1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need 2 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:08,800 Speaker 1: advice on relationship, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Submit 3 00:00:09,039 --> 00:00:12,760 Speaker 1: your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM dot com and 4 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:17,760 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:17,920 --> 00:00:20,640 Speaker 1: like we're going to read this one today. 6 00:00:20,960 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 2: Nephew, what you got? Buck it up? Hold on tight. 7 00:00:25,640 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 3: I'm sure I got caught up in the moment. Buckle 8 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:29,040 Speaker 3: up and hold on tight. We got it for you. 9 00:00:29,080 --> 00:00:29,680 Speaker 2: Here it is. 10 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 3: It is a Strawberry letter. Yeah, appreciate you, pimp. Listen, 11 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:35,879 Speaker 3: Charlley ain't here today, So this is how we do it. 12 00:00:36,320 --> 00:00:38,559 Speaker 3: I'm gonna read the letter, call it go response, then 13 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:42,839 Speaker 3: I'll respond. Okay, subject is I think my wife is 14 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:47,040 Speaker 3: a shame to me? Just Stephen Shirley. I'm a fifty 15 00:00:47,080 --> 00:00:50,160 Speaker 3: eight year old married man. I'm a dump truck driver. 16 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:53,760 Speaker 3: I retired from teaching after thirty years in the classroom. 17 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:57,280 Speaker 3: I was only fifty five, so I decided to reinvent 18 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:01,000 Speaker 3: myself and get back to work. I was talking one 19 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:05,080 Speaker 3: of my homeboys that has a hauling business. I hadn't 20 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 3: talked to him in years. One day I ran up 21 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:09,319 Speaker 3: into him and he was telling me how he bought 22 00:01:09,319 --> 00:01:12,520 Speaker 3: a truck and he gets a lot of business hauling dirt, 23 00:01:12,640 --> 00:01:16,640 Speaker 3: tree limbs, and debris, and he sets his own rates. 24 00:01:17,120 --> 00:01:19,920 Speaker 3: He said he already made twenty seven thousand this year 25 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,560 Speaker 3: and it's only March. I went to my wife with 26 00:01:23,640 --> 00:01:26,720 Speaker 3: the idea of buying a truck and taking a class 27 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:31,000 Speaker 3: to become a certified driver. She shot that idea down. 28 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 3: She said I should go find something better to do. 29 00:01:34,360 --> 00:01:36,479 Speaker 3: I went in one year in after the other one, 30 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 3: because I had already had done some research on how 31 00:01:39,520 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 3: to start my business. Then I talked to another buddy 32 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 3: of mine that's a fire man, and he said when 33 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 3: people have fires, they need damaged furniture and clothes to 34 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:52,680 Speaker 3: be hauled off. He said, it's so many possibilities. Freend 35 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:56,560 Speaker 3: come if I own a truck. So I went and 36 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:01,360 Speaker 3: leased a truck. Then I completed my training. I've been 37 00:02:01,440 --> 00:02:04,520 Speaker 3: driving for four months and my uncle lets me park 38 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 3: the truck on the side of this convenience store. My 39 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 3: wife is very upset about my new profession. I think 40 00:02:13,680 --> 00:02:17,400 Speaker 3: she's ashamed of me. I over talking to her bugey 41 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:26,440 Speaker 3: ass Mama, I'm sorry that tone that you don't say, 42 00:02:26,520 --> 00:02:32,760 Speaker 3: ask yes. I overheard her talking to her bullge and mama, 43 00:02:33,480 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 3: and she says she hopes this is just a phase. 44 00:02:36,360 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 3: Because I have a PhD and I'm driving a dump truck. 45 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:43,640 Speaker 3: I was hurt and I wanted to tell her to 46 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:47,720 Speaker 3: stop asking for my dump truck money. Then how do 47 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 3: I build with a wife who is ashamed of my 48 00:02:50,320 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 3: new hustle and refuses to support me, my lord taking 49 00:02:55,960 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 3: away caller? 50 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:58,919 Speaker 2: All right, thank you, Steve Well. 51 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: I mean, she sounds like she's not with it, which 52 00:03:02,639 --> 00:03:06,840 Speaker 1: you knew because she specifically told you that. But since 53 00:03:06,880 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: you knew how she felt, you just can't be mad 54 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:13,840 Speaker 1: at her feelings. The good news is that she's not 55 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:17,359 Speaker 1: threatening to leave you. So I think you just have 56 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 1: to keep hustling to pay the bills, because if you 57 00:03:20,360 --> 00:03:23,720 Speaker 1: don't contribute to the household, and if you don't help 58 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: pay the bills, that's a whole another issue. So if 59 00:03:28,639 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 1: your wife, I don't know, if she starts talking about divorce, 60 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: then you have a decision to make. 61 00:03:33,800 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 2: But go to your wife. 62 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,040 Speaker 1: You have to talk to her and maybe you guys 63 00:03:37,080 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: can come together at what new ideas. She will support 64 00:03:41,040 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: for you hustling and and support you in that. 65 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:46,880 Speaker 2: But for now, you have to keep hustling. 66 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:49,800 Speaker 1: You have to contribute to the household, because I'm telling 67 00:03:49,880 --> 00:03:52,080 Speaker 1: you as a wife, if you come in there with 68 00:03:52,240 --> 00:03:55,960 Speaker 1: no contribution, you're going to have a bigger, bigger issue. 69 00:03:55,960 --> 00:04:02,360 Speaker 2: Hello, Hello, you got to sell something to the table. 70 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:03,839 Speaker 2: What you got to see here? 71 00:04:03,880 --> 00:04:06,080 Speaker 3: I go. I think my wife is ashamed of me. 72 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:10,080 Speaker 3: I think you right. I think this is ignorance on 73 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:14,000 Speaker 3: her part. If you asked me. Here's a man who's 74 00:04:14,040 --> 00:04:19,279 Speaker 3: fifty eight years old, and he was in the classroom. Now, 75 00:04:19,400 --> 00:04:23,560 Speaker 3: teacher's already underpaid, but you know, obviously he did well 76 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 3: enough to retire. Some congratulations to the brother. He was 77 00:04:27,400 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 3: in thirty years in the classroom, and so he fifty five, 78 00:04:30,160 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 3: he decided to reinvent himself. He ran up in the 79 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 3: but it had a dump truck and was telling her 80 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 3: how much money had made. He had made twenty seven 81 00:04:36,400 --> 00:04:38,960 Speaker 3: thousand dollars so far for the year, and it was 82 00:04:39,040 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 3: just now March. So he went in there and told 83 00:04:41,839 --> 00:04:45,840 Speaker 3: his wife about this idea he thought about of raising 84 00:04:45,880 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 3: some more money and taking a class become a certified driver. 85 00:04:51,040 --> 00:04:53,520 Speaker 3: She shot the idea down. Here is the key to 86 00:04:53,560 --> 00:04:56,599 Speaker 3: this whole letter. She shot the idea down. And said 87 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 3: I should go find something better to do. See you 88 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 3: got that PhD. She thinks you ought to put it 89 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,039 Speaker 3: to more Houston. Go do something what she considers better 90 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:15,600 Speaker 3: to do. But see, what some people don't understand is 91 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 3: owning a business. It's probably more valuable at this man 92 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:24,080 Speaker 3: in this point in his life than going to work 93 00:05:24,120 --> 00:05:28,839 Speaker 3: for somebody else. This man has an entrepreneurial spirit. He 94 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:32,560 Speaker 3: wants to freedom setting his own rates. He wants to 95 00:05:32,600 --> 00:05:35,600 Speaker 3: freedom of being his own boss. He ain't going back 96 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:38,320 Speaker 3: to work for nobody else. He put thirty years in 97 00:05:38,360 --> 00:05:42,080 Speaker 3: for somebody. This man that came up with an idea 98 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:45,239 Speaker 3: why I can make extra money. I don't mind working 99 00:05:45,279 --> 00:05:48,960 Speaker 3: with my hands. I'm gonna support my family, take care 100 00:05:48,960 --> 00:05:53,479 Speaker 3: of Now you're in here tripping now she kind of 101 00:05:53,520 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 3: ashamed of him, And I think in this letter is 102 00:05:55,440 --> 00:05:57,239 Speaker 3: now we're gonna get into it in the second half. 103 00:05:57,480 --> 00:06:00,880 Speaker 3: But that's exactly what then happened. Now she's wrong for this. 104 00:06:01,160 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 3: I think one hundred percent incorrect in the way she's 105 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 3: handling this. Ain't like and he's already making money because 106 00:06:10,960 --> 00:06:13,120 Speaker 3: he made a statement later on in the letter that 107 00:06:13,160 --> 00:06:15,960 Speaker 3: I'll read to you when we come back that says 108 00:06:16,040 --> 00:06:20,640 Speaker 3: he's making money, but it's her thought of the imagery. 109 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 3: What her friend's gonna say, why he driving the dump truck. 110 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 3: So when I come back, I will finish off. Okay, 111 00:06:35,720 --> 00:06:37,680 Speaker 3: all right, put her on a nice little package in 112 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 3: a bowl, and I will also tell you dog how 113 00:06:42,600 --> 00:06:45,120 Speaker 3: to be successful under these conditions. 114 00:06:45,440 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 2: All right, good news. All right. 115 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:50,440 Speaker 1: We'll have part two of Steve's response at twenty three 116 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:51,560 Speaker 1: after the hour. 117 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:52,720 Speaker 2: You're listening. 118 00:06:53,880 --> 00:06:54,479 Speaker 3: Morning show. 119 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 1: Okay, Steve, let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is 120 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:01,320 Speaker 1: I think my wife is ashamed of me. 121 00:07:02,560 --> 00:07:06,360 Speaker 3: Yeah, well i'd heard that before. 122 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:09,400 Speaker 2: What's that about? You come on with the recap. 123 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:12,800 Speaker 3: That's why you call in. And I've had a lot 124 00:07:12,800 --> 00:07:16,440 Speaker 3: of experience, had a lot of things fiddy that you 125 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 3: all married. Man, he's a dump truck driver. He retired 126 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 3: from teaching and he was sitting at the house, you know, 127 00:07:22,640 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 3: for a while. He was only fifty five, so he 128 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:26,679 Speaker 3: wanted to reinvent himself. He ran up in the buddy. 129 00:07:26,720 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 3: He had a hauling service, and he told him he 130 00:07:29,160 --> 00:07:30,960 Speaker 3: had a truck, and he was how much extra money 131 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:34,880 Speaker 3: you could make by hauling debris, trees, furniture, dirt, and 132 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:37,760 Speaker 3: all like this, and said he'd already made twenty seven 133 00:07:37,840 --> 00:07:40,480 Speaker 3: thousand dollars and it was only March. He said, why, 134 00:07:40,560 --> 00:07:42,600 Speaker 3: that's a good idea, man. So he took the idea 135 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:45,480 Speaker 3: into his wife and she shot it down. And the 136 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:48,240 Speaker 3: key word for her was, I think you should go 137 00:07:48,320 --> 00:07:53,040 Speaker 3: find something to do. That's a very bushy statement. So 138 00:07:53,240 --> 00:07:55,440 Speaker 3: that went in one end out the other because he 139 00:07:55,520 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 3: was already researching on how to start his own business. 140 00:07:58,640 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 3: Then he ran up into another on his that was 141 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 3: a fire man and said, when people got fires, they 142 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,960 Speaker 3: need people to haul off they old clothes, debriathe furniture, 143 00:08:08,520 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 3: all mattresses, all this health. He said, it's a whole 144 00:08:11,880 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 3: lot of possibilities if you own a truck. So dude 145 00:08:16,760 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 3: in the letter went at least a truck. Then he 146 00:08:20,640 --> 00:08:24,480 Speaker 3: completed his training. He been driving for four months and 147 00:08:24,480 --> 00:08:26,520 Speaker 3: his uncle let him park the truck on the side 148 00:08:26,520 --> 00:08:31,160 Speaker 3: of his convenience store. My wife is very upset about 149 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:35,080 Speaker 3: my new profession, and I think she's ashamed of me. 150 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:38,679 Speaker 3: And you know how he found out. He overheard her 151 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,320 Speaker 3: talking to her bugey as mama. 152 00:08:41,520 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: It does not say you're adding to the description now. 153 00:08:46,440 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 3: It should say little Budgey and Madmi, You and your 154 00:08:53,760 --> 00:08:58,880 Speaker 3: damn Madmi in that running your mouth with your Madmi, 155 00:09:03,040 --> 00:09:05,680 Speaker 3: She says. She hopes it's just a phase, because I 156 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:08,880 Speaker 3: have a PhD. What do the PhD have to do 157 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:11,559 Speaker 3: with the man wanting to be a businessman? What does 158 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 3: the PhD have to do with him wanting to own 159 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 3: his own service? What does a PhD have to do 160 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 3: with him making extra money? What does a PhD? How 161 00:09:23,080 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 3: does a PhD allow you to be your own boss? 162 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 3: The man, see, PhD does not allow you to be 163 00:09:32,280 --> 00:09:37,640 Speaker 3: the man? Not in his world in education, his PhD 164 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 3: will allow him to get a job somewhere. Every job 165 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:46,080 Speaker 3: you get gonna have a supervisor attached to it, most 166 00:09:46,120 --> 00:09:49,360 Speaker 3: of them. I know. He tied of it. So now 167 00:09:49,520 --> 00:09:51,480 Speaker 3: he was hurt, and he wanted to tell her to 168 00:09:51,480 --> 00:09:56,040 Speaker 3: stop asking for my dump truck money. Oh so, oh right, 169 00:09:57,040 --> 00:10:00,319 Speaker 3: Oh so you closet embarrassed. You're gonna spend the money 170 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 3: that the dump truck making, but you don't want him 171 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,640 Speaker 3: to drive the dump truck. Well, the truck don't drive 172 00:10:06,679 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 3: his damn self, So that's kind of crazy. Now, he 173 00:10:10,480 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 3: says to me, how do I beild with the wife 174 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:16,800 Speaker 3: who is ashamed of my new hustle and refuses to 175 00:10:16,840 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 3: support me. Now we have a problem. I'm pretty sure 176 00:10:21,559 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 3: some other people, like myself have been in the situation 177 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 3: where you couldn't get support from somebody that you felt 178 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:30,960 Speaker 3: was your teammate or something like that, your living in person, 179 00:10:31,040 --> 00:10:37,120 Speaker 3: your spouse. You know, we've all had that happen to us. Well, 180 00:10:37,160 --> 00:10:39,600 Speaker 3: one thing about it. When I was told if you 181 00:10:39,640 --> 00:10:42,679 Speaker 3: go out there on tour, don't ever come back. I 182 00:10:42,840 --> 00:10:46,199 Speaker 3: was told, if you really love me, quit your job, 183 00:10:46,360 --> 00:10:49,840 Speaker 3: quit doing that and get a regular job. You see 184 00:10:49,840 --> 00:10:52,800 Speaker 3: me on this radio, don't you? You see me on 185 00:10:52,920 --> 00:10:56,320 Speaker 3: Family Few, don't you? Cause I didn't give damn what 186 00:10:56,360 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 3: you was talking about. I have the right to pursue 187 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:04,440 Speaker 3: my dreams, and my dreams is valid. Now. If she had, 188 00:11:05,400 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 3: if she had an alternative for you, I could understand. Baby, 189 00:11:09,640 --> 00:11:13,000 Speaker 3: Instead of having a dump truck business, let's open up 190 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:15,840 Speaker 3: this tax service, because you know both of us are accountants. 191 00:11:16,120 --> 00:11:19,240 Speaker 3: But that ain't the case. Well, baby, let's don't don't 192 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:21,960 Speaker 3: do the dump truck business. I would rather put the 193 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 3: money in this home remodeling survey. Yeah, but but that 194 00:11:25,160 --> 00:11:28,079 Speaker 3: ain't what she did. All she did was complain about 195 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:31,199 Speaker 3: you driving a dump truck because it's embarrassing to because 196 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:36,520 Speaker 3: she busy and her mama bullsgy. So you have problem. 197 00:11:37,160 --> 00:11:39,920 Speaker 3: I'll support myself though, See, I just keep on doing 198 00:11:39,960 --> 00:11:42,800 Speaker 3: what I'm doing. It's hard, you know, it's kind of 199 00:11:42,840 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 3: crazy though. Man, you can run up into you could 200 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:47,079 Speaker 3: be married to a person that don't support you and 201 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:49,679 Speaker 3: tell you what. Ladies, let me just say this too. Women, 202 00:11:50,360 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 3: do you know the thing that hurts me and the 203 00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:57,040 Speaker 3: most that they don't really mention? You know what bothers 204 00:11:57,120 --> 00:12:02,640 Speaker 3: us more than anything, a lack of appreciation. It is 205 00:12:02,720 --> 00:12:08,079 Speaker 3: the lack of appreciation. Nothing bugs your man more that 206 00:12:08,400 --> 00:12:10,679 Speaker 3: don't that he won't say it to you than if 207 00:12:10,720 --> 00:12:14,439 Speaker 3: you don't appreciate him. Well, why I got well, he 208 00:12:14,480 --> 00:12:16,800 Speaker 3: don't appreciate me. Well, I ain't talking about that. I'm 209 00:12:16,800 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 3: talking about women who have husbands and men who are 210 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:23,280 Speaker 3: out here going to work and bringing it in the house, 211 00:12:23,360 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 3: trying to make it work. All we want is an 212 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 3: occasional pat on the head. I know it's hard out there, 213 00:12:30,120 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 3: but thank you so much for the way you try 214 00:12:32,080 --> 00:12:35,480 Speaker 3: to take care of this family. We really really appreciate it, 215 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:37,520 Speaker 3: and that would go a long way with some people. 216 00:12:38,160 --> 00:12:40,439 Speaker 3: But instead of just taking the money and then complaining 217 00:12:40,480 --> 00:12:44,199 Speaker 3: to your bullshy mammy, Yeah, thank you Steve and h 218 00:12:45,200 --> 00:12:47,559 Speaker 3: half of the money that you're getting off the dump truck. 219 00:12:47,720 --> 00:12:50,679 Speaker 1: Push your comments at Steve Harvey FM on the Gram 220 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:54,280 Speaker 1: and Facebook, and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on 221 00:12:54,400 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 1: the free iHeartRadio app Free Never Sounded So Good. 222 00:12:58,800 --> 00:13:00,640 Speaker 2: Downloaded today Now. 223 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,360 Speaker 1: Coming up at forty six after the hour, Junior is 224 00:13:03,400 --> 00:13:06,120 Speaker 1: in the building Sports Talk right after this. 225 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:07,959 Speaker 2: You're listening to this 226 00:13:08,200 --> 00:13:09,520 Speaker 3: Dave Harvey Morning Show.