WEBVTT - Dirty Rush: Having High STANDARDS 0:00:01.000 --> 0:00:04.280 Welcome to Dirty Rush, The Truth about Sorority life with 0:00:04.320 --> 0:00:07.280 your hosts me Gia Judice. 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:08.520 Daisy Kent, and Jennifer Kessler. 0:00:12.960 --> 0:00:16.599 Hey, guys, and welcome to Dirty Rush, where we are 0:00:16.600 --> 0:00:21.840 giving you the inside scoop on sorority life. In this episode, 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:26.840 we are talking about standards. Standards is basically a group 0:00:26.920 --> 0:00:29.920 of people who run a committee. 0:00:29.440 --> 0:00:33.600 And basically punish you on your behavior. 0:00:34.479 --> 0:00:38.880 There is proper etiquette and proper behavior that is necessary 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:40.480 while being in a sorority. 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:41.879 And we are. 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:45.279 Going to dive deep, have some callers calling in and 0:00:45.360 --> 0:00:49.600 telling us their standard story and at the end maybe 0:00:49.640 --> 0:00:53.400 you'll hear a story from me. I have a celebrity 0:00:53.400 --> 0:00:56.240 guest here with me today, Mercedes north Up. 0:00:56.280 --> 0:00:59.240 Welcome to Dirty Rush. Excited to be here, so excited 0:00:59.280 --> 0:00:59.840 to have you here. 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:06.280 So new announcement. You just launched your podcast. Yes, famously 0:01:06.319 --> 0:01:10.160 available with Ben. It has been so much fun, having fun. 0:01:10.520 --> 0:01:12.319 It's all about dating, so you know. 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:13.679 Getting back into the dating room. 0:01:13.800 --> 0:01:16.600 Yes, girl, I'm back in there. It's so scary, but 0:01:16.640 --> 0:01:17.280 I'm ready. 0:01:17.640 --> 0:01:18.399 Honestly, this is. 0:01:18.400 --> 0:01:20.560 So fun though. Yes, the dating podcast. 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:25.160 You're kind of just doing the intros right now, but 0:01:25.520 --> 0:01:28.919 then you're gonna get into dating, like went on dates 0:01:29.080 --> 0:01:30.440 via podcast. 0:01:30.080 --> 0:01:33.520 Yeah, which is so crazy interesting. So I kind of 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:36.120 took a break from dating. I haven't dated in like 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:39.760 two years, which is a long time. I needed time 0:01:39.920 --> 0:01:41.600 just to like, I don't know, I went through I 0:01:41.600 --> 0:01:43.760 had a really bad situation ship again, you know. So 0:01:43.800 --> 0:01:46.399 I had two years off and I was like, I 0:01:46.440 --> 0:01:48.640 saw my mom. I'm like, I think the next time, 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:49.880 Like I'm going to go on a date, Like they're 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:51.200 setting me up on a day I need to like 0:01:51.800 --> 0:01:55.280 get ready. So I'm clienting my practice date on Saturday. 0:01:55.360 --> 0:01:58.480 The poor guy doesn't know it, but who knows. 0:01:58.520 --> 0:02:04.279 Maybe this practice yining armor literally know, Oh. 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:05.040 My god, I love that. 0:02:05.320 --> 0:02:08.639 Yeah okay, so my fingers crossed for the date on side. Yeah, 0:02:08.720 --> 0:02:09.119 we'll see. 0:02:09.120 --> 0:02:09.400 I don't know. 0:02:09.400 --> 0:02:10.200 I'll keep you updated. 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.120 So Dirty Rush, you know that it's all about sorority life, 0:02:14.160 --> 0:02:17.119 and we kind of just talk about the good, the bad, 0:02:17.160 --> 0:02:20.520 the ugly and really get into the truth about sorority life. 0:02:21.000 --> 0:02:23.239 So where did you go? Were you in a sorority? 0:02:23.440 --> 0:02:23.680 Yes? 0:02:23.720 --> 0:02:24.799 What was your experience? 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:25.040 Like? 0:02:25.440 --> 0:02:30.240 So I went to Iowa State and stayed in state. 0:02:30.600 --> 0:02:34.040 Yes, okay, yeah, yep, went i of state study fashion. 0:02:34.120 --> 0:02:35.840 It was like, I loved that school. It was so 0:02:35.919 --> 0:02:39.720 much fun. But I honestly didn't know much about recruitment, 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:42.359 but I a few Are you the oldest? 0:02:42.720 --> 0:02:43.600 Yeah? 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:46.400 And my mom was like having fifteen, Like she didn't 0:02:46.400 --> 0:02:48.640 go to college. So I was like, my moss one 0:02:48.760 --> 0:02:49.400 nothing when I. 0:02:49.320 --> 0:02:51.560 Don't you have to pay deuce? She goes what was like, 0:02:51.600 --> 0:02:55.040 what is that? Yeah? Literally, you're rushing a sorority. What's that? 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:55.800 Literally? 0:02:55.840 --> 0:02:56.240 That was me. 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:58.000 I had no idea what I was doing, what I 0:02:58.040 --> 0:03:01.600 was getting myself into. But my roommate she was like, 0:03:01.639 --> 0:03:03.040 I'm doing it, like you should do it with me, 0:03:03.080 --> 0:03:05.360 And I'm like, okay, like sure, why not? 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:06.600 Like that's just what it is. 0:03:07.240 --> 0:03:10.400 Went through recruitment, had a really good recruitment process, honestly, 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:16.520 and my top three were the Z, Kapa and tried 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.920 delt Okay, and then pref Night, I went Kappa and DZ, 0:03:20.240 --> 0:03:22.840 and then I ended up going DZ. Bitted them, they 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:25.160 bitted me, so that's where I went, and I loved 0:03:25.200 --> 0:03:27.080 d Z. It was so much fun. I met like 0:03:27.120 --> 0:03:33.240 all my best friends, but there was some issues too. 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:35.320 They were very. 0:03:35.000 --> 0:03:38.920 Hard on us sometimes, like just having like certain things 0:03:38.960 --> 0:03:41.680 that we could do and couldn't do. And I was, 0:03:41.880 --> 0:03:45.120 you know, a freshman. I'm like, I'm literally in college. 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.400 I this is my time to like do what I want, 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:49.280 Like let me go to a party, let me post 0:03:49.320 --> 0:03:50.360 a beer in the. 0:03:50.480 --> 0:03:52.840 Oh, and you couldn't and we would get fine. 0:03:53.120 --> 0:03:53.320 Yeah. 0:03:53.360 --> 0:03:55.800 Oh my, I gotta say I was stayed in standards. 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:59.000 Oh my gosh, like I was sending my ass to standards. 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.760 They really did, but it was until you were initiated, 0:04:01.880 --> 0:04:05.040 after initiation, then you were able to write no. 0:04:05.280 --> 0:04:07.760 Oh no, No, they were very strict. Maybe they didn't 0:04:07.760 --> 0:04:10.680 want that image. It's just so crazy because we were 0:04:10.680 --> 0:04:13.280 like cut it on the party house, okay, but they 0:04:13.360 --> 0:04:16.440 like were very but like the Yeah, they were strict. 0:04:16.640 --> 0:04:18.480 And you were in your sorority all four years. 0:04:18.680 --> 0:04:23.159 No, I actually dropped my junior year, did you just 0:04:23.200 --> 0:04:25.920 because I was getting I was tired of getting fined 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:29.919 like random things like I don't even remember what I 0:04:29.920 --> 0:04:31.480 got fined for, but I was like I'm not paying that, 0:04:31.520 --> 0:04:33.720 like I'm not doing this anymore. Like and it was 0:04:33.800 --> 0:04:34.760 just so expensive. 0:04:35.000 --> 0:04:36.480 Oh yeah, sometimes it's a money grab. 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:36.800 Yeah. 0:04:36.800 --> 0:04:40.280 I think my dues were like three hundred dollars if 0:04:40.320 --> 0:04:44.000 you a month and then if you missed, which as 0:04:44.040 --> 0:04:46.679 a college students like pretty expensive, Like I was paying 0:04:46.720 --> 0:04:49.880 for it, So that was that. And then also like 0:04:49.920 --> 0:04:52.760 if you missed, what's it? Why am I forgetting what 0:04:52.760 --> 0:04:55.520 it's called? Like chapter chapter? They find you like one 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:58.440 hundred dollars. Yeah, I'm not doing that. And I loved 0:04:58.480 --> 0:05:00.680 going home and like being with my family, and it 0:05:00.680 --> 0:05:01.640 was always on Sundays. 0:05:02.120 --> 0:05:04.000 I was like, yeah, after it was always on Sunday, 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:04.839 always on Sundays. 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:06.440 I hated that when I would go home for Sunday 0:05:06.480 --> 0:05:08.599 dinner and I had to leave to go to chapter That's. 0:05:08.400 --> 0:05:09.040 What I'm saying. 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.640 And I would have to like request, like, can I 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:17.840 go on zoom today for this chapter meeting? I would 0:05:17.839 --> 0:05:20.840 always say, Now, sometimes we were in drafter for five. 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:23.200 Minutes, I know, and they needed to do Yeah, it's 0:05:23.279 --> 0:05:27.120 so dope, they needed five minutes. Yeah, but yeah, I 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:30.279 was just over the fighting and over getting in trouble 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:30.599 with them. 0:05:30.640 --> 0:05:32.359 So I was like, I'm just going to drop. 0:05:36.240 --> 0:05:38.280 Sarah, Welcome to Dirty Rush. 0:05:38.720 --> 0:05:42.120 Hi, thanks for having me so excited to hear your story. 0:05:42.960 --> 0:05:43.200 Yeah. 0:05:43.240 --> 0:05:45.479 So I think I kind of have a unique like 0:05:45.680 --> 0:05:50.280 experience because when I was in college, I went to 0:05:50.360 --> 0:05:52.719 a really big public school in LA. 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:54.520 Some people might know it. 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:55.000 It's U C. 0:05:55.200 --> 0:05:55.360 L A. 0:05:55.640 --> 0:05:57.040 And oh was sick. 0:05:57.279 --> 0:05:59.440 And I like definitely loved my experience. 0:05:59.440 --> 0:06:01.960 But I so much so that I was president of 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:04.720 my sorority. And so when I was president, I served 0:06:04.720 --> 0:06:07.719 on standards. A big reason why a lot of people 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:09.960 got called into standards was because a lot of our 0:06:10.000 --> 0:06:14.559 events were off campus at different venues around the city 0:06:14.560 --> 0:06:16.800 in La, and so there would be these long bus 0:06:16.880 --> 0:06:21.920 rides where people would heavily pregame prior to these bus 0:06:22.040 --> 0:06:27.440 rides to these events, and every single event, without fail, 0:06:27.880 --> 0:06:30.800 somebody would throw up on the bus. And we had 0:06:30.839 --> 0:06:34.720 members of our sorority called like sober sisters sober monitors, 0:06:35.160 --> 0:06:37.520 whose role was to like, of course make sure everyone 0:06:37.600 --> 0:06:40.760 was safe and okay, but also to like give trash 0:06:40.800 --> 0:06:42.680 back to anyone on the bus that would looked like 0:06:42.680 --> 0:06:44.440 they were about to throw up, and then also like 0:06:44.560 --> 0:06:47.040 report them back to the sorority if they did throw up, 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:48.960 because like then the sorority would have to pay that 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:50.240 huge fine or whatever. 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:53.080 Yeah, so that was a. 0:06:53.040 --> 0:06:57.560 Big standards call in and I, yes was president, was 0:06:57.720 --> 0:07:00.920 serving on the on board of standards. Prior to that, 0:07:01.360 --> 0:07:07.159 had been called into standards for throwing up on a bus. 0:07:07.560 --> 0:07:10.440 I was a freshman and I was actually supposed to 0:07:10.440 --> 0:07:15.120 be a sober monitor. Oh no, yeah, so it was 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:16.840 really bad. It was like, not only did you throw 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:18.400 up on the bus, but you. 0:07:18.440 --> 0:07:21.000 Also you were watching everywhere. 0:07:21.360 --> 0:07:21.600 Yeah. 0:07:21.800 --> 0:07:26.960 Was not my proudest moment, but that that's my standard story. 0:07:27.880 --> 0:07:29.440 That is so funny. 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:34.400 Girls got brought to standards because they were encouraging me 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.680 to drink on midnight. 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:39.400 When you were just when you had just basically like. 0:07:39.720 --> 0:07:42.800 Just went home, like I just went to Zeta, I 0:07:43.280 --> 0:07:46.760 just got my bid, Like we ran home and it 0:07:46.800 --> 0:07:49.240 was midday, so we were all just like having a 0:07:49.240 --> 0:07:50.400 big party in the house. 0:07:50.600 --> 0:07:51.520 And to be. 0:07:51.480 --> 0:07:56.920 Honest, though, were you did you feel peer pressured or 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.280 were you oh take part? 0:08:00.680 --> 0:08:03.600 No, like one hundred percent, I felt here pressured. Oh 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:07.960 you did no good drink like no, because I knew 0:08:08.000 --> 0:08:09.160 I wasn't supposed to. 0:08:10.040 --> 0:08:13.160 But somehow standards got wind of it, and then my 0:08:13.240 --> 0:08:17.640 older sisters got in trouble because they were. 0:08:17.400 --> 0:08:19.040 Like, like, what are you doing? 0:08:19.160 --> 0:08:23.280 This is obviously unacceptable, And then that girl literally had 0:08:23.280 --> 0:08:24.720 to write an apology. 0:08:24.280 --> 0:08:24.760 Letter to me. 0:08:25.360 --> 0:08:26.800 I didn't think it was that big of a deal, 0:08:26.840 --> 0:08:28.840 but obviously it was a big deal to the sorority 0:08:28.880 --> 0:08:32.120 because for liability purposes. 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:36.600 Then it's like when Standard catches you, then what do 0:08:36.640 --> 0:08:40.120 they do with you to punish you? This Standard punishment 0:08:40.320 --> 0:08:44.680 was like you have to be a sober sister again. 0:08:44.920 --> 0:08:47.920 I think that was the main punishment for Zeta too. 0:08:48.200 --> 0:08:50.840 It was either like they would take away some mixture, 0:08:51.120 --> 0:08:54.440 some mixers you weren't able to go out, or like 0:08:54.480 --> 0:08:57.080 they made you a sober monitor for the next eight party. 0:08:57.559 --> 0:09:01.520 And obviously if you got that, you were pissed because 0:09:01.679 --> 0:09:07.360 your night was ruined. I think Standards definitely has their 0:09:07.360 --> 0:09:11.000 normal protocol and what they follow. I think the end 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:13.040 goal is just to make you more like a better 0:09:13.080 --> 0:09:15.640 and more responsible person in the long run. 0:09:16.600 --> 0:09:18.719 Thank you, Sarah, This. 0:09:18.840 --> 0:09:21.800 Was awesome, but I'm glad you made a step up. 0:09:22.000 --> 0:09:25.520 You went from throwing up on the bus on the 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.400 way to a day party to then becoming. 0:09:28.000 --> 0:09:29.720 The president of your sorority. 0:09:29.679 --> 0:09:32.679 Yeah, so that shows growth. This is exactly what the 0:09:32.679 --> 0:09:37.000 sororities wanted. Miranda, Welcome to Dirty Rush. 0:09:37.040 --> 0:09:40.120 Thank you so much. When you say the word Standards, 0:09:40.240 --> 0:09:43.120 I get chills in my body. It literally brings back 0:09:43.480 --> 0:09:48.800 trauma feelings. No, I hate that, yeah, in a funny way. 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:51.760 But I feel like everyone felt like that when they 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:53.000 got called to standards. 0:09:53.040 --> 0:09:55.200 It's so true because no one gets called in for 0:09:55.280 --> 0:09:58.959 a great reason. And our standards was made up of 0:09:58.960 --> 0:10:03.040 our friends, sisters, and then an advisor or two, so 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:06.000 it was pretty intense and my funny enough. When I 0:10:06.120 --> 0:10:09.200 was in my aurority, my sister was also in the 0:10:09.240 --> 0:10:11.200 same southrority and she was on standards. 0:10:11.320 --> 0:10:15.560 She probably like internally wanted to kill you, like, oh 0:10:15.600 --> 0:10:18.200 my god, my sister just getting called. 0:10:19.400 --> 0:10:22.520 The honest truth is I wish it was for an exciting, 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:25.320 fun reason, like a behavioral one. But I was called 0:10:25.320 --> 0:10:28.680 in with my sister to standards. And again she was 0:10:28.720 --> 0:10:32.240 on standards because our bills were never paid because my 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:36.240 dad is just a very fun kind of traveling guy 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:39.120 who just would completely forget or not send in the 0:10:39.160 --> 0:10:42.920 paycheck or the building. So we would get called in together. 0:10:43.040 --> 0:10:45.920 And again she was on standards because our bills were 0:10:45.960 --> 0:10:49.080 not being paid. And I remember sitting there thinking, I'm nineteen, 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:52.000 I have, you know, twenty dollars at best in my pocket, 0:10:52.080 --> 0:10:54.160 Like I don't know what to do about this. Yeah, 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:57.400 And it was just very awkward, hilarious experience because it 0:10:57.440 --> 0:11:00.720 was my friends saying pay your bill and saying, okay, 0:11:00.840 --> 0:11:03.400 call my parents because I barely have money for dinner 0:11:03.400 --> 0:11:06.079 this week. When I hear standards now, it just brings 0:11:06.160 --> 0:11:09.160 up a little PTSD because it was not fun. 0:11:09.400 --> 0:11:13.160 Looking back at standards, I feel like they were just 0:11:13.240 --> 0:11:15.480 trying to constantly teach you a lesson. 0:11:15.760 --> 0:11:18.320 I so agree. I think there were so many lessons 0:11:18.360 --> 0:11:20.560 being in authority and learning to live with all the 0:11:20.600 --> 0:11:34.320 girls and absolutely standards was is reality. 0:11:37.800 --> 0:11:42.880 Hi guys, it's Jen Fessler here with another standard story. 0:11:43.280 --> 0:11:44.680 Here on Dirty Rush. 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.280 We have Elizabeth today who's going to talk to us 0:11:47.320 --> 0:11:52.080 about her experience that she had in terms of standards 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:55.079 and what happened and how it all went down. 0:11:55.440 --> 0:12:00.160 So Hi Elizabeth, Hi, Okay, Yes, So my standards story 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:05.080 was kind of the typical of posting with alcohol, not 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:06.439 being able to post. 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:10.720 With alcohol, and I knew that. But basically, in my sorority, 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:14.160 we have an Instagram account and it's a normal girl's name, 0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:18.400 but if they comment a heart on your post, it 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:22.079 means delete that post immediately and we won't say anything 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:25.760 to you, and it's all good. But my ambitious self 0:12:25.880 --> 0:12:29.160 was like, Oh, they're gonna forget about that. They're not 0:12:29.200 --> 0:12:31.640 gonna remember they commented a heart, So I did not 0:12:31.720 --> 0:12:35.360 delete that post. And then I posted again with what 0:12:35.440 --> 0:12:37.320 looked like a lemonade cup. It could have been a 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:41.240 lemonade cup, but it was alcohol. And they commented another 0:12:41.280 --> 0:12:44.040 heart on my post, and so I was like, oh, no, 0:12:44.400 --> 0:12:46.920 like two hearts. Now, I should probably delete it, but 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:47.800 I didn't. 0:12:48.080 --> 0:12:48.720 Why didn't you? 0:12:49.040 --> 0:12:51.480 I don't know. I think I was just kind of like, 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:54.920 it looks like lemonade, like, and I was like, this 0:12:55.000 --> 0:12:57.240 is such a double standard. So many of them post 0:12:57.320 --> 0:13:00.560 with alcohol, like and they it's just a favorite thing. 0:13:00.720 --> 0:13:02.600 They pick the people they want to call the art 0:13:02.720 --> 0:13:04.920 and then they pick people that they're like, oh, they 0:13:04.920 --> 0:13:05.800 can get away with it. 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:09.280 So it was almost like you're almost not giving them 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:12.960 a fu but kind of like you were sort of 0:13:12.960 --> 0:13:14.840 standing up for yourself in say so it wasn't. 0:13:14.679 --> 0:13:16.360 As if you were just like, they won't notice. It 0:13:16.400 --> 0:13:18.360 was more like, no, this is not fair. 0:13:18.800 --> 0:13:20.320 I think it was a little bit of both, Like 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.440 the first time it was like, oh, they won't notice, 0:13:22.440 --> 0:13:23.920 and then the second time it was like, this is 0:13:23.960 --> 0:13:26.000 so annoying. I keep seeing all these people in my 0:13:26.080 --> 0:13:30.080 sorority posting with alcohol as well, and all these posts 0:13:30.080 --> 0:13:31.880 are not getting hearts on it, Like why am I 0:13:31.920 --> 0:13:35.920 getting a heart comment? So and of course I'm like 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:39.000 thinking my private story on Snapchat is like a safe 0:13:39.000 --> 0:13:41.120 place to go. So I'm like, they're trying to take 0:13:41.200 --> 0:13:44.280 my like rights away. I can post it right want whatever? 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:46.840 In I mean, I'm not, I don't even I don't 0:13:46.880 --> 0:13:50.240 think that's so out of the realm of. 0:13:51.960 --> 0:13:54.320 Right and true. You should be able to post what 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:54.600 you want. 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:56.600 Although I get that, I guess you know what you 0:13:56.600 --> 0:14:00.880 guys post is in some way or reflection problems. When 0:14:00.920 --> 0:14:04.160 I was I was in a sorority a million and 0:14:04.240 --> 0:14:07.280 ten years ago, we didn't have social media. But was 0:14:07.280 --> 0:14:09.880 it also is it a particularly fun post? Were you like, 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:11.600 I love this post. I don't want to take it down? 0:14:13.200 --> 0:14:15.880 It was a semester recap, so I was like, okay, 0:14:15.920 --> 0:14:16.440 I have to take. 0:14:16.320 --> 0:14:17.520 The time on it. 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.960 Yeah, right, And it was like yeah, And I think 0:14:20.960 --> 0:14:23.120 this was before the Instagram update of like you can 0:14:23.160 --> 0:14:25.920 delete one like slide out of your post, So this 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:26.840 was before you can. 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:28.680 That's good for me to know you can do that. 0:14:28.840 --> 0:14:31.160 Yeah, but before you couldn't do that. So I was like, oh, 0:14:31.200 --> 0:14:35.880 this is my semester post, like I'm whatever, right, right, yeah, 0:14:36.080 --> 0:14:41.200 But then they DM me and I'm like still in 0:14:41.200 --> 0:14:43.240 this stubborn state of mind of like I just won't 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:45.560 open it. It doesn't stay seen if I don't open it. 0:14:45.680 --> 0:14:50.840 So like, so this Instagram account DMS meat like, I 0:14:50.840 --> 0:14:51.680 don't know, I. 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:53.680 Want to meet your mom. I want my daughter to 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:55.360 be just like that. She is actually like this. 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:58.720 I think my mom would be so upset with me. Really, 0:14:59.600 --> 0:15:03.160 she was just delete it. It's Instagram, and I'd be like. 0:15:03.120 --> 0:15:03.880 Maybe she's right. 0:15:04.000 --> 0:15:06.400 I don't even know, but I'm kind of like, I'm 0:15:06.440 --> 0:15:09.520 just happy to hear about you not letting yourself get 0:15:09.560 --> 0:15:10.160 pushed around. 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.960 Although yeah you did, Okay, I'll let you finish your story. 0:15:13.200 --> 0:15:16.160 So then anyways, I'm like, oh, I got away with it, 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:19.360 but little did I know. I get a standards email. 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:21.840 So I think every school does a different but for mine, 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:25.040 we get an email and it's like come an hour 0:15:25.120 --> 0:15:27.880 before chapter on Sundays and you just go into this 0:15:28.000 --> 0:15:30.080 room and they basically tell you what you did. Some 0:15:30.080 --> 0:15:32.200 people go in there like completely blind, like I don't 0:15:32.200 --> 0:15:34.960 even know what I did. I obviously had all of 0:15:34.960 --> 0:15:39.040 this right, and I did. So I go into this meeting. 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:43.600 It's the president, risk chair, the standards committee, just like 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:45.440 all of them, and I'm like, basically in. 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:47.040 A circle or do they like you have to face 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:47.480 them all. 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:49.840 It's just like around a table and you just sit 0:15:49.880 --> 0:15:52.400 down one of the chairs. It's actually like pretty chill 0:15:52.560 --> 0:15:56.440 at my school. They don't make it very crazy, but 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:58.560 it is a little bit intimidating sitting down with like 0:15:58.600 --> 0:16:00.720 the president of your sorority and you know exactly what 0:16:00.800 --> 0:16:04.600 you did and so yeah, so they just sat me 0:16:04.640 --> 0:16:07.960 down and they were like listen, like we commented the hearts, 0:16:08.040 --> 0:16:10.640 you know, the drill, we DMD you, I know, you 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:13.360 didn't open it, like they knew exactly what it was right, 0:16:14.880 --> 0:16:18.640 And I was just like I'm sorry, yeah, it won't 0:16:18.640 --> 0:16:22.320 happen again. I'm just explaining that. And then there has 0:16:22.360 --> 0:16:26.440 to be a repercussion for everything, basically with standards. And 0:16:26.520 --> 0:16:30.520 so they had me write a ham written paper like 0:16:30.560 --> 0:16:33.920 a letter to them basically saying how exactly what you 0:16:34.000 --> 0:16:36.120 said before, like this is a reflection of us as 0:16:36.120 --> 0:16:38.280 a chapter. This isn't just because we want you to 0:16:38.320 --> 0:16:42.119 take down your Instagram post and I was like, okay, 0:16:42.160 --> 0:16:44.080 that's okay, I'll do that. So it had to be 0:16:44.120 --> 0:16:46.000 a handwritten letter, and I had to bring it into 0:16:46.080 --> 0:16:50.200 chapter the week after on Sunday. And so in this letter, 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:52.840 I'm just like, this won't happen again. I understand this 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:56.600 is a reflection of my sorority. I committed to something, 0:16:56.840 --> 0:16:59.640 like just kind of writing what they want to hear, 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:02.720 like it's an Instagram post. I don't really care. And 0:17:02.760 --> 0:17:05.639 then yeah, so then you have to bring it in 0:17:05.680 --> 0:17:08.000 the next week into chapter and hand it to them. 0:17:08.160 --> 0:17:10.760 But of course you're walking into chapter with a piece 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:15.480 of paper, and everyone knows what this means, like it's anyone. 0:17:14.640 --> 0:17:16.880 Really cares, and everyone like kind of laughing about it. 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.400 Yeah, it's a laughing matter. It's not like, oh my gosh, 0:17:20.560 --> 0:17:22.480 blah blah blah. I mean so many people have to 0:17:22.520 --> 0:17:24.600 do this. Half my friends had to do stuff because 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:26.680 they didn't show up to events that were mandatory and 0:17:26.680 --> 0:17:29.679 they had to write letter saying that it's really rude 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:33.440 to commit to something and then whatever. So it's all 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:36.080 hand written letters. But when you're showing up to chapter 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:38.719 with a ham written letter, like everyone knows that you 0:17:38.840 --> 0:17:42.360 went to standard right right my eyes, I'm like slyly 0:17:42.480 --> 0:17:45.119 handing my piece of the person. 0:17:45.040 --> 0:17:46.439 For you embarrass did you feel? 0:17:47.200 --> 0:17:48.800 I mean, I just think I'm thinking about why they 0:17:48.800 --> 0:17:50.719 make you do it that way, Like why they make 0:17:50.760 --> 0:17:55.840 you walk into chapter with it, yeah, written in front 0:17:55.880 --> 0:17:58.639 of everyone and hand it over. I mean it's so 0:17:58.720 --> 0:18:02.600 obviously too I'm sorry to say, but you may not agree, 0:18:02.640 --> 0:18:03.880 but to kind of shame you a little bit. 0:18:04.160 --> 0:18:05.919 Oh yeah, I think half of it is. But I 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:09.359 also think my sorority is like traditional with a lot 0:18:09.400 --> 0:18:11.240 of things. We don't like to do a lot of 0:18:11.280 --> 0:18:14.480 stuff on technology. So I think maybe the traditional part 0:18:14.480 --> 0:18:16.640 of it is like oh hamdwritten letter. It's a little 0:18:16.640 --> 0:18:19.200 bit more like authentic and like you mean it rather 0:18:19.280 --> 0:18:23.679 than like chat gbting something or whatever. Yeah, but I 0:18:23.680 --> 0:18:26.360 think that actually, like physically handing it to them during 0:18:26.480 --> 0:18:28.760 chapter is definitely like oh. 0:18:28.760 --> 0:18:32.480 We're gonna shame yeah exactly. 0:18:34.240 --> 0:18:34.480 Yeah. 0:18:34.560 --> 0:18:36.880 I mean, were you upset you? Did it take any 0:18:37.040 --> 0:18:38.080 Did it take a toll on you? 0:18:39.000 --> 0:18:41.320 I think I'm just like my stubborn self was like 0:18:41.400 --> 0:18:44.159 they got me, Like it didn't upset me, but I 0:18:44.240 --> 0:18:46.800 was just like, yes, of course I couldn't get away 0:18:46.800 --> 0:18:50.200 that's so funny. Yeah, like so many people get away 0:18:50.240 --> 0:18:52.440 with stuff like that, though. I mean like I was 0:18:52.480 --> 0:18:54.679 a sophomore when that happens, so a little bit of 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:58.640 me was like, okay, just whatever, You're still an underclassman, 0:18:59.040 --> 0:19:02.159 like this happens, maybe you can get away with it 0:19:02.240 --> 0:19:04.639 junior and senior year if you really want to again. 0:19:04.760 --> 0:19:06.720 But I just think some of it's kind of like 0:19:07.040 --> 0:19:09.639