WEBVTT - Ep 28: The Songwriter 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:06.480 Novel. 0:00:09.560 --> 0:00:13.640 This show contains adult material and swearing. You have been warned. 0:00:15.360 --> 0:00:17.000 The worst part I haven't gone is learning how to 0:00:17.000 --> 0:00:18.439 spell goner to. 0:00:18.440 --> 0:00:21.760 Say, it's terrific, possible, it's horrific. You have to google 0:00:21.760 --> 0:00:22.280 it every time. 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:23.639 That is right, gone, Girl. 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:32.080 Around me, I'm a savage. 0:00:33.640 --> 0:00:36.880 Are you bored of modern dating? Meeting the same people 0:00:36.880 --> 0:00:39.560 from the same apps in the same bar You've only 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:41.680 chosen because it's close to your house and you can 0:00:41.680 --> 0:00:45.040 make your usual quick getaway. It's time to change the 0:00:45.120 --> 0:00:47.920 narrative on how we find love. It's time to start 0:00:47.960 --> 0:00:52.280 looking for love in all the wrong places. I'm going 0:00:52.360 --> 0:00:55.720 on a wild dating adventure, only picking people who are 0:00:55.720 --> 0:00:58.760 the total opposite of my type. And after twenty eight 0:00:58.840 --> 0:01:01.920 of these dates in two months, will I find that 0:01:02.040 --> 0:01:03.040 special someone? 0:01:03.320 --> 0:01:03.720 Or well? 0:01:03.760 --> 0:01:06.399 This experiment proved that I should just give up on 0:01:06.480 --> 0:01:12.560 dating altogether. It's time to find out. I'm Grace Campbell 0:01:12.760 --> 0:01:20.640 and this is twenty eight dates later. Hello, Dan, Hi, 0:01:21.560 --> 0:01:23.280 it's the final Ar's the final day. 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:24.160 It's a final day. 0:01:24.480 --> 0:01:25.600 I did my final day. 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:27.000 Oh my god, I'm excited. 0:01:27.160 --> 0:01:27.440 I know. 0:01:27.680 --> 0:01:30.600 Are you feeling nourished? Are you feeling sexy? Are you 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:31.279 feeling alive. 0:01:31.760 --> 0:01:35.640 I am, I'm feeling alive. Hey, Sason killing me, but 0:01:35.720 --> 0:01:38.400 I'm feeling I'm pumped. I'm pumped. 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:40.720 Baby killing me? 0:01:41.040 --> 0:01:41.120 Do? 0:01:41.160 --> 0:01:43.520 I find out recently that apparently it's because all the 0:01:43.520 --> 0:01:45.200 trees that we have in this country are like male trees. 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:46.800 So I didn't want to plant female trees because they 0:01:46.840 --> 0:01:49.120 bear fruit and that's free fruit, but also like rotten fruit. 0:01:49.480 --> 0:01:50.880 So this means it's just got like heavy. 0:01:50.960 --> 0:01:53.440 It was just like loads of spunk, like mother has 0:01:53.440 --> 0:01:55.320 boukaqui and as constantly and it's. 0:01:55.160 --> 0:01:57.120 Like it's in my eye. I know it is in 0:01:57.120 --> 0:01:58.400 my eye and in my nose, in my mouth. 0:01:58.760 --> 0:02:02.680 Yeah, it is male trees. But also the craziest story 0:02:02.760 --> 0:02:04.640 just really quickly that I have to tell you, So, 0:02:04.720 --> 0:02:08.320 there is a male crow in my area that's attacking women. 0:02:09.560 --> 0:02:11.919 So it's been going around like on the WhatsApp groups 0:02:11.960 --> 0:02:14.160 like for my area, like there's this crow attacking women 0:02:14.200 --> 0:02:15.760 with long hair. So I was like, cool, I'll be fine, 0:02:15.760 --> 0:02:18.000 I haven't got long hair. And then last week I 0:02:18.040 --> 0:02:19.840 was walking along the street like looking real nice, like 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:22.519 I had like cowboy boots on, like really nice trousers, 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:26.200 walking along and then this crow just like attacks my head. No, 0:02:26.600 --> 0:02:28.920 and then I started screaming. It didn't like bite me, 0:02:28.960 --> 0:02:31.600 It just like banged on my head flew away, right, 0:02:31.800 --> 0:02:33.400 So I was like screaming and there was who traffic 0:02:33.480 --> 0:02:35.919 down for people watching me, and everyone was watching and 0:02:35.960 --> 0:02:37.160 I was like, oh my god, did you see that 0:02:37.200 --> 0:02:38.280 to all the people in the cars. And then this 0:02:38.320 --> 0:02:40.720 guy goes He's coming back for you, and so I 0:02:40.840 --> 0:02:44.400 ran away from it, tripped, fell into the road in 0:02:44.400 --> 0:02:46.799 front of the traffic, and then the crow was just 0:02:46.840 --> 0:02:51.359 attacking my head. How in same is that that is? 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:53.960 Actually it's the male trees and the male crows are 0:02:54.000 --> 0:02:55.000 just trying to fuck us up. 0:02:55.160 --> 0:02:55.440 Damn it. 0:02:55.480 --> 0:03:01.760 I owe that chrome money now A final day. 0:03:01.840 --> 0:03:07.440 Final day. Okay. So this guy, so he is a songwriter. 0:03:07.360 --> 0:03:09.720 A musician. He's in music. 0:03:10.080 --> 0:03:13.160 Yeah, and I love music as well, like actually, like 0:03:14.360 --> 0:03:17.840 I love music popular opinion. But I'm like obsessed with music, 0:03:18.120 --> 0:03:22.639 Like I listened to music all the time. It's so random. No, 0:03:22.720 --> 0:03:23.239 I'm crazy. 0:03:23.280 --> 0:03:24.200 I know, I'm a crazy girl. 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:27.559 Crazy girl. So I've previously dated a lot of musicians 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:29.919 and it's clearly not gone well for me because I'm 0:03:30.000 --> 0:03:34.560 here making this podcast. So I thought musician days were 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:36.280 in the past for me. But have you looked at 0:03:36.320 --> 0:03:40.280 this guy's very Let's just talk about how fucking peng. 0:03:40.440 --> 0:03:41.240 He's so fit. 0:03:41.520 --> 0:03:43.120 He's so peng. 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:47.320 Jesus Christ is the body, his body is given believable. 0:03:47.440 --> 0:03:48.960 Okay, he's like a Greek statue. 0:03:48.960 --> 0:03:51.160 It's made me feel like I'm cosplaying Roll Dahl writing 0:03:51.160 --> 0:03:51.840 a book and a share. 0:03:51.960 --> 0:03:55.480 No. I showed my like male friends him the other 0:03:55.560 --> 0:03:58.160 day and they were like, he is an honest honestly. 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:00.800 The second I saw so, I was so unprepared of 0:04:00.880 --> 0:04:03.240 him being that pang. And like then he came and 0:04:03.280 --> 0:04:04.800 he was so pung. I didn't have any makeup on. 0:04:04.880 --> 0:04:07.360 I looked insane. I'd been walking for two hours. It 0:04:07.400 --> 0:04:08.760 was really hot, I'd been walking the dog. I was 0:04:08.760 --> 0:04:10.920 trying to close my rings on an Apple watch, and 0:04:10.960 --> 0:04:13.200 so I just looked mad. And he came in and 0:04:13.200 --> 0:04:14.720 I was sat on the floor on the phone to 0:04:14.720 --> 0:04:16.600 my friend who was having an argument with her boyfriend. 0:04:16.640 --> 0:04:18.080 Like when he walked in, and. 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:20.720 Then the second he sat down opposite me, I was like, 0:04:20.839 --> 0:04:30.160 oh my god, you're actually so fit, you are so muscly. 0:04:31.680 --> 0:04:32.240 What do you. 0:04:32.200 --> 0:04:37.839 Do do you take so sure? 0:04:39.320 --> 0:04:42.200 I said, I'm just really what disciplined. 0:04:43.360 --> 0:04:45.360 I mean, I ate the same thing every day. 0:04:45.520 --> 0:04:46.919 I just go to the gym. 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:51.800 Sometimes every day. So tell me see. 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:57.520 Lunch for lunch. It's very snacky. So I seen us 0:04:57.640 --> 0:05:03.720 going bars a protein bar, approtein your good apple. 0:05:03.800 --> 0:05:07.200 Sounds like such a sad way to live. Five oreos 0:05:08.360 --> 0:05:11.120 every day every day we have that. 0:05:11.920 --> 0:05:16.680 Yeah, that diet is giving me like sociopath absolutely, yeah, 0:05:16.720 --> 0:05:19.200 people like that are complete freaks, but nobody has You do. 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:22.000 Not have a body like that without being a sociopath. 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:24.320 When he's there, like, it's very snacky, and to me, 0:05:24.360 --> 0:05:26.640 I'm They're like, what's that? Sorry? Four poor pies, A 0:05:26.640 --> 0:05:28.159 whole sub of pringles cheese. 0:05:28.200 --> 0:05:31.800 One yeah, left sandwich from prass Because. 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:33.159 It isn't like that kind of snacky because that's my 0:05:33.200 --> 0:05:35.719 every day because I eat the same. 0:05:35.600 --> 0:05:39.680 Thing every day. I'm like, what chickens? Ye got the time? 0:05:39.720 --> 0:05:43.320 I got the time? But work hard? Looks fit, I 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:44.000 guess you do. 0:05:44.360 --> 0:05:47.400 Yeah, I mean yeah, cb a, No, I mean, but 0:05:47.480 --> 0:05:49.200 not everybody has to look like that. But it's nice 0:05:49.200 --> 0:05:50.640 that there are people in the world that look like that. 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:52.440 Do you know what I mean? It's like if everybody 0:05:52.440 --> 0:05:54.280 looks like that, it would be really boring. But it's 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.120 nice when somebody looks like that and you're like, god, 0:05:56.160 --> 0:05:59.000 you look insane. I don't know, yeah, I mean unreal, 0:05:59.040 --> 0:06:00.719 Like his body is just pure muscle. 0:06:03.279 --> 0:06:11.039 Have five aureos. It's so random, the whole packet. So 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:16.160 what do you do? Is that a really personal I 0:06:16.279 --> 0:06:16.880 make music? 0:06:17.200 --> 0:06:21.640 Okay, yeah, songwriter musicians love me. 0:06:21.760 --> 0:06:22.719 It's really interesting. 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:24.760 I don't know why. 0:06:26.240 --> 0:06:30.280 I think I've think I've been on with two comedians. 0:06:30.440 --> 0:06:35.159 Really, that's interesting. Get over them. 0:06:36.680 --> 0:06:39.599 Why I'm sure it was them and not the profession. 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.920 Well we are obviously they were probably really bad comedians. 0:06:45.520 --> 0:06:47.600 Are a really good comedian. 0:06:48.160 --> 0:06:54.440 I'm a very good exquisite. First of all, this is 0:06:54.960 --> 0:06:58.080 please So this is like so funny because he claims 0:06:58.120 --> 0:07:01.160 that he's never like looked me up, which I obviously 0:07:01.160 --> 0:07:03.400 do not believe. I don't believe it for a second. 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:06.760 But like he basically before he had decided to come 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:08.640 on the date for the podcast, he mentioned it to 0:07:08.680 --> 0:07:10.240 one of his friends and he was like, Oh, I've 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:12.480 been asked to do this thing with this girl called Grace. 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:14.160 And then the girl was like, oh my god, Grace Gamble. 0:07:14.440 --> 0:07:15.920 And it turns out she went to my school, but 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:17.720 was a few years above me, and she was like, 0:07:17.720 --> 0:07:19.960 oh yeah, you should definitely do it, like she's really funny. 0:07:20.360 --> 0:07:23.360 But then he claims that even then he didn't like 0:07:23.400 --> 0:07:41.400 look me up. I mean, don't believe it. What's your 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:50.920 content in my comedy sets? Relationships? My dog took about 0:07:50.920 --> 0:07:52.720 my dog a lot on them. She's just been on heat, 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.640 so it's given me quite a lot of comedy. She 0:07:56.720 --> 0:07:59.640 actually the other day she sat on a dog's face 0:07:59.760 --> 0:08:01.520 in the pub and then squatted all. 0:08:01.440 --> 0:08:02.000 Over his face. 0:08:08.080 --> 0:08:08.960 Do you want another drink? 0:08:09.400 --> 0:08:10.200 Is that your vibe? 0:08:10.680 --> 0:08:10.880 Yeah? 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:13.000 I was like, she's obviously seen me do that, and 0:08:13.200 --> 0:08:14.080 I was copying me. 0:08:15.640 --> 0:08:18.720 I mean, baby, you got gay right there. And he's like, 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:22.760 to watch your content and you're like sex, and you're like, 0:08:22.880 --> 0:08:25.040 my dog's also been on here, just like me. 0:08:27.520 --> 0:08:29.280 Oh my god, I'm based. 0:08:29.800 --> 0:08:31.680 But like also just like if you if you see 0:08:31.720 --> 0:08:34.640 the end game, yeah, stepping it strongly. 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:37.840 And I saw like the second we started speaking, I 0:08:37.880 --> 0:08:40.320 was like, we have to have sex, and I really 0:08:40.400 --> 0:08:42.200 want it to be today that we have sad you. 0:08:42.200 --> 0:08:44.240 Sat down, You're like, how can this happen? Oh? I know, 0:08:44.360 --> 0:08:46.000 I'm going to talk about my dog square in another 0:08:46.080 --> 0:08:46.640 dog's face. 0:08:47.480 --> 0:08:49.400 But wait, just break that down because like what you 0:08:49.400 --> 0:08:50.680 want about the dogs square? 0:08:51.080 --> 0:08:53.040 Oh my god, Eddie squirted on a dog's face. 0:08:53.080 --> 0:08:54.199 Wait can dog square? 0:08:54.760 --> 0:08:56.839 Well apparently yeah, I googled it. It's like, you know, 0:08:56.880 --> 0:09:00.640 a cat spray, Like it's like that, right, And it 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.120 smelled just like squirt, which does not smell like piss, 0:09:03.160 --> 0:09:08.040 by the way, because as I always say, nobody has 0:09:08.040 --> 0:09:11.959 a baroka and then squirts and squirts baraka. But that's 0:09:11.960 --> 0:09:13.560 what I say to all the people that say squire's 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:21.640 piss scientists, all the scientists and the doctor's other let 0:09:21.640 --> 0:09:22.719 me tell you that do the. 0:09:22.720 --> 0:09:26.480 Baroc Wait, so it was a sexual Squirre was like. 0:09:27.920 --> 0:09:29.880 So she was on heat and she was really horny, 0:09:29.960 --> 0:09:32.520 and she met this dog and they were playing, and 0:09:32.520 --> 0:09:35.520 then she got really aroused and then she mounted the 0:09:35.520 --> 0:09:38.600 dog's head, is like humping the dog's face, and then 0:09:39.000 --> 0:09:41.760 sprayed all this liquid. It was like our pub right, wow, 0:09:42.240 --> 0:09:44.040 sprayles liquid. So I picked her up and then she's 0:09:44.080 --> 0:09:46.920 like humping the an sprayed this liquid all over the 0:09:46.960 --> 0:09:50.760 guy opposite me. Oh, it was so embarrassing, like one 0:09:50.760 --> 0:09:52.599 of the most embarrassing things that's ever happened to me. 0:09:52.640 --> 0:09:54.040 I was so angry at her. The rest of the 0:09:54.120 --> 0:09:58.840 day was I know I felt about she after her 0:09:58.880 --> 0:10:01.440 first organism, just fell sleep before I did not wake 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.240 up in this pub, did not wake up. 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:06.600 Relatable queen. I'm always there, Like, you better make sure you. 0:10:06.600 --> 0:10:08.200 Come before I do, because as soon as I do, 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:10.920 I'm in a coma. 0:10:11.360 --> 0:10:14.679 Really actually normally it's me. It takes longer. So God 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:16.559 bless everyone's soul and whole that's been with me. 0:10:16.960 --> 0:10:19.800 But like I am, I hate that thing where like 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:21.600 you've come and then you've got to make them come 0:10:21.640 --> 0:10:23.880 and you're just say like this is I didn't realize 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:25.760 this was like the Lord of the Rings trilogy directors 0:10:25.800 --> 0:10:26.840 cut No. 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:28.080 But that's the literally story of my life because I 0:10:28.120 --> 0:10:30.720 always come within the first thirty seconds of sex. Like 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:34.320 it's so fucking embarrassing, Like I come so fast, but 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:36.560 I don't mind it because I'll usually come again, like 0:10:36.760 --> 0:10:40.120 come again, I always do, but I always come quite 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:41.600 quickly and then have to be like, okay, I can 0:10:41.640 --> 0:10:43.760 munster up the energy and though I'd really like to 0:10:43.800 --> 0:10:44.760 just have a sleep. 0:10:45.040 --> 0:10:45.840 I mean I live. 0:10:46.240 --> 0:10:48.400 And that segment was for all of our listeners into 0:10:48.440 --> 0:10:50.320 beat reality. Yeah, dogs can square. 0:10:50.760 --> 0:10:51.840 Yeah. 0:10:51.880 --> 0:10:54.800 The other thing, which I guess during this process, like 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:57.160 one of the things that I've done a lot that's 0:10:57.200 --> 0:10:58.839 challenged myself is gone dates with people who are like 0:10:58.880 --> 0:11:01.720 open or like ethically not monogamous or like moneyamous or whatever. 0:11:02.360 --> 0:11:04.960 And I've obviously never really like ventured into any of that. 0:11:05.120 --> 0:11:08.200 So I because I'd been told before that he was 0:11:08.240 --> 0:11:11.520 in like an ethically non monogamous relationship, but then when 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.160 he came and I was so attracted to him, I 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:15.360 was like, oh fuck, but he's got a girlfriend. Yeah, 0:11:15.480 --> 0:11:22.920 and we spoke about her. Are you in an open relationship? 0:11:23.920 --> 0:11:26.680 It started, Yeah, we discussed it. 0:11:27.720 --> 0:11:30.079 We both were on the same page of what we 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:33.040 were looking for, so it made sense. And then okay, 0:11:33.160 --> 0:11:36.240 we fell in love and then continued going on. 0:11:36.880 --> 0:11:42.040 Cool. Yeah, in a way I was really it was 0:11:42.160 --> 0:11:44.640 kind of cool, Like I did it. It wasn't I did. 0:11:44.800 --> 0:11:46.920 Like as long as like everybody involved is fine with it. 0:11:46.960 --> 0:11:48.839 I was like, this is kind of. 0:11:48.880 --> 0:11:51.520 Chill, yeah, because it shows someone has it's like an 0:11:51.559 --> 0:11:54.240 evolved state of being. Like if you can be non monogamous, 0:11:54.280 --> 0:11:57.000 it means that like you surely have good communication skills, 0:11:57.240 --> 0:12:00.800 They surely trust there. It's a very modern way of being, 0:12:00.800 --> 0:12:03.839 which is, like I think, really positive. 0:12:04.160 --> 0:12:07.480 But it's challenging as well because for me, like all 0:12:07.520 --> 0:12:10.320 of my relationships in the past have been like monogamous, 0:12:10.559 --> 0:12:13.880 and so when I'm sitting there opposite someone and I'm like, 0:12:13.920 --> 0:12:16.520 I want to fuck you so much, like the eye 0:12:16.520 --> 0:12:18.319 contact was just insane. 0:12:18.360 --> 0:12:21.600 Maybe I can hear the dripp between your legs. 0:12:21.640 --> 0:12:23.760 Well, for most of the day was actually we weren't 0:12:23.760 --> 0:12:26.120 really speaking. We were like just looking at each other 0:12:26.160 --> 0:12:27.280 and like laughing. 0:12:27.080 --> 0:12:36.080 Like, yes, say something, then. 0:12:39.760 --> 0:12:40.280 Concentrate. 0:12:42.679 --> 0:12:59.920 Okay, excuse me, what are you thinking? 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:00.400 Yes? 0:13:01.679 --> 0:13:09.040 Nothing, life. No, You're a really good one to end 0:13:09.120 --> 0:13:14.480 with that, because you're like I would, I would see 0:13:14.520 --> 0:13:14.920 you again. 0:13:16.559 --> 0:13:17.439 I'll see you again. 0:13:18.400 --> 0:13:21.240 Of course you're only human. 0:13:22.640 --> 0:13:28.160 Those long pauses of sexual tension. What you're thinking twenty 0:13:28.200 --> 0:13:31.760 second pause, not much you think about. 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:37.320 Yeah, So what happened? Yeah, was then so we took 0:13:37.400 --> 0:13:41.160 up mics off, and then we like went into the 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:44.160 bit outside and then we started getting with each other. 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:48.079 But then we both you see, such good kiss, unbelievably 0:13:48.080 --> 0:13:50.000 good kiss. But he also says I'm an amazing kisser, 0:13:50.000 --> 0:13:50.680 which is so nice. 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:55.000 I love that I'm a great kiss I really myself. 0:13:57.040 --> 0:13:59.400 Oh my god, be in prison. 0:13:59.640 --> 0:13:59.880 Maybe. 0:14:01.760 --> 0:14:04.560 How can you be bad at kissing? You've never listened. 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:06.959 You've never listened, that's literally it is. And you also 0:14:06.960 --> 0:14:10.000 have no instinct because kissing is all about instinct. Is 0:14:10.040 --> 0:14:11.880 that you just like received you know what I mean, 0:14:12.200 --> 0:14:14.679 You're just like it's two people anyway, So we were 0:14:14.679 --> 0:14:17.959 like kissing. It was so fucking hot, and then we 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:21.840 both had plans somewhere to go and then but I 0:14:21.880 --> 0:14:24.680 got his number and then he left and then I 0:14:24.720 --> 0:14:26.400 was like a bit drunk. We had like three drinks. 0:14:26.560 --> 0:14:28.960 So I texted him like, you're really fair, I want 0:14:28.960 --> 0:14:29.480 to see you again. 0:14:29.640 --> 0:14:30.360 He was like it was. 0:14:30.360 --> 0:14:34.120 Actually the most you've actually said that entire day. 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:37.800 And then he was like you're already, Like when can 0:14:37.840 --> 0:14:39.280 I see you? And I was like, well, what are 0:14:39.280 --> 0:14:42.280 you doing later tonight? Like I had a dinner and 0:14:41.320 --> 0:14:45.480 then he came around and yeah, and then we had 0:14:45.520 --> 0:14:52.200 amazing sex. Oh I shagged the last date we shagged. 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:53.920 We got with each other like there and then. 0:14:54.480 --> 0:14:56.720 But sometimes that's nice though, sometimes has to step into 0:14:56.760 --> 0:14:59.280 a date and be there like oh we're sucking. 0:14:59.480 --> 0:15:01.640 But it's it's a challenging process because then you're like 0:15:01.680 --> 0:15:05.320 you're in a relationship, but it's also fine. But as 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:08.800 it's like happened since, it's actually been so nice for 0:15:08.880 --> 0:15:13.960 me because I really like hanging out with someone knowing 0:15:14.000 --> 0:15:15.960 that there's never going to be any pressure of like 0:15:16.000 --> 0:15:16.480 what is this. 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:18.120 Ye yeah, because I was like dating doesn't have to 0:15:18.120 --> 0:15:21.600 be defined love exactly, connection exactly. Because I had this 0:15:21.640 --> 0:15:24.040 thing like I was out recently and it's like dirty 0:15:24.040 --> 0:15:26.360 little gay bar, like so grubby, and there was this 0:15:26.400 --> 0:15:28.400 guy like looking at me, like giving me the eye, 0:15:28.480 --> 0:15:30.120 but he was with another man, And for some reason 0:15:30.120 --> 0:15:32.280 in my head, when I see that, I narrate being 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:34.320 like always with someone, I don't think, oh, in the 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:35.800 queer world, it could be like maybe a three, so 0:15:35.880 --> 0:15:37.440 maybe they're open. Maybe it's not with them, Like I 0:15:37.480 --> 0:15:39.560 shut it down because I narrate the fact that like, oh, 0:15:39.600 --> 0:15:41.600 it's not a possibility. But then this guy like kept 0:15:41.640 --> 0:15:42.960 looking at me, and at one point he came over 0:15:43.360 --> 0:15:44.520 and we got each other, and I was like, oh, 0:15:44.480 --> 0:15:46.440 it's funny how I like shut these things down by 0:15:46.440 --> 0:15:49.000 being like, oh, this would never work. The guy did 0:15:49.000 --> 0:15:50.640 also message me being there like I might have gone 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:51.520 to throw it's. 0:15:51.360 --> 0:15:51.880 Hand stecked out. 0:15:51.920 --> 0:15:54.520 Oh thank god, because you know life is good, live, left, 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:56.960 love love. The worst part I having gone Reea is 0:15:57.000 --> 0:15:58.840 learning how to spell gonnery when textperies to. 0:15:58.800 --> 0:16:02.480 Say possible, it's arif you have to google it every 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:05.480 time and is right, gone girl, gone gone, I'm gone. 0:16:05.600 --> 0:16:07.960 I've got gone, get yourself checked. Gone girl. 0:16:09.880 --> 0:16:12.400 But but no, it's nice to step into something and 0:16:12.560 --> 0:16:14.280 know it is what it is and you. 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:16.360 Know what it is. I think that's what's been really 0:16:16.440 --> 0:16:19.000 nice because I feel like my issue in the past 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:22.760 has always been like either things accelerate way too fast 0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:25.520 and I encourage that and often I'm the source of that, 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:29.000 or I get really really freaked out because I'm like, 0:16:29.000 --> 0:16:30.880 oh my god, I feel like so much pressure of 0:16:30.920 --> 0:16:32.760 like are we gonna is this gonna like accelerate and 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:35.200 suddenly we're gonna be together? Or like am I going 0:16:35.240 --> 0:16:37.320 to like put them off? But there's zero pressure on 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:41.000 the situation. And he's very like open and honest about 0:16:41.040 --> 0:16:44.560 like his relationship and it sort of seems like all fine, 0:16:45.040 --> 0:16:46.680 but we like get on and like have a good 0:16:46.720 --> 0:16:48.920 time together. And it's really nice because when he leaves, 0:16:49.040 --> 0:16:50.960 I'm not like thinking, oh, when I next and speak 0:16:50.960 --> 0:16:52.360 to him when I'm next going to see him, because 0:16:52.400 --> 0:16:54.680 I know that's not what the situation is. 0:16:54.880 --> 0:16:56.280 Maybe you've found the thing that is in your life 0:16:56.320 --> 0:16:56.760 right now. 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.320 It's teaching me something. At the moment, I can't quite 0:16:59.320 --> 0:17:01.720 like articulate what it is, but I feel like it's 0:17:01.760 --> 0:17:02.720 meant to have happened. 0:17:03.560 --> 0:17:07.040 Wow, spiritual, so spiritual. I was supposed to be dicked 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.400 down by this guy in an open relationship. Thank you, Universe, 0:17:09.680 --> 0:17:10.040 Thank you. 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:13.360 I manifested after twenty seven dates. 0:17:14.520 --> 0:17:17.560 Twenty seven dates. I don't think I've been on twenty 0:17:17.560 --> 0:17:18.879 seven dates my entire life. 0:17:19.160 --> 0:17:21.320 It was a really nice way to end because you know, 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:23.520 like I've already said, it's a nice thing for me 0:17:23.760 --> 0:17:26.320 because at the moment, I don't know really what is 0:17:26.359 --> 0:17:30.080 I'm looking for in general, Like I feel super confused 0:17:30.160 --> 0:17:32.639 about whether or not I want to commit to someone 0:17:32.680 --> 0:17:34.840 again just yet. I still feel like I have more 0:17:34.880 --> 0:17:36.800 work to do on myself. But I feel like this 0:17:36.880 --> 0:17:40.680 is a really good sign because I'm challenging myself by 0:17:41.160 --> 0:17:44.399 going on dates and like shagging someone who's like in 0:17:44.440 --> 0:17:47.280 an ethically non monogous relationship. That's a challenge, but I'm 0:17:47.320 --> 0:17:49.480 actually like really enjoying it and I'm not finding it 0:17:49.600 --> 0:17:52.639 difficult in anyway, and it's making me think about maybe 0:17:52.680 --> 0:17:54.000 me being able to do that one. 0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:55.920 Yeah, I think that was interesting as well. I'd go 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:58.359 on dates to different types of people to expand that 0:17:58.440 --> 0:18:00.639 scope as well, to be like, oh, really normally go 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:02.840 for this person, but let me see, because sometimes I 0:18:02.880 --> 0:18:05.680 think dating is like you bringing your life and someone 0:18:05.680 --> 0:18:08.520 brings someone out's life experience together. And if you're constantly 0:18:08.520 --> 0:18:10.359 going with someone who's like quite similar to you or 0:18:10.359 --> 0:18:12.520 like the same sort of jobs or whatever, like they're 0:18:12.560 --> 0:18:15.439 not bringing a whole fresh experience to your life. And 0:18:15.480 --> 0:18:17.760 I think that sometimes there's the beauty of dating and 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:20.240 connecting with people as you've been like I've never experienced that, 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:21.800 or like I didn't know that was a thing, or 0:18:21.840 --> 0:18:23.879 it's oh it's gorgeous, actual passion or do. 0:18:24.000 --> 0:18:26.040 I mean like yeah, it opens your mind up and 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:29.639 very like it's enriching. It is enriching. And I always 0:18:29.640 --> 0:18:32.280 think like every experience you have, like every day everyone 0:18:32.400 --> 0:18:35.680 likes sound whatever, you always get something from it, whether 0:18:35.720 --> 0:18:38.200 it's a story or like whether they play a song 0:18:38.280 --> 0:18:39.719 and you're like, well that, what's that song? And then 0:18:39.720 --> 0:18:41.320 you're like, oh, I've got a really good song out 0:18:41.440 --> 0:18:43.760 like meeting this person, Like I always get something like 0:18:43.800 --> 0:18:45.320 whenever I have a one night sound, I always get 0:18:45.320 --> 0:18:47.840 like one kind of like thing that I'll like have forever, 0:18:47.920 --> 0:18:49.919 like from my experience, and it doesn't have to be 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:50.679 like the love. 0:18:50.560 --> 0:18:51.119 Of my life. 0:18:53.640 --> 0:18:56.199 So I know it's been trials and tribulations, ups and 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:59.320 downs and like quite intense at points to date so 0:18:59.359 --> 0:19:01.720 many people, but like, have you enjoyed it? 0:19:01.960 --> 0:19:05.320 Well, firstly, thank you for helping me, you know, make 0:19:05.400 --> 0:19:07.879