WEBVTT - Tony Robbins: The Fastest Way Out of Feeling Stuck! Use THIS 6-Part Decision Making Framework to Take the First Step and Start 2026 With Clarity 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.240 Most people are stressed because stress is usually measured, but 0:00:03.279 --> 0:00:05.920 how much you feel you control events versus events control you. 0:00:06.120 --> 0:00:09.200 Smartest people usually are terrible investors. The smartest people want 0:00:09.240 --> 0:00:11.639 to know everything before they decide. Not deciding is the 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:12.280 worst decision. 0:00:13.240 --> 0:00:15.800 Hey, everyone, welcome back to on Purpose, the place you 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:19.160 come to become, the happier, healthier, and more healed, where 0:00:19.200 --> 0:00:22.360 you come to listen, learn and grow. Today's guest is 0:00:22.360 --> 0:00:24.520 not only one of your favorites, he's one of mine. 0:00:24.680 --> 0:00:27.440 I had the fortune of growing up to his tapes 0:00:27.480 --> 0:00:30.319 and books playing in my life in my house thanks 0:00:30.320 --> 0:00:32.760 to my dad since I was a young boy, and 0:00:32.800 --> 0:00:36.560 I truly believe it transformed my mindset from day one. 0:00:36.960 --> 0:00:39.040 I was fortunate enough to have that for years, and 0:00:39.240 --> 0:00:41.880 a few years ago I got to interview the man himself. 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:45.280 The interview went viral, It broke so many records across 0:00:45.320 --> 0:00:48.760 audio and video, and today I have him back in 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:52.800 the studio. I'm speaking about the one, the only, Tony Robbins, 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:56.360 Number one New York Times best selling author, entrepreneur, and 0:00:56.440 --> 0:01:00.320 the nation's leading life and business strategist. Over the last 0:01:00.320 --> 0:01:04.400 four decades, Tony is empowered more than one hundred million 0:01:04.440 --> 0:01:08.040 people across one hundred and ninety five countries through his books, 0:01:08.080 --> 0:01:11.760 seminars and coaching. He's leading the one hundred billion Meals 0:01:11.840 --> 0:01:16.800 challenge to help end hunger worldwide. This January, he'll host 0:01:16.959 --> 0:01:20.840 the Time to Rise Summit, a free virtual event which 0:01:20.840 --> 0:01:23.360 I want you to sign up for, bringing together people 0:01:23.520 --> 0:01:26.360 ready to transform their lives and businesses. We're going to 0:01:26.440 --> 0:01:27.680 put the link all over this. 0:01:27.920 --> 0:01:28.520 Make sure you. 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:31.520 Go and subscribe and sign up and don't miss out. 0:01:31.720 --> 0:01:34.920 Please welcome to On Purpose, Tony Robbins, Tony, it's great 0:01:35.200 --> 0:01:35.640 to be back. 0:01:35.640 --> 0:01:38.640 Who with this. It's quite an introduction. Jay almost embarrassed 0:01:38.680 --> 0:01:40.080 by the way you have to live it. 0:01:40.520 --> 0:01:41.360 You have to live it. 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.759 So it touches me when I hold are you thirty eight? 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:45.160 Thirty eight? 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:46.800 Yeah? Yeah, so many thirty eight comes in. I've been 0:01:46.800 --> 0:01:48.720 listening to you for twenty five years or twenty years 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:51.280 or something like, how old are you? I've been around 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:53.480 that long? Good. No, it's a pleasure to be with you, 0:01:53.520 --> 0:01:55.800 and I really love what you do. Your introduction and 0:01:56.440 --> 0:01:59.240 you didn't mentioned, but I want to mention his intention 0:01:59.320 --> 0:02:02.160 for all of you listening was that his guests, whoever 0:02:02.160 --> 0:02:04.840 they are, that their message will be received and people 0:02:05.040 --> 0:02:07.200 go deeper in their understanding of that person and also 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:09.200 their careful that person and vice versa. And I think 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:12.359 it's a beautiful intent. The whole on Purpose podcast bringing 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:14.799 happiness and joy and healing is it's my mission as well. 0:02:14.840 --> 0:02:16.000 So I'm happy to be with you. Well. 0:02:16.000 --> 0:02:18.120 Thank you so much for leading the way and paving 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:21.000 the way for so many of us and continuing to 0:02:21.200 --> 0:02:23.760 be such a great torch bearer for so many, Tony, 0:02:23.800 --> 0:02:25.679 I want to start with you. Know, with you, there's 0:02:25.680 --> 0:02:27.880 so many things we can talk about, and you've been 0:02:27.880 --> 0:02:30.000 doing this work for decades. I feel like your ability 0:02:30.040 --> 0:02:33.880 to learn what's the root of things is second to none. 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:35.120 It's so powerful for you to know. 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.720 And I feel today since even when you started, people 0:02:38.760 --> 0:02:41.480 are still stuck. The thing I hear the most is 0:02:41.960 --> 0:02:45.119 I'm stuck in a relationship, I'm stuck in a dead 0:02:45.200 --> 0:02:48.440 end job, I'm stuck in life and I feel like 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:50.919 I can't move. I don't know what I need to do. 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:53.680 What's the first thing people need to do if they 0:02:53.680 --> 0:02:54.639 feel stuck. 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.440 They've got to make some decisions, right, I mean? And 0:02:57.480 --> 0:02:59.200 what stops feel make decisions? You and I to what 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.320 is this fear people are afraid of making the wrong 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.560 decision for you to not being perfect, fear of the 0:03:03.600 --> 0:03:06.959 consequences of their decisions. But let's chunk it up a 0:03:07.000 --> 0:03:09.799 little bit. What do people really want? We started out 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:13.280 we were all here created by something. I like God 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.360 is the term. Some people like the universe. I'm not 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:17.400 here to argue with that whatsoever. But we have to 0:03:17.440 --> 0:03:20.919 agree that something created us, and that's something gave us choices, 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.840 and choices are how we co create are basically our lives. 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:28.000 It's not your conditions, it's your decisions, the term and 0:03:28.040 --> 0:03:31.079 the quality of your life. I had pretty rough conditions 0:03:31.120 --> 0:03:33.399 growing up, to say least, but I turn those into 0:03:33.400 --> 0:03:36.440 good conditions because of a mindset, because of certain psychology, 0:03:36.440 --> 0:03:38.320 I gets to certain decisions and if you think of it, 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:43.160 your life. Most people are stressed because they stress is 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.520 usually measured. But how much you feel you control events 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:48.320 versus events control you. The more you feel events are 0:03:48.320 --> 0:03:51.120 controlling you, the more overwhelm you feel, the more stress, 0:03:51.120 --> 0:03:52.960 the more anxiety, the more fear. And we live in 0:03:53.000 --> 0:03:56.400 a culture where mental health is that record lows in 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:59.440 terms of quality and happiness and joy and fulfillment and 0:04:00.360 --> 0:04:02.800 anxiety or through the roof. And it's not because the 0:04:02.800 --> 0:04:05.040 world is so much more stressful. It's because the way 0:04:05.040 --> 0:04:07.440 we process the world, we have more information coming at 0:04:07.520 --> 0:04:10.960 us than any time in history. Obviously we're drowning and information. 0:04:11.080 --> 0:04:14.440 We're starving for wisdom. But in order to go from 0:04:14.760 --> 0:04:17.240 being stressed and not we understand that the I think 0:04:17.279 --> 0:04:21.359 the single most important tool is decision making, because I 0:04:21.360 --> 0:04:23.600 think that's been the skill that took me from you know, 0:04:23.920 --> 0:04:26.720 barely surviving in a family that had tremendous pain and 0:04:26.800 --> 0:04:30.960 tremendous angst was to be the nicest, waring to say, 0:04:30.960 --> 0:04:34.760 and no finances and four different fathers and a lot 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:37.720 of physical and emotional abuse to being able to serve 0:04:37.800 --> 0:04:41.000 literally hundreds of millions, billions of people. It's been decisions 0:04:41.000 --> 0:04:43.440 along the way. So if you look at your own life, yours, mine, 0:04:43.480 --> 0:04:46.520 anyone's life, anyone listening or watching, you have to be 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:49.560 honest and say, I'm a creator and if I don't 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:51.839 like what I have, I've gotten here by the decisions 0:04:51.839 --> 0:04:54.360 that have created that. And look, there's lots of little 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:56.080 decisions wake all day long. And I know you talk 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:58.240 about decisions. I'm writing a whole book on it right now. 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:01.880 And most people, well, you know, don't understand that most 0:05:01.920 --> 0:05:04.440 decisions are easy to change, right, you know, I think 0:05:04.960 --> 0:05:07.080 I think you give an example. I give the example 0:05:07.080 --> 0:05:10.120 of Bezos as well as Amazon and type two decisions, 0:05:10.120 --> 0:05:12.840 the ones you can change are easily Type one are significant, right, 0:05:12.920 --> 0:05:15.200 They're going to be hard to change. Focusing on those 0:05:15.240 --> 0:05:18.080 big decisions is really important in life. But I think 0:05:18.080 --> 0:05:20.640 most people they're afraid. And then the second thing is 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:22.880 they think they don't have enough information, which is really 0:05:22.920 --> 0:05:25.400 just fear again, because you know, I wrote an entire 0:05:25.400 --> 0:05:28.400 book where I interviewed fifty of the most incredible financial 0:05:28.440 --> 0:05:31.000 people in the world. All people started with nothing became billionaires, 0:05:31.120 --> 0:05:34.279 the best investors in history, the Ray Values, the carl Icons, 0:05:34.279 --> 0:05:36.480 the warm Buffets. And one of things I learned over 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:38.440 and over again from them is the smartest people usually 0:05:38.440 --> 0:05:41.839 are terrible investors. And it's not going to be Yeah, 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:43.719 And they said, because the smartest people want to know 0:05:43.800 --> 0:05:46.400 everything before they decide, and if you wait till you 0:05:46.440 --> 0:05:49.640 know everything, the opportunity's gone. And that's true not just 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:51.960 in finance, I think that's true in life. Yes, right, 0:05:52.000 --> 0:05:54.479 we wait till we have absolute certainty. There's no absolute 0:05:54.520 --> 0:05:57.320 certainy in life. The only absolute certainty is faith. You know. 0:05:57.400 --> 0:05:59.320 It's like, how do you drive down a street but 0:05:59.400 --> 0:06:03.159 nothing but a line separating you from crazies coming driving 0:06:03.160 --> 0:06:05.000 at you at sixty five miles an hour, And every 0:06:05.040 --> 0:06:07.120 single day, in every country in the world and every 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:09.560 city in the world, someone will cross that line and 0:06:09.600 --> 0:06:11.559 kill someone because they were drunk, because they fall asleep, 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:14.120 because they're texting. And yet how do you get out 0:06:14.120 --> 0:06:16.280 there every day without fear? And do it? You use 0:06:16.320 --> 0:06:19.360 a gift that God gave us. It's called faith. It's 0:06:19.400 --> 0:06:21.640 not what you learn faith. I'm not talking about a religion. 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:24.640 I'm talking to the capacity to see beyond the present 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.160 moment and have a sense of certainty. Right, And so 0:06:27.400 --> 0:06:30.080 why do you do it? Because the alternative is to 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:31.680 live at home and do nothing, go back to the 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.279 COVID days and be trapped. Right. We know what that 0:06:34.360 --> 0:06:37.360 did to people psychologically, emotionally because they felt completely at 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:40.600 the effect of things. So the fastest way to change 0:06:40.600 --> 0:06:42.960 your life is start making some real decisions. And I 0:06:43.000 --> 0:06:45.919 know it's hard initially. The other part is it's just 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.520 that the more you make decisions, the more decision making 0:06:48.600 --> 0:06:50.320 muscles you get you know what I mean, It's like, 0:06:50.360 --> 0:06:52.960 well you barely Some people have weak decision making muscles. 0:06:53.000 --> 0:06:55.120 They You've ever been to a dinner with somebody or 0:06:55.120 --> 0:06:56.960 a group of people, and there's always one person that's 0:06:57.240 --> 0:06:59.400 hanging on to the last moment, still can't decide. You 0:06:59.440 --> 0:07:01.080 seeither way to wait, just trying to be nice. You 0:07:01.080 --> 0:07:03.960 can see him kind of losing my right, it's like, 0:07:04.160 --> 0:07:06.720 just freaking decide, help this lady out right, And they 0:07:06.800 --> 0:07:09.520 finally decide, Well, that's the habit of a lot of people, 0:07:09.760 --> 0:07:12.280 and they can't make this anyone to eat for dinner tonight? 0:07:12.720 --> 0:07:14.960 How they make a life decision? Right? So the first 0:07:14.960 --> 0:07:16.800 step is to make some maybe he make some small 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:18.880 ones that you can do and get some momentum. But 0:07:18.960 --> 0:07:21.120 the more decisions you make, the faster it gets. I 0:07:21.120 --> 0:07:24.320 think the whole idea that I have to make the 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:27.720 right decision is the is the wrong way to look 0:07:27.720 --> 0:07:30.040 at it. My whole view has been not deciding is 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:32.680 the worst decision. Right. I need to consciously decide if 0:07:32.680 --> 0:07:34.280 I don't want to feel like things are affecting me, 0:07:34.400 --> 0:07:36.960 if I'm going to shape my world, I'll make a decision. 0:07:36.960 --> 0:07:39.080 And if I'm wrong. I'll find out quicker. I give 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:40.840 you a real life example. I don't know if you 0:07:40.880 --> 0:07:43.600 remember a General Schwartzkough. I got to know him pretty well. 0:07:43.920 --> 0:07:46.040 Those are younger probably don't remember his name. But the 0:07:46.080 --> 0:07:50.160 first war that was done over, you know, whether I ran, 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:54.560 I guess basically with Iraq. Rather he ran the Allied forces. 0:07:54.720 --> 0:07:58.720 And he's a brilliant guy, and he was very powerful. 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:00.800 He could talk to guys that were from the barrio 0:08:00.840 --> 0:08:03.120 and he could talk to guys from Princeton incredibly well. 0:08:03.160 --> 0:08:06.200 And I really lovely human being. But I asked him 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:08.200 what the most important skill was of a leader and 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:11.440 he said decision making, which I agreed with obviously. And 0:08:11.520 --> 0:08:14.400 I said, well, what do you think he's making decisions? 0:08:14.520 --> 0:08:17.120 And he said, I'll tell you a story. So he 0:08:17.120 --> 0:08:18.760 told me the story. I tell you the short version 0:08:18.760 --> 0:08:21.920 of it briefly. When he was a private, he represented 0:08:22.280 --> 0:08:25.920 a general, and the Pentagon had worked for almost I think, 0:08:25.960 --> 0:08:28.200 he said, more than a decade and a half analyzing 0:08:28.240 --> 0:08:31.040 this strategic decision they had to make. And there are 0:08:31.080 --> 0:08:33.480 people on both sides, and they argued in on both 0:08:33.520 --> 0:08:36.480 sides fully, so strongly, that no one made a decision 0:08:36.480 --> 0:08:39.000 for over ten years, and they knew they had to 0:08:39.000 --> 0:08:40.640 make the decision. If they didn't make it now, it 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:43.200 could cost the country our security. It's a big decision. 0:08:43.840 --> 0:08:46.360 And so he, being the private organized the team that 0:08:46.400 --> 0:08:48.960 had to read all these volumes of materials so they 0:08:48.960 --> 0:08:52.160 could summarize it so the general have the information. And 0:08:52.200 --> 0:08:54.920 he said, then the meeting got pushed up and even 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.199 with a group of eight people, they could not gather 0:08:57.280 --> 0:09:00.680 all the information and fully summarize it. Meanwhile, the generals 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:03.120 called overseas during this time when he should have been prepping. 0:09:03.280 --> 0:09:05.000 It wasn't his fault, but he had a deal in it. 0:09:05.000 --> 0:09:07.760 Flew back the night before they're loading up with all 0:09:07.800 --> 0:09:09.920 this information. He didn't get back till ten o'clock at night. 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:12.600 The meeting was eight in the morning. Right most important 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:15.600 decision in the Pentagon's history was how it was framed, 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:19.120 he said. He came in the meeting, he said, give 0:09:19.160 --> 0:09:22.480 me your arguments. One person stood up for twenty minutes 0:09:22.480 --> 0:09:24.400 and gave this full blown argument. This is the direction 0:09:24.520 --> 0:09:26.840 to go, all right, give me your argument. Twenty minutes, 0:09:26.960 --> 0:09:31.520 full blast their argument. He said, okay, do this, and 0:09:31.640 --> 0:09:34.560 he all saluted and he walked down the room and 0:09:34.600 --> 0:09:37.440 he said, Schwartzkof said, he's a private nun general right 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:39.199 at that time, right, he said, I don't know what 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:41.440 the hell to do. He couldn't possibly know all this information, 0:09:41.679 --> 0:09:44.920 He couldn't possibly know what to do in this situation. 0:09:45.240 --> 0:09:48.080 And he was totally stressed by it. And so he 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:50.520 worked up enough courage to knock on the General's door 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:53.920 and said, General, permission to speak freely. He said, ease, 0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:58.120 at ease, he goes, General, I've worked on this for 0:09:58.400 --> 0:10:01.520 four weeks with eight people. I said, you weren't even 0:10:01.559 --> 0:10:05.120 here last night. This is one of the most important decisions. Ever, 0:10:05.240 --> 0:10:07.080 how could I know you'd an if all the information, 0:10:07.080 --> 0:10:09.360 how could you possibly make that decision? He said, young man, 0:10:09.360 --> 0:10:12.280 because the decision need to be made, And he said, 0:10:12.280 --> 0:10:14.640 on both sides are equally strong. So I picked the 0:10:14.679 --> 0:10:16.680 one I believe is right. If I'm wrong, we'll find 0:10:16.679 --> 0:10:19.520 out quicker. It won't take a dictator, you know, ten 0:10:19.600 --> 0:10:21.880 years to mind out. And if I'm right, we'll continue. 0:10:21.920 --> 0:10:24.439 If I'm wrong, we'll make a shift. And he said it. 0:10:24.679 --> 0:10:26.800 He said it just was outside of his world, was 0:10:26.800 --> 0:10:28.839 so simple. And then he told me one other one 0:10:28.840 --> 0:10:30.120 that I thought was really good. He said he was 0:10:30.200 --> 0:10:32.160 leaving one time, and he left him as a private 0:10:32.200 --> 0:10:34.400 in charge of things. He said, you're in charge, you 0:10:34.440 --> 0:10:37.360 make these decisions, you do these things. He said, general, General, 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:42.440 how do I know what to do? He said, rule thirteen? 0:10:42.480 --> 0:10:44.960 He goes rule thirteen. Sir, he's starting out the door, 0:10:44.960 --> 0:10:46.959 and he says, what's rule thirteen? Conn figure out what 0:10:47.000 --> 0:10:51.640 rule thirteen was? When put in command? Take charge? He goes, Okay, 0:10:51.800 --> 0:10:54.840 he goes, but but how do I make the right decision? Goes? 0:10:54.920 --> 0:10:58.600 Rule fourteen? Goes rule fourteen? Sir? What's rule fourteen? Do 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:03.360 what's right? And those simple approaches I think can guide us. 0:11:03.440 --> 0:11:06.760 And I really believe decision making is the most important thing. 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:08.400 So if you don't like your body, change it. If 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.640 you like your relationship, change it. Maybe change you first, 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:13.040 otherwise you'll trade people and have the same problems. Right, 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:16.200 you know you don't like your career, change it. But 0:11:16.400 --> 0:11:18.480 it for things to get better. We got to get 0:11:18.480 --> 0:11:20.679 better for things to change. My teacher gym aroone say, 0:11:20.760 --> 0:11:23.040 you got to change, right, But it all begins with 0:11:23.080 --> 0:11:26.000 a decision. So maybe start with small decisions or maybe 0:11:26.200 --> 0:11:29.480 attack a big one. Because when you do you get momentum. 0:11:29.640 --> 0:11:31.440 And by the way, it's only a decision if you 0:11:31.480 --> 0:11:33.839 act on it immediately. And so I have a rule 0:11:33.920 --> 0:11:37.439 that's like anytime I set a goal, anytime I make 0:11:37.480 --> 0:11:40.560 a decision, I make sure that within a few minutes 0:11:40.600 --> 0:11:42.440 of making it, I do something that commits me to 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:45.079 follow through. Because here's the other problem. Have you ever 0:11:45.120 --> 0:11:47.960 done this? You ever made a decision then not follow through? Yeah? 0:11:48.040 --> 0:11:52.960 Why because I was Maybe because I made a decision 0:11:53.080 --> 0:11:55.160 and I was uneasy about it afterwards, or there was 0:11:55.400 --> 0:11:57.920 some fear that crept in or I didn't I didn't 0:11:57.920 --> 0:11:59.720 have a plan to execute it on it properly. 0:12:00.840 --> 0:12:02.720 All those are the typical answers to you're it's spot 0:12:02.760 --> 0:12:05.240 on in your experience. But the biggest reason is people 0:12:05.320 --> 0:12:07.600 think decision is a one step process, and I found 0:12:07.600 --> 0:12:11.640 it's three. Right, you can decide in the moment. The 0:12:11.679 --> 0:12:13.920 reason I make that commitment that when I'm in the moment, 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:15.920 I do something that commits me. When I leave that moment, 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:18.680 you get in state, you get inspired enough, or you 0:12:18.679 --> 0:12:21.439 get pissed off enough, something moves you and say, none 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:23.640 of the day, not an hour, I'm changing this, right, 0:12:24.080 --> 0:12:26.320 But then when you leave that moment and you get 0:12:26.320 --> 0:12:29.199 caught up with some meeting or something with your family, 0:12:29.360 --> 0:12:32.400 or something in your social media, email or whatever it is. 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.679 Gradually you're in a different state. And then you don't 0:12:34.679 --> 0:12:37.240 fall through and what you're set is true. Something else 0:12:37.280 --> 0:12:39.800 comes up that you weren't prepared for. Right So a 0:12:39.880 --> 0:12:42.439 real decision, the word decision comes from decision in Latin 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:44.920 rings means to cut off from When you cut off 0:12:44.960 --> 0:12:47.199 any other possibility except what you committed to, you will 0:12:47.240 --> 0:12:49.079 find the way. It's always told people, if you want 0:12:49.120 --> 0:12:51.600 to take the island, burn your boats. As long as 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:53.680 your brain has a way out, it'll go back. And 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:55.840 it's amazing what you'll do when there's no option to 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:57.800 go back. Most of my career has been because I 0:12:57.880 --> 0:13:00.520 had no net. You know where its screen, Williams, and 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:02.280 I got to turn around right now. She can't get 0:13:02.320 --> 0:13:04.600 on her sister died. She can't get in on the USO. 0:13:04.679 --> 0:13:06.360 But she can't get on stand up, she can't get 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:08.319 up to do anything. Everybody knows I'm working with her. 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:11.199 I don't get her up. All thing's over, I get 0:13:11.200 --> 0:13:13.160 her up. I turn the president around. I do whatever 0:13:13.200 --> 0:13:15.520 I've got to do, no matter who it was with 0:13:15.640 --> 0:13:17.840 no net you find a way. So I think the 0:13:17.880 --> 0:13:21.400 biggest thing is once you decide you want to go 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:23.240 to the second step is commit In fact, I hear 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:24.640 women say this to me all the time. I know 0:13:24.679 --> 0:13:27.120 you have a large female audience. They'll say, you know, 0:13:27.200 --> 0:13:30.920 men don't commit, and I said, has he even decided? 0:13:32.160 --> 0:13:35.520 Because they are different steps. Women jump to commitment very quickly. 0:13:35.600 --> 0:13:39.400 Men not as quickly, right, and so deciding is like 0:13:39.520 --> 0:13:42.079 a war. Sometimes you know, I figure it out. Okay, 0:13:42.120 --> 0:13:45.600 I've decided, but then commitment. If I ask your audience 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:47.320 to ask them, what's the difference, let me ask you 0:13:47.320 --> 0:13:49.120 what's the difference in deciding committing to you? 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:52.160 I feel like, decide is I know it's direction I 0:13:52.200 --> 0:13:54.280 want to do. Go in commitment is I want to 0:13:54.320 --> 0:13:56.400 stay in that direction for a long period of time. 0:13:56.520 --> 0:13:58.640 Yes, you just added with exactly what it is. A 0:13:58.640 --> 0:14:02.000 commitment takes it into the few. Decision is the moment, 0:14:02.120 --> 0:14:04.760 and that moment can change, which is why so many 0:14:04.760 --> 0:14:07.640 people make a decision legitimately and don't follow through. That's 0:14:07.640 --> 0:14:10.080 why you need to take action immediately that commits you 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:13.840 to follow through, meaning book the meeting, enroll in the class, 0:14:13.960 --> 0:14:17.040 you know, call the person and set it up organized 0:14:17.080 --> 0:14:18.880 so you can have that conversation you haven't wanted to 0:14:18.880 --> 0:14:20.880 have and put it on the calendar so that there's 0:14:21.000 --> 0:14:25.120 momentum going out of it. But then committing. Deciding is 0:14:25.120 --> 0:14:27.440 really rough. Committing is not that rough. It's just creating 0:14:27.520 --> 0:14:30.760 enough compelling reasons to follow through, even though it might 0:14:30.800 --> 0:14:33.680 be tough right now. But there's a third step, and 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:38.080 after you decide and commit, there's resolve. What's dimsting decide 0:14:38.080 --> 0:14:40.680 and commit and resolve for you, what's the emotional difference? 0:14:42.320 --> 0:14:44.880 Resolve to me, at least from the way I'm hearing 0:14:44.920 --> 0:14:47.560 it is just in your own experience. Yeah, there's a 0:14:47.640 --> 0:14:51.400 sense of I feel a sense of confidence that I 0:14:51.440 --> 0:14:54.040 made the right decision, so I can recommit and reconnect. 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:56.680 Or I get a sense of now's the time to pivot, 0:14:57.080 --> 0:15:00.320 and so there's a resolution of am I continue down 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:01.480 this road or we're gonna pivot? 0:15:01.560 --> 0:15:03.000 Yes, at least how I hear. 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:05.880 I understand complete you're valuating with something new came. But 0:15:05.960 --> 0:15:08.160 to me, resolve is whatever you did in that moment, 0:15:08.680 --> 0:15:13.040 it's done right right. I know. Jim Runt had told 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:15.280 me one time that he was speaking about resolve to 0:15:15.360 --> 0:15:17.320 this audience of young people, and I think it was 0:15:17.360 --> 0:15:20.120 like a nine year old girl. He said, who's got definition? Resolve? 0:15:20.120 --> 0:15:21.560 And this young girl stood up and she said, I 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:23.920 think it's promising yourself you will never give up. 0:15:24.480 --> 0:15:24.760 Correct. 0:15:24.880 --> 0:15:27.680 It was a beautiful example. When you resolve, you're at peace. 0:15:28.640 --> 0:15:32.800 Deciding is like a war, right, committing choir's energy and 0:15:33.120 --> 0:15:35.440 take you into the future. As you describe and then resolve, 0:15:35.480 --> 0:15:38.040 it's amazing. It's like it's done. It's done in me. 0:15:38.120 --> 0:15:39.280 It may not be done in the world, but it's 0:15:39.320 --> 0:15:41.400 done in me. Now I'll find the way or I'll 0:15:41.440 --> 0:15:45.320 make the way, and there's no uncertainty, there's no fear, 0:15:45.520 --> 0:15:48.480 there's no anxiety, there's no it's like when you get 0:15:48.520 --> 0:15:51.320 to that psychological emotional place, that's the place and what 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:54.000 you get results. If you look at an athlete, athletes 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.280 are perfect examples this. I'm sure you've seen a time 0:15:56.280 --> 0:15:58.680 where you watch an athlete walk up to shoot a 0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:01.120 free thrower, let's say, a kick her football, and you 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:04.120 think it's going to miss it, yeah, and then they do. 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:05.920 How did you know they're going to miss it? 0:16:06.000 --> 0:16:09.840 Yeah, Physiology, the where their head was, where their eyes were. 0:16:09.840 --> 0:16:12.200 Yes, you could see in their state a lack of 0:16:12.320 --> 0:16:16.360 certainty when someone when you see, like you know, something 0:16:16.480 --> 0:16:19.480 like Lebron take the ball to go straight in and 0:16:19.680 --> 0:16:22.000 go over some top of somebody's head and put it through. 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:25.120 There is not He didn't just decide, he didn't just commit. 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:28.600 He has resolved that every ounce of his where it's 0:16:28.600 --> 0:16:28.920 going to go. 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:29.280 Yeah. 0:16:29.360 --> 0:16:33.360 Right, So I think, just to summarize, I think there 0:16:33.400 --> 0:16:35.320 isn't a more important skilled than decision making. And if 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.360 you're not good at all, you got to start making 0:16:37.360 --> 0:16:40.160 some decisions. What would you my question would be, instead 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:43.160 of just listening yesterday, if nothing else came out of this, 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:46.520 what's one little decision you could make that would increase 0:16:46.520 --> 0:16:48.440 the quality of your life that honestly you know you 0:16:48.480 --> 0:16:51.440 should make. Maybe even putting it off because it's inconvenient, 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:53.240 you've got lots of other stressful things in your life, 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.680 or you're not really comfortable. But if you really committed 0:16:55.840 --> 0:16:58.840 and you follow through, you just decided, commit it and 0:16:58.880 --> 0:17:01.360 follow through right resolved, where would you be a year 0:17:01.400 --> 0:17:03.160 from now? What would your life be like? And I 0:17:03.200 --> 0:17:05.879 would take a little decision and what action would you 0:17:05.880 --> 0:17:09.400 take today? Make that decision now and then if you're bold, 0:17:09.800 --> 0:17:12.080 what's a big decision, what's a tough decision, what's the 0:17:12.119 --> 0:17:14.639 decision you've been putting off? Or you know and you 0:17:14.720 --> 0:17:16.600 got it's right, But you know, it might be about 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:18.919 a relationship, you know, it might be about how you're 0:17:18.960 --> 0:17:21.200 dealing with your kids. It might be around your career 0:17:21.240 --> 0:17:23.920 or your business or your finances. But that's how life 0:17:23.960 --> 0:17:26.560 gets better. That's how you start treating life as opposed 0:17:26.600 --> 0:17:29.240 to being a manager of circumstance. And I think when 0:17:29.240 --> 0:17:34.160 people are maintaining, when they're managing their circumstances, when they're surviving, 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:37.480 they're miserable. Like we are made to grow and we're 0:17:37.480 --> 0:17:39.440 made to give. When we grow, we have more to give. 0:17:39.640 --> 0:17:41.959 And so I think decision making is the pathway one 0:17:42.000 --> 0:17:43.240 of them, certainly to getting there. 0:17:43.560 --> 0:17:45.960 Yeah, it's so powerful listening to you talk about it, 0:17:46.000 --> 0:17:49.760 because I feel a lot of us. The second mistake 0:17:49.800 --> 0:17:52.639 we make is that after we make a decision, we 0:17:52.720 --> 0:17:55.879 hope that that decision solved everything. So it's like you 0:17:55.960 --> 0:17:58.879 make one decision and then you're like, all right, well 0:17:58.920 --> 0:18:01.679 I quit my job or I left that person, or 0:18:01.680 --> 0:18:03.960