WEBVTT - Nobody told me that

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is to ask people what surprised them about their

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<v Speaker 1>jobs or about anything in life really, so you don't

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<v Speaker 1>face the same surprises yourself. Today's tip comes from Tessa

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<v Speaker 1>West's book Job Therapy, Finding Work that Works for You.

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<v Speaker 1>West is a psychology professor at New York University and

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<v Speaker 1>an expert on social relationships and communication at work. In

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<v Speaker 1>Job Therapy, West helps readers figure out why they're not

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<v Speaker 1>happy at work and find a job where they will thrive. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure that many people listening to this are quite

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<v Speaker 1>happy with their jobs, but even if you plan on

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<v Speaker 1>staying where you are, it can be worth analyzing the

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<v Speaker 1>situation and figuring out ways that you can do your best.

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<v Speaker 1>In her book, West advises that when you are exploring

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<v Speaker 1>a job, ask those working in that job to finish

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<v Speaker 1>this sentence before I started this job, nobody told me

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<v Speaker 1>that dot dot dot. She explains that this will help

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<v Speaker 1>you learn the hidden curriculum before you start the new

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<v Speaker 1>job and be better able to figure out whether the

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<v Speaker 1>workplace and the role would be a good fit. I

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<v Speaker 1>think this is a good question to ask in lots

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<v Speaker 1>of contexts beyond new jobs. There are all sorts of

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<v Speaker 1>things in life that aren't publicly advertised, but that people

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<v Speaker 1>learn over time sometimes the hard way. West writes about

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<v Speaker 1>a national public radio project called I was absent that

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<v Speaker 1>day about things people had to learn as an adult.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure we have all got things that we've learned

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<v Speaker 1>quite belatedly in life. Asking people what nobody told them

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<v Speaker 1>will help reveal some of the hidden curriculum in any situation. So,

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<v Speaker 1>for instance, before you start a new project, you might

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<v Speaker 1>ask people who've worked with a particular client what nobody

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<v Speaker 1>told them about that client. If you are transferring to

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<v Speaker 1>a new location, you can ask people there what nobody

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<v Speaker 1>told them about that place. And you can ask this

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<v Speaker 1>in context beyond work too. If your kids are going

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<v Speaker 1>to a new school, ask other parents what nobody told

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<v Speaker 1>them about the school. If you move into a new

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<v Speaker 1>neighborhood or join a new club, this question could be relevant.

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<v Speaker 1>What did nobody tell you about signing up for after

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<v Speaker 1>school activities around here? What did nobody tell you about

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<v Speaker 1>hiring a contractor to renovate your kitchen? What did nobody

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<v Speaker 1>tell you about owning a beach house. Maybe that the

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<v Speaker 1>ocean is beautiful, but you'll be doing constant maintenance because

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<v Speaker 1>being by the ocean is rough on a house. You

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<v Speaker 1>probably need to build that into your budget. At work

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<v Speaker 1>and in many aspects of our life, things we need

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<v Speaker 1>to know often go unspoken. But with a well chosen

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<v Speaker 1>question posed to helpful people, you may not have to

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<v Speaker 1>figure out everything the hard way. Somebody may tell you

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<v Speaker 1>the things you need to know, and then maybe you

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<v Speaker 1>can repay the favor by passing that knowledge along to

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<v Speaker 1>someone else. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks for listening,

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<v Speaker 1>and here's to making the most of our time. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for listening to Before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas,

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<v Speaker 1>or feedback, you can reach me at Laura at Laura

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