Speaker 1: The interesting thing about what you're saying about sharing and
Speaker 1: that that popularity is the the rise of the selfie.
Speaker 1: The human in me desires to talk to them and
Speaker 1: to engage with them, But a lot of times I'm
Speaker 1: not treated as that human. I am not giving a
Speaker 1: pity story here. This is not what this is about.
Speaker 1: It's just it's an observation that sometimes people I'm the
Speaker 1: object of their selfie. Welcome back to the podcast, episode
Speaker 1: one oh five. One of my favorite guests, Chad, is back. Pastor.
Speaker 1: Chad celebrity Pastor. Don't say that because the celebrity something
Speaker 1: goes wrong for them. I'm kidding. I said that for
Speaker 1: a reason. I'll tell you a minute. But we also
Speaker 1: have your brand new podcast that's launching you created. We
Speaker 1: don't know, we don't have a launch date when we
Speaker 1: come out. We're to take a break after we do
Speaker 1: a couple questions, and I want you to tell everybody
Speaker 1: the details on that and when they might find it,
Speaker 1: how they might find it. Perfect and you're a celebrity
Speaker 1: because of that. It hasn't even come out yet, you're
Speaker 1: already a celebrity. There you go. Podcast. In all seriousness,
Speaker 1: this podcast is about answering your questions. We answer your
Speaker 1: questions that you write you email to Grangersmith podcast at
Speaker 1: gmail dot com. Could be about any subject. They have
Speaker 1: as of late gotten pretty deep, and I personally like
Speaker 1: to engage in the deeper questions. What's interesting is I
Speaker 1: also get a lot these days that says they want
Speaker 1: you to help answer the question specifically, pastor Chad, I
Speaker 1: need this. Sometimes it says it right in the subject
Speaker 1: line pastor Chad, I need I need your help, and
Speaker 1: so that makes it even more fun that you're here. Cool.
Speaker 1: I want to start with this first question and you'll
Speaker 1: see what my joke was. That subject line is why
Speaker 1: do we idolize celebrities? I don't no kidding, but that
Speaker 1: was an interesting question. It says, Hey, Grangdeer, I met
Speaker 1: you at Bristol this last weekend, and again I want
Speaker 1: to reiterate the positive Christian influencer having in country music.
Speaker 1: I'm currently reading a book called Wanting, and it is
Speaker 1: about the mimetic parentheses imitation desire that we have as humans.
Speaker 1: The author talks about the many ways that we imitate
Speaker 1: people and I can't help but think of the literal
Speaker 1: interpretation of this with celebrities. I think that you have
Speaker 1: some insight on this as being a celebrity yourself. Why
Speaker 1: is it that we jump up and down to get
Speaker 1: an autograph or celebrity or stand in line to get
Speaker 1: a selfie? Why do we listen to celebrities political or
Speaker 1: social opinions when we've never even met them? What makes
Speaker 1: their voice such an influence? This isn't meant to be
Speaker 1: a religious question, but more worldly. I have a strong
Speaker 1: group of christ follower of friends that I listen to
Speaker 1: and seek their guidance. But that said, I love your
Speaker 1: music and many other country musicians, and so now I'm
Speaker 1: wondering why a little more deeply. This is a long question,
Speaker 1: and I doubt you could read the whole thing on
Speaker 1: the air. Love your feedback gratefully, Josh. Thank you, Josh.
Speaker 1: It's a great question, unique question. I don't think we've
Speaker 1: got anything like this before on the podcast. And I
Speaker 1: think there are very few people that would use the
Speaker 1: word mimetic desire right, the idea of imitating. So yeah,
Speaker 1: this is he There's so many layers to what he
Speaker 1: talks about there, but it's true. We I mean, I
Speaker 1: can remember when I was a little kid and way
Speaker 1: up in small town Montana. It was a big deal
Speaker 1: that we had Marcus Allen running back for the Raiders
Speaker 1: was coming to our town. And the line that formed
Speaker 1: in the mall. That's a place if you're under a
Speaker 1: certain age, that's where you used to go and buy things.
Speaker 1: I don't know if they have malls anymore, I'm not sure,
Speaker 1: but we stood in line forever for him to use
Speaker 1: a sharpie and make his signal sure on a photo. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I still have that photo. They still have that autograph.
Speaker 1: And it's like, why was that such a big deal?
Speaker 1: And it was funny because I really didn't know a
Speaker 1: lot about Marcus Allen. It wasn't like I was a
Speaker 1: Marcus Allen fan. But when I learned who he was,
Speaker 1: that he was in the NFL, and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden he had more like stock. Yeah, it's crazy. I
Speaker 1: used to go to Texas Ranger games when I was
Speaker 1: a little kid, and I'd wait in a parking lot
Speaker 1: at the end for the baseball players to come out,
Speaker 1: and I'd just have a baseball and a pen ready,
Speaker 1: and I didn't care who it was, and I just
Speaker 1: wanted one of them to sign it. And usually it
Speaker 1: was a guy I didn't even know which It's kind
Speaker 1: of goes to what you're saying. Just their stock goes
Speaker 1: up because they're part of that team. And I'll bet
Speaker 1: you it's because, like if I think about my own
Speaker 1: desires in that, it's because if I am somehow uniquely
Speaker 1: associated with that person who has kind of this high
Speaker 1: you know, popularity or notoriety, then and I'm associated with him,
Speaker 1: then my stock will go up. Because what's the first
Speaker 1: thing I do when I get an autograph? I can't wait.
Speaker 1: I have people in mind that I'm going to tell,
Speaker 1: and I say, dude, guess what I got so and
Speaker 1: so signature? Even if you go into my office. When
Speaker 1: I was a little kid, I wrote a letter to
Speaker 1: a football player and he wrote back. Now, he could
Speaker 1: have been a stamp or something, but I've always believed
Speaker 1: it was his autograph, and I have it in my
Speaker 1: office and it's there, and I want people to say,
Speaker 1: WHOA you have so and so soon, you know, because
Speaker 1: there's this desire I have, maybe it makes me more
Speaker 1: important valuable. I mean, I think it gets into some
Speaker 1: of those just core human desires of identity purpose, meaning
Speaker 1: that is so right, and I think to speak to
Speaker 1: that that we've come to it. I think that probably
Speaker 1: has perpetuated tenfold in the modern world, especially with social media,
Speaker 1: because I know that we had celebrities in the old days,
Speaker 1: you know, the you know, hundreds of years ago. I
Speaker 1: know that there were celebrities, but I don't think that
Speaker 1: there was nearly as many as there are now because
Speaker 1: of social media world. Probably starting with TV was probably
Speaker 1: that when you could see their face, that was the
Speaker 1: that was what really kicked off celebrities, like in the fifties,
Speaker 1: but even since the fifties, I think were tenfold that
Speaker 1: And the interesting thing about what you're saying about sharing
Speaker 1: in that that popularity is the the rise of the selfie,
Speaker 1: because that proves even more more than an autograph. It
Speaker 1: proves I was there right with those present, and I
Speaker 1: could show you. And and that's what I see from
Speaker 1: the from the other side of the aisle here, what
Speaker 1: I see is when people come up in a meet
Speaker 1: and greet, I desire the human, the human in me
Speaker 1: desires to talk to them and to engage with them
Speaker 1: and to have a conversation of some sorts with another human.
Speaker 1: But a lot of times I'm not treated as that human.
Speaker 1: I am not giving a pity story here. This is
Speaker 1: not what this is about. It's just it's an observation
Speaker 1: that sometimes people I'm the object of their selfie and
Speaker 1: they're not there. They're on a mission to come and
Speaker 1: get and grab that selfie, and then they're on a
Speaker 1: mission to leave to send it out to all their friends.
Speaker 1: So there is an absence of true knowing or experience
Speaker 1: that could happen human to human. Yes, because their goal
Speaker 1: is something else. I need this instance to occur and
Speaker 1: record it so that my stock goes up, Yes, somewhere else.
Speaker 1: And when we go out sometimes I'll go out to
Speaker 1: the crowd to sing a song and people will flock
Speaker 1: to the to where we are, not to get closer
Speaker 1: or to get a better view. They're trying to get
Speaker 1: a selfie maliciously so that they could instantly leave and
Speaker 1: go and have proof that they were there. It's a
Speaker 1: strange thing now that first we got to address you know,
Speaker 1: the word idolize at all is. You know, we're gonna
Speaker 1: we hate that word idol by all sense. And I
Speaker 1: know that you said, Josh that you didn't want this
Speaker 1: to be a necessarily religious question, but we're we're we're
Speaker 1: called to flee from idols, and so being a celebrity,
Speaker 1: I don't think you it's necessarily bad if you look
Speaker 1: at it more of in terms of mentor or or
Speaker 1: someone that you could you could look up to for
Speaker 1: out of respect. And I think there's a different way
Speaker 1: than than to use it the word idol. And I
Speaker 1: don't think joshun in a bad way. It was Nietzsche
Speaker 1: that said. I think it was Nietzsche that said the
Speaker 1: human heart is an idle factor, like that we constantly
Speaker 1: we can't help but exalt things, stuff people like we
Speaker 1: are just disposed that way, like naturally disposed to produce worship,
Speaker 1: exaltation of something, things like giving priority, allegiance, time, attention,
Speaker 1: money to stuff to somebody. And so that's I mean,
Speaker 1: that's an interesting question. I think that's what that's why
Speaker 1: there's something in the way that we exist as humans
Speaker 1: and as as a Christ follower. I would say that's
Speaker 1: part of the design. And it's just a it's now,
Speaker 1: it's it's fallen or it's a broken thing in the
Speaker 1: way that we do that with all kinds of things
Speaker 1: that are unworthy of it instead of the one true
Speaker 1: thing that is worthy of it. Yeah, he is worthy
Speaker 1: of it. Right once again, I'm going to go I'm
Speaker 1: going to dive into religion one more time. I know
Speaker 1: that that's that's what you said you didn't want to do.
Speaker 1: But this is, this is so fascinating. But in the
Speaker 1: Book of James, in the Bible, there's this really weird
Speaker 1: little section that's just almost almost out of the blue,
Speaker 1: and its information that we didn't know in any other
Speaker 1: part of the Bible, and it's sitting right there in
Speaker 1: the Book of James. And it says that I'm sorry, Jude,
Speaker 1: I don't know why I said, James. In the Book
Speaker 1: of Jude, it says that the angel Gabriel, so Gabriel
Speaker 1: disputed with Satan over the body of Moses after he died.
Speaker 1: And I always thought that is so weird, like, why
Speaker 1: is it in the Book of Jude, Why is that?
Speaker 1: Why is he talking about the angel Gabriel disputing with
Speaker 1: Satan about the body of Moses. And then one day
Speaker 1: I had a pastor tell me that the modern belief
Speaker 1: on that is that if if Satan got the body
Speaker 1: of Moses, he could have given it back to the
Speaker 1: people of Israel and they would have had the body
Speaker 1: to bury and carry his bones and worship the body
Speaker 1: of Moses because he was their profit, he was their savior.
Speaker 1: You know that if a lot of these people were
Speaker 1: ignorant to the fact of what even happened, and they
Speaker 1: would have taken the body and they would have worshiped it,
Speaker 1: and it would have become an idol to them. And
Speaker 1: so that's an it. I mean, it's certainly not outside
Speaker 1: of the realm of what likely would have happened. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's not that is that is speculation what I've just said.
Speaker 1: But it's very interesting to think about what that what
Speaker 1: that meant. And it's interesting in his question he he
Speaker 1: does identify that somehow we're willing to give credibility to
Speaker 1: somebody who has a celebrity status or some sort of
Speaker 1: popularity to their opinions about all kinds of things, which
Speaker 1: product we should. I mean, it's just a fascinating studying
Speaker 1: sociology and I would love because I've got you here right,
Speaker 1: a celebrity by definition. What is it like on that side?
Speaker 1: Are you do you ever feel like you're expected to
Speaker 1: have opinions about things and that you're expected to share those,
Speaker 1: or that you feel some obligation, because there are in
Speaker 1: the realm of celebrity, there are some that you just
Speaker 1: never hear from, you don't know where they stand on
Speaker 1: certain things. And then there's some that won't like yeah,
Speaker 1: they won't stop sharing their opinions and all kinds of
Speaker 1: So from that side, what does that feel like? Do
Speaker 1: you feel pressures to share or is there a hesitancy
Speaker 1: to share because of what I don't know? Yes, yes
Speaker 1: and yes yes. So for instance, for me, I just
Speaker 1: kind of from day one, I decided, you know, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to get political, and I've said that. I
Speaker 1: said it in this way that that most people could
Speaker 1: follow me for five minutes and go, okay, I got
Speaker 1: a good I got a good feeling where this guy leads, right,
Speaker 1: But I don't have to. I don't have to get
Speaker 1: up with a megaphone and start shouting it from the rooftops.
Speaker 1: I don't have a political science degree. I don't have
Speaker 1: a law degree. And that's kind of where it is
Speaker 1: for me. I don't I don't feel like my voice
Speaker 1: politically should be heard louder than anybody else's because I
Speaker 1: don't have a reason to. Sometimes sometimes celebrities will run
Speaker 1: in groups that other people can't run in so they're
Speaker 1: hear conversations. Maybe they meet some of the politicians personally
Speaker 1: and so they get a personal attachment. So I could
Speaker 1: see that. But I met I did meet George W.
Speaker 1: Only president I've met. I met George W and through
Speaker 1: several encounters with him. The personal encounters really elevated my
Speaker 1: opinion of him. Meaning what I saw on TV was
Speaker 1: one person. But when I met him, I really liked
Speaker 1: him even more. I liked him, I'll be honest. I
Speaker 1: liked him before, but I really liked him after I
Speaker 1: met him. I just thought, you could just tell this
Speaker 1: guy is he cares? He cares. But I never shouted
Speaker 1: that from the rooftops. I didn't think it was important
Speaker 1: after me to go, don't you talk about about George W.
Speaker 1: I've met him, and I love him. I've never felt
Speaker 1: that need. But the reason I'm kind of setting it
Speaker 1: up this way is because I think the gospel is different.
Speaker 1: I think the gospel I don't think politics are is
Speaker 1: life and death. I'm not called to preach politics or
Speaker 1: anything else in that realm, but the gospel, I feel like.
Speaker 1: I did not feel like I know that the calling
Speaker 1: of the gospel is it's much different. So that's why
Speaker 1: I do bring religion into my platform. Yeah, it's interesting
Speaker 1: that you're able to make that kind of difference or
Speaker 1: be able to separate out that line, because I think
Speaker 1: people listening to this might there might be people that go, well,
Speaker 1: you do use your platform to talk about your faith,
Speaker 1: which you would argue is a part of who you are,
Speaker 1: whereas your political position and I may make people mad,
Speaker 1: is not a part of your identity. It's not, and
Speaker 1: that's it shouldn't get them to fighting words for some people,
Speaker 1: But shouldn't you would identify that it's not, whereas your
Speaker 1: relationship with Christ is. I remember this would have been well,
Speaker 1: this is a while ago, sixteen seventeen years ago. I
Speaker 1: was just graduated or college. I was in a small
Speaker 1: church in New Bronfles, Texas, and that morning we had
Speaker 1: a guest pastor come in and he can't he was
Speaker 1: a missionary in the Philippines. He came and preached and
Speaker 1: at the end of the service, he invites his son
Speaker 1: forward and asked if we a is a very small congregation.
Speaker 1: I mean we're talking maybe thirty forty people gathered in
Speaker 1: this elementary school gym, and at the end of the service,
Speaker 1: he says, Hey, I would like to invite my son
Speaker 1: to come up because and for you guys to be
Speaker 1: in prayer for him. He's a junior in high school
Speaker 1: and he we think the Lord's going to do something
Speaker 1: and give him a platform through football, and so Tim,
Speaker 1: would you come on up, Bud, And he brings Tim
Speaker 1: Tebow to the front and we all gather around and
Speaker 1: we start praying for this high school kid named Tim.
Speaker 1: And it's just amazing to be on that side of
Speaker 1: it because from the beginning his goal was not to
Speaker 1: necessarily have fame and fortune. It was he was a
Speaker 1: follower of Jesus and he was going to use that
Speaker 1: avenue through which to glorify God, powerful, powerful, amazing man.
Speaker 1: That's amazing, which is can be true for anybody, Yeah,
Speaker 1: have any occupation. That should be the way we look
Speaker 1: at it as a platform. Josh, awesome question. That brought
Speaker 1: up a lot of sorry, a lot of I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna read off some of these subjects
Speaker 1: lines for you. Here we have how to teach the
Speaker 1: Gospel to an unbeliever. We have in laws seem to
Speaker 1: hate me. Why he says he's lost. We have a
Speaker 1: podcast question, we have a speech question. Help with my
Speaker 1: relationship family issues. Any of those stand out to you,
Speaker 1: Let's jump into in laws. I think it was the
Speaker 1: second one you mentioned in law's hate me? In laws
Speaker 1: hate me? Hey Grandeur, I love your podcast and I
Speaker 1: love your YouTube channel, says I have a problem. My
Speaker 1: fiance's dad is struggling with his son and I getting
Speaker 1: married soon. He keeps saying he doesn't like to share
Speaker 1: my fiance and I don't love him as much as
Speaker 1: he loves him, and I never will. My fiance is
Speaker 1: the oldest of three. He has a brother who's twenty
Speaker 1: one and a sister who is eighteen. My fiance and
Speaker 1: I are both twenty four. I cannot get over the
Speaker 1: fact that his dad treats me like I'm not welcomed
Speaker 1: into the family, all because I'm marrying his son and
Speaker 1: quote stealing him away. He gives me dirty looks when
Speaker 1: I'm around, and he ignores me. What do I do?
Speaker 1: All right? I need to understand that I heard you correctly.
Speaker 1: There is a young lady. Yes, she is engaged to
Speaker 1: a young man. Her name She did not tell me
Speaker 1: to stay anonymous. I'm gonna say her name is Sierra.
Speaker 1: So Sierra has a fiance. Fiance's dad yes, gives her
Speaker 1: the evil eye yes, and doesn't welcome her because she
Speaker 1: is stealing away the son from the dad, which is
Speaker 1: typically a story. You hear the mother in law for sure,
Speaker 1: not the father in law, right, or you hear it
Speaker 1: from the father in law if it's the daughter. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's being taken away. Yeah, it's very interesting. That's an
Speaker 1: interesting dynamic. I have more questions, and I think I
Speaker 1: do have answers, But sometimes you could explain the way
Speaker 1: the mother in law situation, you could explain away when
Speaker 1: you see you see a mother in law not wanting
Speaker 1: to give her son away to another girl, usually you
Speaker 1: could trace that back to the husband of the mother
Speaker 1: in law, the father that never honored her, that was
Speaker 1: not present either physically or emotionally, spiritually, just not present
Speaker 1: and left her to get all of her needs and
Speaker 1: wants and loves from the son. Right. So the son
Speaker 1: was providing the mother with what she needed from a man,
Speaker 1: and she can't stand to lose that to another woman.
Speaker 1: It's almost like cheating. So this is a flip, complete
Speaker 1: flip flop of that story. Yeah, you're right, this is
Speaker 1: this is We built this podcast based on us kind
Speaker 1: of sitting in a room together. We're having a conversation,
Speaker 1: and so it makes it hard when we can't bounce
Speaker 1: a couple more questions back to you, Sierra. But we'll
Speaker 1: start with this. We'll start with you're asking what do
Speaker 1: I do communication? This is a conversation with you and him.
Speaker 1: It has to happen soon. And I would say it's
Speaker 1: like a you know, a coffee shop environment, or maybe
Speaker 1: he likes a certain restaurant, and you just go without
Speaker 1: your fiance, without anyone else. You just go with the
Speaker 1: future father in law, and you be vulnerable. You'd be loving,
Speaker 1: you be patient with him, you'd be just completely honest
Speaker 1: to the situation without making him feel like he's wrong
Speaker 1: or making him feel like he has misguided ideas about you.
Speaker 1: And you've got to prove that you're actually good and
Speaker 1: you do. You will love him, You know that, none
Speaker 1: of that. It's just it's all about I am so
Speaker 1: honored to be a future part of this family. And
Speaker 1: I just respect you as a father, and you have
Speaker 1: raised the man that I love. You've raised my husband,
Speaker 1: and I will forever be grateful for the father that
Speaker 1: raised my future husband, that we will then make a
Speaker 1: family one day, and I just I wanted to take
Speaker 1: you to dinner, and I just wanted to take you
Speaker 1: to your favorite chicken fried steak place and just then
Speaker 1: just tell you from the bottom of my heart. I
Speaker 1: wanted to look you in the eye and just tell
Speaker 1: you from the bottom of my heart that this is
Speaker 1: not lost on me what this day means, and what
Speaker 1: it means to be part of your family and to
Speaker 1: make to make your son happy and to give him
Speaker 1: everything he's ever wanted from a wife, and to honor
Speaker 1: him and just just shower him with that kind of
Speaker 1: a conversation. Yeah, I mean, it sounds like you've articulated
Speaker 1: a fear he has is that you're taking his son
Speaker 1: away rather than him seeing the addition of a daughter
Speaker 1: into the family. Yes, So, is there a way that,
Speaker 1: similar to what Granger said, adding an experience or something
Speaker 1: to where you want them to clearly understand you you
Speaker 1: have no intention to extract him from the family, but
Speaker 1: every desire to be involved in and alongside of him.
Speaker 1: Is there a way that you could even maybe invite
Speaker 1: you know, your fiance's mom and dad just the parents
Speaker 1: over for dinner, and that you get to host them
Speaker 1: and maybe create some regularity around them being a part
Speaker 1: of it, involved in this next step in their son's
Speaker 1: life on a regular bit. I don't know, but I
Speaker 1: think that's something around that the fear of losing versus
Speaker 1: the reality of adding or components there. I love that.
Speaker 1: That's such a great point, you know, just just making
Speaker 1: him recognize that this is a this is an addition.
Speaker 1: You are now a new daughter of his. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: you you understand that, you see, you see the joy
Speaker 1: in that, and you can't wait to show him what
Speaker 1: that's going to add to his life. Chad brought up
Speaker 1: a good point that you made the mother. The mother
Speaker 1: should be involved in this dinner at some point too.
Speaker 1: I don't know if that'd be weird if it was
Speaker 1: just the dad. I like the idea of a dinner,
Speaker 1: but but at some level, I think it's important to
Speaker 1: not have your fiance involved in this because I think
Speaker 1: he would kind of jump into the conversation and it
Speaker 1: might it might go a different direction, and you just
Speaker 1: kind of want to keep it focused and and this
Speaker 1: might and that that might not do anything. That first
Speaker 1: dinner might just be planning a seed and this might
Speaker 1: take years to unfold. And I'm sorry that that this
Speaker 1: is a tough situation for you. Don't don't let it
Speaker 1: be a point of contention in the future marriage. So
Speaker 1: this needs to be tied up really tight with your
Speaker 1: your fiance and he needs to know that you guys
Speaker 1: got to be on the same page with this too.
Speaker 1: And to be all completely honest here, it is really
Speaker 1: going to be his duty to defend you against his
Speaker 1: father if it gets to a major point of contingent,
Speaker 1: if it gets to a point where your father is
Speaker 1: really shutting the door on you, guys, it's going to
Speaker 1: be up to your fiance to to protect you and
Speaker 1: to defend you and present you as the the new bride,
Speaker 1: the new daughter. Yeah, so thank you, Sierra, and best
Speaker 1: wishes to you. I hope that I hope that this
Speaker 1: goes well for you. You will knock out one more
Speaker 1: or at least get into one. Any of that. Do
Speaker 1: you remember any of those we said, how to teach
Speaker 1: the gospel unbeliever? He says he's lost podcast questions some
Speaker 1: leaving someone you love wedding speech question. Maybe we'll do
Speaker 1: that real quick. It sounds like a quick, quick maybe
Speaker 1: maybe un could be wrong. Dear Granger Smith, I'm a
Speaker 1: fourteen year old farm boy who loved to listen to
Speaker 1: your podcast. In two weeks, my uncle and soon to
Speaker 1: be aunt are getting married. I want to do a
Speaker 1: speech on their wedding day. I was thinking about having
Speaker 1: it funny and having some kind of line. All good
Speaker 1: marriages are based on the lawnmower. There's a lot to consider.
Speaker 1: Does it have auto steer? How long can you take
Speaker 1: a nap before you run over your wife's flowers? Sounds
Speaker 1: like a real question. Have any beers? Can it hold?
Speaker 1: Can you go to Tim Horton's and back before work?
Speaker 1: Must be northern? Must be? Yeh in Canada, maybe there's
Speaker 1: there's a bunch of Tim Mortons like in Minnesota. Oh okay,
Speaker 1: and yeah, I'm not good at speaking in front of crowds.
Speaker 1: I want to do this, but I don't know how
Speaker 1: to gain the confidence to speak in front of a
Speaker 1: bunch of people. At don't know. Do you have any
Speaker 1: suggestions on how to get more confident? And do you
Speaker 1: think that's a good idea about the lawnmower? Thanks for
Speaker 1: your input, Grant Grant, thank you for writing and shout
Speaker 1: out to Tim Hortons, thank you for listening to the podcast.
Speaker 1: I would I would tell you this, if you are
Speaker 1: not confident in front of crowds, and you're not good
Speaker 1: at speaking, and you're already building up anxiety about this,
Speaker 1: I don't think I would go into a big, long
Speaker 1: lawnmower joke. I think I would lean more on you
Speaker 1: being vulnerable. What I mean is like in the first line,
Speaker 1: when you stand up and you're gonna make a speech,
Speaker 1: the first thing you say is I'm nervous. I'm really nervous.
Speaker 1: I'm not good at speaking, but I want to speak
Speaker 1: because this wedding is so important to me because I
Speaker 1: love my aunt and soon to be aunt. I love
Speaker 1: my uncle and soon to be aunt so much that
Speaker 1: I want to speak from my heart. But please please
Speaker 1: excuse the fact that I'm shaking and I'm really nervous
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Speaker 1: and people love story. Yeah, and if you can work
Speaker 1: a lawnmower into that story, man you're saying, yeah, if
Speaker 1: you could do the lawnmower joke, great, I would preface
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Speaker 1: take and read podcast. Is your new podcast that you're
Speaker 1: going to be releasing here? What do you have a
Speaker 1: time estimation on this? We're talking to you three weeks month,
Speaker 1: I would say, yeah, continue to think that in October
Speaker 1: we'll see episodes drop and see those starting to come out.
Speaker 1: I mean, what I'm learning about this world is it
Speaker 1: when you first started. There's a lot of things to consider.
Speaker 1: You've got to not only record these things, but then
Speaker 1: there's some editing and there's a whole production side and
Speaker 1: then getting them submitted to the various platforms. So we're yeah,
Speaker 1: we're well underway. I've got an email address so if
Speaker 1: people are like, okay, hey, put me on the notification
Speaker 1: list or whatever, so you can go to the Take
Speaker 1: and Read podcast at gmail dot com and it's all
Speaker 1: spelled out Take and Read podcast perfect gmail dot com.
Speaker 1: And I'm sure you'll be back on this podcast before
Speaker 1: it launches. Yeah, so then we'll have a more definitive
Speaker 1: date and I'm going to be one of the episodes. Actually, well,
Speaker 1: I don't want to give it away. Yeah, okay, yeah
Speaker 1: it's and next time you're on this one, we'll talk
Speaker 1: more about it and get more into the details of it.
Speaker 1: But but you guys are gonna you're gonna really love it.
Speaker 1: I love the concept of it. It's a fun time.
Speaker 1: It's a really fun time. What do you think In
Speaker 1: Chez there was one about the Gospel to an Unbeliever
Speaker 1: is that too. Are we just getting leaning too much
Speaker 1: into it or is there something more? What are you
Speaker 1: trying to say? I don't know. I don't I mean,
Speaker 1: I can get away with it because I'm a pastor,
Speaker 1: so I'm expected to be preachy. But I love when
Speaker 1: people worry if I should talk about the gospel and
Speaker 1: then my podcast. I know you're not worried. We've done
Speaker 1: it before. Let's jump into it, says Hey Granger. I'd
Speaker 1: like to remain anonymous. I've been listening for a few months,
Speaker 1: and I'm encouraged by you and your willingness to speak
Speaker 1: about your faith. I work at a major hospital, and
Speaker 1: without giving too much detail, my boss is an unbeliever.
Speaker 1: I have grown my faith tremendously over the past year
Speaker 1: and feel as though I'm almost completely a different person.
Speaker 1: The people that spend the most time around at work
Speaker 1: are not Christians and engage in behavior such as gossip
Speaker 1: and cursing. Like every other word. This never bothered me
Speaker 1: until I really got into the word. Now I feel
Speaker 1: convicted by it. I've talked to my boss about it
Speaker 1: about God and he said he's an agnostic. He tells
Speaker 1: me that his personal family issues, he has personal family issues,
Speaker 1: and all I can always think about is that he
Speaker 1: needs to be running to Jesus. I even invited him,
Speaker 1: invited him to church once. How do I go about
Speaker 1: starting a conversation with him about the gospel? My fear
Speaker 1: is that he will completely reject it. I feel torn
Speaker 1: between not wanting to be around these people anymore and
Speaker 1: wanting to try to show them who God really is.
Speaker 1: Any help can be appreciated. Thanks and you anonymous are
Speaker 1: This is a great opportunity because I have Pastor Chad
Speaker 1: next time, I mean, and he's really good at this
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. I want to want to sympathize with
Speaker 1: you here that this is this is very very very
Speaker 1: very common email and it's multi layered. You you've kind
Speaker 1: of given us some multi layers here, So before before
Speaker 1: I just unleash chat on you, I'll break it up
Speaker 1: just a little bit here. You're you're you're being bothered
Speaker 1: by his gossip and cursing. You got to dismiss that
Speaker 1: because you can't. If he's an agnostic, like he says,
Speaker 1: then you can't be surprised like what comes out of
Speaker 1: his mouth, and you can't be judgmental about it because
Speaker 1: he has no point of reference. He has no moral
Speaker 1: basis to base off what he says, and so you
Speaker 1: can't it would be legalistic of you to go, well,
Speaker 1: you shouldn't cuss. Well, he has no moral basis stuff
Speaker 1: not cussing. I think we sometimes get into a situation
Speaker 1: where we as believers can expect non believers to behave
Speaker 1: with some sort of moral code that like, where, why
Speaker 1: would we expect that? Why would we assume that of them? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Where we are a stardust to him? And yeah, and
Speaker 1: and there's a we understand, there's a a regeneration, a
Speaker 1: there is a transformation of our heart that occurs when
Speaker 1: we give our lives to Christ and the spirit of
Speaker 1: God dwells in us. And and there's a transformation that
Speaker 1: we aren't responsible for. And so if that has not occurred,
Speaker 1: we can't expect that. So I think that's a great
Speaker 1: point that we've got to manage our expectations when we're
Speaker 1: interacting with people that are agnostic, which means that they
Speaker 1: don't believe. Yeah, there's people that come around me and
Speaker 1: they'll friends of mine and they'll say ged, you know,
Speaker 1: the yell, and then they'll go, I'm so sorry, I
Speaker 1: am so sorry, and I'll go, yeah, I get that,
Speaker 1: don't apologize all the time. They'll find out what I
Speaker 1: do for a living. And it's funny because sometimes they're like,
Speaker 1: what do you what do you do for a living?
Speaker 1: I'm a pastor. No, And then they'll drop something on
Speaker 1: me and I'm like and they're like, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: I don't usually and I'm like, it's it's all good. No, man,
Speaker 1: it's all good. I don't. I don't have an expectation
Speaker 1: for you. Now. If you come to me and you
Speaker 1: profess your faith and we're getting deep into this conversation
Speaker 1: and then you then you want to ask me if
Speaker 1: it's okay. If you could just say whatever you want,
Speaker 1: then we could have that kind of conversation. But for
Speaker 1: your boss, uh to the to to mis anonymous here, No,
Speaker 1: I think that's something you should work on. It internally
Speaker 1: with yourself is you can't be bothered by the state
Speaker 1: of the world. It is what it's. We're in a
Speaker 1: falling world. It is what it is. I sympathize with
Speaker 1: you you feeling convicted to talk about it, and you
Speaker 1: feel you feel an anguish inside you. I could sympathize
Speaker 1: with that feeling. Of of Oh, I want to say it,
Speaker 1: and I feel like a coward, you know, but that
Speaker 1: I'm not. And oh, a quiet moment just passed and
Speaker 1: I didn't say it, and I should say it again.
Speaker 1: Did I miss an opportunity? But once again, before chat,
Speaker 1: before I ut least chat on you, I want to
Speaker 1: give you. I'm going to give you some confidence that
Speaker 1: and this is this is biblical truth. The power of
Speaker 1: the Gospel is what would change a man's heart. Not
Speaker 1: the way you say it, or the timing that you
Speaker 1: say it, or the inflection that you say it with,
Speaker 1: or the story or parable that you pair it with.
Speaker 1: This is the power of the Gospel. That it's planning
Speaker 1: a seed that can change his heart alone. Now, now
Speaker 1: we as stewards are required to be the ones that
Speaker 1: say it. But you're not going to You're not going
Speaker 1: to win him or lose him. You are not going
Speaker 1: to win him or lose him. That is not on
Speaker 1: your shoulders. All you're required to do is preach it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: there's examples through the Book of Acts where Paul, one
Speaker 1: of the apostles and early teachers in the church, he
Speaker 1: would go to one village preach the gospel and they
Speaker 1: would they would begin to stone him or throw rocks
Speaker 1: at him and drag him out to the edge of
Speaker 1: the city and leave him for dead. And then he
Speaker 1: would pick himself up, go to the next city, preach
Speaker 1: the same gospel, and then be invited to stay for
Speaker 1: months years on end teaching and many would come. And
Speaker 1: in both instances he's faithful. Right, He's successful because he
Speaker 1: follows and is faithful to the Lord. And I think
Speaker 1: for anybody who's listening to this that's in a situation
Speaker 1: where they're like, I feel compelled. There's this tension though
Speaker 1: I'm in a workplace, I'm not sure if I'm allowed
Speaker 1: to do this or I don't want to compromise my job,
Speaker 1: Like there are going to be those tensions regardless. But
Speaker 1: faithfulness to the Lord doesn't necessarily mean, well, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: gonna corner them in the hallway one day and I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna let them have it. Like, that's not necessarily
Speaker 1: what it means. It means to be intentionally asking and
Speaker 1: trusting the Lord for opportunities. And so I think the
Speaker 1: first step in any time that you want to share
Speaker 1: the new life that you have in Christ with somebody,
Speaker 1: and there's somebody the Lord has put on your mind.
Speaker 1: You begin praying and you fight for them in prayer,
Speaker 1: You pray, you intercede, and then start asking them, Hey,
Speaker 1: I want you to know I pray regularly for you.
Speaker 1: Are there specific things I can go to the Lord
Speaker 1: on your behalf for and just begin asking on a
Speaker 1: regular basis and say how is that going? And it
Speaker 1: gives you an opportunity that you genuinely care because you
Speaker 1: are praying. The Lord has put them on your heart,
Speaker 1: so pray for them, engage with them, talk to them
Speaker 1: about that, and then you're gonna see doors open up
Speaker 1: because if they know that you genuinely care and you're
Speaker 1: not just trying to check a box or do something
Speaker 1: like that, but they go, man, this person can asking
Speaker 1: and then they follow up and see how I'm doing.
Speaker 1: Like there is going to be genuine friendship and care
Speaker 1: and love established there because that's what's happening, and you
Speaker 1: desire to carry their load, to share their struggles, and
Speaker 1: so I think that through that there can be a
Speaker 1: softening and people are more receptive and open when they
Speaker 1: believe you truly care for them. And then letting them
Speaker 1: know if there's any time you want to talk about
Speaker 1: this stuff. I'd love to I'm a good listener. I'd
Speaker 1: love to listen, and giving them opportunity to then share
Speaker 1: burdens more and more with you. There's going to be
Speaker 1: a natural opportunity to just say, you know, I've faced
Speaker 1: something like that, or I've gone through something and one
Speaker 1: of the things I found to be so helpful for
Speaker 1: me is the way that I can trust in the Lord,
Speaker 1: or I can go to the Lord, or I found
Speaker 1: this encouragement in the scriptures. And it doesn't have to
Speaker 1: be like sometimes I think we think about evangelism as
Speaker 1: somebody standing on a box and a street corner and
Speaker 1: telling everyone you're going to Hell, and that is that
Speaker 1: that is a such a minority component or way to
Speaker 1: do it. There are so many other ways. And I
Speaker 1: think if he's put you in a situation that you
Speaker 1: have a care and concern for your boss, you start
Speaker 1: by praying and just keep a prayer journal, write down
Speaker 1: the prayers that you're praying, and then engage him and
Speaker 1: ask your boss or or I don't know if it's
Speaker 1: a male female, but ask your boss, how can I
Speaker 1: be praying so anything else? And then follow up on
Speaker 1: as you're praying, Hey, I continue to pray. How's that going?
Speaker 1: And it's going to give you a natural segue because
Speaker 1: you're not looking to you know, check a box or
Speaker 1: score a point or whatever, like you genuinely care for
Speaker 1: and are called to be in that spot, and so
Speaker 1: you're looking for longevity of relationship with somebody and that
Speaker 1: always love always wins, Like if you truly care for them,
Speaker 1: that's going to win the day. Yeah, I want to
Speaker 1: hit on note what you just said. We're not looking.
Speaker 1: You're not looking to check a box. We're not looking.
Speaker 1: This is not a numbers game. This isn't a result
Speaker 1: driven game. You're planning seeds out of love because because
Speaker 1: you you have seen the truth and you have seen restoration,
Speaker 1: and you've seen peace and joy, and you felt that
Speaker 1: to the core of your soul, and you genuinely, out
Speaker 1: of love, want everyone in your immediate circle to feel that.
Speaker 1: And sometimes when you tell them that, or you you
Speaker 1: tell them the story of the gospel and they reject it,
Speaker 1: you feel like you lost, and you you you're not
Speaker 1: good at this or any of these things. Most most
Speaker 1: times I've ever told the gospel to someone that's been rejected.
Speaker 1: Can you agree it can you say the same thing,
Speaker 1: But we don't know the seeds that we're planning. We
Speaker 1: don't know what that's going to how that's going to grow,
Speaker 1: because because God is gonna is going to grow that
Speaker 1: planet if if that's the will of the plant, it
Speaker 1: could be ten years down the road, it could be
Speaker 1: twenty years down the road because of a seed that
Speaker 1: you planted. And so you have an advantage here anonymous
Speaker 1: that your boss is going to you. It is a
Speaker 1: heat about family issues and problems that that gives you
Speaker 1: a slight advantage. That's a strange word to you to
Speaker 1: use advantage in this this kind of context, but it
Speaker 1: gives you. It gives you an open door to then say, well,
Speaker 1: my in my worldview, I could I could cry with you.
Speaker 1: I could understand suffering, and my worldview allows me to
Speaker 1: understand suffering and pain and this kind of difficulty that
Speaker 1: you're going through. And my worldview allows me to understand
Speaker 1: that there is a basis of truth and that there
Speaker 1: is hope, and that there is an answer, and that
Speaker 1: there is there is a savior to this and and
Speaker 1: I would love to tell you more about that worldview.
Speaker 1: I would love I forgot I think Parker told me
Speaker 1: that there was like John Maxwell or somebody like that.
Speaker 1: Somebody said that The thing they love to say is
Speaker 1: I really wish you had what I have. It's just
Speaker 1: an intriguing way to say that. I could see, I
Speaker 1: could see why there's pain and why they're suffering, and
Speaker 1: I could see that there is an end result to this,
Speaker 1: and I wish you could see that too. It would
Speaker 1: help you so much through these problems that you're talking
Speaker 1: to me about. And I'll sit with you as long
Speaker 1: as it takes through your problems and tell you about
Speaker 1: this Jesus Amen, And I would say, be really good
Speaker 1: at your job. There is a powerful opportunity. When you
Speaker 1: show up and you are diligent and reliable and faithful
Speaker 1: to do the work you're expected to do, and you
Speaker 1: do it with excellence, you have more credibility. That's a
Speaker 1: great point. That's a great point building credibility through your action.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Anonymous. I'm gonna kick it back to you again. Chad,
Speaker 1: we have feeling lost in a fog. We have needing
Speaker 1: advice in life, help with my relationship, leaving someone you love.
Speaker 1: He says he's lost. Do any of those feel like
Speaker 1: the next question, I'm in a fog. Okay, let's see there.
Speaker 1: Hey Grandeur, I love your music and your channel. You're
Speaker 1: very inspiring, and I'm married. My name is Joe and
Speaker 1: I'm married, twenty six years old with two kids. Quick backstory.
Speaker 1: Four years ago, I got a spinal cord injury. While
Speaker 1: I was unable to walk, my best friend, who I
Speaker 1: called brother, spread a nasty lie to all of my
Speaker 1: friends and family that I was faking the injury to
Speaker 1: make my pregnant wife go to work to pay our bills.
Speaker 1: This made everyone in my life abandon me when I
Speaker 1: needed them most. Fast forward four years, I mostly healed physically,
Speaker 1: Praise God. I still have no friends, and I have
Speaker 1: guys in my life that I call friends, but our
Speaker 1: friendship is basically just materialistic and we don't have a
Speaker 1: deeper connection past work, trucks, et cetera. I'm craving a
Speaker 1: best friend to connect with on that level, but I
Speaker 1: cannot open up to the people in my life to
Speaker 1: tell them how broken I am. I harbor unforgiveness and
Speaker 1: I resent all people because of my friends and family
Speaker 1: that treated me so poorly prior to this. I'm caught
Speaker 1: in a place where I crave human connection, but I
Speaker 1: cannot bring myself to connect with other people. I'm shackled
Speaker 1: on so much trauma and pain that I can't find
Speaker 1: a way to heal. Do you have thoughts on how
Speaker 1: a person can navigate this? Thank you, love your music,
Speaker 1: Please don't stop being you, Joe. Joe got poetic almost
Speaker 1: there at the end. He he says that he can't
Speaker 1: open up to people. Is it that he won't open
Speaker 1: up to people? Is it sounds I mean, the way
Speaker 1: he described it sounds like an incredibly scary, lonely, painful place.
Speaker 1: And if it's that he won't open up to people,
Speaker 1: my question is, so is it? It doesn't sound I
Speaker 1: can get much worse? So why not try opening up
Speaker 1: to people? And another question I have is where's his
Speaker 1: wife in the scheme of things? Like what kind of relationship?
Speaker 1: If I'm experiencing the stuff that he's talking about, my
Speaker 1: first engagement is going to be with my wife. I'm
Speaker 1: going to be talking to her and vulnerable with her,
Speaker 1: And so that's for me, that's a first stop. Yeah,
Speaker 1: for those of you guys watching on YouTube, I look
Speaker 1: sometimes sometimes people say, man Chad was talking to You're
Speaker 1: just looking at your phone scrolling YouTube. It's scrolling Twitter. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I'm scrolling the question as Chad's talking, and I agree.
Speaker 1: I agreed that there's a wife missing in this situation.
Speaker 1: There is a lot of blanks in this story the
Speaker 1: need filled in. And so because there's so many blanks here,
Speaker 1: I think we need to almost forgot forego the whole
Speaker 1: story of the injury and the the forsaking friends, and
Speaker 1: we need to say that there's something else going on here.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. Yeah. I wonder why the friends would assume
Speaker 1: that about him if if there were if there's something
Speaker 1: historically about the nature of their friendship that would cause
Speaker 1: them to question his trustworthiness. And so so, when when
Speaker 1: attorneys are going at it in court, when there's like
Speaker 1: a certain certain pieces of evidence that get dismissed, you know,
Speaker 1: I kind of feel like we have to dismiss that, yeah,
Speaker 1: because there's not I don't know enough about that story.
Speaker 1: It's nothing against you, Joe, I just don't know enough
Speaker 1: about your friends leaving you and the injury that I'm
Speaker 1: gonna have to dismiss that that piece of evidence and
Speaker 1: just go to this. I harbor unforgiveness and resent all
Speaker 1: people because of how my friends have treated me. I'm
Speaker 1: caught in a place where I crave human connection, but
Speaker 1: I can't bring myself to connection with other people. I've
Speaker 1: shackled on so much trauma and pain I can't find
Speaker 1: a way to heal. I almost want to just deal
Speaker 1: with that. Like that's the question. Yeah, an extreme amount
Speaker 1: of bitterness and it's I mean, I think it's powerful, Joe,
Speaker 1: that you're willing to admit that you are harboring these things. Yes,
Speaker 1: Like that's a that's a big step to say I
Speaker 1: know this about myself because then you're in a position
Speaker 1: to start to face that. Because that's that's what it
Speaker 1: is right there. It's a bitterness and harboring a distrust
Speaker 1: of people, and you will you will not experience a
Speaker 1: authentic friendship and connection with people if you don't trust them.
Speaker 1: That is the most fundamental element to any meaningful relationship.
Speaker 1: There's got to be trusted. And so if you enter
Speaker 1: it with I don't trust people in general, So then
Speaker 1: you're not going to be able to have that kind
Speaker 1: of connection with people. I have an idea here, Hey, Joe,
Speaker 1: will you will you email Chad? What's that email you
Speaker 1: set up for churches. Remember, well, you could just email
Speaker 1: the Take and Read podcast at gmail dot com. Perfect
Speaker 1: Take and Read podcasts at gmail dot com. And what
Speaker 1: I want you to do, Joe, is I want you
Speaker 1: to email Chad and tell them where you live, and
Speaker 1: Chad's going to reply back with a really solid church
Speaker 1: in your town. And then I would ask that you
Speaker 1: go to that church and seek one of the pastors
Speaker 1: that you could get counsel from. A don't look at
Speaker 1: this as like a regimented thing. This could be coffee,
Speaker 1: but but seek one of these pastors. And this is, guys,
Speaker 1: this is why Christian churches exist in the communities. It's
Speaker 1: it's it's there. They do a lot of different functions,
Speaker 1: but but one one of the things they do is
Speaker 1: is they counsel people that are lost. And and you
Speaker 1: could go to one of these pastors, by the recommendation
Speaker 1: of Chad, and say I harbor on forgiveness and resent
Speaker 1: all people because of my friends, and I'm caught in
Speaker 1: a place where I crave connection but I can't. You
Speaker 1: could say that and to to a pastor. And the
Speaker 1: cool thing is you won't even know him uh before
Speaker 1: before this, so you won't have this, you won't have
Speaker 1: this family connection or embarrassment. Yeah. And and this is
Speaker 1: a walk you could begin taking with this guy that
Speaker 1: I think is going to be so fruitful for you
Speaker 1: down the road. That's a great call. Yeah. I don't
Speaker 1: think we've ever answered a question that way, but it
Speaker 1: just occurred to me that this might be deeper than
Speaker 1: we could sit here and do in ten minutes. Yeah, Okay,
Speaker 1: I got a transition to this one. Okay, So like
Speaker 1: extension of that question. This one says struggling to find
Speaker 1: a church? Hi, Granger. My name is Austin. I'm twenty
Speaker 1: one years old. I just moved to a new town
Speaker 1: two years ago. I've been struggling to find a church
Speaker 1: that has my same views. I went from a small
Speaker 1: town in Iowa to Flagstaff, Arizona. I love Jesus, I
Speaker 1: read almost daily, but I'm unable to find a church
Speaker 1: that believes what I believe. How do you find a church?
Speaker 1: This is the question I don't like. Is church really important?
Speaker 1: So Austin, I'm not going to go. We don't have
Speaker 1: to dig into this at all. Email take and read
Speaker 1: podcast at gmail dot com. Here go, and Chad is
Speaker 1: going to go look up Flagstaff, Arizona and find you
Speaker 1: the place. He's going to find you the place. The
Speaker 1: reason I'm not just saying out on a whim I
Speaker 1: trust Chad and I do this to Chad. I've done
Speaker 1: this several times where I say, Hey, I'm going to
Speaker 1: this city. I'm going to be playing a show on
Speaker 1: Sunday night. I need a church to go to on
Speaker 1: Sunday morning in this city. Chad will go boom, boom, boom,
Speaker 1: and they'll text it to me and sometimes he puts
Speaker 1: it in the in the terms of this is the
Speaker 1: church I would go to if I was in that time,
Speaker 1: I was in that town, this is probably where I
Speaker 1: would check it out. So, yeah, Austin, thank you for
Speaker 1: emailing there. Doesn't need any to be anything more. Besides, yes,
Speaker 1: church is really important and I would lean on Chad
Speaker 1: and hopefully this podcast could be a blessing to you
Speaker 1: in that way. Amen, Okay, help with my relationship. I'm
Speaker 1: going to go there. Hey Granger, I'm TJ. I'm nineteen
Speaker 1: from Little Rock, Arkansas. Hopefully one day you'll come to
Speaker 1: my state. Hey buddy, I'm coming to Little Rock in
Speaker 1: Mike a month or two, I am, and you sent
Speaker 1: this email last Wednesday, so this is recent. It says
Speaker 1: I was recently in a relationship and me and her
Speaker 1: were happy and everything was going right, and one day
Speaker 1: she hit the switch and everything changed. She broke up
Speaker 1: with me because she was heading to college. We broke
Speaker 1: up because she didn't think she has time for the relationship,
Speaker 1: and she said that was best for us, but I
Speaker 1: thought otherwise she wouldn't take my suggestion to make it work.
Speaker 1: Now we've been broken up for a month and I'm
Speaker 1: still not over her at all. I really feel like
Speaker 1: I love her, and I felt I never felt like
Speaker 1: I did when I was with her. My question is
Speaker 1: how do I get past this? How do I give
Speaker 1: up thinking that she'll come back? I hate everything about
Speaker 1: us not being together. Please give me advice. I really
Speaker 1: need to know what to do. Thanks for taking my question, ye,
Speaker 1: and God bless ps. I'm a Christian and very active
Speaker 1: in church. Man. I have been there me too. Dude, Man,
Speaker 1: there is nothing that hurts worse than a broken heart.
Speaker 1: That yes, I totally resonate with that. Did chant I
Speaker 1: love you on this podcast because you know what my
Speaker 1: brain was thinking. You're thinking that you know what my
Speaker 1: brain was thinking. Man, don't we answer this like every
Speaker 1: single episode? Well, I love don't you? I mean you
Speaker 1: say that there's like six basic questions, right, But I
Speaker 1: can resonate with that. I remember going through that experience
Speaker 1: and then like I flipped it like I was the
Speaker 1: one later that was like, hey, we're going different places,
Speaker 1: you know, And I just don't know all the time,
Speaker 1: you know. And so I've been on both sides of that.
Speaker 1: And man, first of all, it's it's tough, like if
Speaker 1: you're still a month out or three months out, broken,
Speaker 1: hearts hurt and they take time. But I had a
Speaker 1: buddy tell me. He looked me square in the face
Speaker 1: and he's like, look, dude, they are like three billion
Speaker 1: women on this planet. You can be as picky as
Speaker 1: you want to, right, And to realize that, yes, there
Speaker 1: is an affection that grows for an individual, but love
Speaker 1: is not a feeling. It's a choice. It's a decision
Speaker 1: to serve and to regard somebody more than yourself. So, yes,
Speaker 1: you have feelings and strong affection for this gal, and
Speaker 1: it's hard to imagine that you could move past who
Speaker 1: she was and maybe how she made you feel or
Speaker 1: all kinds of stuff. But hey, man, you'll get through this.
Speaker 1: You absolutely will. And let me tell you something she
Speaker 1: told you. According to you, she said she doesn't think
Speaker 1: she has time for the relationship and it's best for us. Brother.
Speaker 1: That's code word for she don't like you. I'm sorry, dude.
Speaker 1: That's code word, man, that's been used since the beginning
Speaker 1: of language. I think they probably said that in the
Speaker 1: caveman days. They said, I don't have time for this.
Speaker 1: It's up there with it, and we're not We're not
Speaker 1: trying to minimize no, no, no, the emotional no no,
Speaker 1: no impact of something like this, but there is the
Speaker 1: it's not you, it's me. Yeah, it's a similar one
Speaker 1: because just let's just use just a little bit of
Speaker 1: common sense here that if she really really loved you,
Speaker 1: if anyone really loves anybody, they just make that becomes
Speaker 1: the time they make the time. This is not anything
Speaker 1: against you. Like Chad said, I'm just trying to make
Speaker 1: this clear that she's gone, she's gone. Could she come back?
Speaker 1: Maybe maybe there's always there's always that, but that's rare.
Speaker 1: And brother, you're you're you are prime. You're nineteen years old. Man,
Speaker 1: It's time to dive into your buddies. I don't know
Speaker 1: how long you guys dated, but now it's time to
Speaker 1: just have some guy time. You're you're at you're an
Speaker 1: age where it's like you your career time, or it's
Speaker 1: college time or a tech school time, but you're in
Speaker 1: that phase where its high school's over and you're starting
Speaker 1: to blossom your new manhood, and that is just it's
Speaker 1: an amazing time to be nineteen again, and to be
Speaker 1: single while you're nineteen is a blessing and is so
Speaker 1: important and you are gonna be You're gonna be just fine.
Speaker 1: Can I read you? Psal, I'm twenty three. Come on,
Speaker 1: The Lord is my shepherd. I shall not want. He
Speaker 1: makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me,
Speaker 1: besides still waters, he restores my soul. That is so
Speaker 1: powerful for a broken heart, for a broken anything, for
Speaker 1: a broken human to hear those words, The Lord is
Speaker 1: my shepherd, I shall not want. He makes me lie
Speaker 1: down to green pastures, he leads me, besides still, he
Speaker 1: restores my soul. Just say that, Just say that over
Speaker 1: and over that it's not her that restores your soul
Speaker 1: or gives you peace. It's this word. This is a
Speaker 1: living word, and it's so valuable and it will restore you.
Speaker 1: Say it, repeat it, breathe it, live it, and be
Speaker 1: nineteen man. Amen, it's all we got, buddy. Thank you amazing.
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