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Speaker 1: Take a deep breath in through your nose. Holds it.

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Speaker 2: Now, release slowly again, deep in, helle.

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Speaker 1: Hold release, repeating internally to yourself as you connect to

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Speaker 1: my voice. I am deeply deep well. I I am

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Speaker 1: deeply well. I am deeply.

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Speaker 2: Wow.

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Speaker 1: I'm Debbie Brown and this is the Deeply Well Podcast.

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Speaker 3: Welcome to Deeply Well, a soft place to land in

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Speaker 3: your journey. A podcast for those that are curious, creative,

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Speaker 3: and ready to expand in higher consciousness and self care.

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Speaker 3: This is where we heal, this is where we transcend.

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Speaker 4: I'm Debbie Brown.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much for joining for another episode of

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Speaker 3: the Deeply Well Podcast. And I so so, so, so

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Speaker 3: so deeply appreciate everyone that has reached out to me,

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Speaker 3: all the listeners of this show that have connected with

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Speaker 3: Something that I've expressed on this show many times. It's

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Speaker 3: that you experienced the experience through the lens of a phone,

440
00:27:35,359 --> 00:27:38,720
Speaker 3: but you don't really remember what it was to feel

441
00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,159
Speaker 3: it in your body, but your memory of it is

442
00:27:41,200 --> 00:27:45,199
Speaker 3: how it looked as you digitally captured it. It's just

443
00:27:45,359 --> 00:27:49,000
Speaker 3: interesting to see what's the difference there. Am I missing something?

444
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 3: Is there opportunity to have both because you don't want

445
00:27:53,920 --> 00:27:55,840
Speaker 3: to miss your human experience?

446
00:27:56,600 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 4: It is why we're here.

447
00:27:58,280 --> 00:28:01,399
Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, if something like

448
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:05,399
Speaker 3: TikTok disappears, if Instagram disappears, if one day all of

449
00:28:05,440 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 3: our digital identity is wiped and we're back to how

450
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 3: life was thirty years ago, which isn't a long time

451
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:17,879
Speaker 3: ago forty years ago, right, Like, what does that look like?

452
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 3: Who are we if not that? So I think it's

453
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,480
Speaker 3: just really important for all of us as humans to

454
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 3: check in on that relationship that we're having with our lives,

455
00:28:29,600 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 3: the perception we put forward and how we actually feel

456
00:28:33,040 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 3: about ourselves, or how we actually are experiencing the moments

457
00:28:37,560 --> 00:28:40,160
Speaker 3: that are in front of us in real time. So

458
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 3: I bring kind of all of that into this conversation

459
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 3: because it's important to know that we are all having

460
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:50,360
Speaker 3: a shared experience, but we are also having vastly different

461
00:28:50,560 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 3: experiences inside depending on our innate gifts. The skill sets

462
00:28:56,880 --> 00:29:03,840
Speaker 3: we've amassed are car our complex challenges and how we

463
00:29:03,880 --> 00:29:07,040
Speaker 3: are intended to serve. And it is okay if that

464
00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:10,640
Speaker 3: looks different for each of us. Not only is it okay,

465
00:29:10,760 --> 00:29:15,200
Speaker 3: that's under selling it, it is intended.

466
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,200
Speaker 4: It is intended, So.

467
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 3: Start looking at that next time you compete or you compare.

468
00:29:24,000 --> 00:29:26,600
Speaker 3: I think it's easy to do, especially if the comparison

469
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:32,840
Speaker 3: is just aesthetic content or graphics. You know, anybody can

470
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:36,000
Speaker 3: put up a graphic, are they living the experience that

471
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:39,080
Speaker 3: they talked about? I think anybody can also get a

472
00:29:39,160 --> 00:29:42,920
Speaker 3: download of a thought and share it and it could

473
00:29:42,960 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 3: be powerful and change the lives of so many. But

474
00:29:46,600 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 3: that is different than someone that downloads a thought or

475
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:54,760
Speaker 3: healing and in plants it and embodies it and then

476
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 3: shares it, even when it's just with one other person

477
00:29:58,360 --> 00:30:02,520
Speaker 3: that's in front of you. Neither are necessarily more valuable,

478
00:30:02,600 --> 00:30:06,000
Speaker 3: but they are different experiences. I remember a few years

479
00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:12,160
Speaker 3: ago I had this author on my show. I never

480
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:18,160
Speaker 3: aired this episode, I never talked about this episode, but

481
00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:26,160
Speaker 3: this author had written a book that changed my life

482
00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:31,440
Speaker 3: that I found to be such an incredible body of work.

483
00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 3: And this book sold millions and millions and millions of

484
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 3: copies worldwide. And when I had them come on my show, God,

485
00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:51,400
Speaker 3: I felt so synchronistic, so honored, so grateful to be

486
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,200
Speaker 3: speaking with someone that their work really changed my life

487
00:30:55,240 --> 00:30:57,320
Speaker 3: to this day. It's been a core part of how

488
00:30:57,360 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 3: I've understood certain things right. And when this person came

489
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:11,240
Speaker 3: on my show, I experienced them so differently than I

490
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 3: could have imagined. I experienced them personally through my lens

491
00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 3: to be very inauthentic, very misogynistic. I was so uncomfortable

492
00:31:25,920 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 3: for the whole interview. They were very much And I

493
00:31:30,800 --> 00:31:34,480
Speaker 3: don't take offense easily, like I've heard and seen it all.

494
00:31:34,640 --> 00:31:39,240
Speaker 3: I've lived many lives in this life with all kinds

495
00:31:39,280 --> 00:31:41,960
Speaker 3: of people, so I don't really take anything personally. I

496
00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 3: also lived through the first round of the Internet, where

497
00:31:44,720 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 3: you get people like literally saying they want to kill

498
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:50,520
Speaker 3: you in comments when you put your workout, so I

499
00:31:50,560 --> 00:31:55,480
Speaker 3: don't get easily offended at all. But this person was

500
00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 3: so trying to make me feel small, like literally the

501
00:31:58,880 --> 00:32:01,040
Speaker 3: way I would kind of describe. But it's like if

502
00:32:01,080 --> 00:32:06,200
Speaker 3: someone ever tried to make you feel patriarchally like a little.

503
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 4: Woman like, oh, that's so cute, or oh, you don't

504
00:32:08,880 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 4: know much and.

505
00:32:11,280 --> 00:32:18,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, and so they also kind of said inappropriate

506
00:32:18,600 --> 00:32:22,920
Speaker 3: comments to me. And one of the questions I asked them,

507
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 3: I said, you know, one of the early questions was like,

508
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:31,880
Speaker 3: this was such a beautiful book, and when you channeled this,

509
00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,680
Speaker 3: when you came to understand this, like how did it

510
00:32:34,800 --> 00:32:39,720
Speaker 3: change your life? I was so excited to hear that answer,

511
00:32:39,880 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 3: because what's so important is that we ground these bigger

512
00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:47,080
Speaker 3: concepts about healing into our bodies and into the world

513
00:32:47,600 --> 00:32:51,240
Speaker 3: with the how and with the process. And I'll never

514
00:32:51,280 --> 00:32:56,440
Speaker 3: forget Their response to me was that they actually never

515
00:32:56,520 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: applied any of the things in the book, and after

516
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:02,280
Speaker 3: writing the book, they really didn't sit and think too

517
00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:08,680
Speaker 3: much about it after that, And it was a huge

518
00:33:09,600 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 3: It was a really interesting thing for me to observe

519
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:16,080
Speaker 3: because it did teach me that some people are here

520
00:33:16,120 --> 00:33:19,320
Speaker 3: to change the world, but not through their own behavior,

521
00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:23,400
Speaker 3: through their work, and that is okay, and that is enough.

522
00:33:24,000 --> 00:33:27,120
Speaker 3: But there is a difference. There is a difference. There

523
00:33:27,160 --> 00:33:30,120
Speaker 3: is a difference than when you get an understanding and

524
00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:33,040
Speaker 3: you take the time to embody it and let it

525
00:33:33,160 --> 00:33:35,800
Speaker 3: change you and live it and then you know you

526
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,240
Speaker 3: have to share it because it's service versus You got

527
00:33:39,240 --> 00:33:42,320
Speaker 3: the download and you were told to share it, and

528
00:33:42,360 --> 00:33:46,720
Speaker 3: you did, and now you're done saying either as above

529
00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:51,200
Speaker 3: or beneath. But they're different experiences, and so we're all

530
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:55,280
Speaker 3: here to share God's work, to share the intended path,

531
00:33:55,440 --> 00:33:58,800
Speaker 3: to share in service with one another, but we all

532
00:33:58,800 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 3: do it in different ways.

533
00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:00,960
Speaker 4: And I think.

534
00:34:02,880 --> 00:34:05,560
Speaker 3: It's important to look at that, and it's important to

535
00:34:05,680 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 3: know that also for your own self respect and for

536
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:13,880
Speaker 3: your own sanity and your own ability to understand and

537
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 3: have reverence and gratitude for your gifts. And just because

538
00:34:17,800 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 3: they aren't showing up to the same fanfare as someone else's,

539
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 3: it doesn't matter. You are here to share it and

540
00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,840
Speaker 3: serve it. And it's only been in the last truly

541
00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:32,960
Speaker 3: fifteen or so years that it even mattered if millions

542
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:37,279
Speaker 3: saw something that you did, or you know, if everybody

543
00:34:37,320 --> 00:34:40,359
Speaker 3: in every state saw something that you did. You know,

544
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:44,640
Speaker 3: there is beauty and anchoring deeply in your own life

545
00:34:44,800 --> 00:34:48,960
Speaker 3: and being creative for the sake of it. Something my

546
00:34:49,080 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 3: astrology said that gave me a lot of freedom because

547
00:34:51,320 --> 00:34:53,160
Speaker 3: I used to work in an industry.

548
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:54,440
Speaker 4: That was all about look at me, look at me,

549
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:55,200
Speaker 4: look at me, and.

550
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,839
Speaker 3: I just am not naturally designed for that. And it's

551
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,440
Speaker 3: because I don't think I'm great, And it's not because

552
00:35:02,880 --> 00:35:07,560
Speaker 3: I'm not excellent at what I do I am. It's

553
00:35:07,600 --> 00:35:11,320
Speaker 3: because that's just not the archetype I'm meant to embody.

554
00:35:11,719 --> 00:35:14,239
Speaker 3: It's not what I want, and it's not what I

555
00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:15,520
Speaker 3: am meant to share.

556
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:16,080
Speaker 4: With other people.

557
00:35:17,200 --> 00:35:20,080
Speaker 3: We are all here to share ourselves in a way

558
00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 3: that is useful and helpful and evolutionary for others, even

559
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 3: in the tiniest moments of what you do and in

560
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:31,600
Speaker 3: the biggest moments. And we are all here occupying different archetypes.

561
00:35:31,960 --> 00:35:34,040
Speaker 3: So some people are here to be the ones that

562
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 3: are loud and incredibly largely confident, and there's others that

563
00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:46,279
Speaker 3: are here to have quiet power and be an embodied confidence.

564
00:35:46,800 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 3: And we need both. We need more than those two examples.

565
00:35:51,040 --> 00:35:54,120
Speaker 3: We need all kinds of examples of doing that. I

566
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 3: remember someone shared something with me once where it was

567
00:35:58,360 --> 00:36:01,799
Speaker 3: kind of I was doing some really special things a

568
00:36:01,840 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 3: few years ago, and so I was getting a lot

569
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:06,600
Speaker 3: of coverage in a lot of ways and had some

570
00:36:06,640 --> 00:36:10,680
Speaker 3: opportunities to be on a national commercial that was really

571
00:36:10,719 --> 00:36:14,879
Speaker 3: special and beautiful, beautiful things that I'm so grateful for.

572
00:36:15,120 --> 00:36:19,720
Speaker 3: And I remember a friend shared something that another person

573
00:36:19,880 --> 00:36:22,319
Speaker 3: that was a casual mutual friend.

574
00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,720
Speaker 4: Said where they were like, God, I'm.

575
00:36:24,600 --> 00:36:30,160
Speaker 3: Having a really tough time seeing Debbie rise. And the

576
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:35,560
Speaker 3: friends shared that comment with me, and I remember when

577
00:36:35,600 --> 00:36:38,839
Speaker 3: I heard it, I was just like, huh, I could

578
00:36:38,920 --> 00:36:42,480
Speaker 3: understand that. I could understand that, depending on where you

579
00:36:42,520 --> 00:36:45,560
Speaker 3: are with your life, jealousy is a natural emotion that

580
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:49,840
Speaker 3: we all feel at certain points. But the thing I said,

581
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:53,800
Speaker 3: and I said this with true curiosity, not as above

582
00:36:53,840 --> 00:36:56,080
Speaker 3: or beneath, because also the person that said this comment

583
00:36:56,200 --> 00:36:59,560
Speaker 3: has a beautiful life and they're very successful and they

584
00:36:59,600 --> 00:37:03,080
Speaker 3: do very special work. But my response was, what is

585
00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:06,200
Speaker 3: it that we do the same? Why am I even

586
00:37:06,280 --> 00:37:10,360
Speaker 3: being compared? Why is she looking to measure? What is

587
00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 3: it that we do the same. You know, the core

588
00:37:13,239 --> 00:37:18,239
Speaker 3: of our work is completely different, Our life experiences that

589
00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:23,839
Speaker 3: led us to this moment are completely different, and potentially

590
00:37:23,920 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 3: what we're here to do is completely different. But to

591
00:37:28,719 --> 00:37:33,320
Speaker 3: feel lower or less enthusiastic about your own work because

592
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:38,000
Speaker 3: we have a similar follower count, and that's what's feeling

593
00:37:38,120 --> 00:37:39,720
Speaker 3: like you're inadequate, It.

594
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:41,720
Speaker 4: Makes no sense.

595
00:37:41,800 --> 00:37:45,719
Speaker 3: That has nothing to do with anything. I don't know

596
00:37:45,800 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 3: why I went on this big tangent. My hope is

597
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,880
Speaker 3: that this was useful to someone. The conversation kind of

598
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:55,280
Speaker 3: took a direction I wasn't planning. But just really think,

599
00:37:55,440 --> 00:37:59,200
Speaker 3: what is the archetype you were meant to embody? And

600
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:01,880
Speaker 3: you'll see the themes of it throughout your whole life.

601
00:38:02,280 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 3: And it's easy to check in with yourself if you're

602
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:08,279
Speaker 3: holding back when you start asking yourself questions. If the

603
00:38:08,360 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 3: reason you're holding your self celebration back is because there

604
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 3: is fear of what people will think, or because there

605
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:20,760
Speaker 3: is this idea or program of comparison or shame running

606
00:38:20,760 --> 00:38:25,240
Speaker 3: inside of you, it is important for you to really

607
00:38:25,280 --> 00:38:28,719
Speaker 3: embody confidence in who you are and maybe to be

608
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 3: in that special practice of saying things loudly and boldly

609
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 3: and in big ways and celebrating and letting others celebrate you.

610
00:38:39,120 --> 00:38:43,080
Speaker 3: That could be exactly what you need. And if that

611
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:48,160
Speaker 3: is not necessarily what your challenges were, if the challenges

612
00:38:48,200 --> 00:38:50,959
Speaker 3: were different for you, that may not be the path

613
00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:53,480
Speaker 3: for you. But only each of us individually know that

614
00:38:54,000 --> 00:38:57,760
Speaker 3: where do you feel most confident? Me personally, I feel

615
00:38:57,800 --> 00:39:00,800
Speaker 3: most confident when I'm with people in person.

616
00:39:01,160 --> 00:39:04,040
Speaker 4: I love it. I love it. I love it.

617
00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,920
Speaker 3: So I love when i have this space to create

618
00:39:07,040 --> 00:39:10,439
Speaker 3: meaningful retreats and host them and do them. I love

619
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:13,840
Speaker 3: it when I'm working with clients or when I'm able

620
00:39:13,880 --> 00:39:16,799
Speaker 3: to have workshops or be on a big stage in

621
00:39:16,800 --> 00:39:20,000
Speaker 3: front of a big audience for a specific reason. I

622
00:39:20,040 --> 00:39:23,319
Speaker 3: love those moments because I love that feeling. I love

623
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:28,360
Speaker 3: to be immersed in my human experience with other humans,

624
00:39:28,960 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 3: and digitally, I like doing that through my stories. I

625
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:35,200
Speaker 3: like sharing beautiful moments. But I'm not necessarily one to

626
00:39:35,320 --> 00:39:40,000
Speaker 3: craft the perfect caption that properly to other people's showcases

627
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 3: things in a certain kind of way. It's not what

628
00:39:42,680 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 3: I'm designed for. It's not what I like to do,

629
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:48,279
Speaker 3: So I don't I lean into what I'm designed to

630
00:39:48,320 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 3: do deeply well, So, leaning back into the focus of

631
00:39:58,080 --> 00:40:00,240
Speaker 3: this episode, I want to go through a couple points

632
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:03,399
Speaker 3: with you to really help anchor and sink in what

633
00:40:03,520 --> 00:40:07,279
Speaker 3: your recipe is for how you're meant to embody what

634
00:40:07,480 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 3: you're here to do, and the kind of power you're

635
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 3: meant to embody. Some people are meant to embody it

636
00:40:13,160 --> 00:40:15,840
Speaker 3: in the grand ways and the fully dressed up, show

637
00:40:15,840 --> 00:40:18,959
Speaker 3: out ways, and that makes it possible for other people

638
00:40:19,040 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 3: to dream like that too. Some people are meant to

639
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:25,160
Speaker 3: embody in the quiet power and in the grace and

640
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:29,040
Speaker 3: in the dignity and the humility, and that is a

641
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:32,880
Speaker 3: path for those that most connect and resonate with that style,

642
00:40:34,000 --> 00:40:37,879
Speaker 3: And neither style really has to be compared. So let's

643
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:41,640
Speaker 3: further deconstruct this so again with humility. I think some

644
00:40:41,719 --> 00:40:45,719
Speaker 3: of the misconception often stems from a misunderstanding of the

645
00:40:45,840 --> 00:40:50,600
Speaker 3: root word itself. Historically, humility doesn't mean to be small,

646
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 3: and means to have an accurate understanding of yourself, your gifts,

647
00:40:54,719 --> 00:40:59,000
Speaker 3: and your role in the bigger picture. Being humble doesn't

648
00:40:59,000 --> 00:41:02,640
Speaker 3: mean undervalue yourself. It means showing up in the truth

649
00:41:02,719 --> 00:41:06,239
Speaker 3: of who you are and what your experience is, and

650
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:11,120
Speaker 3: not necessarily needing to be perceived as big or powerful

651
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:16,359
Speaker 3: or receiving of external validation to affirm who you already are.

652
00:41:17,120 --> 00:41:22,080
Speaker 3: The way I see it, humility is really a special

653
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:27,799
Speaker 3: path when one is connected to the path of non attachment,

654
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:34,000
Speaker 3: when one is connected to the path of self mastery.

655
00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 3: For me, humility represents a path of non attachment, not

656
00:41:38,360 --> 00:41:42,359
Speaker 3: to praise nor criticism. It's connected to a path of

657
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Speaker 3: self mastery, which is I am looking to be in

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Speaker 3: the mastery of the gifts and the skills God told

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00:41:48,440 --> 00:41:51,279
Speaker 3: me to be with and to be in service with.

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Speaker 3: That's how I experience humility. So again, this brings me

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Speaker 3: to and we've explored this episodes, but to validation. You know,

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00:42:03,040 --> 00:42:06,319
Speaker 3: in our digital age, validation is more accessible than ever.

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Speaker 3: It is all of those likes on something you shared.

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Speaker 3: It is the engagement, the comments, the shares, the views,

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00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:16,759
Speaker 3: but it's also so much more fleeting. Social media has

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00:42:16,800 --> 00:42:20,320
Speaker 3: created this culture where we're craving all of that really deeply,

667
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:23,400
Speaker 3: and we're thinking that that equates being seen.

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Speaker 4: But it's not.

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Speaker 3: As permanent as one would think, right, you know, it's

670
00:42:28,280 --> 00:42:31,120
Speaker 3: like that age old quote. And forgive me if I

671
00:42:31,200 --> 00:42:35,600
Speaker 3: misattributed this, but I believe it's to Maya Angelou. But

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00:42:35,800 --> 00:42:40,640
Speaker 3: people remember how you make them feel more than anything else,

673
00:42:40,880 --> 00:42:43,680
Speaker 3: more than what you say, more than what you do.

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00:42:44,440 --> 00:42:47,560
Speaker 3: It's how they felt in their cells and their body,

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00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:51,480
Speaker 3: what they registered their experience with you to be. That's

676
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:55,879
Speaker 3: really what the truth of what someone's life is. That's

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00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:59,600
Speaker 3: the truth of what someone's service is. Right, and it's

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00:42:59,640 --> 00:43:03,840
Speaker 3: important to be in your life and really in connection

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00:43:04,080 --> 00:43:07,480
Speaker 3: with what that is. Having a lot of social media

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Speaker 3: friends can be really beautiful, especially if you're someone that

681
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,840
Speaker 3: perhaps has social anxiety or is more of an introvert,

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00:43:17,040 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 3: or likes the way that distance feels. That is beautiful.

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Speaker 3: And I also think that we are meant to be

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Speaker 3: in community and meant to be in humanity, and nothing

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Speaker 3: takes the place, And for some of us it requires

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Speaker 3: a little more work or a little wider casting of

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Speaker 3: the net. But there's nothing that really equals what it

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00:43:42,480 --> 00:43:48,120
Speaker 3: is to master presence with another human being, with your

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Speaker 3: life with animals. There's nothing that really can measure next

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Speaker 3: to what it is to regulate your body to the

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Speaker 3: missy and vulnerability of being in person with people and

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00:44:04,800 --> 00:44:11,920
Speaker 3: growing friendship offline, growing friendship and difficult conversations, growing friendship

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Speaker 3: and reading each other's body language or feelings. You know

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Speaker 3: that that is what a human physical body, heart, brain,

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Speaker 3: spirit is designed to do. So on one end of

696
00:44:26,440 --> 00:44:29,359
Speaker 3: the spectrum, we are seeing, you know, those loud celebrations

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Speaker 3: of self as a kind of aggrandizing that can feel

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Speaker 3: disconnected from our inner knowing. You know when that doesn't

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Speaker 3: show up in our own life, we notice it's not congruent.

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Speaker 3: On the other end, there is this quiet, grounded confidence

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Speaker 3: that doesn't need to be shouted from the rooftops. When

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Speaker 3: you know you accept yourself, and when you know that

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Speaker 3: you are authentically grateful for your life now and that

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00:44:55,960 --> 00:44:59,800
Speaker 3: your life is enough, you're not constantly grasping and seeking

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Speaker 3: in looking for the pivot that will garner more attention,

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00:45:03,320 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 3: or looking for the experience that will get more celebration.

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00:45:08,640 --> 00:45:11,600
Speaker 3: Neither as inherently right or wrong. They are just different

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Speaker 3: expressions of where all of us are on our unique journeys.

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Speaker 3: And that is the nuance that I think we need

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Speaker 3: to honor in one another's experience, especially before we go

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Speaker 3: projecting what we think is the right path on other people,

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Speaker 3: or judging someone as less or beneath because it's different,

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Speaker 3: or judging someone as you know, maybe not smart enough

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Speaker 3: or not knowing how to maximize enough. I remember someone

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Speaker 3: else share they said, why don't you do your podcast

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Speaker 3: in like this many minutes? I was like, I like

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00:45:44,760 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 3: long form content and those that do too will ride

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Speaker 3: with it, and those that have the attention spans that

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00:45:51,160 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 3: learn differently with maybe five minute content fifteen minute content.

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Speaker 3: There is a host of people that are able to

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Speaker 3: get what they need to do to them, even though

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00:46:02,239 --> 00:46:05,640
Speaker 3: you know the audience size or scope may be different.

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Speaker 3: I want to honor what my gift is, which is

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Speaker 3: long form teaching and communication for the people that crave that,

725
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Speaker 3: and I'm always gonna do that. I'm never gonna change

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00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:19,560
Speaker 3: who and what I am to present things in a

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00:46:19,600 --> 00:46:25,800
Speaker 3: way that are more in line with what is popular.

728
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna do it how I want to do it,

729
00:46:28,840 --> 00:46:30,560
Speaker 3: and I think that's how we should all do it,

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Speaker 3: and continue to listen and honor if that is in

731
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Speaker 3: fact our correct path, and then listen to the opportunities

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Speaker 3: to change it whenever that is required or to grow.

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Speaker 4: But listen. Is it fear or is it just different?

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Speaker 2: Right like?

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Speaker 3: Is it self repression or is it just different? Is

736
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:52,040
Speaker 3: it lack of confidence or is it just different? It

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00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:54,600
Speaker 3: could be either of those answers, And I pray that

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Speaker 3: you can adjust to remove whatever barrier is in front

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00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:01,759
Speaker 3: of you that keeps you from authentic sharing yourself with

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00:47:01,920 --> 00:47:05,279
Speaker 3: those in your life and with the greater world, if

741
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:09,000
Speaker 3: that is how you are meant to interact. We're all

742
00:47:09,040 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 3: designed differently. Some people crave quiet natural life. Others find

743
00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:17,680
Speaker 3: deep passionate fulfillment in building their personal brands and being

744
00:47:17,800 --> 00:47:20,720
Speaker 3: in more of the greater world. I think the question

745
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:23,959
Speaker 3: that we need to ask ourselves is am I being

746
00:47:24,040 --> 00:47:28,920
Speaker 3: true to my unique life? Am I being true to

747
00:47:29,080 --> 00:47:32,880
Speaker 3: my design? Am I seeking validation to fill avoid? Or

748
00:47:32,880 --> 00:47:35,960
Speaker 3: am I simply looking to share my light and my gifts.

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00:47:37,000 --> 00:47:40,520
Speaker 3: Another area where humility and validation really intersect a lot

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Speaker 3: is in self love. So there's this growing narrative that

751
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:46,480
Speaker 3: self love is about being quote unquote proud of yourself

752
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 3: in a loud way. But I've found that true, sustainable

753
00:47:52,880 --> 00:47:57,279
Speaker 3: self love is often quiet. It's the inner knowing that

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00:47:57,320 --> 00:48:03,840
Speaker 3: you are enough, even without everyone else acknowledging it. Sometimes

755
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,040
Speaker 3: we celebrate ourselves again before that work is even done,

756
00:48:07,239 --> 00:48:11,120
Speaker 3: seeking validation instead of seeing rooted in the process itself.

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00:48:11,840 --> 00:48:14,520
Speaker 3: That is okay, it's part of the learning curve. But

758
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:18,080
Speaker 3: what would it look like to let your work speak

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00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 3: for itself? As long as you are receiving, you know,

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00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:26,120
Speaker 3: whatever it is you're meant to receive for what you're

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00:48:26,160 --> 00:48:29,879
Speaker 3: giving for all of this, that's different. There's so much

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00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:36,040
Speaker 3: power in that. Think of Picasso, think of ven go

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00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 3: think of the masters. They weren't pandering for attention, they

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00:48:42,040 --> 00:48:46,759
Speaker 3: weren't pandering for favor. His work was enough. Their work

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00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:50,359
Speaker 3: was enough because they believed in it, and they really

766
00:48:50,360 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 3: didn't have any other choice but to create.

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00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:56,400
Speaker 4: That belief grounded.

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Speaker 3: Steady, and self sufficient was the power that carried them.

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Speaker 3: There's so many figures in history who really embody graceful power,

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Speaker 3: people that held their brilliance with humility, even when they

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Speaker 3: were misunderstood and even when what they created was not

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Speaker 3: in line with what people could accept in the time. Again,

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Speaker 3: you have your van goes. The people that you may

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Speaker 3: have what they would have referred to as the time

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00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:30,520
Speaker 3: has gone mad or felt completely unseen and weren't seen

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00:49:30,640 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 3: until after they passed, didn't make their work less valuable.

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00:49:35,480 --> 00:49:38,120
Speaker 3: It just meant that part of their karma and life

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00:49:38,239 --> 00:49:42,319
Speaker 3: experiences were that they were visionaries or pioneers and a

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00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:46,279
Speaker 3: time that couldn't understand them, but their souls work and

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00:49:46,320 --> 00:49:50,520
Speaker 3: their mission eventually was still honored and was still of

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00:49:50,600 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 3: high service to the world. And that is what I

782
00:49:53,280 --> 00:49:57,000
Speaker 3: believe God requires. So it's less about our own ego

783
00:49:57,080 --> 00:49:59,920
Speaker 3: and it's more about the deep connection that you're doing

784
00:50:00,000 --> 00:50:05,640
Speaker 3: knowing what you're supposed to do. Sometimes there is agony

785
00:50:06,080 --> 00:50:10,880
Speaker 3: and being in your gifts. There's agony and being a genius.

786
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 3: There is agony and being first. There's agony and being misunderstood.

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Speaker 3: It's part of our karma if that's the case of

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Speaker 3: our unique path. The work is all that matters, and

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Speaker 3: when you trust your work and your process, you do

790
00:50:26,000 --> 00:50:30,960
Speaker 3: not require the external noise to affirm you. Are you

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Speaker 3: deserving of it? Would it feel good, certainly, but it's

792
00:50:35,440 --> 00:50:39,800
Speaker 3: not necessarily required. And it doesn't mean that you can't

793
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Speaker 3: find and live other ways of being deeply seen and known.

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Speaker 3: Though it's not saying that you're signing up for a

795
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 3: life of being bleak or on being an outlier, or

796
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Speaker 3: being you know, out in the void on the edges.

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Speaker 3: Find the ways that you are meant to be seen

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00:51:00,840 --> 00:51:03,920
Speaker 3: and received, and usually that comes from the community that

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00:51:04,040 --> 00:51:07,239
Speaker 3: really gets your work or from the peer group that

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Speaker 3: is creating in the similar ways. They can see your art,

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00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,839
Speaker 3: they can speak to it, they can appreciate it. This

802
00:51:13,880 --> 00:51:17,360
Speaker 3: is where humility becomes a superpower. It allows you to

803
00:51:17,520 --> 00:51:21,680
Speaker 3: stand in your truth, to be fully aware of your gifts,

804
00:51:21,760 --> 00:51:27,960
Speaker 3: but without the need to prove or to compare. Authentic

805
00:51:28,000 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 3: empowerment looks different for everyone. It is not about being

806
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:35,000
Speaker 3: louder or softer. It's about what is an alignment for you.

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00:51:35,719 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 3: For some, it is that quiet inner knowing. For others

808
00:51:38,239 --> 00:51:40,239
Speaker 3: it is bold, visible expression.

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00:51:40,719 --> 00:51:43,080
Speaker 4: Both are valid. The key is to honor.

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00:51:42,840 --> 00:51:46,759
Speaker 3: Where you are and to resist the urge to compare

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Speaker 3: your path to someone else's. One thing I don't long

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00:51:52,719 --> 00:51:56,279
Speaker 3: for is the kind of fame that takes away your

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00:51:56,360 --> 00:51:59,920
Speaker 3: human experience. And I think for some that is something

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00:52:00,080 --> 00:52:02,160
Speaker 3: they do long for, and that is part of their

815
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:05,840
Speaker 3: unique karma. You know, the people that are some of

816
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:11,040
Speaker 3: our biggest figures and archetypes and celebrities. I really recognize

817
00:52:11,080 --> 00:52:14,920
Speaker 3: the sacrifice of that. I consider that to be high service,

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00:52:15,880 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 3: you know. And yeah, in some ways, they might be

819
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:22,839
Speaker 3: gifted a lot of opportunity through the masses knowing them,

820
00:52:22,920 --> 00:52:25,520
Speaker 3: or through the wealth that they're able to amass, and

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Speaker 3: that is a part of their journey and a part

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Speaker 3: of what they are rewarded with if they find it

823
00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:38,279
Speaker 3: beautiful and useful because of their sacrifice. But all of

824
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 3: that attention is a sacrifice. It does disconnect you from you.

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Speaker 3: It means you move differently, It means people have all

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Speaker 3: the notions about you without knowing you. It's hard to

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Speaker 3: be truly intimately known by anyone because you're so overly

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Speaker 3: perceived and quote unquote known to so many others.

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Speaker 4: So what is the trade off? What does the give

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Speaker 4: and take?

831
00:53:02,760 --> 00:53:05,160
Speaker 3: Neither is right or wrong, but some.

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Speaker 4: Would prefer one over the other.

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00:53:09,320 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 3: Right, we are all here to have unique experiences, and

834
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Speaker 3: ultimately it's all enough. So a couple I'm going to

835
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Speaker 3: end with a couple definitions, and then I'm going to

836
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Speaker 3: have a little bit of soul work. But I want

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00:53:23,719 --> 00:53:26,880
Speaker 3: to share with you some people that are my personal

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00:53:26,960 --> 00:53:32,000
Speaker 3: muses that I think embody high levels of gifts and

839
00:53:32,080 --> 00:53:37,759
Speaker 3: mastery that also embodied humility and nothing was taken from

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00:53:37,840 --> 00:53:40,120
Speaker 3: them when you look back at the end of their

841
00:53:40,160 --> 00:53:41,600
Speaker 3: lives and their work.

842
00:53:42,360 --> 00:53:44,120
Speaker 4: They did what they were here to do.

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00:53:44,239 --> 00:53:49,080
Speaker 3: And they are celebrated for the way they made people

844
00:53:49,320 --> 00:53:54,719
Speaker 3: feel and for the consciousness that they grew for the collective,

845
00:53:54,880 --> 00:53:57,840
Speaker 3: for the world. So some of those figures to me

846
00:53:57,920 --> 00:54:04,640
Speaker 3: that represent like true power and humility, and some also

847
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:08,799
Speaker 3: include a lot of levels of fame and attention, either

848
00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:12,800
Speaker 3: when they were alive or after they've passed, are Mahatma Gandhi,

849
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 3: known for his unwavering commitment to nonviolence. He used his

850
00:54:17,680 --> 00:54:21,800
Speaker 3: influence not for personal gain, but to advance justice and freedom.

851
00:54:22,760 --> 00:54:26,880
Speaker 3: Maya Angelou a poet and activist, a storyteller who was

852
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:31,920
Speaker 3: mostly so high regarded for her work after forty and

853
00:54:32,040 --> 00:54:35,320
Speaker 3: into the sunset of her life and beyond, Her powerful

854
00:54:35,360 --> 00:54:41,520
Speaker 3: words resonated globally. Yet she carried herself with deep humility,

855
00:54:42,040 --> 00:54:44,279
Speaker 3: and it was never about look at me. Who's looking

856
00:54:44,320 --> 00:54:47,000
Speaker 3: about me? Is my work being seen and supported?

857
00:54:47,040 --> 00:54:50,239
Speaker 4: Who appreciates it? See me as great right?

858
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:55,480
Speaker 3: Her life's work reflected a commitment to empowering others through wisdom,

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00:54:56,000 --> 00:55:02,120
Speaker 3: through presence with self, through kindness, through grace. Albert Einstein

860
00:55:02,680 --> 00:55:06,240
Speaker 3: huge historical figure. Despite being one of the greatest minds

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00:55:06,239 --> 00:55:11,800
Speaker 3: in history, Einstein was known for his modesty. He's often

862
00:55:11,840 --> 00:55:16,520
Speaker 3: credited with his discoveries to his curiosity and his collaboration

863
00:55:17,320 --> 00:55:22,799
Speaker 3: rather than his own genius. Nelson Mandela, my son's name

864
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:28,120
Speaker 3: after him. Humility and resilience were evident in his leadership

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Speaker 3: during and after his imprisonment. His approach to reconciliation in

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00:55:32,920 --> 00:55:37,920
Speaker 3: post apartheid South Africa. It reflected grace and an ability

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Speaker 3: to prioritize the greater good over personal vindication. One of

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Speaker 3: my favorites, Fred Rogers, mister Rogers hashtag goals for Me,

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Speaker 3: known for his very gentle demeanor and dedication to children's

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00:55:55,600 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 3: education and children's self love, carried himself with humility and

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00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:05,520
Speaker 3: a deep sense of purpose. His legacy is a testament

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Speaker 3: to quiet, impactful leadership that changes generations from the inside out.

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Speaker 3: And I offer these really to share. It could be

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Speaker 3: very important as part of your process of being fully expressed,

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Speaker 3: especially now when the planet needs your gifts more than ever,

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Speaker 3: to really sit and create. Who are your muses, Who

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Speaker 3: are the people that you feel embody something that really

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Speaker 3: feels like how you experience yourself on the inside, and

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Speaker 3: then look to them as the continued guides and inspiration

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Speaker 3: to do the work that you do in the way

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Speaker 3: that you are meant to do it. So a clear

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Speaker 3: cut definition as we end this episode of humility is

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Speaker 3: freedom from pride or arrogance, the quality or state of

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Speaker 3: being humble. Some of the confusion I think may be

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Speaker 3: around the origin of the Latin word humanlis which means low,

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Speaker 3: but from the Latin Church humis means earth, which is grounding.

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Speaker 3: So low to the ground doesn't necessarily mean small. It

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Speaker 3: means rooted, anchored. In old French word ummelite pronunciation way

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Speaker 3: off is humility is synonymous with a modesty, with the

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Speaker 3: sweetness in other ways that it shared. It also represents

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Speaker 3: a quiet sense of knowing and an inner power.

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Speaker 4: Validation.

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Speaker 3: Let's get into the definition of that is an act

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Speaker 3: or a process or an instance of validating to support

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Speaker 3: or corroborate on a sound or authoritative basis. So it's

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Speaker 3: to be receiving in a way that it's giving you

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Speaker 3: a feeling of something higher or bigger, gave you attention,

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Speaker 3: gave you validation, gave you a sense of being known.

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Speaker 3: To recognize, establish or illustrate the worthiness or the legitimacy

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Speaker 3: of It's really important to think about that, right, Like,

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Speaker 3: if that is the core of the meaning of validation,

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Speaker 3: to recognize, to establish or illustrate the worthiness or legitimacy

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Speaker 3: of it would be to say that without it, one

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Speaker 3: could be experiencing themselves as unworthy or not legitimate. So

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Speaker 3: if that's the case, investigate why and investigate what kind

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Speaker 3: of validation you're seeking, right Are you seeking for a

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Speaker 3: theory or an idea to be validated by those in

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Speaker 3: your arena who are worthy of quantifying what it is

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Speaker 3: that you have, or is it just desirous that you

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Speaker 3: receive that from any and everything, any and everyone. Arrogance

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Speaker 3: is defined as an attitude of superiority, manifested in an

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Speaker 3: overbearing manner or in a presumptuous claim or assumption. People

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Speaker 3: are very presumptuous online, especially if you live the majority

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Speaker 3: of your interactions with others as digital experiences. You don't

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Speaker 3: really know, right because there's not space to ask questions

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Speaker 3: and there's not space to actually observe someone. You are

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Speaker 3: observing how they interact with their digital world. It is

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Speaker 3: not the same as observing someone in their natural life

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Speaker 3: and seeing how they flow in their unique life with

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Speaker 3: the people that are in it. So we are being

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Speaker 3: very presumptuous and the way that we're perceiving people, and

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Speaker 3: often times we're thinking our own inner feeling, which is

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Speaker 3: rooted around our life experiences on what someone shares is

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Speaker 3: the truth of who and what they are, and that

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Speaker 3: can go on both ends of the spectrum. We are

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Speaker 3: seeing and I bring this up a lot for a reason,

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Speaker 3: but we're seeing that so many influencers are being arrested

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Speaker 3: for heinous things. You have these family influencers being arrested

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Speaker 3: for abusing children or rehoming adopted children. We have people

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Speaker 3: that are big TikTok influencers that.

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Speaker 4: Are murdering people.

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Speaker 3: Right And so it's like, really sit and think about

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Speaker 3: what and why and how you perceive another and what

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Speaker 3: you think that means about them, and investigate what it

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Speaker 3: actually means about you. And now into one of the

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Speaker 3: final and most important definitions, which is insecurity, the quality

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Speaker 3: state of being insecure, such as a feeling being in

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Speaker 3: the state of anxiety, fear, or self doubt, lacking dependability,

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Speaker 3: lacking certainty, safety or protection. And the medieval Latin word

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Speaker 3: insecure us from the meaning not or without and free

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Speaker 3: from care. That's what it is to feel insecure about

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Speaker 3: who and what you are. Just important and as with everything,

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Speaker 3: is a feeling that if you resonate with that can

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Speaker 3: be changed, can be changed, can be changed.

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Speaker 4: So as we get into the soul work of this episode.

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Speaker 3: And thank you for another long form episode of talking

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Speaker 3: because that's what I do and that's how God designed me,

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Speaker 3: I want you to think about what all of this

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Speaker 3: is meant to you, and I want you to take

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Speaker 3: a moment to journal, take some breaths and do a meditation,

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Speaker 3: which is just some silent ill presence with yourself around

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Speaker 3: how you relate to those words, the words humility, validation, insecurity.

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Speaker 3: How do you relate to the word personal power or empowerment?

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Speaker 3: And again, the definitions can be so different for each

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Speaker 3: of us, but it is important to recognize that we

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Speaker 3: each have different definitions and then think about what is

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Speaker 3: the archetype that you embody. Is it more so quiet,

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Speaker 3: graceful present power or is it passionate, big, bold power.

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Speaker 4: Neither is better than the other. We're all just to a.

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Speaker 3: Design to experience those things differently. As always, thank you

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Speaker 3: for joining me on the show. Now mistay, the content

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Speaker 3: presented only Wells serves solely for educational and informational purposes.

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Speaker 3: It should not be considered a replacement for personalized medical

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Speaker 3: or mental health guidance and does not constitute a provider

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Speaker 3: patient relationship. As always, it is advisable to consult with

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Speaker 3: your healthcare provider or health team for any specific concerns

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Speaker 4: That you may have.

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Speaker 3: Brown dot com. And if you're listening to the show

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