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Speaker 2: My girlfriend and I went to different colleges. Now I'm

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Speaker 2: this one. I eighteen male, dated my girlfriend eighteen females

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Speaker 2: since the last two years of high school friends before that,

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Speaker 2: and eventually became romantic. We're both somewhat introverted and hung

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Speaker 2: around the same gamer slash geek circle. She started college

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Speaker 4: I'm sub about it.

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Speaker 2: I'm Riley, I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota. So everything was normal

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Speaker 2: for the first month. We followed every day and visited

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Speaker 2: on weekends. I'm in a engineering program, so my studies

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Speaker 2: occasionally got in the way. Around Halloween, I realized my

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Speaker 2: girlfriend was having as much trouble making plans as I

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Speaker 2: was as a history major, though it couldn't be the

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Speaker 2: schoolwork that was keeping her busy. Sometimes she would bail

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Speaker 2: on her plans to study, but other times her reasons

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Speaker 2: were that she got roped into going to the movies

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Speaker 2: or being a band or or seeing a band play

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Speaker 2: at a campus bar. Nothing crazy, just unusual in the

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Speaker 2: back home. When I went to visit her in November,

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Speaker 2: I noticed she had switched to wearing contact lenses. She

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Speaker 2: was also dressing more mainstream than in high school. Her

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Speaker 2: usual style used to be clunky boots and ironic T shirts.

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Speaker 2: We didn't even get to hang out the full weekend

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Speaker 2: to prepare for exams. Although studying kept me from visiting

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Speaker 2: her or talking very often, I paid attention to all

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Speaker 2: our style was always to avoid wasted people. She stayed

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Speaker 2: was still studying but found it weird she didn't want

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Speaker 2: to our regular routine for a week. We watched The Hobbit,

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Speaker 2: We talked a lot. I probed for information about her

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Speaker 2: new friends and the party she had attended. Everything she

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Speaker 2: told me sounded very tame. We agreed to do something

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Speaker 2: fun for New Years. Instead of watching movies at home

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Speaker 2: It ended up being way louder and crazier than expected.

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Speaker 2: Our friends left before twelve. My girlfriend did a better

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Speaker 2: tried encouraging me to drink and relax, but I could

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Speaker 2: only fake it so much. I did not want to

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Speaker 2: spoil her New Year's Eve. I let her keep drinking

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Speaker 4: From the bar.

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Speaker 2: We stayed well past midnight. She got increasingly stubborn and

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Speaker 4: She went back to college a few hours ago.

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Speaker 2: The only additional information is that some of our friends

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Speaker 2: distant than usual, checked her iPhone a lot, and was

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Speaker 2: harder to chat with about normal things. I'm no expert

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Speaker 2: at social situations. That's why I present as much information

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Speaker 2: as I can to the social savvier members of Reddit.

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Speaker 2: Does this honestly seem like a situation that could lead

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Speaker 2: to my girlfriend cheating on me? We had been trusted

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Speaker 2: best friends for years. My preference is to maintain a

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Speaker 2: grow as a person, and not suffocate her. But I'm

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Speaker 2: am I only being naive to let things keep unfolding

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Speaker 2: the way they are now. Is my first long term relationship,

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Speaker 2: so I would refer to the wisdom of anyone with

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Speaker 4: Thanks in advance, we have an update.

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Speaker 2: I remember growing up, I didn't go to parties. I

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Speaker 2: wasn't around anyone that was wasted. I kind of avoided

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Speaker 2: I got out of college, I started doing that stuff.

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Speaker 2: But the first times I was there, I was like,

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Speaker 2: this is not my vibe.

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Speaker 4: These are not my people.

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Speaker 2: I do not like this, And sometimes when I go out,

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Speaker 2: I don't like it because I don't like being around

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Speaker 3: I agree, No, I one hundred percent understand, and I

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Speaker 3: want to be clear, like, I think it's totally fair

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Speaker 3: that OPI is a little eighteen year old being like,

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Speaker 3: I'm not super comfortable around this. But the problem is

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Speaker 3: to chick and find herself and be more into these

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Speaker 3: things just because she wasn't into them in high school.

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Speaker 3: There was a lot of things that I wasn't into

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Speaker 3: high school that I, you know, was doing in college

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Speaker 3: because you're growing up and you finally have independence. And also,

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Speaker 3: of course she wasn't drinking back in high school because

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Speaker 3: she's not legally allowed to. You know, it's like, it's different,

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Speaker 3: you have that independence.

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Speaker 4: Can you go up a little bit? One more?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: That one?

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Speaker 2: Shanna Shanna plll Nerd says, as long as he keeps

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Speaker 2: trying to keep tabs on her every minute of the day,

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Speaker 2: night it will absolutely lead to an ending OPI won't like.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, personally, I think you guys are growing apart. I

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Speaker 3: think you're going into different people. And my honest recommendation

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Speaker 3: is that you should break up, not because she's cheating

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Speaker 3: on you, like she might be. I don't want to say,

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Speaker 3: like either way, we really don't know. I think that

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Speaker 3: you are so worried about what she's going to do,

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Speaker 3: and also you're so worried about who she's becoming relations yeah,

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Speaker 3: instead of enjoying and she's like right now, it seems

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Speaker 3: like she's so focused on like all of the new

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Speaker 3: experiences that she can have in college. You need to

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Speaker 3: be focused on that and yourself rather than focused on

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Speaker 3: everything that your girlfriend is doing. You know, I think

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Speaker 3: you're too focused on the relationship when you should be

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Speaker 3: enjoying the new experiences.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, agreed. And also this is a candid event.

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Speaker 2: For every guy they get they have a relationship, the

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Speaker 2: girlfriend kind of isn't the same person, So I'll date recat.

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Speaker 2: I was worried about my quirky individualist girlfriend getting caught

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Speaker 2: up in a party lifestyle at college. When she came

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Speaker 2: back for Christmas, things were normal for a couple of weeks.

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Speaker 2: On New Year, she insisted on going to a bar,

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Speaker 2: fight back. The holidays ended.

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Speaker 4: On a bad note.

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Speaker 2: The following weekend, I visited her on campus. I was

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Speaker 2: We only had one day together, so I made reservations

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Speaker 2: It looked like we'd be too busy this weekend too,

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Speaker 2: By the time I made up my mind to drive over,

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Speaker 2: As I went to call my girlfriend, a tall girl

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Speaker 4: I was speechless.

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Speaker 2: When I got into the room, there were four people.

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend was lying in bed with the covers pulled

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Speaker 2: I looked around, trying to figure out what's happening. Chris

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Speaker 2: The three strangers were laughing. I asked my girlfriend what

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend asked me defensively what The first thing I

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Speaker 2: which made me angrier. At this point, the tall girl

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Speaker 2: Kirk acted friendly. He reassured me she wasn't doing anything.

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Speaker 2: The tall girl giggled and added, yeah, because she's such

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Speaker 3: Oh so she's not even smoking, she's just around people

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Speaker 3: who are Oh my gosh, Opie, you're totally overreacting.

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Speaker 2: My girlfriend tried to shut everyone up by jumping out

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Speaker 2: of bed and yelling, guys, she was only wearing a

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Speaker 2: pair of boy shorts and a tank top. Okay, so

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Speaker 2: she's not naked.

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Speaker 5: She's wearing pajamas, and it's like, wait, wait, wait, wait wait,

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Speaker 5: I got what wait wait wait wait they look skimpier

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Speaker 5: than anything else she had worn as pajamas.

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Speaker 6: Because she's in college. She's wearing little little shorts and.

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Speaker 3: A tank top because she's like, oh do you know? Okay,

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Speaker 3: I literally in high school wore I was like so modest.

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Speaker 3: I was so modest, and like after in college, probably

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Speaker 3: towards the end of college, I began worring wearing like

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Speaker 3: tank tops, and you know, it happens, you change your style.

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Speaker 4: You don't even want to know what she wears nowadays.

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Speaker 3: Ha ha ha.

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Speaker 2: I got mad realizing she was dressed this way in

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Speaker 4: But on full display.

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Speaker 2: She stood in the middle of the room holding her head.

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Speaker 2: I really need to chill out. Okay, here your talk.

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Speaker 3: She's someone one of you needs to break up with

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Stop?

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Speaker 2: Oh, this really stopped being the pawns on a chess

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Speaker 3: This is terrible. You guys both don't like this relationship?

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Speaker 1: All right?

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Speaker 2: We agreed to be better off if I went home

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Speaker 4: Or is it she? Finally?

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Speaker 4: Thanks for your input.

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Speaker 3: Please break up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I bought my fiance to the family party despite

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Speaker 6: Who's your cousin?

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Speaker 1: My cousin is very famous. Yes you have heard of him,

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Speaker 6: They just date me for him, and then they're mad

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Speaker 1: Yeah him, Yeah, I mean kind of. I mean you

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Speaker 1: brought her boyfriend, Steve. They've been together for less than

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Speaker 1: Terry was fine with this because he's met Steve before

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Speaker 6: That's I'm a little worried. This is only for Terry.

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Speaker 1: Exmus was out my aunt's and I'm a believer and

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Speaker 1: asked for forgiveness, not permission. So I brought my fiance

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Speaker 6: At the beginning of the story. I was like, hardcore.

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Speaker 7: I think, Op, Ye, if if you didn't get engaged

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Speaker 7: if you only sped this up for Terry, then you are.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. There's a little bit of me that feels that

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Speaker 7: That's what I feel like, in which case I think

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Speaker 7: Op would be the a hole a little bit.

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Speaker 6: She was clearly fine with not coming soul mate.

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Speaker 1: Soul mate. Well, our grandma was telling Terry get over

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Speaker 6: Black ooh, just a regular uber and.

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Speaker 1: Leaving before we even ate. To top it all off,

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Speaker 7: Yeah, by the end of that, Terry, Yeah, you were

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Speaker 1: Ope, he was the ale in the beginning. Terry was

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Speaker 7: Yeah, but did it sound like that was when they

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Speaker 6: What like they didn't show up to Christmas to be like,

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Speaker 1: Think they found out there.

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Speaker 6: That's kind of putting the lineback in of life.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I don't know. Queen Procrastination says communication. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this new Person's like, it's my fiance, and they're like, well,

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Speaker 1: Yeah you should or she you should have announced. Well verdict,

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Speaker 1: everyone sucks. That's what we said. Well the commons. Samv

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Speaker 1: ninety one says, everyone's the a hole. You could have asked.

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Speaker 1: You could also not use your famous cousin as a

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Speaker 1: I have a picture with them.

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Speaker 6: He gets all the chicks.

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Speaker 1: Just trying to level the playing field on the app.

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Speaker 1: This is a guy. Mom of ninety one edit went

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Speaker 1: from ever the ale, You're the ale? Based on new information?

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Speaker 1: Did the family know ahead of time about the engagement? Opie?

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Speaker 1: In response, I didn't tell them about the engagementcause I

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Speaker 6: No, no, he totally did it for.

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Speaker 1: Terry engagements did not end up working out Prairie Mountains

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Speaker 1: and says, how many times have you been engaged? OPI

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Speaker 1: twice before, once when I was nineteen and an idiot,

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Speaker 6: You should have said that at the beginning.

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Speaker 1: I think people are just matching with you to me, Terry.

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Speaker 1: They're like, if if I date this guy long enough

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Speaker 6: Which is exactly why Terry has the rule.

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Speaker 1: Who is this guy? Who's Terry? Okay? Op He's the

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Speaker 1: A hole for sure?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Why am I so awesome? Nine says you're the a hole?

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Speaker 1: It sounds like this was the first meeting of a

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Speaker 1: Trying to compare to the other Kunsan's relationship is pointless,

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Speaker 1: you said to yourself. They have met Terry a few times,

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Speaker 1: basically you use his profile pick on tender. Then wonder

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Speaker 1: family functions. You would rather ask for forgiveness than permission

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Speaker 1: to decide not to discuss at all. At what point

439
00:21:38,840 --> 00:21:41,480
Speaker 1: would you not beat the A hole? An Opie response.

440
00:21:41,640 --> 00:21:43,639
Speaker 1: If I had told them, they would have told me

441
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:46,159
Speaker 1: not to come, or Terry would not have shown up

442
00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 1: and everyone would be sad because he's the favorite and

443
00:21:48,840 --> 00:21:52,040
Speaker 1: my fiance isn't like my previous ones. She's definitely not

444
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:55,879
Speaker 1: a fangirl and only asked a few times about getting

445
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:57,640
Speaker 1: a pick with him A few times.

446
00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,960
Speaker 3: That's a fangirl a few times.

447
00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:02,679
Speaker 1: Dev Destroyer t X says, why would she need a

448
00:22:02,720 --> 00:22:05,800
Speaker 1: pick with your cousin? Op says she's a photographer model,

449
00:22:05,840 --> 00:22:07,800
Speaker 1: so it'd be good if she could take picks of him.

450
00:22:08,160 --> 00:22:10,639
Speaker 1: But it's not like a priority or anything. Just oh wow,

451
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:12,360
Speaker 1: when I get to meet him, I'd love to get

452
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,600
Speaker 1: a pick with all of us. The top guest who

453
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:20,560
Speaker 1: the cousin is, Zanuzzi says most popular guests is Chris Evans.

454
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,919
Speaker 1: Op mentioned superhero before he deleted the comment. Also Ope

455
00:22:25,160 --> 00:22:29,240
Speaker 1: being from Massachusetts and some other clues. Op deleted a

456
00:22:29,280 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 1: comment about how other people use dogs and babies to

457
00:22:31,520 --> 00:22:35,280
Speaker 1: get dates on apps and he uses picks with superheroes. Also,

458
00:22:35,320 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: Opie denied that it's Chris Evans, which makes me think

459
00:22:38,480 --> 00:22:41,160
Speaker 1: it's Chris Evans. Well, it's definitely an actor who plays

460
00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:43,960
Speaker 1: a superhero who likes to do things with his family, Also,

461
00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,560
Speaker 1: the story leaked to TMZ was an incident where many

462
00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,879
Speaker 1: people close to cousin Terry was about, which tracks with

463
00:22:50,040 --> 00:22:52,640
Speaker 1: what was leaked about Chris Evans on TMZ a few

464
00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: years back. Another thing leaked was some plot point about

465
00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,879
Speaker 1: a movie, which makes me think it was Marvel Movies. Also,

466
00:22:58,000 --> 00:23:01,080
Speaker 1: Opie repeatedly denying that it's not Chris Evans just makes

467
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,640
Speaker 1: me think it's Chris Evans. OPI hasn't responded too much

468
00:23:03,680 --> 00:23:07,240
Speaker 1: except to deny that it was not Chris Evans. Who knows?

469
00:23:07,640 --> 00:23:09,840
Speaker 6: It could also be Paul Rudd isn't he from Boston?

470
00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:13,800
Speaker 7: And also superhero who could Paul ant Man?

471
00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 6: Am I missing them? I'm mixing those up.

472
00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:20,040
Speaker 1: I think OPI is for sure an a hole for sure.

473
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:25,159
Speaker 1: Well updates update nobody has correctly guessed who Terry is

474
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,240
Speaker 1: and I won't respond to any more guesses. And I

475
00:23:27,280 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: don't use his picture to get girls. I literally have

476
00:23:31,200 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: a Riyah, so I have no issues in that department.

477
00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,080
Speaker 1: You said you were trying to make this playing field even.

478
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 8: Dude, Opie is so so shallow.

479
00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 6: You also have a fiance. Yeah, why are you on Riyah?

480
00:23:48,880 --> 00:23:50,000
Speaker 1: I think you found her on Riya?

481
00:23:50,080 --> 00:23:51,440
Speaker 4: Maybe anymore.

482
00:23:51,600 --> 00:23:54,760
Speaker 6: Yeah, that was just because that was hot, but that worked.

483
00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,880
Speaker 1: There's a doll irrelevant update. We're just gonna dive right

484
00:23:58,920 --> 00:24:02,320
Speaker 1: in twit. Nobody talked to me yesterday, but I found

485
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,520
Speaker 1: out this morning that all is fine. Terry called me

486
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:07,399
Speaker 1: to apologize for making a scene and congratulated me on

487
00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:10,280
Speaker 1: my engagement, and I accepted his apology. He also told me

488
00:24:10,320 --> 00:24:12,400
Speaker 1: he went back and visited with family yesterday and gave

489
00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 1: my uncle his gift from Secret Sanna, so Christmas isn't

490
00:24:15,520 --> 00:24:18,840
Speaker 1: ruined for him. As for my fiance, she handed it

491
00:24:18,880 --> 00:24:21,480
Speaker 1: all really well, even though it was an awkward way

492
00:24:21,520 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 1: to meet my family and my aunt made rude comments

493
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,119
Speaker 1: about her outfit. She also had the idea that we

494
00:24:27,160 --> 00:24:29,240
Speaker 1: should have the family over for New Years to make

495
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:32,600
Speaker 1: it up to them. So yeah, everybody was a bit dramatic,

496
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:37,040
Speaker 1: but no harm was done. Final comments, Oh crumb cake

497
00:24:37,119 --> 00:24:41,119
Speaker 1: says the important thing right now? Did you apologize for

498
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,800
Speaker 1: being a major a hole? Terry didn't owe you an apology.

499
00:24:44,160 --> 00:24:47,160
Speaker 1: The rules are optimally for his safety and you broke

500
00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:49,600
Speaker 1: them because you are being a selfish a hole. Did

501
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,720
Speaker 1: you apologize because you're the one that owes him an apology?

502
00:24:52,840 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 1: And seriously get rid of that picture. Use of him

503
00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:59,720
Speaker 1: to get yourself laid. That's just gross and deleted said,

504
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:01,800
Speaker 1: there is not a mixed response in the slightest The

505
00:25:01,840 --> 00:25:04,840
Speaker 1: response doesn't lean towards you're the a whole. Almost everyone

506
00:25:04,880 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 1: thinks you're the a whole. And those who don't think

507
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:11,199
Speaker 1: that say, everyone's the a hole. Admit your mistake and

508
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 1: Hopie has not admitted it. But and that is where

509
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:17,960
Speaker 1: all that story ends. I want to skip the family

510
00:25:18,040 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: chip because my grandmother's reoccurring boyfriend will be there.

511
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:23,359
Speaker 6: Grandma's got boyfriends.

512
00:25:23,800 --> 00:25:27,200
Speaker 1: I twenty female, have a grandma to seventy one female,

513
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:29,720
Speaker 1: and recently I have been thrown into the deep end.

514
00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: My grandfather passed away in twenty eighteen, leading my grandma

515
00:25:33,800 --> 00:25:36,480
Speaker 1: to eventually start to live in our rental cottage on

516
00:25:36,520 --> 00:25:38,560
Speaker 1: our property. By the way, this comes from delete. If

517
00:25:38,560 --> 00:25:39,760
Speaker 1: you want to spit your own stories, go to the

518
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,720
Speaker 1: r slash okay storytime, sufferate it. So since his passing,

519
00:25:42,920 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: I've gone through my years of graduating high school and

520
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 1: becoming more of myself than just a child of the family.

521
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:50,919
Speaker 1: In the early years, I used to talk to my

522
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,879
Speaker 1: grandma all the time about my worries and doubts and

523
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: just general stuff. She would do the same when we

524
00:25:55,880 --> 00:25:58,520
Speaker 1: get along just fine. A fight between her and my

525
00:25:58,600 --> 00:26:01,960
Speaker 1: father fifty two male occurred about three years ago regarding

526
00:26:01,960 --> 00:26:05,159
Speaker 1: my little cousin, and it strained their relationship significantly, to

527
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,560
Speaker 1: the point of no speaking to each other for months

528
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 1: on end until the dust eventually settled. I took her

529
00:26:11,600 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 1: side in that argument, and that was that. My father

530
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: never braided for me for it, and I only did

531
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,280
Speaker 1: this because of how devastated it made my mom forty

532
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 1: nine female and the fights my mom and dad used

533
00:26:20,960 --> 00:26:23,679
Speaker 1: to have about her. After this, the family wasn't strained

534
00:26:23,680 --> 00:26:27,359
Speaker 1: for a while, but eventually it passed away down to civilness.

535
00:26:27,680 --> 00:26:30,760
Speaker 1: And I can't remember when my grandma began to cok

536
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,200
Speaker 1: my patients, but it may have been around the time

537
00:26:33,359 --> 00:26:36,960
Speaker 1: I began university college. It's difficult for me to pinpoint

538
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: the things that happened. One such occasion, though I do remember,

539
00:26:40,440 --> 00:26:42,879
Speaker 1: is a week in which my parents had gone on

540
00:26:42,920 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: holiday and my grandma was placed in charge. I was

541
00:26:45,760 --> 00:26:48,359
Speaker 1: still under eighteen at this point. One night I had

542
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 1: mentioned to my little sister's Maxine sixteen female now and

543
00:26:51,160 --> 00:26:54,960
Speaker 1: Christine eleven now making a surprise dinner for all my grandparents,

544
00:26:55,080 --> 00:26:58,520
Speaker 1: my grandma, and my paternal grandparents. Once my paternal grandparents arrived,

545
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:02,439
Speaker 1: revealed this prize and made dinner. During this dinner, my

546
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:06,479
Speaker 1: grandma sulked, barely spoke, and played with the food on

547
00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 1: her plate the dinner that we made. A few hours afterwards,

548
00:27:10,080 --> 00:27:13,760
Speaker 1: my mom, ever, the enabler of her behavior, called me

549
00:27:13,800 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 1: to lecture me because my grandma felt underhanded and felt

550
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 1: cast aside because it was supposed to be just her

551
00:27:21,960 --> 00:27:24,280
Speaker 1: looking after us. What they made you all at dinner

552
00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,240
Speaker 1: and you feel you feel slighted?

553
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:27,280
Speaker 6: Yeah, what the heck?

554
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:29,560
Speaker 1: I don't know about that. In my first year of university,

555
00:27:29,560 --> 00:27:32,240
Speaker 1: I have at my current boyfriend, Braxton. He's the most kind,

556
00:27:32,280 --> 00:27:33,959
Speaker 1: loving and helpful man I have ever known. I love

557
00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:36,840
Speaker 1: him so much. Our first date was me attending his

558
00:27:36,840 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: family's Christmas Eve. That is a crazy first date. What

559
00:27:39,680 --> 00:27:46,440
Speaker 1: the heck? That's not normal, right, family, that's insane. You're insane, op,

560
00:27:47,240 --> 00:27:50,440
Speaker 1: But we love you. And he attended our family's Christmas Day.

561
00:27:50,840 --> 00:27:54,280
Speaker 1: Wait for the first two days, but both of your families,

562
00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 1: it's twenty four hours of Oh my god. It was

563
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:02,240
Speaker 1: initially very awkward for my family. Yeah, to adjustment. After

564
00:28:02,240 --> 00:28:05,400
Speaker 1: a few months, he moved up to stay near me. Huh,

565
00:28:05,400 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: what is his relationship? This is when I truly began

566
00:28:07,800 --> 00:28:10,520
Speaker 1: to see my grandma in a different light. I barely

567
00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:13,960
Speaker 1: existed when Braxton was around, and he came by nearly

568
00:28:14,080 --> 00:28:16,440
Speaker 1: daily as he lived just down the street. She would

569
00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 1: constantly have something for Braxen to fix or help her with.

570
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:25,919
Speaker 1: Granny try to slide in her email didn't work, or

571
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:29,680
Speaker 1: she had groceries. She would call Braxton to help. My

572
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:32,480
Speaker 1: Grandma would talk to him about his work, his studies,

573
00:28:32,760 --> 00:28:36,240
Speaker 1: how his family was doing, oh, while making weird jokes

574
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,400
Speaker 1: and smiling at him a bit too widely. Oh, Grandma,

575
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: Grandma shouldn't happen. I, on the other hand, barely got

576
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:48,160
Speaker 1: a how are you before her attention was recaptured by Braxton.

577
00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 1: Your grandma a guil though. Braxton and I at this

578
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: point figured she may be being too friendly, but there

579
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: isn't much we can do without being rude. I mean, Braxton,

580
00:28:58,280 --> 00:28:59,480
Speaker 1: I guess you got to sleep with her. You know

581
00:28:59,560 --> 00:29:01,920
Speaker 1: you don't want to roots.

582
00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 6: We would want to offend Grandma.

583
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:07,280
Speaker 1: Row a lady a bone. What like ten years come

584
00:29:07,320 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: on girl, Girl got to eat. This behavior continued for

585
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:23,680
Speaker 1: around a year. This my Grandma and I fined as

586
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:27,719
Speaker 1: he barely spoke to one another. If not needed, I

587
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:31,440
Speaker 1: picked up my sisters, would make dinner occasionally and studied.

588
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: When my grandma's knee was too sore for what you know,

589
00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:41,840
Speaker 1: you know what, I wouldn't make a plan to fetch

590
00:29:41,880 --> 00:29:44,800
Speaker 1: my sisters when my grandma had already made plans. I

591
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: took on dinners as my mom was recovering from foot surgery.

592
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:53,200
Speaker 1: Then the new prospect arrived. His name was Ken, sixty

593
00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: five male and it was part of our church, so

594
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 1: my mom and dad know him well. Initially, my grandma

595
00:29:58,440 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 1: and Ken dated for two two months, but they broke

596
00:30:00,840 --> 00:30:04,160
Speaker 1: up soon after because my grandma never wanted anything serious

597
00:30:04,760 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: with him. Grandma is play in the field. This was

598
00:30:11,360 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 1: after he had attended our Christmas and New Year celebration.

599
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:16,920
Speaker 1: During their dating, Ken would force hugs and act as

600
00:30:16,920 --> 00:30:19,280
Speaker 1: though he had been with my grandma for years. But

601
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:21,320
Speaker 1: after their breakup, can you ever spoke a word to

602
00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:24,520
Speaker 1: any of us and basically ignored our existence completely at church,

603
00:30:24,720 --> 00:30:27,080
Speaker 1: We my sisters, myself and Braxton didn't think much of

604
00:30:27,120 --> 00:30:29,920
Speaker 1: it and forgot about it again. Well, my twenty first

605
00:30:29,920 --> 00:30:31,920
Speaker 1: birthday is coming up in June, and my mom and

606
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,640
Speaker 1: dad had asked what I wanted to do. I'm not

607
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:37,240
Speaker 1: a people person, so instead of a big party, I

608
00:30:37,320 --> 00:30:39,800
Speaker 1: asked if we could go to the coast as just

609
00:30:40,000 --> 00:30:43,440
Speaker 1: us a family, along with Braxton. My mom started by

610
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:45,920
Speaker 1: agreeing and began to search for places to stay. A

611
00:30:45,960 --> 00:30:48,320
Speaker 1: few days later, she asked me to come sit with

612
00:30:48,360 --> 00:30:51,280
Speaker 1: her and said, Honey, I think we need to involve

613
00:30:51,320 --> 00:30:54,480
Speaker 1: your grandparents too. It's a special occasion, she said, showing

614
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: me places with six rooms instead of three. I had

615
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:59,560
Speaker 1: specified previously that I did not want my grandparents and

616
00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 1: grandma because I just wanted it to be my immediate

617
00:31:02,880 --> 00:31:06,000
Speaker 1: family attending. She eventually guilted me into making a booking

618
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:08,400
Speaker 1: that allowed my grandparents to attend. I was quite upset

619
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 1: by this because I felt as though my opinion on

620
00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: this was simply cast away. Still, I didn't bring it

621
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: back up again. Around a month ago, my grandma's sister

622
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: got engaged to be married. We were all ecstatic for her,

623
00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:22,680
Speaker 1: Your grandma's sister. Damn, all these people are getting married. Old.

624
00:31:22,880 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 1: A week went by, and then all of a sudden

625
00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:28,720
Speaker 1: she and Ken were dating once again. A groan rose

626
00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 1: from all of us, but none of us said anything

627
00:31:30,400 --> 00:31:32,640
Speaker 1: about it because it wasn't our business. However, it would

628
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,760
Speaker 1: soon become our business. As he popped up a family

629
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:39,120
Speaker 1: dinner's family events and began to desperately act the role

630
00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:41,560
Speaker 1: of a member of the family. He barely spoke to

631
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,080
Speaker 1: me or my sisters, but instead focused on my grandparents

632
00:31:44,160 --> 00:31:47,200
Speaker 1: and my parents when we came over and announced only

633
00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:50,800
Speaker 1: an hour or two before arriving. Even after a month

634
00:31:51,280 --> 00:31:55,000
Speaker 1: of dating, Braxton asked my grandma in a joking tone,

635
00:31:55,120 --> 00:31:58,200
Speaker 1: so when are you and Ken going to get together officially?

636
00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: And without skipping a beat, my grandma my gas dramatically

637
00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,240
Speaker 1: and answered, not yet. I have to be one hundred

638
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 1: percent sure, while giggling like a schoolgirl. Honestly, that's cute.

639
00:32:08,280 --> 00:32:13,160
Speaker 1: That's cute, giggling like a school girl. During this month,

640
00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 1: I have been drilled to the brink of burnout you

641
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: and your grandma, as I write my exams from my

642
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 1: last year in the university. In a week, I have

643
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 1: barely slept. Grandma, Oh, I have no idea what I'm

644
00:32:28,400 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 1: studying and feel like I'm drowning it's always Grandma. The

645
00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:38,600
Speaker 1: only thing pushing me through this is the week away

646
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 1: with my family and the love of my life. Today

647
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:44,000
Speaker 1: I got back from the store and my mom sits

648
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:47,000
Speaker 1: me down and says, Honey, I'm sorry for doing this.

649
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:50,400
Speaker 1: It completely slipped my mind. Your grandma asked me a

650
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,200
Speaker 1: few days ago if Ken can get his own accommodation

651
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,400
Speaker 1: near us by the coast when we go, so he

652
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Speaker 1: can come with. She began, and I felt my stomach drop.

653
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Speaker 1: I said sure, before I knew what I had done.

654
00:33:01,440 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 1: She finished, and I could have thrown up. I begged

655
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Speaker 1: her not to allow it, and she said she will

656
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,800
Speaker 1: see what she can do. However, this meant she actually

657
00:33:10,800 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 1: did nothing. When I asked her why she had not

658
00:33:14,160 --> 00:33:16,560
Speaker 1: fixed her mistake, she said, what if he already has

659
00:33:16,560 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 1: made a booking? Wait what I mean if you corrected earlier,

660
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Speaker 1: he probably didn't make a booking. It would be rude

661
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Speaker 1: to disinvite him now. And what would I say to

662
00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 1: your grandma her boyfriend can't come because you don't want

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Speaker 1: him here. There's another relevant update, but let's discuss. Is

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Speaker 1: OP being too stringent about not letting Ken come on

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00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:36,959
Speaker 1: this little vacate?

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Speaker 7: I mean we already didn't want the grandparents there, and

667
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:42,160
Speaker 7: they're coming, So I don't see what the big deal is.

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Speaker 6: If Ken just comes to you keep Granny.

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00:33:45,240 --> 00:33:46,400
Speaker 3: Off of Braxton.

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Speaker 1: That's true.

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00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:49,800
Speaker 6: He moved away from that really quickly.

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Speaker 1: That's true. You want Ken is distracting. It's it's a

673
00:33:54,480 --> 00:33:57,840
Speaker 1: little like red thing while your granny's at ball, you know,

674
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Speaker 1: and you're brad you're going to use Ken to o

675
00:34:01,200 --> 00:34:04,520
Speaker 1: lay away from just piercing Pierson Braxton.

676
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Speaker 7: So I get the frustration of like she didn't want

677
00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:08,200
Speaker 7: them there, but.

678
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Speaker 1: Uh, but Opie goes on to second. I basically lost it.

679
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 1: I felt as though my feelings for a day, one

680
00:34:16,040 --> 00:34:18,200
Speaker 1: of my most special birthdays of my life, were being

681
00:34:18,200 --> 00:34:21,800
Speaker 1: discarded because it would hurt a man's in my grandma's

682
00:34:21,800 --> 00:34:24,560
Speaker 1: feelings if he wasn't allowed to intrude on a special

683
00:34:24,560 --> 00:34:27,000
Speaker 1: family occasion. I said that if he attended, I would

684
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Speaker 1: rather not go on the trip and I would have

685
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Speaker 1: my birthday at home. My mom and dad then sat

686
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Speaker 1: me down for a few minutes and did the classic

687
00:34:33,239 --> 00:34:35,280
Speaker 1: family is important. When I brought up how I already

688
00:34:35,320 --> 00:34:38,160
Speaker 1: had compromised my desire so that my grandparents and grandma

689
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Speaker 1: could come with us on this vacation. I was given

690
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Speaker 1: the they only have memories now and they just want

691
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 1: to be there. And at the end of the day,

692
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:49,319
Speaker 1: you only have family. So am I the a hole?

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Speaker 1: We have some comments. What do you think is OPD

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Speaker 1: A hole?

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Speaker 7: I don't think you're certainly an a hole, but I

696
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:55,319
Speaker 7: do think you're just gonna have to get over it.

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00:34:55,600 --> 00:34:57,160
Speaker 6: And it's it's a bummer.

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Speaker 1: Uh kawawan not the ahle go with your boyfriend for

699
00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:02,439
Speaker 1: your twenty first reply, Yeah, I agree with this. Tell

700
00:35:02,480 --> 00:35:05,080
Speaker 1: your mom that as far as you are concerned, the

701
00:35:05,080 --> 00:35:06,799
Speaker 1: trip is off. They're welcome to go to the beach,

702
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: but you're not going. They couldn't respect your boundaries and

703
00:35:09,080 --> 00:35:12,120
Speaker 1: then really cross them by inviting ketalong. Just go away

704
00:35:12,120 --> 00:35:14,279
Speaker 1: with your boyfriend and enjoy some quiet solitude. Your parents

705
00:35:14,360 --> 00:35:17,080
Speaker 1: can pound sand. The blood of the covenant is thicker

706
00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,680
Speaker 1: than the water of the womb. But it's your job.

707
00:35:19,719 --> 00:35:21,160
Speaker 1: You grow a spine to stand up for yourself. You're

708
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:23,160
Speaker 1: turning twenty one. It's time you don't have no one

709
00:35:23,160 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 1: to blame but yourself. And that's where that story ends.

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00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:27,080
Speaker 6: I didn't realis she was turning twenty one.

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00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:29,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, twenty one, it's a bit of a bigger one.

712
00:35:29,880 --> 00:35:32,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, twenty one's a big one. I think, I mean,

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Speaker 1: I think you can. It's your birthday. You should be

714
00:35:34,360 --> 00:35:37,440
Speaker 1: able to invite who you want. Yeah, if your family's

715
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 1: paying for it and you want to go, like I think,

716
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 1: you know, they have control a little bit over the present.

717
00:35:42,760 --> 00:35:45,359
Speaker 1: But if it's your birthday, you can do something else,

718
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:48,480
Speaker 1: like on your actual birthday. Yeah, spend some time. But

719
00:35:48,640 --> 00:35:51,279
Speaker 1: also I recognize like they are controlling the money, so

720
00:35:52,080 --> 00:35:55,080
Speaker 1: they have a little bit more more control over what

721
00:35:55,200 --> 00:36:00,319
Speaker 1: happens with the vacation. John here, we're gonna get back

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00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:02,239
Speaker 1: to this juicy story, but a quick three minute break

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Speaker 1: claimed my family never our svped, but I'm the only one.

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Speaker 6: Seatless steal one of their seats.

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Speaker 1: My brother in law is getting married soon. My husband

727
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Speaker 1: is the best man, and our four year old is

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Speaker 1: the ring bearer. I'm a part time party planner, so

729
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,880
Speaker 1: I've been helping plan a small luncheon for the bridal party,

730
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Speaker 1: immediate family, and a few vendors on the wedding day.

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Speaker 1: So I'm not exactly a fringe guest here. I'm main guest.

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Speaker 1: VP line was a few weeks ago. I filled out

736
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Speaker 1: the online form and submitted it. The same day the

737
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,759
Speaker 1: invitation came to the mail with my husband sitting right

738
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Speaker 1: there next to me. We are svped for the three

739
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: of us meet my husband and our son. Easyps right.

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Speaker 1: My brother in law's fiance sister in law reached out

741
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:58,400
Speaker 1: today over text, saying not hey, I never saw your SVP,

742
00:36:59,120 --> 00:37:02,239
Speaker 1: just checking, but straight up you didn't respond, which is

743
00:37:02,239 --> 00:37:04,719
Speaker 1: frustrating on his own. But then she tells us that

744
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,800
Speaker 1: while my husband and son have seats at the reception,

745
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:09,680
Speaker 1: as they were in part of the original headcounts, I

746
00:37:09,760 --> 00:37:13,120
Speaker 1: do not. My husband was told I could come early

747
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,759
Speaker 1: with him to set up the luncheon still and stay

748
00:37:15,800 --> 00:37:18,600
Speaker 1: for the ceremony, but that I would not have a

749
00:37:18,719 --> 00:37:23,520
Speaker 1: spot at the reception. Let me repeat, I'm married to

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Speaker 1: the best man, mother of the ring bearer, and I'm

751
00:37:29,080 --> 00:37:33,560
Speaker 1: helping with wedding day logistics, including connecting sister law with

752
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:38,880
Speaker 1: some of my professional contacts and somehow decided I wouldn't

753
00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:43,400
Speaker 1: be coming excuse me, and she never followed up before

754
00:37:43,480 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 1: the RS repeat line. Just what. I'm torn between feeling hurt,

755
00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:54,360
Speaker 1: furious and just flabbergasted and used. Feeling used. At best,

756
00:37:54,640 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 1: this was a sloppy mistake and she's not owning. At worst,

757
00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: it feels like appointed exclusion and stopping right there. Pointed

758
00:38:02,200 --> 00:38:04,759
Speaker 1: exclusion or sloppy excuse.

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00:38:05,080 --> 00:38:08,799
Speaker 7: Oh I thought that could be a pointed exclusion?

760
00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:10,120
Speaker 6: How do you miss that?

761
00:38:10,239 --> 00:38:12,880
Speaker 1: How do you miss that? I feel I feel like

762
00:38:13,680 --> 00:38:15,640
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a point exclusion. I feel like

763
00:38:15,640 --> 00:38:18,239
Speaker 1: that doesn't feel I mean, I don't know how you

764
00:38:18,280 --> 00:38:19,840
Speaker 1: miss that, and how and.

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Speaker 7: How you don't check in, like, hey, your husband and

766
00:38:22,040 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 7: your son are going to be here, just wanting to

767
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Speaker 7: see why you're not coming.

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Speaker 6: Everything good?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, you think it would be automatic too, since husband's

770
00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:34,440
Speaker 8: in the wedding, Yeah, and the son's in the wedding

771
00:38:34,920 --> 00:38:38,000
Speaker 8: or child's in the wedding ring bear, and it's like

772
00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:38,840
Speaker 8: automatic what?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? At worst, I feel it's a get pointed exclusion.

774
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:44,560
Speaker 1: I'm not sure which stings more. My husband is going

775
00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:46,759
Speaker 1: to handle the conversation with his brother to figure out

776
00:38:46,800 --> 00:38:49,120
Speaker 1: what is going on because I generally don't trust myself

777
00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:50,920
Speaker 1: to be polite and keep the peace. There was no

778
00:38:51,000 --> 00:38:53,319
Speaker 1: other drama leading up to this that I was aware of.

779
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 1: I have a good relationship with my in laws, so yeah,

780
00:38:56,280 --> 00:38:58,799
Speaker 1: this is totally out of left field for me and

781
00:38:58,880 --> 00:39:01,840
Speaker 1: my husband. I'd love to your thoughts, especially for people

782
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:04,480
Speaker 1: who have gone through something similar. I don't typically touch

783
00:39:04,520 --> 00:39:07,400
Speaker 1: weddings with work, so this is all new territory for

784
00:39:07,480 --> 00:39:10,640
Speaker 1: me as a pseudo vendor guest. My husband wants to

785
00:39:10,640 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 1: reach out and talk to his brother first, but I'm

786
00:39:12,520 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: so tempted to reach out to my mother in law

787
00:39:15,080 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: before our usual meet up tomorrow to see if she

788
00:39:17,520 --> 00:39:19,840
Speaker 1: knows anything. And we got an edit from one of

789
00:39:19,880 --> 00:39:22,839
Speaker 1: the comments small update. Husband and brother in law are

790
00:39:22,880 --> 00:39:25,759
Speaker 1: talking now. Brother in law was not working today last

791
00:39:25,840 --> 00:39:28,200
Speaker 1: night and was helping father in law with something this evening.

792
00:39:28,440 --> 00:39:30,759
Speaker 1: When I called mother in law, she had brother in

793
00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:33,359
Speaker 1: law call husband right away. From what mother in law

794
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,880
Speaker 1: and I can hear, we're snoopy. My husband was muted

795
00:39:36,920 --> 00:39:40,320
Speaker 1: on brother in law's phone and my contact was deleted.

796
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:44,279
Speaker 1: Brother in law can't log into the wedding website, so

797
00:39:44,320 --> 00:39:47,200
Speaker 1: he can't check to see if there are rsvprs there.

798
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:49,280
Speaker 1: I'm not sure if I want to become a fire

799
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: for myself. They get some popcorn as I watch a

800
00:39:52,880 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 1: mother in law pop off. We got another edit form

801
00:39:56,600 --> 00:39:59,879
Speaker 1: the comments. Okay, last update for the night. I am tied.

802
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 1: It'd have been overwhelmed by all of responses. I'm sorry

803
00:40:01,760 --> 00:40:04,160
Speaker 1: I haven't replied to them again. Thank you for your

804
00:40:04,200 --> 00:40:07,319
Speaker 1: advice general support. This is really weird and upsetting. So

805
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 1: my husband finally got a hold of brother in law

806
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:12,239
Speaker 1: after I called mother in law. No one else knew

807
00:40:12,280 --> 00:40:14,560
Speaker 1: this was going on. While they were talking, brother in

808
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:17,000
Speaker 1: law tried logging into their wedding website to see if

809
00:40:17,000 --> 00:40:19,160
Speaker 1: it was a mistake or mister understanding, but he couldn't

810
00:40:19,160 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 1: walk in, so he took her sister allowed to see

811
00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:23,839
Speaker 1: if she changed the password, and she just told him

812
00:40:24,080 --> 00:40:27,800
Speaker 1: to come home instead. That's weird. This set off three

813
00:40:27,840 --> 00:40:31,680
Speaker 1: alarm One. Brother in law ended the call with husband

814
00:40:31,719 --> 00:40:34,200
Speaker 1: to call sister in law about why she couldn't answer

815
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:38,160
Speaker 1: simple question. Two mother in law popped off about how

816
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:40,640
Speaker 1: dare that woman exclude op and three mother in law

817
00:40:40,640 --> 00:40:42,600
Speaker 1: and father in law popped off, and but her other

818
00:40:42,719 --> 00:40:45,520
Speaker 1: in law for already living with sister in law. They

819
00:40:45,560 --> 00:40:47,800
Speaker 1: are very religious and traditional and don't believe that a

820
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:51,600
Speaker 1: couple should live together for marriage. Husband and I sympathize

821
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Speaker 1: with brother in law. Brother in law and sister in

822
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:56,160
Speaker 1: law argued over the phone. Apparently she started claiming that

823
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Speaker 1: it was an unfortunate glitch, it was too late to

824
00:40:58,600 --> 00:41:01,680
Speaker 1: add another seat now. Then it was that we never jibed,

825
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:05,160
Speaker 1: and it would be really bad if I went home early.

826
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Speaker 1: Plus I could take our son home with me because

827
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Speaker 1: he would be tired by then at five pm. This

828
00:41:10,760 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 1: woman does not know kids. Then it was I've always

829
00:41:14,360 --> 00:41:17,359
Speaker 1: been mean and excluding her from things, so it is

830
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:21,479
Speaker 1: on purpose, even though she's never invited me to any

831
00:41:21,520 --> 00:41:23,880
Speaker 1: of the fun girly wedding events. At this point, my

832
00:41:23,960 --> 00:41:25,799
Speaker 1: husband and I are glued to my phone and we're

833
00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:27,960
Speaker 1: hearing yelling from all four of them until sister in

834
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:30,480
Speaker 1: law hangs up. Brother in law is spending the night

835
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Speaker 1: at his parents and is unsure about the wedding. Now

836
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:38,120
Speaker 1: we have now we're now entering call off the wedding territory.

837
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Speaker 1: He plans and going home tomorrow with husband going with

838
00:41:41,840 --> 00:41:44,360
Speaker 1: for moral support. I'll be going with hubby to my

839
00:41:44,440 --> 00:41:46,560
Speaker 1: in laws to hang out until we hear back about

840
00:41:46,600 --> 00:41:49,839
Speaker 1: the situation at the battlefront. Just to clarify something from

841
00:41:49,880 --> 00:41:52,840
Speaker 1: the original post, I did not plan everything for the wedding.

842
00:41:52,880 --> 00:41:55,240
Speaker 1: I offered to bring food for a small luncheon between

843
00:41:55,239 --> 00:41:58,240
Speaker 1: photos ten am and the ceremony four pm, as dinner

844
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:00,719
Speaker 1: wasn't planned until six pm. It was going to be

845
00:42:00,760 --> 00:42:02,880
Speaker 1: a long day at the farm in the middle of nowhere.

846
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,680
Speaker 1: I offered to do it to be nice, but also

847
00:42:05,719 --> 00:42:07,919
Speaker 1: to make sure no one is specifically a certain four

848
00:42:08,000 --> 00:42:10,719
Speaker 1: year old would be angry for the ceremony. Sister in

849
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 1: law also only used one of my vendor contacts, so

850
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:18,839
Speaker 1: with things going south, a professionalation shouldn't really be impacted.

851
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: And we have a small update. But yeah, it seems

852
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,440
Speaker 1: like it was. It was intentional spread flag, which I

853
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:29,520
Speaker 1: understand why Brother in law is like, I don't know

854
00:42:29,560 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: why won't got married to the Yeah, we got an update.

855
00:42:32,400 --> 00:42:35,440
Speaker 1: Turns out the no seat for op issue was the

856
00:42:35,560 --> 00:42:40,759
Speaker 1: problem that broke brother in law's relationship and we're a

857
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:43,239
Speaker 1: bit upset. Brother in law didn't talk to anyone about

858
00:42:43,239 --> 00:42:45,440
Speaker 1: this until it blew up. Behind the scenes, brother in

859
00:42:45,560 --> 00:42:47,719
Speaker 1: law and sister a lot were having arguments about their

860
00:42:47,760 --> 00:42:51,160
Speaker 1: future together. Most of these arguments centered around having kids.

861
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,640
Speaker 1: Early on, sister in law gave the impression that she

862
00:42:53,760 --> 00:42:56,560
Speaker 1: wanted children someday, but as they got more serious, she

863
00:42:56,640 --> 00:42:59,680
Speaker 1: started backtracking. A few months ago, brother in law realized

864
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:03,000
Speaker 1: that it's very likely sister in law never wanted kids

865
00:43:03,239 --> 00:43:06,000
Speaker 1: but felt too invested in the relationship to leave. But

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00:43:06,040 --> 00:43:09,600
Speaker 1: brother in law always imagined having a large family, so

867
00:43:09,719 --> 00:43:12,160
Speaker 1: this really shook him. On top of that, sister law

868
00:43:12,200 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: apparently had jealousy and insecurity issues for brother in law.

869
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:21,319
Speaker 1: I've been her latest target, so sister law was jealous.

870
00:43:21,040 --> 00:43:25,600
Speaker 7: Wow of op backtracking about a lot, which started when

871
00:43:25,640 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 7: I turned down going to a manny petty with her.

872
00:43:29,280 --> 00:43:31,680
Speaker 1: Why did I turn a down? Well, husband and son

873
00:43:32,080 --> 00:43:34,399
Speaker 1: had wrote a virus. Apparently I was icing her out

874
00:43:34,440 --> 00:43:38,960
Speaker 1: by not wanting to spread a gastro intestinal doom. Can

875
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:42,040
Speaker 1: anyone please explain that logic to us? Lastly, sister in

876
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: law was apparently already floating the idea of disinviting our

877
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: son from the reception because he would have been the

878
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 1: only small child there. Brother in law shut that down immediately,

879
00:43:51,040 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 1: and mother in law slash father in law kept that

880
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 1: knowledge from us to spare our feelings ergo. Our lost

881
00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:01,880
Speaker 1: RSVP was not a software glitch, nor was it in oversight,

882
00:44:01,920 --> 00:44:06,080
Speaker 1: but rather a stupidly calculated move. Sister law was apparently

883
00:44:06,120 --> 00:44:08,600
Speaker 1: hoping one of two things would happen. Either I would

884
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:11,200
Speaker 1: make a scene about being disinvited and would be seen

885
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 1: with the problem, or we would quietly accept our fate

886
00:44:14,600 --> 00:44:17,759
Speaker 1: and she would not have to deal with two undesirables

887
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 1: at a reception. With all this in mind, I can't

888
00:44:20,560 --> 00:44:23,400
Speaker 1: figure out why she would have messaged my husband instead

889
00:44:23,400 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 1: of me. Was she trying to cause more family drama? Again,

890
00:44:26,560 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 1: the logic is not logicing. There's a little bit more

891
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:30,799
Speaker 1: of the story and we're going to go straight on

892
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:34,000
Speaker 1: into it. Brother in law was already feeling some uncertainty

893
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:37,279
Speaker 1: because of the shifting kids slash no kids conversation, but

894
00:44:37,440 --> 00:44:41,239
Speaker 1: the deliberate seating stunt gave him the last push and

895
00:44:41,320 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: clarity he needed. Brother in law told my husband it

896
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:47,440
Speaker 1: was a level of manipulation and cruelty that he could

897
00:44:47,480 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: not overlook, so he ended things ask for the ring back.

898
00:44:51,200 --> 00:44:52,759
Speaker 1: Do you think brother in law was right to do that?

899
00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:54,360
Speaker 3: Oh? Yeah, yeah?

900
00:44:54,480 --> 00:44:57,120
Speaker 6: She had been lying about so much Between that.

901
00:44:57,520 --> 00:45:00,880
Speaker 1: And the kids. Kids, that's a big thing. That's a

902
00:45:00,880 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 1: big thing, even if she wasn't lying, and she just

903
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:06,080
Speaker 1: like like kind of came to the realization that would

904
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:08,760
Speaker 1: be a reason end of the relationship too. Yeah, no wedding,

905
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:13,960
Speaker 1: no reception, just a super messy, emotionally heavy and expensive breakup.

906
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:16,120
Speaker 1: And I feel so bad for brother in law. He's

907
00:45:16,160 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 1: going through so much heartache right now, but he deserves

908
00:45:18,480 --> 00:45:20,759
Speaker 1: a better partner. Hopefully sister in law can find a

909
00:45:20,800 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: family dynamic that doesn't feel like a never ending battlefield.

910
00:45:25,120 --> 00:45:27,720
Speaker 1: That's all for now. I'm still tired, I'm still flabbergasted,

911
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 1: but I'm also relieved this wedding arc is coming to

912
00:45:30,880 --> 00:45:33,719
Speaker 1: an end. We got some comments coming one still better

913
00:45:33,760 --> 00:45:37,520
Speaker 1: than finding out after the wedding through yes, Op, he responds,

914
00:45:37,520 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 1: so true. I wish she told us how sister in

915
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:41,439
Speaker 1: law took the news. I'm surprised she didn't lash out

916
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:44,959
Speaker 1: at op for ruining her life another drama and comment too,

917
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: she's probably jealous of mother in law. No pea get

918
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: along and like each other. We're snoopy me up and comment.

919
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:55,520
Speaker 1: Three children are one thing you can't compromise over. He

920
00:45:55,560 --> 00:45:58,120
Speaker 1: would have built up so much resentment, wanting kids while

921
00:45:58,120 --> 00:46:01,280
Speaker 1: all his family and friends are having the best outcome

922
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 1: for everyone in the long run, and comment four rather

923
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:06,280
Speaker 1: than laugh, I was hurting now. But when he gets

924
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:08,640
Speaker 1: with the right person who honors his values and it

925
00:46:08,719 --> 00:46:11,120
Speaker 1: is easy to live with, he will be extremely happy

926
00:46:11,360 --> 00:46:12,319
Speaker 1: to have gone through this.

927
00:46:13,600 --> 00:46:16,239
Speaker 9: My sister is treating me badly because of the things

928
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:17,799
Speaker 9: that I cannot control.

929
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:20,880
Speaker 3: If you can't control them, she can't get mad at you.

930
00:46:21,239 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 9: And Triger warning, this does mention miscarriage, so please get

931
00:46:25,680 --> 00:46:27,880
Speaker 9: on by if you don't want to listen to that.

932
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,320
Speaker 9: Growing up, me and my sister, let's call her Sally,

933
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 9: used to be really close, which got better in our twenties.

934
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,560
Speaker 9: Sally was even there and supported me through hard times.

935
00:46:35,800 --> 00:46:37,960
Speaker 9: I in turn was there for her and supported her

936
00:46:38,000 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 9: through everything that she went through as well. By the way,

937
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,319
Speaker 9: this comes from Present Cicada sixty four to sixty nine,

938
00:46:43,360 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 9: And if you want to submit your own stories, go

939
00:46:44,960 --> 00:46:47,600
Speaker 9: to the r slush Okay Storytime Separreddit. I had thought

940
00:46:47,640 --> 00:46:49,960
Speaker 9: this had brought us so much closer together that we

941
00:46:49,960 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 9: were nearly insuperable, especially since I had moved back home.

942
00:46:53,280 --> 00:46:56,080
Speaker 3: Heck, we even gave each of our children our middle names.

943
00:46:56,320 --> 00:46:57,360
Speaker 3: We were that close.

944
00:46:57,520 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 9: Shortly after Sally was released from the hospital, she started

945
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:03,759
Speaker 9: distancing from everyone. She constantly kept dropping her son off

946
00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:06,160
Speaker 9: with our mom so she could drink. I remember one

947
00:47:06,239 --> 00:47:09,319
Speaker 9: day clearly where I had overheard her telling our mom

948
00:47:09,400 --> 00:47:11,600
Speaker 9: she was off to drink again, and she had been

949
00:47:11,640 --> 00:47:14,080
Speaker 9: doing nothing but drinking because that's the only way that

950
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:15,919
Speaker 9: she was able to deal with what she went through.

951
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:18,400
Speaker 3: What did she go through? I would love to know,

952
00:47:18,640 --> 00:47:21,719
Speaker 3: but I'm also scared to find out and what happened.

953
00:47:21,880 --> 00:47:24,440
Speaker 9: I had spoken up and said, but Sally, that's not

954
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:28,160
Speaker 9: the best solution for not only you, but Zero or Jack.

955
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:31,120
Speaker 3: Zero especially needs you right now. He doesn't know what's

956
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:31,560
Speaker 3: going on.

957
00:47:31,719 --> 00:47:34,239
Speaker 9: Sally had made some comments, so I suggested, if it

958
00:47:34,320 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 9: was a money issue thing, to go to this therapy

959
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:38,799
Speaker 9: place because her insurance would cover it there. We both

960
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:42,319
Speaker 9: had the same insurance. After this exchange, Sally distanced herself more.

961
00:47:42,440 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 9: Roughly a year and a half ago, I met my

962
00:47:44,200 --> 00:47:46,360
Speaker 9: now husband. Long story short, we did the Birds and

963
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:48,560
Speaker 9: the Bees and got lucky. The very first night we

964
00:47:48,560 --> 00:47:51,120
Speaker 9: were alone and found out that we were expecting a

965
00:47:51,120 --> 00:47:53,799
Speaker 9: few weeks later, we had a discussion and talk where

966
00:47:53,840 --> 00:47:55,759
Speaker 9: because me and my family had lost so much the

967
00:47:55,760 --> 00:47:57,839
Speaker 9: previous year. We were going to keep it quiet and

968
00:47:57,880 --> 00:47:59,919
Speaker 9: not tell anyone until we got out of the danger.

969
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:03,560
Speaker 3: So then Easter time rolled around, and I had.

970
00:48:03,440 --> 00:48:06,120
Speaker 9: This cute idea, since we were somewhat in the clear,

971
00:48:06,280 --> 00:48:08,680
Speaker 9: to announce it through an Easter card where we would

972
00:48:08,680 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 9: do our own custom scratch off where it says somebody

973
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:15,919
Speaker 9: is excited to meet you. We had literally mailed out

974
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 9: everyone's card, even though some of them lived in the

975
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 9: same city, but not Sally's, because I wanted to hand

976
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 9: deliver it to her and tell her myself so.

977
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:24,319
Speaker 3: That way I could be there for her.

978
00:48:24,360 --> 00:48:26,319
Speaker 9: I thought it would be better or easier coming from

979
00:48:26,320 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 9: me that way, considering everything she's been through.

980
00:48:28,680 --> 00:48:31,160
Speaker 3: She immediately snatched it out of my hand, didn't.

981
00:48:30,960 --> 00:48:32,600
Speaker 9: Even give me a chance to talk, so that she

982
00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 9: needed to get on the road to our dads. So

983
00:48:34,600 --> 00:48:36,480
Speaker 9: I asked her could she look at it before she

984
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:38,759
Speaker 9: went to his house and call me so that we

985
00:48:38,800 --> 00:48:40,840
Speaker 9: could talk about it. Sally never called me, and I

986
00:48:40,880 --> 00:48:43,279
Speaker 9: didn't realize that that would be the last time that

987
00:48:43,320 --> 00:48:45,799
Speaker 9: I would ever truly talk to her. Next thing, I know,

988
00:48:45,960 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 9: my phone is being blown up by my mom saying

989
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 9: to prepare myself. Because of course my dad didn't listen.

990
00:48:50,840 --> 00:48:52,560
Speaker 9: I called him prior and asked him not to say

991
00:48:52,560 --> 00:48:54,759
Speaker 9: anything unless she brought it up, and he ruined it

992
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:58,160
Speaker 9: by bombarding her with what her thoughts were on my news.

993
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:00,680
Speaker 9: Mom even mentioned Sally got even more or upset after

994
00:49:00,719 --> 00:49:03,560
Speaker 9: she talked to her because Mom had told her everything too.

995
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 9: I was really confused about what was going on and

996
00:49:05,760 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 9: what she was talking about, so I asked my mom,

997
00:49:08,040 --> 00:49:10,080
Speaker 9: what on earth did she mean. I knew that she

998
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:12,560
Speaker 9: was probably going to be upset and trying my mess

999
00:49:12,600 --> 00:49:14,840
Speaker 9: to lessen the blow the best I could, but nothing

1000
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:16,640
Speaker 9: prepared being for what Mom told me.

1001
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 1: Next.

1002
00:49:17,360 --> 00:49:18,759
Speaker 3: Mom goes, well.

1003
00:49:18,600 --> 00:49:20,799
Speaker 9: You know, of course, the do date, and I was like,

1004
00:49:20,840 --> 00:49:23,359
Speaker 9: what about it? It's just a date and for all

1005
00:49:23,360 --> 00:49:24,879
Speaker 9: we know, it could change in a couple of weeks.

1006
00:49:25,000 --> 00:49:27,480
Speaker 9: Once we had the anatomy scan, That's where I was

1007
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:30,319
Speaker 9: informed and told that that was Sally's DU date and

1008
00:49:30,400 --> 00:49:32,680
Speaker 9: that's when her daughter was supposed to be born the

1009
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:36,400
Speaker 9: year prior. My mouth literally dropped open and I couldn't

1010
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 9: believe my ears. So I said, your kid. Mom goes, no, honey,

1011
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:41,960
Speaker 9: that was Sally's do date.

1012
00:49:42,000 --> 00:49:42,200
Speaker 3: Too.

1013
00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:44,960
Speaker 9: I had no idea and no clue because Sally never

1014
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:47,000
Speaker 9: actually told me her d date. I never knew when

1015
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 9: the baby she lost was due. I didn't even put

1016
00:49:49,520 --> 00:49:51,399
Speaker 9: that in the card. So I told mom, I wish

1017
00:49:51,480 --> 00:49:53,919
Speaker 9: she hadn't said anything and let me be the one

1018
00:49:53,960 --> 00:49:56,360
Speaker 9: to tell her. So I typed up this long heartfelt

1019
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:59,440
Speaker 9: message apologizing because she wouldn't answer her phone, saying that

1020
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:01,840
Speaker 9: I had no clue and I understood where she was

1021
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:04,359
Speaker 9: coming from and how she felt that if she needed time,

1022
00:50:04,560 --> 00:50:06,640
Speaker 9: I understood and would let her come to me when

1023
00:50:06,640 --> 00:50:09,799
Speaker 9: she was ready. Days weeks, months go by with no

1024
00:50:09,880 --> 00:50:13,280
Speaker 9: communication with her at all. Anytime we were nearby, she'd

1025
00:50:13,360 --> 00:50:16,240
Speaker 9: leave or close herself off in another room. She legit

1026
00:50:16,320 --> 00:50:18,880
Speaker 9: avoided me, like I was the plague. I had word

1027
00:50:18,960 --> 00:50:21,120
Speaker 9: getting back to me that she was pissed and upset

1028
00:50:21,120 --> 00:50:23,399
Speaker 9: that not only did I get pregnant, but I had

1029
00:50:23,440 --> 00:50:25,719
Speaker 9: to do it a year later and I had to.

1030
00:50:25,680 --> 00:50:29,319
Speaker 3: Get her due date. B Oh, do you not understand how? What?

1031
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 8: Yeah?

1032
00:50:30,120 --> 00:50:32,760
Speaker 3: She didn't even know, and she's not like you can't

1033
00:50:32,760 --> 00:50:36,360
Speaker 3: pick your due date? Yeah, Like that's not how that works.

1034
00:50:36,520 --> 00:50:39,760
Speaker 9: She just either wanted to get pregnant or maybe sounded

1035
00:50:39,800 --> 00:50:42,280
Speaker 9: like it was kind of an accident, so like that's

1036
00:50:42,320 --> 00:50:45,680
Speaker 9: she wasn't doing this like maliciously to try to get

1037
00:50:45,719 --> 00:50:48,080
Speaker 9: back at you with this. Also, yeah, pregnancies are a

1038
00:50:48,120 --> 00:50:50,440
Speaker 9: long time, so there's gonna be like a lot of

1039
00:50:50,760 --> 00:50:53,799
Speaker 9: time in the year that those pregnancies are gonna like

1040
00:50:53,840 --> 00:50:56,319
Speaker 9: overlap with like exact anniversary stuff like.

1041
00:50:56,520 --> 00:50:57,720
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I.

1042
00:50:57,600 --> 00:50:59,640
Speaker 9: Was given the impression that I had pretty much taken

1043
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:01,479
Speaker 9: her babe from her in a way.

1044
00:51:01,560 --> 00:51:03,720
Speaker 3: I tried my hardest and best.

1045
00:51:03,400 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 9: Not to take it personally, because I knew exactly what

1046
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:07,600
Speaker 9: she was going through and I knew how hard this

1047
00:51:07,800 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 9: was for her. But at the same time, I was

1048
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:12,640
Speaker 9: really hurt and upset because my best friend had abandoned me.

1049
00:51:12,760 --> 00:51:15,040
Speaker 9: The day comes for the anatomy scan, where we were

1050
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:17,040
Speaker 9: informed that we were having a boy, as well as

1051
00:51:17,040 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 9: being told another potential due date was coming, but that

1052
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:22,359
Speaker 9: they were keeping the later one to give him time

1053
00:51:22,360 --> 00:51:22,760
Speaker 9: to cook.

1054
00:51:22,880 --> 00:51:24,880
Speaker 3: I thought this would solve and fix everything.

1055
00:51:24,960 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 9: How foolish of me to think that I contacted this

1056
00:51:27,880 --> 00:51:31,160
Speaker 9: lady on Etsy that made this adorable Disney themed gender reveal.

1057
00:51:31,280 --> 00:51:33,880
Speaker 9: Once it was finished and completed, we sent it to everyone.

1058
00:51:34,040 --> 00:51:37,120
Speaker 9: I personally messaged my sister with another heartfelt message letting

1059
00:51:37,160 --> 00:51:38,319
Speaker 9: her know the new du date.

1060
00:51:38,360 --> 00:51:40,320
Speaker 3: I left out the fact that doctors weren't.

1061
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:42,560
Speaker 9: Switching it, though, hoping that it could help prepare things

1062
00:51:42,640 --> 00:51:44,960
Speaker 9: or at least start the process. I continued to be

1063
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:49,160
Speaker 9: avoided and ignored. Around summertime, I started having pregnancy issues

1064
00:51:49,200 --> 00:51:50,839
Speaker 9: so bad to the point that I ended up having

1065
00:51:50,880 --> 00:51:53,560
Speaker 9: to quit my job or risk my pregnancy. Not even

1066
00:51:53,560 --> 00:51:55,720
Speaker 9: a week or two after I quit, I went into

1067
00:51:55,800 --> 00:51:58,880
Speaker 9: labor the following Saturday, only to still be in labor

1068
00:51:58,960 --> 00:52:01,920
Speaker 9: that Monday. It all started Saturday, I was cramping and

1069
00:52:01,960 --> 00:52:04,040
Speaker 9: really hurting, so I decided to take a shower to

1070
00:52:04,040 --> 00:52:05,880
Speaker 9: see if it could help ease my pain, and then

1071
00:52:06,000 --> 00:52:08,359
Speaker 9: ended up deciding to go in due to heavy flow

1072
00:52:08,400 --> 00:52:10,280
Speaker 9: that was so bad that I thought I was losing

1073
00:52:10,360 --> 00:52:12,480
Speaker 9: the baby. Mom was a huge help took my other

1074
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:13,879
Speaker 9: kid so I had nothing to worry about.

1075
00:52:13,920 --> 00:52:14,680
Speaker 3: At some point, my.

1076
00:52:14,680 --> 00:52:18,640
Speaker 9: Water breaks slowly, but labor keeps starting and stopping. Well,

1077
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:22,360
Speaker 9: Monday comes around still no baby, and labor at that

1078
00:52:22,440 --> 00:52:25,319
Speaker 9: point had completely stopped and I was sitting at a

1079
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:28,200
Speaker 9: six long story short I ended up having a c section,

1080
00:52:28,320 --> 00:52:30,840
Speaker 9: which I had never experienced before. All my other births

1081
00:52:30,840 --> 00:52:34,080
Speaker 9: were natural. Everything was super scary and happening so fast,

1082
00:52:34,239 --> 00:52:36,600
Speaker 9: not to mention six weeks way too soon.

1083
00:52:36,800 --> 00:52:38,439
Speaker 3: Oh wow, a long time.

1084
00:52:38,600 --> 00:52:40,680
Speaker 9: Yeah, our baby ends up and then I see you

1085
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:43,040
Speaker 9: and I end up in the hospital for an additional

1086
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:45,319
Speaker 9: four days on top of the three that I already had.

1087
00:52:45,360 --> 00:52:47,840
Speaker 9: When our baby was finally released, we decided to surprise

1088
00:52:47,920 --> 00:52:50,400
Speaker 9: everyone because it was sooner than expected. I had no

1089
00:52:50,520 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 9: idea she was at my mom's house until I was

1090
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:55,120
Speaker 9: at the front door having him taken from me by

1091
00:52:55,160 --> 00:52:58,239
Speaker 9: her holding him bawling. I didn't mind too terribly much

1092
00:52:58,280 --> 00:53:00,240
Speaker 9: because I thought it might help her, and I thought

1093
00:53:00,239 --> 00:53:02,360
Speaker 9: maybe she would finally start talking to me, so we

1094
00:53:02,440 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 9: allowed it.

1095
00:53:02,960 --> 00:53:05,880
Speaker 3: But still even after that, she continued the ignoring.

1096
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:08,040
Speaker 9: We went up to my grandma's for her ninety sixth

1097
00:53:08,120 --> 00:53:10,560
Speaker 9: birthday back in March this year, where we didn't realize

1098
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:12,759
Speaker 9: they were all going to be there. She didn't nor

1099
00:53:12,840 --> 00:53:16,479
Speaker 9: Jack really interacted with us until a little later during

1100
00:53:16,480 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 9: the day. Me and my husband went looking for our

1101
00:53:18,600 --> 00:53:21,399
Speaker 9: other two, only to run some mac dad into them

1102
00:53:21,520 --> 00:53:24,520
Speaker 9: in the garage. I wish we never went in because

1103
00:53:24,640 --> 00:53:27,600
Speaker 9: we caught them smoking it up and thanks to us

1104
00:53:27,640 --> 00:53:31,040
Speaker 9: going in, it was now wafting all over my grandma's house.

1105
00:53:31,200 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 9: Now that she was medicated so to speak, she again

1106
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:36,799
Speaker 9: took our son and actually talked to us. It was

1107
00:53:36,840 --> 00:53:39,839
Speaker 9: almost as if it were old times. Time comes around

1108
00:53:39,920 --> 00:53:41,480
Speaker 9: for all of us to start heading home. When she

1109
00:53:41,600 --> 00:53:44,239
Speaker 9: asked our dad about filling her tank, he said yeah,

1110
00:53:44,280 --> 00:53:46,360
Speaker 9: of course, and offered to fill ours too since we

1111
00:53:46,480 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 9: managed to make it too. My daughter was super happy

1112
00:53:49,480 --> 00:53:51,440
Speaker 9: and asked if she could ride with Sally to the

1113
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:54,439
Speaker 9: gas station, to which she said yes until Jack caught

1114
00:53:54,480 --> 00:53:56,440
Speaker 9: wind and put it to an end. This broke my

1115
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:59,600
Speaker 9: daughter's heart, and when she looked up, Sally was out

1116
00:53:59,600 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 9: her vehicle in it, promising and swearing that she'll make

1117
00:54:02,480 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 9: it up to her and that she'll give her hugs

1118
00:54:04,719 --> 00:54:06,719
Speaker 9: after they filled it up. Next thing I know, I'm

1119
00:54:06,760 --> 00:54:09,000
Speaker 9: hearing my daughter bawling in the back seat, so I

1120
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 9: ask what's wrong, only to realize they left. She was

1121
00:54:12,239 --> 00:54:15,320
Speaker 9: asking why Sally lied and if she loved her anymore.

1122
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:19,560
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, that is so sad. Pali stop this.

1123
00:54:20,480 --> 00:54:22,600
Speaker 9: My dad asked what was wrong, so I explained the

1124
00:54:22,600 --> 00:54:24,799
Speaker 9: whole situation and told him not to worry about it.

1125
00:54:24,840 --> 00:54:27,080
Speaker 9: So should have known that he would have called her,

1126
00:54:27,200 --> 00:54:29,800
Speaker 9: because as we were going down the highway, she calls,

1127
00:54:29,840 --> 00:54:33,200
Speaker 9: apologizing and telling her that she's sorry, but ends up

1128
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 9: hanging up because we didn't really have anything to say.

1129
00:54:36,040 --> 00:54:38,759
Speaker 9: Back in April, my oldest had a bus incident where

1130
00:54:38,800 --> 00:54:39,880
Speaker 9: his life was threatened.

1131
00:54:39,920 --> 00:54:40,280
Speaker 3: Oh wow.

1132
00:54:40,360 --> 00:54:42,719
Speaker 9: We of course reported to the school, who does an

1133
00:54:42,800 --> 00:54:45,279
Speaker 9: investigation on the whole situation. A few days go by

1134
00:54:45,360 --> 00:54:47,280
Speaker 9: when we get a call saying that we'd be happy

1135
00:54:47,280 --> 00:54:49,360
Speaker 9: to know that everything was found to be true, the

1136
00:54:49,440 --> 00:54:51,960
Speaker 9: kid is being taken care of and that they handled

1137
00:54:52,000 --> 00:54:55,160
Speaker 9: everything over tooth cops to handle it legally. Of course,

1138
00:54:55,200 --> 00:54:57,640
Speaker 9: I called to update my mom, who goes, that's wonderful

1139
00:54:57,800 --> 00:55:00,000
Speaker 9: and that Sally will be thrilled to know that, which

1140
00:55:00,000 --> 00:55:02,880
Speaker 9: w s piqued my interest, so I asked why where

1141
00:55:03,280 --> 00:55:06,240
Speaker 9: my mom informs me that Sally said that my oldest

1142
00:55:06,280 --> 00:55:06,640
Speaker 9: is a.

1143
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:08,720
Speaker 3: Liar, so he couldn't be telling the truth.

1144
00:55:08,800 --> 00:55:12,960
Speaker 9: Also, for the record, this entire time, she wasn't just ignoring, avoiding,

1145
00:55:13,040 --> 00:55:15,879
Speaker 9: and mistreating me, but also my husband, whom she never

1146
00:55:16,000 --> 00:55:18,359
Speaker 9: actually truly met or got to know, as well as

1147
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:21,560
Speaker 9: my oldest. Sally interacted with and talked with my daughter some,

1148
00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:22,840
Speaker 9: but she even got some of it.

1149
00:55:22,960 --> 00:55:24,600
Speaker 3: This was the last straw for me.

1150
00:55:24,719 --> 00:55:28,440
Speaker 9: I immediately blocked and deleted her on everything, took myself

1151
00:55:28,480 --> 00:55:31,960
Speaker 9: out of everything connected to her. As time passed, I've

1152
00:55:32,120 --> 00:55:35,840
Speaker 9: avoided and steered away from conversations that involved If anyone

1153
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:38,400
Speaker 9: asks me questions, I informed them that I've cut her

1154
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:41,280
Speaker 9: out and don't know or care. I informed my parents

1155
00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:43,640
Speaker 9: to stop letting her know things about my family and

1156
00:55:43,760 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 9: that we were completely done with her, as well as

1157
00:55:46,280 --> 00:55:48,240
Speaker 9: let them know that I don't want to know anything

1158
00:55:48,280 --> 00:55:50,800
Speaker 9: about them either. It's one thing to treat me terribly

1159
00:55:50,800 --> 00:55:54,240
Speaker 9: and horribly, but it's another to turn that towards my children.

1160
00:55:54,280 --> 00:55:56,680
Speaker 9: My parents keep telling me to hang in there. She'll

1161
00:55:56,680 --> 00:55:59,719
Speaker 9: come around eventually, but I'm like, it'll be too late

1162
00:55:59,719 --> 00:56:01,080
Speaker 9: by the because I'm done.

1163
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:03,080
Speaker 3: So am I the a hole for cutting her and

1164
00:56:03,160 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 3: her family out? I don't think you're the a hole

1165
00:56:06,120 --> 00:56:08,239
Speaker 3: for a needing. I think at a certain point you

1166
00:56:08,280 --> 00:56:10,520
Speaker 3: have to do it to protect your own mental health,

1167
00:56:10,600 --> 00:56:13,560
Speaker 3: especially because she's Yeah, she's getting attacking you for things

1168
00:56:13,600 --> 00:56:16,919
Speaker 3: that you can't control. But I do think I would

1169
00:56:16,960 --> 00:56:19,239
Speaker 3: have a little bit more of an open mind on

1170
00:56:19,360 --> 00:56:22,960
Speaker 3: letting her come back into your life. Yeah, should she

1171
00:56:23,480 --> 00:56:27,520
Speaker 3: improve herself and apologize and actually try to be back

1172
00:56:27,520 --> 00:56:29,520
Speaker 3: in your life exactly. But that is the end of

1173
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:31,600
Speaker 3: that story. We've got another one coming right.

1174
00:56:33,280 --> 00:56:35,279
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1175
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:37,920
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Speaker 3: I want my sister out of my grandmother's house because

1178
00:56:43,040 --> 00:56:47,360
Speaker 3: she's taking advantage of her. Don't do that, Grandma. My sister,

1179
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:50,800
Speaker 3: thirty three year old Grace is the oldest of eight siblings,

1180
00:56:50,840 --> 00:56:53,200
Speaker 3: with me being one of the youngest at twenty two

1181
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,640
Speaker 3: as of this writing. From the time I was young,

1182
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:59,160
Speaker 3: I knew exactly that my oldest sister's family is. Relationship

1183
00:56:59,200 --> 00:57:02,479
Speaker 3: with my sisters, not my brother's was not good. In fact,

1184
00:57:02,520 --> 00:57:04,480
Speaker 3: it was getting worse and worse since she had entered

1185
00:57:04,520 --> 00:57:06,560
Speaker 3: high school and gone to New Jersey for a season.

1186
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:08,719
Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from Union mel And if

1187
00:57:08,760 --> 00:57:10,319
Speaker 3: you want to spit your own stories, go to the

1188
00:57:10,440 --> 00:57:13,400
Speaker 3: r slash. Okay, storytime separated. When my mother was alive,

1189
00:57:13,520 --> 00:57:15,520
Speaker 3: she would tell us about the number of things Grace

1190
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,680
Speaker 3: did towards my other two sisters, Letty twenty three and

1191
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:21,920
Speaker 3: Alison thirty. It was constant to hear about her messing

1192
00:57:21,920 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 3: with their boyfriends since they were teenagers, getting into fights.

1193
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:29,000
Speaker 3: In short, a probathletic person that my mom could never correct,

1194
00:57:29,120 --> 00:57:31,840
Speaker 3: even her methods weren't the most appropriate. I understand that

1195
00:57:31,880 --> 00:57:34,920
Speaker 3: since she turned seventeen, her life went completely off the

1196
00:57:35,000 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 3: rails to a point of no return, and before she

1197
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 3: turned eighteen, she ran off with the guy and they

1198
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:41,840
Speaker 3: got married. Of course, my mom was upset, but she

1199
00:57:41,840 --> 00:57:45,000
Speaker 3: couldn't say anything. Grace is a stubborn and proud person,

1200
00:57:45,160 --> 00:57:48,880
Speaker 3: but also extremely jealous. I have vague memories of my

1201
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:52,320
Speaker 3: three sisters and one brother leaving home so young, long

1202
00:57:52,400 --> 00:57:55,160
Speaker 3: before they turned twenty. The details behind that I will

1203
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 3: give it a separate update or post. But as time

1204
00:57:57,240 --> 00:57:59,760
Speaker 3: went on and as I became a teenager, they wanted

1205
00:57:59,800 --> 00:58:03,240
Speaker 3: to connect with my mother, but Grace prevented it. She

1206
00:58:03,280 --> 00:58:06,360
Speaker 3: would put conflicts between my siblings and my mother, like

1207
00:58:06,440 --> 00:58:09,160
Speaker 3: wanting to be the only daughter who deserved Grace did

1208
00:58:09,160 --> 00:58:12,000
Speaker 3: her best to separate my siblings from my mother. Even

1209
00:58:12,120 --> 00:58:14,520
Speaker 3: when my sister Letty passed away at the age of

1210
00:58:14,520 --> 00:58:17,880
Speaker 3: twenty three in an atrocious way. She was jealous that

1211
00:58:17,920 --> 00:58:20,560
Speaker 3: my mother mourned her and went into a deep depression.

1212
00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:23,960
Speaker 3: My other siblings eventually distanced themselves from my mother, and

1213
00:58:24,040 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 3: only my two younger sisters, Wendy seventeen and Mary fifteen,

1214
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:31,800
Speaker 3: and I remained attached to our mother. Years passed between

1215
00:58:31,800 --> 00:58:35,640
Speaker 3: conflicts I had with Grace, her divorce, several failed relationships,

1216
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:38,600
Speaker 3: and arguments with my mother, who was now normal. My mother,

1217
00:58:38,680 --> 00:58:40,480
Speaker 3: of course, had gotten used to it, who was the

1218
00:58:40,520 --> 00:58:42,640
Speaker 3: only older daughter who spoke to her and did not

1219
00:58:42,720 --> 00:58:45,360
Speaker 3: want to lose contact with her. More time passed, and

1220
00:58:45,440 --> 00:58:47,960
Speaker 3: my mother passed away of a heart attack in twenty

1221
00:58:48,000 --> 00:58:51,120
Speaker 3: twenty oh My sister abandoned us a few months later,

1222
00:58:51,200 --> 00:58:54,400
Speaker 3: and after living with the biological father of my younger sister,

1223
00:58:54,520 --> 00:58:57,240
Speaker 3: we were punted out and my grandmother took us in

1224
00:58:57,400 --> 00:59:00,160
Speaker 3: at the beginning of twenty twenty two. At that time,

1225
00:59:00,200 --> 00:59:02,680
Speaker 3: I was already studying at the university in another city,

1226
00:59:02,800 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 3: and because of the distance, I could not see my

1227
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:08,520
Speaker 3: grandmother so often only on vacations. My aunts and uncles,

1228
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:10,920
Speaker 3: I don't know what went through their minds, decided that

1229
00:59:10,960 --> 00:59:13,800
Speaker 3: my older sister should come back into our lives to

1230
00:59:13,880 --> 00:59:17,160
Speaker 3: take care of my grandmother, without taking into consideration that

1231
00:59:17,200 --> 00:59:19,440
Speaker 3: Wendy was helping out. But in these years it has

1232
00:59:19,480 --> 00:59:22,440
Speaker 3: been the opposite. Brace is treated like a queen with

1233
00:59:22,520 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 3: her daughters because my grandmother doesn't know how to say no.

1234
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:28,600
Speaker 3: My grandmother is very innocent and so noble hearted. She

1235
00:59:28,640 --> 00:59:31,840
Speaker 3: has worn herself out for years taking care of her. Now,

1236
00:59:31,920 --> 00:59:33,800
Speaker 3: what I came to the subpredate for is what has

1237
00:59:33,800 --> 00:59:36,520
Speaker 3: been going on for months. My grandmother noticed that lately

1238
00:59:36,640 --> 00:59:42,840
Speaker 3: several of her belongings had gone missing. Among those clothes, junk, jewelry, groceries.

1239
00:59:42,960 --> 00:59:46,160
Speaker 3: She put pieces together and realized that Race's oldest daughter

1240
00:59:46,360 --> 00:59:49,360
Speaker 3: and Grace herself, had been stealing from her. My grandmother

1241
00:59:49,440 --> 00:59:52,680
Speaker 3: at that moment realized it got sick because of that

1242
00:59:52,840 --> 00:59:56,080
Speaker 3: anger that had caused her. Plus she realized when Zoo,

1243
00:59:56,160 --> 00:59:59,680
Speaker 3: Grace's oldest daughter had stolen one thousand dollars of her

1244
00:59:59,720 --> 01:00:02,320
Speaker 3: saving when she realized that her briefcase was somewhere else,

1245
01:00:02,400 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 3: Oh my good.

1246
01:00:03,360 --> 01:00:03,840
Speaker 4: Wow.

1247
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:06,200
Speaker 3: To find out that these people like your family members,

1248
01:00:06,200 --> 01:00:09,480
Speaker 3: who you've been letting live with you, you know, I

1249
01:00:09,520 --> 01:00:12,040
Speaker 3: mean in part to take care of the grandmother, I think,

1250
01:00:12,080 --> 01:00:17,080
Speaker 3: but still yeahs have been stealing from you. Is yeah, terrible.

1251
01:00:17,120 --> 01:00:19,200
Speaker 3: My grandmother put up with it, but she hid her

1252
01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:22,760
Speaker 3: things better, but it was still useless. Every week something

1253
01:00:22,840 --> 01:00:25,480
Speaker 3: was stolen from her. Now, three days ago, my grandmother

1254
01:00:25,560 --> 01:00:27,640
Speaker 3: called me in the middle of a class in dismay.

1255
01:00:27,760 --> 01:00:31,440
Speaker 3: Grace had stolen a tablecloth with very strong sentimental value.

1256
01:00:31,480 --> 01:00:33,320
Speaker 3: It was one of the last things that my grandmother

1257
01:00:33,360 --> 01:00:35,880
Speaker 3: had given her for me. It was the last straw.

1258
01:00:36,000 --> 01:00:38,560
Speaker 3: My sister was biting the hand that fed her, something

1259
01:00:38,600 --> 01:00:41,360
Speaker 3: that not even her new husband gave her. Because yes,

1260
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 3: Grace remarried that same day. I told her that I

1261
01:00:44,040 --> 01:00:46,520
Speaker 3: would see how to throw Grace out of the house

1262
01:00:46,600 --> 01:00:49,280
Speaker 3: at any cost. It was either that or Grace would

1263
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:52,080
Speaker 3: steal the papers of the house and throw my grandmother out.

1264
01:00:52,200 --> 01:00:54,160
Speaker 3: And I want to avoid it before it's too late.

1265
01:00:54,320 --> 01:00:57,800
Speaker 3: But there is a huge detail. Several of my aunts

1266
01:00:57,800 --> 01:01:00,320
Speaker 3: and uncles would be against punting her out of the house.

1267
01:01:00,360 --> 01:01:03,400
Speaker 3: They would even punt my sister Wendy out before punting

1268
01:01:03,440 --> 01:01:06,320
Speaker 3: Grace out because they still think she's a good person.

1269
01:01:06,360 --> 01:01:08,080
Speaker 3: I still don't know what to do to punt her

1270
01:01:08,120 --> 01:01:10,600
Speaker 3: out and make my aunts and uncles realize what kind

1271
01:01:10,640 --> 01:01:13,320
Speaker 3: of person Grace really is. So am I the ale

1272
01:01:13,440 --> 01:01:15,800
Speaker 3: for wanting to punt my older sister out of my

1273
01:01:15,840 --> 01:01:18,680
Speaker 3: grandmother's house. There is an update, folks.

1274
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:20,200
Speaker 9: But what do you think, Well, I don't think so

1275
01:01:20,320 --> 01:01:24,800
Speaker 9: she's stealing, he's stealing. Yeah, yeah, that is more than

1276
01:01:24,920 --> 01:01:26,480
Speaker 9: enough reason just by itself.

1277
01:01:26,720 --> 01:01:30,560
Speaker 3: I agree. I agree. Yeah, so no, definitely not get

1278
01:01:30,600 --> 01:01:33,480
Speaker 3: her out of there. In short, my oldest sister, Grace

1279
01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:36,280
Speaker 3: is leaving tomorrow, but she made a scene to affect

1280
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:40,400
Speaker 3: my little sister and me and above all, my grandmother. Honestly,

1281
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:42,520
Speaker 3: I'm happy in one part, but in another, they are

1282
01:01:42,560 --> 01:01:46,120
Speaker 3: drama is making an unnecessary snowball. For context, I skipped

1283
01:01:46,160 --> 01:01:48,080
Speaker 3: college for a while to come see my grandma, and

1284
01:01:48,240 --> 01:01:50,600
Speaker 3: Grace seems to have used my time here to start

1285
01:01:50,680 --> 01:01:54,080
Speaker 3: turning me against my uncles. Honestly, it's the least of it.

1286
01:01:54,240 --> 01:01:56,360
Speaker 3: You get used to being gossiped about. But in the

1287
01:01:56,400 --> 01:01:58,880
Speaker 3: middle of that, Grace started saying that my grandmother was

1288
01:01:59,000 --> 01:02:01,760
Speaker 3: covering for me. I didn't do anything. I mean, all

1289
01:02:02,000 --> 01:02:05,240
Speaker 3: she did was steel. So I don't think Grace gets

1290
01:02:05,480 --> 01:02:07,600
Speaker 3: to say complain about what someone's doing.

1291
01:02:07,880 --> 01:02:08,080
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1292
01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:11,720
Speaker 3: Absolutely, it's a complete lie. I've worn myself out in

1293
01:02:11,880 --> 01:02:15,240
Speaker 3: several ways trying to do everything, even stopping talking to

1294
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Speaker 3: my fiance. Yes, I didn't mention this before. But I've

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01:02:17,800 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 3: been engaged for two years. But that's the least of it.

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01:02:20,400 --> 01:02:23,080
Speaker 3: The point is that I've done my housework, accompanied my

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Speaker 3: grandmother to the bank and to doctor's appointments, while Grace

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01:02:26,320 --> 01:02:29,000
Speaker 3: was sick and stayed in her room the whole time

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Speaker 3: I was at my grandmother's house. I can count on

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01:02:31,320 --> 01:02:33,840
Speaker 3: my fingers and say that it's been the last forty days.

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01:02:34,000 --> 01:02:37,360
Speaker 3: She's only out with housework five times. And he's also

1302
01:02:37,480 --> 01:02:39,600
Speaker 3: cared little about the health of his youngest daughter, who

1303
01:02:39,640 --> 01:02:42,320
Speaker 3: has reached the point where she has developed anemia.

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness.

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Speaker 3: Things started to get worse last week when my uncle

1306
01:02:45,920 --> 01:02:48,840
Speaker 3: Fidel called me out of nowhere. He deserves to be

1307
01:02:48,920 --> 01:02:51,840
Speaker 3: shown his real name anyway. He said in the phone

1308
01:02:51,880 --> 01:02:53,840
Speaker 3: call that I was a lazy person, that I had

1309
01:02:53,880 --> 01:02:55,960
Speaker 3: the right to be at home without doing anything, that

1310
01:02:56,080 --> 01:02:58,640
Speaker 3: she was a kept woman, and so on, with a

1311
01:02:58,680 --> 01:03:00,680
Speaker 3: hatred that could even be her heard on the other

1312
01:03:00,760 --> 01:03:02,920
Speaker 3: side of the line. I was confused because at that

1313
01:03:03,040 --> 01:03:05,840
Speaker 3: moment I was finishing folding the clothes, and he didn't

1314
01:03:05,840 --> 01:03:08,680
Speaker 3: even give me a chance to respond. Days past and

1315
01:03:08,800 --> 01:03:11,760
Speaker 3: my aunt and her husband arrived to visit my grandmother,

1316
01:03:11,920 --> 01:03:14,160
Speaker 3: and as soon as they saw me, they swept me

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01:03:14,280 --> 01:03:17,640
Speaker 3: with their gaze and talked the entire time. They stayed

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Speaker 3: with Grace. You know where that's going. She has talked

1319
01:03:20,280 --> 01:03:22,680
Speaker 3: to them and said the same crap. I spoke to

1320
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:25,800
Speaker 3: my fiance that same day in secret, since Grace seemed

1321
01:03:25,840 --> 01:03:28,720
Speaker 3: to have ears everywhere. Fortunately, if they had punted me

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Speaker 3: out of my grandmother's house, I already had a house

1323
01:03:31,200 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 3: in my name. Now let's get to today. The day

1324
01:03:33,760 --> 01:03:36,320
Speaker 3: seemed calm. I had woken up early because I had

1325
01:03:36,440 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 3: end of semester meetings with my teachers since the morning.

1326
01:03:39,280 --> 01:03:42,800
Speaker 3: The afternoon started to look bad. My sisters started packing

1327
01:03:42,880 --> 01:03:46,680
Speaker 3: her things dramatically in garbage bags, stopped talking to us,

1328
01:03:46,800 --> 01:03:49,440
Speaker 3: and left at intervals, and the moment the same uncles

1329
01:03:49,440 --> 01:03:52,040
Speaker 3: from the last minute arrived, she asked to speak with

1330
01:03:52,160 --> 01:03:55,280
Speaker 3: them in the presence of my grandmother and cried dramatically

1331
01:03:55,440 --> 01:03:56,960
Speaker 3: that she would not be in a house where they

1332
01:03:57,000 --> 01:03:59,880
Speaker 3: would speak ill of her, discredit her, accuser of being

1333
01:04:00,160 --> 01:04:03,600
Speaker 3: lazy and an irresponsible mother. Grace stopped crying as soon

1334
01:04:03,640 --> 01:04:05,800
Speaker 3: as my uncles agreed with her, and they started telling

1335
01:04:05,880 --> 01:04:08,600
Speaker 3: my grandmother things that even made her feel sick, but

1336
01:04:08,720 --> 01:04:11,440
Speaker 3: she never cried. They left, and my grandmother didn't want

1337
01:04:11,440 --> 01:04:13,280
Speaker 3: to eat dinner anymore. It's hard because it's like it

1338
01:04:13,480 --> 01:04:15,560
Speaker 3: feels like the kind of person that you can't just

1339
01:04:15,720 --> 01:04:16,880
Speaker 3: like tell them to stop.

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Speaker 9: Yeah, you know, like it's as much as you might

1341
01:04:20,160 --> 01:04:23,200
Speaker 9: try to kind of convince them of like how they're

1342
01:04:23,480 --> 01:04:25,640
Speaker 9: taking how negative.

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01:04:25,240 --> 01:04:28,160
Speaker 3: Their actions are like are to other people. Yeah, they're

1344
01:04:28,240 --> 01:04:30,480
Speaker 3: just gonna keep They're not gonna get it. She's scared. Yeah,

1345
01:04:30,560 --> 01:04:33,080
Speaker 3: Grace does not care, not at all. He wants everyone

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01:04:33,120 --> 01:04:35,240
Speaker 3: to be on her side. Mm hmm, so that she

1347
01:04:35,520 --> 01:04:39,680
Speaker 3: continues stealing and being awful. Yeah, it's and ope, he's

1348
01:04:39,680 --> 01:04:41,840
Speaker 3: the only one who's like, uh, I'm gonna put a

1349
01:04:41,880 --> 01:04:43,800
Speaker 3: stop to that. And now this is like when I'm

1350
01:04:43,880 --> 01:04:47,360
Speaker 3: going to ruin your reputation. But that's not all. Two

1351
01:04:47,480 --> 01:04:51,400
Speaker 3: hours ago, Grace started making calls and campaigning to discredit

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01:04:51,480 --> 01:04:53,640
Speaker 3: my grandmother to make them stop giving her money and

1353
01:04:53,760 --> 01:04:56,360
Speaker 3: make her look like a good person. I called my fiance,

1354
01:04:56,560 --> 01:04:59,480
Speaker 3: since his family is influential in the fields of commerce,

1355
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:02,480
Speaker 3: government and local affairs, I wanted to pay her back

1356
01:05:02,560 --> 01:05:04,760
Speaker 3: in kind, not only to Grace, but also to the

1357
01:05:04,880 --> 01:05:07,480
Speaker 3: uncles who believed in Grace. I'll probably come back with

1358
01:05:07,520 --> 01:05:09,520
Speaker 3: a new update in a few months, but it all

1359
01:05:09,600 --> 01:05:12,240
Speaker 3: depends on how it ends, because I'm also looking into

1360
01:05:12,320 --> 01:05:15,200
Speaker 3: doing it legally with his lawyers and folks. That's the

1361
01:05:15,520 --> 01:05:19,800
Speaker 3: end of that story. Wow, good luck, Ope, good luck.

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01:05:20,040 --> 01:05:21,920
Speaker 3: I hope that you can, you know, be there for

1363
01:05:22,080 --> 01:05:24,400
Speaker 3: your grandmother and also make sure that you know you

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01:05:24,520 --> 01:05:27,400
Speaker 3: get your own peace of mind. Yeah, but yeah, that

1365
01:05:27,640 --> 01:05:29,720
Speaker 3: is the end of that story. So we're going to

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Speaker 3: get into the next one in just a moment. I

1367
01:05:32,840 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 3: was excluded from being a bridesmaid in my brother's wedding.

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01:05:36,400 --> 01:05:39,800
Speaker 3: It made me upset, bad brother, So I'm willing to

1369
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:41,840
Speaker 3: accept my fate here if I'm in the wrong. For

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Speaker 3: a bit of context, I twenty nine female, am the

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Speaker 3: eldest of my siblings. My brother Mark twenty six, have

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Speaker 3: the same mom and dad. We have always been super close,

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01:05:50,080 --> 01:05:52,040
Speaker 3: and when I had my son back in twenty sixteen,

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Speaker 3: I asked him to be his godfather. We were always

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01:05:54,320 --> 01:05:57,680
Speaker 3: inseparable and protective of one another. Our parents split when

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01:05:57,760 --> 01:05:59,200
Speaker 3: I was six and Mark was three.

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Speaker 9: By the way, this from Pearly Shells and if you

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Speaker 9: want to submit your own stories, go to the our

1379
01:06:04,040 --> 01:06:06,960
Speaker 9: last showcase storytime et scept Breddit so Mom remarried and

1380
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Speaker 9: had our brothers Jake now nineteen and Josh seventeen, and

1381
01:06:11,080 --> 01:06:13,880
Speaker 9: our sister Ella thirteen with our stepdad. Mark and I

1382
01:06:14,000 --> 01:06:16,760
Speaker 9: always spent more time together for obvious reasons. Our bio

1383
01:06:16,880 --> 01:06:19,600
Speaker 9: dad would take us on vacations, we would spend Christmas

1384
01:06:19,640 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 9: and different occasions together, et cetera. We still had a

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01:06:21,960 --> 01:06:24,440
Speaker 9: great relationship with our siblings, who we never referred to

1386
01:06:24,640 --> 01:06:28,280
Speaker 9: as step siblings no matter what, we were simply brothers

1387
01:06:28,360 --> 01:06:30,840
Speaker 9: and sisters. There have never been any issues with any

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01:06:30,920 --> 01:06:33,760
Speaker 9: of our relationships. Mark and I were just always considered

1389
01:06:33,800 --> 01:06:36,600
Speaker 9: the older two and did a lot more together given

1390
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Speaker 9: our parents divorce. Fast forward to last August, my brother

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Speaker 9: proposed to his now fiance, Jay, twenty five, female who

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01:06:43,280 --> 01:06:45,880
Speaker 9: I just adore. She's perfect for my brother and they

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01:06:46,000 --> 01:06:48,480
Speaker 9: compliment each other well. My brother made a comment on

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01:06:48,560 --> 01:06:51,720
Speaker 9: the video call that I would have quote bridesmaide duties

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01:06:51,800 --> 01:06:53,800
Speaker 9: to help Jay, to which Jade said that she was

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01:06:53,880 --> 01:06:56,440
Speaker 9: so excited and that I could help with hair, et cetera,

1397
01:06:56,600 --> 01:06:59,240
Speaker 9: as I am a hairstylist. Cut to the engagement party,

1398
01:06:59,360 --> 01:07:02,520
Speaker 9: both family and were in attendance. My mom, stepdad, our

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01:07:02,560 --> 01:07:04,960
Speaker 9: bio dad, and all of my siblings too. My son

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Speaker 9: was too young to attend, so he was at his

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01:07:07,120 --> 01:07:08,040
Speaker 9: grandma's that night.

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Speaker 3: At some point in the.

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Speaker 9: Evening, Mark and Jade came out with boxes for the

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01:07:11,120 --> 01:07:13,880
Speaker 9: bridle and groom parties. Both my younger brothers were the

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01:07:14,000 --> 01:07:17,040
Speaker 9: best man, my younger sister was going to be a bridesmaid,

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01:07:17,320 --> 01:07:20,200
Speaker 9: and two of Jade's friends one is bridesmaid and one

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01:07:20,280 --> 01:07:22,320
Speaker 9: is the maid of honor. They approached me last with

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01:07:22,440 --> 01:07:24,240
Speaker 9: a gift and asked if I would give it to

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01:07:24,320 --> 01:07:26,800
Speaker 9: my son and ask if he would be their ring bear.

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Speaker 9: Of course I said yes, that was such a beautiful idea.

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01:07:29,800 --> 01:07:32,320
Speaker 9: Then my mom and bio dad both came to me

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01:07:32,440 --> 01:07:34,720
Speaker 9: asking where my box was to be a bridesmaid, to

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01:07:34,720 --> 01:07:37,200
Speaker 9: which I replied I didn't receive one. Both our parents

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01:07:37,240 --> 01:07:39,479
Speaker 9: were upset about this, as they said that they thought

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01:07:39,520 --> 01:07:41,560
Speaker 9: it wasn't nice that all of my siblings were going

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01:07:41,600 --> 01:07:43,640
Speaker 9: to have a part in my brother's big day except

1417
01:07:43,680 --> 01:07:45,760
Speaker 9: for me. I haven't said anything to my brother as

1418
01:07:45,840 --> 01:07:48,960
Speaker 9: we have never had any disputes over anything, barring fighting

1419
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:50,480
Speaker 9: over the TV remote.

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01:07:50,200 --> 01:07:52,320
Speaker 3: As kids, so I don't want to upset him.

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01:07:52,400 --> 01:07:54,480
Speaker 9: Maybe he thought that by having my son be a

1422
01:07:54,520 --> 01:07:57,200
Speaker 9: part of his wedding, seeing as he is his godson.

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01:07:57,360 --> 01:07:59,600
Speaker 3: That that would be why a few mutual friends of

1424
01:07:59,640 --> 01:08:02,120
Speaker 3: ours exit me that following day and asked the same thing.

1425
01:08:02,320 --> 01:08:03,840
Speaker 3: Was I not asked to be a part of it?

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Speaker 9: That is really when I started overthinking, as one of

1427
01:08:06,600 --> 01:08:08,800
Speaker 9: them said that when they come to have their wedding

1428
01:08:08,880 --> 01:08:11,400
Speaker 9: pictures of the bridal party and groom party with the parents,

1429
01:08:11,480 --> 01:08:13,880
Speaker 9: I will be the only one not in either party.

1430
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:16,559
Speaker 9: I'm so confused, and I don't want to cause any drama.

1431
01:08:16,640 --> 01:08:19,120
Speaker 9: I just want my brother to be happy. So am

1432
01:08:19,320 --> 01:08:22,719
Speaker 9: I the A hole? And there is an edit. Mark

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01:08:22,920 --> 01:08:25,920
Speaker 9: was a groomsman at my wedding and Jade was a bridesmaid.

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Speaker 3: Also.

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Speaker 9: I'm not sure if this makes any odds, as I

1436
01:08:28,760 --> 01:08:31,080
Speaker 9: truly do understand that it's up to them who they choose.

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01:08:31,120 --> 01:08:32,960
Speaker 9: From a lot of comments, I really didn't think about

1438
01:08:32,960 --> 01:08:34,640
Speaker 9: it that much until I started getting a lot of

1439
01:08:34,760 --> 01:08:36,200
Speaker 9: questions from family and friends.

1440
01:08:36,320 --> 01:08:38,439
Speaker 3: And there is an update. But do we think that

1441
01:08:38,560 --> 01:08:41,200
Speaker 3: she is the A hole for any of this? No,

1442
01:08:41,600 --> 01:08:44,400
Speaker 3: you haven't done anything yet. No, yeah, I think not

1443
01:08:44,600 --> 01:08:46,120
Speaker 3: at all. You're not going to do the A hole

1444
01:08:46,160 --> 01:08:48,200
Speaker 3: if you bring this up like you can just post

1445
01:08:48,200 --> 01:08:50,439
Speaker 3: it as a simple question, just like, Hey, I thought

1446
01:08:50,479 --> 01:08:52,280
Speaker 3: I was going to be a part of your wedding.

1447
01:08:52,400 --> 01:08:54,120
Speaker 3: I was like, did I do something?

1448
01:08:54,520 --> 01:08:54,680
Speaker 5: You know?

1449
01:08:54,840 --> 01:08:56,720
Speaker 3: Yeah? Is there any way I could help out?

1450
01:08:57,000 --> 01:08:57,040
Speaker 9: Like?

1451
01:08:57,720 --> 01:08:58,560
Speaker 3: What can I do?

1452
01:08:58,800 --> 01:09:01,240
Speaker 9: I am midread of the comments under the post, and

1453
01:09:01,360 --> 01:09:04,000
Speaker 9: my brother calls to my house to see myself and

1454
01:09:04,160 --> 01:09:06,680
Speaker 9: my son. And this isn't unusual, as he would call

1455
01:09:06,760 --> 01:09:09,040
Speaker 9: in the past every couple of weeks. He doesn't live

1456
01:09:09,160 --> 01:09:12,240
Speaker 9: overly far from me. We sat and had our usual catchup,

1457
01:09:12,280 --> 01:09:14,720
Speaker 9: and we have always been quite good at realizing when

1458
01:09:14,800 --> 01:09:16,840
Speaker 9: something is up with one another, so I must have

1459
01:09:16,920 --> 01:09:18,799
Speaker 9: been giving off a vibe as he noticed.

1460
01:09:18,960 --> 01:09:20,439
Speaker 3: He asked was I okay?

1461
01:09:20,680 --> 01:09:23,439
Speaker 9: And I was very honest but approached it delicately as

1462
01:09:23,520 --> 01:09:25,519
Speaker 9: the last thing I want is to cause any issues

1463
01:09:25,560 --> 01:09:28,160
Speaker 9: between us. Before I could get too deep into the conversation,

1464
01:09:28,360 --> 01:09:30,720
Speaker 9: he stopped me and said that this was a conversation

1465
01:09:30,920 --> 01:09:33,599
Speaker 9: him and Jade had a lot and a few arguments

1466
01:09:33,680 --> 01:09:36,360
Speaker 9: over having me as a bridesmaid, as he just assumed

1467
01:09:36,479 --> 01:09:39,000
Speaker 9: that I would be. Something I maybe should have mentioned

1468
01:09:39,320 --> 01:09:41,680
Speaker 9: is that Jade is an only child. My brother told

1469
01:09:41,760 --> 01:09:43,880
Speaker 9: me that he feels that sometimes he got the feeling

1470
01:09:43,920 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 9: that she was jealous of our relationship, but that they

1471
01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:49,320
Speaker 9: never discussed that. Around ten years ago, our grandmother passed away,

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01:09:49,439 --> 01:09:52,320
Speaker 9: which was our dad's mom, and my brother was a teenager,

1473
01:09:52,520 --> 01:09:56,519
Speaker 9: and we both found that her This impacted my brother greatly,

1474
01:09:56,800 --> 01:09:58,760
Speaker 9: as she was like a second mother to us both

1475
01:09:58,880 --> 01:10:00,800
Speaker 9: and from this awful situation, and we leaned on each

1476
01:10:00,800 --> 01:10:03,920
Speaker 9: other for everything while we managed that horrible period of

1477
01:10:04,040 --> 01:10:06,160
Speaker 9: grief during which he hadn't been with Jade that long

1478
01:10:06,280 --> 01:10:07,719
Speaker 9: and did push her away slightly.

1479
01:10:07,840 --> 01:10:09,719
Speaker 3: While dealing with it all, he said when.

1480
01:10:09,640 --> 01:10:12,479
Speaker 9: They were deciding bridle and groom parties that Jade wanted

1481
01:10:12,560 --> 01:10:15,160
Speaker 9: equal numbers on both sides, as in, my brother has

1482
01:10:15,240 --> 01:10:18,000
Speaker 9: our two younger brothers and his friend, and Jade has

1483
01:10:18,080 --> 01:10:21,040
Speaker 9: her two friends and our younger sister. Then my son

1484
01:10:21,320 --> 01:10:24,200
Speaker 9: as a ring bear, and Jade's maid of honor daughter

1485
01:10:24,360 --> 01:10:27,240
Speaker 9: as flower girl. He explained that he said to Jade

1486
01:10:27,280 --> 01:10:29,280
Speaker 9: that he would have wanted me to be upstanding with

1487
01:10:29,400 --> 01:10:32,680
Speaker 9: him as a groom's maid if I was not a bridesmaid,

1488
01:10:32,720 --> 01:10:34,880
Speaker 9: which is not something I've heard of much, if I'm honest,

1489
01:10:35,000 --> 01:10:37,080
Speaker 9: and when it would be the morning of the wedding,

1490
01:10:37,200 --> 01:10:39,559
Speaker 9: that he would want me in the room with him

1491
01:10:39,720 --> 01:10:42,559
Speaker 9: and my son, also with my other brothers and my dad.

1492
01:10:42,760 --> 01:10:44,879
Speaker 3: Jade said that that was nothing personal.

1493
01:10:45,040 --> 01:10:47,479
Speaker 9: Now whether that is true, I don't know, but I

1494
01:10:47,600 --> 01:10:50,120
Speaker 9: feel kind of odd about it, but there really hasn't

1495
01:10:50,160 --> 01:10:51,599
Speaker 9: been any issues with any of us.

1496
01:10:51,680 --> 01:10:53,160
Speaker 3: A lot of you in the comments were correct.

1497
01:10:53,320 --> 01:10:55,839
Speaker 9: Jade also told Mark that it would be less stressful

1498
01:10:55,880 --> 01:10:57,360
Speaker 9: for me if I were to attend as a guest,

1499
01:10:57,520 --> 01:10:59,800
Speaker 9: as my son would be the ring bear. My brother

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01:11:00,080 --> 01:11:02,519
Speaker 9: it seemed very upset over this situation as he saw

1501
01:11:02,800 --> 01:11:04,920
Speaker 9: having all of his siblings involved in his wedding. He

1502
01:11:05,120 --> 01:11:07,679
Speaker 9: said that the topic was never resolved and they haven't

1503
01:11:07,720 --> 01:11:10,880
Speaker 9: spoken much on it, even though he apologized for how

1504
01:11:10,920 --> 01:11:13,439
Speaker 9: the engagement party went down and said that Jade hadn't

1505
01:11:13,520 --> 01:11:15,919
Speaker 9: made him aware of the whole thing with the boxes

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01:11:16,200 --> 01:11:19,000
Speaker 9: and he was caught off guard and embarrassed. He didn't

1507
01:11:19,040 --> 01:11:21,320
Speaker 9: know how to approach this with me as he doesn't

1508
01:11:21,360 --> 01:11:23,439
Speaker 9: feel like it's been resolved in terms of me having

1509
01:11:23,560 --> 01:11:26,080
Speaker 9: a place in their wedding, but it was left between

1510
01:11:26,240 --> 01:11:28,400
Speaker 9: us that no matter what, I'll be there on his

1511
01:11:28,520 --> 01:11:30,760
Speaker 9: day to support him and to be honest, regardless of

1512
01:11:30,840 --> 01:11:33,559
Speaker 9: me being a guest, I will be where I feel

1513
01:11:33,760 --> 01:11:36,320
Speaker 9: I belong in the room the morning of the wedding

1514
01:11:36,560 --> 01:11:38,759
Speaker 9: with my brother. I'm not going to cause any drama

1515
01:11:39,000 --> 01:11:40,840
Speaker 9: or make their day about me. But I feel like

1516
01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 9: I've gotten a lot.

1517
01:11:41,760 --> 01:11:44,120
Speaker 3: Of clarity from this conversation. But we do have a

1518
01:11:44,160 --> 01:11:44,720
Speaker 3: little bit more.

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01:11:44,880 --> 01:11:46,560
Speaker 9: We hugged it out and I told him that I

1520
01:11:46,720 --> 01:11:48,720
Speaker 9: just want happiness for him, and if there is any

1521
01:11:48,800 --> 01:11:51,439
Speaker 9: issue on Jade's behalf in relation to me, I would

1522
01:11:51,479 --> 01:11:53,760
Speaker 9: gladly sit down with her, which he even said that

1523
01:11:53,880 --> 01:11:56,560
Speaker 9: there shouldn't be. And he doesn't understand it, as she

1524
01:11:56,680 --> 01:11:59,559
Speaker 9: keeps reiterating that it's honestly nothing personal.

1525
01:12:00,120 --> 01:12:03,160
Speaker 3: Adores both me and my son. But now I'm quite stubborn.

1526
01:12:03,320 --> 01:12:05,800
Speaker 9: So even if she asked me to be a bridesmaid,

1527
01:12:05,840 --> 01:12:07,519
Speaker 9: I don't think I would want to be now now

1528
01:12:07,640 --> 01:12:08,560
Speaker 9: that I know all of this.

1529
01:12:08,840 --> 01:12:10,720
Speaker 3: Does that make me the a hole?

1530
01:12:11,000 --> 01:12:15,679
Speaker 9: Oh say, that's a hypothetical scenario they still have asked you? Yeah, exactly,

1531
01:12:15,800 --> 01:12:17,080
Speaker 9: I don't. I definitely don't think so.

1532
01:12:17,240 --> 01:12:19,320
Speaker 3: Be like if I didn't if I didn't say yes

1533
01:12:19,400 --> 01:12:23,120
Speaker 3: to being asked to be a bridesmaid after the fact, Yeah,

1534
01:12:23,360 --> 01:12:26,479
Speaker 3: on a pity bridesmaid would the ale for rejecting no?

1535
01:12:26,920 --> 01:12:28,720
Speaker 9: Yeah? It's like if you finally come around to it

1536
01:12:28,800 --> 01:12:31,040
Speaker 9: and you're like, okay with me being a part of

1537
01:12:31,080 --> 01:12:33,639
Speaker 9: the bridal party or the groom's party, Like, I'm gonna

1538
01:12:33,680 --> 01:12:34,240
Speaker 9: choose the groom.

1539
01:12:34,439 --> 01:12:36,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, I got I wear a suit. I don't not

1540
01:12:36,360 --> 01:12:38,919
Speaker 3: being on your side exactly exactly.

1541
01:12:39,120 --> 01:12:40,880
Speaker 9: On the bright side, I get to pick my own

1542
01:12:40,960 --> 01:12:43,479
Speaker 9: dress and not have the stress of planning any parties.

1543
01:12:43,600 --> 01:12:46,000
Speaker 9: Oh and they told him, under no circumstances, am I

1544
01:12:46,080 --> 01:12:48,680
Speaker 9: doing bridle hair? Yeah, my mom's taking my son home

1545
01:12:48,760 --> 01:12:50,360
Speaker 9: the night of the wedding so that me and my

1546
01:12:50,439 --> 01:12:52,879
Speaker 9: hobby will be enjoying the open bar cheers.

1547
01:12:53,040 --> 01:12:55,160
Speaker 3: And that is the end of that story. Very fair,

1548
01:12:55,479 --> 01:12:57,800
Speaker 3: Very fair. Don't offer your services for someone who doesn't

1549
01:12:57,800 --> 01:13:00,559
Speaker 3: appreciate you absolutely how it goes.

1550
01:13:00,680 --> 01:13:04,240
Speaker 9: Yeah, could you imagine if she's still like asking.

1551
01:13:03,960 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 3: For that, even if she's like, like, you're not going

1552
01:13:06,080 --> 01:13:08,000
Speaker 3: to be part of the party, But although I do

1553
01:13:08,320 --> 01:13:09,960
Speaker 3: need someone to do my hair, Yeah, like to do

1554
01:13:10,200 --> 01:13:13,160
Speaker 3: like for insult to injury, add insult to injury. Yeah,

1555
01:13:13,240 --> 01:13:14,320
Speaker 3: to add insult to injury.

1556
01:13:14,479 --> 01:13:17,120
Speaker 9: You can't be a bridesmaid, but you can do all

1557
01:13:17,200 --> 01:13:19,479
Speaker 9: of the bridesmaid's hair and be there while everyone is

1558
01:13:19,560 --> 01:13:21,880
Speaker 9: so excited and getting ready and taking pictures together.

1559
01:13:22,200 --> 01:13:26,120
Speaker 3: Rudal, that's rude, that'd be terrible. Oh my goodness. But

1560
01:13:26,240 --> 01:13:27,880
Speaker 3: that is the end of that story and the end

1561
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Speaker 3: of that episode. So if you love us, make sure

1562
01:13:30,760 --> 01:13:33,639
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