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Speaker 1: it's gossip. I'm shook. It's memoir, it's Martinis. Clebrity Book

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Speaker 1: Club can read it while it's hot. Celebrity Book Club,

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Speaker 1: tell your secrets. We won't talk celebrity books. No boys

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Speaker 1: It's Wednesday afternoon and it's a sunny day in midtown Manhattan.

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Speaker 1: I'm Lily and I'm Steven and this Celebrity book Club

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Speaker 1: with Stephen and Lily. You already knew that. Suddenly we

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Speaker 1: are morning show. It's seven am. I'm on seven cups

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Speaker 1: um so I have an outfit reveal. Even though this

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Speaker 1: absolutely feel like Harry Bradshaw and and just like that

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Speaker 1: twenty twenty three. Woke button. I know now that we're

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Speaker 1: at iHeart, I wonder if we can get a woke moment.

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Speaker 1: But oh sorry, it's woke moment not Yeah, now that

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Speaker 1: it's four years old, let's bring it back. Um, this

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Speaker 1: both of our Bano inspired the chairs are red. Nineteen

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Speaker 1: down Boston radio station. Oh my god point five Who

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Speaker 1: says mix Fest two thousand, Oh it's tied. Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 1: where do you exist anymore? I mean, hello Digital Ascar.

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Speaker 1: point five. It's like the dentist station. Yeah, because it

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Speaker 1: Dentist office. Yes, it's Dentist meets Josie and the Pussycats.

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Speaker 1: just saying hitches about Hitch is like he's a love

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Speaker 1: talking about none of them. Goldberg and her extremely random

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Speaker 1: book from like twenty eleven called if someone says you

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Speaker 1: complete me run whoop is biships. So this is a

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Speaker 1: And usually when you think of Whoopee, you're like iconic,

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Speaker 1: than me taking you to the kiss? When away, jingle ball,

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Speaker 1: We Heart clear Channel um. About a few days before

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Speaker 1: the pandemic, at Friend of the Pod Alex's Dike soccer tournament,

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Speaker 1: just say this book is so random. It is full

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Speaker 1: And it's like, well, aren't we We're talking about relationships

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Speaker 1: did that. I do think that's better than you know,

421
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Speaker 1: being so shane at the end of season three years,

422
00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 1: I'm leaving no altar. That was rude. It's rude. It's rude.

423
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:28,720
Speaker 1: Your guess. It's true, have spent the money. But there

424
00:23:28,720 --> 00:23:32,480
Speaker 1: are times when I when I just find her understanding

425
00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:36,080
Speaker 1: relationships to be somewhat alien, despite Oliver being like, it's

426
00:23:36,080 --> 00:23:37,560
Speaker 1: not like it is in the movies, and she just

427
00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 1: like lists a million different movies and she's just like,

428
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:43,320
Speaker 1: here's the thing, Like a prostitute doesn't actually look like

429
00:23:43,400 --> 00:23:46,119
Speaker 1: Julie Roberts. So this is why you can't trust movies.

430
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:49,080
Speaker 1: And pretty woman isn't really okay. But yeah, I know

431
00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: that as a sidebar, though I do love how pro

432
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:54,840
Speaker 1: sex work. She is right, she's being like and if

433
00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:58,960
Speaker 1: that don't judge, And she keeps on saying, which I

434
00:23:59,040 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 1: don't totally agree with. She keeps on saying if someone

435
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:05,399
Speaker 1: like cheats or like goes and get something outside the relationship,

436
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:09,120
Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with you to the other partner,

437
00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,119
Speaker 1: which it's like, well, you're in a relationship, so in

438
00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:15,480
Speaker 1: a sense it always does it means you're not giving

439
00:24:16,160 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 1: that the other person. I think her main thing in

440
00:24:19,080 --> 00:24:22,720
Speaker 1: very like terms of like it's very John Edwards, like

441
00:24:23,080 --> 00:24:28,200
Speaker 1: if your partner is sick and they can't fuck, like

442
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:32,000
Speaker 1: the husband should be able to like go and like, yeah,

443
00:24:32,040 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: and Elizabeth Edwards, who famously is a monster and may

444
00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 1: she rest in peace when she was dying of cancer,

445
00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:40,280
Speaker 1: like she should have just let him fuck that poor

446
00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 1: whatever he done on that plane. Who was she? She

447
00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:44,479
Speaker 1: was like a campaign she was no, she was she

448
00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:50,480
Speaker 1: was his campaign videocra. Wait, that's so the staircase. How

449
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Speaker 1: slep with the director with them and she was so

450
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:58,680
Speaker 1: just like broad she was kind of Shannon Tweed vibes. Yeah,

451
00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:03,679
Speaker 1: she was eighties. What's rail Hunter? Also? That name is

452
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:11,280
Speaker 1: so porn Okay, greefy, that's the I heart energy Anyway.

453
00:25:11,359 --> 00:25:14,040
Speaker 1: I want to discuss this element of her again just

454
00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:17,840
Speaker 1: being crazy and wrong when she's talking about so First

455
00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:20,159
Speaker 1: of all, let me let me ask you all this question,

456
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,639
Speaker 1: can men and women be friends? She literally does the

457
00:25:24,720 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 1: one Harry met Sally again. That movie came out in

458
00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,879
Speaker 1: nineteen eighty five and this book was written in twenty eleven.

459
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:33,400
Speaker 1: She says she has tons of male friends. And that

460
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,439
Speaker 1: the wise evolved. Her male friends like trust her not

461
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:39,480
Speaker 1: to fuck their husbands, and it's like, yeah, because you're

462
00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: because you're ace well, when she's also like, people don't

463
00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 1: understand how can be friends with my exes? And I

464
00:25:43,520 --> 00:25:46,439
Speaker 1: was like, because you're a lesbian, right, the lesbian thing

465
00:25:46,480 --> 00:25:48,400
Speaker 1: is being friends of your exes. And then she goes

466
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 1: she's trying to explain to us the reader, like how

467
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:54,720
Speaker 1: is this possible? Imagine? Like, let's just think about gay people.

468
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 1: Like she's like, if sex and attraction we're always hanging

469
00:25:58,560 --> 00:26:01,000
Speaker 1: over every friendship, then every three gay guy couldn't have

470
00:26:01,040 --> 00:26:05,240
Speaker 1: gay friends. All gay guys sleep together used flash with

471
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,960
Speaker 1: sex and attraction is hanging over every gay relationship? Are

472
00:26:10,000 --> 00:26:14,199
Speaker 1: you insane? It's like, hello, every single let have you

473
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 1: heard of the chart? It's like friends with their exes?

474
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:19,840
Speaker 1: Everyone is friends with an exes dating And I thought,

475
00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I don't know a single

476
00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:26,440
Speaker 1: gay meal friendship that isn't bathed in sexual tension, even

477
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:28,760
Speaker 1: if they never act on it. Of course it is, yeah,

478
00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: I questioned, and I'll leave this anonymous. A friend of

479
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,880
Speaker 1: ours and I said about another gay guy that we

480
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:38,040
Speaker 1: were at an event with have you guys ever has

481
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:41,639
Speaker 1: there been something? And they definitely had had sex in

482
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:45,520
Speaker 1: a group setting together, but he said that there wasn't

483
00:26:46,560 --> 00:26:48,720
Speaker 1: they didn't really touch during it and that was never

484
00:26:48,800 --> 00:26:52,120
Speaker 1: their thing. So in a sense, I saw that as

485
00:26:52,560 --> 00:26:59,679
Speaker 1: a non sexual and convent. Okay. So also I watched

486
00:26:59,720 --> 00:27:05,200
Speaker 1: this clip of Whoopee on Andy Cohen and he asked

487
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:07,439
Speaker 1: her being like, have you talked to Ted Danson? And

488
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,880
Speaker 1: she laughs and goes, I've boned twenty people since then,

489
00:27:11,119 --> 00:27:14,320
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, and goes, why would I talk to him?

490
00:27:14,560 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 1: How many years had elapsed between this? It was like

491
00:27:18,480 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: twenty years. I feel like it was like, okay, so

492
00:27:20,640 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 1: she's then her annual hate and run. I'm just so

493
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 1: dying to know who that man is, yeah, or or

494
00:27:30,720 --> 00:27:33,160
Speaker 1: a woman. So I also want I was a big

495
00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:37,360
Speaker 1: Whoopie binge. I watched Boys on the Side last night's

496
00:27:37,400 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: just so good. I feel like I watched six Dart

497
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:41,360
Speaker 1: two a lot as a kid, which I know that's

498
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: so like basic, Okay. I mean, my sister and I

499
00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:48,119
Speaker 1: rented Sister Act one and two every single weekend, like

500
00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:51,160
Speaker 1: they were like, it's just kind of like why didn't

501
00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:54,560
Speaker 1: we buy? Like it's so random? Sing our parents didn't

502
00:27:54,560 --> 00:27:57,960
Speaker 1: just buy the VHS. Yeah, oh wait, you rented it.

503
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:02,920
Speaker 1: We rented it like every weekend stage. Yes, we don't

504
00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:07,880
Speaker 1: invest because the Renters society. None of my parents were

505
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:13,000
Speaker 1: like carried the two. Yeah, four ninety nine times four

506
00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: times twelve. Yeah, that's on that period. No, they should

507
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:21,840
Speaker 1: have taught you better lessons. We don't teach young girls

508
00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: how to save. Yeah, we did randomly own boys on

509
00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,399
Speaker 1: the side. So she plays a lesbian and boys on

510
00:28:27,440 --> 00:28:30,720
Speaker 1: the side, and it's just insane. It's so natural, right,

511
00:28:31,080 --> 00:28:34,040
Speaker 1: it's like queenly teeth insted off and you're just like sis.

512
00:28:35,080 --> 00:28:38,720
Speaker 1: She's literally playing in this movie backup keyboard for the

513
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:43,880
Speaker 1: Indigo Girls at a club in Tucson. Yes, and just

514
00:28:44,080 --> 00:28:48,640
Speaker 1: makes so much. It's the things that make sense, things

515
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:53,080
Speaker 1: about what queer that just makes sense. She does make

516
00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:55,560
Speaker 1: a good point. I think about menopause and how like

517
00:28:55,680 --> 00:29:02,600
Speaker 1: all divorces happen or I'm talking about happen like in

518
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 1: the fifties, and it's because the bodies are changing. Yes,

519
00:29:08,720 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 1: knowledge change, and that's okay, yes, because then suddenly men

520
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: can't get it up anymore and they think I'm not

521
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 1: a man. No, but that's Okay, that's just And she

522
00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:21,280
Speaker 1: was like, and you know what, and we can find

523
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: other ways to be intimate with each other. We can

524
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,000
Speaker 1: be in an elevator and just rub up against each

525
00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:30,920
Speaker 1: other briefly. She offers that as like like frottage for

526
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 1: like couples going through issues. Yeah, over the clothes, public, public,

527
00:29:35,720 --> 00:29:38,960
Speaker 1: private frottage. I mean that's so sex therapist on like

528
00:29:39,000 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: an A and E show where they're like, go to

529
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 1: a couple and they're like, I guys don't have sex

530
00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:46,479
Speaker 1: for a month. I want you to make out. I

531
00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:49,560
Speaker 1: want you to tackle each other. I want you guys

532
00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 1: to dry hump like teenagers. Yeah, well it's you know,

533
00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:55,640
Speaker 1: Charlotte and Trey in the camp, right, Okay. Point number

534
00:29:55,680 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 1: four why she's Ace says that she's attracted to me Nians.

535
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,560
Speaker 1: She's ever heard anything more age, She says, literally the

536
00:30:04,720 --> 00:30:09,360
Speaker 1: only person she has a crazy attraction too, like wet

537
00:30:09,400 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 1: on the floor, soaked, red eyeheart carpet minions, And she's like,

538
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: I want to cuddle with minions, and like, at this

539
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 1: stage in my life, like I don't really feel that

540
00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: kind of amorous, like I need to touch them the

541
00:30:21,160 --> 00:30:26,520
Speaker 1: most non binary Yeah, figure in history is the minion.

542
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 1: It's a one eyed blab no no organs, no organs

543
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:41,280
Speaker 1: in or out. Some of them were overalls. Am I wrong? Yeah,

544
00:30:41,440 --> 00:30:46,200
Speaker 1: you're attracted to minions. Yeah. I think what's also attractive

545
00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:50,200
Speaker 1: to her about the minion is it's non threatening, right,

546
00:30:50,240 --> 00:30:53,600
Speaker 1: there is nothing that competition because she has the walls up, right,

547
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:54,880
Speaker 1: So that's the class Like, no, I don't want to

548
00:30:54,880 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 1: be penetrated. I don't want to bottom. But then there's

549
00:30:57,800 --> 00:30:59,760
Speaker 1: also like there's something that she has to do either,

550
00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 1: you know, that's like there's there's no vulnerabilities on the minion.

551
00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: I also think she might be like a bye, she's

552
00:31:07,400 --> 00:31:10,479
Speaker 1: like a top with men, which I don't know if

553
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:14,880
Speaker 1: she knows that about herself. Yeah, I think yeah, Like

554
00:31:15,040 --> 00:31:18,840
Speaker 1: I think she is does have attraction to men. And

555
00:31:18,880 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 1: she said, I mean her and Ted dance and they

556
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: were both like it was torrid. He left his wife

557
00:31:24,880 --> 00:31:32,120
Speaker 1: of sixteen years for whoopee after his wife had a stroke. Yeah, wow, God,

558
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,240
Speaker 1: don't get sick because your man will leave your Yeah. Serious,

559
00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:38,960
Speaker 1: But I'm just like, so she then maybe she got

560
00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:41,680
Speaker 1: it all out of her system. That is the other idea.

561
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 1: She's just kind of like I'm done. Okay. Well, another

562
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:48,400
Speaker 1: alien thing when when she's talking about lube and she goes,

563
00:31:48,600 --> 00:31:51,760
Speaker 1: I had a friend who tried lube once. I'm like,

564
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 1: what decade is it? You had a friend who tried

565
00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:58,160
Speaker 1: once and you say you have gay friends, right, And

566
00:31:58,240 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 1: she's just like, Okay, it doesn't work for everybody because

567
00:32:01,000 --> 00:32:03,200
Speaker 1: she had a reaction and then her husband had something

568
00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 1: else going on, and I don't know if I can

569
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 1: recommend it, so you got to do your own research.

570
00:32:07,560 --> 00:32:11,440
Speaker 1: Is also like it just gets It's very like So

571
00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:14,160
Speaker 1: I got on AOL dot com and I asked Jeeves

572
00:32:14,280 --> 00:32:17,120
Speaker 1: what lube can I use? It's very like, go to

573
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:20,480
Speaker 1: ask Jeeves. It's ultra very nineties. I'm sure her friend

574
00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:24,840
Speaker 1: used the most like toxic lube and not like a

575
00:32:25,040 --> 00:32:31,360
Speaker 1: water base and water bas made by Phobe meeting Western

576
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: mass What loube do you use? Enterprise like the babe

577
00:32:34,440 --> 00:32:37,959
Speaker 1: land like generic? Okay, just like the cheapest thing they

578
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:40,240
Speaker 1: have at the like expensive store. So you're not going

579
00:32:40,240 --> 00:32:43,280
Speaker 1: at CBS at an astro clide, No I'm not. I'm

580
00:32:43,360 --> 00:32:47,320
Speaker 1: going to the folks lead sex store and getting their brand.

581
00:32:47,400 --> 00:32:48,760
Speaker 1: I will say I use a loube that I was

582
00:32:48,800 --> 00:32:53,240
Speaker 1: sent as an influencer overde by an brand called Good Parts.

583
00:32:55,880 --> 00:32:57,280
Speaker 1: And I've been making me a way to the two

584
00:32:57,320 --> 00:33:00,160
Speaker 1: like small bottles for like two years and honestly are

585
00:33:00,200 --> 00:33:02,880
Speaker 1: great good parts. Yeah, good parts. Okay for all your

586
00:33:02,920 --> 00:33:06,280
Speaker 1: good parts. I got like sponsored I forget for some

587
00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: of like one of my speed dating events I did

588
00:33:08,760 --> 00:33:11,560
Speaker 1: by like some sex story company that had the funniest name,

589
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:15,600
Speaker 1: and they gave me so many like individual packets, like

590
00:33:15,760 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 1: ketchup packets, which at first I was like, oh, this

591
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:24,840
Speaker 1: will be convenient for drawful, but ultimately it's like so

592
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 1: sticky and ketchup asexual lesbian. Oh this is what I

593
00:33:29,960 --> 00:33:32,479
Speaker 1: want to ask you, She says. You need to know

594
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:36,440
Speaker 1: the four things you want in a relationship, right, and

595
00:33:36,520 --> 00:33:40,719
Speaker 1: the four things you don't want in a relationship, which

596
00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:43,719
Speaker 1: you know it's important advice. Again, it's a little generic,

597
00:33:43,720 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 1: and it's like, sure, I think it changes, you know,

598
00:33:46,600 --> 00:33:52,600
Speaker 1: for me, in each relationship, towards the end, there becomes

599
00:33:52,600 --> 00:33:57,080
Speaker 1: some elements that are unsustainable and then I'm left in

600
00:33:57,080 --> 00:34:01,360
Speaker 1: the next relationship wanting to kind of repair are those things? Well?

601
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 1: I think usually a pattern with most people is like

602
00:34:04,320 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 1: you go, not most people, but a lot of people

603
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,720
Speaker 1: you got. You searched for the opposite after a certain

604
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:13,520
Speaker 1: type of breakup, and you try to find well, or

605
00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:15,759
Speaker 1: you kind of or you do the exact you look

606
00:34:15,760 --> 00:34:17,319
Speaker 1: for the same thing, and you repeat patterns. I think

607
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:19,319
Speaker 1: more people are repeating patterns, and I think I'm still

608
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 1: repeating patterns even though I'm trying to break free of

609
00:34:21,280 --> 00:34:23,680
Speaker 1: them all the time. I see that. But it's like,

610
00:34:24,520 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 1: you know, I went from I think of a couple

611
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:30,359
Speaker 1: of relationships ago. You know, that relationship had a lot

612
00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 1: of frostiness to it, a lot of distance, a lot

613
00:34:33,080 --> 00:34:38,120
Speaker 1: of you know, lack of validation, was very cool, and

614
00:34:38,200 --> 00:34:41,040
Speaker 1: so in my next relationship, I was looking for someone

615
00:34:41,200 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 1: who would be really kind of like unequivocally attentive, attentive,

616
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: warm and warm, and I found that. And then you know,

617
00:34:49,000 --> 00:34:52,759
Speaker 1: that relationship had was very sexual, but also had some

618
00:34:52,880 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: sexual imbalances, some power imbalances, and ultimately he was like

619
00:34:57,360 --> 00:35:01,360
Speaker 1: a lying, cheating, sack of shit, um but all the

620
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:06,360
Speaker 1: way off at that heart studios. But when we're in midtown,

621
00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,400
Speaker 1: we don't hold back. And then my current relationship, it

622
00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,839
Speaker 1: was like I still wanted someone who was like attentive

623
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:16,520
Speaker 1: and like and very there and warm. Well, I think,

624
00:35:16,560 --> 00:35:18,399
Speaker 1: and that's what we call it learning, Like you were

625
00:35:18,440 --> 00:35:22,120
Speaker 1: realized like, oh, okay, these are the things I need. Yeah,

626
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:24,879
Speaker 1: but I also learned some other things that I don't

627
00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:27,920
Speaker 1: want from my last Yeah. So I do think that

628
00:35:27,960 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 1: each relationship is like you're adding one more piece to

629
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:33,320
Speaker 1: the puzzle of like something you weren't getting before that

630
00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,760
Speaker 1: now you're getting. Yeah. But I also think puzzle pieces

631
00:35:35,760 --> 00:35:38,440
Speaker 1: are also taken away. Yes, puzzle pieces are taken away,

632
00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:41,440
Speaker 1: and what you want shifts. I mean, I remember I

633
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 1: had a relationship many many, many years ago where this

634
00:35:43,760 --> 00:35:47,439
Speaker 1: guy was nineteen seventy nineteen seventy five, and this guy

635
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:49,759
Speaker 1: was like two into me at first, and I was

636
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 1: just kind of like very turned off by how available

637
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,320
Speaker 1: he was. And I think that because in my mid twenties,

638
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,319
Speaker 1: I really like, I think I didn't value myself enough

639
00:35:57,360 --> 00:35:59,640
Speaker 1: to know that it was okay for someone to want me.

640
00:35:59,680 --> 00:36:01,640
Speaker 1: I thought that meant, oh, well, if they're too available,

641
00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 1: like that means that like they're not cool enough for me.

642
00:36:04,760 --> 00:36:07,120
Speaker 1: You know, you were the classic girl of like I

643
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,880
Speaker 1: want a man to run over me, yeah, and I

644
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:11,759
Speaker 1: want him to be hard to get. And I thought

645
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: that that meant that he was a prize and if

646
00:36:14,120 --> 00:36:16,320
Speaker 1: I didn't have a prize, then I was in a prize.

647
00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,760
Speaker 1: And you you wanted the sweepstakes, right, and I wanted

648
00:36:18,760 --> 00:36:21,200
Speaker 1: the sweepstakes. And now I think I understand a little

649
00:36:21,200 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 1: more that a relationship is really about, you know, the

650
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,759
Speaker 1: dynamic and the day to day and as Whoopie says,

651
00:36:25,800 --> 00:36:28,799
Speaker 1: the second by second and you know how someone can

652
00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 1: be there for you first, and then you add in

653
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 1: these other more superficial factors about how they look and

654
00:36:35,960 --> 00:36:38,560
Speaker 1: how they rock your world and what their jobs and

655
00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:40,399
Speaker 1: how much money they mean. That was so true though,

656
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:45,279
Speaker 1: and she said a relationship is second by second, you know,

657
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:50,040
Speaker 1: because it's the little things. Okay, it's not those honeymoon moments.

658
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:54,400
Speaker 1: It's that second when you're taking a left and a

659
00:36:54,520 --> 00:36:58,200
Speaker 1: door dash driver almost hits your car. Yeah, how you

660
00:36:58,239 --> 00:37:02,960
Speaker 1: guys act? Yeah and after and you know, I think

661
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:05,040
Speaker 1: about them in a relationship. You know, when we were

662
00:37:05,040 --> 00:37:07,720
Speaker 1: stranded in Panama on an island on the Caribbean coast

663
00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 1: and we had only twelve hours to get back to

664
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 1: Panama City so I could fly to la and do

665
00:37:11,719 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 1: a live show of my podcast and make almost six

666
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:18,160
Speaker 1: hundred dollars. He didn't panic. He was so calm, and

667
00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:19,799
Speaker 1: we did take a boat back to the mainland and

668
00:37:19,840 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 1: ultimately a bus across the country and he was a

669
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,000
Speaker 1: twelve hour bus. May he was my night in shining armor.

670
00:37:25,040 --> 00:37:28,200
Speaker 1: And he was so calm and fun and like cracking jokes,

671
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: but also still being you know, appropriately concerned of the grieving, yes,

672
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:36,160
Speaker 1: of what running with passports or whatever, like trying to

673
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:38,520
Speaker 1: make stup work, but not also being crazy panicked. It

674
00:37:38,600 --> 00:37:40,279
Speaker 1: was like it was perfect. And that was the moment

675
00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: I knew I was gonna say. I feel like that

676
00:37:42,400 --> 00:37:45,120
Speaker 1: was the moment. So what are your four things? Well,

677
00:37:45,160 --> 00:37:48,799
Speaker 1: I just wrote a little list. I wrote five things

678
00:37:48,800 --> 00:37:52,919
Speaker 1: I want. This already feels like copy for dating, ad

679
00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:59,480
Speaker 1: good sex, humor, care for me, sexy. I want them

680
00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:02,880
Speaker 1: to have a good support network, like them to have

681
00:38:03,000 --> 00:38:06,200
Speaker 1: really good friends, yes, or just like that, to be

682
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 1: important to them. Yes, literally wrote similar values. Okay, able

683
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:20,120
Speaker 1: to iroll the same thing, absolute Christ. What I really

684
00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:25,879
Speaker 1: meant is like when someone says something ridiculous, you can

685
00:38:25,920 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 1: be like, you know, just look at each other across

686
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: the room at you definitely want to connect with them

687
00:38:32,960 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 1: personality wise. I mean that's very whippy when she's just like,

688
00:38:36,040 --> 00:38:38,600
Speaker 1: this is an actual quote from the book, conversation gives

689
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:40,719
Speaker 1: you a lot of insight into who you're spending time with.

690
00:38:41,080 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 1: That's why dating is so important. And she's literally like,

691
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 1: talk to someone to get to know them. I feel

692
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:49,800
Speaker 1: like that's a little bit with similar values, just like, no,

693
00:38:49,920 --> 00:38:51,680
Speaker 1: you're not going to date someone who you just have

694
00:38:51,760 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: nothing in common. Well, well, I think there's like, you know,

695
00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 1: for example, me and my girlfriend, we don't really like

696
00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: the same movies, right, you know that's not really I

697
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,120
Speaker 1: guess what I was saying, I meant just like kind

698
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:04,920
Speaker 1: of like how you approach situation. I mean, I totally agree, though,

699
00:39:04,960 --> 00:39:07,920
Speaker 1: and I think the moment that you spoke of is essential,

700
00:39:08,040 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 1: which is the can you can somebody do something in

701
00:39:10,760 --> 00:39:12,239
Speaker 1: our party and the two of you can look at

702
00:39:12,280 --> 00:39:13,920
Speaker 1: each other word Leslie, I know you're laughing at the

703
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 1: same thing. That's I think. Yeah, I feel like one

704
00:39:17,280 --> 00:39:20,239
Speaker 1: of the first moments that my current girlfriend and I

705
00:39:20,280 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 1: connected and I didn't even really think of her. I

706
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:25,600
Speaker 1: was like, I didn't even think kind of that was

707
00:39:25,640 --> 00:39:28,000
Speaker 1: going to happen, but we were at an event of

708
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:35,600
Speaker 1: mine and a lesbian bit another lesbian and aggressively everyone

709
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:41,120
Speaker 1: to Sian bit another lesbian I was hosting an award

710
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:45,360
Speaker 1: Yeah Elward trivia night. My friend was our DJ and

711
00:39:45,400 --> 00:39:48,919
Speaker 1: I'll put that in quotes, and another lesbian bit her

712
00:39:49,719 --> 00:39:53,319
Speaker 1: and kind of like everyone was being so insane and

713
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:58,359
Speaker 1: like dramatic and like crazy because obviously a bite just happened. Yeah,

714
00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:00,279
Speaker 1: and me and mine are just kind of of like

715
00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 1: both connected at the bar over some lights, damn crazy

716
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:24,600
Speaker 1: cheers to that. Ask Whoopie forged in chaos, Ask segments,

717
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:26,680
Speaker 1: what does she eat? What does she wear? How does

718
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:30,600
Speaker 1: she live? What does she wear? She's such iconic style.

719
00:40:30,719 --> 00:40:35,720
Speaker 1: She's always in like a hype beast, like orange yellow sneaker.

720
00:40:35,960 --> 00:40:38,439
Speaker 1: She's has gotten more street where I feel like being

721
00:40:38,520 --> 00:40:41,600
Speaker 1: so like wearing or force ones and like, well, I

722
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:43,920
Speaker 1: watched her in my Whoopie bench last night. I watched

723
00:40:43,920 --> 00:40:47,839
Speaker 1: this comedy special from like nineteen ninety one, and she

724
00:40:48,040 --> 00:40:52,560
Speaker 1: was in like completely retro I mean new then, like

725
00:40:52,640 --> 00:40:57,240
Speaker 1: funky basketball sneakers, basically hair and pants, uh T shirt,

726
00:40:57,560 --> 00:41:00,720
Speaker 1: massive blazer. It was very Miyake. I mean, her style

727
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:04,800
Speaker 1: is is pretty standard butch. She's definitely not like showing

728
00:41:04,840 --> 00:41:08,040
Speaker 1: her curves like she's always wearing like really roomy, like

729
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:11,320
Speaker 1: floor length denim shirts. I mean, yeah, she like invented

730
00:41:11,440 --> 00:41:16,759
Speaker 1: iconic lesbian style little sunglasses, denim jacket, beret. Yeah, she

731
00:41:16,840 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 1: was wearing like a bowling shirt because eighties comedy style

732
00:41:21,000 --> 00:41:25,399
Speaker 1: like there were Yeah, but she and I think some

733
00:41:25,560 --> 00:41:28,399
Speaker 1: have like femed from that. But she's just gotten like

734
00:41:28,719 --> 00:41:35,879
Speaker 1: I think, a little more streamline athletic and it, you know. Yeah,

735
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: but she's still doing a lot of like I feel

736
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:41,040
Speaker 1: like in the view, she's still always wearing a pretty

737
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,120
Speaker 1: structured like long button down a long time, or like

738
00:41:43,120 --> 00:41:45,000
Speaker 1: a big linen shirt like oh, yeah, I guess I

739
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:47,240
Speaker 1: just meant I bet she's wearing like a three hundred

740
00:41:47,280 --> 00:41:51,480
Speaker 1: dollars like a neoprean pant. Yes, But I think, like,

741
00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:53,560
Speaker 1: you know, especially in the view, it's like she's the

742
00:41:53,600 --> 00:41:57,440
Speaker 1: contrast to the excessive sort of femininity of the other hosts,

743
00:41:57,840 --> 00:42:01,440
Speaker 1: and everyone's in these like newscaster like tight little dresses

744
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:05,080
Speaker 1: and like their body consum She has an iconic style.

745
00:42:05,120 --> 00:42:09,959
Speaker 1: I mean her sunglasses collection, Yeah, she's never never stops. Yeah,

746
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,880
Speaker 1: and they really work for her well. As she says

747
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:14,040
Speaker 1: in the book, she's like my mom told me that Yeah,

748
00:42:14,960 --> 00:42:17,319
Speaker 1: you're cute, but you're not going to get very far

749
00:42:17,360 --> 00:42:20,400
Speaker 1: with your face alone, so you need to fight for

750
00:42:20,440 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 1: what you want. She kept on saying this also was

751
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:26,359
Speaker 1: so like robotic an alien. She was like, when I

752
00:42:26,440 --> 00:42:30,120
Speaker 1: decide I need sex, I put my like energy out

753
00:42:31,120 --> 00:42:34,000
Speaker 1: to get it, and then when I'm done, I pull

754
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:38,520
Speaker 1: it back in as like a non hot person. Yeah,

755
00:42:38,680 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: it's kind of like that's kind of what everyone does.

756
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:44,279
Speaker 1: I mean, I will say, you know, I've always thought

757
00:42:44,280 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 1: of myself as someone, you know, who uses my humor

758
00:42:48,360 --> 00:42:53,160
Speaker 1: right to attract the fair sex. You're you're always betting

759
00:42:53,320 --> 00:43:01,200
Speaker 1: checks on groupie who's on tour. So that's how you've

760
00:43:01,239 --> 00:43:05,960
Speaker 1: attracted all seven of the people with Yeah, exactly, it

761
00:43:06,000 --> 00:43:12,080
Speaker 1: all worked. So you agree or disagree with That's what

762
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:16,480
Speaker 1: I'm saying. I think it's it's always on. Yeah, and

763
00:43:16,520 --> 00:43:19,120
Speaker 1: again that's how I got the seventh what we're calling

764
00:43:19,440 --> 00:43:23,560
Speaker 1: with the Sexiest the sexy seven le Marada on the

765
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 1: Seven Dwarfs. All right, she eats h is actually kind

766
00:43:30,000 --> 00:43:32,719
Speaker 1: of parting up a storm. So that's actually I'm kind

767
00:43:32,760 --> 00:43:35,200
Speaker 1: of concerned what's going on with the diet. Oh, she

768
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:37,799
Speaker 1: does talk about how much she loves bars, which I

769
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 1: was obsessed with because she's like anti app and she's like,

770
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 1: you know, you can't tell how they smell, but if

771
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:50,240
Speaker 1: you're again, I know, but star okay, complex, but scent

772
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:55,759
Speaker 1: is huge. Oh, I agree, you are. I hate more

773
00:43:55,960 --> 00:43:58,520
Speaker 1: when you go down and a guy and he reeks

774
00:43:58,560 --> 00:44:01,000
Speaker 1: of like cologne and d yodorant and he's got that

775
00:44:01,080 --> 00:44:04,040
Speaker 1: like shaved pubic cart so disgusting. Or if you just

776
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,560
Speaker 1: are kind of knee deep in a crevice the nook,

777
00:44:07,840 --> 00:44:11,960
Speaker 1: you know, and yeah, the nook. If the smell is

778
00:44:12,000 --> 00:44:15,960
Speaker 1: just not right, it's not right. I totally agree. And

779
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:20,080
Speaker 1: a lot of people smells are not good. I mean,

780
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:22,040
Speaker 1: but it's like, yeah, you're also like yeah, and you

781
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:23,160
Speaker 1: go on a date with some one from Tinder and

782
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,319
Speaker 1: then you smell that when they're like okay, now right,

783
00:44:25,320 --> 00:44:28,360
Speaker 1: and you can smell that's a waste of time and

784
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,719
Speaker 1: it's like not that big waste of time. Yeah, I know,

785
00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 1: Like I love meeting people at smoky bars. Um So anyway,

786
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,799
Speaker 1: literally we're stalling. What does she eat? I guess I'm like,

787
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:44,439
Speaker 1: is it a lot of what makes you fart? Okay?

788
00:44:44,480 --> 00:44:47,560
Speaker 1: I think she can diet classically, Yeah, I do think like.

789
00:44:47,680 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: For breakfast, she's very like old man very the associate.

790
00:44:51,600 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 1: I think she's overnight oats like. I think it's extremely

791
00:44:54,680 --> 00:45:00,719
Speaker 1: old fashioned. I think it's a grapefruit, ye like me, grapefruit.

792
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 1: One hard boiled egg. Yeah, Oh, I bet she snacks

793
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:06,560
Speaker 1: out a lot of hard boiled. Hard boiled eggs. Would

794
00:45:06,640 --> 00:45:10,560
Speaker 1: get you to Fartland for sure. For dinner. I think, um,

795
00:45:11,760 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: Whoopy to me is like Cholassic Burger every now and again.

796
00:45:17,040 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 1: Uh very Andy Cohen Corner Bistro. Yeah, sure, I mean

797
00:45:21,080 --> 00:45:23,680
Speaker 1: I think we're like she's she seems stuck in nineteen

798
00:45:23,760 --> 00:45:26,239
Speaker 1: eighty four, so I'm happy to say that. Yeah, she's

799
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:29,880
Speaker 1: like kind of a well done burger. Let's just say it.

800
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:32,680
Speaker 1: I don't think it's rare over there in Whoopy Town.

801
00:45:33,920 --> 00:45:37,760
Speaker 1: Big old beef steak, tomato onion. She's burger in paradise.

802
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:40,480
Speaker 1: She's married, She's burg in paradise. And then oh she

803
00:45:40,520 --> 00:45:43,719
Speaker 1: smokes like so much sweet, she's so fape. Yeah, and

804
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,880
Speaker 1: she like gun trouble for like being high or something.

805
00:45:46,960 --> 00:45:48,480
Speaker 1: Oh wait, she admitted that she was high when she

806
00:45:48,760 --> 00:45:53,360
Speaker 1: accepted her oscar for a ghost fucking iconic, pretty dope,

807
00:45:53,760 --> 00:45:56,920
Speaker 1: Who are you in the book. I mean neither of

808
00:45:57,040 --> 00:45:58,960
Speaker 1: us are whoopee, because like, I feel like we're both

809
00:45:59,000 --> 00:46:03,080
Speaker 1: so like relationship. We're both pretty relationship, we both love

810
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: to have girlfriends. I feel like I'm certainly having more

811
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:11,279
Speaker 1: than an annual hit and run. Definitely. I mean you're

812
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:15,600
Speaker 1: kind of annual. I guess, yeah, I'm more like, Okay,

813
00:46:15,640 --> 00:46:18,520
Speaker 1: it's the years eduals getting run. So I called up

814
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:23,520
Speaker 1: an old frenchman. I'm a little ask what like ask whoopee?

815
00:46:24,000 --> 00:46:28,560
Speaker 1: Like you you're the concept of a question. Yeah, I'm

816
00:46:28,640 --> 00:46:35,320
Speaker 1: someone asking whoopee. You're a question waiting to be answered. Okay,

817
00:46:35,360 --> 00:46:39,120
Speaker 1: you're a minion, and I'm it's more conceptual. You're the minions.

818
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:43,360
Speaker 1: I'm asked, whoopee, I'm so cute? Yeah, okay, great. I

819
00:46:43,400 --> 00:46:45,080
Speaker 1: don't know. I give this book one and a half

820
00:46:45,120 --> 00:46:48,040
Speaker 1: stars or sorry, one and a half millions that I

821
00:46:48,080 --> 00:46:51,239
Speaker 1: want to fuck, but can't find the whole. I was

822
00:46:51,280 --> 00:46:54,920
Speaker 1: just like, this book is so random. She put very little.

823
00:46:55,840 --> 00:47:00,359
Speaker 1: I give this too, reveals absolutely nothing. Two very well

824
00:47:00,480 --> 00:47:04,800
Speaker 1: used vibrators out of five. Because I just love hearing

825
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:07,759
Speaker 1: her voice, I ask Whoopie. I do love hearing her

826
00:47:07,840 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 1: voice and for her to talk about how she wants

827
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,840
Speaker 1: to like fucking eighty year old. There were some choice

828
00:47:12,880 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 1: moments in there, and I did it. I did appreciate

829
00:47:15,000 --> 00:47:17,319
Speaker 1: princessa charmiso. Yeah, that's what I'm giving in the one

830
00:47:17,320 --> 00:47:20,920
Speaker 1: point five millions for is the princessor Charmito. Other than that, though,

831
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:24,200
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, if you're looking for whoopee, come watch

832
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:26,040
Speaker 1: a film. Watch a film, Watch Boys on the Side,

833
00:47:26,040 --> 00:47:30,200
Speaker 1: Watch Karina Karino, watch Um Sister Act Watch SISTERCT two,

834
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:34,640
Speaker 1: Sister Act two. I don't know, soap dish, what's that?

835
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:38,279
Speaker 1: It's a movie, nineties movie about like soap opera. Says, oh,

836
00:47:38,280 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 1: that's yeah, it's really fun. She has a lot of

837
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:42,959
Speaker 1: fun movies. Okay, well, thank you so much, club kids

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Speaker 1: for another rollocking episode. Uh, we can't wait to see

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Speaker 1: you next week. Back here in the iHeart Studios offices

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Speaker 1: in Chicago, Dallas, Los Angelea, Toronto, Los Angeles. Anyway, best Fast.

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Speaker 1: This episode of Celebrity book Club was produced and edited

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Speaker 1: by Darby Masters. The supervising prisoner and editor is Abooza

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Speaker 1: far Christina Everett is executive producer, but Heat Fraser is

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Speaker 1: the engineer. Stephen Phillips Horse made the theme song. Teddy

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Speaker 1: Blanks did the artwork. Oh and please, club kids, join

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Speaker 1: our Patreon, Patreon, dot com, slash CBC The Pod five

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Speaker 1: bucks a month. It gets sexier and sexier every single week.

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Speaker 1: Oh do you want to leave a review on iTunes?

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Speaker 1: I know it's crazy old school, but do it. It's fun.

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