there is going to say that anything

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<v Speaker 2>else works other than twelve steps. No, one else, No

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<v Speaker 2>one in twelve Steps thinks say anything.

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<v Speaker 3>And you're not more powerful. You're not more powerful than

0:19:55.760 --> 0:19:59.000
<v Speaker 3>the disease or not at all. Yeah, because you may

0:19:59.040 --> 0:20:01.040
<v Speaker 3>feel that you're healthy right now in this moment, but

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<v Speaker 3>come if you don't practice it and practice the twelve steps,

0:20:05.160 --> 0:20:08.159
<v Speaker 3>you're going to end up maybe falling back to the

0:20:08.160 --> 0:20:10.120
<v Speaker 3>addiction for sure. Yeah.

0:20:10.160 --> 0:20:13.159
<v Speaker 2>And I mean some things may seem simpler than others

0:20:13.200 --> 0:20:15.720
<v Speaker 2>to change about your life. I mean there's some aspects

0:20:15.760 --> 0:20:20.440
<v Speaker 2>of you know, me being the program that are easier

0:20:20.440 --> 0:20:22.560
<v Speaker 2>to handle than they used to be. But that's because

0:20:22.600 --> 0:20:24.720
<v Speaker 2>I'm being you know, deeper and deeper into recovery. But

0:20:25.800 --> 0:20:29.240
<v Speaker 2>it's as we saw with recent events, it's still there's

0:20:29.240 --> 0:20:32.160
<v Speaker 2>still things looming that I have to continue to work

0:20:32.200 --> 0:20:35.399
<v Speaker 2>through and you know, get by. So yeah, just I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, it's just again it's Kanye West. Who knows

0:20:39.480 --> 0:20:42.000
<v Speaker 2>what he's gonna come out and say next week. You

0:20:42.040 --> 0:20:43.960
<v Speaker 2>know that he wants to be the pope or something.

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<v Speaker 3>So did he ever say anything about the twenty twenty

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<v Speaker 3>election that he remember how he's made a whole thing

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<v Speaker 3>about it.

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<v Speaker 5>I think he has it a while, you know, he

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<v Speaker 5>said on E actually on the E article that he

0:20:55.560 --> 0:20:58.880
<v Speaker 5>still has something planned, Like he's still planning his campaign,

0:20:59.080 --> 0:21:03.320
<v Speaker 5>is what it said. So I feel like this guy

0:21:03.359 --> 0:21:06.000
<v Speaker 5>has a whole family. He has what four or five kids. Now,

0:21:06.720 --> 0:21:09.760
<v Speaker 5>I don't see him coming out and saying, hey, I'm

0:21:09.760 --> 0:21:11.960
<v Speaker 5>a sex addict just to make a point and like

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<v Speaker 5>be Kanye West. I think that's him kind of being like,

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<v Speaker 5>here's where I was and now he's like starting a church.

0:21:19.440 --> 0:21:21.840
<v Speaker 5>He obviously it sounds like he found he has a

0:21:21.880 --> 0:21:25.679
<v Speaker 5>relationship with God now that has like really changed his life.

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<v Speaker 3>And I just feel like.

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<v Speaker 5>Why are we Why are we trying to judge the

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<v Speaker 5>way he's telling his story, Like it may not be

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<v Speaker 5>on a podcast, it may not be in a sit

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<v Speaker 5>down interview, but to him, this is him expressing something

0:21:36.640 --> 0:21:38.399
<v Speaker 5>because he has like kids.

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<v Speaker 3>Again, you know, he's not going.

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<v Speaker 5>To just see somebody says a sex addict or is

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<v Speaker 5>he says on a sex addiction from age till now

0:21:47.760 --> 0:21:50.080
<v Speaker 5>having to kick the habit. It just presents itself in

0:21:50.119 --> 0:21:52.040
<v Speaker 5>the open like it's okay, and I stand up.

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<v Speaker 1>For it, and you know it says he's more addicted

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<v Speaker 1>to inspiration as much as he is.

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<v Speaker 4>In this set, I could have been like he.

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<v Speaker 5>Says he's addicted to porn and that could have been

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<v Speaker 5>something that inspired his music and now he wants to

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<v Speaker 5>change that direction.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think you know what I mean, How I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll at you because you're in a great point, toy,

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<v Speaker 2>and I totally understand that. Again, unfortunately, because it's Kanye West,

0:22:14.640 --> 0:22:18.800
<v Speaker 2>and because he's had periods of just outlandish comments and

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<v Speaker 2>everything where it's until there's consistency, it's hard for me

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<v Speaker 2>personally to believe what he's saying or that.

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<v Speaker 3>If I think what you're saying too is because of

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<v Speaker 3>the sex addiction not being a very socially accepted addiction

0:22:32.440 --> 0:22:34.439
<v Speaker 3>yet that it's just like, oh I was one and

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<v Speaker 3>maybe I'm not now, which is not the true sex addiction.

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<v Speaker 3>That's not right.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, again, that's fine if he's if he's saying he's

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<v Speaker 2>changing his ways and all that, because he is a

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<v Speaker 2>family man and he's a man of God and all that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not questioning that. Just don't just don't throw something

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<v Speaker 2>on top of it, and obviously it impacts me more personally.

0:22:57.680 --> 0:22:59.760
<v Speaker 2>Don't throw something like an addiction on top of it.

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<v Speaker 2>If you're not gonna take it seriously. And you're just

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<v Speaker 2>gonna kind of throw it, oh yeah and just shake

0:23:06.480 --> 0:23:10.040
<v Speaker 2>my life and uh yeah, sex addiction. But it was

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<v Speaker 2>my inspiration. Like you said, why, it's like, wait what,

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<v Speaker 2>Hey're just going to go right over that.

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<v Speaker 4>Every time he talks, I say, wait what, so exactly exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm kind of I think it was pretty cool for

0:23:22.119 --> 0:23:24.360
<v Speaker 5>him to open up with it being the Kardashians, because

0:23:24.359 --> 0:23:26.399
<v Speaker 5>I think that's a very interesting dynamic to have your

0:23:26.400 --> 0:23:28.879
<v Speaker 5>wife be kind of a sex symbol and then have

0:23:29.000 --> 0:23:29.879
<v Speaker 5>him open them up on that.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's a very interesting dynamic. Yeah, I'm just

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<v Speaker 3>more curious to understand the what he meant by either

0:23:36.320 --> 0:23:39.080
<v Speaker 3>he was or he is, because I think that's that's

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<v Speaker 3>the big difference. And that's where I would have more

0:23:40.720 --> 0:23:43.280
<v Speaker 3>of an opinion too, because I do know that, like

0:23:43.720 --> 0:23:45.639
<v Speaker 3>you have to be in the program and working it

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<v Speaker 3>so to maybe hear more on that. But again, it's

0:23:48.280 --> 0:23:52.720
<v Speaker 3>his how he shares it. And yeah, let's try to

0:23:52.720 --> 0:23:56.879
<v Speaker 3>get him on book. Sure, Yeah, we're got that.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll have a talk with tell shre heally we need

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<v Speaker 1>to hold off. We we're gonna get Kanye West said, all.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, well let's take a quick break and do some emails. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>do all right, Mark, We have any emails.

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<v Speaker 1>Got some good ones this week. This is from V.

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<v Speaker 1>She's wondering if she's a bad person, and he hears why.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm separated and single and I've been seeing someone on

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<v Speaker 1>and off since my separation.

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<v Speaker 4>We've been intimate.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm starting to grow feelings for him, but he's technically

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<v Speaker 1>my husband's cousin by marriage, not a blood relative, and

0:24:33.359 --> 0:24:36.640
<v Speaker 1>my husband's cousin by marriage. I feel like I'm doing

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<v Speaker 1>something wrong by seeing him, But at the same time,

0:24:38.720 --> 0:24:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I like spending time, and the time we do spend

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<v Speaker 1>together is wonderful. We get along great. I'm smiling the

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<v Speaker 1>entire time I'm with him. Am I horrible for continuing

0:24:46.240 --> 0:24:48.399
<v Speaker 1>to see him? The chemistry's there. I don't want to stop,

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<v Speaker 1>but maybe I should stop now before it gets even

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<v Speaker 1>more serious.

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<v Speaker 4>Or maybe I just see where things.

0:24:53.280 --> 0:24:55.680
<v Speaker 3>Go wait time out. Is she married still or that's

0:24:55.720 --> 0:24:56.800
<v Speaker 3>her separation.

0:24:57.000 --> 0:24:59.800
<v Speaker 4>She's not divorced, are they?

0:25:00.040 --> 0:25:01.520
<v Speaker 3>They're separate, but they're getting divorced.

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<v Speaker 4>She did not say that necessarily.

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<v Speaker 3>In my opinion, this might be the the not the

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<v Speaker 3>popular opinion. I think you should wait until you get divorced,

0:25:13.000 --> 0:25:17.280
<v Speaker 3>especially since it's a family person. But I think you

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<v Speaker 3>like who you like and if the.

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<v Speaker 4>End day, of course it's okay to date your ex

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<v Speaker 4>husband's cousin.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not saying it's okay. I'm saying I think it's

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<v Speaker 3>okay to like who you like and your feelings. You know,

0:25:28.119 --> 0:25:30.840
<v Speaker 3>that's just like I mean, look at Shanaia Twain is

0:25:30.880 --> 0:25:34.200
<v Speaker 3>married to her best friend's husband and they swapped basically husbands.

0:25:34.200 --> 0:25:36.240
<v Speaker 3>When you're so close with and I'm sure there's so

0:25:36.320 --> 0:25:39.160
<v Speaker 3>many times when someone has fallen in love with their brother,

0:25:39.240 --> 0:25:42.440
<v Speaker 3>their their husband's brother because you're so close with them,

0:25:42.480 --> 0:25:44.679
<v Speaker 3>you know them, you get them, you have this connection.

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<v Speaker 3>But because it is family, that could get really bad.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think she's a bad person. I think that's

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<v Speaker 3>normal to have feelings because you're so close with these people,

0:25:53.840 --> 0:25:56.080
<v Speaker 3>especially with women, because they have that emotion, they're more

0:25:56.119 --> 0:25:59.680
<v Speaker 3>emotionally connected to people. So I just think that maybe

0:25:59.680 --> 0:26:02.440
<v Speaker 3>you should should hold off until you guys get divorced

0:26:02.600 --> 0:26:05.679
<v Speaker 3>and then have a conversation, but don't do it in secret,

0:26:05.920 --> 0:26:08.400
<v Speaker 3>in secrecy, because that'll then drive more of a wedge

0:26:08.400 --> 0:26:10.960
<v Speaker 3>in the family. That's my unpopular position.

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<v Speaker 2>Who I'm trying to I'm trying to do the family

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<v Speaker 2>tree here. A cousin for a cousin by marriage, So

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<v Speaker 2>let's talk that out.

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<v Speaker 4>Hmmm. That's a good point.

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<v Speaker 2>Because I would think the way I would the way

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<v Speaker 2>it sounds to me, is that it would be Okay,

0:26:26.440 --> 0:26:32.280
<v Speaker 2>it's his cousin's husband or something. Right, So right if

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<v Speaker 2>unless he's married and having an affair with with her,

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<v Speaker 2>the one who emailed us, how else would it be

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<v Speaker 2>his cousin by marriage?

0:26:47.080 --> 0:26:49.800
<v Speaker 3>It could be his cousin by marriage.

0:26:50.040 --> 0:26:50.640
<v Speaker 2>See what I mean.

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<v Speaker 4>It's confusing, and there's such a thing as.

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<v Speaker 2>You know it would be.

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<v Speaker 3>It would be like if if my cousin Eric, it

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<v Speaker 3>would be his cousin through marriage.

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<v Speaker 2>Be Jessica, Right, That's what I'm saying.

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<v Speaker 3>So like you dating Jessica.

0:27:04.280 --> 0:27:08.040
<v Speaker 2>But but Jessica is married to Eric. That's how she's

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<v Speaker 2>a cousin.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe they're separated and get a divorce, might see my

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<v Speaker 3>point here, But we don't know that backstory that's true.

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<v Speaker 3>Can you mean us again next week?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, we might need some more information on this, but

0:27:22.920 --> 0:27:25.600
<v Speaker 1>also more information. I mean, the heart wants what it

0:27:25.640 --> 0:27:30.320
<v Speaker 1>wants is a very convenient excuse the people for really

0:27:30.440 --> 0:27:32.960
<v Speaker 1>horrible decisions, right.

0:27:32.920 --> 0:27:33.000
<v Speaker 6>But.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, and it's also the heart is something you should

0:27:38.400 --> 0:27:39.040
<v Speaker 3>always listen to.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, there's so many questions you can go

0:27:41.920 --> 0:27:45.439
<v Speaker 2>so deep with this is okay? Is the attraction to

0:27:45.520 --> 0:27:48.160
<v Speaker 2>the cousin by marriage? Is that maybe part of what

0:27:48.480 --> 0:27:52.080
<v Speaker 2>causes separation without the husband knowing, you know what I mean?

0:27:52.119 --> 0:27:55.960
<v Speaker 2>Like why are they separated? Are they in agreement that

0:27:56.160 --> 0:27:59.360
<v Speaker 2>why they're separated that they can see other people? Are

0:27:59.359 --> 0:28:01.560
<v Speaker 2>they living under the same roof? Like, there's a lot

0:28:01.600 --> 0:28:02.639
<v Speaker 2>of questions to know.

0:28:02.840 --> 0:28:05.520
<v Speaker 1>How close is your husband with this cousin by marriage,

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<v Speaker 1>because some cousins are like brother and sister and some

0:28:07.920 --> 0:28:09.600
<v Speaker 1>like I have cousins, I wouldn't know if they walk

0:28:09.600 --> 0:28:10.399
<v Speaker 1>past me on the street.

0:28:10.560 --> 0:28:13.160
<v Speaker 3>Oh see my first cousins there, they're like my brother

0:28:13.200 --> 0:28:13.600
<v Speaker 3>and sister.

0:28:13.800 --> 0:28:17.520
<v Speaker 2>Same. Yeah, we're very close first cousins. We both grew

0:28:17.560 --> 0:28:19.440
<v Speaker 2>up the same way, where like our first cousins were

0:28:19.480 --> 0:28:20.280
<v Speaker 2>like our siblings.

0:28:20.359 --> 0:28:21.600
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because the street.

0:28:21.720 --> 0:28:25.680
<v Speaker 2>Yeah yeah. So there's just a lot of questions here

0:28:25.720 --> 0:28:29.800
<v Speaker 2>on what to know. I think ultimately, again it's it

0:28:29.840 --> 0:28:34.200
<v Speaker 2>depends on if you handle this situation with integrity, then

0:28:34.480 --> 0:28:37.119
<v Speaker 2>it doesn't have to be that bad. So again, if

0:28:37.640 --> 0:28:41.040
<v Speaker 2>her and the current separated husband under agreement of what

0:28:41.080 --> 0:28:42.960
<v Speaker 2>they can do, what the boundaries are right now while

0:28:42.960 --> 0:28:47.480
<v Speaker 2>they're separated, if when they do get divorced, she doesn't

0:28:47.960 --> 0:28:52.400
<v Speaker 2>be sneaky about it, and she explains that this is

0:28:52.400 --> 0:28:53.360
<v Speaker 2>the person that she's seen.

0:28:54.440 --> 0:28:56.080
<v Speaker 3>So I think it's also a female thing too. And

0:28:56.200 --> 0:28:58.280
<v Speaker 3>we always said this in our relationship. If I was

0:28:58.320 --> 0:29:01.960
<v Speaker 3>ever too cheat, it'd be some close to us, right,

0:29:02.040 --> 0:29:05.160
<v Speaker 3>because I'm just that emotional that I'm more of an

0:29:05.200 --> 0:29:08.640
<v Speaker 3>emotional cheater, if that makes sense.

0:29:08.680 --> 0:29:10.760
<v Speaker 2>I think that is more of a woman thing and guys,

0:29:11.160 --> 0:29:14.200
<v Speaker 2>at least from me maybe, but for me personally, that

0:29:14.240 --> 0:29:17.080
<v Speaker 2>would make me uncomfortable if it was somebody that we knew.

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<v Speaker 1>Mark, all right, this is from Callen. I'm super close.

0:29:21.840 --> 0:29:24.360
<v Speaker 1>This is actually actually flows nicely from that one. I'm

0:29:24.400 --> 0:29:27.760
<v Speaker 1>super close with my parents, my brother, my extended family, cousins, aunts,

0:29:27.760 --> 0:29:30.560
<v Speaker 1>and uncles. My fiance is from a broken family and

0:29:30.640 --> 0:29:32.560
<v Speaker 1>only talks to them a few times a month. I

0:29:32.600 --> 0:29:35.400
<v Speaker 1>talk with my family multiple times a day. We've been

0:29:35.440 --> 0:29:37.840
<v Speaker 1>living together for four years. I moved across the country

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:40.800
<v Speaker 1>with him, and now we're engaged. He still he still

0:29:40.800 --> 0:29:43.440
<v Speaker 1>feels like he's second to my family. I want him

0:29:43.480 --> 0:29:44.880
<v Speaker 1>to feel like he's my priority.

0:29:44.960 --> 0:29:45.240
<v Speaker 4>He is.

0:29:45.320 --> 0:29:47.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm absolutely in love with him, but I don't want

0:29:47.120 --> 0:29:49.640
<v Speaker 1>to change the relationship with my family to prove it.

0:29:50.720 --> 0:29:51.680
<v Speaker 3>I don't think she has to.

0:29:52.200 --> 0:29:52.840
<v Speaker 4>She shouldn't.

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<v Speaker 3>No, No, just include him. So if you're having family

0:29:56.120 --> 0:29:58.280
<v Speaker 3>this is something that I'll say, you know, if they're

0:29:58.280 --> 0:30:01.360
<v Speaker 3>having family group messages, just include him in the text message,

0:30:02.080 --> 0:30:04.600
<v Speaker 3>include him in the family messages. And I think that

0:30:04.640 --> 0:30:06.360
<v Speaker 3>could help him feel a part of things. I know

0:30:06.440 --> 0:30:09.160
<v Speaker 3>it always a part of things when i'm when you know,

0:30:09.160 --> 0:30:12.840
<v Speaker 3>your mom includes me in the messages, and probably vice versa.

0:30:13.200 --> 0:30:15.560
<v Speaker 3>We don't really do group messages on my side, but

0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:19.560
<v Speaker 3>you know, I think that would help maybe that situation.

0:30:19.640 --> 0:30:21.440
<v Speaker 3>But I don't think she should ever stop.

0:30:22.160 --> 0:30:24.560
<v Speaker 2>No and just to and just I can understand his

0:30:24.640 --> 0:30:28.080
<v Speaker 2>insecurity because he doesn't have that relationship, so.

0:30:27.960 --> 0:30:29.120
<v Speaker 3>It's probably more to interface.

0:30:29.200 --> 0:30:32.800
<v Speaker 2>It's foreign. It's foreign to him. So if she just

0:30:33.000 --> 0:30:36.040
<v Speaker 2>continues to include him, like janas saying, then also reassure him, hey,

0:30:36.080 --> 0:30:39.320
<v Speaker 2>you are my family, You are a part of this family,

0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:42.320
<v Speaker 2>like this is you know, everybody loves you too, or

0:30:42.360 --> 0:30:44.720
<v Speaker 2>just something to kind of make him feel better or

0:30:44.760 --> 0:30:46.000
<v Speaker 2>more comfortable around.

0:30:45.720 --> 0:30:47.560
<v Speaker 3>It, but also to have empathy for what he doesn't.

0:30:47.760 --> 0:30:50.520
<v Speaker 3>He didn't doesn't and didn't have too, so to be like,

0:30:50.880 --> 0:30:53.560
<v Speaker 3>you know that must because I think that's more self

0:30:53.600 --> 0:30:57.000
<v Speaker 3>reflection on his part, while he's maybe projecting it is because.

0:30:56.800 --> 0:30:59.080
<v Speaker 2>He didn't have because he's insecure about it. He didn't

0:30:59.080 --> 0:31:02.480
<v Speaker 2>have it. That's and yeah, and for he should definitely

0:31:02.480 --> 0:31:05.080
<v Speaker 2>try to embrace it and maybe change his mindset. Because

0:31:05.120 --> 0:31:09.080
<v Speaker 2>for me, I know, just even from dating people, you know,

0:31:09.360 --> 0:31:11.600
<v Speaker 2>as a young adult or younger person, I always knew

0:31:11.640 --> 0:31:15.320
<v Speaker 2>I wanted my future wife to have like an awesome family.

0:31:15.760 --> 0:31:18.040
<v Speaker 2>So I wanted great in laws. I wanted I love

0:31:18.120 --> 0:31:21.360
<v Speaker 2>spending time with my significant other. And so like Mary

0:31:21.360 --> 0:31:23.040
<v Speaker 2>and Janna, I like hit a home run with that

0:31:23.120 --> 0:31:25.800
<v Speaker 2>because I love her family. I love the things we

0:31:25.880 --> 0:31:28.640
<v Speaker 2>all do together. We have so much fun, and like that.

0:31:28.760 --> 0:31:31.200
<v Speaker 2>I've always wanted that. That's something that's always been important

0:31:31.240 --> 0:31:34.200
<v Speaker 2>I valued. So I mean that's something he should definitely

0:31:34.200 --> 0:31:35.920
<v Speaker 2>try to embrace, like you're saying, Mark, and just like

0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:36.600
<v Speaker 2>enjoy that.

0:31:37.280 --> 0:31:39.000
<v Speaker 3>So if my family sucked you and married.

0:31:38.800 --> 0:31:41.240
<v Speaker 2>Me, no, I'm not saying that. It was just definitely

0:31:41.280 --> 0:31:43.800
<v Speaker 2>something that was important to me that I wanted to

0:31:43.880 --> 0:31:46.520
<v Speaker 2>be able to have in laws, not just in laws,

0:31:46.560 --> 0:31:50.560
<v Speaker 2>but in law family. Yeah, a fun family that enjoyed things,

0:31:50.600 --> 0:31:52.360
<v Speaker 2>and I mean, we have so much fun every time

0:31:52.360 --> 0:31:52.920
<v Speaker 2>we get together.

0:31:53.120 --> 0:31:54.440
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:31:54.480 --> 0:31:57.840
<v Speaker 1>I have one more, really juicy one about infertility. But

0:31:58.240 --> 0:32:00.800
<v Speaker 1>before we do that, tell me about no because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>excited to have them on the podcast. Some are calling

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<v Speaker 1>at the Amazon prime of high end jewelry.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh well, I would love to tell you about Noemi.

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<v Speaker 3>So shopping for fine jewelry can be more than a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit overwhelming. It can be hard to find that

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<v Speaker 3>gorgeous piece that perfectly complements your style, and it can

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<v Speaker 3>be even harder to know whether you're getting the best

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<v Speaker 3>value for the price, so especially considering the fact that

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<v Speaker 3>most fine jewelry retailers mark up by five hundred to

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<v Speaker 3>one thousand percent. But Noemi believes that luxury jewelry doesn't

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<v Speaker 3>have to be overpriced. And that's oh my gosh, I

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<v Speaker 3>love that. That's why they've cut the middleman to deliver

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<v Speaker 3>manufacturers everything in house, and they only sell directly to consumers,

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<v Speaker 3>so you get the finest quality jewelry and save an

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<v Speaker 3>average of fifty percent compared to other luxury brands, which, again,

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<v Speaker 3>it's really nice to be able to know that you're

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<v Speaker 3>getting great quality at a lower price. I love that,

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<v Speaker 3>And they use eighteen care gold, a sustainable option with

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<v Speaker 3>the ideal balance of strength and purity. The attention to

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<v Speaker 3>detail is fantastic, just like a luxury jewelry brand without

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<v Speaker 3>the luxury price tag.

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<v Speaker 2>Nouemi also offers a lifetime warrant to an free shipping

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<v Speaker 2>If you're looking for the finest quality jewelry from a

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<v Speaker 2>luxury brand you can trust, look no further. Go to

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<v Speaker 2>get fifty dollars off your first purchase with promo code Jana.

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<v Speaker 2>fraction of what you pay for other luxury brands.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, by the way, I want this the petite diamond

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<v Speaker 3>band ring. This is so cute and rose gold my home.

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<v Speaker 3>Second look at that lot.

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<v Speaker 2>Keith Christmas present?

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<v Speaker 3>What up? That looks so good? Okay, So go to

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<v Speaker 3>Hello H E L L O N O E M

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<v Speaker 3>I E dot com slash Jana and don't forget to

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<v Speaker 3>use promo code Janna for fifty dollars off your first purchase.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh I'm going to get this right now. This is

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<v Speaker 3>so cute.

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<v Speaker 4>Can you wait till I do one more email? And

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<v Speaker 4>then oh yeah for Jordan.

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<v Speaker 3>Absolutely.

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<v Speaker 1>This is from Christine. My husband and I've been married

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<v Speaker 1>for almost three years and together almost eleven. We've been

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<v Speaker 1>trying to get prgened for a year and a half.

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<v Speaker 1>After the year mark, I'm thirty one, we went to

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<v Speaker 1>a fertility specialist. He had a semen analysis and I

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<v Speaker 1>had an HSG and several other tests. The results came

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<v Speaker 1>back that I'm good. His overall sperm count is good,

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<v Speaker 1>but the viable sperm are very low. So we've started

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<v Speaker 1>talking about artificial insemination, but he doesn't want to go

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<v Speaker 1>that way. Every cycle we get another negative test and

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<v Speaker 1>we're both devastated and he feels like it's his fault.

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<v Speaker 1>I do my best not to blame him, but the

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<v Speaker 1>clock is ticking and he's still not coming around. To insemination.

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<v Speaker 1>I met a lost. I met a loss. There's nothing

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<v Speaker 1>in this world that I want more than to be

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<v Speaker 1>a mom. And adding to it, we're getting immense pressure

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<v Speaker 1>from his mother to have kids. She's very negative to

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<v Speaker 1>him and nasty to me about it.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh well, that's awful that the in laws are pressuring,

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<v Speaker 3>especially when it's already such a stressful situation to begin with.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's unfair, Michael.

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<v Speaker 3>Let you speak on this because I know that you

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<v Speaker 3>had a tough time with all of this.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I personally didn't have a tough time.

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<v Speaker 3>You did with the playing like God and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, well yeah, but that's also because my account

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<v Speaker 2>was fine, so there wasn't an issue there. But I

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<v Speaker 2>can I definitely empathize with him because you know, when

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<v Speaker 2>it comes to pregnancy and stuff, essentially we have one job,

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<v Speaker 2>right and from a scientist scientific point of view, we

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<v Speaker 2>have one job, and when we aren't able to do

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<v Speaker 2>that job, if we aren't able to do that job,

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<v Speaker 2>I can imagine that feeling really degrading as a man,

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<v Speaker 2>being like, man, this is the one thing I have

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<v Speaker 2>to do to give you a child, and I can't

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<v Speaker 2>do that. So if he's able to look at it

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<v Speaker 2>from a different mindset and just be like, you know what,

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<v Speaker 2>this is just a different way I can give my

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<v Speaker 2>wife the gift of of a child. I would do

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<v Speaker 2>whatever it took. Ultimately, Sure it weigh on me a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit, but just changing my mindset and being like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>this is what I have to do. I want a

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<v Speaker 2>family with you, you want to be pregnant, you want a child.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's do this. However we have to do it. Granted

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<v Speaker 2>we had option to do artificial insemination when we did IVF.

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<v Speaker 2>That was a little different.

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<v Speaker 4>That's more.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that what they're talking about doing or is it

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<v Speaker 2>just like turkey based?

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<v Speaker 3>I think both.

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<v Speaker 2>So what I didn't like about the IVF thing is

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<v Speaker 2>when they took one individual sperm and injected in the egg.

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<v Speaker 2>I liked it where they basically put a syringeful's sperm

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<v Speaker 2>in the petri dish with the egg against like let

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<v Speaker 2>the best man win. I didn't like selecting one sperm.

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<v Speaker 2>That's when I felt like it was playing god because

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<v Speaker 2>the sperm that was supposed to go maybe wasn't that one.

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<v Speaker 2>But with if it's just still you can still artificially

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<v Speaker 2>inseeminate by not doing that. So I don't think that's

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<v Speaker 2>necessarily necessary an issue with playing god. I think you

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<v Speaker 2>got to do what you gotta do to get pregnant.

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<v Speaker 2>And if they've tried this much and they felt that devastation,

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<v Speaker 2>then it's like, hey, this is what I have to do.

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<v Speaker 3>Mm hm, I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>So, but it's right, he's going to feel like a failure.

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<v Speaker 1>I think that's what he's going through, is the feeling

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<v Speaker 1>like a failure. And if you do the art insemination,

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<v Speaker 1>you've given up, like it's like so many people surrendering.

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<v Speaker 3>So many people have to though, and so hopefully he

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<v Speaker 3>can get past that to know that it's not just

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<v Speaker 3>him that deals with this.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, everyone's going to know. If you guys have a

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<v Speaker 1>baby together, you don't have to announce in the birth

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<v Speaker 1>announcement that she was done via artificial insemination. No one

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<v Speaker 1>has to know that except you and.

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<v Speaker 3>Your wife, right, And I bet the statistics are a

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<v Speaker 3>lot higher now too with people that have to do that. Sure,

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<v Speaker 3>Oh definitely, it's not like it's probably close to fifty,

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<v Speaker 3>I would think.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think what he needs to also maybe to

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<v Speaker 2>help his mindset is to realize, well, like for me,

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<v Speaker 2>I would rather it be me than Jana because the

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<v Speaker 2>women feel so much pressure, right, because that's literally like

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<v Speaker 2>what women maybe think they were put on this earth

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<v Speaker 2>to do was to bear a child. Right, So I

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<v Speaker 2>can't imagine the height and emotions that a woman may

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<v Speaker 2>feel if they're not able to be fertile and have kids.

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<v Speaker 2>So as a man, it's like, I'll I'll take that

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<v Speaker 2>burden for you. If it was on me, cool, great,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll do whatever I have to do to give you

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<v Speaker 2>a child. Because I don't. I wouldn't want Janet to

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<v Speaker 2>feel that. So for him, he should be like, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what, better me than you. I got you money,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever we have to do, I got you. I'm just

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<v Speaker 2>glad it's not you. You don't have to deal with this.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me take this burden and let me give your

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<v Speaker 2>child in any way that I can. So if he

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<v Speaker 2>can change his mindset like that and just just still

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<v Speaker 2>be able to show it for her, I think he

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<v Speaker 2>would have a much better time mentally and emotionally processing it.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I was super off on the percentage. It's

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<v Speaker 3>only two percent, but still I think that's still two percent.

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<v Speaker 4>Is artificial insamdation.

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<v Speaker 3>The and the centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports

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<v Speaker 3>about four million births per year in the US, meaning

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<v Speaker 3>one to two percent of all US berths are in nually,

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<v Speaker 3>are or are via IVF.

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<v Speaker 4>Really wow, that seems very.

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<v Speaker 3>Shockingly low in my opinion.

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, but there's also like three hundred and fifty

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<v Speaker 2>million people in this country. So think about the two

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<v Speaker 2>percent of that, and then it takes us back to

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<v Speaker 2>the other one. There's three hundred and fifty million people

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<v Speaker 2>in this country. Maybe you don't have to date your

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<v Speaker 2>husband's cousin wait to bring you back. There is love.

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<v Speaker 3>Love is love. Oh what a good note. I love

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<v Speaker 3>you guys. Happy Halloween.

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<v Speaker 2>Be safe out there.