WEBVTT - #33 Dirty Dancing 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:03.600 Hey, Erica, hit up with the intro. Hell I Suck 0:00:03.640 --> 0:00:07.160 at Dating with the Ungler and I Heart Radio podcast. 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:14.040 I'm going to handle the intro today. Hello everyone, Hello, welcome. 0:00:14.080 --> 0:00:16.799 Why is your finger up? Erica? I'm just getting Jared 0:00:16.800 --> 0:00:20.119 to run down? Sorry, Okay, thank you so much for 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:22.960 tuning into this week's episode of help I Suck at Dating. 0:00:23.520 --> 0:00:25.560 One of us does not suck at dating anymore. We're 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:30.000 dropping like flies over here. Welcome back from your honeymoon, Jared, 0:00:30.000 --> 0:00:32.120 how thank you Hawaii. It was great man. So we 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:35.040 stay at the Rich Carlton, the Ritz Carlton. We're not 0:00:35.440 --> 0:00:38.200 We're not getting paid by the Ris Carlton. That's where 0:00:38.200 --> 0:00:40.000 we stayed. Dude. It was awesome. So we left Thursday, 0:00:40.040 --> 0:00:42.280 got the Thursday night, stayed four nights. It was amazing. 0:00:42.320 --> 0:00:45.480 We legitimately did not leave the resort. My like the 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:46.919 cool thing is actually and I are in the same 0:00:46.960 --> 0:00:49.520 page about what we enjoy on vacation, which is laying 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:55.760 by the pool, going to the beach, going to the 0:00:55.840 --> 0:00:59.160 beach and love you can't speak staying on the resort, 0:00:59.440 --> 0:01:02.040 uh and just like going out to dinner there, ordering 0:01:02.120 --> 0:01:04.520 room service and it's the best weekend ever, Oh, that 0:01:04.560 --> 0:01:08.440 sounds like my worst singing. It was the best to 0:01:08.480 --> 0:01:10.679 each other singing songs to each other. We actually watched 0:01:10.720 --> 0:01:13.319 Jerry McGuire in the hotel room one night. We ended 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:15.479 up ordering room services sustaining and we're like, let's watch 0:01:15.600 --> 0:01:17.959 rom Com and we always quote Jeremy McGuire. That was 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:19.440 like one of the first things we bonded about. I 0:01:19.480 --> 0:01:21.080 think that's one of the first reasons actually like to 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:23.880 show me the money, show me the money. Well I quoted. 0:01:24.000 --> 0:01:25.600 I forget what line I quoted, but it was a 0:01:25.720 --> 0:01:27.640 random line from Jerem McGuire, And she's like, you know 0:01:27.720 --> 0:01:29.760 Jerry McGuire And I was like, yeah, I love that movie. 0:01:30.000 --> 0:01:31.760 And so we always kind of joke around about that. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:33.080 So we're like, we have to watch it together. So 0:01:33.080 --> 0:01:35.440 we ended up watching it together in Hawaii. Wait, what 0:01:35.480 --> 0:01:37.160 was that song you guys were singing to each other? 0:01:37.640 --> 0:01:39.399 I was dying. I think if we pleaded it like 0:01:39.440 --> 0:01:42.319 five times, which song when you're like singing? I sang too. 0:01:42.520 --> 0:01:45.240 So the first day it was she was like what. 0:01:45.480 --> 0:01:46.560 I was like, what kind of music do you want 0:01:46.560 --> 0:01:48.440 to listen to? Because playing Pandora next to the beach, 0:01:48.640 --> 0:01:50.800 she's like, let's listen a Ron Thomas so lonely no 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:52.160 no more came on? So of course I'm going to 0:01:52.200 --> 0:01:55.080 serenader because Rob Thomas wasn't that one? Uh no? And 0:01:55.120 --> 0:02:03.280 then I sang and so I sang girlfriends Why. It 0:02:03.360 --> 0:02:05.720 was about that time that I had to unfollowed both. Jared, 0:02:05.800 --> 0:02:09.519 I do not blame you one bit, but the response 0:02:09.639 --> 0:02:12.160 from when we came out has been nothing short of 0:02:12.280 --> 0:02:14.240 let's talk about let's talk about that for a minute. 0:02:14.280 --> 0:02:16.919 So it's been pretty much exactly a week since we've 0:02:16.919 --> 0:02:19.960 announced the relationship of you and actually right, and it 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:24.639 seems like everyone is just enamored with everything, which is great, 0:02:24.680 --> 0:02:26.200 and that's the response that you would have hoped for. 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:29.560 How has it changed your relationship dynamic? I mean, obviously, 0:02:29.600 --> 0:02:31.440 like it's hard because you're still in this very much 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:33.880 honeyman phase. You guys basically literally were just in why 0:02:33.960 --> 0:02:35.880 But does it feel like a weight has been lifted 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:37.680 off your shoulders? Do you feel more comfortable with anything? 0:02:37.680 --> 0:02:39.639 Has anything changed in that like just between the two 0:02:39.639 --> 0:02:41.720 of you know, I don't think anything has changed between 0:02:41.720 --> 0:02:43.720 the two of us, um for the past couple of 0:02:43.720 --> 0:02:46.320 months since we've been dating. It's been incredible, and we 0:02:46.639 --> 0:02:48.960 keep falling in love more and more every day, and 0:02:48.960 --> 0:02:51.360 it just continue to do that over the weekend even 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.919 with being out. The only differences is now, um, obviously 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.200 we can post on social media together, which is cool. 0:02:57.240 --> 0:02:59.880 I can show off my girlfriend. And then other than that, 0:03:00.160 --> 0:03:02.839 like that girlfriend and girlfriend. I know, it's it's nice 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:04.960 being like, yeah, my girlfriend, That's what we always called 0:03:04.960 --> 0:03:07.280 each other. We're just like, she's like my boyfriend, like 0:03:07.320 --> 0:03:10.080 my girlfriend. So yeah, I know everybody's gonna throw up 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:16.040 in their mouth. But but but other than that, no, 0:03:16.120 --> 0:03:19.440 nothing's really changed. Like we'll read comments because everybody has 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:23.400 been so overly nice and supportive of everything. Comments no 0:03:24.680 --> 0:03:28.160 comments on Ashley's picks. Actually got about comments. Yeah, on 0:03:28.200 --> 0:03:33.440 the first picture and I got about comments. It was insane. 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:37.000 I've never experienced anything like that, even being on the show. Um, 0:03:37.280 --> 0:03:39.440 I don't think I've ever experienced anything like I did 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:41.040 last week. Why do you think that is? I mean, 0:03:41.080 --> 0:03:43.720 I honestly have no idea. Well, obviously, so everyone's been 0:03:43.800 --> 0:03:46.360 kind of following years an actually story to some extent 0:03:46.440 --> 0:03:52.640 since Paradise season two fifteen. Holy is that crazy? Yeah, 0:03:52.720 --> 0:03:55.720 I met Ashley almost three years ago. Because it was 0:03:55.720 --> 0:03:59.600 early June. Yeah, Paradise season too. When she walked down 0:03:59.600 --> 0:04:02.080 the stairs with aren't first time ever met? I would 0:04:02.080 --> 0:04:03.920 I would have ventured to say, and like, obviously we 0:04:03.960 --> 0:04:06.600 can't use instagram metrics to valid like anything like that, 0:04:06.600 --> 0:04:08.560 but I would say that the picture that actually posted 0:04:08.560 --> 0:04:10.280 a you two is the most liked picture that any 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:13.000 Bachelor contestant it has ever posted. I'm not basing that 0:04:13.040 --> 0:04:15.840 on foundation whatsoever, but I think it's got to be true. 0:04:15.880 --> 0:04:17.880 I don't think it's the most like it's it's up there. 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:20.120 But I think the difference is is that we just 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:23.000 it's crazy to think we just posted it online that's 0:04:23.000 --> 0:04:25.040 how this is. We weren't. I mean, obviously we've been 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:26.760 on shows, but this wasn't coming from a show. We 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:28.599 started dating off the show and it was very real 0:04:28.680 --> 0:04:31.360 and very genuine, and and then we just posted on 0:04:31.360 --> 0:04:33.320 our social media pages that were together. We came out 0:04:33.360 --> 0:04:34.800 with the story of us, so we could just pretty 0:04:34.880 --> 0:04:38.520 much explain in one sitting everything that kind of happened. 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:42.080 And then it just exploded and then yeah, that was 0:04:42.160 --> 0:04:44.320 That was a crazy day because I was really nervous 0:04:44.320 --> 0:04:45.920 when we announced because I didn't know how people were 0:04:45.960 --> 0:04:47.440 going to react. I don't even know if people were 0:04:47.440 --> 0:04:50.200 going to react, and I remember the entire day I 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:52.960 was thinking, I don't even know if anybody's gonna really care, 0:04:53.080 --> 0:04:56.400 and I don't blame them, but then it just exploded. 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.400 I think people like you and Ashley and then you 0:04:59.400 --> 0:05:01.839 guys together as a couple. It's just like And I 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:04.359 also think nobody just ever saw this coming and that 0:05:04.520 --> 0:05:06.400 I think that's the other thing, if I'm being honest, 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.159 I think that was the other factor as well, that 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:12.680 when we posted we were together, people are like, what, like, 0:05:12.760 --> 0:05:14.680 we need to know everything, how the hell did this happen? 0:05:15.160 --> 0:05:19.040 And people and and so um, it's it's been nothing 0:05:19.080 --> 0:05:23.520 short of um of incredible. I know I keep using 0:05:23.520 --> 0:05:26.440 that word, but um, It's something that I've never experienced before. 0:05:26.440 --> 0:05:28.320 And I'm very grateful for everything that's come from it, 0:05:28.320 --> 0:05:30.719 because everybody's just been so supportive, and I've done so 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.800 many tweets and comments about how people are like, I 0:05:33.839 --> 0:05:36.840 believe in love again. And while that creates a lot 0:05:36.839 --> 0:05:39.400 of pressure, I it doesn't really phase me because I'm 0:05:39.440 --> 0:05:41.599 completely in love with Ashley and I see myself spending 0:05:41.600 --> 0:05:43.479 the rest of my life with her. And so like, 0:05:44.120 --> 0:05:48.320 it's nice that people comment on us and say, you guys, 0:05:48.360 --> 0:05:50.839 are you guys? Are you guys have had your ups? 0:05:50.880 --> 0:05:53.760 You guys have had your downs. Um, Jared, you've been 0:05:53.800 --> 0:05:56.200 an idiot for a long time, which I have been 0:05:56.440 --> 0:05:59.520 and um, and it's nice for people to be like, 0:05:59.560 --> 0:06:02.080 but it's real. You guys are real, And so that's 0:06:02.680 --> 0:06:04.120 the biggest call. I think the hope that it gives 0:06:04.160 --> 0:06:06.359 me is because I'm very black and white in relationships, Like, 0:06:06.400 --> 0:06:08.760 once it's over, it's over. I'm not turning back. But 0:06:09.000 --> 0:06:11.680 what this gives me is a hope that there are 0:06:11.720 --> 0:06:21.600 second chances. That's what the big thing for me. I'm 0:06:21.640 --> 0:06:23.920 just kidding. I do think that because it did kind 0:06:23.920 --> 0:06:26.320 of come out of nowhere to the lesser informed. Obviously 0:06:26.400 --> 0:06:28.240 Vanessa and I and everyone that's kind of close to 0:06:28.279 --> 0:06:29.680 you guys knew what was going on all that kind 0:06:29.680 --> 0:06:31.680 of stuff. But I do think logistically the way that 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:35.039 it was handled where you guys you have to announce it, 0:06:35.080 --> 0:06:38.360 but you posted each other on your Instagram basically announcing it. 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:40.599 But before you did that, the story of us kind 0:06:40.640 --> 0:06:42.719 of caught everyone up with what you guys have been 0:06:42.800 --> 0:06:44.200 up to over the past year because you don't have 0:06:44.240 --> 0:06:45.720 the I don't want to call it a luxury, but 0:06:45.760 --> 0:06:47.720 you don't have the opportunity to go on a TV 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:51.039 show again too. Then like kind of let the story unfold, 0:06:51.080 --> 0:06:52.840 so you kind of were able to sit down with 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:54.720 the forty five minute video and be like, this is 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:57.160 the story of us. Funny enough because that's the title 0:06:57.160 --> 0:06:59.240 of the show. But then not only that, because you 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:01.279 described the is two years of paradise, but then you 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:03.359 also caught everyone up over the past six months or so, 0:07:03.440 --> 0:07:05.200 which every which is where most of the stuff kind 0:07:05.200 --> 0:07:07.040 of started to take shape exactly, and which is what 0:07:07.080 --> 0:07:09.359 everybody wanted to know of, Like Ashley was just on 0:07:09.400 --> 0:07:12.760 Winter Games and she left with somebody, and then obviously 0:07:12.840 --> 0:07:15.240 they broke up, but like what how did this happen? 0:07:15.360 --> 0:07:18.000 And obviously, you know, Ashley and I wanted to just 0:07:18.080 --> 0:07:19.920 date also for a couple of months and and and 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:21.800 keep it quiet for the simple fact that we really 0:07:21.840 --> 0:07:23.280 just wanted to work on us and we didn't want 0:07:23.360 --> 0:07:25.440 to start dating and immediately post that we were together 0:07:25.440 --> 0:07:28.280 because we knew no matter how big or little that 0:07:28.320 --> 0:07:33.200 announcement would have, um you know, created um we it 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:35.520 was important to us just to really focus on each 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:39.560 other and have no outstanding, you know, exterior pressure, and 0:07:39.600 --> 0:07:42.720 really just work to develop this relationship. And that's what 0:07:42.800 --> 0:07:44.800 we did, and and I'm so glad we did because 0:07:44.800 --> 0:07:47.720 we were able to really, um, we've already had a 0:07:47.720 --> 0:07:49.520 strong foundation, but we were able to create a stronger 0:07:49.520 --> 0:07:52.120 foundation and open side, open a different side of our 0:07:52.120 --> 0:07:55.200 relationship that we never explored and we're able to explore 0:07:55.240 --> 0:07:57.320 on our own without any exterior pressure. Do you think 0:07:57.360 --> 0:07:59.840 that your relationship, again, it's only a week since the 0:08:00.000 --> 0:08:01.720 anouncement where it will refer to us, do you think 0:08:01.720 --> 0:08:04.880 that the relationship has strengthened day after day or is 0:08:04.880 --> 0:08:07.640 it consist the announcement just like and just maybe the 0:08:07.680 --> 0:08:09.720 past week to the week before announcing it, like, do 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:11.240 you think there's a difference at all or do you 0:08:11.240 --> 0:08:14.800 think it's just it's great to have the um blessings 0:08:14.840 --> 0:08:16.840 of everyone. And it's crazy too because you guys announced 0:08:16.840 --> 0:08:19.480 it and the people like myself included, I think Vanessa 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.520 as well, and people that don't even live in California 0:08:21.520 --> 0:08:23.680 aren't even like physically close to us. We're posting like 0:08:23.720 --> 0:08:29.440 showing the Chris Harrison posted. We woke up the next 0:08:29.440 --> 0:08:31.520 morning and actually was like, Chris Harrison just posted a 0:08:31.560 --> 0:08:33.880 picture of us, and we're geeking out, like we don't 0:08:33.880 --> 0:08:36.559 know him, but um he posted the picture that actually 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:40.000 posted and he said, I'm Chris Harrison and this message's 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:42.439 adorable thing. And and it just really meant a lot 0:08:42.440 --> 0:08:44.360 to us. It's people that you don't and I just 0:08:44.440 --> 0:08:46.200 on a daily basis, still showing their support that you 0:08:46.240 --> 0:08:48.160 know personally, like that you're friends with, like of course 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:52.160 you like a Tanner or Jade, I think they supported it. Yeah, well, 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.880 Tanner is our far fairy godfather. If you watch the 0:08:54.880 --> 0:08:57.880 story of us, you will understand that reference. And um, 0:08:58.120 --> 0:09:00.360 excuse me, Yeah, Tanner posted, and you posted, and Becca 0:09:00.400 --> 0:09:04.199 posting the amount of uh and Nick posted Vanessa and UM. 0:09:04.240 --> 0:09:07.840 A lot of the producers that obviously are are close friends, UM, 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:10.360 and just people that have meant so much to us, 0:09:10.640 --> 0:09:13.560 UM over the years, our and our friendships. It's just 0:09:13.800 --> 0:09:15.840 it's so nice to have the blessing of our friends. 0:09:15.960 --> 0:09:18.160 That is a huge factor as well. And obviously we're 0:09:18.200 --> 0:09:20.360 very grateful that we had that even before the announcement, 0:09:20.360 --> 0:09:22.720 before we even came out and said we're together. You know, 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:25.120 the past couple of months I've we've been dating. Every 0:09:25.160 --> 0:09:27.520 everybody's just been like, you guys are great together, and 0:09:27.520 --> 0:09:29.480 it means the world tost you news. I feel like 0:09:29.480 --> 0:09:32.679 once a day posted something, he didn't. They post something 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:35.160 a couple of days ago, they posted yesterday they said 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:37.040 it was the cute. It's thank you, you know as 0:09:37.120 --> 0:09:40.319 they said. Um so they reposted the video of me 0:09:40.440 --> 0:09:43.720 sing and girlfriend to Ashley serenading her, and they said, 0:09:43.840 --> 0:09:46.080 even though the Bachelorette starts tonight, these two get our 0:09:46.120 --> 0:09:51.440 final roads and uh apparently she They tweeted also over 0:09:51.480 --> 0:09:54.920 the weekend they were like a PDA filled weekend of 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:57.480 you know, Ashley and Jared and Hawaii. And I don't 0:09:57.520 --> 0:10:02.280 think it was that pa I mean, I guess I 0:10:02.320 --> 0:10:04.800 was kissing a lot, but I just I guess maybe 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.080 came from nothing to everything. I guess maybe that there 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:10.319 was no slow transition to it. It was like boom, 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:14.160 exactly fast. Were you guys like completely hiding it in public? 0:10:14.240 --> 0:10:17.000 Like you wouldn't hold hands in public. We went to 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:21.200 stage a couple of weeks ago, was so funny, I 0:10:21.240 --> 0:10:23.360 forget what you see. We were totally we don't get 0:10:23.760 --> 0:10:26.760 did not come out then? Honestly, we don't well. I 0:10:26.840 --> 0:10:29.040 think the big factor was that Ashley and I have 0:10:29.120 --> 0:10:31.560 been so close for so long that the idea of 0:10:31.600 --> 0:10:34.760 us hanging out together has never been weird at all. 0:10:34.960 --> 0:10:37.280 We've always hung out together, We've always gone places together, 0:10:37.559 --> 0:10:40.160 We've been seen in public together for the past three years, 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:42.640 and so when people see us out in public, they 0:10:42.640 --> 0:10:44.760 probably just yet it's Ashley and Jared hanging out. And 0:10:44.760 --> 0:10:46.720 it was only two of the you know, people would 0:10:46.720 --> 0:10:49.199 come up and I'm you know, holding her hand or 0:10:49.280 --> 0:10:52.880 kissing her, and people are like, WHOA, what's going on? 0:10:52.960 --> 0:10:55.440 Are you guys? Are you guys together? But over the 0:10:55.440 --> 0:10:57.240 stage coach weekend we were not hiding it, and Dean, 0:10:57.280 --> 0:10:58.920 you said something so funny. I wish I could remember. 0:10:59.040 --> 0:11:01.920 We were like, you were talking about us and you guys, Yeah, 0:11:01.960 --> 0:11:03.640 you guys are adorable. But it also makes me throw 0:11:03.720 --> 0:11:08.360 up in my mouth, and it still does. But I 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.640 love it. Well, I don't love to throw up. That 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:12.880 gives me. Um. What do you guys think about the 0:11:13.000 --> 0:11:15.120 couple names Joshley because that's kind of stuck with you 0:11:15.160 --> 0:11:17.760 for a couple of years. Joshuley was created back in 0:11:18.040 --> 0:11:21.520 Bachelor in Paradise season two, um, because obviously, whenever you're 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:25.240 on a show, everybody gets your nickname if you're a couple. Yeah, 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:32.319 I know, ve nick Na, Nickessa. Okay, I don't don't 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:34.160 there was one. I don't think we had a name, 0:11:34.200 --> 0:11:36.920 big fan here, you know, I don't remember there being 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:39.520 I don't think you're had a name. There's no way. 0:11:39.559 --> 0:11:41.720 I don't think we had a name. It is hard 0:11:41.760 --> 0:11:44.440 to combine Vanessa and nick though, but Nissa's kind of 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:48.520 like it's very exotic. I like that anyway. Joshually you 0:11:48.559 --> 0:11:51.720 like it? Yeah, I like Josh Ley. Sure, whatever, it's great, 0:11:51.760 --> 0:11:54.440 it's phenomenal. What about yours? What was yours? I've had 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:59.160 a talking about this, So what was yours name? And yours? 0:11:59.160 --> 0:12:04.320 And Christina is on? I'm paradised. Chris dena Christine that's 0:12:04.320 --> 0:12:07.240 a really good one. Was Dan Yelle, and then it 0:12:07.280 --> 0:12:13.240 was Lesdian Lesdian, Lestian lesbian Lean. Oh. I'm sorry, but 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:15.280 I pronounced it Lestian because it's just funny that way. 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:19.120 I'm my favorite. Christina. That's great. Christina works, It certainly works. 0:12:19.760 --> 0:12:23.200 What about Mr Ia Cokenetti? How do we feel about that? 0:12:23.200 --> 0:12:25.520 That's hilarious? Okay, that was the best tweet I've ever had, 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:29.679 simply by the fact that Sean and Tan are all 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:32.600 posted this. Over the weekend, we went to the resort 0:12:32.640 --> 0:12:34.679 and they're like Mr and Mrs Haven and Ashley and 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:36.600 I just looked at each other and we're like, yeah, 0:12:36.600 --> 0:12:39.520 that works. And so after that though, for the entire weekend, 0:12:39.559 --> 0:12:43.160 it was Mr. Eichnetti Mr. Eichnetti, and I just stopped 0:12:43.280 --> 0:12:45.599 correcting them because I kind of found it adorable that 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:48.679 they were coined me Mr. Eikenetti because I always joke 0:12:48.720 --> 0:12:50.560 with Ashley about how she kind of wears the pants 0:12:50.559 --> 0:12:52.120 a little bit in the relationship, and so I'm like, 0:12:52.120 --> 0:12:54.040 I might as well just take your last name. Obviously, 0:12:54.080 --> 0:12:55.840 she's going to take my last name, you know, when 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:59.960 we get married, because I said over the entire weekend, 0:13:00.000 --> 0:13:01.559 I'm always kind of a pessimist, and I kept saying, 0:13:01.600 --> 0:13:03.080 you know, if we have kids one day, if we 0:13:03.080 --> 0:13:05.720 get married, and she's like, what are you talking about 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:08.760 with this? If when? And I was like, Okay, yeah, 0:13:08.760 --> 0:13:10.360 I know, you're absolutely right, but wa wait, so you're 0:13:10.400 --> 0:13:12.319 not open at all taking Ashley's last name when you 0:13:12.360 --> 0:13:14.960 get married. She wants to take my last name, it's 0:13:15.000 --> 0:13:21.320 Ashley high bond. Yeah, which is let's not talk about 0:13:21.320 --> 0:13:23.800 that right now, we're talking about what talking What do 0:13:23.840 --> 0:13:27.000 you mean if Jared that's the thing. But she's absolutely 0:13:27.080 --> 0:13:29.760 right though, because you know, I plan on spend you know, 0:13:29.840 --> 0:13:32.360 marrying Ashlyn. So the idea of me saying if I 0:13:32.440 --> 0:13:34.959 was thinking more about it was ridiculous. I've just always 0:13:35.040 --> 0:13:37.000 done that. I've always never kind of really projected into 0:13:37.000 --> 0:13:38.760 the future. I've been always scared to do that. But 0:13:38.840 --> 0:13:41.440 at this point I really should so get the Mr 0:13:41.440 --> 0:13:43.640 i Connetians in while we can, because soon enough it'll 0:13:43.640 --> 0:13:46.160 go back to Mr and Mrs High Band. Obviously not soon, 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:48.840 but like, yeah, but it's so funny when I tweeted 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.200 and I said, people, you know, the entire weekend people 0:13:51.200 --> 0:13:53.080 are calling me Mr i Keneddian. I'm weirdly okay with 0:13:53.080 --> 0:13:55.440 it because then Sean shan Booth, who is obviously with 0:13:55.480 --> 0:13:58.240 Caitlyn Bristow they're engaged, He's like it used to have Bud. 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.000 I've been called Mr Bristow over the last three years 0:14:01.040 --> 0:14:03.440 at every hotel we've gone to. And then Jordan Rodgers 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:05.560 tweeted and he was like, yeah, Mr Fletcher has the 0:14:05.559 --> 0:14:08.680 same problem over here. And then Tanner tweeted and he's 0:14:08.720 --> 0:14:10.960 like Mr Roper has been trying to call in for 0:14:11.040 --> 0:14:12.760 late check out for the past three years, and he's 0:14:12.760 --> 0:14:15.640 starting to get piste off. I didn't see Tanner's but 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:21.480 that's funny. It's great. So, now that you're in a relationship, yes, 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:24.480 do you still feel like you're mentally equipped to be 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:28.080 a co host of this podcast? Of course there are things, 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:32.400 right that used to be three people that sucked at dating. 0:14:32.440 --> 0:14:34.040 I would venture to say that one of those people 0:14:34.120 --> 0:14:38.080 does not suck at dating anymore suck. There are still 0:14:38.120 --> 0:14:40.960 many things within our relationship that I could do a 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.400 lot better at I could become a up here, such 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:47.680 as uh, I, well, that's a great question. I think 0:14:47.720 --> 0:14:49.720 I haven't really thought about it in all honesty. And 0:14:50.240 --> 0:14:52.120 I guarantee you if we got actually in here, which 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:53.640 one of these days, of course, we'd love to have 0:14:53.680 --> 0:14:55.680 a four. But she would say there's absolutely nothing that 0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.680 Jared does wrong. I'm sure right like she has because 0:14:59.680 --> 0:15:02.040 we've talked about this before, about like things that I 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:04.520 can do better, you know, to make her feel more 0:15:04.560 --> 0:15:07.000 comfortable or or loved or so on and so forth, 0:15:07.040 --> 0:15:08.960 And she's said the same things to me, and she 0:15:09.000 --> 0:15:11.520 hasn't really critiqued me all that much. Also for the 0:15:11.560 --> 0:15:13.920 simple fact that I am. I. I I try to give 0:15:13.960 --> 0:15:17.360 her as much confident as possible. Um. And so I 0:15:17.400 --> 0:15:19.640 do love p d A. And I'm always kissing her 0:15:19.640 --> 0:15:21.320 and I'm always telling how wonderful she is. But it 0:15:21.360 --> 0:15:23.960 also comes from a part of me that is so 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:27.720 grateful that I have Ashley in my life. Um. Were 0:15:27.720 --> 0:15:30.080 you always big on p d A. Yeah, I remember. 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:32.480 I told actually a couple of years ago how physical 0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:35.280 touch is a very important part of the relationship for me. 0:15:35.320 --> 0:15:37.360 And she was like, you're out of your mind because 0:15:37.360 --> 0:15:40.280 you don't touch anybody. And then over the past couple 0:15:40.320 --> 0:15:41.880 of months she was like, you were a spot on. 0:15:42.040 --> 0:15:45.400 You are very touchy, didn't kissy and uh. And so 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:47.480 that is that makes me feel really good that I 0:15:47.720 --> 0:15:50.880 know myself at least a little bit. Um. But of 0:15:50.920 --> 0:15:52.480 course there's things that I can work on. There are 0:15:52.480 --> 0:15:53.800 a lot of things that I need to work on 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:56.360 with in our relationship, um, to become a you know, 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:58.440 a better partner, a better boyfriend, and hopefully one day 0:15:58.440 --> 0:15:59.880 a better husband. Since you brought it up to you 0:16:00.000 --> 0:16:02.240 think that your love languages are compatible your physical touch 0:16:02.240 --> 0:16:04.080 and what else would you say? Yes, because she is 0:16:04.240 --> 0:16:06.440 very much on physical touch as well, and so I 0:16:06.440 --> 0:16:10.080 am always holding her hand or kissing her, kissing her arm, 0:16:10.200 --> 0:16:12.280 or just making her feel confident. And that's it's a 0:16:12.280 --> 0:16:16.440 big factor for both of us. UM. Words of affirmation 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.520 or is something that we're both very big on. UM. 0:16:19.560 --> 0:16:23.760 I tell her UH a lot how much I love 0:16:23.760 --> 0:16:28.120 her and care about her, UM because it makes me 0:16:28.240 --> 0:16:33.080 very happy. UM, and our love languages are very compatible. 0:16:33.240 --> 0:16:36.960 She does a lot of access service UM, which is 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:39.640 very endearing and UM something that means a lot to 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:41.760 me as well. Quality time is very big for us. 0:16:41.800 --> 0:16:43.120 We make sure that we spend a lot of time 0:16:43.160 --> 0:16:46.280 together UM, and not just you know, being in the 0:16:46.320 --> 0:16:49.280 same room together, but making sure that we are UM 0:16:49.520 --> 0:16:51.960 quality time exactly. There's a difference between spending time with 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:55.760 someone and spending quality time with somebody and UM, you know, 0:16:55.880 --> 0:16:59.120 sometimes our schedules can get very busy, especially in Los Angeles, 0:16:59.120 --> 0:17:01.800 so we make sure, UM that we always try to 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:04.560 spend as much quality time as we can and not 0:17:04.680 --> 0:17:06.840 just like, hey, how's your day, good, Okay, let's go 0:17:06.880 --> 0:17:09.320 to bed. It's like no, Like I make sure that 0:17:09.359 --> 0:17:12.520 the first thing as you In the morning, I try 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.800 to make sure that I say good morning and kissed 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:16.399 her before I even check my phone, because I know 0:17:16.480 --> 0:17:18.720 that's just like a little something, but it changes the 0:17:18.760 --> 0:17:22.640 day because I remember, um, yeah, I just I know 0:17:22.800 --> 0:17:25.119 how much meaning that has, And so I try to 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:27.240 actively do that every day without checking my phone. Like 0:17:27.280 --> 0:17:29.719 I'll roll over because her say good morning, and then 0:17:29.800 --> 0:17:31.960 check my phone. Who's the big spoon? All on the 0:17:31.960 --> 0:17:34.160 big spoon every night? I yeah, every night. I can't 0:17:34.160 --> 0:17:37.280 be a little spoon. I don't like the feeling of 0:17:38.440 --> 0:17:40.879 a lot of guys like little yeah. Yeah, I've just 0:17:40.920 --> 0:17:43.000 never been one of those guys. Like sometimes, of course 0:17:43.040 --> 0:17:44.680 it's it's fun if I like cut all up next 0:17:44.680 --> 0:17:46.240 to her and she has her arm around me, But 0:17:46.280 --> 0:17:48.919 I've never been in the position of actual little spoon. 0:17:49.240 --> 0:17:53.560 I like, I like to be the dominant presence. Yeah, 0:17:53.880 --> 0:17:55.840 so I like being the big spoon. What's great about 0:17:55.840 --> 0:17:59.000 your guys relationship too, is obviously you're weirdly in this 0:17:59.080 --> 0:18:01.080 honeymoon phase even though you guys have known each other 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:02.320 for so long. But I feel like a lot of 0:18:02.440 --> 0:18:05.960 couples will fizzle because they get introduced to the honeymoon 0:18:06.040 --> 0:18:08.199 phase two early. But I think what you guys have 0:18:08.240 --> 0:18:10.200 working in your favors for sure is the fact that 0:18:10.240 --> 0:18:11.800 you guys have such a good foundation. I know you 0:18:11.800 --> 0:18:14.080 always say this whenever you talk about the relationships. You 0:18:14.080 --> 0:18:15.760 guys have been best friends for the past three years, 0:18:15.920 --> 0:18:17.720 and so this honeymoon phase is basically just kind of 0:18:17.840 --> 0:18:19.840