WEBVTT - Calling the Love Line with Shushanna Mkrtychyan

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<v Speaker 1>How I Suck At Dating with Denungler and Jared Haven

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<v Speaker 1>and I heard radio podcast What's going On? Everyone? Welcome

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<v Speaker 1>to Thursday's special caller edition of Help I Suck At Dating.

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<v Speaker 1>If you haven't already, be sure to go back and

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<v Speaker 1>listen to Sunday's episode because we have Shoshana mccutcheen. That

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't my That wasn't my best, but I'm trying. My

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<v Speaker 1>heart is really good. We had her on the episode

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<v Speaker 1>with us, Thank you, and she's fantastic. You're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>want to miss that. We have her again here today

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<v Speaker 1>to help us handle some callers that are calling in

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<v Speaker 1>with some dating questions. Um, looks like, actually we already

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<v Speaker 1>have our first caller in the room with us. Emma,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you? Can you hear me? Yes, I can

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<v Speaker 1>hear you. I'm good. How are you great? Oh? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so good? Thank you so much for asking. UM, what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on? Emma? Well? I had to leave a date

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<v Speaker 1>with a guy I really like. I Uh, I thought

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<v Speaker 1>I was going to my pants, I know, embarrassing. I

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<v Speaker 1>was so ready to go home with him after dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>I wore imagining set, I shaved everything and all of

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<v Speaker 1>a sudden alarm bells went off, and I knew if

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't leave right then, I was literally going to

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<v Speaker 1>ship my pants. Okay, interesting, So so what did you do?

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<v Speaker 1>So now he thinks that you know, it was a

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<v Speaker 1>problem with him, and I don't know how to reassure

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<v Speaker 1>him that it was not in any way his fault

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<v Speaker 1>that I left. I don't know how to handle this.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'd love to keep seeing him. He checks

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<v Speaker 1>all my boxes. And can I ask you a question? Sure?

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<v Speaker 1>What was the read like when you you said he laughed?

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<v Speaker 1>Did you explain anything? Did you say anything? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>just like peep out? I'm out. I said that my

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<v Speaker 1>mom called and I had to go help her with something,

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<v Speaker 1>and I know it was kind of a stupid lie,

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<v Speaker 1>but I didn't know what to say in the moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I just really needed to use the bathroom. Okay, do

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<v Speaker 1>you want to go first? And you want me kind

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<v Speaker 1>of say what I was excited. I was excited to

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<v Speaker 1>hear what you're going to say, because I I just

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<v Speaker 1>think it's funny. I know it's like there is a

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<v Speaker 1>little more gravitass to the situation, but I want to

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<v Speaker 1>hear what you have to say first. To be honest, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>I think he would appreciate this the most. Like if

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<v Speaker 1>you do reach out and say, hey, do you remember

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<v Speaker 1>this time when we were on a date. Um, I

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<v Speaker 1>kind of want to say, like there's something that I

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<v Speaker 1>was a little bit dishonest with you, and you would

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<v Speaker 1>totally understand why. And I would just literally say exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what you told us exactly. I think he would. I

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<v Speaker 1>love that so much. You would appreciate it so much

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<v Speaker 1>because there's nothing embarrassing, absolutely nothing, It's a natural thing.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it will be like a cool story how

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<v Speaker 1>you guys mad and what actually happened and why you

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<v Speaker 1>have to leave? All right? I think I could Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, I agree with that. I think it's you

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<v Speaker 1>could take like a humorous approach to it. It is

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<v Speaker 1>like a little embarrassing obviously, but I think if you

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<v Speaker 1>tell him that and you can kind of gauge his reaction,

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<v Speaker 1>Like if he laughs about it, great, that's kind of

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<v Speaker 1>what you're hoping for. And if he, for some reason,

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<v Speaker 1>crazy unbeknownst to me, he like has a bad reaction

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<v Speaker 1>to it, then it's like, okay, well maybe if you

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<v Speaker 1>had a sense of humor, this could be more of

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<v Speaker 1>a thing. But I think it's kind of like a

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<v Speaker 1>win win. It's like a way to like kind of

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<v Speaker 1>vet him a little bit, you know, like a filter process.

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<v Speaker 1>So I mean, I don't think you should be like

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<v Speaker 1>ashamed of it at all. It happens to everyone. I

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<v Speaker 1>think it's hilarious and I think that it's great that

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<v Speaker 1>you can call in and laugh about it now. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah, I think I think you just tell him

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, this is the situation, I'm sorry, let's

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<v Speaker 1>try again, or something like that, you know. Definitely, thank you, Yeah, well,

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<v Speaker 1>best of luck. We hope you maybe take some uh

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<v Speaker 1>what's the one that like blocks you off? There's x

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<v Speaker 1>lax that that loosens you up, and then there's the

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<v Speaker 1>other one. I don't know what it is to take

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<v Speaker 1>some of that beforehand, maybe some pepto bismol and and

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<v Speaker 1>give it another shot and I'm sure it'll be great.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, Thank you, Thanks Emma. That was good advice. Shshanna,

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<v Speaker 1>well done. Um. Next up, we have Mia. That's funny

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<v Speaker 1>because Hannas said we have am i A. So I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't think that Mia was going to be joining us,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's Mia is joining us. Can you hear me? Hi,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for joining us. How are you doing good?

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<v Speaker 1>How about you good? Thank you for asking? What's going on?

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<v Speaker 1>Not too much, justin joined the day, just getting some

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<v Speaker 1>stuff done? Nice? Well what can we help you with? So? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>my question for you guys is is hiking on a

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<v Speaker 1>first date a good idea? Absolutely? Yeah, I knew Shoshanna

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be in the vein of that. I agree. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>is there more of the question or is that the

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<v Speaker 1>only question? So basically, there's this guy that I've known

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<v Speaker 1>for a couple of years. Um, but we decide it

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<v Speaker 1>to you know, maybe try going on a one on one.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess it's a date, but you know, um, And

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<v Speaker 1>so the plans to hike for like a solid day. Uh,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like a hard hike, but both of us are

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<v Speaker 1>in really good shape. Um. But I'm not sure if

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<v Speaker 1>it would be weird as like a first one on

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<v Speaker 1>one date or hang out I guess um or I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know what you guys think. I think any type

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<v Speaker 1>of date where you have something to do other than

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<v Speaker 1>talk to each other is great. And hiking is kind

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<v Speaker 1>of that same way where it's like you can like

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<v Speaker 1>when you're hiking, it's perfectly normal to just kind of

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<v Speaker 1>be quiet and like enjoy the hike. And so if

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<v Speaker 1>there's ever like a little in the conversation, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>that big of a deal versus like if you're sitting

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<v Speaker 1>at a coffee table and no one says anything for

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<v Speaker 1>five minutes, gets kind of awkward. So I think hiking

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<v Speaker 1>is one of the best first dates you can have

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<v Speaker 1>because you're outside, you're in nature, You've got to talk

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<v Speaker 1>to each other and still got to experience each other's

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<v Speaker 1>company and like bet each other in that sense. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>I think hiking is one of the best for states

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<v Speaker 1>you could kind of think of you. I totally agree.

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<v Speaker 1>I've done in multiple times. The one thing that like

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<v Speaker 1>you did mention, Like you guys both arow in really

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<v Speaker 1>good shape and you go for something really like a

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<v Speaker 1>hard a difficult hike to do for me, Um, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's probably sometimes not the best choice, just because

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<v Speaker 1>like you out of breath and you like try to

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<v Speaker 1>get to know the person, um, and it's not always

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<v Speaker 1>you can talk unless you're like taking a little short breaks,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, to have a snack a water and then

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<v Speaker 1>you to catch up on your broath, you know, and Chad,

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<v Speaker 1>But it's I guess it's personal preference. If you both

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<v Speaker 1>want to go hard and just do it, that's pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 1>It's something definitely to go back and remember, like your

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<v Speaker 1>first day one on one was on a really cool hike,

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<v Speaker 1>but I personally prefer like something a little bit more,

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<v Speaker 1>probably less challenging, and just so you can still be outside,

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<v Speaker 1>so still the outdoorsy stuff and also get to know

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<v Speaker 1>each other and have a little chad you know, mm hmm, totally. Um. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm super competitive and intense in that way. So hiking

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<v Speaker 1>to me is you know, I love it? Um, I

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<v Speaker 1>think you know. Another thing I was thinking about is

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<v Speaker 1>like we're going to be stuck on this hike, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>in the middle of the in the middle of nowhere

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<v Speaker 1>for however many hours? Is that like what if if

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<v Speaker 1>something goes wrong or we end up like not really

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<v Speaker 1>getting along one on one, I'm like stuck with him.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you guys think about that? Yeah? What do

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<v Speaker 1>you think? Because I think the girl's perspective is more important,

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<v Speaker 1>and so that's what I'm saying, Like, I'm very competitive too,

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<v Speaker 1>but then I don't want to put someone else who

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<v Speaker 1>like said he's very competitive, and then we both like

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<v Speaker 1>trying to like challenge herself on the first day, so

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<v Speaker 1>I would probably, like, like I said, I probably my

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<v Speaker 1>advice would be just maybe pick something like a shorter

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<v Speaker 1>you know, maybe two or three hours and um, and

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<v Speaker 1>if you see that really goes, then you can do

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<v Speaker 1>something very long and like spend more time with each

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<v Speaker 1>other instead of just like being in silence and hiking

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<v Speaker 1>for ten hours, you know, so maybe shorter hike, something

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<v Speaker 1>more comfortable for both of you. Then you can just

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<v Speaker 1>take a break and enjoy the nature, you know, to

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<v Speaker 1>spend a good time together instead of just like trying

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<v Speaker 1>to compete for who's about a hiker all the day

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<v Speaker 1>or something. Just just don't go hike campbellback, according to Shoshana,

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<v Speaker 1>because it's too challenging. But um mai, thank you for

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<v Speaker 1>calling in. We appreciate it. Best of luck and sounds

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<v Speaker 1>like a good first date in my opinion. Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>guys so much. I agree, Thank you. Thanks all right,

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<v Speaker 1>Next up, we have Casson. I believe is the name.

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<v Speaker 1>Can you hear me Casson? I can, yes, Thank you

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<v Speaker 1>guys so much for taking my call. Yeah, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>thanks for calling in. Am I saying the name right,

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<v Speaker 1>is it? Yes? Yes? Nice unique name. I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very what's going on? How how can we so? Uh?

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<v Speaker 1>So this girl, you know, I like, um, she never

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<v Speaker 1>texts first. You know. We we've gone out on three dates. UM,

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<v Speaker 1>no sex so far. Um, we've made out heavily, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's it, you know. Um, but this girl never texts first.

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't like that, you know? And do you

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<v Speaker 1>think that would mean that she's not very interested? And

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<v Speaker 1>do you guys think that the guys should always initiate?

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<v Speaker 1>And if so, for how long? Yeah? Well, Sean, I

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<v Speaker 1>went first last time? So how you go first this time? Him? So,

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<v Speaker 1>I always have like whenever people ask me questions, this

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<v Speaker 1>is we're I'm going to asking questions. So whenever you

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<v Speaker 1>do ask her to go on a date, does she

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<v Speaker 1>say yes? Or does it take her time, like to

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<v Speaker 1>like a long time to get back and think about it. No,

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<v Speaker 1>on the three dates she's she said yes right away. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I I think there's um, I mean, it looks like

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<v Speaker 1>she's interested. So if um, um like having a hard time,

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<v Speaker 1>do you want her to text you for? Do you

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<v Speaker 1>want her to ask you to go on a date? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>That's one of the questions like what do you like?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you want her to? I guess to do?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you tried to express that? Would you know what

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<v Speaker 1>is missing there? I guess between you two. So I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>obviously it's still new, you know, but for me, I would,

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<v Speaker 1>I would. It's it's nice to be, um, it's nice

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<v Speaker 1>to feel like I'm being chased, as well as as

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<v Speaker 1>the chase, you know, the chasy so you know, so

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<v Speaker 1>I guess that's kind of what I'm hoping for, is

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<v Speaker 1>a you know, maybe a little bit more back and forth.

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<v Speaker 1>But I also know that, you know, it's also new.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe I'm being eager, you know. I feel like, how

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<v Speaker 1>about you just like literally ignore her for a few

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<v Speaker 1>days and see how she feels that. Like, I think

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<v Speaker 1>the girls are really weird when we see like someone

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<v Speaker 1>who's texting, Oh, like he's text and he's texting, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll say yes, I'll go, and then suddenly like there's

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<v Speaker 1>no text it's been a day, one, day two. Then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to be like, Okay, let me see what's

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<v Speaker 1>going on, you know, like maybe you should give like

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<v Speaker 1>that little space, um, just to see if she's really interested.

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<v Speaker 1>She will text you. Yeah, that's true. I do gotta

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<v Speaker 1>say I can empathize with you, Casson, because I have

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<v Speaker 1>been in a situation many times in my life where

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<v Speaker 1>I really like a girl, but I feel like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>the only one making an initiative to hang out. And

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<v Speaker 1>it's a crappy feeling, and in a lot of ways

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<v Speaker 1>to it kind of like makes you more interested in

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<v Speaker 1>them because you're like, well, why doesn't she text me first?

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<v Speaker 1>Why does she never want to plan dates? And so

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<v Speaker 1>you kind of like go above and beyond. But I

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<v Speaker 1>agree with Shashana, like, maybe uh, take a take a

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<v Speaker 1>take a couple of days off of texting her and

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<v Speaker 1>see if she reaches out, and if she doesn't, then

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<v Speaker 1>like maybe you kind of have your answer. But also

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<v Speaker 1>like it's not that crazy to like speak up and

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<v Speaker 1>say something, you know, like if you want her to

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<v Speaker 1>be more proactive in terms of planning those things you

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<v Speaker 1>like on your next day, you could be like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I just wish you know, you would take the initiative sometimes,

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<v Speaker 1>Like that's not that farfetchittive an idea, I don't think, um,

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<v Speaker 1>But I do want to say that I empathize with

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<v Speaker 1>your situation because it's not a fun one to be

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<v Speaker 1>in and especially like if you really like the person,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, Like you want them to

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<v Speaker 1>like you back as much as you like them. So

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<v Speaker 1>I think that, like she Shawna said, take a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of days, don't text and see if she responds. And

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<v Speaker 1>if she, I'm sorry doesn't doesn't respond, but see if

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<v Speaker 1>she like takes the initiative on her her own, and

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<v Speaker 1>if she doesn't, then you can kind of like keep pursuing.

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<v Speaker 1>Of course, I don't think that's like a reason to

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<v Speaker 1>stop pursuing, but I do think it it kind of

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<v Speaker 1>helps put into perspective like maybe she's not making you

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<v Speaker 1>as much of a priority as you'd like to be,

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<v Speaker 1>and that could change over time, but in the in

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<v Speaker 1>the immediate future, like it's maybe something that you should consider,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, yeah, I agree. I feel like just to

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<v Speaker 1>add to that too. So taking that like a few

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<v Speaker 1>days break, um, if you see like she's actually not

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<v Speaker 1>getting back to her, like you can always send a

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<v Speaker 1>text and say, hey, I haven't heard from you for

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<v Speaker 1>a few days. I hope you're doing well. If you

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<v Speaker 1>have any time or you know, you hang out or

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<v Speaker 1>like you're interested, like let me know and if you see,

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<v Speaker 1>like it depends on her response to if she's like, oh, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, something being happening blah blah blah. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like communication if you, um, if you're missing that, it's

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<v Speaker 1>so hard to keep asking for someone to communicate with you,

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<v Speaker 1>and UM, invest some time and you so it probably

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<v Speaker 1>will be for you to decide what you know, if

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<v Speaker 1>you want to move forward with that person or not.

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<v Speaker 1>But definitely give some time. And if she doesn't reach out,

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<v Speaker 1>then reach out and kind of express yourself like being said,

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<v Speaker 1>and see where that goes. Yeah, okay, perfect I I

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<v Speaker 1>that's a great idea and I really appreciate you guys. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>of course, cass And thanks so much for calling and

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<v Speaker 1>we appreciate it. Best of luck with the situation. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure you get all figured out. Thanks so much again.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you. Right, all right, Well that's gonna do it

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<v Speaker 1>for Thursday's call. Her episode of Help I Suck at Dating,

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<v Speaker 1>Shoshana absolutely crushed it. Um. Thank you so much, Shanna

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<v Speaker 1>for guests, I was seeing these last two episodes with us.

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<v Speaker 1>You've been fantastic. I want to get out to Salt

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<v Speaker 1>Lake with Kaylin and we can all go skiing or climbing.

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<v Speaker 1>My friends would love to have you guys here. Have

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<v Speaker 1>a really big group of people that do a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of adventures and go to National Park. So please visit

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<v Speaker 1>any time. Nice, do you I take it you ski, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>because you live so close to the mon I snow worried,

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<v Speaker 1>but I haven't been. I didn't. Yes, I've tried this

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<v Speaker 1>year after fourteen year skiing, and I saw it. It

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<v Speaker 1>was terrifying. It's so terrifying. But I'm going to try

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<v Speaker 1>this year. So we'll see. Well, as long as you're

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<v Speaker 1>having fun, because Kaylin is just learning as well, and I, um,

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<v Speaker 1>I try to have patience with her as she learns,

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<v Speaker 1>but it can be challenging sometimes. So maybe you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys can go up together. Well, she's she's good.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm under under I guess telling how how good she

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<v Speaker 1>is for how little she ski. So it would be

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<v Speaker 1>great if we could all get out there and ski

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<v Speaker 1>or something and maybe when the weather warms up, in

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<v Speaker 1>the climate or something. And I feel like breweries, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>we have Willi Co brewers in Utah too, so like,

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<v Speaker 1>so we can do that. I meant to ask you

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<v Speaker 1>actually on Sunday's episode. Um, because Utah is pretty well

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<v Speaker 1>known for its Mormon population. Have you noticed any like

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<v Speaker 1>is there any like like drawbacks of living in a

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<v Speaker 1>state like that, because I know, like the Mormons don't

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<v Speaker 1>drink alcohol as much and they don't tend to like

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<v Speaker 1>go out on Friday nights and stuff like that. Has

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<v Speaker 1>that ever been like a roadblock for you in terms

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<v Speaker 1>of dating? People will probably judge me for this, but

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't say, you know, elthings a Mormon on your

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<v Speaker 1>driver license right with you buy alcohol? No? No, no,

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<v Speaker 1>so no, absolutely not. I think it's like a religion

0:15:56.240 --> 0:15:58.800
<v Speaker 1>is religion. That doesn't I mean yet there's like restriction

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<v Speaker 1>in terms of like you cannot have I alcohol. All

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<v Speaker 1>the liquor stores closed on Sundays. Um. But I mean

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<v Speaker 1>if you want to from I don't know, want to

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<v Speaker 1>just started day, everything is open, right, It's pretty successible

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<v Speaker 1>in that way. But no, absolutely not not interrom some

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<v Speaker 1>dating not ine term so um, going out and drinking

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<v Speaker 1>everything is pretty much the same. I'm actually impressed, like

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<v Speaker 1>how many breweries we have in Salt Lake, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and they're pretty good ones too, So yeah, nice, that's

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<v Speaker 1>good to know. All I know is Caitlin's uncle moved

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<v Speaker 1>to St. George, which I think the LDS per capita

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<v Speaker 1>is a little higher than Salt Lake. And he lived

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<v Speaker 1>there for a year and he was like, I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do it anymore. I gotta get out of here. Different.

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<v Speaker 1>I love Salt Lake. Yeah, yeah, Saint George is different.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a little it's a little uh not necessarily in

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<v Speaker 1>the like the in the uh what am I trying

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<v Speaker 1>to stay like in the farmlands more? But it is.

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<v Speaker 1>It is definitely a little bit different. But um, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I love I love Utah just as a state. It

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<v Speaker 1>is one of the most beautiful states in my opinion,

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<v Speaker 1>in the entire country most definitely. But um but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll get in touch. Hopefully we can ski or climber

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<v Speaker 1>or hiker do something in the near future. But thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much for joining us. We appreciate it, and

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully this podcast leads to some of your gym members

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<v Speaker 1>finally taking the initiative and approaching I hope I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>going to be overwhelmed. Just I am a feeling you

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<v Speaker 1>are going to be overwhelmed. There's gonna be countless guys

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<v Speaker 1>chomping at the bit to get to you. Um, but

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<v Speaker 1>thank you again so much. Get those fingers healed. Best

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<v Speaker 1>of luck in your competition, and we'll talk to you soon.

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