WEBVTT - Locked & Loving It 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:03.800 Hey, viewers, Sniffy's Cruising Confessions is an explicit podcast about 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:08.080 queer sex. Filter dirty words and unfiltered descriptions of sexual activities. 0:00:08.400 --> 0:00:12.360 If hearing about orgies, anonymous sex, kink, fetish, and more 0:00:12.480 --> 0:00:15.960 offends your sensibilities, you might want to skip this. Viewer 0:00:15.960 --> 0:00:18.880 discretion is advised. It's definitely not for kids. 0:00:20.320 --> 0:00:22.600 Put Jo, pussy put your put JR. 0:00:22.680 --> 0:00:23.360 Pussy up. 0:00:24.000 --> 0:00:26.599 Put Jo pussy put put Jo bus. 0:00:27.320 --> 0:00:30.520 Welcome to Sniffy's Cruising Confessions. I'm Gabe Gonzalez and I'm 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:31.520 Christattison Rosso. 0:00:31.720 --> 0:00:34.600 Each week we explore the sublime world of queer sex, cruising, 0:00:34.680 --> 0:00:35.560 and relationships. 0:00:35.640 --> 0:00:37.200 We talk to queer folks of all kinds. 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:40.880 We'll ask some questions, swap sex stories, share intimate revelations, 0:00:41.040 --> 0:00:43.599 and provide practical advice that you can use at home. 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:51.200 Jo put joust job good, Put job put Jo. Welcome 0:00:51.280 --> 0:00:54.680 back to Cruising Confessions. We are here for season two 0:00:55.040 --> 0:00:56.880 and we're so excited about it. We've got a brand 0:00:56.960 --> 0:00:59.560 new set. You might recognize these faces and these voices, 0:01:00.000 --> 0:01:01.520 but these glory holes behind us are. 0:01:01.480 --> 0:01:04.200 Absolutely brand new, and honestly, things are hotter than they've 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:04.640 ever been. 0:01:04.800 --> 0:01:08.200 Yes, we used all of them, all of them. Chris, 0:01:08.319 --> 0:01:11.120 I'm curious, have you ever been put into chastity? Have 0:01:11.200 --> 0:01:11.960 you ever been locked? 0:01:12.520 --> 0:01:17.000 Not seriously I have, I don't want to say dabbled, 0:01:17.000 --> 0:01:18.680 But my friends are like, I'm getting rid of this cage. 0:01:18.760 --> 0:01:19.320 Do you want it? 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:21.160 And I go over and try it on and it 0:01:21.280 --> 0:01:26.080 doesn't fit, so like, no, I've never been caged. Obviously, 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:28.600 in the last like ten years, it has just become 0:01:28.680 --> 0:01:30.160 more and more and more pervasive. 0:01:30.600 --> 0:01:33.400 Yeah, it seems like it's gained popularity. I was not 0:01:33.520 --> 0:01:35.680 familiar with the sort of like lingo surrounding it, So 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:37.240 for a long time on the apps, I would see 0:01:37.360 --> 0:01:40.080 people with like the locks on it, like the locked lock, 0:01:40.400 --> 0:01:42.280 and I was like, Oh, they're in a closed relationship. 0:01:42.360 --> 0:01:43.080 They're just tiered to. 0:01:43.160 --> 0:01:45.080 Chat, you know what I mean, Like I don't know 0:01:45.240 --> 0:01:46.959 idea what it meant. 0:01:47.360 --> 0:01:49.520 And the first time I hooked up with somebody who 0:01:49.520 --> 0:01:52.640 was wearing a cockage was actually a couple and one 0:01:52.680 --> 0:01:54.040 of them was wearing like a necklace with a key 0:01:54.040 --> 0:01:55.440 on it, and they always wearing a necklace with a lock, 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:57.640 and I was like, Oh, these like trendy faggots just 0:01:57.760 --> 0:01:59.440 like wearing their giant necklaces. 0:01:59.440 --> 0:02:00.360 I had no idea. 0:02:00.640 --> 0:02:02.440 So we start getting a dressed and he's fully wearing 0:02:02.480 --> 0:02:05.560 a cockage, and I kind of like stopped the hook up, 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:07.520 and I was like, wait, can I ask you about that? 0:02:07.560 --> 0:02:09.440 Like, I was so curious. I was like, how do 0:02:09.480 --> 0:02:09.839 you pee? 0:02:09.960 --> 0:02:11.360 What do you get out of it? Does it make 0:02:11.400 --> 0:02:12.040 you feel good? 0:02:12.320 --> 0:02:12.519 Yeah? 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:15.959 And I swear to God I saw him come with 0:02:16.120 --> 0:02:18.760 the cockage on, which is great. Like, I've never seen 0:02:18.800 --> 0:02:22.040 a soft dick challenging the laws of physics, as I 0:02:22.080 --> 0:02:26.120 know that cockages are are magical and mysterious to me. 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:29.320 So I'm like, I'm coming into this episode as a novice. Yeah, 0:02:29.560 --> 0:02:32.280 very fully and vulnerably admitting that right now. All right, Well, 0:02:32.320 --> 0:02:34.560 in case you haven't guessed this episode, we were talking 0:02:34.680 --> 0:02:37.320 all about chastity and why so many folks are going 0:02:37.360 --> 0:02:37.919 crazy for it. 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.320 Over the past decade, chastity has become one of the 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:43.320 most popular fetishes in the gay community, with cockage is 0:02:43.360 --> 0:02:45.560 becoming a must have for even the most casual kinkster. 0:02:45.800 --> 0:02:48.160 But we do some questions ken locking up your cock 0:02:48.400 --> 0:02:51.240 or your lovers actually enhance sexual pleasure. 0:02:51.360 --> 0:02:53.760 We'll find out and offer chastity tips for first times 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:54.799 or experience sub. 0:02:54.960 --> 0:02:57.959 Let's welcome our guests. Our first guest is Peter Cage, 0:02:58.080 --> 0:03:02.120 an artist, filmmaker, content creator, and lifestyle submissive who's been 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:05.640 interested in chastity for over two decades. Cage also hosts 0:03:05.720 --> 0:03:09.079 kink events in New York City, including Locked, the monthly 0:03:09.240 --> 0:03:12.520 chastity social at Rock Bar, which Chris will be heading 0:03:12.600 --> 0:03:13.560 up later in the show. 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:16.280 With Peter is his sir and keyholder, Jasper Reid, a 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:19.400 king enthusiast and content creator focused on rubber, fitness and 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:20.200 power dynamics. 0:03:20.320 --> 0:03:21.600 His journey with chastity has. 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:24.880 Evolved from personal exploration to a tool for connection, discipline, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.560 and growth, and easier to share what he's learned along 0:03:27.639 --> 0:03:31.679 the way. Welcome to Snippy's Cruising Confessions. Peter Cage and 0:03:31.760 --> 0:03:32.440 Jasper read. 0:03:32.760 --> 0:03:35.120 I feel like we should have taken wardrobe tips from 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.840 Mule for this episode. For sure, we're getting for those 0:03:37.840 --> 0:03:39.760 of you who cannot see, you might be listening, We're 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:40.520 getting a gear. 0:03:40.640 --> 0:03:41.360 We're getting leather. 0:03:41.840 --> 0:03:43.360 What are you wearing rubber? 0:03:43.600 --> 0:03:44.800 Yes, we're getting rubber. 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:48.560 We're getting rubber. When did you first discover chastity and cockcages? 0:03:48.720 --> 0:03:52.000 Oh gosh, it was when I was fifteen, and that 0:03:52.680 --> 0:03:54.839 was twenty five years ago. I had tryed to figure 0:03:54.880 --> 0:03:56.440 out that I was gay, and my parents made the 0:03:56.480 --> 0:03:58.920 mistake of putting a computer in a basement room. 0:03:58.800 --> 0:03:59.880 With a door that had a lock on. 0:04:02.280 --> 0:04:05.000 So I got pretty free rein to explore and I 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:10.040 found a blog by someone named Lord Chiranan on blogspot 0:04:10.120 --> 0:04:10.600 dot com. 0:04:11.240 --> 0:04:14.200 And this is before there was like chastity porn. 0:04:14.480 --> 0:04:17.400 No porn stars were wearing cottages, but that wasn't available, 0:04:17.560 --> 0:04:21.159 so he was literally taking vanilla porn and photoshopping chastity 0:04:21.240 --> 0:04:24.720 cages onto these guys sticks. But I thought it was 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:27.120 like the hottest thing in the universe. I thought it 0:04:27.200 --> 0:04:30.040 was so cool, but I also felt really lonely about it. 0:04:30.279 --> 0:04:32.560 I was in the closet, I was young, I didn't 0:04:32.600 --> 0:04:36.000 have a family. He was super accepting, and I imagined 0:04:36.000 --> 0:04:38.640 at that time that this was like a kink that 0:04:38.720 --> 0:04:41.320 I would never be able to share with a single 0:04:41.440 --> 0:04:45.400 other human like ever, cut to when I'm in college eighteen, 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:49.000 I ordered my first chastity cage. I think was a 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:53.160 CB three thousand, which I hope you've never heard of, 0:04:54.040 --> 0:04:57.679 a terrible, terrible chastity cage that no one should ever wear. Okay, 0:04:57.960 --> 0:04:59.760 But I remember I got it in the mail and 0:05:00.120 --> 0:05:02.200 I just it was so hot. I just like took 0:05:02.240 --> 0:05:04.240 out of the package and held it and I was 0:05:04.360 --> 0:05:08.279 so hard that I just jerked off and came holding 0:05:08.320 --> 0:05:10.200 it in my hand. And then once I came, I 0:05:10.320 --> 0:05:11.440 was like, I don't want to put that on, and 0:05:11.760 --> 0:05:13.680 in my deskter. It took me like three days to 0:05:13.720 --> 0:05:14.719 even try to put. 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:15.320 It on my body. 0:05:16.200 --> 0:05:18.400 When you first saw those images of this cages like, 0:05:18.520 --> 0:05:21.360 did you understand what it was or did you just 0:05:21.440 --> 0:05:23.359 like see this thing? Was immediately turned on by it. 0:05:23.480 --> 0:05:24.120 To a degree. 0:05:24.440 --> 0:05:25.360 I mean, I think you know. 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.200 One of the weird things about chastity is there's this 0:05:27.400 --> 0:05:31.600 kind of default narrative of like the submissive, locked bottom 0:05:31.839 --> 0:05:35.480 who's usually like a skinny, hairless twink, which, like those 0:05:35.480 --> 0:05:37.680 of you who can't see me, I'm six foot six, 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:43.200 very hairy, so I'm not a skinny hairless twink. My 0:05:43.360 --> 0:05:45.559 understanding was that was sort of the way it worked, 0:05:45.640 --> 0:05:47.400 and so I had a lot of like insecurity and 0:05:47.520 --> 0:05:50.920 dysmorphia issues because I wanted to fit into this ideal 0:05:51.080 --> 0:05:53.360 that was sort of part of this world, part of 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:56.599 this vibe that I knew just based on. My height 0:05:56.800 --> 0:05:59.200 was just not ever going to be attainable, so there 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.520 was a lot of similarliness. But I did understand that 0:06:01.560 --> 0:06:04.320 this was about domination and submission, and you know, I'm 0:06:04.360 --> 0:06:06.920 a lifestyle submissive. At the age of forty, I have 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:10.960 still never topped or penetrated anybody, so that part has 0:06:11.000 --> 0:06:13.440 sort of been very clear to me. You know, from 0:06:13.480 --> 0:06:15.080 when I was a young kid that I knew that 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:17.360 I was I wanted to be at bottom. I knew 0:06:17.400 --> 0:06:20.320 that I wanted to be a subesper. 0:06:20.360 --> 0:06:22.520 I'm curious about your story as well. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:25.680 It was probably three four years ago. I just was 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:29.080 scrolling social media. I kept seeing all these boys in 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:32.880 their cockages and I was like, this is weird, SORR. 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:35.280 I talked to one of my friends, Pop Finn, and 0:06:35.760 --> 0:06:38.080 he was like, you should just like buy one off 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:40.560 of a third party website and just try it out 0:06:41.120 --> 0:06:43.480 literally and siddenly. When I put it on, I was 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:47.080 completely transformed, But it wasn't like in a submissive way, 0:06:47.200 --> 0:06:50.200 like I felt very powerful when I had it on. 0:06:50.839 --> 0:06:53.960 I kind of like always like associated myself with being 0:06:54.040 --> 0:06:56.360 submissive because like I don't have a big dick. You know, 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:58.240 I'm a black man who grew up in the South, 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:01.640 and if it's not larger than average, than it's small. 0:07:02.200 --> 0:07:03.960 But when I put on the cage, it kind of 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:06.960 was like this opportunity to take that power back. And 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:09.840 now it was like I am more than just the 0:07:09.920 --> 0:07:13.360 size of my deck. I am still strong, confident, beautiful 0:07:13.400 --> 0:07:16.760 and muscular, And just because I don't have, you know, 0:07:16.840 --> 0:07:18.960 a ten inch dick doesn't mean that like I can't 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:22.800 still domb you. Ever since, like my domb side has 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:26.720 gotten better and better. I still cage pretty often, and 0:07:26.960 --> 0:07:29.240 I still feel more dumb when I'm in a cage 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:31.240 than out of it. Yeah, are you caged now? 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:33.560 I am, yes, very amazing. 0:07:33.880 --> 0:07:35.920 I'm gonna see you all are blowing my mind because 0:07:35.960 --> 0:07:37.640 I think for a very long time I thought of 0:07:37.760 --> 0:07:41.520 being caged as sort of a very straightforward dom sub dynamic. Right. 0:07:41.600 --> 0:07:42.960 So I heard Peter was caged, and I was like, Okay, 0:07:42.960 --> 0:07:45.800 obviously we have the keyholder Jasper in the house who 0:07:45.920 --> 0:07:48.880 is not, but you both are, which leads me to 0:07:49.000 --> 0:07:50.520 like a who watches the Watchman kind of. 0:07:50.560 --> 0:07:54.440 Question, like the keyholder's keyholder. 0:07:56.200 --> 0:07:59.480 I'm fascinated, but it seems like you are interested in 0:07:59.600 --> 0:08:03.360 switching in these dom sub roles, and Peter, you're maybe 0:08:03.840 --> 0:08:06.720 more excited sexually staying in the submissive role. 0:08:07.240 --> 0:08:10.200 So how do you all sort of navigate that right? 0:08:10.240 --> 0:08:13.080 Like, how do you, specifically, Jasper navigate sort of being 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:14.840 caged but also being a keyholder, Like. 0:08:14.920 --> 0:08:16.880 There are plenty of ways to like have sex without 0:08:17.000 --> 0:08:21.280 using your dick. I have a really great strap on, 0:08:22.000 --> 0:08:25.520 a great strap on with like probably ten to fifteen 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:30.240 different attachments, so spector gadgets, I will fuck you in 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.880 that way. But like even still, like I still use 0:08:32.920 --> 0:08:35.720 my dick. I'm a great top. I'm really into power exchange. 0:08:36.240 --> 0:08:40.440 So I do find that like dickless with a big dick, 0:08:40.760 --> 0:08:42.719 any type of dick, like you can still be their 0:08:42.760 --> 0:08:45.240 dom or sub It doesn't really matter. Peter, have you 0:08:45.320 --> 0:08:48.199 ever been a keyholder or you strictly lucked. 0:08:48.080 --> 0:08:50.040 Maybe in like the role of like a big brother, 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.600 stepped into a kind of a you know, a mentor 0:08:53.720 --> 0:08:57.319 a teacher kind of way. But the truth is, the 0:08:57.360 --> 0:09:01.760 minute some hot dominant man comes and begins bossing me around, 0:09:02.800 --> 0:09:05.480 I forget about the course of I have age because 0:09:05.520 --> 0:09:08.120 in my heart of hearts, I'm a submissive and I 0:09:08.240 --> 0:09:09.520 just want to be a good boy and do as 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:11.680 I'm totally really obedient, like. 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:14.079 Sorry, I lost your key, You're locked forever. Yeah. 0:09:14.320 --> 0:09:16.079 Someone's like what about me, and I'm like, oh, I 0:09:16.120 --> 0:09:17.400 don't good luck. 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:17.800 I don't know. 0:09:19.520 --> 0:09:21.240 Do either of you know much about the history of 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:25.520 chastity devices from eras past and maybe how they kind 0:09:25.559 --> 0:09:28.240 of entered the mainstream as fetish objects. 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:30.600 My understanding is that most of that is a myth. 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:33.800 We had this idea of the medieval night locking his 0:09:33.960 --> 0:09:36.440 wife in chastity, so when he goes off to the war, 0:09:37.080 --> 0:09:40.080 you know, her virtue is protected from the evil other 0:09:40.200 --> 0:09:42.920 men who are around. There's not a lot of comprehensive 0:09:43.000 --> 0:09:45.800 or reliable history about this. Most people seem to agree 0:09:46.000 --> 0:09:50.040 that these kind of metal, draconian, welded devices that we 0:09:50.200 --> 0:09:52.520 sort of imagine in museums are mostly inventions of the 0:09:52.559 --> 0:09:57.160 nineteenth century, and we're there to satirize or stereotype some 0:09:57.320 --> 0:10:00.920 idea of protecting the virtue of these damn I think 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.840 what's interesting about that idea is that it's not really 0:10:03.880 --> 0:10:06.760 about the denial of pleasure. It's about the protection of 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:10.720 virtue correct and I think that's still an operational sort 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:13.120 of concept in the chastity world. Today, it's not so 0:10:13.280 --> 0:10:15.560 much about I mean, it's about denying pleasure, but it's 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.000 also about building up the sub or helping, you know, 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:20.760 helping the sub become the best version of themselves, which 0:10:20.800 --> 0:10:22.480 seems like it has roots in that myth, even though 0:10:22.480 --> 0:10:23.439 I don't think the history. 0:10:23.200 --> 0:10:24.679 Is really Yeah, and I guess it sort of like 0:10:24.800 --> 0:10:27.280 leads me to my next question, like, what is the 0:10:27.360 --> 0:10:30.560 difference between like chastity and like come denial? 0:10:30.800 --> 0:10:33.360 Can you do one without having the other or vice versa. 0:10:33.600 --> 0:10:36.400 I've been locked in chastity. This is day fifty not 0:10:36.480 --> 0:10:40.120 wearing my cage, and it's only come off about once 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.600 a week to shave and clean. In that fifty days, 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:48.400 Sir Jasper has allowed me four orgasms I think three. 0:10:49.320 --> 0:10:52.959 You're like, I'm not that permission that generous. 0:10:54.720 --> 0:10:56.200 So for us, it's definitely both. 0:10:56.400 --> 0:10:59.640 I'm required to wear the cage and get permission to 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:02.920 lock the cage for any reason, but I'm also required 0:11:03.080 --> 0:11:05.920 to get permission to come. And every time I have 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.719 come in that time, it has been the feat that 0:11:08.840 --> 0:11:11.040 I think you mentioned in the intro, that has been 0:11:11.120 --> 0:11:11.720 in the cage. 0:11:12.160 --> 0:11:17.800 Yeah, that's wild to me. It's like magic. You both 0:11:17.800 --> 0:11:18.680 have a different cities. 0:11:18.760 --> 0:11:21.920 So how did you two find each other, start your relationship, 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:25.640 and then how do you manage this keyholder locked sub dynamic. 0:11:25.920 --> 0:11:28.120 Initially, I was just coming to New York to film 0:11:28.200 --> 0:11:30.160 some content. I saw that he was kind of a 0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:33.280 pillar in the cage community. So I was like, let's 0:11:33.400 --> 0:11:37.360 do something, and we instantly hit it off, had a 0:11:37.400 --> 0:11:40.319 great session. We were done with our session and he 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:42.040 was using his vibe and he's like, I don't think 0:11:42.200 --> 0:11:45.280 i'll come with somebody present. I've never done that before. 0:11:45.280 --> 0:11:46.400 And I was like, well, let's just try. 0:11:46.600 --> 0:11:49.240 And he came so like instantly, like it took me 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:53.760 like ninety seconds, Jasper, like rubbing my cheek gently and 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:57.160 holding a vibelind on my cage, and like I had 0:11:57.200 --> 0:12:00.600 an insane orgasm that was like so powerful. 0:12:01.160 --> 0:12:05.240 Yeah, what does chastity do for each of you sexually. 0:12:05.559 --> 0:12:08.040 In a sort of subcontext. 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:11.679 There's this idea of like my pleasure is irrelevant, or 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:13.760 like I'm just a hole to be used. That's a 0:12:13.840 --> 0:12:15.959 very compelling idea is as submissive, there's a lot of 0:12:16.040 --> 0:12:18.680 comfort in being controlled. But then of course it also 0:12:19.120 --> 0:12:22.679 refocuses your attention. Right, So when my cock is locked 0:12:22.720 --> 0:12:25.320 in a cage. Then all of a sudden, all these 0:12:25.360 --> 0:12:27.520 other parts of my body. You know, I don't think 0:12:27.520 --> 0:12:29.959 I ever would have gone into fisting or chugging piss, 0:12:30.160 --> 0:12:33.240 or long term bondage or diapers or all these other 0:12:33.280 --> 0:12:35.640 great kinks that I'm super into if I could just 0:12:35.679 --> 0:12:37.439 sort of jerk off and get the fantasy out of 0:12:37.480 --> 0:12:40.240 my mind. So as you get more and more pent up, 0:12:40.600 --> 0:12:42.199 I get more and more piggy, I get more and 0:12:42.280 --> 0:12:44.520 more eager, I get more and more depraved, and more 0:12:44.559 --> 0:12:47.280 and more submissive and sort of hungry for you know, 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:49.240 more extreme sexual scenarios. 0:12:49.679 --> 0:12:50.920 The cage was sort of the gateway. 0:12:51.679 --> 0:12:52.400 It is a gateway. 0:12:52.480 --> 0:12:52.640 King. 0:12:52.960 --> 0:12:54.839 How about you, Jasper, do you feel that same kind 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:57.440 of like pent up sexual energy when you are locked? 0:12:57.480 --> 0:12:59.600 And then what does it feel like from the other perspective. 0:12:59.760 --> 0:13:01.959 So the first time I got into chastity, it was 0:13:02.000 --> 0:13:05.760 my first October, which is thirty one days, and I 0:13:06.000 --> 0:13:08.000 was like, I'm really into this. I'm just going to 0:13:08.080 --> 0:13:10.440 keep it going. So I stayed locked for seventy nine days, 0:13:11.040 --> 0:13:14.319 and in that time I was really into stretching my 0:13:14.360 --> 0:13:16.600 hole and it was really all because of the cage. 0:13:16.640 --> 0:13:18.360 It just made me like so horny and I did 0:13:18.440 --> 0:13:22.200 that for the purpose of achieving a hands free orgasm. 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:24.959 But even from the other side, I do think that 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:28.000 as a dom it is really fun to see us 0:13:28.440 --> 0:13:31.160 beg to have your dick and it's locked up. It's like, 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.319 all right, well do X, Y and Z and I'll 0:13:33.400 --> 0:13:34.199 unlock in fuck you. 0:13:34.920 --> 0:13:36.599 So it's the same device but being used to a 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:38.800 different end as like a tool of denial. 0:13:39.120 --> 0:13:41.719 I always used the metaphor of like the parent who 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:44.199 like won't let the kid like unlock the cookie jar 0:13:44.679 --> 0:13:48.600 unless the cookie jar. Yeah, So it's like, I gotta 0:13:48.600 --> 0:13:50.480 be a really really good boy if I want to 0:13:50.520 --> 0:13:51.000 second dick. 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:51.360 Yeah. 0:13:52.760 --> 0:13:55.040 Why do you think chastity is really blown up in 0:13:55.200 --> 0:13:57.679 like the last ten years, Like I think Cosmopoulitan. 0:13:58.000 --> 0:14:01.040 Just think chastitis or fetish of the year? Wow, Like, 0:14:01.240 --> 0:14:05.320 first of all, what Cosmo found out about that we're 0:14:05.320 --> 0:14:09.480 doing something wrong of Cosmo or maybe we're doing something right. 0:14:09.679 --> 0:14:11.400 I mean, I have a bunch of theories about it. 0:14:11.559 --> 0:14:14.079 Part of it is just the technology that now we 0:14:14.160 --> 0:14:16.880 have these three D printed cages that production value. They 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.800 can be really smooth. If a chastity cage has even 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:22.600 a tiny imperfection in the plastic or something. You wear 0:14:22.640 --> 0:14:24.280 it for days at a time, as you're getting hard, 0:14:24.640 --> 0:14:27.080 it will chafe and rub, raw and blister, and it 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:29.680 will be also a PSA. If that happens to you, 0:14:30.120 --> 0:14:31.200 take your cage off right away. 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:31.600 Don't. 0:14:31.680 --> 0:14:34.320 Don't try and power through like that is just not 0:14:34.400 --> 0:14:36.400 the way to do that. I also think that it's 0:14:36.480 --> 0:14:39.440 not so much about your worthless and you, you know, 0:14:39.680 --> 0:14:42.400 belong in a cage. It can also be we lock 0:14:42.480 --> 0:14:44.480 you up because you're precious and valuable and we want 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:44.960 to protect you. 0:14:45.240 --> 0:14:45.400 You know. 0:14:45.840 --> 0:14:47.600 It can have a daddy vibe, It can have an 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:50.520 ABDL vibe, It can have a puppy play vibe. But 0:14:50.560 --> 0:14:53.200 these are all kinks that involve a dom who is 0:14:53.280 --> 0:14:56.320 expressing affection and care for their submissive rather than just 0:14:56.440 --> 0:14:58.960 kind of stern punishment and degradation. And then I also 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:01.120 think there's a gender can into this too, that the 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:04.040 mitigation of the phallus and the sort of removal of 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:07.240 the erection and the erect penis make some folks, whether 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.720 their trans or not, feel like their gender identity is 0:15:09.760 --> 0:15:12.120 sort of able to flourish in the bedroom in a 0:15:12.200 --> 0:15:12.920 more comfortable way. 0:15:13.080 --> 0:15:16.960 Yeah, do you think COVID played a huge part in this. Absolutely, 0:15:17.000 --> 0:15:19.560 people just sitting at home, sitting at home. What am 0:15:19.600 --> 0:15:21.360 I gonna do? How am I going to get myself 0:15:21.400 --> 0:15:24.480 off in a different way? I can't go and hook up? 0:15:24.640 --> 0:15:25.760 It makes complete sense. 0:15:26.160 --> 0:15:28.600 Yeah, yeah, I mean covid is when I started my 0:15:28.720 --> 0:15:31.760 Twitter account for real, and that is the thing that 0:15:31.920 --> 0:15:35.560 basically allowed me to start the party, because you can't 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:38.200 really start a party if you don't know who's gonna 0:15:38.200 --> 0:15:41.440 come exactly, who's. 0:15:41.200 --> 0:15:47.680 Gonna nobody, nobody, nobody. Don't tell the straight people. 0:15:48.640 --> 0:15:52.440 There was a massive misunderstanding of October. I believe. 0:15:55.880 --> 0:15:59.880 Everything to what happened is straight men got a hold 0:15:59.880 --> 0:16:03.920 of October. Yeah, and he took the name and tried 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:05.600 to make it mean that they were locking in for 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:08.600 the month and like only eating healthy, like locking in. 0:16:09.040 --> 0:16:09.240 Yeah. 0:16:09.280 --> 0:16:11.680 I started seeing October on some accounts, so I did 0:16:11.760 --> 0:16:12.440 not expect. 0:16:12.200 --> 0:16:12.480 To see that. 0:16:12.720 --> 0:16:14.280 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah yeah. 0:16:14.400 --> 0:16:16.920 My boyfriend is a high school teacher, and his kids 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:19.520 were coming in talking about being locked in for October. 0:16:21.240 --> 0:16:23.160 I wonder if that comes from no fab if there's 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:26.080 also this kind of like orgasm denial component of that 0:16:26.240 --> 0:16:28.000 browness And there was some bleed over there. 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:31.320 Oh yeah, this whole like manisphere, protect your essence by 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.960 not coming kind of yeah, yeah, yeah, it's like it's. 0:16:33.920 --> 0:16:36.400 Weird how like the right wing gets so gay sometimes. 0:16:36.520 --> 0:16:39.160 Yeah, honestly, I used to jerk off to no Fap. 0:16:39.200 --> 0:16:41.680 I thought it was so hot. It's so. 0:16:44.880 --> 0:16:49.560 It makes sense right there, right was encouraging. 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:50.200 Each other not to come. 0:16:50.320 --> 0:16:53.200 Oh my gosh. I do want to say though, that 0:16:53.320 --> 0:16:56.400 I do kind of feel like the essence is correct. 0:16:56.680 --> 0:17:00.240 October is a good time for anyone to achieve any 0:17:00.280 --> 0:17:02.200 type of goals that they have, And I do think 0:17:02.280 --> 0:17:06.080 that chastity is a device where we can explore our 0:17:06.119 --> 0:17:09.679 own self discipline, what motivates us, what triggers us, all 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:12.440 that stuff, And so if the street bros want to 0:17:12.480 --> 0:17:16.520 walk in, walk in, maybe the bros are just some things. 0:17:18.119 --> 0:17:18.800 You talked about how. 0:17:18.800 --> 0:17:21.920 Racial dynamics played a role in your interest or maybe 0:17:22.080 --> 0:17:25.600 hesitancy when engaging with chastity in cages. Could you talk 0:17:25.640 --> 0:17:27.520 to us a little bit more about that again, growing 0:17:27.600 --> 0:17:29.879 up in the South, like that was just something that 0:17:31.160 --> 0:17:32.840 there's not a lot of gay media, there's not a 0:17:32.880 --> 0:17:35.880 lot of gay representation, and the representation that is there 0:17:36.520 --> 0:17:40.280 is all white muscle men. The only time you see 0:17:40.600 --> 0:17:43.879 a different race is when they are playing into some 0:17:44.040 --> 0:17:47.200 type of stereotype. Sure I didn't fit that stereotype. As 0:17:47.240 --> 0:17:49.880 I've been more public, I have gotten so many messages 0:17:50.000 --> 0:17:54.040 from black men saying like, thank you for just not 0:17:54.880 --> 0:17:58.040 being toxic about like having a BBC. 0:17:58.480 --> 0:18:00.400 You know what I mean. There are so many black 0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:03.840 men who are in chastity now, and I think it's 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:08.320 fucking gorgeous. I think it's absolutely beautiful. So many men 0:18:08.400 --> 0:18:12.359 that are like way more open about their holes, being bottoms, 0:18:12.480 --> 0:18:16.160 being submissive, like all these things that we're told as 0:18:16.320 --> 0:18:19.520