WEBVTT - “PCP TURNED MY LIFE AROUND”

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<v Speaker 1>Hello, Hello, this is the Gecko guy.

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<v Speaker 2>No fucking way, what is your name?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not that would be disgusting, Sammy. What's going on?

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<v Speaker 1>What's up? Sammy? Did I catch you in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of something? Or am I? Am I bothering you?

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<v Speaker 2>Currently? I am in the car with my parents, but

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<v Speaker 2>I can talk.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you're in the car with your parents. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>in the back seat?

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<v Speaker 2>I am, but I feel as though they already know

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<v Speaker 2>anything that I would talk about. So so, yeah, what's up.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm honestly just shocked. That was the first thing I

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<v Speaker 2>texted you. I'm honestly just shocked that you called me.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I ask you? Where is the car going? Or

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<v Speaker 1>what are you going to ride somewhere?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah? We're actually at the beach right now, little family vacation.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh very nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, kind of horrible timing, but I'm just gonna go

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<v Speaker 2>with it.

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<v Speaker 3>So all right, listen, I mean you sent me a text,

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<v Speaker 3>uh huh, and you said, Hi, Gek, my name is

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<v Speaker 3>Sam and I want to talk about how a PCP

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<v Speaker 3>trip helped me turn my life around.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, indeed, So, uh tell.

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<v Speaker 3>Me about PCP because all I've ever heard about PCP

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<v Speaker 3>is that it makes people kill people and.

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<v Speaker 1>Bite their faces off. I might be convinced I might

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<v Speaker 1>be confusing with bath salts, but go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not PCP expert by any sense. I've only done

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<v Speaker 2>it this one time. And sorry, my brother's in the

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<v Speaker 2>car with me too. But yeah, so I I you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I had been into the drug world for a good

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<v Speaker 2>bit and I ended up essentially trying to overdose on PCP,

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<v Speaker 2>and it just made me realize everything, all the harm

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<v Speaker 2>that I have been causing to myself, my family, my

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<v Speaker 2>loved ones, you know. And then it just sort of

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<v Speaker 2>made me realize what I need to be doing differently,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess, And I realized that PCP, like you said before,

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<v Speaker 2>has a lot of the opposite effects on people. For

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<v Speaker 2>whatever reason. In me, it just sort of reset my

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<v Speaker 2>brain and reconnected wires that had been disconnected, and it

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<v Speaker 2>made it ultimately, it made me want to get sober.

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<v Speaker 2>I put myself in rehab and I'm three years sober now.

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<v Speaker 4>Uh.

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<v Speaker 2>And I wouldn't say it's entirely to the PCP, but

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<v Speaker 2>I would say that that had had a decent effect,

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<v Speaker 2>decent positive effect, not saying that that I'll have that

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<v Speaker 2>effect on everyone. But of course.

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<v Speaker 3>So you didn't start with PCP. It was along the

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<v Speaker 3>road in your drug journey. Where What did you start

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<v Speaker 3>with in your drug journey?

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<v Speaker 2>This is funny because I'm just in the car with

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<v Speaker 2>my parents listening. But I started with with coke and

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<v Speaker 2>then very quickly divulged into I went I pretty much

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<v Speaker 2>speed ran uh drug addiction. Not as fast as you

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<v Speaker 2>can essentially, but I I've done pretty much everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Where where did you go after coke?

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<v Speaker 2>My parents just told me I can speak freakly. So

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<v Speaker 2>after coke, I went into UH. It started from coke,

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<v Speaker 2>it went into UH per thirties, also known as fentanyl,

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<v Speaker 2>but I didn't know at the time, and I was

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<v Speaker 2>smoking those on aluminum foil. And then I got into

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<v Speaker 2>mess heroin, I did, I did crack at one point, LSD, molly,

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<v Speaker 2>pretty much everything.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow, where were you getting all of this stuff from?

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<v Speaker 5>Ye?

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<v Speaker 1>So not because I want to hook.

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<v Speaker 2>Up, Yeah, you want to plug. Well, I started off

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<v Speaker 2>really like in the complete opposite world. I was like

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<v Speaker 2>a band nerd. You know, I was very innocent. And

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<v Speaker 2>then I started dating a guy who's in the drug scene,

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<v Speaker 2>and he was actually a coke dealer, so he had

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of references, I guess you could say, and

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of money and a lot of access, and

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<v Speaker 2>so I was just kind of all of a sudden,

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<v Speaker 2>I was in this world where I was getting a

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<v Speaker 2>bunch of stuff for free, and I wasn't even I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't really capable at the time of saying no. So

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<v Speaker 2>I just kind of got enveloped into this world where

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<v Speaker 2>it was all this free drugs and no sense of

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<v Speaker 2>who I was, and it just kind of escalated from there.

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<v Speaker 1>How long did you date this guy for?

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<v Speaker 2>I think it was a total maybe six eight months.

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<v Speaker 2>It was a very intense time period, though, like I

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<v Speaker 2>would say, like I was staying over at his house

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<v Speaker 2>a lot, it felt much longer than six eight months.

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<v Speaker 1>How did you meet him through?

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<v Speaker 2>Ironically enough, through my previous boyfriend at the time, and

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<v Speaker 2>we were friends, like the three of us, and just

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<v Speaker 2>some shit happened and I ended up being kind of

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<v Speaker 2>a dickhead and leaving him for his friend.

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<v Speaker 3>So so you're with him for eight months, and that

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<v Speaker 3>relationship is kind of what catalyzed all the drug.

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<v Speaker 2>Addiction essentially, I would say, I don't know if that

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<v Speaker 2>was the exact catalyst. I think there were a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of other factors that led to this sort of switch.

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<v Speaker 2>Family issues, you know, friend issues, just sort of my

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<v Speaker 2>whole Also, COVID had just sort of happened around the

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<v Speaker 2>same time, my whole world sort of imploded, and I

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<v Speaker 2>felt as though there was really nothing else to turn too,

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<v Speaker 2>if that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, how old are you at the time at the.

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<v Speaker 2>Time, I believe I was seventeen currently, So you were

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<v Speaker 2>still in.

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<v Speaker 1>High school when you were doing all that drugs.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it was my senior year.

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<v Speaker 3>And did you have a career plan at the time.

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<v Speaker 3>Did you have like a thing you wanted to do

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<v Speaker 3>after high school that you were either neglecting or that

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<v Speaker 3>you were doing it concurrently with the drugs.

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<v Speaker 4>Hmmm.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if there was really anything specific in mind.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if I really had a direct career path.

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<v Speaker 2>I had always been really big into I had always

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<v Speaker 2>really been big into like band. I think band was

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<v Speaker 2>the big central say, my stepdad was the band director.

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<v Speaker 2>Like band was just sort of like the center of

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<v Speaker 2>my family in a way. So it had sort of

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<v Speaker 2>been pushed on to me that I would just go

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<v Speaker 2>into music.

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<v Speaker 6>I guess.

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<v Speaker 1>And how was your relationship with your family at the time.

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<v Speaker 2>At the time, honestly awful. I had just moved out

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<v Speaker 2>of my mom's house and like completely cut ties with her,

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<v Speaker 2>moved into my dad's full time. All of my friends

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<v Speaker 2>were a year older, so they had all graduated at

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<v Speaker 2>that point. Everything was pretty rough, honestly. Oh, and my

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<v Speaker 2>mom had just like read my diary. I think that

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<v Speaker 2>was somewhat a catalyst, big breach of privacy. You know,

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<v Speaker 2>I know that sounds like such like like first world problems.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, oh my mom read my diary or whatever, But.

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<v Speaker 3>Well it's it's not that it sounds like first world problems,

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<v Speaker 3>but it is very funny in this context as you're

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<v Speaker 3>talking about all these personal things while she's in the

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<v Speaker 3>car with you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm currently walking to the beach right now. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I mean, I've been pretty straightforward with her.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I have a relationship with her.

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<v Speaker 6>Now.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you still in the car with them right now?

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, sir, I'm walking to the beach on my

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<v Speaker 2>own self.

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<v Speaker 3>But you're so you're cool enough with them. But so

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<v Speaker 3>you're cool enough with them now that they know about

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<v Speaker 3>all this. You gave your laundry list of drugs in

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<v Speaker 3>front of them, like they know everything. Were they supportive

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<v Speaker 3>of you during that time? Like were they helping you out.

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<v Speaker 2>During that time? No, I was not in contact with

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<v Speaker 2>them other than my dad, my parents, and Star divorced.

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<v Speaker 2>I was not in contact with them during that time.

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<v Speaker 2>But I think once I got clean and once I

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<v Speaker 2>got out of rehab, then I think they were just

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<v Speaker 2>more so happy that I was alive than anything else

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<v Speaker 2>and so, and they weren't the best for me either,

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<v Speaker 2>So I think it my drug use almost made it

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<v Speaker 2>even in a way, like we had both done bad things,

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<v Speaker 2>so we just kind of chose to forgive each other,

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<v Speaker 2>if that makes sense.

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<v Speaker 3>So for those three years that you were on your

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<v Speaker 3>drug venders, what were you doing?

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<v Speaker 1>Were you just living at home?

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<v Speaker 2>Partially? I was either living at my dad's house it's

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<v Speaker 2>just me and my dad. Or I was also in

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<v Speaker 2>and out of rehabs. I've been to maybe four total.

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<v Speaker 2>At first, so I'm in Virginia, but I went to

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<v Speaker 2>my first rehab was in Mississippi, and then I went

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<v Speaker 2>to California from there, and then I relapsed and then

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<v Speaker 2>uh later on, I ended up going to rehabit Maryland

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<v Speaker 2>and then back in Virginia. It's been a journey for sure.

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<v Speaker 3>What was the craziest thing you saw or experienced at

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<v Speaker 3>any of these rehabs?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? I mean, gosh, I mean besides like the sex

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<v Speaker 2>and drug use in the rehabs, I don't, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of a lot of crazy shit. Especially I

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<v Speaker 2>was freshly eighteen, fresh out of high school. Yeah, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, here's a story in Mississippi. My friends and

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<v Speaker 2>I somehow, uh some someone had to connect to a

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<v Speaker 2>plug and they got them to like put fentanyl under

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<v Speaker 2>the soles of shoes, and then they got their plug

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<v Speaker 2>to ship the box of shoes to the rehab and

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<v Speaker 2>since they were under the soles, we were just like

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<v Speaker 2>doing vent in the rehab. But I mean, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>people were just like you know, there were like horse

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<v Speaker 2>therapy centers, you know, like with like equine therapy or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>and people would go and hook up in the in

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<v Speaker 2>the bathroom stalls, in the equine barns.

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<v Speaker 1>It sounds like it smelled horrible.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it was. I was one of those people.

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<v Speaker 5>It was.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, super romantic, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>You think about it, but you had a rehab fling?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, maybe maybe a couple under my belt.

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<v Speaker 1>What's a rehab fling? What's a rehab fling.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, well, they called it fratenizing by the people who

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<v Speaker 2>run the rehab, Like they would always say no fratenizing.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd say they're pretty pretty awful overall. I mean, you're

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<v Speaker 2>both in just terrible places, Like we're spots in your life.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just looking for human connection in any way you

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<v Speaker 2>can get it. I think there's a lot of desperation

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<v Speaker 2>in places like that, and you get a bunch of

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<v Speaker 2>desperate people together and they're gonna fuck.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, but I don't go ahead, No, you go ahead.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I was just gonna say, I do look back,

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<v Speaker 2>like sometimes I wish I could go three years clean now,

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<v Speaker 2>and sometimes I wish I could go back to rehab

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<v Speaker 2>just for the camaraderie of it all.

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<v Speaker 3>I was going, you know, it's funny, I was thinking it.

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<v Speaker 3>I wasn't going to say it, but well, it's funny

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<v Speaker 3>because it once you're out of high school and college,

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<v Speaker 3>there are not a lot of I guess work if

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<v Speaker 3>if you work in an office in person around people,

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<v Speaker 3>which a lot of people don't, there's not a lot of.

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<v Speaker 1>Times where you're like.

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<v Speaker 3>Constantly in a community of other people, especially like living

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<v Speaker 3>in dorms in the same places with them, and so.

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<v Speaker 2>Why even like college, I don't think it's the same

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<v Speaker 2>type of connection you get in rehab.

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<v Speaker 3>It's right, there's also the camaraderie of everybody's at their

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<v Speaker 3>absolute lowest point. Everybody has that weird shared connection in

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<v Speaker 3>a sense.

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<v Speaker 1>So well, I get I get the I get.

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<v Speaker 3>The the conflicting feeling of I'm happy to be three

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<v Speaker 3>years clean, but I also kind of missed the community

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<v Speaker 3>of the rehab.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes sometimes like that's myself thinking, oh, maybe I can

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<v Speaker 2>just relapse, so I can I can go back to that.

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<v Speaker 2>But I'm not going to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, join a fucking sewing club or something if you.

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<v Speaker 2>Want, right, Yeah, I have to learn how to sew first.

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<v Speaker 3>But do you still talk to anybody that you met

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<v Speaker 3>and rehab, whether it was you know, just a friend

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<v Speaker 3>or or someone you fraternized with.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'd say I've kept in contact with people. Some

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<v Speaker 2>of them are dad now unfortunately, but the ones who

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<v Speaker 2>aren't I have managed to keep in good terms with.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard, though, you know, you have to watch them.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, people relapse and you got people asking you

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<v Speaker 2>for money. It's hard seeing people that you care about uh, like,

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<v Speaker 2>especially when you're clean yourself, having to see them just

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<v Speaker 2>get deeper into addiction. But yeah, I still keep in

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<v Speaker 2>contact with them. That's maybe from a distance though.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to ask if that gets complicated, if

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<v Speaker 3>you ever had to cut somebody off because you felt

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<v Speaker 3>like they were kind of, I guess, a.

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<v Speaker 1>Negative force in your healing journey.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, I mean, of course, I feel like that's unavoidable.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd say the hardest person that I've had, I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>cut them off entirely, but a good a good bit.

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<v Speaker 2>My boyfriend actually the one who introduced me to drugs,

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<v Speaker 2>He actually passed away from an overdose, and I became

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<v Speaker 2>friends with his best friend after his death, and I

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<v Speaker 2>eventually had to once I got clean, I had to

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<v Speaker 2>cut off his best friend because of it. And that

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<v Speaker 2>was really hard because that was sort of my last

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<v Speaker 2>connection to my late boyfriend, you know, on good terms.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just he's not on the the same journey as me.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell me about your life, now, what do you so?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, you're three years clean, right, you said three years?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>I just said three years.

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<v Speaker 3>Last month, you're going on family vacations, you're hanging out.

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<v Speaker 1>What's your life.

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<v Speaker 2>Like now, I'm in my last year of college. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think my I'm majoring in sociology. I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to get a job in it, or do

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<v Speaker 2>I really want to. But you know, my my parents

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<v Speaker 2>are educators. They won't think education is important. And I'm

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<v Speaker 2>trying to take an advantage of and be grateful for

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<v Speaker 2>all the opportunities I have that many other people you

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<v Speaker 2>know don't get. But I'm working as a baker. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>hoping to stick with baking, even though the patient. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm working. I'm doing school, trying to keep on good

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<v Speaker 2>terms with my family, even if it costs my sanity.

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<v Speaker 2>But I feel like it's hard to complain. Anything's better

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<v Speaker 2>than being in withdrawals or you know, grieving or like

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<v Speaker 2>like I feel like once you've gone through shit, I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like you appreciate, uh, like the more, just like

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<v Speaker 2>the average things in life a bit more. And so

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<v Speaker 2>overall I'm feeling pretty grateful, trying to remember that everything

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<v Speaker 2>you know. I my personal philosophy in life. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think everything happens for a reason. I don't think there's

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<v Speaker 2>reason to anything, but I think you can assign reason

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<v Speaker 2>to what you want to assign it to like, because

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<v Speaker 2>life is meaningless, you get to choose what has meaning.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if that makes sense, but.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely just trying to remember that.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, before we go, can you tell me I liked

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<v Speaker 3>what you said about how things being shitty makes you

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<v Speaker 3>really grateful and appreciative for the average things, because like,

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<v Speaker 3>I think about that sometimes. I think about how like

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<v Speaker 3>the average things are like kind of like the most

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<v Speaker 3>of what we have, because it's most of our life

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<v Speaker 3>is you know, stopping at stop signs and you know,

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<v Speaker 3>taking shits and walking average stuff. What are some of

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<v Speaker 3>the average things that you found yourself being being particularly

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<v Speaker 3>grateful for.

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<v Speaker 2>H that's a good question, Lyle. You know, please to

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<v Speaker 2>rest my head at night. Over my head. I like

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<v Speaker 2>going by the creek near my apartment, and you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I just look at the water. I think seeing the

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<v Speaker 2>leaves change is a really nice reminder of just the

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<v Speaker 2>finiteness of life. I guess, you know, I personally, I

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<v Speaker 2>used to be really suicidal. I mean that's kind of

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<v Speaker 2>how you get into drug use, is being suicidal or

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<v Speaker 2>not or not just caring about your life. And I

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<v Speaker 2>think now, uh, I feel very grateful to still be here.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I find a lot of beauty and in life,

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<v Speaker 2>just like the stars in the sky I'm looking looking

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<v Speaker 2>at the stars right now, or like the water, the

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<v Speaker 2>waves crashing next to me. You know, I think for

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<v Speaker 2>a long time I didn't see a point in life,

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<v Speaker 2>and now I think I've come to terms that maybe,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, maybe there isn't a point to life, and

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<v Speaker 2>that's that's okay. I'm okay with that. I'm okay with

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<v Speaker 2>just existing, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Sam, thanks so much for talking to us about all

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<v Speaker 1>this stuff. Is there anything else? Who I say to

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<v Speaker 1>the people of the computer before we go.

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<v Speaker 5>I.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't know. I'm just just happy to be here. And

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<v Speaker 2>you don't have to have a reason to keep living.

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<v Speaker 2>You can just live and you don't. You don't need

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<v Speaker 2>a reason for it. You don't need a reason to exist,

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<v Speaker 2>you know.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, Yeah, I guess.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, I guess that's what dogs kind of do,

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<v Speaker 3>and they seem pretty Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd love to be a cat. I think I should

0:21:55.080 --> 0:21:57.040
<v Speaker 2>have been born as a cat. They just get to

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<v Speaker 2>sleep and ship all day and they don't have to

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<v Speaker 2>pay bills.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, tell your parents, I said, what's up? I don't

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<v Speaker 3>know if they know By that you're that you're talking.

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<v Speaker 6>Oh yeah, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>When you called, I said, I said, what if this

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<v Speaker 2>is the get go? My brother gave me a headshake,

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<v Speaker 2>he said, no, no way, it's him. But my my

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<v Speaker 2>parents do not know.

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<v Speaker 1>If your existence tell your brother to eat my ship.

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<v Speaker 2>Dude, all right, I will do it.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you, Sam, good luck, and uh, don't do PCP

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<v Speaker 3>kuds unless I guess worked out for you.

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<v Speaker 2>But right not an endorsement for PCP. It may have

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<v Speaker 2>worked out for me, I guarantee you it will not

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<v Speaker 2>work out for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Thanks for calling Sam.

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<v Speaker 2>Anytime, Have a good night, lole you bye.

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<v Speaker 1>I really liked that call.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been talking about this a lot on the podcast,

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<v Speaker 3>and I guess just in general, h I think a

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<v Speaker 3>lot about kind of you know, as I do this podcast.

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<v Speaker 3>I've been doing it for about almost four years now,

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<v Speaker 3>and I've struggled to answer the question of, like, what

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<v Speaker 3>have I learned from talking to so many people because

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<v Speaker 3>I just kind of have been like doing it repeatedly

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<v Speaker 3>so much that everything just kind of goes in and

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<v Speaker 3>out and I'm just like focused on the like work

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<v Speaker 3>of doing it that I guess I don't internalize it

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<v Speaker 3>as much and so I've finally come to one of

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<v Speaker 3>the many answers to that question, which is that, like

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<v Speaker 3>a lot of life seems to me to be about perspective,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, because you think about Sam and the way

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<v Speaker 3>she was talking, you know, the things that seem as

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<v Speaker 3>though they make her life great is just this perspective

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<v Speaker 3>she has that.

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<v Speaker 1>Life as she lives it currently is enough and good.

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<v Speaker 1>And I like that. And then you got guy.

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<v Speaker 3>Then you know, you got a caller who's like, I

0:24:06.440 --> 0:24:10.520
<v Speaker 3>am upset because I could have made a lot of

0:24:10.560 --> 0:24:12.960
<v Speaker 3>money in bitcoin, but I didn't, and.

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<v Speaker 1>So now I'm pissed.

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<v Speaker 3>And it's like, well, you can have so much and

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<v Speaker 3>be miserable and not have a lot and be happy.

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<v Speaker 3>And you can also you can also go outside, and

0:24:30.800 --> 0:24:34.200
<v Speaker 3>you can also go outside and go ah anytime you want.

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<v Speaker 3>That is that is something that you, as a human

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<v Speaker 3>being or endowed with the right to do. Okay, all right,

0:24:45.000 --> 0:24:48.480
<v Speaker 3>that's enough motivational stuff out of me. I gotta say

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<v Speaker 3>something crazy to counteract the wholesome motivation.

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<v Speaker 5>What do I say?

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<v Speaker 1>I gotta see something crazy?

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<v Speaker 5>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay? We did it.

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<v Speaker 5>All from Hello, Hello, Hey, what's up? Can you hear me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Tell you what's going on? What's your what's what's up?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, man, I just I would call in.

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<v Speaker 5>I try, and this is my first time and I

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<v Speaker 5>can't believe I got through.

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<v Speaker 1>What's your life? Like, Zach?

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know, man, I'm a pizza man. I delivered pizzas.

0:25:30.840 --> 0:25:34.919
<v Speaker 5>I do some serving. I live in a house that

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<v Speaker 5>my parents own, I rented with my girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>Do you like life?

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<v Speaker 5>Man? I don't want. I would think a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you ever think?

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<v Speaker 5>But hmm, man, time be moving fast, dog sure does.

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<v Speaker 5>And I don't know. I think about like how I'm

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<v Speaker 5>getting older and like everything else is like of course

0:25:58.520 --> 0:26:03.120
<v Speaker 5>getting older, but like I don't know, like you ever

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<v Speaker 5>think about like I don't know how phrase is? I

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<v Speaker 5>guess I do. I'm just like I'm on the spot.

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<v Speaker 5>So I'm a little nervous.

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<v Speaker 1>Take your time, Take your time.

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<v Speaker 5>So like the other day, you ever seen that movie

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<v Speaker 5>called Supersize Me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 5>That the main dude, like the main guy, I forget

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<v Speaker 5>his name. I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Okay, you want to hear something. You want to

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<v Speaker 3>hear something crazy and I don't want to. I don't

0:26:25.880 --> 0:26:28.560
<v Speaker 3>mean to intercept your story, but uh yeah, So the

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<v Speaker 3>main guy from Supersize Me died.

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<v Speaker 1>His name was Mergan Spurlock. I also had a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit of.

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<v Speaker 3>An existential crisis when I saw that he died, because

0:26:36.720 --> 0:26:38.040
<v Speaker 3>he was only fifty.

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<v Speaker 1>Three, and I was like, damn, dude, you can just die.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that what you were going to say?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? Yeah, dude, like that.

0:26:44.600 --> 0:26:47.040
<v Speaker 3>That's exactly I literally was feeling exactly what you were

0:26:47.040 --> 0:26:48.920
<v Speaker 3>feeling yesterday when I saw that he died.

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<v Speaker 5>Dude, that makes me feel like so much better to

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<v Speaker 5>know that I'm not like on like some weird different

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<v Speaker 5>viewpoint than other people.

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<v Speaker 3>No, No, because that's the ultimate wake up call, is like, oh, yeah,

0:27:04.040 --> 0:27:11.480
<v Speaker 3>you're gonna die. In fact, I almost think and it's

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<v Speaker 3>kind of impossible because it's weird.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, are you familiar with the phrase memento mori?

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<v Speaker 3>No, It means remembering death and just remembering your own

0:27:23.920 --> 0:27:27.199
<v Speaker 3>mortality or remembering you're gonna die. And some people have

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<v Speaker 3>this philosophy that the knowledge of your own death should

0:27:32.960 --> 0:27:37.520
<v Speaker 3>be a daily thing to be thinking about and that

0:27:37.600 --> 0:27:38.960
<v Speaker 3>it should have.

0:27:38.920 --> 0:27:44.080
<v Speaker 1>A really, really, really strong hand in influencing your decisions.

0:27:44.800 --> 0:27:47.959
<v Speaker 3>And it's interesting because some people do that, but in

0:27:48.000 --> 0:27:49.960
<v Speaker 3>such a way that gives them a ton of anxiety.

0:27:50.640 --> 0:27:52.640
<v Speaker 3>But really the idea is you do that in such

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<v Speaker 3>a way that is empowering to you and prevents you

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<v Speaker 3>from wasting time and influences your decisions such that you're

0:28:03.600 --> 0:28:10.359
<v Speaker 3>prioritizing things that actually matter because you're gonna fucking die.

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<v Speaker 5>M that's a lot to lay on me. I ain't

0:28:15.440 --> 0:28:16.080
<v Speaker 5>gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 3>Tell me what your experience has been with that. Okay,

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<v Speaker 3>so yesterday you saw you went on Reddit, you saw

0:28:23.119 --> 0:28:26.040
<v Speaker 3>Morgan Spurlock died. You were like, oh shit, that guy

0:28:26.119 --> 0:28:29.600
<v Speaker 3>was here and now he's not, and now I'm gonna

0:28:29.640 --> 0:28:31.640
<v Speaker 3>not be here too. What was going through your brain?

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<v Speaker 3>Tell me you're telling about your existential thoughts.

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<v Speaker 5>Man, So like, I've been having a lot of that, honestly,

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<v Speaker 5>of like, because I feel like a lot of like

0:28:41.120 --> 0:28:43.880
<v Speaker 5>people I grew up watching have recently passed away in

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<v Speaker 5>a few years, the last couple of years, and my

0:28:46.880 --> 0:28:51.280
<v Speaker 5>christis is like, like, shit, man, I'm getting old. Like, Man,

0:28:51.320 --> 0:28:52.880
<v Speaker 5>I'll be honest with you, I'm only twenty two. I

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<v Speaker 5>know that I ain't old, like I'm I'm like self

0:28:55.600 --> 0:28:58.040
<v Speaker 5>aware enough to know like I ain't old, like I

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<v Speaker 5>got time and everything. But it's still be like affecting

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<v Speaker 5>me in some ways because like I got family that's old, man,

0:29:07.000 --> 0:29:09.440
<v Speaker 5>and it makes me worry, you know, it makes me think, like, man,

0:29:09.480 --> 0:29:11.360
<v Speaker 5>I gotta spend as much time with them. I gotta

0:29:11.400 --> 0:29:15.960
<v Speaker 5>do this and that butts so like way on someone, m.

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<v Speaker 1>Hmm, what do you want to do before you die?

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<v Speaker 5>Man? I'm gonna be honest, there ain't much really, Like

0:29:25.840 --> 0:29:28.320
<v Speaker 5>I got a decent place, I got a good girlfriend.

0:29:28.760 --> 0:29:30.520
<v Speaker 5>Family's pretty cool most of the time.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, dude, Yeah, that's amazing. That's great. You

0:29:38.760 --> 0:29:40.760
<v Speaker 1>sound like you're you sound like you're living the dream.

0:29:42.600 --> 0:29:44.040
<v Speaker 5>I think I am at the end of the day.

0:29:44.600 --> 0:29:47.520
<v Speaker 5>But then you know, shit happened throughout the day and

0:29:47.560 --> 0:29:53.400
<v Speaker 5>I just I get into it. Like what, man, I

0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:56.920
<v Speaker 5>worked at a pizza place and I actually text you

0:29:56.920 --> 0:29:59.120
<v Speaker 5>about this, but I didn't like specify who I was.

0:29:59.240 --> 0:30:03.360
<v Speaker 5>But I serve at this pizza place, like it's more

0:30:03.400 --> 0:30:06.360
<v Speaker 5>like a restaurant than like just to like come in,

0:30:06.440 --> 0:30:10.320
<v Speaker 5>grab a pizza and go. And the night before, you know,

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:13.600
<v Speaker 5>I tried this edible and I guess I took too much,

0:30:14.000 --> 0:30:16.640
<v Speaker 5>so like I was all fucked up all throughout the night.

0:30:16.800 --> 0:30:18.960
<v Speaker 5>Thought I was gonna die because you know, I was

0:30:18.960 --> 0:30:22.120
<v Speaker 5>getting sick throughout must of the night. And then the next day,

0:30:22.200 --> 0:30:24.480
<v Speaker 5>like I slept the entire day until it's time to

0:30:24.520 --> 0:30:27.880
<v Speaker 5>go to work. I get to working, man, and there's

0:30:27.960 --> 0:30:29.600
<v Speaker 5>like a line of people just wait in the door

0:30:29.680 --> 0:30:34.360
<v Speaker 5>until we open, and it's my high school teachers. And

0:30:34.440 --> 0:30:36.920
<v Speaker 5>I got served that day and I'm still like fucked up,

0:30:37.400 --> 0:30:41.200
<v Speaker 5>and just that entire situation. Man, I was like on

0:30:41.280 --> 0:30:44.000
<v Speaker 5>the brink of just like having a panic attack because

0:30:44.120 --> 0:30:49.360
<v Speaker 5>like that's a lot. I don't even know where to

0:30:49.360 --> 0:30:53.320
<v Speaker 5>like go from here to They're like I'm I'm taking pizzas,

0:30:53.360 --> 0:30:57.040
<v Speaker 5>I'm swinging out some water to people. I got collect

0:30:57.080 --> 0:30:59.360
<v Speaker 5>and clean the tables because like we don't even have

0:30:59.400 --> 0:31:01.200
<v Speaker 5>like bussers, Like I'd got to clean the tables.

0:31:01.240 --> 0:31:03.240
<v Speaker 1>I gotta do the dishes, like and you're all doing

0:31:03.240 --> 0:31:05.400
<v Speaker 1>this while you're like tweaking out on edible.

0:31:06.880 --> 0:31:09.720
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, man, no, like and I'm like, dude, that stuff

0:31:09.760 --> 0:31:12.120
<v Speaker 5>like that's not usual for me. Like I felt really bad,

0:31:12.200 --> 0:31:15.680
<v Speaker 5>Like I get paranoia that like, oh, this person knew

0:31:15.720 --> 0:31:18.800
<v Speaker 5>that I was messed up. This person does my parents? Dude?

0:31:18.880 --> 0:31:24.000
<v Speaker 1>So then so did did did your did this?

0:31:24.440 --> 0:31:27.400
<v Speaker 3>Cause the death anxiety that you were you were just

0:31:27.440 --> 0:31:29.440
<v Speaker 3>talking about.

0:31:29.840 --> 0:31:32.680
<v Speaker 5>Honestly, it made it worse. But like, I've had that

0:31:32.760 --> 0:31:34.960
<v Speaker 5>since I was a child. Like my mom's always brought

0:31:35.040 --> 0:31:36.400
<v Speaker 5>up how I was scared of death when I was

0:31:36.440 --> 0:31:38.480
<v Speaker 5>growing up. It's just been a common thing.

0:31:38.840 --> 0:31:40.600
<v Speaker 1>So tell me why. I guess.

0:31:41.880 --> 0:31:45.800
<v Speaker 3>So, I don't know if you were to make your

0:31:45.840 --> 0:31:50.280
<v Speaker 3>decisions based on the fact that you are going to die,

0:31:51.000 --> 0:31:52.240
<v Speaker 3>would you change anything?

0:31:54.400 --> 0:31:57.280
<v Speaker 5>Like what do you mean what decisions?

0:31:57.320 --> 0:32:01.520
<v Speaker 1>Just like just fucking life decisions, manh Dude.

0:32:01.600 --> 0:32:03.840
<v Speaker 5>Everyone's got things that they go back and they think,

0:32:04.040 --> 0:32:06.120
<v Speaker 5>like maybe I would want to change a little bit

0:32:06.160 --> 0:32:08.239
<v Speaker 5>here and there, no matter how perfect their life is,

0:32:08.720 --> 0:32:09.920
<v Speaker 5>just like a what is anario?

0:32:10.360 --> 0:32:14.920
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah for sure. Well also, you're still like, fuck man,

0:32:14.960 --> 0:32:17.640
<v Speaker 1>you're still super young. But I mean, I give what

0:32:17.680 --> 0:32:17.920
<v Speaker 1>you mean.

0:32:18.000 --> 0:32:21.760
<v Speaker 3>I feel uh actually lately I felt very very young,

0:32:21.920 --> 0:32:24.000
<v Speaker 3>But I have I've had a lot of fucking times

0:32:24.000 --> 0:32:28.040
<v Speaker 3>when I was like, like, I I'll read my journal

0:32:28.120 --> 0:32:30.720
<v Speaker 3>sometimes I have something in my journal where I was

0:32:30.720 --> 0:32:32.720
<v Speaker 3>talking about like, you know, I'm twenty four years old,

0:32:32.760 --> 0:32:33.640
<v Speaker 3>but I feel dead.

0:32:34.360 --> 0:32:38.320
<v Speaker 1>You know, I feel old. Uh, But I actually lately

0:32:38.320 --> 0:32:44.360
<v Speaker 1>I've been feeling pretty young. Do you do you feel old?

0:32:45.800 --> 0:32:47.040
<v Speaker 6>So you're I feel old?

0:32:47.480 --> 0:32:49.080
<v Speaker 1>Why do you tell me? How do you feel old?

0:32:50.720 --> 0:32:54.640
<v Speaker 5>Dude? Man? It's because like you already sit there and

0:32:54.720 --> 0:32:57.280
<v Speaker 5>think about how like you brought up that guy from

0:32:57.360 --> 0:32:59.200
<v Speaker 5>Supersize me and how he passed away and he was

0:32:59.240 --> 0:33:01.840
<v Speaker 5>only like fifty three, you said, I think, and you know,

0:33:01.880 --> 0:33:04.520
<v Speaker 5>that just shows me how short time can be depending

0:33:04.560 --> 0:33:06.800
<v Speaker 5>on what you do. But sometimes life just sneaks up

0:33:06.800 --> 0:33:08.760
<v Speaker 5>on you and throws you a hail Mary, you know, like,

0:33:08.840 --> 0:33:10.840
<v Speaker 5>and you don't know what to do with that. And

0:33:11.160 --> 0:33:14.360
<v Speaker 5>I guess I feel old because like people are passing

0:33:14.360 --> 0:33:18.400
<v Speaker 5>away that I know, you know, actors, actresses, people close

0:33:18.440 --> 0:33:21.440
<v Speaker 5>to me, you know whatever, and like things are becoming

0:33:21.440 --> 0:33:23.520
<v Speaker 5>outdated that were cool to me. Like I got a

0:33:23.560 --> 0:33:26.240
<v Speaker 5>guy that's like sixty years younger than me at work.

0:33:26.880 --> 0:33:28.880
<v Speaker 5>And I made a joke about this video game. I

0:33:28.880 --> 0:33:31.520
<v Speaker 5>don't know if you ever played Sandy Blade on the

0:33:31.800 --> 0:33:33.479
<v Speaker 5>on your phone. It was a mobile game with like

0:33:33.520 --> 0:33:35.920
<v Speaker 5>splashing if your like fruit Ninja, but it was like

0:33:35.960 --> 0:33:40.080
<v Speaker 5>a night dude, that game was lit. Oh you're missing out,

0:33:40.200 --> 0:33:42.680
<v Speaker 5>But that's besides the point. I brought that up in

0:33:42.720 --> 0:33:45.680
<v Speaker 5>a joke as a conversation he just like had no idea,

0:33:45.920 --> 0:33:49.600
<v Speaker 5>and that like huge disconnect made me think about, Man,

0:33:49.920 --> 0:33:52.360
<v Speaker 5>what else don't you know? Dude? Like what There's just

0:33:52.400 --> 0:33:55.560
<v Speaker 5>so much stuff that happens, like in history and time,

0:33:55.720 --> 0:33:59.760
<v Speaker 5>Like there's so much going on it, time's constantly moving.

0:34:00.680 --> 0:34:05.000
<v Speaker 5>You can never like fully grasp that. I guess, do.

0:34:05.000 --> 0:34:10.640
<v Speaker 1>You well, I don't know. Yeah, it's weird. It's a

0:34:10.680 --> 0:34:13.600
<v Speaker 1>weird thing. I kind of.

0:34:17.280 --> 0:34:21.440
<v Speaker 3>There's something about when you graduate from the system of

0:34:22.320 --> 0:34:24.919
<v Speaker 3>high school and college where you get to a point

0:34:24.920 --> 0:34:28.680
<v Speaker 3>where nobody's telling you what to do anymore, and the

0:34:28.719 --> 0:34:32.160
<v Speaker 3>age of which you reach that point, it then becomes

0:34:32.280 --> 0:34:35.279
<v Speaker 3>like that for the rest of your entire life, and

0:34:35.320 --> 0:34:37.280
<v Speaker 3>you're like, damn, for the rest of my life, nobody's

0:34:37.320 --> 0:34:39.160
<v Speaker 3>ever going to be telling me what to do anymore,

0:34:39.360 --> 0:34:45.680
<v Speaker 3>and I have to make my own decisions and guide myself.

0:34:45.760 --> 0:34:50.000
<v Speaker 3>And you know, ideally you have you know, people, and

0:34:50.400 --> 0:34:54.960
<v Speaker 3>I guess certain certain things guide you, but ultimately you're

0:34:55.680 --> 0:34:58.200
<v Speaker 3>signing off on it all.

0:34:58.320 --> 0:35:03.920
<v Speaker 1>So I don't know. Welco, what's your favorite flavor of pizza?

0:35:04.200 --> 0:35:05.520
<v Speaker 1>What's your favorite pizza topping?

0:35:07.160 --> 0:35:10.640
<v Speaker 5>Dude, give me a ranch pepperoni with some banana peppers.

0:35:11.040 --> 0:35:13.120
<v Speaker 1>What the fuck banana peppers.

0:35:13.560 --> 0:35:16.400
<v Speaker 5>Well, hang on, hang on, hang on, hang on. You

0:35:16.440 --> 0:35:18.719
<v Speaker 5>like you never have banana peppers on your pizza.

0:35:19.080 --> 0:35:20.200
<v Speaker 1>I'm not a pepper guy.

0:35:20.480 --> 0:35:26.400
<v Speaker 5>No, not really nor so I'll tell you this.

0:35:26.600 --> 0:35:30.320
<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you this. You mentioned Ranch. I love Ranch.

0:35:31.760 --> 0:35:35.640
<v Speaker 3>Uh, Barbie, what do you feel about? How do you

0:35:35.640 --> 0:35:37.240
<v Speaker 3>feel about barbecue chicken pizza?

0:35:38.920 --> 0:35:41.600
<v Speaker 5>Hey, give me a barbecue chicken bacon pizza.

0:35:42.560 --> 0:35:42.719
<v Speaker 1>Yo?

0:35:45.520 --> 0:35:47.040
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that sounds good. You about to get one?

0:35:47.600 --> 0:35:50.080
<v Speaker 1>Do you like? Can you tell can you tell me

0:35:50.120 --> 0:35:50.680
<v Speaker 1>if this is weird?

0:35:50.680 --> 0:35:51.200
<v Speaker 5>This is uh?

0:35:51.680 --> 0:35:54.040
<v Speaker 1>This is one of my big quirks. It's one of

0:35:54.040 --> 0:35:56.759
<v Speaker 1>my big idiosyncrasies. Is uh.

0:35:57.120 --> 0:36:01.840
<v Speaker 3>Anytime I go to a pizza the slice place, you

0:36:01.880 --> 0:36:05.280
<v Speaker 3>know how when you get your slice of pizza, they'll

0:36:05.320 --> 0:36:06.320
<v Speaker 3>take it and they'll put.

0:36:06.200 --> 0:36:07.520
<v Speaker 1>It in the oven to heat it up.

0:36:08.920 --> 0:36:09.160
<v Speaker 5>Right.

0:36:09.280 --> 0:36:12.080
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I always tell them not to do that, and

0:36:12.120 --> 0:36:15.640
<v Speaker 3>I just want it as is like a little cold.

0:36:16.680 --> 0:36:18.439
<v Speaker 5>You like that lukewarm pizza? Yeah?

0:36:18.440 --> 0:36:20.360
<v Speaker 3>I like it when it's lukewarm, because here's always happens.

0:36:20.360 --> 0:36:22.600
<v Speaker 3>They put it in the oven and then when it

0:36:22.640 --> 0:36:25.719
<v Speaker 3>comes out, it's way too hot to eat and the

0:36:25.840 --> 0:36:28.120
<v Speaker 3>cheese is so hot that you can't even really taste

0:36:28.160 --> 0:36:31.040
<v Speaker 3>the cheese because you're just tasting fucking burning, and the

0:36:31.040 --> 0:36:36.840
<v Speaker 3>oil gets all uh dense, and it's just more greasy,

0:36:37.080 --> 0:36:41.560
<v Speaker 3>and it it's hot, and the crust is so crispy

0:36:41.680 --> 0:36:44.320
<v Speaker 3>and thin that you can't even chew on it and

0:36:44.400 --> 0:36:47.319
<v Speaker 3>enjoy like a chewy piece of pizza. So I always

0:36:47.320 --> 0:36:50.880
<v Speaker 3>tell them not to not to heat it up. Sometimes

0:36:51.160 --> 0:36:54.120
<v Speaker 3>I overshoot and the pizza is a little too cold.

0:36:54.120 --> 0:36:55.920
<v Speaker 3>It's like it's been in the fridge. I don't like that,

0:36:56.000 --> 0:36:59.839
<v Speaker 3>But I like when it's uh lukewarm. Sometimes you get

0:36:59.840 --> 0:37:01.400
<v Speaker 3>it right of the perfect.

0:37:02.160 --> 0:37:03.319
<v Speaker 1>Temperature, you know.

0:37:04.160 --> 0:37:06.160
<v Speaker 3>But when you order pizza at a restaurant, sounds like

0:37:06.160 --> 0:37:09.200
<v Speaker 3>you're more at a restaurant place. They always send it

0:37:09.239 --> 0:37:10.080
<v Speaker 3>to you fresh.

0:37:10.760 --> 0:37:12.000
<v Speaker 1>But that can be good too.

0:37:12.239 --> 0:37:15.160
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, what's your go to pizza?

0:37:20.480 --> 0:37:24.200
<v Speaker 3>Uh, I'm gonna say, I'll get a Here's what I'll

0:37:24.239 --> 0:37:26.239
<v Speaker 3>usually do. I'll get a slice of regular and then

0:37:26.280 --> 0:37:30.880
<v Speaker 3>a slice of something crazy. So I'll do one slice

0:37:30.920 --> 0:37:35.000
<v Speaker 3>of cheese as like a backup, as like a just

0:37:35.000 --> 0:37:37.520
<v Speaker 3>in case if all else fails, we still got this one.

0:37:37.560 --> 0:37:40.680
<v Speaker 3>And then I'll do like, you know, either a chicken

0:37:40.719 --> 0:37:44.319
<v Speaker 3>bacon ranch or I want there's just one place they.

0:37:44.239 --> 0:37:45.560
<v Speaker 1>Have spaghetti pizza.

0:37:46.080 --> 0:37:47.640
<v Speaker 3>They just put a bunch of They just fill a

0:37:47.680 --> 0:37:49.400
<v Speaker 3>fucking pie crust with spaghetti.

0:37:50.520 --> 0:37:52.600
<v Speaker 1>All I try that, So I'll.

0:37:52.440 --> 0:37:52.799
<v Speaker 5>Do one.

0:37:54.280 --> 0:37:57.560
<v Speaker 1>Right now, dog, Yeah, what's your favorite spaghetti?

0:37:58.680 --> 0:38:00.480
<v Speaker 5>No, you can't be talking to me about that right

0:38:00.520 --> 0:38:02.600
<v Speaker 5>now that I can't about spaghetti.

0:38:03.200 --> 0:38:04.600
<v Speaker 1>You got on?

0:38:05.520 --> 0:38:07.840
<v Speaker 5>Yeah yeah that night that like that that night before

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:10.160
<v Speaker 5>I served. That's why I got sick on. Like my

0:38:10.239 --> 0:38:13.160
<v Speaker 5>girlfriend was up like in the bathroom me like helped

0:38:13.239 --> 0:38:14.800
<v Speaker 5>me out, Like I'm a die dog.

0:38:16.440 --> 0:38:17.480
<v Speaker 1>Because you ate spaghetti.

0:38:18.880 --> 0:38:22.800
<v Speaker 5>Look I so like I took them. We ate like dude.

0:38:23.120 --> 0:38:26.279
<v Speaker 5>She she said, man, this She said, man, this is

0:38:26.320 --> 0:38:27.839
<v Speaker 5>a lot. And I said, yeah, that was a lot.

0:38:27.880 --> 0:38:30.319
<v Speaker 5>And she looked over and within like two seconds my

0:38:30.360 --> 0:38:33.680
<v Speaker 5>bowl was completely empty. Meatballs, garg cheese, bread, all of it.

0:38:33.719 --> 0:38:37.080
<v Speaker 5>Like I'm notoriously a fast eater. And then probably an

0:38:37.080 --> 0:38:40.920
<v Speaker 5>hour later, after washing Cody agent Cody Banks, I was

0:38:40.960 --> 0:38:43.200
<v Speaker 5>in the I was in the bathroom letting all loose.

0:38:45.800 --> 0:38:48.640
<v Speaker 1>I thought it was because you got high.

0:38:48.760 --> 0:38:51.640
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, like I got I got high. But like I

0:38:51.680 --> 0:38:53.879
<v Speaker 5>get when I get too high, I get like motion stick,

0:38:54.080 --> 0:38:56.560
<v Speaker 5>which makes me you know, bomb and stuff.

0:38:56.600 --> 0:38:56.799
<v Speaker 4>You know.

0:38:58.800 --> 0:39:02.799
<v Speaker 3>Sometimes I'll be eating and this is this ties back

0:39:02.840 --> 0:39:06.200
<v Speaker 3>into what we were talking about. A lot of the

0:39:06.200 --> 0:39:11.400
<v Speaker 3>time recently, I'll be eating my perfectly lukewarm slice of

0:39:11.440 --> 0:39:15.759
<v Speaker 3>pizza on a stoop outside of the pizza place, or

0:39:15.840 --> 0:39:18.279
<v Speaker 3>just like kind of standing on the sidewalk outside of

0:39:18.320 --> 0:39:21.480
<v Speaker 3>the pizza place, and I'm looking around, and I am like,

0:39:22.280 --> 0:39:26.080
<v Speaker 3>I think this is it, you know, Like I like

0:39:26.480 --> 0:39:29.759
<v Speaker 3>sometimes I'm like, I'm you kind feel like you're on

0:39:29.800 --> 0:39:36.120
<v Speaker 3>a search for like what's the best version of life

0:39:36.280 --> 0:39:39.440
<v Speaker 3>or what's like the real important stuff.

0:39:39.440 --> 0:39:41.280
<v Speaker 1>It's like, I think that's it. I think that's good.

0:39:41.400 --> 0:39:44.840
<v Speaker 1>That's good stuff right there. It's eating a slice of pizza.

0:39:46.040 --> 0:39:46.239
<v Speaker 5>You know.

0:39:46.360 --> 0:39:49.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm kind of like I could die right now just

0:39:49.080 --> 0:39:54.480
<v Speaker 1>eating nothing matters except the slice of lukewarm pizza.

0:39:54.880 --> 0:39:56.799
<v Speaker 5>You do anchovies on your pizza? No?

0:39:56.840 --> 0:40:00.399
<v Speaker 3>I hate ancho Well, actually, you know what, honestly, never them,

0:40:00.800 --> 0:40:01.640
<v Speaker 3>never tried them before.

0:40:01.680 --> 0:40:03.879
<v Speaker 5>All right, we're good, then we're good.

0:40:04.880 --> 0:40:06.040
<v Speaker 1>Should I try anchoviies?

0:40:07.080 --> 0:40:07.120
<v Speaker 4>No?

0:40:07.440 --> 0:40:09.800
<v Speaker 5>No, Like, we don't serve anchovies in my place.

0:40:10.360 --> 0:40:12.160
<v Speaker 3>Actually, I think I tried them at some I don't

0:40:12.200 --> 0:40:13.520
<v Speaker 3>know why I was in someplace.

0:40:13.600 --> 0:40:16.719
<v Speaker 1>I must have had them. But how do you think

0:40:16.719 --> 0:40:18.080
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna die? What do you think? Do you think

0:40:18.080 --> 0:40:19.000
<v Speaker 1>you're gonna get killed?

0:40:20.880 --> 0:40:24.160
<v Speaker 5>Man, I don't know. All my family's got like cancer.

0:40:24.960 --> 0:40:27.120
<v Speaker 5>I don't know if that stuff like can just I

0:40:27.120 --> 0:40:29.560
<v Speaker 5>don't know, like how that's not really work out. But

0:40:29.960 --> 0:40:32.160
<v Speaker 5>I've been getting nervous about that stuff. But I think

0:40:32.200 --> 0:40:35.279
<v Speaker 5>I got Chris seventy eight years in me. Yeah, I'm

0:40:35.280 --> 0:40:36.239
<v Speaker 5>just piecing.

0:40:35.960 --> 0:40:38.399
<v Speaker 1>Out seventy eight years. That's a good run.

0:40:40.280 --> 0:40:44.239
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I feel like solid fifty three.

0:40:44.320 --> 0:40:46.399
<v Speaker 1>Man, God damn, I swear to guy, it's so funny

0:40:46.400 --> 0:40:47.879
<v Speaker 1>you're bringing this up. I thought the same thing.

0:40:50.000 --> 0:40:51.360
<v Speaker 5>See that dog died too.

0:40:52.120 --> 0:40:56.279
<v Speaker 1>Oh the dog. Well, dogs die all the time. Huh

0:40:57.480 --> 0:40:59.719
<v Speaker 1>yeah the dog, Yeah, the dog died. I remember, Yeah,

0:40:59.719 --> 0:41:01.000
<v Speaker 1>the dog, the doge dog.

0:41:02.239 --> 0:41:03.439
<v Speaker 5>Yeah, that old.

0:41:03.760 --> 0:41:05.520
<v Speaker 1>How old was the dose dog when he died?

0:41:06.440 --> 0:41:08.480
<v Speaker 5>Eighteen eighteen.

0:41:08.560 --> 0:41:10.960
<v Speaker 1>That's a ripe old age for a dog.

0:41:11.440 --> 0:41:15.399
<v Speaker 3>I think most dogs, like, if you're lucky, you get

0:41:15.400 --> 0:41:19.520
<v Speaker 3>thirteen years. That's how much a Golden Retriever gets, thirteen

0:41:24.800 --> 0:41:27.360
<v Speaker 3>seventy seventy eight. So I mean it's good. I'd like

0:41:27.440 --> 0:41:29.400
<v Speaker 3>to do eighty. I think if I can do eighty,

0:41:29.520 --> 0:41:30.520
<v Speaker 3>that'd be pretty sweet.

0:41:31.719 --> 0:41:33.560
<v Speaker 5>You want to be doing this until you're eighty like

0:41:33.640 --> 0:41:34.200
<v Speaker 5>taking a call.

0:41:34.719 --> 0:41:36.840
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I'm probably not gonna be doing this

0:41:36.880 --> 0:41:40.600
<v Speaker 1>when I'm eighty years old. I don't think. I don't know.

0:41:40.760 --> 0:41:42.640
<v Speaker 3>I know I want to be doing I want to

0:41:42.680 --> 0:41:46.839
<v Speaker 3>do something interesting my entire life. I think what I'm

0:41:46.880 --> 0:41:49.879
<v Speaker 3>doing now is pretty interesting. So something as I'm doing

0:41:49.920 --> 0:41:53.279
<v Speaker 3>something interesting that's cool with me, Whether or not that

0:41:53.400 --> 0:41:57.200
<v Speaker 3>involves being a gecko and talking to people on the phone, do.

0:41:57.200 --> 0:42:01.439
<v Speaker 5>A live interview while skydiving, that would act. No.

0:42:01.440 --> 0:42:03.919
<v Speaker 3>No, I don't like doing No, I'm not into shit

0:42:04.200 --> 0:42:08.640
<v Speaker 3>where I don't I'm not into like extreme sports. I

0:42:08.640 --> 0:42:10.839
<v Speaker 3>don't have any interest in bungee jumping or jumping out

0:42:10.880 --> 0:42:12.959
<v Speaker 3>of a plane or any of that shit.

0:42:14.160 --> 0:42:15.560
<v Speaker 5>Are you in the skies right now?

0:42:17.280 --> 0:42:18.040
<v Speaker 1>You got me there?

0:42:22.320 --> 0:42:22.560
<v Speaker 5>Why?

0:42:23.160 --> 0:42:24.839
<v Speaker 1>No, I'll probably just get cancer and die.

0:42:27.080 --> 0:42:28.280
<v Speaker 5>Don't put it that way.

0:42:28.480 --> 0:42:30.279
<v Speaker 3>What do you mean that's that's the bat. I mean

0:42:30.520 --> 0:42:33.640
<v Speaker 3>it's way better than a skydiving accent. Skydiving accents, that's horrible.

0:42:34.400 --> 0:42:35.200
<v Speaker 3>Give me cancer?

0:42:36.239 --> 0:42:38.160
<v Speaker 5>Hey, were you using that make a wish on it? Then?

0:42:39.000 --> 0:42:41.480
<v Speaker 1>What I'm using my that's a great question. Actually, why

0:42:41.520 --> 0:42:46.000
<v Speaker 1>would you use your make a wish? If I was fourth?

0:42:46.760 --> 0:42:50.480
<v Speaker 3>Like I think most make a wish stuff is for

0:42:50.600 --> 0:42:53.200
<v Speaker 3>like kids, and I was thinking if I was fourteen

0:42:53.239 --> 0:42:56.319
<v Speaker 3>and I had cancer, my wish would probably be to

0:42:56.320 --> 0:43:02.960
<v Speaker 3>touch boobs. That was my one thing. But now, as

0:43:03.000 --> 0:43:06.920
<v Speaker 3>an adult make a wish, I don't there's nothing I

0:43:06.960 --> 0:43:10.640
<v Speaker 3>don't I don't think I would have a wish as

0:43:10.640 --> 0:43:12.520
<v Speaker 3>an adult. I don't think there's anything that I want

0:43:12.640 --> 0:43:15.319
<v Speaker 3>that Make a Wish could give me.

0:43:15.480 --> 0:43:20.920
<v Speaker 1>Right now, what would you make? I don't know if that.

0:43:21.239 --> 0:43:24.200
<v Speaker 1>I don't think that that means that I am happy.

0:43:24.960 --> 0:43:27.680
<v Speaker 5>You're complishing then, like you're you're in a stable position.

0:43:30.760 --> 0:43:33.960
<v Speaker 3>I don't think it means that I'm happy, but I

0:43:33.960 --> 0:43:37.160
<v Speaker 3>think it means there's nothing missing from my life that

0:43:37.200 --> 0:43:40.640
<v Speaker 3>I believe the Make a Wish Foundation could provide, Like

0:43:40.680 --> 0:43:41.560
<v Speaker 3>I don't need to fight.

0:43:42.080 --> 0:43:42.200
<v Speaker 4>Uh.

0:43:42.560 --> 0:43:44.279
<v Speaker 3>I think one of the ones they did was like

0:43:45.040 --> 0:43:49.360
<v Speaker 3>that a kid was Batman for a day. And I

0:43:49.440 --> 0:43:52.840
<v Speaker 3>don't think being Batman for a day would be interesting

0:43:52.960 --> 0:43:58.480
<v Speaker 3>to me as an adult or or make my life better.

0:43:59.120 --> 0:44:00.799
<v Speaker 1>But what about you? What we your wish be.

0:44:04.560 --> 0:44:11.759
<v Speaker 5>Oh Man taking me a space? You think they would

0:44:11.760 --> 0:44:11.920
<v Speaker 5>do that?

0:44:12.440 --> 0:44:12.879
<v Speaker 1>You know what?

0:44:13.880 --> 0:44:14.000
<v Speaker 4>Uh?

0:44:14.080 --> 0:44:17.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you know I'm stealing yours? That's that's Can they

0:44:17.120 --> 0:44:19.520
<v Speaker 3>do that? Can they take kids to the space. I

0:44:19.560 --> 0:44:22.040
<v Speaker 3>feel like they can. If they could do that, then yes,

0:44:22.080 --> 0:44:22.920
<v Speaker 3>I want to see space.

0:44:25.880 --> 0:44:28.680
<v Speaker 1>Yes, I think that'd be fucking terrifying. Though right.

0:44:30.920 --> 0:44:32.360
<v Speaker 5>I'm getting hell of emotion sick.

0:44:32.880 --> 0:44:35.480
<v Speaker 3>Cause, like I understand how you get just like that

0:44:35.600 --> 0:44:39.319
<v Speaker 3>rocket ship ride to get to space. That must be like, like,

0:44:39.440 --> 0:44:40.600
<v Speaker 3>I'd be really scared of that.

0:44:45.120 --> 0:44:47.239
<v Speaker 5>Then you ain't taking like a gummy nothing. You ain't

0:44:47.239 --> 0:44:48.560
<v Speaker 5>doing popping nothing where you go.

0:44:48.760 --> 0:44:51.279
<v Speaker 3>Fuck, No, I'm not getting high before getting on a ride.

0:44:51.320 --> 0:44:53.920
<v Speaker 3>I would that would be the ultimate because you imagine

0:44:53.920 --> 0:44:58.239
<v Speaker 3>being high in space that sounds awful or actually, no,

0:44:58.400 --> 0:45:00.200
<v Speaker 3>that sounds kind of amazing.

0:45:01.440 --> 0:45:04.600
<v Speaker 5>Imagine you've seen the Earth, you you, and you've seen

0:45:05.000 --> 0:45:07.040
<v Speaker 5>that Earth while you're high. Man, that's gotta be the

0:45:07.040 --> 0:45:08.839
<v Speaker 5>craziest thing you ever see.

0:45:08.960 --> 0:45:11.399
<v Speaker 1>You ever play a Call of Modern Warfare two?

0:45:12.480 --> 0:45:12.719
<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

0:45:12.840 --> 0:45:15.160
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, Remember when the trailer for that came out and

0:45:15.200 --> 0:45:17.720
<v Speaker 3>there was a cut scene where you're in fucking space

0:45:18.280 --> 0:45:19.280
<v Speaker 3>that was so hyped.

0:45:21.160 --> 0:45:23.320
<v Speaker 5>I don't remember that. I'm gonna be honest, but that

0:45:23.440 --> 0:45:24.960
<v Speaker 5>sounds odd. Maybe I'll watch you after this.

0:45:25.440 --> 0:45:28.320
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I bet space is probably like it isn't in

0:45:28.760 --> 0:45:34.520
<v Speaker 3>Monorn Warfare two, would you that, soh yeah, I would

0:45:34.520 --> 0:45:36.680
<v Speaker 3>take that if that was a wish available to you.

0:45:37.040 --> 0:45:40.480
<v Speaker 5>Go into space, you know, and get your custom like

0:45:40.760 --> 0:45:43.520
<v Speaker 5>get costume, like astronaut costume.

0:45:45.719 --> 0:45:48.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, make it all green and green and green and shit,

0:45:48.200 --> 0:45:48.799
<v Speaker 1>that'd be cool.

0:45:49.920 --> 0:45:50.919
<v Speaker 5>That's pretty cool. Man.

0:45:52.280 --> 0:45:59.839
<v Speaker 3>Well, I'm sorry that I couldn't solve both of our

0:46:00.000 --> 0:46:03.799
<v Speaker 3>inevitable deaths over the course of this phone call.

0:46:03.880 --> 0:46:06.520
<v Speaker 1>But you know, I'm glad we got to work it out.

0:46:07.719 --> 0:46:09.640
<v Speaker 5>Fuck that I got to talk to the GEK. That's

0:46:09.760 --> 0:46:11.680
<v Speaker 5>that's already like that made me feel better. I do

0:46:11.760 --> 0:46:15.640
<v Speaker 5>have one question, though, Yeah, what's up? So I see

0:46:15.680 --> 0:46:18.080
<v Speaker 5>your tour dates? Man, how come you ain't coming back

0:46:18.080 --> 0:46:21.759
<v Speaker 5>to like Indy or Columbus unless I missed that, you know.

0:46:21.760 --> 0:46:22.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't.

0:46:22.600 --> 0:46:25.520
<v Speaker 3>I don't know why. I don't really like. Uh, I don't.

0:46:25.560 --> 0:46:27.440
<v Speaker 3>I don't decide a lot of the I mean I

0:46:27.760 --> 0:46:31.400
<v Speaker 3>kind of do. Uh yeah, I don't know.

0:46:31.440 --> 0:46:32.680
<v Speaker 1>I'll try. I'll try to come back.

0:46:33.960 --> 0:46:35.440
<v Speaker 5>Please do man, please.

0:46:35.760 --> 0:46:37.239
<v Speaker 3>I had a fun I had a fun time last

0:46:37.239 --> 0:46:39.720
<v Speaker 3>time I was in uh, Columbus, Ohio.

0:46:39.800 --> 0:46:40.560
<v Speaker 1>I like that place.

0:46:40.840 --> 0:46:43.600
<v Speaker 3>I like a lot of the comedy clubs are in malls,

0:46:43.920 --> 0:46:47.960
<v Speaker 3>so I get to have an Auntie Anne's pretzel before

0:46:48.000 --> 0:46:49.560
<v Speaker 3>the show, and that's my favorite part.

0:46:50.960 --> 0:46:53.840
<v Speaker 5>I will get you on if you come back to Columbus.

0:46:54.800 --> 0:46:55.720
<v Speaker 1>What's your name against?

0:46:55.719 --> 0:46:55.879
<v Speaker 4>Sir?

0:46:57.120 --> 0:46:59.960
<v Speaker 5>Named Zach Zach Zach Zada?

0:47:00.000 --> 0:47:01.400
<v Speaker 1>Thing else you want to say to the people of

0:47:01.440 --> 0:47:02.560
<v Speaker 1>the computer before we go?

0:47:04.640 --> 0:47:08.760
<v Speaker 5>Hey, man, Yetta live once. You gotta have a good time,

0:47:10.040 --> 0:47:10.960
<v Speaker 5>Jack Blass.

0:47:12.000 --> 0:47:15.600
<v Speaker 1>Thank you, sir. Have a good night too.

0:47:16.160 --> 0:47:21.040
<v Speaker 3>Now, imagine eating a lukewarm slice of pizza in space.

0:47:21.280 --> 0:47:24.920
<v Speaker 3>That'd be a pretty good uh way to die.

0:47:27.239 --> 0:47:33.319
<v Speaker 1>Hello. Hello, Hi, it's Lyle Hi. Hello, Hello, what is

0:47:33.360 --> 0:47:33.759
<v Speaker 1>your name?

0:47:35.000 --> 0:47:37.200
<v Speaker 5>I'm Cat Cat?

0:47:37.239 --> 0:47:40.320
<v Speaker 1>What's going on? Kat? Thanks for not much?

0:47:40.440 --> 0:47:40.799
<v Speaker 6>Not much?

0:47:40.800 --> 0:47:43.000
<v Speaker 3>Thanks for talking and thanks for talking on my on

0:47:43.080 --> 0:47:44.200
<v Speaker 3>my little show.

0:47:45.960 --> 0:47:48.680
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, thank you for calling me. I'm just at my

0:47:48.800 --> 0:47:51.840
<v Speaker 4>second job. I clean a preschool in the evening.

0:47:52.680 --> 0:47:54.439
<v Speaker 1>You clean a preschool?

0:47:54.880 --> 0:47:59.600
<v Speaker 4>Yes and yes, for one hour a day Monday through Friday,

0:47:59.680 --> 0:48:01.720
<v Speaker 4>and some times I hold off till Sunday.

0:48:02.160 --> 0:48:08.000
<v Speaker 3>What kind of bodily fluids were getting into here? Snotpuke blood?

0:48:09.640 --> 0:48:12.880
<v Speaker 4>Honestly, they're potty training, so it's mostly urine and a

0:48:12.920 --> 0:48:14.120
<v Speaker 4>little bit of species.

0:48:14.320 --> 0:48:15.880
<v Speaker 1>How'd you get into that line of work?

0:48:16.640 --> 0:48:20.680
<v Speaker 4>I've been cleaning for a few years, and slowly I

0:48:20.719 --> 0:48:23.839
<v Speaker 4>went from house cleaning to school cleaning and this turned

0:48:23.840 --> 0:48:26.959
<v Speaker 4>out to be a really nice gig. And yeah, that's

0:48:26.960 --> 0:48:30.040
<v Speaker 4>a that's about it. It's just a series of jumping

0:48:30.040 --> 0:48:32.600
<v Speaker 4>from one cleaning job to the next, and this has

0:48:32.640 --> 0:48:33.440
<v Speaker 4>been a nice one.

0:48:34.200 --> 0:48:37.279
<v Speaker 1>So that this is your second job, you say, what's

0:48:37.280 --> 0:48:37.839
<v Speaker 1>your first job?

0:48:38.400 --> 0:48:40.440
<v Speaker 4>My first job, I do cleaning for a casino.

0:48:41.880 --> 0:48:46.759
<v Speaker 3>Wow, it's funny because I really can't decide which one

0:48:46.760 --> 0:48:52.000
<v Speaker 3>I think is Grosser's the casino, do you think? So okay,

0:48:52.080 --> 0:48:55.160
<v Speaker 3>tell me tell me about the messes at the casinos

0:48:55.239 --> 0:48:56.880
<v Speaker 3>versus the messes in the preschool.

0:48:58.400 --> 0:49:01.799
<v Speaker 4>The preschool is easy. I mean, the kids do a

0:49:01.840 --> 0:49:04.840
<v Speaker 4>little bit of dribble here and there with the potty

0:49:04.880 --> 0:49:08.439
<v Speaker 4>training stuff. But like the casino, you have days where

0:49:09.600 --> 0:49:13.440
<v Speaker 4>someone will come in and just trash your whole bathroom,

0:49:13.640 --> 0:49:18.000
<v Speaker 4>like your assigned restroom, and I mean like someone will

0:49:18.000 --> 0:49:21.800
<v Speaker 4>come in and just shit all over like the whole floor,

0:49:22.000 --> 0:49:24.080
<v Speaker 4>multiple stalls, and you have to like shut down the

0:49:24.120 --> 0:49:27.920
<v Speaker 4>restroom and there's a whole process for cleaning that up.

0:49:28.040 --> 0:49:33.120
<v Speaker 4>And it's everywhere, It's everywhere, and the smell never seems

0:49:33.160 --> 0:49:36.879
<v Speaker 4>to completely go away. So that's it's a lot of fun.

0:49:36.960 --> 0:49:37.720
<v Speaker 4>It's a lot of fun.

0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:43.359
<v Speaker 3>Now, are the messes made more by people who are

0:49:43.560 --> 0:49:47.919
<v Speaker 3>losing and they're upset and so they take it out

0:49:47.960 --> 0:49:50.640
<v Speaker 3>on the bathroom or by people who are winning and

0:49:50.640 --> 0:49:53.200
<v Speaker 3>they're so a static that they don't give a shit

0:49:53.280 --> 0:50:00.040
<v Speaker 3>anymore and they're taking it out on the bathroom.

0:49:58.080 --> 0:50:01.759
<v Speaker 4>I want to say winning. And it's most because when

0:50:01.760 --> 0:50:05.160
<v Speaker 4>they're winning, they don't want to get up from the machine,

0:50:05.360 --> 0:50:08.080
<v Speaker 4>so they're racing over there at the last second, and

0:50:08.320 --> 0:50:09.960
<v Speaker 4>they don't They don't always make it.

0:50:11.840 --> 0:50:16.040
<v Speaker 3>Have you seen that video of these like old people

0:50:16.080 --> 0:50:19.719
<v Speaker 3>who are just kind of mindlessly put in quarters.

0:50:19.280 --> 0:50:22.399
<v Speaker 4>Yeah, and they're tapping and tapping. Yeah.

0:50:22.480 --> 0:50:22.719
<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

0:50:22.760 --> 0:50:23.680
<v Speaker 1>Do you see that a lot?

0:50:24.520 --> 0:50:24.759
<v Speaker 5>Yeah?

0:50:24.800 --> 0:50:27.120
<v Speaker 4>That's that's that's a day at worked for me. Yeah,

0:50:27.320 --> 0:50:31.040
<v Speaker 4>I see a lot of that. That's like a I

0:50:31.080 --> 0:50:31.600
<v Speaker 4>don't get.

0:50:31.480 --> 0:50:32.320
<v Speaker 1>The slot machines.

0:50:32.400 --> 0:50:34.680
<v Speaker 3>I'm pretty sure I've said this on here before, but

0:50:35.080 --> 0:50:38.640
<v Speaker 3>the slot machines are very disappointing to me because you

0:50:38.680 --> 0:50:41.880
<v Speaker 3>go into the casino and they have all these like

0:50:42.600 --> 0:50:46.080
<v Speaker 3>flashing lights and colors, and there's like a panda game

0:50:46.160 --> 0:50:50.680
<v Speaker 3>and a fucking dragon game, and here's a they they've

0:50:50.760 --> 0:50:53.319
<v Speaker 3>like licensed all these properties. So it's like, here's Willy

0:50:53.400 --> 0:50:56.319
<v Speaker 3>Waka the game and all this stuff, but it's all

0:50:56.360 --> 0:50:57.200
<v Speaker 3>the same game.

0:50:57.239 --> 0:50:58.120
<v Speaker 1>It's all just one button.

0:50:58.160 --> 0:50:59.839
<v Speaker 3>It's not like Dave and Busters where you actually get

0:50:59.880 --> 0:51:01.600
<v Speaker 3>to you don't get to even play anything.

0:51:03.440 --> 0:51:05.680
<v Speaker 4>No, you're right, yeah, they're all it's all. It's all

0:51:05.719 --> 0:51:07.840
<v Speaker 4>the same. It's just what theme do you feel like

0:51:07.840 --> 0:51:12.279
<v Speaker 4>sitting at? I don't gamble, so I don't really get it.

0:51:12.480 --> 0:51:14.680
<v Speaker 4>I guess I have no clue how any of those

0:51:14.680 --> 0:51:18.920
<v Speaker 4>machines work, honestly, But so, how long.

0:51:18.800 --> 0:51:19.960
<v Speaker 1>Have you been cleaning stuff?

0:51:20.040 --> 0:51:25.080
<v Speaker 4>For almost four years? I started cleaning, well, maybe a

0:51:25.120 --> 0:51:28.719
<v Speaker 4>little over four years. I started cleaning right before COVID hit.

0:51:28.920 --> 0:51:32.720
<v Speaker 4>My first house house cleaning job was with the company,

0:51:32.760 --> 0:51:34.200
<v Speaker 4>and I was like, this would be really nice.

0:51:34.239 --> 0:51:35.000
<v Speaker 2>It'll be quiet.

0:51:35.440 --> 0:51:38.440
<v Speaker 4>I'm going into people's homes and they're not there. And

0:51:38.440 --> 0:51:40.640
<v Speaker 4>then COVID hit and everyone was like locked in and

0:51:40.680 --> 0:51:43.440
<v Speaker 4>suddenly people were like following me while I cleaned their houses,

0:51:43.480 --> 0:51:46.279
<v Speaker 4>and we're like really persnickety about it.

0:51:47.560 --> 0:51:53.040
<v Speaker 3>So the very first time you had to clean diarrhea

0:51:53.960 --> 0:51:56.080
<v Speaker 3>was it something you had to get over? And now

0:51:56.120 --> 0:51:58.359
<v Speaker 3>every time you clean diarrhea, it's like all right, I've

0:51:58.360 --> 0:52:01.200
<v Speaker 3>been through this before, or is it still kind of hit.

0:52:01.120 --> 0:52:01.800
<v Speaker 1>You every time?

0:52:03.680 --> 0:52:05.640
<v Speaker 4>I don't think. I don't. I don't think that one

0:52:05.719 --> 0:52:09.360
<v Speaker 4>hit me too too hard. One thing I have not

0:52:09.520 --> 0:52:13.960
<v Speaker 4>cleaned yet is vomit. And I'll be honest, I have

0:52:14.040 --> 0:52:16.720
<v Speaker 4>no clue how that's gonna go when that happens.

0:52:17.320 --> 0:52:19.560
<v Speaker 3>Four years of cleaning a casino in a preschool and

0:52:19.560 --> 0:52:20.720
<v Speaker 3>you've never had to clean vomit.

0:52:21.239 --> 0:52:22.360
<v Speaker 2>I haven't had to clean vomit.

0:52:22.520 --> 0:52:25.080
<v Speaker 4>Now I'm lucky I had to clean. Yeah, I've had

0:52:25.120 --> 0:52:29.120
<v Speaker 4>to clean a lot of diarrhea, but not not vomit. Surprisingly.

0:52:31.080 --> 0:52:33.640
<v Speaker 3>Okay, so I'm gonna and look, here's the thing. We

0:52:33.680 --> 0:52:36.160
<v Speaker 3>could talk about vomiting diarrhea for the next half hour

0:52:36.200 --> 0:52:39.719
<v Speaker 3>if you want to. But before we do that, I

0:52:39.760 --> 0:52:42.719
<v Speaker 3>want to say, is there a particular thing that you

0:52:42.800 --> 0:52:44.200
<v Speaker 3>called in to want to talk about?

0:52:46.160 --> 0:52:49.120
<v Speaker 4>No, I gave you a list. I don't know what

0:52:49.200 --> 0:52:53.000
<v Speaker 4>you saw that you were the most compelled by. I'm

0:52:53.000 --> 0:52:55.600
<v Speaker 4>open to whatever. I'm open to anything not on that list.

0:52:56.440 --> 0:52:56.800
<v Speaker 2>Whatever.

0:52:57.920 --> 0:53:04.000
<v Speaker 3>Okay, Well, let's see. I mean, I mean, I okay, sure,

0:53:04.000 --> 0:53:05.440
<v Speaker 3>I mean you sent me a whole bunch of stuff.

0:53:05.560 --> 0:53:08.400
<v Speaker 3>One of the things you said was I'm dating somebody

0:53:08.400 --> 0:53:12.080
<v Speaker 3>who makes so much money that I feel intimidated to

0:53:12.120 --> 0:53:15.520
<v Speaker 3>be in a relationship with them. We are discussing me

0:53:15.760 --> 0:53:19.000
<v Speaker 3>moving in at some point and being a housewife.

0:53:19.600 --> 0:53:20.640
<v Speaker 1>Is that something you wanted.

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<v Speaker 6>To talk about.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, I'm hoping to talk about that.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, go ahead.

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<v Speaker 4>I just I just started seeing someone. He's really really great.

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<v Speaker 4>But I have always been I've always worked really hard

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<v Speaker 4>and really like scraped for like just being able to survive.

0:53:41.040 --> 0:53:43.719
<v Speaker 4>I live in southern California and it's expensive out here,

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<v Speaker 4>and so I just started seeing this guy. He's really

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<v Speaker 4>really great, and it turns out he makes so much money.

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<v Speaker 4>He makes so much money and I feel like I

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<v Speaker 4>have no business dating him because I'm not like the

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<v Speaker 4>same caliber financially. He's completely, like, totally cool with it.

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<v Speaker 4>It's no big deal to him. He just likes me

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<v Speaker 4>for me, and I do like him for him. There

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<v Speaker 4>just is this weird financial gap. I guess it's it's

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<v Speaker 4>I think I make maybe a quarter of what he

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<v Speaker 4>makes in a year, so it's a lot. It's a lot.

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<v Speaker 3>I have to ask the what I mean, when you

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<v Speaker 3>get into it and you really think about it, why

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<v Speaker 3>does it matter?

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<v Speaker 1>If he seems to like you for you, and you

0:54:42.400 --> 0:54:43.600
<v Speaker 1>seem to like him for him.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, I've been asking myself the same thing. It

0:54:48.280 --> 0:54:53.520
<v Speaker 4>shouldn't matter, and in reality it doesn't matter. But I

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<v Speaker 4>guess I worry about being too dependent on him or

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<v Speaker 4>really enjoying the relationship for a year or a couple

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<v Speaker 4>of years or a long time, and at some point

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<v Speaker 4>it just turns into like I just live off of

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<v Speaker 4>him or he I mean, I become completely totally dependent

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<v Speaker 4>on him, and I don't.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't want that to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be the case.

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think it would be fair to him. I

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<v Speaker 4>don't think it would be fair to me, but more so,

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<v Speaker 4>I don't think it would be fair to him to

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<v Speaker 4>just be take taking care of another person like in

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<v Speaker 4>that way. In any way.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I think I actually, I actually think you're going

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<v Speaker 3>about this really well because the awareness that you have

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<v Speaker 3>of like, you know, I mean, sure, if he wants

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<v Speaker 3>to take me to a nice dinner every now and

0:55:50.719 --> 0:55:52.799
<v Speaker 3>then and blah blah blah, that's great, But I want

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<v Speaker 3>to maintain my own sense of self and my own

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<v Speaker 3>finances and not find myself for lyting on this.

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<v Speaker 1>Skuy. I think that's really a good goal to have

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<v Speaker 1>and a good thing to keep in mind.

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<v Speaker 3>And I think as long as you're keeping that in

0:56:07.680 --> 0:56:10.520
<v Speaker 3>mind and you're doing that, there's nothing for you to

0:56:10.560 --> 0:56:17.799
<v Speaker 3>worry about. Are you worried that you're gonna digress on

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<v Speaker 3>the goal of having your own finances in order as

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<v Speaker 3>you get deeper into your relationship.

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<v Speaker 4>With this guy, Absolutely, I'm worried about becoming lazy, both

0:56:28.480 --> 0:56:33.400
<v Speaker 4>financially and physically. Basically, I don't want to turn into

0:56:33.480 --> 0:56:39.759
<v Speaker 4>like a permanent couch potato that just like has groceries

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<v Speaker 4>brought to them and whatever else they want. Like, I

0:56:42.760 --> 0:56:48.600
<v Speaker 4>don't want to become a lazy dependent. I want to

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<v Speaker 4>be able to maintain Like like we're discussing me possibly

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<v Speaker 4>moving in and taking care of the house, and he

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<v Speaker 4>was saying, well, we could split it fifty fifty, like

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<v Speaker 4>we can split the house chores so that you're not

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<v Speaker 4>like a house slave. But I'm like, if you're bringing

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<v Speaker 4>in this much money and you're cool with me working

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<v Speaker 4>less than I do now and making less than I

0:57:17.720 --> 0:57:20.640
<v Speaker 4>do now and having that money I make the sort

0:57:20.680 --> 0:57:24.200
<v Speaker 4>of like fun money for myself, then I at least

0:57:24.240 --> 0:57:28.959
<v Speaker 4>want to give like one hundred percent to taking care

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<v Speaker 4>of the household and those kinds of chores. I think

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<v Speaker 4>it's the find are even still I shouldn't so.

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<v Speaker 3>He's but he so he suggested, why don't you move

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<v Speaker 3>in and will split the cost of the housing.

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<v Speaker 1>Fifty to fifty.

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<v Speaker 4>He suggested I move in and he would take care

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<v Speaker 4>of the cost of things. Thanks, are so a little

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<v Speaker 4>murky discussing all of the exact numbers, and we're we're

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<v Speaker 4>totally discussing hypotheticals. We haven't been dating very long.

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<v Speaker 1>How long have you guys? How long have you guys

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<v Speaker 1>been there?

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<v Speaker 4>It's been about a month and a half.

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<v Speaker 2>Very brief, very brief.

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<v Speaker 4>It's very short.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>How old? How old are you?

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<v Speaker 4>I'm thirty one?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, Uh, look, dude, I'm not in the business of

0:58:25.320 --> 0:58:27.160
<v Speaker 3>telling people what to do with their lives. I don't

0:58:27.200 --> 0:58:30.320
<v Speaker 3>desire to tell people what to do with their lives,

0:58:30.840 --> 0:58:33.760
<v Speaker 3>which is something I always say right before I'm about

0:58:33.760 --> 0:58:35.600
<v Speaker 3>to tell somebody what they should do with their lives.

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<v Speaker 5>You do, yes?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, dude? Like, here's I mean? Do you want

0:58:44.360 --> 0:58:46.280
<v Speaker 1>my do you do you want my advice? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>want my like?

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<v Speaker 3>Because I don't If you have this strong desire to

0:58:55.040 --> 0:59:04.280
<v Speaker 3>maintain your independence, then hold true to that desire as

0:59:04.320 --> 0:59:07.840
<v Speaker 3>long as you wish to. You know, like, if that's

0:59:07.880 --> 0:59:11.080
<v Speaker 3>what you want. If you're like, I want to be independent,

0:59:11.200 --> 0:59:14.280
<v Speaker 3>I want to pay for you know, my own housing

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<v Speaker 3>and my own this and my own that.

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<v Speaker 1>Then you're the only thing stopping you from doing that.

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<v Speaker 4>No, that's very true. That's very true. Yeah, I definitely

0:59:25.840 --> 0:59:31.040
<v Speaker 4>want to maintain my sense of self. I definitely want

0:59:31.040 --> 0:59:34.440
<v Speaker 4>to maintain my sense of self beyond beyond financials and anything.

0:59:34.480 --> 0:59:37.280
<v Speaker 4>I want to make sure that I'm still like doing

0:59:37.320 --> 0:59:39.840
<v Speaker 4>the things that are important to me, spending time with

0:59:39.920 --> 0:59:41.080
<v Speaker 4>my family, painting.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you in a rush to move in with

0:59:44.200 --> 0:59:46.120
<v Speaker 1>this guy you've been seeing for a month.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm not so much in a rush. I think that

0:59:51.760 --> 0:59:56.880
<v Speaker 4>he is a romantic and dreamy individual, which is something

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<v Speaker 4>I like about him, and he brought he brought up

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<v Speaker 4>put me moving in. He's seems very set on me,

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<v Speaker 4>and he's very kind in a way that I can

1:00:11.160 --> 1:00:18.960
<v Speaker 4>tell is genuine. He's a genuine person, and I appreciate

1:00:19.120 --> 1:00:20.080
<v Speaker 4>and respect that.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, if you.

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<v Speaker 3>Want my advice, I would say that, you know, why

1:00:27.560 --> 1:00:31.600
<v Speaker 3>don't you just keep seeing this guy and don't be

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<v Speaker 3>in a rush to move in with him. And if

1:00:34.160 --> 1:00:37.720
<v Speaker 3>the time does come where you're like feeling pretty confident

1:00:37.760 --> 1:00:40.640
<v Speaker 3>that you do want to move in with him, and

1:00:40.680 --> 1:00:43.400
<v Speaker 3>you're still feeling like and by the way, look, if

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<v Speaker 3>you told me, I'm telling you this, if you told

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<v Speaker 3>me I would love to be a housewife and have

1:00:49.640 --> 1:00:52.800
<v Speaker 3>a rich guy pay for all my shit, I wouldn't

1:00:52.840 --> 1:00:54.640
<v Speaker 3>judge you. I wouldn't look twice. I would say, if

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<v Speaker 3>that's what you want to do, then go do that.

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<v Speaker 3>But if you're telling me that that's not what you

1:00:59.080 --> 1:01:02.040
<v Speaker 3>want to do, and you want to maintain your independence

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<v Speaker 3>and this is this is what you've decided you want

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<v Speaker 3>for yourself, then then.

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<v Speaker 1>Then do that.

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<v Speaker 4>You know, no, that makes sense, that makes sense. So

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<v Speaker 4>I definitely need to cool my jets, and I'm trying

1:01:15.680 --> 1:01:17.520
<v Speaker 4>to keep that in check. It's not that I don't

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<v Speaker 4>want to be a housewife. It's that I don't want

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<v Speaker 4>to become a negligent human being because I became a housewife.

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<v Speaker 3>Are you So you're inferring this idea that if you

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<v Speaker 3>become too dependent and what's the word, huck it, if

1:01:35.720 --> 1:01:38.720
<v Speaker 3>you become too lazy, Because you're just having this guy

1:01:38.800 --> 1:01:41.320
<v Speaker 3>bankroll you. You're afraid that that's going to be a

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<v Speaker 3>detriment to your life.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh yes, yeah, that's a complete like loss itself.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's a smart I think that's a smart thing

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<v Speaker 3>to keep in mind as you navigate that relationship. So

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<v Speaker 3>why don't you just continue to navigate this relationship and

1:01:55.960 --> 1:01:58.720
<v Speaker 3>have fun and get to know this person and you know,

1:01:59.200 --> 1:02:03.200
<v Speaker 3>maybe uh don't You know, you don't have to move

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<v Speaker 3>in with him immediately, but just keep keep that in mind.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, you're the.

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<v Speaker 3>Only thing I will from I don't know if this

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<v Speaker 3>guy unless if he has a hot tub.

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<v Speaker 1>If he has a hot.

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<v Speaker 3>Tub, move in with him tomorrow and let him bank

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<v Speaker 3>that's pretty cool, that sounds And if he has does

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<v Speaker 3>he have a PlayStation five?

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you care about that he does?

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<v Speaker 1>Does he does he have a pool table in the house?

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<v Speaker 4>No, but I don't play pool. He does have a fantastic,

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<v Speaker 4>U large bathtub that I am aware of and think

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<v Speaker 4>about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Does the bathtub have jets in it?

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<v Speaker 3>Is it kind of like a half bathtub half uh

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<v Speaker 3>hot tub hybrid.

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<v Speaker 4>It's being renovated, and I believe that there is a

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<v Speaker 4>possibility there will be jets in it.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, I take everything I said back. You should definitely

1:02:51.120 --> 1:02:56.040
<v Speaker 3>should move in with this guy for sure. Sweet, Is

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<v Speaker 3>there anything else you want to say to the people

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<v Speaker 3>of the computer before we go?

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<v Speaker 4>All? Everyone, just keep chugging along. You're doing a good job,

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<v Speaker 4>whether you realize it or not.

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<v Speaker 1>Beautiful, what's your name? Cat? Take care of cat? Thank you?

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you for all you do for the uh this

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<v Speaker 3>nation's casino diarrhea.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you, thank you. Lyle. Take it easy.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, hot tub sounds pretty cool, although you don't want

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<v Speaker 3>to get fucked right because then like if you're like,

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<v Speaker 3>all right, I'm gonna live with this guy and he's

1:03:27.160 --> 1:03:30.959
<v Speaker 3>gonna pay for my housing and I'm gonna just clean

1:03:31.040 --> 1:03:33.640
<v Speaker 3>up the house, then you're fucked because what happens if

1:03:33.640 --> 1:03:35.760
<v Speaker 3>someone diarrhea is in the hot tub, then you're sitting

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<v Speaker 3>there cleaning diarrhea out of the hot tub.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It goes on the line, taking your

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<v Speaker 1>phone calls every night, Everything goes to his I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>teaching

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<v Speaker 2>You loud in the lin