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Speaker 1: O La bian Benigos to Cheeky's and Chill. Today's episode

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Speaker 1: is going to be an interesting one. I have some

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Speaker 1: news to tell you guys, something that I've been on

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Speaker 1: the fence about for quite some time, and today I'm

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Speaker 1: going to talk about it. It's about IVF. Okay, So

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Speaker 1: spoiler alert, guys. I went through with it. Okay. So

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Speaker 1: let me take you guys back, because I have talked

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Speaker 1: about this on the pod quite a bit. The last

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Speaker 1: episode in which we talked about IVF, I had decided

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Speaker 1: not to go through with it. I wasn't feeling it.

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Speaker 1: I started the injections. I bought my medication, which was

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Speaker 1: very expensive, but I just wasn't ready mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually.

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Speaker 1: I just wasn't ready. I remember injecting myself and I

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Speaker 1: was just like in a bad mood. I just it

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Speaker 1: just didn't feel like the right time, and I said, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to give myself a year to get pregnant

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Speaker 1: if it happens. I wasn't trying to get pregnant. I

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Speaker 1: really wasn't trying to get pregnant at all. I wasn't

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Speaker 1: like I'm not on birth control or anything like that.

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Speaker 1: I was just like, Okay, if it happens, it happens.

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Speaker 1: But it didn't, and I feel that everything happens for

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Speaker 1: a reason. I was like, I know my body can

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Speaker 1: do this on its own. I know it can because

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Speaker 1: I get a period regularly, Like I can do it. Anyways,

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Speaker 1: didn't happen. I went to get, you know, a pap smear,

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Speaker 1: and then I found out I had pollups and they

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Speaker 1: had to remove those. And so my obgyn said, hey,

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Speaker 1: you know, if you guys want to have kids, because

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Speaker 1: Aamlio was with me, if you guys want to have kids,

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Speaker 1: we really have to start figuring out what we're gonna do.

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Speaker 1: I remember her telling me you will never regret having

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Speaker 1: a kid, but you will regret not having one. So

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh shit, that really hit me, and

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Speaker 1: I said, oh my god. Okay. So then Emilia and

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Speaker 1: I started kind of like talking about it and entertaining

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Speaker 1: the conversation a bit more because then I thought, okay,

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Speaker 1: I had these poll ups and the polyps were huge.

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Speaker 1: You guys, like, there were eight of them at first,

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Speaker 1: she only saw three. For those of you that don't

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Speaker 1: know what pollups are, so are like this, It's like tissue,

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Speaker 1: tissue that's filled with like blood and just like gunk.

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Speaker 1: I don't know exactly, but it was in the lining

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Speaker 1: of my uterus. So they're just like like chunks of meat,

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Speaker 1: really filled with blood. And I had eight of them.

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Speaker 1: At first she thought I had three, But when she

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Speaker 1: went in and I had to get and removed, she's like,

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Speaker 1: like spotting like for two months, kind of NonStop, and

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Speaker 1: I was say, what's wrong with me? So that's why

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Speaker 1: I went to the doctor to go get that check.

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Speaker 1: So anyways, I find out that I have pollups. We

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Speaker 1: set a day for the surgery and she cleaned me

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Speaker 1: all up and she said, hey, I just wanted to

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Speaker 1: were pretty big and they were covering your fallopian tubes.

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Speaker 1: They were just all up in there. We don't know

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Speaker 1: how long they were there, so maybe that's what was

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Speaker 1: So then you know that's what happened. Then Emilia and

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Speaker 1: I left and we were talking about it, like talking about, okay,

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Speaker 1: are we gonna have kids? Like what are we really

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Speaker 1: going to do and more and more as I'm getting older,

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Speaker 1: I'm getting more mature. I'm thinking, you know what, I'm

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Speaker 1: feel like, this year, I want to continue doing music

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Speaker 1: I don't want to just have an oops, oops, I'm pregnant.

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Speaker 1: I was like, you know now that the polyps aren't there.

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Speaker 1: Then I started talking about I'm like, okay, wait a second,

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Speaker 1: now this can really happen. Should I get on birth control?

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Speaker 1: We both decided no, we're not going to get on

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Speaker 1: going to take January to start IVF. I did quite

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Speaker 1: a bit in January. It was very busy, you guys,

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Speaker 1: which caused a whole other a whole lot of things

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Speaker 1: a new doctor. His name is Andy Wong. He's amazing.

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Speaker 1: He has helped many people with their IVF journey and

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Speaker 1: having children and people that I just wouldn't feel comfortable mentioning,

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Speaker 1: And he was great and he made it happen like this.

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Speaker 1: I had the appointment with him. While I was in

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Speaker 1: just happened. It just honestly all fell into place. I

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Speaker 1: to have a plan. So now we have a plan. Anyways,

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Speaker 1: I've never been on birth control pills. The only type

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Speaker 1: and by the end of the month, we retrieved twelve eggs.

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Speaker 1: me whenever I want to fertilize them or make embryos

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Speaker 1: or put them together. But it was it was a lot,

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Speaker 1: every single penny, every single penny, mind you. My doctor

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Speaker 1: which is awesome. And you know, again, his name is

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Speaker 1: doctor Andy Wong. He has an office in Redondo Beach,

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Speaker 1: in Beverly Hills, and once somewhere else I don't remember,

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Speaker 1: but he's great. The entire staff was awesome. And anyways,

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Speaker 1: it was about all in all, about twenty thousand dollars,

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Speaker 1: you guys, So it was hefty, and thank goodness, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to keep working this year so that we can

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Speaker 1: just you know, I'm when I have my kid, i'm'll

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Speaker 1: be like you already owe me twenty eight thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: a day it's born. I'm like, you aren't in debt

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Speaker 1: with me for twenty thousand dollars. I'm just kidding. But

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Speaker 1: but yes, it was expensive, but I do feel that

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Speaker 1: it is worth it. And again there are payment plans.

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Speaker 1: If there are any women out there that either are

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Speaker 1: their late thirties, if you're looking into like doing IVF,

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Speaker 1: I do highly recommend it. I was on the fence

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Speaker 1: for a very long time and I did not feel

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Speaker 1: any pressure from a media. It wasn't about that. It

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Speaker 1: was more about I want this year I'm going to

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Speaker 1: goes way low every year. We lose so much. So

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