1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:17,360 Speaker 1: podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to Reasonably Shady. 3 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:20,480 Speaker 1: I am Gazelle Bryant. What's what's the This is Robert 4 00:00:20,560 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 1: Dixon in the building, don't you like? Okay? Yes, let's 5 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:29,800 Speaker 1: put something Dad Robin Dixon in here. What I do 6 00:00:29,920 --> 00:00:32,360 Speaker 1: is deserve all that. I don't know. I don't know. 7 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:34,440 Speaker 1: I'm just feeling like, you know, we're gonna gash your 8 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:39,240 Speaker 1: name of Robert. Okay, So Taylor put some bub blurs 9 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:43,159 Speaker 1: in there. Yes, thank you, thank you? So okay. 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So 18 00:01:11,240 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: if you don't have your tickets, I kind of want 19 00:01:13,000 --> 00:01:14,759 Speaker 1: to say, you're a loser, so please get your takes. 20 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:17,680 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you're not as a loser, okay, So 21 00:01:17,720 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 1: you're not a loser, but we need to see your faces. 22 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:23,160 Speaker 1: We need to like be able to hug and kiss me. Yes, 23 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:26,240 Speaker 1: and and the lineup is amazing, yes, okay, how can 24 00:01:26,240 --> 00:01:27,679 Speaker 1: they get their tickets? Do we have that? So the 25 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: tickets are on sale at black effect dot com. Slash 26 00:01:32,880 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: pod Fest. Okay, I love that the lineup eighty five 27 00:01:36,160 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: South show horrible decisions, reasonably, shady, big facts, black tech, green, money, 28 00:01:40,560 --> 00:01:43,600 Speaker 1: checking in the Trap Nerds, we Talk Back. These are 29 00:01:43,720 --> 00:01:52,360 Speaker 1: amazing successful podcasts that are funny, educational, informative, inspirational, shady, 30 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: raunchy all that like this is like, this is so 31 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: fun and exciting, right, Okay, can I say I think 32 00:01:58,280 --> 00:02:02,160 Speaker 1: I don't want us to come up after horrible decisions? 33 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:05,480 Speaker 1: Who are our girls? By the way, like, because because 34 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:08,320 Speaker 1: it is going to be people putting fists in their 35 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:16,480 Speaker 1: vaginas and we can't compete with fists in the vagina. Well, 36 00:02:16,560 --> 00:02:19,040 Speaker 1: well we gotta come up with something, y'all. What are 37 00:02:19,040 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: we gonna do? Oh my gosh. Anyway, Okay, so shady 38 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:30,880 Speaker 1: Moment of the week. I've been saying a couple of 39 00:02:30,880 --> 00:02:34,240 Speaker 1: times here that I've been outside. I've been outside outside 40 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: and I've been doing my thing and running around, and 41 00:02:38,760 --> 00:02:41,400 Speaker 1: pre COVID, we acted because we didn't know COVID existed, 42 00:02:41,480 --> 00:02:43,799 Speaker 1: so we just out here breathing on each other. Okay, 43 00:02:44,160 --> 00:02:48,280 Speaker 1: so post COVID we know better. But in me being outside, 44 00:02:49,320 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: I've realized that. And I don't want to put this 45 00:02:51,919 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: on a race. But if anybody is guilty, it's white people. Okay. 46 00:02:56,040 --> 00:03:02,120 Speaker 1: So they are coughing and sneezing and breathing in people's faces. 47 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:06,080 Speaker 1: Is if COVID has never happened, As if COVID never happened, 48 00:03:06,480 --> 00:03:09,840 Speaker 1: and it did, damn it. So like still like grocery stores, 49 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: because y'all are real tricky in the grocery stores, y'all 50 00:03:12,400 --> 00:03:14,080 Speaker 1: get them on you. You're looking at I'm looking at 51 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:16,440 Speaker 1: my oatmeal and I'm trying to find my variety pack, 52 00:03:16,440 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: and y'all come up on me and like I asked 53 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:21,000 Speaker 1: me a question in my face and it cough like no, 54 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:24,080 Speaker 1: I'm wearing my mask. Okay. The airplanes, Oh my gosh. 55 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:25,799 Speaker 1: When I last time I was stuck on an airplane, 56 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:28,800 Speaker 1: there was a dude who I guess want to stretch 57 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:30,959 Speaker 1: his legs. He walking up and down the aisle, sneeze 58 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:34,400 Speaker 1: in the coffin oh my gosh, sir, sir, like what's yours? 59 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:37,000 Speaker 1: I feel like even like now, it's like if I 60 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:39,520 Speaker 1: cough or sneeze, like I feel like, oh my gosh, 61 00:03:39,600 --> 00:03:41,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Like people are looking at me, you know, 62 00:03:42,040 --> 00:03:44,040 Speaker 1: and so it's like if you have a cold, you 63 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:46,200 Speaker 1: know it's not COVID, like still wear your mask because 64 00:03:46,560 --> 00:03:49,080 Speaker 1: people around you were looking at you sideways. And I 65 00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:50,880 Speaker 1: don't want whatever you have. It might you might not 66 00:03:50,920 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: have COVID, but whatever you have, I don't want. I 67 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:54,880 Speaker 1: don't want it. And that was kind of the cool 68 00:03:54,920 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: thing about the mask, like we didn't get all that 69 00:03:56,680 --> 00:03:59,760 Speaker 1: other stuff. So yes, the e b G. Yeah, I 70 00:03:59,760 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: think some people just like COVID is a distant memory 71 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:06,720 Speaker 1: for them, and so they're just back to the nasty ways, 72 00:04:06,760 --> 00:04:09,920 Speaker 1: so shady people who are just coughing and sneezing up 73 00:04:09,920 --> 00:04:12,680 Speaker 1: in my face. Stop it, yes, please stop it. I'm 74 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:17,000 Speaker 1: not the girl for that, all right, what you got? 75 00:04:17,279 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: So okay? I this is like I feel like my 76 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:24,599 Speaker 1: reason stating moments is just me complaining my air conditioning units. 77 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: How may do you have? I have to so I 78 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:32,920 Speaker 1: have one that is just for upstairs the bedrooms and stuff. 79 00:04:33,160 --> 00:04:34,799 Speaker 1: And then I have one that does the main floor 80 00:04:34,839 --> 00:04:40,680 Speaker 1: in the basement. So for whatever reason, the like the 81 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: return like so when they install, like the duct work, 82 00:04:44,200 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: the ductwork, the air conditioning unit and stuff um, so 83 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: for whatever reason like the big return um where the 84 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 1: air I guess goes back in. I don't know, I 85 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:56,400 Speaker 1: don't know the technic terminology and all that stuff. It's 86 00:04:56,440 --> 00:04:59,479 Speaker 1: in my bedroom and I'm so sick of it because 87 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: I should have so loud, like at night when it 88 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:06,520 Speaker 1: stops when it runs, so when my air conditioning is running, 89 00:05:06,560 --> 00:05:10,520 Speaker 1: it's just like, you know, it's just like what is it? 90 00:05:14,320 --> 00:05:18,479 Speaker 1: You know, it's just like so loud, so annoying, and 91 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:21,120 Speaker 1: start like once you know, once the room gets to 92 00:05:21,160 --> 00:05:23,200 Speaker 1: the temperature that you said on the thermostat, it's fine, 93 00:05:23,200 --> 00:05:27,599 Speaker 1: it's nice and quiet. And then okay, okay, okay, okay, 94 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: but you're not used to it. You should be used, 95 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:34,040 Speaker 1: like I'm just sick of it, like I can't it anymore, 96 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:39,960 Speaker 1: Like it's droving me when he's when he's sick of yes, yes, 97 00:05:40,279 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: I'm sick of it, like I'm like I want to 98 00:05:43,360 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: just scream and explode and run away. And then on 99 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: top of that, okay, Juan Dixon. Oh not one. Antonio 100 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 1: turns our ceiling fan in the bedroom all the way up, 101 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:03,279 Speaker 1: like to the fastest. I just setting so at the 102 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:07,080 Speaker 1: same time, all my air condition is going, the ceiling 103 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:15,680 Speaker 1: fan is going. I can't. I'm leaving. This episode is over. 104 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:25,279 Speaker 1: I can't. What the world. I'm like, stop, please stop. 105 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: That's a lot. I'm sick of it, like I can't. 106 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:31,359 Speaker 1: I just I don't know what to do. Well, um, 107 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:34,279 Speaker 1: I okay, do you need the fan. I'm feeling like 108 00:06:34,320 --> 00:06:37,640 Speaker 1: we don't need the fan all the way up like 109 00:06:37,760 --> 00:06:41,000 Speaker 1: the So there's like six levels. It's what kind of 110 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: it's a nice fan and I mean it's and it's 111 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:45,880 Speaker 1: and it's good, like it's an actually really nice fans, 112 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:49,000 Speaker 1: but still on level six. This sounds like, you know, 113 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: restaurant quality fans. It's it's nice, it's like it's it's working, 114 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:55,320 Speaker 1: and it's very for that for it to be level six. 115 00:06:55,400 --> 00:06:58,000 Speaker 1: It's actually pretty quiet, but still like when you're in 116 00:06:58,080 --> 00:07:04,240 Speaker 1: the bed and it's on level six, just oh my god, 117 00:07:04,480 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: and Wine is probably sound asleep, yes, knocked out, and 118 00:07:07,960 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, can you just turn on three? I can 119 00:07:09,920 --> 00:07:11,960 Speaker 1: live with three. I can do it. Level three, and 120 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: that's a compromise, maybe even a four. But why does 121 00:07:15,080 --> 00:07:16,480 Speaker 1: it have to be on six? So I'm just I 122 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: don't I don't think I'm like sleeping at all this 123 00:07:18,960 --> 00:07:21,800 Speaker 1: summer because I'm just oh wow, no sleep. No sleep 124 00:07:21,840 --> 00:07:25,560 Speaker 1: for the Dixon, no sleep for Robin Dixon. So so 125 00:07:25,800 --> 00:07:29,239 Speaker 1: Carly said, when Wine falls asleep, turn that ship down. 126 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:32,440 Speaker 1: I know I could do that. I don't feel like 127 00:07:32,480 --> 00:07:35,920 Speaker 1: reaching over him. See that's remote. Yes, so the remote 128 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,440 Speaker 1: is on his side of the bed, on his nice stand. 129 00:07:38,480 --> 00:07:40,080 Speaker 1: Put it on your side before you all go, before 130 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:41,720 Speaker 1: you go to bed. But he's gonna be like, give 131 00:07:41,760 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 1: me the remote. Yeah you say, sweetie, I'm gonna do 132 00:07:45,880 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 1: that for you. Yeah, maybe I should just turn it 133 00:07:47,720 --> 00:07:49,440 Speaker 1: on six, let him go to sleep in the turn 134 00:07:49,440 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: it down. Okay, speaking of being submissive to your man, 135 00:07:52,120 --> 00:07:55,280 Speaker 1: we never discussed this. That's stupid. Okay, wait a minute, 136 00:07:55,320 --> 00:07:57,400 Speaker 1: let me get my thoughts. Yeah that before I just 137 00:07:57,440 --> 00:08:01,800 Speaker 1: go crazy. Okay. The young lady who talked about her 138 00:08:01,840 --> 00:08:05,080 Speaker 1: relationship with Cam Newton. Yes, okay, so when I if 139 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:09,200 Speaker 1: this happened, alcoholgo those weeks ago. Yes, for those of 140 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:10,800 Speaker 1: you all who don't know what we're talking about. So 141 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: there was a young lady who was talking about her 142 00:08:13,600 --> 00:08:17,360 Speaker 1: relationship and her submissive relationship. So she's actually like a comedian. 143 00:08:18,320 --> 00:08:22,200 Speaker 1: She wasn't funny that day. Yeah, so she's I mean, 144 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:25,640 Speaker 1: all right, well, okay, she's a comedian. Okay, she's a comedian. 145 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:27,360 Speaker 1: So was she trying to be funny when she was 146 00:08:27,360 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: talking about No, she was not being funny. Okay, so 147 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: she said, she said, you know it does me. I'm 148 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:36,520 Speaker 1: just so pleasured when I rubbed my man's head and 149 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:39,960 Speaker 1: then I'm soothing him to sleep, and then I can 150 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: hear his his breathing change, and I know I have 151 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:48,040 Speaker 1: put him to sleep. She's she's the one that said 152 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,520 Speaker 1: I thought someone else said that. She's the one time 153 00:08:50,559 --> 00:08:53,640 Speaker 1: about like cooking for like packing his bag. She oh, 154 00:08:53,720 --> 00:08:55,400 Speaker 1: and he's on the road. I pack all of his 155 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: bags and his belonging in his tidy whitey's and I 156 00:08:58,040 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 1: put them in a su kids. Girl, get a job, 157 00:09:00,360 --> 00:09:03,520 Speaker 1: get a job, get a something. So but you know 158 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:08,319 Speaker 1: what's funny, there's like clips of her before that pretty 159 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,720 Speaker 1: much clowning on women that are submissive towards their man. Okay, 160 00:09:11,720 --> 00:09:15,439 Speaker 1: but don't get me wrong, make your man happy. I'm 161 00:09:15,520 --> 00:09:20,000 Speaker 1: for that, but there's limits here, like because I get 162 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:21,800 Speaker 1: in bad, I'm tired. It is. And remember we talked 163 00:09:21,800 --> 00:09:25,080 Speaker 1: about Cam Newton and his comments about, you know, wanting 164 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: his woman to pretty much just cater to him and 165 00:09:29,200 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: not have a life and not do anything. And so 166 00:09:30,960 --> 00:09:33,560 Speaker 1: it's just funny that like he was talking about her, 167 00:09:33,559 --> 00:09:35,760 Speaker 1: I guess, well he's talk No, he's talking about any 168 00:09:35,760 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 1: woman that's in a relationship with him. That's what he wants. 169 00:09:38,960 --> 00:09:41,840 Speaker 1: So she clearly, in order to be in this relationship 170 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:44,680 Speaker 1: with Cam Newton, she had to change. She had to 171 00:09:44,720 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 1: do that for him. And my whole thing back then 172 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,560 Speaker 1: was like, you know, Cam Newton is a highly paid, 173 00:09:53,000 --> 00:09:57,520 Speaker 1: spoiled athlete, and like that's what he that's what he's 174 00:09:57,600 --> 00:10:02,760 Speaker 1: used to because that's what unfortunately, like women think they 175 00:10:02,800 --> 00:10:05,040 Speaker 1: have to do to get a man like that and 176 00:10:05,040 --> 00:10:08,199 Speaker 1: to keep a man like like well, well hand has 177 00:10:08,240 --> 00:10:10,320 Speaker 1: been allowed to do. Yes, well him in particular, because 178 00:10:10,320 --> 00:10:12,520 Speaker 1: he said this is what I want and I'm not. 179 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:15,240 Speaker 1: But I will say most athletes are used to people 180 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:18,760 Speaker 1: catering to them, whether it's their woman, their mama, their daddy, 181 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:23,800 Speaker 1: their coach, their trainer, their their homeboys, there du boys, 182 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:28,079 Speaker 1: their cousins. Everybody caters to them, everybody, so they're used 183 00:10:28,120 --> 00:10:31,520 Speaker 1: to people catering to them to the point where like, 184 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:34,080 Speaker 1: I don't know, they just think it's okay, But I 185 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,240 Speaker 1: just think we need to dig up the clip. Like 186 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 1: people were calling her out like girl girls sigh because 187 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:43,559 Speaker 1: you just, you know, years ago posted something clowning women 188 00:10:43,600 --> 00:10:46,680 Speaker 1: who were doing this for their man. And I feel like, yes, 189 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:48,960 Speaker 1: there's limits here everybody. If you want to please your man, 190 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:51,880 Speaker 1: of course, dude, do you know, make a man happy, Robin, 191 00:10:52,320 --> 00:10:55,920 Speaker 1: make wine happy? You you control the fan, you control 192 00:10:56,000 --> 00:11:01,360 Speaker 1: the remote, Okay, but like it should never be. It 193 00:11:01,400 --> 00:11:05,440 Speaker 1: should never be. I feel like that's all your thoughts are, 194 00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:10,880 Speaker 1: That's all your life is consumed with pleasing and being 195 00:11:10,880 --> 00:11:15,319 Speaker 1: submissive to a man, right, Yeah, like she said, okay, 196 00:11:15,360 --> 00:11:18,079 Speaker 1: everything packing his bag, unpacking his bag. I pretty much 197 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:20,319 Speaker 1: read his mind. So it's like, if I know you 198 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:22,360 Speaker 1: and I study you before, you can never ask me 199 00:11:22,400 --> 00:11:24,880 Speaker 1: for something. I'm already on it. He's spoiled, rotten, but 200 00:11:24,920 --> 00:11:27,600 Speaker 1: I love that. I think my biggest flex is how 201 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:31,040 Speaker 1: I treat my man. I don't I don't want to read. Come, 202 00:11:31,360 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 1: let's pull up the one where she was saying completely 203 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 1: opposite things. Yeah, I don't want to read you. I 204 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:40,040 Speaker 1: feel like she feels because he's rich if he wasn't rich, Yeah, 205 00:11:40,320 --> 00:11:43,560 Speaker 1: show me not. You're treating the poor dude. Yeah that's 206 00:11:43,559 --> 00:11:45,800 Speaker 1: the thing. Like, no, you're only saying that because of 207 00:11:46,840 --> 00:11:49,959 Speaker 1: who he is and what he has, right, And it's 208 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: not gonna work out for you. He's gonna find somebody 209 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: else that's gonna rub his head too. Guess what you're gone, 210 00:11:55,040 --> 00:11:59,079 Speaker 1: right right? Who can cook whatever he wants better than you? 211 00:12:00,120 --> 00:12:02,960 Speaker 1: Oh gosh, all right, anyway, and we're gonna talk about friendships. 212 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: Oh yes, so oh no, no, before we talked about friendships. 213 00:12:06,120 --> 00:12:08,080 Speaker 1: So a couple of weeks ago, because you didn't finish 214 00:12:08,120 --> 00:12:10,360 Speaker 1: the store, I think I cut you off. We talked 215 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:15,360 Speaker 1: about your girlfriend. Who knows Kimmy and y'all were shopping, yes, yes, yes, yes, 216 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:17,720 Speaker 1: so and I was like, oh my gosh, like I 217 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 1: was like, my my job was on the floor watching 218 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:22,200 Speaker 1: her shop. So like this was one was we gonna 219 00:12:22,200 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 1: say her name? No, I'm not gonna her name. I'm 220 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 1: not gonna say her ex husband's name because their X 221 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: now who right, because she spent all his money? Okay, 222 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:36,800 Speaker 1: anyone broke, So yes, anyone broke, okay, so um so yeah, 223 00:12:36,840 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: So we went shopping in l A. One was on 224 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:42,120 Speaker 1: the Portland Trailblazers. So we were NBA wives, so yeah, 225 00:12:42,200 --> 00:12:44,680 Speaker 1: you know, we can buy what we want, right, you know. Okay, 226 00:12:45,440 --> 00:12:49,800 Speaker 1: so we go on the Jimmy cho store. She bought 227 00:12:52,120 --> 00:12:57,559 Speaker 1: dollar crocodile bag and then Jimmy Chi makes expensive bags 228 00:12:57,600 --> 00:13:00,600 Speaker 1: like that. It was it was like it was like yeah, 229 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:02,520 Speaker 1: so it was like so all right, so remember the 230 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:04,959 Speaker 1: Jimmy Choo bag. Damn what was the name of it? 231 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 1: The Ramona bag? Was that what it was? It was 232 00:13:07,960 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 1: like a big bag or whatever. So she bought the 233 00:13:10,320 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: crocodile one, right, So okay, so I have it. I 234 00:13:12,640 --> 00:13:15,880 Speaker 1: had the same bag in gold leather and I probably 235 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:19,320 Speaker 1: paid at that time two thousand dollars for right. She 236 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:22,520 Speaker 1: bought the one that's made out of crocodile, alligator, snakeskin, 237 00:13:22,960 --> 00:13:27,440 Speaker 1: whatever crocodile think. Right. So that was so we're starting 238 00:13:27,480 --> 00:13:30,960 Speaker 1: off buying a twenty five dollar back just because. And 239 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 1: then we were in there and then she bought a 240 00:13:32,360 --> 00:13:34,160 Speaker 1: couple of other Jimmy two bags in they're like probably 241 00:13:34,200 --> 00:13:36,199 Speaker 1: a couple of thousands, right, Oh, and some shoes, like 242 00:13:36,200 --> 00:13:39,000 Speaker 1: a bunch of shoes. Then we go to Barney's. It's 243 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: a Barney's. Now, what's the um barney is the Barney's 244 00:13:41,880 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 1: there sweat on Barney's. And she literally bought like four 245 00:13:47,040 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: Balenci yoga bags, so those were like, you know, thousand bags. 246 00:13:55,640 --> 00:13:58,640 Speaker 1: Then she's like, oh, my husband's birthday is coming up. 247 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:04,760 Speaker 1: Let's go to Jason the jeweler. My birthday gift. Jacob Jacob, 248 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:07,120 Speaker 1: Jacob did jeweler. Yeah no, no, no, no, no, no, no no, 249 00:14:07,320 --> 00:14:10,400 Speaker 1: it's not no Jacobs in New York. Jason. Um, yes, 250 00:14:10,480 --> 00:14:12,880 Speaker 1: it's Jason of Beverly Hill. Yes, that's his name. So 251 00:14:13,000 --> 00:14:15,360 Speaker 1: Jason and Beverly Hills. He was all the NBA guys 252 00:14:15,400 --> 00:14:17,800 Speaker 1: got their joy from him. So we go, you know 253 00:14:17,840 --> 00:14:20,720 Speaker 1: this office buildings, go up the elevator and blah blah blah. 254 00:14:20,800 --> 00:14:23,680 Speaker 1: He shows her stuff and say, okay, I'll take that. 255 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:27,160 Speaker 1: He writes a ticket up. She's buying her husband a 256 00:14:27,240 --> 00:14:32,360 Speaker 1: fifty thousand dollar birthday gift with his money. I want. 257 00:14:32,440 --> 00:14:36,840 Speaker 1: She ain't work at Robin. I was a fifty like 258 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:38,560 Speaker 1: I don't know what it. I can't remember. It was 259 00:14:38,600 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 1: a brace bit of diamond or why something for fifty 260 00:14:42,720 --> 00:14:46,280 Speaker 1: thousand dollars after you went and bought a twenty five 261 00:14:46,680 --> 00:14:51,040 Speaker 1: dollars cleared like a hundred in a day, in a day, Wow, 262 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:53,520 Speaker 1: in a day. And I was just like and then 263 00:14:53,640 --> 00:14:58,200 Speaker 1: had the nerve to complain about about the team, about 264 00:14:58,240 --> 00:15:01,600 Speaker 1: Portland's like hated you know, I hated Portland's hated like 265 00:15:01,880 --> 00:15:03,880 Speaker 1: you know, oh my god, I hated. I hated in Portland. 266 00:15:03,880 --> 00:15:05,600 Speaker 1: I want to I want to get traded blah blah 267 00:15:05,600 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 1: blah whatever. And I'm like, yo, why are you complaining? 268 00:15:08,920 --> 00:15:11,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, you could be married to a postman. I 269 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:14,080 Speaker 1: literally said that to her. I was like, I can't 270 00:15:14,080 --> 00:15:17,360 Speaker 1: believe you're complaining, like you literally like shopping it up, 271 00:15:17,400 --> 00:15:19,600 Speaker 1: living a great life. You could be you could be 272 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:22,960 Speaker 1: married to a postman, like like you're literally like almost 273 00:15:23,000 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: like biting the hand that feeds you. So so that 274 00:15:26,000 --> 00:15:29,800 Speaker 1: was that. So then um, yeah, years later he's broke, 275 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:33,160 Speaker 1: like literally like like that's not shocking, No, it's not you, 276 00:15:33,400 --> 00:15:36,000 Speaker 1: I mean, but yeah, and I was I was just like, wow, 277 00:15:36,040 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: like one trip, like I was just trying to buy 278 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 1: something like shoes, a little you know, maybe two three thousand, 279 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:49,960 Speaker 1: tell me even five. She spent a whole hundred grains 280 00:15:50,720 --> 00:15:56,440 Speaker 1: without blinking. Yeah, not even realizing your husband's contract is 281 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:59,840 Speaker 1: going to end. Yes, yes, that's what people don't think 282 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 1: in the moment, Oh my gosh, Like they can't foresee it. 283 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:04,920 Speaker 1: They can't foresee the end. They think it's like so 284 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:07,440 Speaker 1: much money. It's like, you know, it comes so fast, 285 00:16:07,480 --> 00:16:10,760 Speaker 1: it's so easy. But yeah, I was, I was a 286 00:16:10,760 --> 00:16:21,720 Speaker 1: little sick Robin's stomachs. That hurt. Okay, let's finish or 287 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:25,200 Speaker 1: ask anything questions, Carly, what you got? So yeah, so 288 00:16:25,240 --> 00:16:27,640 Speaker 1: we still have some ask us anything questions And then 289 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:32,000 Speaker 1: we wanted to We talked about friendship a few episodes ago, 290 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 1: and we said, you know, send us some friendship questions 291 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: tackle today. Do you guys buy each other gifts often? Okay, 292 00:16:40,680 --> 00:16:43,040 Speaker 1: I can speak to that. I can't remember the last 293 00:16:43,040 --> 00:16:47,080 Speaker 1: time I bought you something, however, Robin, because she has 294 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:50,920 Speaker 1: told the world that she's an Internet shopper, and then 295 00:16:51,000 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 1: sometimes things don't fit, and then she misses the window 296 00:16:54,920 --> 00:16:57,720 Speaker 1: to send it back, and so she gives them to me. 297 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:59,760 Speaker 1: She gives the clothes to me. So Robin's giving me 298 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:03,040 Speaker 1: set things lately, and it's all because she's just forgetful 299 00:17:03,080 --> 00:17:06,159 Speaker 1: and doesn't remember to send it back. Yes, yes, and 300 00:17:06,200 --> 00:17:08,680 Speaker 1: I've been very grateful my hand me down, not even 301 00:17:08,760 --> 00:17:11,080 Speaker 1: hand me down, their new clothes hand me downs. Yeah, 302 00:17:11,119 --> 00:17:14,200 Speaker 1: they're brand new tags and everything like yeah, and I'm like, yeah, 303 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:17,000 Speaker 1: she'll leave me like a little box like where I 304 00:17:17,040 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 1: sit for for reasonably shady. It's like they're me, it's 305 00:17:20,240 --> 00:17:22,280 Speaker 1: my name on it and everything. Yeah. But no, but 306 00:17:22,440 --> 00:17:25,200 Speaker 1: we do, like like sometimes you'll bring you know, little 307 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:27,479 Speaker 1: gifts or something like you know this, like little things. 308 00:17:27,520 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 1: So yeah, I think we definitely are like thoughtful when 309 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:35,359 Speaker 1: it comes to each other. Um and yeah, so I 310 00:17:35,359 --> 00:17:38,719 Speaker 1: want to say we do. Yes, we do. Yeah. Like 311 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:40,720 Speaker 1: if I see something and it's matter fact, I'm going 312 00:17:40,720 --> 00:17:42,160 Speaker 1: out of town, I know I'm gonna say a million 313 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:46,439 Speaker 1: things because Robin's a delta, and the delta. Remember you 314 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:52,320 Speaker 1: gave me that necklace, the elephant pajamas that to me, 315 00:17:52,880 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 1: You gave me pajamas. You gave me the necklace from 316 00:17:57,840 --> 00:18:01,040 Speaker 1: Eva's line, the green Yes, yeah, you gave me that. 317 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:04,840 Speaker 1: So if I see something elephanty and it's cute, then 318 00:18:04,960 --> 00:18:07,760 Speaker 1: I always think of Robin. I get it for great. 319 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:11,359 Speaker 1: Have you guys ever considered having a talk show. We 320 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 1: have a podcast, Carly, we're talking about. Yes, the beauty 321 00:18:15,560 --> 00:18:19,080 Speaker 1: of this podcast is no one tells us stop talking. 322 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:21,280 Speaker 1: Well I know, but no. But to be honest, we have, 323 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:27,320 Speaker 1: UM we've thought about how can we get reasonably shady 324 00:18:27,680 --> 00:18:30,919 Speaker 1: on television? And we are we are actually working on 325 00:18:31,160 --> 00:18:34,280 Speaker 1: trying to make that happen. So that's my next question. 326 00:18:34,280 --> 00:18:38,320 Speaker 1: What other business ventures are you guys working on? Oh? Wow, yes, 327 00:18:38,440 --> 00:18:43,040 Speaker 1: so yeah, well there's that so reasonably shed on TV. Um, 328 00:18:43,119 --> 00:18:46,560 Speaker 1: we have our live show which we're working on. Um. 329 00:18:46,560 --> 00:18:48,720 Speaker 1: Oh and and yeah we're a production company. I forgot 330 00:18:48,760 --> 00:18:51,960 Speaker 1: about that. Yeah. Yeah, we have other television productions I 331 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 1: mean television projects, yes, that we are working on producing 332 00:18:57,200 --> 00:19:00,240 Speaker 1: and trying to, um, you know, pitch to net works 333 00:19:00,240 --> 00:19:04,399 Speaker 1: and stuff. So hopefully, like honestly, y'all, you know, cross 334 00:19:04,440 --> 00:19:07,320 Speaker 1: your fingers for us and you'll see like really big 335 00:19:07,359 --> 00:19:12,960 Speaker 1: things from reasonably shady productions. Um. What else? Any other business? 336 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:18,119 Speaker 1: I feel like that's enough. I mean I'm just saying, okay, 337 00:19:18,240 --> 00:19:21,679 Speaker 1: just how we getting diet? Okay? What else? Have you 338 00:19:21,720 --> 00:19:26,040 Speaker 1: all ever planned a trip just for the two of you? No? 339 00:19:26,640 --> 00:19:31,520 Speaker 1: Have we? No? Um? Okay, so we do based off 340 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:34,360 Speaker 1: I mean because of work, we do travel. If we're 341 00:19:34,359 --> 00:19:36,960 Speaker 1: in the same city, we hang out like, so we've 342 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 1: never just said, hey, girl, let's let's take a trip. 343 00:19:40,320 --> 00:19:42,240 Speaker 1: Like usually it's work related or look like you know, 344 00:19:42,280 --> 00:19:46,960 Speaker 1: like your birthday or like yes. Um. However, I have 345 00:19:47,040 --> 00:19:51,080 Speaker 1: said multiple times I think we should film, um, you know, 346 00:19:51,119 --> 00:19:55,840 Speaker 1: a little spinoff of like me and my family, Giselle 347 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:58,840 Speaker 1: and her family doing like a road trip, like getting 348 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,720 Speaker 1: to r V and doing a road trip and doing 349 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:04,880 Speaker 1: all whatever outdoory, camping stuff whatever. So I've always wanted 350 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:06,159 Speaker 1: to do that, But now that our kids are like 351 00:20:06,160 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: getting older and older, I'm like, damn, we're like missing 352 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 1: like the magic moments the kids. No, mine are still 353 00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,240 Speaker 1: very entertaining. Well yeah, I mean in the mind too, 354 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:16,120 Speaker 1: but so so like I would love, like, I think 355 00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:17,800 Speaker 1: that would be fun. But I think it would be 356 00:20:17,800 --> 00:20:21,800 Speaker 1: fun actually just to like, yeah, take a real trip 357 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:24,119 Speaker 1: with like your girls. I mean, I don't know, it 358 00:20:24,119 --> 00:20:25,359 Speaker 1: could be just the two of us, it could be 359 00:20:25,359 --> 00:20:27,960 Speaker 1: with the kids or whatever and just have fun. Yeah. 360 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 1: How do you guys feel about opposite sex friends? Are 361 00:20:30,720 --> 00:20:35,240 Speaker 1: they allowed in your relationship? And to what extent? Opposite sex? 362 00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:37,520 Speaker 1: What does that mean? A guy friend. Yeah. Yeah, Oh yeah, 363 00:20:37,560 --> 00:20:39,240 Speaker 1: I have a couple of guy friends. Yeah, I got 364 00:20:39,240 --> 00:20:40,679 Speaker 1: plenty of guy friends. And you know, let me tell 365 00:20:40,680 --> 00:20:44,960 Speaker 1: you that, you know, let's stay straight though, yes, yeah straight. 366 00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:48,239 Speaker 1: So okay, I think the question is like, do you 367 00:20:48,280 --> 00:20:51,679 Speaker 1: allow like if you're in a relationship, Um, are you 368 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:57,600 Speaker 1: okay with your boyfriend or whatever having female female friends? Oh? 369 00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:04,520 Speaker 1: Is that the question? Oh that's a whole different well, um, 370 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:08,399 Speaker 1: if if if he can tell me the extent of 371 00:21:08,400 --> 00:21:11,240 Speaker 1: the relationship, like where did you meet her? Did y'all 372 00:21:11,240 --> 00:21:14,440 Speaker 1: ever date? If y'all ever dated, she cannot be your friend. 373 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:17,080 Speaker 1: Did you kiss her? Did you finger her? Did you 374 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:18,919 Speaker 1: do anything? Did she so your penis? Like I need 375 00:21:18,960 --> 00:21:21,480 Speaker 1: to know all of that. And if all those answers 376 00:21:21,480 --> 00:21:24,399 Speaker 1: are no, cool? Right? Is she a lesbian? You know 377 00:21:24,440 --> 00:21:26,520 Speaker 1: what I mean? Like these are these are good questions, 378 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,600 Speaker 1: but just just like a girlfriend and she cute and 379 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 1: she's papa her booty? No right? So like no, but okay, 380 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:35,240 Speaker 1: so what if it's like a girl that they grew 381 00:21:35,280 --> 00:21:37,520 Speaker 1: up with, you know what I mean? Like, does wine 382 00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 1: have girlfriends? Girl? Female friends? So he um, he gets 383 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:51,200 Speaker 1: close with a few females that he works with, um, 384 00:21:51,400 --> 00:21:53,960 Speaker 1: or that or that like okay. So like for instance, 385 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,600 Speaker 1: when when he coached the kids football team, right, when 386 00:21:57,600 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: he can coach chorps football team, he close with the 387 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: team mom, right, and like to this day they're like 388 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:08,560 Speaker 1: good friends. Right. Um, when he worked at Maryland okay, 389 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,159 Speaker 1: can't wait, wait is she married? She was married at 390 00:22:11,160 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: the time, all right. And so so so Wan ends 391 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:19,080 Speaker 1: up getting close to females that are and and I'm 392 00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,560 Speaker 1: not saying this in like like he's using them but 393 00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:26,720 Speaker 1: that can help him do his job, but that that's 394 00:22:26,760 --> 00:22:30,359 Speaker 1: somehow start off helping him, you know, and then in 395 00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:32,520 Speaker 1: helping him, then it just becomes like you know, you 396 00:22:32,520 --> 00:22:35,760 Speaker 1: know how women they vent, they have their problems, and 397 00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 1: he's like a sounding board or whatever, you know, so 398 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,280 Speaker 1: he just then becomes like friendly with them, okay, which 399 00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:43,800 Speaker 1: I'm fine with all right, and you you've never felt 400 00:22:43,920 --> 00:22:48,000 Speaker 1: creepy about any of these friendships and the same thing. 401 00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,880 Speaker 1: Like it's like I can probably there's like three particular 402 00:22:51,760 --> 00:22:55,320 Speaker 1: females that are that he has become close with, but 403 00:22:55,400 --> 00:22:59,600 Speaker 1: it's it's more um related, like from work, you know 404 00:22:59,600 --> 00:23:01,080 Speaker 1: what I mean, from like work things, and then they 405 00:23:01,119 --> 00:23:02,920 Speaker 1: just kind of like become friends Okay, and to the 406 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:04,439 Speaker 1: point where and I've had to tell him, like, so 407 00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,600 Speaker 1: he'll so currently he has a female that is on 408 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,639 Speaker 1: his staff, his coaching staff, and they'll go like to 409 00:23:10,680 --> 00:23:12,879 Speaker 1: the store to buy stuff for the team or something, 410 00:23:13,040 --> 00:23:14,760 Speaker 1: or they'll be working and then they're like, oh, let's 411 00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:18,480 Speaker 1: go get something and go to Chepole Aircaba and I'm like, well, like, 412 00:23:19,359 --> 00:23:21,000 Speaker 1: I know nothing's going on, but people are going to 413 00:23:21,040 --> 00:23:23,359 Speaker 1: see y'all and think that you run in the streets 414 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:27,320 Speaker 1: with some random things. Because I actually feel like somebody 415 00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,280 Speaker 1: has said that. I can't remember where I saw it 416 00:23:30,359 --> 00:23:33,399 Speaker 1: somewhere like oh no, no, I know somebody thought it 417 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:36,240 Speaker 1: was me because she's light skinned. And they text they 418 00:23:36,320 --> 00:23:38,720 Speaker 1: like met DM me like oh I think I just 419 00:23:38,760 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: saw you went on in Chipotle And I'm like, no, 420 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,240 Speaker 1: that's his assistant whatever. You know what I'm saying. So 421 00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:44,840 Speaker 1: I'm like, you gotta be careful. He's like robbing. I 422 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,479 Speaker 1: don't care. I'm not doing nothing. I'm like I get it, 423 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:49,920 Speaker 1: but like, I mean, so what can you do? You know? Okay, 424 00:23:49,920 --> 00:23:55,080 Speaker 1: but do you have male friends um that he's okay with. 425 00:23:55,960 --> 00:24:02,560 Speaker 1: I have no one that I'm like close to, Like 426 00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: I have more like male acquaintances. I'm gonna tell you 427 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:07,919 Speaker 1: right now, Ron, it's not having it right. So okay, 428 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:09,920 Speaker 1: So I want to say, so, before I started dating, 429 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:11,280 Speaker 1: and this is like going back to high school, like 430 00:24:11,320 --> 00:24:15,120 Speaker 1: I had a lot of guy friends, right, Um, yeah, 431 00:24:15,160 --> 00:24:18,919 Speaker 1: they was trying to wage you out. It was like 432 00:24:18,960 --> 00:24:21,000 Speaker 1: she's gonna like me, wonder I had a lot of 433 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:24,159 Speaker 1: guy friends them, Oh you know what? Okay, so crazy. 434 00:24:24,440 --> 00:24:30,040 Speaker 1: So okay, So the one, you know, the one that 435 00:24:30,119 --> 00:24:32,640 Speaker 1: really was that I considered one of my close friends, 436 00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:37,240 Speaker 1: he was also once friend, Like he's no longer with us. Um, 437 00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:39,680 Speaker 1: I've had male friends, but usually they're also his friends. 438 00:24:41,040 --> 00:24:43,840 Speaker 1: Yeah that's different. And so the male friends I had 439 00:24:43,840 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 1: before we started dating, like they're just acquaintances. Now, okay, 440 00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:48,160 Speaker 1: we're gonna get you a male friend just to see 441 00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:51,480 Speaker 1: if one will how he was going to react. And 442 00:24:51,520 --> 00:24:53,840 Speaker 1: I feel like even I think about like when I 443 00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:57,680 Speaker 1: was working closely with my real estate mentor, Oh yeah, Marcel, 444 00:24:58,600 --> 00:24:59,960 Speaker 1: like one was okay with it, but he kind of 445 00:25:00,080 --> 00:25:04,040 Speaker 1: was like, yes, okay, yeah, that's just a man thing. Okay. 446 00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:06,080 Speaker 1: But if so, I have a really good male friend. 447 00:25:06,080 --> 00:25:09,840 Speaker 1: His name is Mark, and any guy that I'm close 448 00:25:09,960 --> 00:25:12,280 Speaker 1: that I get into relationship with Like I tell them 449 00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:14,159 Speaker 1: up front, like, I'm really good friends with Mark. We 450 00:25:14,359 --> 00:25:16,520 Speaker 1: never dated. He was actually, who is Mark? Why have 451 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: I never heard of Mark? Held? Mark's my friend? Where 452 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:22,239 Speaker 1: does he live? Why have I? Okay? So he used 453 00:25:22,240 --> 00:25:25,160 Speaker 1: to live in Portland's okay, and so that's why I wouldn't. 454 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:26,680 Speaker 1: I didn't seem as much. But now he moved to 455 00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 1: Atlanta and he's up here a lot. So he was 456 00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:31,159 Speaker 1: like my alpha big brother. So I'm gonna he's an 457 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:34,680 Speaker 1: alpha with to Hampton together. He's like my big brother. Okay. 458 00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,080 Speaker 1: So yeah, so it's not your friend. I've never met him. 459 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,439 Speaker 1: Oh my god. I never heard you talk about friends 460 00:25:39,440 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 1: that you don't know about. Why? Okay? So anyway, I 461 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:47,119 Speaker 1: like him and in my life because if I have 462 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:50,560 Speaker 1: troubles with a dude, I can run it off. Yeah, 463 00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 1: and Cal too. Of course we don't know that, but 464 00:25:52,160 --> 00:25:54,080 Speaker 1: you know, Cal comes from me from a different perspective. 465 00:25:54,119 --> 00:25:55,880 Speaker 1: I don't know, but Cow reminds me all the time 466 00:25:56,119 --> 00:25:59,639 Speaker 1: he's a man. He's like, I'm a man first, Okay, 467 00:25:59,680 --> 00:26:03,960 Speaker 1: whatever cau but um, yeah, and no, no guy has 468 00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,399 Speaker 1: had a problem with it. But I do say it 469 00:26:06,480 --> 00:26:08,680 Speaker 1: in advance. So that because if they were like, oh 470 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,399 Speaker 1: well I don't like dude and you got to get 471 00:26:10,480 --> 00:26:13,040 Speaker 1: rid of him, that would be a problem exactly. Yeah. Okay, 472 00:26:13,080 --> 00:26:14,720 Speaker 1: So like, how often do you talk to Mark? I 473 00:26:14,800 --> 00:26:19,160 Speaker 1: talked to Mark like every other week. Can I see 474 00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:22,840 Speaker 1: a picture? I don't have a picture of Mark. That's 475 00:26:22,840 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 1: not your friends Mark, it's my friend. I've known him 476 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:29,400 Speaker 1: for thirty years. Robbie, what's your friend? Rob? And he's 477 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,560 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm not fighting with you about my friends. 478 00:26:32,520 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 1: I've never heard you talk about this person. Well, there 479 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,840 Speaker 1: was what need? Why would I feel the need to 480 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 1: discuss him? I mean because I don't know, You've just 481 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 1: never been like oh let me oh, Mark just called, 482 00:26:45,280 --> 00:26:47,120 Speaker 1: or like, let me call you back? This is Mark? 483 00:26:47,560 --> 00:26:51,400 Speaker 1: Like what, he's not your friends? Do you have any 484 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,320 Speaker 1: other questions for us? Because I've got to justify my 485 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:57,840 Speaker 1: friendships over here. Okay, all right, so speaking of friendships, 486 00:26:57,880 --> 00:27:00,320 Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about friendships right now, all right? Oh yeah, 487 00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,400 Speaker 1: So we received a couple of good um friendship questions 488 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,399 Speaker 1: after our friendship episode, which I think I don't know, 489 00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:11,359 Speaker 1: it's like round fourth of July ish. So this one 490 00:27:11,480 --> 00:27:15,719 Speaker 1: is interesting. He's kind of kind of goes to what 491 00:27:15,720 --> 00:27:17,959 Speaker 1: we were just talking about, which is, you don't believe me? 492 00:27:18,000 --> 00:27:21,080 Speaker 1: Why would I lie? Okay, but go ahead, you're you're 493 00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,919 Speaker 1: I think I'm not embellishing. No, I'm not. I'm not. 494 00:27:24,440 --> 00:27:27,040 Speaker 1: I want to call Mark. We're gonna call Mark after 495 00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:29,800 Speaker 1: this episode. You're in a face time him. What I'm 496 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:32,440 Speaker 1: not gonna face time him? And Mark has never heard 497 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:36,240 Speaker 1: of Robin. That's a problem. Oh, Mark loves Robin. Okay, 498 00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:41,359 Speaker 1: that's a bigger problem. For the record, every man loves right. So, 499 00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,080 Speaker 1: my brother's name is Mark. It's so funny. I'm like, 500 00:27:43,400 --> 00:27:47,000 Speaker 1: is his name Mark? Everyone loves me, Everyone loves Roses. 501 00:27:47,080 --> 00:27:50,119 Speaker 1: I'm I'm a guy's girl. Everyone has a secret crush 502 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,879 Speaker 1: on Robin. Tyrone I kind of had to, like, I 503 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 1: kind of okay, okay, And I need for the people 504 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,000 Speaker 1: to know this because I'm like the cool I like. 505 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,920 Speaker 1: I'm telling you, anyone that would be um blessed to 506 00:28:01,960 --> 00:28:04,719 Speaker 1: be in a relationship with me would be very happy. Okay, okay, 507 00:28:04,800 --> 00:28:07,359 Speaker 1: because we're getting rid of one. I don't know anyway, 508 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:10,600 Speaker 1: Um So I know I talked about Tyrone like all 509 00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:12,359 Speaker 1: the time. Me and Tyrone have taken a little bit 510 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:15,280 Speaker 1: of a pause only because this summer I'm like traveling 511 00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:18,199 Speaker 1: a lot, and so I didn't really tell him we 512 00:28:18,200 --> 00:28:21,320 Speaker 1: were taking a pause. So like our last session. I 513 00:28:21,400 --> 00:28:23,600 Speaker 1: was like, all right, this is Tyrone. He was like, 514 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,679 Speaker 1: we were like scheduling because my schedule has been all 515 00:28:25,720 --> 00:28:27,679 Speaker 1: over the place, so we're kind of scheduling our next session. 516 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:29,800 Speaker 1: And I was like, nope, I'm gonna be gone. He 517 00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,040 Speaker 1: was like what. I was like, yeah, I'm gonna be 518 00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:33,679 Speaker 1: gone for like the next two months. And so he 519 00:28:33,760 --> 00:28:37,720 Speaker 1: was like what, So, um, yeah, Tyrone, we're breaking up. 520 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:39,440 Speaker 1: We're breaking up a little bit, but I'm gonna We're 521 00:28:39,440 --> 00:28:41,800 Speaker 1: gonna come back to Tyrone later. We just we just 522 00:28:41,800 --> 00:28:44,120 Speaker 1: want to break are we. I'm sure that probably happens 523 00:28:44,120 --> 00:28:46,440 Speaker 1: a lot in the summertime, like for trainers and their clients. 524 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:48,160 Speaker 1: Their clients are always traveling and stuff. We're on a 525 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:51,280 Speaker 1: drenda pause, So Tyrone is is going to be broke 526 00:28:51,360 --> 00:28:55,040 Speaker 1: this summer. Yes, well, my sister, you know, my sister 527 00:28:55,120 --> 00:29:06,800 Speaker 1: took still him. Well okay, good, okay, okay, So here 528 00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:11,160 Speaker 1: is a question. Um lady, Hello, ladies, love love love 529 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:14,360 Speaker 1: the show and you both. I started watching your franchises 530 00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:16,840 Speaker 1: because a man I was dating, watched and I fell 531 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,959 Speaker 1: in love. Um, and he says we were gay. By 532 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:21,480 Speaker 1: the way, so this is a gay mail. When she 533 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:24,880 Speaker 1: says she was dating he, he this is the woman 534 00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 1: was dating a gay man. No, no, this is a 535 00:29:26,640 --> 00:29:29,200 Speaker 1: this is a man writing the email. Oh he guy's 536 00:29:29,240 --> 00:29:31,640 Speaker 1: in a relationship with the man. Got it? Okay? Got it? 537 00:29:32,520 --> 00:29:39,239 Speaker 1: Nothing nothing scandalous, Okay, it's not the presses. Okay. So 538 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:42,560 Speaker 1: here is the situation. He and I broke up, and 539 00:29:42,600 --> 00:29:45,960 Speaker 1: the friends that I met through him are still are 540 00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,440 Speaker 1: still trying to be my friend. I am, however, skeptical 541 00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,560 Speaker 1: of being friends with them. One they are his friends 542 00:29:52,600 --> 00:29:55,880 Speaker 1: and not mine. And two he is expressed to me 543 00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:58,440 Speaker 1: when we were dating, he expressed it his friends were 544 00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:02,200 Speaker 1: still friends with his ex and it bothered him. So 545 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,520 Speaker 1: I'm trying to keep them at an arm's length because 546 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,960 Speaker 1: they are his friends and I don't want them reporting 547 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,280 Speaker 1: back to him what I'm up to. What are your 548 00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: thoughts on this? Yeah, no, I can't have can't be 549 00:30:12,160 --> 00:30:14,800 Speaker 1: friends with them? Yeah, I say, no, I say, I say, 550 00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 1: you know. Unfortunately, you gotta you know, part ways with 551 00:30:17,840 --> 00:30:21,959 Speaker 1: the friends because it's just gonna be a messy situation 552 00:30:22,200 --> 00:30:26,160 Speaker 1: and let's say let's say you are friends with them, 553 00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:30,640 Speaker 1: you move on into a new relationship, and those friends 554 00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 1: that you took from the past relationship meet your new person. 555 00:30:34,160 --> 00:30:38,040 Speaker 1: You don't want them going back to your ex reporting right, No, 556 00:30:38,360 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 1: you don't like you just want to think, like like 557 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,000 Speaker 1: when you break up with someone, like, if you want 558 00:30:43,040 --> 00:30:45,640 Speaker 1: a clean break, you want to cut all ties, you 559 00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:50,440 Speaker 1: gotta cut the friends too, especially if you know that 560 00:30:50,440 --> 00:30:52,880 Speaker 1: that from that he was already disturbed when his friends 561 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:54,800 Speaker 1: were friends with his ex before. Like, just you know, 562 00:30:55,160 --> 00:30:57,520 Speaker 1: it's unfortunate because you know, maybe you're missing out on 563 00:30:57,560 --> 00:31:00,640 Speaker 1: some good times with some good people. But um, I 564 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,800 Speaker 1: think for your sanity and to keep the peace and 565 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,160 Speaker 1: you know, stay drama free. Yeah, I'm sure that. Have 566 00:31:07,200 --> 00:31:09,760 Speaker 1: I ever done that? Like? No, because I don't like 567 00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:14,720 Speaker 1: people anyway, so just kidding. I love people. So okay, 568 00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:18,280 Speaker 1: So if you and I, um fell out, Oh no, 569 00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:22,360 Speaker 1: why would you still talk to Carly? Yeah? Carly? It 570 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:28,400 Speaker 1: works for me. She's my assistant. What excuse me? Okay, 571 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:30,720 Speaker 1: when I still talk to Carl that's different. I think 572 00:31:30,720 --> 00:31:32,960 Speaker 1: that's different cause and I have established your own relation 573 00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:36,000 Speaker 1: and we're never breaking. But I know, I know, I'm 574 00:31:36,040 --> 00:31:38,720 Speaker 1: just I'm just trying to throw out some hypotheticals, like 575 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,360 Speaker 1: you know, you're trying to like relate to it, like okay, 576 00:31:41,440 --> 00:31:45,760 Speaker 1: let me put myself in these shoes. Um, so there 577 00:31:45,800 --> 00:31:47,560 Speaker 1: I can say this. So everybody knows I have a 578 00:31:47,600 --> 00:31:49,760 Speaker 1: girlfriend name Okay, go ahead, I'm sorry, Oh you wanna 579 00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,400 Speaker 1: is this still on this topic because I can try 580 00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,320 Speaker 1: me to, ok Okay, So everybody knows I have a 581 00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:57,280 Speaker 1: friend named Eric allows she has fallen out with some 582 00:31:57,360 --> 00:32:00,120 Speaker 1: of her girlfriends. So because she fell out with them, 583 00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:02,160 Speaker 1: done with them, she was like, I'm blocking them to. 584 00:32:02,440 --> 00:32:04,240 Speaker 1: I'll be I pick up my phone. I'm blocking them to, 585 00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:08,120 Speaker 1: like you know, because I met these people through her. 586 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:10,640 Speaker 1: So if she's not fooling with them, I don't need 587 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:15,480 Speaker 1: to fool with them exactly the end. So I respect that. 588 00:32:15,560 --> 00:32:17,440 Speaker 1: I get that. So on the flip side for me, 589 00:32:17,520 --> 00:32:20,360 Speaker 1: like with one, like when when one and I got divorced, Um, 590 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:22,680 Speaker 1: we were going through our thing like you know and 591 00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:25,560 Speaker 1: go on, but his family was still my family, you 592 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,280 Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like his brother still lived in 593 00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:31,240 Speaker 1: my house and my basement, Like I still talked to 594 00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:34,560 Speaker 1: his you know, aunts and brothers and sisters and so 595 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:36,520 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it's kind of similar. So I 596 00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:40,040 Speaker 1: just feel like it's everything is situational. It's all like 597 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:42,720 Speaker 1: you know, it depends on the people, depends on the relationship, 598 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:45,080 Speaker 1: It depends on you know, how much more people are 599 00:32:45,120 --> 00:32:47,360 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. But that that was kind of 600 00:32:48,200 --> 00:32:54,200 Speaker 1: hard because you know, they all I wanted they you know, 601 00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:56,360 Speaker 1: they all loved me, and they want me to be 602 00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:57,720 Speaker 1: you know, in the picture, and they want us to 603 00:32:57,760 --> 00:33:03,280 Speaker 1: be together. And so I think had we not like reconciled, 604 00:33:03,400 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 1: it probably would have gotten kind of like ugly or 605 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:08,720 Speaker 1: you know, or uncomfortable. Yes, I think, yeah, I think 606 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:11,160 Speaker 1: the better word is uncomfortable, because there was nothing ugly 607 00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:13,880 Speaker 1: about it, right, And but while I'm still around because 608 00:33:13,880 --> 00:33:17,160 Speaker 1: of the boys, right, I mean yeah, but he had 609 00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,640 Speaker 1: kind of like he was just like away, like just 610 00:33:19,720 --> 00:33:21,120 Speaker 1: doing his own thing, you know what I'm saying, Like 611 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:25,400 Speaker 1: so like and we weren't really um you know, I 612 00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:27,040 Speaker 1: don't know there was a time when we weren't really 613 00:33:27,080 --> 00:33:30,160 Speaker 1: close or whatever. Um, but I was still close to 614 00:33:30,240 --> 00:33:34,000 Speaker 1: this family, and it was I like that because but 615 00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:35,640 Speaker 1: I mean, you don't want have been together for so long, 616 00:33:35,720 --> 00:33:38,200 Speaker 1: like his his family is your family. Your family is 617 00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:40,200 Speaker 1: his family. Yeah, so we'd so weird. So then you 618 00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:42,600 Speaker 1: have the length of time that we've known each other, right, 619 00:33:42,680 --> 00:33:45,280 Speaker 1: So like, I don't know how long this relationship is 620 00:33:45,320 --> 00:33:48,320 Speaker 1: that I've read about, but yeah, we have been been 621 00:33:48,360 --> 00:33:50,840 Speaker 1: in you know, each other's last for years, so known 622 00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:52,560 Speaker 1: his family for years. So that's different. So I think 623 00:33:52,560 --> 00:33:55,400 Speaker 1: it's it just depends on the length of time of 624 00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:58,280 Speaker 1: you know, how strong the relationships are. But I think 625 00:33:59,080 --> 00:34:02,200 Speaker 1: from the own of the email, I think it's he 626 00:34:02,200 --> 00:34:06,760 Speaker 1: should cut ties. I agree. Okay, so you have one more, um, cleah, 627 00:34:06,800 --> 00:34:10,040 Speaker 1: one more than to read. Dear Gezelle and Robin. First, 628 00:34:10,040 --> 00:34:12,640 Speaker 1: I want to say I love your podcast. I look 629 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:15,480 Speaker 1: forward to listening each week. After listening to episode fifty 630 00:34:15,480 --> 00:34:17,880 Speaker 1: two about friendships, I wanted to get any suggestions you 631 00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:21,120 Speaker 1: might have. I recently stepped down after twelve years of 632 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:24,440 Speaker 1: being a school administrator to improve the quality of my life. 633 00:34:24,800 --> 00:34:28,239 Speaker 1: I'm now finishing up the last few years until retirement 634 00:34:28,320 --> 00:34:31,160 Speaker 1: as a teacher. So she went from being a school 635 00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:36,840 Speaker 1: administrator to a teacher. Um, being the boss has always 636 00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 1: been a little lonely, but now that I have more 637 00:34:39,200 --> 00:34:42,120 Speaker 1: time on my hands, I really have time to miss 638 00:34:42,160 --> 00:34:46,600 Speaker 1: having close girlfriends at work. So so she was the boss, 639 00:34:46,760 --> 00:34:48,800 Speaker 1: she didn't have close friends because she was the boss. 640 00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,200 Speaker 1: Now she's a teacher, she has more time, and she's lonely. Okay, 641 00:34:52,200 --> 00:34:54,319 Speaker 1: all right, I'm a bit of an introvert and need 642 00:34:54,400 --> 00:34:57,640 Speaker 1: any suggestions you may have for creating friendships at work. 643 00:34:57,840 --> 00:34:59,799 Speaker 1: It's a little weird because I am still working in 644 00:34:59,800 --> 00:35:02,680 Speaker 1: this same school district, so I don't think my colleagues 645 00:35:02,719 --> 00:35:05,520 Speaker 1: really see me as a peer because they've only known 646 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:08,600 Speaker 1: me as part of the administration, and I'm pretty sure 647 00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:12,320 Speaker 1: they think I'm shady. Oh maybe I just need to wait. 648 00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:15,560 Speaker 1: This is going to laught Okay, no, no, no, I 649 00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,920 Speaker 1: think you know, maybe as a teacher. You know how 650 00:35:17,960 --> 00:35:21,080 Speaker 1: teachers view the administrators and the people who are like 651 00:35:21,080 --> 00:35:22,360 Speaker 1: making the rules and stuff like, you know, it's like 652 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:25,000 Speaker 1: a different level, right, So that's probably I don't know, 653 00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:26,800 Speaker 1: maybe that's what she means. Maybe I just need to 654 00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:29,400 Speaker 1: wait until I start my second career after I retire. 655 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:33,200 Speaker 1: But that's not for another year and I'm really lonely now. Help. 656 00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:36,600 Speaker 1: So huh, how can we help? Her? Name's Christy? How 657 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:38,840 Speaker 1: can we help? What do? What do we think the 658 00:35:38,840 --> 00:35:42,920 Speaker 1: best way for Christie to make friends or you know, 659 00:35:43,040 --> 00:35:45,520 Speaker 1: to start hanging out with people. Does she have me 660 00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:47,920 Speaker 1: like it's she blonged to a church? Is she in 661 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,359 Speaker 1: a sorority? Well, we got to give us something else. 662 00:35:50,760 --> 00:35:54,400 Speaker 1: The teachers at the job in which you used to 663 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:57,319 Speaker 1: be over them over there, Yeah, that's not gonna work. 664 00:35:57,440 --> 00:36:01,680 Speaker 1: Why not? Though she can probably say, you know, hey, ladies, 665 00:36:01,719 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 1: I know you're used to me being you know, in 666 00:36:03,800 --> 00:36:09,040 Speaker 1: a working as the boss, but you know I'm your 667 00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:10,960 Speaker 1: peer now and I want to like and I want 668 00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:12,279 Speaker 1: to I want to get to know you all better. 669 00:36:12,360 --> 00:36:14,359 Speaker 1: So you're saying she should just be honest about the 670 00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:18,000 Speaker 1: awkwardness of it all. I think so, all right. I'm 671 00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,120 Speaker 1: but like, think about if you're one of the teachers 672 00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:24,160 Speaker 1: and you're like, you're the ops, but you know, I 673 00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:26,920 Speaker 1: feel like I would respect that though if she just 674 00:36:26,960 --> 00:36:30,960 Speaker 1: came okay, So if she just you know, reached out 675 00:36:31,000 --> 00:36:32,520 Speaker 1: and was like, hey, you want to hang out, then 676 00:36:32,560 --> 00:36:34,800 Speaker 1: I would be like, Okay, that's weird, you know what 677 00:36:34,840 --> 00:36:38,799 Speaker 1: I'm saying. But if she's like, hey, I know, you 678 00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:42,480 Speaker 1: know you've always known me as a you know whatever, superintendent, 679 00:36:43,280 --> 00:36:47,560 Speaker 1: but um, I really enjoy being a teacher. I respect 680 00:36:47,560 --> 00:36:50,480 Speaker 1: what you do or what we do, and and you know, 681 00:36:50,719 --> 00:36:53,359 Speaker 1: just want to hang out. You know what I'm saying, Like, 682 00:36:53,480 --> 00:36:55,200 Speaker 1: I feel like you put it out there. Just just 683 00:36:55,280 --> 00:36:57,680 Speaker 1: put it out there, because if she doesn't, then they're 684 00:36:57,719 --> 00:36:59,160 Speaker 1: just gonna be like, this is weird. What does she wanted? 685 00:36:59,239 --> 00:37:02,000 Speaker 1: She set me right, she's reporting back to someone. Okay, 686 00:37:02,040 --> 00:37:05,960 Speaker 1: so she should maybe spearhead or lead like a happy 687 00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:10,319 Speaker 1: hour and invite them. Oh okay, so she should be like, girl, 688 00:37:10,400 --> 00:37:12,080 Speaker 1: I found this restivant and they have a happy hour 689 00:37:12,080 --> 00:37:14,600 Speaker 1: and it's good, and then she should invite them, and 690 00:37:14,600 --> 00:37:16,640 Speaker 1: then they should all get drunk together and the next 691 00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:20,319 Speaker 1: thing they know, they'll be kissing. Yes, okay, I like that. 692 00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:22,239 Speaker 1: So if it's like a group of people just have 693 00:37:22,360 --> 00:37:25,279 Speaker 1: a happy hour, you know, just a general one. But 694 00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,120 Speaker 1: I still think when you send the invitation out for 695 00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:30,920 Speaker 1: the happy hour, say listen, I know y'all are used 696 00:37:30,960 --> 00:37:34,440 Speaker 1: to me being you know what I'm just saying, superintendent whatever, 697 00:37:34,600 --> 00:37:39,120 Speaker 1: you know, Superintendent Jackson. But I'm actually, you know, really 698 00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:41,279 Speaker 1: enjoying my role as a teacher and I want to 699 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:44,920 Speaker 1: get to know you all better. I like that. And then, um, 700 00:37:45,040 --> 00:37:47,080 Speaker 1: but but that should be it. I don't want to 701 00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:51,719 Speaker 1: the invitation to be too professional, yeah, and then be 702 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:54,360 Speaker 1: like come through. Yeah. But I don't think she should 703 00:37:54,840 --> 00:37:57,520 Speaker 1: avoid the elephant in the room, the elephant in the room, 704 00:37:58,320 --> 00:37:59,840 Speaker 1: because I mean I just know, like if that was 705 00:37:59,880 --> 00:38:02,359 Speaker 1: a situation, like you know, I don't know, let's see 706 00:38:02,360 --> 00:38:06,000 Speaker 1: if if our I'm trying to think what kind of 707 00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:08,480 Speaker 1: scenario can I come up with where I would be one. 708 00:38:08,960 --> 00:38:11,400 Speaker 1: I'm also gonna suggest that like she by the first round, 709 00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:15,640 Speaker 1: right and get everybody liquid, and then you know, once 710 00:38:15,680 --> 00:38:19,400 Speaker 1: people get excited, then like you know, suggest everybody do 711 00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:23,160 Speaker 1: rounds of shots like get make it festive or on 712 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:25,040 Speaker 1: the flip side, like and I don't know, you know, 713 00:38:25,560 --> 00:38:27,480 Speaker 1: I mean if they're teachers, are they even maybe they're 714 00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:30,879 Speaker 1: teaching summer school or something like maybe bring like some 715 00:38:30,920 --> 00:38:33,520 Speaker 1: cupcakes to school, you know what I'm saying, or like 716 00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:35,640 Speaker 1: bring something and share it with them, and that's how 717 00:38:35,680 --> 00:38:37,440 Speaker 1: you kind of break the ice. Okay, I like that. 718 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,920 Speaker 1: Look at us. See we are friendly, Robin, but I 719 00:38:42,000 --> 00:38:45,359 Speaker 1: am yeah, no, no, no, we are yes, and I'm 720 00:38:45,400 --> 00:38:49,040 Speaker 1: working on my sex. We are all right. We are 721 00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,040 Speaker 1: out of here. Guys, don't ever forget to live your life, 722 00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:55,799 Speaker 1: either reasonable or shot or both. See you later. I 723 00:38:55,840 --> 00:38:58,840 Speaker 1: mean hear you later, talk to you later. All the 724 00:38:58,840 --> 00:39:12,120 Speaker 1: above Ye Reasonably Shady is a production of the Black 725 00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:16,000 Speaker 1: Affect podcast Network. 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