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Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, this is the Gecko guy.

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Speaker 2: No fucking way, what is your name?

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Speaker 1: I'm not that would be disgusting, Sammy. What's going on?

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Speaker 1: What's up? Sammy? Did I catch you in the middle

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Speaker 1: of something? Or am I? Am I bothering you?

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Speaker 2: Currently? I am in the car with my parents, but

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Speaker 2: I can talk.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're in the car with your parents. Are you

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Speaker 1: in the back seat?

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Speaker 2: I am, but I feel as though they already know

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Speaker 2: anything that I would talk about. So so, yeah, what's up.

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Speaker 2: I'm honestly just shocked. That was the first thing I

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Speaker 2: texted you. I'm honestly just shocked that you called me.

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Speaker 1: Can I ask you? Where is the car going? Or

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Speaker 1: what are you going to ride somewhere?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? We're actually at the beach right now, little family vacation.

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Speaker 1: Oh very nice.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, kind of horrible timing, but I'm just gonna go

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Speaker 2: with it.

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Speaker 3: So all right, listen, I mean you sent me a text,

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Speaker 3: uh huh, and you said, Hi, Gek, my name is

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Speaker 3: Sam and I want to talk about how a PCP

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Speaker 3: trip helped me turn my life around.

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Speaker 2: Yes, indeed, So, uh tell.

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Speaker 3: Me about PCP because all I've ever heard about PCP

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Speaker 3: is that it makes people kill people and.

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Speaker 1: Bite their faces off. I might be convinced I might

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Speaker 1: be confusing with bath salts, but go ahead.

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Speaker 2: I'm not PCP expert by any sense. I've only done

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Speaker 2: it this one time. And sorry, my brother's in the

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Speaker 2: car with me too. But yeah, so I I you know,

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Speaker 2: I had been into the drug world for a good

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Speaker 2: bit and I ended up essentially trying to overdose on PCP,

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Speaker 2: and it just made me realize everything, all the harm

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Speaker 2: that I have been causing to myself, my family, my

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Speaker 2: loved ones, you know. And then it just sort of

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Speaker 2: made me realize what I need to be doing differently,

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Speaker 2: I guess, And I realized that PCP, like you said before,

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Speaker 2: has a lot of the opposite effects on people. For

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Speaker 2: whatever reason. In me, it just sort of reset my

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Speaker 2: brain and reconnected wires that had been disconnected, and it

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Speaker 2: made it ultimately, it made me want to get sober.

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Speaker 2: I put myself in rehab and I'm three years sober now.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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Speaker 2: And I wouldn't say it's entirely to the PCP, but

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Speaker 2: I would say that that had had a decent effect,

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Speaker 2: decent positive effect, not saying that that I'll have that

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Speaker 2: effect on everyone. But of course.

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Speaker 3: So you didn't start with PCP. It was along the

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Speaker 3: road in your drug journey. Where What did you start

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Speaker 3: with in your drug journey?

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Speaker 2: This is funny because I'm just in the car with

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Speaker 2: my parents listening. But I started with with coke and

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Speaker 2: then very quickly divulged into I went I pretty much

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Speaker 2: speed ran uh drug addiction. Not as fast as you

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Speaker 2: can essentially, but I I've done pretty much everything.

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Speaker 1: Where where did you go after coke?

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Speaker 2: My parents just told me I can speak freakly. So

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Speaker 2: after coke, I went into UH. It started from coke,

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Speaker 2: but I didn't know at the time, and I was

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Speaker 2: smoking those on aluminum foil. And then I got into

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Speaker 2: mess heroin, I did, I did crack at one point, LSD, molly,

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Speaker 2: pretty much everything.

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Speaker 1: Wow, where were you getting all of this stuff from?

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Speaker 5: Ye?

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Speaker 1: So not because I want to hook.

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Speaker 2: Up, Yeah, you want to plug. Well, I started off

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Speaker 2: really like in the complete opposite world. I was like

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Speaker 2: who I was, and it just kind of escalated from there.

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Speaker 1: How long did you date this guy for?

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Speaker 2: I think it was a total maybe six eight months.

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Speaker 2: It was a very intense time period, though, like I

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Speaker 2: Ironically enough, through my previous boyfriend at the time, and

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Speaker 3: So so you're with him for eight months, and that

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Speaker 3: relationship is kind of what catalyzed all the drug.

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Speaker 2: Addiction essentially, I would say, I don't know if that

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Speaker 2: Family issues, you know, friend issues, just sort of my

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Speaker 1: Yeah, how old are you at the time at the.

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Speaker 2: Time, I believe I was seventeen currently, So you were

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Speaker 3: And did you have a career plan at the time.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if there was really anything specific in mind.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if I really had a direct career path.

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Speaker 2: I had always been really big into I had always

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Speaker 1: And how was your relationship with your family at the time.

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Speaker 2: At the time, honestly awful. I had just moved out

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Speaker 2: I know that sounds like such like like first world problems.

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Speaker 3: Well it's it's not that it sounds like first world problems,

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Speaker 2: I'm currently walking to the beach right now. But yeah,

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Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, I've been pretty straightforward with her.

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Speaker 6: Now.

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Speaker 1: So are you still in the car with them right now?

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Speaker 2: No, no, sir, I'm walking to the beach on my

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Speaker 3: But you're so you're cool enough with them. But so

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Speaker 3: all this. You gave your laundry list of drugs in

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Speaker 2: During that time? No, I was not in contact with

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Speaker 2: But I think once I got clean and once I

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Speaker 2: So I think it my drug use almost made it

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Speaker 3: So for those three years that you were on your

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Speaker 1: Were you just living at home?

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Speaker 2: Partially? I was either living at my dad's house it's

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Speaker 2: and out of rehabs. I've been to maybe four total.

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Speaker 2: At first, so I'm in Virginia, but I went to

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Speaker 3: What was the craziest thing you saw or experienced at

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Speaker 2: Oh? I mean, gosh, I mean besides like the sex

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Speaker 1: It sounds like it smelled horrible.

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Speaker 2: Oh it was. I was one of those people.

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Speaker 5: It was.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, super romantic, you know.

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Speaker 1: You think about it, but you had a rehab fling?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe maybe a couple under my belt.

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Speaker 1: What's a rehab fling? What's a rehab fling.

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Speaker 2: Like, well, they called it fratenizing by the people who

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Speaker 2: I'd say they're pretty pretty awful overall. I mean, you're

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Speaker 2: You're just looking for human connection in any way you

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Speaker 2: can get it. I think there's a lot of desperation

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Speaker 6: I mean, but I don't go ahead, No, you go ahead.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I was just gonna say, I do look back,

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Speaker 2: like sometimes I wish I could go three years clean now,

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Speaker 2: and sometimes I wish I could go back to rehab

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Speaker 2: just for the camaraderie of it all.

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Speaker 3: I was going, you know, it's funny, I was thinking it.

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Speaker 3: I wasn't going to say it, but well, it's funny

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Speaker 3: because it once you're out of high school and college,

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Speaker 3: if you work in an office in person around people,

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Speaker 3: which a lot of people don't, there's not a lot of.

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Speaker 1: Times where you're like.

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Speaker 3: Constantly in a community of other people, especially like living

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Speaker 2: Why even like college, I don't think it's the same

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Speaker 3: It's right, there's also the camaraderie of everybody's at their

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Speaker 3: absolute lowest point. Everybody has that weird shared connection in

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Speaker 5: I.

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Speaker 2: Don't know. I'm just just happy to be here. And

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Speaker 2: You can just live and you don't. You don't need

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Speaker 3: I mean, I guess that's what dogs kind of do,

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Speaker 3: Well, tell your parents, I said, what's up? I don't

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Speaker 3: know if they know By that you're that you're talking.

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Speaker 6: Oh yeah, I know.

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Speaker 2: When you called, I said, I said, what if this

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Speaker 2: is the get go? My brother gave me a headshake,

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Speaker 1: If your existence tell your brother to eat my ship.

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Speaker 2: Dude, all right, I will do it.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, Sam, good luck, and uh, don't do PCP

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Speaker 2: But right not an endorsement for PCP. It may have

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Speaker 1: Thanks for calling Sam.

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Speaker 2: Anytime, Have a good night, lole you bye.

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Speaker 1: I really liked that call.

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Speaker 3: I've been talking about this a lot on the podcast,

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Speaker 3: And it's like, well, you can have so much and

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Speaker 5: What do I say?

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Speaker 1: I gotta see something crazy?

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Speaker 5: All right?

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Speaker 5: All from Hello, Hello, Hey, what's up? Can you hear me?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Tell you what's going on? What's your what's what's up?

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Speaker 5: I don't know, man, I just I would call in.

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Speaker 1: What's your life? Like, Zach?

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Speaker 5: I don't know, man, I'm a pizza man. I delivered pizzas.

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Speaker 1: Do you like life?

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Speaker 5: Man? I don't want. I would think a lot.

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Speaker 5: But hmm, man, time be moving fast, dog sure does.

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Speaker 5: And I don't know. I think about like how I'm

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Speaker 5: So like the other day, you ever seen that movie

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: That the main dude, like the main guy, I forget

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Okay, you want to hear something. You want to

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Speaker 1: His name was Mergan Spurlock. I also had a little

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Speaker 1: Three, and I was like, damn, dude, you can just die.

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Speaker 1: Is that what you were going to say?

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Speaker 5: Yeah? Yeah, dude, like that.

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Speaker 3: That's exactly I literally was feeling exactly what you were

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Speaker 5: Dude, that makes me feel like so much better to

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Speaker 3: No, No, because that's the ultimate wake up call, is like, oh, yeah,

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Speaker 3: prioritizing things that actually matter because you're gonna fucking die.

442
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:15,480
Speaker 5: M that's a lot to lay on me. I ain't

443
00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 5: gonna lie.

444
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:19,920
Speaker 3: Tell me what your experience has been with that. Okay,

445
00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:23,000
Speaker 3: so yesterday you saw you went on Reddit, you saw

446
00:28:23,119 --> 00:28:26,040
Speaker 3: Morgan Spurlock died. You were like, oh shit, that guy

447
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,600
Speaker 3: was here and now he's not, and now I'm gonna

448
00:28:29,640 --> 00:28:31,640
Speaker 3: not be here too. What was going through your brain?

449
00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:36,400
Speaker 3: Tell me you're telling about your existential thoughts.

450
00:28:36,400 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 5: Man, So like, I've been having a lot of that, honestly,

451
00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 5: of like, because I feel like a lot of like

452
00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 5: people I grew up watching have recently passed away in

453
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:46,720
Speaker 5: a few years, the last couple of years, and my

454
00:28:46,880 --> 00:28:51,280
Speaker 5: christis is like, like, shit, man, I'm getting old. Like, Man,

455
00:28:51,320 --> 00:28:52,880
Speaker 5: I'll be honest with you, I'm only twenty two. I

456
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 5: know that I ain't old, like I'm I'm like self

457
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 5: aware enough to know like I ain't old, like I

458
00:28:58,080 --> 00:29:01,800
Speaker 5: got time and everything. But it's still be like affecting

459
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:06,760
Speaker 5: me in some ways because like I got family that's old, man,

460
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,440
Speaker 5: and it makes me worry, you know, it makes me think, like, man,

461
00:29:09,480 --> 00:29:11,360
Speaker 5: I gotta spend as much time with them. I gotta

462
00:29:11,400 --> 00:29:15,960
Speaker 5: do this and that butts so like way on someone, m.

463
00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: Hmm, what do you want to do before you die?

464
00:29:22,320 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 5: Man? I'm gonna be honest, there ain't much really, Like

465
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 5: I got a decent place, I got a good girlfriend.

466
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:30,520
Speaker 5: Family's pretty cool most of the time.

467
00:29:31,520 --> 00:29:38,720
Speaker 1: I don't know, dude, Yeah, that's amazing. That's great. You

468
00:29:38,760 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: sound like you're you sound like you're living the dream.

469
00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 5: I think I am at the end of the day.

470
00:29:44,600 --> 00:29:47,520
Speaker 5: But then you know, shit happened throughout the day and

471
00:29:47,560 --> 00:29:53,400
Speaker 5: I just I get into it. Like what, man, I

472
00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:56,920
Speaker 5: worked at a pizza place and I actually text you

473
00:29:56,920 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 5: about this, but I didn't like specify who I was.

474
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:03,360
Speaker 5: But I serve at this pizza place, like it's more

475
00:30:03,400 --> 00:30:06,360
Speaker 5: like a restaurant than like just to like come in,

476
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 5: grab a pizza and go. And the night before, you know,

477
00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:13,600
Speaker 5: I tried this edible and I guess I took too much,

478
00:30:14,000 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 5: so like I was all fucked up all throughout the night.

479
00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,960
Speaker 5: Thought I was gonna die because you know, I was

480
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,120
Speaker 5: getting sick throughout must of the night. And then the next day,

481
00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:24,480
Speaker 5: like I slept the entire day until it's time to

482
00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:27,880
Speaker 5: go to work. I get to working, man, and there's

483
00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:29,600
Speaker 5: like a line of people just wait in the door

484
00:30:29,680 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 5: until we open, and it's my high school teachers. And

485
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 5: I got served that day and I'm still like fucked up,

486
00:30:37,400 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 5: and just that entire situation. Man, I was like on

487
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 5: the brink of just like having a panic attack because

488
00:30:44,120 --> 00:30:49,360
Speaker 5: like that's a lot. I don't even know where to

489
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:53,320
Speaker 5: like go from here to They're like I'm I'm taking pizzas,

490
00:30:53,360 --> 00:30:57,040
Speaker 5: I'm swinging out some water to people. I got collect

491
00:30:57,080 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 5: and clean the tables because like we don't even have

492
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:01,200
Speaker 5: like bussers, Like I'd got to clean the tables.

493
00:31:01,240 --> 00:31:03,240
Speaker 1: I gotta do the dishes, like and you're all doing

494
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,400
Speaker 1: this while you're like tweaking out on edible.

495
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 5: Yeah, man, no, like and I'm like, dude, that stuff

496
00:31:09,760 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 5: like that's not usual for me. Like I felt really bad,

497
00:31:12,200 --> 00:31:15,680
Speaker 5: Like I get paranoia that like, oh, this person knew

498
00:31:15,720 --> 00:31:18,800
Speaker 5: that I was messed up. This person does my parents? Dude?

499
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:24,000
Speaker 1: So then so did did did your did this?

500
00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:27,400
Speaker 3: Cause the death anxiety that you were you were just

501
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:29,440
Speaker 3: talking about.

502
00:31:29,840 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 5: Honestly, it made it worse. But like, I've had that

503
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:34,960
Speaker 5: since I was a child. Like my mom's always brought

504
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 5: up how I was scared of death when I was

505
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 5: growing up. It's just been a common thing.

506
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:40,600
Speaker 1: So tell me why. I guess.

507
00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 3: So, I don't know if you were to make your

508
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 3: decisions based on the fact that you are going to die,

509
00:31:51,000 --> 00:31:52,240
Speaker 3: would you change anything?

510
00:31:54,400 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 5: Like what do you mean what decisions?

511
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:01,520
Speaker 1: Just like just fucking life decisions, manh Dude.

512
00:32:01,600 --> 00:32:03,840
Speaker 5: Everyone's got things that they go back and they think,

513
00:32:04,040 --> 00:32:06,120
Speaker 5: like maybe I would want to change a little bit

514
00:32:06,160 --> 00:32:08,239
Speaker 5: here and there, no matter how perfect their life is,

515
00:32:08,720 --> 00:32:09,920
Speaker 5: just like a what is anario?

516
00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:14,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah for sure. Well also, you're still like, fuck man,

517
00:32:14,960 --> 00:32:17,640
Speaker 1: you're still super young. But I mean, I give what

518
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:17,920
Speaker 1: you mean.

519
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 3: I feel uh actually lately I felt very very young,

520
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:24,000
Speaker 3: But I have I've had a lot of fucking times

521
00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:28,040
Speaker 3: when I was like, like, I I'll read my journal

522
00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 3: sometimes I have something in my journal where I was

523
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:32,720
Speaker 3: talking about like, you know, I'm twenty four years old,

524
00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:33,640
Speaker 3: but I feel dead.

525
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: You know, I feel old. Uh, But I actually lately

526
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: I've been feeling pretty young. Do you do you feel old?

527
00:32:45,800 --> 00:32:47,040
Speaker 6: So you're I feel old?

528
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:49,080
Speaker 1: Why do you tell me? How do you feel old?

529
00:32:50,720 --> 00:32:54,640
Speaker 5: Dude? Man? It's because like you already sit there and

530
00:32:54,720 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 5: think about how like you brought up that guy from

531
00:32:57,360 --> 00:32:59,200
Speaker 5: Supersize me and how he passed away and he was

532
00:32:59,240 --> 00:33:01,840
Speaker 5: only like fifty three, you said, I think, and you know,

533
00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:04,520
Speaker 5: that just shows me how short time can be depending

534
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 5: on what you do. But sometimes life just sneaks up

535
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 5: on you and throws you a hail Mary, you know, like,

536
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:10,840
Speaker 5: and you don't know what to do with that. And

537
00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:14,360
Speaker 5: I guess I feel old because like people are passing

538
00:33:14,360 --> 00:33:18,400
Speaker 5: away that I know, you know, actors, actresses, people close

539
00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:21,440
Speaker 5: to me, you know whatever, and like things are becoming

540
00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:23,520
Speaker 5: outdated that were cool to me. Like I got a

541
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 5: guy that's like sixty years younger than me at work.

542
00:33:26,880 --> 00:33:28,880
Speaker 5: And I made a joke about this video game. I

543
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:31,520
Speaker 5: don't know if you ever played Sandy Blade on the

544
00:33:31,800 --> 00:33:33,479
Speaker 5: on your phone. It was a mobile game with like

545
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:35,920
Speaker 5: splashing if your like fruit Ninja, but it was like

546
00:33:35,960 --> 00:33:40,080
Speaker 5: a night dude, that game was lit. Oh you're missing out,

547
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 5: But that's besides the point. I brought that up in

548
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,680
Speaker 5: a joke as a conversation he just like had no idea,

549
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:49,600
Speaker 5: and that like huge disconnect made me think about, Man,

550
00:33:49,920 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 5: what else don't you know? Dude? Like what There's just

551
00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:55,560
Speaker 5: so much stuff that happens, like in history and time,

552
00:33:55,720 --> 00:33:59,760
Speaker 5: Like there's so much going on it, time's constantly moving.

553
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:05,000
Speaker 5: You can never like fully grasp that. I guess, do.

554
00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:10,640
Speaker 1: You well, I don't know. Yeah, it's weird. It's a

555
00:34:10,680 --> 00:34:13,600
Speaker 1: weird thing. I kind of.

556
00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,440
Speaker 3: There's something about when you graduate from the system of

557
00:34:22,320 --> 00:34:24,919
Speaker 3: high school and college where you get to a point

558
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,680
Speaker 3: where nobody's telling you what to do anymore, and the

559
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:32,160
Speaker 3: age of which you reach that point, it then becomes

560
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:35,279
Speaker 3: like that for the rest of your entire life, and

561
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:37,280
Speaker 3: you're like, damn, for the rest of my life, nobody's

562
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:39,160
Speaker 3: ever going to be telling me what to do anymore,

563
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 3: and I have to make my own decisions and guide myself.

564
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 3: And you know, ideally you have you know, people, and

565
00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:54,960
Speaker 3: I guess certain certain things guide you, but ultimately you're

566
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,200
Speaker 3: signing off on it all.

567
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:03,920
Speaker 1: So I don't know. Welco, what's your favorite flavor of pizza?

568
00:35:04,200 --> 00:35:05,520
Speaker 1: What's your favorite pizza topping?

569
00:35:07,160 --> 00:35:10,640
Speaker 5: Dude, give me a ranch pepperoni with some banana peppers.

570
00:35:11,040 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: What the fuck banana peppers.

571
00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 5: Well, hang on, hang on, hang on, hang on. You

572
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 5: like you never have banana peppers on your pizza.

573
00:35:19,080 --> 00:35:20,200
Speaker 1: I'm not a pepper guy.

574
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:26,400
Speaker 5: No, not really nor so I'll tell you this.

575
00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:30,320
Speaker 1: I'll tell you this. You mentioned Ranch. I love Ranch.

576
00:35:31,760 --> 00:35:35,640
Speaker 3: Uh, Barbie, what do you feel about? How do you

577
00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:37,240
Speaker 3: feel about barbecue chicken pizza?

578
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 5: Hey, give me a barbecue chicken bacon pizza.

579
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:42,719
Speaker 1: Yo?

580
00:35:45,520 --> 00:35:47,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, that sounds good. You about to get one?

581
00:35:47,600 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 1: Do you like? Can you tell can you tell me

582
00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:50,680
Speaker 1: if this is weird?

583
00:35:50,680 --> 00:35:51,200
Speaker 5: This is uh?

584
00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:54,040
Speaker 1: This is one of my big quirks. It's one of

585
00:35:54,040 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: my big idiosyncrasies. Is uh.

586
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:01,840
Speaker 3: Anytime I go to a pizza the slice place, you

587
00:36:01,880 --> 00:36:05,280
Speaker 3: know how when you get your slice of pizza, they'll

588
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:06,320
Speaker 3: take it and they'll put.

589
00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 1: It in the oven to heat it up.

590
00:36:08,920 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 5: Right.

591
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I always tell them not to do that, and

592
00:36:12,120 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 3: I just want it as is like a little cold.

593
00:36:16,680 --> 00:36:18,439
Speaker 5: You like that lukewarm pizza? Yeah?

594
00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:20,360
Speaker 3: I like it when it's lukewarm, because here's always happens.

595
00:36:20,360 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 3: They put it in the oven and then when it

596
00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:25,719
Speaker 3: comes out, it's way too hot to eat and the

597
00:36:25,840 --> 00:36:28,120
Speaker 3: cheese is so hot that you can't even really taste

598
00:36:28,160 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 3: the cheese because you're just tasting fucking burning, and the

599
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:36,840
Speaker 3: oil gets all uh dense, and it's just more greasy,

600
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 3: and it it's hot, and the crust is so crispy

601
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:44,320
Speaker 3: and thin that you can't even chew on it and

602
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:47,319
Speaker 3: enjoy like a chewy piece of pizza. So I always

603
00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:50,880
Speaker 3: tell them not to not to heat it up. Sometimes

604
00:36:51,160 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 3: I overshoot and the pizza is a little too cold.

605
00:36:54,120 --> 00:36:55,920
Speaker 3: It's like it's been in the fridge. I don't like that,

606
00:36:56,000 --> 00:36:59,839
Speaker 3: But I like when it's uh lukewarm. Sometimes you get

607
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:01,400
Speaker 3: it right of the perfect.

608
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:03,319
Speaker 1: Temperature, you know.

609
00:37:04,160 --> 00:37:06,160
Speaker 3: But when you order pizza at a restaurant, sounds like

610
00:37:06,160 --> 00:37:09,200
Speaker 3: you're more at a restaurant place. They always send it

611
00:37:09,239 --> 00:37:10,080
Speaker 3: to you fresh.

612
00:37:10,760 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 1: But that can be good too.

613
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:15,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, what's your go to pizza?

614
00:37:20,480 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 3: Uh, I'm gonna say, I'll get a Here's what I'll

615
00:37:24,239 --> 00:37:26,239
Speaker 3: usually do. I'll get a slice of regular and then

616
00:37:26,280 --> 00:37:30,880
Speaker 3: a slice of something crazy. So I'll do one slice

617
00:37:30,920 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 3: of cheese as like a backup, as like a just

618
00:37:35,000 --> 00:37:37,520
Speaker 3: in case if all else fails, we still got this one.

619
00:37:37,560 --> 00:37:40,680
Speaker 3: And then I'll do like, you know, either a chicken

620
00:37:40,719 --> 00:37:44,319
Speaker 3: bacon ranch or I want there's just one place they.

621
00:37:44,239 --> 00:37:45,560
Speaker 1: Have spaghetti pizza.

622
00:37:46,080 --> 00:37:47,640
Speaker 3: They just put a bunch of They just fill a

623
00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:49,400
Speaker 3: fucking pie crust with spaghetti.

624
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:52,600
Speaker 1: All I try that, So I'll.

625
00:37:52,440 --> 00:37:52,799
Speaker 5: Do one.

626
00:37:54,280 --> 00:37:57,560
Speaker 1: Right now, dog, Yeah, what's your favorite spaghetti?

627
00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:00,480
Speaker 5: No, you can't be talking to me about that right

628
00:38:00,520 --> 00:38:02,600
Speaker 5: now that I can't about spaghetti.

629
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:04,600
Speaker 1: You got on?

630
00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:07,840
Speaker 5: Yeah yeah that night that like that that night before

631
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,160
Speaker 5: I served. That's why I got sick on. Like my

632
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:13,160
Speaker 5: girlfriend was up like in the bathroom me like helped

633
00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:14,800
Speaker 5: me out, Like I'm a die dog.

634
00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 1: Because you ate spaghetti.

635
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 5: Look I so like I took them. We ate like dude.

636
00:38:23,120 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 5: She she said, man, this She said, man, this is

637
00:38:26,320 --> 00:38:27,839
Speaker 5: a lot. And I said, yeah, that was a lot.

638
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,319
Speaker 5: And she looked over and within like two seconds my

639
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:33,680
Speaker 5: bowl was completely empty. Meatballs, garg cheese, bread, all of it.

640
00:38:33,719 --> 00:38:37,080
Speaker 5: Like I'm notoriously a fast eater. And then probably an

641
00:38:37,080 --> 00:38:40,920
Speaker 5: hour later, after washing Cody agent Cody Banks, I was

642
00:38:40,960 --> 00:38:43,200
Speaker 5: in the I was in the bathroom letting all loose.

643
00:38:45,800 --> 00:38:48,640
Speaker 1: I thought it was because you got high.

644
00:38:48,760 --> 00:38:51,640
Speaker 5: Yeah, like I got I got high. But like I

645
00:38:51,680 --> 00:38:53,879
Speaker 5: get when I get too high, I get like motion stick,

646
00:38:54,080 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 5: which makes me you know, bomb and stuff.

647
00:38:56,600 --> 00:38:56,799
Speaker 4: You know.

648
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:02,799
Speaker 3: Sometimes I'll be eating and this is this ties back

649
00:39:02,840 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 3: into what we were talking about. A lot of the

650
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:11,400
Speaker 3: time recently, I'll be eating my perfectly lukewarm slice of

651
00:39:11,440 --> 00:39:15,759
Speaker 3: pizza on a stoop outside of the pizza place, or

652
00:39:15,840 --> 00:39:18,279
Speaker 3: just like kind of standing on the sidewalk outside of

653
00:39:18,320 --> 00:39:21,480
Speaker 3: the pizza place, and I'm looking around, and I am like,

654
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:26,080
Speaker 3: I think this is it, you know, Like I like

655
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:29,759
Speaker 3: sometimes I'm like, I'm you kind feel like you're on

656
00:39:29,800 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 3: a search for like what's the best version of life

657
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:39,440
Speaker 3: or what's like the real important stuff.

658
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:41,280
Speaker 1: It's like, I think that's it. I think that's good.

659
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:44,840
Speaker 1: That's good stuff right there. It's eating a slice of pizza.

660
00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:46,239
Speaker 5: You know.

661
00:39:46,360 --> 00:39:49,040
Speaker 1: I'm kind of like I could die right now just

662
00:39:49,080 --> 00:39:54,480
Speaker 1: eating nothing matters except the slice of lukewarm pizza.

663
00:39:54,880 --> 00:39:56,799
Speaker 5: You do anchovies on your pizza? No?

664
00:39:56,840 --> 00:40:00,399
Speaker 3: I hate ancho Well, actually, you know what, honestly, never them,

665
00:40:00,800 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 3: never tried them before.

666
00:40:01,680 --> 00:40:03,879
Speaker 5: All right, we're good, then we're good.

667
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:06,040
Speaker 1: Should I try anchoviies?

668
00:40:07,080 --> 00:40:07,120
Speaker 4: No?

669
00:40:07,440 --> 00:40:09,800
Speaker 5: No, Like, we don't serve anchovies in my place.

670
00:40:10,360 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 3: Actually, I think I tried them at some I don't

671
00:40:12,200 --> 00:40:13,520
Speaker 3: know why I was in someplace.

672
00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:16,719
Speaker 1: I must have had them. But how do you think

673
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 1: you're gonna die? What do you think? Do you think

674
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:19,000
Speaker 1: you're gonna get killed?

675
00:40:20,880 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 5: Man, I don't know. All my family's got like cancer.

676
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,120
Speaker 5: I don't know if that stuff like can just I

677
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 5: don't know, like how that's not really work out. But

678
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:32,160
Speaker 5: I've been getting nervous about that stuff. But I think

679
00:40:32,200 --> 00:40:35,279
Speaker 5: I got Chris seventy eight years in me. Yeah, I'm

680
00:40:35,280 --> 00:40:36,239
Speaker 5: just piecing.

681
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,399
Speaker 1: Out seventy eight years. That's a good run.

682
00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:44,239
Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like solid fifty three.

683
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:46,399
Speaker 1: Man, God damn, I swear to guy, it's so funny

684
00:40:46,400 --> 00:40:47,879
Speaker 1: you're bringing this up. I thought the same thing.

685
00:40:50,000 --> 00:40:51,360
Speaker 5: See that dog died too.

686
00:40:52,120 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: Oh the dog. Well, dogs die all the time. Huh

687
00:40:57,480 --> 00:40:59,719
Speaker 1: yeah the dog, Yeah, the dog died. I remember, Yeah,

688
00:40:59,719 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 1: the dog, the doge dog.

689
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:03,439
Speaker 5: Yeah, that old.

690
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:05,520
Speaker 1: How old was the dose dog when he died?

691
00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,480
Speaker 5: Eighteen eighteen.

692
00:41:08,560 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: That's a ripe old age for a dog.

693
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:15,399
Speaker 3: I think most dogs, like, if you're lucky, you get

694
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 3: thirteen years. That's how much a Golden Retriever gets, thirteen

695
00:41:24,800 --> 00:41:27,360
Speaker 3: seventy seventy eight. So I mean it's good. I'd like

696
00:41:27,440 --> 00:41:29,400
Speaker 3: to do eighty. I think if I can do eighty,

697
00:41:29,520 --> 00:41:30,520
Speaker 3: that'd be pretty sweet.

698
00:41:31,719 --> 00:41:33,560
Speaker 5: You want to be doing this until you're eighty like

699
00:41:33,640 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 5: taking a call.

700
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:36,840
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm probably not gonna be doing this

701
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:40,600
Speaker 1: when I'm eighty years old. I don't think. I don't know.

702
00:41:40,760 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 3: I know I want to be doing I want to

703
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:46,839
Speaker 3: do something interesting my entire life. I think what I'm

704
00:41:46,880 --> 00:41:49,879
Speaker 3: doing now is pretty interesting. So something as I'm doing

705
00:41:49,920 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 3: something interesting that's cool with me, Whether or not that

706
00:41:53,400 --> 00:41:57,200
Speaker 3: involves being a gecko and talking to people on the phone, do.

707
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:01,439
Speaker 5: A live interview while skydiving, that would act. No.

708
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,919
Speaker 3: No, I don't like doing No, I'm not into shit

709
00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:08,640
Speaker 3: where I don't I'm not into like extreme sports. I

710
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,839
Speaker 3: don't have any interest in bungee jumping or jumping out

711
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:12,959
Speaker 3: of a plane or any of that shit.

712
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:15,560
Speaker 5: Are you in the skies right now?

713
00:42:17,280 --> 00:42:18,040
Speaker 1: You got me there?

714
00:42:22,320 --> 00:42:22,560
Speaker 5: Why?

715
00:42:23,160 --> 00:42:24,839
Speaker 1: No, I'll probably just get cancer and die.

716
00:42:27,080 --> 00:42:28,280
Speaker 5: Don't put it that way.

717
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,279
Speaker 3: What do you mean that's that's the bat. I mean

718
00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 3: it's way better than a skydiving accent. Skydiving accents, that's horrible.

719
00:42:34,400 --> 00:42:35,200
Speaker 3: Give me cancer?

720
00:42:36,239 --> 00:42:38,160
Speaker 5: Hey, were you using that make a wish on it? Then?

721
00:42:39,000 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: What I'm using my that's a great question. Actually, why

722
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:46,000
Speaker 1: would you use your make a wish? If I was fourth?

723
00:42:46,760 --> 00:42:50,480
Speaker 3: Like I think most make a wish stuff is for

724
00:42:50,600 --> 00:42:53,200
Speaker 3: like kids, and I was thinking if I was fourteen

725
00:42:53,239 --> 00:42:56,319
Speaker 3: and I had cancer, my wish would probably be to

726
00:42:56,320 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 3: touch boobs. That was my one thing. But now, as

727
00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:06,920
Speaker 3: an adult make a wish, I don't there's nothing I

728
00:43:06,960 --> 00:43:10,640
Speaker 3: don't I don't think I would have a wish as

729
00:43:10,640 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 3: an adult. I don't think there's anything that I want

730
00:43:12,640 --> 00:43:15,319
Speaker 3: that Make a Wish could give me.

731
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:20,920
Speaker 1: Right now, what would you make? I don't know if that.

732
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:24,200
Speaker 1: I don't think that that means that I am happy.

733
00:43:24,960 --> 00:43:27,680
Speaker 5: You're complishing then, like you're you're in a stable position.

734
00:43:30,760 --> 00:43:33,960
Speaker 3: I don't think it means that I'm happy, but I

735
00:43:33,960 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 3: think it means there's nothing missing from my life that

736
00:43:37,200 --> 00:43:40,640
Speaker 3: I believe the Make a Wish Foundation could provide, Like

737
00:43:40,680 --> 00:43:41,560
Speaker 3: I don't need to fight.

738
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:42,200
Speaker 4: Uh.

739
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:44,279
Speaker 3: I think one of the ones they did was like

740
00:43:45,040 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 3: that a kid was Batman for a day. And I

741
00:43:49,440 --> 00:43:52,840
Speaker 3: don't think being Batman for a day would be interesting

742
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 3: to me as an adult or or make my life better.

743
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:00,799
Speaker 1: But what about you? What we your wish be.

744
00:44:04,560 --> 00:44:11,759
Speaker 5: Oh Man taking me a space? You think they would

745
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 5: do that?

746
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:12,879
Speaker 1: You know what?

747
00:44:13,880 --> 00:44:14,000
Speaker 4: Uh?

748
00:44:14,080 --> 00:44:17,120
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know I'm stealing yours? That's that's Can they

749
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:19,520
Speaker 3: do that? Can they take kids to the space. I

750
00:44:19,560 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 3: feel like they can. If they could do that, then yes,

751
00:44:22,080 --> 00:44:22,920
Speaker 3: I want to see space.

752
00:44:25,880 --> 00:44:28,680
Speaker 1: Yes, I think that'd be fucking terrifying. Though right.

753
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 5: I'm getting hell of emotion sick.

754
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:35,480
Speaker 3: Cause, like I understand how you get just like that

755
00:44:35,600 --> 00:44:39,319
Speaker 3: rocket ship ride to get to space. That must be like, like,

756
00:44:39,440 --> 00:44:40,600
Speaker 3: I'd be really scared of that.

757
00:44:45,120 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 5: Then you ain't taking like a gummy nothing. You ain't

758
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 5: doing popping nothing where you go.

759
00:44:48,760 --> 00:44:51,279
Speaker 3: Fuck, No, I'm not getting high before getting on a ride.

760
00:44:51,320 --> 00:44:53,920
Speaker 3: I would that would be the ultimate because you imagine

761
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:58,239
Speaker 3: being high in space that sounds awful or actually, no,

762
00:44:58,400 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 3: that sounds kind of amazing.

763
00:45:01,440 --> 00:45:04,600
Speaker 5: Imagine you've seen the Earth, you you, and you've seen

764
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:07,040
Speaker 5: that Earth while you're high. Man, that's gotta be the

765
00:45:07,040 --> 00:45:08,839
Speaker 5: craziest thing you ever see.

766
00:45:08,960 --> 00:45:11,399
Speaker 1: You ever play a Call of Modern Warfare two?

767
00:45:12,480 --> 00:45:12,719
Speaker 5: Yeah?

768
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, Remember when the trailer for that came out and

769
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,720
Speaker 3: there was a cut scene where you're in fucking space

770
00:45:18,280 --> 00:45:19,280
Speaker 3: that was so hyped.

771
00:45:21,160 --> 00:45:23,320
Speaker 5: I don't remember that. I'm gonna be honest, but that

772
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:24,960
Speaker 5: sounds odd. Maybe I'll watch you after this.

773
00:45:25,440 --> 00:45:28,320
Speaker 3: Yeah, I bet space is probably like it isn't in

774
00:45:28,760 --> 00:45:34,520
Speaker 3: Monorn Warfare two, would you that, soh yeah, I would

775
00:45:34,520 --> 00:45:36,680
Speaker 3: take that if that was a wish available to you.

776
00:45:37,040 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 5: Go into space, you know, and get your custom like

777
00:45:40,760 --> 00:45:43,520
Speaker 5: get costume, like astronaut costume.

778
00:45:45,719 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, make it all green and green and green and shit,

779
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:48,799
Speaker 1: that'd be cool.

780
00:45:49,920 --> 00:45:50,919
Speaker 5: That's pretty cool. Man.

781
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:59,839
Speaker 3: Well, I'm sorry that I couldn't solve both of our

782
00:46:00,000 --> 00:46:03,799
Speaker 3: inevitable deaths over the course of this phone call.

783
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: But you know, I'm glad we got to work it out.

784
00:46:07,719 --> 00:46:09,640
Speaker 5: Fuck that I got to talk to the GEK. That's

785
00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:11,680
Speaker 5: that's already like that made me feel better. I do

786
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:15,640
Speaker 5: have one question, though, Yeah, what's up? So I see

787
00:46:15,680 --> 00:46:18,080
Speaker 5: your tour dates? Man, how come you ain't coming back

788
00:46:18,080 --> 00:46:21,759
Speaker 5: to like Indy or Columbus unless I missed that, you know.

789
00:46:21,760 --> 00:46:22,560
Speaker 1: I don't. I don't.

790
00:46:22,600 --> 00:46:25,520
Speaker 3: I don't know why. I don't really like. Uh, I don't.

791
00:46:25,560 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 3: I don't decide a lot of the I mean I

792
00:46:27,760 --> 00:46:31,400
Speaker 3: kind of do. Uh yeah, I don't know.

793
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: I'll try. I'll try to come back.

794
00:46:33,960 --> 00:46:35,440
Speaker 5: Please do man, please.

795
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 3: I had a fun I had a fun time last

796
00:46:37,239 --> 00:46:39,720
Speaker 3: time I was in uh, Columbus, Ohio.

797
00:46:39,800 --> 00:46:40,560
Speaker 1: I like that place.

798
00:46:40,840 --> 00:46:43,600
Speaker 3: I like a lot of the comedy clubs are in malls,

799
00:46:43,920 --> 00:46:47,960
Speaker 3: so I get to have an Auntie Anne's pretzel before

800
00:46:48,000 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 3: the show, and that's my favorite part.

801
00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:53,840
Speaker 5: I will get you on if you come back to Columbus.

802
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:55,720
Speaker 1: What's your name against?

803
00:46:55,719 --> 00:46:55,879
Speaker 4: Sir?

804
00:46:57,120 --> 00:46:59,960
Speaker 5: Named Zach Zach Zach Zada?

805
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:01,400
Speaker 1: Thing else you want to say to the people of

806
00:47:01,440 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 1: the computer before we go?

807
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:08,760
Speaker 5: Hey, man, Yetta live once. You gotta have a good time,

808
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:10,960
Speaker 5: Jack Blass.

809
00:47:12,000 --> 00:47:15,600
Speaker 1: Thank you, sir. Have a good night too.

810
00:47:16,160 --> 00:47:21,040
Speaker 3: Now, imagine eating a lukewarm slice of pizza in space.

811
00:47:21,280 --> 00:47:24,920
Speaker 3: That'd be a pretty good uh way to die.

812
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:33,319
Speaker 1: Hello. Hello, Hi, it's Lyle Hi. Hello, Hello, what is

813
00:47:33,360 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: your name?

814
00:47:35,000 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 5: I'm Cat Cat?

815
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:40,320
Speaker 1: What's going on? Kat? Thanks for not much?

816
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 6: Not much?

817
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:43,000
Speaker 3: Thanks for talking and thanks for talking on my on

818
00:47:43,080 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 3: my little show.

819
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:48,680
Speaker 4: Yeah, thank you for calling me. I'm just at my

820
00:47:48,800 --> 00:47:51,840
Speaker 4: second job. I clean a preschool in the evening.

821
00:47:52,680 --> 00:47:54,439
Speaker 1: You clean a preschool?

822
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:59,600
Speaker 4: Yes and yes, for one hour a day Monday through Friday,

823
00:47:59,680 --> 00:48:01,720
Speaker 4: and some times I hold off till Sunday.

824
00:48:02,160 --> 00:48:08,000
Speaker 3: What kind of bodily fluids were getting into here? Snotpuke blood?

825
00:48:09,640 --> 00:48:12,880
Speaker 4: Honestly, they're potty training, so it's mostly urine and a

826
00:48:12,920 --> 00:48:14,120
Speaker 4: little bit of species.

827
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:15,880
Speaker 1: How'd you get into that line of work?

828
00:48:16,640 --> 00:48:20,680
Speaker 4: I've been cleaning for a few years, and slowly I

829
00:48:20,719 --> 00:48:23,839
Speaker 4: went from house cleaning to school cleaning and this turned

830
00:48:23,840 --> 00:48:26,959
Speaker 4: out to be a really nice gig. And yeah, that's

831
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:30,040
Speaker 4: a that's about it. It's just a series of jumping

832
00:48:30,040 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 4: from one cleaning job to the next, and this has

833
00:48:32,640 --> 00:48:33,440
Speaker 4: been a nice one.

834
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,279
Speaker 1: So that this is your second job, you say, what's

835
00:48:37,280 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 1: your first job?

836
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:40,440
Speaker 4: My first job, I do cleaning for a casino.

837
00:48:41,880 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 3: Wow, it's funny because I really can't decide which one

838
00:48:46,760 --> 00:48:52,000
Speaker 3: I think is Grosser's the casino, do you think? So okay,

839
00:48:52,080 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 3: tell me tell me about the messes at the casinos

840
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:56,880
Speaker 3: versus the messes in the preschool.

841
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:01,799
Speaker 4: The preschool is easy. I mean, the kids do a

842
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:04,840
Speaker 4: little bit of dribble here and there with the potty

843
00:49:04,880 --> 00:49:08,439
Speaker 4: training stuff. But like the casino, you have days where

844
00:49:09,600 --> 00:49:13,440
Speaker 4: someone will come in and just trash your whole bathroom,

845
00:49:13,640 --> 00:49:18,000
Speaker 4: like your assigned restroom, and I mean like someone will

846
00:49:18,000 --> 00:49:21,800
Speaker 4: come in and just shit all over like the whole floor,

847
00:49:22,000 --> 00:49:24,080
Speaker 4: multiple stalls, and you have to like shut down the

848
00:49:24,120 --> 00:49:27,920
Speaker 4: restroom and there's a whole process for cleaning that up.

849
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:33,120
Speaker 4: And it's everywhere, It's everywhere, and the smell never seems

850
00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 4: to completely go away. So that's it's a lot of fun.

851
00:49:36,960 --> 00:49:37,720
Speaker 4: It's a lot of fun.

852
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:43,359
Speaker 3: Now, are the messes made more by people who are

853
00:49:43,560 --> 00:49:47,919
Speaker 3: losing and they're upset and so they take it out

854
00:49:47,960 --> 00:49:50,640
Speaker 3: on the bathroom or by people who are winning and

855
00:49:50,640 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 3: they're so a static that they don't give a shit

856
00:49:53,280 --> 00:50:00,040
Speaker 3: anymore and they're taking it out on the bathroom.

857
00:49:58,080 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 4: I want to say winning. And it's most because when

858
00:50:01,760 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 4: they're winning, they don't want to get up from the machine,

859
00:50:05,360 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 4: so they're racing over there at the last second, and

860
00:50:08,320 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 4: they don't They don't always make it.

861
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:16,040
Speaker 3: Have you seen that video of these like old people

862
00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:19,719
Speaker 3: who are just kind of mindlessly put in quarters.

863
00:50:19,280 --> 00:50:22,399
Speaker 4: Yeah, and they're tapping and tapping. Yeah.

864
00:50:22,480 --> 00:50:22,719
Speaker 5: Yeah.

865
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:23,680
Speaker 1: Do you see that a lot?

866
00:50:24,520 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 5: Yeah?

867
00:50:24,800 --> 00:50:27,120
Speaker 4: That's that's that's a day at worked for me. Yeah,

868
00:50:27,320 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 4: I see a lot of that. That's like a I

869
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:31,600
Speaker 4: don't get.

870
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:32,320
Speaker 1: The slot machines.

871
00:50:32,400 --> 00:50:34,680
Speaker 3: I'm pretty sure I've said this on here before, but

872
00:50:35,080 --> 00:50:38,640
Speaker 3: the slot machines are very disappointing to me because you

873
00:50:38,680 --> 00:50:41,880
Speaker 3: go into the casino and they have all these like

874
00:50:42,600 --> 00:50:46,080
Speaker 3: flashing lights and colors, and there's like a panda game

875
00:50:46,160 --> 00:50:50,680
Speaker 3: and a fucking dragon game, and here's a they they've

876
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,319
Speaker 3: like licensed all these properties. So it's like, here's Willy

877
00:50:53,400 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 3: Waka the game and all this stuff, but it's all

878
00:50:56,360 --> 00:50:57,200
Speaker 3: the same game.

879
00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:58,120
Speaker 1: It's all just one button.

880
00:50:58,160 --> 00:50:59,839
Speaker 3: It's not like Dave and Busters where you actually get

881
00:50:59,880 --> 00:51:01,600
Speaker 3: to you don't get to even play anything.

882
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:05,680
Speaker 4: No, you're right, yeah, they're all it's all. It's all

883
00:51:05,719 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 4: the same. It's just what theme do you feel like

884
00:51:07,840 --> 00:51:12,279
Speaker 4: sitting at? I don't gamble, so I don't really get it.

885
00:51:12,480 --> 00:51:14,680
Speaker 4: I guess I have no clue how any of those

886
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:18,920
Speaker 4: machines work, honestly, But so, how long.

887
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:19,960
Speaker 1: Have you been cleaning stuff?

888
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:25,080
Speaker 4: For almost four years? I started cleaning, well, maybe a

889
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:28,719
Speaker 4: little over four years. I started cleaning right before COVID hit.

890
00:51:28,920 --> 00:51:32,720
Speaker 4: My first house house cleaning job was with the company,

891
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 4: and I was like, this would be really nice.

892
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 2: It'll be quiet.

893
00:51:35,440 --> 00:51:38,440
Speaker 4: I'm going into people's homes and they're not there. And

894
00:51:38,440 --> 00:51:40,640
Speaker 4: then COVID hit and everyone was like locked in and

895
00:51:40,680 --> 00:51:43,440
Speaker 4: suddenly people were like following me while I cleaned their houses,

896
00:51:43,480 --> 00:51:46,279
Speaker 4: and we're like really persnickety about it.

897
00:51:47,560 --> 00:51:53,040
Speaker 3: So the very first time you had to clean diarrhea

898
00:51:53,960 --> 00:51:56,080
Speaker 3: was it something you had to get over? And now

899
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:58,359
Speaker 3: every time you clean diarrhea, it's like all right, I've

900
00:51:58,360 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 3: been through this before, or is it still kind of hit.

901
00:52:01,120 --> 00:52:01,800
Speaker 1: You every time?

902
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:05,640
Speaker 4: I don't think. I don't. I don't think that one

903
00:52:05,719 --> 00:52:09,360
Speaker 4: hit me too too hard. One thing I have not

904
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:13,960
Speaker 4: cleaned yet is vomit. And I'll be honest, I have

905
00:52:14,040 --> 00:52:16,720
Speaker 4: no clue how that's gonna go when that happens.

906
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:19,560
Speaker 3: Four years of cleaning a casino in a preschool and

907
00:52:19,560 --> 00:52:20,720
Speaker 3: you've never had to clean vomit.

908
00:52:21,239 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 2: I haven't had to clean vomit.

909
00:52:22,520 --> 00:52:25,080
Speaker 4: Now I'm lucky I had to clean. Yeah, I've had

910
00:52:25,120 --> 00:52:29,120
Speaker 4: to clean a lot of diarrhea, but not not vomit. Surprisingly.

911
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 3: Okay, so I'm gonna and look, here's the thing. We

912
00:52:33,680 --> 00:52:36,160
Speaker 3: could talk about vomiting diarrhea for the next half hour

913
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:39,719
Speaker 3: if you want to. But before we do that, I

914
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:42,719
Speaker 3: want to say, is there a particular thing that you

915
00:52:42,800 --> 00:52:44,200
Speaker 3: called in to want to talk about?

916
00:52:46,160 --> 00:52:49,120
Speaker 4: No, I gave you a list. I don't know what

917
00:52:49,200 --> 00:52:53,000
Speaker 4: you saw that you were the most compelled by. I'm

918
00:52:53,000 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 4: open to whatever. I'm open to anything not on that list.

919
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:56,800
Speaker 2: Whatever.

920
00:52:57,920 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 3: Okay, Well, let's see. I mean, I mean, I okay, sure,

921
00:53:04,000 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 3: I mean you sent me a whole bunch of stuff.

922
00:53:05,560 --> 00:53:08,400
Speaker 3: One of the things you said was I'm dating somebody

923
00:53:08,400 --> 00:53:12,080
Speaker 3: who makes so much money that I feel intimidated to

924
00:53:12,120 --> 00:53:15,520
Speaker 3: be in a relationship with them. We are discussing me

925
00:53:15,760 --> 00:53:19,000
Speaker 3: moving in at some point and being a housewife.

926
00:53:19,600 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 1: Is that something you wanted.

927
00:53:20,440 --> 00:53:21,000
Speaker 6: To talk about.

928
00:53:22,280 --> 00:53:23,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm hoping to talk about that.

929
00:53:23,680 --> 00:53:24,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, go ahead.

930
00:53:26,640 --> 00:53:30,160
Speaker 4: I just I just started seeing someone. He's really really great.

931
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:35,760
Speaker 4: But I have always been I've always worked really hard

932
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:40,040
Speaker 4: and really like scraped for like just being able to survive.

933
00:53:41,040 --> 00:53:43,719
Speaker 4: I live in southern California and it's expensive out here,

934
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 4: and so I just started seeing this guy. He's really

935
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:51,439
Speaker 4: really great, and it turns out he makes so much money.

936
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:55,560
Speaker 4: He makes so much money and I feel like I

937
00:53:55,640 --> 00:54:00,719
Speaker 4: have no business dating him because I'm not like the

938
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 4: same caliber financially. He's completely, like, totally cool with it.

939
00:54:06,239 --> 00:54:08,920
Speaker 4: It's no big deal to him. He just likes me

940
00:54:09,120 --> 00:54:11,440
Speaker 4: for me, and I do like him for him. There

941
00:54:11,560 --> 00:54:19,239
Speaker 4: just is this weird financial gap. I guess it's it's

942
00:54:19,719 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 4: I think I make maybe a quarter of what he

943
00:54:25,080 --> 00:54:30,160
Speaker 4: makes in a year, so it's a lot. It's a lot.

944
00:54:31,960 --> 00:54:35,400
Speaker 3: I have to ask the what I mean, when you

945
00:54:35,480 --> 00:54:37,120
Speaker 3: get into it and you really think about it, why

946
00:54:37,120 --> 00:54:38,040
Speaker 3: does it matter?

947
00:54:38,280 --> 00:54:41,960
Speaker 1: If he seems to like you for you, and you

948
00:54:42,400 --> 00:54:43,600
Speaker 1: seem to like him for him.

949
00:54:45,840 --> 00:54:48,239
Speaker 4: You know, I've been asking myself the same thing. It

950
00:54:48,280 --> 00:54:53,520
Speaker 4: shouldn't matter, and in reality it doesn't matter. But I

951
00:54:53,520 --> 00:54:57,960
Speaker 4: guess I worry about being too dependent on him or

952
00:54:58,440 --> 00:55:02,439
Speaker 4: really enjoying the relationship for a year or a couple

953
00:55:02,480 --> 00:55:05,320
Speaker 4: of years or a long time, and at some point

954
00:55:05,480 --> 00:55:10,360
Speaker 4: it just turns into like I just live off of

955
00:55:10,440 --> 00:55:15,440
Speaker 4: him or he I mean, I become completely totally dependent

956
00:55:15,520 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 4: on him, and I don't.

957
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:17,919
Speaker 5: I don't.

958
00:55:17,960 --> 00:55:18,759
Speaker 4: I don't want that to.

959
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:19,280
Speaker 1: Be the case.

960
00:55:19,640 --> 00:55:22,160
Speaker 4: I don't think it would be fair to him. I

961
00:55:22,160 --> 00:55:24,319
Speaker 4: don't think it would be fair to me, but more so,

962
00:55:24,360 --> 00:55:27,799
Speaker 4: I don't think it would be fair to him to

963
00:55:28,360 --> 00:55:33,880
Speaker 4: just be take taking care of another person like in

964
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:36,160
Speaker 4: that way. In any way.

965
00:55:36,640 --> 00:55:39,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think I actually, I actually think you're going

966
00:55:39,200 --> 00:55:45,719
Speaker 3: about this really well because the awareness that you have

967
00:55:45,800 --> 00:55:48,719
Speaker 3: of like, you know, I mean, sure, if he wants

968
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:50,680
Speaker 3: to take me to a nice dinner every now and

969
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:52,799
Speaker 3: then and blah blah blah, that's great, But I want

970
00:55:52,800 --> 00:55:56,520
Speaker 3: to maintain my own sense of self and my own

971
00:55:57,160 --> 00:56:00,520
Speaker 3: finances and not find myself for lyting on this.

972
00:56:00,560 --> 00:56:04,919
Speaker 1: Skuy. I think that's really a good goal to have

973
00:56:05,000 --> 00:56:06,200
Speaker 1: and a good thing to keep in mind.

974
00:56:06,239 --> 00:56:07,640
Speaker 3: And I think as long as you're keeping that in

975
00:56:07,680 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 3: mind and you're doing that, there's nothing for you to

976
00:56:10,560 --> 00:56:17,799
Speaker 3: worry about. Are you worried that you're gonna digress on

977
00:56:17,840 --> 00:56:20,600
Speaker 3: the goal of having your own finances in order as

978
00:56:21,000 --> 00:56:23,520
Speaker 3: you get deeper into your relationship.

979
00:56:23,040 --> 00:56:28,320
Speaker 4: With this guy, Absolutely, I'm worried about becoming lazy, both

980
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:33,400
Speaker 4: financially and physically. Basically, I don't want to turn into

981
00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:39,759
Speaker 4: like a permanent couch potato that just like has groceries

982
00:56:39,800 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 4: brought to them and whatever else they want. Like, I

983
00:56:42,760 --> 00:56:48,600
Speaker 4: don't want to become a lazy dependent. I want to

984
00:56:48,640 --> 00:56:53,280
Speaker 4: be able to maintain Like like we're discussing me possibly

985
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:57,279
Speaker 4: moving in and taking care of the house, and he

986
00:56:57,440 --> 00:57:00,520
Speaker 4: was saying, well, we could split it fifty fifty, like

987
00:57:00,560 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 4: we can split the house chores so that you're not

988
00:57:03,880 --> 00:57:07,800
Speaker 4: like a house slave. But I'm like, if you're bringing

989
00:57:07,840 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 4: in this much money and you're cool with me working

990
00:57:14,520 --> 00:57:17,680
Speaker 4: less than I do now and making less than I

991
00:57:17,720 --> 00:57:20,640
Speaker 4: do now and having that money I make the sort

992
00:57:20,680 --> 00:57:24,200
Speaker 4: of like fun money for myself, then I at least

993
00:57:24,240 --> 00:57:28,959
Speaker 4: want to give like one hundred percent to taking care

994
00:57:29,200 --> 00:57:34,840
Speaker 4: of the household and those kinds of chores. I think

995
00:57:34,880 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 4: it's the find are even still I shouldn't so.

996
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:41,480
Speaker 3: He's but he so he suggested, why don't you move

997
00:57:41,520 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 3: in and will split the cost of the housing.

998
00:57:44,680 --> 00:57:45,400
Speaker 1: Fifty to fifty.

999
00:57:47,040 --> 00:57:52,439
Speaker 4: He suggested I move in and he would take care

1000
00:57:52,720 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 4: of the cost of things. Thanks, are so a little

1001
00:57:58,360 --> 00:58:02,400
Speaker 4: murky discussing all of the exact numbers, and we're we're

1002
00:58:02,480 --> 00:58:06,919
Speaker 4: totally discussing hypotheticals. We haven't been dating very long.

1003
00:58:07,000 --> 00:58:09,640
Speaker 1: How long have you guys? How long have you guys

1004
00:58:09,640 --> 00:58:10,120
Speaker 1: been there?

1005
00:58:11,120 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 4: It's been about a month and a half.

1006
00:58:14,200 --> 00:58:15,640
Speaker 2: Very brief, very brief.

1007
00:58:16,120 --> 00:58:16,920
Speaker 4: It's very short.

1008
00:58:17,080 --> 00:58:17,280
Speaker 6: Yeah.

1009
00:58:17,560 --> 00:58:18,640
Speaker 1: How old? How old are you?

1010
00:58:19,960 --> 00:58:20,760
Speaker 4: I'm thirty one?

1011
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:25,280
Speaker 3: Okay, Uh, look, dude, I'm not in the business of

1012
00:58:25,320 --> 00:58:27,160
Speaker 3: telling people what to do with their lives. I don't

1013
00:58:27,200 --> 00:58:30,320
Speaker 3: desire to tell people what to do with their lives,

1014
00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:33,760
Speaker 3: which is something I always say right before I'm about

1015
00:58:33,760 --> 00:58:35,600
Speaker 3: to tell somebody what they should do with their lives.

1016
00:58:36,160 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 5: You do, yes?

1017
00:58:41,480 --> 00:58:44,360
Speaker 1: I mean, dude? Like, here's I mean? Do you want

1018
00:58:44,360 --> 00:58:46,280
Speaker 1: my do you do you want my advice? Do you

1019
00:58:46,360 --> 00:58:46,920
Speaker 1: want my like?

1020
00:58:48,400 --> 00:58:54,800
Speaker 3: Because I don't If you have this strong desire to

1021
00:58:55,040 --> 00:59:04,280
Speaker 3: maintain your independence, then hold true to that desire as

1022
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:07,840
Speaker 3: long as you wish to. You know, like, if that's

1023
00:59:07,880 --> 00:59:11,080
Speaker 3: what you want. If you're like, I want to be independent,

1024
00:59:11,200 --> 00:59:14,280
Speaker 3: I want to pay for you know, my own housing

1025
00:59:14,320 --> 00:59:15,520
Speaker 3: and my own this and my own that.

1026
00:59:15,640 --> 00:59:20,320
Speaker 1: Then you're the only thing stopping you from doing that.

1027
00:59:23,160 --> 00:59:25,760
Speaker 4: No, that's very true. That's very true. Yeah, I definitely

1028
00:59:25,840 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 4: want to maintain my sense of self. I definitely want

1029
00:59:31,040 --> 00:59:34,440
Speaker 4: to maintain my sense of self beyond beyond financials and anything.

1030
00:59:34,480 --> 00:59:37,280
Speaker 4: I want to make sure that I'm still like doing

1031
00:59:37,320 --> 00:59:39,840
Speaker 4: the things that are important to me, spending time with

1032
00:59:39,920 --> 00:59:41,080
Speaker 4: my family, painting.

1033
00:59:41,880 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 1: Why are you in a rush to move in with

1034
00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 1: this guy you've been seeing for a month.

1035
00:59:47,560 --> 00:59:51,640
Speaker 4: I'm not so much in a rush. I think that

1036
00:59:51,760 --> 00:59:56,880
Speaker 4: he is a romantic and dreamy individual, which is something

1037
00:59:56,920 --> 01:00:00,000
Speaker 4: I like about him, and he brought he brought up

1038
01:00:00,120 --> 01:00:04,280
Speaker 4: put me moving in. He's seems very set on me,

1039
01:00:04,600 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 4: and he's very kind in a way that I can

1040
01:00:11,160 --> 01:00:18,960
Speaker 4: tell is genuine. He's a genuine person, and I appreciate

1041
01:00:19,120 --> 01:00:20,080
Speaker 4: and respect that.

1042
01:00:20,640 --> 01:00:23,080
Speaker 1: Okay, if you.

1043
01:00:23,000 --> 01:00:27,560
Speaker 3: Want my advice, I would say that, you know, why

1044
01:00:27,560 --> 01:00:31,600
Speaker 3: don't you just keep seeing this guy and don't be

1045
01:00:31,640 --> 01:00:34,160
Speaker 3: in a rush to move in with him. And if

1046
01:00:34,160 --> 01:00:37,720
Speaker 3: the time does come where you're like feeling pretty confident

1047
01:00:37,760 --> 01:00:40,640
Speaker 3: that you do want to move in with him, and

1048
01:00:40,680 --> 01:00:43,400
Speaker 3: you're still feeling like and by the way, look, if

1049
01:00:43,440 --> 01:00:45,960
Speaker 3: you told me, I'm telling you this, if you told

1050
01:00:45,960 --> 01:00:49,560
Speaker 3: me I would love to be a housewife and have

1051
01:00:49,640 --> 01:00:52,800
Speaker 3: a rich guy pay for all my shit, I wouldn't

1052
01:00:52,840 --> 01:00:54,640
Speaker 3: judge you. I wouldn't look twice. I would say, if

1053
01:00:54,640 --> 01:00:56,360
Speaker 3: that's what you want to do, then go do that.

1054
01:00:56,800 --> 01:00:59,040
Speaker 3: But if you're telling me that that's not what you

1055
01:00:59,080 --> 01:01:02,040
Speaker 3: want to do, and you want to maintain your independence

1056
01:01:03,000 --> 01:01:05,200
Speaker 3: and this is this is what you've decided you want

1057
01:01:05,240 --> 01:01:06,720
Speaker 3: for yourself, then then.

1058
01:01:08,000 --> 01:01:08,520
Speaker 1: Then do that.

1059
01:01:08,920 --> 01:01:12,480
Speaker 4: You know, no, that makes sense, that makes sense. So

1060
01:01:12,680 --> 01:01:15,680
Speaker 4: I definitely need to cool my jets, and I'm trying

1061
01:01:15,680 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 4: to keep that in check. It's not that I don't

1062
01:01:17,520 --> 01:01:20,840
Speaker 4: want to be a housewife. It's that I don't want

1063
01:01:20,920 --> 01:01:25,760
Speaker 4: to become a negligent human being because I became a housewife.

1064
01:01:26,560 --> 01:01:29,520
Speaker 3: Are you So you're inferring this idea that if you

1065
01:01:29,600 --> 01:01:35,680
Speaker 3: become too dependent and what's the word, huck it, if

1066
01:01:35,720 --> 01:01:38,720
Speaker 3: you become too lazy, Because you're just having this guy

1067
01:01:38,800 --> 01:01:41,320
Speaker 3: bankroll you. You're afraid that that's going to be a

1068
01:01:41,360 --> 01:01:42,400
Speaker 3: detriment to your life.

1069
01:01:44,160 --> 01:01:46,920
Speaker 4: Oh yes, yeah, that's a complete like loss itself.

1070
01:01:47,280 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a smart I think that's a smart thing

1071
01:01:49,080 --> 01:01:51,440
Speaker 3: to keep in mind as you navigate that relationship. So

1072
01:01:52,960 --> 01:01:55,920
Speaker 3: why don't you just continue to navigate this relationship and

1073
01:01:55,960 --> 01:01:58,720
Speaker 3: have fun and get to know this person and you know,

1074
01:01:59,200 --> 01:02:03,200
Speaker 3: maybe uh don't You know, you don't have to move

1075
01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:05,960
Speaker 3: in with him immediately, but just keep keep that in mind.

1076
01:02:06,400 --> 01:02:07,040
Speaker 1: Okay, you're the.

1077
01:02:06,960 --> 01:02:10,400
Speaker 3: Only thing I will from I don't know if this

1078
01:02:10,480 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 3: guy unless if he has a hot tub.

1079
01:02:11,880 --> 01:02:12,760
Speaker 1: If he has a hot.

1080
01:02:12,560 --> 01:02:15,720
Speaker 3: Tub, move in with him tomorrow and let him bank

1081
01:02:17,160 --> 01:02:18,920
Speaker 3: that's pretty cool, that sounds And if he has does

1082
01:02:18,920 --> 01:02:20,240
Speaker 3: he have a PlayStation five?

1083
01:02:21,040 --> 01:02:23,280
Speaker 1: I don't know if you care about that he does?

1084
01:02:23,720 --> 01:02:26,480
Speaker 1: Does he does he have a pool table in the house?

1085
01:02:27,720 --> 01:02:30,720
Speaker 4: No, but I don't play pool. He does have a fantastic,

1086
01:02:30,920 --> 01:02:34,360
Speaker 4: U large bathtub that I am aware of and think

1087
01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:34,680
Speaker 4: about it.

1088
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:36,480
Speaker 1: Does the bathtub have jets in it?

1089
01:02:36,520 --> 01:02:40,760
Speaker 3: Is it kind of like a half bathtub half uh

1090
01:02:40,960 --> 01:02:41,880
Speaker 3: hot tub hybrid.

1091
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:46,720
Speaker 4: It's being renovated, and I believe that there is a

1092
01:02:46,760 --> 01:02:48,760
Speaker 4: possibility there will be jets in it.

1093
01:02:49,000 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 3: Okay, I take everything I said back. You should definitely

1094
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 3: should move in with this guy for sure. Sweet, Is

1095
01:02:56,280 --> 01:02:57,680
Speaker 3: there anything else you want to say to the people

1096
01:02:57,680 --> 01:02:58,720
Speaker 3: of the computer before we go?

1097
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:04,919
Speaker 4: All? Everyone, just keep chugging along. You're doing a good job,

1098
01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:06,320
Speaker 4: whether you realize it or not.

1099
01:03:06,840 --> 01:03:10,080
Speaker 1: Beautiful, what's your name? Cat? Take care of cat? Thank you?

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01:03:10,120 --> 01:03:14,040
Speaker 3: Thank you for all you do for the uh this

1101
01:03:14,240 --> 01:03:16,240
Speaker 3: nation's casino diarrhea.

1102
01:03:17,360 --> 01:03:19,040
Speaker 4: Thank you, thank you. Lyle. Take it easy.

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01:03:19,400 --> 01:03:22,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, hot tub sounds pretty cool, although you don't want

1104
01:03:22,040 --> 01:03:24,480
Speaker 3: to get fucked right because then like if you're like,

1105
01:03:24,480 --> 01:03:27,120
Speaker 3: all right, I'm gonna live with this guy and he's

1106
01:03:27,160 --> 01:03:30,959
Speaker 3: gonna pay for my housing and I'm gonna just clean

1107
01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 3: up the house, then you're fucked because what happens if

1108
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:35,760
Speaker 3: someone diarrhea is in the hot tub, then you're sitting

1109
01:03:35,760 --> 01:03:37,840
Speaker 3: there cleaning diarrhea out of the hot tub.

1110
01:03:39,240 --> 01:03:43,040
Speaker 1: I don't know. It goes on the line, taking your

1111
01:03:43,160 --> 01:03:46,960
Speaker 1: phone calls every night, Everything goes to his I'm just

1112
01:03:47,040 --> 01:03:47,400
Speaker 1: teaching

1113
01:03:47,440 --> 01:03:50,919
Speaker 2: You loud in the lin